tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914Fri, 08 Nov 2024 15:19:24 +0000Young KidsRelationship BuildingMarriageParenthoodCommunicationLoveResponsibilityTeenagersHealthPregnancyInsights and experiences on building and maintaining a loving family.http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (David Woon)Blogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-324537334364321556Sun, 01 Oct 2023 14:29:00 +00002023-10-05T19:14:06.279-07:00LoveMarriageRelationship Building  During our 4-day spiritual retreat at Bintan from 21-24 Sep 2023, our fellow retreatants were surprised that my dearest wife and I were married for more than 22 years because we behaved more like a dating couple!Actually, in retrospect, I felt a little sad because marriage is supposed to be the epitome of Love but many experienced the very opposite... Hence, this prompted me to share http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2023/10/secret-to-keep-falling-in-love-with.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-3986293310643173078Mon, 28 Dec 2020 06:31:00 +00002020-12-27T22:31:56.062-08:00CommunicationMarriageRelationship BuildingHow often do you find yourself doing hurtful/thoughtless things that damage your relationship with family members which you deeply regret later on?Fear not, here's a simple way to prevent yourself from becoming the rampaging hulk!The following ABCD model was developed by one of the founders of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) used to help a person behave more rationally:A - Activating Event: http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2020/12/changing-yourself-is-as-easy-as-abcd.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-2806615442296420984Sun, 19 Jul 2020 05:04:00 +00002020-07-18T22:04:25.594-07:00LoveMarriageRelationship Building There are many articles on tips to improve your marriage; some will work while others will not. You can find some good articles here and I have also done a Youtube mini-series here.But when it comes to destroying your marriage, it is easier than you might have expected - if you do even just one of the following 3 basic things consistently, you will inevitably succeed:1. Focus on your kids&nbsphttp://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2020/07/how-to-destroy-your-marriage-in-3.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-6158661229212487215Sat, 06 Jun 2020 07:25:00 +00002020-06-06T00:25:43.865-07:00ParenthoodRelationship BuildingTeenagersYoung Kids If you're struggling to find fun and meaningful activities to bond with your family at home during this pandemic period, maybe you can find some inspiration from our family's favourite pastimes here: 1. Praying Together After 19 awesome years of marriage, I can fully testify that indeed "The family that prays together stays together." For our family, praying the Rosary is one daily http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2020/06/fun-home-activities.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-2384125606694950408Sun, 10 May 2020 06:47:00 +00002020-05-09T23:47:05.578-07:00ParenthoodSpecially for all mothers who keep believing, encouraging, and loving their children: Happy Blessed Mother's Day! http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2020/05/because-of-you-mom.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-2569431208932383706Sun, 24 Mar 2019 05:36:00 +00002021-08-06T20:23:20.440-07:00TeenagersYoung Kids Mobile addiction is rampant these days - you see it everywhere: bus, MRT, roads, malls, and at home! And Singaporeans spend an average of 3.5 hours on their phones daily - this video says it all on the toxicity of our phone addiction! We must do something lest our kids and ourselves get hopelessly addicted because it's so so easy to get addicted due to the use of psychology in technology; http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2019/03/countering-mobile-addiction.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-8154885551166067964Fri, 26 Jan 2018 14:29:00 +00002018-01-26T06:29:21.596-08:00LoveMarriageParenthoodRelationship BuildingTeenagers I struggled to find an activity that will bring my family together until I chanced upon the drama series Madam Secretary in Netflix at the beginning of the year: It has elements for the whole family: Love, Romance, Comedy, Mystery, Action and of course Politics! Téa Leoni gives a most powerful performance as a new Secretary of State of the United States and after a couple of http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2018/01/drama-with-family.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-5942151774290682532Mon, 02 May 2016 03:52:00 +00002016-05-01T20:52:51.966-07:00CommunicationLoveParenthoodRelationship BuildingYoung KidsOn 30 April 2016, I went to watch a movie with my son followed by lunch and shopping along Orchard Road. At Metro Centrepoint, my son wanted to get a Lego set but it cost above S$100. I've instituted a rule at home that toys should not cost more than S$100 (unless it's for a special day/event). He was very eager to get it because it was a set on the movie we've just watched. But after looking athttp://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2016/05/making-exceptions.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-3375048086615932953Thu, 07 Aug 2014 00:12:00 +00002014-08-06T17:23:41.148-07:00ParenthoodYoung Kids Time froze for a moment as I beheld the little angel in my arms... Her every movement sent excitement to all the family members gathered around her; every yawn, every stretch and every kick were exquisite! I marvelled. I wondered. It was as if all the mysteries of the universe were wrapped up in one little bundle! And I thanked God for the precious gift of my grand niece Theia; so http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-proud-grand-uncle-moment.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-5655025104237693824Sat, 08 Sep 2012 05:04:00 +00002012-09-11T16:50:50.405-07:00Young KidsIf you're wondering whether to visit Legoland Malaysia, here's a quick answer: YES, go for it as it's great fun for the whole family and get the Annual Pass (RM245-limited time offer) because you'll "make money" once you go there twice (Day pass costs RM140) and you'll certainly want to go there more than once as you won't be able to try everything in one visit. Now for the long answer - my http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2012/09/the-lets-go-land.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-7845217056794671681Fri, 29 Jun 2012 04:19:00 +00002012-06-28T21:21:03.558-07:00HealthIt'll soon be my Dad's 3rd death anniversary - he suffered a major stroke which left half of his body paralyzed and he couldn't speak. Looking back, I really regretted for not calling for an ambulance at the onset of his stroke which might have prevented paralysis... I hope history won't repeat for my Mom and thus, I found an easy-to-remember way to detect stroke symptoms - it's called FAST: http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2012/06/recognizing-stroke-symptoms.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-3473870316388761459Sun, 24 Jul 2011 03:09:00 +00002011-07-23T20:09:55.221-07:00LoveParenthoodYoung KidsIf you are wondering what to do during the long weekend and just can't stand the hot and humid outdoors... watch this animated movie "Joseph - King of Dreams"!  My 6-year-old son and I thoroughly enjoyed it especially the catchy and touching songs! It has elements of love, parenthood, hope, faith, forgiveness and adventure! Though it's quite an old movie, the animation is very good! Check http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2011/07/animated-movie-for-family.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-9146826555595635923Sun, 22 May 2011 07:15:00 +00002011-05-22T17:11:39.746-07:00LoveMarriageYoung KidsI watched the movie Enchanted with my wife and son last evening. It wasn't planned but we felt lazy and decided to be couch potatoes. I chose the Enchanted DVD even though I had watched it many times. Surprisingly, my 6-year-old son enjoyed it and so did my wife who had forgotten most of it and found it very romantic! I loved it too as the songs are ever so catchy, funny and contagiously joyous!http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2011/05/enchanted-family-evening.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-124931364431097497Fri, 11 Mar 2011 01:39:00 +00002011-03-10T17:46:20.967-08:00LoveMarriage http://www.foreverthemovie.com.sg While driving, I struggled to recall the melody of the theme song of "Forever"... like the movie itself, it's not catchy nor impressionable but somehow it has the uncanny ability to tug at my heartstrings - perhaps it's Joanna Dong's mesmerizing vocals, the charming Mo Tzu Yi, the enchanting music, the breathtaking cinematography or Love, the movie's elusive http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2011/03/search-for-love.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-9026176236557896513Sun, 13 Feb 2011 07:52:00 +00002020-05-09T23:19:07.429-07:00LoveMarriage I just celebrated my 10-year wedding anniversary on 10 Feb 2011. I can't believe it has been 10 years as both my wife and I can still behave lovingly like new lovers! The passage of time has not smothered the fire of our love! In retrospect, I felt that we were like any other couple with the usual ups and downs and our fair share of arguments and misunderstandings. In fact, many family and http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2011/02/decade-of-love.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-7788372778750067389Sun, 14 Nov 2010 11:23:00 +00002011-02-12T22:12:05.420-08:00Young KidsMy 5-year-old son Xavier was once praised by his tutor to be a "Lamborgini" because of his amazing ability to quickly understand primary school stuff. I took the opportunity to explain to him that his talents should be used for the good of society and not only for himself. I wasn't expecting him to fully understand me so I was very surprised that he exclaimed that he wants to be "Everything" to http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2010/11/i-want-to-be-everything.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-4501067714804650814Sat, 22 May 2010 01:50:00 +00002010-05-21T19:20:23.879-07:00MarriageParenthoodImagine your lovely wife having no memories of you.Imagine your adorable children never existed.Imagine your best of friends running away from you.Imagine you only have 24 hours left.Imagine you are fully responsible for all of the above! For me, it's absolutely unimaginable!! But for my favourite non-fairy tale hero Shrek, it is a stark reality worse than the worst reality show in his latest (http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2010/05/when-loss-is-gain.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-7951116030455760021Sun, 28 Feb 2010 07:00:00 +00002010-03-01T16:13:26.600-08:00Young KidsMy 4-year-old son Xavier excitedly ran to the the Pools Amphitheatre for Jurong Bird Park's debut screening of Yona Yona Penguin, a Japanese cartoon movie.It was a special family outing because it was a rare opportunity to catch a movie outdoors in Singapore! My wife was initially not very keen because of the hot weather but it turned out to be as not bad as she thought.My teenage niece was most http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2010/02/child-once-more.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-5036345844678644550Sat, 26 Dec 2009 16:14:00 +00002009-12-26T09:03:29.427-08:00CommunicationRelationship BuildingYoung KidsI thoroughly regretted not giving my son due attention this evening... I was working on my new homepage when he returned home and excitedly came to hug me.He noticed that I was engrossed in my work and asked me what it was about - but what can I say to a 4-year-old about webpage design and the need to stay focused? So I just said something simple to humor him and continued with my work.He didn't http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2009/12/giving-due-attention.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-4857858651702514726Sun, 04 Oct 2009 15:02:00 +00002009-10-04T17:50:49.898-07:00Young Kids"Five little ducks, went out one day, over the hills and far away..."Ooops, sorry, can't help but sing the catchy tune after watching "Farm Animals", a children's DVD from BabyTV's "My First Years Library" series !Initially, I was worried that my four-year-old son Xavier will find the DVD boring because it's meant for kids aged from 6 months to 4 years. Moreover, with more action-packed cartoons http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2009/10/babytv-on-dvd-farm-animals.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-8517158681959865548Sat, 04 Apr 2009 07:50:00 +00002010-04-10T23:26:28.571-07:00MarriageFirefighters never leave their partners behind, no matter how dangerous the situation may be; it's a code of honour and a commitment that is the bedrock of firefighting. I believe it should be the same with marriage... many couples don't realise that like firefighting, a divorce is an abandonment of one's partner that leads to dire consequences which affect both themselves and their families. http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2009/04/never-leave-your-partner-behind.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-7214777768020849313Wed, 21 Jan 2009 15:27:00 +00002010-04-10T23:27:42.465-07:00CommunicationRelationship BuildingResponsibilityYoung KidsIf you had your way, what kind of show would you allow your kids to watch on TV for long-term? Here's my guess: 1. It must interesting and engaging- how else to keep a kid still?? 2. It must teach important life lessons - no point wasting time on just pure entertainment right?? 3. It must easy to understand - which would appreciate quantum mechanics?? 4. It must not be too lengthy - you wouldn't http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2009/01/cartoon-series-for-family.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-3324088281954823451Sat, 11 Oct 2008 08:55:00 +00002010-04-10T23:32:22.209-07:00HealthYoung KidsWe sleep about a third of our lives but surprisingly, we know so little about the importance of sleep... especially for young kids. Sleep disorders in children are largely undiagnosed due to a lack of awareness, even among doctors. In addition, most disorders would naturally outgrow with time and thus, generally dismissed as non-critical. A comprehensive list of sleep disorders can be found herehttp://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2008/10/childhood-sleep-disorders.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-3030308663751443692Sun, 17 Aug 2008 15:55:00 +00002008-08-17T09:19:15.021-07:00MarriageRelationship BuildingYoung KidsI was touched to tears when I viewed a short movie clip about a Dad realizing how much he had touched the life of his six-year-old - not by anything spectacular - but simply by spending time.I felt very sad and guilty about all the precious time that I'd somehow missed with my wife, my son, and my family members because of some other "more important" stuff which I'd mostly forgotten...View that http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2008/08/love-means-spending-time.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8531447205487842914.post-2547076166779460448Sun, 06 Jul 2008 09:25:00 +00002008-07-12T04:36:23.134-07:00MarriagePregnancyResponsibilityTeenagersMr Condom: I've called for an urgent meeting because our popularity might be threatened.Ms Pill: Nah, how can it be? We have good track records and besides, we have the support of many because we are a good regular source of income and thus good for businesses and the economy!Mr Condom: Hello, haven't you heard of Natural Family Planning (NFP)?? It's effective, approved by religious authorities, http://becosfamilymatters.blogspot.com/2008/07/mr-condom-ms-pill.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (David Woon)0