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Leadership Coaching: Life Is Like Driving A Car

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 01:20:00 +0000

"Control" In Moderation

"Being in control", "being out of control" and "being controlling". The difference between these three is that being in control is a good thing, while you wouldn't want to be out of control or be controlling. "Control " is not a bad thing, except if you overdo it. Keep that word in moderation.

Freud's classic model of the mind is that of the id- ego- superego. Our psychological task, according to him, is to take control of our impulses which are out of control. It's like taming a horse to ride it. The id is like a stallion, the out of control part of our personality- our wild impulses that run in every

direction. The superego, on the other hand is like a bridle, the controlling part of our personality.

We need to learn how to use the superego well to tame the id so that we become more effective in our lives. Finally, the ego is that part of our personality that's in control, the rider in the driver's seat directing our lives to be capable.

Life Is Like Driving A Car

Bringing Freud's metaphor in the 21th century, we can suppose that life is like driving a car. We would want to learn how to drive our car safely, not recklessly like a teenager zooming down a mountain road in the dead of night.

Likewise, we wouldn't want to be overcautious when we drive too, like an old lady dawdly putt putting on the freeway at 30 mph. Getting somewhere in life means having the discipline to drive at speed limit, staying on our lane, driving mindfully and following the rules of the road.

Our psychological journey is about us getting in the driver's seat and taking control of our own lives. This is the quintessence of being in control. We make choices and we take ownership and responsibility for them. We embrace the choices we made in our lives and take them to as far as they can go.

Follow The Rules Of The Road

Then again, we also have to mind some cautionary tales. We drive our own car, not someone else's. People tend to get so focused on what other people are doing, especially those that are wrong, when they should give full focus on themselves and what they do. We influence the most the things that we are doing, so they therefore deserve our utmost attention.

We drive our own car and we can't let somebody else do the job for us. A person will never grow up if he has the habit of passing his personal responsibilities.

One of the most valuable things in life is peace of mind and the path to peace of mind needs us to get into the driver's seat and take charge of our lives. The life we build then belongs to us.

We learn and grow from failures and disappointments and enjoy and feel satisfaction from our own triumphs and achievements.

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General Information About Anxiety

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 00:14:00 +0000

Common Characteristics of Anxiety

Medically, anxiety is defined as a state of apprehension, fear or uneasiness about some impending or anticipated event.
It is a specific emotional reaction, which may be accompanied by a variety of physical symptoms, such as difficulty in swallowing, diarrhea, muscle tension or irregular heartbeats.

Anxiety is one of the most common of all emotions. In some situations such as one involving physical
danger, anxiety is an appropriate response. In others, either the degree of anxiety or the apprehensive response itself is not warranted by the situation.

Appropriate and Inappropriate Anxiety

Anxiety is a natural response to something that threatens health or well being. Throughout life, most of us are subjected to many stressful situations that provoke anxiety. However, if the degree of anxiety is inappropriate to its cause, is exaggerated beyond reason or is brought on by unlikely events, the response is usually considered abnormal and may require treatment.

Appropriate anxiety is chiefly characterized by worry. For example, if your job is threatened, you might be constantly thinking of where else you might find employment and be planning steps for obtaining a new position. In this situation, the anxiety serves a useful purpose: It causes enough stress to send you in search of a constructive solution to the problem.

If, however, the dread of job loss is not realistic, then the anxiety breeds more anxiety. This type of anxiousness that has no identifiable cause very often impairs the individual's ability to function.

The origins of such internal emotional problems are still not fully understood. In some instances, they may be traced to childhood experiences. This is often true of phobias, such as a fear of dogs that can be traced to a childhood dog bite.

Another common example of a phobia is agoraphobia (fear of open spaces), in which anxiety is aroused when a person tries to leave the familiar setting of the home. Outside the home--in crowded shops, subways or theaters--anxiety is heightened; the person usually hovers near a door in order to get away if necessary.

Since the painful anxiety is diminished when fear-producing situations are avoided, withdrawal to familiar surroundings is reinforced and, in severe cases, the person may become completely housebound. Certain organic illnesses, such as low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) also may produce feelings of anxiety. In about half of all cases of clinical anxiety, however, there is no discernible cause.

Anxiety States

In most people, anxiety is a temporary feeling. In some, however, anxious feelings and thoughts are almost constantly present in what is called an anxiety state. This chronic state occasionally peaks in a "panic attack," which can occur without any apparent reason at any time.

The physical symptoms of fear increase to such a frightening extent that the victim may, in fact, think that he or she is suffering a heart attack. Hyperventilation, or over-breathing, is common during panic attacks and may lead to light-headedness and even to fainting.

Anxiety

Generalized Anxiety

Common signs of clinical anxiety include:

Jitteriness
Twitching
Sweating
Palpitations
Apprehensive expectations, vigilance
Insomnia

Panic Attacks

Recurrent, unpredictable panic attacks are characterized by the following:

Feelings of intense terror
Feelings of impending doom
Breathlessness, chest pain
Dizziness, faintness
Hot or cold flashes

Physical Symptoms

When an individual is anxious, certain body processes speed up. These are the normal "fight or flight" reactions that help us cope with emergencies. The physical symptoms include breathing irregularities, particularly hyperventilation; muscle tension; sweating, and an increased pulse rate. Other manifestations of severe anxiety may include gastrointestinal symptoms such as diarrhea and symptoms related to the cardiovascular or the pulmonary system: vague chest pains, irregular heartbeats, fatigue or dizziness. Any of these symptoms should be reported to a physician and carefully evaluated.

Treatment of Anxiety

There are a number of approaches to consider in treating anxiety. In some instances, practicing relaxation techniques such as meditation, or taking a warm bath or exercising may help in overcoming mild anxiety. If hyperventilation is a problem, breathing into a paper bag will help overcome the over-breathing and feelings of light-headedness.

Medication may also be recommended to help the patient cope more effectively with anxiety, particularly the unwarranted anxiety that has no apparent cause. Most commonly, the medication prescribed is one of the tranquilizing drugs. These drugs, like any medication, should be taken only according to your doctor's instructions. They should not be taken in combination with alcohol, and your doctor should be aware of any other medication you may be taking.

Behavior modification therapy, including desensitization, is often helpful in treating phobic anxiety states. For example, an agoraphobic undergoing desensitization would be helped, in a series of graduated steps, to encounter the crowds and public spaces that cause anxiety. A number of other therapies, including psychotherapy, are used in treating anxiety. Your doctor is the best judge of which ones are most appropriate for your type of anxiety.

Summing Up

Most anxiety is normal and most emotional conflicts can be discussed with family or friends with good results. However, if these usual means of dealing with problems do not prove adequate, and if anxiety produces undue distress, professional help is advisable. A number of effective treatments, which may include the use of tranquilizing drugs, can help those who suffer anxiety to live more comfortable and productive lives. Remember, no one is immune from anxiety. The important thing is to recognize anxiety as a medical problem, and to work with your doctor or counselor to relieve it entirely or, at best, to reduce it to manageable levels.

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7 Success Factors You Must Master If You Want to Succeed

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 23:48:00 +0000

What is it that separates the success stories from the also-rans?

While there are differences, the silver lining is that virtually anyone can master these success factors. Perhaps it's not your fault that you haven't achieved as much as you like, but none of that matters.

What counts is that you are reading this, because it shows that you are ready to take action. Let's take a look at seven success factors you can start using today.

1. Honesty - This is the only way to accurately assess your situation, and is vital to success. Not only do you have to be honest with yourself, but you also have to be honest with others. This isn't always easy, but you can be tactful instead of rude if the truth will hurt the other person.

2. Seek advice properly - Before you accept advice from someone, ask what makes them qualified to give it. You wouldn't go to the butcher for legal help, just as you wouldn't go to a lawyer to buy steak.

3. Enthusiasm - If you are dull and lifeless, that's a reflection of how you feel inside - and people will notice. What you need is a dose of enthusiasm. Focus on the things that get you excited. You can develop your enthusiasm through practice.

4. Integrity - To be successful you must maintain your principles, even when it is easy (or tempting) not to. There are far too many examples of successful people who fell from grace due to a fleeting lapse of integrity - learn from their mistakes, not your own.

5. Discipline - Do you think successful people always feel like getting up early, or working instead of doing things that are more fun? Of course not! However, they have moved away from the herd by being disciplined, and doing the things others are not as willing to do. Discipline can range from the simple to the difficult, but having that quality leads to success.

6. Motivation - This can be summed up in another word: why. Having the right why, and understanding it will help you to focus on what's really important. When things get tough, you can call up your motivation and do what needs to be done.

7. Attitude - It's hard to deny the impact of attitude on everything we do. Most people have a good attitude, until something goes wrong, so there is nothing special in doing that. Top achievers have a golden attitude even when met with adversity - that's the difference.

Applying these seven success factors in your life will help you achieve your full potential. As mentioned earlier, it's possible for you to learn and apply each of these things in your life. When you do, you could be counted among the world's success stories.

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What is Life Coaching, Really?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 23:37:00 +0000

Life coaching is often touted as 'one of the best methods' for improving your life. With enough of it, some people say, you could make the changes that you've wanted for so long. But none of that answers one very simple question:

What is Life Coaching?

Athletes have sports coaches, singers have voice coaches and orators have speaking coaches, all for a single reason - they want to improve their performance in their respective fields. So if you want to improve your performance in day-to-day life, life coaching is the way to go.

Life coaching is essentially a program where you have a third party - a life coach - help you form and carry out decisions that will affect your life in a big way. That doesn't just mean buying a new car or changing your address; it involves how you perceive yourself and the process you use for identifying and implementing improvements.

A personal coach will also help you deal with problems as they come along. Real life coaching looks at your life from many aspects and perspectives to help you spot improvement possibilities you might not even have been aware of.

The Role of Life Coaches

Life coaches will help you identify specific areas of your life that you want to improve and then assist you in developing methods for implementing those improvements.

Now, it has to be clarified that life coaches aren't psychologists or shrinks, even if they sometimes use techniques from either profession. Their role is to give a new point of view when you begin examining your life. You will be surprised at some of the insights you will receive.

Once your improvement areas have been outlined, your personal coach will also help you to design an action plan for implementing and sustaining your improvements.

The plan will initially address creating space in your life for better enjoying the present moment and for building a foundation to facilitate making larger improvements in the future.

As you get your life more under control, your coach will help you expand your action plan into a life plan that provides a roadmap for what you want to achieve with your life. Your life coach will be a resource for you as you implement your improvements to ensure that your actions are as productive as possible.

How long will it take?

Life coaching is not some three-day seminar that you complete and forget about. Improving your life is a long-term and continuous process of self-discovery and change. And it all starts with you.

The coaches and the sessions can only show you the road to change and help you stick to it. You have to walk the road yourself, putting one figurative foot in front of the other. It's not easy, but it's the best route towards lasting change in the way you live your life.

If you've ever felt lost or confused about your direction before, a coaching session can be the most helpful place to start.

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Anger Management Techniques and How to Measure Uncontrolled Anger

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 23:00:00 +0000

Anger management techniques and assessments vary however these techniques and tests are used in the attempt to identify the same behavioral and emotional characteristics that people suffering from anger display. The most common technique used is an assessment questionnaire whereby the person concerned will need to fully complete and once completed only then can a full assessment be made.

These types of assessment questionnaires help a therapist or psychologist to evaluate the person's severity. Questions such as:

In a normal day how often do you display anger
Does your anger affect other people and do they make comments about your anger
Are you critical of yourself and of other people
Do your friends and family tell you that your are being too critical
Do you have a tendency of blaming others for your misfortunes
Are you frequently argumentative
Do you have patience
Have you caused damaged to yourself or others during an anger outburst
Have you ever physically harmed another person while having an anger outburst
Do you feel that people don't understand you or ignore you
Do you have any criminal offenses for any violent crimes
Have you ever had any disciplinary hearings at your place of employment due to anger outbursts
When driving do you display any road rage
Do you have revengeful tendencies or keep dwelling on negative aspects in life
Have you ever been exposed to an abusive relationship
Have you abused anyone in your family during an anger outburst

The above questions are only a few of the quested asked when an assessment is being carried out as the assessment is around three pages long and usually takes around an hour or more to complete.

Some anger management techniques require comprehensive detailed descriptions. However there are a few questions above that most people will say yes to as a certain amount of anger is normal in all human beings but there are those that experience difficulty controlling their anger which usually results in some or other violent outburst.

Anger techniques vary and are used as a part of the comprehensive anger management evaluation as these evaluations are important and help aid schools, courts and professionals in making an accurate diagnosis as well as helps them to select the best therapy solution for a person displaying anger and rage.

In order to find out more about the various different techniques used for anger management it would be advisable to contact your nearest health clinic or psychologist.

If you suspect or know that you are out of control when experiencing anger you can take a professional test. These tests are also available online but are not as comprehensive and detailed as a professionals test.

By participating in these various anger management techniques you will learn to control your anger effectively and more importantly this is the first step in the right direction as anger can grab hold of you and start to control your life in more ways than one.

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Meditation For Success - How Meditation Makes You More Effective

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 22:50:00 +0000

What are the benefits of meditation for achieving success in life. Meditation for success can be a great tool to get what you want, discover why.

Meditation for success can be a tricky thing, as many people relate following a spiritual path with renouncing to a life of personal achievement. Meditation improves your life,
helping to know yourself and achieve more.

There are many benefits of meditation that can improve your success in life:

More concentration and focus:

focus is very important to get what you want, with meditation, concentration increases giving you a higher ability to solve all kind of problems and situations.

Being present:

with meditation you learn to be in the present moment, letting you deal with the problems at hand, instead of worrying about problems from the future or the past, you become a person of action in the present.

Problem solving skills:

meditation increases your capacity to deal with all kind of problems, you learn to solve problems in a holistic way, searching for win-win solutions to interpersonal situations.

Stress and tension reduction:

with meditation your stress reduces, giving you more energy to deal with more activities in life. The reduction of tension also helps to have a better quality of life, as stress is one of the worst maladies of modern times.

Better relationships:

with meditation as you get to know yourself, you also learn to relate with others. With meditation you become an easy going person, easy to deal with and more willing to help others.

More enjoyment and enthusiasm:

your happiness increases, as you learn how to deal with your limitations and beliefs. Balance increases in your life, the capacity to live life in a balanced way.

Increased personal awareness:

knowing yourself gives you a lot of personal tools to live a happier life. The wisdom you develop by meditation spreads to your entire life, converting you in a focus of positive change for others.

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7 Methods of Motivating Employees to Perform at Their Best

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 22:43:00 +0000

In our new age of creativity, being the best will be the only way individuals and companies can survive. For much of the population, gone are the days of staying in a job for decades, moving up the corporate ladder in a systematic way, and letting others do the most difficult work.

Creatively motivating employees to be more than what they are is key to rising above the ordinary in anything that a company or organization does.

Look around and notice the constant change and dramatic pushes to new heights of creativity that give companies the "edge" over others. Creative management is part of their secret. Motivated employees is the result.

Because of increasing global trade and competition, instant world-wide communication, the internet and heightened human mobility, there is very little that we don't know or can't find out about almost any company on the planet. This is good and bad.

On the one hand, it is easier to determine if one's own products/services are competitive. On the other hand, it means constant change and upgrades to keep up. If employees are not managed creatively and motivated to be part of this, there is a great chance of the company's "dinosaurification."

Look at the companies that made the earliest handheld calculators and see which are still surviving. Everybody must be on board to keep companies and businesses afloat. It is not just the responsibility of the owners or executives anymore. That means different, creative, new ways of operating.

Here are some suggestions that can improve overall management of employees and also increase motivation:

1. Get rid of the "carrot and stick" approach.

Rewarding good behavior and punishing behavior you don't want just doesn't work well any more. Highly experienced professionals that know exactly what they are doing can go to other companies instantly.

It may be okay for simpler and easier jobs but not in situations where high levels of creativity and imagination are desperately needed. Management training centers need to take a serious look at this and replace it with something more viable.

2. Replace performance bonuses/sales commissions with salaries and profit sharing.

People feel they contribute to a community instead of competing individually. Profit sharing can lead to increased motivation and more effort because everybody knows they affect the overall performance and rewards. Automatic base pay raises may not be necessary.

3. Assign jobs according to expertise.

In a hierarchy of responsibility, job titles often determine who gets what job - plum, highly creative, or otherwise. That doesn't make sense if the person who is "supposed" to get the job is not an expert. Reducing individual job titles and instead forming teams that develop their own expertise and approaches increases motivation and a sense of belonging.

Management becomes decentralized but applies more directly to the workers. Many years ago, Volvo made the only cars built by small teams instead of on assembly lines. Imagine the teamwork needed for that task. Look at the Toyota socio-technical system for car manufacturing. Workers need to be valued for expertise, not position.

4. Let the team decide.

This may be a little uncomfortable for some senior people in companies but beyond setting deadlines, it might be highly motivating to let members take command and ownership of a segment of the operation and decide on what to do, when to do it and who will do what.

5. Provide staff development that is mainly personal skills training.

Encourage people to become experts and specialists at their jobs. Get them to stretch into new territory. The more they know about the different areas of a company, the more valuable they become. Get employees to learn the details of other jobs and cross-reference and share expertise.

The more people know about their own jobs as well as others, the greater the motivation to be more creative and imaginative. Personal skills training in creativity, researching methods, higher-level thinking, communication, leadership, self-awareness add value to employees and motivate them because of a sense of empowerment. Knowledge and facts are not as valuable as they used to be.

Applying them in new and creative ways is the new need. That can only come from skills training.

6. Arrange a workplace that strives for a common goal.

Invite people to become part of something that is bigger than the individual. There is greater purpose in what they all do. Everybody will benefit and share in the success. That will only happen if everybody stays focused and motivated to do and be the best they can be.

7. Provide an environment that draws out creativity.

One of the goals of formal brainstorming techniques is to allow for diversity and breadth of ideas and have them presented in a safe and non-judgmental environment. When people are made to feel safe and free to think and share ideas, no matter how bizarre in some cases, creativity will flourish.

When creativity is nurtured and accepted, motivation follows almost automatically. Silicon Valley in California is a hotbed of creativity, ingenuity, coming from highly motivated experts, brilliant weirdos, and super geeks despite what seem on the surface to be unruly, undisciplined, playful, bizarre workplaces and strange management methods.

The workplace has changed dramatically over the decades. Motivating employees to keep a

company at a high level of success is vital to business success in the age of creativity. The best

ways of motivating people is to nurture their abilities, talents, and skills and then create an

exciting environment in which to unleash them.

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Persuasive Communication Techniques - 3 Ways to Communicate to Get What You Want

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 22:28:00 +0000

Over the years, persuasive communication techniques have helped a lot of people gain more control over their lives. These people have successfully developed a stronger sense of self and have gained a better understanding of other people as well.

And now, you too can harness these strategies yourself!

All you need to do is to open up your mind to the endless possibilities this information can direct you to.

Below are some of the persuasive communication techniques that are proven very effective:

Persuasive Communication Technique # 1: Build Rapport.

One of the best ways to achieve successful persuasion is by building rapport. Now rapport could mean different things to different people.

For some, it could mean chatting with them everyday after lunch or over a cigarette smoke. For others, it could mean agreeing with them during a general meeting.

One powerful way to establish rapport is by mirroring. When you mirror someone, you copy his style of speaking or moving. For example, if he talks in a fast-paced voice, you do the same.

If he puts his hand in his pocket, you do it too. This unconsciously conveys to the other person that you're just like them. But do it in a subtle, non-obvious manner or people might think you're mocking them.

Persuasive Communication Technique # 2: Be On Their Side.

How do you show you're on their side? Simple. Tell that person what he can get in return. These days, people are more wary about who they choose to support or what they decide to buy.

By stating the number of benefits they can get, thus showing them that you are on their side, you'll be able to persuade them more effectively.

For example, if you want to convince your girlfriend's little brother that you're okay, you need to connect with that kid on a closer level. Give that boy treats every once in a while. Show him that you can be the older brother he's never had.

Persuasive Communication Technique # 3: Less Is More.

People are fed up of salespeople with motor mouths. The more you talk, the less likely they'll believe in you.

Sometimes, the most effective persuasion technique involves less words and more action. The reason for this is that you don't really need to say too much about your product or your cause, because it speaks for itself. In a way, this approach is more modern and will most likely appeal to the younger generation.

There's no better time for you to learn about persuasive communication techniques. Now that everybody is starting to realize just how much they can contribute to society - or on a smaller scale, to their company - you need to step up your game. Keep yourself ahead of the flock by constantly updating your skill set.

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How To Take Action by Controlling Pain and Pleasure

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 22:16:00 +0000

At the end of the day, everything we do in our daily lives comes down to the drive of our deepest need, which is to avoid pain and gain pleasure. In other words, pain and pleasure control our decisions. Both pain and pleasure are part of our biology. We take action to gain pleasure and avoid pain. It is part every animal.

In general, humans will do a lot more to avoid pain than we will to gain pleasure. The greatest motivation in the short term is to avoid pain. If you are like most humans. You probably have a hard time taking action toward your goals or tasks.

Current Pain Linking

If you see someone you're attracted to and you don't take action, you are linking more pain than pleasure. In your mind, you are thinking more of the pain it feels to be rejected. You are thinking of the pain you will feel after you are rejected. Since that's what you are focusing on in this moment. You begin to feel pain in going up to the person and starting a conversation. This is what you are currently linking pain to.

Link pleasure to taking Action

In the example of wanting to be in a relationship. You must link enormous amounts of pleasure to being in a relationship. If I do walk up to the person I am attracted to, this is what I am going to gain.

Think of the intimate connection you will have and that feeling of oneness. Link all the pleasure you can think of. Put your focus on that. This way the pleasure of being in a relationship will be greater than the pain of being rejected.

Link Pain to Not Taking Action

As mentioned earlier, we will do more to avoid pain then we will to gain pleasure. Think of all the pain you will feel if you do not take action. If you do not go up to the person and start a conversation what is it going to cost you? How will you continue to live your life?

Think of all the things you will miss out if you did not take action.

Control Your Attention

What you focus your attention on will be most real to you. In this case, if you want to change your behavior you must focus your attention. Attention on what?

The Pain You will have If You Don't Take Action
The Pleasure You will gain If You Do Take Action

Summary

If you see someone you're attracted to and you don't take action, you are linking more pain than pleasure. Link pleasure to being in a relationship. If you do not follow through then you're not associating pleasure to it.

Other Examples:

Procrastinating on Your Homework or Assignment
Fear of Not Starting Your Own Business
Assignment:

Write down 4 actions that you been putting off:

What is the pain that keeps you to take action?
What will it cause you if you don't take action? Emotionally, financially, etc
What will you gain if you take action?

Remember, Change Your Focus, Change Your Life

Let me know some of the things you been linking pain to that has kept you from taking action.

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What It Takes To Be a Skillful Student

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 22:08:00 +0000

No student is ever truly brilliant or successful without applying some practical skills for success and brilliance. And one of the major skills they develop is the skill for personalized study. There is always a personal way to assimilating things, and you need to develop personal study skills in order to make a success of your academic career and succeed as a student.

Most students prefer reading or skimming over material content due to distractions and personal inconsistencies, but developing personal and effective study skills would take you farther and ensure your success at academic ventures.

What then does it take to develop personal study skills, and to be a skillful student? Let us examine four or five tips that would help you.

Develop practical know-how:

You would note the word "practical" here - study skills require practical, deliberate, and sustained attempts at academic success. How?

By simply developing insights into the importance of filing documents, making notes, knowing information sources, understanding what your course expects from you - through past exam papers, booklists, and timetables; knowing who to contact for help, knowing how to allot time for researching assignments and doing it, etc.

The practical know-how for this comes from reading information sheets, asking questions, and working out your own solutions or what works best for you.

Master core study skills:

Studying requires practical skills that must be applied individually. You must master these study skills. One of them is fully understanding what is required of you; researching and internalizing the core academic requirements; and perhaps, knowing how to tackle difficult tasks that take up your study time.

Know how to keep up your morale:

You may not see this as important to your academic success, but this is not true - you must know how to keep up your spirits. Low morale damages your study efforts and frustrates your attempts at sitting-up to study.

You must tackle this in the best way that works for you - yes, learn how to boost your morale and be in high spirits for your academic studies. Or don't you know that the state of your mind affects the dimensions and outcomes of whatever you do?

Be in control:

You may read materials without being in control, or you can't study and not being in control. Study calls for a deliberate and sustained effort at achieving or "getting something out".

If you're always frittering away time and achieving very little while at your books, then you've never been studying. Do not forget - you are investing time (years) and money into your course - and you must take control for these not to go to waste.

You can't blame anybody for failing and this is all the more reason why you must take control; be in control, and work out a plan for staying in control.

You must be an independent learner:

It is good to be part of a study group, but it is better to be an independent learner. How? By understanding what you want to achieve from your studies; knowing how much of your time and abilities to invest at studying; knowing how to prioritize you studies in relation to other personal priorities of life.

You must be an independent or reflective learner while even being part of a study group - because eventually, you're all going to sit individually for your exams, graded individually, and succeed individually.

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5 Ways to Overcome Fear and Self-Doubt

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 15:50:00 +0000

A lot of people these days just don't understand that being afraid and doubting themselves prevent them from becoming successful. The damage that self-doubt can inflict is especially severe when it prevents potential entrepreneurs with great business ideas from launching their own products and businesses because there are too many risks involved.

The good news is that there are ways to overcome fear. And by using these methods and techniques, you will be able to assess the risks and possibilities with a more objective and accurate perspective,
and you may find the courage to take the necessary steps to succeed in business-and in life.

Here are some of the proven ways to overcome fear and self-doubt that may be hampering your progress. This list gives you questions that you need to answer honestly, so that no unjustified fear or self-doubt can stop you from succeeding:

1. What are you afraid of ?

The first thing you need to do to find ways to overcome your fears is to first identify each one of them. This means you need to write down each worry and fear, so that you can see it right in front of you. Don't worry about the order, or whether one fear is stronger than the other. You need to be really honest with yourself, because you won't be able to handle any concern that you can't even admit to yourself.

2. Which fears are legitimate, and which fears are just mere excuses ?

Once you have that list going, identify which ones are real and which fears are just mere excuses for you not to act. Try to be specific if you see a concern that seems a bit vague. For example, any fears of losing money should be clarified so that you can identify how you'll likely to lose your money.

Some fears, although they may seem real to you, are just excuses. For example, the fear of humiliation and embarrassment should you fail is very common, but that shouldn't stop you from materializing your plans and ideas.

3. Do you have a plan ?

Some psychology experts believe that all fears are variations of fear of the unknown, and being afraid of what you don't know is common and understandable. One of the best ways of overcome your fear of the unknown is to try to know as much as you can about it.

Do your research and gather data. Then have a plan of action. Try to include as many contingency plans as you can, so that fear won't overcome you when you start experiencing difficulties and facing obstacles.

Take a long look at all your reasonable worries and come up with some possible solutions or courses of action should you experience any one of them. Because nothing in life is easy, chances are one of these fears will really take place, and it's best if you are ready for them.

4. Do you think you're alone ?

While you can do some things alone, it's hard to handle your own fears if you feel that you're alone all the time. You should get yourself out there instead of shunning any kind of social or business connection. This is called networking, and though business gurus may believe that making personal connections is only good for business transactions, these people serve another important function as well.

Many of the people you may meet may have the same fears as you-which should give you the feeling that you're not alone in dealing with your kind of fears.

You can also take comfort in the fact that some of those people have overcome their fears and succeeded in achieving their goals. And if they can do it, so can you.

5. Can you see yourself acting despite your worries ?

There are three versions of who you are: the person whom you wish to be, the person whom you're afraid to turn into, and the person you really are.

You need to visualize yourself turning into the person you want to be rather than the person you don't want to be. This takes courage, and you know you have that courage once you decide to act.

If all of your legitimate worries have been accounted for, then it's time to damn the torpedoes and go full speed ahead.

Courage isn't about being unafraid, but acting even though you are afraid. Nike said it best: "you just do it if you think it is right."

So here they are, the 5 ways to overcome fear and self-doubt. Acknowledge that you're afraid, create a plan, and take comfort in the fact that others have the same fears and have succeeded, too.

Then take the plunge and decide to act. Once you act, you are the master of your fears and doubts, and you will be more in control of your own future.

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Why Playing the Comparison Game Is a Sure-Fire Way to Disappointment

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 15:24:00 +0000

Have you ever looked at other people and found yourself feeling like you've fallen short? Whether it's comparisons to business or career success, personal fulfillment or relationships, we might find ourselves looking at what other people have achieved and feel that what we've done is insignificant and unimportant in comparison.

Maybe they're earning 10 times more than we are. Maybe they seem to have the perfect family, with the doting spouse and fantastically wonderful children. Maybe their house is spotless and looks like it was taken from the pictures of a fancy magazine.

Whatever the area, we feel like we haven't done enough, we haven't achieved as much and, therefore, there must be something wrong with us since we are so obviously (at least in our own minds) less than them in at least some way.

Before we go any further I want to make it clear: You are not "less than" anyone else. Just because, on the outside, you don't appear to have achieved as much as others doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with you.

Each person is living his/her own life, complete with his/her own strengths, challenges and passions. To look at the lives other people are living and compare ourselves to what we see will only set us up for heartache and disappointment.

Just as they don't see what is going on beneath the surface in our minds and hearts or the challenges we've faced and all we've overcome, we don't usually really have a clue what's going on in the hearts and minds of others.

Are they facing fears or anxieties that we would never imagine?

Are they facing challenges that we would never even want to think about?

Instead of focusing on what others have that we don't, instead of paying more attention to the external lives of others that we deeply want, let's focus on being grateful for everything we have - and everything we don't.

Let's practice gratitude. Here are some ideas for how you can do this:

Keep a gratitude/success journal where you write 3-5 items that you are grateful for. Write in this journal at least 3 times a week. This will shift your focus from thinking about everything you want that you don't have to appreciating the people and items that are in your life right now.

Say thank you to people who provide a service for you, even if it seems like a small thing or something that's their job. Thank the bus drivers, the cashiers, the people who hold the doors open for you or help you with your parcels.

Wake up each morning expressing gratitude that you are blessed to wake up another day and to have an opportunity to contribute to the lives of those around you, both near and far. Be thankful for another opportunity to build on your successes and to learn from and make amends for your mistakes. Be grateful for the breaths you take, the water you drink, the food you eat that allow you to live.

What are you grateful for today?

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Don't Pity Yourself, Pretty Yourself

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 15:18:00 +0000

Life is unfair so there are more than a few reasons to have a pity party. I've stood at the bedside of a child dying of cancer; and with a woman who lost her children in a nasty divorce; and with a family who lost their mother and father in a single car crash.

You too have reasons to pity yourself, some worse than those above, and some not near as bad. Go ahead and list your reasons for pity if you want.

What is self pity? It is obsessive relentless thoughts about a situation where you see yourself as a victim and you feel frustration, anger and betrayal. Self pity stymies any healing and keeps you from moving on with your life. Self pity's worse side effect is that your family and friends start avoiding you because you're such miserable company. Beware of self pity as it is a personally destructive habit as addictive as a narcotic and as caustic as a poison.

If you are living in self pity, apply these steps to pretty yourself rather than pity yourself:

Step One: Wallow awhile in your sorrow, then give it up. Cry, grieve, grumble, vent, whine and bellyache until you've exhausted every reason to complain. Get it out and get it over with.

Step Two: Get real. Analyze what really happened. Not what you THINK happened, but what really did happen. Talk to someone who can help you view the event with clear, unbiased eyes.

Step Three: Now, try something new. The rut of self pity can be destructive and keep you from moving forward. Make an effort to try something new regularly. Try a new food, take a class, learn a new skill, and meet new people. Put the focus on the prettier version of yourself, it helps take the focus away from what you pity.

Step Four: Give up something harmful. Get rid of an old bad habit or destructive behavior, and replace it with a new one. If you regularly run late for appointments, make it a goal to set your alarm twenty minutes earlier or always leave 15 minutes sooner. If television eats up your entire evening, unplug it and create a new habit of reading a book.

Step Five: Notice the good in others and compliment them. As you encourage others you will encourage yourself. As you do, you will learn to have more grace for yourself; and, who knows, maybe those same people will begin to encourage you. Want a compliment; give a compliment.

Step Six: Take responsibility for all your actions. Don't make excuses for bad acts, it's just another form of self pity. Discover your strengths and find ways to build on them.

Step Seven: Make a list. Don't let pity overcome you, but organize and prioritize your life in a way that makes sense. This will help you feel productive and motivate you to do more.

Step Eight: Be you; don't try to be someone else. You may see characteristics in others which you want to pursue, that's good. But your goal should be to be a better version of you, not a lesser version of someone else.

Helen Keller said, "Self pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world." You want to do more than feel sorry for yourself all day - you want to be all that God has intended you to be. So start today to pretty yourself; don't pity yourself.

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3 Steps To Beating Shyness At Work - Discover How To Progress And Win That Promotion

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 15:06:00 +0000

You probably don't need me to tell you that shyness is likely to hold you back and hamper your success at work. After all, success means more money when you have a job so it's time you stopped sitting on the sidelines watching your colleagues grab the opportunities that you really deserve. Follow this 3 step plan and you'll be achieving and progressing at work in no time at all.

If shyness is a problem for you in the workplace then you have probably missed many chances of promotion and career opportunities in the past.

The bitter pill of disappointment is a hard one to swallow when you witness your colleagues take the spotlight and get the promotions while you stay where you are.

Sure, you have all the skills and abilities that your employer is looking for, but shyness at work will never get you noticed. It's usually confidence and personality that leads you to success so it's time to stop wasting your potential talent.

So, these three steps will help you deal with your shyness at work and set you on the path to success.

Start Building Relationships With Work Colleagues.

Pluck up courage to make simple small talk with your work-mates during coffee and lunch breaks about non work related issues. Try to get involved and join in after work activities or go for an after-work drink. You want to get to know your colleagues better and build rapport. You never know, a good word or recommendation could one day be to your benefit.

Create Opportunities.

Opportunities and chances for progression will not come looking for you. You have to pursue them yourself. Grab every opportunity you can to engage and build rapport with your boss and line management. Be alert to opportunities and let your boss know you're interested in progressing.

Sell Yourself.

Don't be afraid and timid when it comes to sharing your past achievements and successes. You don't want to come across as "cocky" but if you stay quiet, no-one will ever notice you. After all, good performance should be seen and rewarded so it's down to you to get yourself noticed.

I know this all may sound "easier said than done" so try to visualize yourself talking confidently with your boss and colleagues. Really try to picture yourself in your mind as someone who is able to communicate with confidence at work. Stop letting shyness control your life. We all spend a lot of time at work so you really should do your best to enjoy it.

Follow these simple 3 steps towards dealing with shyness at work, then when a promotion or opportunity comes along it will be you who succeeds and not someone-else.

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Memory Loss Causes - 5 Tips to Improve Your Memory

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 03:08:00 +0000

How many of us wish we could remember what we were just trying to remind ourselves of?

How many times have we been in a conversation and wished we could remember what we were trying to say?

I am sure there have been times where something good came to mind and we wish we could recall what it was. On that note, here are some tips to help us better our memory span.

The first way to help ourselves have better memory retention is to make sure we get plenty of rest. Doctor's will inform us that sleep deprivation is a cause of memory loss.

When we are not rested well enough, the thoughts in our head may start to run together. Therefore, we need to make sure we go to bed at a decent time. Also, during the day, if we work long hours, we should try taking power naps during our break periods.

Another great way to better our memory is to write down our tasks or assignments. Writing down what we need to do will help us to retain what we must accomplish.

We will also have a vision for our day or week. Then, we can use our notepad, calendar, or phone's memo pad to always refer back to what we need to do.

A great way to remember things is to rehearse our plans with others. My wife and I like to have a plan our day so we can know when we can have free time for each other.

Therefore, every morning and night we rehearse to each other what we need to accomplish and what we have accomplished.

This also makes for great conversation and future planning as we constantly recognize other things we can and need to do as well.

Another really helpful way to strengthen our memory is to exercise. When we exercise, oxygen goes to our brain and ironically leaves our head and mind with a refreshing feeling.

We feel energized, lively, and are ready to accomplish more as we feel quickened by our workout activities.

As we can now see, there are some easy steps we can take to better our memory. Therefore, let us get plenty of rest and exercise to keep our mind fresh and functioning.

Then, write down our tasks in a place we can quickly refer to and rehearse them with others. Doing these things will strengthen our memory, vision, and overall life.

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A Short Pencil Is Better Then A Long Memory

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 20:23:00 +0000

Have you ever gone to the grocery store meaning to pick up just a few things and walked out with half the store in your cart?

When you get home you realize that you got everything except for the thing you went there for in the first place. Now think about the time you walked in with a list and walked out with exactly the things that you came into the store for without even thinking about it.

I am the type of person that has to write everything down. I have to-do lists, grocery list, calendar reminders on my cell phone and email, my goals and visions are written down and I write my thoughts in a journal. While my passion for writing is one of the reasons why I do this, it's not the only reason.

I learned something a long time ago that has stuck with me. A short pencil is better than a long memory. The human memory is indeed flawed, we can easy lose track of our direction in life if we only rely on our memory to get there. When we write things down it reinforces the thoughts and makes them more "concrete."

Here's a little background on what happens in the brain based on some simple neuro-psychology. Our brains are divided into several regions that help us to process information. These include the frontal lobe which is for problem solving, emotions, behavioral control, thinking and planning.

The motor cortex which is responsible for movement, the sensory cortex which is responsible for sensation, the temporal lobe which processes long term memory, the parietal lobe which makes sense of the world and helps us with spelling, arithmetic and perception and the occipital which is responsible for vision.

When we write things down, we are using several of these parts of the brain but more importantly we are helping to commit this information to our long term memory. When we engage in the act of writing things down we are activating all of the parts of the brain.

One study on students, in a University setting, looked at students that took notes and students that did not take notes. The study tested these students immediately after a lecture.

All the students in the study remember approximately 40% of the information presented. The difference between the two groups was that the students that took the notes remembered more of the details of the lecture.

The students that did not take notes remembered random parts of the lecture. The mere act of writing helped the students to commit more details to their long term memory.

Writing is basically like a dress rehearsal for the brain. When we write things down we are helping to commit these things to our long term memory. The mind is a tricky thing when remembering things and a concrete reference can help us to stay focused and on track. Writing it down is also a good way to keep your mind focused and to reduce the amount of stress in your life. It only takes a minute to write it down but can save you a lot of aggravations and anguish in the long run. So when you need to remember anything in life take a second and write it down.

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Start by Not Judging Yourself

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 20:06:00 +0000

Stop Judging Yourself

I think weaknesses are a necessity to prevent you from wasting your life's purpose. As an example, there are many things that we may be interested in, but it does not necessarily mean we should make a living with them. We know what we should and should not be concentrating on by knowing our weaknesses.

Insecurity prevents you from making informed decisions and often results in seeking the opinions of others

prior to doing anything. Getting help may be a catalyst to your success; however, it is dangerous to your self-image to seek advice from unhappy people because they will provide negative and self-defeating guidance. Choose your peers wisely.

Consider the experiences of a person when seeking their advice. If they say something that is negative or discouraging, remember it is merely an opinion; furthermore, often said out of jealousy or a result of ill-temperament due to a poor self-image.

Being Critical is a Learnt Behaviour

We learn to judge ourselves as children by adopting the opinions of others. As children, our self-image is more susceptible to being infected by the negativity of others. Society demands we respect our elders by seeking their approval, even if they are wrong.

Unfortunately, many parent and caregivers control children through guilt, emotional outburst, and punishment. It is against Creation's way to tell a child he is fat, ugly, dense, stupid, pathetic, empty-headed, lost, meaningless, lazy, hopeless, a waste of energy, a waste of space, and all other degrading statements my readers have told me.

Unless encouraged otherwise, the need for approval and reassurance grows with us into adulthood, resulting in self-defeating thoughts and behaviours.

How do you deal with the opinions of others?

Perhaps you are carrying guilt from your childhood and reliving what someone has said to you. If you are, I would like you to know that no matter what has been said to you, the words were a direct result of how the other person felt about him or herself and had little to do with you. Do not allow the opinions of others stop you from achieving your destiny.

I changed my attitude about seeking approval when I realized I thought more about what was said than what they did. In fact, a person who criticizes does not usually consider the feelings of the person they judge. If they did, they would not NEED to project their insecurities onto another.

You have to ask yourself whether it is more beneficial to concentrate on their negativity than on your dreams.

The universe has given you an important role in life to fulfill if you choose to ignore the naysayers in your life. If you decide to adopt the negativity and criticism of others, than you are placing judgment upon yourself.

Their words are over the moment they are spoken, and it is your understanding of what they said that creates the truth within your mind.

Do not let anyone's opinions steal your dreams.

Remember, no one has control over your mind. No matter your situation, you have the ability and gift to visualize the life you desire. Do not underestimate the power of visualization. All great leaders, creators, authors and business owners have all used visualization to inspire their success.

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You Are Beautiful !

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 19:58:00 +0000

Sometimes you have to stand alone, and weather the storms in life. Though many leaves may fall, you must learn how to look to your roots and say to yourself, that you are still beautiful! The pain of rejection, abuse, past failures, health conditions, or ruined relationships, seems at times, unbearable; however, you must not give up.

You must develop the ability to look within and proclaim your beauty, your self-worth, your dignity, even when no one else offers a word of praise.

Take a look at your reflection in the mirror and get to know yourself! Introduce yourself to the new you, and from this day forward, be your own best friend. For example, take yourself out on a date, instead of waiting for that person to call you and ask you out.

Move forth in your life and stop waiting on the approval or the acceptance from another person that may NEVER come. I understand the pain of rejection, for any reason, including physical appearance, abandonment, etc. can be tramatic; however, as long as you depend on words of praise or acceptance from others, you will have a very difficult time appreciating your self-worth.

Failures are a necessary part of life. Get used to it. In fact, try to name a successful person (that you respect), or a successful company that did not experience multiple failures along the way.

When the mockers and naysayers laugh each time you wear the scar of another failed attempt to pursue your dreams, look deep within, and be proud for trying just one more time.

Pat yourself on the back because you have not given up. Be proud that you are still a dynamic, aspiring individual, who will one day tell his/her story on the other side of destiny.

In some way or another, we are all different... and we are all the same. While each of us have health conditions ranging from none to severe, and we must be able to look at ourselves and praise what we do have.

As hard as it may seem, learn how to praise the fact that you are still here. You are still an amazing person. You are still worthy of being loved, even if you are the primary individual loving yourself!

People will talk about you when you are alive, and they will talk about you when you are dead. They will gossip about you if they perceive you as "beautiful" and they will gossip about you if they perceive you as "unattractive."

They will backstab you if you are rich, and they will backstab you if you are poor. People are people. Period. Therefore, don't you EVER give your mirror to another person and accept his/her description of yourself!

I know firsthand how difficult it is to feel good about yourself when someone you love (or are committed to) doesn't make you feel beautiful.

I also know that I made a HUGE mistake in my life in regards to this topic. I thought I must be told I am beautiful so that I could believe I was beautiful. I was wrong!

I learned to look in the mirror and tell myself that I was a beautiful person inside and out. I learned that I must first believe I am beautiful before I look for flattery from another person. That way, my "beauty" will always be the definition of myself, and will never be based on the condition of a relationship.

Believe it or not, a failed relationship could be the best thing that ever happened to you. When someone walks out of your life, or when you decide to end a relationship because you want a better life for yourself, or for your children, it is imperative that you become comfortable with standing alone.

We all have flaws and things we must change to improve ourselves, but let no one ever convince you that you are not a beautiful person. The next time you find yourself standing alone, with ruined branches and fallen leaves, look deep within yourself, and tell yourself that you are... Still Beautiful!

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The Importance of Emotional Intelligence

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 18 Dec 2013 19:11:00 +0000

By Yassmine Aref Gadalla

Many people are not completely aware how important emotional intelligence is in their lives. We attempt to read many books and articles about this matter just for the knowledge, but we ignore the fact that if we apply emotional intelligence in our daily life and work, it could lead us to somewhere else that we never expected.

The key skills of emotional intelligence could be learned by anyone, at any time. Imagine if you are able to overcome, control and get over your daily life stress with just being emotionally aware of everything that goes right there around you.

Emotional intelligence could be summarized in the ability to express your emotions and to control them at the same time, understand and interpret to others feelings.

There are four easy steps that can lead you to the emotional intelligence you always wished to have;

The first one is sensing the emotions: you should concentrate and accurately perceive the message someone tries to tell you, this actually involves not only understanding the person's intended words but also watching the non-verbal signs, body language and facial expressions.

The second one is reasoning with emotions: we should use our emotions to promote thinking. Emotions help in prioritizing what we pay attention and react to.

This means that emotions play a very big part in guiding our minds to believing things that might or might not happen. We naturally react to things that attract our minds.

The third one is understanding emotions: emotions may carry whole different meanings at many times, some people can express their anger in an indirect way, this can actually be very obvious in the example of the angry boss; he can scream, shout and give you a very hard time just because he has an issue related to your work, or he experienced a bad morning with his wife.

We should never get confused in understanding the reasons behind people's reactions and that's why training yourself to have emotional intelligence can help you in this matter.

The fourth and last one is managing emotions (the ability to manage your emotions): Emotions are valuable, and offer a bounty of benefits.

Once we're able to process and cope with them effectively, we can then learn a lot about ourselves and our needs. If you feel something, let it out, do not engage yourself in another action hoping you can distract your feelings, this can lead you to many problems.

Managing and controlling your emotions and feelings are very important; it is a step towards reaching the emotional intelligence of knowing how to perfectly understand people around you with the least words and actions they make.

Some people see emotional intelligence as an inborn characteristic and others say it could be learned and strengthened, as for me, I can definitely say that it can easily be learned and practiced.

You may face some difficulties at first, but with trying many times, it will at the end easily work.

Where Are You Focused ?

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 17 Dec 2013 03:53:00 +0000

you look at your life, where are you focused?

Do you find yourself focused on the past wondering what might have been if a different choice had been made? Do you find yourself focused on what you are able to do right now?

I believe for many of us, we find ourselves focusing on the past and the what-might-have-beens. What I believe is a better approach is to learn from what has happened and focus on what we can do now.

Too many times I find myself focusing on choices and decisions I have made and wonder "what if?"

Unfortunately, all that does is create bad emotions and waste time for me. It creates bad emotions because I feel sorry for myself over the results of that choice.

I wonder about the possibilities of "what might have been." I even have gone so far as to imagine in vivid detail what that experience might have been like had I made a different choice.

None of that does me any good. The emotions do not serve me and I can make much better use of my time.

What I can do, is choose now based upon my current circumstances. I can evaluate my options based upon previous experiences. I can say to myself, "when I had a similar situation at this time, I made this choice and had this result. Was that the better choice?" Sometimes, the answer will be yes.

Sometimes, the answer will be no. When the answer is no, I can evaluate my other options and determine a better possible outcome.

I know that I have had conversations with customers in the past that have not gone well. Hindsight being 20/20, I know now that when I have difficult conversations and someone is not happy in that moment, I have other options that will provide more agreeable solutions.

I have been in church services ushering and have had one or two persons that we very adamant about sitting in a certain place. I would prefer them to sit in a way that fills in the rows in a certain way. However, for the sake of keeping peace, I allow them to sit where they want and fill in around them the best way I can.

In pursuing My Purpose in life, I know that I am very funny as a human.

By funny I mean I am an interesting individual with some very odd tendencies.

I believe every other member of the human race behaves much the same way.

These tendencies cause certain reactions amongst other people. I believe as a result, we all have the opportunity to make adjustments as we go along in life so that we can all create the Destinies we desire.

So, the question I leave you with is: are you focusing on the past and what might have been or are you learning from the past and moving forward with your current choices?

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Your Purpose, Vision and Destiny Coach,

Andy

No One Can Do Your Soul's Homework

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 17 Dec 2013 03:28:00 +0000

Your soul is your soul. It's the deepest and most intimate part of you. Only you can go there and only you know what is there.

Your soul has its own needs, desires and wounds and they all have to be satisfied, carried out and healed to have it progress and expand as it is bound to be. Only you know what your soul's needs, desires and wounds are and how to deal with them. It requires nourishment, growth and integrity.

Your soul tells you in thousand ways, in its own way, what to do, where to go and how to be, and you know it all because you are your soul. There is no difference, separation or distance between you and your soul, how could it be?

You are one, your soul is one and the whole is one. What has to be already is; your soul precisely fulfilled its given tasks and you are that, exactly that. You are one, many and infinite.

You gave your soul its tasks; now love it and love yourself, everything and everyone. You, right now, are what, how and where you ever wanted to be, according to your plans.

You've just got to acknowledge it, accept it and put all your pieces back together. This is your soul and it's happy, satisfied and proud of you recognizing it.

This is you, you got it, and your search is over. You touched your empty center of being.

It's time to celebrate, enjoying your life as it is and going with it. You've reached home; it's in the dept of your soul, just there where you are, and your home is universal.

Time, space, resources and intuition are there to keep your journey going; let it unfold and manifest as it is bound to do. Being is better than not to, that's why you're here looking for yourself, your destiny and life's meaning. This, you know it already; you exist as everything and in everything; the whole of reality is already here, manifested as you, and anything else, are.

To get in touch with your soul is very easy and it cannot be otherwise. You've just got to give it a bit of your time, consideration and confidence. It will then respond with great insight, authority and wisdom.

When you are having a quiet and silent moment with yourself only, notice all that goes on within your present field of experience.

Thoughts are probably there, together with voices, emotions, sentiments, streams of energy and sensorial perceptions. They're not your soul. Dig deeper and grasp what's behind them all. There a gentle vibration arising from the dept of your being, taking up your whole inner space. That's your soul, that's you.

Let it fill and guide your consciousness; it surely knows what you've got to do next and how. Just do that, before you begin analyzing all possible outcomes.

Dr. Andrea Scarsi is a metaphysician, mystic, and meditator, devoting his life to sharing the supreme understanding through direct teaching and books he writes on the subject of spirituality. He's based in Italy and India, and moves around the world when invited or following a universal call. You can check out one of his websites at: Secrets Of Meditation, where he indicates simple and everyday's ways to come in touch with your inner self. You can also check out his other website: The Secret Of Metaphysical Science, where he provides detailed information on the subject of Metaphysics as a way of living.

The Greater Vision of Your Life

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 17 Dec 2013 03:14:00 +0000

We're all born with a purpose, a greater vision for our lives.

There is an intentional reason you exist here on earth at this point in time.

What do you believe deep down that reason is?

While this deeper knowing evolves and strengthens as we seek to understand, this deeper knowing is God guiding you to learn and fulfill your life's purpose.

Only you can fulfill your purpose, no one else. If we fail to fulfill our purpose, we hinder or even prevent others from fulfilling theirs.

From a deeper sense I knew there was something much greater I was to do with my life. Yet I didn't know what that was. Casually for years I tried to understand, but it wasn't until I got serious and intentionally pursued knowing my life's purpose that I learned the greater vision for my life.

The process was effective and gave me the desired clarity that I wanted and needed. God only shares the parts of our life's purpose that we're able to handle in that moment. As I've grown, the clarity of my greater vision has grown.

Learning our life's purpose happens over time through a revealing. While there's more of my life's purpose to be revealed, I'll admit the greater vision I was given overwhelmed me.

I was overwhelmed as I peered at the tremendous gap and struggled to understand how to go from way down here to way up there.

Being a results-driven problem solver my mind went into overdrive trying to solve the "HOW" am I going to fulfill the greater vision for my life.

There in laid my problem, the "how" is not up to us, it's up to God. Little by little He guides us, step by step sometimes only giving us a little insight and other times much greater. Our responsibility is to listen and act on our intuition, our inner guidance.

God gave us all freewill, therefore it must be an intentional choice. We can choose to listen and act or dismiss and ignore that small voice inside us. It's our intuition, our gut knowing that guides us gently towards the fulfillment of our greater vision.

The small voice is quiet and natural, which is why it easily goes unheard. We're all blessed with this inner guidance; our world is just too noisy and busy so our intuition dims over time. Like anything, what we pay attention to grows stronger. This is definitely true of your intuition as well.

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Over the next two weeks become intentional to listen to your inner guidance, your intuition. It's through our intuition that God guides and talks with us.

As you listen and take action, your intuition gets louder and more persistent. Like the people we love and who love us, God wants our love and attention too.

The quiet voice can guide you to turn down a street you weren't planning to turn down where you're able to help someone in need or it guides you to venture into a store where you strike up a conversation with someone who has a meaningful impact on your life. I'm sure you can name numerous serendipitous encounters you've had and the effect they had on your life.

Take some time out to be quiet and think about or better yet journal these tiny yet powerful events that impacted and sometimes altered the trajectory of your life.

Begin to connect the dots to see how each one guided you to the other or put you in the right place at the right time to fulfill something you desired.

These are all those little steps I mentioned that God uses to guide us closer and closer to understanding and fulfilling the greater vision for our lives.

If events are happening in your life and business causing you to realize success isn't enough; that it lacks the fulfillment, love and meaning you need - I'd like to help you make sense of what's going on so you can begin understand your greater purpose and move forward.

When this happened to me it was devastating as I felt my success was meaningless; the first thing I needed to do was understand why my life seemed to be collapsing beneath me so I could move forward.

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Accept Yourself and Be Happy

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 17 Dec 2013 03:05:00 +0000

By Michael Ssali

Did you look in the mirror this morning?

Were you unsatisfied with your facial appearance?

Are you too fat or are you too skinny?

Is your skin color a little bit too pale? Too dark?

Well, we have all been there. We found ourselves in a situation in which we were uncomfortable with what we looked like. We focused on the surface instead of diving deeper.

If you are one of the people who looks at your outward appearance and feel that you do not look good enough, just think about where you are in the grand scheme of things.

You might feel that you don't look good enough to impress a certain girl. You might feel that the way you look does not attract men.

The problem with that way of thinking is that you are putting others first instead of putting yourself first. In order to be loved, one must love him or herself. Instead of focusing on the negative, try focusing on the positive.

Make a list of things that are positive about you. If you focus on the positive things, the negative things will cease to matter.

So how can you focus on the positive things?

First of all, write down a list of all things you can do well.

Are you a great writer?

Are you a great listener?

Do you know how to solve complex puzzles?

Are you great at capturing rowdy kids' attention?

All of these things are positive things that matter a lot more than physical appearance. I

f you can do something of great quality with your mind power, that is a lot more beneficial to your well-being than how you look.

Once you have figured out what you do best, start doing it every day.

If you have a job, continue working in that job, but do your positive activity as a hobby.

Keep doing it as much as you can. Don't worry about doing it for "free" because what we do for "free" is sometimes what we can do best.

The more you keep doing it, the more you will receive joy. The more you receive joy the healthier you will be.

Once you're healthy, you will certainly accept yourself for who you are and you will love yourself. When you love yourself, you will become loved by others.

Once you're loving yourself and loved by others, you may eventually find a soul mate with whom you might start a family. Once that family is formed, instill the above in your children so that they will accept themselves for who they are and love themselves.

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Five Ways to Get More Work Done

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 14 Dec 2013 02:26:00 +0000

You have deadlines hanging over your head and you're buried up to your eyeballs in work. But no matter how hard you try; you can't seem to make any headway. If trying to keep pace with your workload is wearing you down, use these tips to improve your scheduling and get more done.

Make a priority list.

At the end of each workday, create a list of the most important things you need to do the next day. This will give you a sense of direction and help keep you on track. As you scratch things off your list, you'll feel more motivated to reach the finish line.

Do the hard stuff first.

Since harder projects take more energy to complete, it's best to get them out of the way first. If you wait around, you'll be too drained to do them properly. When you put them off the thought of having to tackle these task will be negative on your task at hand and will prohibit you from being prepared to work on when scheduled.

Break projects up into sections.

When projects are large, they can make you feel overwhelmed. Breaking large tasks up into smaller chunks will make them easier to manage so you can get them done faster. Progress will be easily seen and will provide motivation.

Ditch the multitasking.

Although some people swear by multitasking, research suggests that doing more than one task at a time reduces productivity. You will get more work done if you carve out blocks of time and give your full attention to one project at a time. Quality will improve and sense of accomplishment will be felt.

Learn to meditate.

Taking time out of your busy schedule to meditate may seem counterproductive, but a few minutes of quiet time can help recharge your batteries. You can do simple stretching and deep breathing exercises at your desk. It is important to take care of you as you take care of your work. Try to implement this into your routine and feel the benefits immediately.

Fitting all of your workday deadlines into your schedule can seem impossible at times. When you set priorities, get the hard stuff out of the way, break your projects into small bites, avoid multitasking and learn to relax, you will boost your productivity and increase the amount of work you get done. These tips and mind sets take time to develop and will sure to make a difference in your life and life style in the future.

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How to Change Your Life - For GOOD!

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 13 Dec 2013 12:12:00 +0000

By Daniel Kasztura

Would you love to know how to change your life for better?

Are you in the position right now that requires some changing?

I think you can always be better, right? Do you agree with me that even if your situation, personal or financial, happens to be just all right, you can always find something to lift you on the higher level of your prosperity.

But in order to become more successful in what you're doing, to achieve a greater success in what you do for a living, you should want to know how to change your life.

Brian Tracy is willing to teach you how to change your life. Everyone of us seems to have problems. That't the life goes, isn't it? It is good to realize that the way you think about a problem determines your attitude or approach. That's why it is very important for you to understand that you are able change your attitude and your approach to any difficulty you face. You must only be prepared for the knowledge concerning the way how to change your life successfully.

In order to understand how to change your life, you must agree that certain words have a tremendous impact on the way you feel or think. The thing is however those words can change you in a positive or negative way. So it is of a great importance to change your language before it is too late.

You know, there are some words that have a similar meaning. However, if you choose to replace them, it can have an incredible impact on your life. That kind of activity can put you in the position to understand how to change your life.

I can give you an example if you wish. Look, the word "problem", which seems to have a negative sound if you use it, can be replaced with the word "situation". Nice, isn't it? What do you feel when saying the first word? Don't you feel the fear or anxiety?

Instead of saying: "I have a problem", try to say: "I have a situation".

This little replacement can do a lot in your life. It can help you understand how to change your life forever.

I will explain more. You see, if you say "I have a problem", you tell your brain that your situation is rather hopeless. But if you say "I have a situation to face", you suggest your mind that you are in the situation and you want to face it in order to solve it. This is how to change your life for better.

Another example may be like this. You can replace the word "problem" with the "challenge".

You say: "I have an interesting challenge to face today". And your mind automatically is ready to suggest you some kind of answers to solve your problem.

The truth is challenge is a positive word that makes your life exciting and worth living. If you take it into consideration, you will find yourself in a situation to know how to change your life for good.

What else can you use to make the word "problem" more positive?

How to see your problem in much more positive light?

Well, the best replacement word is... opportunity. Say for instance: "I have an unexpected opportunity at the moment".

This kind of positive and bright attitude is able to help you understand how to change your life.

The point is you are the one who should control your thinking and emotions. If you are able to control the way you see things, you will know how to change your life and make it happy in every aspect.

You see, the most successful people control their mind and emotions by choosing the words they use to describe the situation.

I encourage you to consider replacing the word "problem" with "situation", "challenge" or "opportunity". But remember that the best choice for you is the latter.

My name is Daniel Kasztura. I live in Poland. I love being myself. I like the issue of personal development. I want to add value to you by writing about how to grow as a person. I am convinced that you can be a better person if you constantly learn how to develop your personal skills. I would be honored to know you took advantage of the helpful lessons presented here. Good luck :)