Comments for Genderfork

Comment on Flute by JayVon

JayVon — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 15:18:36 +0000

Love this!

Comment on Not a threat. by Sarah-Sophia

Sarah-Sophia — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 05:21:17 +0000

I would do anything for the rest of the world to feel that way. I have that fight all the time.

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Sarah-Sophia

Sarah-Sophia — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 05:19:54 +0000

This part really got to me “When people talk about me, I want them to… not refer to me as “that weird girl who wants to be a guy.”

I get that type of thing all the time…

But anyways, very cool profile (:

Comment on Passing as ungendered. by Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 00:18:02 +0000

i think its awesome that you take it all in stride while smiling. i’m from the south as well, and when people have problems gendering me i just go with the flow while being nice. it shows people that just because i do not clearly fit into a strict gender binary (which is the culture down there) it doesn’t mean i am scary or a bad person.

Comment on Not a threat. by Cydne

Cydne — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 00:10:10 +0000

I have a mangina and breasticles :)

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Cat

Cat — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 23:24:37 +0000

Yes, yes, this. Sometimes I want to be full-on FEMME, not just effeminate—and someday I want to realize my childhood dream of growing my hair down to my waist—but I wish more people would understand that that doesn’t cancel out my androgynous nature and spirit. I like living in the middle a good portion of the time, but I never want to be boxed into it! D:

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Marcus

Marcus — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 22:59:15 +0000

YES. Just yes. This.

Comment on “Masculinity is what you believe it to be.” by Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 21:18:53 +0000

Very well and sincerely said.

Comment on Glared at. by Jessica

Jessica — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:55:01 +0000

There’s a special horror showering in a public shower and turning around to have people look at you scandalized, confused, aroused, fearful, revolted and angry – in a kaleidoscope of conflicting emotions.

From the back, people thought you were type A and when you turn around, they have to reassess, and then they have to reassess again. They hate this. They take it out on you. You should not be here. You should not be in their world. You are an Anathema thrust into their universe and they want to banish you.

It hurts. And it serves no purpose.

The only part of me that really wants to be transsexual is the one that wishes I had a body I could be gloriously proud of naked in public. But the adult in me knows that I will never achieve that because 1) wrong genes 2) it’s too late and 3) it would require more effort on my part than I will ever expend.

So, I’m going to be proud of me anyway and when I see those kaleidoscope stares, I’ll forgive them and pity them for their weakness and the tenuous hold they have on what is real and what is important.

Like Steven Stills said: “Love the one you’re with…” The only one you’re always with is yourself.

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Elle

Elle — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:21:59 +0000

“Biological men can be as effeminate as they want and nobody looks twice.” Uh, well. I think I understand where you’re all coming from. But…

People may not question that an effeminate biomale was born with an XY, but anyone presenting effeminate masculinity is going to have some difficulties.

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Elle

Elle — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:09:30 +0000

Hello Aaron, welcome to Genderfork, nice to meet you sir!

Comment on Not a threat. by B

Sun, 05 Sep 2010 20:03:49 +0000

I’m a boy with a vagina, who likes to wear make up and bind his chest. As much as people would like you to think otherwise, what’s in your pants or on your body has nothing to do with your gender. :)

Comment on Profile: Aaron by A

Sun, 05 Sep 2010 19:40:46 +0000

Totally agreed. Biological men can be as effeminate as they want and nobody looks twice. When I’m effeminate, people think — if they don’t outright TELL me — that I’m not really genderqueer. ):<

Comment on My hair will turn white soon by Elle

Elle — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 18:42:52 +0000

Awesome! Tell Gender Claus to sign me up! Er, Transition Claus? Santa Queer?

Comment on “Masculinity is what you believe it to be.” by Chris

Chris — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:48:46 +0000

Love him.

Comment on Jimmy Page on Hotel Room Chair, 1975 by Chris

Chris — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:48:06 +0000

You should read Susan Fast’s book on Led Zeppelin, IN The Houses Of The Holy. She examines gender signifiers in the band’s music and presentation at length.

Comment on The Twelfth Doctor by Tigs

Tigs — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:19:29 +0000

Awesome.

Comment on I wonder by essejz

essejz — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:16:20 +0000

I was thinking about this post for awhile… this is a really tough situation. When I was in college, I thought I was attracted to transmen because most of the ones i encountered were just beginning the transition, so they still read as dykes to me. Now that I know transmen who fully pass as male, I’m not attracted–I am just not attracted to men. I think if this is the case for your girlfriend, it’s important that she voice that to you. It’s not a rejection of you or your personality–I have lots of close male & transmale friends, but I don’t want to date them.

As for you: I think you need to explore your feelings regardless of your girlfriend (obvz). I also think there’s a lot of pressure put on butch women to identify as transmale; people have asked me when i’m going to transition etc b/c of my gender presentation & i’m like–”I’m female.” It took me a long time to accept being a masculine-looking / identifying woman. It’s important to be able to accept yourself with love no matter where you decide you fall on the gender continuum. If your girlfriend can help you figure that out, then the more power to you both; if she’s holding you back, you need to leave.

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Trevor

Trevor — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 17:03:42 +0000

I agree. I hate when some feminine traits means you MUST not actually be a boy. If you were biologically male people wouldn’t see those same traits and say “oh, you’re actually a girl, sorry.”

Comment on Profile: Aaron by Libby

Libby — Sun, 05 Sep 2010 16:16:18 +0000

Seconded. :-)