TALES OF HIS GRACE

Huniachi Lyrics - Son by: Reuben Kigame | Sifa Voices | Gloria Muliro

2017-11-10T20:53:00.000+03:00

Umeahidi wewe Bwana huniachi

Hadi mwisho wa dahari ulisema huniachi

Wewe ni Mungu uliye mwaminifu siku zote

Mimi ninaiweka imani yangu kwako Bwana

Nipitiapo maji mengi au moto huniachi

Unalijua jina langu ewe Bwana huniachi

Unatengeneza njia hata mito kule njangwani

Wewe ndiye Alfa na Omega Huniachi

Umeahidi wewe Bwana Huniachi

Hadi mwisho wa dahari ulisema huniachi

Wewe ni Mungu uliyemwaminifu siku zote

Mimi ninaiweka imani yangu kwako Baba

Uliwalinda Waisiraeli kule njangwani

Ukamtoa Danieli tundu la simba

Wewe huwainua na wanyonge siku zote

Watuepusha na hatari kila siku usifiwe

Umeahidi wewe Bwana Huniachi

Hadi mwisho wa dahari ulisema huniachi

Wewe ni Mungu uliyemwaminifu siku zote

Mimi ninaiweka imani yangu kwako Baba

Baba hata mama wanaweza kunikana

Marafiki nao wanawezanigeuka

Mara kwa Mara maadui wanizunguka

Nitaishi kwa ahadi yako Bwana Huniachi (Huniachi)

Umeahidi wewe Bwana Huniachi

Hadi mwisho wa dahari ulisema huniachi

Wewe ni Mungu uliyemwaminifu siku zote

Mimi ninaiweka imani yangu kwako Baba

Umeahidi wewe Bwana Huniachi

Hadi mwisho wa dahari ulisema huniachi

Wewe ni Mungu uliyemwaminifu siku zote

Mimi ninaiweka imani yangu kwako Baba

Umeahidi wewe Bwana Huniachi

Hadi mwisho wa dahari ulisema huniachi

Wewe ni Mungu uliyemwaminifu siku zote

Mimi ninaiweka imani yangu kwako Baba

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I can't seem to get enough of this song.

It is deep.

It is a masterpiece.

It is refreshing.

I know it will bless you!

Bitter Opinions

2016-03-09T14:15:00.000+03:00

You cannot form the basis of your decisions and life directions on the premise of bitter opinions of either yourself or of others and expect not to have s bitter bumpy ride all the way to the finishing line of your life.

Equally, you cannot form a life opinion on the premise of a resigned to status quo position. Past is not Present.

People are hurting. It's a portion of our lives. We are shaped and pruned with edges of both sharp and brunt encounters. But we can't resign to perpetual hurt nor should we build a bitter hut on the place of our hurt and make tunes and rants about it for the rest of our canal days.

Life offers a highway of lessons and some station-garage moments. Take time to be worked on for the time you've spent working on. Some people opt to keep on the highway all the way and all they do is sing along tunes of blame game. I was hit. I was hurt.

Take your time in the station. Refuel. Rejuvenate. Get greased. Focus. Repair (re-purpose). Move. Onward.

The Copy & Paste Generation

2016-01-19T16:50:00.000+03:00

Sooner rather than later, we'll have to face the fact that we have become a copy and paste generation. We are having fewer and fewer original thoughts flowing into these spheres. We share, retweet, like and favorite other people's thoughts and opinions. We ride on ‪#‎HashTags‬ and comment on people's original thoughts. The fact that we opt to copy and paste to pass instead of understand and thus discuss and articulate issues with all this beauty that is our brains is appalling. The Whatsapp Generation that uses technology to seek for a pass.

Good information should be shared. It is good to pass great information forward. The question is, how often I'm I churning out original thoughts? I'm I just a pipeline that passes content onward but remain static and solid in one place?

Work up your mind. That's why you have it. Be original. You are not a photocopy. Pass on awesome information. Share what you are passionate about. But be a pro-creator too. Impact this generation with your originality. Bring out your creativity, your personality, your ability. Show us what you are made of. Start somewhere. Sharpen yourself day by day. Get better and better.

People start from somewhere. Start now. Show your identity. Learn from others but do not hide in someone's shadow. Don't be content with others content. Build the entity that is you. Unique. You. Have your shadow. Do not be someone else's shadow. Come out into the light!

I call you!

We Want All Things Good, Right?

2015-11-06T17:43:00.002+03:00

This morning, I was reading this chapter in Matthew where John, who was at the time in prison, sends his disciples to Christ to confirm if he was the one of whom he was a forerunner. And so John disciples come to Jesus on a fact finding mission.

My eyes starts getting watery as I read Jesus' response to them which reads;

“Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight and the lame walk, lepers a are cleansed and the deaf hear, and the dead are raised up, and the poor have good news preached to them. And blessed is the one who is not offended by me.”

I realize I am putting myself in John's shoes, he who was not worthy even to tie the races of my saviour, and asking myself,

What about me?
"What about me? My Lord, you are doing all these signs and wonders. What about me? I am your forerunner. I gave it all up to dwell in the desert wearing camel skin, insects my food. What about me who is now in prison? How about a get me out of prison kind of miracle like you'll do to Peter and even the twelve in the days after Pentecost?"

My Lord, I pray that I that you will not be offended by me.

My yoke is not your yoke.
See, so many times, we pray that we may be blessed like so and so, their yoke excluded. See, his yoke is easy, but his yoke for you is not His yoke for me... (oh this revelation must be for another day) as my blessing is not your measure, even so from our father who art in heaven.

A read on. And thee words that that Jesus said of John the Baptist, him who was still in prison was worth more than a thousand years in prison.

Jesus said, “What did you go out into the wilderness to see? A reed shaken by the wind? What then did you go out to see? A man b dressed in soft clothing? Behold, those who wear soft clothing are in kings’ houses. What then did you go out to see? A prophet? Yes, I tell you, and more than a prophet. This is he of whom it is written, “‘Behold, I send my messenger before your face, who will prepare your way before you.’ Truly, I say to you, among those born of women there has arisen no one greater than John the Baptist. Yet the one who is least in the kingdom of heaven is greater than he. From the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven has suffered violence, and the violent take it by force.

Oh how sweet those words must have been refreshing to John. It has not been in vain. The wilderness was not in vain. The prison was not in vain. The ministry was not in vain. The breath of his days, the effort all the way...... all well counted by the Great Rewerder of those who diligently seek him.

Unanswered Prayer?
Does it not feel like our prayers are not being answered? Have we prayed right? Are wee seeking exemption from hard learning times? Are we seeking to be taken away from where we need to be that we may represent our God?

One of the most amazing things about the Man of God Paul is that in his many letters, not even once does he beg that the church prays for him to be taken out of prison. He takes it in stride. He rejoices even in afflictions He counts it all joy. God's Grace being sufficient for him at that time of need.

What of being sure?
Amazingly, John The Baptist was not even sure whether Jesus was the Christ or not. He had to send his disciples to confirm. And we find ourselves here so many times!

We always want to be sure. Right? We want to know everything before we make a move. But that is not faith. If we have faith, we do what our Lord says. We go ahead and offer our bodies as a living sacrifice, we deniy of ourselves the pleasures that are of this world. Because even though we do not know when our repayment will happen, we know that our God is a Rewarder.

Abraham left his father's land and followed God's instructions. Today, we call him the father of Faith.

God will speak about you. What will he have to say? You believed in your doubts or in Him?

As for me, I will sing He Leadeth Me and follow Him all the way, for He is my Way.

My Prayer
Lord Jesus,
Teach me, to count it all joy. Teach me godliness and contentment, for this is a great gain to me (1 Timothy 6:6) Teach me to serve you from where I am. Mold me day by day to represent you here on earth as it is your will in heaven. Amen.

I Show Up

2015-08-25T16:44:00.000+03:00

I show up.

Broken, I still show up.
When days are bright, I show up.
When days are gloomy and dark, I show up.
I be in time, on time or after time, I show up.
Tired or not, I show up.

I clear my thought and humbly come forward to offer what I know, my best.

I have in my own small way tasted the joy of doing the right thing, it greatly exceeds the game of missing in action.

I have taught myself to show up and be the best.

Sometimes I may push myself there, and sometimes but for the soft encouraging voice of the beautiful who stands by me, she gives me reasons that no one else would, her smiles that fuels me on, her strength that challenges me, her presence that serves to remind me that we are a cord of three strands.

She shows up for me and with me.

I show up and do my due.
I show up and pour out myself.
I show up and let my best hit the road.
I show up and put forward a game of impact.
I show up and rise to the occasion.

I show up and before dusk, something happens right, someone gets sorted, someone smiles, someone knows, someone feels, someone understands.

I show up, teach and learn. I show up and build on the past in this present time.

I show up and make this present moment count.
I show up and ensure that the future will be worth it.
I show up and step into the future, one step at a time.

And when the dust of the day settles before dusk and I am home, where I belong, we hug, hold and give thanks to God for always showing up with us.

The Shape of an Experience

2015-08-14T17:50:00.000+03:00

That impression you get of a person when they cross your line in bad taste may end up being the only scenario that plays in your mind every time you see or it gets to your mind to have them be subject of a thought moment for the rest of your days.

And you think of how...

He never gave me a moment to hear me out.

He treated us like thieves, shouted at us and told us off.

I was in need, how comes they could not see it?

Vulnerable as I was, she did not believe me.

He took me there knowing very well that I would be beaten.

We had nothing to do with it but she still punished us.

I was an obedient boy but he still judged me otherwise.

My intentions and purpose were right, he just was blinded to see it.

He made the same mistake too many times! He hurt me.

I could remember numerous times when individuals who knowingly or without prejudice would or even did leave a scar in my heart along the way.

In life, every one person is going through something, whether they know it or not. At times, and maybe all the time, our experiences shapes us to be who we are. Experiences sets up to end up looking at things differently. To act and react like we do.

We face extreme situations. We go through something we have never gone through before. We are stretched beyond what we thought our limits were. We give our all until there is nothing to give but we days still dawns, the future becomes the next second and still we breath and live.

Every new day, we are becoming the total sum of the experiences we are going through. We are labeled to the tune of our experiences. The Bible is full of names of people and places that were named out of experiences.

It may take time but you look back and realize you are a shadow of the shape you once were. Life has happened. With it all came new experiences and you got shaped and sharpened in ways that words won't paint it all.

Through our experiences,

We are made stronger at our time of weaknesses, that we may face the future bold and better.
We are left void and vulnerable that we may learn to rely on God even when the way is not clear.
We are sharpened to be tools of hope for those that will come after us, those who look up to us for an answer that speaks life to the sojourner.

You are becoming someone day after day. Take control of your life. Experience what you need to experience but remember you are in charge of the sails, even though the wind may brow as it may.

I have had moments of tears, of pain and of joy.
I have had hopeful moments and moments of misty hope.
I have gone through all that has been my lot this far.
But I could not have learnt,
I could not have made it,
Had I been alone in a life I have never leaved before.
Every second that passes by, Every breath,
God.

You are the pilot. It is a God given mandate. To take Charge. To shape your life. To be the best you.

You are not planted, just waiting for whatever wind hits you that you may fall away. You are that you be better.

Go for experiences that add value to who you are, and who you become. God is watching to see you shine from the rubble of your experiences to a greater person worthy of His calling.

That when the equation of the experiences you have gone through cancel each other, you will be left a better you.

The people living in darkness have seen a great light, and for those living in the land and shadow of death, a light has risen. Mathew 4:16

Teach Me To Trust You

2015-03-10T16:27:00.000+03:00

As the date approached, I found myself really trying to think about a plan B. I needed things to work out. I needed everything to be perfect. I needed to make the day a success. I wanted to feel assured. I wanted to know that all will be well. I wanted so many things.... Oh how I would whisper them to God as I went on with my daily activities!

I would ask God questions as I searched to get confirmation for my heart. I was nervous and bold at the same time. I was sure and confused. I was in a state of expectation an hope, against hope.

Then He moved me away from the noise of the confusion and expectations. He brought me to tranquil peace. He ministered peace to my heart. He told me to listed.

"Son, Trust me." He said.

I struggled with that voice. How do I trust you my God?

In a time of nothingness and much expectations, I must have felt like the servant of Elijah, who left the prophet on his knees and to go look for the sign of a cloud.... and seven times he came back with the answer:

and I quote: “There is nothing there,” he said.

and seven times, Elijah told the servant, “Go back.”

How I covert the trust this man of God had in God. He was assured that God would never fail him.

He trusted God. He knew God will always Keep his word. He knew god would never disappoint at His appointed time. He is the God who answers!

Unlike Elijah, I needed to lean how to trust God. The journey was long, We had covered long miles. And maybe I was growing weary...

So I told God,

'Teach me to trust you.' I mumbled this prayer so many a times whenever I found myself sandwiched between hope and circumstances.

I trusted God, He gave me peace for my anxieties, Joy instead of worries, and a blessed assurance that everything will work out together for good.

The date came and passed and God surpassed my expectations.

He has filled my heart with gladness, For I have chosen to trust in Him.

Meant To be

2014-10-23T19:27:00.001+03:00

What is meant to be in my life?

What is really meant to be?

Like if we could zoom in to your very life,
can we place you on the dissecting table
(not to tear you apart) and really analyze your life.

Where, to whom, when and how you were born.
The path you have taken through life to today.
The journey that will be into the future.

What is meant to be?

I was watching The Book Of Acts - The Visual Bible as I read through my Bible (It is awesome. You got to watch it) and I stumbled on this verse that quotes Apostle Paul saying.

He made from one man every nation of mankind to live on all the face of the earth, having determined their appointed times and the boundaries of their habitation, Acts 17:26

Two things I picked from this verse:

God determined the appointed time that every one of us would walk the face of the earth. I am alive at such a time like this because I have something to impact in this generation for the glory of God! God had everything ready and set for you to come into the face of the earth, where, when, how and to whom you were born. You were born right on the right time.
He set the boundaries of our habitation i.e. I am Kenyan and Kenya has its boundaries. I was not born a Kenyan by mistake. God Ordained it to be so.God knows where you are. He can touch your life with pin-point accuracy even with his eyes closed, but for the fact that he neither sleeps nor slumber. (Ps 121:3,4)

Dear God,

I am where I am by your ordained purpose. Teach me not to complain. Teach me to embrace the purpose for which you have placed me in this specific place at such a point in time like this. That the words of my tongue and my actions will bring glory to your name. I am grateful that I am not aloe through life. You have spoken to never leave me nor forsake me. May I be faithful to you, who is faithful to the end. That when it all done, I will have lived my life to the fullest, impacted my generation to the glory of God, in whom I breath and have life. In Christ, my Rock and my Salvation I pray. Amen.

Beautiful Things Happens..

2014-10-22T17:59:00.000+03:00

When we say,

"Yes Lord. Away with my way. Let's do it your way."

Beautiful things happen when we wait. Not being idle with nothing.
Rather walking through life in the steps of our maker.
One of those things God has caused me to pray every so often is that I may be right where He want me to be. Sometimes where He want me to be has no glory or the funfair that I expect but I stay on. He keeps me company. Sometimes in lonely places even though I am not lonely. We chat with Him and I am like, of all the places? Of all the ways? Why this way? Because I know you my son. Because I have the best of your interest at heart. Because I have vowed never to leave you nor forsake you my son.
Stay with me. Let me be with you. No-one has been my friend who has been ashamed.
And in my story of many doubts,
yet I keep on and from the dry rocks, oozes fresh water. From the dry stumps a new shoot comes up with hope. From the dry and burren land, He makes showers of blessings, seeds sprout. He blesses. He makes beautiful things happen.
I covenanted with Him that I would keep with Him to the end.
I did not know the story that would turn out to be.
Yet he knew that things would work out this way
No wonder He would whisper into my ears, 'Son, you will not miss your calling.'

I know beautiful things happen to those who stay the course to the end.

Memories of moments on bended knees
When I had questions with no answers
When I had hopes as I waited for substance,

When I knew what had been, what was, and nothing of what was to come.
He said I could trusted Him.
If only I could listen to His voice.
I could walk even with my eyes closed and not fall.
I believed Him.
See. He has made things beautiful.

He has taught me to be patient.
He has taught me to trust in His timing. He is the author of time.
I am still learning.
I am still a work in progress.
But one thing I have kept in mind: He has made everything beautiful in its time.

Who Easily Loves..

2014-10-04T13:16:00.001+03:00

Is love holding hands and jumping off the cliff trusting that each of you will grow a wing and you two will fly away into the life of your dreams together? I am not a believer of fairly tails... but I believe in love.

Our hearts have different tenacities. Some love more easily than others. We have different capabilities and thus these capabilities somehow works towards how fast we commit to love someone, or even something.

For someone who is talkative enabled, getting to know someone fast and thus get to like or even love may not take ages.

On the other hand, for quiet and reserved persona, it takes time and energy to get to know or be known by someone to a point of giving anything a name.

I see people fall in love easily, so fast so magical. I am not in any way judging that love should take a specified time to blossom. Everyone has their love story. Every seed has the time it takes to germinate.

I love so easily.
You meet this person in a bus, on the streets, at a restaurant, in church and and wherever it is that you frequent and your hearts goes ding..ding...ding... and your mind heywire with all the adjectives you can get to describe a stranger you just saw adorned with some cute hair or something that you like.... You don't even know them, this could even be a serial killer!

You have a bag of rejected proposal from the neighbours daughter to your junior school classmate to the choir girl and the cute-eyed coworkers....

You look back and you're amazed by a dozen persons whom you did love. It just never worked out.

Time out.
One of the best things you can do for yourself when it comes to love and relationships, when one or a series have not worked out is to take an off out of it. Stand on your own two feet and feel; I am good being me and as is. Make sure you are whole without having to need anyone (other than Christ) to be whole. Complete. You. One whole you and at peace about it.

Don't beat yourself.
The only one thing you are absolutely sure is that you only have you on your side at any one given time. Don't call yourself names. You are worth more than the story of your past, worth more than what the future expects. Be glad of who you are. Laugh at what life has been. Don't hold your breath. Look ahead with hope, joy and optimism.

Pray your part.
It is very easy to be consumed by love or even the adventure of seeking love that you forget to have a conversation with God about it. More than what you know, God knows you and what you need. Pray that He will direct you. Let His word be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path. Pray that you do not fall into temptations (There is a verse in the Bible that says so. Look for it.) Share with God small things that happen in life with gratitude and in search of guidance.

God will make a way for you.

Dear God,
I realize that at times I love at the speed of lightening. I end up loving people who do not love you in a way that will rectangle me to be unequally yoked. Guide me in this journey as I seek to get a lifetime partner. I know it us the joy if a father to see re child get the best. You are my father. I trust your direction. Help me to be ready that I will be the best for the love of my life. In Christ Jesus I pray. Amen.

Thank you.

Ps:
I thank God for my Precious Love, Liz.

Do Not Trust That Man

2014-07-09T18:26:00.000+03:00

Every lady want to loved by a man beyond her father or brother (Okay, some have chosen to be nuns).

Every woman want to be special to the man of her dreams when she finds or discovers him (let me know if you have a different opinion)

Sometimes the desire to be loved and accepted by a potential Mr. Right (gone wrong) can result to trusting a rogue in the days of its calmness be it faked or seasonal.

Trust is a word that gets thrown here and there in the circles of relationships. The question is not what trust is, there are sufficient definitions to prevent me from trying to make another define, the question is what are the tell-tell signs of a man you should not trust?

1. The man of many stories.

He will try to convince you with so many stories and explanations of why, what and whatever that you end up being confused or having red frags flying all over his connecting stories. He has half backed stories that do not add up. He has a sweet tongue. He will entangle you with so many ropes that before you know it, you will be in the deep and dark looking for a way out.
If a man is not clear on what he does, who he is, who are his friends, what he really likes, and such, watch out. If he vanishes and then resurfaces with a cat-and-mouse story, do not trust him. He is the kind that bites soothingly. His is a dark heart and he can not be trusted.
And for those of you who think that this man is not found at the places of worship (wacha niseme church), You are wrong. I have been around the church, approaching three decades, born of a man of the clothe, the best guess is that the third place I visited was the church (ask me the other two and I will tell you, that is if you do not know and you wanna know). So, I have seen quite a lot. The church is where saints and sinners meet as the Lord works on all of them to live the best of their life here ob earth and the rest in heaven for those who walk the Living Word. It goes without saying that there are men at church who are still a real WIP (Work In Progress - One of CPA Tutors used to call this Wairimu In Prison - It is his joke, I should not steal it)
Before I make this a church issue, I must say that I care for Christ-Loving Ladies and so I had to put that point across. That if you meet a man of many stories (if his career is story telling, he is not in this category) tell him to go tell his stories to the trees.

2. The man who takes you for a bank.

Who has no shame taking a pizza you have bought and then even goes ahead to ask you for a loan which he promises to repay next week. This man will even lend in your name. He will use your good name to get some bucks. It should be hard for a man to borrow money from a lady, and if he borrows once, it is inevitably so.If a man comes for a second helping of the bucks in your bag or bank, he is stinking and smeared with the don't-trust-me stuff! Be emphatic. Say no and say never (to both of his advances).
If there be a man out there who has your money, and you are not a Shylock or a credit organization, if you there be anything to call a love relationship between you and him, if you are not absolutely sure that the money you gave to them is for which purpose, if the money is not in an income generating venture of which the profits are being used for a good course, like repaying the money he owes you, then be worried. Unless you gave him the money as a way of giving back to the society, a man should not eat and drink from your sources, gain more weight and still come back to you. He is the kind that should not be trusted.
If he is addicted to anything liquid or solid, you needed to have closed his bank account at you yesterday.

You are not playing games with you life, nor with your heart. You do not trust people who are not faithful, first of themselves, and then with money. (Okay, maybe that is my rule)

PS: I know you are born again. I am too (If you are not born again, confess Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior right now!) I know you think he can change and that is good. However, please allow God to work on him until he is in a state worthy to be trusted. Men do not change men, the Maker of men change them.

9th Floor: Why Would I Not Jump?

2014-06-04T16:58:00.000+03:00

I arrived on time for the evening meeting. Only to learn that I was an hour earlier for the meeting. Next thing to do was to wait. I stood beside the window. An awesome view it is. I'd have stood there longer were it not for the cold evening breeze hitting my face and seeking to invite a cold on me and then looking down through the window, my questioning mind threw one at me. Why would you not jump?

Holy Family Basilica and Times Tower in view from the window, 9th floor of Cardinal Otunga Plaza, Nairob.

Me? Jump out of the window? No. My feet grows feeble at that thought and I take a few steps backwards away from the window. Why would I? Why do people jump out of buildings?

Being on edge. Being at the end of it in a big way that you let go. You fall off. All the way to a deep end. I would never belittle the things people have to go through. Life is not easy. We are continuously bombarded by issues from every side in every second of every minute of every hour of.... of our lives.

I have been there. Not alone. Not lonely. I have been there with the companionship of a still small voice. The voice that speaks to me as a son. The voice that encourages me on. The voice of my father.
Son, you are not alone. The battle belongs to me. In a short while it will be over. Don't give up, give me your hand.

There is always something beautiful that you and I are yet to see into the future. We should never deny ourselves the opportunity to experience that beauty.

When you get to the end, don't end, don't be the end. Be the person who went beyond end and discovered the beauty beyond the challenge, beyond the shadow, beyond the obstacle, beyond the end.

9 Wrong Reasons For Getting Into A relationship.

2014-03-14T18:02:00.000+03:00

Let's hit the road on this.

I arrived home, there was no power, I took my phone and came up with a list of wrong reasons why people get into relationships. Why? Because it is ever happening.

1. For Self or Someone's Consolation.

Because they just broke up from a relationship and you want to console them by being the fall-back plan. This may not be consciously but believe you me many have found themselves being just shoulders to lean on and when the hurt subsides, the person rises from the mist that you called relationship and you are left hurting. Best thing is to tell your heart to stop at that junction until the way is clear and you are sure the person is ready to move on and to move on with you.

2. You have feelings for them.

Feelings are good. We all have them (unless you are not one of all of us). We have felt them so many times from the time we started being sane of whom we are. Take time to watch your feelings from a distance, like a hawk. Gather facts about the genuineness of your feelings. We do not get into relationships with just our feelings; we get in with the fullness of who we are; our critical minds and touchy hearts and yes, the feely fresh.

3. To keep up with the crowd

Your friends and age mates are in relationships or they are getting married. And you are still here walking the streets alone. You will want to keep up. You will want to be relevant. You will want not to be the odd one out. You will want to rush but not to a relationship. Get there at your own time; when your mind, your heart, your spirit and your body are ready. I do not mean to say that you will not experience some uncertainty (which is always healthy to keep you from being overconfident that can lead you to hot-air-balloon-ships) what am saying is if you are in it to keep at par, you are doing it the wrong way. Be in it because it is your (most importantly) self made decision.

4. To spite someone

It happens. You have tried to get this guy or girl into the net and they have always slithered past or you just broke up with someone and you want them to feel a kiwaru on your account. It is stupid to do so. This is because it will lead you nowhere. I will not tell you to get a life (because that will hurt) but don’t get into a relationship to spite because that is like rattling a snake, you are the one who get bitten.

5. For sex

Truth is the pressure to have sex real. You may want to dive into the relationship waters with the intention of being served a ride to your pleasure. I do not advocate for sex before marriage. I subscribe to Jesus Christ, a believer in the Bible. That said, believer or unbeliever, sex is before marriage (fornication) is a real temptation. Never get into a relationship for sex. Sex is sacred and for the marriage bed.

6. For cover-up or satisfy demands from others

Family and friends can push you into a corner especially when your days are advancing. How do you explain to your family that you should be allowed to come home for charismas alone while or your other siblings have families and little kids they bring home for your parents to bless? How? They may mention it, they may not, but the pressure and the heat can have you sweating all the way into a cover-up-relationship just to silence the laud untie or even give hope to the prayerful mother. It takes courage to walk you path (the road less travelled – call it the road singly travelled coz it is your life) until when things take shape for others to see. You can not be a people pleaser – that is not who you are created to be. Take your time. Be on your time.

7. To avoid loneliness and boredom

Be comfortable with yourself. If you cannot enjoy your company in the first place, you are better off with no one. Read: When I'm With Myself blog post for more insights on this.

8. To have a story to tell

You may want to have a story to tell to your band of boys or girlfriends but don’t try get into the juice of storyteller at the expense of your future happiness. I know you have ever heard of peer pressure, It pressures people into unplanned places. Stand your ground until you are ready. There is no better story than the one you will tell when you have been patient – ask me, I know.

9. The age scarecrow

Time flies. We got things to do and before you know it, you are still one digit as others couple. Age is just a number that can pressure. Know your times. Live your times. Take right strides, at your own pace.

There may be other wrong reasons to get into a relationship. I hope these reasons helped you look into your life to help you fine-tune the areas in your life that may need pruning or at least equip you with wisdom for facing relationships life.

Thank you for the read. Feel free to share.

Pure Lives (2006)

2014-02-01T09:15:00.000+03:00

I stumbled on this article which I had written in 2006. I was amazed at what I had to write at such a time. Have a read:

When faced by a crisis, the only one to turn to is God. To be frank, it is only god who has the mercies to keep us floating in time of crisis.

Many young people are faced by a life crisis. To them, the borderline between wrong and right is not very clear. Sometimes they find themselves engaging in controversial actions; the mode of dressing, drinking, language, relationships and all. This has made many young people to even doubt the purity of the life they live. They find their outer self trying to verbally justify itself whilst in their inner self, they are not convinced that their life is full in Christ Jesus. They doubt themselves and what? Whoever doubts is like a wave in the sea that is driven and brown out by the wind.

Where there is doubt, fear prevails. The fear of uncertainties to come due to decisions made out of un-made-up minds. Remember that it is fear that will make you not to grip the gift of the Holy Spirit who gives us power, love and self control.

People and especially young people need to make up their minds and strike a clear decision in all they do. Obeying God’s commands is not something for joy riders. It requires a fully made up mind and a heart that is fully stretched to receive God’s commands and strive to abide by them. This more than ever needs a prayerful youth. It is by prayer that the law of the lord will get a sanctified sanctuary to abide in. the law of the Lord will act like a mirror which will help us flush sins out of our lives and hence enable us to live pure lives.

In your prayer and meditation, understand that it is only the Lords can lead you to learning his ways. Acknowledge him with praises, for what are all living creatures supposed to do? Praise the Lord!

Make it a lifestyle to delight in following God’s commands. Many young people try to put all their energies and thoughts about future prosperities. Many work hard to earn a living and a saving for tomorrow. All this is not wrong. However, if not checked, it chocks our gracious gift of salvation. The worries and hurries of life will make you to forget even to pray only to find yourself depending on Sunday service prayers. Strike a definite deal with your God. You need him more that you can even imagine. Yes. Even to give you the energy to work harder. So? Cast your burdens unto Jesus. He cares for you. Remember that everything will soon come to an end, so be serious and sensible enough to pray.

As many young people are studying or even reading for pleasure, God also needs you to get this; you need as well to study his instruction and examine his teachings. You need to read the Bible. The holy scriptures are able to make you wise enough to have faith in Jesus Christ and be saved. Everything is the scripture is God’s word. All of it is useful for teaching and helping people and for correcting them and showing them how to live. The Holy Scriptures will train you to be God’s servant, endowed with all kind of Good deeds.

The Bible contains un-aging wisdom- a pillar of s full life. Chose wisdom from above, for it is pure; chose you today.

So, That is how I was thinking in 2006!

Father The Boy

2013-12-13T22:28:00.001+03:00

There is a space in every son's heart for which a father is supposed to fill. A space that the father need to be very ready to occupy or else he will never be able to connect with the son. A son longs for his father's affection. He searches for that one person who will father him. Truth be told, there is an abundance of mothers, but fathers, well, you tell me.

I always feel at loss when a boy opens up his heart to me. One of my first questions how is your dad? Have you shared this with your dad? What! Never. He would kill me. I always sympathize with the boy. I wish the father could come down enough and hear out the son, understand the son and walk with the boy through the trials of his times.

A son may roam but he need to have a father to come back to, a man to look up to, to walk with, talk with and to be with as he learns how to make his maiden steps into manhood. The mother is there when the baby boy is born and even when he makes his maiden steps, mum encourages the boy on and that's how we end up knowing how to walk and even bolt. Is there a father when the boy is making his maiden and shaky steps into manhood? Where is the father when the boy is in need of encouragement and direction?

Do we have a voice that connects with the tenderness of a boy's heart or is what we have a voice that roars and the boy hides never to come out in the presence of the man who bears the name of hero he should look up to? When a father allows the son to make mistakes in his presence that he may teach the to try again and again without giving up on him.

Fathers have an example in our Father in heaven, that they can be the best they can be. For this generation need a foundation of father-ship.

#FatherToBe

It Takes A Man

2013-11-30T13:38:00.000+03:00

For a boy to be a man, he need the presence of another man in his life. Problem is that many boys are growing in the company of their mothers and sisters. There is a scarcity of men in the life of today's boy. As a mother, you can give birth to a boy, you can suckle him, you can feed him, take him to school but you are not equipped to make a man out of that boy. It takes a man to make a man.

You are a single mum or married to a 'busy' husband; that is not where I am at, what I need you to know is that that boy need a man in his life. I do not mean to say you get into a relationship for the sake of your boy or you ditch your 'busy' husband for another 'worthy man - NOT AT ALL. Have you ever told a man, be it a church or wherever good place (e.g. family and relatives) to just talk to your boy? My experience is that most women do this when the boy has turned rogue. That is when they realize 'This human being I delivered need a man talk and I am not in a position to deliver it.'

Ever read rich dad poor dad?(Its a good book - That's not an endorsement) In all that that book had to teach me, one of the most invaluable lessons I learnt was the wealth that a boy gains when he 'falls' into the hands of a real man. In whose hands is this boy? Other kids? His school mates and team mates? Please, that boy need a company of men. He need to relate what where and what he is to be, a man. So you need to ask yourself whether in the midst of all personalities that inhibit the presence, life and time of that boy that you so love, does my boy interact with a man of substance. (Can I say clearly that I am not saying you need to fall in love with this man?)

When a boy gets a chance to be heard by men (Be it he is a stammerer or just says one sentence in their midst the whole time) it changes him, it plants a seed of manhood in him, he gets to be directed, to be trained, he gets an opportunity to see what he aught to be. He gains a determined heart. He acquires a desire to be a man. He starts the journey to realize his masculinity, to be a gentleman (men can't live an emotional life - a lady can and does, that's a beautiful life for her - train a man to be emotional and he becomes a wretch)

I have felt the need to say that and I believe it is for posterity. Thank you and God Bless You.

GAINING THE VALUE OF THE GOSPEL

2013-10-12T12:55:00.000+03:00

For we also have had the gospel preached to us, just as they did; but the message they heard was of no value to them, because those who heard did not combine it with faith. ~ Heb 4:2 ~

Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ. ~ Rom 10:17 ~

I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes …. Rom 1:16

GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

I'm Waiting

2013-09-18T14:37:00.002+03:00

I'm waiting

I'm waiting on You, Lord
And I am hopeful
I'm waiting on You, Lord
Though it is painful
But patiently, I will wait

I will move ahead, bold and confident
Takeing every step in obedience
While I'm waiting
I will serve You
While I'm waiting
I will worship
While I'm waiting
I will not faint
I'll be running the race
Even while I wait

I'm waiting
I'm waiting on You, Lord
And I am peaceful
I'm waiting on You, Lord
Though it's not easy
But faithfully, I will wait
Yes, I will wait
I will serve You while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting
I will serve You while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting
I will serve you while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting on You, Lord

When I'm With Myself

2013-08-11T16:04:00.000+03:00

Who am I?

If I by any chance happen not to know myself, I will never ever be of any value to anyone in the long term. Yeah, you get to be of assistance in the short term. You get to be like a vegetable - perishable. You get to be like a machine - depreciating and getting obsolete.

You got to know who you are because if you don't know how precious you are, you will get to be treated like trash and not the precious jewel that you are. You got to know your golden value because only then shall you be able to turn away any Dick and Harry who comes to you with some trial and error motive.

Where am I going?

If you are on the way to nowhere, either you will forever be where you are or you will get anywhere that is nowhere, fast.

Is there a path that is definite that you have taken? Do you know where you are going? What is at the end of the road that you have taken?

What is this path called? What is the name of the place it ends? Who are the sojourners along this path? Am I a bird of their feather?

Date yourself!

Ha! Yeah. I mean it. Get to know yourself. Get to know who you really are. What is your mandate? what is your purpose? what are the timelines of your mandate? when does it expire? Who are you and if you are not a who, what are you? :-)

If you do not understand yourself, you will never be in a position to understand anyone else. The Bible says love others, as you love yourself. Before you try love someone else, you got to have loved yourself. So date yourself first. What are your interests? What are your priorities? What are your like? How is it to be you with you? Are you happy when alone?

Are you lonely alone or do you enjoy your self companionship? Do you enjoy being yourself when you are with yourself?

If you seek to be happy, contented, joyful, peaceful and all, by seeking it from other people by being with other people, then you are seeking it all the wrong way!

Seek to be comfortable when you are with yourself and it is gonna be well when with others.

Running on Empty

2013-08-02T17:50:00.000+03:00

On The Accelerator

That time when you get to put your struggle to test!

The foot is hard on the accelerator but no trees are speeding past. All is well but the tank is empty. Good thing is, when its a vehicle, you can have it towed to the nearest petrol station, or if you are the cautious type, you have some can packed in the boot. What then happens when you heart is running on empty? When you push one more time and you still go no inch ahead?

Wish. Wish. No. Horse.

That moment you wish the ride was downhill and you could release the pressure on the breaks and really slide down all the way. Bad thing is, we are ever mounting uphill. We get dry just before that last step. Times are hardest just when you got to make that one round. When that speed is needed most, it is when it is hardest to speed up.

Push!

You get out. Step on the earth. The Dust. The mud. The dew. The all that is not yet all. You get to push. Pull all your effort together and push and befor you can breath in, before you can relax, before the push is countered by a rear slide, you push, push, push and push .....Push Until Something Happens. You give it all your best and yet it looks like it ain't going nowhere. What happens by a light push with the right foot now takes all your flesh to make it happen! what you do alone now require a band of buddies to lend a hand.

Some hoot behind you, get going or give way! Others just spend past you with the air of their motion pushing you off balance. Some stand by to watch you as you put the size of your struggle to test.

Used to a kilometer at a time, an inch at a time is just too much. When patience is tested beyond the boiling point. The energy is utilized beyond the point breaking point. When the journey covered is the longest, the remaining portion is so short yet so long.

Learn The Lessons

It is in moments like this that we get better. Where we are sharpened, and perfected. Better with every step. You gain understanding with every effort. You become a better you when you get to go through moments like this. You get to understand people better.

It is not all gloomy. When you find yourself running on empty. Remember empty does not run but it surely can walk. Harder but better than not. It is not over. There will be times of refueling, times of refreshing.

The grace is sufficient for and in every time of need.

How to give up.

2013-05-31T18:04:00.000+03:00

You will never be taught how to give up. You will never learn where to give up. You may never know when to give up.

You work with something for years and just when your hope is just about to explode into a world of beautiful flowers, just when you are about to call a celebration time party, the huge balloon of hope gets pricked and it gives up air and you are like, 'do I change my first name to hopelessness?' You don't.

The night is about over when it is darkest. Remember that weeping might last for the night, But joy comes in the morning. When things are thick and you cant do nothing but give up, I would rather you don't just give up, I would rather you be still and know that He is God! Your story ain't over yet.

There will be days of refreshing. Days when the rain will come down, water the fertile soil and the seed will germinate and blossom and be strong to glory in season and out of season. All you need is too keep your hope alive until then. Has God not told you that your hope in Him will not disappoint?

The only way to give up and still give up right is to give up to God. Letting go and letting God. Releasing all your your worries and cares to Him who cares for you. Easy to do, no. Its easier said than done. You got to keep reminding yourself to keep your hands off what you have given up to God. Keep reminding yourself that it is with the good hands of the Lord and it is well.

Listen to this song and let God give you the strength, the wisdom and the grace to live, one day at a time.

Give, Don't Give Up!

2013-05-30T18:52:00.001+03:00

If there be one giving that you should not give, call it 'giving up.'
There will be those moments that you may feel like you are amounting to nothing. like your effort is getting you nowhere, your hope is taking too long to be fruitful. You feel like it has been air punching through and through.
It takes all your reserves and you find yourself with the desire to see results but the energy is no more. Wishes get washed as they come. The strength is drained. How far can I go? The reasons for why this far get hazy. When the reasons to go on are overtaken by the reasons to abort the mission for which you once so believed.
Give but don't give up! Give yourself away to God. He began with you, He will see you to the end.

I will not die but live, and will proclaim what the LORD has done. Psalm 118:17

God has a way for you. He has not given up and so you have no business giving up! Has He not said He will never leave you, never forsake you. The only give you can count on to work is to give yourself up to him who knew you before you were formed in your mother's womb!
You will make it to make another step, to see another day, to see the restoration of your life, family, work and all it is that you may be working towards. May God lead you and be with you.
Do not fear the arrow that fly by day, or the terror of the night. Great is He that is in you than he that is in the world!
You are more than a conquer! A winner in all dimensions. Behold the Lord is with you! Behold the King Kings is on the thrown and He will not let his foot soldier to break down. Behold hosts of angels on your side! The battle is won, and you will be singing a victory song!

Mr or Ms Right for someone else?

2013-05-25T13:14:00.004+03:00

At times it is clearer; if I am married, you have no business falling in love with me. Am taken, am the right person for someone else. That is crystal clear; unless you got married by accident and you are silently hoping for another accident to transpose you to another – let’s talk about that another time.

The murky waters are of the single world; how do you handle someone who loves you when your love is elsewhere? What do you do when Mr or Ms Right for someone else come loving (read knocking) at your door convinced that you are Mr or Ms Right for them?

Wisdom bites for life

You may be living a very wonderful love story, being so sure that this is the story that heaven designed for you and with you in mind in matters love. Then here comes this person who throws a new line into your love ecosystem and the weather of your love world goes from red to green. From red ripe to raw green! Then the wind no longer breeze; it whirls. Tornadoes, hurricanes and tsunamis may lock your world! What do you do?

Maybe the first instinct will be to throw them words so compact and powerful that it places you in the league of boxing champions. And I want to say don’t. Yes. Don’t. Don’t do that. I know you may fear on how negatively it will impact on your current relationship but remember you are not in a boxing match and you are not on your death bed. Avoid being so furious that it disrupts your piece and ends up hurting you. It’s not how vigorous you handle it; it’s how clearly you communicate yourself. That said, there will always be that notorious busy body that is not willing to give up – I could go get a court restraining order for you if you persist. Handle people politely and decisively. When I say what I say, let it be so clear that there will be very little room if any for someone to say ‘I think you did not mean this or that.’

There is an open door just for you.

We all have wondered along this path at one time or another. We wish to have been understood. We wish to never have wondered. We wish to still smile un-painfully when we remember the days of our wondering. You may not have time for that love wanderer but you could have the insight they need to wonder no more. You are not the solution but you may have an idea to what these moments of our lives is all about. We all have that wonderful moment when a stranger was so good to us that we still wish we could meet them again to offer a ‘God bless you, you were there for me at the right moment in the right time.’ Take time and pray for the wanderer to find their way.

Communicate care not confusion. Clarity. Say what you mean. Be plain. Be simple. Show care – care carefully. Care is easily misinterpreted to be a mutuality of love so handle care with care. Care to encourage this someone to go on with life – this space is booked but surely there must be some good space for you right ahead.

Show direction – what you do, say or portray will get them coming or moving on. Time is of essence and you should not allow someone to keep coming when you are sure there is no parking space where you are at. When it comes to true love, there isn’t any sign like ‘Park at your own risk.’

You were taught to be hospitable, to welcome visitors with a cup of tea. Yes, even to entertain strangers. They could be angels you know! If your heart is taken, have the portrait of your heart taker hanged somewhere overlooking the whole heart and any entrant there in. Just like that mum and dad portrait hanging on the wall of the living room, so conspicuous that anybody who visits knows who are the bosses here.

Wait Like You Like It!

2013-05-21T15:29:00.000+03:00

The uncertainty you feel right now about the future - it won't ever go away. - Reid Hoffman

For as long as the future remains, there will be need to trust God.

Whatever is worth getting is worth waiting for. Waiting aint easy but harder is letting go of something that is everything you are looking forward to.

How long you wait does not matter when what you wait for is invaluable. That is true when your waiting is over, otherwise it sounds so untrue and like a mocking statement to the one who is still waiting.

You can risk missing what would be by choosing to be impatient but even then, you end up waiting for longer, not to get what you never waited for but to miss what you never were brave enough to wait for and to wish, what if I had waited? What could be? Never to know.

Maybe you think life is too short to wait. Wrong. Let me tell you something;

You waited for nine months to be born and in case you came earlier, you are not reading this in the current world or you got to make do in the incubator until waiting time was over.

You waited for for how long to start talking? walking? Dressing yourself? Going to School? Well, am not a parent so apparently, I don't have no idea on how long it took you to get to do all those things but I know you did take some time. I should stop there before I tell you a long tale to let you know that there is a lot of things you have had to wait for this far and you still have to wait. We all wait for that day we will get into the hereafter. We don't know when or how. So we wait.
To wait or not to is not the issue; the issue is how to wait. You didn't just dilly dally as you waited to do and pass that exam you got getting ready. The problem is that we rarely get ready for what we are waiting for. You got to know that you do not wait just for the sake of it. You get a waiting period which is the preparation to receive period. A woman has nine months after conception to deliver. She uses that time to be ready. You may not even have an idea how long you will wait but you got to start getting ready to receive what you have so patiently waited for.

Will you be ready after the wait? It is not how long you wait, rather how ready. Its your readiness after the wait that will determine how well you receive and are glad with and for what you waited for.

We all get there, so if you find yourself there, wait like you like it!

Learning to Wait.

2013-05-17T16:14:00.000+03:00

Waiting is never easy. You count years, number the months, sum up the weeks, mention them days, watch as the hours pass, you look at the watch, look away, get something to do and time goes on and you just have to wait.

The price-worth of the wait may not even be quantifiable. The problem is not the long wait, it is the last few hours when the wait is just about to be over. It is then that you look backwards and see the price you have paid waiting. Moments of intensive tension. Then it happens that you have to wait some few more seconds. What happens is you get to the tipping point, about to topple over and then you stabilize, then you almost topple and right there, you almost give it all up. You have waited for a longest time, you have exercised all your patience reserves. You have come the longest distance ever, then it is about over with the waiting and you are about to give up!

The other day I found myself waiting for something I had really waited for. I wanted to give up, sulk and lie to myself how I was gonna forget it. I looked back, peeped at whats ahead and am can say am so happy for swallowing that pride, and waiting until the end. If you value what your waiting for, then show it by your patience.

Ask yourself; how far have I come? Very far. Okay. What is the remaining distance compared to the distance already covered? Too small. Ok. Drop the penny pride and wait.
Have something to do as you wait. Its amazing how much one can learn as they wait.