Giving A Positive Push

Keeping A Positive Outlook In Everyday Life

2012-04-30T06:42:00.000-04:00

It is somehow natural for many people being negative when it comes to various aspects of their lives. This is because you have grown up in a world full of negative opinions. Whether you are at home, in class, or in the workplace, there is a tendency to hear a lot more depressing and pessimistic words than optimistic things. The news can also be filled with a lot of these downbeat matters. So, you really cannot be blamed for struggling and often losing in the battle of retaining a positive attitude. Consequently, you should learn how to keep a positive outlook in your life. You mustn't only understand, but you have to take it in, apply it, as well as live with it if you would like your entire life to turn around for the better.

Here are some tips on how to maintain a positive view in life. Start your day right. When you get up in the morning, you should smile and thank God for that beautiful day and for the blessings you will be obtaining all throughout the day. You need to decide to be blissful instead of being cranky and so attracting negative things to happen to you on that day. You may be surprised to find out that whenever you do this, all things seem to fall into place.

Do not sweat the tiny stuff. Yes, it could be difficult not to worry about being late for work or possessing failed to meet the deadline. It may be an excellent challenge not to feel guilty over a friend which did not say hello to you when you saw each other or over your mommy being disappointed at you. But, you have to train yourself to control your emotions and not let the tension get the best of you. You need to always try to consider the bright side or to look forward to the good things that are coming. It is only difficult at first, but when you usually do it, focusing on the good things will become easier. Try to get rid of your worrywart self!

Be a problem solver. Of course you will see a lot of trials in your life that you need to face. It is therefore important to know how to maintain a positive frame-of-mind in life, so you can get over the challenges much faster and. One way to accomplish this is to face problems head-on having a "strong will" although thinking up ways to take care of them or to work through them. Rather than sulking in a single corner or weeping your eyes out, it is advisable to come up with alternative options that are feasible for an individual. Yes, it may not be healthy to hold back the tears and hide the torment so you can let it all out. But manage how you feel and bounce back right away. Give yourself a few minutes, 1 whole day, or a few days depending on the gravity of the problem. Go at once to remedies. Surely, there will be other people around you to offer help and support so no need to carry the all burdens on your shoulders.

Fill and surround yourself with positivity. If you have heard of the Law of Attraction, you then should definitely apply it. It is a vital part of learning how to maintain a positive outlook in life. The Law of Attraction simply states you have to dwell only on the positive. You have to substitute your negative thoughts, words, and actions with positive ones so that you can draw closer better things. For example, you should never say out loud negative stuff yet to rephrase them with something positive. Also, try to mingle more along with positive people than those who spend a lot of time pitying by themselves and swimming within their misery.

These are four important ways you should think about if you want to know how to conserve a positive outlook in your life. Apply them now and see how your life does a turnabout.

Believe in Yourself

2011-10-23T14:09:00.000-04:00

"Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results." -Willie Nelson

I am often asked why people stay in situations that make them unhappy, whether it's a job, relationship, financial situation or a health issue, weight etc. They say, "What is wrong with me?" Of course, most of the time these people have what they consider very legitimate excuses as to why they don't change things.

Even though they're miserable they seem to find a way to justify their misery; which brings us to the real issue, toxic thinking. What is it that you think about your situation, the one you wish was different, but isn't?

It's this basic core belief that you have chosen to hold onto that is exactly what keeps you stuck when you want to move forward. You have convinced yourself that there is no way out, that it's simply the hand you've been dealt in life and you're stuck with it.

In reality, you couldn't be further from the truth. This personal brain-washing has you captive in your own little cult. You begin to believe what you keep telling yourself, (What a concept!) as if it's the only way and there is no other. You are truly a prisoner of your own belief system.

What if you played devil's advocate with yourself? What if, just this once, you changed your mind, you decided to see things from a different view? What if you pretended to believe that things could be different and began to envision them being different?

This kind of "flipping the script" is the basis of the Law of Attraction. It's the cornerstone of creating the life you want. It can literally change your world.

When you allow limited, confined thinking to be your core belief system, your life will duly reflect it. Being rigid about what you believe gives you no chance of experiencing what you truly want. You simply resign yourself to, this-is-the-way-it's-going-to-be-and-nothings-going-to-change-it.

On the other hand, having some "thinking" flexibility will begin to free you to see that there just might be another way. It will open your mind to new possibilities instead of the self-imprisoned mind set you've chosen to hold onto for dear life.

If you find yourself in a situation and you believe there is no way out, ask yourself, what do you believe about this and why do you believe it? Our beliefs govern what we do, say and think, so make sure what you choose to believe will serve you well instead of hold you back.

Some beliefs aren't even true. We just tell ourselves they are and whatever you believe, you're right!

Fear

2011-10-21T22:52:00.003-04:00

Conquer the fear that dwells within your mind.
Kill the thoughts of negativity with the motion of positivity.
Drown the voices of naysayers, with the voices of your prayers
Stand up! Step out! Take a chance on yourself even if no one else will. The first step is the hardest, and you may fail but as a baby learning to walk, you will get back up and you take the next step.
Learning something new is always easier once you have learned it.
Fear has no power other than the power you give it. Believe in your ability to learn, your ability to adapt and except and embrace change as it comes. From the time of your birth you have overcome and adjusted to change, it doesn't stop unless you allow the fear to cloud your mind, darken your sight and consume your heart. Fear is no match for self-love, self-respect and self-confidence. Faith in God and Faith in yourself will extinguish any fears and any foe. Give yourself positive affirmation each day! God loves me, I love me and with him I am fearless and unstoppable! Know that you have the ability to be Great!

Have an Attitude of Gratitude!

2011-10-20T09:53:00.000-04:00

Be thankful for the new day you've been given (because you get another chance to make a change)
Be thankful for those beautiful children (no matter how stressed they may make you at times, they represent all the beauty in you.
Be thankful for the food you have (no matter what it is)
Be thankful for the clothes you have (no matter how few)
Be thankful for the family you have (no matter how close you are)
Be thankful for the body you have (be comfortable in your own skin no matter who doesn't like it)
Be thankful for the color of your skin (God made everyone beautiful in different shades)
Be thankful for the changes in your life (no matter how much some may hurt there is always a light of hope at the other end)
Be thankful for the good people that come in your life (no matter how long they stay the memories never go away.)
Be thankful for the bad people who are taking from your life (remember there ways so you can recognize the next one when they come again in another face and form.)
Be thankful for the hard times (because these are the times the make the good times great!)
Be thankful for the good times (and share them with others to receive your blessings)
Be thankful for your life (no matter the state it is now because you can change it)
Be thankful for today (and pray that you are blessed with a tomorrow)

Be thankful just because you have so much to be thankful for!

Copyright © 2011

I Believe in You

2011-10-13T22:06:00.006-04:00

This was something I wrote in honor of my son.

I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!

　

I BELIEVE IN YOU

The real you, the one you hide

The who, the you; that you know you are

The man, the boy, the child inside

The you; with laughter in your heart trying to get out

I BELIEVE IN YOU

I know your heart is true

Your kindness and warmth is like a quiet storm

That embraces us like a pair of strong arms

Your strong black stature, your deep loving nature Million Black Men March

Your caring fatherly spirit

Your loving words

Touches us like a warm kiss of mist across the lips

I BELIEVE IN YOU

The beauty that I see, the love that I feel

I know you’re a strong black man who can deal

As I know your passionsis real

I BELIEVE IN YOU

Just look inside you will see what you’ve overcome

And that your life isn’t done

You can do anything if you put your mind to it

Just conquer your fear and do it

I BELIEVE IN YOU

What you have to give

What you have yet to receive

That you cannot leave

I BELIEVE IN YOU

Your life's foundation is strong

Your heart is pure

With real self- love I know you can endure

And your life will take off and soar

Believe in yourself, like I believe in you!

I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
Written by Davette Anderson
Copyright © 2004

Pray for me

2011-10-08T21:15:00.001-04:00

Pray for me as I am human with my flaws
Pray for me and teach me God's laws
Pray for me to help me fight my fears
Pray for me to help me stop my tears
Pray for me to give me strength in my everyday life
Pray for me to fight off all the worlds strife.
Pray for me when I am feeling weak
Pray for me when I can not speak
Pray with me when I am strong
Pray for me when I feel I can't go on
Pray for me when I lose my way
Pray for me to get through the long day
Pray for me as a true friend
Pray for me to fight off sin
Pray for me to have a happy ending to my story
Pray for me to live a life of glory
Pray for me as I pray for you my friend

Positivity attract it in your Life today!

2011-10-08T08:35:00.000-04:00

Attract positivity into your life today, with your thoughts and the words formed from those thoughts. Don't allow anyone or anything plant a seed of negativity into your mind, do not feed into negative situation that you may come across. Don't allow yourself to be pulled into situations that do not affect you. Friends that bring you negativity are not your friends. When faced with a problem seek the solution never focus on the problem. Surround yourself with positivity, from the way you think, to the way you talk, make your action positive to attract positive reactions, be a beacon of positivity. If your life not going the way you want it to go make a positivity plan. A plan that outlines how you are going to turn the negative aspects of your life into positive ones. Now know that none of this will be easy nor will it happen over night. It only takes one step at a time, be patient, positive and persistent and you can create the life you dream of through Positivity.

Free Your Mind

2011-09-30T19:47:00.000-04:00

Free your Mind from Temptation

Free your Mind from Desperation
Free your Mind from Aggravation
Free your mind from Degradation
Free your mind of the humiliations
Free your mind from all the laziness and craziness
Free your mind of all the bad times and sad times
Free your mind of your should've, could've would'ves
Fill your mind with Contemplation
Free your mind with Mediation
Fill your mind with Joy and Happiness
Cure your mind with with laughter and gladness
Clear your mind of all your fears
Because the Lord Almighty is always here!

Dream

2011-09-30T08:49:00.002-04:00

No matter your age, or the place you are in your life, your dreams are still possible. Holding onto your dreams will mean letting go of whatever is standing in your way. Protect your dream and don't let anyone distract or tell you, you can't. We make excuses such as we haven't got the time, money or education and this may sound cliche but "if you have the will there is a way". you must be determined, persistent, resilient, and relentless because the road to any one's big dream the road is an uphill battle that you are going to have to scratch and claw your way up. Nothing worth having comes easy, but it will be most satisfying once you accomplish it. We are all born with the strength to do anything we set our minds to do, what we must do if you feel beaten or defeated is to take yourself outside of your current situation (if only in your mind) and put yourself where you want to be. For every obstacle or challenge there is a solution, with every dream there is sacrifice and you must be willing to make the sacrifices to reap the benefits. Begin by making a plan to get from where you are to where you want to be, once you see it written the solutions will begin to appear. A team is what makes a successful dream! Start building you one today!

"Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can."
Arthur Ashe

"You cannot dream yourself into a character: you must hammer and forge yourself into one."
Henry D. Thoreau

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
Eleanor Roosevelt

Those Who Give the Most Get the Most

2011-09-28T19:53:00.001-04:00

Those who give the most, get the most. And, if you've noticed, "It's all about me" just doesn't work.

The Law of Reciprocity at work. One simple way to think about this is "If you want heat out of the stove, you gotta first put in some wood." I think this takes some time to learn; like many spiritual laws, it doesn't at first make logical sense. The mind thinks "Hey, if I give all my time, money, and energy to OTHERS, then I'll have none for myself." And on one level that's true. The reason the mind thinks this, is because it looks out on the world as a separate and singular entity focused on survival and does not see or experience the web of connections and energy CIRCULATING and always seeking balance.

Now, with that said, YOU DO have to be smart about educating people how to give to you, and you do have to be willing to receive. This is not a martyr thing we're talking about here. What we are talking about is our soul's path and service in the world - that place where we light up and the world lights up. Where giving IS receiving. The irony is that on the way to discovering this place, IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU. It often takes some serious introspection to get to the real heart of why you are here and what there is for you to do. However, eventually the tide must shift as you discover what difference this authentic work of yours makes in the world. At that point, it becomes about others AND you. It's not either/or, it's both/and.

Finding and giving your gifts is a major part of the rewards. It's about finding your unique place where giving truly becomes gaining. Welcome to the world of Both/And.

We all have a role in the functioning of the community, at one or many levels. It's essential we each play our authentic, inspired role, while allowing others to play theirs, whatever that may be and however that may look. We are giving of ourselves in this role, and getting back everything: contentment, fulfillment, joy, inspiration.

Life Force Energy can be expressed and transmitted in an infinite number of ways, the question is: What is YOUR way? Find that, embrace that, and I guarantee you will be more than happy. You will "get" by giving of your true self in your true role.

ALL WORK CAN BE SOUL WORK. It makes no difference WHAT you are doing. What matters is that it is YOUR WORK TO DO.

Spend a few minutes right now reflecting on how you are spending your days. How many of the moments in your typical day do you truly enjoy? Are you enthusiastic, lit up, and inspired? Or are you going through the motions looking forward to the weekends? Reflect on those moments where you are enthusiastic, where time stands still, where you feel relaxed yet excited. What is it about those moments that you love so much? Write it down, and then commit to doing more of that right now - you deserve it, and so do the people around you!

"Change yourself and fortune will change with you."~Portugese Proverb

Congratulations! You're one step closer to your mojo!

Plan your way to Success

2011-09-28T10:51:00.000-04:00

When you start a business, many business experts advise you to write a business plan ( a road map to where you want the business to go) well in order to be successful in life you should also have your own Success Plan. Having this plan will enable you to make better choices in people, situations, business deals and in life in general. Now plans do not always work as you expect but you can compensate for minor hiccups but nothing works at all, when you don't have any plan in place. Develop your own success plan, start now to organizing your life closet. Figure out what is going on now, what you want to being happening in the present and how you want it to be in your future.

"If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else."~Yogi Berra

Starting now plan the direction you want your life to go in. The choice is yours!

Top 10 Ways To Stay Motivated

2011-09-28T01:19:00.000-04:00

From time to time, everyone gets a little down on motivation. As a web entrepreneur you really do need a reliable trigger to enable yourself to keep going, particularly when you're first starting out and things aren't happening so quickly. Different things work for different people, and some may even find a combination of these to be most effective. Below are what I've found in order to be the most useful sources of motivation - and I hope you find them useful too.

#10 - Your Past Accomplishments

You've already achieved great things in your life so far. Remember what it was like to come out the other side, how good it felt and what challenges you were able to overcome. Look back on your previous work to find a little of yourself you may have lost and find a way to re-inject it into what you're working on now. You've done it before - you can do it again.

#9 - Your Past Failures

Failure is rarely pleasant for the majority of people, but it always offers a unique learning experience. Put some of those lessons into practice when you go about your next attempt at something. Prove to yourself that you can do better, and let failure be the kick in the pants that drives you to greater heights than you had previously imagined.

#8 - Watch Others Succeed

It is often very uplifting to look at others who are attempting similar things to you and having success. Look at what they're doing and what you're not, and let their success prove that what you're trying to achieve is really possible. And if they can do it, so can you.

#7 - Things You Want

While it's not always reliable, thinking about what physical possessions success will eventually allow you to have can be a powerful motivator - particularly when used in a visual way. Don't rely on it too heavily though as it can lead you to focus on achieving success for the wrong reasons, and if you have a setback your first response will be in the vain of "now I can't have that". Hence, focusing on what you should be getting, rather than what you should be becoming.

#6 - Imagine It Done

Have you ever looked at a large mess in the kitchen and thought "well, I know it won't be pleasant but I'll feel better when it's done" and used that as your motivation to clean it up? Focusing on the end result can also work for getting through many other unpleasant activities, as well as others you often struggle to get started with.

#5 - Follow A Daily Mantra

Write your own set of personal rules that you can read and stick to each day. This should not be too specific like "today I will take out the trash, today I will go to the store and pick up the groceries at approximately two o'clock" but should be more along the lines of "today I will achieve all I can, today I will not be bothered by outside influence, today I will make more time for me" and so on.

#4 - Take Time To Escape

There are many ways in which you can choose to simply get away from it all. You can travel to someplace new, watch a movie, read a book, listen to some music or even take a nap. When you come back you'll feel recharged and ready to tackle whatever you need to get done.

#3 - Be Accountable To Others

Tell other people close to you what you're doing and what you're trying to achieve. You'll find that by simply having someone to report to every now and then, you're much more likely to strive harder and put more effort in so that you can share your accomplishments.

#2 - Find Others With Similar Interests

There are few greater forms of motivation than surrounding yourself with people who share the same goals and interests. Photographers have photographer friends, writers have friends who are also writers, musicians form bands, fitness freaks go to the gym together and businessmen often have drinks after work (though, partly because nobody else likes them). This gives you a sense of kinship, allows you to compare notes and generally drives you to achieve more to get some form of recognition or respect among your peers.

#1 - Take Care Of Your Body

Without a doubt, what you do to your body has the greatest potential to influence your mind. If you're finding it hard to focus, then chances are your diet is bad. If you're low on energy or feel tired all the time, then you're not sleeping or exercising enough. By putting the right stuff into your body, you'll get the maximum from your mind. All other methods for staying motivated have the potential to run dry, but not this one - if you continually look after your body, then your mind will rarely struggle with motivation. Prior to writing this I had some scientifically-enhanced oatmeal, a bowl of yogurt, two pieces of fruit and a glass of orange juice - whoa, what a hit!

Positive Thinking

2011-09-28T01:12:00.000-04:00

Positive thinking is not something you can change overnight, with all things it takes time, but in order for the change to come you must practice and put in the time. So each morning you wake up take a moment giving thanks, put on your suit of armor (which consist of love, joy and laughter) that will ward off any negative person or situation. Now, if things became too challenging during the course of the day, remember to take a break, and take another moment to ask for strength. If you find yourself swelling with anger change your focus, think of something or someone that brings you joy. Read uplifting books of challenge to triumph, listen uplifting positive music or motivation CD's and watch lots of comedy. Stay away from negative people, situations and media (whether its TV, Radio, News, Newspapers, Magazines, etc.) Now I understand old habits are the hardest to break but if you truly want change and a better life style then you must to do the hard things in order to enjoy the real pleasures in life. It all starts with Positive Thinking! "I know you CAN!"

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit." ~Aristotle

"Don't wait for someone else to provide you the happiness and love you desire, make yourself happy and love yourself." ~Davette Anderson