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Cheap Beauty Trick

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 17:08:00 +0000

You don't need a ton of new products to look your hottest. Follow these tips and get extra mileage out of your make-up.

Turn old into new. Instead of buying new lipsticks, layer your existing ones to create new options. Combine brown and pink to make a sultry rose, - red and purple for plum, and coral and red for fuchsia.

Make your red lipstick racier. Apply pressed powder in between coats to intensify your everyday red lipstick. The powder pulls out the oil from the lipstick, so you're left with a deep, matte stain, which is exactly the kind of effect you want right now.

Outline your pucker with a brow pencil. To prevent your bold lip colour from creeping past the corners, rim your mouth with a flesh-coloured brow pencil - it'll prevent any smudging.

Pat foundation over your lips. The nude, mod lip is the balance to this season's rich colours. You don't even need any lipstick to pull it off. Just dip a make-up sponge in foundation, press it to your lips, and let it dry for a few seconds. Finish it off with a clear lip gloss to add some shine, and your good to go.

Plump your lips. Sparkly eyeshadow dabbed in the center of your lips gives the effect of fullness. The shimmer draws light, so your lips seem to bow out naturally

Conceal dark circles. Use taupe eveshadow under your lower lashes to offset any blueish tones, it's an insider trick if you're running low on concealer.

Define your brows. Use mascara to accentuate your shape and conceal any patchy gaps.

Get glowy. Mix a pinch of metallic shadow into face cream to warm your complexion.

Trade blush for bronzer. To get chiseled cheekbones, sweep bronzer (instead of powder blush) onto cheeks. "This creates shadows and depth so your cheekbones stand out more," notes Shane.

Rub face primer on your body. Skin- revealing dresses are on-trend, so your legs and arms need to shine. The pros smooth on regular make-up primer. Primers contain light diffusers that even out and enhance your skin tone. So it's great to apply it anywhere you want to draw extra attention.

Swirl cherry lip gloss on your cheeks. Use bright red gloss or balm on your apples to enhance your natural glow. You can layer on more or less to get the exact rosiness that you want.

"Paint" on your foundation. Models looked especially airbrushed on the runways. To get the look: use a make-up brush to put on a liquid foundation. The bristles evenly distribute the product, so you get this soft veil of coverage. When going over tricky areas (like under the eyes or around the nose), squeeze the tip to flatten the edge to smooth out lines. Every few days, remember to wash your brush with shampoo to remove build-up.

Make Your Bedroom Brighter

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 16:53:00 +0000

You can't help but feel happy when you wake up in a room that's light, colourful and airy. And according to our design pros, giving your space that sunny, upbeat quality requires just a few decorating tricks.

Give Your Bed I Punches Of Colour

Bold pillows and throws are vital. Add just a few in the same shade, and place them against a white comforter. They'll spring off the solid backdrop.

Faux Glow

Switch to full-spectrum lightbulbs. They're specially designed to make lighting look natural. Screw them in and your private area becomes sunshiny.

Buy Sheer Shades

Heavy drapes can make your room feel, well, heavy. Instead, try curtains made of a gauzy fabric. When your window is open, they'll flutter, adding a breezy vibe to your pad.

Don’t Overdo The Walls

Too many pictures can be overwhelming. Another option: pick up small blank canvases and paint them different tinges - either a solid shade or add splatters.

Ditch the Rug

In the winter, a plush rug makes your bedroom feel cozy. But come spring, roll it up and stick it in a cupboard. Bare floors give the illusion of more open space.

Nix Visual Noise

It's important to declutter. Keep things that are personal and pretty by your bed - flowers, books, framed photos - and stash the stuff that tends to pile up.

Stress-Proof Your Body

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 16:51:00 +0000

When you're bugging out, your body holds onto stress in one of five key areas. Pinpoint your personal problem zone and learn how to keep nasty tension at bay.

Where You Feel it: Your Head

What it Reveals: You're Stressed.

Any sort of mental freak-out — you find yourself with one of those scary-long to- do lists, or you went on a shopping binge that left you with a monster credit- card hangover — can prompt you to start taking short breaths or clenching your jaw, both of which cause hardcore tension headaches. You may become light-sensitive and develop a dull and thudding ache behind your eyes.

Quick fix: Coffee.

Scientists say that caffeine causes blood vessels in your head to contract, which helps reduce your whopping pounder. Just limit it to one cup! And exercise works, too. Doing 30 to 45 minutes of cardio (hop on the elliptical, treadmill, bike, whatever) releases endorphins, which are brain chemicals that help curb physical pain. You're busy, but make the time, it'll be worth it.

Where You Feel it: Neck & Shoulders

What it Reveals: You're a worker bee.

When you have tons to do, you very likely hunch your shoulders over your desk or at your computer in order to concentrate and fully focus, staying in that position for hours on end. But while you may think that position helps you stay focused and get ahead at work, it actually tightens the muscles in this area, which causes them to knot up. Eventually, your neck could seize.

Quick fix: A slow massage is the Best cure.

This easy trick will help instantly: stand up straight with your arms at your side, and slowly lift and roll your shoulders in a circular motion. Do this 10 times in a row; it increases blood flow to your neck and shoulder muscles, which loosens the knots. If you have the time, book in for a professional massage at a spa.

Where You Feel it: Your Hands

What it Reveals: You're restless.

Maybe you're picking at your cuticles. Perhaps you're chomping at your nails, even though you clearly know better. You could be drumming your fingers nervously on your desktop, weakening your nails and leading to chips — both in your nails and the polish you're rocking. Whichever hand- evil you're engaging in, all these niggly little movements show you're fidgety and anxious.

Quick fix: A chilled- out mani (both the do-it- yourself and the salon kind work).

Simply paying attention to your hands is usually enough to help soothe them. Plus, manis may help kill your bad hand habits, After all, who want to pick and gnaw at freshly polished fingernails? Go on; treat your hands to some TLC.

Where You Feel it: Your Tummy

What it Reveals: You're a huge bucket of nerves right now.

Fretting about something big in your life, like an important presentation you have to give at work, causes your digestive system to speed up and operate way faster than normal. You've lost your appetite and when you do eat, you can feel a bit vomity and gross. The result? You feel crampy and gassy.

Quick fix: Eating cheese, whole grains and chicken.

But you don't have to whip up a whole wrap every time your stomach hurts — any one of these foods will work alone. They all have tryptophan, an amino acid that helps your brain produce serotonin, a feel- good chemical that can reduce anxiety. Our tip: keep some cheese at arm's length!

Where You Feel it: Your Feet

What it Reveals: You're overly tired.

Say you had a crazy-busy day. You had some major deadlines, tons of meetings, and a business lunch. You likely ran from one end of town to the other, hailed a cab and took the stairs — in crazily high heels. By 6pm, it feels like your feet are literally dragging, right? That's because experts say that you feel much of the weight of your waking hours in your dogs.

Quick fix: A hot bath and put your feet up on the edge of the tub.

Your kickers are jam-packed with nerve endings that connect to your entire body, so soaking them sends a soothing sensation to your whole system. Plus, elevating them takes the pressure off, which sends a signal to your brain that it's time to relax. Add some bubbles to make it really special!

Ways to Get an Instant Mood Boost

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 16:42:00 +0000

Accessories Yourself Happy

There's something about glitter, colour and sparkle that makes you feel all giddy. So next times you feel, well, blab, reach for your bling — and the brighter the better. Trust it, a little bit of pink can lift you out of even the drabbest slump.

Share a Dessert

Sometimes, all it takes is your best friend, two spoons and a big old glass of Eton Mess to shake the blues. Strawberries, meringue and cream somehow put life's little dramas into perspective. Add chocolate sauce and its game over for your troubles.

Take Control

Let's face it; crap hair is an instant buzz kill. Wage war against your frizzy, unruly mane by treating yourself to a permanent smoothing treatment. And use the extra time you'd normally spend taming your tresses to take charge of your life and tackle that task you've been putting off for months. Instant clarity, guaranteed.

Secret Signs That Show People You Rock

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:25:00 +0000

Everything from the coffee you drink to how tidy your desk is tells a story about you. Use these clever tricks to make sure it's the story you want people to hear.

Recent research suggests it takes precisely a tenth of a second for someone to make a judgement about you — rightly or wrongly — and it's often more to do with what you don't say than what you do. Just by looking at your apartment decor, the pen you use in a meeting, the food you order for lunch or your favourite tipple, people make assumptions about your personality. The good news is, knowing how and when people are going to gather these unspoken clues about you can give you the upper hand when it comes to making a positive, lasting impression in a host of crunch life situations. Use this cheat sheet to ensure your habits and mannerisms are showing you in the best possible light.

You Want to Impress The Hot Hipster At Starbucks

Do. Order an espresso with a splash of milk. This is slightly cool, but with a degree of integrity. You'll look more decisively cool, rather than someone who simply follows the flock.

Don’t. Pick the newest, trendiest coffee on the menu that you can barely pronounce just to show off. This will just look too try-hard, and like you've simply jumped on the latest bandwagon.

You Want to Score Brownie Points With Your New Boss

Do. Show you’ve got a healthy work/life balance. A literal way to do this is to keep one photograph of your friends on one side of your desk and a picture of you and your team on another.

Don’t. Over-accessories with pink fluffy pens and a diamante mouse. If you are battling the glass ceiling and want to be taken seriously, then a Barbie pen is not the best thing.

You Want to Wow Important Business Clients

Do. Break out the posh biscuits. When biscuits come out in meetings, people immediately make an assessment of your company. Forget the plain ones and offer them the extra spesh foil- wrapped chocolate ones instead - they'll feel they are being treated with respect.

Don’t. Pimp your font. It doesn't matter how bored you are of Times New Roman, draft a client proposal in anything else and you risk coming off as flashy, egocentric and lacking in integrity.

You Want to Bewitch Your Boyfriend's Parents When They Visit

Do. Ditch the scented candles and stock up on seasonal fresh flowers. Gets the coffee or bread maker going in the kitchen to waft homely aromas throughout your pad, and hide any OTT party pies.

Don’t. Forget to do a bathroom sweep. The bathroom cabinet is where old-fashioned in-laws will see what kind of person you really are. Hide suspect creams, your pill, and anything else vaguely incriminating.

You Want to Connect With Your Smart-Guy Office Crush At Lunch

Do. Order organic where possible. These Old shows you've got moral values and that you care about something other than yourself. But keep it simple: try a lime-cooked tuna with an organic salad.

Don’t. Go over the top and quiz the waiter about the origin of everything on the menu. Eating with a conscience is cool, but not if you start lecturing everyone around you. This will make you seem egocentric and will make everyone else at the table feel bad.

You Want to Leave Your Hot Date Drooling Over Dinner

Do. Get stuck into your food. There is something about what you eat and the way you eat that will register with your date. Subliminally, men like to be with someone who can devour a plate of food, as it implies you're equally as passionate physically.

Don’t. Overdo it. Let him know you're enjoying your food, but stop short of making moaning noises and dangling the asparagus seductively in the air. It's a date, not a Girls Gone Wild audition.

You Want to Shine Like A Star On Your Birthday

Do. Host your own party. Pour drinks, mingle and introduce people to each other, says Judi. Then be prepared to share the spotlight by letting your nearest and dearest toast you with speeches.

Don’t. Be a princess. The worst thing you can do is not open your presents in front of your guests. Ibis spreads the message that your friends are just underlings who have brought presents to your altar, and signals you are a brat.

You Want to Blend In With The Cool Crowd At Post-Work Drinks

Do. Order bubbly. This is a sharing drink and it's fun, fizzy and shows you're up for a good time. And by skipping the French stuff and ordering Italian, you'll score extra cool points. It's a little bit special, but not too expensive.

Don’t. Push yourself into the group by being too dominant and ordering a round of pricey cocktails, If people feel they are being pushed, they back off. If they feel they picked you as a friend, rather than the other way around, they'll feel more comfortable.

Are You Parkophobic?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 11:49:00 +0000

You know the feeling: you're on your third attempt to slot into a parking bay, while impatient motorists glare - or worse, hoot - at your dismal endeavour. Parking is superstressful and, in a recent Ford poll, was ranked alongside job interviews and meeting the in-laws as one of life's most nerve-racking moments. Apparently a third of motorists and 41% of women suffer from `parkophobia'. And while parking training might seem unnecessary at this stage of your driving career, many licenced drivers have had only enough practice to pass their driver's licence and so struggle to utilise these principles in everyday life. The good news is that you're not alone. The bad? Nobody can do it for you. This is sortie expert tips to get you into that tight spot!

1. Don’t get up to speed

Screech into parking bays like Schumacher and wonder why you never get it right? Slow. Down. The slower you drive the more opportunity you'll have to correct your car if you misjudge the space, (Bonus; you'll he spared costly benders.)

2. You be the judge.

When we get our driver's license we aren't taught how to judge distance - this can be a huge problem for women. While studies show we tend to do poorly at tasks that require spatial awareness, recent research by the University Of Warwick in the UK shows that a shot of confidence can help us perform better, if a woman is made to feel better about herself, she'll become better at spatial tasks. So take a couple of deep breaths and smile – you’ll feel instantly more in control.

3. Check your emotions at the (car) door.

Of course with hooters blaring and eyes boring into the back of your head, it's easy to forget your hard-won skills. So what do you do when you feel yourself getting hot and flustered? Focus on yourself and on practical things such as your gears, steering and speed.

YOUR PARALLEL-PARKING ESSENTIALS

Find a space big enough to accommodate your car, yet with room to manoeuvre.
Park parallel - that is 'bumper-to-bumper' – to the car ahead of the empty bay. As you reverse slowly. Keeping a watch out for oncoming cars on your right, use the following two indicators to lock your tyres towards the pavement:

#Your front door is near the car ahead's back
#You can see the car ahead's rear through your back passenger window.

Lock your wheels in the opposite direction when;

#The rear of your car is completely in the bay.
#You can see the car ahead's right tail-light through the left part of your windscreen.

Once your car's rear is entirely in. straighten your tyres and ease in. Drive a bit forwards to centre your car.

Instantly Alluring Eyes

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:42:00 +0000

These are fabulous way to make your eyes more attractive.

•Maximise your blush.

Take a'creamy rose, and apply in a half-moon shape under your brow bone and over the tops of your cheekbones. You'll get a subtle sheen that draws attention to your eyes and makes your face glow.

•Tap lip gloss under your, brows.

Sounds mad, but patting on a shimmery pink gloss helps highlight and lift your eyes. Use a non-sticky formula (so lashes don't get stuck!) and blend in.

•Wear contrasting eyeshadow colours.

It's a hot trend for summer, but just work with shades you already have. Apply a bright, intense hue (like purple) on your upper lids, and then drag a softer colour (pearly green) along your lower lash line.

•Put bronzer on your lashes.

Comb loose bronze powder through lashes instead of mascara. You’ll get a subtle sparkle that's so sexy for night since it catches 'the light. One swipe should do it you don't want any excess flakes to fall under your eyes.

A Scary Kind of Love

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 11:34:00 +0000

Stalking doesn't just happen to Hollywood celebrities. Here are the tools to deal with the kind of attention you don't want - online and off.

It starts with that uneasy feeling, when someone's attention goes from unwanted to alarming and they won't get the message. Rather than being simply annoying, stalking can be sinister. One in 12 women in the US will be stalked in her lifetime, statistics show, most times by someone the victim knows or once dated.

OVER THE EDGE

If you are distressed by someone's attention — if it causes you anxiety attacks, makes you fearful to be alone, prompts you to be absent from work or to increase security measures — it's possible you're being stalked.

Stalking is not a once-off activity, nor is it done by complete strangers, and it can come in the form of watching, pursuing and the sending of letters or e-mails.

A stalker may even try to break into your car or home, threaten you or your loved ones, injure your pet or show up at places you frequent.

Your intuition is your best friend. Is the person's presence intimidating, even in a subtle way? If you feel uncomfortable, read on.

YOU'RE BEING STALKED - NOW WHAT?

Contact the police so it's on record that you've taken steps towards your safety. Try catching the stalker on camera. (Do this in a public place, and have a male friend beside you.) Take a photograph and threaten to expose him. Men who stalk tend to be insecure. Confronting, them in public is how you strike where it hurts.

An article in The New York Times quoted US security expert Gavidde Becker and criminology expert Dr Doris Hall advising victims to avoid the following when dealing with a stalker:

Don't...

#Give them the slightest hope you might relent. Stay firm and unyielding, 44 Fuel the obsession with attention. 44 Try to explain yourself.
#Fuel the obsession with attention.
#Try to explain yourself.
# Meet with them.
# Accept packages you didn't order.
#Keep quiet. Tell your friends, family and the neighbourhood watch. This will keep everyone on the alert and offer you the support you need.

THE LAW

Victims can get a protection order against the perpetrator; The police can then make an arrest if your stalker violates the terms. If you're being cyberstalked, you can apply for an interim protection order. The police will then investigate the identity and address of the stalker. Remember, you are not powerless! Keep a diary of each incident, tighten home and online security, and avoid broadcasting your whereabouts wit geo-tagging such as Facebook's “Places” failure.

The Fact of Your Sex Life

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 11:23:00 +0000

When it comes to your annual gynae visit, there's no such thing as too much info. Your doctor needs to hear all your down- below details, which is why he or she asks you super personal stuff. You may be tempted to dodge the queries because you sense the truth could prompt a judgmental lecture, but that won't happen with a good gynae. Doctors have seen and heard it all. Their job is to keep you healthy, and they can't do that without knowing the answers to probing questions. So don't feel singled out or embarrassed. If you dish any of the statements here and they're nonsense, you won't get the help you need — such as effective sexually transmitted disease (STD) medication, suitable birth control or potentially life-saving cancer screenings.

1."MY SEX LIFE IS GREAT"

Whether you feel chafed, experience sharp pain when your guy thrusts deeply or stiffer yeast infections after sex, don't be weirded out by telling your doctor. Many sex issues have a purely physical cause, which makes your doctor the right person to figure out what's going on. For example, chafing could be the result of a lack of lubrication due to a birth-control pill messing with your hormone levels. Your doctor can put you on a pill that won't have that effect. Pain when your guy thrusts may signal an ovarian cyst or fibroid, two common benign growths that can be treated. And there are ways to avoid sex- triggered yeast infections, so inform your doctor about anything odd: tenderness, burning, bleeding and any pain.

2."I ALWAYS USE A CONDOM"

It broke, your guy failed to put it on or your stash was empty so you decided to wing it. You don't have to explain why you had unsafe sex but you must let your gynae know it happened. If not, you might leave her office without being tested for chlamydia, gonorrhea or HIV — all of which you can contract after just one round of condomless mattress wrestling with a guy whose STD status is a question mark. Genital herpes and human papillomavirus (HPV) are also a risk, but gynaes generally don't test for those unless you're showing symptoms or you've had an irregular Pap smear. Many young women assume their gynae automatically screens them for all STDs during their annual exam, so they don't have to own up to not using protection. But while your gynae is supposed to test you routinely for gonorrhea and chlamydia if you're under 25, not all do. And if you're over 25, you have to speak up. The consequences of an infection are much more frightening than the discomfort of telling a doctor that you didn't use a condom: chlamydia and gonorrhea, if left untreated, can damage your reproductive tract and leave you infertile. And HIV, as you know, is incurable and potentially fatal, but can be managed with meds if caught early.

3."I DON'T SMOKE"

Maybe you fudge it on this one because you're not a pack-a-day addict and you don't think that an occasional cigarette has anything to do with your lady parts. You're wrong. Smoking any amount affects your birth-control choices, puts you at a higher risk of infection and may alter your fertility. Women who smoke and use hormonal birth control have an increased risk of lethal blood clots. Cigarettes also wear down the immune system, leaving you more vulnerable to HPV-related problems such as genital warts and cervical cancer. Studies link tobacco to egg abnormalities plus a higher miscarriage rate. Bottom line: coming clean about smoking will let your doctor tailor your examination to your needs.

4."I DEFINITELY TAKE THE PILL EVERY DAY"

Even a diligent woman might forget to pop her pill now and then. But if you repeatedly forget more than once per cycle, you're short-changing yourself by lying about it to your gynae. Not only are you upping your risk of falling pregnant, you're also missing the chance to try a method better suited to you — one you don't have to worry about daily. If you tend to forget to take the pill, your gynae will want to help you find another option. Luckily, there are plenty out there. The ring may be more up your alley because you leave it in for three weeks at a time. The birth-control shot is good, too, and effective for three months. And if you really don't want to be bothered by birth control, your gynae may suggest an intrauterine device, which can last for up to 10 years.

5. "I'VE NEVER HAD AN STD"

STDs have a dodgy reputation. So while you may not want to own up to having one now or that you were diagnosed and cured in the past, you really have to banish the fear of your doctor getting `judgy'. Your doctor need to know if a patient has a recurrent STD such as herpes or HPV so they can help you manage those conditions. Your doctor can let you know about new prescriptions that can ease outbreaks or help you get a handle on making outbreaks less frequent. And if you've previously had an STD and received effective treatment, you're still not off the hook. Many women think, "Oh, I had chlamydia/gonorrhea 10 years ago and got rid of it with antibiotics. Why is it relevant now?" But curable STDs can still influence your present sexual health, putting you at a higher risk of Fallopian-tube scarring and infertility downs the road. Being aware you had chlamydia, for example, can help her figure out why you may have trouble conceiving in the future or what the source of any scar tissue may be.

The “Liar-exia”

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 12 Feb 2012 11:10:00 +0000

The media has played a prominent role in influencing and reflecting the unrealistic and troubling societal norms as far as the thin female body is concerned, and many continue to capitalise on this by inventing ridiculous new diagnostic labels. "Liar-exia" is the latest.

The reason for women's secrecy around food deserves understanding, not sexy tags. They feel the need to be devious about their starving (or bingeing and often purging, or exercising excessively) in order to distract attention from what they are doing, which can have psychological reason. Not only do they deceive others, they also deceive themselves by not seeing their life and circumstances in a realistic way. Many will eat in public to try to convince others that they are eating normally and stave off persuasion to eat more. And secret eaters are as vulnerable as secret starvers. Secret eating describes what many bulimics and anorexics do — eat very restrictively in public but succumb to the urge to binge in private.

Not all secret eaters are fully diagnostically anorexic or bulimic, though they may be on their way. Some are shy to eat in public for fear of being labeled uncontrolled or gluttonous. Many overweight people hold these feelings, as do those of normal weight who fear being perceived as otherwise.

Ordinary women often feel guilty eating unhealthy food, especially in front of others. There's so much unrealistic and unhealthy pressure from society to be healthy that they feel embarrassed if they can't keep up. Research has shown woman can seldom maintain a "perfect" eating plan and exercise regime, and this can often lead to eating disorders.

Women are generally competitive; one aspect of that relates to appearance. This is what can give rise to what's being termed "liar-exia". The behaviour may also stem from fear of being judged by others as being superficial, or from having exaggerated concern for the opinions of others. It may actually seem easier to lie about your true eating habits than to justify your diet choices to friends and family.

WEIGHING THE COSTS

The danger of secrecy around both feeding and starving is the preservation of potentially destructive behaviour. While it continues unchallenged, it may feel endorsed by others. But there can be other dangers, too - to ease their secret starving, some women self-medicate on harmful substances.

In point of fact, there are many of models using unhealthy methods of dieting. Lots of the girls are on high-protein diets, and have one day when they eat everything; the rest of the time they secretly starve. The pressure to be thin is far greater - from the girls' agents and even from their moms.

HONEST SOLUTIONS

The fact remains that body image today is a leading concern among young women. A survey says that 85% of women had been on a diet, compared with 61% five years ago. Our self-esteem has become entwined with our weight and body shape, and even those with a naturally high metabolism can pick up weight when this slows down around the age of 30. This requires watching what we eat, eating smaller meals more frequently on a sensible, sustainable plan and exercising more, if we want to conform to unrealistic norms. And those who manage it while professing not to do this, or posting DIPEs, may well be fibbing - and at risk of an eating disorder (see “Signs of secret eating or starving”).

If you are one of them, be honest and if need be get help. If you suspect it in a friend, be circumspect. Question your motives before you question her. Are you genuinely worried about her wellbeing or just jealous of her body?

And if you have friends who eat healthily and exercises regularly don’t tempt them to have the dressing or the cheesecake they resolutely resist, or to skip gym or a run, she urges. Be supportive or mind your own business - many lie about their true diet simply because others are judgmental, and you may pressure them into deception.

“Signs of secret eating or starving”

Suspect a problem if you (or a friend)...

# eats large quantities around people but stays slim or lose weight when previously unable to.

# eats lots of sweet or high-fat foods and don't gain weight.

# head for the bathroom after eating.

# worry or complain about being overweight.

# check in mirrors for imagined flaws

# are a perfectionist

# wear loose or layered clothing

# take supplements for weight loss

# become depressed or irritable.

If you recognise a combination of these factors in yourself and have had an unhealthy weight loss, get professional help. If you see them in a friend, draw her out gently and nonjudgmentally. Tell her you are concerned about her wellbeing and suggest she gets help.

What is Your Brake-up Style?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 12:20:00 +0000

We've all been there. Things were going great and then he changed his mind. Or he met someone else. Or he cheated. Whatever led to this point, the fact is that you're no longer part of a couple that you thought was perfect. And. It. Hurts. Like. Hell.

Break-ups cause emotional pain and anxiety about the new single situation. We fear these changes and challenges and as a general rule, fear can drive us to develop coping strategies.

But before you down a concoction of brightly coloured drinks in pretty glasses with umbrellas on the side and hit his number on your speed dial (over and over), find out which of the following is your break-up style — and whether it's doing you more damage than good in the 'get over him' stakes.

The Revenge Dater

Style traits: No sooner have you broken up with your guy, then you're uploading pics of yourself and a new hottie to Facebook with taglines like, "Had such a hot date tonight. The best ever!"

Why you do it: There are a couple of reasons revenge daters do what they do. The most obvious is to get back at your ex, to show him you've replaced him with a better model. The other reason for revenge dating is to try to quickly fix our damaged pride at being dumped.

The verdict: Unless you've given yourself a chance to breathe and recover, rebound guys will only ever be that — flash-in-the-pan relationships. Unless you've given yourself a chance to grieve your old relationship, you cannot really commit to someone new.

Style rating: 3/10

The Dignified, Silent Type

Style traits: You'll confide in a few very close friends about the split, but your private life is off-limits to work colleagues and more general, casual acquaintances.

Why you do it: You believe that your emotions are private to you, and you want to deal with them in your own time, without fear of judgment or ridicule from others. But you also trust in your BFFs' opinions enough to take their advice.

The verdict: This is a fairly positive response that acknowledges your emotions, without acting on them on a whim. It also preserves your self-esteem, as self-esteem comes in part from our understanding of how others see us.

Style rating: 7/10

The Nothing is Wrong Approach

Style traits: Break-up? What break-up? You go about your daily life as if the break-up never ever happened.

Why you do it: You want to prove to the world that no man will ever be worth your tears. You need to be quite strong to maintain a cool veneer, to appear to be breezing through without care.

The verdict: The problem with putting on the “check out how damn well I’m doing” face is that you don’t give people a chance to help or be there and when you do finally decide you need to vent, those people will be over asking you how you’re doing.

Style rating: 4/10

The “Please Take Me Back” Approach

Style traits: You figure that so long as you’re in touch, and therefore on his mind, there’s a chance he’ll do a 180, and come back.

Why you do it: Put blatantly, out of desperation. Part of our survival instinct is to do anything to avoid a death, this time the death of the relationship. That is, you see it as a way of keeping the relationship going, even if he doesn't respond to your communication attempts.

The verdict: Little good will ever come out of this break-up style. Once someone has made up their mind there is generally little we can do to change it, and calling him at 3am is even less likely to have the result you're after.

Style rating: 2/10

The Onwards and Upwards Type

Style traits: Post break-up, you decide to focus on other areas of your life such as your career, your friends and maybe even travel.

Why you do it: Working toward success in other areas will provide a buffer against negativity that can come with a break-up. That is, scoring that promotion or planning a trip reminds you that there’s more to life than your broken relationship.

The verdict: Thumbs up. It’s important to find new goals and redefine your priorities following a relationship.

Style rating: 9/10

Would You Date a Guy Who Cheated on His Last Girlfriend?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 12:12:00 +0000

Maybe she was just wrong for him. Or maybe he just can't help it. So, is dating a proven cheater worth the risk? Cheating is the number one deal-breaker of relationships. But what the dude may not have realised at the time is that it pretty much sucker punches his chances of a happily ever after with any other woman from there on. Or does it?

Finding out that the gorgeous guy you've just met has left a string of broken hearts in his wake is never ideal. Finding out that those hearts shattered because of his cheating tends to sound alarm bells.

But before you make a rash decision, you should take the time to work out the circumstances of his cheating. A lot depends on the context of the cheating. If a man has cheated only once, then it could perhaps have been driven more by his unhappiness in that particular relationship. But if he has cheated multiple times, it's more likely something he's able to justify to himself and therefore repeat across relationships.

But I'll Change Him

He seems perfect on paper — hot, successful, funny, nice to your friends. But then there's that part about him cheating on his ex-girlfriend. And the girlfriend before her. It's easy enough to rationalise that maybe those women just weren't the right ones for him, and you are. Possible? Maybe, but not likely. Women want to believe in the fairytale lover. We tell ourselves that previous women must have made mistakes that we won't make. A tiger doesn't change his stripes. Regardless of how great you are or how much you love him, why wait until he cheats on you to see the light?

Can it ever work?

In a nutshell, yes. But keep in mind that a person who has cheated in the past is more likely to cheat again. It's not an iron-clad rule, but it holds up often enough. There are times when his cheating truly can become a thing of the past. Does he truly accept responsibility for his actions? If he's made mistakes, but admits to them, then that's a good start.

Sam inch Shaheem, a psychologist at the Human Relations Institute in Dubai agrees that cheaters can become faithful partners. Talk to your partner about his past and try and focus on the reasons why infidelity took place rather than judging him for cheating. For example, he may not have been able to break up with his ex for fear of hurting her feelings and that's why he cheated.

Improved Old-fashioned Dating Etiquette

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:59:00 +0000

Not that we're advocating a return to those cringe-worthy pre-bra-burning days when women only spoke when spoken to, had to be tucked up in bed (alone!) by lOpm and had never so much as heard of a zigazig-ha, but there's a lot to be said for learning not to give too much of yourself away too quickly. Here, the vintage dating tips tweaked for today's dating scene.

The '50s Way:

“When a guy asks you out, it's polite to give an immediate answer.”

The 2012 Way:

A bit of teasing is fun — but only after you have secured a first date. Before that, he'll just find your evasiveness frustrating. Men don't enjoy being led-on — they want a date. If you feel a connection with the guy, accept his invitation for a date quickly. And be direct and tell him no if you are sure he's not your type. Save the text tennis for post-date games.

The '50s Way:

“Don’t break a date without a valid reason”

The 2012 Way:

Not only is social gazumping just plain rude, it's also likely to land you in hot water. People are connected virtually. They post on their Facebook and Twitter about seeing you. How embarrassing for your date to see you went out with someone? Honesty is the best policy.

The '50s Way:

“Be ready when your date arrives”

The 2012 Way:

It might take you hours gluing on your falsies and perfecting that just-got-out-of-bed 'do, but he doesn't need to know that. Fashionably late is when a man waits for you at the door for ten minutes tops. If he has to wait an hour, you're telling him that it takes quite a bit of effort to look as good as you do and that's a problem: we want our style, grace and class to look effortless.

The '50s Way:

“Don’t apply your make-up in public”

The 2012 Way:

Guys told that preening at the table is a big no-no. They hate it when a girl starts applying mascara or lipgloss in front of them.

The '50s Way:

“It’s ladylike to let him order for you”

The 2012 Way:

Unless you're in Mad Men and on a date with Don Draper, it's uncool for a guy to order your food — after all, you're the one has to eat it. But if he's footing the bill, be conscious of going to town on the caviar and bubbly. Pay attention, he might discreetly suggest the limits of his budget. If he suggests the lobster and steak as great menu choices he is saying order what you prefer — there's no limitation. But if he suggests menu items lower in price or on special, follow his lead and do not order something expensive. Likewise, if dinner is your treat, subtly let him know if you're prepared to shell out for a slap-up three-courser, or if he should skip starters and go straight to mains.

The '50s Way:

“Don’t humiliate guy by trying to pay on the first date”

The 2012 Way:

This one can be tricky. General rule: its fine to let the guy pay, just make sure he knows you don't expect him to break the bank every time you go out together. Let a guy pay if he asked you on the date. But offer to invite him to your favourite restaurant next time or to yours for dinner.

The '50s Way:

“It’s only floozies that ask guys out”

The 2012 Way:

We've moved past the days where we have to wait to be asked out, but don't give too much away from the get-go. Take your online dating profile: if you list all your qualities, it puts you in a position of sales woman, asking men to 'buy' your product. Instead, list the qualities you are looking for — this switches the tables and means he has to 'sell' himself to you.

The '50s Way:

“It’s only proper to introduce your date to your parents”

The 2012 Way:

You may not be living with your parents, but it is a good idea to invite a new date in to meet your flatmates — you can't underestimate their judgement. It's easy to get charmed by a bad boy, and once your attraction-meter skyrockets your judgment can plummet. So, introduce him to trusted friends a.s.a.p.

Three Words to Outclass Your Ex

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 11:48:00 +0000

Bumping into an ex can be cause for a major meltdown, especially if he's with his new girlfriend and you haven't washed your hair. But there's still a way you can emerge with dignity intact. The phrase “Are you well?” is the perfect thing to say to be polite, friendly, and just a tad emotionally distant. These words are super-effective in an awkward moment because it shows you care, without inviting your ex to open up. This lets your ex off the hook if he can't handle the moment.

Here is how slapping on a smile and dropping some kind words can work in a host of sticky ex BF situations:

You bang into your ex when you are in sweats and have greasy hair.

Do Keep it brief. Say "Hi. Nice to see you. I just finished working out. Hope all is well with you. Take care!” Then keep walking.

Don’t Mention how drab you look. Instead focus on the fact that it's a beautiful day, or that he caught you in the best mood because of X. Most importantly, smile. That way he's much more likely to notice your friendly grin than your unwashed hair.

You see your ex at the cinema with his new GF.

Do Be generous. Mention that you're happy that he's found somebody special. If you're still too tender to get into it, polite small talk will do. Try: "Hello. Nice to meet you. I hear this movie is great. I'm really excited to see it. Now I need to go and find my seats/my friends."

Don't Be nosey. What you want to avoid are questions about the relationship. Don't ask how long they've been dating or if she's met his parents. You'll come off as competitive if you start prying.

You meet your ex while you are on a first date with a new guy.

Do Look happy. You don't want to make it seem as though you're not having a good time or would rather be in his company.

Don’t Give labels. Don't give either your ex or your new boyfriend a title when you introduce them, just use first names. And don't mention any inside jokes the two of you used to have that will make your new date feel like an outsider.

Your ex comes round to your apartment to collect his belongings.

Do Be ready. Have his things compiled before he comes. That way, the only thing you have to say is, "Here are your things. Is it all there?"

Don't Be alone. Have a friend or family member with you to help cushion the blow of seeing him. If it's too uncomfortable, leave his things outside your door and you won't have to speak with him at all.

You meet your ex's parents for the first time since the break-up.

Do Mention how well you're doing. Remember that no matter how close you were to his parents, they are still his parents. Say hello and tell them about how fabulous your life is, but do not bring up your ex.

Don't Be dramatic. If you know that you miss seeing them, then do so without sounding like you're grief- stricken. Don't be rude, but don't feel that you have to ham it up with them. Just be cordial and sincere.

You see your ex's friends after the split.

Do Be bright and breezy. Ask his friends how they are and what they've been up to. Then mention the highlights in your life these days — without sounding like you're bragging or trying to come across as “so over him”. When you're giving off positive energy and at your most likable, they'll be left questioning what could've gone wrong with such a wonderful girl.

Don't Bitch about your ex. Remember they are his spies. Anything you say about your ex is going to get back to him, so try to avoid dissing him. Any mention of your ex is likely to be misconstrued. Be polite, short and sweet. Introduce anyone you're with to them, and let them know it's nice to see them, then exit!

10 Most Common Sex Injuries

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 06:59:00 +0000

This is the list of most common sex injuries. How much have you experienced?

BACK AND NECK STRAINS

Caused by: falling off the bed or down stairs.

Avoid by: holding on tighter and changing your sex position slowly. Also, avoid having sex on unstable furniture such as an ironing board —which, experts say, is surprisingly common!

BRUISES AND SCRATCHES

Caused by: spanking or being tied up during bondage.

Avoid by: not sticking duct tape straight onto skin, using handcuffs with fur covers and only spanking or getting spanked on padded areas such as the buttocks.

CARPET/FRICTION BURNS

Caused by: impatient lovers who can't make it to the bed and end up having sex on the floor/on the couch/against a curtain/on the grass.

Avoid by: putting down a top, towel or cushion before getting, stuck in.

CHAFFED NIPPLE

Caused by: hiring, clamping and other types of nipple stimulation.

Avoid by: telling your lover to be more gentle— unless you're actually after a little pain, in which case grin and hear it, baby!

BRUISED AND STRAINED MUSCLES

Caused by: vigorous and lengthy sex sessions, or trying out a complicated position.

Avoid by: stretching properly beforehand, say experts.

LOST FOREIGN OBJECTS IN THE VAGINA OR ANUS

Caused by: objects other than sex toys being inserted into orifices.

Avoid by: Just be careful.

PENILE FRACTURES

Caused by: missing a thrust and hitting something solid.

Avoid by: slowing down his pace.

ALLERGIC REACTIONS

Caused (mostly) by: a reaction to lubricant or latex condoms.

Avoid by: using latex-free condoms or resting the lube on your arm first.

RED AND SWOLLEN EYES

Caused by: your partner ejaculating into your eye.

Avoid by: asking him to improve his aim.

INSECT BITES

Caused by: exposure to an insect or several) while romping in the great outdoors.

Avoid by: taking a good, long look at where you're putting down your naked derriere.

Don’t Flake Out Your Hair

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:44:00 +0000

Products with ingredients such as almond milk, aloe vera, and coconut and jojoba oils are always a good bet, as are most natural plant-extracted mineral oils.

There nothing worse than a flaky scalp, so focus on that and not on the dry condition of your hair and you’ll fix both problems at once.

Six Steps to Choose Haircut

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 06:29:00 +0000

Lipstick smudges, mascara runs, clothes crease and nail polish chips, but a spectacular haircut won't let you down. It won't just look perfect when you walk out of the salon — it will be easy to style yourself each day. Here's how to ensure a fab cut with every salon visit.

A spectacular cut is your stealth bomber: effective, reliable, weather-prof and as maddeningly evasive. Follow these steps to nail it with military precision.

1. Identify your target

What sort of haircut do you want, and will it suit you?

2. Do a research

Book a one-on-one consultation with a stylist to discuss your ideas. Ask about hair texture and the time you'd need to maintain the style. To gauge the general trend of the salon, observe other stylists and clients as they leave.

3. Dry-run it first

See if you feel at ease with the stylist. It's okay not to go through with the cut if you don't like the vibe.

4.Gather intelligence

Checks magazines for hair trends and taking the pics along — stylists are visual people. Also mention facial features you're insecure about and where you prefer your parting.

5.Collateral damage?

Have a discussion about how much heat styling and product the cut will need. Make a note of the products and in-salon treatments recommended, then assess what your budget allows.

Don't feel under pressure to buy the recommended products, which can double the bill for your cut. And if you see your stylist making extra snips you didn't ask for, rather speak out than wait till the end when the damage is done.

6. Follow-up strategy

A trim every six to eight weeks will maintain your cut and the health of your hair. Even if you want to grow out a cut, regular trims are essential. This way you're guiding your hair into a new shape while avoiding that awkward stage.

Perfect Cover in Less Than 5 Minutes

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 06:18:00 +0000

Pigmentation marks on your face can be a major confidence zapper. Here’s how to cover them tip pronto. The key to covering up pigmentation is in the application. You don't want to look like you're covering up imperfections, but rather that you're enhancing your natural complexion. Follow these steps to the perfect cover-up:

1. Get your goods ready

Have your foundation, concealer and powder ready. Your foundation should match the predominant colour of your face. Find natural light and a big-enough mirror.

2. Warm things up

Warm foundation on the back of a clean hand - in I blend more easily and look natural.

3. Measure your amount

Don't use too much. Tip: once you've swept a finger through the foundation, you should still be able to see your fingerprint in it. If you can't, you're applying too.

4. Zone in

Use foundation only where it is needed. If you feel you need to apply more, do this by building coverage with additional thin layers in problem areas. Stop between layers and step back to survey the overall effect from a distance. You may not need as much coverage as you initially thought.

5. Even it out

If there's a major contrast between skin colours, apply a lighter concealer to the darkened areas before using foundation. Pat, never rub, the concealer to blend it in. Then continue with the foundation, parting it over the concealer to avoid rubbing it off.

6. Powder to perfection

Make time for single friends and talk about their interests, or you could lose them. Be sensitive that too much baby talk can bore some and hurt others not in stable relationships who hear the ticking of their own biological clock.

Smart Way to Fights Cellulite

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 04:59:00 +0000

Newsflash: dieting and hardcore exercise won't blitz your cellulite. Try this dimple-busting plan, so is your smoothest bottom ever.

4 Months to Go

Eat Fat

Cutting fat from your diet to lose inches off your thighs is plain silly. Not only will you feel hungry all the time, but the fatty acids in natural, unprocessed sources of fat actually help to process fat from the body. Just stick to good fat (found in nuts, fish, plant oil and avocados) and avoid hard, white fat or meat and anything deep-fried or with 'hydrogenated' on the label.

The real enemy is 'diet' foods (full of additives or sugar) and CRAP (Caffeine, Refined sugar, Alcohol and Processed foods). Cellulite is toxic fat, and these foods flood the body with toxins and fat-storing hormones, depleting it of essential nutrients, so they're a sure-fire route to a lumpy bottom. Eat home-cooked meals and natural, unprocessed foods. Plus, avoid preserved foods or anything that has added sugar, fake flavors or unfamiliar ingredients.

Chill Out

Stress gives you love handles and saddlebags; it sends fight-or-flight hormones racing around your body, and without a sabre toothed tiger to slay (your stress is more likely due to deadlines and credit-card payments), these hormones are stored as fat. So make it your business to relax more. Get immersed in a hobby, go for long walks, get a dog (stroking one lowers your blood pressure—fact), and replace jitter-inducing junk food, fizzy drinks and muffins with stress-busting berries, green veggies, and turkey.

3 Months to go

Exercise

If you exercise like a demon or stress yourself out to fit in your sessions, you risk getting podgy from stress hormones you produce. That doesn't mean exercises isn’t essential for fighting cellulite— just limits your sessions to three a week, and replace one cardio session with yoga or Pilates to calm your system and stretch your muscles. Squats and lunges are still the best moves for a killer bum and thighs.

Feed Your Skin

If skin gets slack and thin, cellulite shows up more. So moisturise with creams full of collage-boosting ingredients, using firm, upward strokes. You can use omega oils; also look for peptides and plant butters.

2 Months to Go

Invest in the Latest Treatments

These are all about breaking up the fatty, fibrous clumps under your skin, without any scalpels or needles.

RADIO FREQUENCY

WHAT IS IT: It uses radio frequency waves to heat up the water in your cells. This boosts their metabolic function—i.e., their fat-burning, and collagen-producing ability. It's also available in combination with ultrasonic therapy, which helps in reducing obstinate fat and evens out your skin's texture.

HOW IT FEELS: Your bumpy bits are massaged firmly with a smooth paddle that can feel from tepid to hot.

BEST FOR: Superficial, soft cellulite and loose skin. It'll improve its texture and tone, and have a tightening effect.

‘X-WAVE' ACOUSTIC WAVE THERAPY

WHAt IT IS: This is a very promising treatment that uses sound waves to penetrate deep into the cells and break up the cellulite under the skin. So it literally shakes loose fatty, fibrous clumps of cellulite.

HO IT FEFLS: Hardcore vibration pummeling your saddlebags. There's a little muscle- achy soreness involved, but it's not really painful.

BEST FOR: Thick, lumpy fat deposits that feel a little hard when you squeeze them. Once broken up, the cells get redistributed in a much smoother 'formation', making the skin on the surface look less pitted.

NEEDLE-FREE MESOTHERAPY

WHAT IT IS : It works by promoting the body's circulatory system, and reduces cellulite formation by enhancing blood and lymph circulation. Active ingredients like vitamins, minerals and homeopathic medicines are delivered deeper into the skin using aquapheresis.

HOW IT FEELS: Almost painless

BEST FOR: It's most helpful for softer cellulite. The effect lasts from a few weeks up till a couple of months before the next sitting is required.

Take a Supplement

Some powerful nutrients are proven to help the body burn fat and keep skin plump and healthy. Look for Vitamin C, which helps build collagen. One kiwi or a cup of strawberries a day should do the trick. While Vitamin E helps improve circulation, Vitamin A reduces free radicals in the body. Food rich in calcium and low in salt and sugar works best in improving and preventing cellulite.

6 Week to go

Go For a Massage

Massaging your legs can smooth and reshape them. The massages are a mix of deep-tissue, lymphatic and 'cupping' techniques that improve blood circulation and activate lymph drainage leaving your thighs slimmer.

Cellulite caused by water retention, which feels almost like jelly, will show the most dramatic improvement. But the firmer cellulite caused by fat clumps or hardened skin fibres can be minimised too. Go for hour-long deep-tissue massages on the legs only with your therapist using upward movements to boost circulation and toxin drainage. Six sessions will make skin look far less cottage- cheesy. Dry body-brushing is also surprisingly effective. Do it for a minute every day pre-shower, using firm strokes towards your heart. It'll speed up your body's detox process and make dimples look airbrushed.

Try a Cellulite Cream

No beauty editor has ever used a cream that made her cellulite vanish entirely. Fact. But using a good one for four to six weeks will make it less noticeable if it's quite light. High levels of caffeine and botanical extracts of algae, horse chestnut, and rosemary rev up skin's micro-circulation and the metabolism of the fat cells underneath it.

1 Week to Go

Have an Incredible Shrinking Bath.

Use Epsom-salt baths (from the chemist), the magnesium in them drains toxins fast and helps boost digestion.

Change Your Life in 3 Minutes

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 01:33:00 +0000

A minute can be as powerful as an hour, if only you use it well. We tell you how.

GET SMARTER

Research reveals that solving Crossword puzzles stimulates the brain, improves memory and ups your vocab. Also, it distracts the mind from problems and challenges the brain in a non-stressful way. Lesson: spend a couple of minutes a day working a puzzle.

BE AN ARTIST

A study published in Applied Cognitive Psychology, Southern England showed that people who doodled retained more information than those who didn't. (Especially at boring conferences and seminars.)

CHECK YOUR BALANCE

Spending a few minutes balancing your checkbook, noting expenses, and organising bills, will help you handle expenses, plan better, and also prepare for future tax work. Doing it in small installments also makes it a lot less annoying.

BREW

In a recent study, University College, London, researchers noted that drinking a cup of tea, four to six times a day reduces stress hormone levels in your body. Here's a tip to brew it perfectly—leave the bag the water for at least two minutes, and keep the cup covered while the tea is brewing.

HYDRATE

Dehydration is one of the key reasons of fatigue. If you drink less than eight glasses of water a day, you may be sluggish. Use every free minute to drink as much water as possible. Try it for a week and watch your general energy levels rise.

FLOSS AWAY

Dentists keep saying it, and we'll say it again: flossing removes bacteria, prevents gum disease and the loss of teeth. Spent a minute or two each day to remove the bacteria between your teeth.

DE-CLUTTER

Take the time to clear your drawers of old receipts, papers and trash you've been collecting over the months. Simplifying your life in any way can help on find more balance.

LAUGH

Scientists the effects of laughter and exercise are quite similar. You may not have time for a full-fledged cardio session, but you can take out three minutes to watch a funny clip on YouTube.

BREATHE

Breathing correctly can cure anxiety. The right way to do it: stand up, stretch and take a couple of deep breaths. Stretch your arms, back, legs, and neck. Take a deep breath through your nose, hold it, and let it out slowly and forcefully. Repeat several times

EAT A FRUIT

The USDA (United States Dept. of Agriculture) recommends two fruits a day to help meet your nutritional requirements. Apples are your best bet—they are rich in anti-oxidants, Vitamin C. Eat them with their skin on for maximum results.

PRIORITISE

Make morning time planning time. Set goals, write them down and place them where you'll see them all day. It will give you a sense of control and empowerment.

INDULGE

Not too much, but if you're going to have some candy, pick chocolate. Research reveals that we get an endorphin buzz from chocolate and an energy boost from the slight bit of caffeine in it. You'll agree, it’s a delicious way to use spare time.

LEARN A WORD

Sign up for a website that will deliver a new word to your inbox every day, then spend a couple of minutes learning it. In a month, you'll have a brand new, impressive vocabulary.

REFRESH

Sitting in the same position for hours can be exhausting. Roll up and down on your toes. This stimulates your circulatory system, and delivers oxygen and glucose throughout your body.

SING

Studies in music therapy show that singing promotes wellness, manages stress, and improves communication. Most songs last about three minutes, so sing your favourite out loud.

MAKE A CALL

Lost touch with people? Make a short call to one person every day, just to say hi—it could be an old friend from college, an ex-colleague, or someone you'd like to network with. Repeat that call after one month.

CHANGE OF SCENE

Browse the Internet to find a soothing natural scene as your desktop background. Studies conducted by the University of Washington have reaffirmed nature's restorative powers and capability to reduce stress.

LOOK AWAY

Research has found out that taking visual breaks can relieve sore eyes. Every two hours or so, look at an object 20 feet away for a few seconds. This will relax your eye muscles, instantly.

FILTER

Creating e-mail filters will help you keep your inbox free from unwanted mails. Make separate folders so that the next time you are searching for a super important e-mail, you won't waste any time locating it.

UPDATE YOUR RESUME

Keeping your resume up-to-date means when a great job opportunity comes your way, you won't be rushing to add stuff.

Make Him Crave You All Day Long

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 23:41:00 +0000

Inspiring your guy to focus on a future tryst with you causes him to want you more....and more....and more. Find out why waiting can and should be the hardest part for him.

Could there actually be perks to denying a guy salacious activities? It turns out that using wait-for-it strategy can make men way hornier—a technique called anticipatory eroticism: When you let a man know about the bedroom bliss in his future, he starts imagining the magic right then, which causes him to want you more. That added lust factor makes the sex hotter by the time you hit the sheets, which amps up its addictive qualities. Use these how-tos and he'll never get enough of you.

Once isn't enough

Think about how you feel when you have a Friday night reservation at your lave restaurant. You spend all week salivating at the mere thought of digging in, so by the time the waiter puts your food in front of you, you're ready to inhale it. That want-it, need-it, have-to-have-it effect is all about anticipation.

Whenever you first experience something awesome, your amygdala—which is the reward center of your brain where you register both pleasure and addiction—lights up. Once your brain registers this type of pleasure, it remembers it and wants to experience that category again.

Boost the Build -Up

One way to get your guy pumped to jump you is literally to deny him sex a period of time. If you continue to indulge in the same pleasure repeatedly, your amygdala becomes desensitised to it—a process called habituation—so not having something makes it sweeter when you do.

Try holding out on sex for one week but letting him know on Monday that you plan on blowing his mind on Saturday. Then do little things during the week to get him excited, like texting him a pie of you in your undies or leaving a bag at his place with your bra peeking out.

Another option: find a few new sex moves and tell your guy you can't wait to buy them on your upcoming one-year anniversary. He already loves doing it with you, so that added 'What's it going to be?' mystery will take his build-up—to new heights!

5 Ways to Break In a Brand New Pair of Shoes

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 07 Jan 2012 23:33:00 +0000

These easy tricks will make them as comfy as slippers!

1. Do it slowly: Take them to work, slip them on while sitting at your desk for an hour or so. If they're super-tight, walk around in them wearing slightly damp socks. Might sound strange, but the moisture will soften and stretch them out.

2. Roughen them up: Use a small piece of sandpaper to scuff up the bottom of the shoe. This will help prevent slipperiness on certain surfaces.

3. If they pinch: Place some moleskin on the areas of the feet where the shoes are pinching. Then soak your feet, to help expand the moleskin. Put the shoes back on and wear them as often as possible.

4. Bend, and stretch: To loosen the shoes, bend them upwards and downwards (if the shoe permits) a few times. Then, use a hair dryer to heat-blast for two to three minutes and repeat.

5. To avoid blisters: Spray your feet with a deodorant. It sticks to your feet and stops shoes from rubbing against your skin and forming blisters.

Ways to Get Over a Bad Day

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 03:56:00 +0000

Boss being a beast? New BE backed out of a date? Whatever put you into a funk, these easy strategies from top psychologists will help you to get over a bad day.

TACTIC #1 Just Leave

Sometimes, the quickest way to turn a terrible day around is just to get up and leave. It can be hard to shake bad feelings because there could be reminders everywhere of what set you off. Meaning, if you're feeling pissy due to your &enemy's snide comments, staying at the party where you'll hear more of the same isn't going to help. Instead, take a walk outside or head to a coffee shop. Taking in different sights can defuse your grumpy disposition; because you're busy processing your new location rather than dwelling on what was wrong in the old one.

TACTIC #2 Fake It

Numerous studies have shown that just pretending to be in a better mood can actually put you in one. When you smile, even if it's not genuine it sends happiness signals to your brain and makes you feel better. And look in the mirror while you do it it’ll shoot another indicator to your brain that you're happy.

TACTIC #3 Veg Out

A recent study found that a bad mood can get worse if someone's mind is allowed to wander. But if the person is distracted, they start to feel better. A juicy TV show can distract you. When you become wrapped up in a show, your mind is focused on someone else's life and can't dwell on yours. Just be careful what you pick. Avoid the news or any sort of crime drama. When you're already having a dark moment, watching this kind of thing can sink you deeper. So choose something light that also holds your attention.

TACTIC #4 Throw a Punch

Exercising releases endorphins that work quickly to make you more joyful. But don't just hop on a treadmill, try a slightly aggressive activity. Doing something that makes you grunt will help you work through your frustration.

TACTIC #5 Wear Lipstick

Vibrant red, hot pink, whatever vivid hue you choose, wearing fun lipstick can do wonders. The reason: When you feel good about your appearance, it can make you feel better about other areas in your life. A fabulous way to get over a bad day isn’t it?

TACTIC #6 Eat that Cupcake

If your day has been particularly hellish, you need a make-good. Treat yourself to something it nit feels indulgent, but it should be something you really love—like a fancy baked good or buttery popcorn. When you pamper yourself, it's hard to stay totally grumpy. Just make sure you don't scarf a dozen cupcakes or drink an entire bottle of wine. Over-indulgence can have the opposite effect. Because you'll now be feeling either sickly full or guilty about all those extra calories.

TACTIC #7 Have a Mini Fit

A good venting session works, but who you vent to and how you do it is crucial. Choose a pal who's a great listener. But before you start, ask your friend to stop you when it's been 15 minutes. Any longer, and you'll start focusing on the negative stuff.

TACTIC #8 Get Lazy

A sticky mood can send you into frenzy—suddenly, you think getting everything done on your to-do list will make you feel better. But that can just make things worse. If you try to tackle a tonne, it can bring you down more. Instead, pick a task that is easy to accomplish (like organising your lipstick drawer) but that also has noticeable results. Sick of your messy apartment? Choose one little thing to do—like wipe down all your mirrors.

THE LAST THING YOU WANNA HEAR

If someone utters these words to you when you're obviously in a foul mood, like “Hi there. It’s the insurance guy calling again...” or “Ummmm, are you PMSing or what?” or “Is that you’re wearing?” or “Wow! You’ve clearly stopped working out!” or “You look tired.” Or even “Sorry, we just ran out of coffee. Water?” you have our permission to bitch-slap them. Good luck with this get over a bad day Trick!

The Myth of Anti-ageing Cream

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 02:52:00 +0000

Now let's talk about the myth of anti-ageing cream. Jars of lotions, magic potions, grandma's advice, best friend's advice; you’ll do it all or rather, you've done it all. The threat of the signs of ageing showing up on skin has women shrouding their forehead with worry Lines much before the lines of ageing really appear. To top it off, the media constantly plays up picture-perfect images of faces that seem to have escaped the clutches of time. Even though your desire to be beautiful has nothing with adorning the 70mm space but it's an intrinsically personal desire. To wear your skin at its best every day or to took great even without a special occasion does wonders to how you feel about yourself, doesn't it?

Myth #1

“I think the right time to start using an anti-aging cream is after 30.”

TRUTH: Ageing starts as early as 25. Most women in their twenties believe that wrinkles can’t happen to them when they are so young. So, anti-aging creams don’t feature in their typical daily skincare routine. But on a closer look you’ll realize that fine lines begin to appear in your twenties, which will eventually cause wrinkles.

Myth #2

“Ageing is a natural processes; I can’t prevent my skin from ageing.”

TRUTH: The processes of ageing cannot be alerted but can be delayed by using the right product best suited for your skin. The earlier you start using anti-ageing products as a preventive measure, the slower your skin will age.

MYTH #3

“I work out and eat well; I don’t need an anti-ageing cream”

TRUTH: Regular exercise and a good diet are essential for the holistic health of your skin but using an anti-ageing product is essential too. Anti-ageing products increase the turnover of skin cells on your skin's surface. By boosting the production of the youth factories of your skin, makes it taut and helps it look younger.

MYTH #4

“Only women with dry skin have to worry about wrinkles.”

TRUTH: Wrinkles don't necessarily occur on dry skin. They're caused by sun as well as by stress, Lifestyle habits and genetics. There is no question your skin looks more wrinkled when it's dry, but wrinkles will not go away completely no matter how much of basic moisturizer you apply. Moisturizers are great for making dry skin Look better, but it takes far more to make your skin look and act younger.

MYTH #5

“I have oily skin so I’ll never get wrinkles and that’s why I don’t need anti-ageing cream.”

TRUTH: Of course you need an anti-ageing cream! Just because your skin is oily doesn't mean it doesn't respond to environmental factors like sun exposure and pollution. If you have oily skin and fear-ant ageing creams might cause break-outs.

MYTH #6

“Once you find products that suit your skin, never change them.”

TRUTH: The truth of the matter is skin types are dynamic and often keep changing. Do not blindly continue the same product even for the anti-ageing cream; check your skin type especially during seasonal changes to avoid skin problems.