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How to handle a bad day...

2012-02-07T19:28:00.001-08:00

Have you ever had a rough day? You know, one of those days that isn't necessarily a bad day, but cannot, by any means, be called a good day.

I had one of those today. Let me tell you, quite a few parts of my day went really "south". Some of the mayhem was my own doing, but, a great deal of it was completely out of my control. The day's events just seemed to plummet moment by moment until my (spiritual and physical) fatigue gave way to a sense of heaviness.

At that point, I realized it was time for God to lead me to the Rock that is higher than I. So, the laundry had to wait,my little boy's long leisurely bath was swapped for a quickie shower and instead of trying to prepare two dinners; I opted for one. That's when I ran. I ran from the stress of the day and right into a place of rest.

I ran straight to the arms of Jesus.

I turned on Selah and their velvety melodies of praise reminded of my Lord's power with "How Great Thou Art." Suddenly, I saw my right hand fly up in praise! Then it hit me. What a blessing to be able to lift my hand. Some people wish they could do that. I praised God for what the old people used to call "the activity of my limbs". Thank you, Jesus.

Then, for a moment, I thought about how I wished my husband was home to hold me.
That was when I listened and meditated on the song "His eye is on the sparrow". It hit me God's eye is on me, just like its on that sparrow and before long my husband would be home and I could find my place in God's heavenly arms. There, I can find peace, love and acceptance no heavenly arms could ever impart. All the same, I praised the Lord for answering the prayers of a lonely single mom (for 13 years) and sending me a blessing in my husband. But, know his love for me pales in comparison to Jesus'.

After all that, I began praising God for my wonderful son, Ben, and the joy he has brought me every single day he has been alive. God is indeed good. I couldn't forget to praise Him for my mommie and my brother, Donnie. The list is endless!

Oh yes, my downtrodden disposition swiftly transformed into a celebration of praise that excluded petition, whining or discontent. It was 100 percent praise and adoration to my heavenly
Father.

So, the best way to manage a "rough" day - or any day for that matter-is to think of the many blessings God has "kissed" you with today and figure out real and meaningful days to praise Him, love Him, serve Him and extol Him for His wonderful grace, His endless mercy and His matchless strength. You, and I, are truly blessed, GodsyGirl.

No "bad" day can compare to what God gives us eternally.

Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you

in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again

praise him, my salvation and my God.

Psalms 43:5

How not to say the wrong thing..at work or anywhere!

2012-02-01T19:09:00.000-08:00

Be a blessing at work

Not long ago, I started working outside the home. I was quite blessed to find an opportunity that fits my skills and interest somewhat well. However, being part of the “real” world has it’s challenges.
For instance, a few weeks ago, I was laughing with a colleague (a fellow Christian) about how easy it is to be “saved” when you work from home. Alone at home, working in front of a computer, one isn’t often tested with issues like forgiveness, or anger or negative conversations. But, in the workplace it’s a very different world. I had forgotten how
much differently.

One of my most frequent prayers is that God would use me to be a blessing to my colleagues and all the people in which I come in contact. I pray every day for a fresh chance to be a blessing to someone during the course of my eight hours of labor. Whether, it’s a smile, a joke I tell, a gift I may give or a service I can offer. I want to be a blessing. In the end, it’s all about Christ and how others may see Him in my actions.

However, I am often concerned. You see, I’m a very direct communicator. Gone are the days of the shy girl scared to voice her opinions. Above most anything, I value the liberty that Christ has wrought in me. The spirit of timidity that once held me bondage has been conquered by the blood of Jesus and I praise God for that victory. I cherish my liberty.

At the same time, I pray that God would teach me…to groom me in a way that my liberty never becomes a bondage or a hindrance to others. I never want my ability to share my feelings to encumber, offend or even stifle anyone. That would not be Godly and it would not allow me to be the blessing I pray to become.

So, the scripture in my spirit this week is Colossians 4:6:

“Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.” (As my moms says, "too much salt can ruin a good dish")

Hey, GodsyGirl, listen to how The Message Bible interprets this same scripture:

“Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.”

That says it all. Work in me and on me, Holy Spirit. Is that your prayer too?

You wiggle off the alter?

2011-11-17T18:27:00.000-08:00

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy,

to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing

to God--this is your spiritual act of worship. Romans 12:1

Picture of me and cousins and brother, Eric
...compliments of my "big" cousin Tim.

I grew up pretty shy and withdrawn. I was tormented with fear of people thought of me; I feared whether or not they would like me or accept me. The result is I often said nothing in an effort to be liked.

God's Perfect Work
For years, God worked on me; challenged me; called me to do "hard" things in an effort to transition my confidence from humans toward Him and His strength in me. He showed me time and time again that I was of little use to Him if I could not muster the courage to share my faith, my testimony and yes....my, at times, my opinions.

It has been a long, difficult journey toward the limited liberty I now enjoy in Jesus. I have a long way to go, but one thing I am rarely accused of being is timid. I praise God wholeheartedly because deliverance was expensive. It cost me everything, but, it was well worth it.
Through His deliverance and healing, I've been able to speak before hundreds of people at a time without caring whether they would "like" me. He worked in me to boldly declare His greatness regardless of people's faces (Check out Jeremiah 1:18).

Again, I have a long, long, long way to go to be who He has called me to be; but do know, that I'm committed to fighting my flesh and my will to stay on the alter. More than my comfort, more than my church tradition, more than my need to be accepted, I want to be pleasing to God.

Still on Subject
Have you ever thought about the story Isaac and his father Abraham? Long story short, the two of them hiked to a mountain to surrender a sacrifice. You may remember that Isaac was a blessing given to Abraham in his old age. Well, Abraham was old when Isaac was born, so when the story took place, he was even older. Point: an old man is not usually as strong as a young man, right? *Stay with me*

On that mountain, Abraham had to bind Isaac and then he laid him on the alter. Have you ever thought about that? No where in scripture does it say that Isaac struggled with being bound. He wouldn't struggle because of His surrendered heart. He was surrendered to his fathers command, desires and direction.

You know where I'm going...
We struggle with our Father all of the time as He attempts to restrain us or still us. While He's trying to do His work in us, we repeatedly disobey, rebel and maybe even "wiggle" off the alter because we want to be in control and comfortable.

Today I declare I will stay on the alter to allow God to complete His perfect (mature/finished) work in me. Will you?

The most important word

2011-11-08T20:00:00.001-08:00

The most important word

Today our church choir sang a song that simply said "in response we say Yes". Sure they sung it beautifully, but mere talent rarely moves me. What moves me is Biblical truth and the anointing of God. That song dripped with both.

I contend to say the most important word in the Christian faith is the word "yes". In scripture, God asked time and time again for His people to chose Him - to choose His path, His laws, His ways. He beckons us to to obey and submit...regardless of the cost.

He's asking you this very second, "Are you willing to follow me, not knowing where I will lead you?"

"Are you willing to show kindness to a hateful neighbor, colleague or mate?" Proverb 25:21-22

"Will you chose to silence the world and spend time with the Lord? No TV, no driving...just with Him?" Psalm 42:1

Will your response be "Yes?" Yep, that is one of the most crucial...and costly words in the Christian experience. The very cornerstone of maturity it is. So, I''ll ask you again....will you say "yes"?

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Praise God!

2011-09-01T20:34:00.000-07:00

I had the distinct honor of sharing an evening with women from Sheffield Family Life Center in Kansas City, Missouri. It was a wonderful time of fellowship, praise and worship. May I always stay "amazed" by God's awesome greatness.

Many thanks to First Lady Annette Westlake, my dear friend Brenda Lax and the entire Women's Ministry leadership team for letting me come home for a bit.

Also, much gratitude to all my friends, sisters, family and babies from Macedonia Baptist Church in Kansas City. Your support and love humble me. You're living proof of God's grace, love and care.

Ok. As promised, here's the PowerPoint: click here to download the link. Remember, being a woman of "excellence" starts, ends and concludes with "prompt, whole-hearted action, obedience, and submission to God’s direction, timing, plans, commandments and methodology."

It's all about Him, Amen?

Living Before an Audience of One

2011-08-28T09:39:00.000-07:00

Note: I wrote this post for "GodsyGirl - Pastors Wives", but it'll bless you too!

Yesterday, I was blessed to be on a radio show that focused on the manifold challenges woman married to pastors manage. Let me tell you, it was one of the most exhilarating conversations I've had the privilege of participating in. The conversation included the host (a former minister's wife), the pastor's wife of my youth and myself.

The dialogue was open, honest and the only limitation on the candor was that of time.

One thing I had hoped to convey and I strive do daily is to perform my life for an audience of One. You know who that One is. :)

In our role it is incredibly easy to fall prey to the "spotlight" and live our lives for other people. We can live for their praise, acknowledgement, validation and recognition. What a huge mistake!

God has called you to serve Him and Him only. It's all about Him- about Him only! Even our outreach and ministry to others is to please our Father. Our spiritual performance is because of and a humble sacrifice to Him. So, keep your eyes and expectations locked on the Lord and His Kingdom.

Sis, everything you do, wear, say and give is for His glory and honor. His eyes are the only ones that matter.

GodsyGirl on the Radio

2011-08-26T06:38:00.000-07:00

Tomorrow, August 27, 2011, I'll be on one of my favorite new radio shows! Join me on KGGN 890AM with Marsha Young at 12:30 p.m.

A Woman Among Women...
One of my all-time favorite people will also join us. Ilene Coolidge was a fixture on the landscape of my most spiritually developmental years. Her former husband pastored Quindaro Church of God in Christ in Kansas. God proved His faithfulness in her life time and time again. Her Christian witness is and has been steadfast, consistent and visible proof of God's power of restoration, grace and love. If you missed her last week, don't miss this week!

"Buckle up, its going to be a bumpy ride"
Tomorrow, we will discuss some common pitfalls of today's *single* Christian woman. Nowadays, being a successful single Christian is tricky as "wrong" masquerades as "right".

We'll also discuss some of my latest rants (on GodsyGirl.com) about weak, compromising clergy and what that does to the body of Christ. Again, sure, we're all human, but to whom much is given, much is required.

Controversial? Yep, but I don't care. It's time to stop shrouding and swallowing compromise and be heard! The world must know Christians are here, REAL and not be intimidated by society. Amen?

Listen online at http://www.kggnam.com/. Put it in your cell calendar and check it out.

Preachers and double lives

2011-08-18T09:30:00.000-07:00

I have been troubled, no concerned- no sickened by the latest news of a young pastor living a double life.

It’s not so much that I am angry at the kingdom of darkness, although I am. Sure, I’m frustrated by of the sin nature and how it wars against the Spirit of God in a Christian’s life. The continuous stream of pastors and spiritual leaders that fall under the shame of personal sins hurts their ministries, their families, their communities, and the world.

What really bothers me the most will ruffle a lot of feathers and maybe even offend you. If it does, I recommend you pray for me and stop reading. After all, your peace is something you must garrison.

It nauseates me
Here’s what really bothers me: it’s the fakery and secrets within the Body of Christ. Countless pastors preach one thing in the pulpit and living double lives outside it. They preach patience, forgiveness, love, spiritual power in Jesus while living lives of sin and deception. This kind of fakery is disgusting. All this being true, something else bothers me more.

I am really bugged that people keep secrets. For instance, while some leaders live “dirty” defeated lives, people surround them, shield them and some condone their sin with their silence. Deacons look the other way because their worship the gift. Wives turn their heads for the sake of the “benefits” or worse, they are financially trapped into the marriages.

I know….I know…
Now, before you get your undies in a wad, let me say I do understand that people (including pastors) are human and that no one is perfect. Every flesh and blood being on this planet is in the heated struggle of sin and temptation. It’s unavoidable.

The Bible tells us that temptation isn’t sinful in itself. It’s the giving in to it that causes problems. Thankfully, if we sin, we have an advocate with the Father. Jesus paid it all. But, the question becomes “is living in constant, continual, habitual sin ok with God?” If so, then there is no need for ¾ of the Bible that encourages us to strive toward holy living.

For instance, if we can (released to, given permission to, able to) live in sin, then throw out Galatians 5:1 and stay in bondage. Also, there is no need for 1 John 1:9. No need to be cleansed from sin, just live in it. While we’re at it, pitch Romans 6:2.

God has given us the power to resist sin. Plus, He created systems to keep us holy and accountable to one another. You must have someone in your life in which you may confess you sins so they can restore you to strength. It’s sad that we don’t take advantage of those systems. When we hide our secret sin, it can potentially fester, grow and develop into a real issue. I think that’s what happens to many of our pastors.

Pray, Saints, Pray
The truth is we must pray for our pastors and leaders incessantly. You have no idea the temptations your pastor struggles with in his inner man, the physical demands he struggles with or the financial burden he may carry. Further, many pastor’s wives choose to smile, and continue on for the sake of the Kingdom, but do know, many are broken, war-worn and trusting God for the next smile.

Hey, you think you know your pastor because you see him a few times each week? I beg to differ; you don’t know him. When you stop by the house and see he and his wife smiling, grinning and laughing, it’s not always the case. You think you do, but you don’t likely know those people. You see a snapshot of their whole.

Let me tell you, you have no clue the trouble, burden, strife, and wickedness that can fester behind the closed doors of a pastor’s home. Unless you live in that home for more than three months, you see only a minuscule part of that family and have no clue. But, God knows and He can redeem them, protect them, comfort them and give them strength.

Not all pastors have the same struggles, but all pastors need your prayer. I understand there are ga-zillions men and women of God who are living authentic, real lives before God and man. All that being true, they still need your prayers.They need God's wisdom, discernment, conviction, strength and Holy Spirit.

Commit to pray for your leaders. If you love them, STOP esteeming the gift over their souls. War for them in the spirit. Intercede praying the Word of God over them. Pray for them to have God’s heart, God’s passion and be committed to authentic holiness. Pray God gives them strength to apply the Word to their own lives and minister to them as He did the weary prophet. Pray they can be living, walking examples of God’s power and character every single day of the week…not just on Sundays.

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I know too many people, too many experiences to know what I write is something that needs to be said. We MUST pray for our leaders in this wicked day and age. We must pray aggressively. It is the anointed ones that the enemy wants to destroy. Be strong, be disciplined and commit to pray for your leaders, Church. I don't care whether you are Catholic, Baptist, Methodist..whatever...pray.
Forgive the typos, I wanted to get it out before I changed my mind.

Living in regret may not a bad thing

2011-08-13T15:41:00.000-07:00

Sometimes life choices seem to haunt us, buffet us and plague us for years. Further complicating the issue is the enemy's willingness to slap a redemption-less sort of guilt into our minds and morph it into condemnation. In case you didn't know, condemnation is not God's will for your life.

Check out this ugly (but actual) definition of the word "condemn":

1.
: to declare to be reprehensible, wrong, or evil usually after weighing evidence and without reservation (read Romans 5:1, 10:9-10, 8:33)

2. : to pronounce guilty (check out Colossians 2: 13-14, Luke 6:37)

3. To adjudge unfit for use or consumption (God has a purpose and destiny for you! See Corinthians 12:14-24)

Source: http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/condemning?show=0&t=1313272078

Regeneration not Condemnation!
The work of the Holy Spirit is to (a) convict us of sin, (b) reveal and remind us of God's word/plan while, (c) guiding us back to right standing with God through godly sorrow. (Read 2 Cor. 7:10) God never condemns, in fact, He frees you from it! Read Romans 8 for confirmation. Instead, He heals, renews and redeems. Good news, huh?

The positive side of regret...

I've heard people, some famous and some unknown, say "I don't have regrets".

Hmmmm....

I almost agreed with that statement until I measured it against the word of God.
In my opinion, a root of arrogance rests deep within this popular statement. You see, the cornerstone of true repentance is to acknowledge wrongdoing while being humble enough to let the shame propel you toward change. The "right" kind of regret and godly sorrow heals, forgives and brings about change. Read through the Psalms (esp. 51) and see how godly regret can look.

If you don't learn from the regret you risk a hardened heart and a reprobate mind. As a matter if fact, true repentance is a component of true regret. Gee, I wish you and I were sitting in Starbucks discussing this topic! Oh well...

All this to say, if you have fallen short of Gods plan, make haste to repent (stop, redirect and change paths). Then watch God cleanse you, strengthen you and make all things new in your life! Amen?

Next post: what to do if you regret specific choices in your life (marriage, financial choices, etc.)

Why do people worship like that?

2011-07-23T15:59:00.000-07:00

You'd be surprised to know how many people do not understand the beauty of worship. Really.

Some people see worship as nothing more than walking into the church, parking their feet under a pew and clapping their hands from time to time when the choir sings.

I contend that worship is much, much more than those simple physical expressions. Worship is awe and amazement at a wondrous, gracious, loving God- a God that's a Father. Worship is beatiful, as the Psalm says.

Sometimes, it's a supernatural gratitude of who God is (strong, mighty, my joy, strength and completion), what He has done (saved me, cleansed me, accepted me and changed me) and what He will do (only He knows!). You know, the woman at my church that worships the loudest does so because of God's grace, healing and restoration in her life. Her worship is hard earned by Christ, its expensive because it costed so very much of her and of Her Savior!

That's why I worship without abandon. As my tears of gratitude stream down my cheeks, I often long for words to express my love and thankfulness to my Heavenly Father, but words often fail me. Only my tears will suffice. I love Him so.
It's not emotion, it's thankfulness. It's acknowledgement, it's surrender to the God of the universe. Hey, if Jesus could give His life, I can give my worship and allegiance, right? And, sorry, I don't care what anyone thinks. The last thing on my mind during worship is what the "frozen chosen" thinks of me!

As Rabbi Schneider, from "The Jewish Jewish" said, the very heart of worship is abandoning ourselves and putting God first in everything. He referenced Abraham's obedience (to give His son) as a perfect example of true worship. Now, we know that God gave that illustration once in Biblical times and He doesn't ask us to to such things now days. But still, God still requires complete and totally submission from you as your expression of worship. It may look different from mine and mine may look different from hers, but true worship is a heart thing that only God can judge. No one else is qualified.

Maybe, part of yourworship sacrifice is of your time, your effort, your obedience, your pride, your gifts, your money, your television time or even that ungodly relationship that's pulling you from God's plan for your life.

Whatever it is, demonstrate your worship today by giving God the very best of yourself and your praise!

Asking God for Help

2011-07-19T08:18:00.000-07:00

God wants you to ask!

Have you ever wondered: “if God is all knowing, why do I have to ask Him for what I need?”

Asking is a very important part of any relationship. Fully-functional relationships are rooted in liberty, humility, and faith. It is actually a beautiful thing that we can go to God in prayer. This access to the Creator of the universe is actually a testament to a loving, and merciful God.

Although He's powerful, mighty and holy, he wants us to feel comfortable in our reverence. He doesn't want frightened little Christian robot children afraid to ask, afraid to seek and afraid to knock on the doors of heaven. No, he wants you to come boldly to the throne of grace and make your request known (read Hebrews 4:16).

Public Enemy#1: Pride
Did you know the act of “asking” is interconnected with humility? Look at this way: a person too proud to ask for what they need (or want) will not please God. God hates pride and will never bless it. Pride is what kicked Lucifer from heaven and caused many Godly people to fall. Pride is the first step of failure (Prov. 16:18). That "I can do it all myself" mentality will only lead to heartache. You need God and you need His people. Point, blank...PERIOD.

God invites your interdependence; He demands it.

Asking for what you need reminds us that we cannot do “life” without His power, provision, strength, grace or compassion. It demonstrates our helplessness and feebleness to get through life alone. Some people say Christianity is a crutch. I wholeheartedly agree. I need Him with every fiber of my being. Besides, every breathing human being needs a crutch. For some, it's drugs, sex, alcohol, work, relationships and so on. At least my crutch is eternally dependable and blesses me boundlessly. I'll bet they can't say the same.

Yeah, the key to humility is remembering

that you are nothing but dust and that God

owes you nothing, even though He offers everything.

Finally, if you - no, when you ask God for anything, trust, believe and be persuaded that He is all-powerful and rewards those who diligently seek Him. This means He blesses you as you seek Him. Search His word to learn how He moves. Dig in to discover His nature. Pray to get His plan. Steadfast faith and complete reliance on God is critical in prayer. Otherwise, don't expect to receive anything.

When you ask, don't be afraid to rejoice in the “yes”; while being willing to accept the “no”.

Amen?

Scriptures I reference:
Proverbs 103:4
2Peter 1:3
Hebrews 11:6

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When God seems wrong

2011-07-14T09:42:00.000-07:00

God's will is always best, but sometimes hurts.

Have you ever been disappointed by one (or several of) God’s decisions? Maybe you wanted a particular job, mate, home, car, ministry position, or healing for someone and God decided to fulfill His purposes completely opposite of your request. Or maybe you are at your wits end in that marriage, and God says “stay”.

You are Human
We have all “made our requests known” (as the scripture tells us) only to have God do His own thing. Let’s be honest; it can hurt when God says “No” while we want Him to say “Yes”.

A Beautiful Truth
God is immeasurably gracious, merciful and compassionate. He understands our pain and bottles every single one of our tears. He knows how you feel when we are disappointed. He even knows how difficult it is at times to submit to His will. But, He wants us to submit nonetheless.

Remember, when Jesus was praying in the Garden and asked "My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me"? I think Jesus wanted to demonstrate to us that we can talk to our Father about absolutely anything. But, at the same time, He's showing us we must always put His will before our own. That's why He ended the prayer with “nevertheless, your will be done.”

God understands your disappointment and the grief that often follows His decisions. He listens, comforts and promises to help you work through the sorrow. He’s there to help you one hundred percent of the time – in the “yes” seasons and in the “no” seasons too.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of

those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Rom. 8:28

If your heart is heavy today, talk to Him. Bask in the comfort of the Psalms. Keep searching until you find one that soothes your soul. Then, cast your feelings, thoughts and anguish on Him. He can handle it.

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD,

plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give

you hope and a future. Jer. 29:11

Another tip: keep your environment praise-worthy, GodsyGirl. Play worship music that soothes your spirit and feeds your faith. Then, watch God usher you through the deepest darkest times of your life. His will is King, and so is His comfort and peace.

Hang in there. His ways may be far above reaching, but His comfort is just a call away.

Scriptures:
Matthew 26:39
Psalm 56:8
Isaiah 55:8

10 things Christians take for granted

2011-06-28T23:22:00.000-07:00

10 things Christians take for granted

1. Spiritual teaching or sound doctrine
2. Church facilities (including heat, air conditioning, etc)
3. Honest, loving, ethical pastors
4. Kind, patient pastors' wives
5. Deacons
6. Grace
7. The Bible
8. The Holy Spirit
9. Family ministries
10. The kind people that clean the church (and bathrooms) after you leave.

Bonus: Forgiveness!!!

What else do we take for granted?

A Godsy Girl Update

2011-06-22T12:54:00.000-07:00

Funny...

You pray for something and it comes; you'd think you'd be exhilarated, huh? Well, for months, my business had slowed and I prayed and prayed "God send me more work."

He answered my prayer (and then some) and now, I'm busier than I've been in years! I'm a professional training facilitator for workplace teams. In the last few weeks, I've been at a community college, a hospital, a nonprofit consortium, a company and even MC'D a women's retreat. Oh yeah, in the meantime, I've taught two classes at my church, attended 1 baseball game and provided technical assistance for a youth organization! Oh yeah, I'm learning ASL sign language in my spare time! Ha!

I'm still a Godsy Girl and I miss you soooo much. Please hang in there and I'll be back soon with tons of encouragement, love, support and Godly exhortation!

Wisdom for Today's Christian Woman

2011-06-19T09:22:00.000-07:00

Recently, I MC'd a life-changing conference hosted by In The Word Ministries (visit at www.inthewordministriesonline.org.

I couldn't wait to share a few quotes that really blessed me. Check out these:

"The church is not made of walls, but made of a body."
Lisa Barry

"we counter the lies of Satan with the Word of God"
Eileen Epps Hamilton

"Having peace is an intentional lifestyle.
We have to seek to know the fullness of God's love.
We have go be obedience
We have to take thoughts captive
The adoration prayer model"
Kim Specker

"God is calling us to live out a bold adventure."
Stacey Jones

"The church is not made of walls, but made of a body."
Lisa Barry

"Real with God
Know where u are
Be who u are
Be live e truth
Don't be drawn by your appetite"

"There is no comfort in a growth zone and no growth in a comfort zone."

Dr. Melinda Joy Mingo

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Finding time to pray ...very important!

2011-06-02T20:54:00.000-07:00

Stop the noise and pray!

Did you hear it?

That still small voice beckoning you to prayer time with the Lover of your soul. He understands that life gets busy and the myriad of demands on your life, but still, He beckons. Praying while driving is ok. It's fine to pray when you shop, but there is something magical about time alone, set aside and protected for fellowship with Jesus.

My husband is leading our church in the study of an amazing Christian curriculum called "Your Church Experiencing God Together". It's absolutely amazing. It shines the all-important spotlight on our need to serve one another, love one another and support one another in the corporate Body of Christ.

In this season of mega churches, the local church has grown cold and sterile (as my fellow blogger Mangiabella said). Christ is our Head, but sometimes, I think we've lost our heart. I agree wholeheartedly with my husband's decision for us to experience this curriculum in small groups.I'm very excited about it!

But, at the same time, never, ever neglect your own personal quiet time with the Lord. It is during this time away from everyone else that the Holy Spirit re-fuels you and strengthens you for living your daily Christian life - both inside and outside the church. You can work all you want in the church, but if you are running on spiritual fumes, you will be nothing more than a mean, impatient church member that can't worship freely. Who needs that? Love Him in private and loving Him in public is liberating and organic!

Go ahead, begin with 5 uninterrupted minutes of prayer and work your way toward more time. Soon, you'll wonder how you managed without regular, everyday time with your Father!

Why I need the Holy Spirit

2011-05-28T08:08:00.000-07:00

Lord I hear of showers of blessings,
Thou art scattering full and free.
Showers of thirsty, land refreshing,
Let some drops now fall on me.

Even me Lord, even me.
Even me Lord, even me,
let some drops now fall on me.
Chorus
Vamp 1:
Showers of blessings,
fall down on us.

Shower,
rain on us,
rain on us,
fall down
oh, oh, oh, oh.

This is one of my favorite songs ever. It's an old, but goodie. For me, it exemplifies the needy believer's plea for God's presence in our lives. Some people think blessings are material matter, but not necessarily.

In my life, the richest blessing is that of the Holy Spirit. I crave God's presence in my life. I long for that still small voice that speaks to my heart and stirs praise in my spirit. He's the catalyst of my growth, learning, confidence and understanding. As He convicts me, disciplines me, I learn to follow the paths of righteousness. I learn God's statutes.

His comfort reaches past the facades, the smiles and the "I'm ok" and touches me at the most vulnerable place in my soul. He restoreth my soul.

He guides, directs and tells me which way to go when confusion plagues me. When options are overwhelming, He says "This is the way to go".

Yes, Lord, shower me with your blessings. May I be compelled to know you more, drawn to experience your grace in depth, develop in your discipline and cherish your blessings.

Your happiness...yes, that's for me.

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Pursue the Spirit of God

with "God Chasers"
by Tommy Tenney

Your faith has saved you!

2011-05-24T20:02:00.001-07:00

Faith - the reinforcement of your life!

Guard your faith.

Have you ever thought about how valuable your faith i? You know, the ability to hope, to rely on and wholly trust in Jesus. The enemy of our souls is after our faith. He understands its worth. Faith paralyzes him where as doubt empowers the kingdom of hell.

The Bible mentions the shield of faith "which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one". No wonder he has a spiritual bullseye on your faith! Your faith is powerful, priceless and crucial for spiritual warfare.

Remember when Jesus told Peter how the enemy wanted to destroy him? In Luke 22:32, He says:

"...But I have prayed for you, Simon, that your faith may not fail."

Funny, that Jesus didn't say something like "I prayed that Satan would leave you alone" or "I prayed you'd be able to understand things". No, He said "...that your faith not fail". This should be our prayer in times of struggle.

So, guard your faith. Ignore the whispers of the enemy that try to make you doubt and question God's promises. Fight Him with the Word of God when he threatens your Godly confidence, when he challenges your Godly choices or when he smirks at your lifestyle. His wicked voice may come from friends, mates, logic or even the pulpit. Refute it, ignore it...no...don't ignore it! Battle it with the Word of God! Knock it down in Jesus name!

Know your Word, Know Your God and hold on to your faith in Jesus!

Praying the Word of God builds your faith

and ensures you are praying according to

God's will. Beth Moore has to most

wonderful faith-building resources!

Keep that Christian mess...I mean theology!

2011-05-18T08:45:00.000-07:00

In my quiet time, I discovered that I had assumed too many of life's burdens. In other words, I had grown consumed with worry. If I told you what I was struggling with behind these words, your jaw would drop. If I shared what struggles I worship and smile in spite of, you'd likely be amazed. But, I won't, because there is no praise-worthiness in sharing such troubles. After all, we all have them.

But, during my quiet time, the Holy Spirit showed me that I had taken on burdens that I was never designed to carry myself. Not only that, I had assumed a weak - almost pitiful - Christian posture based on an intellectual experience [with God] rather than a spiritual, powerful-laden, supernatural faith.

So many times, Christians try to reason, understand, and figure out God and how He moves within the earth. This is futile, silly and often a tool of the enemy. You see, in our attempts to figure God out, we become confused and drawn away from the fiery, real-time power of the Holy Spirit. You can't walk in earthly intellect and faith at the same time - the two just don't go together.

In our begging, pleading and whining, we forget that God's promises are for US TODAY (not the newspaper) and not limited to some ancient, mystical figures in the scriptures. We can stand on God's word and assert an authority (given by Jesus) that will make the Kingdom of Hell shudder and impact lives for Christ.

So, for those who are stuck in the quagmire of intellectual malaise - you keep it. In the meantime, you will find me standing strong in the power of Jesus and claiming my inheritance as a joint-heir in Christ. Keep your “whys”, your “but in the Greek it means”…I don't need it and will likely just laugh at you.

I will live in the supernatural power of the Holy Spirit and His real- almost can touch Him- experience in my life. For then and only then I can be a true blessing to the Body of Christ and speak a powerful word to encourage you in your times of pain and trouble.

You get only what you have faith for, so you choose - Victory or Logic. Sometimes, it really is a choice. For instance, Jesus spitting in a bunch of dirt and rubbing in on people was not logical - but it was victorious for the blind man that received sight. Choose today, Godsy Girl. Will you take Him at His word or try to figure Him out intellectually with man-made tools? I think you know what I choose!

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Lust and the Mature Christian

2011-05-17T09:08:00.000-07:00

Well, today the news broke.

Another famous celebrity figure ( Arnold Schwarzenegger) has betrayed the vows of his marriage, ventured to have sex with another woman and fathered a child with a member of the household staff.

The situation is enough to break the heart of any married woman. So sad. It is sad something so avoidable can still occur and break so many families into millions of pieces.

Avoidable? You didn’t know it was avoidable? Oh yes, like any sin, people have choices. Non-Christians may not have the power (of the Holy Spirit), but they do have the choice.

Lust is a spiritual ailment many preachers do not talk about on Sunday mornings. This is a huge mistake because the Word of God is about more than spiritual redemption by our loving Savior. It is also a spiritual blueprint directing us how to handle sin and temptation in our daily lives. The beauty is that it doesn’t just tell us, it shows us vivid examples and tools to manage the spiritual power of the Holy Spirit.

The Bible says lust is the precursor for sin. Check it out: “but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” James 1: 14-15

How we feel about the opposite sex is cultivated in our own minds. It’s linked to what we watch (television), what we think about (imagine), and even the music we listen to – all these shape our thinking and musings.

I had done things my way for long enough and knew God’s way had to be better than mine. So, I was determined to live holy and real before God. I knew that God would not tell me (in His word) to live without sex outside marriage without giving me the strength and power to resist it – but I had a responsibility in the process as well.

As a single woman, I learned early in my journey that I couldn’t watch love scenes on television. Watching those scenes reminded me of past experiences and launched lustful desires. Here are some of the practices that helped me finally walk in victory over lust and pre-marital sex:

1. Not too much alone time with him. Being alone with a gorgeous guy awakes desires and wants…you know what I mean, Girl.
2. No kissing. This was a difficult one, but like being alone with that hottie, kissing him awakes desires and launches behaviors that could lead to a progression toward sin. I was tired of sin reigning in my life
3. Love songs. For me, love songs can put two people (attracted to one another) in the mood for sex. So, Luther had to go….even while I was just driving in the car alone.

This may sound drastic, but I needed something drastic to empower me to be true to my God and His laws. Sex before marriage is sin and God doesn’t like it and won’t save me from it’s consequences.

Further, I knew obedience to Him brings blessings, while disobedience brings the curse of guilt and spiritual death.

You know what. I found that God had something so much better for me than I could ever have imagined or gained playing “house” with some guy. I’m sorry, but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I could not have accepted it if I had allowed my desires to control me.

So many single women want an authentically Godly man. (Yes, they are out there). Nevertheless, many of them are not willing to compromise themselves for a woman that cannot even control her body. Similarly, many truly, for real, Godly woman feel the same way – the last thing they need is some weak, lusty man to share their life with….remember, it’s all about choices.

Perfect, I am not. Made lots of mistakes. However, none after I employed the “Top 3” listed above. It really helped me. And praise God, I (finally) learned that giving away my body was a huge mistake and barrier to my own self image. I pray every woman of God, every woman of Christian maturity learns the same.

Don't forget: God is the God of another chance. It's never too late to start over. Read 2 Corinthians 7:10. Lord knows, I needed lots of chances, but praise Jesus for sustained victory over my desires! God will keep you, if you want to be kept. You will have to say "no", you will have to deny yourself and you will have to walk away when everything in you wants to stay in his arms...but you can do it by the power of Jesus Christ.

Note: Watch soon for my new e-book "A Godsy Girl's Dating Guide!"

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Healing in the Body and the Spirit

2011-05-06T20:57:00.001-07:00

The human body has an amazing ability to heal itself. It's fascinating!

If you cut your finger, your body
will do it's work to mend the laceration. In some cases, you may need to treat the wound to aid or accelerate the healing process. You may apply a bandage, cream or something; but in the end, the body does most of the work.

Ironically, a spiritual wound is altogether different. This type of wound requires the healing power or prayer, God's word and a little time.

Turn to God's word for healing. Read it and seek it's truth. Use it as a balm or spiritual ointment that ignites your faith and hope.

Bring your "hurt" to God as many times as needed, for as long as needed to be whole again. Talk to Him. Tell Him everything. Sure, He knows it all, but your faith is ignited as you go to Him as your Source. God moves by faith.

Read the Psalms until you find one that soothes your hurt. Don't give up. His word is alive and after a while, you'll happen upon just the right verse for your aching spirit.

Hang in there and remember time heals nothing; only God is your Healer! Be whole on Jesus name!

Pastor Tony Brock's Lesson - Part III

2011-04-29T19:33:00.000-07:00

Don't make memorials from places of pain; make them praise-worthy instead!

What he did next gives me chills.

Right there… in the very spot his loved one departed this earth, he mustered a spiritual maturity that most of us dream of attaining. He then selflessly offered a sacrifice of praise to His Heavenly Father. He praised Him for who He was, who He is and all the wondrous things He has done in spite of the death of his brother.

Pastor Brock transformed that spot of sadness and grief into a place of spiritual beauty. No longer did that street represent death. After his praise offering, it represented the amazing life Jesus died to give all who will accept Him.

I think the best part of all of this is that he did this in the presence of his boys. Whether they realize it or not, they received a spiritual deposit that will empower them for years to come - that is if they learn the lesson.

Pastor Brock said on that day, he turned his heart wound into something other than an ugly scar that refuses healing. The day he surrendered that pain, it became a spiritual “beauty mark” symbolizing praise, worship, and total surrender.

"I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live,

but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by

faith in the Son of God, who loved

me and gave himself for me." Galatians 2:20

Timing is everything.

Now, healing takes time and happens when it happens. The important thing is not to inhibit it by holding on to the pain. Hey, I'll bet it took Pastor Brock some time to get to that point of surrender. It will take time for you as well.

I'm sure the day after his brother's funeral, he never could not have worshiped as he did on that street the day. No, it likely took some time. So, do not rush yourself, Godsy Girl- but do not stall (or get stuck in the pain) either.

The truth be told, I am currently going through my own season of “deepest darkness”. My tears had been my bread. God has been faithful and His Holy Spirit very present. I am not sharing this with you for sympathy. That's not what I am about. Nevertheless, I want you to know that Pastor Brock's testimony spoke directly into my current life situation.

Sometimes, life is just…hard. A hopeless medical prognosis, a financial burden, rebellious children, a broken relationship, marital problems, and deteriorating health… all threaten our peace and our praise. But, now you know the answer: build an alter.

Build an alter of praise from your illness, sadness, disappointment, grief or trauma. Make the pain a symbol of God's faithfulness, healing power and His endless mercy. Praise Him in it, through it and after it. There is healing in your worship. Now, worship and be made whole in Jesus name.

Note: I emailed Pastor Brock to thank him for his transparency. He responded with grace, encouragement and humility.

God bless you, Pastor and thank you for helping us grow.

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“Who is this that darkens my counsel

with words without knowledge?

3Brace yourself like a man;

I will question you,

and you shall answer me.

4“Where were you when I laid the earth’s foundation?

Tell me, if you understand.

Job 38: 3-4

Pastor Tony Brock offers help in dealing with grief and depression - Part II

2011-04-29T08:02:00.000-07:00

Visit Pastor's audio blog here:http://www.hopeandlife.tv/media-center

This is part 2 of "Pastor Tony Brock offers help

dealing with grief and depression"

Click here to read part 1.

What We Usually Do

One of the biggest mistakes Christians make is to hold on to past wounds, sometimes we even "nurse" them or protect them from healing. Have you ever met someone stalled in the grieving process? Years pass, but they do not heal. As the woman in the Bible, they refuse to be comforted. Their warped sense of comfort comes from nursing the trauma and holding on tightly to the hurt.

Now, to be clear, we all grieve in different ways. For instance, I kept my dad’s cowboy boots for years after his death. Not only that, but I also kept his old documents. By keeping them, I “nursed” the grief. Every time I saw them, every time I walked by them, I felt the twinge of heartache that had become familiar to me. It wasn’t until God began dealing with me that I was able to release them and move on.

Death aside, there are other ways to accommodate pain. People betrayed by an unfaithful mate, may close their hearts, refusing to trust again. Others “nurse” their pain by refusing to try again because of a past failure. The examples are endless.

Here’s what works best…

Instead of accommodating the heartbreak, submit it to God. Turn it into a place of praise in your memory.

“Praise Him?” you ask with a furrowed brow. YES, praise Him for bringing you out of that situation. Praise Him for His provision during it, and glorify Him for the comfort you received in the midst of it. Worship Him because you didn’t lose your mind. A weaker woman would have fallen apart, but you made it! All because God had His hand in the turmoil and on His beloved baby girl (You!) So, heal in the name of Jesus, Godsy Girl!

He went where???

Pastor Brock returned to the exact physical spot his brother died. His two young boys were with him. Through tears and pain, he re-introduced his children to their uncle and explained the significance of what happened on that street.

What he did next give me chills...

I'll continue this post tomorrow.
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Pastor Tony Brock offers help in dealing with grief and depression

2011-04-26T22:02:00.000-07:00

God turns scars into beauty.

A simple reflection over your life will show how He skillfully took your deepest pains and turned them into victorious testimonies. It's a beautiful thing. However, it's not a passive process. The deepest, most painful wounds often require our participation to be made whole.

Yesterday, on TBN's “Praise the Lord,” one of the guests was Pastor Tony Brock from Hope and Life church in Snellville, Georgia. He shared how God turned the ugly scar of grief into a “beauty mark” in his life. You see, Pastor Brock's sixteen year old brother, David, died several years ago after an encounter with a drunk driver.

As Pastor Brock spoke of the distress that accompanies grief, I could relate. As many of you know, most all my family died sudden deaths. Each loss left deep-seated wounds on my spirit and in my heart. To this day, I struggle with the mortality of my loved ones. I battle the fear of receiving another one of those phone calls alerting me to another death and another loss. My faith prevents the fear from crippling me; but it's a thorn in my side nonetheless. Do you know what I mean?

Giving up never felt so good…

During Pastor Brock's segment, he says we should make alters or memorials of our wounds. In the Old Testament, the children of Israel often created memorials to remind future generations of Jehovah's faithfulness.

That reminds me of what Pastor Brock was teaching.

Here's how it works: when you praise God, you take the focus from your pain(the past) and re-position it on God (the past, present and future). The place of your hurt can become a significant memorial that builds faith, endurance, and spiritual muscle.

Springboard your healing by taking your eyes from your wound and fixing them on Jesus and His work in you. Mark that terrible place in your life as a memorial of His faithfulness. After all, it could have been worse. No longer remember it as a tragedy, but a place where God's grace was abundant and His strength was made perfect in your weakness.

I had fainted, unless I had believed to see
the goodness of the LORD

in the land of the living.

Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall

strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.

Psalm 27:13-14 KJV

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Anxious thoughts?

2011-04-25T20:14:00.001-07:00

"When my anxious thoughts multiply within me, Your consolations delight my soul." Psalms 94:19 (NASV)

The Bible says that we "should be anxious for nothing", but you know how life is. Some times are easier to "NOT WORRY" than others.

So, praise God for this Psalm to remind us that when we slip into anxiety, God is the perfect comfort for a weary and hurting soul.

This scripture is my anchor this week. I pray it also gives you peace as you continue through the week.

Love you,
GodsyGirl Teri