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Should I shave my hair? Read all first!

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:38:56 GMT

I've never really liked my natural hair color much, and it's very plain anyways. I also have trichotillomania which is a condition where you pull your hair out for some reason (kind of like a habit but much much worse). The thing is, as much as I would like help for it too; the area where I am makes getting it more difficult that and there are a number of issues with it anyway at the moment - which I'm not gonna get into right now... just know that getting sufficient treatment will be awkward for me at the moment.

Anyways, because of all this, my hair looks really thin and get's greasy easily too... where I have pulled is in view and although it has started to grow back is now sticking up with a vengeance. Anyway, so my theory is that shaving until all of my hair is equal length may actually be beneficial; that and I've never been fussed with hair. I have no problems saying to any inquiring people why my head is shaved... my mum would also be willing to get me good quality wigs and hats, also there wouldn't be any weird clumps of hair turning up in the carpet... overall though I would probably look more attractive with wigs since my hair isn't that great IMHO.

So people does this make sense to you?
And guys, would you be happy being with a person who has a crappy hairstyle like mine or a nice looking one that is a wig?

I'm also a firm believer in not doing anything chemical to my hair for health reasons so dyeing and straightening my hair would be a problem, that and having shorter hair is said to combat my hair pulling problems.

I don't know what I should do!

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:32:44 GMT

Me and my best guy friend have gotten really close in the past month and he recently told me that he likes me as more than a friend. I'm at a loss for what to say to him because, as much as I love the kid, he's not very attractive. I don't mean to sound superficial or anything because I'm really not, looks couldn't mean less to me. I just care too much what other people think and when my cousin saw a picture of him she started laughing. I don't think he looks horrible, he just has some acne and glasses, but my cousin and my sister were making fun of him and I got really angry. I honestly do love the kid, and I don't know if I could see myself dating him, but I don't want to lose him as a friend. I'm sorry it's so long, but I'm really confused and any advice would be lovely =)

Canceled Date?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:27:04 GMT

Had a date organized with this boy for over week, it was suppose to be tonight... but he text me before saying that he can't make it cause its his mates birthday meal and that he completely forgot about it.
Do I believe him or not?
We had spoken about it throughout this week and even through texting last night.
I don't understand and its really upset me as I was so excited...
He knows how much I like him too :(

Why has she started using my last name when talking to me?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:08:09 GMT

I've noticed recently the girl I like always uses my full name when she's talking to me, and even in texts/emails. She says she misses me then uses my full name, she never used to do this she just used my first name. Anyone know why this could be?

Does this happen to you?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:05:58 GMT

Okay...so...
I've been "seeing" this guy for about a month and a half...we made it official today...and I can't look him dead in the eyes without talking...like I can't sit down with him and sit in silence and look him in the eyes...we know pretty much everything about each other, yet I still can't do it...i can look everyone else in the eyes and sit in silence for hours if I had to but with him it's different...
And also...when I hug him...i get literally breathless...i can breathe but I take in no oxygen and get light-headed...is this normal does it happen to anyone else?
Any advice or support appreciated =) xxx

Should I stay or move on?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:58:00 GMT

Ive known this guy for a year and half.At first we were FWB but then I left him because I didn't like the way it turned out.we recently started hanging out again and he told me to never leave him again.I know I'm in love with him and want to be with him, but I don't know if he wants to be with me?Ive tied to move on by dating other guys but they never work out.when we hang out he's always very romantic with me and we have a lot of passion and chemistry together.We both know there is a very strong connection between us but I don't know if he wants to be in a relationship with me?when we talk he says things like if I were his girlfriend things would be much different between us, and he's even brought up marriage to me.last time we hung out he said "when we get married" like he knew for sure? but I was confused because I didn't know if that meant we were boyfriend and girlfriend now?its weird because I rarely see him but when we do he acts like were a couple and he sometimes holds my hand but then the rest of the time he hangs around his buddies.one of the other things that bothers me is he says one of his best friends is a girl and I'm worried that something may be going more than friendship?he says they're not dating and that she's actually hooking up with someone else but she hangs out a lot with him and his buddies even on the holidays which upsets me because he never invites me out for the holidays even though he acts like I'm the one he wants to be with.last time we talked he invited me to dinner with him for his cousins birthday but I said I couldn't because I had to work and after that he never brought it up again. I'm not sure if he's trying to make me his girlfriend without having to actually ask?Should I have a talk with him or should I just move on?I don't want to scare him away but he's giving me mixed signals.

Should I give him another chance?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:27:23 GMT

so I dated this guy for the whole summer, we were never official but before we both went back to school (2 hours away from each other) we had a convo about where this was going and we decided to just take it as it went because we both knew we would be super busy... we kept in touch talked almost everyday visited each other a couple times and what not... over winter break we became official and that's when it all went down hill... the break was great but when we went back to school he broke up with me and told me it was because of the distance and that he was scared(w/e that means) but we still talked all the time because he wanted to be friends...a couple weeks of that went by then he begged for a second chance and told me he would never leave me, blah blah blah... a couple months later he broke up with me again because of the distance..now he's trying to get me back...he calls and texts me all the time telling me he misses me and that he loves me and goes on and on about how stupid he is and he can't believe that he did this to me and I deserve so much better but he knows that this time is going to be different.. I'm wondering what the hell is going on with him and if another chance would be a waste of time?

Why did he stop talking to me?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:25:44 GMT

I was seeing this guy for about a month, and he said he really liked me and asked what I wanted as far as dating..i told him I wanted a relationship and he said the same..but in the end..he just wanted the sex and no commitment it seemed. He also takes steroids and I am wondering if that played a role in his behavior. he used to text me every day, and now I don't hear from him..I told him I don't want to be used just for sex. what should I do?

How do I ask him?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:12:36 GMT

i like this boy and have done for a while now. but the thing is I only see him 2 times a week so I hardly talk to him. I don't have his number because I'm to scared to ask but if I did I would see if he wanted to meet up or something. I really want to ask him out but I don't have the bottle. but if things go wrong between us then it will be weird at cadets because we get on really well. but when I break up with people I end getting on really well with them again but not as much as before or more then before. how do I ask him?

Bad response to a thank you?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 18:11:56 GMT

When you thank someone and the reply is, "You deserve all that I have given you!" Is it right for you to get a bit miffed?

Does anyone else feel the same way?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:56:04 GMT

Ok, so I feel that I'm confused about my identity.. I don't really know who I am or what I want in life. This might sound weird but its really troubling. I tried being the lively person, energetic and funny, I tried being quite and reserved, I tried lying, telling the truth, being a best friend, being a conservative, being liberal. Nothing seems to work. I don't have any friends right now because I don't know what type of friends I want to have. Every time I do get a friend I end up not getting comfortable with them, even though sometimes they are with me. My parents never give me any compliments and only point out what's wrong with me. I do well in school, I do bad, I dress well, I dress badly, I'm good to my brothers, I'm not good to them, nothing seems to be working with them. I'm always left out in my family and out. I do everything they want me to and I'm a very kind and honest person at heart but everyone always sees the opposite of who I really am, no matter how much I try to show it. I don't know what's wrong with me or what I'm doing wrong in my life. I'm very lonely and really need anyone's help.

Can I change to be a caring, loving, pretty girl?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:51:39 GMT

i want to because I crazy always moving non-caring and kinda ugly
can I change?
if so HOW?

Has she been playing with me for 3 years? (especially advice from girls please)

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:51:13 GMT

I know this girl for like 10 years, I've been in class with her for like 8 years. I live in Netherlands so we have another school system. After basic-school we and some other people from my old class went to a higher-school, but not same class though, we were both 12 at that time. Her friend said that we should be connected as a couple but I thought she was joking so I didn't say anything, but that girl looked kinda sad though. Here are some other signs that I thought she would like me:
She once said, though 4 years ago that she was so happy that she's still close together in class with me. Even her ex knew me while I didn't know him. Once she came to bring the newspaper but instead of putting it in the green box she rang the doorbell and said as always when she sees me even if she has a boyfriend hi so nicely to me. When I suddenly showed up she was all nervous and happy and there were more signs like these. So I thought she loved me and I fell in love with her too, but then I found out she has a boyfriend so I decided to wait with telling her. We went to the next class and there were 2 other girls who literally said they loved me, but I was only interested in that other girl, but she had a boyfriend again, yet she was still nice to me. Then we went to the next class, but on another location in the same city. Then I got diagnosed with a disease, so I had to be in the hospital for a while, got a feeding tube, etc. I didn't see her for a couple of months. Then we saw each other again and she was still nervous and nice to me. Then I wanted to tell it to her but I wasn't sure if she had a boyfriend again so I waited until I couldn't wait any longer and told her I needed to tell her something and asked her msn (1st July). Last 3 months she was less nice to me though. On msn I asked her to come to the marketplace (the place where we see each other and only 300m away) to tell her in person but she didn't wanna come there and wanted me to tell it on msn, so I did. I told her I loved her and that I was sorry about the connecting thing and that I thought she was joking about it. Then she suddenly said: "What? I never loved you and I never liked you." I knew I was late with telling her this but I was ill nearly every week and she had a boyfriend quite often. Then I asked her about the connecting thing and first she said she couldn't remember it and 1 minute later she said that her friend was joking. So first she couldn't even remember it and then she even know that her friend was joking? Later she went offline and I blocked and deleted her. I saw her and her friend today who tried to connect us and her friend screamed: [my name]<3[her name].
Now I'm wondering, has she been playing with me for 3 years, over 1000 days or did she use to love me? And why did she showed all these signs but now says she never even liked me? And why was she so nicely to me and not to all the other guys she knew? And should I unblock and add her again or just leave her alone?...

Selling Cars?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:48:07 GMT

Whats a good site that I can post up pics and sell a car online?

Is my boyfriend dead/how do I find out if he is?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:43:53 GMT

Last night my boyfriend took a plane to San Diego to visit his sister. He called me before he got on the plane, and then when he was on the plane he turned his phone off. I texted him, knowing he would get the text when he turned his phone on. He ALWAYS calls me right before he goes to bed/when he gets in after flying, and he didn't call, but there was no plane crash on google news. His phone was clearly turned on after he got off the plane because I called and it rang several times before going to voice mail. I've called him several times and he isn't picking up. I called the San Diego police and they say they don't know if there's been any fatal car accidents. I don't have his sister's number, but I hope that if anything did happen, she would call me, or she would call his parents who would call me. He also attends my college, so I hope the college would send out an email. Should I be worried?

A boy loved me when I was in school some 17 years back.

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:38:03 GMT

I liked him secretly but never told him as I feared my parents. His parents too liked me a lot and tired to talk to me, convince my parents but failed.

Now, We met 6 months back thru Facebook and he said he still likes me but as a friend now. he told me how much he tried to trace me and how much he missed me. We exchanged 300 mails in a month...just everything that we missed out in all these years, family, friends etc.,. He was however very decent and we talked of our school days and family and were enjoying. I feared again if his wife may not like. He said he would take care of that and actually it was his wife that told him to continue this friendship. She knows everything. I was still a bit scared that he may again leave me as a friend also. I rally liked him, his family.

Suddenly after a month he started avoiding me. I was surprised as this man who used to ask me to mail at least once a day stopped communicating so suddenly. After a lot of asking, he said his wife is not happy with our friendship and he can't hurt her. He also gave a long speech that I should love only my husband. I was surprised as I always loved my hubby and why is this guy telling me that suddenly? He said he would try to talk to me once in a while but never did. He also told me that I should never mail him or call him when I tried calling him.

Now after 6months he started calling me. I am not taking his calls. I am scared of his preachings and don't trust him as a friend also now. He may ditch me anytime.I don't know why he is calling me after he told me not to mail him or call him. Again he wants to give speeches? should I take his call? I really don't want to though I want him as a friend, am not sure if we both can handle this. My hubby knows everything and feels I should be away from this guy as there is no guarantee that he will continue to be my friend. I'm extremely hurt and shocked by his behavior. What did I do? Where did I go wrong?

He asked me to talk to his brother, parents, sister etc., I did because I knew them before. They were so happy to talk to me and now suddenly no one is talking. I'm feeling so bad. His brother also told me how much this guy waited for me for years and finally married someone else.

I love my husband a lot but feel like talking to my friend too as we were childhood friends before becoming something more. His family loves me a lot but I don't want to get hurt to get my husband hurt. I don't even want this friend or his wife to get hurt. Still I want a friendship with him. What to do? But I surely don't want any speeches from him to love my husband, be happy and all nonsense. I never picked up the phone..it is been the case for the last 2 months.
Why did he make me talk to all his family if he wanted to leave me?
2. Why did he suddenly cut off from me even without telling me the reason clearly?
3. When he asked me to stop all contacts, emails phones for almost one year, why is he calling me now?
4. If he is totally over me, y calling me

What should I do if I feel like my shyness is ruining my life but I don't know how to fix it?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:16:36 GMT

I am shy and I am lonely because I don't have many friends and it is almost impossible for me to talk to girls so I have also never had a girlfriend. This makes me really lonely and I don't know what to do it is so hard for me just to talk to people.

Signs of Trust?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 17:16:02 GMT

What do you look for to gauge the level of trust your girl has in you?

Guys, what would you like a girl to do to redeem herself from making you jealous?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:54:04 GMT

it was all by accident! I didn't even no that I did it.. but I can tell that I did. he's not one to tell me that he got mad. its a long story but he's kind of ignoring me and trying to make me jealous..were not dating but we had a thing, he's gone for the weekend but I'd really like to make it up to him :( any ideas would be appreciated!

Sex pre-relationship...

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:50:08 GMT

Is it true that once you have sex with a guy, they won't want a relationship with you...I mean, if you two had sex before ever officially 'going out'?

I met this guy at a party, and we went home together. I refused to go all the way with him since I just met him. All we did was make out pretty much.

Anyways... we started hanging out [just chilling, not hooking up] a few times a week after this. And about a month later, we ended up having sex (this was my first time ever). I don't regret it, it felt like the perfect moment. But anyways, we continued to hang out, and occasionally spend the nights at each others dorm (we;re in college...). But after that first time, I told him I didn't want to have sex again without commitment.

Is there a slim chance that a relationship will ever come between us now?

How does a guy become better at initiating small talk, conversations, and approaching girls? what can he do?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:47:30 GMT

How can a guy become better at approaching girls, making the first move, and starting a conversation, flirting, making small talk, any kind of talking, because small talk is different than flirting, just because a guy is talking to a girl does not mean he is flirting with her. I am a guy who has never had a girlfriend before, still a virgin, so it is understandable on why I struggle. My problem is that whenever I approach girls and talk to them, initiate a conversation, the girls don't, or very rarely reciprocate, like the girls do not engage me in the conversation, they do not ask me questions back in return, they do not re-initiate, or make much of a contribute to the conversation, I feel like I am doing all the talking.

Does this mean what I think it means?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:30:50 GMT

Okay so I have a guy friend and we are getting closer. Lately we have been spending a lot of time together and when we aren't together we text.

Anyway, he is out of town right now for about a week. He has been going through some tough times and this morning he texted me and told me that he was really struggling to keep it together for the wedding. He also told me that he couldn't open up to people there because he doesn't feel safe with them.

Does this indicate that his feelings may run deeper then what I thought?

Don't get me wrong...I have feelings for him too.

What does all this mean?

You wish or is there something there?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:30:05 GMT

Okay so I have a "crush" I guess on my best guy friend. Seems to always happen. Anyways we have known each other less than a year he moved here from another state. We live near each other and we have classes together and I would still always be that person that he complained to and I would complain to him as well.

Well through out the year my feelings were getting stronger the more would talk the more I would just want to be with him. Well school let out and I was afraid that the end of our really close relationship was about to end so I tried my hardest to make sure it didn't. So were texting and he's all like when you going to come see me we hung out all that fun stuff laid in bed and watched movies drove around nothing special well nothing happened.

Okay I wasn't really bummed though because we were still close and hell I just laid in bed with him I was on cloud 9 I know loser of me but I was. Well I would text him and his text would get shorter and shorter to where he wouldn't text me at all ( he works crazy hours all the time) but I was sad I mean just a text dude anyways a few days ago I got a text from him and we were texting and we made plans. Well during this night we laid in bed and just talked and watched movies. He was like what's spooning (who doesn't know what it is) and asked me to show him( he knew what it was) so were there spooning and the he turns around and we just start making out. I was shocked because I didn't feel that he liked me at all, this went on for a good hour then he just cuddled up to me.

It's been 2 days ago and I haven't heard from him. I'm thinking it was just a fun one time kinda deal but I am not to sure, he was always the one saying he didn't want to get together because he didn't want to ruin our friendship. I don't know if I am overreacting and something is going on or if it was just that one time see what it would be like kinda thing, any advice?

I want to be good looking but not unapproachable?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:16:15 GMT

i don't want to be females to see me as beyond cute and good looking to like handsomely unapproachable..How can I do this?When does it switch from hot to like unapproachable..

Does My Boyfriend Really Care? PleaseHelp!

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:14:35 GMT

So , Me & my Boyfriend have been dating for a few months , and things have been going good , well every once in a while , or it's happened twice , it seems like he doesn't care , until I talk to him about it , or I get mad then he sucks up to me since he's not the type of guy to argue or to be rude or anything like that.
For example : Like last week : Friday we were supposed to hangout , he said he would call me the day before , so we could hangout , and the next day he does call , but not saying to hangout , telling me his buddies are coming over , soo basically ditching me , soo I got pretty mad . soo he was trying to suck up to me , and told me he would call me the next day to hangout , so the next day(Saturday) , He doesn't call me like he said he would , and basically forgets about me , so I was pretty mad about that , and then the next few days ( Sun , Mon , Tues ) , I don't hear a word from him , he doesn't call me or anything , or even attempts to see me , as if he doesn't care . So I was mad , and worried , thinking what's going on? , and usually he's not the one to call me and make the plans , usually I do , which I wish he would do more of , and we talked about it.
Soo , Come Wednesday , since he hasn't called or anything , I thought maybe I will call him , cause the past 4 days when he didn't call , I thought I was gonna wait for him to call , and he didn't, so I called him.
& I finally talked to him , and we hung out. I was pretty mad , and we started talking and all of that ,and then he was like " Hey , what time do you have to go home at?" & I was like "I'm going to go home around 6:30 for dinner" , and I was like why ? , then he was like I kinda had plans with my buddy at 4:30 , and it was around 4:15 so I was like hmm , really ? kinda getting mad and frustrated , because I haven't seen him for a long time or talked to him , and it seemed like he was gonna ditch me .
Well , then his friend calls , and since I was getting mad , I think my boyfriend was thinking maybe I should just hangout with him after , cause he was sucking up again .
So I was pretty mad still , and he kept asking what was wrong I said nothing , and he tried kissing me and all , but I didn't want to talk to him , so then about an hour & a half passed , I didn't talk to him for that whole time , then finally I was like .. Do you even care? he's like about what ? , I was like about us ? He was like of course I do , and I was like are you sure ? It sure doesn't seem like it , from the past couple days , and he's like really ? I'm sorry and he got pretty quiet and sounded worried , and I was like I know people have lives and all , but like when we make plans and then you ditch me , or when you show you don't even care ? like what is that all about?
People have actually told me , I should forget about him , or just see how things go. & btw , is he a shy guy , but getting better.
What do you guys think ? Is it just a guy thing ? does he care?

Micheal Jackson is dead - remember what you said he did?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:08:24 GMT

Micheal Jackson is dead, don't pretend you give a sh*t. You mother f***ing hypocrite, remember what you said he did.

link

Explains everything

Whose going to man up and apologize (not to me, to him)? And whose going to deny it?

We'll see here, probably.

Why doesn't he make eye contact with me?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:07:11 GMT

My ex boyfriend and I are quietly getting back together. He broke up with me because he felt that he I was "too good" for him. I'm a medical student, a trustee in my own charity and a model. But I love him, he's perfect! No one knows that we talk everyday and care about each other. When we're alone it's magical, even better than when we were together! I like the way things are now as our two year relationship was way too intense and serious. His best friends (two of them) I think kind of know too. Problem is when we're in public, I'm normal and friendly but he's so odd and he can't look me in the eye for more of a second. I find it odd because he loves my eyes and has always said they'd be the death of him lol. It makes me feel uncomfortable as my friends notice it too! Why does he do that as it's difficult to hold a conversation, what can I do?

Does he like me or have I turned him off?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:51:44 GMT

I have liked this guy for awhile and we have just randomly talked at parties or said hey when we see each other. I recently went to his show and told him I liked him. He happens to be leaving in a week for 2 months. So he said, he can't start anything right now, but he would be down for hanging out. We made a plan for the next day but he canceled because he forgot he already had plans. Then he sent me a text asked if I wanted to have lunch. I said sure but the day of he canceled because he was busy finishing up a project and cleaning out his room for a subletter. He told me this face to face and said we should try again for the weekend. I told him I would call him and let him know when I am free. I knew he had a show the next day so I sent him a text saying, I hope it went well. Was that to much? I just wanted to be nice, but I know some dudes get scared when girls are nice.

I am just not sure how to proceed with him or if he has any interest at all. He seems to be intrigued by the fact that I told him I liked him.

Broke up over porn

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:45:27 GMT

hey guys I've been dating this woman for a year and its had its ups and downs but recently it seems like its been more down from arguments. well two days ago my girlfriend was over my apt and wanted to use my laptop so I said sure and that was the end of that. well two days later she said she wanted to talk cause she was acting weird. she told me that when she was on my laptop she looked at the history and saw some porn sites. she was upset and told me that I'm an addict and that desensitizes you and ruins relationships and marriages and that she wants no part of that and she was bringing up that it was disturbing and it was some swingers porn so she thought I would get involved in that and she doesn't have respect for me. I told her it was 3 weeks ago in my history and I don't go on it all the time she said it only takes once and she thinks we should part ways because this speaks of someones character and she doesn't want to date someone like that. she said she needs space but in the same breath she said that may not even be necessary because she won't forget about it and she will always wonder if I'm looking at it when she's not around that with the combination of fighting and having the ups and downs. I called her the other day but she really hasn't changed her mind on anything she has her views. I just don't know what to do or if she will be back or should I move on I really love her and want to be with her. just looking for feedback thanks

Any suggestions for a really good but small thank-you gift for a guy?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:30:22 GMT

Yesterday, my car wouldn't start. A guy from work, that I've been really into for months, jumped it for me. It was pouring rain and he's usually very busy but he took the time to help and was really nice about it. Most people won't do it or they do kinda begrudgingly. Obviously, I said thank-you at the time but I'd like to do something small but thoughtful for him.

As I mentioned I've been into him for months. I'm pretty sure he likes me too but he's really shy. It took awhile to get him to come out of his shell but then a couple weeks ago I accidentally implied that I only see him as a friend and then he sort of crawled back into his shell again. Long story ...but I didn't think before I spoke and I didn't mean it like he took it. He's also that one really nice guy in the office that everyone takes advantage of and kinda "uses and abuses".

I would like to do something or give him something small that says thank-you but also hints that I'm really into him and I'm not just using or taking advantage of his kindness like everyone else in the office. We do work together so whatever it is, it needs to be work appropriate and not "come on too strong". For his birthday I brought him cookies and a soda. I could do that again, but it feels repetitive.

Any other suggestions?

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:29:26 GMT

Does everyone agree with this statement?
My step sister is going out with an ex of kelly, whose a girl in my school . They were together for a few months and then he cheated on kelly with my step sis. He then broke it off with kelly so that he could be with my step sister but I've heard that this guy has a reputation of being a player and I'm scared of my step sis getting hurt but she won't listen and believes he's the one even though they are only going out 3 months!
How do I get it into her head that he is just using her as a rebound and that a leopard never changes its spots?!

Which hairstyle is more attractive to guys: straight or curly hair?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:27:57 GMT

I'm just wondering

which is more attractive

curly hair?

or straight hair?

At what age do girls wear lingerie the first time?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:20:49 GMT

Hi girls and boys,

I'm just interested to know when you girls started to wear lingerie. With lingerie I mean, when did you wear your first thong or g-string and at what age you started to wear stockings and so on.
I would love to know it from many girls! ;)

Boys: How are your experiences girls are wearing "nasty stuff"?

When do you feel happy?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:10:52 GMT

when you feel happy?

Ex dumped me because I'm pregnant :(

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 15:07:40 GMT

Me and my ex were going out for 11 months and dating for about 5 months before that so we were like best friends...then I missed my period a few months ago, so I told him that I might be pregnant.
He kept telling me that everything was going to be ok and that he would be there for me.
I then took a pregnancy test and when it came up positive, he completely FREAKED and a few days later, dumped me.
I heard nothing from him for a few weeks but then he text me outta the blue and said that he told his parents and they were fully supportive of him as if he was the one carrying the baby! He also told me to keep him up to date and tell him when the first ultrasound is so that he can get the day off work and I agreed to.
Then about 6 weeks ago, he got a new girl.
He no longer contacts me about his baby and when I text him the ultrasound details, he ignored me.
I know that he has told all his friends that I'm having his baby so this new girl obviously knows but my problem is, I think its her that is telling him not to get in contact with me because maybe she thinks I will come between them.
Is there anything I can do? I recently text him and told him to cop the f*** on because I'm 4 months gone and he still is not supporting me and he replied saying that he will `deal with me when the baby is born`...wtf?
Is there anyway I can get him to help me through the pregnancy without looking too desperate?I DON'T want him back, I just want him to be there for his child because I don't want my baby to grow up without a dad like I did.
Thanks for any help guys :)

What do you buy a boy for his 16th birthday?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:38:00 GMT

My little sister asked me and uggh I have no clue what to tell her to buy for her boyfriend because shopping for guys so so hard!

How do I make out with a girl?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:33:00 GMT

Ive only made out with a girl once and she said it was the worst kiss of her life. what is the proper technique? and how do I get better?

I don't know what to do anymore...

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:05:36 GMT

This is kinda long but please read it!
Me and my boyfriend have always had a "playful" relationship. We argue and fight and then that's it. The next day we do it over again. The best part of course being the making up part. And these are not like serious fights. Its just what we do. Part of our relationship thrives on arguing with each other. And even when we do we know that we both love each other. He lives about 30 min away from me so we don't get to see each other much, especially now during the summer. I haven't seen him in about a month but we talk on the phone about every night. Lately we have started of the convo good and laughing but ending it depressed and sad. Particularly me being the depressed and sad one. Last night I decided to put a stop to it. Eventually towards the end of the conversation he started getting mad for some reason and I know it wasn't something I had done because after the argument we had just had I should have been the mad one. Anyway I decided to keep it "upbeat" and try to carry on as normal and somewhat happy. Every time I would ask him something or say something he would just give a bitter response and snap at me. Of course he still said cute things like "summer sucks because I don't get to see anyone and I'm away from u" and things like that but he sounded very mad. He also sounded mad at his parents so maybe that's what has been going on lately but idk. I made some comment about how amazing he was and then he said stop lying to yourself. Normally I don't let that get to me because whenever I say your cute or hot or amazing or something he denies it but that is also something we both do. But this time it really hurt. So we didn't say anything for about 10 mins and then I just got tired of it and said "well its about 11 and I'm sure you're tired so maybe I should go" he was like "you don't have to if you don't want to" and then nothing else. so I went and got something to drink and turned on the tv and about 15 mins later he said goodnight. I HATE the silences. They really do hurt me. I don't know what's going on but I don't like it. I feel like any min we could break up and I really don't want that to happen. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had and I love him so much! please someone give me your opinion on what's going on! thanks

Have you ever dated someone 10 years older ?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 14:00:03 GMT

I met a guy, we seem to get in touch very well, and he always invites me to parties, BBQ and so on, almost every day. We have many common points.
Most people say it's fine to be with someone ten years older than me, but I'm 19, and he's 29... I don't think it does really bother me, and him neither :) but I keep thinking he'll be 30 next year and ill be 20 only, and I'm wondering what's gonna happen... I wouldn't want to lead him on...

what s your point of view on this ? have you ever experienced that kind of relationship ?

(plus, I'm going to live abroad for a year, and come back only once a term)
cheers x

How do I stop acting this way?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:51:23 GMT

My girlfriend is going on vacation to California with her family for 4 or 5 days. I know it's no big deal, I really do. And I trust her, I know she wouldn't cheat or anything unloyal like that. I just don't do well when I'm away from her, for whatever reason. I have horrible thinking habits. I also have poor self-esteem. I'm constantly telling her that she can do better than me. She's a very outgoing person and sometimes she doesn't really realize when a guy is hitting on her. I'm just a very insecure person and she's very outgoing. I don't think well without her. I know for a fact everything will be fine though. I don't know what's wrong with me, I just want her to have a good time and I know it'd be easier for her if she wouldn't have to assure me every 30 minutes. I love this girl. How can I fix my unhealthy thinking habits?

How would you know if your boyfriend really likes you and doesn't really want to be physical?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:38:01 GMT

How would you know if your boyfriend really likes you and doesn't really want to be physical?

I've never done drugs in my life, but I am attracted to girls who do?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:36:47 GMT

does this make any sense? am I just abnormal?

Sexy or scary?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:27:11 GMT

alright, I've been told many times by my mates that my eyes are quite strange.
my eyes are naturally bright blue, but my left eye is slowly turning green from the center out (doctor says its a chemical imbalance).
the very center around the pupil is yellow, and from this a green tinge is pushing out.
a few girls I know find ti freaky, so I'm just wondering, what's the general opinion?
sexy or scary?

Alpha Males

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:22:26 GMT

I searched for existing threads and was surprised that no one had brought up the subject of Alpha Males yet, since it's getting so much attention lately. In pop media it's mostly in the context of 'pickup artists' and workplace drama, but still. As a psych doc student, I think the concept of Alpha Males and Alpha Females could bring some groundbreaking insight into what we know about human relationships and how they work.

If you're not sure what I mean by Alpha Male, there's a pretty decent description here: link

It's an evolutionist perspective, and I think it's a fairly new concept, so watch out for all the money-scam stuff that pops up if you Google it.

The concept of the Alpha Female is getting recognition too. In the animal world, it is always the Alpha Female (the strongest, healthiest, most aggressive and most confident of the females) that pairs up with the Alpha Male.

Anyone? I think it's interesting, anyway :)

How can I tell if I have feelings for someome?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:16:58 GMT

So I have been hanging out with this one guy and he definitely really likes me but I have been going back and forth on my feelings towards him sometime I think I do really like him and other times I really don't think I do and its just better that I stay single. He has asked me to be his girlfriend and I sort of turned him down saying it was to soon and then he asked again and I just couldn't straight out had to say yes. He is the nicest, sweetest guy and I really hate that I am leading him on while I am trying to figure out where I stand. So does anyone have any suggestion on how I can figure out my feelings?

What to wear for a sales assistant job interview?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 12:10:23 GMT

I have a job interview at a high street menswear store tomorrow... I've never had an interview before so I'm really nervous!
just wondering if anyone has any interview tips and also what would be good to wear?
I've got this woolen dress which is quite smart, I was going to wear it with leggings and flats? I'm not sure tho! :) thanks x

How do I get over him?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 12:01:38 GMT

Well me and this guy I really like made out. But before we did he would always say the cutest things like how he wishes he was always with me and how he wishes he could be there to protect me. But ever since we made out he stopped saying stuff like that and now hardly talks to me and when we do talk he talk about all these other girls. So he practically just used me! But I'm not sure how to get over him.. Please help?!

Why is my ex boyfriend controlling me?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 11:48:43 GMT

why is he controlling me?

How do I get my ex boyfriend back?

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 11:45:04 GMT

I'm 20. my ex and I were friends from the last 5 years. we were together as a couple for about a year. we were in a long distance relationship. He left me 1 month back because I refused to have sex with him. he says "i outgrew my feelings for you, my feelings are not that intense anymore" etc etc.

Now I miss him so much and want him back. I don't know what to do. because he was the best guy a girl could ever find. He changed my life, I was so depressed for so many years but he changed everything, I was so happy with him. I don't know why did he leave me. I feel I can never be happy again and never find the right guy. what do I do? How can I get him back?

My ex cheated on his girlfriend with me...

Fri, 03 Jul 2009 11:40:22 GMT

Two weeks after breaking up with me, my ex and I slept together. He actually broke up with me to be with someone else only I wasn't aware of that. He told me he didn't have feelings for me anymore and when I asked if there was someone else he denied it repeatedly. I suspected there might have been someone else because months before the break up his behavior changed and he was very cold and distant towards me.

When we slept together I figured there couldn't be someone else because I didn't think he was the kind of guy to cheat. Does this make me a bad person for sleeping with a guy who had a girlfriend that I didn't know about, but suspected? I just found out about her, and that about a month after we slept together they broke up. Do you think he told her about me, and that lead to the break up? Does this make me a home-wrecker?