From Hope to Happiness and Success

“The Best friends” on the road to success are…

2010-04-23T10:40:00.000-07:00

Many of us want to achieve a success almost immediately. Life helps us with it, but there are still a lot of people who are waiting for the results and dreaming for the best future to them. So let’s help each other to better understand what we need in our road to success.

People who have already achieved success in all or almost all parts of their lives can do the same again and again with a higher speed than those one only dreaming. Some of them read special literature, second one were taught by the successful people with theirs examples, third one become aware main tips of success living and acting according their intuition, somebody pray or use law of attraction from the film “Secret”. It is up to you what way to choose. Our main purpose is the result –success and happiness at the same time.

And the reasonable questions are:

- What do successful people know and do to be lucky, to be happy and to achieve everything they want?

- What are the important things and key laws of a success?

-What are the “best friends” of a success?

Here it is my attempt to sum up the best friends of success:

1. love to ourselves and products (services) we do

2. clear understanding own values in life (what is more important to us, what gives us material, morale and spiritual satisfaction)

3. clear understanding own goals and desires which are able to make us happy

4. very strong wish to achieve success

5. hope for the best to us and strong faith that everything will turn out well because God (Universe or Life, depending what we believe in) with us.

6. readiness to think, to make plans and to be disciplined

7. understanding own fears and desire to be self-confident

8. own activity

9. readiness to forgive our and other people mistakes

10. wise attitude to the problems not as an insuperable difficulties but the tasks we are able to solve

11. ability to keep emotional state in balance

12. good and peaceful attitude to another people, nature and life

13. ability to value a present moment

14. be thankful for everything we have already had

15. friends who understand us and who will be glad, happy for our success

We may use some of them; we may use all of them. You may add something special and valuable to you and your own experience. Dear reader, you are welcome to share own “best friends” on the road of success in the comments. What was special in your way to success or the way of your family, your neighbors, and people around?

Facing problems after techniques from the film “Secret”? Part 1 How to pass wisely through the border (threshold) of troubles?

2010-03-19T07:27:00.000-07:00

In the facebook I have found a nice lady who asked the help.

Here is the question:

I just starting using the secret, i read the book i read stories every day, but everytime i focus on thinking positive, i only end up thinking negative and my situation is getting worse. i know iam doing something wrong can somebody be so kind to help me understand the secret, or maybe give me some tips please. thank you.

My dear friend, I am sure you do everything right and what is more a lot of people face this problem, but they afraid to talk about it! They begin to think that they are too bad or these techniques are wrong.

The techniques are right and they work!!!! But…….there is another secret here.

I just want to start from some simple examples.

1. One of my very good friends from USA told me a very interesting story. He was adopted and had some offences to his own parents in the childhood. He was an alcoholic many years ago, but through the Christian religion found peace in the soul. The interesting fact is when he strongly decided to give up drinking his best friends gave him the trial. His friend wanted to pay any money to make man drink in the bar again, to buy him any bottle man would like. The best friend told a lot of words to convince man to drink only one drop of the alcohol. Man had strong believes in Christ and passed successfully through the trial because his religion helped him at that time. Just one drop of the alcohol and how many people could not avoid this trap of bad habit and could not give up alcohol.

2. One woman has been deciding to loose weight for several months. The interesting fact is when she wakes up in the morning with the strong decision to eat the only healthy food, she keeps this promise during the day, but in THIS evening her husband brings a very delicious cake. Just only one peace of cake and then she thinks, “Ok, my dear, I will eat this whole cake and begin my diet next time”. Next time her girl friend invites her and stands a treat. You know what? Just only one piece of cake every time and this woman have been only dreaming to loose wait.

3. One lady liked to criticize her husband and always could find something wrong in his behavior. She had a lot offence to the spouse. One day she decided live peacefully and chose harmony in the family life. The whole day she was very kind to all member of the family, she gave them many care and love, but in the evening her own children gave her trials and was so hysterics and crying that it was required a huge amount of patience for that lady to stay polite and loving.

The truth is…

When somebody begins to go to his/her new goal, tries a new habits and positive thinking there could be a lot of troubles, annoyance, problems from different sources, you may have a slight unpleasantness with somebody.

It looks like you are put on trials!

The bigger goals you have the bigger trials could be, especially if she/he had had a lot of disappointments, offences, envy, criticism to other people and ANY NEGATIVE EMOTIONS before you stat using techniques like the ones in the film “Secret”. It does not matter how long you had these emotions, stating from early childhood until now. The big problem for many people is that the negative emotions from the childhood have been forgotten. They are hidden in the subconscious level.

The more NEGATIVE EMOTIONS you had the bigger trial would be!!!

The religious people explain this in such way. When you tell the devil to go away he will try to return and will take the help of other devils to come back to you. It looks like this, but for many ordinary people it gives misunderstanding that there would be a battle and they should fight to win.

But the great secret is if you begin to fight you will be defeated!!!

If you fight with something you give it the power to win you.

Great words of Mother Teresa, “I do not want to fight against war. Show me those one who are for the peace and I will be with them”.

Do you see deference? Not fighting against something bad but trying to achieve something good.

Just only say thankful words to your friends who give you an alcohol, a peace of cake or angriness, just not pay attention to any critic and any bad word to your address, do not use critic in your mouth, only stay peaceful and continue your direction toward your goal and YOU WILL WIN.

It is easy on the words, but many people know, how it is difficult to do in the practice. But this is only your choice to stay where you are now or move to the best future you want and deserve! You are who make the deference.

Many of you may ask “Why should I say thanks for those people? Why shouldn’t I argue with them, shouldn’t prove that I am right?

How to pass wise through the border (threshold) of troubles? Part 2

How to pass wisely through the border (threshold) of troubles? Part 2 Facing problems after techniques from the film “Secret”?

2010-03-17T13:12:00.000-07:00

Facing problems after techniques from the film “Secret”? Part 1

Many people faced with an interesting phenomenon after using techniques from the film “Secret”, meditations, affirmations and even prayers for someone. It may take several hours or one-two days when you were in the good mood after all these techniques, but….than a lot of troubles and negative feelings are raised, situation is getting worse. The great mistake is to begin thinking that technique are not good or you do something wrong. You are on the right way. It is normal process.

What to do in this case to get a required result of your goal, to have peace in the soul and harmony in your life? How to be wise?

1 The Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can be useful for some of you. It is so called the Tapping Solution, formerly known as "Try It On Everything". Bob Proctor, Jack Canfield from the film “Secret” and other authors offer their way to deal with the negative emotions. I have never used these techniques, but I liked very much everything the authors said about influence of negative emotions from early childhood to people’s problem in the life. If you like the EFT you will receive own practical experience and overcome your problem.

http://www.thetappingsolution.com/

http://www.youtube.com/user/TryItProductions

2. If you are who want to understand more deeply this process than the next information will be interesting to you. I will not try to invent the bicycle and translate you some explanations from the author of the books “Reality Transurfing “ of Vadim Zeland. His site http://www.zelands.com/

When you start to move to a new goal it means you are trying to get out from the one stream of the events and to turn to another one. You should pass through the threshold zone. It is not easy to have own Spirit quiet and peaceful when the strange things are happen, when everything around you seems collapsed. Whatever happen in the outer world you should take own control and to set course towards your goals.

It is very important to create an intention and think about negative events as the positive one.

Facing with the negative event you are on the bifurcation of the roads. The one line of your life leads to the negativity and another one to the positivity. You make such choices many times in the life. Where you are now means how far you moved in the chain of such events. You had a lot of negative reaction to the negative events. You expressed corresponding attitude to the bad things in your life every time facing it. As a result you appeared on the bad line of your life. To get out from the vicious circle you should declare volitionally the unpleasant event as useful one. If you make a choice to be a master of own destiny you will be able to do this. Declare the bad event which had happened as a pleasant one, you may simulate it as a useful one. In the nearest future only in such case you may find and understand what positive lesson gave you that situation. You will see that you should have overcome one thing to receive another one. If I hadn’t overcome it I wouldn’t have received it.

If you take under own control the attitude to the events on the bifurcation of your life roads the miracles will happen. Every time use affirmation “My world chooses the best to me. My world knows what the best to me is. My world care about it”. Make it as a habit and do it as a game every time. Having such habit you will soon find your world and life shining with the colors of the rainbow after the rain. You will have the feeling of freedom and everything happen in the right way.

3. If you know German or Russian language and want to understand this process even more deeply than in the item written above than visit site http://www.lazarev.ru/book.html

Segrey Lasarev is able to see invisible men’s bodies (The Physical one, the Etheric, the Astral) and he can find the real reasons for people’s troubles and disease according to the theory of Karma. In his books he gives many examples to understand real causes of the events in your life now.

You may find what negative feeling in your childhood, in your present life, what negativity of your parents or grandparents gives an effect of trouble you have.

To sum up, the main tips to pass the border (threshold) of troubles:

Understanding that it is normal process.
Taking responsibility in own hands. You are the one who choose what way, negative or positive, to react.
Do not blame yourself if you have chosen negativity. The nature will give so many opportunities as required.
Do not blame other people for all troubles they give you. Think of them as teachers, who teach you to be a loving calm person. You may say them thank for that lessons
Do not try to prove them something right from your point of view.
Continue to think positive and search for an answer, “What positive experience does the negative event gives me? What should I change in my habits, behavior to keep peace in the soul?”
Keep love in your soul, heart. Think about Cod (if you believe in it) or Nature (if you are the atheist) as a loving source who loves you and care.

You may use any method or tips to pass the border (threshold) of troubles, but the main secret is that our nature has a higher source and lower one.

If you choose negativity you take qualities of the lower nature.

If you choose positivity and love you take higher qualities.

Do not estimate it as the bad things or the right one. Trying to estimate it you will begin criticize it, but critic is the quality of a lower nature.

Look at this picture. If you concentrate you mind on the white color (positive thinking) you will see pigeons (the symbol of the Holly Spirit). If you concentrate you mind on the black color you will see the bats (the symbol of the lower nature). You also can see that all of them are just the parts of the whole.

There is a Verse “The Rubáiyát” of Omar Khayyám by Edward FitzGerald

I sent my Soul through the Invisible,

Some Letter of that After-Life to spell:

And by and by my Soul return'd to me,

And answer'd “I Myself am Heav'n and Hell:”

It sound very great in Russian:

Ад и рай - в небесах", - утверждают ханжи.
Я, в себя заглянув, убедился во лжи:
Ад и рай - не круги во дворе мирозданья,
Ад и рай - это две половины души.

I have translated it more close for the Russian version to give you an opportunity to see this wise beauty.

“Hell and paradise are in the haven”, the sanctimonious persons assert
I have a look inside myself and I have found a lie,
Hell and paradise are not the spheres in the Palace of the Universe
Hell and paradise – these are the two parts of the one soul!

The higher source and lower one of the nature are part of the one whole. It has existed for ages. One could not be without another.

And only you are responsible for your choice.

Choosing the negativity many times you will receive in your life a bad mood, disappointments, depression, feel angry with people and life itself, destruction of Personality.

Choosing the positive thinking and love you will be able to overcome the threshold of troubles and end with the joy, happiness inside you and will have a lot of friends.

It is up to you what to choose, what results to have during your life journey and in the end of it!

Troubles with becoming pregnant? Find out what it should be understood to become happy from motherhood.

2010-02-19T15:49:00.000-08:00

It is not a secret that most women want to be happy having excellent family. For many of them happiness in the family could not be full without children. Nature has showered women gift to give birth to baby and an opportunity to feel happiness through being woman, wife and mother. Certainly there are quiet enough woman who are not disappointed with the fact that they cannot give birth to a baby, but most of women do not imagine their happiness without kids. This article would be interesting for those one who have troubles with becoming pregnant. There are exist different problems of this issue. If any woman had some injuries or undergone an operation after which she was not able to have baby she somehow adjusted to doctor’s diagnosis, but there are hopes and opportunities to improve situation to many other women. It is concern of women who block mentally their pregnancy and even do not suspect about it, do not suspect themselves caused this problem.

I have met a wonderful article of very nice woman who had problems with having baby in the past. Now she is a mother of five children and Director of the Publicity and PR. Her name is Olga Kaver. For those people who know Russian you may find more information about this beautiful woman on the sites
http://www.sviyash.ru/kaver_olga/
http://wantbaby.ru/kaver/
I liked her article very much.

It was taken here:

http://subscribe.ru/archive/psychology.isp/201002/22002712.html

I have decided to translate it into English to give an opportunity for women all over the world to understand the key mental reasons with becoming pregnant. She presents 3 main reasons, but in the end of given by her information I would also add another some very important reasons.

My dream is to become a mother: why haven’t I had a child yet?
Psychological causes of infertility according to the method of "Reasonable way".

You want to be the mother of your most remarkable child. You have been dreaming about desired pregnancy for many months and even years. Your greatest desire in the world is to fold in your arms own baby, but… for some reason baby do not hurry to such wonderful parents like your husband and you. Let try to understand what barriers inside you may hinder coming a happy moment of motherhood.

1. Subconscious negative programs

We all have the negative programs: they are placed in us since the infancy by our parents, environment, society, famous people, from books and the media. We can be aware of them, and may not even be aware that we live with a pattern placed inside us in the childhood. Let's analyze what programs can interfere the beginning a desired pregnancy.
Imagine a situation: the girl heard in the childhood about men that they were the unreliable representatives of humanity, that she wouldn’t be needed with the baby to any man, that those so-called fathers wouldn’t pay any penny to her baby and so on.
The girl grows up, she became a beautiful woman who matures to the mother's state and begins to want to become a mother. She hasn’t already remembered those phrases which were often heard in her childhood, but all this baggage was safely stored in her subconscious. When grown girl wants to get pregnant and give birth to a child, her wise subconscious protect against various terrible threats in those periods of life and says firmly "NO!" DANGER! Your pregnancy will lead to the fact that you stay alone with your child in your arms and without any penny! Is it cheerful perspective? It is not a surprise that girl's subconscious blocks all possibility of conception because this is so dangerous.

2. There are exist the idealizations

The idealization is an important to us idea with which we have long-term negative experiences. If a significant idea in our head is simply an idea and do not stimulate us to feel unhappy, let it live. But if any idea cause negative in your life we are bravely can name it the idealization.
So what idealization may hinder a coming of the desired pregnancy?
First of all it is the idealization of the goal.
Idealization of the goal happens when a person puts the achievement of some goals above all else. It seems to her that if she does not achieve this goal, she will die.
A woman who has been dreaming about child for months and even years often idealize her goal. She gives to this goal an excessive value, importance. Conception, successful pregnancy and birth of her wonderful healthy child become the target of her life, her existence. Often it is even prevents in the job. Olga Kaver remembers herself in 2000-2001 during the failed attempts of conception: even though she got a new job (and it was an interesting leadership position of Director of the Publicity and PR), but the work for me stands on the 25 place. All her thoughts were directed to the appearance of second stripe on the long-awaited test for pregnancy. Her obsession really interfered with her work. She often got her mind off job. Every failed attempt made he feeling overwhelmed, prevent of making career goals and plans. She felt real life only when she was meeting with friends and talked with them about her dream of desired child. It was obviously an idealization of the goal to become pregnant and give birth to a child. If the goal in the form of desired pregnancy had not achieved, then the life would have been meaningless. The existence of the goal idealization in life makes women’s dream about child impossible.
While the woman has an idealization of the goal, life will give her a variety of educational processes in order to prove that without achieving this goal a woman can live a month, year, five years, ten ... until there will be an idealization of the goal of having baby within her.
That is why, often desired pregnancy comes when a woman despairs, gives up her attempts to become pregnant and ... focus her attention on something else: finds an interesting and exciting job, dramatically changes the way of life, started a new exciting hobby or ... take adopted child. Why? It's simple: a woman lets go awaty her obsessive-cherished dream about child and soon .... she discovers the two strips in the text of pregnancy. After 9 months she has a healthy baby near her breast.

3. Hidden benefits

At first glance, well, really, what benefits could be in the infertility? From visiting doctors, from very unpleasant and very expensive treatment, from relatives’ questions: "Well, when …?" ... At first glance, the situation is extremely unpleasant and there is no woman in right mind who wants to get into it.

Despite all people’s oddities they are very reasonable. A man never does anything that is not profitable for a long time.
We are able to make hurt ourselves by a mistake, but not for a long time.
The man is guided by the instinct of self-preservation and does not do anything that will not bring any bonuses from life. Even the most tragic situations in our lives bring us some bonuses. At first, we may think: "Well, what bonuses may be from a tragedy, divorce and illnesses of relatives?" But if you put your hand on your heart and after some time try to be honest with yourself, it will be possible to find what benefits you took from any situation.
For example, the woman has found her husband's betrayal. What were the benefits? A large quantity!
3.1. Finally, there is a LIFE in her life!
3.2. How much attention from her girl friends!
3.3. She is the center of events, her house like a veritable military force headquarters, designed to establish global justice. She may even become the leader of this movement.
3.4. She could find herself a new man or almost legally betray – it is a VARIETY to her!
3.5. Well, now he will pay for all her tears! One fur will not be enough from husband to pay for those tears!

The list is long. And now you try to find the hidden benefits of the non-occurrence of the desired pregnancy? My head is already about a dozen assumptions, why it may be advantageous to you, what benefits of life you get in this situation.

From myself I would like to add some more reasons which I have discovered studying people’s behavior and psychology.

4. A great value of career in the women’s life.

A great passion with own career, achievements, progress in the job gives women a feeling that she has no time to raise baby. It gives statement into her mind that she should become a great professional, earn money and be independent from the men. It is nothing bad in personal women’s achievements until it will be given a great and most important value in the mind. In this case it will block opportunity to have baby. Feeling inside woman and her thought that it is not the right time for baby will give result in the material world as a problems to becoming pregnant.

5. Any very great fear.

For some woman it is even enough to have very strong fear of the pain which can be in labour.

6. Telling criticism to husband

It is very bad when woman begin criticize her husband many times. It does not matter how she does it, talking directly to him or in her mind, or experiencing negative feeling with his “wrong position and mistakes”. A lot of disagreements with husband, when woman are not glad with his behavior and words also will lead to temporary or continual sterility.

7. The very right women who is trying to have perfection in everything

It is often can be a woman who always had the best marks in the school or was very obedient in her childhood. Again, there is nothing wrong with the good marks at school and obedient kids until these qualities will be given the excessive value in level of subconscious. How you can define it? It is simply. When woman trying to improve her husband, want him to do only right things and make the right behavior. She believes that her husband does not make the right for mistakes and it is more concern for her how their family looks in the eyes of other people. One of the example could be even such when women from very religious family greatly believe that the only right and perfect thing on the Earth is to attend church. She is not able to understand why her husband does not do it.
Once more demonstration of perfection, when woman likes to be the only one person who will receive praises from environment. Such woman tries to do only her best. She achieves a lot, but as a result has a great dissatisfaction with the men. She is the best, but she is not able to appreciate men’s achievements or even give him a chance to make mistakes and be the best for her.
All this leads to criticism of men and have the same results as were written in the 6 point above.

For many women it is hard to believe to all written above, but if you let your Ego relax, take a pen with paper, be truthful with yourself, you will be able to find own blocks, wrong thoughts which prevent to be happy from a motherhood of a new born baby.

Quotes and thoughts about success. Part 2

2009-06-15T14:19:00.000-07:00

Success does not come by magic, as well as does not come through hard work alone. You can work so hard and intensely as decide yourself, but if your mind is dominated by consciousnesss of carcity, you will ruine every step along your way and will experience continuous frustration. ... .. Our success is helping many people. Our failure does not help anyone. (John Kehoe)

Success in life is a matter not so much of talent or opportunity as of concentration and perseverance. (C.W. Wendte)

Sometimes we are afraid of failures and rejections. Sometimes we lose faith in ourselves. But we forget the most important: setbacks and failures - a critical component of success. In fact, the more setbacks and failures you survive, the more success you can achieve. (Adam Jackson)

The great high-road of human welfare lies along the old highway of steadfast, well-doing; and they who are the most persistent, and work in the truest spirit, will invariably be the most successful; success treads on the heels of every right effort. (S.Smiles)

Your success, your wealth starts when you say the right words, when you are thinking correctly, when you are acting correctly. The money aren't being added in your pocket at this moment. And society behave toward you the same way, as to loser. Your family, relatives, friends are laughing over you, abuse you, but you have been becoming a different person. … In every disaster, every failure there is a break-through, the grain of success. «What does not kill me, it makes me stronger». Here it is, the formula for success! (Vladimir Dovgan)

Champions are willing to do the things they dislike to create something they do like. Don't let the things that matter most be at the mercy of the things that matter least. (Dexter Yager)

Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this…. Success in manufacturing depends exclusively on the manufacturer's art to serve a consumer, suggesting that consumer likes. ... Most of all he can be pleased with the highest quality and low prices, and the one who can give the consumer the best quality at lower prices will certainly be at the head of the industry - not care, whatever goods he has produced. (Henry Ford)

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. (Eleanor Roosevelt)

The true success - it is always the last link in the chain of failed attempts to do everything right. If we do not try, not experimenting, don't make any attempt, not get in the puddle, we also do not grow. (Sergei Mamontov)

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. (Albert Schweitzer)

To achieve success in life is to become the such person you want to be. .... The nature of things is such that every success opens the way to other successes, your approach to what you want and approach of what you want, will become more rapid. (Wallace Wattles)

Flaming enthusiasm, backed by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success. (Dale Carnegie)

To me, success is a feeling that I have achieved everything I wanted, I have taken the target peaks, I am in harmony with myself .... For man of success allegiance to his dreams is the most important human quality that had been and will remain .... It is important to understand that your success is concern of you, you are interested in it, especially yourself, no one has obligations to you, only you is the owner of your life, your happiness and your success, hence the only person have to be asked is you. (Roman A. Trunin)

A winner is one who accepts his failures and mistakes, picks up the pieces, and continues striving to reach his goals. (Dexter Yager)

If you don’t have personal goals, you’re controlled by those who do. (Garrison Wynn)

The entrepreneur success will never come, if our actions are merely timid attempt. (Vladimir Evstigneev)

No one can cheat you out of ultimate success but yourself…To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded. (Ralph W. Emerson)

Knowledge is not power; Implementation is power” (Garrison Wynn)

Your success in external affairs begins with internal success, and if you really want to significantly improve the quality of the surrounding world, you have to start with improving your internal world.(Robin Sharma)

It is wise to keep in mind that neither success nor failure is ever final. (Roger Babson)

It was so happened that we have been successful in the computer industry, but the ability to see and use the opened opportunities may be needed anywhere, and the curiosity and dedicationare to your favourite bussiness are only required. … The company's success should always be determined by its strategy and ideas, and leaders should not deter it .... Your goal should be to find a decent partner and go to success together. (Michael Dell)

Eighty percent of success is showing up.(Woody Allen)

You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself. The height of a man's success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. And this law is the expansion of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others. (Leonardo Da Vinci)

If you want to be a big success in any area, find out what other successful people in that area are doing, and do the same things, until you get the same results. When I studied the interviews, speeches, biographies and autobiographies of successful men and women, I found … they used their time very, very well. They were highly productive and they got vastly more done in the same period of time than the average person. (Brian Tracy)

The wonderful thing is that the most successful people in America today almost invariably began alone, or with one or two other people, with an idea for a product or service that would benefit others. And so can you. No matter where you are or what you are doing, no matter what your situation in life or what has happened to you in the past, there are really no limits on what you can accomplish in the future if you decide to become a person of influence. (Brian Tracy)

Success begins with a pad of paper, a pen and a few minutes of your time. One of the most important keys to success is to "think on paper.(Brian Tracy)

Sometimes, the only difference between a successful person and a failure is that the successful person has the courage to get started, to do something, to begin moving toward the accomplishment of a specific goal. (Brian Tracy)

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather in a lack of will. (Vincent J. Lombardi)

I do not think there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature. (John Rockefeller)

If you want to be successful, it's just this simple: Know what you're doing. Love what you're doing. And believe in what you're doing. (Will Rogers)

Quotes and thoughts about success. Part 1

2009-04-17T14:10:00.000-07:00

In the dark days of your life remember that every failure is actually only another step on the path to success. ….Do the best that you know how, and in your best works, you will understand it by the soul, are the greatest success in world. (Og Mandino )

Keep in mind that real success comes only if you are implementing your own intentions in life! … Remember, success does not bring happiness, but happiness brings success, wealth and recognition! (Natalia Pravdina)

Every person who wins in any understanding must be willing to cut all sources of retreat. Only by doing so can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win - essential to success….Success comes to those who think in terms of success. (Napoleon Hill)

The aspiration for original success - your success through creativity, brings great satisfaction. The aspiration for a false success, with the goal astonish others, is a dubious pleasure. (Igor Dobrotvorskij)

The man who has done his level best... is a success, even though the world may write him down a failure. (B.C. Forbes)

Too many people go into business, focusing all attention on the fact that they want to offer, but real success comes to those who in their business proceed from the buyer, asking themselves first and foremost question: "What the buyer wants and what he needs "and then try to meet their needs. …One of the major differences between someone who has achieved success - be it a wealth, or a leadership in their field - from the failure is that wealthy people to persevere, they never surrender. Even when faced with obstacles or failures, they will never retreat. They know what they want, and continue to pursue their goal while they has reached it. (Adam Jackson)

Long-term success is the result of relationships built on a foundation of trust. People get more value from those they trust. (Garrison Wynn)

The secret of success is constancy to purpose. (Benjamin Disraeli)

Working with your own desires, programs, plans, always emit confidence, stay in the exhilaration, and then you'll succeed in your deed. If person's wishes are painted with uncertainty in own ability to succeed, it means that he primarily puts himself barrier to achieving the goals. (Ludmila-Stephanie)

The great successful men of the world have used their imagination…they think ahead and create their mental picture in all its details, filling in here, adding a little there, altering this a bit and that a bit, but steadily building - steadily building. (Robert Collier)

Success is a journey, not a destination. (Dennis R. Tesdell)

No one are given success in life as a gift: it is required a lot of work with ourselves and a daily effort to win success. (Sergej Kluchnikov)

Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value. (Albert Einstein)

Success means accomplishments as the result of our own efforts and abilities. Proper preparation is the key to our success. Our acts can be no wiser than our thoughts. Our thinking can be no wiser than our understanding. (George Clason)

Success in life can be defined as the continuous expansion of the feeling of happiness and the gradual achievement of own purposes. Success is the ability to satisfy own desires without much effort. …Success is the journey, not a destination. Material abundance, in all its manifestations, is becoming one of those aspects that make this trip more enjoyable. But success also includes good health, energy and enthusiasm, a relationship that would satisfy you, the freedom to create, the emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being, calm mind. (Deepak Chopra)

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. (Thomas A. Edison)

Men and women who are the most successful in life and the most likely to move up economically are those who take the future into consideration with every decision they make in the present. The longer the period of time a person take into consideration while planning and acting, the more likely it is that he will achieve greatly during his career. (Banfield)

The people that get on in this world are the people that get up and look for the circumstances that they want; and if they can't find them, they make them. (George Bernard Shaw)

If you clear see your goal, your subconscious mechanism for success will help you to get to it. Edison, working on his inventions, always kept in mind where he had wanted to come, and as he did so, any failure had maintained his ultimate success. (Anthony Robbins)

Think of yourself as on the threshold of unparalleled success. A whole clear, glorious life lies before you. Achieve! Achieve! (Andrew Carnegie)

There are countless times when you will have to do little things that don’t make you happy along the way toward those larger things that make you very happy indeed. We call this paying the price of success in advance. You must pay your dues. (Brian Tracy)

Successful people are successful because they are very clear about their values. Unsuccessful people are fuzzy or unsure. Complete failures have no real values at all. …The key to success in setting priorities is having a long time perspective. You can tell how important something is today by measuring its potential future impact on your life.(Brian Tracy)

The quality and quantity of your contacts and your relationships will have more to do with your success than perhaps any other factor. …Your ability to influence other people to help you and cooperate with you, to lend you their money, their efforts, their ideas, their imagination and their support is the key to your accomplishing extraordinary things with your life. The more people that you can attract into your life that will help you and work with you, the more successful you will be and the far faster you will accomplish the goals that you set for yourself. (Brian Tracy)

The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. (Mark Caine)

When a man feels throbbing within him the power to do what he undertakes as well as it can possibly be done, this is happiness, this is success. (Orison Swett Marden)

Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. (Winston Churchill)

Success doesn't come to you... you go to it. (Marva Collins)

Quotes and thoughts about happiness

2009-02-27T12:16:00.000-08:00

Those who learn happiness, will experience ups and downs, but will be able to return quickly to positive states of consciousness and to raise its «normal» level at a much greater height. (Katler)

You'll love the others and enjoy each other only if you love yourself. Otherwise you have no chance for happiness. Happiness passes by us 10-20 times a day, but if we are programmed to unhappiness, then choose the only unfavorable to us option, programmed by our script. But when a person comes out of the last one, he/she begins to see own possibilities (M.Litvak)

We have chosen a road which is now going. This is the basic meaning of the life of every human being - using the parents programs and generic memory, to learn to be masters of our own lives, create our own happiness. (V. Sinelnikov)

Achieving your own happiness is the best measure of how well you are living your life and enjoying your relationships. The key to happiness is this: dedicate yourself to the development of your natural talents and abilities by doing what you love to do, and doing it better and better in the service of a cause that is greater than yourself.(Brian Tracy)

Happiness is linked primarily with pleasant situations in life. If we support and cultivate this inner peace, enjoy happiness of life and love with the Universe, if we take each new event as the disclosure of consciousness-then all our immune systems, our ability to self-recovery operate harmoniously (Lise Bourbeau)

Happiness - a state of soul, ... recognition of own independence, contentment with yourself, but the main thing - the harmony with owh soul and with the surrounding world. Happiness - it is life itself, it is a process of achieving the desired, not only the result. Happiness creates more happiness and attracts wonderful friends to us . (N. Pravdina)

Happiness is found in doing. Not merely in possessing. (N.Hill)

Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort. (Franklin D. Roosevelt)

Happiness – is to accept everything around as it is and to enjoy everything about without worrying. And if the trouble - it is only a temporary loss in a game called "Life", all of this - for the better! (A. Sviyash)

Happiness comes with the movement towards own goal through own door. Movement to someone else goal has always been a holiday in the illusory future. Achieving the goals of others brings disappointment and devastation, but no happiness.(V.Zeland)

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. (Jim Rohn)

Happiness – it's like the God - the highest essence, notion. Happiness is manifested in three faces: wealth, health, love, that are three of its integral components. True happiness can only be in the integrity, the unity of spiritual and material. (V. Lermontov)

The soul feels comfortable, when the mind is not strangling her in his container, but cherishes, like a rose in the greenhouse, admire it, carefully caring for her and allows to every her petal to open freely . This is a rare case, which is commonly called happiness. (V.Zeland)

…a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word 'happy' would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.(Carl Jung)

…most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.
(Dalai Lama)

To live happily is an inward power of the soul. Happiness depends upon ourselves.(Aristotle)

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. (Abraham Lincoln)

Happiness is not an ideal of reason, but of imagination. (Immanuel Kant)

Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is. (Maxim Gorky)

But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? (Lord Byron)

Happiness is not a destination. It is a method of life. (Burton Hills)

Happiness is a state of mind or feeling such as contentment, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy. (wikipedia)

Happiness is not a goal. It is a by-product. ( Eleanor Roosevelt)

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature. (Marcus Aurelius)

Happiness like health: when it isn't noticed, then it is. (I. Turgenev)

Happiness is pleasure without repentance (L. Tolstoj)

Happiness doesn’t depend on what we have, but it does depend on how we feel toward what we have. We can be happy with little and miserable with much. (William Dempster Hoard)

Women's happiness – to stay at home or to work?

2009-01-15T03:33:00.000-08:00

The development of civilization and progress of society has meant to women benefit equally with men in having the opportunity to learn and work. But creating a family and children's birth make a serious concern and ado. Typically, in many families is accepted that the man earns the money and the woman takes care of children, family and home. Therefore, more often with the birth of children a woman does assume the work of raising children, interrupting temporarily or permanently with her studing, career or job. Some women are very seriously concerned about this. Indeed, prior to the birth of children, they felt a full member of society, led an active life, learned, had fun having sufficient time to their needs and implementing their ideas, worked, met frequently with friends. In general, many of them were able to enjoy life and feel happiness. The birth of children, along with a family joy and happiness to be a parent calls to reconsider women's way of life, to change habits, to limit the possibility of prior learning, work or communication with friends. This is especially true for women, because a child has more to do with mother, while men are free to make money and provision family. Some of my female friends have noticed that they become more nervous and irritable staying a long at home with their children. Despite the facts that apparently many things are well (they have a wonderful family, the husband has fully provided family and has earned enough money) but something was missing, and sometimes it seemed that at home with their children they are not as happy as before.
I will try to explain what happens to those who also faced similar. In principle, many women may experience negative emotions of sitting at home. Why? The active way of life before and permanent study or work lead to the development of certain habits, which is easy and pleasant, a certain image of a comfort zone for women. And sitting at home with their children had not been included in this zone. If women had grown in family with mother working all the time and paying a little attention to kids the problem is worse because there is no image in mind of good careing to children and enjoing this process.
Up to child one year almost all mother attention goes to the child, the mother often has very little time and willingness to pay attention to her appearance or activities, which she had loved to do before. Sleepless nights, frequent children crying, health problems do not add a happiness to mom. It is completely restructure your day for walking with children,feeding and teaching them. Becoming older children are very inquisitive, and some of their questions require us to think a lot giving a wise answer. What adult can make quickly and as usual it is very complicated for child. A great patience, special approaches in communicating with children are required to spend enough time explaining and teaching kids new skills. In addition, children can be naughty, can make noise and mess, climb into dangerous places and want do something that adult does not like. Much strength and energy mothers spend on raising children. But mother has own wishes, own values, abilities and talents that currently are not implemented. In this case there are worries that something is wrong. Abilities are not being used, some mother value wishes aren't being realized and this create dissatisfaction and feeling of unhappiness.
But I want to add that there are a lot of women, even among my best girlfriends who are fully confident in the only happiness with staying at home. Main sense of life for such women (let's call them the second group) is a healthy family (husband and kids) with good relationships. Certainly all of us dream about this. But only such type of women is ready to dedicate all their life for teaching and helping kids in their development. For such women the greatest happiness to stay at home and have enough time to calm communication with children, helping them to stay in school, treat family members with exquisite and delicious dishes of their own cooking. Wise woman even fing desire and time to be beautiful and be in a good form. It's pleasure to them to meet their husband from work with queit, peacefull and glad face. They understand that good mood will be necessarily transferred to her husband's mood even if he had hard work day. Such wife is able to understand her husband, can believe him and his abilities, can help increase his personal self-esteem and confidence and can inspire her husband to take the best decisions in his business. Deserving of praise man is capable to provide all the family. Such wife and mother of his kids does not need to go to work,satisfied with this state of things and quite happy.
A third group of women those who prefer to work and maintain a lifestyle that allows them receive a self-realization. They are keen on work. No one recognizes that there is no desire to constantly be with the child. It is often hard to recognize even for yourself. Therefore, these women find justifications in earning money themselves. Of course there is a maternal feelings and feelings of duty to educate their child good and fully. Therefore, these women prefer to ensure good care and education of their children, hiring nurse or sending kids to kindergartens, special schools, where the professionals will take care about their children. If such woman wise enough, she will find at least a little time to communicate with her child. And quality of time with kids the most important. I mean that from one hand you can be all day in the same house with kids and pay a little attention to them and from another hand your can spent two or three hours only with kids sush way that they will feel loved and most important in your life. But many working women are happy that they have children and work, which brings them more satisfaction and joy than spending whole days raising their children at home.
To summarize I want to say that happiness for any woman depends on what she personally feell to the situation about staying at home or working. If work and personal career more important to women and she will be able to organize a wise education of her children by other professionals, that both she and her children would benefit. For those who prefer staying at home and devoting their lives to children and families, it is important to understand that it is the best situation for them and be able to appreciate opportunity be with kids and be able to enjoy such way of life. If you have some talents and abilities, you need to consider how to combine them with being at home. Now in the age of Internet there are so many opportunities for this. The main task is to come to peace in the soul, enjoing benefits of your own choice and this will lead to such great feeling of happiness. So your own attitude and feeling about your choice will determine whether you will be happy or not.

When it's impossible feel happiness helping others

2008-11-12T10:57:00.000-08:00

In help others there are underwater rocks, as we call it. I mean something when it's impossible feel happiness helping others. Today I am describing one of them - when we help others and the main our incentive is hidden very deep inside program in our subconscious mind which sounds "I can't be happy while there are so many unhappy people in my surroundings or in the world". I would say it's most dangerous because we can live with this many years and even don't suspect ourselves of having it.

It can be a person who very often helps others. There is nothing bad in helping, but if you receive from life any opportunity or something good and first of all you try to give it others forgetting about yourself you should check whether you have program mentioned above. Very often it's those who were oldest among children in the family and got used to taking care about youngest brothers (or sisters), those were grown up in unfortunate family or in the family with alcoholic parents, those got used to obeying parents in every step and every decision. May be there was another reasons when in the childhood you took a decision that only you responsible for others happiness, especially for members of the family. Such person intend to deserve own happiness trying to make surroundings happier. He or She can't allow yourself to enjoy own happiness while there are people with problem around them. Among my good relatives I have those helping others every time, sometimes they do even impossible things to achieving best for friends asking help, but the things they will never do for themselves. Why? They said they had no time for themselves, they were too busy to pay a big attention for own problems. From time to time they think, "If I have problems with a health, money or love it's my destiny". These relatives are not happy. They can't allow yourselves to believe that they deserve happiness and helping others they should do something for own happiness. Everything because of hidden deep inside program "I have right to be happy when my surroundings had received their happiness before me or with me". In attempt to make all surroundings (world) happier such person forgets that she or he is also a part of this world and has the same right to be happy as other people have. The program hidden in subconscious mind arouses feeling of guilt. This feeling interrupts for enjoying own life and happiness while somebody has problems.

I discovered this program in my mind too. When my husband and I visited Crimea everything was wonderful. My family spent time very good, had a marvellous rest, saw dolphins, observed beauty of the nature, amazing palaces. But I felt a big pity that my younger sister and her husband couldn't afford that travel. From time to time my mood wasn't very good because of my regret that they weren't with us and didn't enjoy the trip as we did. My sister decided to postpone her traveling in spite I had tried to help her. Certainly she wants to visit Crimea and enjoy the trip, but in the future. They spent time the way they usually had done. Her family wasn't ready for bigger happiness I received. If I had understood it before the trip I would have more enjoyed my journey.

Film "27 Dresses" with Katherine Haigl (Jane) also illustrates this mind program. Main heroine Jane is a nice girl; she devoted her life to a good job helping others be happy in their wedding. She is used to helping father and taking care about younger sister, as they lived without mother. She always complies with boss and other people requests. She did everything for others without refuse, but didn't pay enough attention for own needs in love. As a result of such attitude to herself she received own problems and unhappiness in love. Life gave her troubles teaching love herself. Jane did a rough mistake when she spoiled sister's wedding and didn't give her an opportunity be marriage. In spite of mistakes and troubles Jane found own way to happiness. Certainly the film has a good end. But in the real life isn't always the same.

Another example– oldest daughter helps mother with younger brother who is very ill or invalid. She spends all her time for help and never gets marriage. She is so imbued with suffering in the family that strongly believes she hasn't right or time to arrange her own happy future. It's not a surprise with such attitude to herself she'll never has own happy family and kids.

Once more example is a relationship between obedient kids and imperious parents. Certainly they love their kids and wish them the best. As we know kids are very curious, they want a lot and searching the world they do many things which is disliked by their parents. Imperious parents usually scold or punish kids. Children misapprehend it and began believe that for parents happiness they should be obedient every time and do only things parents ask them to do. Such kids is used to repressing their own wishes, their personality aren't developed. It causes both parents and kids struggle in the future. Many years ago there was a good kind boy in my class at school. He always helped his mother and did everything she asked him about. Leaving the school he decided to be a football trainer. He was very keen on football, but mother forbid him to enter to the University and force him help in her business. This guy had helped her mother for a long time before became an alcoholic. Repression own needs and wishes for mother's happiness cause him to life disappointment and alcoholic drinks. It isn't difficult to understand both mother and he have no happy now. Everything because the guy had wrong mind program that he didn't deserve to have own values (in this case to be a football trainer), he strongly believed his mother would be unhappy.

Many people can live with wrong programs in mind, having according problems and thinking that they aren't able to change their destiny. First step they should do for own happiness is began to understand that they deserve happiness in spit of infinite number other people wishes or problems. As we know unhappy people always exist and there are many of them. Person with mind program "I can't be happy while there are so many unhappy people in my surroundings or in the world, I have right to be happy when my surroundings had received their happiness before me " accumulates a great deep feeling of life dissatisfaction. So it's always useful to remember that you and only you can't do everybody in the world happy. People from all of your surroundings or all over the world are also responsible for own happiness. Help others but don't forget do good things for yourself, enjoy own life and appreciate own happiness.

Help others which gives happiness

2008-09-18T15:38:00.000-07:00

We live not alone, but in the society. The society and religion teach us be polite, kind, careful, to support each other. And, no doubt, it's very good.

Let's look at some possible relationship with feeling of happiness.

1. Somebody (it can be person you know well or a passer-by you have never seen before) helped you with a thing very important to you. He was happy enough to share with you his force to help carry something, his intellectual faculties to help you overcome fast your difficult situation, his time to help with something else and didn't ask any pay or award. You are happy because think how wonderful this world with such careful people. Other examples of such help are missionary or voluntary works. May be you present your help to other people and both sides are happy.
Some people can be surprised, don't understand and ask question what receives man nothing asking for help? He receives a good attitude and a high respect from others, high self-appraisal and a filling great power and increasing love inside, may be filling of good service for God. Everyone has and receives own values.
2. You ask friend to help you. He (or she) doesn't ask for award and do what you need. But you present him something he (or she) likes or render him a service.
3. You need somebody to help you. You fond people and paid them what they asked. You are happy and appreciate this help because you couldn't do it alone or their help saved your time to your another important private affairs. Another side is happy too because of receiving their great values for giving you their power. May be you receive a good payments doing you like but another person can't do and it's easier for him (or her) to pay you. Again both sides are happy.
4. I would say it's something like common to all mankind. For example, people from the ship help sinking men. A feeling from saving somebody can give happiness inside you and inside saved men.
5. "Second hand". More rich family (man or whole country) gives surplus they don't need to poor family (man or whole country) which will be happy with it. Rich family (man or whole country) are also happy with this help because they solve a problem of utilization or cleared place for something they more want and more appreciate now.

I think the key of any happy filling when you tell words of encouragement, truly words of admiration to somebody, help is do something good both for you and for another side (man, woman, friend, group of people). So dealing with somebody's problem or situation it's better to search for way good as for me as for you. I mean great mutual happiness will be achieved when both sides receive values important for each other. These values can be different, but everybody receives his own ones. For example, you gave your free time and helped friend to repair his car or paint the garage. Your friend is happy. You are happy if the only you need is his respect. But if your most important value is money and he didn't pay, some negative filling could be appeared in your soul. May be you expected him paid you and didn't tell him about it or wanted him to decide paid himself, but filling from this emotional experience will block your happiness. You wanted money very deep in your soul and didn't receive it. Happiness is out because your soul didn't receive it value.

Some people can be very happy only whith fact they had helped anybody. It's up to them. In this case the feeling of great satisfaction by themselvs and happiness inside is very good for them and others. But it's very harmful for everybody to help others because of feeling of guilt inside heart. If this is the only reason nobody receive real happiness.

So I repeat once more. Helping others search for way good both for you and for another side. Mutual happiness will be achieved when both sides receive values important for each other. These values can be different, but everybody should receive his own ones. This principle leads to improvement of our every day life, friendly attitude towards each other and filling of love and care from everywhere.

The more you help others the more friends you can have. And in your own difficult situation (even happy person meets it from time to time as a part of a personal growth) your real friends will give their hand of help.

When we help others we open more opportunities for ourselves. From time to time I was in situations helping friends and finding myself in place where I received something important to me. It was like a little miracle because I had dreamed and had looked for this before I did action of help. In this case the law of giving have an influence . You can even give help one person and receive it from another you don't expect from.
So help others and be happy.

To make a success decision changing the life path

2008-06-05T04:37:00.000-07:00

Life flows. The changes in the outer world happen and we need to take it into consideration. We need to receive a new knowledge to be more professional, more competitive and more salary paid. Some people can even find themselves boring with the activity they do and they began to start thinking about changing a career. With the development of the Internet many people began searching for the ways of receiving income with the help of this amazing technology. The very brave men and women are leaving their jobs and they are starting own business in the Internet or in the real life. What ever road we choose we want to be successful. To make a success decision at the very beginning of our new way is very important.

What way to choose? Where is our own life path which will connect our present life with the right choice to receive a successful and happy life in the future?

We take different decisions many times in our life. It may be a question about studying at the college or at the University and you think whether it's worth to do it. May be we need to decide if it's worth to get marriage now or postpone such step to later period in our life. May be a question to give birth to a child this year or to wait for the better times is decided. It can be any situation in which making a decision can change our life radically.

At any our situation it is helpful:
1. to STOP and sit down
2. to BEGAN to THINK AND ASK OURSELVES SOME QUESTIONS

• WHAT VALUES DO WE HAVE OR WANT TO HAVE, WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO US
*-love

*-money

*-family

*- a great and successful own career

*- a realization of own creativity
*- a stability with an average income

*- communication with other people

*- to work alone in the still of the day

*- to be a "soul" of friends' company

*- to be a taciturn, patient and to prefer solitude

*-to prefer be lavish

*- to prefer be too economical

*- to be a persistent person in achieving own goals and always have own opinion

*- to prefer concede and agree with everybody around

*- to have positive attitude to the world and people, accept them with all imperfections

*- to criticize all around

*- an organized way of everything is more important

*- life events take its own course
*- and so on

• WHAT GOALS DO WE HAVE IN LIFE

The right own goal will determine our own happiness in the peak of our success. People have many thoughts which are twisted in the heads and haven't organized in the clear and desirable right and successful decision. Many experts in the field of self-improvement always advise to write down answers to important questions. It is explained that something strange happens – our intellect began to work very clear and with a harmony with the intuition. As a rule the best thoughts are written.

• So let’s write down answers - WHAT WE ARE GOING TO ACHIVE WITH A CERTAIN CHANGE IN LIFE? For example –Why do we want to change a job? What our very important goals the new job will help us to achieve?

It is obligatory TO FILTER OUR GOALS WITH THE VALUES we defined to ourselves. Many people trying to achieve not own goals, but other people one. Some such goals we had heard from the parents, friends, colleagues, neighbors. We very often hear friends' wishes and can began to believe that we also like it and want. In that case our goal sounds like "It will be not bad…", but we will not take any efforts for searching an effective solution or way to achieve it. This is a truth of our human nature.

• ARE CHANGES WE WANT REALY IMPORTANT TO US? Are we ready to do or to have it in our life, are we really ready to put much effort, time and energy into the realization of the conceived scheme? Will we be ready to change a way of our thinking and a circle of our friends if it is required?

It is very important to be frank with ourselves answering question listed above.

3. to continue thinking and search, to direct own thoughts to a question HOW to find the best solution it our situation. It is wise don't criticize relatives or friends in case they don't understand and don't support us.

4. to BEGAN WRITING DOWN ideas that can appear. If we don't have any idea, we may postpone this step for several hours or some days (it depends on us personally). Thoughts about HOW to find the best decision will lead us to the situations or the resources which we can't even imagine now. We may even meet wonderful people Universe will send to us with the proposals or with wise words, but all this will help us to make best finally decision.

5. Life teach us to make own decisions. Every of us are responsible for the decisions we make. Some people like to do everything what another people advise them because it is easy to blame them in case of failure. Life teaches us to have the courage of own opinions and do not afraid making mistakes. It is useful to teach ourselves to meet mistakes not as tragedy but as prompting to personal improvement.

6. For some people it is also important to find way of dealing with feelings of guilty or fears. The great fears that relative or friends will not understand, will think bad about them or even denounce them can appear. For such type of persons very hard to find strength and say "No" to changes they don't want and do not need, because they got into the habit of be good for everybody. Such type of persons needs to be taught how to love themselves and be in the harmony relationships with other people.

7. If coming change is really important to us than we need to decide what do we have to do to achieve own goals. A plan of action is the next step. It is desirable to divide necessary actions to small tasks with an exact date we want to achieve. Fear and doubts can still appear, but we need to continue chosen way. Wise people also understand that we make a plan to begin go ahead. While we act according to a plan a new and best circumstances can appear. We may receive the best result taking them into consideration. Concentration our mind and thoughts at our final goals allow us to use a creative approach in life and force our intuition to work well.

8. When our goal is too big to us, the some difficulties or problems can appear before one step to our possible victory. It is like a trial or test whether we are ready to follow chosen direction and be happy with achieved goal. Life more wise than we are, but we are those who make a decision. Here are several possible choices:

a) to give up and decide that we do not want this goal – in this case we may not receive it at all

b) to summon up courage and strength, to brace our energies, and to continue making efforts, reminding ourselves how important this goal to us. Such attitude to the problems helps to find untraditional for you way to overcome obstacles with a creative approach.

c) to understand that this goal is not perfect to us, do not worry if we lost it, but continue to search perfect to us decision. In this case if our faith and desire are strong the new opportunity to achieve our goal in the best way will come. And we need to be ready to take it.

A choice from the opportunities always exists . We need only to decide what is best to us. Best solution to us doesn’t even mean the same one to our friends in similar situation.

The great and strong desire to find a best decision is the main here, so we can add questions according to our situation. It's useful for all of us to teach ourselves to keep in our soul special sparks of love and understanding ourselves and others. The most successful decision will depend on how well we know our own values, how we are able to love ourselves and live in the harmony with other people and nature.

Goals and dreams: facilities to achieve what makes us happy or justification in absence for possibilities??

2008-04-02T21:05:00.000-07:00

We all like to dream about something and we think it will make us happy. Somebody is happy because he has achieved and had he had wanted for happiness. There are still a lot of people who more likely will never receive their dreams for own happiness. Do you want to be at a first or at a second group? And what is the main reason of this difference?

Let take simple example with travels. If it is quite enough for you to stay at home, to do favorite job, live without travels and be comfortable with it than you may be happy with your life.

Although a lot of people dream to travel and they even envy the opportunity of other people to move to any place on the Earth at any desirable time.

One nice man has been dreaming about travels for 20 years. He has never traveled to countries he had wanted to visit. All this years he has been finding different justifications in absence for possibilities. One period of his life he worked very hard even on holidays and had no time to travel. Then he got married and children were very small. He couldn't permit himself to travel because it's was very important and more interesting to him to travel with family. Next justification – it was a lack of money. His salary wasn’t enough to buy expensive tickets or places in a tourist group to go abroad. So the desire of this man to travel is still only the dream. He can't experience pleasure and such beautiful feeling of happiness from realizing own dream. It's his choice.

Such type of person finds different justification in absence for possibilities: “I have no time”, “A lot of work”, “I can’t leave my farm”, “I am poor and I do not have enough money”, “I should care about children and it is very hard to take them with me” and so on.

Let’s look for those one who look for facilities to achieve what makes them happy.

The wish of another man to travel was so strong and he believed, searched and searched for any opportunities. His effort was awarded. Now he is working with a TV company. This man receives salary for going to different countries and making program about customs abroad. So he has a job, money and dream putted into practice.

But this is not the only opportunity to travel. There is also a job in a travel agency where the guide can combine work and love for traveling. People who make business in MLM companies combine visits to different countries with the trainings where they teach other people the secrets of the good work. Some wise people plane and begin to save up money for their trip in advance. Some one is searching for discounts of tourist agencies through online booking. Who really wants to travel uses any opportunity to make his or her dream a reality. So opportunities are always exist.

If we have any dream and feel that it realization will make us happy, then it is helpful to ask ourselves:

• What did I really do to make my dream closer?
• Am I look for justification in absence for possibilities or I have enough faith and search for the possibilities?

It is not always easy to be honest with ourselves, but those one who had courage to find out own mistakes have achieved goals and dreams which were like an insuperable difficulties for other people.

Thus the main reason of this difference in what we are looking for: facilities to achieve what makes us happy or justification in absence for possibilities.

In that way if our dream is really important to us than it is also helpful to remember:

• to avoid justification own inertness and absence for possibilities
• to let our faith be very strong and don't worry much (peace in a soul is a very important key in achieving happiness)
• to think about our dream more often and search for possibilities to receive or achieve it
• to think about difficulties on our way as the tasks to solve and as the stages to own personal growth

•to be patient and wait some time if it is required
• Take a chance when it comes or if there are a lot opportunities, choose the best one by heart.

How the law of giving leads to the success

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The law of giving is a very interesting one. It may be simple to one person and complicated to another one. First one will say that it works, the second one may argue against this statement. So let’s stat to analyze some examples from life and we will have chance to decide for yourself what true to us.

Today let’s take one event which had become a history, but it will help us to understand something important.

There was the very popular group of singers "The Laskoviy May" (The Caressing May is for the better understanding the meaning as it was in Russian) in the USSR in the 1988. They had been very popular during 5 years and the group earned much money at that time. One of their Russian songs is presented below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5paTORS7Sfk&fmt=6

The producer of the "Laskoviy May" was Andrew Razin. You can see him in the pictures1 and 2

1- Andrew Razin in the days of the popularity of his group

2- Andrew Razin many years latter

On the second video Andrew Razin is describing his own applying of the law of giving on his way to success, popularity and huge money. This video in the Russian and some translation are being given for those of you who do not understand this language.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7XpdmL35G8g&fmt=6

From this video we may find one of the key ideas which will allow us to understand how the law of giving can lead to the success. It is also described in the video that Andrew Razin was 22 years old when he organized a group of 12 years old boys from the boarding schools and created most profitable musical project had ever existed before him in the USSR.

You know show business has always been full of producers, popular singers and it is very difficult for a new unknown group to become well-known and well paid. What decision did the Andrew Razin make?

After organizing an unknown group of singers "Laskoviy May" the producer gave free a very big quantity of audio tapes in the trains to everybody who had wanted to take it. At that time in Russia such type of advertising was the fist and more powerful than any very expensive one. In a 3 month all country had loved the "Laskoviy May". The first performance in the stadium brought to the producer unheard-of profit – he sold 47 millions tickets and at average price 3 rubles for every ticket it was huge amount for Soviet Union at that time – 141 million rubles.
He spent 2 thousand Soviet rubles (about 500 dollars) for buying food, clothes for boys and to record on the first group's album and Andrew Razin multiplied his money essentially. Every fifth Soviet citizen visited the concerts or bought the tapes and albums.

This story of success gives us "food for thinking". Here we can see one of the examples how the law of giving works:

The man received his great success with popularity and huge money after he
had given a lot to other people.

Many people want to earn more money and become very rich, but when the competition is very high even one unusual idea can bring us to success. Attention please! It is does not mean that everybody should give free all they goods or services all the time, but it mean an unusual idea at appropriate time and at appropriate place!!! The one idea can help us to be special, creative and to win a competition.

So what were the main keys of this success?

An unusual idea at appropriate time and at appropriate place to win a competition.
Law of giving – to give other people value which is important to them or they need it at appropriate time and at appropriate place.

Hope. Introduction

2008-03-15T09:55:00.000-07:00

Hope.

What does the hope mean? It means what we put in it or expect.

“What it will give us?”- is the reasonable question. Stop in a minute, think, and understanding is coming. There is no right or wrong answer. Everybody of us has it own definition.

Hope helps us when we feel unhappy and it gives us the strength to go ahead to achieve our own goals. When we are happy it still needed to give us strength to test whether our success is valuable in the eyes of our family and friends. Will you feel loneliness on the highest state of your success? Will we have friends and Love on the peak of our success and they are as happy as we are for all our achievements? We may think about these questions in the beginning of our way to own success. We may ask ourselves about it when success has been achieved, on it highest point. According the way we choose we will have the different state of the soul, happiness or unhappiness inside us on the peak of our glory and success.

Modern age is giving us a huge variety of techniques to achieve what we want and earn a lot of money. There are a lot of prayers and advices to have marriage of our dream, to have love. This is a wonderful and awful age we live in. It gives us plenty of opportunities to save this wise state of happiness. At the same time when we feel ourselves unhappy it makes possible to have every prospect of success and happiness.

So let us go ahead to the wonderful journey with the name LIFE.

With the beautiful Hope everybody of us will receive everything we desire. But only hope is nothing without Love, Faith and without YOU (your desire, your goals, your action, your friendship).

With love and faith in YOU and YOUR BEST CHOICE,

Yours,

HOPE.