• MISTAKE #1: Dirty talk

Fact: On a scale of 1-10, women feel talking dirty is a 7 in terms of importance during sex. But don’t exaggerate!

Don’t make it too dirty. We don’t want to hear ‘take it take it take it’ or ‘who’s pussy is this’. We certainly don’t want to hear the ‘C’ word or the ‘B’ word. Nothing ruins a moment like having a guy shout out “whore!” in the middle of it. Find your balance; enough flattery, and a little bit of edge will work magic. All you need is the right amount of feel and the right raunchy vocabulary.

• MISTAKE #2: Screaming

As much as you want to scream “Hallelujah” Just. Don’t! You can make noise. We like noise. But keep your grunts lower than your woman’s moaning.

• MISTAKE #3: Sexual sadism

Having fantasies is very healthy and acting out fetishes like soft bondage, a little teasing, role play etc will definitely spice up your sex life. But NEVER ask your girlfriend if you can rape her or participate in other fantasies where you want to (simulate) inflict pain and humiliation for your sexual arousal. Porn usually portraits women to be submissive and I understand where men are coming from. But If pain, suffering and humiliation causes sexual arousal and pleasure, please seek help. Don’t ask us ladies to participate (unless SHE wants to!).

• MISTAKE #4: Skipping foreplay

If you think this mistake is often made by younger men, think again. Men who are in long-term relationships often have stopped putting in the required effort. Foreplay is something to enjoy and for some women it can even be more enjoyable then intercourse itself.

• MISTAKE #5: Thinking your package is all she needs

No, I’m not insulting your manhood. I’m just saying some women need extra stimulation to get to the big ‘O’. Talk to her about adding sex toys and vibrators into the bedroom. It can be exciting and fun and takes things to a whole new bedroom level.

• MISTAKE #6: Not asking her what she likes

Have you ever asked your girl what she likes? Unfortunately some women are a little scared to tell you, so it is up to you to ask. Asking your woman what she wants doesn’t have to be awkward. After all, sex should be fun, right?

• MISTAKE #7: Not knowing your way

No ’how to’ guide will ever teach you your way around your woman’s body. Get out there and find out what her hot zones are; her neck, her thighs… Keep in mind that not all girls are the same, so if you enter a new relationship, you will have to do it all over again.

It took us an hour and a half to get at the hotel. The hotel wasn’t that bad at all. We stayed in the Vega Hotel , and it was pretty decent. The majority spoke English with a funny KGB accent ( lol ! )

We had a little bar downstairs at the lobby, which we proudly claimed. We had some caviar with pancakes, beers, and of course shots of vodka! Oh yes..we didn’t forget about the vodka. We went at it the first night, and then had a hard time getting up in the morning for all these meetings we had scheduled.

We travelled trough Moscow by metro. It’s the easiest, fastest and cheapest way to travel. Traffic is crazy in Moscow, and you’re always stuck because its HUGE and crowded. What would you expect with a population of more than 17 million! The city of Moscow is considered a small country.

Moscow is a diverse city with a good dose of the old communist leftovers, the dominance of the Russian Orthodox Church claiming its presence. All this combined with modern luxury. Its everywhere, in the malls, The luxury brands, the food, the cars, the women. I did feel that the majority of people is kind of distant, rude and can come over very harsh. But that’s on the streets. In the restaurants and bars everybody is super friendly.

Hopefully the next time we go to Moscow, we won’t be swamped by meetings. We didn’t have the chance to really mingle and go clubbing.. so I’m rating the city with 3 pumps!

“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”

- Kate Moss

Many of us ridicule women who strive to be a size 0. Recently, Brittish webshop Zazzle caused outrage by launching a T-shirt collection for toddlers and baby’s with Kate Moss’ outrageous motto: “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”. Eating disorder experts have called for a ban on adverts for the ‘appalling’ T-shirts which are sold in sizes to fit primary school-aged children and babies.

Plus size models worsen the nation’s obesity epidemic.

Despite many slamming size zero models, this passed week, a new report warns that getting rid of super-skinny models could worsen the nation’s obesity epidemic. Researchers Dr Davide Dragone and Dr Luca Savorelli, from the University of Bologna, Italy claim that having plus size models on the runway, will increase unhealthy eating habits. In their report they argue that increasing the size of the fashion models will alter people’s perception of the ideal weight. Obesity currently costs NHS billions of dollars. Having Plus size models as a role model, will double this figure in 2050.

Size 0 models.

Bring back 90′s models!

Personally, I believe plus size models (size 14 and up) aren’t “making us fat”. Junkfood and bad eating habits are making us fat. Hell, sometimes dieting makes us fat. I also don’t believe size 0 models “are giving us an eating disorder’.  Either models aren’t attractive to me. Bring back 90′s models, who where healthy and toned like Cindy Crawford, Claudia Schiffer, Naomi Campbell and Helena Christensen! Now, they were role models!

Back in the 90's women were allowed to be a healthy size. (Helena Christensen)

this feeling of “being stuck” is a request for us to change or remove ourselves from the situation

Whether it’s your relationship that isn’t moving forward, your career situation or a broader life situation, this feeling of “being stuck” is a request for us to change or remove ourselves from the situation. If you stop beating yourself over the head with that hammer, you will immediately feel better. Start weeding out things and people out of your life that you feel stop you from growing. Change course, draw a line and start living above it. Feeling stuck means, at some point, you settled for less and acted below your standards; a dead end relationship, a dead end job etc. It is your mind telling you ‘hey, I am no longer satisfied with where I am and what I have and I need something else’. The key is knowing HOW to move on from here.

Acknowledge that you are in a place you want to remove yourself from (or change), but don’t focus on the negative emotions from being there

How to move on:

• Don’t focus on your feeling of being stuck. Instead, focus on moving forward. Acknowledge that you are in a place you want to remove yourself from (or change), but don’t focus on the negative emotions from being there. This way you are able to focus on what you DO want. This is the foundation of the Law of Attraction, which says that which you focus your energy on is what you attract to you.
• Don’t fear change! Fear is a very powerful emotion, but getting unstuck takes a leap of faith. “Fear nothing but fear itself”.
• List what’s on your mind. Get your pen and paper and start writing. What do you want to change? Why do you want to change it? What steps are you going to take to change it? If you want to go wild, set a timer to 20 minutes and write down 100 things you want to do in life. Careers you want to have, the sky is the limit. While doing this, don’t be realistic, be crazy – just write! When the timer goes off, put down the paper and look at it the next day. The point of this list is not to work down a crazy, gigantic “to-do list” but to let you know that you are creative enough to get unstuck in life and that anything is possible.

It wasn’t Mr. Right’s fault, I mean, he’s Mr. Right!. He looked perfect on paper; nice house, great job, fabulous car, buying me dinner, very handsome and a perfect gentleman. What I should have felt was feeling like the luckiest girl alive. Instead, I had to force on a smile, worrying my body language was giving away how I truly felt; I can’t be bothered with this nonsense. I want to go home. NOW.

Back home I threw the prettiest dress I owned into a corner, kicked my stiletto’s across the living room and almost went into a panic attack when I couldn’t find the ugliest outfit I owned; my 7-year old boxer shorts (from my ex boyfriend) with an oversized tank top. I then tied my hair back into a pony tail and washed off my makeup. I felt terrible and didn’t know why. Of course  I lied to my mother about how wonderful the date was and how much I like him in an attempt to fool myself. If you say it out  loud numerous times, your brain will be tricked into believing it. Because that’s what you are supposed to feel, like all the other women in the world who plan their wedding to Mr. Right at the age of 5.

The day after ‘The Date’, Mr. Right sent me a couple of text messages, which I politely replied to with a few ‘yes I had a great time’ and ‘I like you too’ messages. As the day went by and many text- and online chat messages later I started noticing how I was sabotaging the early stages of a potential relationship between Mr. Right and myself. I started complaining, whining, looking for a spark of anything negative and jumped on it. This resulted in a ‘oh, you don’t have any time to come see me on Wednesday? Well then, this means I never want to see you ever again!’. See how he’s not right for me? Mission accomplished. Every ‘how-not-to-date’ and ‘how-not-to-act-while-dating ‘ rule known to mankind was used and applied in order to get out of the situation. Please check me into a mental institution ASAP.

After my victory I realized I had a bigger problem. My mom. Every single mother knows that due to your single-mom-hectic-schedule, you don’t run into a whole lot of men to date (who have no problem with you having a child). So I did what was best and that was to lie. I lied by telling her he had a drinking problem. Makes sense, right?

So here I am, writing blogs and business plans, working on many designs and planning my future, while walking around the house half naked, not worrying about a man seeing my cellulite patches in these unflattering granny panties. And I feel great. Occasionally, though, desires to go back ‘out there’ and start dating again, creep up on me. Because everybody needs companionship, affection, and hey, even sex. But when these desires creep into my consciousness, I step back, take a deep breath and remind myself as to why I am on a dating break; so I can focus all the attention I have on myself and on raising my child. My life right now is a big construction site. I am building my life from the ground up to become a better version of myself.

I have so many dreams to fulfill and am working so hard, I can’t afford to focus my attention on a man and to give him my devotion and what not. When the foundation walls have been built and once the foundation of the roof exists, I will get back to dating and choose a man with whom I can discuss whether there will be shingles, tiles or other types of materials to complete the roof!

Two days prior to the diaper explosion at night, he started transforming into a red lobster with acne, aka the chicken pox. His temperature raised to a frightening 41 °C, with febrile convulsions and not being able to respond to the people around him. We took him to the hospital where they examined him. They then sent us back home with a bag full of medicine, incl. a tube to sedate my child. This tube will not only treat my 1 year-olds fits, but also his anxiety disorder, agitation, insomnia and hallucinations during alcohol withdrawal. The side effects of this drug are even worse than the fit itself, like shallow breathing and wanting to commit suicide. Seriously? Just give him some acetaminophen to get the fever down!

Needless to say, I didn’t empty the tube into his back side to sedate him and less than 24 hrs the fever disappeared. ‘Lil man then thanked me for my use of common sense by emptying his bowels in the middle of the night. The joys of parenting!

As his fever went down he felt like he had some catching up to do in terms of driving me absolutely insane! He went from fever fits to anger fits, screaming and wining, slapping me in the face and throwing himself to the ground. I pictured Nanny Jo in my house, telling him to go sit on the naughty stool cause he’s been a bad little boy. Sending him into the hallway turned into a fun event since I stalled out all of my shoes in there. So I grabbed his chair and told him to go sit on the naughty stool. The expression on his face was priceless. He looked as If to say ‘you have got to be kidding me’. He kept hounding me around the house, until I couldn’t bare his presence anymore. Instead of giving in on the urge to sedate him for his behavior, I dropped him off at my mom’s house so I could treat my migraine in piece.

Back home I started working on my fashion designs, enjoying like 5 vanilla soy latte macchiato’s in a row and a pepperoni pizza to calm me down (yes, I’m an emotional eater!). When it was time for bed, my bedroom still smelled like shit and Dettol. I felt like there was something missing. I missed my little shit in my shitty smelly bed! So the next morning I jumped on my bike and picked him up at my mom’s house. When I asked her how he behaved, she replied with ‘he was a good little boy!’ Go figure…

Tons of to do list keep me company on a daily basis, next to all the note books, post its and what not.

By the time I made my latté I also grabbed my pile of guidance to go through it.  Articles about how to get less sleep but more rest, how to build up your concentration, how to beat procrastination. Oh no..the P  word. There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most sure-fire just might be procrastination. I’ve read this interesting article about the fact that creative  people procrastinate more.  For example even the greatest writers have dealt with procrastination in the form of a “writers block” . I consider myself a creative individual. And creative people often know all too well that the muse doesn’t always strike when you want it to, or when the deadline for your next brilliant project is creeping up on you like an ill-fitting turtleneck. Originality or creativity doesn’t follow a time clock, even when you have to.

We tell lies to ourselves. Such as, “I’ll feel more like doing this tomorrow.” Or “I work best under pressure. If we are done buying our own excuses we actively look for distractions, particularly ones that don’t take a lot of commitment on their part. There is also this one group of procrastinators called avoiders, who may be avoiding fear of failure or even fear of success, but in either case are very concerned with what others think of them; they would rather have others think they lack effort than ability.  Very disturbing, just cause of the fact I’ve always told people success scares me more than failure does.

How do people successfully combat procrastination? They take control and move things forward–that is, if they figure out what the next physical action is. Ugh.. what will be my next action? Because there is an interesting distinction between determining the next action and starting the next action.

When I figured out what it is..Ill get back to you on this!

Want to know more about procrastination ? Curious about how to beat it, overcome it, techniques and tips ? All you need is www.google.com and  put in the  P word!

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This is the story of your life. Something you can share and pass on. Treasure it always.

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I kind of felt stupid bashing myself over not having a man in my life to stroke my ego and body. To make matters worse, I attempted to arrange a dial-a-dick without success. This ‘almost-boyfriend’ from a few months ago was not amused when I suggested he’d be my bootycall till someone better pops his head around the corner. I thought my offer to him would sound great to him, instead he got mad and told me to delete his number straight away. Outch!

So last night, to save my sanity, I had no option but to go all Oprah on myself. I agreed with Bee, I too, would be my own best friend, I was counting my blessings and Remembering my Spirit over a Latte when ofcourse something unexpected happened. Like it always does when you least expect it (except for extra money to be put into your bank account).
I received a chat message on my MSN Messenger from a guy who knew me. Thing is, no bells started ringing on my side. He met me 1,5 years ago and knew a lot of things about me. Still no ‘aha!’ moment on my side. Being my own best friend at that moment, I knew myself well enough to know this gentleman must’ve been one of my rejects 1,5 years ago. So we had a chat online and he seemed to have a good spirit, was intelligent, well spoken and genuinly interested in me.

I can’t help but wonder; have I grown enough that I’ve learned to not be so quick to judge when it comes to meeting new men? Were my standards too high in the past and was I too picky? Or have I just lost my swag and am I setteling for less?

A few days after the guy who rejected my bootycall proposal, called me back and asked if he could come by my house. I said %$#! *insert inappropriate language here*

Smeared in oil, in tears on a retro rotary-dial telephone with mascara running down her face, smoking and writhing around on a bed in a fabulous corset as she sinks martinis. Whether or not you like BB Homemaker smoking in her new video ‘why don’t you love me’, the fact that she nailed the look of a gorgeous vintage 50’s vibe is inevitable.

Even though we all celebrate modern day equipment like dishwashers and flat screen TV’s, don’t you just love the retro stuff we saw in the video? Instead of gawking at all the latest must-haves you see in Elle magazine, have you ever thought of treating yourself on all things retro and  kitsch?

Imagine yourself in Betty Page cloting, like this Kitten high waisted tap shorts in Hot pink from mybabyjo.com, a pink rotary-dial desk telephone from oldphones.com, spicing up your bags and clothes with pin up buttons from zazzle.co.uk. Mess up your kitchen in your new retro apron as you follow a recipe for fancy cupcakes from your Dumpling Dynasty Baking Kit from all-pop.com.

Get the goodies!