GotAQuestion-Your Relationship Resource

2011-03-10T19:11:00.000-08:00

How many of you have successful romance stories where you have had amazing results with your relationships? Share here! Tell us about your successes; you never know how much these things can help others that are going through similar situations. What kinds of things have happended to you? Tell us!

What's your temperament?

2011-02-02T15:53:00.000-08:00

What makes people act the way they do? What motivates people to respond the way they do to life’s situations? Some people respond quite differently than others when they encounter the same situation or are in the same circumstances. Some people are leaders; many are content to be followers. Some people just love to interact with everybody around them, some like to spend time alone thinking and doing a hobby. There is nothing wrong with any of these personalities, but of course, every personality has its weaknesses. People who like to be alone can miss valuable time spent with others. People who like to socialize can be irresponsible because they neglect necessary tasks for the enjoyment of the moment. Of course a balance is needed in every personality. I have a very outgoing personality. I love people, and talking, and laughing, and sharing moments with them. I also like to be alone. I like to sit alone, and write and draw, and just think. Listening to music is also something I enjoy.

Everybody has a personality. Some people have very outgoing personalities; others have more contemplative and reserved personalities. Some would just love to be the “life of the party”, when others would enjoy sitting and watching the festivities. To a great amount, personalities are shaped by circumstances and experience. What has happened to you in your life carries a great deal of weight in determining the way you respond to other things in life. Those who have just fought in a war are often greatly affected by the violence, and for a long time after can be very reserved. Hard circumstances can “harden” people. Experiences can change personalities. A good example of this is the Roman named Masala in the novel Ben-Hur. But even through hard experiences, there’s something that can hold our personalities the way they are. Personalities do not always change, even when facing extremely adverse or even incredibly improved circumstances. Sometimes, you can see no change, because it happens to be “just the way they are.” The reason for this is a deeper human characteristic than personalities. That characteristic is your temperament. Temperaments are less external than personalities. They are the reasons some people are always “glass half full” types; the eternal optimists. They could be stuck in a desert, running out of water, and they’d say “Don’t worry, we’ll find an oasis soon.” Others, like Eeyore from Winnie-the-Pooh, could be in a flowerbed and be inclined to point out how drab brown the soil is.

There are four major temperaments: sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic, and melancholic. They are divided into two major classes, extroversive, and introversive. Extroverts are the outgoing types, made up of the temperaments ‘sanguine’ and ‘choleric’. Introverts are the more reserved, contemplative types, made up of the temperaments phlegmatic and melancholic. As with personalities, temperaments have good sides, and bad sides. Good attributes and bad attributes. People always display one temperament prominently. However, though they display one prominently, most people are combinations of two or more. Below is a listing of the four temperaments and their corresponding positive attributes and negative tendencies. Analyze yourself. What positive attributes can you find displayed in yourself? Which negative tendencies do you need to work on? Realizing your temperament and honing your strengths, and working on eliminating your weaknesses is an excellent way to become a better person and have better success in your relationships.

Extrovert

Sanguine

+Attributes

* Friendly

*Free spirit

*Talkative

*Attentive

*Adventurous

-Tendencies

*Gullible

*Resists structure

*Distracting

*Restless, Sometimes tends to be irresponsible

*Lacks follow through

Choleric

+Attributes

* Leader

*Outspoken

*Task-oriented

*Decisive

*Strong-willed

-Tendencies

*Dominating

*Easily frustrated

*Sometimes can be insensitive to complete a task

Introvert

Phlegmatic

+Attributes

*Calm

*Easygoing

*Dependable

*Diplomatic

*Assesses opinions

*Optimistic

Tendencies

*Spectator

*Seeks compliance

*Worrier

* Procrastinator

*Non-zealous

*Unmotivated

Melancholic

+Attributes

Philosopher

Planner

Self-sacrificing

Creative

Analytical

Gifted

-Tendencies

Impractical

Self-demanding

Easily hurt feeling

Self-centered

Moody

Perfectionist

Where do I fit into a guy's life? (the answer to the previous question, "What class of relationship do I fit under?")

2011-01-25T11:16:00.001-08:00

So how do you determine where you fit into a guy's life? Well, it can be complicated. Guys are not always totally transparent, and like to retain a little bit of mystery. It is made less complicated, however, by the prescence of hints all guys, whether they know it or not, drop. The trick then, if you will, lies in reading those signs and analyzing both of your responses to each other and your relationship. With all the millions of variables present in human relationships, it is difficult to present a one-size-fits-all answer. You can however, look for generalities. (1) he will stare into your eyes. He at least finds you attractive, or perhaps is trying to psychanalyze you. Either way, he finds you interesting! (2) he tells his friends about you. Guys like support, and so are apt to tell their friends about the wonderful girl they just met. A word of warning, DO NOT APPROACH HIS FRIENDS AND ASK THEM! This will make you look desperate, which will be a major turn-off to him when he finds out. However, if they approach you and tell you, this is a good sign. His friends will have little incentive to lie to you about this, and guys rarely play matchmaker. (3) he flirts with you. Be warned, however, not every guy who flirts with you is interested in romance. If he flirts with you, he is interested, but in what he is interested in and to what degree is up for analysis. These three hints are general signs he is probably interested. As was previously stated, however, this analyis, "does he like me?" is best dealt with on a case-by-case basis. I would encourage you to comment with your thoughts, and share your story! If you are wondering about your own situation, this is where the fun of the analysis begins!

How to know if he likes you

2011-01-24T22:17:00.001-08:00

One of the most common questions that gets asked by girls is, by far, "how do I tell if he likes me?" Now to begin with, i will say, there is a difference between telling if he likes you and knowing if he likes you. To know, you have to get an honest answer, and you can't be sure he will give you one. Why? Because is dishonest? No, there might be several reasons, maybe he is in front of ALL his tough football teammates and dosen't wanna look like Romeo, maybe he's had a REALLY rough day and is not feeling romantic at all. So that answer you get when you finally work up the nerve to ask him might not represent the truth. That does not mean, however, you should not ask him! It means that you should analyze the situation to gather clues about whether or not he does. All guys, with some rare exceptions, drop clues, and it is your job to analyze them. Remember, there are several classes in which girls fit into in a guys life. You must first determine into which class you fit. The classes are, in order of importance: (1) disliked- guys RARELY hate, so most often, if he treats you with disdain he dislikes you. Again, there are exceptions. (2) generalized- you're pretty much just anoher girl to him. That doesn't mean you will never have a chance with him. It just means as of right now he doesn't feel anything noteworthy about you. (2) minor acquaintance- you just met, maybe he would like to get to know you better, maybe he just wants to be your friend (3) friend- a good relationship. Let's go shoot hoops at the park, and talk about school. (4) close friend- now i can unload some of the junk and issues of my life since I can trust you (5) crush- that girl is really cute and a GREAT soprano in the school choir...wouldn't mind getting to know her...And so forth on to love. How do find out into which class you fit? Read my next post entitled "which class am I in?"

2011-01-24T22:16:00.001-08:00

Welcome!

2011-01-24T11:02:00.001-08:00

All right everybody! This is my new blog, GotAQuestion-Your Relationship IV. This blog's purpose, as the name states, is to help people out with their relationship issues. Life can throw some serious fastballs, especially in the realm of interpersonal relationships. And sometimes people need a place where they can come to get help! So here it is, feel free to ask questions about anything that's going on in your life in the realm of family life, dating, whatever! Im getting this site up and running for that