From my book by Moloy

Be humble, and the world will be yours.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Sat, 30 Jan 2021 12:14:00 +0000

A great man is always willing to be little.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Why a set of specific people who are the world's great leaders? I have attended many seminars in my life. I have heard their names almost in many sessions. A few of them are Swami Vivekananda, Abraham Lincoln, Ratan Tata, Anand Mahindra, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, etc. The list

doesn't end here. I found one common factor in all of them. "The characteristic of being humble to others."

Their humble nature has made them world-famous leaders. I try to understand that how being humble is going to give me a happy and successful life?

Let's understand it. Being humble is not medicine. It's a habit that you need to develop. You need to learn and practice it.

You'll see the following benefit of being humble to others.

People would love to interact with you. They would listen to you and will implement it. This is a leadership quality.

You will never get upset upon failure because you will remember it's the preparation of success.

You will see a drastic change in you. You'll always carry a smile on your face, and it would be natural.

You'll be able to utilize your brain more effectively because there would be no tension. You will stop thinking. You'll always get support whenever you need it.

Lots of us in today's world believe in showing off, and we always carry ego in us. Ego kills everything. Have you ever seen the legendary Mr. Ratan Tata being egoistic? There are many articles published about his simplicity and humble nature. Recently he met his ex-colleagues. It never looked that a big shot visited his old colleague.

A successful person like Warren Buffet always believes in simplicity and being humble. It has given him the energy that he is still working. He is one of the gurus of the Financial Market. If he wanted, he would have lived a lavish life. He opted for a simple life and invested more in him.

Bill Gates spends a specific part of his earnings in social service. It is nothing but humbleness that has taken them to great heights. They all have invested in others and got the return.

We, on the other hand, don't believe in this. We buy a bigger car if our neighbor purchases a new car. We always feel jealous and try to show off more. It is not at all required. Remember the article of Mango and Palm Tree. I would love to live like a mango tree who will get respect everywhere. I don't want to become a Palm tree at all.

How to go about it? You can start it from your home and neighborhood effective today. Some of the activities I do daily and would encourage you to follow them.

Whenever you are stepping out from your home, don't forget to greet your parents and elders.

There is no harm if you ask the security guard that how he is doing? How's everyone doing in his family?

It won't take you down if you help an old to cross the road

You'll feel happy if you'll buy food for a poor man.

Give the seat to a senior citizen or a lady if you're traveling in the metro or local.

Always Thank God for blessing you to help others.

Call those batch mates who are not in touch with you now.

Always encourage your team or colleagues at the workplace. Don't criticize them.

These are few basics that I do, and now I feel happy for being humble to others. It helps me in focusing on my work. Even If something hurts me, I look into the positive side of it. I don't react. Being humble to others has completely changed my life.

When I can do it. Why can't you?

Remember, Be humble, and the world will be yours.

All the best!

Regards,
Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

There are two types of comparison. Which one you do?

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Fri, 29 Jan 2021 14:51:00 +0000

Comparison is the death of joy.

- Mark Twain

Since our childhood, we have gone through comparison to others on many occasions. In childhood, we got compared for academics. When we started working, we have been compared

with others basis their performance. Everywhere, we face this issue of comparison.

I would say that "Stop comparing yourself with others." We must learn to compare constructively. It will help us in increasing our confidence level to do better. Many of you will think that If I will not compare myself, how would I get to know where I stand? Where do I need to improve? You are right. But like I mentioned that we must learn to compare constructively.

Let me share a short story to give you more clarity.

There was Mr. Sharma, his wife, and their son. Ankur was a very studious boy. He always used to score highest in the class. Everything was going normal. It was his board exams. Like any other kid, Ankur had too much pressure on him. He had to score high in his board exams. Mr. Sharma made sure that everything is available at home. Ankur will be at home only doing studies. The Board exams were over. The result came out. Ankur stood 2nd in the class. It came out to be a disaster for him. He was now getting compared with other kids of his age. The pressure was so high that his parents didn't even realize that they were doing the wrong thing. One day, Ankur's mother knocked on the door as it was too late for his school. But there was no response from his end. She called his father, and both started knocking on the door. Finally, they had to call the neighbors, and they broke the door. We all were shocked to see Ankur hanging with a ceiling fan.

Medical and Police staff came. They tried to give the SOS service. Soon they declared that Ankur was dead. Police investigated the matter, and it came out that Ankur was going through pressure. Every single day, he was getting compared with others. He never got appreciation except for criticism that broke his confidence level hand he opted for this step. I would request all the parents to stop comparing their kids with other kids. Your kid is the best. Always motivate him to do things better.

If Ankur's parents have constructively compared him with his past performance, it would have been a different situation. There are two types of comparison.

Constructive Comparison
Destructive Comparison

Constructive Comparison: I would call it friendly comparison. It will have a direct impact on you but in a positive way. When I decided to lose weight, I compared myself with my past photographs. I kept on telling myself to be the same I used to be. It automatically triggered into my brain, and I joined the gym. After a month, I saw changes in myself. I compared myself to the time when I was overweight. It increased my morale, and I decided to work hard for weight loss. It is the best example of constructive comparison.

Destructive Comparison: I would call it a silent killer. It pushes you back from your current position, and you lose everything. You feel like a loser. The example of Ankur says it all.

A few points for a Constructive Comparison are:

Always remember, not all fingers have the same shape and size. But they have their specific role to perform.
There is always a chance to improve. Keep learning & Keep growing.
Stop thinking about what others say?
You can do much better because you are the powerhouse.
Very important to remember, Failure - the preparation of success.

These are the tried and tested methods. It always works.

In the end, I would say Don't go for a destructive comparison. Go for a constructive comparison, and outshine.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Decide whether you want to grow like a Mango or a Palm tree?

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Wed, 27 Jan 2021 16:17:00 +0000

"Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character."

- Albert Einstein

We often say to each other, "Don't show attitude." But what makes us think that the person has an attitude problem? Have we ever thought? We argue with our friends, family members, colleagues, but we never try to find the reason. We say that he

has an attitude problem. We may be right at times, but not always.

Attitude is not only a word. It is a reflection of our character. If we have a positive attitude, we will never compromise in any situation & we will be a person of good character. On the other hand, If we have a negative attitude, we will compromise & will diminish our character.

It's my attitude, my action that will decide my character."Give respect and earn respect."

Let me ask you a question. Would you ever take help from a person who is helpful but has a bad character? He helps with bad intentions. The answer is No. This person may be rich and wealthy, but he stands nowhere when it comes to his character.

Let me share a story of a Mango tree & a Palm tree.

In a village, there was this mango tree & the palm tree. The owner used to give water to them every day. They grew up together. The palm tree grew up tall and straight. On the other hand, the mango tree grew up and started bending a little. It happened because it spread while growing up. One day, the palm tree said to the mango tree. Look at you. You don't have self-respect. You are growing up & bending. Look at me. I'm tall and straight. People look at me always. The mango tree replied to him that I believe in being polite. I am down to earth. I am spreading because it gives shadow to the people. I make sure that people get a cool breeze and relax when they sit under me. The Palm tree said that he doesn't believe in this.

Time moved on. There was the season for fruits. The owner got occupied picking up mangoes from the mango tree. He didn't have time to look after the palm tree. More than a week passed. The mango tree was still giving fruits. On the other side, the palm tree started drying. One day the owner asked one of his laborers to pluck the fruits from the palm tree. After few days, autumn came. The palm tree was drying badly. But, The mango tree was still bushy. Villagers were still getting the benefits. One day palm tree saw few ladies plucked a few leaves and woods for some prayer at home. They reached near the palm tree and picked it dried leaves too. The palm tree said, "look at my attitude." I didn't bend for them. These ladies came and picked my dried bunch of leaves. The mango tree didn't say anything and smiled. The palm tree got the shock when he saw his bunch of leaves used as a broom to clean the home. On The leaves of the mango tree got a proper wash. The leaves are kept in a vessel carefully. After the prayer, the ladies took few rounds around the mango tree and worshiped it. The palm tree was expecting the same treatment. But it didn't happen. Now he realized that his negative attitude gave him this treatment. The mango tree has importance. That is why people worship him.

This story gives a clear message, "Be Polite and humble always. It will portray your positive attitude and a good character."

All the world's great leaders have lived like the mango tree. We respect them because of their polite and humble nature. They have been persons with a positive attitude and good character.

There is a gift for you.

Decide whether you want to grow like a Mango or a Palm tree?

All the best!

Regards

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

4 unique ways to grow yourself.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 19:03:00 +0000

Talk to yourself once a day... otherwise, you may miss meeting an excellent person in this world.
- Swami Vivekananda

Hello friends,

You must be wondering that we are already grown and mature enough to understand things. What type of growth I am talking about? How it's going to help me?

Off late, I have realized one thing in my life growth is not only limited to

become rich, become a top shot in any organization, or having a lavish life. You may get all these things if you follow the principles if you are a true leader if you utilize your brain if you know what direction you want to give to your life. There are many more qualities. However, I am talking about the overall growth of an individual. If you have mastered yourself in this, everything will follow you. By everything I mean to say a lavish lifestyle, a successful career, etc. All you need to practice these 4 unique ways that will help you to grow.

Let's see what are the 4 unique ways to grow yourself.

Self-management
Anger management
Time management
People management

Let's understand them one by one.

Self-management. This is the base of a new beginning of your life. You will be able to manage everything only if you learn how to manage yourself. Self-management is a very vast subject. If I start writing about it only, it will be a complete book. It all depends on how I portray myself in front of others. I still remember the first interview of my life. I ensured that I should be properly dressed. I should have information about the company, I should make eye contact with everyone interviewing me, etc, etc. Why I needed all this? I wanted to ensure I should be managed properly during the interview process. I cracked the interview and got the job. I would give you an overview of it. Self-management tells you

How to utilize the hidden powers?
How to invest in yourself?
How to channelize your thought process?
How to give a positive direction to your life?

In other words, self-management is finding yourself. You need to be disciplined, obedient, polite, energetic, active, happy, a problem solver, not a problem creator. People should always like your presence. They would love to be around if you have these traits. That's why self-management is important.

Anger management. We should always keep control of our anger because anger destroys everything. People don't realize the destruction they invite when they get angry. It not only destroys the work, but it also destroys your health, the relationship, the bonding of everything. Later on, we only regret it and but we do not get back anything. There is a small technique to overcome this issue. Take a deep breath and start counting in reverse order.

The best example here is Hitler, who because of his anger had to face huge defeat during the war with Russia. He was not aware of the weather condition and by the time his army troops intruded inside Russia, the weather changed completely. Hitler's army couldn't survive in the weather because they were not prepared for it. The anger of Hitler paid him back.

Time management. It's very important to give value to time. If you've read my previous article "Secrets of a True Leader - you must know." I've shared examples of few idols of India who have given value to time and got rewarded for it. Time flies faster. The best example is our life cycle. From an infant to old age we don't realize how fast time flies.

Time management will help you to meet your deadlines
to live a systematic lifestyle where you will enjoy every moment of life.
to become more productive and will keep you energetic throughout life.
to become an inspiration for others.
to portray yourself effectively in front of others.

The best example here is Dominos who does delivery in 30 mins otherwise they deliver free pizza.

People management. We can't ignore this part also. We may be perfect in all other aspects but if we are unable to handle people around us, we would never be able to survive. The success of any organization depends on its people. That's why organizations do many things for their employees. Starting from medical insurance to incentives, from recognition to celebration. Many organization celebrates the family day. Many of them even conduct talent shows, contests where they appreciate their employees.

In nutshell, if you value people around you, they will value you. Let me share one beautiful example here. Recently, it rained heavily in Gurugram. I was coming back from work and went to a departmental shop to buy a packet of milk. I didn't realize that there was a pit. My car got stuck into it. I was tensed now. I asked the shopkeeper if he can help me in getting the car out of the pit. But he didn't. I called up the manager of my society and requested him if he can send some help to the spot. Though It was not far from my home so after 5 mins, I saw the Gardner (Mewalal) and the Security guard (Hiralal) came there to help me. We three took out the car from the pit and came back home.

Why the manager helped me and why did they come as it was heavily raining. It's just because of the reason that I follow the simple principle, Give respect and earn respect. I never forget to greet them whenever I go and step inside my society. I talk to them and appreciate their work too. Sometimes, I buy them some snacks if I am getting them for me. I don't do it out of any selfishness. I do it because I love doing it.

This is people management. If you'll care for your people they will care for you.

I hope now you would have got clarity about the 4 unique ways to grow yourself.

All the best!

Regards,
Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

How to overcome fear quickly.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Sun, 24 Jan 2021 18:53:00 +0000

What fear! Whom to fear! Steel your hearts and set yourselves to work!

- Swami Vivekananda

I have come across many people in my life who regret some step is not taken by them in the past. They say that they didn't take the step because of fear. They regret it because now they think if the step would have taken at that time, the situation would not be

worst. I advise them to forget about the past and move ahead because what is gone is the past now. It will not come back. But they can fix their present to have a better future. Many of us have done this in their life because of some reason in the past. We often say I couldn't do it because of the circumstance, because of the time, etc, etc. I have also done it in the past and paid for it but then I promised myself that when I can enjoy my happy moments of life why can't I enjoy the bad time too. We enjoy our happiness to the full but when our bad time comes, we lose all hopes and give up quickly.

Few people let fear rule them so badly that they end their life without realizing that what will happen to the rest of the family. It's really bad. I have a habit of breaking down things into smaller parts to get the best out of them. I invented this meaning of fear which is:

F - Face

E - Every

A - Awkward moment

R - Responsibly

I will describe them briefly. To make it more clear, I will share a story with you all. Please read it because it will give you a better understanding to overcome fear.

There is one friend of mine who was working in a big MNC in a very good position. In the last year 2020, his company got into a huge loss because of Covid-19, and many employees were asked to leave. He was doing good. But suddenly, the bad time knocked at his door. He lost his job. Now initially, he was fine as he thought things will become normal. But it didn't work. The month passed and there was no job for him in the market. He started getting depressed. A multi-talented person was dead now. He lost all the hopes and become frustrated. He was applying for all types of jobs and was ready to compromise on his salary and designation too. But unfortunately, nothing was working in a positive direction. He got scared more when he got to know that his father's health is not going well as he was an aged person. His wife was working but with one person's salary, things were not going smooth. He decided to commit suicide also once but then realized that it will be a foolish step in his life. One day he was talking to me over the phone. He cried like a kid and I got the hint that things are not going in the right direction. From my experience, I decided to take him out of this situation.

I am not beating my own trumpet here, but as a true friend, I moved further. I called him to meet me. He came to meet me. I was shocked to see his condition. He was looking so sick that was beyond my expectation. All he kept on saying I don't know why God is upset with me? Why me? Why me? It was a simple question that is this the end of his life? How many times he has remembered God when he enjoyed or celebrated his success. He was speechless now. I told him to tell me what he does the entire day since he has been staying at home. He replied that he cooks, he drives to pick and drop her wife from her office. He does gardening and he plays guitar but that can't help him. I told him that pick up one task that he can do without any hassle. He said cooking. I asked him to relax now. He gave me a strange look as if he was laughing at me thinking that what type of person is Moloy?

Then I explained to him that nothing is permanent. Your good time came and you enjoyed it to the fullest. Now it's your bad time. So enjoy it. Face it. He couldn't understand it in the first go but then he understood when I gave him a way out. I told him to convert his passion for cooking into a business. He was not getting any clue. I told him that he is applying for jobs regularly but nothing is happening. Get involved in some activity and try to find out ways to get income from it. I advised him to start cooking. Many people are unable to go out and eat. It will help them out and he will get a business opportunity. Lastly, I told him if you'll let fear overpower him, it will for sure, and things will become more worst for him. He went back to his home and called me the next day asking that how he should start it. I told him the ways to promote his business and start at a small level which he can handle without any issue. Also, I told him to ignore other's comments that will come his way for sure. He started and got a small amount in a week with his extensive promotion on social media and VOC (Voice of the customer). He called me and said he would have to do more. I told him that he has all the time to do it as he is not working anywhere. Instead, he is working on his own now.

Believe me, friends I was really happy after listening to a happy person. He worked hard and soon he got a job also. But he continued with his business also as he hired a guy who was looking for a job. I met him last month only when he asked me how come he never knew it which I asked him to do.

I gave him the reason for it. I said he got so scared with this situation that he couldn't handle this bad phase with responsibility.

There is a famous dialogue from the super hit movie Sholay and the meaning says "You are dead if you are scared."

Yes, my friends, we face all good times and we take responsibility for it too. But we fall back the moment something bad happens to us. We lose hopes and we stop trying because we become restless. But we forget that Fear itself says, Face every awkward moment responsibly. We should never forget that Sun will rise again tomorrow. If there is a day in India there would be night in some other country.

Everything has two sides to it. Even the coin has a head and tail. The same applies to our life. Fear is just a word. If you'll break it down you will come out of it soon. If not, then you'll never, and later you'll regret that wish I would do that.

I am not God and I don't have any supernatural powers to change the thing in a fraction of a second. I need to accept the truth. In our bad times, we should accept that the bad time is there. Having said that doesn't mean we'll give up. We should also enjoy this moment but we should be responsible enough to find out ways to overcome this phase. This is where fear comes that what will happen tomorrow? How would I survive? How would things go? If we Face every awkward moment responsibly, believe me, we would come out of it easy.

So next time, if you ever surrounded by a bad phase and you have the fear that what will happen next, always remember

"Fear itself says you will overcome me only if you Face Every Awkward moment Responsibly."

All the best!

Regards,
Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

How to achieve your goal with 3D formula

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Sat, 23 Jan 2021 19:11:00 +0000

You can't cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water.

- Rabindranath Tagore

Truly said by Rabindranath Tagore. If we want to do something in our life, we need to act on it. We need to first believe in our self that "Yes, I will do it." There is nothing impossible in this world. Most of us know impossible itself

says "I M Possible."

We have heard a lot about 3D pictures, 3D animations, etc. But l found a different version of 3D basis my achievements in life. I learned it from my success and gave it the name "3D formula". I'm very excited to share it with you all because, by the end of the article, you'll be charged up to implement this formula in your life. The 3D formula contains 3 D's which are:

Dream to achieve
Desire to full fill
Defeat your fear

I will make you understand the importance of this valuable 3D formula with the help of this story.

On 23rd January 1897, a boy took birth in Cuttack (Orissa) in a renowned family. His father was a successful lawyer in Cuttack and had the title of "Rai Bahadur." His mother was a homemaker. The kid grew up with his siblings completed his schooling. Since childhood, he had a habit of asking questions. He used to see poor people dying, getting tortured by officials. He always used to ask questions related to it. When he was 16 yrs, he got influenced by the teachings of Swami Vivekananda and Shri Ramakrishna as he used to read their books a lot. He was sent abroad to prepare for his Indian Civil Service. He cleared his exam in 1920. By this time, he witnessed the pain of a common Indian. He decided to resign his candidacy in 1921. He was bashed by his father for not opting for the job. But he was a man of his principles. He already decided that he would serve his country and will set its nation free from slavery.

It was none other than the founder of Azad Hind Fauz, The legend, The Hero of India, The true son of India "Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose."

During the freedom fight, he joined INC (Indian National Congress) and worked closely with

Chittaranjan Das became his political guru. Soon he realized that his thinking was not matching with the rest of the people as he always said, "Freedom is not given, it is taken." By this time, he had a clear goal in his mind. The goal to get the freedom of India. It was not only his dream rather it was the dream of all the freedom fighters.

He had an aggressive approach that was not in sync with other people in INC. Netaji realized it very soon because of some internal differences.

He formed Azad Hind Fauz later. He was so passionate about his dream that he kept on working to full fill his desire for India's independence. Whether people used to think and he made it happen. There was no fear. He was fearless. His dream came true when India got freedom.

What a great man he was. He was indeed a Hero and He will always be a Hero of India. This article will be very short if I will describe him. But I'll share another powerful quote from Netaji.

One individual may die for an idea, but that idea will, after his death, incarnate itself in a thousand lives.

- Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose

From this brief short story, the learning we get is that everything is possible. If you're true to yourself. If you believe in 3D's.

Dream to achieve
Desire to full fill
Defeat your fear

Let's discuss them in detail.

Dream to achieve. You need to first dream about your goal and start living your dream. It's very important. If you're not able to take the first move then you are not worth it. You need to act now.

Desire to full fill. Once you start dreaming about your goal you should have the desire to full fill it. No matter whatever is the situation, don't stop. Keep on moving. People may criticize you, people may leave you but keep working hard towards your goal. Believe me, you'll get what you dreamed and desired?

There is a famous song by Rabindranath Tagore which fits here. The song is, "Jodi tor dak sune kyu naa ashe tobe ekla cholo re". It means that if no one responds to your call then walk alone.

Defeat your fear. Don't worry about the fear of failure. If you have the desire to full fill your dream and you are focused, fear will automatically accept its defeat and victory will take you to your destination.

I will not ask you that if you are ready for it. You need to apply this 3D formula in yourself if you want to achieve your goal.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Secrets of a True Leader - you must know.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Fri, 22 Jan 2021 17:59:00 +0000

In today's topic, I'll be sharing the secret of a true leader. I will be sharing few traits of a leader that makes him a true leader. The term leader itself says a person who has a dynamic quality of inspiring others and works towards the

achievement of the goal.

A leader is not born with powers. Then what makes him different than others? Why we follow him and would always love to be like him. Let's try to understand it with the help of a simple story.

Way back, there was a kid born in Rameswaram on 15th Oct'1931 into a Tamil Muslim family in Tamil Nadu. He came from a humble background. His father was a boat owner and his mother was a housewife. To support his father, he used to distribute newspapers after his school completion. He started to earn from his childhood. He was very for studying. He kept working hard for it. After his school, he became a graduate in physics in 1955 from Saint Joseph's College. After his graduation, he moved to Madras (now known as Chennai) for his further studies. No one knew that this small kid will grow so big with his dedication and leadership quality that one day he will become an inspiration for many.

He started his career as a scientist. He never deviated from his goal. He has always worked on basic principles. He, later on, got famous with the name "The Missile Man of India". Further in the year 2002, he was elected as the President of India. Yes, you got it right.

I'm talking about "Late. Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam" who made our nation proud in the world and to date people take inspiration from his life.

His main quality was that he never gave up and worked harder towards his goal. He never compromised with the situation. He sticks to his principles and kept on moving towards his destiny and finally got success.

A famous quote of him

A dream is not that which you see while sleeping, it is something that does not let you sleep.

- Late. Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam

Another leader, born in a Gujrati family moved to Yemen when he was just 16 years. He was new in that place. He started working as a clerk in A. Besse & Co. But he was very ambitious. He always thought big. After spending many years in Yemen, he came back to India and started his own company with a small amount of Rs. 15000/-. He was so passionate about the work that he worked hard to take his company to new heights. Slowly and gradually, he improved and opened his first textile mill at Naroda, near Ahmedabad, and launched the brand Vimal. Later on, he invested in petrochemicals and other sectors like telecommunications, Information Technology, Retail, Energy, Logistics, and Capital Markets.

Yes, my friends, I'm talking about Shri Dhirajlal Hirachand Ambani known as Dhirubhai Ambani the founder of Reliance Commercial Corporation.

He never wasted time thinking too much. He gave value to time and got rewarded for it. He had a clear vision in his mind. He was a risk-taker and always took the risk. He has a famous quote where he said,

You can learn the most from the risks you take.

- Dhirubhai Ambani

Another person, who is still full of energy and energy is an inspiration for many. Born in Mumbai on 28th December 1937. He was born into a rich family. Unfortunately, he had a disturbing childhood after his parents split. He was raised by his grandmother. He went to Cornell University to study architecture and structural engineering. Later he pursued a management course from Harvard University.

In the year 1962, he got a chance to work with the Tata Steel division in Jamshedpur, where he worked with the blue-collar employees shoveling stone and working with the furnaces. Later, he was appointed as the Director-in-charge of the National Radio & Electronics Company Limited (Nelco) in 1971 and was successful in turning Nelco around.

He is none other than Ratan Tata, who is a true leader. He was a quick decision-maker. One inspirational quote of his life is:

I don’t believe in taking the right decisions. I take decisions and then make them right.

- Ratan Tata

Now, let me tell you the secret of these great leaders which we all should know only if we want to become successful and want to become a leader for others.

Don't give up.
Follow principles of ethics.
Stop thinking too much.
Take risk.
Take decisions real quick.
Value the time.
Work towards your goal.

I wouldn't discuss them in detail because the above-mentioned points are self-explanatory.

Don't wait. Time is running faster than you.

Decide whether you want to be part of the crowd or want to take a lead?

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Keep learning and keep growing in life.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Thu, 21 Jan 2021 17:48:00 +0000

Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.

- Henry Ford

Someone rightly said once that there's no age of learning. We can start learning at any given point in time. Every day we learn something new. It depends on whether we want to take benefit from this learning or not.

Many of us think that it is easy to give a lecture to others but when it comes to implementing the same on themselves they do give up. But I would

have a different opinion on it. If I don't know one specific subject, I will never give any comment on it. I will always have a fear of getting embarrassed. This behavior will reflect in those people also who love to give a lecture to others but their personal life is screwed up.

Once we get into a habit of learning new things, we build our interest in it. We start implementing the learning in our life and our life goes through a complete makeover. Always remember that "An empty mind is a devil" s den." Hence it is imperative to keep our minds busy in some activity. Keep it busy with learning new things. Use your brain as it's an amazing storage device.

I have seen many people around me who are in their 80's but still active. They are working on something on the other hand. I know about this person Mr. Banerjee who is staying alone as his wife passed away 5 years back. He is of 80 years. He gets a pension every month. He initially thought to stay with his son but then he didn't. He has his own home. He has a tenant. But he was still missing something. He thought of learning something. He opted to learn gardening. He studied, learned a lot about gardening. All required information related to gardening gave him very good exposure. He used that learning as a tool and started his small nursery. He started it on a small scale but now he has a huge nursery. People from the neighborhood take his advice related to gardening or does purchase his nursery. He grew up with his learning and gave a new direction to his life.

Unfortunately, we tend to learn the bad things quickly. We learn the shortcut methods quickly because we want to be successful quickly at any cost. Just think, if we are asked to go to war and fire a launcher, will we be able to do it? I will not for sure. Rather, I will injure myself. The reason is that I didn't learn how to operate a launcher.

Sometimes, we also take a back step thinking that what others will say? I would simply advise you to ignore others. People who will criticize you now will talk about your success tomorrow. They'll appraise you once you'll grow in life.

We all know the legendary Bollywood actor Shri. Amitabh Bachchan. He had a passion for acting. Like other actors, he also did a huge struggle. He was rejected from a radio channel because of his voice. People made fun of his voice. But he kept on learning and improving his skills and today people are a big fan of his voice and him.

Another example is our Missile man "Lt. Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam." He came from a poor family. He always used to learn things from others. This passion took him to that place that today he is idle for many. I would love to share one quote from him.

Learning gives creativity, creativity leads to thinking, thinking provides knowledge, and knowledge makes you great.

- Late. Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam

Let's go back to our childhood. Remember, when we first read the poem in front of our relatives and family friends. We got appreciation. It was a way moment for us. We were thrilled by this appreciation. We learned many new poems also.

So, my friends if you have the ambition to grow higher in your life, don't stop yourself from learning. Always be eager to learn new things. Try to use that learning in your life and you'll grow. If you fail, don't worry because it's just the preparation for your success. Keep doing it. I'm sure we all know about Thomas Edison. He failed numerous times but he kept learning and improved and finally, he invented the light bulb (in particular the incandescent light bulb). If he would have given up, he would have been another person in the crowd.

Learning can be done in many ways.

We can learn from our mothers (the homemaker) about management. They are the real managers who work 24/7 365 days a year. If she feels sick, our life cycle stops in some way.

We can learn from animals about being focus when they hunt for prey. They don't think about anything else. They focus on their goal.

We can learn from kids about creativity. They are very creative.

We can learn meditation as it will improve our health.

All this learning will help us to grow in our life. This life itself is great learning. We should not miss this lifetime opportunity. We should always learn.

So, are you ready to learn now? I'm sure you'll because you don't want to become looser. I know you want to win and go higher and higher.

Keep learning and keep growing in life.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

((To read in Hindi, click here)

Act now for a better tomorrow.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Wed, 20 Jan 2021 17:40:00 +0000

You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.

- Abraham Lincoln

I remember this statement of my mother. She used to tell me during my school days, "Read today so that you'll do better in your exams tomorrow." Being a kid I used to study and understand the curriculum. I used to get good results. But with time, I understood the meaning behind

this statement.

Why all of don't become successful? Why all of us don't become rich? Why all of us don't have a luxurious life? The answer is we didn't take the risk. We didn't show courage today. We worked but thinking about tomorrow. When we leave things on tomorrow we fail.

Remember, Time is precious. You give value to it and it will reward you back. Let me share one incident of my life. When I started working, I have never thought about my future. I never thought that what will happen tomorrow? In other words, I used to live my life king size. Shopping, parties, etc. used to be my agenda. End of the month, I used to start thinking about what would happen tomorrow as I'm running out of money. There are few days left for the month to get over. I always used to plan that next month, I'll start saving. However, upon receiving my salary, I used to go back to the same track. Time was moving like this only.

The first setback came to my life when I lost my job due to the process ramp down. Then I realized the importance of saving. Instead of postponing the saving for the next day, if I would have taken the first step towards saving I would not have been in a situation like this.

This is not only my story. Many of you reading this article would co-relate it to yourself. Excellent! I am not asking you to avoid going to parties, shopping, etc. Do it but reduce the frequency. Allocate some budget of your salary for investments. For example Health insurance, recurring deposits, etc. It will always help you tomorrow.

What we do generally that we always think. We plan. However, we tend to postpone it for the next day and that next day never comes. Bitter but it's a truth. Let me give you an example of a small investment from my life. The apartment I stay charges for quarterly maintenance. I know my monthly expenses. Still, I make sure that I save the amount separately so that I would not get an extra burden on me each quarter. I do a recurring deposit and I add money accordingly. This helps me to run the house smoothly without any hassle.

Let's take another example from the year 2020. This year has given setbacks to many of us. There is one friend of mine who lost his job during Covid-19. Initially, for 3 months, he was fine as he had some savings. But soon he realized that he needs to take a call for his better future as he had a family to take care of. He had a hobby of cooking.

He stopped thinking further and decided to take one more step and started his small kitchen outlet. His wife started helping him too. He used social media platforms to promote his business and tied up with swiggy, zomato, etc. Soon, he started getting a response. In today's time, he has opened his food counter and earning more than what he used to earn while working.

All this happened because he acted on what he thought. He didn't postpone it. This is what I want all of you to do. If you want to grow in your life, don't postpone things for tomorrow because you can't predict tomorrow.

In my previous article, I gave an example of a group of ants. They go together in a row and collect the food before the rainy season. They act today so that they would have ample storage of food during rain.

The biggest examples are our homemakers. The lady of our home. A housewife is always aware of the household things and she ensures that everything should be in place specifically the kitchen so that her family should not face any issue with food in the future. It's not a small thing. It's a very important task.

How many of us plan for outstation holidays? Maybe an abroad trip or a week trip to some hill station or anywhere. I guess most of us do. Now, what's the next step we do? We plan and place our leave requests if both (husband and wife) are working. Then we do all the research and calculate the budget and tickets etc. The next step we do is to finalize it and then add money for it and finally, we go and enjoy the vacation with our beloved ones.

Simply, we thought and we acted. Now when we can act on these tasks, why can't we act for our better future? No one can hold us back if we have decided to move ahead. If we will live in a dilemma, then we'll never be able to proceed.

Believe me, friends, if you'll look around you'll get many examples from your surrounding, your own life where knowingly or unknowingly you've acted to enjoy your tomorrow. In the end, it's your life. It's your future. It all depends on your action.

Your action will decide your tomorrow. In the end, I would conclude by saying that

"Act now for better tomorrow!"

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Are you a leader or follower?

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Tue, 19 Jan 2021 17:08:00 +0000

A leader is one who knows how to obey commands before knowing how to command. Learn obedience first.

- Swami Vivekananda

What an inspirational statement was given by Swami Vivekananda. Undoubtedly, he is one of the world's greatest leaders who still motivates lots of people. Each one of us in our life must have considered one special person as an inspiration

for them. The person could be anyone. Your friend, your relative, your boss, your mother, your father, etc. Why do we consider them as our idols and follow them blindly? Why do we feel energetic when we are in their company? Why? Why?

The answer to this why is because those people have some leadership qualities in them which attracts us and we feel blessed when we are in their company. They keep telling us the secret of their success. They motivate us a lot. They channelize the energy in our body. We enjoy working with them. We get addicted to them because of the aura created by them.

Swami Vivekananda's real name was Narendra Nath Dutta. He belonged to a very rich and wealthy family. He never used to believe in God. One day, Accidently, he met Shri Ramakrishna Paramhansa who was a priest in Dakshineshwar, Kali Bari in Kolkata. A simple man for whom, Goddess Kali was not a God. She was her mother. He used to talk to her a lot and used to get a response from her. Narendra Nath never believed in it. So, once he decided to visit Ramakrishna and tried to find out if he fake or real? Narendra Nath was thirsty and starving badly. The first thing he got to hear from Ramkrishna was "Come. I was waiting for you. I knew you will come today. Take your sit. Let me give you water and sweet. I know you are thirsty and hungry too." Though it was a very small incident, Narendra Nath was surprised that how come this person knew that I was coming to meet him and I am thirsty and hungry too. This incident developed the curiosity of Narendra Nath to more about Ramakrishna. The person who was not a believer of God has now started going to meet Ramakrishna daily. His curiosity increased day by day. Finally, the day came when he got the answer from Shri Ramakrishna and that was the day for the birth of Swami Vivekananda. Swamiji became his disciple and spread the knowledge he gained from Shri Ramakrishna.

Shri Ramakrishna has the aura and the leadership quality that attracted Swami Vivekananda towards him. The same qualities were transferred to Swami Vivekananda who later became the world's greatest leader.

It was 11th September 1893 when Swami Vivekananda went to attend The World's Parliament of Religions in Chicago. It was a huge place now known as the Art Institute of Chicago. He gave his first lecture on that day. Though he was a newcomer so his turn came towards the afternoon. He closed his eyes and bowed to the goddess of learning Saraswati. He felt more energetic. He felt the voice of all Indians including his guru Ramakrishna. He started his speech by saying "Sisters and Brothers of America!" To those opening words of his speech, there was a standing ovation given which lasted for 2 minutes. Then he started his speech and people silently heard it and were impressed by him. He became a true leader and many of us are following his footprints. His lessons are valuable and life-changing.

The above-mentioned story is real. But why I've shared it with you. The reason for sharing the story is simple. Swami Vivekananda first followed his guru Ramakrishna and once he got permission from him he traveled the entire world to share the teachings of his guru. He now became the leader and many people followed him and his footprints.

Always believe in Karma. If you will not do your Karma, you'll not get anything. We often want to become like someone. But have we ever thought that what should we do that others will love to be like us?

An example from today's world. A boss and his team. Whatever the boss will say the team will do. But hardly one person in his time will have the courage to raise a concern in case the boss is wrong. The boss may or may not like it. But this person raising the concern has a good quality than others in the team. Later, we see that this person gets a promotion, and people who used to follow the boss blindly don't get anything.

Why did this happen? The boss himself was not a true leader. He has always taken shortcuts and wants everyone to follow the same. He simply used to give orders and the team members used to take the orders like waiters working in a restaurant. On the other hand, the guy who raised a concern had a different quality. He was worried about the entire team and wanted to make their life easy. That's when he raised a concern.

A true leader will always do the things first to check where we need to pay more attention. Only then, he will create a path for his entire team showing them the way to complete the task. Have you ever seen a group of ants? They just moved together following each other. The first person is the leader who leads and stops in case of any danger and the message travels very fast. What the first one is doing here? He is creating the path so that others can follow it. On the other hand, the remaining ants will do as per the command. Now let's imagine that there is no leader in this group. Do you think that these ants will ever be able to collect food? Will they be able to sense danger? The answer is No.

The followers will collapse because they never opened their minds to think big as the first ant.

Similarly, in our lives, if we would always follow others we'll be a follower throughout the life. We will never witness the challenges come in taking the risk? We will be unaware of many factors and we will be doomed this way. Everywhere, we'll be dependent on someone. We will never be able to take a single step ever. Being a follower increases your dependency on others. You will lose all courage. On the other side, if you will be a leader, you'll not be dependent on anyone because you will be aware of your task. Your leadership quality will make you successful in your life. This quality will take you further. You'll always have a broader perspective for life in comparison to a follower.

We need to ask ourselves that are we a leader or a follower? There are many examples in the world. I read this small story about Bill Gates's childhood. Once, they were supposed to write about their dreams in the class. Everyone finished within time. Bill Gates was still writing.

His teacher asked him to return the paper and he replied he can't because his list is big. Indeed it was that's why he has become such a huge name today. All this happened because he worked on the principles. He used his power of thinking, focused on his goal.

A true leader will always stand with his followers and will always allow them to grow further. This is because he will grow if his team members will grow. He will always there to hold your hands where ever you'll go wrong.

Let me tell you the basic difference between Leader and Follower.

Leader - always leads the entire race of life.

Follower - always follows the entire race of life.

Now, stop thinking. Go and in front of a mirror looking at you and ask this question to yourself, "Are you a leader or a follower?" Whatever you do every day, does it has a leadership quality and you simply follow what you've been asked to follow. You'll get the answer.

A true leader will always create a path so that others can follow the footprints.

I would leave you guys here with this question,

"Are you a leader or follower?"

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

The power of thinking.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Mon, 18 Jan 2021 10:36:00 +0000

Believe Big. The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements.

- David J. Schwartz

It's a true quotation used by David J. Schwartz. Unless we will not think we'll not be able to do anything in life. Think and act before it's too late. We often look into other's progress and compliment them. But somewhere

inside us, we are not happy because we are not like them. We often ask ourselves I wish I could have taken the right decision? Later we curse the time and compromise according to the situation. Let me ask you one thing, "Is there a specific time to start our journey for success?"

Let me tell you one thing that there is no specific time or right time to start a right thing. We delay it because of too much thinking. If you want to become successful in life, if you want to grow bigger then don't think just act on it. You have already taken the first step by thinking about your dream. Now take the next step by creating the plan for it. Thinking will only help you if you want to do better in life. It will help you discover new ways to reach your goal.

Why do we need to think twice or thrice about our decision? Too much time on thinking shows that you are not confident about yourself. You are not capable to take the risk. My friends, use the power of thinking in a better way. I never used to believe in these flowery statements. But as I always say that I write these articles from the real instances of my life. I used to be a person who used to think too much. I used to dream a lot. In other words, I was a daydreamer. I used to imagine and think a lot but never used to focus on one goal. I was abruptly using the power of thinking. Sometimes, I used to think I should make my career in singing, sometimes in acting, sometimes in the cooking business, sometimes becoming rich, etc, etc. But I couldn't achieve a single one. Do you want to know why?

Let's break the ice. If I take too many things on my plate while eating at a party, will I be able to enjoy the taste of all the food? No, not at all. Because all food will get mixed up and flavors will be mixed too. On the other hand, if I eat one item at a time I will enjoy the taste of all food items and the food will not go to waste.

Here's another example from our day-to-day life. Can we expect a working woman to be an expert on all front like cooking, managing the home, managing kids everything? No. She is also a human being. She can be good but not perfect in everything. She will be perfect in 1-2 things.

If we think about too many things at a time our brain will get exhausted and will be completely confused. Our thinking power will not be able to send an exact message to our brain as It will be confused too. Now logically if we have too many things we will never be able to prioritize and the universe will also get confused. You may ask now from where Universe came into the picture?

There is a famous phrase if you think about one specific thing day n night, there will be a few unseen forces or vibes that will slowly and gradually start working for you. You will see the clear road to reach your destination because you have been thinking about your destiny day and night and were working towards it.

Nowadays buying a car is not a big deal. You go to a showroom finalize the car and take it as there is a bank finance facility available. When I bought my first car I just decided that I want to buy a car. I have been dreaming about it for a long time. I used to go to the showrooms to inquire about cars of my price range. Believe it or not, but within a week I took the delivery of my car. It was December 2012, I went with my mother to take the delivery. I was so crazy about it that I learned to drive with my friends in advance so that I would drive it back home. That is when I realized the power of thinking.

Let's understand the entire process of it. When we think about our dream we need to ensure that we start living our dream every time. It doesn't mean that we should forget other tasks. If we want to become rich start thinking like rich people. Start behaving like them. Every day just keep telling you that you have achieved your dream and you are rich and growing every day. Slowly you will see the change in you. You will see new ways are opening for you to become rich. Why will it happen? The answer is because you have started living your dream.

The day you'll start living your dream no one will be able to stop you to become successful.

Let's do a small exercise to witness the power of thinking. Are you guys ready for it?

Great. Let's do it then.

The first step, write one thing that you want to achieve within a month on a sticky note. Let's assume that I want to work on my appearance. I want to groom my outlook in terms of dressing, in terms of carrying myself at work, etc.
The second step, make many copies of it and paste them in places or stuff you use most. For example, your wallet, your cupboard, your washroom, your kitchen.
The third step, prepare a plan of dos and don'ts for it. For example, you'll stop eating oily stuff and will start eating fruits that will bring a glow on your face and improve your health too.
The fourth step, start thinking and feeling that you've achieved this level. There has been a huge change in your appearance and people are complimenting you.

The last step is important because if you will not believe in yourself this remedy won't work.

Additionally, you need to follow the to-do list every day that you created in the third step.

This is very important. I can assure you that you'll see the change.

Let me tell you the logic and science behind it. When we start thinking about one particular thing day and night, our brain sends the message to all parts of the body. You know that brain controls the entire body. The brain has two parts conscious and sub-conscious. This message will be stored in our brain we will keep getting the reminder every moment because we've pasted the copies everywhere. It means, that we will be more conscious now. We'll start looking at ourselves regarding our appearance. We may start spending some amount on us by purchasing a good dress, by visiting a stylist hairdresser. You see, things will start making their way and you'll start valuing it.

Now tell me, do you think you'll fail? You will not be able to achieve your dream. I can bet on it, you'll.

When I decided to start my blog, I thought what would I write? I always wanted to write something on my own. I could have created a blog for writing reviews about products, places, etc. But I opted for this because I want to become a writer. I'm leaving this dream every day that you all are reading my articles every day and wait for my next article. I have become a part of your life. You always wait to check my posts on social media like Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, etc to see what new has been posted by me. This gives me an instinct that if I'll not write anything today you all will miss something.

All my articles are new, different than the previous one. As a writer, motivator, a blogger I need to think to open my mind. I need to re-collect all my memories and then I will be able to write an article for you which you will be able to relate to your own life.

If I would not have thought about it, I would have never got the idea about starting my blog. I started with one but now, I've 3 blogs in total. One where I write Hindi articles, one where I post daily quotes again my creation. All this is happening because I have started living my dream. I don't think that I will. I think I'm already there.

I hope you'll find this article very interesting and will follow the steps I've asked you to follow.

Because

Always think big. Then only you will become big.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

The Brain - An amazing storage device.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Sat, 16 Jan 2021 13:26:00 +0000

Stay away from negative people. They always have a problem for every solution.

- Albert Einstein

During our primary computer education, we've learned a term called "Garbage in Garbage out." This means that if we will put irrelevant data we'll get irrelevant output from the computer. Our brain is also a computer. Rather I would say it works faster than a computer. It can store too much data. If the brain wants, it can be a

creator or it can become a destructor.

Today, I will be discussing the importance of using it effectively. We'll be discussing some ancient methods that control our brain and make it work according to us. It's going to be a very interesting article today. Let's start it without any delay then. According to me, the full form of the Brain is

B - Bring

R - Relevant

A - Actions

I - In your

N - Nature

I think it's right. What we learn and store in our brain that's what we deliver. That' what reflects in our nature and behavior too.

The brain is an amazing storage device that comes pre-installed in us from the day we opened our eyes in this world full of surprises. It doesn't require any boot. Always on to store things in it and there is no limit when it comes to storage capacity. But how many of us use it to the maximum?

Many of us believe that we use only 10% of our brain. But the latest research shows that the brain is always active even when we are sleeping. See, what a tool we have with us. Recently, we've seen the biggest example in 2020. On one side, the Covid virus got spread across the globe and this virus was invented or made by using the brain. On the other side, the vaccine to target the impact of this virus was also invented by using the brain.

What I'm trying to explain here is that we can use our brains for both good and bad things. It's you who decide how to use your brain? I still remember this funny incident. During my childhood when I used to learn my school work, I used to hear this often from my teachers. Use your brain. My Science teacher used to say, use some grey matter (due to the actual appearance of the human brain.) We used to struggle a lot for understanding the concepts, topics. Few of my batch mates were extraordinary. I was an average guy. I used to learn it slowly.

Like all the five fingers are not of the same shape and size. The same theory applies here. Few are fast learners and few are slow learners. The main idea is to use your brain always. Keep it active and you'll see wonders.

Let's take an example of a dog. An adorable pet. But have you ever seen that they have a strong reflex action? At their scheduled time, they will start moving to give you a hint that they are hungry now. They need to eat. They need to go out now. How come? All because of the amazing storage device that we all have. The activities are stored in his brain and this gives a trigger every day to the dog to ask for food or walk.

On the other hand, a wild animal like a wolf will also use the brain, but in killing other animals for its survival. They also use brain to hunt the prey. So, everyone uses the brain in different ways.

But what about us? How human being uses brain? If I talk about myself. I am writing these articles every day for you. I can use my brain to write these articles from the learning and memories I've stored in my brain for the last 40 years. The brain stores everything.

We store bad memories also but never let your bad memories overpower you. What you think will be delivered by you. That's why I always say it to my colleagues and students during a guest lecture that "Stop Thinking." Do it. Keep your brain active. Keep yourself busy.

Now the most critical part is how to control your brain? How can we refrain ourselves from the negative factor that will make our brain strong? Negative things are just like viruses that will spoil your storage device. Let's understand a few tried and tested techniques to fix this issue.

Please note that all these methods are tried, tested, and scientifically proven. It would not require any equipment. Let's understand them one by one.

Do brain massage every day.
Increase your focal strength.
Start and end every day with positive thoughts.

Do brain massage every day. Every day make sure that you do meditate. The purest form is Yoga. Do it for 15 to 30 mins. Make it a mandate that you will do it without fail as it doesn't require you to go out from your home. You can start your day with this.

I am sure that you will say No to it. But even if you are not ready for it, I'll give you another alternative. All of us have smartphones nowadays loaded with so many applications. Listen to a good spiritual audio every morning. Listen to your favorite romantic song. If yet you are unable to do it, then water plants in your garden.

No excuses. You can do one out of these activities to start your day.

Increase your focal strength. This is again a simple method that will help your brain to be in your control. You need to perform a very simple activity. We all have candles at home. Sit in a place where you won't have a disturbance. Light the candle and try to focus on its flame. Keep trying. Initially, you'll see the disturbance in the flame. But slowly it will be stable. During this time, just think about the flame. Nothing else. There would be many things coming to your mind. Ignore them and remain focused. You'll be able to see the different layers of color in the flame.

Another technique is to close your eyes and think about the best moment of your life. Just think about that only. Try to visualize the incident in front of you. You'll always see other things coming into your mind but don't let them in.

I don't say you'll be able to master it overnight but stay focused on your goal and you will do it for sure.

Start and end every day with positive thoughts. Remember the word GIGO (Garbage in Garbage out). This is the same thing that we need to do every day. Start your day on a positive note. Greet yourself and everyone. I'm feeling great and I'll do better than yesterday. This is the first thing you say to yourself every day when you wake up.

You will see that you were full of energy throughout the day. It will give you a wonderful tool called Smile - The magic creator.

Now, before going to bed close your eyes, take a deep breath, and thank God for being with you throughout the day and blessed you with a wonderful day. How much time does it take? Just 5 mins. I am sure that out of 24 hours where we spend hours on non-productive works also we can take out 5 mins to thank God.

Believe me, friends, if you'll start following these 3 simple techniques you'll see the difference in you. You'll see the new version of yours. People will start telling you about the change. Who doesn't want to have a make-over?

If you are game for it, don't wait. Go for it right now because

Your brain is an amazing storage device. Don't make it a garbage bag.

- Moloy

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Become an honest investor.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Fri, 15 Jan 2021 18:01:00 +0000

Go & invest in yourself. Don't think about doing it.

Investment is one topic that you all have heard from many management gurus. You google the word investment and you'll get to see many articles, videos on investment but most of them are related to the investment of money to double it. You'll get rare videos or articles related to investment

in yourself.

Don't worry. I'm here to discuss this topic of investing in yourself. There is a phrase, "Good mind, good health leads to a good life." I completely agree with it and I am sure that you all will agree to this. What If I don't have a healthy mind and health. All the money that I've earned will be of no use & will be used for my treatment. I would like to share one true incident from my own life.

If you guys have checked my profile, I've mentioned briefly about me. I have worked in BPO Industry for a very long time. The main requirement in the BPO industry is flexibility with working hours as most of them run 24/7. I used to work mostly in night shift. There was no specific time for it. One month I used to do morning, then afternoon, evening, night and late night too. Changes in shift timings have to lead to a change in my lifestyle, my eating habits, and my sleeping pattern too. After working for long hours I used to have no energy left in me for cooking and having my food on time. Days passed. I was losing weight. But soon I realized that I am developing a problem of low hemoglobin count. One day, I fall sick, and later on, I consulted a doctor. He gave me a huge prescription for getting some tests done and a re-visit. I got the shocking reports. I was asked to take medicines and proper food. Now, whatever I have earned went on my treatment. So, I decided that going from here, I will never compromise on my health at all. Slowly I recovered and was back on track. I don't blame my industry and my job for this. It was me who created the problem.

Similarly, a successful person makes sure that he always has good and sound health. He will never compromise on it. According to me, there are different type of investments to become successful in life. An honest investor always follows the below-mentioned principles.

Invest in yourself.
Invest in people with a positive mind frame.
Look for better investment options.

Let's elaborate on them one by one.

Invest in yourself. A lot of time you have read that there was this guy who was very successful but all of a sudden he got hospitalized due to XYZ disease and he is really in a bad shape. The year 2020 has given a very clear lesson to all of us. Health comes first. Initially, people didn't take the security measures advised by the health ministries and went out in the market to earn money as they found it a potential time to expand their business or work. But they didn't realize that they were playing with their life. Once they were found Corona Positive, they were asked to get quarantined for 2 weeks and few cases they were hospitalized too. Few of them recovered and a few of them, unfortunately, lost their life. They forgot that if they will be safe, their family will be safe and money and prosperity can be earned back. "If you are alive you can do anything or everything."

So, it's very important to invest in yourself. If you'll not invest in yourself then you'll not be able to invest further for your successful life.

For example: - If I talk about Mr. Mukesh Ambani. He is one of the top-notch businessmen in the world. He is badly occupied with his work. But out of his busy schedule, he always makes sure that he does exercise every day to take care of his health. He eats clean and healthy food to stay energetic throughout the day. That's why he is so successful.So, make sure that you follow the first step.

Invest in people with a positive mind frame. If you'll have sound health. You'll be able to make a sound call that what type of circle you want to be in? Would you like to be surrounded by negative people or people with a positive mind frame? Negative people will always keep on dragging you back. They will never let you do better in life. Very common work is from our life. How many of you remember the first time you lied and your parents caught your lie. You had to go through a tough time. Parents were annoyed and gave you a lecture. In school, your teacher punished you for telling a lie. During the parent's teacher meet your teacher asked your parents to change his friend's circle. As per them, you lied because you learned it from your friends. It's just an example. Later on, your sitting plan was changed in the classroom. Your parents never allowed you to go alone to the park. They have started keeping an eye on you and your friends.

There is another interesting example. Most of us would have seen this television serial called "Mahabharat" in our childhood and if not then we would have seen it during the lockdown on our national channel. You all must have seen the story of "Karna". He was mentally and physically very strong, but due to his bad influencing circle. He was fighting for the bad but he was loyal. Knowingly, he fought. He was always misguided and as a result, he lost his life. During his training, he lied to his guru for which he was cursed by his guru too. On the other hand, Arjun had a deep faith in Lord Krishna. Krishna always showed him the right direction and not only him, but he also showed the path to all Pandavas, and finally, they won the battle.

The above examples clarify how easily you got influenced by others. Friends, our mind does exactly what we see? What we store from our surroundings, we do the same. A lot of youngsters start smoking because of the bad influencing circle they are surrounded by. A good friend or people with a positive mind frame will never encourage you to do so. As a result, this show-off style gets converted into addiction and later on, we get the returns in form of diseases. So, it's very important to choose the right choice of people. Now the question arises How?

Very simple. Always be honest to yourself first. Anything you heard from your friends always tries to analyze it on your own. If not, then take help from your parents. You will say that I can't discuss it with my friends. Believe me, your parents will never give you the wrong guidance. They always think about your safety and bright future. They will guide you. Even, if you are not comfortable with it, there would be one friend with whom you share everything. Share it with him. He may be able to give you good guidance. If not at all, then do one simple activity. Develop a habit of reading good books. It will give you clarity. If not, then read small articles like the one I'm writing now or read articles from my book, jeet mantra or magical phrases, etc.

You will never regret having a circle of people with a positive mind frame. They are your real investment and you'll learn a lot from them which will help you ultimately in leading a successful life.

Look for better investment options. Now, this third principle can be used for both financial as well achieving something you've been dreaming for. With the help of good guidance from good friends, you will invest your money from where you'll get good returns. They will always tell you about their experience and their experience will help you a lot.

I still remember one incident. There was one team member of mine. To earn extra money, he was influenced by the wrong set of people and he put his money in bating during the world cup. He initially won a few amounts and it increased his greed. He invested for more and then he lost all of sudden. Now he was under huge debt. He was completely ruined with this. He never thought and now he had to pay huge money to the guys. He stopped coming to work all of a sudden. Then I got to know that he was beaten badly by those guys and they have taken his bike and few household things too.

This is a real story. He picked up the incorrect investment option and that too under the influence of the wrong set of people with a negative mindset. Ultimately, he paid for it. There was another guy who always used to spend a little amount by purchasing bonds, small deposits, etc. On today's date, he owns his flat in a metro city and living a very good life. He is getting the return of the good investment he did in the past.

I hope, now you've understood the meaning of an Honest Investor.

Remember

"Invest in yourself. Invest in people with a positive mindset and you'll get very good returns from it."

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

You are the powerhouse!

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 18:03:00 +0000

All power is within you: You can do anything and everything.

- Swami Vivekananda

As per Ramayana, when Lord Hanuman was given the responsibility to find Sita. The entire army of Lord Rama reached the seashore. The target was to reach Lanka the empire of the Devil Ravana. Everyone was thinking about it. Lord Hanuman was also thinking. The bear king Jamvanth knew that Hanuman is a powerhouse. He

has forgotten his strength because of which he is not confident that how would he make it. Jamvanth decided to remind him about his strength. Everyone started reminding Lord Hanuman about his internal strength and finally, he realized that he can do it. He closed his eyes and took the name of his idol Lord Rama and increased his body size 100 times bigger than others. He crossed the sea in one jump and reached Lanka to find information about Sita.

Now why, I've started with this small story? Just to make you all understand that we all have powers within us. It's just that we forget to use it. Here, power doesn't mean physical strength only. Power refers to many aspects here.

There is another example from our life. We all have seen an elephant in our life. Few of us might have taken rides during our childhood. I didn't get a chance to take a ride. You might have seen that the elephant is such a big animal but has very small eyes. Have you given a thought ever on this? I thought once and asked my grandmother. She gave me an interesting reply on it. She said, "God has given his small eyes so that he cannot see his huge body. That's why people use his power as per their needs. If he would have large eyes he would have seen his body and then would have realized his powers." I was a kid so I understood as per her explanation.

But, the reality is the same. We often don't realize our hidden strength and then others start taking undue advantage of it. We do work for others and keep on doing. They enjoy their life but we don't. Why? Let me explain.

In the above image, we see that power has been divided into 4 major parts.

Will power
Physical strength
Power to control emotions
Strong mindset

Let's understand them one by one.

Will power- A strong willpower will make you strong and determined. The best example of strong willpower is Yuvraj Singh (the famous Indian cricketer) who fought with cancer and came back happily. All this happened because of his strong willpower. If he would have lost it he would have been never been able to recover. If you will have strong willpower, you'll never look back no matter what ever the situation is?

Physical strength - Physical strength is also important. You will have to keep yourself strong physically also to take up the challenge. How? Let me explain. Suppose, you want to lose weight and want to come back in shape. You have strong willpower but you are not able to make your physical strength better as you are into smoking and drinking or it could be any other reason. You are not eating a clean and healthy diet. Will you ever be able to lose weight now? The answer is no. You will not be able to exercise properly because of your bad habits. You don't have any physical strength.

Salute to our great Indian Soldiers. They have strong willpower, strong physical strength too and many more qualities which we civilians don't have and because of them we are enjoying our day-to-day life.

Power to control emotions - This is a very important factor. You should have the power to control your emotions. What people will say? What he/she/they will think? It doesn't matter at all. Nobody thought about your well-being when you needed them the most. So, why you are bothered about them. Why get emotional about others. There is a famous phrase "It's good to be emotional but don't be an emotional fool."

So, control your emotions always. Don't get flooded away with it else people will take undue advantage of it.

Strong mindset - A strong mindset will always give you a positive boost up. This is a very important pillar of your powerhouse. A strong mindset will never let negative thoughts overpower you. It will give you a boost-up whenever you'll feel low. It helps you to imagine and live the life you want to have in the future. A very interesting example of it is one of my favorite sportsmen "Arnold Schwarzenegger."

I have discussed his struggle in brief in my article "Pain is temporary." This article has touch-based the integral part of our life. You can read this article and will be able to co-relate that the power lies within you.

If any of the above 4 parts go missing, you will never be able to realize your hidden and real strength. You will always be a puppet of others and they will take benefit of yours as per their needs.

Stop wasting your time listening to negative talks Just remember one thing that if you have

a strong will power

a strong physical strength

power to control emotions &

a strong mindset

the world will be yours. You'll be the king of your empire and the sky will be the limit for you.

What are you waiting for?

Time will not come back. Look inside you and you will see that

"You are the powerhouse!"

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Never take a shortcut.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Wed, 13 Jan 2021 17:50:00 +0000

People who don't have patience will always fall back. They enjoy while they are taking shortcuts, but the shortcuts don't last for long and they later regret them. Does it make any difference if we take a shortcut instead of patiently enjoying

the journey of our life? Few of you might say that life is uncertain and I have many things to do. I can't wait for long. I would love to take a shortcut. But honestly, I am telling you this shortcut will give you enjoyment for a while but later you will be left with regrets. Let's try to understand it with this little story.

Way back, there were two potters. Both were poor. Both used to go to fairs in the nearby villages to sell their pots for their living. One potter named Mangal was a hardworking person. On the other hand, the other potter Nimesh was not a hardworking person. He always used to look for a shortcut to becoming rich and wealthy overnight. Then one day, there was a flood in their village and they lost everything. They moved to another village and took shelter. After few days, they again decided to start their work. Mangal, as usual, did the hard work, however, Nimesh this time planned something else. Mangal used to make 10-15 pots a day. Nimesh purchased few molds and instead of clay he used wax to make pots. Wax tends to freeze to a solid-state quickly than clay. Both went to the fair and started selling their products. Nimesh sold more pots compare to Mangal. Mangal was a bit upset but he continued his hard work. It was the summer season. One day, Mangal observed that Nimesh used to showcase all the pots in shade to avoid direct sunlight. Mangal asked him about the reason but Nimesh screamed at him. Mangal didn't say anything and came back to his shop. As it was a fair, so suddenly there a shop caught fire due to some accident and it was a mess. Everyone started running here and there. Mangal looked for Nimesh and asked him to go. But Nimesh refused as he was trying to collect all the pots.

Soon Nimesh's shop caught fire and all the pots made with wax started melting. Nimesh was crying as he lost the entire stuff. Mangal took him back home and gave him one suggestion, "Don't use any shortcut. You tried a shortcut to increase your sale and you paid for it today." Have patience and start again. Well, the story clarifies that shortcuts will always put you in danger.

Nowadays, most of the youths are very particular about their fitness. They go to the gym to have a nice sporty physique. But there are few guys, who tend to look for shortcuts and they start taking medicine or sometimes steroids to build a strong physique in a short duration. They get the results instantly but then slowly they become addicted to these medicines. I've heard few cases where few youngsters lost their lives or got affected with liver or kidney diseases.

I know that if you will follow the normal process, you'll fail. But does that mean to avoid any failure we should go for a shortcut? The answer is No. Remember, in my previous article "Failure - The preparation of success." I've emphasized one factor that always takes failure as a first step towards your success. It will take time for sure but the results will be outstanding.

The shortcut will not give you the clarity of the challenges you will come across to reach your destiny. The shortcut is temporary. But the normal way is permanent. You'll know each step you took and the challenges you came across during the journey always and you'll be able to guide others. On the other hand, if you'll follow the shortcut method you'll not be able to guide anyone because you'll always have this fact running in the back of your mind that you took a shortcut.

If I talk about our human life, none of us grow older from the day of our birth. We complete the entire life journey in its normal way. From infant to childhood, from childhood to adult, from adult to old. The complete life is divided into phases and everyone has to follow it. We learn, we share and that's how we grow. We gather experience and then share it with others.

If I talk about myself, I didn't start writing articles overnight. I could have taken a shortcut. I could have copied and pasted information from other articles and altered it a little more and should have started publishing my articles way back. But I didn't because I knew one thing very clear that it would never last for long. I have my 40 years of my life which I've spent and I have many things to share with you. The lessons I learned in these last 40 years since my birth. I followed the steps. I collected all the moments of my life. Penned them down and then started framing them in the form of articles and tried to co-relate them to have a happy and wonderful life.

I have always followed few basics in life which were taught to me by my bosses. I have come across good and bad bosses too. But believe me, you get to learn something on the other hand from everyone.

For example:- I learned from one of my boss the magic of smile and I wrote an article on it named "Smile - The magic creator!". I have seen ups and downs in my life but I've never taken a shortcut to overcome my problems because shortcuts will pull me back and I'll be trapped again.

Most of you have visited KFC (Kentucky Fried Chicken) counter. They make tasty fast food. But have you ever read about the founder of KFC and his struggle? It was founded by Colonel Harland Sanders. He was selling his recipe called "secret recipe" got rejected 1009 times before it became KFC. He could have taken a shortcut. He wanted to sell his franchisee in the fast-food industry. He struggled, learned from his mistakes, and again tried. Finally, he got successful. He passed away at the age of 90 on 16th Dec'80 due to pneumonia but by that time, KFC had 6000 locations in 48 countries. Currently, KFC has 23,000 outlets in more than 140 countries and territories around the world.

Isn't that amazing. If he would have taken a shortcut, he would have never been able to take the KFC brand to this level where it's today.

To summarize, If you pick up any successful person's story, you'll always see that they have never taken a shortcut. They kept moving and completed their journey by taking small steps.

So always remember,

"There is no shortcut to anything. Always take small steps to achieve bigger."

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Stop Thinking.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 14:43:00 +0000

“Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life; dream of it; think of it; live on that idea. Let the brain, the body, muscles, nerves, every part of your body be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success, and this is the way great spiritual giants are produced.”

- Swami Vivekananda

First of all, I would like to pay my homage to the world-famous spiritual leader and the youth icon "Swami Vivekananda". He has been an inspiration

to many of us. Most of us have followed his footprints and implemented his ideology of living life to become successful.

In today's article, I would like to emphasize one very important point of life that we often get trapped and it diminishes the goal of our life. We spend half of our life thinking about today and it leaves the impressions on us so badly that we mess our tomorrow. Life is not that easy. You will face challenges. It's full of ups and downs. But a successful person always comes out from the downfall and becomes successful in life. Let's understand it in detail.

If you've read my previous article Failure - The preparation of success, I've mentioned one incident that how I improved my English. It was never easy for me. I went through many ups and downs. I got rejected in many interviews because of the same issue. But I didn't give up. I stayed focused and worked on my goal and finally I achieved it.

I still remember the days, when I was lost my job and there was too much pressure on me. Paying rent, EMI's, etc, and taking care of day-to-day expenses as my parents were staying with me. Every day, I used to think that how would I manage? This How factor overpowered me so badly that the next day I used to get up thinking about the same problem. I was going through a bad phase of my life. I always used to think in the back of my mind that I would start my small consultancy firm. But I never dared to take the first step towards it because how would I manage? I didn't have finance with me so that I could have started. This how factor used to interlink all situation together and I used to get frustrated. I almost thought that I have lost. But then, one incident took place and it changes my mind completely. I used to go to a car mechanic who was very hard working. His name is Ahmad. He called me one day at his home just for a cup of tea. I went to his home. I was surprised to see his home. He recently bought it. He has a family of 4 members. His wife is a homemaker. His elder daughter is in 10th standard and his younger son is going to playschool. I asked him out of curiosity that how he managed all this?

He told me about his struggle in life. He said he belonged to a well-reputed family. But due to differences of opinions within his family members, he had to leave his home and came back to metro cities. When he came to this city with his wife, they didn't have a place to stay. He started living in rented accommodation and looked for a job. He was not highly educated so he started in a motor garage as a cleaner. He was doing good and learned the technical work quickly. The owner was very happy and started giving him more work and increased his salary also. He was happy. Life was going smooth. But there is a fact, "If your lifeline becomes smooth (straight) it means, you are dead".

Suddenly, one day a major accident took place and his wife had to get hospitalized. Doctors advised him to go for surgery but it was very expensive. He didn't have any other option except borrowing money from others. He had to mortgage the jewelry he had. The bad time was yet to come. The operation was successful. But when he went back to his owner, he was asked to leave because he was missing from his work for many days. Though he used to inform him every day the owner was not ready to listen. He simply said that he can't keep him. Now his tension started. He moved to other shops asking for work but when bad time comes, it screws you up. No one gave him a job. He came back home with a fake smile on his face so that his wife should not get any clue about this incidence. He was getting trapped with this incident so badly and on top of it, people have started knocking him to give back the money he borrowed from them. He was so frustrated that he decided to finish his life.

He moved for it. But then, his inner voice stopped him asking that who would take care of his wife in this world if he finishes himself. He came back. He was unable to figure out what to do? Days passed. He stopped thinking now. He decided to start again. He moved to different societies and asked if there is a job for a car cleaner. He will wash and clean the cars everyday. At the same time, he asked the people to give him time so that he can arrange money and give it back to them. People have agreed. He finally got work in one particular society where he used to wash and clean cars daily. He used to do 30 cars everyday. He didn't give up and kept the ball rolling.

One day, he found one society member was trying to start the car but was unable to. He was getting late for his work but there was some issue and he was very upset. He walked up to him and asked he allows him to check his car. The guy said, "Do whatever you can, but do it quickly". He examined the car and finally he fixed it. The person was really happy and gave him some money for fixing the car and thanked him. Then after few days, this guy called him to check one of his friend's car. He went for it. Normally we ignore it. But he didn't. He took it as an opportunity. He fixed the car too. This guy asked him about his work. He told him the entire story. The person asked him that he has a shop which is closed for many days. He can give him the shop for rent. Ahmad agreed to it.

The shop was opened and the guy helped Ahmad to buy the tools and asked him to pay for them by next month. He was okay. There was still a challenge. The shop was opened and things were in place. But if there would be no customer, how would he make up? He continued to do the car washing and cleaning every day. He used his brain and printed brochures for his shop and distributed it to the society and nearby societies also. Slowly people started coming to his shop. Ahmad's talent started shining and rewarding him. He didn't look back and gave his heart and soul to his work. Within 6 months he paid off all the money he borrowed from people. He then decided to expand his business. He hired few mechanics and started getting more work. He introduced packages also for his customers. This is how he overcomes his bad phase of life.

His struggle inspired me and changed my mind completely. I told him my situation. He offered me some help. I politely gave a denial but told him I would seek his help if I would need. I came back home and called my old team members. I told them about my project that I would like to start a consultancy and I would be offering certain services. They found it interesting. I asked them for small help like, promoting my work and sharing it in their friend circle and they will get some profit out of it. That's how the journey started. I started with a batch of 6 people. I was completely focused on it. I started taking interest in my new work and it helped me to get more batches. I still remember the day, when I got a call from one of the management institute to give a guest lecture on one of my modules, "The 4 W's Principle" I was very happy that my hard work paid off.

Incidents in your life teach you lessons. I also got a lesson from the incident that

"Stop thinking. Today is gone. Start afresh tomorrow."

I am sure this article will inspire you.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Pain is temporary.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Mon, 11 Jan 2021 12:12:00 +0000

Don't feel awkward after reading this title, "Pain is temporary." All motivational speakers have their way of talking on this topic. I also have a different way to make you understand the importance of pain and how it becomes rewarding

later. I will be sharing examples from our real life and I can assure you that you will start loving and enjoying the pain as it's temporary. It's not permanent. So, without wasting too much of your time, let's start. Okay, let me ask you one question? How much do you love your mother and father? I know it's silly to ask you this question. Everyone does. What it has to do with pain? It does have a co-relation. Let's understand it.

Our sweet, adorable mother is heaven for us. She can't be explained in words. At least, I just can't explain her in words. She was great, she is and she will. But have you ever thought that what level of pain she goes through while she carries us in her womb for 9 months? We don't understand. She sacrifices everything just to ensure that you should be safe and okay. She will go through bad pain but she will not take any medicines apart from prescribed medicines by the doctor during pregnancy. She takes care of herself because of you. She does whatever it takes to ensure your safety. Then the day comes when you take birth on this earth and cries out loud. She forgets all her pain because you came to her as a reward for the pain she took. Isn't that important for you that your existence in this world has been possible because of her.

Let's not ignore father. Our Superhero, our Rambo, "The captain of the ship." Without him again, we are nothing. While your mother goes through pain your father also. He gets worried for your mother and you too. When you take birth, he is the happiest person on this earth because you and your mother both are safe. Just to take care of you and your mother, he sometimes, spend a sleepless night.

Now you grow up slowly. Time for education. Your father does all the hard work to make sure you get a quality education because he sees his future in you.

This pain is temporary because all your parents wanted you to come on this earth to fill their life with happiness. You were their reward.

Let's take another example. My favorite, "Arnold Schwarzenegger."

I am sure that lost of us have heard or read about him. He is an Austrian-American actor, businessman, retired professional bodybuilder, and former politician. He did have lots of pain in his childhood. He took huge pain for his bodybuilding career and it the pain rewarded him as he won the title of Mr. Universe at the age of 20 and later on he became Mr. Olympia for 7 times. Not only he limits himself to bodybuilding, but he also got a chance to move to Hollywood and we must have seen many hit movies of him like Commando, Terminator, Predator, and many more.

Now the question comes that did they get in just a few days? few months? few years.

Our mothers get the biggest reward in few months when we take birth but the pain she goes through is of a different level. Similarly, If we will not take the pain, we'll not enjoy it, we'll never get the reward that we want to get.

All the famous personalities like Sir Charlie Chaplin, Dhiru Bhai Ambani, Warren Buffett, Dr. B.R. Ambedkar, etc. All of them have taken a hell of a lot of pain but in return, they got huge rewards.

You will have to take the pain if you need to get the rewards. You work in an office and you travel 1-2 hrs in metro cities to commute to your office. You get the reward as your salary and promotion. Imagine, if you sit on a chair and think that everything should happen without even getting up from the chair? Will it be possible?

When you were a kid and you learned to ride a bicycle. Did you learn it in a day without falling on the ground or road or park? You did fall. You had pain. You ignored it and moved on and kept on learning to make balance while riding the bicycle. Finally, the day came, when your father didn't give you any support and you ride the cycle yourself. Wasn't that rewarding?

So, I would like to say that don't feel low if you are going through pain. It's temporary. Smile and be happy. Like after every night, morning comes the next day. Similarly, your pain will go off and you will be rewarded.

Whenever you feel low just read this article or think about your first day when you ride your bicycle without any support and the pain you went through to achieve it. You'll see the pain is gone.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

(To read in Hindi, click here)

Goal and you.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Sat, 09 Jan 2021 14:41:00 +0000

How many of you like sports? You guys will wonder now, what's wrong with this guy? Why is he asking for sports?

Well, you must know one thing my dear friends that nothing in this world is meaningless. There is always a co-relation.

How many of heard about Black Pearl? I am sure a

few of you must know. Black Pearl was the name given to the legendary player Pele who made his team world-famous by taking back the "Ginga style" a special move to dribble and score.

During Pele's first world cup on June 29, 1958, his team Brazil was completely demoralized by the opponent team Sweden. But Pele was focused and he brought back his team into the game and they won the world cup. He was so much focused that while he took the last goal he fall to the ground and was unconscious. He became the star of his country.

But, why I am discussing all this here? Like I said there is always a co-relation. There is a correlation between the Goal & you. I picked up Pele's example because I love soccer.

Let's talk about the story of Goal Post and you. I am always excited to share examples from our day-to-day life and specifically I love to share examples from my past because I always learned something from them.

Everyone in their life sets up a goal. Someone wants to be rich early. Someone would like to take a higher position in the organization. Someone would love to buy a new home, car, etc. But how and by when? No idea. Even if we have an idea are we doing enough to achieve it? Yes/No/Maybe.

When I came to the metro city, I always had a dream to buy a car because as a youth, it used to be considered as a status. I opted for it because all of my friends used to come in their cars to work and I used to take an office cab to commute. In a way, it was fine but later I realized that having your car is comfort. You need not call someone to take a favor. I decided that I will purchase a car. I contacted banks and inquired about the loan facility. However, my salary was not that much that I could have made the down payment for it. I was very upset. I was about to cancel the idea of buying a car. One day my close friend asked me that why I am upset? I told him the entire incident. I'm sharing the conversation here with you guys.

My friend: Why do you need a car?

Me: It's a necessity.

My friend: Are you sure? It's a necessity?

Me: Yes.

My friend: What would you do after buying a car?

Me: I would drive to the office and will come back and will come to your home anytime.

My friend: Well, that is something you are doing as of now without any issue. What would you exactly do after buying a car?

Me: Don't irritate me. I told you the reason.

My friend: I am not irritating you. I am trying to make you understand something that if you are not sure about what exactly would you get after buying a car, it's of no use.

I was completely shocked. He told me to think about it again and dropped me at my home with this question. I slept while thinking about the same. The next day, I met another friend who recently bought a new car but he was looking upset. I asked him the reason. He didn't reply. After insisting he told me that I just wasted my money here. I already had a car at home. My father hardly uses it. He told me to take the car to the office. I just blocked my money rather I'm now paying the EMI's unnecessarily. I could have spent the money somewhere else.

I called my friend who dropped me off the previous day and told him about this incident. He asked me to meet him at his home. I went to his home and we had dinner. After that, he asked me the same questions he asked earlier. I had no answer to it. He told me that my dear Moloy, you are staying here for rent. Your salary is not that high. You have other responsibilities to take care of. Now tell me, is it necessary to buy a car right now? I replied No.

He smiled and said, "There you go." It's not a necessity right now. You need to set your priorities first. Set your goal smartly and stay focused on it. Don't be a face in the crowd. I realized that I was wrong.

I told him my priority is to achieve the next level in our organization. It will give me a financial hike also. Then I can buy a new car. He replied, "Exactly." First, you need to set your goal but it has to be a smart goal that will help in achieving few other small goals too.

I made up my mind and set up a goal for my next level. Days passed, months passed. After 1 year, he switched to another company. But I was still there. He met me and I told him that I couldn't achieve my goal. I have lost the game. He asked me what went wrong?

I told him that I was also engaged in other goals that I wanted to achieve? I have got a couple of them but because of which I didn't get the promotion. He asked me to calm down. He told me one very valuable tip, which I remember till now.

He told me, "Never board two boats." (This is a very famous phrase in Hindi. This means that I have only two legs to stand. If I will stand on two boats at the same time, I will lose balance and will drown for sure.)

I understood his point and reset my goal again. I just focused on one goal and kept working towards it day and night. I learned all the required skills and performed them effectively. There was nothing else in my life during this time. By next year, I got the promotion and I was really happy about my first achievement.

The famous personalities of the world like: "Swami Vivekananda", "Warren Buffett", "Ratan Tata", "Dhiru Bhai Ambani", "Bill Gates", "Mark Zuckerberg" didn't become famous overnight. They struggled. They fought. They remained focused on their goal and then only they were able to achieve their dream. It happened because they involved so much in the goal they didn't see anyone between them and the goal post.

The moral of this true story is:

"Stay focused on your goal and you'll see no one between you and the goal post."

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

It's your life!

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Fri, 08 Jan 2021 12:03:00 +0000

Life is very precious. Live every bit of it.

This is a very common phrase that most motivational speakers, spiritual speakers say. Many of the famous personalities have also spoken about it. I have always read about these topics and found them very interesting but I always used to ask myself how would I

make my life happy? I used to watch comedy movies, I used to be happy always and so many techniques I've applied to ensure that I should not feel sad. But unable to maintain.

I have heard lots of spiritual sessions where everyone says that give your life to God and then you'll see the miracle. This will start changing and you'll be able to live a happy life.

I became more spiritual. Going to the temple, worshiping, etc. became a part of my daily routine. I was still finding a gap somewhere. One day, I thought that let's sit alone and try to find out why I'm getting so many obstacles and why I am unable to live a happy life.

I got the answer myself. It was me who was the problem creator and started blaming others for bringing trouble into my life. Well, in today's article I would be covering one aspect that all of us ignore and which creates a huge problem in our lives, and no matter whatever methods we will try, we will come back to the beginning point of having a sad life.

Let's try to find out.

Have you ever seen an artist who draws beautiful paintings, a sculptor who makes amazing sculptures? Why they can do so?

An artist when draws, he gets a blank canvas. He brings all his imagination and puts them together on the canvas with the help of brushes and later on adds colors to it. He draws a beautiful painting. Why he was able to do so? The answer is that he lives that imagination and sees it by closing his eyes, with a smile on his face. Not only this, he is sure that whatever he has imagined, it would come out on the canvas.

On the other hand, a sculptor makes amazing sculptures with his imagination and puts everything into it and the sculptor looks like a real one. But why he is not happy? Why????

The answer to both the scenarios is: They were not able to do the same with their life, what they do while making a beautiful painting or sculptor.

My friends, Life is a canvas. Whatever we draw, what color we fill in will last forever. We are responsible for making our life happy or sad. We can't blame anyone.

Now, let's do a small exercise.

Step 1: Sit alone and close your eyes. Try to go to your childhood and try to recall the best moments and bad moments of your life. Try to recall the activities which used to make you happy and you always enjoyed doing that. Some of you may find studying, some of you may find playing, singing, cooking. There will be several such incidents.

Step 2: Now open your eyes and see yourself in front of a mirror. Are you doing the same work you used to enjoy doing in your childhood? You used to be carefree and now you are trapped with tension, stress, fear so many things. You used to be happy always and now you are not.

Step 3: Now divide all the factors. For example, Your personal life. You are not able to live a happy life because of few reasons. Just write them down on paper.

Step 4: Once you write down the factors with the issues, the next thing you need to do is think and write what would you do to fix it.

For example, your personal life is messed up. You found the reasons that you are not giving time to yourself. You're occupied with office work, meetings, calls, etc and because of it, you don't give time to your family. All you think is that "I am doing so much for them. I am taking hell lot of pain. But it seems that they don't value it. They don't love me anymore".

Is it true? The answer is No. You have drawn the canvas with negative colors and you didn't add the happy colors in it. As a result, you are messed up and now you blame others. Coming back to the point, so now you will write down the step to improve and add happy colors in your personal life by ensuring that you'll not engage yourself in office work throughout the day. You'll have to give a good time to your family. Good time doesn't mean 1 hour. It may be more than it. You may help your wife, mother in the kitchen during dinner. You may help your kids in finishing their homework. You may sit and talk to your father for some time. There are many such activities you can do.

You'll slowly see the change and your life will fill with positive colors and you'll be happy.

Now a person like me will ask that I've tried all such things, but yet there is something on the other hand. Here, I will share a live example of my father. He is 86 years of age. I lost my mother 2 years back. We are three in the family. I and my wife is working so we can't stay at home the entire day. My father stays alone at home. As a result, he has become short-tempered. If we will try to help him he will take it differently and then things will go for a toss. Earlier I used to stay mum, never used to respond to such things but then I realized that it may hurt his mind, his health too. So, I decided that I'll try to make him happy. He will be happy if I and my wife do something as per his guidance. We have tried doing it and we sometimes, give suggestions to him as an alternative option so that he can also give his inputs. Also, He is fond of gardening. So, I brought plants and ask the gardener to plant more plants in the balconies. He spends time there. He is fond of reading so I ensure that I get him his favorite books for reading.

This has shown a drastic change in him and I was able to add happy colors to our life.

Like I always say that these are tested and tried methods and believe me it works.

I assume that you will try these methods and you'll be able to live a happy life forever.

Remember,

"Life is a canvas. Whatever you draw will be there forever. Always fill it with positive and happy colors."

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

Value the time & get rewarded.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Thu, 07 Jan 2021 12:48:00 +0000

We have heard this many times from others "Don't waste your time". Time is running and can't be stopped. Once the time is gone it will never come back. Many management gurus speak about time management. Everywhere it's all time.

This article will help us understand the

importance of time and also will discuss some tips to make the time favorable for us. Ready for it.

Here we go.

Once there was a rich farmer. He was very wealthy and financially strong and used to help others. He was very happy and satisfied. His farming was growing day by day and he was increasing his profit. Then came a time, he hired few workers who were supposed to take care of his farming. Things were going the same way. But after few months, the business started going down. He didn't realize and ignored it. Time flew and his business started going down day by day. He lost his new assignments and was still not able to figure out what went wrong? According to him, everything was going pretty well and within time.

He was very upset and walking down the roadside. He was about to meet an accident suddenly, somebody saved him. He turned back and looked back. It was a saint. He thanked him and started moving on. The saint stopped him & asked him about his sadness. He opened his heart out in front of him. The saint remained silent for a while and asked him one thing to do from the next day.

The saint asked him to get up early in the morning and visit his fields. The saint asked him to walk around the entire farm field three times a day. Did he ask him why? He has workers to look after. The saint asked him to do what he asked for. He agreed and the next morning he went to his fields. He was shocked to see that there was no work there in the field to do the work. He was shocked and surprised. Upon asking the watchman, he was informed that the workers come at their own convenient time and don't care about the work. This guy didn't say anything and as advised by the saint, he came in the afternoon and evening too. The same thing happened.

Now, this guy realized his mistake. He didn't give value to time and this is all because of his bad time management. Being an owner, he never gave time in the field and didn't keep a check on his workers. As a result, his business went down and he had to face a huge loss.

The next day, he called up all the workers and warned them about their work schedule and he made a routine that he will be giving time to his field and his farming. Slowly and gradually, things came back on track and he was back in profit. Then one fine day, this saint met him all of a sudden and asked him about his life. He thanked him for the lesson and told him about the entire incident in detail.

The saint smiled back and said, "Dear Son. You give value to time and it will reward you back".

Interesting story right. So, friends, It is very easy to give lectures on time management to others. But why only successful people must know. Is it the case?

No, I don't agree. We all normally say that we don't have time to go to the gym, yoga classes, etc. to take care of our health. But when the doctor prescribes us by charging fees and giving medicines (which is again not free) we make it a schedule of our life that every day we'll have to give 1 hour for walk or yoga or exercise etc.

I would like to share one useful tip that has always helped me in managing my time. Let's see how we can do it?

Keep a reminder for you. (Nowadays, everyone has smartphones. You can add reminders for the entire day. Like the big people blocks their entire day calendar about the schedules and meetings. We can also do it.)

Don't postpone it. (Don't postpone it for the next day or later half. Believe me, it will never happen. Once the time will fly it will never come back.)

Remember, Time will reward you if you'll value it. (If I will finish my job on time, I won't be required to stay extra hours in the office and will give time to my family.)

Reward yourself. (I am not saying that you need to gift yourself a medal or something. You'll get a reward from others if you work on the above-mentioned points. Imagine, you reach home on time from the office and your kids, wife, and parents are very happy to see you back on time and you end up spending a good time with them. Isn't it rewarding.)

It will sound silly. Initially, it will be challenging but once you will be used to it, you will see a huge transformation in you. No one will be able to stop you. You'll be witness the reward from others by giving value to time. Trust me, these are tested and tried methods and it works.

I am a big fan of one of Akshay Kumar, (The Bollywood Actor). The entire Bollywood industry knows that he goes off to sleep by 9-9:30 pm and wakes up at 4:00 am every day. He always says that not a single day has gone by when he has not seen the rising sun. This one habit keeps him healthy and strong. When he can do it, why can't we?

A very common example from our family. Remember your childhood. Your mother used to get up every day early in the morning and getting you ready for your school. At the same time, she used to prepare your breakfast and lunch. Has she ever failed? The answer is No.

Therefore, I would like to conclude by saying that. Time will not wait for you. If you want to make time favorable for you remember this mantra.

"Give value to time & it will reward you back."

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

Smile - The magic creator!

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 10:42:00 +0000

People may give you strange looks and will develop the perception that if they see you smiling always. Different people, different minds, different thoughts lead to nothing. It's their perception, not yours.

Well, this topic may sound silly but believe

me, the examples I'll be sharing here will have meaningful insight into it and will make us believe that Smile creates magic!

Let's begin then. You've reached your office before time carrying a smile on your face. You greeted everyone whom you met on the way. You sat on your desk and switched on your desktop. Suddenly, your boss came to you with a serious face, and instead of saying hello, he/she straightaway loaded you with work and counted errors in your last reports. Imagine, how would your day go now? All positive mind frame, energy, the smile will go for a toss.

On the other hand, if your boss would have greeted you well and then would have called you later to share his/her feedback on the errors in a constructive way it would have been a different scenario. See the smile factor here.

I have come across such people in my life. During my previous job, I was given additional responsibility to handle a new account that already had team leads, team members, trainers, quality coaches. The process was running on autopilot mode. There was no senior to take care of. I was very happy and excited to take up this new assignment. I was introduced to this team by one of my colleagues. While I was interacting with them, I observed the fake smile on their face. Few were not happy as there would be a new guy sitting on top of their head while others had numerous issues. Time moved on.

I realized that the team was full of negativity, criticism, etc. No one was happy and was just doing their job for the heck of it. Even if I used to interact with them or greet them I used to feel that it's happening for the sake. So, I made up a strategy. Start the day with a greet to everyone asking about them. No work-related talks. No errors. Nothing. Also, during the team briefing, if the supervisor used to show dull or serious face, I used to point them out in a polite way to make the session interactive. Slowly and gradually there was a change in the work environment. People started being more interactive and it leads to a successful and wonderful team. All this happened, because of one factor i.e. Smile. I have never tried to be harsh with them. I always helped them, heard them, stood with them whenever they needed me.

Another interesting example most of us have experienced. We go to a shopping complex and pass by a food joint or a new showroom. We must have experienced that there will be a sales representative standing, welcoming us with a greeting to visit their shop for once. We go most of the time because the first impression we get from them is a smiling face that creates the magic.

A smile doesn't mean that you will always smile. If you will do so, you will look crazy. People may start making fun of you. Always carry a smile on your face. Smile is a wonder medicine that enables few factors in you. These are:

Politeness
Energetic
Good listening power
Getting the magic to get the work done.

Try to co-relate it with any incident of your life and you'll get more insight into it. The smile comes automatically. It can't be fake. It's natural. If you start your day with a smile on your face the entire day will go well.

Smile stands for:

S - Simple

M - Method

I - Implemented for

L - Leading an

E - Extremely happy life.

There are many examples from our day-to-day life. Have you ever seen a video of a newborn baby on youtube or maybe you have just been blessed with a newborn baby? His/her smile will make your day. The tiredness of the entire day will go off the moment you'll see the smile of your baby. Why so, because it's real. Not fake. Remember, Smile - creates magic!

So, from here onwards make a habit of smiling because it creates magic!

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

Failure - The preparation of success.

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 12:19:00 +0000

You've failed again! You are just good for nothing! Look at you! Leave it, I don't expect anything from you!

I am sure somewhere in our lifetime, we've heard the above-mentioned comments. I have heard a lot since my childhood. People become so cunning at times

that they don't even realize that what are they talking about and what is going to be the impact on the person. They simply puke out everything that comes to their mind.

But I would urge all my fellow readers don't bother themselves too much with these statements. Let's create a new beginning from these negative comments.

Ready for it? Here we go.

Let me share one of my childhood incidence here. I was in 8th standard and one of my subjects was English. I was intelligent though but was not very good with spoken English as I tend to speak incorrect English as I didn't know grammar. There is a famous saying, "Charity begins at home". So, my father took the responsibility to teach me English grammar. He is undoubtedly has a very good command of English. Being very strict and discipline was a scary situation for me.

Anyway, my classes started and I used to get bashed by my father because I always used to get frightened and as a result, I used to make errors. Every second day I used to receive such flowery statements. I was very upset and gave up as I was a failure. I am not criticizing my father here but this is very common nowadays. Most of the parents will compare their kids with other kids and will keep on pressurizing them. They don't even realize that what would be the outcome and trust me the result sometimes is so scary that I can't even discuss it here.

Coming back to my story, this incident kept going. Time moved. But I didn't give up. I kept on learning it in my way. My mother kept me motivated. I moved to college for higher studies. Now while I was doing my MBA, we used to do presentations and many other activities where we used to do a lot of talk shows, debates, etc. I kept getting feedback from my lecturers to correct myself and I worked on it. I was just focused on my input and was not expecting the output. Further, time moved on. I was introduced to the BPO Industry for the very first time. I was down in morale because of my first failure here as I couldn't clear the first round and the feedback was given that your English is not up to the mark. I was really surprised and shocked. Somehow, I managed to get into one of the famous BPO organizations and this changed me completely. We had a curriculum of 2 weeks of VNA (Voice & Accent) session. I just made up my mind that this is a do-or-die situation. I will have to improve.

I am thankful to my trainer who helped me a lot and spent extra time on my improvement. She not only helped me she guided me so effectively that I was very happy to see the change in me.

So, I would like to say that don't feel bad if you've failed for the first time. If you'll google you'll get to see many phrases like, "Failure is the key to success", " Try again and again" etc., etc.

The word Fail is very interesting. If you break it down according to me, you'll get the below-mentioned meaning.

F - Fix

A - All

I - Incompetence

L - Levels

What say, Isn't that interesting. The day, we fix all our incompetence levels, success will hold our hand and will take us along.

I was rejected in my first job interview with BPO. I failed. But If I would have given up I would not have been the person who is sharing stories from his life to help you. I would not have been able to reach this level. We all must have heard about Thomas Edison and his failure to the success story. But how many of us have learned from his life story and tried to implement it in our life. I am sure 1 or 2 out of us.

Trust me, Failure is not bad. It's just preparation for you to achieve success in your life. Learn from your failures and fix all incompetence levels, you'll achieve whatever you want.

So, next time whenever someone says that you failed again just give a polite response that It's the preparation for my success.

All the best!

Regards,

Moloy

The 4 W's Principle

noreply@blogger.com (Moloy Kumar Choudhury) — Mon, 04 Jan 2021 17:22:00 +0000

By looking at other's success, we often ask ourselves that when we'll achieve our goals?

For a good happy life, we often discuss, we set goals, we are ready to start, then why do we fail? Have you given a thought to this? Later on, we give up and

compromise with the current situation. Now, let's take a look at the other aspect of it. We successfully achieve what we wanted to. Why did this happen? What has happened differently here?

Well, it would sound common but I would say we didn't follow the 4 W's principle properly.

Yes, you got it right. This is one theory that I created myself and found that works everywhere. From a small achievement to a big one. I have implemented it in my life and believe me it works. Let's discuss them in detail with examples from our day-to-day life.

1st W - Get your Why clear.

I always wanted to become a good public speaker. I did my MBA and got a campus placement in Sales in Pharma Industry. I used to meet doctors and used to explain to them about our products in detail and sometimes we used to organize health camps also where we used to educate the patients and the public about the benefits of the products. Now, I always used to feel inferior. After all, I never used to deliver a convincing presentation because my seniors always used to take over the presentation from me while I used to speak. This is because I had fear of public speaking. I almost gave up and thought that I am a failure and I can't do anything in my life.

However, time changed. I brought my confidence back upon meeting one doctor who appreciated my efforts and encouraged me to improve. Now I was confident and I got my Why clear that I want to improve my public speaking skills. So, it's very important to get your first W in place i.e. get you Why clear? Why do you want to do? What is the benefit? What would you achieve?

2nd W - Willingness to learn.

I always knew that it's a corporate world. You'll find hardly anyone who can help you in improving your public speaking skills to improve you. Hence, I found a strategy. I have started observing my friend circle and tried to focus on one guy who always used to be the center of attraction. Whatever he used to say we used to listen carefully and we used to enjoy it. I had a complex though but now as I had my why clear so I thought of taking help from him. I spoke to him in person and told him my concern. He readily agreed to help me and gave me few tips which I would share here.

Pick up any random topic of your choice and write something on it. Now, speak in front of a mirror and speak loudly on the same topic and watch your expressions in the mirror. Do you see yourself as a robot or machine? Do you look interactive or not? If not, try again. I did this and it helped. I invited him and deliver the topic in front of him. He gave me some improvement points and encouraged me. I stepped up the second ladder as I was learning it. You need to learn only then you'll be able to perform.

3rd W - Willingness to change.

I cleared two major obstacles and now the real challenge was there. I had to change myself a lot. By chance doesn't mean that you'll develop your ego and will through attitude on others. You'll change your friend circle immediately. Nothing of such is required. The change required was to change your overall personality. You need to take away the negativity from your life and bring in the positive environment around you. How would you do it? Very simple. Compliment yourself every day. Start living your dream every time. Slowly and gradually you'll see the transformation in yourself. This is the change you wanted to bring into yourself. For example: If I want to lose weight, I would have to change my daily routine. I would have to change to a healthy diet. I would have to add a workout to my daily schedule. All this is changing and if we're willing to change, we'll achieve what we want.

4th W - Will never give up unless you get it.

Well, we have stepped up to the 3rd step but now what? Are we done? Is it simple to become successful overnight? No, my friends. It's not that simple. A very brilliant example is your childhood. Remember, the first day when you stood up on your feet? You didn't stand up on your feet in a single go. You tried you failed and you fall. You again tried and kept on trying and finally, you were able to stand up on your feet.

The 4th W says the same thing. Don't give up unless you get it. I am sure that if you will keep trying you'll get what you want.

Let's not keep the article lengthy. Believe me, friends, if you'll follow the 4 W's principle in your life, I can assure you that you'll be able to achieve anything that you have aimed for and people will be surprised and will ask you how did you do it? I am sure that you'll be more than happy to share the 4 W's principle with them.

All the best!

Regards,
Moloy