Eros Magnet POST

Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Mon, 8 Sep 2008 03:51:00 +0700

EFT Tapping and Losing Someone you Love

EFT for lack of love

EFT for Heartbreak

Kick Out Broken Heart Confidently

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 13:11:00 +0700

There is nothing worse than a broken heart it makes you feel like your whole world has been turned upside down and inside out. You can't eat, you can't sleep, you just can't function. All you can do is think about the love and relationship that you have lost. Many people say that a broken heart cannot be healed, even with time but the truth is that if you forget and move on then your heart will too.

The way that you are feeling now, though, forgetting will be the furthest thing from your mind. But until you forget the pain and suffering will remain.

Here are some favourite broken heart quotes of mine and explanations based on how they can mend your broken heart.

"Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."

Yes you will feel pain when a relationship has ended but you do not have to suffer. There are many ways in which you can forgive and forget and ultimately mend your broken heart.

"If you can't save the relationship, at least save your pride."

Don't beg or harass your ex as this will make the situation even worse. It will also make you look needy and without self respect or pride. Instead remove yourself, if possible from any situations with your ex until you have had a chance to cool off.

"Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go!"

During this cooling off period you should try and sort out your feelings and get rid of your anger. You need to accept that the relationship is over and start making changes to your life.

"You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again."

If you just keep going over the past and are unable to think of the future then you will never be able to move on. You need to forgive any differences that you had between you and start to forget. Yes, this will be difficult if you have shared many happy memories. But if you have split up there are also going to be not so good memories that led to you splitting up. Instead of wishing for the past focus on these reasons and take them as advice to make yourself a better person and turn your life around.

"Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally."

Your relationship has ended, your heart is broken so you have two options. One is to remain in this pain forever and the other is to accept what has happened and move on. If you stay in your current situation you will remain unhappy. Only you can control your future and you need to start making choices that will eventually bring you to your new life.

"I am somebody. I am me. I like being me. And I don't need anybody to make me somebody."

You are a person and you are worth everything. Do not put yourself down or think that you are worthless because there is one person who does not love you anymore. Think of the other people that do love you (friends, family etc) and focus on continuing to make these people happy. If a relationship has broken up and you are broken hearted then maybe it has been for the best, maybe the relationship itself was making you unhappy. Now you have been given a chance to find and love yourself. You don't need anyone else. You are you and you WILL be happy again!

Is your heart still broken? Use this GLUE to stick it back together forever!

Between Love and Friendship

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 02:29:00 +0700

What can look very casual or generic in your eyes, might not be so simple in theirs. Who their's? Girls. You may hold very deep rooted feeling, or not so serious feeling for them, but before you approach a good friend of yours with a red rose and propose her, make sure you don't loose her forever.

It can be a nightmarish experience to be in a dilemma of - "do I? Don't I?" There is no conclusive methodology to tell you whether you are in love or not. That's exactly why we have three words, almost similar in meaning, yet not so similar in application. These words are crush, infatuation and love.

To be frank, I still haven't been able to crack what love is. Ask any odd couple- are you in love? And, spat comes the reply- yes. But within a few weeks after break up they both will say, "It was just a crush!" Anyways, my intention is not to malign the Gen-x culture of attachment and detachment; what I want to stress upon is, if you aren't sure that whether you are in love with your closest pal or not, don't try to act stupid and dream day-night about it.

Most of the time, when we are crushed and tarred our room with cigarette butts, we find solace in our closest pal. Many a times, you may also start getting attracted to her/ him. That's very normal. But don't just let this normalcy ruin your friendship. Possibilities are that your friend might not feel the same. Now, the reaction to such an explosive situation depends on the sex of partner.For example, if, your best pal is a gal, and she doesn't like you in that sense, in all probability you are going to risk your future comfort levels. But if the best pal is a guy, most of the time they would burst into laughter and if then, they still find you very serious about the issue, they are going to dissuade you by telling you half baked truths or lies (which ever would be effective).

The best solution to such a slippery situation would be to act smart. Wait till you see some reactions of the same wavelength from the opposite sex. Give her/him a hint, just a hint, ask him/ her - what if you like him/her. If the resulting situation doesn't look good, burst into laughter and just say that few classmates asked you this and so, you just wanted to see the reaction of him/her.

Hey! If you think love can be won only through honesty think again! There are plenty of tricks that work. Yeah, sort of snitch thing is true! always rise in love!

Allow your self to love

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 16:03:00 +0700

Many people walk around on this planet looking for the "one" person that will make them complete. Relationship after relationship will end the same way. In the beginning things seem to be great, you become attached to the other person and feel as though they have all the answers to the void in your heart.

You feel as though you have finally found the person that can love you for who you are. You love the persons qualities and ignore the little things that may get on your nerves. You go into this relationship thinking that this person will prove their love to you by changing those things that are not in-line with the connection you both have.

After a while you notice that those little things that you thought would change haven't gone away. All the things that got on your nerves have increased and have brought more hidden qualities out that you simply cannot stand about the person. You find yourself aggravated and confused and wonder about what you saw in them in the first place.

That's when we go into the game of reflection; we remember all the little things that got on our nerves in the beginning. We blame ourselves for being so stupid that we did not "see it." We feel as though we have been tricked into the relationship by the other person. This is when true resentment sets in, you think to yourself "If I knew what I know now I would have never gotten myself into this mess."

At this point you feel stuck or trapped in your current situation. Arguments seem to explode out of nowhere or worse no communication at all. If you are married and have children this feeling becomes almost unbearable. You will justify in your mind why you should stay and lead a live of self sacrifice in order to make your children happy. This is the normal state of relationships in our world, this is why people will build a wall around them to keep other people from getting too close.

In certain situations the person will feel as though they are so stuck that they will attach their happiness to another. They will feel that this person outside of the misery obligation called marriage truly knows them. They will also justify in their minds why they should be with this person. They will form elaborate images in their head of a time when they will be happy.

In some cases they will leave the marriage and get into their new relationship only to be faced with disappointment again. This process will continue throughout their life and they will eventually feel as though they are simply not meant to be happy. They will feel as though they are not good enough to fill the role of a person who is a happy wife or husband.

This is normal for relationships in this day and age. Many people will look for happiness in their partner only to find disappointment and resentment. This is because happiness is not found outside of yourself although it is the last place anyone will look.

Some will lie to themselves and others in order to justify keeping themselves in a state of misery. They will lead double lives in which behind closed doors they will cry themselves to sleep but proclaim to the world that they are indeed happy. They will tie their happiness to a self sacrificing routine in which they are doing all the things they are supposed to do even if they really do not want to. This is hell.

Somewhere we got the message of love all mixed up and jumbled with rules and regulations. We are told that if you are a man you are supposed to act one way. If you are a woman you act another. We are told that love is work, love means doing things you do not want to do, and that love is submitting and playing your role to the best of your abilities. We are also told that we are not perfect and what is worse is we believe all of these lies.

We learn by watching those around us and by listening to these rules about love. You watch your parents who have been married for thirty years and think they must have the answer. You notice how they do not spend time together and how they get upset with each other. You notice how your mother cries herself to sleep and your father justifies his actions by proclaiming "I am the man of the house" or "This is for your own good." This becomes your truth about love.

You notice how your mother's opinion is spoken but seen as nonsense because it just does not fit with your father's vision. You notice your father doing everything he is supposed to do even though he hates doing it and he tells you this is love. You notice your mother frantically cleaning the house and cooking dinner before your father gets home and she tells you this is love.

You think to yourself, love is doing things you do not want to do. When you are constantly sacrificing your happiness then you are showing your love. This becomes the standard for your relationship in the future and it conflicts with what you really want but it becomes your truth.

As you are growing older you are told what kind of person would be good for you. You start to develop an image of what you want based on what society and your culture believes is the "right" person. You also have an image of what you are supposed to be but know that deep down inside you have a hard time meeting them because you are simply not perfect.

Then you meet someone. This person seems to be all the things you have always been looking for. Someone who can finally fill the void in your heart, someone who can finally make you happy. They are perfect for you and so you quickly jump into the role that you believe is perfection on your part. If you are a woman maybe you will clean their room or apartment. If you are a man you will buy them expensive gifts. You will play the role in order to earn their love and prove yourself worthy.

You will become what you believe they need based on what you have learned throughout your life. But this is only a façade and eventually begins to crumble and turns to frustration and resentment. You find that you cannot keep up with everything you have promised, as a man you want they best for her, you want to be able to give her everything she wants, you believe this is love. As a woman you want to fill the role of a good wife and give your husband all the support a good wife is to give, you fill your role, you believe this is love.

When you do not meet these expectations resentment sets in. You may feel it is resentment for the other person but in actuality it is resentment for yourself because you simply cannot find a way to make this other person happy. A few month after marriage and you are both arguing over nothing. This is simply due to the frustration you feel for yourself in not meeting expectations. You are unhappy because of this, yet you focus on the other person and why they are not able to make you happy. The other person begins to feel like a failure because no matter what they do they cannot make you happy and the arguments just confirm how terrible they are making things.

Children come along and things seem to be ok for a while until the focus returns to the underlying feelings that were simply ignored for the time being. Now they get worse because not only do you feel you are a bad spouse but a bad parent as well. This is where a distance starts to form, because it feels as though no conflict between one another is a good thing. So you find two people who are bound together for life and yet feel so alone.

This is the normal standard for relationships in this day and age. This is love, but it is all twisted out of context. This is in no way shape or form what love really is, love is not work, love is not obligation, and love is not self sacrificing.

Love is simply love. It needs to start from within and you will find what it is you have been missing all along, this will change everything in your life and allow you to find the happiness you have always been seeking. This will change your relationship with your spouse and your children.

Start by no longer abusing yourself. I have found that even people in an abusive relationship are still being abused slightly less than they abuse themselves. No longer allow yourself to speak to yourself in a negative way. Begin to think positive about yourself and realize that you are perfect just the way you are. This will change the way you feel you are being treated.

Second step is to not take anything personal. You must realize that when your spouse and you are in an argument the words and actions have nothing to do with you. These are deep seeded insecurities and fears they have about themselves, so don't take it personal.

The third step is to be honest about everything, tell it the way you believe it to be. Be honest about what you feel, be honest with yourself and your spouse. If you are not honest about who you are then you will never deal with the issue. Hiding the issue within yourself will lead to much heart ache, so just speak the truth. Do not say things to see what the other persons reaction will be. Do not try and manipulate a situation and do not tell the other person what they want to hear.

The fourth step is knowing that change is good. In a relationship we tend to fear change, embrace it. Everything and everyone is changing and evolving. You are not the same person you were five minutes ago. Release these expectations about you and your partner based on what happened yesterday because neither one of you is the same person.

The fifth step is to live in the moment. Many people spend their entire lives living in the past or living in the future. They focus on how they wish things would be, they spend so much time there that they miss the moment they are living now. Live right now, in the moment and don't allow yourself to miss a thing.

The sixth step is to appreciate the good. Too many people will focus all their energy on what they do not want. Live in the now and appreciate everything you have, cherish it. Feel the love that comes with appreciation of all the little things that you encounter throughout your day.

The seventh step is to always be genuine. You are perfect no matter what anyone tells you, remember that their idea of perfection is completely different than yours. You are absolutely perfect in every way and you do not need to compromise who you are for anyone else. So always be genuine. Just be yourself, be happy with who you are, love yourself and you will find the love you have always been looking for.

Love The Way You Love

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 16:01:00 +0700

To live in peace and love, evil cannot be overcome by more evil. Evil can only be overcome by good. The current trend in the world today is to overcome evil with evil, which with modern weapons would lead to complete choas. The way of overcoming evil with good and love, it would lead to a glorious and mature life. It is the lesson of the way of love. Those who create something which is evil in order to overcome something else which is evil, will only double the evil.

Pure love is a willingness to give, without a thought of receiving anything in return. Love can save the world from nuclear destruction. Love your fellow human beings; make yourself fit to be called a child of God by living the way of love.

Do you know there is a power greater than ourselves which manifests itself within us as well as everywhere else in the universe? This can be called God. To love God is to reflect love toward all people and all creations. To know God is to feel peace within - a calmness, a serenity, an unshakeableness which enables you to face any situation. You can find God if you will only seek - by obeying divine laws, by loving people, by relinquishing self-will, attachments, negative thoughts and feelings. And when you find God it will be in the stillness. You will find God within.

The Way of Man is taught by Confucius. The five human relationships must be perfected before one can appreciate The Way of Heaven. In life, firstly is to practise the Way of Man. Sincerity in the practice is of utmost importance. When you give love, in return you shall receive love. To ask for mercy, first you must show mercy.

Goddess of Mercy said, "let thousands of people, receive the light of mercifulness. Let thousands of people, bathe in the great grace of Heaven. Let thousands of people, transcend from the sea of sufferings. Do not compare with others. Do not compete with others. Establish a right objective. Do not hesitate and do not hinder yourself. Accept the sufferings and live with the sufferings. Feel the tragedies of mankind. Give joyousness whenever required. Show mercy, in return you shall receive mercy." How many of us can really show mercy?

People can be very cruel and unreasonable. Why not ponder over this poem, "In the dark, there is some light. In the black, there is some white. In the blind, there is some sight. In the wrong, there is some right. Step back one pace. The sea is wide and the sky is spacious. Give some way to others, how leisurely one is! Endure a few words, you'll be easy and worry-free. Be patient for a while, a happy fairy one becomes!"

Find My Real Soul Mate

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 16:00:00 +0700

Sometimes love seems like it is fleeting, we feel as though we are going through life trying to find the Holy Grail only to be disappointed at the lack of it's authenticity. Time and time again we are disappointed as the feelings that were once there die down and our life and relationship becomes routine. We become afraid and untrusting to take yet another chance with someone who will simply hurt us or worse, we may hurt them.

We know the concept of soul mate as this mysterious thing that other people find and if you are lucky you will find it to. We think that there is one person out there that will complete us and fill the void that we feel in our chest. The truth is that luck has absolutely nothing to do with it and no one can fill that void. I know that may sound like a bad thing but bear with me it is actually a very good thing. You may read what I have to say and it will inspire you to change your way of thinking, you may be afraid and stick to the old patterns that you are used to. The choice is yours and I am simply relating my experience and what I have gotten out of it.
For a long time I was searching for my elusive soul mate. I knew she was out there and I felt I had found her several times only to be wrong. I had looked at my parent's relationship and thought maybe it was their fault. They had never given me an example of what love was supposed to look like, they hated each other.
I soon figured it wasn't their fault because I would simply use them as an example of what not to do. So I dated many women, looking for the "one" I decided during this point that I would not settle for just anyone. I ended up meeting a woman who I thought would challenge me and keep things interesting. I was older now and decided marriage would be a step in growing up. I figured I had found the one. Many unhappy years later I determined I was wrong and our relationship ended in divorce.
Very soon after that I thought I had met my soul mate. She was absolutely perfect in every way, I even wondered why she would be interested in a bum like me. She later agreed with me and once again I was alone. My problem wasn't that I was unworthy of love, the problem was I was looking for the wrong thing. Once I realized that what I had been lead to believe was love was wrong, my entire world changed. I have not looked back since and am happier with every day that passes.
There is a need inside of us to fill our void as if something is missing. We look everywhere for it wanting to find relief of that darkness that seems to inhabit part of our being. Many relate to this feeling in a different way, some will try and fill the void with food. They will eat beyond their needs just to feed the hunger they feel. Some look for it in sex, others their career. This list goes on and on, but you will never find it when you are looking outside yourself.
I was the same as most, I would say I liked myself but that wasn't true. I felt like I was a flawed person, I felt as though my life had no real meaning. I felt like I only tried to be good but wasn't. I felt like a failure in life and relationship. What I didn't know at the time was that I was punishing myself for being imperfect. I would make comments like:
"I'm not good enough."
"I wish I wasn't alone."
"I think I will be alone for the rest of my life."
"I would be lucky to find someone who loves me."
Speaking these words and believing them created this reality for me. The void in my soul was love and I was trying to find someone to love me. I would do anything including changing who I was in order to make the other person happy and love me.
This is where the problem is and this is why relationships suffer the difficulties that they suffer. There is absolutely no reason for you to believe that you are flawed, because you are not flawed. There is absolutely no reason for you to believe that you are anything but perfect. This is where the insecurities and fear will smack you in the head and start trying to justify all the reasons you are not perfect.
Your mind will say "You are not perfect because you are not organized enough." Or "you are not perfect because you are not pretty or handsome enough." Or "You are not perfect because you are too emotional." You will also hear a very common term used in our world "Nobody's perfect." I am here to tell you that this is a lie. You are absolutely perfect and no one is as perfect at being you as you are.
This is where the secret to a successful relationship comes in; this is where you meet your soul mate. When you believe that you are perfect the way you are you will be yourself around everyone. You will no longer conform to what other people tell you is perfect and thus you will no longer fail at meeting someone else's determination of what perfection is.
You will realize that you do not need anyone to make you feel special because you already are special. In finding your perfection you will find the perfection in others. You will find your soul mate, you will find the person who loves you for who you are and will not try to get you to compromise to be what they need.
Your love will be unconditional, there will be no expectations. There will be no conditions and you will do things simply because you want to make yourself happy without recognition. You will find someone who you can love just the way they are and you will both inspire each other to always be genuine and never compromise.
Somewhere along the lines we got all of this backwards. I have actually heard the term "Love is work." That is completely ridiculous and makes no sense, love is love and if someone is telling you that it is work they are simply trying to justify why they themselves are not happy.
True love never dies; it is eternal and is in no way something you have to justify to yourself. If you are not happy, if you are in a situation in which you feel stuck in my opinion that is not love.
Your soul mate is you. Fall in love with you and you will never allow yourself to settle or put up with any abuse from anyone. You will be genuine about who you are and will find happiness and love all the time. You are always with you, so the relationship you will have is a direct reflection of how you treat yourself.
If you abuse yourself and tell yourself that you are not good enough, then you will only attract someone who will treat you the same.
You are your soul mate, fall in love with you... Your life will change in so many ways.

Make True Love Find You

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:57:00 +0700

True love comes out of no where. You don't expect it, you can't guess it, you can't force it...it just happens.
But in order for true love to find you, you must believe it will and you must open your heart to it's extraordinary power.
And this is why you need to put yourself out there so that you are exposed to the possibilities.
True love will find you when you least expect it, but it cannot find you if you are hiding.

There are a few ways women hide:
1. They've been hurt before so they give up, blame men for their misfortunes, and sit at home wasting away. They can't bear the thought of seeing couples together. If you are in this category, love will never find you if you resent it. Love will find you if you embrace it.
2. Sit in denial about needing, wanting, and desiring a partner. You'll often hear, "I'm happy being single." Meaning, I am going to give myself the excuse to not get my heart involved with anyone and I am going to be grumpy, frumpy, and boring. I can't be bothered. It's too much work.
Love will find you when you breathe it in, drink it up, stretch yourself into it's rays and love who you are from the deepest, truest part of your soul.
Love will find a way to find you when you never give up on yourself or your desire to share your life with the man of your dreams.
He's there, waiting for you and when you are ready, he will appear.

True Relationship

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:17:00 +0700

Love is Sharing
Believe me when I say that this is one of the most important ingredients of love. It is important to open ones heart and share - pain, joy, success and failure, it really does not matter, as long as the heart is clear. Love is being honest and knowing that the other person feels the same way too, it is sharing and losing ones inhibitions and knowing that the person on the other side will never be judgmental.

Love is Talking
It is about speaking, telling and sharing. After some time people restrict their conversations to discussing bills, children and pets. This is a sure indicator of things going down hill. Bring the spark back by starting a conversation.
Love is Spending Time
Together, a few minutes spent together everyday keeps the boredom away. I must add this up right now that there is nothing like time invested in a relationship...believe me, it pays! Heavy work schedules take up much time and effort, so it is important to get things into perspective.
Love is Faithfulness
To love means to be true, to love unconditionally means to give with all your heart to one, and only one. Love is when you realize that he/she is the best thing that has happened to you and you want to cherish that person and the moments spent with him/her till death do you part.
Love is Being Friends
Love is being friends with each other. Enjoying simple pleasures in life like shopping, catching a movie or watching television at home, apart from a host of other things that "Friends" normally do!

Enjoy Your Valentine

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:01:00 +0700

"I love you" is a "sweetest" one liner...we all likes to listen...not only once in a year but everyday. Though there should not be any particular occasion or time for one to express his or her love to any person whom they love...it should be often and regular, but how many of us really understand the meaning and importance of love. People across the globe…we all love to be loved by others…by our parents, by our friends and by that “Special” person of our life. Often we don’t understand the importance of love...feelings and emotions. There is a misconception that your love for that special person starts from bedroom.

To start with…Why does one love? Is it to find an escape from the pains of loneliness or is it to feel the warmth of fulfillment that it brings to one's heart? To me, love is the essential of all being. One cannot exist without the love of another. To live for another makes a life complete in every way. Each beat of one's heart, each breath, each small thought signifies a Small part of a love that is shared with another.

Who does one love? Are two people destined to come together or is it by chance alone? Only one's heart can tell when love has come. It can feel the longing desire from its deepest point and it can feel the overpowering attraction when they are close. One loves whom his heart has chosen.

When does one love? Does one share their love in the soft mist of the early morning or in the crisp breeze of the darkening night? Those that are truly in love know no night or day, no dark or light. Love is a continuous thing.

So, if you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

And if you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

And if you fall in love with someone, he/she falls in love with you and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.

Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them Rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.

Why Valentines Day?

In the third century, the Roman Empire was ruled by Emperor Claudius II Gothicus. He was nicknamed Claudius the Cruel because of his harsh leadership and his tendency for getting into wars and abusing his people. In fact, he was getting into so many wars during the third century that he was having a difficult time recruiting enough soldiers.

Claudius believed that recruitment for the army was down because Roman men did not want to leave their loves or families behind, so he canceled all marriages and engagements in Rome. Thousands of couples saw their hopes of matrimony dashed by the single act of a tyrant. And no one seemed interested in standing up to the emperor.

But a simple Christian priest named Valentine did come forward and stood up for love. He began to secretly marry soldiers before they went off to war, despite the emperor’s orders. In 269 AD Emperor Claudius found out about the secret ceremonies. He had Valentine thrown into prison and deemed that he would be put to death.

As Valentine was awaiting execution, he fell in love with a blind girl, who happened to be the jailers daughter. On the eve of his execution, with no writing instruments available, Valentine is said to have written her a sonnet in ink that he squeezed from violets. Legend has it that his words made the blind woman see again. It was a brief romance because the next day Valentine was clubbed to death by Roman executioners.

St. Valentine gave his life so that young couples could be bonded together in holy matrimony. They may have killed the man, but not his spirit. Even centuries after his death, the story of Valentine’s self-sacrificing commitment to love was legendary in Rome. Eventually he was granted Sainthood and the Catholic Church decided to create a feast in his honor. They picked February 14 as the day of celebration because of the ancient belief that birds (particularly lovebirds, but also owls and doves) began to mate on that very day.

It’s surprising to know that Valentine’s Day is really founded on the concept of love in marriage. On This Valentine’s Day, what are you doing to keep the love in your marriage burning? While giving a gift and card, having a candlelight dinner, and sharing special words of love are all important, the true spirit of Valentine’s Day needs to last throughout the year.

So, on this Valentine’s Day...I like to ask you...will you be my Valentine. I don't promise to you...stars and moon, I know that the life ahead is not going to be a bed of roses...but I promise that I will keep you happy. I will not give tears to your eyes. I will be true and faithful to you. I wish you to walk with me, in this journey of life...together...holding hands. I want to hug you tight...close to my heart...so that nothing can harm you. So, will you be my valentine...not for today...not for one year...but for my life...till the time I breathe my last.
I know that you think that I don't even mean a single word I say. But it's only words and words are all I have to take your heart away. This world has lost its glory let's start a brand new story now my love. (Words...BoyZone)

"I love you"...for what you are and as you are...with all that you have...with your past and present...with your good and bad qualities...with your strengths and weaknesses. For me "I love you" is not just a sentence...for me every "I love you" is a promise, a commitment to stand by the person you love- whatever the odds, whatever the outcome, whatever the cost. Every "I love you" is a pact. A sworn oath to stick by each other, to be there for each other, no matter what personal sacrifice is necessary, and no matter what Consequences may befall. Every "I love you" has nothing to do with touches, or kisses, or sweet nothings whispered in an attentive ear.? I love you" is more than all these things. It means loyalty and honor and trust without the expectation of the same in return.

Again, I know that you think that I don't even mean a single word I say. But it's only words and words are all I have to take your heart away. This world has lost its glory let's start a brand new story now my love. (Words...BoyZone)

Walk with me, the path of life,to explore every bend of the road. Enjoy with me the beauty of life,along its wonderful way. Find comfort with me, in each other's arms, when grief crosses our path. Find strength with me, in each other's strength, when despair lies in wait. Laugh with me, a single true laugh, to enlighten another's distress. Cry with me, a single true tear, to understand true happiness. Cherish with me, the wonders of life, as they need to be preserved. Rejoice with me, in the mysteries, of what is yet to be. Find peace with me, in each other's souls, when the world has gone insane. Find love with me, in each other's hearts, until this life has been fulfilled. And when the path comes to an end I hope we can say from within, we've known the beauty of true love, our love came from within.

Re-Love Again

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 14:56:00 +0700

Are you worried that the man or woman you once knew to be loving, caring and romantic is gradually fading away? You are not alone, at least you've got me. I will provide you with some article advice to enlighten your relationship and improve your lovemaking techniques. Staying with the same partner for a steady period of time can sometimes turn out to be stable and comfortable. Below are ways you can use to rekindle your relationship and make the love shine more brighter.

Give your partner unique presents: Use a piece of paper and some crayons to draw a shinning childlike image with a smiley sun like a man and a woman stick figure holding hands, include labels with the two names representing each stick figures that is your name and your partner's name. Write a bold letter "I love you" inside a heart. Paint the sides of the heart with a pink color. After drawing the image and labeling it, get a big formal envelope, put what you've drawn inside it and write a formal address of where your partner works, for example "To the urgent and immediate attention of : Mary Miller, Second floor, G and G Motors, LA". Send it to your partner through mail in such a way that they would receive it in the middle of a stressful or busy day in their office.
Turn to kids once more: Take a walk to the park. Walk down to where the swings are located with your partner and give her a ride on the swing.
Play and have fun with water: During summertime when the weather is hot, purchase two big water pistol sand and carry it to the beach with you. Bring it out, give one to your partner and both of you should have a big water fight with it.
Stare at the sky: Take a ride down town, search for a grassy hill and lie down on the bonnet of your car or anyplace suitable for both of you to get a view of the cloud.
Take a walk around the beach: Draw the shape of a big love heart. Both of you should lay inside the heart while you caress each till as the sun goes in.
Massage your partner with a unique twist: Purchase a sheet of colorful tissue paper, a blank card, a decorated small cardboard box and some massage oil. Display the tissue paper on top of the box and write this kind of massage on the blank card. If you wish to get a memorable massage please call ( write your phone number on it)
Arrange a picnic on a cool summer night: Spread a picnic blanket on the floor and get some tasty snacks, champagne and of course chocolates to make it rhyme with the snacks. Lie down on the blanket with your partner, gaze up at the stars together while you enjoy the snacks.
Bring back some childhood memorise: Visit your partner's family and ask them if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. Whatever she tells you then buy it on their birthday. She will appreciate the present in addition to the fact that you reasoned out what she has always wanted. You can also do the same for her husband.
Show your partner that you are glad to have her: Buy a long stem rose and keep it where your partner can find it with a message on it which reads " Thank you for choosing me" or anything appealing.
Rekindle your love experience: The most preferred way people use to rekindle the romance in their relationship is to enhance their lovemaking. Give an unexpected present to your partner after you've finished making love to her. Experience a new style of lovemaking positions. Spend some time looking into each other's eyes, cuddle their bare skin before lovemaking. Give your partner a sensual massage before or after making love. Passionate love making unites two people in an incredible and meaningful ways.

500 Lovemaking Tips is a book full of unique ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience

Internet Dating Lies

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:02:00 +0700

The days of letting other people find your matches for you are gone. These days are gone with new developments in technology. In the contemporary times internet dating is another medium used to find that significant other.

Internet dating is surely the hype now. With a click of the mouse you will have millions of women and men who are looking for love right at your fingertips. The thing is you can find a variety of matches for you. Single, separated or divorced, skinny or fat, black or white - name it and these dating sites have it. It's like going to a restaurant and being served the menu. You can have your favorite dish and eat it the way you like it.

That's the problem with internet dating, you are free to say, do, or pretend to please the other party. There are no regulations for it. As long as you can keep up with the profile you placed in these sites. However, if you get caught up in the web of lies and deceit, you may be gone forever. The other party may never converse or believe you anymore.

So, how do you protect your sincere interest in finding true love from these dating sites? Now I will discuss some of the lies that bogus people may often tell you.

Present Relationship Status. There are married men and women who will tell you that they are single. The happily married individual may just be looking for the excitement in extramarital affairs. But for someone who is unhappily married, they may be interested in a new relationship with a single person and they believe that this is the best way to attract that person. Either way is intended to target the same person someone who is single and unattached.

Real Age. For some people, they think age still matters. So, perhaps to attract a younger person than they are, they pretend younger than what they truly are. Or, they may even pretend that they are older to attract the even older party.

Physical Appearance. People who are unhappy or unsatisfied with how they look take this opportunity to attract the type of person that they want to get involved with. They change their picture, height, or weight in their profile. The fat becomes slim or skinny. The short becomes tall. The not-so-attractive face becomes the face that launched a thousand dating sites. The people who are attracted to very specific physical features are lured into these traps.

Financial Status. Money speaks for the good life. There are certain people who are very specific about the financial status of the person they are seeking. Aside from the promise of love, they need to know that person is someone to rely on to. Especially for women seeking men, they need security in case things work out for them in the internet. Plus, the thought of having a great financial status in your profile attracts every single beautiful woman online.

Be careful with whom you deal with. Be smart to recognize the lies that they tell you about. However, you should not get frustrated by these dishonest people. In due time you will eventually find a few honest people who truly deserves you.

Ancient Oriental Marriage Secrets

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 02:01:00 +0700

Are most long married couples unhappy with their relationship? This is the question that has being bugging me for a while. As a Feng Shui consultant, I come across many clients with less than happy marriages. Many times my clients will ask me for a ‘secret’ cure or recommendation that would miraculously improve their relationship with their spouse.

So, I asked a few of my married friends for their opinion. I chose this select group because they are older - over fifty years old - and have been married for many years. Their answer was quite shocking- to me. Based on their personal experience and those of their friends, they think that 90% of married couples are, in one way or another, unhappy with their relationships.

Granted that they do not live happily ever after, as in the fairy tales, this is still quite sad – if it is indeed true.

Is there a cure? Maybe there is.

In many olden societies, such as the Chinese, where arranged marriages are commonplace, it is a practice to check the horoscope (Ba Zi) of the intended couple for compatibility, before they are allowed to tie the knot.

Does this always work? It increases the chance but it does not work all the time. However through years of observation, they found out that if you combine it with some conditions, you can increase the chances of having a happy and lasting marriage.

While this wisdom is for everyone, it is even more critical for those with a history of unsuccessful marriages or relationships, to take note.

Here are some of the conditions.

In the old days, the husband must always be older than the wife. This is like a tradition. It cannot and should not be broken. However the ancients also observed that for those with unsuccessful marriages or relationships, breaking the tradition - i.e. having an older wife – can strangely be the answer. To the ancient Chinese, the wife is considered older even if she is a day older than the husband. However for better results, a wider age gap is preferred.

The other option for a more successful relationship is for the husband to be much older than the wife. To the ancient Chinese, much older means at least 8 years apart. In practice, 10 or 15 years older is perfectly acceptable or desired.

It would also increase the chances if there is a big disparity in the social and economic standard between the husband and the wife. For example the husband is a highly educated CEO of a large corporation while the wife is a much lesser educated person from a poor family. Can it be the other way around? It is unlikely in the old days because the husband is always the breadwinner. However in this modern times, where many women out-earn their husbands, why not?

This next condition only applies to the woman – at least in the old days. If she cannot be a successful first wife, it does not mean that she cannot be successful being the second or third one. So, being the other women can be an option that leads to success! I am not sure about being the other man though!

What if none of the above works?

The final option is to have a spouse that is of a different race or from a different culture. For example, an Indian and a Chinese or between two Chinese brought up in different places. For example, one brought up in China and in the other in the United States.

These are wisdoms that our forefathers have passed down to us. So, and especially, if you are relationship challenged, give it a try. There is nothing to lose!

Historica of EROS

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:58:00 +0700

In the classical world, the phenomenon of passionate love was generally understood as a kind of madness or, as the Greeks put it, theia mania ("madness from the gods").^[1] This love passion was described through an elaborate metaphoric and mythological psychological schema involving "love's arrows" or "love darts", the source of which was often given as the mythological Eros or Cupid,^[2], sometimes by other mythological deities (such as Rumor^[3]).

At times, the source of the arrows was said to be the image of the beautiful love object itself. If these arrows were to arrive at the lover's eyes, they would then travel to and 'pierce' and 'wound' his or her heart and overwhelm him/her with desire and longing (love sickness). The image of the "arrow's wound" was sometimes used to create oxymorons and rhetorical antithesis concerning its pleasure and pain.

"Love at first sight" was explained as a sudden and immediate beguiling of the lover through the action of these processes, but was not the only mode of entering into passionate love in classical texts. At times the passion could occur after the initial meeting, as, for example, in Phraedra's letter (IV) to Hippolytus in Ovid's Heroides: "That time I went to Eleusis... it was then most of all (though you had pleased me before) that piercing love lodged in my deepest bones.^[4] At times, the passion could precede the first glimpse, as in Paris' letter (XVI) to Helen of Troy in the same work, where Paris says that his love for her came upon him before he had set eyes on her: "...you were my heart's desire before you were known to me. I beheld your features with my soul ere I saw them with my eyes; rumour, that told me of you, was the first to deal my wound."^[5]

Whether by "first sight" or by other routes, the passionate love concept of the classical authors often had disastrous results. In the event that the loved object was cruel or uninterested, this desire was shown to drive the lover into a state of depression, causing lamentation and illness. Occasionally, the loved objects — because of their sublime beauty — were depicted as unwitting ensnares of lovers (their beauty is a "divine curse" that inspires men to kidnap them or try to rape them).^[6] Stories in which unwitting men catch sight of the naked body of Diana the huntress (and sometimes Venus) lead to similar ravages (as in the tale of Actaeon).

The classical conception of love's arrows were elaborated upon by the Provençal troubadour poets of southern France in the twelfth century and became part of the European courtly love tradition. In particular, a glimpse of the woman's eyes was said to be the source of the love dart.^[7] In some medieval texts, the gaze of a beautiful woman is compared to the sight of a basilisk.

These images continued to be circulated and elaborated upon in the Renaissance and Baroque literature^[8] and pictorial imagery. Boccaccio for example, in his Il Filostrato mixes the tradition of the eye's darts with the metaphor of Cupid's arrow.^[9]: "Nor did he (Troilus) who was so wise shortly before... perceive that Love with his darts dwelt within the rays of those lovely eyes... nor notice the arrow that sped to his heart."^[10]

The oxymorons and rhetorical antithesis concerning the pleasure and pain from love's dart continued through the 17th century, as, for example, in the classically inspired images of If Love's a Sweet Passion from Henry Purcell's The Fairy Queen (act 3):

If Love's a Sweet Passion, why does it torment?
If a Bitter, oh tell me whence comes my content?
Since I suffer with pleasure, why should I complain,
Or grieve at my Fate, when I know 'tis in vain?
Yet so pleasing the Pain is, so soft is the Dart,
That at once it both wounds me, and Tickles my Heart.

Eros in Plato's philosophy

Plato refined his own definition. Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person, or even becomes appreciation of beauty itself. Plato does not talk of physical attraction as a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, "without physical attraction". Plato also said Eros helps the soul recall knowledge of beauty, and contributes to an understanding of spiritual truth. Lovers and philosophers are all inspired to tell the truth by eros, the god of love. The most famous ancient work on the subject of eros is Plato's Symposium, a dialogue among seven men (including Alcibiades), reclining in a Greek symposium, in which Socrates reveals his knowledge about the nature of eros, inspired by the teaching of Diotima of Mantinea. Eros, in the Socratic logos, can be defined as the longing for wholeness or completeness, a daemon whose aim is to reach the knowledge without ever owning her and is used to describe fulfillment between man/woman and man/Gods.

Thomas Jay Oord defines eros as intentional response to promote overall well-being by enhancing or appreciating what is valuable or good.

Eros and Sigmund Freud

Main article: Eros (Freud)

In Freudian psychology, Eros, also referred to in terms of libido, libidinal energy or love, is the life instinct innate in all humans. It is the desire to create life and favours productivity and construction. Eros battles against the destructive death instinct of Thanatos (death instinct or death drive).

Eros and Carl Jung

Carl Jung used the term eros to denote the basic fundamental of feminine psychology: “Women’s psychology is founded on the principal of eros, the great binder and loosener, whereas from ancient times the ruling principal ascribed to men is logos. The concept of eros could be expressed in modern times as psychic relatedness, and that of logos as objective interest.” (CW vol. X, p. 123, pp. 255) This points to his theory of the anima/animus syzygy of the male and female psyches. According to Jung, men possess the anima in their unconscious, and this is a caricature of the feminine eros. It is a part of personal individuation for men to confront their anima, by accepting eros (a trait pushed out of phalocratic society). Also intrinsic to this is the ability to see beyond the projected ego and assimilate this into our conscious being. This is eros, as it is the 'desire for wholeness,' which is necessary for us to become in-tune with our selves. By understanding 'passionate love' and the 'desire for wholeness' as 'psychic relatedness,' Jung also demonstrates that the desire for love is a desire for interconnection and interaction with other sentient beings.

Relationship in TROUBLE

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:34:00 +0700

When you are the only one who has to forgive, understand, wait and be an angel with the person you love, while they are always sick, tired, full of problems, depression and nervousness, this is a troubled relationship that can only make you suffer.

If you have that kind of relationship, you are not the only one. Many people accept troubled relationships because they love the other person and they cannot think logically and realise that their relationship is in fact killing them.
If you keep giving excuses and trying to justify the other person's mistakes, then you are masochist: you want to suffer. Your attitude is a real suicide.
You have to face the truth and stay far away from people that only take advantage of your goodness, love and dedication. A relationship where only one person gives and the other one only gets, is not balanced, and cannot last for too long, since some day, after suffering very much, you'll stop loving the other person and start only hating them.
If you see that the other person has too many defects and they don't do anything to correct them, think about how your life with them will be. Are you ever going to be happy this way?
Perhaps you are waiting for a magical solution...
Of course you are, because you are in love... However, be realistic! Don't try to make excuses for their faults, but pay attention to their mistakes.
You are not going to live only with their kisses. You'll have to bear their selfish personality for life... Think about that.
If you stick with this relationship, time will pass, you'll only feel worse with this situation, and in the end you'll realise that you lost the best years of your life with the wrong person.
Why? Are you so blind? Are you so weak?
If you see that a relationship is only provoking you problems and making you sick, be wise and put an end to your martyrdom while you can. Later things may become too complicated, if you get too involved with the wrong person.
Be careful, because besides suffering, you are also in danger of losing your mental stability for being a victim of a selfish creature that will only ruin your life.
After big deceptions and hate, come craziness and despair.
Stay far away from this tragic end! Be wise and learn how to look for the right person for you.
You need someone who will make you happy and who will really love you very much.
Otherwise, why should you have a companion?

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Just Say Your Magic Love

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:30:00 +0700

Remember the words from an old song...
"Be sure it's true when you say I love you, it's a sin to tell a lie".
The concept of "sin" has lost its meaning for many in our modern era, and even "love" has lost a significant portion of its importance.

If you still believe in "falling in love" then you will realize how difficult it is to say, "I love you" in a meaningful way. Three little words that can change your life forever. The words, themselves, have lost their meaning because of overuse, especially when it's not really true. Everybody says them, for many different reasons, even if they don't mean them.
However, when you really want to tell your partner of your love it's such a hard decision to make for many reasons. Will your partner return your love? Will your partner simply accept your declaration with indifference? Will he or she feel threatened? It is such a common problem that even "The Seinfeld Show" had an episode on it.
So make it easy on yourself and plan the declaration so that as much as possible you eliminate the problems. The first step, of course, is to be certain you really are in love. If you so enjoy being with your partner that you want to be with him or her to the exclusion of all others, if you think of him or her every day when you are apart, you are probably in love. If you have even a small doubt you should wait a little longer.
If you are certain then plan a special occasion for it. Make it a significant moment in your life - one to remember with fondness for your whole life. Arrange an intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant and make it as romantic as you can. Give him or her a small gift because you love being with them, or you are so glad that you met them.
After dinner while holding your partner intimately gaze intently into their eyes and say, "I love you so much it hurts when we are apart. I hope that we can stay together forever".
Do not be disappointed if your partner does not return your declaration. They may not yet be ready and might need more time to state their feelings. Continue to share with your partner the highs and lows of your partner's life. Care for your partner's happiness and be on guard to protect his happiness.
Under no circumstances should you ever ask your partner, "Do you love me"?

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The Guy Mistakes

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:27:00 +0700

It is a known fact that women are hard to please and a lot of guys out there try to please them in all ways possible to get the desired outcome. You see in the quest to do this they often make some mistakes which ruins their chances of ever being with the woman of their dreams forever. You see and the problem is that most guys don't even take notice of these mistakes and keep on making them again and again. This is possibly the major reason why you must know this at all costs. Read on to discover what these mistakes are and what you can do about them........

Showing too much interest too early- Some guys manage to get the girl's phone number but at the same time get too excited that they end up calling the girl almost instantly. This gives her the impression that you are just too interested or maybe you are just too desperate. Desperation is a big turn off and the girl would try to get rid of you as fast as possible if this happens.

Being available all the time- This is another mistake a lot of guys make without even realizing it. You see the more easily available you are the less she would value you. As humans we have a tendency to want things which are not easily available to us.

Giving her a lot of attention all the time- Again this is one mistake men make subconsciously. When you give her too much attention she starts getting the feeling that you consider her to be too important due to which she will start taking you for granted. Therefore learn to show moderate interest not extreme.

Irresistible Way Seducing Woman

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:18:00 +0700

One thing which is not taught in school is social dynamics and everything one should know about relationships. This is the major reason why a lot of guys out there tend to somewhat struggle with this subject. There are some keys you must know at all possible costs if you truly want to get some results with the opposite sex. Read on to discover what these keys are and achieve earth shattering results......

Maintain an emotional connection- Women are more emotional but men are more rational and this is the basic difference between the two. If you truly want to make them get attracted towards you, you must be able to make an emotional connection with them if you want them to be attracted towards you.

It's a combination of all the emotions- At the same time it also means that she should experience a combination of all the emotions to really get attracted towards you. You see she can not be happy all the time around you as that would make it extremely predictable and after a while she would start getting bored of you. This is the major reason why she must go through all the extremes a human can actually experience.

Make her work for it all the time- At the same time you should never be too easy to get or deal with. You must be something she struggles to keep all the time. You see when she has to work to keep your attention she would try extremely hard and her attraction towards you will grow instead of die with time.

Happy Lovers-Your Choice

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:16:00 +0700

As with everything in life, there are various schools of thought on how to get what you want in a relationship. Here's one that, if given a chance, works very well. Oprah had a show many years ago where the theme was, "Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?" You might be asking, "Why can't we be both?" It's possible that you can actually be both happy and right but if that's the case, be grateful for your blessings and fill the rest of us in on how that works. For the most part, we are constantly making choices to manage our relationships, our expectations, and our feelings.

My advice - choose happy! Happiness really is a choice. It's a gift you give yourself that really does keep on giving. And the best part... it's a gift you share with everyone whose path you cross.

Have you ever noticed how yawning is incredibly contagious? If you see someone yawn, hear a yawn over the phone or even hear the word "yawn", what happens? You yawn don't you? You pretty much can't help yourself. (Did you yawn as you read this?) Isn't it the same with smiling? When a stranger smiles at you, don't you reciprocate with a smile? Ditto laughing. Try it and take note of the results.

You may be thinking that yawning, smiling, and laughing are not a big deal but the point here is that the energy you project onto the world is reflected back to you. This works the same way in the microcosmic world of your relationship. You get to create the atmosphere in which your relationship lives.

Getting What You Want

So how do you get what you want in your relationship if you don't get to be right? Simple, you put your partner's needs and desires first. Notice I'm not being gender specific here. This may seem radical and counter-intuitive but think about it for a moment. If both of you are putting the other's needs first, you both get what you want, not by taking but by giving. Maybe not in every given moment or circumstance - that's where compromise comes in - but rather, in the over all scheme of things.

Here's how it works. It's Sunday afternoon, you want to watch football but your partner wants to go to the new blockbuster movie that just opened. Instead of escalating to an argument over who always gets their way, try understanding your partner's wishes. If each of you wants the other to be happy you can see several options to the problem.

You record the football game, go to the movie and watch the game when you get home. (Make sure you isolate yourself from friends and the media until you've had a chance to watch the recording)
You watch the football game and go to a later movie.
You watch football and go out for a nice dinner and plan a special midweek date to the movie.
You watch the football game and your partner goes to the movie with friends.
You go to the movie and read the highlights of the game on the Internet when you get home but you will get to watch football all next weekend with no distractions.

You can probably think of some other options as well. The point is, if you are truly putting each other's happiness first, you will want to reach a compromise that works for both of you.

Again, you may not get what you want in every situation, but what you will get is a happy, healthy, and loving long-term relationship.

And since happiness in contagious, when the one you love is happy, you will be happy in return.

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Respect Your Partner

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:12:00 +0700

odney Dangerfield wanted it. Aretha Franklin and Reba McIntire sang about it. But what is respect? While substitute teaching a 5th grade class, I learned that they had only one classroom rule--respect. I thought, "WOW!" But if you all practice that it is all we need.

Self respect means knowing your own value and taking pride in who you are. If you respect yourself, you can make you own good decisions instead of going along with the crowd that is making poor ones. It means having a high moral character and taking care of yourself, not out of selfishness, but to be able to take care of others.

Respecting others means taking into consideration their needs, wants and feelings in making your decisions. Recognize that we are all unique and have different talents. Wouldn't life be boring if we were all clones of each other? Maturity means you can respect that another person has a right to his own opinion even if it is the opposite of yours.

Respecting property means taking care of it and not destroying or vandalizing someone else's possessions. Respecting parents, teachers, and authority figures when they are not letting you do what you want as a youth is very difficult. However, keep in mind they have much more life experience than you and one of the uppermost goals they have is to keep you safe.

Respect for a higher power is a controversial subject. Not everyone believes there is a God (or whatever name you know him by), but we all should respect the right for people to exercise their own beliefs as long as it does not hurt others.

It is very sad today to see the lack of respect shown in many public places with a good many people talking on their cell phones. A recent school program the 2nd and 3rd graders put on was constantly bombarded by phones ringing and people talking so loud that the students had to sing louder to be heard above it. What message were those kids getting? You are not as important as this phone call! I don't have time to share your accomplishments! It's okay to be rude! Cell phones interrupt meetings, concerts, movies, dinner conversations, etc. This is very disrespectful to those who are waiting and shows total disregard to their needs and feelings.

Soul Mate Science

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:09:00 +0700

f you want to find your perfect match, you have to look for someone similar to you, that will have many characteristics like yours.

If you fall in love with someone that is too different from you, this is not your perfect match and if you have a relationship with them, it is probably going to end some day, after many deceptions and wounds.

On the other hand, you may find a person that seems to be your perfect match in many points, but that is not as you desire in many others.

You may fall in love with someone who is too stubborn and selfish, which means that your life with them is not going to be at all easy, and you may even end up losing your mental health.

You have to look for a person that will understand you and who will not belong to an opposite psychological type, because if you are introverted and you marry an extroverted psychological type for example, you both will face many problems.

The introverted types always have a personal opinion about everything and they never care about what other people think, but only about what they prefer.

The extroverted types on the contrary, give too much importance to the general opinion and they care more for their social life than for their personal world.

If you think a little bit about the big difference which exists in the way that both types interpret reality and act, you'll realize that a wedding between them can only be a disaster.

However, many people make the big mistake of believing that these differences are not so important, and they even justify their preference for someone who has a personality so different from theirs, saying that they need a person that will push them to do the things that they despise.

Or they may say that the other person completes them, showing them the aspects of reality that they don't see, the same way that they show them what they don't consider in their judgment. Therefore, they conclude that they fit together because each one sees a different side of reality.

This is good only in the beginning of the relationship, when you still haven't lived very long with the other person.

In the beginning the differences seem to be very interesting and you tend to like them.

However, as you live together facing the various problems of life and always having different points of view, different opinions about everything and different reactions to the same problems, you'll start feeling that the other person never understands you.

The other person is going to feel exactly the same about you, and then the conflict will begin.

In the end you are going to fight all the time for the most insignificant reasons...

This is really a difficult matter, but you can be helped if you analyse your own dreams.

The wise unconscious mind that produces them gives you direct and real information about the person you love, revealing to your eyes their real character, even before you have lived many moments with them.

This way you'll be able to verify beforehand if the person you care about (or if the person that seems to care about you) is really the ideal one for you, even before getting involved with them and facing the deceptions that would be waiting for you.

This way you'll also be able to discover with confidence the person that is really ideal for you and that will really make you happy: you won't lose them because of pride and your fears!

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Recognice Your Perfect Real Love

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:04:00 +0700

A question a lot of people stumble upon is trying to figure out whether someone truly loves them or not. We might have doubts in our mind where we might feel that it's love but how can one be absolutely sure of it? There are some mind blowing tricks using which you will easily be able to find out whether it's truly love or not. Read on to discover what these tricks are and achieve stunning results almost instantly.......

Does this person care about you- Is this person highly concerned about your health and the way you are? Does he or she question you a lot about whether you are eating right and taking care of yourself or not? You see when someone loves you they would go to the next dimension and would start caring for you as if they were family.

Is this person always there to help you? - This is another trait of a lover. If someone truly loves you he or she will be more than willing to be around you in bad times when you are actually struggling through it. Not only this something you wouldn't even have to ask and they would be with you anyways.

Does this person find it hard not to talk to you- Has there ever been a day when you didn't talk to this person? And the very next day this person questions you as to why you didn't talk? You see with love you will always have strong urges and desires to talk to that special someone all the time and this is the reason why this person will be willing to talk to you on a consistent basis all the time.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost click here- Tell Me The Secrets

Flirting Body Language

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:02:00 +0700

The Body Language of Flirting

Researches have found that there is a direct relation between the states of feeling that we experience and between our gestures. So if you are feeling happy your gestures will take a form that is different than the form it will take if you were feeling sad. So if you managed to know the gesture associated with a certain emotional state you will be able to detect the presence of this emotional state. The same goes for flirting because it’s just an emotional state, if you knew the gestures and the body language changes associated with the state of flirting you will easily know if someone is trying to flirt with you.

Flirting Signs and Gestures

Whether you found them strange or not or whether you believed in them or not still these are the signs of flirting. These signs are not subject to suspect nor they represent my opinion about flirting but they are proven facts. I am not asking you to believe in them without testing them but all am asking you is to test them and see for yourself.

Pupil size: When someone sees something or someone that he likes, his pupil size gets bigger!! I know that this is a bit hard to notice, but with training you will be able to detect these slight changes in pupil size and so know if someone likes seeing you.
Playing with her hair : This sign is only associated with girls. When a girl wants to flirt with someone or when she finds him particularly interesting, she may start to play with her hair, twist it and flicker it. This could happen once or several times during the conversation, and the more the better.
Pointing towards you with his toes or feet: If he wasn't sitting right next to you then most probably he will be pointing to you using his feet or toes. An even better case is when he totally faces you with his whole body.
Seeing teeth in his/her smiles: A smile should be wide enough to reveal at least the front teeth, otherwise it may have been a fake smile or a smile for the sake of being polite and nothing to do with you at all.
Keeping you in His/her line of sight: The person who is flirting with you will try to keep you in his line of sight and as a result you may find him taking a look at you each now or then or you may find him continuously orienting himself in order to be facing you even if he was standing with someone else.
Clothing: A girl will generally try to wear the best clothes she has when she is aware that you are going to be there. By just asking her about her favourite colors or clothes you will be able to notice if she wears them often when you are around.

Read Love Signal

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 00:55:00 +0700

Signs that Show That Someone Loves You

This is not just an article that is subject to evaluation but it’s the Ultimate Guide for knowing whether someone loves you or not. When I talk confidently about an article then you should automatically assume that this article will not just include my thoughts about the topic but it will also be backed by deep psychological evidence and solid facts.

Contrary to common beliefs, knowing if someone loves you or not is simple, you just need to open your eyes in search of the below clues. Before you read further into this page make sure that you have more than just a basic idea about body language. Put in mind that the presence of only one signal is not enough so you should spot more than one signal before you judge the other person’s feelings.

If someone loves you or if he/she is extremely interested in you most probably they won't tell you directly until they make sure of your emotions. But behind the scenes their subconscious will keep sending you signals without them even noticing that they're actually doing so.

All what I am going to do is tell you about those unconscious signs so that you could use them to know whether someone loves you or not.

Love Signals

Private Distance: When you're interested in someone you tend to keep a smaller private distance between you and him/her compared to the distance you would otherwise keep while being with others. You will notice that whoever might be interested in you is standing closer to you than to other people. For detailed information on private distance see this article.
Smiles that Don’t Fade: A smile will not fade away quickly if the person is genuinely interested in you (that does not have to be love but worst case scenario, it will be deep interest). Only fake smiles fade away quickly, true smiles stay tend to linger a little longer.
Positive Evaluation: In body language rubbing your brows with your fingers means that you positively evaluated something. Now what if someone positively evaluates seeing you?? If you want to see a picture for the positive evaluation gesture please check this link Positive evaluation gesture
Calling for No Reason: Calling you for any trivial reason like asking about something that he/she already knows or by just seeking confirmation to some kind of information. If they were smart enough, they may find a good reason to call you but when the frequency of these calls increases, this usually indicates that there is something behind it.
Smiling: Smiling while talking to you even if there was no good reason for smiling is another strong sign. In most cases he/she will try to hide the smile so they will appear as if they want to smile but are holding themselves
Orientation: Orienting himself/herself in your direction even if they were standing with other people. Orienting themselves means that they stand with their shoulders parallel to yours and with their toes pointing towards you. For more information see The body language section
Nice or Cold? Being very nice one day and ignoring you the other day is one of the strongest sings. The logic behind this is very simple, at the beginning he/she treats you very nicely because they like you but when they go home they realize: “Oh my God, I did show lots of signs today that am interested but I still got no response, tomorrow I should totally ignore him/her.” So when you find someone being nice one day and cold the other day know that the positive signs he/she gave you may be due to positive emotions they hold for you and that the negative signs may just be a way to cover their traces.
Mr./Mrs. Everywhere: Meeting him/her many times by coincidence is another sign. Of course these are not just coincidences but they may be either changing their schedule to suit yours or they may be going to the places that you usually go to in order to meet you by coincidence.
Your Friends Are Really Nice: Starting to care more about your friends and becoming more nice to them is a strong sign especially if he/she wasn’t used to caring about them before.
Cancellations: canceling their other plans in order to see you.
Where Are You? Finally the person who loves you will try to keep you within their range of sight and each now and then they will take a look to make sure that you are still there.

An Introduction of reading Body Language

A research was done at the University of Pennsylvania to determine to what extent does a person's body language affects the impression that people from of him/her. The shocking results was that people build their impression about you based on:

55 percent gestures, postures and movements.
38 percent on the tone of your voice (tempo and frequency).
Only 7 percent on what you say.

That is a total of 93 percent for body language(which comprises Bodily gestures and tone of voice) and only 7 percent for spoken words. This means that 93 percent of what you want to say is not uttered in words but shown in ur body language and gestures.

Isn't 93 percent for Body Language such a big number?

If you think about it for awhile, you will find that this actually makes sense. In any society, there is the liar, the imposter and the one who can't express his feelings. Based on this research, researchers started to study human feelings and how they tie it in to a person's gestures. What they discovered was that, whenever there was a change in emotions, there was a corresponding change in gestures and the tone of voice.

How to interpret Body Language

Researchers successeded in identifying a lexicon of feelings and their corresponding gestures. Anyone who has access to this information can read people's feelings through their body language. Learning to interpret body language is not a hard task. You just need to know the familiar gestures in body language and their associated emotional states then link them together.

Uses of Body Language

Body language is now widely used in politics, investigations of all kind (where body language of suspects are analyzed), sales, negotiations and in any situation involving communication between people. Body language is not only used in understanding the emotional states of other people but It can also help you to in letting others precieve you the way you want. For Example, you can make someone think that you are feeling confident while you are actually feeling terrified.

LOVE DILLEMA KILLER

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 00:49:00 +0700

Loving two people at the same time

Every now and then I get a message from one of the readers asking me for an explanation for the phenomenon of loving two people at the same time. You may become confused when you find yourself having feelings for two different people at the same time. This could make you think that you are really in love with both of them, however, as soon as you know the reasons behind it the picture is going to become clearer.

Why isn’t one person enough?

If you fell for someone as result of love addiction (falling in love with someone because you are addicted to love itself and not because you love the person himself) then most probably this person won’t be a perfect match for the criteria you were looking for. Under the effect of love addiction we tend to forget about some of the important criteria we are looking as if we are half blind and the result is being with someone whom we don't truly love.

Everything should go fine if we didn’t meet someone else who really matches our criteria, but if this happened, then most likely we are going to fall for him too thinking that we love two people at the same time. Love addiction can make you blind for a while in such a way that it result in making you fall in love with someone who barley matches the criteria you are looking for.

Love addiction is not the only thing that can make someone fall in love with two people because if it happened that two people matched your criteria you may become interested in them both. As long as those people are new to you it’s not odd to become attracted to both of them but as you get to know them more you will find that one of them is a better match for you. If you knew both for a long time and you still have feelings for both of them then you should ask yourself one question, which one do I really love? Because in such a case you may be fooling yourself into thinking that you love them both while the truth is that you love one of them and you are just addicted to the other.

The book How to make someone fall in love with you was released by 2knowmyself.com; the book will dramatically increase your chance of letting someone fall in love with you. 2knowmyself is, without doubt, the only complete source for the psychology of falling in love on the whole web. If you dare to challenge this statement then check out the psychology of falling in love section and you will discover it yourself.

Love and relationship addiction

love addiction is the case where you can't live without having nurturing partner or without having somone that you love while loving you back. love addiction is the case where you are totally unable to function alone,where you always feel bored or always feel bad until someone appears and fills your life with joy . although love addiction is classified as the safest addiction ,still it can destroy your life.

love addiction and lack of self confidence

Sometimes the main reason for love addiction is lack of self confidence, at that case you may just need someone to approve you, someone to confirm to you that you are a good person, someone to act as a compensation factor to cover your lack of self confidence.

Because at that case you just think about it that way “if someone loved me, then I am not worthless, then I am a worthy person”, and so you depend on external factors to feel confident rather than your inner feeling of self worth.

Love Addiction and Break-ups

One of the strong reasons behind break-ups is love addiction, because when you fall in love with someone just because you need him you may feel like breaking up with him as soon as this need disappears, and since this need is developed from temporary down times that we experience the chance of breaking up in the near future becomes much higher. ( see this article for more details on that topic)

love addiction and recovery

love addiction can generally be caused by having other problems in your life, having some kind of emotional problems that you either can't solve or that you either escape solving them can be behind your love addiction.of course no escapement method will be as beautiful as escaping to love, you just need to escape to the mood of love where these bad emotions aren't felt at all. One of the simple rules of emotions is that you can only experience one emotion at a time, so by experiencing love you forget the about the other bad emotions or at least burry them for a while. but they still may visit you like unknown bad mood attacks or even in your dreams.

how to overcome love addiction?

the solution to this problem may not be that hard, you just need to find out what is making you feel bad on being alone, if it was unloved problems then at least start to take action, if it was lack of self confidence then start to build your confidence, whatever the cause is find it then try to take action towards removing it, rather than escaping to a temporary addiction that will solve nothing, it will only accumulate the problems then you will have to face the bigger pile of problems later.

The book “How to get over someone in few days” was released by 2knowmyself, the book is a 100% guarantee that you will get over anyone else you will be refunded. 2knowmyself is, without doubt, the best source for dealing with breakups on the whole internet. If you think that this is some kind of marketing hype then see the relationships & breakups directory and you will discover this fact yourself

9 Most Shocking Secrets Women Don't Want Men to Know

noreply@blogger.com (.) — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 20:53:00 +0700

Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say. They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Read on to discover some of the most shocking secrets women don't want men to know.

Blonds aren’t always dumb- If you thought all of them were dumb than you are strongly mistaken. Hair colour does not affect a person's IQ. They only act dumb to seem cute or get you to spend money on them and if you do that than you are dumb not them.

Women get jealous as hell- They might deny it but the fact is they get extremely jealous even if their man talks to a random female or maybe a friend. She might pretend to act all nice but inside her jealousy volcano is about to erupt.

I am the sexiest of them all- Every woman has this mind frame no matter how much they try to deny it. Almost every woman wants to feel like the one and only beauty queen in the world as if nothing compares and demand royal treatment from all men.

Am I fat- I know you’ve heard this one time and again but let's all admit to it officially! No matter how skinny she is she would never consider herself thin. Almost every woman occasionally asks this annoying question- "Am I looking fat in this honey?”

They always lie about shopping- They might be out grocery shopping but always end up getting something for themselves which they thought was cute. They either try to hide it or lie about its price saying it was on sale.

Don't share secrets with them- If you have than you are already on prime time radio. Almost every woman shares each and every secret with her friends. They tend to share their secrets over a cup of coffee and have a good laugh over it. And yeh when I say secrets it means your private secrets as well ( he he) if you know what I mean.

What shoes are you wearing- If you thought it was a myth than think again. Women do judge a man by his shoes. So better make it a point to wear nice clean shoes the next time you walk out.

They know when you are cheating- Women have inbuilt instincts and emotion system which beeps and alerts when their man is cheating. No matter how big of a player you are you would always be caught no matter what.

An absolute must know for you- This secret is an absolute must know for you no matter what. This is the grand daddy of all which would give you the ultimate power to become a magnet towards which every woman would be attracted. This is only known to a few and you are one of the lucky one's who are being introduced to this shocking secret