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How can I break up with my boyfriend in a nice way?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:08:03 -0600

He's changed, he use to be so nice to me and use to call me every time he gets a chance to. Now, he a straight up jerk. I want to break up with him, but I want to do it in a nice way.Any ideas?

Hey "older brother" issues here?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:06:51 -0600

Hey guys!
So I have wanted an older brother for as long as I can remember.
In my experience, with older cousins etc. I find it funner and less annoying to have an older brother.

So anyway, I can't date now, not aloud and don't want to I'm only 15 lol I want an "older brother" figure head.
All my teachers are female, and all the guys only like those s-k-i-m-p-y girls lol

The thing is this issue has been bothering me for long enough. SO long that when I go to bed at night, I start to wonder and imagine EVERY LITTLE thing my "brother" would say to me, from what he wears, and it all feels very real.
When I get back up the morning, I get depressed.
Also Big Brother Big Sister doesn't work because of where I live, and there are no more other things like that.
I really need an older male figure head lol!

I cannot go to any programs like that and I go to an ALL GIRLS school and I can't go anywhere after school lol

How can I get over him?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:58:57 -0600

so there's this guy I loved, yes I loved him. every single thing about him. even when I was with my boyfriend I was thinking about him. well now I can't even see him cause I feel like feelings are going 2 be stronger. we never went out caused of age, he said it was wrong specially because we met in church. I was 17 and he was 25. I didn't see anything bad about it but he did :( so every time I have a chance 2 see him from far I do it. but I think its hurting me so much. I didn't see him for about 9 months and I thought feelings went away and guess what? no they didn't :( I love him I really do. but I know we are never going 2 go out how can I get over him?

Why is my best guy friend acting like a complete a** hole?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:55:10 -0600

I have been best friends with this guy since middle school and now we are seniors in high school. We were both in this group of friends, going out to eat, making fun of each other jokingly, and other activities. We have one class together but we don't sit near each other and he sits near people I don't really hang out (and honestly, I don't think some of them are that nice either) and he most of the time ignores me. He has apparently been hanging out with new friends because my acquaintance keeps talking about how he hangs out w/them a lot now and it kinda makes me feel like sh*t. However, whenever I see him in the hallway, he says my name and that he loves me or gives me a hug and I give him a hug back most of the time, but I really feel like I don't want to. Even my other friends in our group say that he's been acting like a "sucky friend". For example: my friend is in chorus with him and he threw one of his "new friends" shoes in her direction, nearly hitting her in the head; Worst part is he goes to get the damn shoe and ignores her, next day he goes to hug her, she pushes him away from her. I have started to ignore him to give him little hints of his ways towards us but it's just not working. I still love him as a friend but I miss the "old him" where he loved to hang out with us, and I'm not saying that he can't have any friends besides us because that's just not fair. I'm so torn because I want to say something without me saying the wrong thing. What is the best way to handle this? Wtf is his problem anyway?

Giving Off the "I'm Not Interested" Signals

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:50:00 -0600

Since I've moved away for college I've made four good guy friends, none of which I'm interested in. However, they're all giving off these subtle (or sometimes not so subtle) hints that they want to date. I've been trying to give off signals that say I'm not interested, but if anything they seem more determined. What am I doing wrong? I've tried talking about a guy back home that I'm interested in to show that I'm NOT interested in anyone here. I don't hang out with them every time they ask in the hope that they'll see I have more important things to do. Seriously, I've tried everything to show that I'm just not interested and it's not working at all. Any suggestions would be helpful.

Would you notice? This question is for guys, but girls can answer it if they want to.

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:30:18 -0600

Guys, imagine you are at the end of grade 9. You volunteer at the library, are asked to attend a field trip with other library volunteers, you agree to go. On the field trip, you meet a shy girl, she blushes, smiles at you, tries to sit near you but you don't really notice it.
Fast forward to the beginning of grade 10. You have recently added the shy girl as a friend on Facebook, are talking to her through emails. At school, you have heard the school choir needs more boys, you decide to check it out, see if that interests you. At choir practice, you meet the shy girl, say hi, talk about the choir and stuff. She asks if you are going to join the choir, you say you are still thinking about it. For the rest of the month, you have some face-to-face conversation with her, in those conversations she smiles at you, laughs at your jokes, blushes. You two talk about the choir, maybe a bit about school. You finally decide that you don't want to join the choir. You tell the shy girl about your decision, she is a little upset, but is fine cause it was always your decision. You stop talking to her face-to-face but keep having little conversations with her on Facebook. You gradually stop coming to Facebook cause busy with studies. You two stop communicating from the end of grade 10 to the beginning of grade 12. You don't see her much cause you don't have any classes together. When you do she her, she looks at you, blushes, but doesn't say anything. She deleted you from her friend list in Facebook cause of the lack of communication.
Fast forward to the beginning of grade 12. You have taken world issues course, so has the shy girl, you two end up in the same class. You don't really see that she is there, but she knows that you are there. A month passes by, you start noticing her more since she has moved from being far away from you to being two rows in front of you. A friend of hers is in that class and she mostly talks to her. The teacher begins a unit about population, assigns your side of the class to debate against China's one-child policy, vice versa with the other side. The shy girl is on your side and on your team. The shy girl's friend is like a leader to your group, asks everyone what part of the one-child policy they want to research and talk about. You say your part, then notice that the shy girl hasn't chosen her part, you say her name and say that she hasn't a topic yet. At the mention of her name, she smiles at you, blushes, tries to thank you for mentioning her with her body language but you probably don't notice. The teacher helps the girl choose a part to talk about. On the debate day, she says her points nervously, you say yours with confidence. The teacher starts another assignment, you go to the library to research as a class. She sits near you the first 2 days but on the 3 day her friend chooses to sit one sit from you, she ends up beside you. She asks you about the due date of the assignment and blushes, you say its today.

What are some cute love quotes?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:11:09 -0600

I'm making my boyfriend a scrap book, and I want to fill the pages with cute love quotes, help.

How do I tell a gy that I don't like him back?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:09:52 -0600

so there's this guy and I was a total jerk I know, but we were talking and I was just playing around flirting with him and he told me he liked me. I really don't like him at all but he really likes me now. how do I tell him that I would be bad for him? please help!

ps I just don't want him to get hurt

Will he miss me and come back after I give him some space?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:09:06 -0600

my boyfriend of 10 months wanted a break because he has too much baggage in his life. ex wife/ and thinking about custody of his daughter..but he has no money.

i reluctantly ended it because I wanted more than he could give me and felt like such a burden on him. taking his time and energy etc. Now I want him back but he won't budge.

after that he occasionally called me/text and ask how I'm doing because eh said he missed me and still cared /has feelings for me but just wasn't ready for a relationship. but I kept saying I was regretful and wanted to go back to how things were and I'd be by his side through all his drama. I know this was probably wrong as you can't pressure a guy. it'll only make him run away.

his sister, my friend even said he's going through a time in his life where he's stressed and just wants to be alone. she told me to give it some months. its that he doesn't want to be tied down to anything. no responsibilities. Most likely because he already has so many from his last relationship.

i haven't spoken to him in nearly 2 weeks although I see him on msn and don't say anything just so he gets his space.

what should I do? I love and miss him so much. its crazy. should I give him some space to let him miss me? does that even work for guys? maybe then he'll realize what he has lost and come back when he's ready?

Please advise.

Will Long Distance work?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:01:18 -0600

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 16 months now...
We both know we love each other so much.
However, I plan to go to the States for college while there is very little chance for him of going there too.
Frankly, he'd probably either go to Singapore or stay in Indonesia.
I really don't want to lose him, but am worried how will I ever maintain a relationship with us in different places.

I'd really appreciate any similar experiences, advices and suggestions. Thanks!

How to get glowing and beautiful skin?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:59:19 -0600

Do you have any tips on how to get naturally beautiful skin that glows from the inside out? I would like to not have to wear makeup.

Do I have a right to know? Regardless, should I ask anyway?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:59:16 -0600

Long story first: My girlfriend and I have been together for about a month and a half. We were previously together last December-late March when she dumped me for her ex-boyfriend. I was angry, hateful even (every time I looked at her, the first thing I saw was her head exploding and the HALO announcer's voice saying "BAM! Headshot."). I avoided her over the summer, but attended a birthday party that she was hosting for a mutual friend. I stayed after the party because mutual friend's boyfriend is one of my best friends, and he felt awkward being there alone with mutual friend and my ex-girlfriend. There was standard friendly conversation (I did my part and mostly just kept my mouth shut), but she dropped a comment about how she'd had guys over to her house till 3 A.M. and other such ambiguities, and I realized that I was getting jealous. I stuck around for another 15 minutes and split. Talked to friend about it (he was my confidante for the relationship previously), and he encouraged me to talk to her. So, I did, and now we're back together.

She assured me that everything was through with her ex-boyfriend, that she never wanted to see him again, he treated her like sh*t, etc. but she wouldn't tell me why. She refused to tell me what happened.

Well, last night, she told me. I didn't like what I heard (it involved sexual escapades and related drama), and I'm really bothered by it. It's raised a lot of questions, but part of me wonders whether I have any right to ask them. I'm not even sure what it is that bothers me about it, but I feel like my opinion of her has shifted somewhat. The whole situation leaves me feeling repulsed and disgusted. None of this mattered to me before I knew (and I'd heard from others that they'd had sex, but hearing it from her somehow changes it), but now it does. Do I have a right to know any of this, or am I to rely on her willing revelations? Should I ask anyway? Should it even matter to me?

I'm 19 and never been kissed, had a boyfriend, etc. is this normal?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:56:58 -0600

I've never even held hands with someone before. It really bothers me. I never show it, but it does. Guys never show interest in me, and I feel like something is wrong with me. People always tell me how beautiful and nice I am and stuff, but guys never ask me out, or try to spend time with me. One guy has complimented me before, who I liked, but he completely shut off towards me and we're not friends anymore, for no reason at all.

I'm a quiet girl, I don't drink, I don't do drugs, I don't party. It just puzzles me that a girl like me can't get anything at all, and I see girls that aren't attractive, are vulgar, and have no value for themselves, getting great boyfriends who they take for granted, and they end up hurting them in the long run.

Why did he stop talking to me?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:51:55 -0600

SO i recently started talking to this guy I use to go school with when I was younger, I moved away when I was in grade 4 and we were each others first crush and he recognized me right away on Facebook and for the last two weeks we have been talking every day and hanging out a few times..and having a lot fun, because we have a lot in common, but we haven't fooled around or had sex yet. but I recently just broke up wit an ex and I was still sort off attached but I'm not anymore and I told him this Friday. and last night he was suppose go a party with me but he didn't contact me all day? but the night before he's like lets hang out , but I already had plans.. so I don't know why he ditched me last night and didn't answer his phone? what's this mean?

Tell her I miss her?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:48:19 -0600

Last school year I told this new girl that she was beautiful and I liked her. After that, everyday at lunch she would come from her to table to sit with me and my friends at my table for about 5 minutes or so. Always saying hi to me. But I wouldn't talk back to her as much and the conversations were awkward and boring, because of me. I was bad at these kind of things and she made me kind of nervous at first too, in a good way. Later in the year we had a class together. We would talk briefly but that was it. I knew she was getting bored of me from the lack of socializing and I didn't blame her. And when her friends asked me if I still liked her, I said no, even though I did. She was obviously not liking me the way I liked her. Our class together was over but sometimes the visits from her at lunch continued and occasionally when she rides the bus home with her friend, she'll say good bye and pat me on the shoulder. But as time past on it soon stopped. We never really talked that much anymore and I never really see her often as much. I then heard she started dating someone. I never really knew for sure or how serious it was. So I just never mind it. But near the end of the year, I hear one of her friends saying she liked me. It was told to me directly and I didn't believe, even though I wanted it to be true.

During summer vacation I saw her again when riding my bike. She said my name in surprise and I just waved to her saying hey and rode off since she was talking to someone else.

Near the start of next school year I added her as a MySpace friend. She didn't remember me at all and she stopped responding to my replies..
I miss her now and I regret not talking to her as much as I did. I want to know if she did like me then. I don't think we had a good enough friend relationship. The only way I can talk to her is on the internet. I don't want to sound like a freak or anything.

Should I tell her that I miss her and ask if she liked me? I am very interested in any answers, suggestions, and advice.
(Sorry if it was long)

Eyeliner = Pretty? and turn offs?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:45:44 -0600

I remember a while back it was my last day of middle school and I found some eyeliner that my aunt had given me. I'm not that make up savvy so I hadn't been putting on practically any. OK, so I put on some eyeliner and when I get to school, I'm getting comments such as "you look pretty today!" and such by the 'popular girls' All I'm thinking is 'shallow much?' so it made me think OK so drawing on my face makes me pretty? We live in a weird world, Girls, have you experienced this? Boys, do you think girls are more attractive with makeup on?

ALSO

Boys what is every turnoff you can think of ? and what are some turn on's for you?
Thanks!

What do guys think of girls like this?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:35:07 -0600

so I'm known as a sporty girl in school I play sports all year round and excel in all of them what do guys think of girls like this do they like it?

Why does he always look at me?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:29:47 -0600

So this guy constantly stares/looks at me all the time in Math class (our only class together) We have never talked before but he's friends with my brother who's the age as him. He stopped calling our house to talk to my brother since the 8th grade, but decides to call THIS YEAR...And one time when my mom dropped me and my brother to school, we were late so we had to sign in. The guy I like was in front of us and said what's up to my brother and asked if I was his sister. When I open the door for him in math (because he's always late) He walks out slowly and looks at me. When I sit down in my chemistry classroom waiting for class to start, I always see him walking past it and tilting his head to look at me.

But he many many female friends and flirts A LOT...sometimes even right in front of my face (LITERALLY) One time I was talking to my guy friend outside of my chem classroom and he walks past and stops in front of me while hugging this random girl not even a foot where I was standing..)
What does this mean? How do I know he likes me or DOES he? ...help?

Is it wrong to fall in love with your cousin's ex?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:21:39 -0600

Well iv always liked my cousin ex..actually I liked him before her,but he went with her because they where in the same school, they kept breaking up an making up because she thought that he was cheating (was he idk) but now they finally broke up for sure an it has bin months now, an now me an him is talking, he says he likes me a lot an I like him a lot to. my cousin knows about it she thinks I should go with him but I'm thinking its wrong for going with my cousin ex because me an my cousin are like sisters! so I don't know what to do...an I think I'm in love with him...

Should I change my Facebookstatus?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:54:29 -0600

Okay. I've had a boyfriend for about 3 weeks now. When we talked about getting exclusive, he said he wasn't into showing it.. like on Facebook, messenger etc. Which is absolutely okay.

Though, I said I liked Facebook. I know it sounds stupid, but that's how society works now.. you know. Anyway, he said that was okay.. but he hasn't done anything yet (and it's been 3 weeks).

And I think it's because he's afraid his best friend will see it, and maybe others. When I asked if he had told anyone about me (we don't have any friends in common) he said yes (which is kind of sweet because he has told his grandma about me, and all of his best friends).

But when I asked about one of his best friends (a girl), he said no because he thought she would be angry.. Because they where dating a few months back.. but he said he would talk to her, because I said it was weird if she got mad if they where only friends now. And he agreed. But this was 3 days ago, and I haven't asked about it. And I don't know if I should..

So I wonder, if I should be the one to change my status, and see if he does it too... like when he's ready. I don't have to send him an invite. But I'm afraid I will push him.

I'm feeling kind of embarrassed now because I'm so hung up in Facebook. It's stupid. But I feel like Facebook shows that he's not embarrassed about me, and that he wants everyone to know..

Any comments?

Is it possible to ever feel something more for a friend who you see as your sister?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:51:54 -0600

well is it?

My best guy friend knows I like him and he tells me I'm like a sister he's never had. Is it possible that he could ever get to the stage that he doesn't see me as a sister anymore and might just fall for me?

Guys, if you just started dating a girl for a month....will you commit yourself?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:44:07 -0600

a month prior to do some random volunteer event on a Saturday night? Your girl is not going with you.

What exactly is boho...artsy chic....?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:39:25 -0600

I'm attending an event and dress code is casual boho/artsy chic with no jeans. Can you guys give me some examples..? What are some cute outfits? thanks

Should I tell him I like him and risk everything?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:35:20 -0600

Should I tell him I have feelings for him and risk losing him completely or should I just go on the way things are and count on things to turn out for the best?

I fell for this guy fast and hard. And I'm not the type to have deep feelings. I'm very proud and have kind of been a lady player up until now. I don't think I could take his rejection. It would ruin me -my confidence, that is.

I shouldn't logically like him so much, he has none of the qualities I go for, but as I now realize, that's not quite how love works.

Care for a story? (Abrupt change in behavior)

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:31:45 -0600

There is a girl in my church whom at first I knew of, but really paid no attention to or had interest in. Then she started showing interest in me, trying to start conversations and sitting next to me in our Thursday night scripture class. I *thought* I got the hints and decided hey why not. So I made more of an effort to get to know her.
At a big day-long activity I was advancing, we were flirting and she was responding well. I asked her out the next week and she accepted. Date 1 was a Saturday night, went really well. haha After I dropped her back off she even asked if I wanted to walk the short distance with her to the mailbox to check the mail. And the next day she wanted to sit by me at church. Date 2 was the following Thursday. She asked me out to get some dinner before the lesson. And I had been planning to ask her out that night for Sat, so I did anyway and we went on our 3rd date that Saturday.
3 dates in a week, I know it's a bit much but I thought they all went well. The 3rd one was even very impromptu in our plans, and she even took my arm while we strolled across a moonlit golf course. At the end of the night, I got the same great hug (NOT a friend hug).
Well apparently I misread things. The very next day, most everyone met at our congregation leader's house for a special satellite broadcast. I figured us two would sit together on the couch or something. She.. pretty much ignored me. Now, I knew she was a bit shy about being marked "an item".. or something like that. I tried to initiate things a couple times, and basically she treated me the same as any other person. Nothing special about me.
The whole month since has been like that. Haven't gone on a date since. Now granted, we've both had weddings to go to and booked weekends, so there hasn't really been time, but her behavior has remained the same. She stopped sitting by me at everything, and while we still converse here and there, it's not the same. Plus I feel like my full personality can't come out like it did before because of the confusion of all this, which then hurts my chances further.
Interspersed in this month, we have talked on the phone twice. They were good, fun conversations. She's also said that she DOES still want to date me (though not exclusively - that's fine but hmm clearly she has other interests) but seriously? Her actions speak far louder than her words, and they're pretty conflicting.

So? Thoughts? I'm about ready to just drop her, because I really don't appreciate the treatment. But I think she's really impressive, so I'd prefer that not to happen. Yet it's prob in fact the best way TO get her interested again, like when she first liked me. Agreed?
I've tried enough to get something going again. She should know I'm still interested, so the ball's totally in her court. Yes? No?
Ladies, is this crazy switcharoo common? Is it because you're scared, or because you don't like the guy anymore? Both? Also, words vs. actio

What are some risqué, edgy things I can say to girls...

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:25:46 -0600

...to show that I'm not your average "nice guy", and inject some sexuality and edginess into a flirty conversation?

This question is inspired by point #3 of this article: link Reference it if you wish. Thanks a lot : )

Do girls like a little drama and frustration in relationships?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:22:01 -0600

That's been my observation. Some girls (if not most) seem to be more attracted to guys who create some drama in the relationship, rather than a guy who is stable. Some girls are absolutely ADDICTED to this. Too nice, or too stable, seems to equal BORING. Drama, etc. (whether it means being emotionally or physically unavailable, teasing the girl, even flirting with other girls and cheating) seems to create that mystery or edginess that girls can't resist. True?

Really think about this question--I'm not looking for the knee-jerk reaction--"such are selfish jerks who like to play games with girls, and who will never end up with a decent girl in a stable relationship." Guys and girls, be brutally honest with yourselves and tell me what you think, based on experience and observation. Thanks : )

Is she really interested?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:21:00 -0600

So I like one girl in my class but have boyfriend.

She tell me that she likes me more than her boyfriend and wants to know me better and don't want to know anything about her current Boyfriend after for while we have know each other. She starts to flirt with me and sit together in classes and start to tease me little bit. putting hands on my leg, making eye contact plus her eyes dilated she really wants to be close to me. Calls me her honey and teddy bear. Puts her head on my shoulder, touches my hands and said I want to hold them forever. She starts to vision future together with me. One night we walks together and hold each other hands and get to know each other. When she was with friends or me she always focus me, but after she tells me she have feelings towards me then she tells me that she have boyfriend and was several years together and now I am busy for moment but at beginning she never mention him and shouldn't never mention feelings towards me sorry about that. then I asked her to I have change to get her and says let life show us or something. For awhile let we be cute. One day talked her and said lets put this relationship thing on hold for awhile. Then after when we met at school she was like cold or she was nervous, ignores/avoid me act weird (like bold) or something and was hard to talk to her.

What should I do. give her space, not contact her or what?
I really need you opinions.
Does she really want me more and want to slow thing and what?
Thanks

Guys and Girls - do you ever make excuses to touch a person you like?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:20:26 -0600

One morning, I came into school dressed up for an event and when I went to my locker the guy I like was there. We started talking about the event and our outfits etc, and then he asked me if he looked festive enough. I said yeah, but I have accessories in my bag if you want to amp it up. He was excited and I gave him some beads and a fresh flower for his hair like the one I had in mine (seriously, I didn't think he'd be willing to put the flower in his hair...). I really wanted to be less nervous around him so when he asked me if it was in straight, I said no (Ha, I lied) so I could "fix" it and break into his personal space. He just stood there and let me fix and then showed another friend of ours what I did and complimented me on all the things I brought in etc.

Anyway, later after I got close to him. He wanted to see if this bag I always carry was really heavy. I said not really, but when he grabbed it, instead of just taking the part of the handle my hand wasn't on or waiting for me to pass him the bag, he wrapped his hand right on top of mine to take it so I had to slip my hand from underneath his when he pulled it from the other side of me.

To me, this is a REALLY awkward way to grab something. It seemed like an excuse to hold my hand because I've totally done this move before when you pass something to someone awkwardly so you can touch their hand.

What do you all thing about this "move"? Is it a sign of affection toward the other person? Would you ever do this to get closer to someone?

Does he still like me after all that's happened?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:17:20 -0600

We both go to college but live in completely different hometowns, we knew we both liked each other last semester but said we would see what happens. What happened was we both got back together with our ex's and we both got dumped. I know it is still a little too soon to start a relationship up, but I really like him. He told me he likes spending time with me after we hung out for a good chunk of time just sitting around, and he also spends time with me even if he's really tired. But now I feel like I'm contacting him all the time and I do not want to bug him by being the one saying hi all the time first. I just want to know if it seems like he still likes me or it is just the type of person/friend he is. I would ask him myself or tell him I like him but but with the mixed signals I'd rather not chance it right now.

Girls, what is your idea of a hot guy?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:05:12 -0600

Guys have different tastes but there are certain factors that make a girl hot. such as how curvy they are, hair color, boobs, butt, certain colored eyes etc.

what about for guys. what type of guy do you girls prefer.

What does this mean?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:03:44 -0600

what does it mean when you're all anxious and have spells where you're down etc after a break up? its not like I want to get back together with him. I really don't. he's changed now to the point where I don't know him anymore. but I just don't understand why I still feel like this. I either feel completely numbed out, anxious or just completely down and deflated. =/

any words of wisdom?

If a guy thinks he's not worth it but says you're wounderful, does he have feelings for you?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:01:25 -0600

I like this guy and he said I was wonderful, intelligent, and beautiful, but he doesn't think he's worth it and says I deserve better and Unfortunately he's not that

I think she is not interested in me or she just wants me as a friend, is there any way I can learn what she wants?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 15:01:13 -0600

Hi, there's this girl I like, but I don't know if she likes me too, I got some things but I'm not sure. She asks me out after school, she sits next to me, she remembers things I said 2 weeks before and some more. I told her that I like her, she replied that if it's our future to be together, we will be, she said she's thinking about me all the time, but when I call her, she never picks it up, she doesn't talk to me much(that could be because she is shy) and some more things. So, I think she is not interested in me or she just wants me as a friend, is there any way I can learn what she wants? And do you think she might likes me? Thanks in advance.

A guy opening up to you?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 14:54:24 -0600

To the girls out there what would you think if your boyfriend or husband who one night open up to you about things he kept buried in for years. Like, how he didn't like himself growing up, etc. What would you think if he started crying about those things to you?how would you respond to that? Would you think of him as less of a man?

Meeting boyfriend's parents!? help!

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 14:28:24 -0600

So I have already met his parents like twice but it was just saying hi, but now I have to spend a lot of time with them tonight at his soccer game. I don't really feel like they like me because I gave him a hickey and they say it, and they weren't very pleased. So what can I do to make a good impression, and what do we talk about? please help! I'm so nervous!

He hasn't texted back and I know he hates clingy girls.

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 14:15:04 -0600

my phone went crazy last night after texting him in the afternoon in the evening it sent all sorts of texts and messages to him and rang him and also sent him texts that were meant for my friend asking her to ring me I texted him to tell him what had happened so he didn't think I was mad, the thing is he hasn't texted back and I know he hates clingy girls.

realistically is he gonna text back or should I just forget it I really can't contact him as I think that would make the situation worse

I'm just a booty call, only more intimate.

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 14:05:41 -0600

I've seen this guy for about a year, between once to many times in a month. We usually get to together and hang out, listen to music and get intimate. He's more like a Friends with Benefits but I want more and we tend to talk and act like a couple but we only see each other discretely. If I'm upset with him he will always say sorry and will try to make up for it. He has said he never wants to get married, but sooner or later he has to grow up and have at least a girlfriend right? He's in his early 30's. Sometimes, I get the feeling he will never grow up. That I'm just a booty call, only more intimate. If possible. The point is I want more and I get mixed signals from him, he acts like he's touched I remember details about him but he can never remember mine.

Girls who overdo the girlie routine, fake or real?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:59:54 -0600

Like talking in a singsong voice, ending all sentences with a rising inflection (as if they were questions), and gushing on in a high pitched voice about how adorable every animal they see is...
is this a bit of a put on with some girls?
Or are some really this way by nature?

Ex-girlfriend made him feel claustrophobic and has put him off serious relationships?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:57:24 -0600

Is it possible for a guy not to want a serious relationship because his last Girlfriend made him feel Claustrophobic ?
He said he hasn't had a serious relationship for 2 years because his last girlfriend nearly put him off women for life and made him feel claustrophobic, he said he is now a complete commitment phobe,he said he will settle eventually but it won't be for a few years, can this be possible? or has he just not found the right one?

How would react if your barely 16 year old daughter told you she has been cutting herself for the past 8 years?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:54:58 -0600

your barely 16 year old daughter told you she has been cutting herself for the past 8 yrs?

Could a guy completely ignore you if he liked you?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:51:43 -0600

This guy treats me 100% differently than he does any other girl.

I thought he might like me, but could you completely ignore a girl you're interested in?

Sometimes he'll randomly text me late at night with no seeming purpose. Other than that, I have to initiate all contact.

We have a brief history, but I don't think it matters anymore, its been a year since then.

Could you ignore someone you liked? Why would you?

Should I lose weight?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:48:34 -0600

i am 5"9 and weigh 128 pounds.
basically I'm a high jumper and jumpers should have low fat level.
should I lose weight?

GUYS and best GIRL friends.

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:46:26 -0600

Okay so just some background info … I've been talking to his guy for about 2 months now. We kiss and cuddle but nothing more because we both thought we should take it slow. We've talked about a relationship happening in the future but it ended with him saying he was in a couple bad relationships in the past and now he's just chilling and figuring out who he is. I respected that and laid off him for awhile because I was getting caught up and told him. But he still calls and texts me every once in awhile though saying that he’s sorry he didn’t call me today that he was busy, likes me and that I should call him more.

Okay, so to the question. He has this friend. Best friend that’s a girl. She doesn’t live too far from my house. He walks her home all the time and says it’s because she’s a girl. It’s usually late at night like 11:30 12:00 and a good 30, 45 minute walk to his house. He'll tell me he's walking by my house with a text. But then when I want to ask for some time to chill it’s “I’m tired, I want to relax.” I’m basically getting the “I don’t want to talk to you message”, but I keep getting the random calls, texts and apologies. Does he have a thing for his BF? And can a guy really have a best friend that’s a girl without getting feelings for them? He also claimed that she had a man, but I never bring her up. I'm so confused.

What does he want?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:43:50 -0600

i recently confessed to a guy I like because I wanted to confirm that he was avoiding me because he knew that I liked him.
he explained that he avoided me was because that I liked him and we never talked ever since.
not in school, or anywhere else.
he has not blocked me on msn or Facebook but I feel sad.
he rejected me but now we aren't friends anymore.
i don't want to lose him as a friend but I don't know how to salvage this situation.
he's having his major exams now, and is going to graduate.

Please help - I still love someone who cheated on me...

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:32:46 -0600

Right basically, about a year and a half ago I dated a guy we had the same friend ship group and got on well, however we were quite young and not planning on settling down. Any way he cheated on me, so naturally I dumped him. A couple weeks later he apologized, said how sorry he was. We dated again then not for long but he ended it this time because he had exams coming up and needed to be alone.

After this we never spoke for about half a year, since then I dated his friend. Then about 4months ago he text me saying how sorry he was for all of last year and asked to meet etc... first I was like no way then I thought why not its clear I still have feelings so I met him we kept meeting for the next 2months he told me he would prove things to me and that he wanted me in his life etc.. 2months down the line he had been amazing literally so different to how I knew hm before so we dated again, went out for a couple months.

Then I went on holiday and he cheated on me right in front of my best mate, so I dumped him again. Then we never spoke. But recently we decided its stupid and to be mates cos we got on so well. But last Friday we went to a bar had a few drinks and ended up kissing, bth saying we had missed each other and were still in love. He explained how he handles things and I know he does care but he doesn't know how to care if that makes sense.

Anyway I still really really like him please help me?!?!?!
What should I do?!?!?!?!?!

Thanks :) xx

I just want to cry here... is this allowed?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:14:27 -0600

Love really drives me crazy. I always get into a one-sided love. I really feel depressed. I really don't want to detailed everything because I just can't. I don't want people to see me crying. So I just want to release them all out here... :'(

*sob*

I know this is a nonsense post but thanks for reading this post anyway...

Does he want a relationship?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 13:12:16 -0600

I've been seeing this guy for about 5 weeks - we hang out a lot (all initiated by him) and I stay over at his place a couple of times a week... it's definitely not all about sex because that doesn't eventuate every time. He's new to the city so doesn't have many friends here. I'm worried that I'm being used because he doesn't know many people. We haven't had a discussion about where we are heading, and I'm a bit worried that it's still early days to be having that conversation. Is this heading toward relationship status, or what are we?

What are some of the signs that someone likes you?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 12:51:05 -0600

what are some of the signs that someone likes you?

You girls wouldn't look at someone more than once unless they are cute, right?

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 12:49:02 -0600

because I'm trying to figure out if girls think I cute , its a very nerdy question but yeah

i was going to class and I saw these 2 girls behind me and they were talking and they were saying

"aren't we supposed to be going to class lets go find more hot guys to look at"

, and then she said we're looking at one now ( referring to me )

this girl with a good figure id say was passing by and just like a regular guy when she passed by I looked at her and as soon as I looked at her

, she said " I saw that!" , I saw her again and she looked at me directly and started smiling

also some girls that I know have boyfriends look at me as well , more than one occasion they look at me what does that mean

and then theirs this story ( id really appreciate it if you could tell me if this girl thought I was cute)

told this girl that I liked her a lot over the summer through MySpace., and she returned with the responses with like "aww that's so sweet" , "thank you so much for everything, your a great guy" 'you a genuinely sweet guy" , " I'm happy to hear from you no matter how late you are"

and then when we got back to school she constantly tried to make eye contact with me but I was too shy to return the gaze, but one day I returned the gaze she gave me a nice big smile that real affected me in the heart, and I could swear she started blushing ,

and as usual I didn't do anything and I assumed that cost me if she liked me

because now she has a boyfriend

and now its just weird 80% of her friends are looking at me , she looks at me, she looks at my friends...

so yeah to wrap this up ill just ask the main question again

you girls wouldn't look at someone more than once unless they are cute right?

and also

i would really appreciate it if you could answer this question as well, did the girl I like thought I was cute and did liked me at a point