Some women may want a huge crowded birthday party, while others prefer a late evening along the beach, picnic or a romantic dinner at home. Nevertheless, take time to plan something you know she will treasure and make sure her entire day is special. If she has to work that day, be sure to send flowers or an e-mail / text that gives a hint about what is in store for her that evening. The goal here is to maintain its toes!

The date of her birthday will also yield plethora of date options. For instance, a fall birthday may be a great chance to go to a cider mill, hike, or a nature walk. If she’s a winter baby, take her ice skating (if you live in a cold climate) or just stay in by the fireplace while roasting smores. A spring birthday may lead to great picnic weather and a summer birthday girl may love a day at the fair or amusement park. Whatever you decide to do, be sure to showcase your intentions for her overall happiness on her big day!

And the most shocking fact is they are dating for about 8 year. Quit long enough to know each other. So what is the factor that makes my friend married is ruin like hell?

First of all, men are born to be a hunter. Or at lease we think we are born to be a hunter. So with that stigma on our brainless head we always try to fulfill that prophecy. And married are like a banned sticker that not allowed us to be what we used to be.

So married man cheats for the shake of the stigma. All of man friends are make a fun of his status that are not capable to what a man suppose to be. When his ego was struck by this joke, he will try to show to others or at lease to him self that he is still the same person. And how he does that? By cheating!

A lot of affair is start by a simple test. What test is that? It was “Am I still attractive to other woman” test. Start with a simple chitchat talk and end up in some stranger bedroom. It’s true that married man cheat just as a simple as snapping his finger. And most of a man affair is not intend to make a long relationship.

Like I said before it was just a test. But after a few date, there are two type of man. The first one is the one that choose and think it was just for fun. And second one that falls in to deep that think there were nowhere return and decide to leave his first wife.

What my point is, married man cheat is not intending to make a long relationship. We never thing to left our wife. At lease for the first time. So it doesn’t need the next supermodel to make a married man cheat. It does only need an ordinary girl who gave him enough attention but act smartly enough like she unavailable. This is when the hunter silly thought comes apart.

So what a wife should do about it? Well you can just simply read my earlier post in Correlation between sand and relationship post. By that we hope there is no other married man cheat again.

It’s easy to find the solution of this problem. Think this way, instead of thinking some thing that your partner possibly like, let them choose what they like. And how we supposed to do that?

Off course by giving them a gift card. Because Blackhawk Network, the largest third-party provider of prepaid gift cards recently conducted a survey with Kelton Research which found that a majority (61%) of consumers surveyed spent less money treating themselves in 2008 than in years past. And your partner is becoming the 61% part.

Is that romantic enough? Sure in gift card mall you can add your own personal message. And even you can design your own card. So it will be useful enough, and in the other hand becoming more personal.

And when you know you want to call someone, it is obvious that you need to call the phone number. One of the best ways to approach someone is to demonstrate your good perconality and show that you are not some crazy lonely guy or psycho-girl. Here is the step in order: Smile, speak slowly and make eye contact.

Ask the number in a friendly tone. For example, instead saying:
“So, can I have your number?”
Try something like:
“I’d like to stay in touch. Is there a number where I can reach you?”

Give your phone number if you want is certainly correct, but it puts you in the position to wait for their call. The best way to compensate for this position of passivity is to ask for their numbers. Or you can take and not give them your own. Just to give the illusion of a mysterious man.

Give your own number. Offer your number is a great way to deflect suspicions by putting the ball in the proverbial person on the other court. Placement rather than asking you also can be vulnerable first. You can earn points sensitivity by saying: “Look, I know these days, a beautiful woman like you should be careful, if you prefer, I can give you a way to contact me.

I’d love you to court the old and you call it, but I do not want to make you uncomfortable in asking you to give me your number if you’re not ready.
In a perfect world, you could say:

“I’m not sure I want to call you, but what the hell, give me your number in case.”

Of course, a line like that is not exactly flattering. You are probably better served by an expression of interest but you give by saying something like this:
“Listen, I really love you, but I am… (choose one: busy at work, travels a lot, out of a relationship, overcast of herpes, which is scheduled for surgery, about to be drafted) . . . if this is correct, I would like to take your number and call you in a month or two more” (Of course, if you use the line herpes, do not expect to be too enthusiastic.) By doing this you are just simply keeping your options open without making someone else charges. If you feel really ambivalent to ask for a phone number, you can offer your own way, saying:

“Why not take my number?”

Thus, if the other person calls, you can go on his enthusiasm and nickel. After all, every one of us to be courted. If you’re not interested, do not ask their number. If you ask a number, the assumption is that you intend to use it. Do not spread the misery as peanut butter. If you have absolutely no interest to another and do not intend to appeal, simply do not ask. Men in particular feel that not asking for a phone number is really tough but if you can limit yourself to “see around you” or “Nice to see you again,” you’ll spare yourself and another person some wear and tear.

Why? Because, the problem are lie between the two of you. And only you guys who can find the answer of your problem. A Save marriage counseling is only a tool, and you the one who decide how you are going to use that tool.

A Marriage is like a Corporation. It worked because our relationship was separate from ourselves. A relationship, like a corporation, consists of a combination of personalities but has a life of its own. Just as a corporation requires dedication and concentration if it is to grow, so too does a relationship between two people. Perhaps you didn’t feel like a walk on the beach, but the marriage requires a walk on the beach. Many times you don’t feel like spending a weekend alone with your wife, but the marriage requires a weekend alone together. On the other hand, It’s hard to find the time to call your husband just to let him know that you love him and am thinking about him, but the marriage requires that I make that call. Sometimes, making love is the furthest thing from our minds, but the touching and healing that comes from that union is what a marriage requires.

This is where you need a guide. Not a guide to find your problem, but a guide to build a harmony in your personality. You need a guide to light a fire in you. If both of you were in love in the beginning so you need to feel like that again, no matter what your mate has said or how disconnected you are right now. For these kind of guidance you might try online marriage counseling. This is may be the answer to your problem.

If at the beginning it’s difficult for you, you can copy only a slope of his body, the head position, legs, or hands. Imitation of gestures does not mean that you should raise your hand, bend the fingers, and so simultaneously with him. You just should look at the gestures, and try to “transfer” them to you. If he “chops” a table with his hand, showing some thought, it is wise to do the same thing - that way you will enhance your understanding.

Another way to get his attention , is to copy the rhythm of his breath. Shortly speaking, breathing in unison with him. If it is difficult to do so, you can imitate the rhythm of his breathing. Once you have done this, saying “dominant” idea that you would like to inform.

For example:
“They say that I am sexy” and breathe heavily. It is a paradox, but the truth - your partner will also expire automatically hold his breath for a while and there will be a feeling that his heart sank. This happens when a person agrees with what he has heard. What to do? If you want your partner courting you - invite for a coffee or present a bouquet of roses, and if he doesn’t have any idea, you can suggest an idea to him.

For example, raise your hand on the level of his eyes (he can hold a cigarette or a pen upon him) said:
“It is so hot here, I can not breath! And in that coffee it is cool and comfortable. We will be able to drink tea! ”
Or simply ask:
” Are we going to go to a cafe or a restaurant?”
This issue will create an illusion of choice, but in fact, you will agree with both choices.
Or (if you want another date):
“Tomorrow in the evening, I go for a walk. What are you going to do?” It seems that you asked a question, but, in fact, you have already suggested a decision.

A principle of the three “yes” works well. A partner should respond positively to your three questions he will answer “yes” on the 4th already automatically.

For example:
“Do you not think tonight is terribly dark?”
“Yes.”
“There is no people in the streets.”
“And we far from home. ”
” Yes. ”
” will you see me home? ”

Review for the last 363 days that past by was lead to one big question. How much people that I’ve been kiss for all over the year. And, it was much related to ‘cheating issue’. Well, sadly to say that, 3 people are the answer for that question. It was on the early year 2007 when I did that stupid move. Kissing some one that not my partner at all. But the good part it is that I have reduce that answer from 8 people in the 2006 to just 3 people in 2007.

But still 3 is not enough if I want to hold my marriage for 2008 and henceforward. So, like I said earlier I have this resolution which the result is to try to reduce that number to become just 1 people (and hopefully not to drop it too far to 0 people). And of course it is my wife the one and only. How about you then? How much people you have been kiss in 2007? Do you want to join me in the “one lip for one lip” movement?

What we have to understand from this trend is that a sex appeal is not some thing physically given from the birth. But it was some thing that we build a long with a self confidence, attitude and personality.

Let us take Brad Pitt for example. These men are chosen to be the sexiest man on earth for couple of year. Yet, this man is not the hottest guy when he was a teenager. Even he was considering as just an ordinary guy. If you don’t trust me, just try to google his old picture, than you know what I mean.

So what is the factor that turn the frog into the prince of charming? The answer is his role in the movie. Yes, he always play the role as the cool guy or even the ‘bad boys’ that every girls dreams about. And the truth is no body knows him in person. People or should I say girls are see him as the gentleman that they saw in the movie. It is how he act, how he play his role, as the gentleman in that movie.

Sure that six pack abdomen take a part on Brad Pitt sex appeal, but that’s not the most determine factor. What really important is how we act-or if we drag that in real life-is how we lead our self. If we carry our self as a sexy person than that’s what people would see from us. Try to build your self confidence. Try to picture your self as a sexy person, than people would see that picture too.

And the last word for guys is that just remember to tread more carefully if you just have a new relationship, because you don’t want to scare the poor girl with your super power charm!

“Fiuuuhh…what a busy day right?”

Slow down Romeo!
He is very cute or she has the nicest smile. Try to keep that in your heart first. You don’t want to sound too poetic. Trust me, no body feel comfort if you flatter them at the first impression.

Save your name for later
This is one thing you must understand if you want to talk someone you just met. Introduce your self after you have a one or two line conversation. After you see a glance of a smile on your future partner face, then you can start to say your name. For example like:
“Hey, any way, my name is…”

By doing those step hopefully you will end up with a great first impression

Here is I tell you. Every body knows that we always need improvisations in our sex life. Doing the same thing all the time will make us feels bored. So, in order to avoid that, try to do some quickies styles. Foreplay is good, that’s for sure. But doing a sex in a spontaneous mood can make your love life improve. The adrenaline that pumped to your heart will bright your day in a second.

One of tips to do a quickie is to have an intercourse right away after you wake up in the morning. And when I said ‘right away’, I mean Right away. Forget it to take a bath, forget it to take a brush just making in love each other. So, this is where the candy takes a part. To keep your mood, I can a sure that you don’t want a bad breath to ruin your day!

Then try to keep a candy that can keep your mouth fresh in your bed every time. Eat them while you in making love with your partner. You can even swap a candy while you were kissing.

All I can say is, happy eating candy!