When you think about it, isn’t it true we expect a lot from people, from ourselves and isn’t it true they expect a lot from us. living up to an expectation, high standards can really make a person lose touch with their higher self. always seeking to please, or becoming angry or extremely disappointed when your expectations of another person or yourself don’t follow through.

It brings on this repetitive cycle of depression one can only be in it to really understand it. When you live up to your expectation, you are happy and satisfied for a moment till another event or situation arises and brings around the same issues all over again. I am certain you have been through this yourself. I hope by writing this post, whether or not you realise the basis of what is happening, my aim is to bring an awareness to the situation. An example i will point out is the media. The way it portrays how children should look by feeding them physical images to live up to which only gives low self worth, eating disorders and feelings of worthlessness.

Parents who expect a child to live up to their expectations of another sibling is just as harmful. All this creates is destructive relationships to the person and the people close to them, it closes down communication barriers to getting to know the person of who they really are. Every person has a uniqueness and it is exists in every single soul. It is you accepting you as you are without worrying about another persons opinion of what they think of you or how you should be or do.

Expect nothing and gain everything. Accepting yourself just as you are, and having that same acceptance for others can only bring positive change. Understanding the difference which sets you apart from the rest of the world is what makes you unique, beautiful and valuable. So nurture your gifts, be grateful for every moment. Dance in the sun and party in the rain. You are perfect just the way you are. So don’t hold back because someone once said you couldn’t, shouldn’t or wouldn’t do it. If you’re passionate about something, do it. Don’t wait, another day, week or month. Make plans, set goals and achieve what you were born to do. And that is to just express yourself by being you.

 Truth is, love exists from the inner core of each human being and living thing. It is always present. For some of us it is so deeply sealed by layers of hurt, pain and low self worth it seems impossible to retrieve. It may feel this way but this is not true. This article will cover some secrets about yourself you already knew before entering into this world. I am here just to remind you of it.

So let’s begin the basic process, and the secrets to radiate your soul back to life.

Say NO To Self Criticism Self criticism is that negative internal dialogue inside out minds intoxicating the soul because it lowers our self-esteem. Calling yourself fat, ugly or stupid are limiting our beliefs and stopping us from living a full abundant life. To stop self criticism, the simple answer is to be aware. Be aware of your thoughts, make a choice by turning it into something that is constructive and kind.

Seek Positivity In Everything You See And Do The wonderful thing about having a mind of your own is you have the power to change your thoughts by turning negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Learning to be positive is a skill to train your brain. Believe in yourself, know you can achieve your goals, praise yourself daily, focus on what you do want to manifest in your life, surround yourself with positive people.

Embrace The Power Of Forgiveness Making mistakes are inevitable. It is part of being human. It is essential to help us grow, and we’ve all made some in the past. Let go, forgive yourself since there is really no point carrying it with you because all it is doing is crushing your soul.

Kill The Negativity With Positive Affirmations Using positive affirmations and repeating it daily, out loud or internally can help your self-esteem grow. For example, you can repeat ” I love and accept myself just as I am unconditionally” several times a day. For more examples, click here.

Take Time Out To Be Grateful Be grateful for your uniqueness you’ve brought fourth into this world. Write a list of all the things you like about yourself. This can be as simple as having the lungs to breathe in air, for the eyes to see, for the home you have.

Let Go And Relax You need to take time out and spoil yourself once in a while. Take long baths, facials, relax at the beach. Absolutely anything that makes you feel at peace by doing something for you.

Be Good To Your BodyYou’ve heard the saying  “A healthy mind is a healthy soul”. Treat your body with love and care. It is important to keep yourself physically fit and healthy by feeding it good nutritious food and daily exercise to reduce stress, obesity and disease. Your body helps you in more ways than you are really aware so do yourself a favour a be good to it as you only have one body and not two.

Live your life with no regrets is a motto we should all be willing to seek. It is useless ruminating over the past and leading to thoughts like “if only I did this” or “if only I did that”. Fact is, the past has come and gone and there’s no point thinking about something which cannot be changed. Like everyone else, every once in a while we make mistakes. This article will help unburden the past to whatever it is stopping you from doing the things you truly desire and it will allow u to see it wasn’t all bad.

“Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can’t accept your imperfections, that’s their fault” – Dr. David M. Burns

Failure is a matter of perception. In every situation there is a positive light. Mistakes are good for us, as they are there to help as learn to grow. For every mistake we make brings us further to understanding and accepting of ourselves so we can teach other people. It is a series of lessons, advancing  us to a higher way of living and loving. This is a gift. There is no use for being born with the perfect body, mind, spirit and experiences. What good would that do? What would you be able to learn from it? Life will get boring.

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes”- Mahatma Gandhi

The mistakes we go through are the exact experience we need to become who we are today. Don’t let yourself get soaked by the negativity of it all. Don’t feel terrible, and don’t call yourself stupid. Instead recognise the experience for what it is. Accept it, appreciate it, and consider what happened and why it happened the way it did. Learn from the events and move on. Be grateful you had a chance to learn something new. Life is what it is, it’s all about choices and all choices come with mistakes. Mistakes bring out the light in you, they present wisdom.

“Mistakes are painful when they happen, but years later a collection of mistakes is what is called experience”- Denis Waitley

The more mistakes you make, the more wise you will be. So next time you make a mistake, smile knowing you will only get smarter and knowledgeable because of it.

To explain how affirmations work, it is necessary to understand these are only learnt through thought pattens developed through childhood through other people’s beliefs systems. Some of these work well but most are working against us creating fear from reaching our highest potential. Many of these beliefs may actually not be true or based on false invalid impressions constructed as a child.

By replacing negative affirmations and reinforcing positive affirmations you are challenging these negative beliefs by choosing self nurturing beliefs. Using positive affirmations forces us to keep focused on our inner goals and act as constant reminders to think consciously about our choice of words.

Positive affirmations will work better for you as long as you are determined to make a change and let go of your past and old ways of thinking. Reprogramming your mind will enable you to achieve the life you’ve always wanted for yourself.

You are unable to control other people’s thoughts but you can control your own thoughts. You are responsible for your own mind and how it operates. It is up to you to decide what is accepted as truth.

So how will you go about bringing positive affirmations into your life? Easy!

The most effective time to apply positive affirmations are right after waking up and before you go to sleep. During these times your brain waves are moving slowly and will be able to retain affirmations at a deeper soul level.

Writing notes and sticking it areas around your home is another effective way to reinforce these positive affirmations such as your bathroom, car, computer, mirror, and desk. The more you see them, the more effective it will be wired into your mind. The expected outcome is a change from the inside out.

Repeat, repeat, repeat your affirmations again and again out loud, internally or through recorded tape or CD’s. Also, another important fact to know is that memory is always associated with emotion. The stronger the emotion, the sharper the memory. So feel the joy, pleasure and satisfaction of the positive affirmations as though if you really do believe it.

You can create your own positive affirmations about anything in your life. Here are some examples I came up with.

Weight loss

I choose to be slim, fit and healthy

I am in control of my weight

In my mind I am slim, healthy and attractive

My body will soon follow my healthy thoughts

I will maintain my ideal weight

Self-esteem

I love myself just as I am

My life is wonderful and meaningful

I am important

I am happy being me

I feel good about myself

Money

I make more than enough money easily

Large amounts of money are coming to me

Money is attracted to me like a magnet

Being Positive

I am totally positive

I am in charge of my life

I see the positive things in all situations

Life is good to me

My life is a wonderful adventure

Your new life awaits for you. Start the change process now and watch your life unravel to a new and refreshing start.

So where do you start? Write a list of all the things you appreciate and keep it in a little book where you can refer back to when you are feeling down. What do you love about your life? What do you love about yourself? How about the things around you? What makes you smile?

Make sure you give full attention to all the things you love and cherish. Think about the people you love and write a list of the things you love about them. The outcome of this exercise will bring a positive feeling of joy and appreciation.

The things I personally love in life are the simplest things. Personally, clouds are one of the things enjoy looking at. Knowing you will never see the same cloud twice, and always seeing it take a different shape is a beautiful thing. A flower, scent, enjoying a wonderful meal, or even watching a bird are other examples. There are so many things to be grateful for… What are you grateful for?

Choosing the joy of appreciation is a humble experience. It is a powerful way to raise your vibration as it connects you to source energy.

Remember to appreciate yourself! Whatever you believe about yourself will be emitted out the universe and the universe will respond. Realise you are a wonderful person who is worthy of all the good things this world has to offer. You are beyond perfection just as you are. Focus on all the amazing things to appreciate about yourself. Know that there will never be a person like you to walk this universe and make the most of what you have right here, right now. You are one of a kind, a unique, special individual so do yourself a favour.. celebrate, appreciate and love yourself unconditionally.

Remember, If you give time to complain and blame remember the universe will take it as something you want more of and the universe will respond by giving you more things to complain about.

If you have an attitude of gratitude, you will feel great because it is a high vibration and the universe will bring you more things for you to be grateful for. As you apply the power of appreciation into your life today and everyday, you will attract more things into your life very quickly. So grab a pen, and write down your list today and enjoy each and every moment you see, feel, taste, hear and smell.

How you are feeling and thinking affects you more than you realise. Feelings of love, joy, happiness and peace are powerful magnets which draws you to the things you want and desire. It is the same for the opposite feelings. Negative emotions and feelings like hate, fear, anger are drawing you things that you do not want or desire. Whether you know this or not, you are constantly sending out a vibration to the universe and the universe responds.

“The environment that you find yourself in, whether favourable or not, is the product of your own life. Most people however, fail to understand this, and tend to blame others for their troubles” – Daisaku Ikeda.

 
So take a minute to have a look at your life right now! Write down your thoughts. What kind of thoughts are you thinking and how strongly do they resonate within you? Do you see a pattern of your thoughts reflecting it back into your life? Are you a miserable magnet or are you a happy magnet?

Once you know how to apply the law of attraction into your life you will attract the people and circumstances that are within a vibrational harmony with your thoughts and feelings. When you feel happy, you will attract happy people and situations. When you feel loved and appreciated you attract love and appreciation. When you feel rejected or depressed you will attract situations that will match exactly how you feel. So knowing this allows you to pay attention to your thoughts and feelings to actively create the life you want.

Forgiveness is a choice, a decision to let go of resentment and negative emotions. The act of being hurt will always be remembered but forgiveness allows you to soften the attachment associated with it. It will help you to focus on the positive parts of your life. By forgiving others you are also inclined to reach a higher perspective of the situation and lead to a greater understanding, empathising and carrying compassion for those who have hurt you.

Research have proven benefits of the act of forgiveness such as having healthier relationships, spiritual awareness, and increased psychological well being, less stress, low blood pressure, less risk of consuming alcohol and illicit drugs.

However, by not forgiving you are holding grudges and anger and this can affect you in more ways than you are aware of. You may carry this resentment and negative emotion into every relationship or experience and therefore not enjoy the present and let opportunities on experiencing the beauty of life pass you by. You may lose faith in others, and therefore lose friendships and family.

Forgiveness is not easy and does not happen overnight. It is a commitment to a process of change. It involves reflecting your thought and feelings to how you have reacted to the situation, accepting it and actively choosing to forgive and embrace the situation by becoming detached to it. You will no longer play the role of the victim and allow yourself to define your life of how you’ve been hurt.

That’s the beauty of forgiveness. It may not be easy but it is part of life, a journey and a lesson in life you must go through to experience spiritual freedom.

The gift of giving is the true meaning of success.  There are great lessons to be learned from one simple act.

One must understand and accept “the power of giving” is an extremely powerful act; which, in turn, will draw success and abundance in the life of the giver.  When performed unselfishly and unconditionally, with no expectations, it will create a magnetic force within your whole being and effect you life; taking place in the center of your existence, mentally, physically and spiritually.  In addition, you will feel a great sense of fulfillment.

The universal laws of spiritual, as well as, scientific are controlled by the acts of “giving and receiving”.

Where most people view giving, connected to money; the true meaning of giving goes way beyond money.  Allowing the fact, most donating is in the terms of money; one will usually find money scarce.  The mere though or act of giving tests our misconceived beliefs and awareness about inadequacy.  The amount we give, whether monetary or otherwise, does not measure our true worth.

Giving is a selfless, directly from the heart, act that can be very empowering as well as rewarding.  Not connected to any holiday celebration, birthday or any special occasion but an act of compassion.  Giving completely and unconditionally, to show gratitude and that you care and for no other reason; especially, not to expect something in return. Giving in this form, signals positive reactions; sets fire to your inner power and transmits positive energy that will draw a positive response from those around you.  this message you unconsciously send out, will produce a chain reaction of positive events in your life, leading you to true success.

The chain reaction can be overwhelming at times, but it will be very rewarding as well.  Those who share in this process will reap the rewards of their acts of giving, just as you have.

Simply and unconditionally giving, with complete acceptance and realizing you have plenty.  You can trust you will always have enough for all your needs.  This compassionate act of giving develops a bond and very close union with your higher power, universe, spirit, God or your supreme authority.  This connection is referred to as trusting in you higher power.  You believe and trust in God, you will always have plenty; more than you need and the more you can give to help others.  The greater your success will be.

The recipients of these selfless acts will in turn earn you, their love and respect.  People, in general, have the need and desire to return acts of kindness that they have received.  You will feel confident someone will be there for you, to help, because you first helped them.

Remember, your acts of kindness are unconditional; you should not expect anything in return from those you help.  From the goodness of your heart, share and you will be rewarded.  Make your reason for giving be the intense feelings of happiness and fulfillment.  Your higher power will pour out blessings upon you at the right moments in your life, in a way only he can, beyond any earthly understanding. When you reach out and give a helping hand, share and act of kindness, donate in a time of need; you will feel an overpowering sense of joy.  You will know the feeling of true success.

It is scientifically proven; you will enjoy a healthier, prolonged life when you receive that feeling of inner accomplishment and peace.  Life becomes more enjoyable when you incorporate a healthy habit of giving.

Always engage in giving from the heart; don’t allow fear and selfishness be your guide.  Be thankful and be aware of all the miracles that occur instantly in your life.  With the true gift of giving you will succeed.

Human nature and giving have a solid bond.  When you engage in this simple act, you discover joy and fulfillment, as well as attract an abundance of blessings.  These blessings will in turn, lead to true success in all forms.

Procrastinators put off all the hard jobs. But they get stuck in a vicious circle of postponing the easy jobs, too. And the longer they put them off, the harder the jobs are when they finally get around to them. Successful people fight the same war against procrastination that we all face, but they have learned not to give in. They know that procrastination is the cause of many of the problems we face in our daily lives.

Procrastination creates a never-ending cycle of frustration, stress, and defeat. When people learn how to take charge of their lives, their self-esteem improves and their confidence grows. No matter how long you’ve been struggling with the demon of procrastination, you can start to take control of your life today by tackling a job or responsibility you’ve been putting off.

There are many books, online courses, and methods for changing your life and developing your personal and professional skills. I believe that procrastination is the root cause of the majority of problems that people face. Best-selling author Wayne Dyer said: “Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases, and its toll on success and happiness is heavy.”

Take the first step toward a richer life by getting serious about overcoming procrastination. The following quiz will help you identify areas where you can take action today.

1. I have written a list of my life-time goals.

2. I have written a list of my short-term goals (6 months or less).

3. I keep these lists where I can see them, they help me stay focused.

4. I establish priorities – some things that seem urgent are not important when I focus on the big picture. Yes ( ) No ( )

5. Once I’ve made a decision, I don’t worry about whether I made the right decision or not-I just concentrate on getting the job done.

6. I know when to say “no” to avoid taking on too many jobs at once.

7. I live in the present – I focus on what I’m doing now instead of dwelling on what I should have done in the past.

8. When I’ve done the best I can, I know when to wind up a job-spending more time on the same job only keeps me from starting something new.

If you answered “no” to any of the above statements, make a commitment to take corrective action today. Choose one item and do something about it. Don’t move on to the next item until you can truthfully answer “yes” to the previous one. You’ve taken the first step by reading this far; now take the next step and do something you’ve been putting off. If you want to change, you can-the best time is now.

It seems that the “Law of Attraction” had concepts that have been around for centuries with several authors exploring the concepts and writing about them. Currently, many books on the “law of Attraction” have been written. Discussed below are the more prominent and featured books published.

Hicks’ Law of Attraction

Ester and Jerry Hicks wrote a book simply named “Law of Attraction”. The two were inspired by what they call is a spirit who tells them that they need to instruct people to getting by they want just by believing. The book Law of Attraction is based on the practicalities and the principles of the Law of Attraction. If you read the book, you should have a greater understanding of how things turn out to be. It is then you will understand that the role you play is making the events around you too.

However, this book is not for everyone due to the religious theme it has in it. Yet, if you want to see how the Law of Attraction is applied, this is a good book to read.

Both Ester and Jerry Hicks have written several books on this law. One book is called “The Amazing Power of Deliberant Intent.” The book is finding and having about balance in your life. The concept Emotional Guidance System is used in this book to explain on how keeping your life on track while using the Law of Attraction.

One early book entitled “Ask and It is Given” and is a practical exercise in creating and achieving the life you want. The book has a 22-step process outlined that helps you use the law that will help you along the way.

Byrne Law Of Attraction Book

Author Rhonda Byrne also wrote a book on the law of attraction. She centered her book on the knowledge of the principles being handed down over time. The book focuses on certain people, past and present.

Those involved it the current thinking of Law of Attraction argue about how its progression works. Those people advise why it works and what it has done for their lives, good and bad.

Losier’s newer book on the Law of Attraction

Michael J. Losier currently had a new book published about the law. Its title is “Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t Want.” He talks quite a bit about positive and negative vibrations. The book is laid out in a step by step format.

Taylor focuses on Law of Attraction

Another author named Sandra Anne Taylor discusses how the law can work in the aspect of the love life. Her book is titled, “Secrets of Attraction: The Universal Law of Love, Sex and Romance.” She stresses how love is not a feeling but rather energy. She talks about of personal energy fields which affect the way people will perceive or see someone. This field, she said, changes or influences how people act when they are around other people. The principle behind the thought was to change how the energy is around people; in turn, changing the person’s love life too.

There are still numerous books out on the topic of Law of Attraction. By going to the library and looking them up or finding them on the Internet, maybe on Amazon.com or other bookstore sites. Reading these books could change your life.