Buccaneer Schoolers

Stepping Away

2020-08-18T11:18:00.002-04:00

Four years ago, for reasons which should be obvious, I left the Republican party. I am still registered as an independent. Setting myself outside of the two major parties has given me some much-needed perspective. I’m not saying I don’t still have bias. Everyone does. But I try to step outside the echo chamber and analyze stories on their merits and not their political viewpoint.

If you haven’t tried it, I highly recommend approaching every news story this way: Could this be true? Where are the corroborating facts, statements, videos? Where is it being reported? Is this based on a social media post of any kind? Is it presented in meme format? I feel like I can’t be the only person who goes through these steps when I hear a “news” story but I sometimes think I am as I scroll Facebook.

Yesterday, people were repeating the idea that Trump is ordering mailboxes to be removed from streets across America to mess with mail-in voting. Now, this is the hard part: set aside the name in the middle of that sentence and all your feelings about it. Read that sentence again. Does that sound like something a President would do? Is it even something he could do? I was skeptical. Upon investigating, I found an interview with a USPS representative who said “the Postal Service has for decades installed and removed its 'iconic blue' collection mailboxes based on the volume of mail received to each. She said that low-volume mailboxes are a financial drag on the Postal Service, which lost more than $2 billion in the second quarter. 'It is a fluid process and figures can vary from day-to-day,' Frum said. 'Historically, mail boxes have been removed for lack of use and installed in growth areas.' ”

Now that you have some context, you can see that there does not appear to be malicious intent here. Furthermore, the USPS has already said they will stop this routine removal of boxes until after the election. Unfortunately, this has not stopped people repeating this misleading story. Now, I am still investigating other aspects of what has been said, but the idea is that Trump is removing mailboxes is false.

What about voter fraud? Multiple news outlets have scoffed at Trump for suggesting that mail-in ballots open the door to fraud, saying there is no evidence for this. But a simple internet search found this quote: “votes cast by mail are less likely to be counted, more likely to be compromised and more likely to be contested than those cast in a voting booth, statistics show.” Is this a declaration from a Trump spokesperson? No, it’s from the New York Times in 2012. It’s also noteworthy that, while saying there is no evidence for mail-in voter fraud, many news outlets simultaneously accuse Trump of trying to commit voter fraud. So which is it? Is mail-in voting completely secure, or is it easily compromised? The answer is probably somewhere in between. Either party is capable of committing fraud. Either party is capable of registering a dead cat to vote.

The double standard is driving me crazy. In 2008, the national debt was the most horrible thing in the world (which, objectively, it is). But as soon as Obama got in office, there wasn’t another word about it, despite the fact that he increased it 84%. Once Trump was in, oh, dear, the national debt is important again (which it is, and in fact never stopped being).

How about the morality double standard? Republicans in 1992 harped about Bill Clinton’s infidelities and lack of moral character (which were true), while Democrats insisted that a man’s character has nothing to do with being President (which is also, in some respects, true). Fast-forward to 2016, and the roles are reversed! I guess I’m a simple person, but I try to be consistent. I was against Trump for many of the same reasons I was against Bill Clinton. My stance didn’t change just because the letter after the candidate’s name did. I was against children in cages when Obama did it, and I’m still against it now. I could go on and on.

Frankly, I can’t take this anymore. I have real things in my life that I have to deal with. I don’t want to spend precious time hunting down the truth of every news article I see, but neither do I want to blindly accept something just because it fits my worldview. So I give up. I’m stepping away from social media until after the election, because I just can’t. I will still be diligently fact-checking news stories, but I won’t have to see other people reposting falsehoods they haven’t bothered to check. It’s irritating that I have so many intelligent, well-spoken friends who just swallow whatever they’re fed because they love/hate Trump. Please, stop! Do your research. Don’t hit “share” unless you’re sure.

I will end this on a positive note. I have just come back from traveling halfway across the country to take my son to college, and I have good news. America is still America, folks! As George Washington said in his farewell address, parties only serve to divide us. He saw exactly what would happen, just as surely as if he had a time machine, once we allowed Party to be more important than Country. We the People need to take our country back from the special interests on both sides of the aisle. We need to realize that neither party is 100% right or 100% wrong. We have far more in common than party politics wants us to realize. Find that commonality. Talk about that. Because that’s what will keep us together.

Why I Teach

2019-07-09T12:23:00.000-04:00

Educational Field Trips for the win!

Something I hear often as a homeschooler (and if you homeschool, you’ve heard it, too) is “I could never do that!” And I always think, “How do you know unless you try?”

You see, I never wanted to be a teacher. I’m sure that would surprise my little brother, who I used to make sit on our playroom floor in front of a large chalkboard, with his classmate stuffed animals, so I could “play teacher”. But when it came time to choose a major, teaching was the last thing on my mind. I was a writer, not a teacher.

But I guess it’s part of my DNA. My dad was a teacher, my grandmother was a teacher, one of my aunts was a teacher. I was destined to be a teacher. I just had to figure it out. And homeschooling helped me do that.

It hasn’t always been an easy road. There were times I wanted to drive my sons to the nearest school, throw them through the front doors, and yell, “Here, you do it!” But I didn’t. And along the way, I discovered something.

Teaching gives me joy. I love sharing my passion for literature with my students at co-op. I love getting to know my own children and how they think in our school room at home. And it is a joy to see a student who was struggling finally “get it.”

Teaching is satisfying. There is nothing like helping a young person find their voice. And what a tremendous satisfaction to hear those students’ success stories, to be told, “I never got literature before and now I love it!” Or a Facebook message – “Mrs. Hege, I tested out of freshman English thanks to you!”

I love the relationships I’ve been able to form with my students. I get to know them through their writing and class discussions. And I get to know their parents, too. We’re all in this homeschooling thing together! We have an amazing community where we support each other, love each other, and pray for each other. Without that, I’d probably have given up.

That brings me to the need. Some homeschooling moms just don’t know how to teach literature and writing, or they really feel the need for outside input about their children’s writing. Every year as our co-op plans next year’s classes, three or four ladies will approach me to ask what kind of literature I’m teaching or to request that I do my research paper class again. I won’t lie, it feels good to be needed!

None of this could have happened if I had said, “I could never do that.” Once I figured out that I was good at teaching, that I actually loved teaching, I looked for every opportunity to do it. And the more I do, the more I feel that I am right where I’m supposed to be.

Fight the Dead...

2013-08-20T22:26:00.000-04:00

As I have previously established, I am terrified of dead people. Not the kind that stay dead. The kind that insist on getting up and walking around long after the time when this is a viable option for them. Before we were married, future hubby and I went to a wax museum where the Chamber of Horrors included scenes from scary movies, the twist being that you had to walk through the scenes of horror instead of just past them. So there we were, enjoying a fun evening out together, when suddenly we're in the middle of George Romero's Night of the Living Dead. The memory gets kind of fuzzy after that, but I'm pretty sure I screamed hysterically and ran. Because even though they were only wax figures, they were zombies.

So it comes as a surprise to everyone I know, and especially to me, that I have become a fan of The Walking Dead on AMC. In all honesty, I am fascinated by the interaction of the living characters and tend to look away when the zombies show up. But the zombies are the not the scary part of the show. The scary part is what the living humans are capable of doing to each other. Like it says on the picture, fear the living.

Surviving at the Homeschool Convention

2013-05-08T22:57:00.000-04:00

It's time for the annual trip to the CHAP fair - a huge homeschool fair and conference up in Harrisburg. I love it. I'm not sure how many times I've been, but I look forward to it every spring. The speakers are always fantastic, and the shopping - oh, my, the shopping!

Every year, I also talk to at least one homeschooling friend who is terrified to go to the fair. Maybe terrified isn't the right word, but it comes close. And it definitely can be overwhelming. So here are my tips for negotiating the homeschool fair, wherever yours may be.

Make a list. If you know what you're there to buy, and you have a price range, you'll know when to buy and when to walk on by. You're also less likely to buy lots of stuff you don't need.
Don't be rude. Don't stand in front of a vendor and look for cheaper prices online with your cell phone. If you absolutely must price compare, do it somewhere else.
Make a budget. Yes, you're only there to buy next year's curriculum. But when you pass that used book booth or you see the perfect birthday/Christmas/Mother's Day gift, you need to know ahead of time what you can afford.
If your children are coming, give them a budget also. I guarantee there will be lots of toys, both educational and otherwise, and knowing ahead of time what they can spend will make it easier on everyone.
Schedule your seminars. Look at the list of speakers online ahead of time and know which seminars you absolutely don't want to miss. Last year, I thought I would buy the CDs of the ones I missed, but I didn't. I'd much rather hear the speakers in person.
Plan on eating. At CHAP, they don't allow food inside the complex, so I either have to have cash for the concessions or pack food in the car and go outside for lunch. This year it's supposed to be raining, so lunch in the car might not be the best choice.
If you're shopping, bring a suitcase. Or something on wheels. Trust me, it gets difficult carrying your purchases around in a bag. And if you don't have a longsuffering husband like mine who's willing to drag everything out to the car periodically, you will regret not having something rollable.
Relax. If you get tired, or just overwhelmed, take a little while to sit down. If you feel like leaving, go ahead and leave. No one's judging.

I'll see you all at the fair!

Scary

2012-07-30T10:24:00.000-04:00

I recently told a blogging friend that I want my blog to be a reflection of my mind. If you read it, it would be like reading my mind. But then I realized something: my mind is a very scary place. It's full of dark corners, a few cobwebs, things waiting to jump out and surprise me. I freak myself out on a regular basis. And I'm not talking about watching too many horror movies. I'm talking about something much scarier.

SHE is hiding there.

She goes by different names. Pride. Fear. Defiance. But the worst part is, I never recognize her. She shows up very predictably, but I always let her in and entertain her for a while. Sometimes I even let her talk to my husband, though she usually doesn't want to because he recognizes her right away and sends her scurrying back to a corner. Most of the time, I hold her hand and lead her around my innermost thoughts and let her whisper in my ear. And I know she'd love to guest write a blog post.

The only way to get rid of her is to invite her to speak to my Best Friend. He knows all of her tricks, but more importantly, He can banish her. He did it a long time ago in the wilderness. He finished it on the cross. And when I hear Him start to say, "It is written..." I know she's going to turn tail and run.

And then I can blog.

20 Years!

2012-06-20T11:14:00.000-04:00

Twenty years ago, I made one of the best decisions I've ever made. Happy Anniversary, my love!

Deadlines and anniversaries

2012-06-16T11:32:00.000-04:00

This coming week has some important dates.

Our homeschool portfolios are due on June 30, but since we are going to be at Good News Camp the whole last week of June, I need to get them turned in by Friday. This is always a big stress-out time for me because I don't want to forget anything. Also, inevitably, Caleb has not finished all of the required writing for the year. So we need to finish a paper he's been working on and write up a lab report as well. Thankfully, I'm already finished with Isaac and Joshua's, and Noah is still too young to need one.

On Wednesday, hubby and I celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. How it got to be 20 years already, I'll never be able to tell you. What I can tell you is that every single day, I love this man I married more and more. He is planning to take me up to Hershey later today for some serious roller coaster time, without the boys. Yep, he knows what I like!

Did anyone see the guy walking across Niagara Falls last night? My stomach still hurts from all the anxiety. I am so scared of heights, I can't even watch other people do stuff like that without my palms sweating. Eek!

Time FLU and I didn't have fun

2012-06-12T18:10:00.000-04:00

Ha ha.

I don't think it was actually the flu. Although I had the vaccine this year, and I guess it could have been a mild case. I woke up in the middle of the night Sunday night with horrible nausea and stomach cramps. And then a headache and body aches. And I stayed in bed all day yesterday. All I had to eat was graham crackers and a soft pretzel. That's how sick I was.

Today? Just fine. I woke up at 8:30 (granted, later than I usually would) and I felt fine. I spent the day visiting with my parents, who have finally arrived from Florida in their RV. I have eaten the normal things I would eat on any given day and it has caused no further distress.

But I did lose a whole day.

I also got to see what my family would eat if I were not around to cook for them. Shudder.

Funnix

2012-06-06T15:06:00.001-04:00

At the beginning of this school year, I wasn't at all sure my then-9-year-old would be reading even up to second grade level, let alone 4th, where he should be. He has always struggled with remembering sounds and combinations, so we went over the same things many times. But we found the perfect program for his needs: Funnix. You can find it here.

Isaac's biggest problem with other phonics programs was that they moved too quickly. I won't name them (though if you want to know, email me and I'll share), but we tried several other computer-based phonics programs and they left him in the dust. This meant either tears of frustration, or no long-term retention. When we started Funnix, it moved at such a slow pace that he was able to follow it, keep up with it, and ACTUALLY LEARN! He is now five lessons away from finishing Funnix 2 and he is reading fluently. When we test, I fully expect him to be at grade level. It's amazing the progress he's made this year, and so exciting!

My favorite part is sitting in his Wednesday night class at church and listening to him read Bible verses out loud from the King James with little to no hesitation. I am thrilled.

Land ho!

2012-06-04T15:58:00.006-04:00

I think I'm done. I think I've found a name I'm happy with, a look I'm happy with, and a layout I'm happy with. Now if I could just get the fonts to cooperate...

We had a fun weekend. We went up to Hershey yesterday after church and enjoyed our season passes for the first time. I rode the new Skyrush coaster and screamed my head off. It was terrifying. In a good way.

Now we're down to what I anticipate being the last week of school for the younger boys, and hopefully the oldest as well. We'll see.

I'm changing again

2012-06-01T20:55:00.000-04:00

If you notice things changing on a seemingly random basis, it's just me trying out some different templates to see what I like. I don't like the dynamic templates Blogger has because my sidebar disappears, along with most of my gadgets. But I don't particularly like any of the other standard templates either. I found this one on another site, but I'm going to keep looking - I can't change the background to anything but white. TOO MUCH WHITE! If anyone knows of any good blogskin sites out there, let me know.

Today is a migraine day

2012-05-31T15:06:00.001-04:00

I made a decision recently. Migraines aren't going to ruin my life.

I know, it seems like I should have made this decision a long time ago. I've been getting them since college. And thanks to medication and learning what my body wants when I start to feel a migraine coming on, they are not nearly as bad as they used to be. But they still knock me out. If I get a migraine, it's a guaranteed three days until I feel normal again.

Having said that, most of those three days are spent in a sort of "functional" migraine, as I call it: I can do stuff (clean, cook, teach the boys) but if I let myself get agitated or stressed, it gets worse. Of course, NONE of my daily activities agitate or stress me, right?

But what I realized in the last few months is that I use my condition as an excuse. I can't volunteer for that - what if I get a migraine? I can't have people over for coffee - what if I get a migraine? And God does not want me to live my life on what ifs.

I have prayed, asking God to take these headaches away. I prayed this with complete faith that it would happen. It hasn't. But what has happened may be better. I have learned to do what I can do while I feel well enough to do it. I waste less time doing silly things with no eternal value. I'm not saying I waste NO time, just less. I have learned to take time to slow down when I need to. I am trying to reach out to other people. And I am learning not to feel sorry for myself. Just reading about what Paul went through in the Bible is enough to make me feel like a petty whiner for complaining about a migraine headache, even when it's really bad and has me vomiting and in so much pain I can't sleep. This is my thorn in the flesh, and really, it's just a tiny little one.

Time4Learning.com

2012-05-30T09:05:00.000-04:00

Recently I was given a free month of Time4Learning.com in exchange for a review. I was really excited about it, because I'd seen so many positive comments about it in the past.

The first thing I discovered was that time slows down in the Time4Learning universe. And not in a good way. After signing my two youngest up on the website, I received a message saying it would be (trying to remember here) either 24 or 48 hours until the account was active. A week later it still said the same thing. Just when I was ready to call customer support, the account finally went live. But I was already ten days into my free trial.

Now the good news: the boys really liked it. They weren't interested in the math section, so we did quite a few science, social studies, and reading lessons. The lessons were cute, although somewhat repetitive. The quizzes at the end were EXTREMELY repetitive. The animations/stories are what really sold the kids on it. We were all laughing out loud at some of the discussions between the animated characters. There was also a lot of interactive clicking involved in the lessons, which keeps the kids engaged and learning.

So overall, I was pretty happy with the website. I would definitely consider adding it to my curriculum for next year. It would be great to let the two younger ones do some of their work online while I work with the older two. I don't know that it's complete enough for a stand-alone choice, but I liked what I saw.

Language Arts - My Personal Choice

2012-05-29T15:15:00.001-04:00

Here's the thing... You're going to notice a big difference in tone, style, and amount of unrestrained gushing when I get to the curriculum choices I am currently using and love. It's only natural, I suppose. You have been warned.

My personal choice for language arts is the Learning Language Arts Through Literature series (LLATL). I have used every grade level now except 1st and their American Lit course, and I love them all. This is what I was looking for when I got so frustrated at having separate grammar, spelling, usage and literature books. It's all here in one handy volume. All you need is the teacher book, the student workbook, and four or five novels a year. It's pretty affordable, especially if you can find the teacher's manuals used and get the novels from the library.

PROS: Everything is broken down to daily lessons, for 36 weeks total. All language arts subjects are covered in one book. The literature is maybe not the best known, but it's all good.

CONS: The literature is not the best known out there. I have supplemented with additional books that I want my kids to read. The Gold Level (British lit), however, was fantastic. I didn't add a thing.

Language Arts, Part 3

2012-03-30T09:58:00.001-04:00

The next year, I bought some used Bob Jones University Press books. They included several textbooks and workbooks for each grade. Again, there was so much work, I felt like we spent half the day doing language arts. I guess if you're stuck on BJU, it's okay. It seemed very thorough. It went into sentence diagramming and a good amount of grammar. But it was just too much.
PROS: Very thorough, good for those who like a classroom approach
CONS: Too much work per child, especially if they are not close enough in age to use the same books.

Language Arts, Part 2

2012-03-23T10:17:00.001-04:00

The next language arts program I tried was K12. I really liked it. It was thorough from a grammar and spelling standpoint, and there were a lot of interesting stories to read. However, again there was so much work involved, it just felt overwhelming. While I would highly recommend their phonics program (worth the price if you can afford it), I don't think I would use their language arts again.
PROS: very thorough, no scheduling required
CONS: very work-intensive - there's grammar and usage, spelling, vocabulary, plus phonics for early grades, plus literature. It's also expensive.

Language Arts, Part 1

2012-03-21T12:31:00.001-04:00

The first language arts program I tried was Alpha-Omega's Lifepacs for 1st grade. In short, I didn't much like it. There was not a lot of substance as far as I was concerned, and it cost way too much for what it was. Fortunately, I was able to sell my teacher's guide the next year and recover some of the cost. I don't think I would try AO again for language arts.

PROS: Nicely laid out, easy to follow, no planning involved. Good for parents who don't like to spend time planning.

CONS: Not advanced enough for my 1st grader, too much busy work.

Here we go again

2012-03-19T14:24:00.002-04:00

I have had an almost irrestible urge to blog lately. It seems like it usually comes in the middle of the night. I'm trying to fall asleep, and the same thoughts keep going around and around in my head and I think, "Tomorrow, I'm going to get up and write about that." And then I don't. And yes, this has been going on for a long time. I don't know if you'd call it writer's block or what. But I feel like I need to work through it. So I think what I'll start with is reviewing curriculum I've used. I like talking about things that have worked for me, and maybe it will help someone else who has a question. Then I can move on to less structured topics. So tomorrow, I'm going to start with my favorite subject, Language Arts. In the meantime, tell me what's worked for you?

It's an app, app, app, app world

2012-03-01T02:13:00.000-05:00

A couple of months ago, my dad decided to get an iPhone and pass on his iPod touch to me. Like I needed something new to take up my time.

I instantly became addicted to it. I know this is a big shock to you all, knowing how much I hate technology and all things new and cool (cough cough). Yes, I am my father's daughter. Anyway, it is undoubtedly one of the coolest things ever and will accompany me everywhere I go for many years to come.

The one thing I didn't really know much about before I got the thing was "apps." I thought apps were the things you got before dinner (ba da boom). Who knew that my favorite thing to do with my new iPod would be browsing the app store for FREE STUFF? Because, as I may have mentioned once or twice before, I love free stuff.

There are so many cool free games available, it's scary. I've found a few I really like. One of them is "Alchemize", a game where you match colors and gradually trade up until you get to gold. Alchemy - get it? Anyway, it's horribly addictive and I have been know to lose hours at a time to it. And I Still. Haven't. Won.

Another fun one is "What Song?" which uses your own music to play a sort of "name that tune" game. The faster you get the right answer, the more points you get. It's fun, my only complaint being it doesn't ever seem to end.

I have a neato shopping list app that remembers everything I've entered previously, so the next time I want to buy it, I don't have to retype it. Nice.

I have an app that lets me send unlimited text messages to any phone. Free. So if you want to be texted, just send me your cell #.

And then there are the podcasts. The Lost podcast, the Vampire Diaries podcast, and on and on and on. So many podcasts, and all free! I'm listening to Jay and Jack on the Lost podcast as I write this.

So, do you have an iPhone, or iPod touch, or iPad? What are your favorite apps? And more importantly, are they free?

LOST

2010-04-08T20:41:00.000-04:00

Take a minute to go back and review my LOST analyses from past years. Go ahead, I'll wait.

Are you back?

Now you're probably wondering why I have not commented on LOST thus far, in its final season, when so many important things are coming to light and the end is only five episodes away.

Short answer? I have no clue. I would, however, like to point out that I was 100% right about something that NO ONE else predicted: I said that, despite his being dead, Charlie would play an integral part in the plot. And this week, boom! It seems that good old Charlie gave Desmond the push he needed to do... whatever it is Widmore is going to have him do. And that will turn out to be the most major event of the series.

Score one for me.

That is all.

Happy Birthday, Mom!

2010-03-29T21:40:00.002-04:00

I won't tell anyone how young you are!

The saga continues

2010-03-20T09:07:00.000-04:00

So this morning, the maid service goes over to the rental house. They call me to ask if I know there are roaches. Um, duh. The lady who gave me the estimate says she doesn't remember seeing any. I hadn't realized she was blind. Anyway... This is an actual quote from the owner of the company: "This house is too dirty to clean."

So now we are stuck cleaning it ourselves. I understand their concerns: they don't want to carry the bugs to their other clients' houses. I've had the same concern. Every time we go over there, we leave our shoes outside when we get home and we wash our clothes on "sanitize". We have thrown away lots of stuff that looked decent because we didn't want to bring it back to our house. Now, we will have to buy a dedicated set of cleaning supplies to use only there, and to throw away when we're done (maybe including a vacuum, although we've already thrown away all of the carpet).

I am just dying to call that woman and tell her that her house was too dirty for a MAID SERVICE to clean. That's got to be embarassing.

Oh, fishy, fishy, oh!

2010-02-22T09:40:00.000-05:00

Yes, I know it's bad for me. Yes, it will kill my diet if I let it. But no, I can't resist it. It takes me back to my youth, when it didn't matter what you ate, it only mattered that it tasted good. When no one had ever heard of trans fat. When cheese on something was a good thing. When the more sauce came on a sandwich, the better. I give you the McDonald's Filet-O-Fish!

These things are normally somewhere over $2 each, but right now they are 99 cents. I had two last night. Yes I did.

Tenant troubles part... okay, I've lost count

2010-02-18T11:33:00.000-05:00

We recently had to ask a tenant to move out. Number one, she couldn't afford to live there on her own after kicking her husband out. But number two, and really the main reason, was that she was filthy. We're talking cockroaches by the thousands, dog poo on the carpet and walls(!), cobwebs in every corner. Disgusting.

Now, we were very fair to her. We gave her plenty of time to find another place, and she did. We weren't nasty about the situation, just firm. And how does she repay our kindness? By leaving piles and piles of garbage in our house. Old furniture, bags of who-knows-what, table, chairs, two refrigerators complete with rotting food, and let's not forget my favorite, the broken deep freeze. So now we have to clean all of this stuff out of the house before we can even begin to clean it, paint it and recarpet it.

I really struggle with this as a Christian because I want to show compassion to people who are getting divorced, have three children to care for, haven't found a job yet, and probably won't even be able to afford her new apartment. But am I enabling her if I just let it go? I have a judgment against her, which means I can legally collect the debt, but is that the right thing to do? What about her husband, who gave us the security deposit to begin with? Doesn't he deserve something back if he didn't cause all the damage (though he certainly caused some and had to have known about the rest of it)?

The fact is, she is costing us literally thousands of dollars, not including the new carpet we were going to have to put in regardless. And I feel entitled to get some of that back, even if it means having the sheriff tag her belongings and sell them at auction. And yes, I'm angry about it. I'd like to take all her trash and dump it in her new front yard. But I'm sure that would be illegal. It's fine for her to dump it on us, just not vice versa.

Marriage Monday!

2010-02-01T10:44:00.000-05:00

Want this button?
Welcome to Marriage Monday! This month's topic is all about celebrating Valentine's Day every day of the year.

First, a disclaimer up front: Hubby and I do not technically celebrate Valentine's Day. Which is to say we don't buy presents, give cards, or make it a point to go out to dinner on February 14. But as I thought about those things, I realized that we truly do make a point to do these types of things all year long. So I present our top ways to make the spirit of Valentine's Day last all year long:

Presents. Yes, presents, even when it's not a special occasion. Maybe your husband doesn't bring you flowers for no reason. But maybe he picks up your favorite flavor of ice cream while he's at the store. Maybe you don't buy him a new watch he doesn't really need, but maybe you make that phone call for him that he can't make because he's at work all day. Any way you slice it, it's all about giving.
Touching. Give him a back rub while he's paying bills. Lean on his shoulder while you watch t.v. And don't let him leave without a hug and a kiss. It's all the little things that keep that physical connection going, especially when you don't have the time or energy for... you know.
Time alone. Try to get at least five minutes a day alone with him. At least. That's an order. Lock the door if you have to.
Talk. If you went on that Valentine's Day date to a fancy restaurant and sat there staring at each other across the table, what would you talk about? Talk about that kind of stuff no matter where you eat dinner tonight.
Pray. This is actually next month's topic. Couples need to pray together. Maybe this doesn't sound terribly romantice but God is the author of romance and marriage. Is there any possible way He won't bless your marriage when you share it with Him?

Here's wishing you and your spouse a happy Valentine's Day, every day of the year!