The term sexual domination encompasses a large variety of different actions that are accepted as a lifestyle arrangement or simply as a sexual recreational outing. Its basic meaning is that one half of a couple controls the other half in the relationship or encounter. These can include bondage, sadism, masochism, humiliation, pain, submission, and any other activity in this realm.

Many couples enter into relationships of this sort quite willingly. They simply prefer this type of lifestyle. In this type of relationship, it’s not unusual to find the woman is the one in control of everything. The man can be the one who is basically a sexual slave to her in a sexual domination coupling. He will also be responsible for all of the working to bring in money, as well as the cooking, cleaning, laundry and whatever else needs to be done. His partner will be treated like a queen and will be required to do nothing except be pampered and look beautiful.

If a couple hooks up for a night of this sort of sex, it is agreed upon first who is going to be the dominant one. Actually, this is probably not even discussed as there will be no need for it. In sexual domination, most people recognize what part the other will be playing, or they simply know themselves well enough.

Men have been known to pay for this sort of sex. They want a woman who will take control and will use them for her pleasure. If that means paying for it, then that’s what they will do. There are actually women who are professional Dominatrixes and have their own dungeons where they take their clients for sessions.

This sort of sex is also used as a control issue to get something desired. Sexual domination can be conducted by withholding sex until he dominant partner has what he wants from the submissive one. Sex is then meted out as a reward of sorts. The submissive is allowed to touch, kiss, lick, suck and, if he or she is really lucky, fuck the dominant partner.

Sex this way is not as uncommon as some may think. In fact, for many couples it is simply a way of life, a life that they enjoy quite a bit. It doesn’t matter which partner is the dominant one, these couples lead a satisfying life together and that is, in the end, all that really matters.

What is Sexual Domination?

If you like female domination stories, I have a couple of them that you may find interesting. Some men like a woman to take charge and others don’t but I happen to be acquainted with a few men who really enjoy it when I whip them into shape. That pun was definitely intended.

The first time I got into the domination scene was with an ex-boyfriend of mine. He had been hinting for awhile about how he would love it if I would just take charge and tell him what to do. At that time, I had not really heard any female domination stories so I would just laugh it off.

One night we were fooling around a bit, and I told him to be a good boy or I would spank him. He said, “Do you promise?” Before I knew it, I had managed to flip him over, get his pants down and was spanking his bare ass with my hand. That was really getting him going! It was kind of making me hot, too. Suddenly, I started telling him what to do, like how I wanted him to undress me, and lick my pussy, etc. That was the hottest night of sex I think we ever had.

Another of my female domination stories happened with some guy whose name I don’t even know. A friend of mine actually works in a dungeon. That means she is a professional dominatrix and men pay her to dominate them. One night she talked me into filling in for some chick that didn’t show up for work. This guy had paid for two doms and she wanted me to help.

This was a bit more intense than what I had done with my ex-boyfriend. I had this little corset type outfit to wear with thigh high stockings, garter, heels, and a mask. We all wore these masks so that’s why I didn’t know who he was. It was pretty hot as female domination stories go. We made this guy do all kinds of things and he LOVED it!

I am not so sure I would want to do this professionally because it seems to be more fun if you’re personally involved. But that was certainly a learning experience and I am glad I had it because it showed me a lot of things that I didn’t know about before. Now I can play like that just for fun and do it with some authority.

A Couple of My Female Domination Stories

As a professional dominatrix, men pay me for a variety of services. These include domination, submission, humiliation, and other things that a lot of people have never even heard of. But if the price is right, I’ll do pretty much anything they ask. After all, I am the one enforcing the action, not them.

A huge part of this is, of course, domination. These men really want me to boss them around so I do it. If it’s more of a sexy Dom scene, I tell them just what I want them to do to me and how to do it. I tell them they are really good or really bad boys depending on how well they follow instructions. In domination, submission, humiliation and possibly some pain, all are given at the request of the client before hand.

Submission goes along with domination because a man is going to submit to anything his Mistress instructs him to do. So, when a man enters my Dungeon, he already knows who is in charge there, and it is NOT him. I have regular clients so I am mostly past the stage of having to ask what they want. But most of them are aware that they will be submitting willingly to my demands.

Domination, submission, humiliation, and pain are interlinked when it comes to a visit to my Dungeon. I will be in charge, which means I will be dominating them. They will submit to what I tell them to do, and if they don’t I will be humiliating them as punishment. They may also get whipped a bit with my cat o nine tails. For the really bad boys, I have a cage suspended from the ceiling. They get to spend some time in there stark naked until they have learned to NOT displease me in any way.

Domination, submission, humiliation, pain, and anything else I decide to throw into the mix is what happens in my Dungeon. The men who visit me there know what to expect up to a point. After all, it’s what they pay me for and I would certainly not want to have a dissatisfied customer. All of them are required to pass an audition with me before they are accepted into my harem of men. If I happen to enjoy my work a little too much sometimes, so what? A girl has to make a living and she may as well like what she does, right?

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Domination, Submission, Humiliation: What’s Your Pleasure?

Bondage and domination go hand in hand for many who choose to live this particular  lifestyle. It does not have to happen to have a domination session, but for many people, this is all a part of it. On the other hand, many couples experiment and play around with bondage but do not actually have a sexually dominating lifestyle.

Bondage can be either light or heavy, depending on the preferences of the couple. A couple of friends of mine had not really delved very far into this sort of thing but decided to give bondage and domination a try one night. He was told to lie on his back on the bed after stripping, while she took some velvet drapery cord and tied his wrists and ankles to the bedposts. He looked a bit like a human shaped X lying there.

When he was tied up nice and tight, she stood at the foot of the bed and took off her clothes, teasing him as she did so. Then she got on the bed with him and started to give him an all over the body tongue bath but he was unable to touch her no matter how much he begged. This particular bondage and domination scene was so hot that he actually came without her touching his cock at all. He just shot his load right into the air.

That sounded pretty hot to me but this is a couple who is pretty much ordinary in their sexual lives so it was probably really exciting to try something so different from what they usually do. She even admitted that it is something that they now do periodically switching out who gets to be the dominant one. This apparently really adds to their already pretty decent sexual encounters.

Bondage and domination are not required to be performed together, but if someone is into being tied up and rendered helpless during sex, it’s usually a part of the entire session. Many people find it quite erotic to be restrained and unable to do anything such as touch their partner while they are being touched and licked or whatever other delicious things can be done to a helpless partner. Some of these images really get those cocks standing up and those pussy juices flowing. Just imagine what it may do when it is a reality instead of just a fantasy.

One piece of advice: Start out slow and easy if you’re a novice. Work into what you may enjoy.

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Bondage and Domination are not One and the Same

So many people love to engage in mistress domination that it has gone to the next level of becoming a lifestyle for some. As you may gather from the term, this is a fantasy in which the woman is a Mistress, and therefore, fully in charge of what the man is allowed to do. He is completely controlled by his Mistress and must do everything she tells him to do.

These fantasies have been played out for years in all types of places from bedrooms to dungeons. They are done for fun and games or a professional Mistress books appointments for sessions and is monetarily compensated for her time in mistress domination. It’s not as big a secret as it used to be. Now people are quite open about enjoying this particular sex play.

The Mistress is typically dressed in sexy attire such as a black leather corset, thigh high black silk stockings, garters, knee high black leather boots and whatever else she may want to add to this ensemble. If she is going to be doing any punishing, she will most likely have accessories such as a cat o nine tails, a riding crop, or a full fledged whip. Other items in mistress domination are things such as hot candle wax and paddles can also be included in a punishment scenario. If a slave is paddled, he may be instructed to count after each lick and say “Thank you, Mistress. May I have another?”

Worship of the Mistress is also required. The slave should not need instruction on this one as he should already be in such awe of his Mistress that he will want to tell her over and over again how beautiful she is and how much he adores her. He may even be allowed to touch various parts of her body as he worships her during mistress domination.

A common event in the dungeon of a mistress is to have her slave crawl on his belly snake like over to her. He will then be instructed to lick her boots clean until she can see her reflection in them. The Mistress will not allow him to stop until she is fully satisfied with the appearance of her boots. She may decide to sit on something comfortable and make the slave remain on his knees for hours while licking her boots the whole time.

If this sounds like something that may get your juices flowing and your cock hard, do some investigation. Then you can make an informed decision.

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Mistress Domination is Ready to Take Your Call

Many men enjoy medical play domination even if they don’t really understand why they like it so much. This type of play is conducted in several different scenarios, depending on just what the ultimate goal is. A trained Mistress will be ready and able to do any type that is preferred.

Some men like to pretend they are teenage boys going in for a physical. The Mistress will dress up as either a nurse or will be the doctor. Most men usually have a memory of a sexy looking nurse who weighed them and took their vital signs. Medical play domination will have portions of this but will also veer off to another area entirely when the man is instructed to perform certain actions by the Mistress.

These acts may contain such things as taking his temperature rectally. Or the famous exam that requires the Mistress/Nurse to firmly grasp his balls in her hand while the man coughs. These actions typically produce a highly sexual reaction in men who enjoy this type of play.

For a sexy type of domination, the nurse may instruct the “patient” to completely disrobe in front of her. She gives him no privacy as this is medical play domination and it’s up to her whether she watches or not. The man is not given a choice. However, she does it in such a sexy and painless way that it is both humiliating and exciting at the same time. Suddenly, this adult man is transported back to the time of his teenage years and visiting the doctor.

A favorite fantasy of this type involves the Mistress/Nurse doing “examination procedures” that make the man all hard and excited. However, she simply teases him about his pitiful condition. When he begs for her to help him, this medical play domination allows for her only to giggle sympathetically. She may eventually perform some actions that will make him cum once she has granted him permission.

For the harder core scenes, there can be plenty of humiliation as well as pain involved. There may also not even be an orgasm allowed. The man will have to walk around with his hard cock until such time as he has been allowed to cum.

Whatever version you prefer, it seems that you will definitely come away from this with a sense that playing doctor is a lot different now than when you were young.

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What’s Fun About Medical Play Domination?

The subject of feminine domination can be very confusing to the more vanilla members of society. However, to the couples who practice it, it makes all the sense in the world and they receive something quite helpful to them, personally. It may help to understand a bit more of what sort of man enjoys this particular lifestyle.

Men who are professionally “in charge” all day long, have to make huge decisions, and are basically the ones who run large corporations never get ordered around and told what to do. For some reason, these men crave feminine domination in that form. It may be due to never being the “weak” one or an “underling.” They get tired of being in charge and giving orders all day long. This is one thing that makes these men seek out dominate females.

Some of these sessions are more about relaxing than sex. It may culminate in some sexual activity, or it may not. That totally depends on what is agreed upon before the session begins. The severity ranges from light sexual domination to full fledged pain and humiliation. Again, it is up to the participants involved as to what their session is going to be like.

To the men who seek feminine domination for light sexual relaxation, the woman will dress in something that makes it clear who is in charge. However, she will also be quite sexy. These sessions generally include the woman instructing the man in just what he will do and say. It may also include worshipping her and providing a lot of oral service to her. It simply depends on what they want to get from the experience.

The more hard core sessions involve men seeking such things as being humiliated and possibly whipped during a session of feminine domination. This may or may not be done for sexual purposes but these typically do not culminate in any type of sex with the dominatrix. It also does not necessarily end with an orgasm from the man, but it will usually end with a release of some other type which is just as important.

Time spent with a dominant female can be for pleasure, as between a couple, or it can be paid for. For couples, this can actually be a lifestyle, or it can be something that is just engaged in for role play on occasion. However you tend to conduct these sessions in your life, the thing to remember is that it is quite acceptable if it’s something you really enjoy.

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Why Men Love Feminine Domination

My fascination with smoking domination started when I was in my late teens. One of my mother’s good friends was ridiculously hot and she was a smoker. She smoked menthol 100’s and made the entire process one that was of such a sexual nature that I was hard from the time she flicked her Bic. She would look me right in the eyes, slowly cross her legs, and take a long slow drag from cigarette. It made me think of that cigarette as my cock in her mouth.

One afternoon she came to visit my mother, but she wasn’t at home. That was the day I really learned about smoking domination. She strolled in even though I was the only one at home, and made herself comfortable. I am not sure how she knew where to go, but she walked upstairs and right into my bedroom. She sat down on the foot of my bed and got out her cigarettes. Looking at me with this smoldering gaze, she instructed me to get an ashtray for her. I couldn’t speak but I definitely found an ashtray for her.

When I presented this ashtray to her like I expected a reward she simply lit her cigarette and made me stand there holding the ashtray for her. This was the beginning of my smoking domination instruction. As I stood there watching her, my cock was so hard I was afraid she was going to see it. It turned out that I didn’t need to worry as she was already staring right at my crotch as she blew smoke through her lips. I was so embarrassed until she looked up at me and smiled this really slow smile.

She told me to unzip my pants and show her what I had hiding there. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. She told me again and this time added that she might show me what she had, too, if I was a good boy. Smoking domination was now a part of my life even though I didn’t know it.

We went through this entire scenario of her instructing me in what I was to do, and her smoking the whole time. I was hooked. Fucking that woman was some of the hottest sex I have had even to this day. Now, when I see a beautiful woman light a cigarette, I am immediately hard and waiting for my instructions.

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Smoking Domination Can Be Hot

Strapon domination is one of the more widely practiced types of domination play. It’s a very simple concept. The Mistress dons a strapon of her choice by attaching it to her body with a belt that fits around her waist. This puts the dildo, or cock, right at her crotch. It is right at the same place a cock would be on a man.

These dildos come in all sizes and colors from pink to black and from 5 inches to 12 inches. If a slave has been really bad, he will probably be fucked with one of the larger ones. In strapon domination, the slave will be ordered to get on all fours while the Mistress kneels behind him. Then he will be ordered to beg her to fuck him.

In the Dungeon of a Mistress, the slave is nothing except what she allows him to be. Therefore, his cock is of little more importance than a clit. However, if he is really a good slave, she may allow him to tug on it a bit as she plunges HER cock right up his tight back alley. Still, he must beg for the pleasure of being fucked by her.

Many slaves actually enjoy strapon domination and derive a certain amount of sexual pleasure from it. However, a slave is never allowed to cum until his Mistress gives him permission. If he shoots is load without her OK, he will be severely punished, possibly even banished from her Dungeon until further notice.

Another way that the slave is dominated by the strapon is through being made to suck it as if it were a real cock. The Mistress will stand over the slave and he will be on his knees running his tongue up and down her cock. When she orders him to suck it, he will wrap his lips around it and start to suck it into his mouth. This part of strapon domination may bring out some gay tendencies that the slave may be keeping under wraps.

The point is that whatever the Mistress notices the slave actually ENJOYING, she will move in the complete opposite direction. These sessions are not for the slave’s enjoyment. They are for the amusement of the Mistress. Should the slave ever forget that he runs the risk of having to find another Mistress for himself because she is to be worshipped and obeyed above all else. If the slave forgets that, the Mistress’s cock will remind him.

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Strapon Domination Gives the Mistress a Cock

Panty domination is something that many men enjoy from their Mistresses. The point with this sort of play is for the slave to be “good” enough or please his Mistress well enough to be rewarded with her worn panties. These panties belong to the Mistress and she is the only one who can tell him what he is allowed to do with them.

Men who are turned on by panties can be made into some of the most obedient slaves a Mistress could ask for. One scenario that may take place in a session of panty domination may be to attach a chain to the ankle of a slave so that he is somewhat restrained while watching his Mistress in her panties. She may perform some very erotic moves while wearing her panties, teasing him, possibly flashing her pussy at him briefly. As she does this, she lets him get ALMOST a touch, or a sniff of the crotch of her panties, then moves away.

This tends to make the slave beg and plead but there will be more things he will need to do before he is rewarded with being able to touch them. It will be much longer and have many more tasks performed perfectly before the slave is allowed near the panties. This is a typical panty domination session.

Once the slave is rewarded with the panties, he is still not allowed to do whatever he wants with them. His Mistress will then instruct him as to what he can do with those panties. She may allow him to sniff them, rub them over his face, or wrap them around his cock, which is, most likely, quite large and stiff by now. The slave may then be allowed to slowly stroke his cock while it is wrapped in those silky, musky panties.

Another part of panty domination is for the slave to be allowed to lick the crotch of his Mistress’s panties. If he has been a very good boy, he may actually be allowed to cum in these panties, but he will probably then be ordered to lick them clean. This isn’t because his Mistress wants them back, but more because she can make him do whatever will amuse her at the moment. In fact, the slave may be able to really have a dream come true and be allowed to leave the session toting those panties with him.

Panty Domination Can Bring a Slave to His Knees