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Remarkable Employee

2012-03-01T19:00:00.001+07:00

Great employees are reliable, dependable, proactive, diligent, great leaders and great followers... they possess a wide range of easily-defined—but hard to find—qualities.

A few hit the next level. Some employees are remarkable, possessing qualities that may not appear on performance appraisals but nonetheless make a major impact on performance.

Here are eight qualities of remarkable employees:

1. They ignore job descriptions. The smaller the company, the more important it is that employees can think on their feet, adapt quickly to shifting priorities, and do whatever it takes, regardless of role or position, to get things done.
When a key customer's project is in jeopardy, remarkable employees know without being told there's a problem and jump in without being asked—even if it's not their job.

2. They’re eccentric... The best employees are often a little different: quirky, sometimes irreverent, even delighted to be unusual. They seem slightly odd, but in a really good way. Unusual personalities shake things up, make work more fun, and transform a plain-vanilla group into a team with flair and flavor.
People who aren't afraid to be different naturally stretch boundaries and challenge the status quo, and they often come up with the best ideas.

3. But they know when to dial it back. An unusual personality is a lot of fun... until it isn't. When a major challenge pops up or a situation gets stressful, the best employees stop expressing their individuality and fit seamlessly into the team.
Remarkable employees know when to play and when to be serious; when to be irreverent and when to conform; and when to challenge and when to back off. It’s a tough balance to strike, but a rare few can walk that fine line with ease.

4. They publicly praise... Praise from a boss feels good. Praise from a peer feels awesome, especially when you look up to that person.
Remarkable employees recognize the contributions of others, especially in group settings where the impact of their words is even greater.

5. And they privately complain. We all want employees to bring issues forward, but some problems are better handled in private. Great employees often get more latitude to bring up controversial subjects in a group setting because their performance allows greater freedom.
Remarkable employees come to you before or after a meeting to discuss a sensitive issue, knowing that bringing it up in a group setting could set off a firestorm.

6. They speak when others won’t. Some employees are hesitant to speak up in meetings. Some are even hesitant to speak up privately.
An employee once asked me a question about potential layoffs. After the meeting I said to him, “Why did you ask about that? You already know what's going on.” He said, “I do, but a lot of other people don't, and they're afraid to ask. I thought it would help if they heard the answer from you.”
Remarkable employees have an innate feel for the issues and concerns of those around them, and step up to ask questions or raise important issues when others hesitate.

7. They like to prove others wrong. Self-motivation often springs from a desire to show that doubters are wrong. The kid without a college degree or the woman who was told she didn't have leadership potential often possess a burning desire to prove other people wrong.
Education, intelligence, talent, and skill are important, but drive is critical. Remarkable employees are driven by something deeper and more personal than just the desire to do a good job.

8. They’re always fiddling. Some people are rarely satisfied (I mean that in a good way) and are constantly tinkering with something: Reworking a timeline, adjusting a process, tweaking a workflow.
Great employees follow processes. Remarkable employees find ways to make those processes even better, not only because they are expected to… but because they just can't help it.

8 Qualities of Remarkable Employees

Forget good to great. Here's what makes a great employee remarkable.

21 Feb 2012

http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/the-8-qualities-of-remarkable-employees.html?nav=pop

Jeff Haden learned much of what he knows about business and technology as he worked his way up in the manufacturing industry. Everything else he picks up from ghostwriting books for some of the smartest leaders he knows in business. @jeff_haden

Find a new way of leading or Burn Out

2012-03-01T18:57:00.001+07:00

Research shows CEOs experience a dozen mostly negative emotions during an average week
Many western CEOS find the job intensely lonely, and don't know where to seek advice
Author Steve Tappin says Western CEOs could learn from the Chinese
Human beings can experience 34,000 different emotional states. In an average working week, most CEOs experience just one dozen emotions across work and home life. Those 12 emotions are mostly negative: Being overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, disappointed, and fearful.

Why is it so difficult at CEO level?

The day to day pressures of the job are intense. Most CEOs are at the mercy of their diaries, their businesses, the press and their shareholders. With the western economies entering a long, hard winter, and the rising competitiveness of eastern businesses, CEOs in western countries face some of the harshest conditions of their careers.

The long term personal toll can also be huge. One typical FTSE100 CEO told me: "I have been married twice and have four kids and one grandchild. I can't remember the first two boys growing up when I was with my first wife. We separated when they were eight and nine. I can't remember them when they were young."

Most CEOs respond to this pressure -- and frequent self doubt -- by creating command and control systems. They take all crucial decisions, which are then meant to be executed lower down. The model depends on the CEO being an expert with good answers, typically based on their training as a finance director or deep commercial experience in their market. But the reality is almost all problems are channelled up to the top. So the CEO faces a huge burden.

Is life different for CEOs in the east compared to the west?

I interviewed a hundred leading Chinese entrepreneurs for my next book, and found the CEOs are constantly near exhaustion. In contrast to western CEOs they are tired not by a hard economic reality but because they have huge dreams. Typically, they have not yet worked out how to manage the hyper-growth their dream and the booming market are creating.

This can cause problems because businesses need the driving energy, strategic clarity, commercial grip and inspiration that a great CEO can provide if they are to deliver their full potential for their owners, staff, customers and society. Tired professional managers and exhausted dreamers will not get the best from their businesses. In the current hard economic winter in the west and booming spring of China, inspiration and trust from the top will be vital ingredients in getting the best returns from businesses.

How can CEOs learn from different cultures?

Being a CEO is a huge and complicated job, and each business needs a bespoke approach. But CEOs can make a start with five steps:

1. Clarify your dream. Western CEOs should learn from the Chinese. What do you truly dream of building? Rediscover the excitement and thrill that drove you to the top in the first place.

2. Build a fellowship. Most CEOs take too much direct personal control. It stifles those around you and it exhausts you. Learn to build a fellowship you trust and who will deliver for you every time.

3. Rekindle the spirit of your business. Narayana Murthy, founder and chairman Emeritus of Infosys, arguably the most globally successful Indian business of the last 25 years, told me: "To me, leadership is primarily about raising the aspirations of people, making people say that they will walk on water." Use your dream to inspire your teams and businesses. Share it with business partners to help you build trust.

4. Build a personal support system to ground you. Make rules to safeguard your recharge time, reconnect with your partners and kids and stay healthy.

5. Get out of the day to day. The best CEOs work on business as usual by exception, not as the norm. They maintain a tight grip of their business with robust systems and review but do not lurch from day crisis to day crisis.

Ultimately, CEOs who are suffering need to find a new way of leading. In this high octane world, they can either work in a new way or burn out.

Editor's note: Steve Tappin is the CEO of Xinfu. He is the author of "The Secrets of CEOs" (2008) and forthcoming "Dream Corporation, Dream Leaders, Dream Life" (March 2012).

CEOs: Burning bright or burning out?

By Steve Tappin, Special to CNN

November 23, 2011 -- Updated 0014 GMT (0814 HKT)

http://edition.cnn.com/2011/11/22/opinion/ceos-rekindle-dreams/index.html

Act of Leader

2012-03-01T18:50:00.001+07:00

(CNN) -- You're doing all the obvious things: the right education, solid experience, a good mentor. But those in the C-Suite often confide that it's the subtle "polish" that takes the superstar to the next level of success.

Small differences can make a big impact. What affects others' perception of your ability to lead a project, a division, an organization, or a movement?

Consider the following habits, attitudes, skills, and characteristics of a leader to see how you measure up and then determine how you can step up:

Act with integrity

Tell the truth. Practice the principles you preach. Be genuine and sincere. It takes just one inappropriate action or comment to uncover the counterfeit. And once credibility vanishes, regaining it becomes a monumental task. People want to see the real you -- the integrity behind your face, the actions behind your promises. In today's economic landscape, trust trumps both price and track record.

Listen like you mean it

Stop whatever you're doing and look the speaker directly in the eye. Tilt your head slightly to one side. The literal message is, "I'm giving you an ear." Ask questions about what the speaker is saying to help clarify thoughts and to verify that you've heard correctly and have drawn the intended conclusions. Answer questions specifically rather than vaguely. Take action to demonstrate that you've heard.

Benjamin Disraeli was right when he observed, "Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours." The magic in this mix? He or she will think you are a remarkable person. Listening increases likeability, and likeability leads back to trust in you as a leader.

Commit to what you communicate

Follow through. If you say you'll make an introduction to the potential new client, make the introduction. If you say you'll provide the reference, give the reference. If you say you'll fund the project, budget the money. Show up, own up, and straighten it up. In a marketplace of mealy mouthed moochers, doing what you say will absolutely astonish people.

Be accountable for results

Accountability implies risk and reward. You earn rewards for success; you accept penalties for failure. By the very nature of the risk-reward proposition, others' perception of your position and value increases.

You've heard it said that money is not the most important thing in life. But that's easier to believe when you have enough of it to cover your basic needs. Likewise, people measure competence in different ways, and "enough" competence or "enough" intelligence becomes a matter of degree. At some point, people pull you over the "enough" threshold and begin to judge your performance on degrees of results. Delivering the goods attracts attention and demands respect that translates into others' perception of your leadership and executive presence.

Engage emotionally by being approachable

The combination of both competence and likeability characterizes outstanding leaders with personal presence. You may be credible and have others pick your brain and benefit from your work -- but choose not to be around you if they don't have to be. On the other hand, you may be a likeable, life-of-the-party sort whom everybody wants to hang out with. But people may not consider you credible in challenging times for critical information or competent performance.

The tagline "mover and shaker" comes from a metaphor -- a very visual component of a personality trait or habit. Not only do leaders move through many networks, work a lot of relationships, and shake their share of hands, they literally take the lead in approaching people. People with presence approach others confidently, act as host, make introductions, and connect others in the group. They approach and give attention to others.

Leaders put themselves on the frontline to serve. As a result, others feel their presence because of the attention they give -- not receive. People do pay attention to those with power to reward or punish them. But they enjoy being around those who are humble, willing to serve, and give them the proverbial time of day.

Never whine

Constant complaining characterizes losers. The habit follows those who lack success and feel powerless to improve things for themselves. By their very act of whining, people are admitting that they lack the competence, character, communication skills, or commitment to improve things. Not a good message to send.

Follow protocol in mixing business with pleasure

Because of the heavy demands on their time, leaders blend their social and work lives, often building their personal relationships through business contacts, and vice versa. As the old saying goes, people do business with people they like. Be the liaison who brings people together over lunch, a golf game, committee work, or causes. Understand the rules of etiquette in each of these situations: introductions; timing and appropriateness of business topics; appropriate dress; who arrives first; who pays. It's these little things done right that shout "class."

Act with intention. Communicate with confidence. Lead with clarity.

Commit to what you communicate, and follow through, says Booher.
"Delivering the goods attracts attention and demands respect," she adds

Editor's note: Dianna Booher, an expert in executive communications, is the author of 45 books. Her latest books include "Creating Personal Presence: Look, Talk, Think, and Act Like a Leader " and "Communicate with Confidence, Revised and Expanded Edition." As CEO of Booher Consultants and as a keynote speaker, Dianna and her staff deliver speeches and training to increase effectiveness of communication and presentation skills.

Want to be a leader? Act like one

By Dianna Booher, Special to CNN

February 7, 2012 -- Updated 1132 GMT (1932 HKT)

http://edition.cnn.com/2012/02/07/opinion/booher-leader/

How to Lead with Purpose- Learn from Steve Jobs

2012-03-01T18:42:00.004+07:00

(CNN) -- Leadership is a choice. Pure and simple.

A leader must "connect the dots" between what an employee does and why it matters to the organization.

When you assume a position of authority, either formally as a manager or informally as a team leader, you make the choice to lead. Management is the discipline of getting things done right. Leadership is the art of doing what is right for good of the organization. In other words, management is execution; leadership is inspiration.

Inspiration emerges from purpose, knowing what you do and why you do it. Organizational purpose emerges from the vision, mission and values of an organization.

Apple is fine example of a purposeful organization. Its leadership under Steve Jobs at the helm was focused on producing well-designed products, easy to use as tools of productivity or means of entertainment. Everyone in Apple has been focused on this mission. You could say much the same about the Ritz-Carlton hotel chain. Everyone from top to bottom, and that includes maids and wait staff, knows how to deliver a superior guest experience.

Among the ways leaders instill purpose in an organization, according to research conducted my book, Lead With Purpose, Giving Your Organization a Reason to Believe in Itself, is through communicating the vision, tying customer benefits to employee contributions, and linking work to results.

Creating a purposeful organization is not easy. It takes the commitment of senior leaders who hold themselves accountable for delivering on the corporate mission. A fine example of this is Vineet Nayar, CEO of HCL Technologies, a global IT services company headquartered in Delhi.

As Nayar wrote in his book, Employees First, Customers Second, "The role of the CEO is to enable people to excel, help them discover their own wisdom, engage themselves entirely in their work, and accept responsibility for making change." Toward that end, Nayar regards himself as a servant of his organization one who holds himself accountable for putting individuals and teams into positions where they can excel.

Purpose is especially necessary in tough times. As Roger Webb, President of the University of Central Oklahoma, told me an in an interview: "If people don't feel the purpose, and don't feel the goal and [know] that they are accomplishing things and moving forward, then depressing news can really bring people down."

While purpose is the spark that sets up the vision -- where an organization is headed -- and defines its mission, it becomes inert if not practiced. So a leader must "connect the dots" between what an employee does and why it matters to the organization.

A key example of this is Ford Motor Company. Under the leadership of CEO Alan Mulally the organization has transformed itself from a struggling company to one that has become the most admired automaker. Key to this has been the One Ford plan, which is the relentless focus on creating cars and trucks that complement the Ford brand globally. The beauty of this imperative is not the words; it's the action steps.

Employees throughout Ford understand the responsibility they have to deliver on One Ford. If you work in manufacturing you understand that decisions and actions you make complement Ford's ability to build world-class products. Or if you work in marketing, you know how your marketing plan for the Focus complement the strategic imperative. Put in other way, purpose becomes personal.

Specificity is critical to purpose. I have developed two questions that managers can ask themselves to ensure that they are using purpose as a lever to effect positive results. The first, is asking oneself if you are teaching your staff about a purpose. Secondly, ask if you are ensuring your staff follow through on the shared purpose.

Answers to these questions will enable the leader to provide his team with a goals. Ways to deliver on this will include briefings from senior management but it will more importantly involve having conversations about what the team is doing and why it matters. Stories about what is working or what is not can greatly contribute to a greater understanding of purpose.

Leadership is a choice for individuals to make, but the leader must provide his or her team with clear direction founded on purpose and understanding.

Editor's note: John Baldoni is an internationally recognized leadership educator, executive coach, speaker, and author of 10 books, including Lead by Example, The AMA Handbook of Leadership, Lead Your Boss and his latest, Lead With Purpose, Giving Your Organization a Reason to Believe in Itself.

Learning from Steve Jobs: How to lead with purpose

By John Baldoni, Special to CNN

October 14, 2011 -- Updated 1615 GMT (0015 HKT)

http://edition.cnn.com/2011/10/14/opinion/op-ed-john-baldoni/

7 Qualities of a Potential Leader

2012-03-01T18:25:00.000+07:00

(CNN) -- I recently interviewed more than 60 chief executives of very large global companies. Virtually all of them said that recruiting and promoting general managers with true leadership potential was the key ingredient to their organization's long-term success. Fair enough. But the CEOs were then quick to admit that this task is much easier said than done.

Time and again, externally recruited "stars," as well as freshly promoted general managers from within their companies' ranks, failed to live up to lofty expectations. This leads to an important question: Why are we bad at picking good leaders?

The short answer is, we focus on all the wrong things, like a candidate's charm, their stellar résumé or their academic credentials. None of this has any bearing on leadership potential. And despite claims to the contrary, even a candidate's past results have little bearing on whether the promoted individual will succeed once promoted.

At best, a "track record" tells only half of the story. In a new position, the candidate will have to face new obstacles, deal with a new team, manage more people introduce new products and do it all without a clear road map.

So what qualities should you focus on before handing out the next big promotion or making big promotion decision? One thing is certain: You better get it right. Nothing short of your reputation, and your organization's success, are at stake.

Let's cut to the chase. There are seven fundamental leadership qualities that the candidate must possess to be effective. Take just one of these away, and sooner or later, the newly elevated manager will fail. Having studied the careers of nearly 1,000 executives, over the past decade, it is clear to me that failure results when a leader lacks of one or more of these seven attributes.

Integrity

It all starts with integrity. Like a foundation for any well-constructed house, integrity is the core foundation for leadership effectiveness. It is a blend of honesty, consistency and ethics. Once integrity is squandered or even thrown into doubt, it is very hard for a leader to regain the trust of his or her troops.

Passion

Yet integrity alone doesn't matter without several other key attributes. Passion, for example, enables a leader to keep moving forward even in tough times.

Jeff Bezos, the CEO of Amazon, was ridiculed in 2001 for clinging to a company that many called "Amazon.bomb." It is now valued at $89 billion. Bezos told me that it was his inner passion that fueled his drive to keep pushing forward even in the darkest days of the dot-com crash, when the company was teetering on the brink of collapse.

Passion enables a leader to keep moving forward even in tough times.
Jeffrey Cohn

Courage

Courage, another make-it-or-break-it quality, is necessary to make the difficult decisions when facing conflicts and mediating adversity. Courage springs from a leader's core values and commitment to a vision.

Vision

Without a compelling vision or destination, how can a boss effectively persuade people to embark upon a new direction? Visionary leaders inspire employees to imagine a better future and work hard to achieve it.

Judgment

Actually achieving this vision, however, requires judgment. Good judgment allows the leader to make solid business decisions and choices. When I assess an aspiring leader, I want to see whether she can confront a complex new challenge and quickly zero in on the most important issues.

Does she ask good questions? Can she prioritize and make difficult tradeoffs? Does she know where to focus and where not to waste her time and energy? Even when looking at an individual piece of the problem, does she keep the entire chessboard in mind, recognizing the potential unintended consequences of her decisions? Judgment is needed to develop a strategy that will enable the organization to achieve its vision.

Lack of empathy is a key reason why otherwise analytically brilliant leaders often come up short.

Empathy

No matter the organization, diversity of its people is the one constant. Each team member has a different personality, motivation and underlying agenda. Empathy is the attribute that allows a leader to effectively understand what makes other people tick.

Identifying the fundamental drivers of their bosses, peers and subordinates is critical. Same goes for getting people aligned and motivated around their common goals. Outside your specific organization, it is invaluable that a leader be able to quickly and accurately figure out why an important customer seems dissatisfied, even though they say everything is fine.

If a potential employee doesn't have empathy, they have very little chance of getting these, and many other, important constituents on their side. Lack of empathy is a key reason why otherwise analytically brilliant leaders often come up short.

Lack of empathy is a key reason why otherwise analytically brilliant leaders often come up short.

Jeffrey Cohn

Emotional intelligence

While empathy is externally focused, another key leadership attribute, emotional intelligence, is internally focused. An emotionally intelligent leader habitually takes a hard, honest look at himself and accurately discerns his strengths, weaknesses and blind spots. Putting personal pride aside, he actively solicits the input of others and incorporates the team's best ideas into the overall action plan.

Without emotional intelligence, hubris sets in, and a leader will overestimate his own ability and alienate others. Even though the hubris may convince him that he can bite off more than he can chew, subordinates will not be so blind. A leader who continuously lets down his or her team won't stay in the organization's good graces for long. From my vantage point, a lack of emotional intelligence is probably the top derailer of previously successful managers moving into fundamentally new and ambiguous roles.

These seven leadership attributes -- integrity, vision, judgment, passion, courage, empathy and emotional intelligence -- are all the hallmarks of great leaders, regardless of industry or geography. By gearing any candidate assessment towards these traits -- and away from false predictors of success, like a sparkling personality, a polished résumé or good interview skills -- you will be one big step ahead of the rest of the crowd who are still scratching their heads wondering why they are so bad at picking good leaders.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Jeffrey Cohn

Editor's note: Jeffrey Cohn was most recently a succession planning and executive assessment expert at Spencer Stuart. He is former fellow at both the Harvard Business School and the CEO Leadership Institute at Yale, and his latest book is "Why are We Bad at Picking Good Leaders?"

Why we pick bad leaders, and how to spot the good ones

By Jeffrey Cohn, Special to CNN

February 14, 2012 -- Updated 1853 GMT (0253 HKT)

http://edition.cnn.com/2012/02/14/opinion/cohn-pick-leaders/index.html

WHY You Need to MEET in Person

2012-03-01T18:16:00.000+07:00

My clients are just like yours: They want to Skype, email and text. But here's why you still need face time.

When the daily avalanche of emails and voice messages gets overwhelming, it’s so tempting to retreat to my office and start typing replies and returning phone calls. That’s one of the biggest mistakes I can make.

No matter what industry we’re in, we’re all in the people business. We’ll only be successful if we really get to know our customers and colleagues. Many of my tech marketing clients are so busy that they now prefer texting to even emails or calls. Skype, WebEx and audio calls are convenient and create the illusion we’re actually having a meeting -- but nothing beats the power of a truly personal, face-to-face connection.

What can you learn from an in-person meeting that you can’t from a virtual one?

1. You're off the record. In Silicon Valley and many other places, there are few private offices. Many of my clients work in cubes and can’t have private telephone conversations with me or anyone else. This means that when I talk to them on the phone, I might not get to hear the most important information they can share: the unique team dynamics or executive’s personality quirks that would make or break our ability to match an expert consultant. Over sushi or a latte or a walk around the block, my clients can let me know more -- with more color -- than they can over the telephone or in an email.

2. Make use of not-so-small talk. Most business conversations are focused on solving a problem quickly and efficiently, while business relationships are built when people take the time to share and learn more about each other. That happens more naturally in person than over the phone or in an email. What cements a bond between people? Small talk about a favorite team, passion for pecan pie, parenting challenges, and the other bits and pieces that make us unique and interesting.

3. Make an impression. I bought a new handbag. It’s faux ostrich and it’s pink. Really pink. I’ve received compliments on it from every woman (and one man) I’ve met with in the past two weeks. I had worried it was perhaps not professional enough for business. But the style and color were bold, “spring-y” and made me smile. Who knew my $60 knock-off handbag would be such a great conversation starter and deliver such a strong personal statement? How do you do that over Skype?

4. Read the body language. Facial expressions often communicate so much more than words. We host consultant coffees and invite a handful of independent consultants to our office in order to better understand the nuances of each professional in a relaxed setting. We need to know what isn’t on the resume that makes each person unique. In their eyes and in their body language, we can see confidence, empathy, fear, friendliness or sincerity. That ability to “read” a candidate beyond their keywords is a huge competitive advantage for us.

5. Learn where the action is. I find out so much when I visit one of my clients in their office. Is the lobby bright and inviting with recent accolades proudly displayed? Do employees seem happy? Is there free juice and healthy snacks in the cafeteria? Brand new Herman Miller chairs in the conference room? Is everyone moving in slow motion or is there a palpable buzz? The environment speaks volumes and may factor into your business proposal or plan. By understanding company dynamics, we can communicate more effectively to meet their needs.
I love new technologies that allow me communicate with others more freely and quickly. But as a business owner, I try to remember customers want to work with someone they can relate to, not just buy from.

And I believe in walking the walk. Want to meet me in person? I'll be at the Faz Restaurant lounge in Pleasanton, California on Wednesday, March 7 between five and seven. Meet my team and join us for a drink. RSVP to @renesiegel.

I’ll be the one with the really pink purse.

René Shimada Siegel is Founder and President of High Tech Connect, a specialized consultant placement firm for marketing and communications experts. You can follow her on twitter at @renesiegel.
http://www.inc.com/rene-siegel/five-reasons-you-need-to-meet-in-person.html#

Anak dan Ranking

2012-02-22T23:04:00.002+07:00

YA!! kita harus memilih. Kita tidak bisa menjadi semuanya.

Waktu dan fisik kita terbatas. Fokus saja pada hal-hal yang penting, dianggap penting, dan kita selalu menikmati proses didalamnya. Jangan mudah tergoda dengan kesuksesan orang yang dipublikasikan oleh media, karena kita hanya mengetahui kulitnya saja.

Source: http://annasahmad.wordpress.com/2012/02/16/apa-pilihan-hidup-mu/

Anakku bilang: Aku ingin menjadi orang yang bertepuk tangan di tepi jalan

by Sharing Pasutri Katolik on Friday, January 20, 2012 at 3:39am ·

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Selepas ujian semester, aku menerima telpon dari wali kelas anakku.

Pertama-tama mendapatkan kabar kalau nilai sekolah anakku tetap kualitas menengah. Namun dia mengatakan ada satu hal aneh yang hendak diberitahukannya, hal yang pertama kali ditemukannya selama lebih dari 30 tahun mengajar.
Dalam ujian bahasa ada sebuah soal tambahan, yaitu siapa teman sekelas yang paling kamu kagumi dan alasannya.

Selain anakku, semua teman sekelasnya menuliskan nama anakku.

Alasannya pun sangat beragam : antusias membantu orang, sangat memegang janji, tidak mudah marah, enak berteman, dan lain-lain, paling banyak ditulis adalah optimis dan humoris.

Wali kelasnya mengatakan banyak usul agar dia dijadikan ketua kelas saja.

Dia memberi pujian: “Anak anda ini, walau nilai sekolahnya biasa-biasa saja, namun kalau bertingkah laku terhadap orang, benar-benar nomor satu”.

Saya bercanda pada anakku, kamu sudah mau jadi pahlawan. Anakku yang sedang merajut selendang leher terlebih menundukkan kepalanya dan berpikir sebentar, dia lalu menjawab dengan sungguh-sungguh: “Guru pernah mengatakan sebuah pepatah, ketika pahlawan lewat, harus ada orang yang bertepuk tangan di tepi jalan.”

Dia pun pelan-pelan melanjutkan: “Ibu, aku tidak mau jadi Pahlawan aku mau jadi orang yang bertepuk tangan di tepi jalan.” Aku terkejut mendengarnya dan mengamatinya dengan seksama.

Dia tetap diam sambil merajut benang wolnya, benang warna merah muda dipilinnya bolak balik di jarum, sepertinya waktu yang berjalan di tangannya mengeluarkan kuncup bunga.

Dalam hatiku pun terasa hangat seketika.

Pada ketika itu, hatiku tergugah oleh anak perempuan yang tidak ingin menjadi pahlawan ini. Di dunia ini ada berapa banyak orang yang bercita-cita ingin menjadi seorang pahlawan, namun akhirnya menjadi seorang biasa di dunia fana ini.
Jika berada dalam kondisi sehat, jika hidup dengan bahagia, jika tidak ada rasa bersalah dalam hati, mengapa anak-anak kita tidak boleh menjadi seorang biasa yang baik hati dan jujur.

Jika anakku besar nanti, dia pasti menjadi seorang isteri yang berbudi luhur, seorang ibu yang lemah lembut, bahkan menjadi seorang teman kerja yang gemar membantu, tetangga yang ramah dan baik.

Apalagi dia mendapatkan ranking 23 dari 50 orang murid di kelasnya, kenapa kami masih tidak merasa senang dan tidak merasa puas?

Masih ingin dirinya lebih hebat dari orang lain dan lebih menonjol lagi?

Lalu bagaimana dengan sisa 27 orang anak-anak di belakang anakku? Jika kami adalah orangtua mereka, bagaimana perasaan kami?

Anakmu bukan milikmu.
Mereka putra putri sang Hidup yang rindu pada diri sendiri,
Lewat engkau mereka lahir, namun tidak dari engkau,
Mereka ada padamu, tapi bukan hakmu.
Berikan mereka kasih sayangmu, tapi jangan sodorkan bentuk pikiranmu,
Sebab mereka ada alam pikiran tersendiri.
Patut kau berikan rumah untuk raganya,
Tapi tidak untuk jiwanya,
Sebab jiwa mereka adalah penghuni rumah masa depan, yang tiada dapat kau kunjungi meski dalam mimpi.
Kau boleh berusaha menyerupai mereka,
Namun jangan membuat mereka menyerupaimu
Sebab kehidupan tidak pernah berjalan mundur,
Pun tidak tenggelam di masa lampau.
Kaulah busur, dan anak-anakmulahAnak panah yang meluncur.
Sang Pemanah Maha Tahu sasaran bidikan keabadian.
Dia merentangmu dengan kekuasaan-Nya,
Hingga anak panah itu melesat, jauh serta cepat.
Meliuklah dengan suka cita dalam rentangan tangan Sang Pemanah,
Sebab Dia mengasihi anak-anak panah yang melesat laksana kilat
Sebagaimana pula dikasihiNya busur yang mantap.
(Kahlil Gibran)

http://www.sekolahorangtua.com/2011/06/16/stop-jangan-nilai-dan-label-anakku-tersayang/

Stop ! Jangan Nilai dan Label Anakku Tersayang !

http://watatita.wordpress.com/2010/11/09/pokoknya-anakku-harus-ranking-1-harus/

Pokoknya Anakku Harus Ranking 1! Harus!

http://yuli.yahyakurniawan.net/motivasi/benarkah-kita-mencintai-anak-kita-apa-adanya/

Benarkah kita mencintai anak kita apa adanya…..

This entry was posted on Thursday, May 21st, 2009 at 7:49 pm by Yuli

Heart Pierced by a Knife (Jacky Cheung)

2012-02-22T22:24:00.001+07:00

English Translation:

My sky is grey, my heart is blue
Touching your heart, it's actually transparent
You're carefree and content, yet I feel helpless
My heartache is actually your happiness
Actually, I don't want to be reluctant to part with you
But everything makes me toss and turn
I don't realize that as I talk, the sun rises
I can taste a kind of bitterness on my lips

I am really crying over you
You're really leaving with him
All heartbroken characters in the whole world at this moment
Increases by yet one more-- me
I really loved you
You've really left with him
Whatever I could give, I gave-- I couldn't help it
Other than this: letting you know I feel as if my heart has been pierced by a knife

Chinese:

张学友 - 心如刀割

我的天是灰色　我的心是藍色
觸摸著你的心　竟是透明的
＊你的悠然自得　我卻束手無策　我的心痛竟是　你的快樂

＃其實我不想對你戀戀不捨　但什麼讓我輾轉反側
不覺我說著說著天就亮了　我的唇角嚐到了一種苦澀
△我是真的為你哭了　你是真的隨他走了
就在這一刻全世界傷心角色　又多了我一個
★我是真的為你愛了　你是真的跟他走了
能給的我全都給了　我都捨得　除了讓你知道
我心如刀割

2011 Concert
http://youtu.be/siBJBE86ylE

2007 Concert
http://youtu.be/IAaS5juVjsw

Movie Clip with camoe of Takeshi Kaneshiro
http://youtu.be/KUy8wHSM2wA

2012-01-13 張學友 Jacky Cheung 溫哥華演唱會 - 心碎了無痕心如刀割

Xin Sui Liao Wu Hen & Xin Ru Dao Ge

Troubled Mind

2012-02-22T22:22:00.004+07:00

Sitting alone.
Mind is wondering.
Both hands are working.

Eyes with tears.
For hours.

Seeing the near future.
A very painful one will occur.
Others may not see or know.
Nor will they share the pains.

Just me, sitting alone.
With my troubled mind.

written in Facebookby Muli Muljati on Thursday, December 1, 2011 at 10:38pm

Jacky Cheung - ordinary family guy to god of songs

2012-02-22T22:19:00.000+07:00

Jacky Cheung (born 10 July 1961) is a Hong Kong singer-songwriter and actor, married with May Lo and have 2 daughters. Dubbed "the God of Songs" by the Cantopop industry (歌神), Cheung is regarded by many as one of the finest male singers to have come out of Hong Kong, known for his rich baritone voice and wide range. Moreover, he is able to manipulate his voice to convey very different feelings for every song. That's what make him express well on many kinds of songs.

Jacky Cheung music career started when he won the Amateur 18-Hong Kong district singing contest in 1984 with the song Fatherland (大地恩情). The contest, sponsored by a local radio station, offered a lucrative prize of a contract offer with PolyGram Records and attracted a field of 10,000 competitors. Urged by his friends and family, he impulsively entered a local singing contest, the 18th District Amateur Singing Competition, and won.

Though HK at that time was dominated by Leslie Cheung, Alan Tam, Anita Mui and Danny Chan, in 1985 he won his first 2 major awards together with the 1985 Radio Television Hong Kong (RTHK) Top 10 Gold Songs Awards and the 1985 Jade Solid Gold Top 10 Awards.

From 1984 -1987, he struck gold with a series of bestselling recordings, though by 1987 his popularity began to decline. He became alcoholic, having a serious drinking problem - he could get drunk 5 times a week.

Jacky Cheung can not stand the enormous pressure outside and inside, soak in the alcohol.

In 1993, Jacky was rumored to have helped his older brother repay a huge gambling debt.

It turns out, though, that he was actually a bigger gambler than his brother.

“It is not reliable to make money by gambling. So after I started working, I stopped gambling,” he said.

He fully rebounded with a successful collaboration with megaproducer Michael AuHe.

His recording career subsequently returned to its track. In 1991, with the song 每天愛你多一些 (Loving You More Everyday), his career took a massive upturn. The album, True Love Expression, as well as the succeeding release, Love Sparks, became the two most successful albums in Hong Kong history, achieving audited sales of over 400,000 copies in Hong Kong alone and turned Cheung into a superstar

In the 1994 Billboard Music Awards in the US, he was named the most popular singer in Asia. He received numerous music awards both in Hong Kong and elsewhere, including the best-selling Chinese singer in the World Music Awards for two consecutive years in 1995 and 1996 held at Monaco.

His successful music and acting career has made him one of Hong Kong's icons. Cheung was elected by Time Magazine as one of the "25 most influential people in the New Hong Kong" in 1996.

In 1999, he was named one of the 10 Outstanding Young Persons of the World by the Junior Chamber International, a worldwide federation of young professionals and entrepreneurs. In 2000 he was awarded by RTHK, the Golden Needle Award. This award, the equivalent of a lifetime achievement award, recognized outstanding contributions to the music industry.

Cheung won the Best Selling Cantonese Album Award in the Hong Kong IFPI Awards of 2005 with his live album, Jacky Live Performance.

He received the Best Supporting Actor award in the 8th Hong Kong Film Awards for his work in As Tears Go By (1988) as well as the Best Supporting Actor Golden Horse Award for his work in Swordsman (1990). The theme song for the multi-award-winning film Perhaps Love, also won the Best Song Award at the 2005 Hong Kong Film Award and the CASH Best Song Award at the 2005/2006 CASH Gold Sail Music Awards.

Cheung was named the spokesperson for Hong Kong Disneyland in 2004.

In December 2006, Cheung performed live the theme song "Together Now" at the Opening Ceremony of the 15th Asian Games in Doha, Qatar. He was introduced as "the most popular Asian performer in the world".

In 2010, Cheung, Jane Zhang, and K'naan sang a Mandarin version of "Wavin' Flag (The Celebration Mix)" for the 2010 Fifa World Cup.

In March 2009 he became the first Cantopop / Mandopop artist to contribute items to the Hard Rock franchise memorabilia collection. Items are to be exhibited at the Hard Rock hotel in Macau. In Sept 2009, Cheung, as one of the super ambassadors of End Child Sexual Abuse Foundation (ECSAF) founded by Josephine Siao, attended the charity fund raising event for celebrating ECSAF’s 10th anniversary in Hong Kong.

His first job was worker in the Hong Kong Trade Center, computer clerk, customer service representative with an Airlines Company, Cathay Pacific

Jacky grew up in common circumstances, squeezed into a 100 square foot room with his parents and two siblings (brother & sister), while "the rest of the apartment was occupied by at least 15 of our relatives,"

As a child in primary school, Jacky wrote that his wish was to become a sailor. Jacky said, "At that time I worshiped my father. He was a majestic-looking sailor."

The famous scar on his face: During his childhood, Jacky played sword fighting, using sticks, with his cousin and his cousin swung the "sword" too close to Jacky's face, cutting him by accident.

"I eat simple food just to satisfy my hunger when I need to....I don't mind eating lunch boxes .. sometimes I would feel like having a BBQ pork with rice or a fried egg....but I don't think I ever crave abalone or anything expensive.....I don't need anything fancy for eating or for my home...... I am a simple person."

Hobbies: singing, swimming, watching cartoons, playing basketball

When asked about his key to success, Jacky said besides working hard, you also need to self-criticize all the time. He also encouraged them to persevere in your faith, make a clear distinction between right and wrong, then your diligence will finally reap the reward.

Despite his singing talent, Cheung is unable to read music. "I sing with my senses, a very direct first impression about the music," said Cheung, who is able to sing a ballad after listening to the tune twice. "I'm trying to improve my knowledge of music, and hopefully one day I will be able to read the notes as well. This will be one of my major challenges next year," Cheung said.

Jacky Cheung's view on singing Chinese songs versus English songs: "I've sung Chinese songs for more than 10 years, and I know all the pronunciations and enunciations very well. But English pronunciation was a bit tough, so I suffered a lot."

Jacky's message to those fans who suffered broken hearts after he married May Lo: January 4,2000, "If you don't love me because I get married, I can't do anything about that," said Jacky Cheung, who remains a big favorite even after his marriage.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jacky_Cheung

http://www.musicianguide.com/biographies/1608002948/Jacky-Cheung.html

http://www.jackyfans.com/jackypro2.html

http://www.netglimse.com/celebs/pages/jacky_cheung/index.shtml

http://www.jackycheung.ca/bio_eng_v.html

http://www.geniv.com/ako888/list.php?id=117

http://www.squidoo.com/jacky-cheung-king-of-cantopop

http://hkfilms.150m.com/Chinese/jacky_cheung.htm

http://asiancrunch.com/cpop/tianjin-webs-interview-jacky-cheung-hurry-earn-daughters-dowries/

Quotes

2011-11-17T19:36:00.001+07:00

Don't be sad when you are not asked to be involved or invited. Don't pity yourself when no one pay attention to you, though you have done great things. Out there, maybe someone got more hurts than you. Lead your life, prepare for your own future. (Duta Sarosa)

Better to do something imperfectly than to do nothing flawlessly.

People are watching the way we act more than they are listening to what we say. ~ Max Lucado

Money isn't the most important thing in life, but it's reasonably close to oxygen on the "gotta have it" scale. ~Zig Ziglar

You never know when a helping hand will change a person's entire life. ~Zig Ziglar

Number #1 factor that keeps staff motivated ISN'T money, recognition, goals or relationships. It's MAKING PROGRESS in their work! ~ Rick Warren

Life has NO Correct Answers

2011-11-17T19:34:00.001+07:00

Life has No Correct Answers.
But people do have a destined fate.
You can not avoid that.
Don't waste any more of your time. Make a choice.
Make up your mind and act to it.

Forgive and forget, otherwise just end it now.
If you can't forgive what a person has done to you, no matter how they lied to you, no matter how he/she betrayed you, no matter how they stabbed on you from behind, no matter how they framed you, no matter how hurtful to you, just put an END of it.

Hate the sinful acts, not the person. Take pity on those whom sinned against you.

Maybe someone come to help you along the way, maybe a person will cheer you up.

Life has no correct answers to you, but you have a purpose in life.

Steve Jobs Quotes

2011-11-17T19:33:00.001+07:00

Sangat sulit membuat desain sebuah produk. Kerap kali orang-orang tidak mengetahui apa yang mereka inginkan, sampai kita menunjukkannya pada mereka". (Bussiness Week, 1998).

"Ini adalah salah satu mantra saya - fokus dan kesederhanaan. Kamu harus berkerja lebih keras untuk menjernihkan pikiran dan menghasilkan kesederhanaan. Pada akhirnya hal ini akan setimpal. Saat kamu tiba di sana, kamu bisa memindahkan gunung". (Business Week, 1998).

"Menjadi orang terkaya di pemakaman tidak berarti bagi saya...Pergi ke tempat tidur dan mengatakan bahwa kami telah melakukan sesuatu yang luar biasa...Itulah yang berarti bagi saya". (The Wall Street Journal, 1993).

"Kamu harus memiliki keyakinan terhadap sesuatu - keinginan, takdir, hidup, karma, apapun itu". (Stanford commencement speech, 2005).

"Pekerjaanmu akan menjadi bagian penting dari kehidupanmu. Satu-satunya cara untuk mencapai kepuasan adalah dengan percaya bahwa apa yang kamu kerjakan adalah pekerjaan yang hebat. Cintai apa yang kamu kerjakan. Jika kamu belum menemukannya, tetaplah cari. Jangan berhenti". (Stanford commencement speech, 2005).

"Tidak ada seorang pun yang ingin mati. Meski mereka yang ingin pergi ke surga, tidak ingin mati. Namun kematian adalah tujuan kita bersama, tidak ada yang bisa lolos darinya. Kematian adalah penemuan terbaik dalam kehidupan. Ia membersihkan yang lama dan membuat jalan untuk yang baru. Sekarang yang baru adalah kamu, namun suatu saat nanti kamu akan menjadi tua dan 'dibersihkan'. Maaf terlalu dramatik, namun ini benar". (Stanford commencement speech, 2005).

"Waktu Anda terbatas, jangan sia-siakan untuk menjalani kehidupan seperti orang lain. Jangan terjebak pada dogma, yang adalah hasil pemikiran orang lain. Jangan biarkan opini orang lain menenggelamkan suara di dalam Anda. Yang paling penting, beranilah mengikuti hati dan intuisimu yang entah bagaimana sudah tahu sesungguhnya Anda ingin menjadi apa," (Stanford commencement speech, 2005).

"Panutan saya untuk bisnis adalah The Beatles. Mereka saling mengimbangi satu sama lain. Beginilah cara saya memandang suatu bisnis, bisnis yang hebat bukan dilakukan oleh satu orang, melainkan oleh tim". (Interview with 60 Minutes, 2003).
When asked about his business model on 60 Minutes, he replied:[86]

My model for business is The Beatles: They were four guys that kept each other's negative tendencies in check; they balanced each other. And the total was greater than the sum of the parts. Great things in business are not done by one person, they are done by a team of people.

"Jika kamu melakukan sesuatu yang bagus, maka selanjutnya kamu harus melakukan hal lain yang luar biasa. Jangan tinggal terlalu lama, pikirkan apa yang harus kamu buat selanjutnya". (NBC Nightly News, May 2006).

Jobs always aspired to position Apple and its products at the forefront of the information technology industry by foreseeing and setting trends, at least in innovation and style. He summed up that self-concept at the end of his keynote speech at the Macworld Conference and Expo in January 2007 by quoting ice hockey legend Wayne Gretzky:[75]

There's an old Wayne Gretzky quote that I love. 'I skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it has been.' And we've always tried to do that at Apple. Since the very very beginning. And we always will.
—Steve Jobs

"I was lucky to get into computers when it was a very young and idealistic industry. There weren't many degrees offered in computer science, so people in computers were brilliant people from mathematics, physics, music, zoology, whatever. They loved it, and no one was really in it for the money."
(Fortune)

"The personal computer was created by the hardware revolution of the 1970s. The next change will come from a software revolution."
(Current Biography)

"The Macintosh turned out so well because the people working on it were musicians, artists, poets and historians who also happened to be excellent computer scientists."
(The New York Times)

"We started out to get a computer in the hands of everyday people, and we succeeded beyond our wildest dreams."
(Time)

"I'm not a hostile-takeover kind of guy."
(The New York Times)

"I am at a stage where I don't have to do things just to get by. But then I've always been that way, because I've never really cared about money that much."
(Fortune)

"Woz[niak] was the first person I met who knew more about electronics than I did."

About Jobs: "Like the Bhagwan, driving around Rancho Rajneesh each day in another Rolls-Royce, Jobs kept his troops fascinated and productive. The joke going around said that Jobs had a 'reality distortion field' surrounding him. He'd say something, and the kids in the Macintosh division would find themselves replying 'Drink poison Kool-Aid? Yeah, that makes sense."
Robert X. Cringely, 1992.

Barack Obama on Steve Jobs:
Steve termasuk inovator terbesar Amerika, cukup berani untuk berpikir berbeda, cukup berani untuk meyakini dia bisa mengubah dunia dan cukup berbakat untuk melakukannya.

Dengan membangun salah satu perusahaan paling sukses di planet ini dari garasinya, dia memberi contoh tentang semangat kepintaran orang Amerika. Dengan membuat komputer personal dan membawa internet ke saku kita, dia membuat revolusi informasi tidak hanya bisa diakses namun juga intuitif dan fun. Dan dengan bakatnya bercerita, dia membawa kebahagiaan bagi jutaan anak dan orang dewasa.

Steve senang berkata bahwa dia hidup setiap hari seperti itu adalah hari terakhirnya. Karena dia melakukannya, dia mentransformasi hidup kita, mendefinisikan seluruh industri, dan mencapai salah satu prestasi terlangka dalam sejarah manusia, dia mengubah cara kita melihat dunia.

Dunia telah kehilangan seorang visioner. Dan mungkin tidak ada penghargaan lebih besar terhadap sukses Steve selain fakta bahwa banyak masyarakat dunia mendengar kabar dia meninggal melalui perangkat yang dia temukan.

Kamu Baik Saya Baik

2011-11-17T19:32:00.003+07:00

钱多钱少,够吃就好。
Uang banyak Uang sedikit ,Cukup makan sudah bagus
人丑人美,顺眼就好。
Paras buruk Paras cantik,yg penting enak di pandang
人老人少,健康就好。
Orang tua orang Muda ,Yang penting sehat,
家穷家富,和气就好。
Miskin atau Kaya,asal akur baik
老公晚归,有回就好。
Suami pulang malam,Yang penting pulang sudah bagus
老婆唠叨,顾家就好。
Istri cerewet, bisa pentingin rumah tangga sudah bagus
孩子从小,就要教好。
Anak dari kecil ,harus di ajar Baik
博士也好,卖菜也好，长大以后,乖乖就好。
Profesor atau tukang sayur , yg penting setelah dewasa jadi orang yang baik
房屋大小,能住就好。
Rumah besar atau kecil asal bisa di tempati baik
名不名牌,能穿就好。
Brandid atau bukan yang penting enak di pakai
两轮四轮,能驾就好。
Roda 2 roda 4 bisa di kendarai sudah baik
老板不好,要忍就好。
Atasan tidak baik,harus bisa sabar dan Tahan
一切烦恼,能解就好。
Semua masalah yg penting bisa terselesaikan
坚持执着,放下最好。
Ngotot tak mau Mengalah Lebih baik di letakkan/ lepaskan
人的一生,平安就好。
Hidup ini yg penting aman sentosa
不是有钱,一定会好。
Bukan ada uang semuanya akan baik
心好行好,命能改好。
Hati baik jalan baik nasib akan berubah baik
谁是谁非，天知就好。
Siapa benar siapa salah yg tahu hanya langit / yg di atas
修福修慧，来世更好。
Amal zariah lahir kembali akan lebih baik
说这么多，明白就好。
Bicara banyak gini yg penting ngerti
天地万物，随缘就好。
Langit dan bumi seluruh kehidupan di bumi , turut kodratnya saja / sudah takdir terima apa adanya,
很多事情，看开就好。
Banyak masalah , yg penting dapat di terima apa adanya
人人都好，日日更好。
Semua orang baik,hari2 akan lebih baik
你好我好，世界更好。
Kamu Baik aku Baik ,dunia akan lebih baik
总而言之，知足最好。
Kesimpulannya , harus menysyukuri merasa kecukupan
这条短信，真的很好，不发给你，是我不好。
Tulisan ini benar2 sangat bagus, tidak di teruskan ke kamu adalah aku yg tidak baik
发了给你，大家都好！sudah di teruskan pada Mu kita semua baik

Nikmati Harimu

2011-11-17T19:32:00.001+07:00

SANGAT BERGUNA UNTUK PERTAHANKAN
KOMITMEN

Disaat kamu ingin melepaskan
seseorang...ingatlah pada saat kamu ingin
mendapatkannya.

Disaat kamu mulai tidak mencintainya...ingatlah
saat pertama kamu jatuh cinta padanya.

Disaat kamu mulai bosan dengannya...ingatlah
selalu saat terindah bersamanya.

Disaat kamu ingin menduakannya...bayangkan jika dia selalu setia.

Saat kamu ingin membohonginya...ingatlah
disaat dia jujur padamu.
Maka kamu akan merasakan arti dia untukmu, jangan sampai disaat dia sudah tidak disisimu, kamu baru menyadari semua arti dirinya untukmu.

Yang indah hanya sementara.
Yang abadi adalah kenangan.
Yang ikhlas hanya dari hati.
Yang tulus hanya dari sanubari.
Tidak mudah mencari yang hilang.
Tidak mudah mengejar impian.
Namun yang lebih susah mempertahankan yang
ada, karena walaupun tergenggam bisa terlepas
juga.

Ingatlah pada pepatah, "Jika kamu tidak memiliki
apa yang kamu sukai, maka sukailah apa yang
kamu miliki saat ini"

Belajar menerima apa adanya dan berpikir
positif...

Hidup bagaikan mimpi, seindah apapun, begitu
bangun semuanya sirna tak berbekas.

Rumah mewah bagai istana, harta benda yang
tak terhitung, kedudukan, dan jabatan yang luar
biasa, namun...ketika nafas terakhir tiba,
sebatang jarum pun tak bisa dibawa pergi,
sehelai benang pun tak bisa dimiliki, apalagi yang
mau diperebutkan, apalagi yang mau
disombongkan.

Maka jalanilah hidup ini dengan keinsafan nurani.

Jangan terlalu perhitungan.
Jangan hanya mau menang sendiri.
Jangan suka sakiti sesama apalagi terhadap mereka yang berjasa bagi kita.

Belajarlah tiada hari tanpa kasih.
Selalu berlapang dada dan mengalah.
Hidup ceria, bebas leluasa...
Tak ada kata yang tak terikhlaskan...
Tak ada sakit yang tak tersembuhkan...
Tak ada luka yang tak termaafkan....
Tak ada dendam yang tak terhapuskan...

Nikmati harimu, sayangi org2 dsekitarmu..!!!
Jangan prnah ada kata "SESAL" disudut indah senyummu...

Sailing Boat & Life

2011-11-17T19:30:00.001+07:00

Pernah mengamati perahu layar yg berlayar di laut ? Mana yg lebih menentukan arah perahu layar tersebut, arah angin atau arah layar ? Tentu saja arah layar. Buktinya, ada angin kencang bertiup dari arah selatan tetapi tetap saja perahu tersebut bisa bergerak ke arah Barat atau Timur. Bahkan, pelaut yg berpengalaman bisa berlayar ke arah yg bertentangan dengan arah angin itu. Pelaut tersebut memang tidak bisa mengubah arah angin tetapi dia bisa mengubah arah layarnya menuju tempat yg dikehendakinya.

Yg menentukan tercapai tidaknya tujuan hidup kita bukanlah arah angin yaitu situasi & kondisi yg terjadi di sekeliling kita. Yg menentukan arah layar yaitu keputusan kita dalam situasi & kondisi tersebut. Kadang kita dihadapkan situasi & kondisi yg bertentangan dengan tujuan kita. Masalah, tekanan hidup & situasi di sekeliling, bisa menjauhkan kita dari tujuan yg ingin dicapai. Namun ingat, hidup adalah pilihan. Arah layar yg menentukan, bukan arah angin.

Kita tidak bisa menolak datangnya masalah. Meski demikian, kita bisa mengubah arah layar. Kita bisa mengubah masalah menjadi berkat.

Ke mana arah angin tidak terlalu penting. Yg terpenting adalah bagaimana mengarahkan layar kita.

Indi Soemardjan You can always adjust the sail.
Kalau angin terlalu kencang dan ombak terlalu besar ya harus cari pulau untuk beristirahat dulu.
August 14, 2011 at 2:31pm

Wanita adalah:

2011-11-17T19:29:00.001+07:00

1. Orang yang akan mendampingimu seumur hidup.
2. Orang yang akan melahirkan anakmu, walau dengan penuh rasa sakit.
3. Orang yang merawatmu sampai tua.
4. Orang yang akan merawatmu pd saat kau sakit.
5. Orang yang akan selalu mendukung walau kau gagal berpuluh" bahkan beratus" kali.
6. Orang yang memberikan hidupnya untukmu. Bahkan ia membuang egonya demi bersamamu. Bahkan saat kau menyakitinya, ia tetap berada ϑî sampingmu..

Sedangkan pria adalah..
1. Orang yang akan menjagamu seumur hidupmu.
2. Orang yang berkorban untukmu.
3. Orang yang menafkahimu.
4. Orang yang merawatmu pd saat kau sakit.
5. Orang yang memelukmu pada saat kau sedih.
6. Orang yang ingin membuatmu bahagia.

Mereka sama berharganya, hanya saja mereka mempunyai perbedaan" yang kadang membuat mereka menyakiti 1 sama lain, dan itu hanya dapat diatasi dengan pengertian dari kedua belah pihak.
Hidup itu singkat... Terlalu singkat untuk berbagai pertengkaran... Mengapa tidak kau bahagiakan saja pasanganmu, dan mengisi hari" kalian dengan penuh cinta, dan membuat pasanganmu tersenyum lebih lebar tiap harinya?
Bukankah itu lebih baik dan bahagia dibanding saling menyakiti? :) Walaupun banyak hal, dimana kenyataannya tak mudah untuk dilalui, bahkan terkadang enggan untuk melaluinya.

Dari: Birangka - Ronny

Kebahagiaan di Mata yg Berbeda

2011-11-17T19:28:00.003+07:00

Seorang petani dan istrinya bergandengan tangan menyusuri jalan sepulang dari sawah sambil diguyur air hujan. Tiba-tiba lewat sebuah motor didepan mereka. Berkatalah petani kepada istrinya, "Lihat Bu, betapa bahagianya suami istri yang naik motor itu meski mereka kehujanan, tapi mereka bisa cepat sampai dirumah tidak seperti kita yg harus lelah berjalan untuk sampai kerumah."

Sementara itu pengendara motor dan istrinya yg sedang berboncengan dibawah derasnya air hujan melihat sebuah mobil pick up lewat didepan mereka. Pengendara motor itu berkata kpd istrinya, "Lihat Bu, betapa bahagianya orang yg naik mobil itu, mereka tidak perlu kehujanan spt kita."

Didalam mobil pick up yg dikendarai sepasang suami istri terjadi perbincangan ketika sebuah sedan Mercy lewat, "Lihatlah Bu, betapa bahagia org yg naik mobil bagus itu, pasti nyaman dikendarai tdk spt mobil kita yg sering mogok."

Pengendara mobil Mercy itu seorang pria kaya, dan ketika dia melihat sepasang suami istri yg berjalan bergandengan tangan dibawah guyuran air hujan, pria kaya itu berkata dlm hati, "Betapa bahagianya suami istri itu,mereka dgn mesranya berjalan bergandengan tangan sambil menyusuri indahnya jalan di pedesaan ini, sementara aku & istriku tdk pernah punya wkt utk berduaan krn kesibukan masing-masing."

Kebahagiaan takkan pernah kita miliki jika kita hanya melihat kebahagiaan milik org lain, dan selalu membandingkan hidup kita dengan hidup org lain.

Bersyukurlah senantiasa atas hidupmu, supaya kau tahu dimana kebahagiaan itu berada.

Zhuge Liang Sixteen Strategies

2011-11-17T19:28:00.001+07:00

Governing a country
Be as "unerring as the North Star"
Ties between the ruler and subjects
Let respect and loyalty become the only set of links between the ruler and his subjects.
Observing and listening
Be a leader with a good strategic understanding of the situation at hand. Keep your mind on the game and your eye on the target.
Acceptance of advice
Be receptive and kind to other people's ideas.
Being perceptive
Be perceptive of all details (large and small) and make a clear distinction between the attribute of right and wrong.
Managing people
In order to win people over to your side, educate them.
Selection of people
Seek the worthy and employ the talented.
Performance evaluation
Promote the praiseworthy and dismiss the average performers and producers.
Military administration
Play the game effectively and win by sound strategy development.
Rewards and punishments
While you reward those who deliver a clean, efficient administration, you should punish those who do not.
On emotion
Do not make decisions via emotion.
Controlling chaos
Be careful when handling a chaotic situation.
Education and orders
Rectify oneself first when issuing orders.
Dealing with difficulties
Act decisively to eliminate the cause of chaos.
Looking ahead
Be farsighted and cautious when planning.
Observation
Commit one's self to strive only for success.

Honest Loyal Dedicated, masihkah diperlukan?

2011-11-17T19:26:00.001+07:00

Bulan lalu saya menulis ttg pengalaman Sun Tzu dgn 2 raja dari kerajaan Wu.
Pada kisah tsb, raja menolak mendengarkan orang yg loyal, care & fully dedicated for growth of the kingdom,
hanya krn sesuatu yg disebut kesombongan. Menyusul kesombongan adalah keserakahan.
Kerajaan dipenuhi pejabat2 korup yg pandai membuat raja senang, sedangkan pejabat2 yg patriotik & peduli
pada kesejahteraan rakyat & kemakmuran kerajaan disingkirkan (alias dibunuh).

Di dunia bisnis, kerap ditemukan dedicated, honest & good employee yg tidak dipedulikan top management atau owner dari company. Ketika company semakin besar, hirarki terbentuk, birokrasi makin panjang dan komunikasi menjadi rumit.
Leader atau orang2 yg duduk di top management makin jauh dari employee, kerap dikelilingi orang2 yg memiliki kepentingan masing2. Top management belum tentu mau mendengarkan karyawan2 yg sudah setia bersamanya sejak awal, malah karyawan2 rajin yg telah bekerja keras & turut membesarkan perusahaan dijauhkan dan makin tidak didengarkan. Bahkan ada owner / top management yg tidak segan2 memecat good employee yg berani menyampaikan input yg berbeda, padahal inputnya belum tentu buruk atau bodoh.

Dari buku2 yg membahas ttg kesuksesan Warren Buffet dalam acquire company atau membeli saham suatu company, salah satu hal yg dilihat adalah dedicated good employee whom care about the company. Why ? You can tell me why :)

High Integrity People :) loyal care kind dedicated low profile

by Muli Muljati on Thursday, June 16, 2011 at 9:40pm

Sun Tzu & King of Wu

2011-11-17T19:25:00.001+07:00

Sun Tzu or Sun Wu was active as a general and strategist, serving the king of Wu, King Helü, in the late sixth century BC, beginning around 512 BC. Sun Tzu's victories then inspired him to write The Art of War. The Art of War was one of the most widely read military treatises in the subsequent Warring States Period (475–221 BC), a time of constant war among seven nations (Zhao, Qi, Qin, Chu, Han, Wei and Yan) who fought to control the vast expanse of fertile territory in Eastern China.

In year 2008, Sun Tzu's life story into a 40-episode historical drama TV series titled Bing Sheng (兵聖; also called The Ultimate Master of War: Sun Tzu).

In Bing Sheng, Sun Wu was described having retreated from his services to king of Wu in 2 different occasions:
1. The attack to kingdom of Yue during the mourning on the death of king Yunchang.
Sun Wu agreed to be removed from his post as general by King Helu after he forbid the king to war with Yue,
in order to save his army (troops under him). Sun Wu warned the king that Wu will certainly lose to Yue, giving the reason that the attack will rise the high patriotism people of Yue & strengthened kingdom of Yue. It is against the tradition at that time to make war during mourning time. Result of the war: King Helu died & Wu was defeated badly.

Upon the death of Yue's king: Yunchang and the accession of Goujian as new king of Yue, King Helü of Wu seized the opportunity and launched an attack on Yue. At the Battle of Zuì Lǐ (槜李之战), however, Yue defeated Wu, and King Helü was mortally wounded; before his death he instructed his son, King Fuchai of Wu, "Never forget Yue!"

2. After the 2nd attack of kingdom of Yue when king Fuchai became greedy & arrogant.
Sun Wu saw the revenge spirit in Goujian and asked king Fuchai to killed Goujian because this action might give the greater possibility for Goujian later to destroy Wu kingdom. King Fuchai refused Sun Wu's idea and even took Goujian to live in Wu's capital for 3 years. Seeing how king Fuchai preferred to listen to Bo Pi, Sun Wu chose to leave Wu kingdom returning to Qi state (where Sun Wu originated / born) with the help of Wu Zixu - senior advisor of Wu.

Bo Pi was corrupted by lavish gifts from King Goujian of Yue. Bo Pi influenced King Fuchai of Wu to make peace with the state of Yue despite Wu Zixu's, another advisor of King Fuchai, objections, who warned of a possible future attack by Goujian & Yue's army.

Yue was defeated 3 years after the death of king Helu, by a resurgent Wu, with the help of general Sun Tzu. Goujian was captured, to serve as Fuchai's servant for 3 years until he was eventually allowed to return to his native state. After 10 years of economic and political reforms the last phase of the war began, Goujian led his army and successfully attacked the Wu capital, when king Fuchai tried to attack Qi state, killing the crown prince of Wu.

In the 24th year of his reign (473 BC), Goujian led another expedition, laying siege to the capital for 3 years before it fell; when a surrender from Fuchai was refused he committed suicide, and Wu was annexed by Yue. After his victory, he ruthlessly killed Fuchai's scholars and his own scholars who helped him (including killing Bo Pi), not allowing himself to make the same mistake Fuchai did by letting his enemies live.

Wise Saying

2011-11-17T19:23:00.001+07:00

Fate, cynicism, or inevitability, are no match for faith, hope, or purpose !

Your friends define your world.Choose them carefully. Bad friends will destroy you!

Amongst humans there is no perfection. We must learn how to live with imperfection, both others and ours.

"Happy are those who dream DREAMS, and are ready to pay the price to make them come true"
(Cardinal Suenens).

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
-Martin L King Jr

"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily."
- Zig Ziglar

"TIME doesn't heal all wounds GOD heals all wounds." ~ Matthew Barnett

To Forgive

2011-11-17T19:22:00.001+07:00

To say "I forgive you, but I won't forget it" just means "I don't forgive you"
Revenge is admitting we don't know how do let go of pain constructively. It is the response of weakness.
Slandering people makes you inferior to them. Getting even puts you on their level. Forgiving shows superior character.
God tests your character everyday by how you treat those who could never help you back.

Judging others lets us ignore the mess in our own lives & relieves the sense of failure & frustration temporarily.
It’s quite easy for me to justify my prideful judgments of others since Satan is so helpful in suggesting rationalizations.

A mistake is just a mistake. It's not final. It's not fatal. It's how we learn. Successful people fail FAST then move on.
Resentment is cancer of the mind. It kills you, not those who hurt you.
You'll never have self-control until you learn how to wait. Patience is mature faith.

The #1 barrier that keeps unbelievers from trusting Jesus is not the Good News but the sinful attitudes of believers.
Humility & humor are from the same root word. The arrogant make fun of others. The humble make fun of themselves.
"The torture of a bad conscience is the hell of a living soul” - John Calvin

"Luther used a door as a bulletin board. Wesley preached on horseback.
Graham used television. Warren tweets"
Washington Post

Kata Bijak dari / Quotes from Helen Keller

2011-11-17T19:21:00.001+07:00

Karakter tidak dapat dibentuk dengan mudah dan tenang. Hanya melalui pengalaman mencoba dan mengalami dapat menguatkan jiwa, menjelaskan visi, menginspirasikan ambisi dan mencapai sukses.

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.

Hadapi kekurangan anda dan akui itu, tetapi jangan membiarkannya menguasai anda. Biarkan ia mengajarkan kepada anda kesabaran dan pengertian.

Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight.

Jika kita melakukan yang terbaik yang dapat kita lakukan, kita tidak akan pernah tahu keajaiban apa yang akan terjadi dalam hidup kita, atau di dalam kehidupan orang lain.

When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.

Ketika satu pintu kebahagiaan tertutup, yang lain terbuka. Tetapi sering kali kita melihat pintu yang tertutup terlalu lama, sehingga kita tidak menyadari pintu yang lain terbuka untuk kita.

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.

Tak banyak yang dapat kita lakukan sendirian, sangat banyak yang dapat kita lakukan bersama-sama.

Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.

Rasa mengasihani diri adalah musuh kita yang paling buruk dan jika kita takluk padanya, kita tidak akan pernah melakukan sesuatu yang bijaksana di dunia ini.

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.

Menghindari bahaya tidak lebih aman daripada menghadapinya secara terbuka. Penakut tertangkap sama seringnya dengan pemberani.

Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Helen_Keller

Helen Adams Keller (lahir di Tuscumbia, Alabama, 27 Juni 1880 – meninggal di Easton, Connecticut, 1 Juni 1968 pada umur 87 tahun) adalah seorang penulis, aktivis politik dan dosen Amerika. Helen Keller adalah orang pertama yg tuna netra & tuna rungu (buta tuli) yg mendapatkan gelar Bachelor of Arts dari Radcliffe College. Ia menjadi pemenang dari Honorary University Degrees Women's Hall of Fame, The Presidential Medal of Freedom, The Lions Humanitarian Award, bahkan kisah hidupnya meraih 2 piala Oscar[1]. Ia menulis artikel serta buku-buku terkenal, diantaranya The World I Live In dan The Story of My Life (diketik dengan huruf biasa dan Braille), yang menjadi literatur klasik di Amerika dan diterjemahkan ke dalam 50 bahasa. Ia berkeliling ke 39 negara untuk berbicara dengan para presiden, mengumpulkan dana untuk orang-orang buta dan tuli. Ia mendirikan American Foundation for the Blind dan American Foundation for the Overseas Blind.

Indahnya Positif Thinking

2011-11-17T19:20:00.003+07:00

1.Terlambat ngantor itu berarti orang cerdas karena dia hanya membutuhkan waktu yg lebih singkat untuk menyelesaikan pekerjaannya dibanding rekan2nya!

2.Facebook-an saat jam kerja berarti orang itu hebat mampu melakukan beberapa aktifitas pada saat yg sama, juga mpunyai relasi yang banyak!

3.Makan Siang Kelamaan: Berarti orang tersebut pekerja keras karena membutuhkan energi yang cukup besar untuk mengembalikan tenaga!

4.Pulang Awal: Itu berarti berlapang dada karena membiarkan rekan rekan berperan & tampak berprestasi karena menyelesaikan pekerjaan yg sudah kita mulai.

5.Tidak Masuk Kerja: Itu berarti loyalitas tinggi sampai sakit demi membesarkan kantornya.

6. Datang terlambat pulang lebih awal : berarti orang itu pintar, dia tidak mau melakukan kesalahan yang sama (udah dateng telat masa pulang telat juga, kan bodo tu berarti)

7. Tidur pada saat kerja : berarti bagus,memikirkan kesehatan dan pekerjaan jg.. :p

8. Ketiduran dirumah : berarti kecapean pulang kerja sampe malam untuk kantor

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