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Islamic Book

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Biography of Imaam Ahmed Raza Khan

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His Name Is Muhammad

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 03:02:00 +0000

Islamic Song : His Name Is Muhammad

Format : MP3

Singer : Kamal Uddin

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Allah Knows

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 03:01:00 +0000

Islamic Song : Allah Knows

Format MP3

Song Singer : Zain Bhikha

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The Holy Quran Recitation by Shiekh Abdulbaset Abdulsamad

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 03:00:00 +0000

The Holy Quran Recitation by Shiekh Abdulbaset Abdulsamad. The Holy Quran in mp3 format. All sures are included.

1 Al-Fatihah ( The Opening ) 344 kb
2 Al-Baqarah ( The Cow ) 56986 kb
3 Al-Imran ( The Famiy of Imran ) 33666 kb
4 An-Nisa ( The Women ) 36001 kb
5 Al-Maidah ( The Table spread with Food ) 28455 kb
6 Al-An'am ( The Cattle ) 30849 kb
7 Al-A'raf (The Heights ) 34253 kb
8 Al-Anfal ( The Spoils of War ) 12789 kb
9 At-Taubah ( The Repentance ) 25481 kb
10 Yunus ( Jonah ) 17002 kb
11 Hud ( Hud ) 19799 kb
12 Yusuf (Joseph ) 18333 kb
13 Ar-Ra'd ( The Thunder ) 8745 kb
14 Ibrahim ( Abraham ) 8623 kb
15 Al-Hijr ( The Rocky Tract ) 7544 KB
16 An-Nahl ( The Bees ) 18660 KB
17 Al-Isra ( The Night Journey ) 14646 KB
18 Al-Kahf ( The Cave ) 14745 KB
19 Maryam ( Mary ) 9210 KB
20 Taha 12774 KB
21 Al-Anbiya ( The Prophets ) 12071 KB
22 Al-Hajj ( The Pilgrimage ) 12425 KB
23 Al-Mu'minoon ( The Believers ) 10980 KB
24 An-Noor ( The Light ) 13812 KB
25 Al-Furqan (The Criterion ) 8769 KB
26 Ash-Shuara ( The Poets ) 14891 KB
27 An-Naml (The Ants ) 10878 KB
28 Al-Qasas ( The Stories ) 14300 KB
29 Al-Ankaboot ( The Spider ) 10573 KB
30 Ar-Room ( The Romans ) 8095 KB
31 Luqman 5009 KB
32 As-Sajdah ( The Prostration ) 3539 KB
33 Al-Ahzab ( The Combined Forces ) 12822 KB
34 Saba ( Sheba ) 8184 KB
35 Fatir ( The Orignator ) 7657 KB
36 Ya-seen 7547 KB
37 As-Saaffat ( Those Ranges in Ranks ) 11203 KB
38 Sad ( The Letter Sad ) 7909 KB
39 Az-Zumar ( The Groups ) 11895 KB
40 Ghafir ( The Forgiver God ) 11914 KB
41 Fussilat ( Explained in Detail ) 8008 KB
42 Ash-Shura (Consultation ) 8311 KB
43 Az-Zukhruf ( The Gold Adornment ) 8650 KB
44 Ad-Dukhan ( The Smoke ) 3938 KB
45 Al-Jathiya ( Crouching ) 4748 KB
46 Al-Ahqaf ( The Curved Sand-hills ) 6437 KB
47 Muhammad 5304 KB
48 Al-Fath ( The Victory ) 5451 KB
49 Al-Hujurat ( The Dwellings ) 3817 KB
50 Qaf ( The Letter Qaf ) 3815 KB
51 Adh-Dhariyat ( The Wind that Scatter ) 3846 KB
52 At-Tur ( The Mount ) 3349 KB
53 An-Najm ( The Star ) 3601 KB
54 Al-Qamar ( The Moon ) 3611 KB
55 Ar-Rahman ( The Most Graciouse ) 4442 KB
56 Al-Waqi'ah ( The Event ) 4385 KB
57 Al-Hadid ( The Iron ) 5866 KB
58 Al-Mujadilah ( She That Disputeth ) 4932 KB
59 Al-Hashr ( The Gathering ) 4821 KB
60 Al-Mumtahanah ( The Woman to be examined ) 3893 KB
61 As-Saff ( The Row ) 2186 KB
62 Al-Jumu'ah ( Friday ) 1728 KB
63 Al-Munafiqoon ( The Hypocrites ) 1841 KB
64 At-Taghabun ( Mutual Loss & Gain ) 2445 KB
65 At-Talaq ( The Divorce ) 2926 KB
66 At-Tahrim ( The Prohibition ) 2710 KB
67 Al-Mulk ( Dominion ) 3067 KB
68 Al-Qalam ( The Pen ) 3302 KB
69 Al-Haaqqah ( The Inevitable ) 2760 KB
70 Al-Ma'arij (The Ways of Ascent ) 2286 KB
71 Nooh 2029 KB
72 Al-Jinn ( The Jinn ) 2516 KB
73 Al-Muzzammil (The One wrapped in Garments) 1870 KB
74 Al-Muddaththir ( The One Enveloped ) 2479 KB
75 Al-Qiyamah ( The Resurrection ) 1593 KB
76 Al-Insan ( Man ) 2563 KB
77 Al-Mursalat ( Those sent forth ) 2099 KB
78 An-Naba' ( The Great News ) 1888 KB
79 An-Nazi'at ( Those who Pull Out ) 1746 KB
80 Abasa ( He frowned ) 1384 KB
81 At-Takwir ( The Overthrowing ) 1746 KB
82 Al-Infitar ( The Cleaving ) 855 KB
83 Al-Mutaffifin (Those Who Deal in Fraud) 1846 KB
84 Al-Inshiqaq (The Splitting Asunder) 1076 KB
85 Al-Burooj ( The Big Stars ) 1146 KB
86 At-Tariq ( The Night-Comer ) 660 KB
87 Al-A'la ( The Most High ) 930 KB
88 Al-Ghashiya ( The Overwhelming ) 1216 KB
89 Al-Fajr ( The Dawn ) 1649 KB
90 Al-Balad ( The City ) 938 KB
91 Ash-Shams ( The Sun ) 795 KB
92 Al-Layl ( The Night ) 953 KB
93 Ad-Dhuha ( The Forenoon ) 513 KB
94 As-Sharh ( The Opening Forth) 347 KB
95 At-Tin ( The Fig ) 383 KB
96 Al-'alaq ( The Clot ) 720 KB
97 Al-Qadr ( The Night of Decree ) 290 KB
98 Al-Bayyinah ( The Clear Evidence ) 885 KB
99 Az-Zalzalah ( The Earthquake ) 425 KB
100 Al-'adiyat ( Those That Run ) 484 KB
101 Al-Qari'ah ( The Striking Hour ) 428 KB
102 At-Takathur ( The piling Up ) 376 KB
103 Al-Asr ( The Time ) 166 KB
104 Al-Humazah ( The Slanderer ) 354 KB
105 Al-Fil ( The Elephant ) 298 KB
106 Quraish 243 KB
107 Al-Ma'un ( Small Kindnesses ) 363 KB
108 Al-Kauther ( A River in Paradise) 148 KB
109 Al-Kafiroon ( The Disbelievers ) 314 KB
110 An-Nasr ( The Help ) 214 KB
111 Al-Masad ( The Palm Fibre ) 244 KB
112 Al-Ikhlas ( Sincerity ) 178 KB
113 Al-Falaq ( The Daybreak ) 236 KB
114 An-Nas ( Mankind ) 257 KB

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5 habits of children

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 02:58:00 +0000

MODESTY (SHARM O HIYA)

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:56:00 +0000

Anas (RA) narrated: Allah's Messenger (saw) said, "Every Deen has a distinctive quality, and the distinctive quality of Islam is Modesty."

Abu Hurairah(RA) narrated: The Prophet (saw) said, "Iman (Faith) has more than sixty branches, and Al Haya (modesty) too is a branch of Iman."

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated : Allah's Messenger (saw) said , "Modesty is from Iman and Iman leads to paradise and indecency is from the (useless) scum/froth and the (useless) scum/froth leads to the fire"?

Salim bin Abdullah narrated from his father that once Allah's Messenger (saw) passed by a man of the Ansaar who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya (modesty). Allah's Messenger (saw) said, "Leave him for modesty is part of Iman."

Abu Sawaar al- Addavi narrated that he heard Imran bin Husayn (RA) who said :The Prophet (saw) said, "Modesty does not bring anything but good."

Imran (RA) narrated one day : The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, "Modesty is all good."

Anas (RA) narrated : Allah's Messenger (saw)said, "There is no indecency in anything except for it makes it defective, and there is no modesty in anything except for it beautifies it."

Abu Saeed Al Khudri (RA) narrated : The Prophet (saw) was more shy than a virgin in her private room, and if he saw a thing which he disliked, we would recognize it on his face."

Abu Masud(RA) narrated: The Prophet (saw) said, "One of the sayings of the early Prophets which was imparted to the people is, "If you do not feel shame, then do as you like."

Sami Yusuf - Al-mu'allim (2003) Mp3 Islamic Album

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 02:55:00 +0000

Sami Yusuf - Al-mu'allim (2003) Mp3 Islamic Album

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Prophets' tales by Sheikh Al-Sharaawy (New)

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 02:53:00 +0000

Qasas ul Anbiya

Prophets' tales by Sheikh Al-Sharaawy (New)

More than 40 audio hours.

Tales introduction and brief.
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Sami Yusuf - My Ummah

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 02:51:00 +0000

Sami Yusuf - Asmma'u Allah

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Dua From The Holy Quran

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 02:50:00 +0000

Dua From The Holy Quran
25 Dua’s From The Holy Quran is an E-Book: Du’a (also spelt du’ah or dwuha) is a supplication in Islam, an Arabic term which means to ‘call out’ or to ’summon’. Muslims use this term and call out to God, and Muslims regard this as one of the second greatest acts of worship in Islam. Prophet Muhammad (SAW) is reported to have said “Dua is the very essence of worship.” One of Allah’s commands expressed to Muslims through the Quran is for them to call out to it.

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Pocket money for a wife

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:31:00 +0000

Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi [ra] has dealt in his guiding sermons with some topics with special emphasis. I intend to reproduce two or three of these in this discourse, as they are generally overlooked by the people. Firstly. the liabilities about a wife does not mean that she should be provided only with food and clothes. It is also a part of this cost that she should be paid a suitable amount as pocket expenses in addition to the cost of living, making her free to spend this additional amount as she likes. There are persons who arrange for food and clothes but do not care for pocket expenses. Hazrat Thanawi has said that payment of some amount as pocket money is also necessary, because there are many items when a person feels ashamed to disclose to other that she needs a certain thing. The wife should, therefore, must have some extra amount as pocket money so that she may not seek other means to satisfy her needs. Hazrat Thanawi [ra] has warned that those who do not provide pocket money to their wives are blamable.

Being generous for Family
Another point to note is that one should be generous and liberal in spending money on the needs of the household. One must not limit expenses to basic needs. One should provide money with a generous hand so that the expenses of the household may be met with ease and freedom according to the financial means of the house-keeper. Some people complain that, on the one hand, there is stress that one should not be extravagant and at the same time there are instructions not to be miser in spending money on the household. A question now arises as to what is the line of demarcation between the two. What is extravagance and what is not extravagance?

Simple or comfortable accommodation both are lawful
To remove this confusion Hazrat Thanawi [ra] has said: that accomodations are of two kinds, a place which is just enough to accommodate the members of the family. It may be an ordinary hut, it is possible for a man to live some how even in such structures. This is lawful in the first degree. The second kind is that the house should provide living accommodation as well as a reasonable degree of comforts. For example, the house should be concrete-built, equipped with fans and electric lights. If a person provides this service in his house in order to make life easy and comfortable, this cannot be regarded as extravagance.

Decoration is also lawful
In the third degree, along with means of comfort a house should also have some decoration. For example, a man has a concrete built house with plastered walls, electricity and fans, but it has no paint on it. Even an unpainted house like this is fit for living, but without white-washing and proper painting it lacks in decoration. If the house owner gets the house colour washed and painted for the sake of decoration this too is lawful in the laws of the Shari'ah.
In short to live in an ordinary house is lawful, it is also lawful to live in a house provided with certain comforts and amenities as well as some decoration. Decoration here means some additional improvement made in the house, like painting, etc, which is pleasing to the eyes and cheering to the heart. There is no harm in this and is permissible in the Shari'ah.

Show off is not lawful
Then follows the fourth degree which is mere “Show off’. The house-owner is doing something which aims neither at comfort, nor at decoration; the aim is to show his riches. Thereby he wants to impose his superiority on others and to show that he is a big thing. All this comes within the definition of “Show off’ which is not lawful in the laws of the Shari'ah. It is also extravagance.

The limits of extravagance
These four categories also apply to food and clothes, and in all other things of life. A man wears costly clothes in order to receive comfort, to please himself and the members of his household and his acquaintances, friends and visitors, there is no harm. On the other hand there is a person who wears valuable clothes with the intention that he may be considered a rich and wealthy man, a man of exalted position in society, then this is mere exhibition and show and therefore it is prohibited. Hazrat Thanawi [ra] has therefore drawn a clear line of demarcation between the two extremes. If money is spent on something for the sake of meeting a necessity, providing comfort or for decoration for his own pleasure and satisfaction, it is not extravagance.

This is not Extravagance
Once it so happened that I was coming back to Karachi from some other city, and it was the hot summer season. I requested someone to have my seat booked in an airconditioned coach and I gave him the required amount of money. Another man who was sitting nearby at once objected to this because in his opinion I was committing extravagance by sitting in an airconditioned coach. Many people are under the wrong impression that to travel in a higher class is extravagance. Bear in mind that if travelling in an upper class is for comfort, e.g. to save oneself from heat in the summer season, and the man can afford it. It is neither extravagance nor a sin. If one travels in an upper class simply to show that he is rich, then it is extravagance and it is unlawful.
The husband should therefore, keep in mind these degrees in meeting the cost of living of his wife with generosity and liberality. Capacity differs from man to man, Maulana Maseehullah Khan Sahib [ra] once observed: There is a man who is all alone in this world, without relatives, without friends and without acquaintances. For such a man a bed, a dish and a jug are sufficient to pass his life. If he collects more articles, it will mean a show and will be reckoned as extravagance in his case. There is a man who receives guests, has a large circle of acquaintances and friends, and has many relatives. The standard of his needs and extent of requirements will be quite different. If such a man has in his house at times even one hundred sets of pots and beddings, not a single piece of this will be counted as extravagance, because all these are necessities of life. The standard of life differs from man to man.

If she commits the immodesty

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:30:00 +0000

If these women commit open lewdness, that lewdness cannot be tolerated in any case. In such a situation they should be dealt with according to the injunction laid down by the Holy Qur’an.
First of all they should be admonished, then, if they insist-on their sin, let their bed be separated. If they still do not accept the admonition and continue in their Lewdness, then it is permitted to inflict them with light beating which should not cause any injury. If they refrain from the lewdness and mend their ways, then one should not find fault with them, but they should be let off, without further pinching them.
Beware! These women have rights over you that you behave with them well. Be generous in discharging your obligations in the matter of providing them with clothes, food and their other needs.
This does not mean that you should meet only their basic needs; you are expected to be generous and liberal in supplying their lawful needs.

Husband's permission for going out

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:30:00 +0000

But here is another requirement to note in order to understand the true position. After knowing only one side of a case and being ignorant of the other side people begin to take undue advantage. It has already been explained in detail that it is not obligatory for a wife to cook food, according to the laws of the Shari'ah. In his Tradition the Holy Prophet has said that “women remain confined to your houses like captives”. It means that it is not lawful for them, to go out of the house without the permission of their husbands. Just as the jurists have explained in detail the issue of cooking food, in the same way they have also explained in detail that women cannot leave the house for meeting kinsmen, even their parents without the permission of their husbands. If the parents visit the house of their son-in-law to meet their daughter, the husband cannot prevent them from seeing her. The jurists have prescribed limits for such casual visits. The parents may visit their daughter only once a week and go back after seeing her.

This is their daughter’s right which a husband cannot deny, yet she cannot go out of the house without her husband’s permission. Thus Almighty Allah has, in His mercy, created a balance between the rights and responsibilities of husband and wife. On the one hand the wife is not legally bound to cook food and, on the other hand, she is legally bound not to go out of the house without her husband’s permission.

Mutual Co-operation is vital for smooth life
Whatever has been stated above is only the legal side of the matter; but the beauty of mutual behaviour with each other is that each should try to please the other. Hazrat Ali and Hazrat Fatimah [radhiallaahu anhuma] had distributed the duties of the household between them in such a way that Hazrat Ali did all the outdoor work, while Hazrat Fatimah performed the indoor work. This is exactly the Sunnah (practice) of the Holy Prophet which should be followed. Husband and wife should not always involve themselves in the implications of the law. The best way is that both should behave with each other open-heartedly. The division of work between husband and wife on outdoor and indoor basis is a natural division to enable them both to keep the vehicle of life going smoothly.

Serving the In-laws is not obligatory

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

There is another fact worthy of notice about which much negligence is observed among the people. When a wife is not responsible to cook food for her husband and his children, then she is more appropriately not responsible to cook food for the parents of the husband and his brothers and sisters. A custom has gained currency in our society that the parents of the son think that their right over the daughter-in-law has a priority over the right of the son. Therefore she is bound to serve them, no matter if she serves her husband or not. Such a misleading conception gives rise to quarrels and disputes among the daughter-in-law and other members of the family. The negative results of this conception are obvious to require any comments.

To serve In-Laws is a virtue for a woman
Bear in mind well that it is the responsibility of the son to serve his parents. It is, however, a matter of blessing and virtue for the daughter-in-law if she serves the parents of her husband willingly, as a righteous deed and source of reward for her in the Hereafter. The son does not have any right to force his wife to serve his parents in case she does not feel inclined to serve them of her own sweet will.
It is also not lawful for the parents to force their daughter-in-law to serve them. As already mentioned, if the daughter-in-law voluntarily decides to serve her in-laws for the sake of recompense in the Hereafter she is welcome to do so. This will create happy and pleasant atmosphere in the household.

Appreciate the services of a daughter-in-law
If a daughter-in-law is serving his father and mother-in-law, she is doing favour out of her moral character because she is giving this service to them only of her free will and she is not in any way liable for such services. Her in-laws should, therefore, appreciate this voluntary service from her. They should try to requite her for this and encourage her. Ignorance of these rights and liabilities create various problems in social life which play havoc to the solidarity and welfare of families through quarrels and disputes. All these troubles are taking place simply because the people have banished from their minds the limits of these mutual rights and liabilities which the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has fixed in his Traditions.

A Surprising Incident
Hazrat Dr. Abdul Hai Sahib [ra] one day related a very wonderful event. He said that among his acquaintances, there was a couple who used to visit his assembly and receive spiritual training and instructions from him. One day both of them invited him to a dinner at their house. It was the habit of respected Dr. Sahib to utter at the end of the feast a few words of praise in favour of the lady who cooked the food just to encourage and please her. The lady who had prepared the food came and stood behind the curtain and greeted him. After replying to the greeting Dr. Sahib uttered a few words of praise and appreciation about the quality and taste of the food and the art of cooking. Dr. Sahib heard the woman sobbing from behind the screen. It was disturbing. Was there anything in Dr. Sahib’s words that pinched her? On being asked to state the cause of her grief and sobbing, she said, "I have been living with my husband for the last forty two years, but during this long period of association, I never heard from him a word of appreciation about my cooking. When I heard these words from you sir, I could not control myself from sobbing."
The respected Dr Sahib used to relate this story in his assemblies off and on to emphasise that such callousness can never be expected from a husband who is able to realise that it is a great favour on the part of his wife that she is serving him so selflessly and faithfully of her own sweet will and is doing all this service for which she has not been made legally responsible by the Shari'ah. A man who thinks that his wife is a maid servant and has to serve him at any cost, has no need to drop a word of praise and appreciation if she is an expert cook and sincere worker.

The Husband should serve his parents himself
A question arises as to who should serve the parents when they are old, weak or otherwise helpless on account of sickness when there is none in the house except their son and his wife? Even in such a situation, the daughter-in-law is not bound, according to the Shari'ah to serve her in-laws. It is, however, a matter of blessings and virtue for her if she serves them of her own free will with the belief to please Allah and to receive reward in the Hereafter. The son should, however, realise that it is his responsibility to help and serve his parents personally or by employing a servant for this purpose. If the wife is looking after his old parents, the husband must appreciate this service and be thankful to her.

Sacrifices of the woman for your sake

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:29:00 +0000

The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in this Tradition. “How tremendous sacrifice the woman has undergone for your sake. If the matter was just the reverse and it were said to you, you would have to leave your family. your parents, after your marriage what an awkward situation it would be for you. As for the woman she has become confined to a strange surrounding, a strange house and a strange person and that, too, for the whole of her life. That is why the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said in his tradition: Will you not mind this sacrifice? Do take heed of this and treat her well and with love.

You have no claim upon them
Thereafter the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has spoken a very serious sentence of far-reaching consequences. When the meaning of this sentence is explained to men they get annoyed. That sentence is:

"This means that according to the laws of the Shari'ah the only demand you can make of them is that they should live with you in your house".

You have no other claim upon them, Cooking is not the duty of a wife
From this Tradition the Jurists have deduced a ruling of delicate nature and which makes men annoyed. The ruling lays down that according to the Shari'ah it is not the responsibility of a woman to cook food for the household. For this purpose the Jurists have divided women into two classes. Women of one class are those who do household work, including cooking food in their parent’s houses. The other class consists of women who do not cook food in their father’s house where cooks are employed for this work. If after marriage a woman of the latter class goes to her husband’s house she is not at all responsible to cook food, religiously, legally, morally or otherwise. On the other hand, that wife may ask her husband to hire a cook for her as man is obliged to provide her with food along with other necessaries of life. The Jurists write:

"It is the responsibility of the husband to provide his wife with cooked food."

The wife cannot be forced to cook food neither by force, nor by the law, because the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in clear words:

"This means: You have a right to keep them in your house which it is not lawful for them to leave without your permission."

With this exception the laws of the Shari'ah have imposed no responsibility on them.
However, If she belongs to the first category the one who used to cook food in her parents’ house she too is not legally responsible to cook food i.e. she cannot be compelled by law to cook food. However, the responsibility falls on her only morally. In such a case the husband is responsible only to provide the food materials. Even then it is not her responsibility to cook food for the husband and the children. A wife in this class cannot ask her husband to provide her with cooked food. However, if she refuses to cook food for her husband and the children, the court cannot force her to do it. The respected Jurists have explained these problems at great length.

Mutual Relations Between Husband and Wife

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:28:00 +0000

This shows the importance of husband-wife relations in human life and how the law-maker the Holy Prophet himself felt this importance. If the husband and wife do not discharge each other’s rights properly and, instead, usurp these mutual rights, not only will this result in the violation of each other’s rights, but it will also adversely affect both the families as well as the children whose proper upkeep, development, mental and moral growth will be affected. As the family is the foundation of the entire civilisation, with its ruination civilisation is itself ruined. That is why the Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has laid great stress on the importance of mutual relation between husband and wife.

Women are in your confinement
Hazrat Umr bin al-Ahwas al-Jashim [radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated that in the Farewel sermon the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] praised Almighty Allah, offered consels and delivered a speech and then said:

"Beware! I advise you to do good to women. Accept this advice."

This is the sentence which occurred in the previous Tradition. His next sentence was:

"because those women live with you confined in your houses."

The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has mentioned an attribute of women that if man reflects over this attribute only, he can never think of misbehaving with them.

A Lesson from an Ignorant Girl
Our dear Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi used to tell his disciples to learn a lesson from an ignorant, uneducated girl who surrenders herself to a stranger after uttering at the time of the Nikah only two words of acceptance. She honours these two words so solemnly and completely that she leaves her mother, father, brothers and sisters and the entire family and becomes inseparably tied to and confined with her husband. An ignorant girl honours these two words so truly and sincerely that she surrenders herself to one person, her husband but you could not honour our pledge of these two words by surrendering yourself to Almighty Allah. This girl is much better than you. She honoured so completely her pledge of Nikah, but you did not honour your pledge of the two words of the article of Faith.

Prophetic Address in the Farewell Pilgrimage

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:28:00 +0000

In the above Tradition an extract has been given from the Farewell address of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam]. In this address he addressed the assembly of the companions in clear words that after that year he might not see them at that place. So in this address he included all those points that he feared that the Ummah might deviate from the right path, and thus he wanted to leave behind for the guidance of the Ummah a perfect code of life to be followed. In this address he tried to block all the possible paths of deviation and error.
The address is quite lengthy but different parts of this address have been stated on different places. This is also a part of it in which the various aspects of relationship of man and woman has been discussed.

Special stress has been laid on the need that men should acknowledge the rights of women and honour them. You may realise the importance of these rights from the fact that he delivered that sermon on the occasion of the Last Pilgrimage when he indirectly informed people that the next year he may not get an opportunity to address the people. Thus the mutual rights of men and women are one of the topics which he selected for discussing towards the close of his life on account of their importance. He wanted his Ummah to honour and follow the injunctions in all circumstances.

A miracle of Dr. Abdul Hai [ra]

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:28:00 +0000

Hazrat Dr. Abdul Hai my spiritual guide sometimes related to us, by way of a lesson, that a period of fifty-five years had passed of his marriage, he never talked to his wife during these fifty five years in an angry tone. The walking of a man on the surface of the water and his flying in the air is taken as a miracle. It is more surprising that one should not talk to his wife even in an adverse tone for as long as fifty five years. And his respectable wife says that her husband, Dr. Sahib. never asked her to bring to him a glass of water. She, however, served him as best as possible of her own sweet will and as a blessed and virtuous duty.

Tariqat is nothing but public service
Hazrat Dr. Sahib used to say: I consider myself to be a servant whom Allah has sent to this world for service.

This is my belief and with this belief I want to serve others and depart from this world. I am duty bound to serve all my friends, acquaintances, associates and pupils. I was not sent to this world as a master to be served by others. He considered the position of a servant of people to be an elevated rank. He then recited the famous persian couplet:

Tariqat (spiritual way) is nothing but public service. It does not consist in the robes and the prayer-rag and the saintly garments (signs of godliness).

Tariqat in fact, stands for public service. Dr. Sahib used to say: When I understood that I am a servant and not a master, how can a servant order others to do this and that? He spent his entire life by doing his personal work without the assistance of anyone else. This is a practical example of how the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] should be followed. As for ourselves we do follow the Sunnah in rituals only. It is necessary to follow the sunnah in dealings with others social living and in every mode of leading our private life.

Verbal claim is not enough
Living according to the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] is highly rewarding. Through such living man can smoothen his worldly life as well as his life in the Hereafter. But this success cannot be attained only by making empty claims.

"This means that everyone claims to love Laila, but Laila herself does not acknowledge their claim)."

This is achieved only by means of sincere work and devotion. By his character, conduct and practice man should ensure that he does not cause the least harm even to the person with whom he happens to be on unfriendly terms.
In short, the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has illustrated, by his own practice. the THIRD STEP of reforming an errant wife. Throughout his lifetime he never raised his hands on any one of his sacred wives. However he was sometimes irritated by their behaviour, but he never reacted to it. Those who beat their wives are declared the worst men by the Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam].

(Tirmidhi book of Tafsir. chapter Surah Taubah Tradition no: 3087).

Physical punishment to a wife

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:27:00 +0000

If the second step of the reform also fails then it will be necessary to resort to the third step, which is to inflict on the wife some physical punishment; but what kind of physical punishment and to what extent? The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] answered these questions in his sermon on the occasion of his Farewell Hajj in which he said: "(beat them very lightly so as not to injure them". To sum up, effort should be made so as to settle matters without the expedient of this punishment. If it is found unavoidable, it is permitted only with the condition that it should be very light, the intention being only to enforce discipline and not to inflict pain and injury. It is not lawful beating one’s wife in a way that should leave a mark on the body. (A Tradition on this subject follows).
The behaviour of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]
When the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] passed away from this world he left behind nine sacred wives.

These wives were not angels sent down from the heaven: they were members of this world and society. Sometimes, bitterness occurred among them as is usual and natural among co-wives. Sometimes such problems also arose as usually arise between husbands and wives. Hazrat Ayesha [radhiallaahu anha] has narrated: Not only did the Holy Prophet ever raise his hands on any of his wives, but it was also his habit to enter the house with a smiling face.
The Prophet’s Sunnah (practice)
It is the Sunnah (practice) of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] that men should not raise their hands at women (to beat them). The permissibility of punishing physically is restricted only to abnormal and unavoidable situations. In fact beating women is not the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]; his Sunnah is what Hazrat ‘Ayesha has narrated.

Three steps of reforming a wife

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:25:00 +0000

As I have already stated, the Holy Qur’an has taken great care to mention in detail concerning husband-wife relations:
The differences and disagreements between husband and wife start when the husband feels offended at some action or habit of the wife. The Qur’an advises that in such a situation the husband should look for some lovely and pleasant quality in the character and dealings of his wife. If the husband fails to discover in his wife any such good points and feels that correction and reform are needed, then the Holy Qur’an has prescribed the following course to reform and rectify it.

"As for those (women) from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and banish them to beds apart (from yours) and beat them." (4:34)

First of all you should advise them in a lenient and polite manner and with love to give up their bad habits and reform themselves. This is the first step of reform. If they respond favourably to admonition and accept your advice, do not go further and treat the chapter closed. If this does not help and they insist upon their misconduct then the second step is to separate your bed and give up sleeping with them on the same bed. If they have sense, they will surely reform themselves and act upon advice. (Details of separating the bed will follow shortly).

The women of our society are Nymphs of Paradise

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:25:00 +0000

Hakimul Ummat, Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi [ra] used to say that the women of the Indo-Pakistan are like nymphs, because they are endowed with the qualities of faith and loyalty. Although these qualities are slowly fading under the impact of the modern Western civilisation and culture, yet the spirit of loyalty is so deep-rooted in them that they are always ready to sacrifice their lives for their husbands in all circumstances. and they can never cast their glances on anyone other than their husbands. In fact the saint, referred to above demonstrated obedience to the injunction implied in the following Tradition.
If one habit of the woman is unpleasant, there must be some pleasant habit in her which should be taken into consideration and good treatment should be meted out to the woman on account of this one pleasant habit in her.

People generally look at the dark side in the conduct and character of their women and lose sight of the bright side in them. This tendency is the root cause of the bitterness prevailing in our society.

It is immorality to beat one’s wife
The third Tradition of this chapter is as under:

(Sahih Bukhari the book of marriage - It is hateful to beat women tradition no 5204)

Once the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] delivered a sermon in which he mentioned many important topics of Islamic behaviour. The following is the point which he touched on the subject under discussion: He said: It is very bad that one of you beats his wife as a master beats his slave and on the other hand he uses the same wife to satisfy his sexual desire. Then how immoral and shameless it is that one should beat one’s wife so severely!

Educative story of A saint

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:24:00 +0000

Hazrat Maulana Shah Ashraf Ali Thanawi [ra] has related the story of a saint who had a very ill mannered and aggressive wife. She always found faults with her hushand. Whenever the saint entered his house the wife started quarrelling with him. Someone asked him why he did not get rid of those daily wrangles and squabbles by resorting to divorce. The saint replied: it is very easy for me to divorce her but there is one reason for not doing so. Despite all her defects, she has one very good quality which prevents me from parting with her; and that is the quality of loyalty with which Almighty Allah has adorned her. Supposing I am arrested and imprisoned for some crime, for a term of fifty years, she will not move even an inch from the corner to which I confine her, and she will never cast a glance at anyone else. This This quality of loyalty is invaluable.

Mirza Mazhar Jan-e-Jan’an and his over-sensitiveness
Hazrat Mirza Mazhar jan-e-Jan an [ra] was a renowned saint of the Indian sub-continent. He was so touchy and over-sensitive in his temperament that if anyone put the glass on the pitcher in a tilting position or if he saw his bedding creased he would feel headache, unfortunately he had to deal with an ill-mannered wife. She was always murmuring something against her husband. Strange are indeed the ways whereby Allah tests His servants and raises their ranks. The wife of this pious saint was an ordeal for him which he tolerated with patience throughout his lifetime and expected that Allah may pardon his sins as a recompense for this ordeal.

Be conscious of HER good habits

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:23:00 +0000

In another tradition of this chapter Hazrat Abu Hurairah radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated:

(Sahih Muslim-Book of suckling chapter counsel about women)

In this Tradition the Holy Prophet has mentioned a wonderful principle that a believing man should not hate a believing woman altogether. In other words, the man should not condemn her totally on the false plea that she is no good. If she has some undesirable triats in her conduct she must have in her some desirable traits also.
The first principle which the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has taught is that when two persons live together, some habit of the one is pleasant and some other habit unpleasant to the other.
If the woman has some unpleasant habit in her, then do not condemn her on account of that habit altogether, rather look for and remember her pleasant habits and thank Almighty Allah for them. If you follow this practice it is quite possible that the hatred in your heart for the dark side of her conduct and character may gradually lose its severity and importance.
Man, in fact, is ungrateful. If he finds any defects in her he totally changes his opinion about the person concerned and forgets about his good qualities. In view of those few faults and defects, he is always critical about him and misbehaves with him. Such attitude is unreasonable.

Everything has virtues and vices in it
There is nothing in the world which is all virtue and all vice. Almighty Allah has, by His wisdom, endowed everything of His creation with virtue and vice. You are sure to find some good qualities in every person, may he be an infidel, an idolater or even worse.

An English proverb
The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said: A word of wisdom is a lost property of a believer. He must pick it up wherever he finds it. So there is no harm in picking up a word of wisdom even from an English Proverb.
The proverb said that even a watch which has gone out of order speaks the truth at least twice every day. Suppose that the watch stopped at 12 hrs., 5 mts,. As the time 12-5 occurs twice during the 24 hours, the dead watch shall tell the correct time twice at 12-5 hrs, although it will remain silent at other times.
The moral we draw from this English proverb is that if one is in search of goodness with hope and sincerity one can surely find this goodness even from the most condemned and throw-away objects.

There is nothing bad in the workshop of Nature
My father Mufti Muhammad Shafi’ Sahib [ra] used to recite frequently the following Urdu couplet of the late Dr. Muhammad Iqbal:

There is nothing useless in the earth There is nothing bad in the workshop of nature.

Whatever Almighty has created has created it with His wisdom and by His will. If you reflect on it you will surely find in Allah’s creation point of Wisdom and benefit. Instead man looks for faults and shortcomings only and ignores the good points and bright sides of things. Thus he becomes pessimistic and commits transgression and injustice.

Always look for the good qualities of women
Almighty Allah has said in His Book:

"For if you hate them, it may happen that you hate a thing wherein Allah has placed much good." (4:19)

If for some reason you do not like those women whom you have married, yet it is just possible that Almighty Allah may have endowed them with much goodness and blessings. Hence this command that you should look only for the good qualities of women. so that you may receive solace and comfort from them and thus the doors of mistrust and misbehaviour may not be opened.

“Negligence” is a part of beauty in a woman

noreply@blogger.com (Love) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 03:23:00 +0000

Today the times have changed; as a result the values have also changed. A defect in a man is more often looked upon as a point of virtue and beauty in a woman. If we go through the Holy Qur’an carefully we shall see what, is generally considered a defect in a man is considered a point of beauty in a woman. For example. it is a defect in man to be ignorant and negligent, on account of which he is unaware of what is happening in the world. A man has been entrusted with the affairs of the world. To discharge these he needs learning and awareness. If he is devoid of these qualities and abilities, he is faulty and defective to this extent. As for a woman, negligence has been considered by the Qur’an as an item of beauty for her. Allah has said:

"Surely, as for those who slander virtuous, negligent believing women..." (24:23)

The word “negligent’ meaning that they are unaware of what is happening around them in the world. The Qur’an has considered here “negligence” or “unawareness” as an attribute of beauty. It is obvious from this that if a woman is ignorant of the affairs of the world, duties. excepted. this is not a defect but an attribute of beauty as described by the Qur’an.

Do not try to straighten her bent by force
Thus we see a defect in man is not considered a defect in woman and what is not a defect in man is sometimes looked upon as a defect in woman. A man is, therefore, not allowed to be harsh to a woman and misbehave with her if he finds her behaving in her womanly way. The very meaning of her comparison with a rib is that, by nature, she should be different in temperament from you. So now do not try to straighten her by force.

The root cause of the entire conflict

The above is based on a Tradition of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. Who can claim to know more about the nature of man and women than the Prophet of Allah? He diagnosed the root cause of all the conflicts between man and woman.Man insists that a woman should be exactly like himself in all her behaviours. This is not possible as she has been created different from him.