"Medicina" Thoughts

Slow To Anger

2010-11-03T06:26:00.000-07:00

Have you ever be in a position where you wanted to lash out on someone for doing something wrong or for annoying you?

I have done that many times and I found out that I feel even more worse and in little control of the situation. And also notice, it even becomes harder because nobody wants to listen to you. Or you might end up doing something out of order due to your anger getting out of control and resulting in you ending up been blame for the problem even though you were in the right standing at the beginning. You might even end up apologising to the person that was the culprit because you flared up.

Two wrongs can't make a right, as they say.

When someone speaks softly it has much impact than been aggressive.

Proverbs 16 verse 32 says " He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty and he who rules(controls) his spirit is also better than he who takes a city"

I know that is hard sometimes to control your anger, however, if you do not react immediately to someone's e.g bad behaviour, but control your reaction, it has much effect than been angry.

If you become angry easily or show it to the other person too often or immediately, the person involve might take advantage of you since he can seen that it's one of your weakness and they will end up using it against you.

I will give you example. When I was growing up, anytime my youngest brother annoys me I flare up immediately. So, guess what he do often, I know you guess right.......... He always look for ways to wind me up and he always get away with it because he sees it as fun to him even though it wasn't.

So, in essence, when we control ourselves, emotions, actions, we have more power and control over whatever situation we are face with most of the time.

Criticism

2010-11-01T06:39:00.000-07:00

How do you take criticism? I am talking about good criticism not the ones that ridicule someone.

Most of us including me find it really hard to accept criticism. Why? Because it makes us feel be little or not good enough. However, if we take time to think about what we are been criticism on and critically look at the situation, we will see that the person or people that gave the criticism do want the best for us.

Sometimes, as an example, my husband will tell me somethings I do not want to hear about maybe my attitude to somethings or done something wrong or would have done it better. At that time I feel like am rubbish but when I think about what he said I notice that he talk to me because he wants to best for me and wants me to grow, however bad the criticism might look.

As someone said "The ear that listens to rebuke of life and instruction will live among the wise and gets understanding"

Criticism is good for us to improve our lives and makes us wiser in anything we do.

Criticism teaches us how to do things in a better way. It makes us wiser and increase knowledge thereby understanding of things in life.The overall result is for us to be the best in whatever we do.

But when we refuse to listen to criticism or instruction, what are we learning then?

It means, we are refusing to grow up and develop in life, therefore, as said "he who disdain instruction despises him/herself"

STUDY How to Answer

2010-10-31T05:15:00.000-07:00

The heart of the wise studies how to answer.

How do you answer a question?

You could can actually response to anything. But how do you answer someone or what is going to be your reaction to something/situation, in other word, what is your answer to that situation.

Do you give thought to how you answer to something?

When someone studies, he/she takes the time and make some effort to understand something either through reasearch, thinking through what they've read, learnt or information given to them.

The question is, do we take time to consider carefully what our reaction or response will be to a situation or even our answer to a person's question in order to get the expected outcome or result(s)?.

Or do we just answer the way we feel at that particular time either just open our mouth to answer a question without given much thought to our answer?

The decision is yours.

PLANNING

2010-10-30T04:20:00.000-07:00

What sort of plan do you have today or in the week ahead? Have you seek counsel from those who can hep, or where you could get some information (probably what others have or not done before and how they went about carrying it out, so you could learn from it) that might help you to achieve your plan and go as you planned successfully.

Or do you just plan and then get on with it, without first seeking advice before pursuing the plan.

Think about this, "Without counsel, plans go awry (wrong), but in the multitude of counselors (I will say the good ones) they are established (firmly set up).

In Haste? .... Surely to Poverty

2010-10-28T05:18:00.000-07:00

The alarm on my mobile phone came to action and wake me up at 6:30am this morning. To another beautiful day, a day to rejoice and be glad in it.

I wanted to go back to bed but my brain was so much awake that it started talking to me even though my body still feels like sleeping.

De medicina thought that came to my mind to share today is "...............HE THAT ACT HASTILY, SURELY TO POVERTY..." Though it wasn't really what I study today.

Oh, I have to go to work, go for shopping, pick up the kids from school, prepare the breakfast, lunch, and dinner, etc is the life pattern of most of us.

I have to do this and that now, that everything we do nowadays is microwave without much thought going into it.

Most businesses these days do just that because of the ever increasing demand of sophisticated customers. The question is are we producing the best result from doing things quickly?

I will give you an example. I needed enough money to pay for my bills, I actually wanted more. Which I believe every single one of us wants to be able to take care of themselves and their family. I have been thinking of different ideas of how to get the money I wanted so badly.

A friend told me about a business idea and that, it is proving successful. So, I immediately went ahead an invested money from my credit card into this business believing I will get the return within few weeks as professed. Unfortunately, there were complications such as the goods been delayed etc. Instead of me to be patient to first get the return from the first investment, I sent another goods to a different location, hoping that this time it will bring me massive return. As you can guess right, few months down the line, the goods have not yet been sold...............

I know that I am a kind of person who wants things done quickly without procrastinating. However, I found that anytime things are done fast, the end result is not always good. So really, what is necessary is to have a fine balance in life.
Now, what is the moral of the story? What am saying in essence is this. In whatever you do, take you time to understand, digest, and most importantly don't rush. I understand that sometimes it might be very difficult to wait and be patient, when you have a lot on line, you've got to pay your bills, you've got to get married because "......am not getting any younger...." and it seems the right person is taking forever, etc. However, it worth waiting, unless it leads to disaster or poverty. Poverty in this content does not only mean money or material things but it also means other things that might affect us in a negative way e.g bad decision that might lead to heartache at the end of it.

Overall," ................in the multitude of counsellor, there is safety... but he who is impulsive exalts folly.....".

Fountain of Life

2010-10-28T04:28:00.000-07:00

You might think to yourself, what does the topic above mean? What is a fountain first of all?

A fountain could mean a lot of things to different people. But from what am about to share, I have chosen the meaning from a dictionary to mean "a source". When I think about it, a source of what? Is it a source of food ....lol, money, water, breath........ etc. What source am I talking about?

As I read the bible today, proverbs chapter 14 verse 27 said "The fear of the Lord is a fountain (Source) of Life. To turn one away from the snares of death" (NKJV). While NIV said from the second sentence "turning a man from the snares of death".

So, we can reframe the words as "The fear of the Lord is a source of life, turning a man from trap of death or danger"

I look around and I thought to myself, do we really fear the Lord? If the fear of the Lord is source of life, then why don't we fear the Lord? And apart from that, we also need to remember that it prevent us from getting trap in danger and death.

What does the word death means in this verse? To me, I think it means death of purpose and soul. It means when someone losses sense of direction and purpose. Like someone once said "it's like someone is a walking corpse"

So, without the fear of the Lord, we do not have a source of life and we are prone and vulnerable to danger. And when we don't have life , so what do we have then????

Some of us might be rich, but do we have peace without the source? Is life only just about what we will eat and drink or our possesion? The list of question does on...........

I believe we're so detached from the source of life that we don't know where we are heading too. We could see around us, many things that Christ said will happen in the last days. The world is in recession, people are going hungry, there is war, abomination, different atrocities etc.

We need to get back to our source, to be able to escape the trap of death we set for ourselves.

How God orders our steps.

2008-01-26T10:05:00.001-08:00

For the passed few months, I have been going through some challenges in my life especially financially and unemployment.

I have been looking for job since my final year (2006) period of studying hoping to land a suitable one immediately I finish in 2007 around September but it never happened that way.

I have been frustrated continuing to look for job even after I graduated in September 2007. I cry, feel depressed and started questioning God but not knowing that he has very beautiful plan for me. According to Proverbs 16 verse 9, it says "a man's heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps" we all often plan to do things and have great plans but most of the time they do not work the way we expected.

But as GOD want it, I saw an advert in the newspaper about studying for an Msc in Mechanical Engineering being sponsored if applicant are successful with a £100 per week bursary. I applied for it, got an unconditional offer within three working day, got called for an interview for the funding. This I got, to my surprise everything worked within a week. And I would be starting my lectures the following week. Now compare this to all the stress I have gone through looking for a suitable job for more than a year but God gave me a breakthrough in another area something I did not plan for offering me a Msc in Mechanical Engineering with all the necessary funding in place within no time (1 week).

Overall, all I am saying is that God has a wonderful plan for each and everyone of us if we would allow Him to do what He wants to do.

God has done so much for me in just a week without even planning for it. While all this time I have been stressed about the whole situation not knowing that God did not want me to go through that path but the one He as prepared for my to be fulfilled in life.

And the good thing about this offer I got is that I have greater opportunities to work on a project within an industry which could lead to a job offer afterwards or I might even go for a research programme with the same university that gave me this offer. Isn't God good?

Assuming I knew all this time, I wouldn't have bothered myself or even stress myself about anything I would just have relaxed and allow God to be God in my situation. I believe this applies to everyone of us or we have somethings we are struggling with at the moment. I would just encourage you lean on God and allow Him to be. Rest completely in Him. Trust Him and listen to what He have to say in every situation in your lives.

I thank God for my life and really appreciate Him for what He has done and what He is about to do.

We also need to have an intimate relationship with Him through our Lord Jesus Christ so we can know what He is saying to us in every area of our life and there are sometimes that He wants us to just be still and know that He is God. Like what the bible says, in Isaiah 30 verse 15 "......... In returning and rest you shall be saved; In quietness and confidence shall be your strength". So, lets rest in God through Christ Jesus because He made us and know us more than we could know ourselves and He knows why He created us and what we are destine for.