Giving A Positive Push

Is It Possible To Be Positive Today?

2016-10-31T02:11:00.000-04:00

No matter what kind of day you are having, is it possible to be positive?

What I do know is that whatever is transpiring on this day, whether you view it as great, good, bad, or indifferent, in my experience thinking positively can help make the day a better one.

Being optimistic doesn't take away what is occurring, but it does help make what you are going through easier to endure and, if you are having an awesome day, it only adds to that which is positive already. It's a win, win situation.

You see, what's taking place today is taking place. Being positive can generally turn around your mood, and even your day as well. If nothing else, being encouraging beats being discouraging, doesn't it?

There are days when your feet haven't even hit the floor to begin your day and you are in a not-so-good space, and it is far from being positive. Have you ever had one of these days?

Then there are ones where nothing seems to go your way. It's like you are walking around with your shoe laces untied and tripping up constantly. Have you experienced a day like this?

Sometimes you know you are in for some trying days, emotionally, physically, and/or spiritually, and you aren't looking forward to them by any means. Do you know these types of days?

How about when things occur unexpectedly and turn your world upside down in a moment's flash. Do you know this one?

Ah! then there are the days that just couldn't be any better. Do you know these days? Well, everyday may not always measure up to being the best day ever because things happen, but you can still remain positive either way.

Throughout my 48 years, I have, and continue to have my share of scary, trying, unsettling, anxious, stressful, sad, heated, and best days ever.

What I have come to realize is, no matter what, today is the day to be positive.

However I'm feeling, I can choose how I continue to experience the rest of my day.

In spite of everything, I can think positively and see the gifts and blessings surrounding me, or not. It is my choice, and it's yours as well.

You might have some days where you aren't interested in feeling optimistic, nor do you care, but know that is your choice also.

Maybe your emotions are too high, raw, or scattered at the moment, that's okay. Take care of you. Be aware of your moods and be gentle with yourself, and when you are ready, and you will be, you can choose to be encouraging again.

When you are having the best day ever, don't take it for granted. Enjoy it. Appreciate your positivity and all this glorious day is offering you.

If you are stuck in a rut of day, how can you be more positive? Choose to be.

As you move through your day, stop for a moment once in awhile. Check in with yourself. How are you doing? No, really, how are you doing?

Sometimes we don't even realize that we are being grumpy, edgy, short, or blaming and complaining, or feeling down, until we stop what we are doing for a minute.

When you do pause, notice if you have been being positive or negative.

If you realize you are being unhelpful, how can you be helpful again to yourself, the situation, or another?

How can you make your day lighter and brighter?

If your friend was having a hard time, what would you say or do to help them? Can you do this for yourself?

Remember, we are creatures of habit, so make it a habit to be positive.

Use these techniques to assist you in seeing where you can be more positive in your life and the benefits to you and your life by being so.

Do Affirmations Work?

2016-08-10T21:08:00.000-04:00

Before asking 'do affirmations work?' we need to be clear what we mean by an affirmation

The definition of an affirmation is the 'declaration that something is true'. Many people use the declarations to improve and progress their lives.

But when it comes to improving and progressing your life do affirmations work? The answer is - yes they can have a big impact and yes they can be great as a tool to help you on your journey to improvement in many areas. However, you need to know how to use them to create this impact as they can also be virtually useless if used incorrectly

Do Affirmations Work? Not like this! Do you ever remember doing lines at school?

I will not run in the corridor;I must not throw chewing gum at the teacher when his back is turned;I must not use chalk to write 'kick me' on peoples backs.Did they ever stop you from doing these things? I doubt it, and if they did it was likely to be down to the telling off you received or the fact that you were writing them whilst all of the other kids were out in the sunshine playing, rather than the lines themselves.

However, lines are affirmations and if we were to conclude here and ask 'do affirmations work?' the answer would be no. For the purpose of this article they are perfect for showing when affirmations do not work. They have the two critical elements that make them useless... in fact worse than useless as you will see.

The reason for affirmations is to influence your subconscious mind, which is responsible for your automatic behaviors and responses. For example, if I wanted more confidence I may repeat the affirmation 'I am highly confident in all situations'. When I continuously repeat this affirmation I am hoping that it seeps in to my subconscious and it starts to believe this.

The first issue about the above 'lines' affirmations are that they use the word 'not' and the subconscious finds it difficult to register the meaning of such negative words in a sentence. For example, what if I say to you 'do not think about pink elephants!' What is the first thing that comes in to your mind?

So your subconscious, if it is taking any notice (read the second issue) will actually be storing the lines as:

I will run in the corridor; I must throw chewing gum at the teacher when his back is turned;I must use chalk to write 'kick me' on peoples backs.Not the desired outcome!

So, do affirmations work? It doesn't seem like it so far!

The more feeling associated to an event the stronger the message that is passed from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind. For example, if you are watching a sporting performance you may watch your team make 100's of passes throughout the game. It's unlikely that your subconscious mind will be able to recall many of these a year or week or even a day later. But what if with the last play of the game your team snatches victory from the jaws of defeat. Not only will you remember this the next day but you may even remember it for the rest of your entire life due to the emotional message that was passed from your conscious mind to your subconscious.

How much emotional message was passed with the 'lines' affirmations? Somewhere between zero and none I would suggest. So with these declarations, do affirmations work? No... but wait.

Do Affirmations Work? They most certainly do!

Affirmations are fantastic at putting you in a resourceful state, to be at your best in a moments notice and to begin to change your natural behaviors for the better. However you have to remember the two key factors in making affirmations work.

Firstly, phrase them positively. After all your outcome should be one of positivity so even if you want to stop thinking a certain way, or stop acting in a certain way, or stop doing something you don't want to always do in a certain situation, phrase them positively! For example the three lines could have been;

I will walk with poise and confidence every time I am in the corridor;I will be on my best behavior at all times when I am in the classroom;I will treat all of my peers with the utmost respect and treat them how I would like to be treated.Now that is the fundamental. Do this and then ask the question 'Do affirmations work?

Almost!!

Now for the final factor. Try to remember 'the body leads and the mind follows'.

Before doing affirmations try and think of a time where you felt great. Feel how you felt and try to recreate the great feelings in your body. Now think of what you would like to improve and create the affirmation. Maybe you are going to a party and you are a little apprehensive. You could use the affirmation

'I am confident in all situations and I am excited about going to the party this evening'.

This is an okay affirmation. To make it a great one, you need to feel the affirmation in your body.

If it is possible, say the affirmation out loud.

Whilst you say the affirmation visualize yourself being perfectly confident at the party. Interacting, smiling and seeing others around you smiling also.

Make big bold gestures when saying the affirmations. Feel the meaning of the words you are saying. Feel the energy of the words pulsating through your body. Make the emotional connection for your subconscious. Embed the actual meaning of the words into your subconscious and make them a part of you.

Then when I ask you Do Affirmations Work? Your answer will be an unequivocal YES THEY DO!

Author: Mark D Bowden

Inspiration for Success

2014-12-10T05:56:00.001-05:00

If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don't
If you like to win, but you think you can't
If is almost certain you won't

If you think you'll lose, you're lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow's will--
It's all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are.
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man
But soon or late then man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can

~Author Unknown

A Bright Start

2014-10-24T14:09:00.000-04:00

"We can get a right start only by accepting God as He is and learning to love Him for what He is. As we go on to know Him better we shall find it a source of unspeakable joy that God is just what He is."~A.W. Tozer

Look for the bright start of your life, seek God in everything you do, and let his brightness shine through you...

Know that he is behind you to catch you fall, beside you to help you when you stumble and in front of you to guide your path...

"The way of right living people glow with light, the longer they live, the brighter they shine" ~Proverbs 4:18

Challenge Yourself Today!

2013-12-21T02:13:00.004-05:00

Challenge yourself today and everyday

Say Hey you will not play with your fears today

You are your biggest competition

Let your fears and haters be omissions

No goal to small or insignificant

And no goal to insurmountable that they can't be done

Make yourself accountable for getting your goals are number one

Make sure when you going after your dreams you try to make it fun

Look for something positive in each moment of each day

Even if one day maybe harder than the last no that this too shall pass

Say something nice to yourself even if nobody else does

It will take time and effort, blood, sweat and tears

But it will make you stronger to conquer your fears

The power of your persistence will get you there

So challenge yourself today to get from here to where you dreams are

No matter long or how Far!

Family Traditions

2013-12-20T03:34:00.001-05:00

Pass down the traditions and legacy of hope, health and happiness.
Leave this world remnants of your Love and Laughter.
Give your children and grandchildren a Legacy of wealth of knowledge.
A sense of self, purpose and prosperity.
Don't just pass down the trapping of material wealth.
Pass down the trails of memories of love, laughter and the lessons of living life.

Start your family traditions today, leave them with a Living Legacy!

Your Dreams Are in Arms Reach

2013-12-14T18:51:00.000-05:00

Each moment is an opportunity to reach your dreams. No matter how daunting it may seem.

Each day begins a new page in your book of life that only you can write.

With passion, persistence, and perseverance your dreams are within arms reach.

Each step you take and every mistake you make brings you closer than you think.

Each word you master, each book you read, each lesson you learn takes you higher in your ability to earn.

Its your time to shine, leave the fear and doubt behind...block out the speeches of the preachers of doom and gloom

Armed with your confidence and conviction set the date because no matter what age its never too late!

Reach out! Reach out! Move closer! Mover closer! Step by Step! Its easy as that!

Hooray! look down now and see how far you have got! Yes, you've made it, straight to the Top!

How to Develop Self Confidence

2013-04-27T01:01:00.002-04:00

Sometimes, life gets rough as we face different painful situations and we may find ourselves stuck on our down moments. These are the times where you can lose your self confidence and question whether you made the right decision. We are torn down however we don't need to be in that situation a long time. We need to get back on track, pick the pieces and move on. This indicates a need to get self confidence back, to keep moving forward and to build a better self image.

We can make our friends our role models and model how they carry themselves after a tragedy. Some of our friends recover their self confidence right after experiencing something painful. Ever wonder how they do that? They are still standing because they believe in themselves that they can be successful again.

When you believe in yourself, you recover your self confidence so that you are ready to achieve your goal. As they say, you will not recognize success unless you meet failure. You can use self confidence in any areas of your life like relationships, business, success, love and career It is a great way to rebuild your self image in these areas.

Here are some ways to get self confidence:

 Posture: You need to have the right posture, when you stand or sit. This promotes a positive outlook in life. Practice good posture so you can tell yourself that you can do whatever is required to be successful. It will put you in the right mindset that you can accomplish your plans.

Positivity: Always think positive, even when you are in a difficult situation. You can gain self esteem by thinking that you can pass this test. We face many problems each day and this can make us angry, frustrated and embarrassed however, thinking positive can drive all those negative feelings away.

Avoid negativity: When you avoid negativity, you can clear your mind of obstacles and this will provide great solutions to your problems. You can have self belief when you avoid being around negative people. Additionally, avoid hearing criticism, rumors and rejections by avoiding the people who love to talk about these. 

When you achieve self confidence, you will be able to create great solutions to your daily problems. It can be as simple as deciding whether to wear closed shoes or not. Decisions are one of the things that a person is afraid to make when they don't believe in themselves. Believe in yourself and you can achieve your goals.

The Power Of Praise

2013-03-23T11:02:00.000-04:00

A proverbial pat-on-the-back is one of the most powerful motivators we can experience. It's no shame to desire approval. As William James said, "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." It imparts energy and unlocks discretionary effort, as well as reinforces desirable behaviors. However, not all praise is of equally high quality, and not all has the same effect. If you want your praise to be a powerful tool to motivate your team and steer their behavior, you should consider the following points:

 * Mean it: If your praise isn't sincere, it won't work. People are not stupid, and they can spot an insincere attempt to manipulate them a mile away. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

 * Praise, don't flatter: Praise focuses in what someone did, their choices, their character, and their abilities - things which they control. Flattery simply congratulates someone on that which they have no control over and did nothing to earn. "You have great hair" or "You really suit that color" may be nice to hear, but it isn't a measured analysis of someones ability. Praise is different: "Your report was thorough and contained some really good insights" is praise based on someones achievements.

 * Try a little tenderness: Instead of criticizing behavior you want to see corrected in your staff, praise that which is done right. Positive reinforcement is so much more energizing than negative reproaches. For example, instead of complaining to a staff member that they have been late turning in a report, be emphatic in your appreciation when they get it turned in early.

 * Get personal: The word 'you' isn't offensive or dangerous. You are allowed to use it, and you should. "You really came through with a great idea to save the team a lot of time there, thanks" beats the slightly dismissive-sounding "good job" any day.

 * Always look for opportunities to praise: It's so easy to be wrapped up in our own work, needs and tasks, especially given how busy we all are these days. This means making a conscious effort to identify others' achievements and progress and give praise accordingly. If you struggle to remember to do so, then you may find it easier to set aside a specific time, maybe just before the end of your workday. Think back through the day's events and acknowledge work well done.

 * Think about your recipient: Private or public? People aren't all the same, and comments made in public, for example in a staff meeting or in an informal setting such as an open-plan office can be very motivating to some, whereas one on one comments about a job well done can be preferable for less outgoing people.

 * Give praise without caveats: When you give praise as a precursor to asking for something, you devalue the message of that praise. By making praise the sole point of the interaction, you give it greater value, rather than 'cheapening' it.

 * Be specific: A vague complement doesn't mean an awful lot, and it comes across that way. A general "Nice job, everyone" to an entire team means as much as the lack of effort it takes to do it. Instead, giving a brief outline of how each person contributed to the team's success takes more effort, but means much more. The more detail you give people about what they did well, the more it will mean to them.

It's easy to give praise, and it takes barely any time at all, but it can be one of the most powerful tools to motivate people that there is. It's free, and all it costs is that small amount of time, along with a bit of effort and thoughtfulness. Unfortunately, it's one of those things that falls way down the list of priorities, and often isn't given the priority it deserves. We may believe that 'credit where credit is due', but actioning it is another matter. It can help us to develop better relationships, more productive teams and better motivated staff, if we take the time to give them some recognition. Make the effort to acknowledge the achievements of others and you will be repaid in energy, positivity and loyalty.

How To Use Visualization To Make The Law Of Attraction Work For You

2013-01-22T02:30:00.000-05:00

What is Visualization?

Most people naturally assume visualization to be the formation of pictures in the mind. One conjures up an image of a beach mansion or a sports car or a beautiful partner for a spouse and this indeed would be visualization of, perhaps, a desired object or person. And on the face of it, they are not far wrong. After all, most of the everyday objects we see around us, the beautiful buildings, fancy cars, latest fashions, all began life as a picture in someone’s mind.

The Emotional Connection

However, the formation of such pictures in the imagination is not the key to making the Law of Attraction work for anyone engaged in trying to use it to achieve their goals. If that was the case, then blind people, particularly those that have never seen the light of day, would be excluded from taking advantage of this Universal Law to improve their lives.

True visualization, in the context of the Law off Attraction, requires an emotional connection to be made with the object of desire. It is the use of the imagination to conjure up a feeling or change of emotional state in the individual. Whether through the thought or image of that dream house, or the smell of that perfume, or the sound of that piece of music, the visualization should produce an emotion in the person desiring the object. This is the secret to understanding how to make the Law of Attraction work for you.

Why Emotion is Important

A basic fact about the Universe is that it is made of energy or vibrations. In other words,

everything in the Universe is made of vibrations, including us, humans. Because the Universe is made of vibrations, it also responds to vibrations and a fact that most people do not realize is that the Universe is in tune with the vibrations of our emotions, therefore responds to them. This fact is expressed in the Universal Law of Attraction, which states: "We attract whatever we choose to give our attention to - whether wanted or unwanted." Over the years and centuries, this law has come to be known in various guises such as the biblical quote "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." Proverbs 23:7 and the more colloquial "What goes round comes round."

Therefore, according to the Law of attraction, whatever emotions you give out, be they negative or positive, the Universe will respond in kind.

Manifesting Abundance

The reason why our emotional energy is connected with the Universe is to do with the

sub-conscious mind and to go deeper into this subject would take us beyond the scope of this article. Suffice to say, whether you have been trying for some time to use the Law of Attraction, seemingly without success, or you are just beginning to explore the subject, the key to your success lies in engaging your emotions when thinking about whatever you want to achieve in life.

For example, if you want more money, think about how you are going to feel when you have more money. That will change your emotional state and the resulting energy change will put out a call to the Universe for it to respond.

Another important aspect of manifesting whatever we desire is to use affirmations to reinforce the emotional energy. The techniques and use of affirmations is something to be covered another day, suffice to say these also should be approached in the correct manner to be effective.

Finally, once you get into visualization, you should avoid being too impatient, expecting results almost immediately. The laws of nature are so immutable we actually rely on that fact for our daily existence without even thinking about it. Night turns to day, summer turns to fall, and the Earth goes round the Sun without fail. We even trust the reliability of the laws of nature to put men on the moon and calculate their place of landing with remarkable accuracy.

Once you have made the emotional connection through correct visualization, rest assured the Universe will answer your call in its own time.

Believing in Yourself, taking your first Step to Success

2012-11-18T12:41:00.002-05:00

The most important step in the path of success is one's belief in themselves and there own abilities. In order to come to this point you must have confidence, determination, persistence and positive reinforcement. It bears saying that your own self-doubt will be the killer of your dreams, that is why it is your personal responsibility to surround yourself with people, events and situations that support you, your goals and dreams, but most of all you must fill your mind with positive affirmations to quiet the words of doubt that are most of the time self inflicted. Quiet the doubt in your mind by listing the things that you accomplish daily, make a list of goals, view them constantly, check off each as they are accomplished and add more to continue the process. Surround yourself with the people who believe in you and your dreams, one's who can listen and bounce ideas off of, those who can teach and show you different views on how to accomplish your dreams and those who can provide emotional, moral and financial support. All others need to be eliminated regardless of the relationship, friend or family. In order to take this first step you must first clean house, dust off that doubts, polish off those negative friends and family, organize those shelves of goals, now move up those steps...

Build Your Team for Success

2012-11-17T10:39:00.003-05:00

Success can not be found in an individual effort but the effort of a team of individuals of the same mind or the same goals. If you want success open yourself up to new ideals, discovery new avenues to doing what you love to do and build a team of like-minded passion people of action, have a personality that will attract and bring together the people that will be your success team. Keep constantly learning, reading and investigating new avenues, listen to one another so you can have harmonious communication between you and your team. Obtain all the knowledge you can and join with others with equal or more knowledge include your spouse and partner in your team, (remove anyone from your circle that is not supportive of your goals) it is important to surround yourself with continued positivity. Listen to audiobooks, motivational tapes, go to seminars do whatever it takes to make your dreams a success. Remember you must crawl before you walk ( as a baby develops they crawl and fall down but they never give up) you must walk before you run (the baby has to master walking before it learns to run) each step, each mistake is a stepping stone to your success.

Keeping A Positive Outlook In Everyday Life

2012-04-30T06:42:00.000-04:00

It is somehow natural for many people being negative when it comes to various aspects of their lives. This is because you have grown up in a world full of negative opinions. Whether you are at home, in class, or in the workplace, there is a tendency to hear a lot more depressing and pessimistic words than optimistic things. The news can also be filled with a lot of these downbeat matters. So, you really cannot be blamed for struggling and often losing in the battle of retaining a positive attitude. Consequently, you should learn how to keep a positive outlook in your life. You mustn't only understand, but you have to take it in, apply it, as well as live with it if you would like your entire life to turn around for the better.

Here are some tips on how to maintain a positive view in life. Start your day right. When you get up in the morning, you should smile and thank God for that beautiful day and for the blessings you will be obtaining all throughout the day. You need to decide to be blissful instead of being cranky and so attracting negative things to happen to you on that day. You may be surprised to find out that whenever you do this, all things seem to fall into place.

Do not sweat the tiny stuff. Yes, it could be difficult not to worry about being late for work or possessing failed to meet the deadline. It may be an excellent challenge not to feel guilty over a friend which did not say hello to you when you saw each other or over your mommy being disappointed at you. But, you have to train yourself to control your emotions and not let the tension get the best of you. You need to always try to consider the bright side or to look forward to the good things that are coming. It is only difficult at first, but when you usually do it, focusing on the good things will become easier. Try to get rid of your worrywart self!

Be a problem solver. Of course you will see a lot of trials in your life that you need to face. It is therefore important to know how to maintain a positive frame-of-mind in life, so you can get over the challenges much faster and. One way to accomplish this is to face problems head-on having a "strong will" although thinking up ways to take care of them or to work through them. Rather than sulking in a single corner or weeping your eyes out, it is advisable to come up with alternative options that are feasible for an individual. Yes, it may not be healthy to hold back the tears and hide the torment so you can let it all out. But manage how you feel and bounce back right away. Give yourself a few minutes, 1 whole day, or a few days depending on the gravity of the problem. Go at once to remedies. Surely, there will be other people around you to offer help and support so no need to carry the all burdens on your shoulders.

Fill and surround yourself with positivity. If you have heard of the Law of Attraction, you then should definitely apply it. It is a vital part of learning how to maintain a positive outlook in life. The Law of Attraction simply states you have to dwell only on the positive. You have to substitute your negative thoughts, words, and actions with positive ones so that you can draw closer better things. For example, you should never say out loud negative stuff yet to rephrase them with something positive. Also, try to mingle more along with positive people than those who spend a lot of time pitying by themselves and swimming within their misery.

These are four important ways you should think about if you want to know how to conserve a positive outlook in your life. Apply them now and see how your life does a turnabout.

Believe in Yourself

2011-10-23T14:09:00.000-04:00

"Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results." -Willie Nelson

I am often asked why people stay in situations that make them unhappy, whether it's a job, relationship, financial situation or a health issue, weight etc. They say, "What is wrong with me?" Of course, most of the time these people have what they consider very legitimate excuses as to why they don't change things.

Even though they're miserable they seem to find a way to justify their misery; which brings us to the real issue, toxic thinking. What is it that you think about your situation, the one you wish was different, but isn't?

It's this basic core belief that you have chosen to hold onto that is exactly what keeps you stuck when you want to move forward. You have convinced yourself that there is no way out, that it's simply the hand you've been dealt in life and you're stuck with it.

In reality, you couldn't be further from the truth. This personal brain-washing has you captive in your own little cult. You begin to believe what you keep telling yourself, (What a concept!) as if it's the only way and there is no other. You are truly a prisoner of your own belief system.

What if you played devil's advocate with yourself? What if, just this once, you changed your mind, you decided to see things from a different view? What if you pretended to believe that things could be different and began to envision them being different?

This kind of "flipping the script" is the basis of the Law of Attraction. It's the cornerstone of creating the life you want. It can literally change your world.

When you allow limited, confined thinking to be your core belief system, your life will duly reflect it. Being rigid about what you believe gives you no chance of experiencing what you truly want. You simply resign yourself to, this-is-the-way-it's-going-to-be-and-nothings-going-to-change-it.

On the other hand, having some "thinking" flexibility will begin to free you to see that there just might be another way. It will open your mind to new possibilities instead of the self-imprisoned mind set you've chosen to hold onto for dear life.

If you find yourself in a situation and you believe there is no way out, ask yourself, what do you believe about this and why do you believe it? Our beliefs govern what we do, say and think, so make sure what you choose to believe will serve you well instead of hold you back.

Some beliefs aren't even true. We just tell ourselves they are and whatever you believe, you're right!

Fear

2011-10-21T22:52:00.003-04:00

Conquer the fear that dwells within your mind.
Kill the thoughts of negativity with the motion of positivity.
Drown the voices of naysayers, with the voices of your prayers
Stand up! Step out! Take a chance on yourself even if no one else will. The first step is the hardest, and you may fail but as a baby learning to walk, you will get back up and you take the next step.

Learning something new is always easier once you have learned it.
Fear has no power other than the power you give it. Believe in your ability to learn, your ability to adapt and except and embrace change as it comes. From the time of your birth you have overcome and adjusted to change, it doesn't stop unless you allow the fear to cloud your mind, darken your sight and consume your heart. Fear is no match for self-love, self-respect and self-confidence. Faith in God and Faith in yourself will extinguish any fears and any foe. Give yourself positive affirmation each day! God loves me, I love me and with him I am fearless and unstoppable! Know that you have the ability to be Great!

Have an Attitude of Gratitude!

2011-10-20T09:53:00.000-04:00

Be thankful for the new day you've been given (because you get another chance to make a change)
Be thankful for those beautiful children (no matter how stressed they may make you at times, they represent all the beauty in you.
Be thankful for the food you have (no matter what it is)
Be thankful for the clothes you have (no matter how few)
Be thankful for the family you have (no matter how close you are)
Be thankful for the body you have (be comfortable in your own skin no matter who doesn't like it)
Be thankful for the color of your skin (God made everyone beautiful in different shades)
Be thankful for the changes in your life (no matter how much some may hurt there is always a light of hope at the other end)
Be thankful for the good people that come in your life (no matter how long they stay the memories never go away.)
Be thankful for the bad people who are taking from your life (remember there ways so you can recognize the next one when they come again in another face and form.)
Be thankful for the hard times (because these are the times the make the good times great!)
Be thankful for the good times (and share them with others to receive your blessings)
Be thankful for your life (no matter the state it is now because you can change it)
Be thankful for today (and pray that you are blessed with a tomorrow)

Be thankful just because you have so much to be thankful for!

Copyright © 2011

I Believe in You

2011-10-13T22:06:00.006-04:00

This was something I wrote in honor of my son.

I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!

　

I BELIEVE IN YOU

The real you, the one you hide

The who, the you; that you know you are

The man, the boy, the child inside

The you; with laughter in your heart trying to get out

I BELIEVE IN YOU

I know your heart is true

Your kindness and warmth is like a quiet storm

That embraces us like a pair of strong arms

Your strong black stature, your deep loving nature Million Black Men March

Your caring fatherly spirit

Your loving words

Touches us like a warm kiss of mist across the lips

I BELIEVE IN YOU

The beauty that I see, the love that I feel

I know you’re a strong black man who can deal

As I know your passions is real

I BELIEVE IN YOU

Just look inside you will see what you’ve overcome

And that your life isn’t done

You can do anything if you put your mind to it

Just conquer your fear and do it

I BELIEVE IN YOU

What you have to give

What you have yet to receive

That you cannot leave

I BELIEVE IN YOU

Your life's foundation is strong

Your heart is pure

With real self- love I know you can endure

And your life will take off and soar

Believe in yourself, like I believe in you!

I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
Written by Davette Anderson
Copyright © 2004

Pray for me

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Pray for me as I am human with my flaws
Pray for me and teach me God's laws
Pray for me to help me fight my fears
Pray for me to help me stop my tears
Pray for me to give me strength in my everyday life
Pray for me to fight off all the worlds strife.
Pray for me when I am feeling weak
Pray for me when I can not speak
Pray with me when I am strong
Pray for me when I feel I can't go on
Pray for me when I lose my way
Pray for me to get through the long day
Pray for me as a true friend
Pray for me to fight off sin
Pray for me to have a happy ending to my story
Pray for me to live a life of glory
Pray for me as I pray for you my friend

Positivity attract it in your Life today!

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Attract positivity into your life today, with your thoughts and the words formed from those thoughts. Don't allow anyone or anything plant a seed of negativity into your mind, do not feed into negative situation that you may come across. Don't allow yourself to be pulled into situations that do not affect you. Friends that bring you negativity are not your friends. When faced with a problem seek the solution never focus on the problem. Surround yourself with positivity, from the way you think, to the way you talk, make your action positive to attract positive reactions, be a beacon of positivity. If your life not going the way you want it to go make a positivity plan. A plan that outlines how you are going to turn the negative aspects of your life into positive ones. Now know that none of this will be easy nor will it happen over night. It only takes one step at a time, be patient, positive and persistent and you can create the life you dream of through Positivity.

Free Your Mind

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Free your Mind from Temptation

Free your Mind from Desperation
Free your Mind from Aggravation
Free your mind from Degradation
Free your mind of the humiliations
Free your mind from all the laziness and craziness
Free your mind of all the bad times and sad times
Free your mind of your should've, could've would'ves
Fill your mind with Contemplation
Free your mind with Mediation
Fill your mind with Joy and Happiness
Cure your mind with with laughter and gladness
Clear your mind of all your fears
Because the Lord Almighty is always here!

Dream

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No matter your age, or the place you are in your life, your dreams are still possible. Holding onto your dreams will mean letting go of whatever is standing in your way. Protect your dream and don't let anyone distract or tell you, you can't. We make excuses such as we haven't got the time, money or education and this may sound cliche but "if you have the will there is a way". you must be determined, persistent, resilient, and relentless because the road to any one's big dream the road is an uphill battle that you are going to have to scratch and claw your way up. Nothing worth having comes easy, but it will be most satisfying once you accomplish it. We are all born with the strength to do anything we set our minds to do, what we must do if you feel beaten or defeated is to take yourself outside of your current situation (if only in your mind) and put yourself where you want to be. For every obstacle or challenge there is a solution, with every dream there is sacrifice and you must be willing to make the sacrifices to reap the benefits. Begin by making a plan to get from where you are to where you want to be, once you see it written the solutions will begin to appear. A team is what makes a successful dream! Start building you one today!

"Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can."
Arthur Ashe

"You cannot dream yourself into a character: you must hammer and forge yourself into one."
Henry D. Thoreau

"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
Eleanor Roosevelt

Those Who Give the Most Get the Most

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Those who give the most, get the most. And, if you've noticed, "It's all about me" just doesn't work.

The Law of Reciprocity at work. One simple way to think about this is "If you want heat out of the stove, you gotta first put in some wood." I think this takes some time to learn; like many spiritual laws, it doesn't at first make logical sense. The mind thinks "Hey, if I give all my time, money, and energy to OTHERS, then I'll have none for myself." And on one level that's true. The reason the mind thinks this, is because it looks out on the world as a separate and singular entity focused on survival and does not see or experience the web of connections and energy CIRCULATING and always seeking balance.

Now, with that said, YOU DO have to be smart about educating people how to give to you, and you do have to be willing to receive. This is not a martyr thing we're talking about here. What we are talking about is our soul's path and service in the world - that place where we light up and the world lights up. Where giving IS receiving. The irony is that on the way to discovering this place, IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU. It often takes some serious introspection to get to the real heart of why you are here and what there is for you to do. However, eventually the tide must shift as you discover what difference this authentic work of yours makes in the world. At that point, it becomes about others AND you. It's not either/or, it's both/and.

Finding and giving your gifts is a major part of the rewards. It's about finding your unique place where giving truly becomes gaining. Welcome to the world of Both/And.

We all have a role in the functioning of the community, at one or many levels. It's essential we each play our authentic, inspired role, while allowing others to play theirs, whatever that may be and however that may look. We are giving of ourselves in this role, and getting back everything: contentment, fulfillment, joy, inspiration.

Life Force Energy can be expressed and transmitted in an infinite number of ways, the question is: What is YOUR way? Find that, embrace that, and I guarantee you will be more than happy. You will "get" by giving of your true self in your true role.

ALL WORK CAN BE SOUL WORK. It makes no difference WHAT you are doing. What matters is that it is YOUR WORK TO DO.

Spend a few minutes right now reflecting on how you are spending your days. How many of the moments in your typical day do you truly enjoy? Are you enthusiastic, lit up, and inspired? Or are you going through the motions looking forward to the weekends? Reflect on those moments where you are enthusiastic, where time stands still, where you feel relaxed yet excited. What is it about those moments that you love so much? Write it down, and then commit to doing more of that right now - you deserve it, and so do the people around you!

"Change yourself and fortune will change with you."~Portugese Proverb

Congratulations! You're one step closer to your mojo!

Plan your way to Success

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When you start a business, many business experts advise you to write a business plan ( a road map to where you want the business to go) well in order to be successful in life you should also have your own Success Plan. Having this plan will enable you to make better choices in people, situations, business deals and in life in general. Now plans do not always work as you expect but you can compensate for minor hiccups but nothing works at all, when you don't have any plan in place. Develop your own success plan, start now to organizing your life closet. Figure out what is going on now, what you want to being happening in the present and how you want it to be in your future.

"If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else."~Yogi Berra

Starting now plan the direction you want your life to go in. The choice is yours!

Top 10 Ways To Stay Motivated

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From time to time, everyone gets a little down on motivation. As a web entrepreneur you really do need a reliable trigger to enable yourself to keep going, particularly when you're first starting out and things aren't happening so quickly. Different things work for different people, and some may even find a combination of these to be most effective. Below are what I've found in order to be the most useful sources of motivation - and I hope you find them useful too.

#10 - Your Past Accomplishments

You've already achieved great things in your life so far. Remember what it was like to come out the other side, how good it felt and what challenges you were able to overcome. Look back on your previous work to find a little of yourself you may have lost and find a way to re-inject it into what you're working on now. You've done it before - you can do it again.

#9 - Your Past Failures

Failure is rarely pleasant for the majority of people, but it always offers a unique learning experience. Put some of those lessons into practice when you go about your next attempt at something. Prove to yourself that you can do better, and let failure be the kick in the pants that drives you to greater heights than you had previously imagined.

#8 - Watch Others Succeed

It is often very uplifting to look at others who are attempting similar things to you and having success. Look at what they're doing and what you're not, and let their success prove that what you're trying to achieve is really possible. And if they can do it, so can you.

#7 - Things You Want

While it's not always reliable, thinking about what physical possessions success will eventually allow you to have can be a powerful motivator - particularly when used in a visual way. Don't rely on it too heavily though as it can lead you to focus on achieving success for the wrong reasons, and if you have a setback your first response will be in the vain of "now I can't have that". Hence, focusing on what you should be getting, rather than what you should be becoming.

#6 - Imagine It Done

Have you ever looked at a large mess in the kitchen and thought "well, I know it won't be pleasant but I'll feel better when it's done" and used that as your motivation to clean it up? Focusing on the end result can also work for getting through many other unpleasant activities, as well as others you often struggle to get started with.

#5 - Follow A Daily Mantra

Write your own set of personal rules that you can read and stick to each day. This should not be too specific like "today I will take out the trash, today I will go to the store and pick up the groceries at approximately two o'clock" but should be more along the lines of "today I will achieve all I can, today I will not be bothered by outside influence, today I will make more time for me" and so on.

#4 - Take Time To Escape

There are many ways in which you can choose to simply get away from it all. You can travel to someplace new, watch a movie, read a book, listen to some music or even take a nap. When you come back you'll feel recharged and ready to tackle whatever you need to get done.

#3 - Be Accountable To Others

Tell other people close to you what you're doing and what you're trying to achieve. You'll find that by simply having someone to report to every now and then, you're much more likely to strive harder and put more effort in so that you can share your accomplishments.

#2 - Find Others With Similar Interests

There are few greater forms of motivation than surrounding yourself with people who share the same goals and interests. Photographers have photographer friends, writers have friends who are also writers, musicians form bands, fitness freaks go to the gym together and businessmen often have drinks after work (though, partly because nobody else likes them). This gives you a sense of kinship, allows you to compare notes and generally drives you to achieve more to get some form of recognition or respect among your peers.

#1 - Take Care Of Your Body

Without a doubt, what you do to your body has the greatest potential to influence your mind. If you're finding it hard to focus, then chances are your diet is bad. If you're low on energy or feel tired all the time, then you're not sleeping or exercising enough. By putting the right stuff into your body, you'll get the maximum from your mind. All other methods for staying motivated have the potential to run dry, but not this one - if you continually look after your body, then your mind will rarely struggle with motivation. Prior to writing this I had some scientifically-enhanced oatmeal, a bowl of yogurt, two pieces of fruit and a glass of orange juice - whoa, what a hit!

Positive Thinking

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Positive thinking is not something you can change overnight, with all things it takes time, but in order for the change to come you must practice and put in the time. So each morning you wake up take a moment giving thanks, put on your suit of armor (which consist of love, joy and laughter) that will ward off any negative person or situation. Now, if things became too challenging during the course of the day, remember to take a break, and take another moment to ask for strength. If you find yourself swelling with anger change your focus, think of something or someone that brings you joy. Read uplifting books of challenge to triumph, listen uplifting positive music or motivation CD's and watch lots of comedy. Stay away from negative people, situations and media (whether its TV, Radio, News, Newspapers, Magazines, etc.) Now I understand old habits are the hardest to break but if you truly want change and a better life style then you must to do the hard things in order to enjoy the real pleasures in life. It all starts with Positive Thinking! "I know you CAN!"

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit." ~Aristotle

"Don't wait for someone else to provide you the happiness and love you desire, make yourself happy and love yourself." ~Davette Anderson