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The POWER of FEAR

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 15 Feb 2015 01:34:00 +0000

Do you know that fear is strong and powerful? Do you understand how fear can hold you hostage and disable you? Did you know that most people will never fulfill their TRUE purpose in life because of this thing called FEAR?

Well today I have chosen to not only be the most transparent BUT I have also chosen today...to let go of fear!

I'm ready to SPREAD MY WINGS AND FLY!!!

When I was about 9 months old, I fell down a flight of stairs at the babysitters house and I broke my wrist. At the time no one noticed anything wrong with me other than I had a broken wrist. So the doctors put me in a cast and sent me home.

My mother says that when I was around 1 years old she begin to notice that whenever I would get sleepy that my left eye would drift off and there would be a slight difference between my right eye and my left eye. She says that the doctors told her that it may have been caused from my accident and that because I was still fragile at the time of the fall, the muscle in the eye may have been loosened. I had my first surgery at 2 years old to try and correct it. They pulled the muscle over so that both eyes would be in alignment. Well I think that surgery only lasted for a couple of years because as my body changed, so did the muscles in my eyes. So I have spent the majority of my life having surgery after surgery to correct my eyes. BUT with changing eyesight and growing older...well you've guessed it. The last surgery I had was in 2001 and at that time I was told that there is very little muscle left in the left eye and it would only get weaker as I get older.

Interesting though, is that every time immediately following a surgery, I would have this boost of confidence. I would feel good about myself. I would feel beautiful. BUT as the years would roll by and the muscle would once again start to weaken...so would my confidence,

Due to this insecurity with myself, I have avoided direct eye contact. I have rejected speaking in front of people. I have rejected doing videos of my work. ASHAMED!!!

I have been living a disabled life!!! I have a purpose in this world. I now understand why I was born and what I was meant to do. I have been on a journey of discovery and transition. I have learned so much about myself and I have even learned to love myself...BUT...I am still crippled with this fear.

I woke up this morning and I heard GOD say to me...NO MORE!!! I have a purpose for you and you will not be able to fully do what I need you to do if you are still holding on this fear.

I AM letting the FEAR go today. You see not many people know that I have been hiding behind this fear because I exude a level of confidence. That confidence is real but it only goes as far as I allow it. I love myself but not because of how I look on the outside...it's because of ALL of the work I did to fix the inside of me!!!

I started this journey several years ago because my life was in shambles and I knew I needed to change. Prayer and surrounding myself around positive and like-minded people has been beneficial to my success.

It is my prayer, my hope, and my desire...that I am able to help others in similar situations. YOU CAN LIVE A HAPPY LIFE! YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES!

So here it is - MY VERY FIRST VIDEO. #ImFree

My First Video

Loving Yourself Chronicles - Step 3

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 23 Jan 2015 01:31:00 +0000

So on Facebook I gave you Steps 1 and 2 to Loving Yourself (Chronicles).

Step 1 - Telling yourself daily affirmations. Such as, God does not make mistakes, therefore I am BEAUTIFUL!

Step 2 - Setting standards for your life and those that will occupy your space. Why? Standards show that you know your worth and it MAKES others respect it. In short, allowing any and everything from others - sends a signal that you do not love, respect, or honor yourself - therefore, you don't love you!

NOW, you may be asking who am I to speak to you about loving yourself. Well, let me tell you. I once did not love myself. I pretty much hated everything about myself. My life, my body, and my energy was negative, I didn't have standards set for others to respect because I did not UNDERSTAND my worth.

I KNEW I NEEDED A CHANGE IN MY LIFE!!! And, you know who that change had to begin with - ME!

NOW, Step 3 - Loving yourself has NOTHING to do with what's on the outside and EVERYTHING to do with what's on the inside.

Let me explain. See, how you feel about yourself is reflected through your actions, behavior, and attitude.

You project how you feel about yourself by the way you treat others, the things you say about others, the way you value your relationships, and your overall attitude and behavior.

There is a PROCESS to learning to Love Yourself. It takes reflection. You must take the time to really look at yourself and your behavior. Then, you must take the time to look at the people in your life and their behavior. Our influences affect how we feel about ourselves as well. YOU MUST BE HONEST!!! This is something just between you and your God. So be honest in your reflection.

ONCE, you have taken the time to reflect, now it's time to ask WHY? Why do I not love myself? Why do I treat people the way that I do? Why am I self-destructing my relationships? AND, then you must decide to change!

As I said before, check the people in your life. Negative, messy, gossipy people play a factor in how you feel about yourself. Why? Because YOU ATTRACT WHAT YOU ARE!

So begin to evaluate those in your life and decide whether they are significant in your journey to loving yourself and if not, LET THEM GO!

PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!! Prayer changes things, If you are serious about evolving and discovering the real you then you must stay in prayer. And, you need to work at this everyday. Begin by treating others how you would like to be treated. Be respectful, be polite, be giving, be apologetic, and be kind. It's amazing how you will begin to feel. It will become a feeling that you crave - meaning you will do it more often until it becomes a part of you. And guess what, you will find yourself - loving yourself!

I did it and I know you can too!!! But you have to want it!!!

Anchor woman Fired after choosing to go Natural.

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 04 Dec 2014 01:17:00 +0000

I thought this was interesting to read because it is really sad to see how many people of all backgrounds feel about our hair. What's even more sad...is that it's not even accepted by the masses within our race especially from our men. Why is this? Let's start the discussion.

http://newsone.com/2867261/rhonda-lee-weather-woman-fired-natural-hair/

It's a Natural Hair Journey

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 23 Nov 2014 00:08:00 +0000

Well...it has been a while since I have posted to my Blog but I wanted to share my journey of transitioning from Relaxed/Permed hair to my Natural (God-given) hair.

This is my 3rd attempt at transitioning and right now I am at the VERY place I usually get to before I cave in and put a relaxer in my hair. This time is different, though. I am forcing myself to push through this in-between stage (where I have a significant amount of new growth and also relaxed ends). I DO NOT WANT TO DO THE BIG CHOP!!!

I have been 6 months without a relaxer and for the last 6 months I have been wearing sew-ins. This is my hair after taking out my sew-in and washing and deep conditioning my hair. OVER half of my head is new growth. Amazing!!! I slicked my hair back into a ponytail and curled my relaxed ends on rods. LOOK at those waves.

This was so exciting to me once I saw these waves because it gave me an idea of what my curl pattern might look like and it gave me the inspiration to continue pushing.

Now I know that transitioning is a rigorous process and it takes dedication and patience. I'm learning to try new techniques and I am playing around with various styles that I can wear during this process. You Tube is a great resource for transitioning hairstyle ideas.

The reason I have wanted to go natural may be deeper for me than for others. It was not just to achieve a certain look but it was a spiritual decision. In addition to my hair thinning as I age, I also appreciate the BEAUTY of OUR natural, birth-born hair. I love it in whatever texture it is in. I feel that we have become a race so caught up with mainstream America's idea of what Beauty is...that we have forgotten just how naturally BEAUTIFUL we are. Without the hair weave, makeup, and nails...our skin is glowing, our eyes carry the images of the ancestors, and our HAIR is so fascinating because of the versatility of our hair. We have been conditioned to think that our natural hair is unattractive. BUT guess what...our hair holds historical connections to our African cultures.

I saw an article on Facebook about the way Solange Knowles wore her hair for wedding last weekend. I was very upset to hear people going in on her for wearing an Afro at her wedding. First of all, it was HER wedding and she could wear her hair anyway she chose but secondly, how dare people say such things as her hair was not beautiful. How does something that naturally grows out of your head (the way GOD intended) NOT be beautiful? The bible says that Jesus' hair was like Wool...hmmmmm. GOD must have thought this texture of hair was beautiful or else he would not have given his only son THIS kind of hair.

Okay enough on the history lesson of our hair. My co-worker Adrienne Nichole Martin is a beautiful natural hair girl. She has inspired me to continue on this path and has offered her help and encouragement along the way. She has suggested products that she has used with positive results. One thing she has told me is to not run out and buy a ton of hair care products. She says that there are more cost-efficient and natural products that I can use. I explained to her that when I took the sew-in out my hair was tangled that I almost broke the comb off in my hair...LOL. She told me to mix baking soda in with my conditioner. I tried this and WOW. I was able to comb through my hair from root to end with no problem.

Check out Adrienne's beautiful NATURAL hair!!!

Adrienne Nichole has agreed to be a consultant for people that are transitioning or already natural. If you have questions that you would like her to answer please leave them in the comments section.

I hope you continue to follow me along this journey!!!

Do you Procrastinate?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 25 Jun 2014 20:26:00 +0000

Do you sometimes put off doing things today and say "I'll just do it tomorrow?" I know I have been guilty of procrastination. I think we all suffer from it from time to time but it should never be the norm with any of us. Procrastination leads to nothing being accomplished. Dreams never being fulfilled.

We all must start somewhere - why not start TODAY!!! Whatever it is you need to accomplish...start today with a few steps and tomorrow do a little more. Push yourself each day to do more toward your goals then you did yesterday.

Can you see the vision? Do you believe that you deserve it? Are you willing to put in the work for it? If you fall down...GET YO BUTT BACK UP!!! Never give up...keep pushing. Nothing worth having is ever easy to obtain...we all must work to get it and then keep what we desire.

"Procrastination will DELAY your change!!! Steve Harvey

Satisfied Customers of Traci Lynn Jewerly

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 20 Jun 2014 00:01:00 +0000

Rebecca Berry and Natae Gaines are sporting their Traci Lynn Jewelry. Natae was the winner of the Blog contest and she is wearing the Cutie necklace and earring set. Rebecca is wearing the Pearlesque necklace set.

Don't they look Fabulous in their jewelry.

Look at the Cutie necklace set that the Winner of the contest chose

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 09 Jun 2014 22:25:00 +0000

Natae has selected the Cutie necklace and earring set. I have ordered it and it's on its way. Isn't it beautiful. It is one of the popular jewelry pieces. Again Congratulations Natae!!!

And The WINNER Is.....

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 03 Jun 2014 23:00:00 +0000

NATAE STEWART...that's right she won the contest for the Traci Lynn Jewelry piece of her choice. Help me congratulate Natae!!!

Once she picks out her BEAUTIFUL piece of jewelry...I will share a picture of it with you.

Girl's Night Out!!!

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 03 Jun 2014 01:09:00 +0000

Send me an email if you would like to join us for this FUN filled event.

Teen Sex Trafficking and the primary hub is Atlanta, Georgia

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 28 May 2014 01:01:00 +0000

This subject really bothered me and I knew I had to research it and write about it. The other day I was watching Stolen Innocence on BET. There were a panel of speakers and they were discussing the problem with teen sex trafficking and how Atlanta is the primary hub for this crime. They spoke about the numerous strip clubs that exist in Atlanta and how many high paying people, including stars, frequent these strip clubs.

Sexual exploitation of OUR children right in our backyard is bothering to me. The facts about sex trafficking are startling. THE NUMBERS WILL SHOCK YOU! It is gut-wrenching, eye-opening, and heart-breaking.

The sex trade is currently exploiting 1 million children. The yearly profit of this black-market trade in human beings is $32 billion. Sex trafficking is currently the fastest growing criminal enterprise in the 21st century. With all the money the government spends on the War on Drugs...What about our innocent little GIRLS????

The U.S. State Department estimates that 244,000 American children and youth are at risk of sexual exploitation. The average age of children exploited is 14; however, children as young as 10 and 11 have been reported as victims (marietta.patch.com)

As I continue to do more research on this, I am astounded at how close to home this issue hits. They say that most teens caught up in the sex trade come broken homes and are usually runaways but through my research on the metropolitan area of Atlanta, I have found that a great number of these kids come from affluent neighborhoods and decent homes. This crime is not limited to kids from inner city Atlanta but some of them come from Marietta and Cobb County.

Tune in Live tomorrow to my radio show...Wednesday May 28, 2014 at 6:00 pm. www.blogtalkradio.com/evolvinglivesradio For further discussion on this topic.

1st Live Radio Show

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 22 May 2014 01:30:00 +0000

Well...tonight I hosted my first live radio show. This is where callers could call in and talk with me live over the air. Hmmm...it was interesting to say the least. I ran into a few kinks. I could actually see the listeners but I could not answer their calls. AND...I was a little confused about whether they just wanted to listen or actually speak live to me. Then I was getting text messages from people saying that they were having difficulty calling in...AND I thought that was the issue. So...I ended the show only to realize that all I had to do was hit a button to let the caller on the air...How stupid? Huh? Well...I got back on the air and BEGGED my callers to call back ASAP and finally I was able to connect with Kathy. WHEW!!!

Kathy shared an interesting viewpoint on the level of commitment in marriages. I stated that everybody's view on the level commitment is different and what one person expects in their marriage is different than what someone else may expect.

Listen here but DON'T judge...LOL. I am still new at this and learning. I do come back to the show after initially ending the call...SO stayed tuned to hear Kathy's perspective.

Click the link below and scroll until you see tonight's topic...Why are less people committed in their marriages or click over to the right. Let me know what you think. Thanks guys.

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/evolvinglivesradio

Change is Good

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 21 May 2014 00:51:00 +0000

Well here it is!!! My Blog's new design and layout. What do you think?

As promised....there's an incentive. Here's a chance to win a free piece of Traci Lynn Jewelry...that's right FREE!!!

RULES:
JOIN my blog, COMMENT on at least 2 posts, CLICK on my Blog Talk Radio Show (over to the right), CLICK follow and then register. Once you have completed the required rules...you will be entered into a contest to WIN a Traci Lynn Jewelry piece of YOUR choice. That's right...you get to select the piece of jewelry you want.
There's no price limit. Only 1 piece of jewelry will be given away. Sets will count as 1 piece of jewelry.

The deadline is June 1, 2014. The WINNER will be announced by June 3, 2014. All rule requirements have to be met in order to be entered into the contest.

If you have already joined either of my sites previously, you may complete the rest of the requirements and then you will be entered into the contest.

MEN...I would like for you to enter the contest as well...because I know that there is a special lady in your life that would love to receive some Traci Lynn Jewelry.

Why are people less committed to their marriages?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 20 May 2014 00:22:00 +0000

Get ready. This is the topic for my next talk radio show. This Wednesday at 6:00 pm. Listen live and/or join the conversation. Follow the link to get the details www.blogtalkradio.com/evolvinglivesradio

Blog Talk Radio

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 15 May 2014 22:30:00 +0000

So I am really excited about my new venture and must admit it was FUN!!! I will be doing blog talk radio. I am sharing my 1st show with you guys. It hasn't went public yet because I'm new at this and I needed to test the waters.

So listen and tell me what you think. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/evolvinglivesradio

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 15 Mar 2014 22:10:00 +0000

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Why it is important to LOVE yourself (A story of my personal journey)

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 07 Mar 2014 23:20:00 +0000

Yesterday a friend from college posted pictures of a bunch of us. For some reason, seeing that picture immediately took me back to that time and I remembered how I used to feel about myself back then. I stared at the picture and my eyes began to swell up looking at the beautiful girl that has no idea just how beautiful she is. I studied the seating arrangement between me and the other girls. They are all gathered around smiling and posing for the picture and I am seated above them trying to kind of strike a pose but really just feeling out of place.

I remembered how I always felt out of place and like I never quite fit in anywhere. I looked at this young lady in the picture and thought about all the times she used to dream and wish that she was someone else. She didn't understand why her. She wanted to be thin and pretty. I remembered the times just wishing I could just die, I hated being ME.

This hatred for myself also shined its ugly head upon the world. I was miserable and very unhappy and the world knew it. I acted out because I didn't know what else to do with this anger. I was sad and depressed. Although I wore a smile on the outside, the inside was so unhappy and full of hate (for myself).

I used to look at my mother and think "wow, she's so pretty, so what happened to me". Here's the funny thing, I always knew I was cute and pretty but when your overweight you feel that everything about you is unattractive.

Years after graduating from college and having my son, I started a journey to find out how to love myself and deal with what I was born with. I knew I could lose the weight and already had lost a good amount of it. BUT that attitude was not going anywhere until I dealt with it, confronted it, and decided that I wanted to be a better person. The journey has not been easy as a matter of fact it has been downright hard.

I started by realizing that I am pretty (on the outside) but the inside is a MESS!!! And that no matter how pretty I am on the outside that it must come from within and that is when your TRUE beauty begins to shine. I started reading a lot. I read all of Iyanla Vanzant books and Maya Angelou. I decided that I wanted to be empowered within myself and I needed to fill my mind with that energy.

I am still on my journey and probably will until I leave this body. I align myself with positive people and those that I know truly care for me. My circle is small now but it's okay because I realize that
I don't need a lot of people. I just need people that love me and want to help me continue to be a better person.

No one asked that young lady in the picture how she felt, why was she so sad, or why was she so angry. As a matter of fact no one ever asked me those questions until GOD put someone in my life that truly loved me, wanted the best for me and from me and he asked those questions. You see, although I had started my journey before him, I had yet to really look deep within my life for the answers. I think I kind of thought that I just needed to focus on the now and try to change that part of my life. Well...if you ask GOD he will deliver. So for the first time in my life, I had to ponder over past pain and hurt and deal with some childhood issues. It hurt. It hurts now to write this BUT you have to confront issues and then forgive those that have hurt you and forgive yourself. Then you can begin your journey to a healthy you.

THANK YOU MR. HOLLINGS. For allowing GOD to use you to be the blessing I didn't know I needed.

If only that young girl knew then what she knows now!!!

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 02 Mar 2014 15:32:00 +0000

WOW!!! We had so much fun last night!!! The night was a huge success. The ladies received free facials and learned how to properly apply makeup. They taste tested samples of Vi shakes and cereal. Leila Spivey informed the ladies and educated them about living a healthier lifestyle. AND, they were able to sample products from Cloud 9 and touch the toys to feel the different vibrating effects.

The food was awesome and we had plenty of mixed drinks to accommodate everyone's personal preference. It was a BLAST!!!

If you missed it don't worry, we will be hosting another one soon. Stay tuned and keeping checking my blog for updates and upcoming events.

If you are interested in purchasing the Vi shakes please click on the link below.
www.khollings.bodybyvi.com

We are looking for other independent vendors to join our Empowerment Parties. If you're interested please leave a message in the comments section or send me an email.

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 01 Mar 2014 20:56:00 +0000

Today's the day and I hope to see there!!! The Women's Empowerment Party!!!!

FUN, FUN, FUN

Women's Empowerment Party coming March 1st

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 17 Feb 2014 00:20:00 +0000

Please RSVP and come out and enjoy the 1st Women's Empowerment Party!!! Hope to see you there!!!

Has reality TV gone too far?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 31 Jul 2013 21:26:00 +0000

It is no surprise that reality TV has become the new genre for entertainment television but has reality TV gone too far? Many would say that reality TV is a poor representation of people but especially women and more specifically black women. I do not disagree with this analogy. A lot of reality TV shows have begun to display acts of violence and use of inappropriate language. Maybe this is for ratings because it does seem to draw people in and have them coming back each week for more and more. What does this say about our society and the next generation? Do we love to see other people acting poorly? Are we obsessed with drama? Have we become numb to violence and are willing to accept it in certain scenarios? Do we no longer care about the images our children see on television? Although, I feel like there is truth in each of those questions, I also feel that some of us watch these shows with a grain of salt and take them for what they are meant to be - Entertainment. I heard K-Michelle of Love N Hip HOP Atlanta on the radio the other day and she made a very valid point. She was asked if she felt she was a role model for young girls and she said that these shows should not be raising our children. I agree. I think that some people are too critical of the people in these shows as far as expecting them to be role models for our children. I personally feel like it is up to each individual to control what their children can watch on TV and when. I am the mother of a young, impressionable girl. I love reality TV but I don't allow my daughter to watch certain shows and that's not just reality TV. Although, I love my reality TV there is a limit of what I will watch as well. There are certain shows that are extremely violent and I won't watch these. When Evelyn Lozada from Basketball wives became extremely violent by throwing a bottle at a lady, I declared that I would not watch the show anymore because that crossed the line and I felt that she may have needed some therapy. I am an old school girl and I still prefer sitcoms and primetime television. I will continue to watch certain reality TV shows because I enjoy the entertainment of them. Give me your feedback!!!

My continuation of the Trayvon Martin case

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 01 Apr 2012 02:11:00 +0000

I am watching Pierce Morgan tonight and he has Mike Tyson on the show. He's asking him his opinion on the Trayvon case....Really - Mike Tyson - this is the guy that has a tatoo across his face...how much can he contribute to the cause??? Pierce asks him if thinks Zimmmerman should have been arrested that night and he says "Well, I don't know" ...with that lisp that he has. I was watching this and I was floored because I think he should have been arrested and then the investigation should have begun. Isn't that how it usually happens? You're arrested and then questions are asked. Mike Tyson sounded really uneducated on the facts that we know so far. I understand that we still do not know the entire facts but my problem with this whole situation is that there was not an immediate arrest. We all agree that someone is dead...possibly murdered but yet we are still wondering what really happened. Mike kept saying "I don't know" as Pierce kept asking questions about this case. I know that justice has not been served. I know that we still do not know all the facts. I know that a child is dead and a man is free. I also know that this man appears to be without scars or bruises but says that it was self-defense. I also know that at the end of the day...he was TOLD by a 911 operator to stop pursuit and let police handle it??? You tell me...What do you know??? Come on Mike - REALLY???

My opinion on the Trayvon Martin case

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 20:02:00 +0000

It saddened me when I first heard about this case. I was unsure why no one in the police dept seemed to be more concerned about the facts behind - what I think was a senseless killing. I am so gratified to see that the local community and communities from across the US have joined together to see that justice is served. This child could have been mine or yours and his parents love him just as much as we love our children and they deserve to have the facts examined and Trayvon deserves fairness. It's sad that in the year 2012 we still have to wonder if race truly plays a part in certain situations but I am convinced that these issuses are still alive and just as prominent today as it was in the 60's, during the civil rights movement. I heard Martin Luther King, III. speak at the rally for Trayvon and today he must continue the fight for equality that his father started. Now, I am not going state whether I think race is an issue in this case, I just know that certain people in government are being passive-agressive about the incidents that occurred on that day when this young man was found dead. Regardless, everyone should be treated fairly.

To read more please click on the link http://photoblog.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/03/21/10799258-hundreds-march-in-support-of-trayvon-martin-family-in-miami-new-york?ocid=ansmsnbc11

Facebook OR Job?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 18:06:00 +0000

I heard on the news this morning that more employers are starting to look at potential employees' Facebook pages to gather insight into the individual's personal life. This information could be very valuable to an employer and could potentially be the deciding factor as to whether an individual obtains that job or not. People have to be very careful when using these social media sites. You have to be selective about the information you post and also the people you allow to post on your sites. I choose not to have a Facebook page anymore simply because it's initial intended purposes are now being abused. It is no longer a way of connecting with old friends and colleagues, it has become an environment for people to air their dirty laundry. It's sickening some of the things people post. I don't necessarily agree with a potential employer choosing to look into your personal affairs to determine whether you are a fit for the company but I DO UNDERSTAND why they may feel this is necessary. So many people bring their bad attitudes and behavior into the workplace. Choosing to look at someone's facebook page or other social site could help prevent problems later on for an employer. I had a previous employer that was harassing a co-worker about the friends she had on her facebook page. It became so disturbing for this person that she chose to delete the account in fear that she could lose her job. I think facebook should be used for what it was intended to be used for and just like in our own personal lives, we should guard it carefully. We should not allow so many people into our personal space. The information you share on these sites allow people into your daily life and their influence could affect how other people see you. Remember, these sites have broken up relationships, caused people to lose their lives, and now could cost you that job!!! Think about it and decide if it's worth it.

Beauty is more than skin deep

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 19:22:00 +0000

Physical attraction is very important. The basis to any relationship is physical attraction. If you are not physicaly attracted to a person and they to you, then you can bet that all you will be is - Friends. This may be unfair and you may hate it but it's true. A person's personality will become important after you have established a physical attraction to them.

Physical attraction is definitely not the end all of relationships but it WILL determine whether you get that first date, that phone call, or even just a simple - "Hi, how are you doing?" It also helps that when you take this person to meet your friends and family that they also find the person attractive - it pumps us up and makes us feel good about our selection.

Spritual connection, great conversation, mutual respect, and friendship are VERY important in any relationship but you will only get that far once it has been determined that the other person finds you attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!!

Why are women so desperate for a man?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 00:25:00 +0000

Desperate for ANY man. Many women will disagree with me on this because they will say that they are not desperate but yet I see the things they are willing to put up with and the things they will go through - all in the name of love.

Now don't get me wrong, I too have played the fool before but everyone must wake up and choose better the next time. We must pay attention to those signs that we see when we first meet a man. Those signs that gives us insight into his character. The signs are always there - we CHOOSE to ignore them.

I was listening to Michael Baisden the radio the other day and he was talking about how women give up the keys to their homes within weeks of meeting a man. We are so quick to give of ourselves because we want that love and security that a relationship should provide. What are these men offering as you hand over your keys? A man should add to your home - not take away from it.

Women, we should have better standards for the kind of men we choose. I am married but I remember when I was single and how I felt when I would get lonely. I feel like women get tired of being alone and the club scene gets real old after a while and at the end of the day you want somebody to come home to. It is beautiful but it also takes time. We can't be in such a rush that we accept the first thing coming. You have to pay attention and get to know this person. How does he treat you, how does he treat his family, how does he treat other people? What are his goals and aspirations, and has he acquired some of these things on his own? Is he quick to anger? Is he responsible with his finances? These questions are important and if you ignore them - you WILL pay the cost.

To listen to the Michael Baisden show click here and then hit the play button http://www.michaelbaisden.com/tools/podcast/player.php?file=hump-day-wednesday/hdw_hr2_a_09022009.mp3&title=Hump%20Day%20Wednesday%20Hr%202%20%209.2.2009