G.C. PETERSON'S BLOG SPOT

PATERNITY FRAUD

2012-09-09T07:33:00.001-07:00

In 2002, A2374 http://www.njleg.state.nj.us/2002/Bills/A2500/2374_R2.PDFwas introduced by then Assemblymen Anthony Impreveduto (D-32) and Neil M Cohen(D-20). This bill amended and supplemented the “New Jersey Parentage Act,” establishing new procedures concerning blood or genetic testing.

In plain English this bill would have and could prevent hard working men from being financially liable to provide for a child or children that are not biologically his. Do you know of anybody that could be in such a situation?

It is real and unfair. It is not aimed at coming between a man and his children, but to exonerate those who probably aren’t even allowed to see the children that by law, he is being made to provide for. There are some, who don’t care, but then there are those who actually have children that they are unable to properly care for because they are being made to take care of children that are not his because some promiscuous woman, wasn’t woman enough to admit that the child or children were not his.

Men actually go to jail because of back child support (Read: Childless man freed after serving time for child support violation. http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/07/15/georgia.child.support/) . Driver’s licenses can be suspended. These are just a few things that can prevent a man from either getting back and forth to work, or even obtaining gainful employment (buses and trains only go but so far).

Some may say, “What about the children?” Me too, what about the children? God forbid, later in life they get sick or need some type of transfusion that the mother cannot give, only the father, and to find out at that given moment, in a lift threatening moment, that the man who thought all along that he was the father, is not the biological father of that child.

We as a society is adamant about making Deadbeat Dad’s stand up and provide for their children, financially or emotionally. But what about the women who conceived these children, either from an affair, or by knowingly claiming another man has fathered another man’s child. These women should also be held accountable.

If a man feels in his heart, not by what other people tell him, but within his heart that he is not the father of a child, he should have every right to request a DNA test that is not linked to the child support department that is handling his case. If it is proven that he is not the biological father, then he should have the opportunity to decide if he wants to continue paying child support or to have it terminated.

Paternity Fraud can prevent a man from supporting his own children and family, or delay his decision to get married or even to have children of his own. (http://www.paternityfraud.com/)

Let me know your insight.

Do you think it’s right that a woman can knowingly have another man’s baby, and make another man be held responsible for the child?

Do you think this bill should be reintroduced, voted on, and passed into law?

CHILDREN OVER 20 ARE NO LONGER CHILDREN

2012-09-04T06:14:00.000-07:00

ACCORDING TO MAN'S LAW, WHEN WE TURNED 18 THAT PUT US IN THE CATEGORY OF ADULTHOOD. WE HAD THE DESIRE AND THE DRIVE TO OBTAIN THAT WHICH WE HAD OUR MINDS SET ON...GOALS. SOME OF US HAD SHORT TERM GOALS, SOME OF US HAD LONG TERM GOALS, OTHERS HAD SHOR TERM GOALS TO HELP US OBTAIN OUR LONG TERM GOALS.

THEN HOW IS IT THAT SOME THINK THAT THE WORLD OWES THEM SOMETHING. UHHH NO. JUST LIKE MY MOTHER AND FATHER WORKED HARD UNTIL THEY WERE UNABLE TO WORK ANY MORE DUE TO SICKNESS. AS HARD AS JOBS ARE TO FIND NOW A DAYS, WHAT MAKES THESE KIDS THINK THEY CAN ACT ANY WAY THEY WANT TO ON A JOB AND NOT BE REPREMANDED/FIRED?

SOME OF THE YOUTH OF TODAY FAIL TO REALIZE, YEAH YOUR PARENTS GAVE BIRTH TO YOU, THEIR JOB WAS TO RAISE YOU, INSTILL IN YOU GOOD QUALITIES, TEACH YOU THE WORD OF GOD OR TAKE YOU TO A PLACE WHERE IT IS BEING TAUGHT. AFTER THE AGE OF 17 YOU MUST TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR OWN ACTIONS. THERE IS A SIGN THAT SAYS "TOO ALL TEANAGERS, TIRED OF BEING HARASSED BY YOUR STUPID PARENTS? ACT NOW! MOVE OUT, GET A JOB, PAY YOUR OWN BILLS. DO IT WHILE YOU STILL KNOW EVERYTHING" http://www.retroplanet.com/PROD/24388

THE LOSS OF A LOVED ON

2012-08-23T19:33:00.000-07:00

We never get use to death, even though we know death is a part of the life cycle, it is not something we get use to. However, we do learn how to cope with and deal with the pain that comes along with the loss of a loved one.

But how do you maintain after the loss of three in four to five months of each other? By the grace of God. No doubt we should lean on His word on a daily basis, but it is during these times that we should do as we have seen in many demonstrations when a persons back is facing someone and they fall back trusting that person will catch. Well that's how we have to do with God - just stretch out our arms and just fall back.

For me, I have lost my friend and ex-boyfriend of over 20 years in November 2011, another friend of more then 13 years in August 2012, and this month, my ex-husband (married 13 years friends for about 16 years). Even after our divorce, we remained friends.

So through it all, I have with confidence, stretched out my arms and fell back because I knew God was to be there to catch me.

COMMUNICATION OR LACK THERE OF

2012-08-21T22:14:00.000-07:00

When a couple is no longer in love with each other, or can no longer get along with each other, they do everything in their power to try and make life miserable for the other parent, not realizing that they are doing severe damage to the children. I use to handle a lot of child support cases when I worked with the NJ State Legislature, and I enjoyed fixing things that needed to be fixed. Child Support is not just for dads to pay to mothers but it is also for mothers to pay to dads. It is whatever is needed to take care of the children. Some people need to know that when they make the decision of having children with a certain individual, they are in that relationship with that parent until that child is at least 18.

My personal Child Support experiences.

When I first filed for child support for my oldest son, it was done after an ultimatum was give to his dad. I worked and had the means of taking care of my son on my own. The ultimatum was, either spend time with him or help take care of him financially. So he told me to do what I had to do, and I did just that. I went and filed the necessary papers for child support. As years went by, at one point in time he was laid off, and because of the relationship we had developed I went and had the child support stopped. Why? Always remember, you can’t get blood from a rock. Learn how to get along, how to communicate, not for your sake, but for the sake of the children.

MY STORY

2012-08-21T07:52:00.001-07:00

Where do I begin? In a nutshell, I have 3 children by 3 different men. We have had our ups and downs, but our relationships never dictated the relationships they were to maintain with their children. My children are now 21 (son), and my daughters (19 and 13). When I separated from each father, I let them know that it was their responsibility to maintain a relationship with their child.

NOW, I never did say I got along with my children’s fathers at all times, but my children NEVER knew when I was mad at their fathers. They didn’t need to know. I always told my children’s fathers that they themselves would prove what type of fathers they were and that would not have to say anything negative to encourage the decisions of my children.

Now as my children got older, they were able to make their own decisions and choices.

I had one friend that use to always say, how much he wished his children’s mother was like me because I didn’t try to do everything in my power to make the lives of my children’s fathers a living hell. He also liked the fact that in the 13 years that he and I were friends, he never knew of me to have different men around my children all the time.

With that being said, I showed my children how to love, and respect the well being of others, and that they were not meant to judge anybody no matter how much they may have disappointed you. I instilled in my children that God was the only judge of man, and that if He judged us and did not forgive us, only God knows where we would be.

SINGLE PARENTS PT1

2012-08-21T06:54:00.000-07:00

I have lived the life of a single parent for many, many years. It is common that many single parents try to use the children to hurt the other (absent) parent. However, do you realize the damage that is caused to the children? You may not think that your arguing, or not letting Little Mary/Johnny see mom or dad because of what you are going through is not harmful to the child, it is. Your issues are with the parent, you should not be getting in between the relationship of your child and the absent parent. All of that negative energy used to prevent, hinder or slander could be used in helping to make your child a better person in today's society.