Guide to Seducing Women | Brendan Mendel

Peacock

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 04:28:00 +0000

Now if you're unfamiliar with the term, peacocking is when there is something about your person that can elicit conversation and act as an icebreaker. Now there's no magic shirt that will all of a sudden get you laid, but there is a base around which you can utilize small things to start a conversation and possibly get a smile. Get a smile, and you've got a promising start to any conversation.

Now if you have a cellphone capable of setting a ringtone, you can set a theme song to a particular good friend, and use that to your advantage. Whenever your friend calls, if there's anyone interesting around, you can use a catch phrase from the song to greet your friend while simultaneously flashing a smile at the girl. This is great because the ringtone gets her attention, you get to smile while making eye contact - and now she's just caught herself looking at you. This is the perfect time to read if she's interested as a lot of people have trouble hiding interest in that half second.

Other methods such as bracelets, hats, shirts and shoes can act as conversation starters as well. Necklaces tend to be fairly standard so getting a comment on one is usually a fairly good indication of interest unless you have a remarkable necklace. Any time you get that extra glance or start a conversation using any of these things you can think to yourself - you didn't even have to buy a porsche.

Blast from the Past: Exs

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 16:10:00 +0000

Now I know that almost eveyone, unless they end on a bad note, usually says something along the lines of: 'Let's stay friends though...' and then mysteriously never talk to each other. You might ask yourself 'Why would you say something you don't mean?' Well, when you run into an ex, as you almost inevitably will, this little parting line can do wonders for avoiding a bad scene. Imagine being on a date and running into an ex claiming you stole her stuff, cheated on her and generally ran amok of her life. The ladies don't find this to be a turn-on. So here are a few pointers for ending on a better note:

1) Always try to make her feel as if you're not breaking it off because of her. You can do this by adding a few compliments in.

2)Be firm when you say you need time for yourself to get some things figured out about yourself. You could also say you feel like in order to really be intimate with anyone you need to understand yourself a bit more.

3)If you really have trouble being firm, you can say that you may just need a break, and then later on tell her you realized that you were just two different people, and you don't see it working in the long run. This is a better approach because it shows that you seem to be thinking ahead, but at the same time makes you seem a little less avoidant.

4)Lastly you can say that you don't have anything to offer her, although this will definetly cut you off from anyone she knows as a possibility. It is probably the fastest most effective way to break off a relationship besides dropping all communication. I wouldn't personally recommend this step unless you are having trouble making it clear in a kinder manner.

All in all, being on decent terms with an ex helps to avoid ugly scenes and you may never know, could even lead to a crazy night at a later time.

Impromptu Thought

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 23:13:00 +0000

Although I still am 'hiatusing' I was struck by a thought today that I thought I should share 2 impotant musings.

1)Risk Assessment:
Now if you haven't already, you probably will end up having a girl break your heart at one point or another. It sucks, yes, however you need to think about the future in a positive way. It happens once, yes, it could happen again, yes BUT that makes the risk you take with girls all the more worthwhile. It's knowing that you could be thrown right down on your ass again and doing it again that really shows you both value the person you ask out next and appreciate what you have even more.

2)Recognize what you're in it for:
There are some that will disagree with me, but I think it's important to keep in mind that you're not just picking up objects when you go out - but real people with feelings. If you're in it just for sex you may find yourself simply having lots of empty sex. Now there's nothing wrong with this - as long as you can recognize that no pickup will work as well as the one you really mean. You should have a genuine interest in getting to know the girl better before you jump into bed. That being said - there's nothing wrong with getting some experience ;)

Brief Hiatus

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 23:11:00 +0000

Dear Readers, stumblers, clickthroughs, and everyone else,

I am going to have to take a brief hiatus from posting, starting previous to this message apparently. Never fear though, the posts will be coming back within the next 2 weeks. Keep it classy ;)

Mendel

3 Things to Immediately Improve Your Game

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 20:35:00 +0000

1)Be Energetic and Animated

A lot of people think that to get girls they have to be loud and obnoxious like that asshole at the next table that won't stop talking in what is definetly not, and never will be, classified as an 'indoor voice.' A lot of people don't pick up very well either.

Being energetic doesn't mean you have to be loud or obnoxious, it just means you have to be enthusiastic about what you're doing. Don't get carried away and start exclaiming over your morning coffee, but step up the conversational tone from 'listening' to 'involved.' Focus on what you're doing like there's not any other thing you'd rather be doing at the moment.

2)Body Language

People tend to overshoot and undershoot this step. You want to have a confident posture, but you not look like you're waiting for a seargent to come around the corner and be impressed at your vigilant posture. Keep your shoulders back, and head up, but be relaxed. Imagine that your spine is like a puppets string down your back. Be upright, but no need to be a post.
On the other hand, don't look like a rag doll. Your relaxation should be one of ready movement. KNOW that you can move quickly, but CHOOSE to move smoothly.

3)Contact: Combine and build on the first two steps.

Now you're energetic, and you're emanating self-confidence - add some gesturing and you can expan your influence to her. As you talk, get in the habit of making some gestures. Keep your elbows bent when in a conversation, and to emphasize a point, or to see if she agrees, you can simply touch her arm for emphasis. This helps to subconsciously build up a kind of 'trust bank.' She will being to think of you as more friendly, likeable, and start to think of you as different from others.

Employ these three steps all the time, with everyone and it will soon become a natural and effective way to communicate and become close with not only those you are interested in, but people who simply don't know you're their friend yet - if you so choose.

What YOU should be thinking about while talking to HER

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 20:32:00 +0000

When approaching and talking to women, a lot of people manage to catch their attention, but holding it and keeping the conversation interesting is a challenge that many, many people struggle with.

So how do you give a conversation some of that extra sparkle? Simple, all you have to do, is think about what you're interested in. Now the tricky part is in steering the conversation in the direction you want it to. If you feel that you know music really well, you could drop a comment about how you feel like a local DJ at the parties cause everyone is looking for your CD, or just express an interest in music in general. The delivery of the first one may sound a bit cocky, so if you're still working on that self-humour tone, leave it for later. The beauty in this is that you're not only having a good conversation about something you enjoy, you're also seeing if she matches up with the kind of person you want to be with.

You should be thinking about what you want....and then getting it. Feel the energy

Meeting People

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 04:27:00 +0000

A lot of people these days feel lonely and socially stuck in a rut. People feel as if they don't get to meet new people and really connect anymore. If this sounds familiar to you, don't worry, it's actually not a bad thing - it will help motivate you to make a change in your life.

I know people say they don't like change, but change is the spice that keeps life interesting for most people. So how do you meet new people? Two words: common interests.

Look in your life and think to yourself ' what is it that I enjoy but don't do anymore because it requires a partner, spotter, etc. ' If you are physically oriented you might try rockclimbing, yoga, tai-chi, mountain biking, squash or tennis to name a few. Now the partner issue? Well this is where you find a club. Join a club and find out - if it's a partnered sport - what nights are free-for-all. For example, my rockclimbing gym has a bunch of people that go to climb on tuesday nights and everone is free to spot you as you climb. In these situations it's easy to strike up a conversation and if people are going to the gym alone, it means that they're probably single as well.

If you're less of a physical person, you could try dance classes, a bookclub or anything that people discuss - which is pretty much everything.

Once again, finding a way to share experiences with others is an easy way to connect with like-minded people.

The Conversation (2)

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 13 Jan 2008 18:35:00 +0000

When having a conversation with anyone you basically do one thing: discuss common interests. Music, art, history, work, school, family, future etc. When talking to women, you can start with any of thses subjects or whatever happens to come to your head(make sure it's not something weird like 'you looked good at the supermarket last saturday'). An excellent way to begin a conversation is with a complement, or a thoughtful action such as holding the door. Poof - you just created an icebreaker(congratualtions).

Now that you have started a conversation, you have an almost infinite list of topics to choose from, which ironically tends to be the downfall of most conversations. The key concept to hold in mind is to share experiences. The best way to do this is to try to involve her in something your doing a the moment or talk about common interests. If you don't know much about her, ask a question or two - the more you know about her, the more you can talk about. For example, if you want to talk to a co-worker, it helps if you ask someone who knows her what she likes and find a way to slip it into the conversation. Asking her opinion or help on a topic or a activity that you're interested is also a good way to find common ground. This advice may seem repetitive, but the sooner you know how to hold her attention, the sooner she'll start to pay attention to you. Add a dash of humour or good natured arguing and you have the recipe for what people call 'chemistry'.

How NOT to Get Flustered

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 19:45:00 +0000

When out with a woman, some people tend to blurt something out that they didn't intend to and end up flustered and confused. To avoid this little mistake is quite easy most of the time. If you simply pause for a second and say something along the lines of 'I don't know why I said that' or '...I don't know where that came from!' you have just gone from putting your foot in your mouth to having a good sense of humour. If you don't take yourself too seriously, this is an easy way to turn a possible blunder into an opportunity to show an easygoing, funny attitude. This winning approach is a safe bet to disarming people and getting them to open up a little bit. The best part it can be used on purpose, or by accident and tends to work well either way.

Why Do Only Some Cheesy Pick Up Lines Sometimes Work?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 00:37:00 +0000

There is always a fine line to what is funny, and what is a badly-concealed attempt at a pick up line. The reason that some cheesy pick up lines work is that the people using them know that if they make it extremely obvious it is a pick up line, the whole thing becomes a satire of self. A woman deserves better than a pick up line, but can also identify when a guy is using the pick up line as a joke about themselves and other guys who tried and failed to use it. When a guy is using a pick up line as a satire it denotes a sense of playfulness and humour that girls appreciate. This is where the fine line between confindence and cockyness comes into play as the same actions can be interpreted differently depending on the woman. You have to judge for yourself if it will be greeted with laughter or disdain. Sometimes there's just not telling - but it's always worth trying.

Tells - What is she thinking?

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 00:19:00 +0000

While on a date many people tend to be wondering a few specific things which can throw them off and end up with a disastrous night. One of them is 'will she go home with me?' - this question is usually getting ahead of itself and if you let it, will take care of itself with time.

The other is 'what is she thinking right now?' which really means 'what does she think of me?' No one I know is a true mind reader, but here are a few tells and tips for you to help to understand what is going on in her head. If, during the conversation, she is paying attention to you and rarely breaking eye contact, you are doing a good job of entertaining her and she is probably having a good time. Most girls, if they tend to lean forward on the table are more outgoing and confident in themselves. This tells you that she is looking for something a little bit different, a little edgy and daring - and she expects you to show her to it. If your date spends most of her time sitting back in her chair, with her arms very close to her body or clasped together, it is usually a sign that she is losing interest.

When on a date or just around ladies, not recognizing body-language flirting is a great loss. If a girl gives a glance from under her eyelashes, it is a very good sign of interest since it is a conscious move to see if you are as interested in her as she is in you. If in a standing position a lady leans towards you with her head up and inner arms exposed, it can be a conscious or unconscious expression that they approve of you in some way.

To get an idea if a girl finds you attractive you can play a little bit of a trick. While having a conversation you can use mirrors to see if she's giving you the 'upand down' in the mirror if you look away for a few seconds. Make sure you do it while you have either a plausible excuse for looking away(for something possibly), or during a comfortable silence or even if someone else happens to be talking. You can also use your peripheral vision when you look away to see if she switches from looking to your face to looking at the rest of you. If she does, you have a pretty good idea that she finds you attractive, if not - don't worry, not everyone will take every opportunity to check someone out.

Strategy (II): Straight Ahead

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 06:55:00 +0000

The most commonly used and seemingly the most successful approach is a combination of multiple approaches and attitudes. This method involves large displays of confidence, humour, friends and money all at once.

Employed mainly in clubs or bars with dance floors, it usually involves almost continual dancing in a simple side-to-side step combined with a little shoulder movement. This makes one seem friendly and when comments on your dancing come your way, the opportunity can be used as an ice-breaker, regardless if the input is positive or negative.It also helps if your friends are close by as you can stop dancing and lean over to make a comment every now and then so that girls don't think you're alone at the bar. It is very important to be smiling and easygoing while doing this otherwise it will seem awkward - learn to make it seem easygoing despite that it will feel awkward no matter what.

When buying drinks, always buy 3 or more at a time and be sure to share. This denotes generosity and if girls are simply using you for drinks, you still get an icebreaker and a chance to charm.

when it comes to charming them, making fun of yourself, then starting a mock argument works particularly well. If a girl is arguing with you, then she's not bored, and if she's not bored and still talking to you, she is - to some degree - interested.

Although this is the bare bones of the 'Straight Ahead' method, it is the essentials of it. It is important to notice that the employment of humour, smiling and wittiness(involved with the icebreakers, dancing, arguments etc) are all used.

Product Illustration

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 04:32:00 +0000

A minute should be taken to appreciate this picture. It is the epitomization of the end goal. Having girls hang off you like that. Jaslene here captures this and projects it very well but you're thinking, 'how can I get girls to hang off of me like that?' Keep reading ; )

Strategy(I): The Nice Guy

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 03:33:00 +0000

This one is usually easyest for quieter, slightly conserved people. Characteristics tend to be good listening, thoughfullness (holding the door), and hopefully a little humour to keep things interesting. Being a nice guy doesn't mean that you stay the whole time at a girl's side. You can keep a little distance but be in the know when it comes to seeing if she wants something. Try to anticipate. Nice guy mixed with intuition can be a deadly effective combination. This is most easily done when you have a middleman for introduction(see Starting Grounds). Buying a distinctive drink for her that you know in advance will go over well is a good move. Improvising with a different drink with the same general type of ingredients is even better, but slightly more risky if she doesn't like it. As the nice guy, you don't make too much chatter, but you should try for an interesting observation with a sideline of humour if you can swing it. An example of this would be pointing out another guy with toilet paper on his shoe, or a ridiculous get-up that someone just walked in the room with. Being enthusiastic about something that's a hobby like stargazing, then following it up with a bashful '...but not too many people find it quite as interesting as I do" or a simple '...I'm a slightly nerdy like that.' with a smile can charm. As you may have noticed, the nice guy approach is probably best done with a slight twist to it. Something a little bit different that isn't expected keeps ladies guessing and wanting more - as long as they like it. Once again, the middleman use comes in handy for these situations. However, if you feel you can read people well enough to get a feel for their interests, it's not necessary. Dressing with style goes well with this seeing as most well-dressed guys will try for an all out 'look at how successful and confident I am' approach. Being enigmatic can be good for you, just keep it to the details - nothing big. Using this as a starting point, you can fill in your strategy making it full bodied for the full effect on ladies.

Starting Grounds

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 03:19:00 +0000

Although you may be ready to go try out a few of the tips given, everyone crawls before they walk. There are situations where it's much easyer to meet and pick up women than walking by them on the street. This is where having a middleman is in your interest. Being able to have someone introduce you says that they credit you as being a good enough person to introduce to their friends. That is what I call a foot in the door. So big deal, you might think, I still have to find something in common so I can talk to her. Wrong. You already have the middleman to talk about. Now it's not exactly polite to talk about the middleman in front of him or her, so give it a few minutes and wait for an opportunity when they leave to get another drink or use the bathroom or something. In the meantime, you can pay attention to the general conversation and see if you can find anything that you can use. This is extremely beneficial since it gives you an inside line right from the start. You can get a feel for the person immediately in a social situation that it's ok not to talk too much right away. This is a lot of pressure released when compared to going solo or in pairs up to ladies that you don't know yet. Now, although having a middleman is beneficial, if you're looking for an easy lay, this is probably not the best time, since it can mess up friendships and possible new opportunities. Despite this, the call is always yours. Just don't let it give you a reputation unless you want it to.

Now that you have a new aquaintance, you can usually do one of two things. Try for the aquaintance, or see if you can get a second introduction to another of her friends. This is where it pays to know a little background information which you can get from your middleman. From there play to your strengths and see if the right situation, atmosphere, and conversation come together in your favour.

Body Language

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 00:30:00 +0000

Now this is where people make mistakes. Body language can tell people at a glance if you're confident, nervous, unsure of yourself, or just plain thinking about something else. Before you introduce yourself, you need to be able to seem like you have your act together. This means keeping your eyes off the ground along with your head up, shoulders back but not tense. Don't fidget. The last one is important, fidgeting means your mind is elsewhere, thinking about someone/something else, and is an immediate warning sign to ladies that you're not even paying enough attention to carry a decent conversation. While keeping this in mind, use the situation to your advantage. If you can see that both of you enjoyed an ironic of funny moment, catch her eye for a second and flash a smile. If you both end up waiting in a ridiculous line, grimace or roll your eyes a bit. Showing that you both have something in common to talk about, even for a minute, is an opener. For example, if you're both enjoying the pleasure of waiting in the rain, comment on how nice the weather is. A little twist of humour added to a socially normal comment is a good way to probe to see if she's even open to a conversation. However, body language should be constant in these cases. Pay attention to your posture when you're in different moods, and you'll begin to notice that a lot can be seen from a slight shrug, or a slight downturn of the mouth. As you get better at this you will not only be able to emulate whatever emotion suits the mood, but be able to read others better. Remember, body language is the introduction before the introduction. It is the first two steps before a lay-up, the lead in for anything that could follow. It can also be you're downfall. Being aware of messages you give off to others is crucial as well as an extremely useful tool. Use it.

Walking the Line

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 04:14:00 +0000

When dating or simply seeing women, there is a fine line to walk when knowing how to keep her wanting more of you. Oddly enough, this involves knowing when NOT to be around. Appreciation of someone can be increased if you notice their absence. Now granted, it is not a good idea to meet her once and never talk to her again - this will not work. So what is the perfect balance to make her want you? Once again this is the fine line. Take for example, the slow route to getting with a woman. You become aquaintances and talk to each other when you see each other and you've been around each other fairly often, say aounrd 5 hours a week or more. Now changing your schedule for a week or so will tell you if this is a good idea next time you see her. If she's wondering where you've been - that's a good sign. Be ready to pick up on any sign that she missed you for one reason or another. If it's simply a polite interest, chances are you should change your approach, or move on. Which you choose is a judgement call. Also, when you see her after being a little scarce, try to make a good impression again. Don't offer to do anything for her, just try to be witty within the first little while of talking to each other again. This can either enhance your standing with her, or nudge her into thinking of you in ways she wasn't before. No matter what, always walk the line. Don't be too available, but be aroudn when needed. You'll have to pay attention to know, but it always pays off when you offer help or do her a favour when she wasn't sure who to turn to. This way, next time she turns, it will be to you.

The Element of Surprise

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 13 Oct 2007 05:24:00 +0000

If you're swinging women, dating women, or in a relationship with one, this part never gets old. Surprising a girl just when she thinks she's getting to know you can be exciting for her. Mystery is always enticing and new, so keeping a little bit of information about yourself can be beneficial. This can be something that you didn't even realize you could use. For example, if I were to have been to Kenya and brought up the topic of travel, she'll be entrigued about it. Now you get to impress her with your 'worldlyness' that she didn't have a clue you had. Knowing your audience is important in this area as well. Most people do have an interest in travelling, so it's a fairly safe bet, but don't come out with anything too left-field(unless she liles that).

After mentioning the little tidbit about yourself, if she's surprised enough to say something along the lines of 'really?' then you can say something along the lines of, 'I must just have a talent for surprising you.' If that's something you can say without going against the grain of your character. The reason for saying you can surprise her so blatently, helps her subconsciously think of you in a mysterious way. However, if you do this only once and continue to be totally predictable, it loses effect.

Avoidance of Continual Giving

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 03:17:00 +0000

Music, I think, is responsible for a lot of misguided dating and relationship direction. You constantly hear about how the author of the song will 'give anything' or 'bleed themselves dry' for the girl they love. Now devotion is a good thing, don't get me wrong, but a relationship and dating is not about you sacrificing and giving over and over. This attitude is wrong for dating and relationships for different reasons.
When it comes to dating if you start off and continue to give everything for the girl she will either be uncomfortable for being placed on some kind of pedestal or she will take advantage of you. Non-stop giving shows that you care, but it also shows that you don't know any other way to treat girls. As much as you think they might like being 'worshipped' they don't want to date someone who can't see them as a person. It can also give the impression that you have a a set of ideals they have to live up to. Ladies like having to live up to ideals as much as they like being told what to do. So for dating, there are a few reasons why non-stop giving is a bad idea.
When it comes to relationships, there can be sacrifice involved to make it work, but lets face it, it's either give-and-take or you're being used. For both cases, that's not to say a little bit of a present or surprise is unwelcome, but if you do it every day, it's not a surprise, and it becomes a habit that can make you feel obligated to do it. So save yourself the complications, because it doesn't work, and it earns you the boring reputation of being at any girls beck and call.

The Mindset

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 21:58:00 +0000

Now, I know you're looking for the answer of 'How do I pick up women?' but you're asking the wrong qestion already. What you should be asking is 'How should I approach picking up women?'. This is because if you go in with a pre-set list of lines you'll be dead in the water faster than you can say shout 'I WANT SEX!'. So bear with me, because the mindset to approaching women is important. Take business men for example. If you ever see them talking in a 'casual' setting you'll notice that they don't always say things straight out. They tend to dance around the subject, but you can still figure out by what they do and don't say that the guy on the blue suit wants to buy the guy in the black suit's business, but doesn't want to be left with a lemon for an investment. If you've seen a few of these transactions you'll notice that they tend to be more relaxed and confident than the situation warrants. This is because they've learned from experience you don't get information by being nervous, and people are more likely to trust and be open with an easygoing person. Although this seems like a simple concept, being able to stay relaxed in a situation with intensity or in a situation that matters to you isn't always easy.

The first step is to relax. Now take another breath, and relax again. One big deterrent is being uncomfortable in situations in which you think you have a chance, but as soon as you think that, you become all rigid, and the normal person you were two seconds ago becomes a rigid, awkward mess. So, how to avoid putting your foor in your mouth? Well there's a few approaches, but a good way to think of it is like making public speeches. You want good eye contact without staring to start with. If you have a mental preparation method for speeches - use it. Although as a side note, picturing girls in their underwear as you try to pick them up doesn't mix that well. What works for me is thinking of it like a game. This helps because you can take the situation less seriously allowing you to free your thoughts a bit. This means that instead of thinking about what she makes of you, you're thinking about what to say next. Which in turn means you have something more intelligent to say than 'uuuh'. Body language is important so don't stand ramrod straight but don't slouch - be relaxed. Respect other people's space. Talking from the distance of 4 inches away is not good. About armslength away is a good distance. Don't look down or at her breasts as you talk because it's disrespectful and will get you nowhere. But most of all keep that relaxed mindset and win or lose, be out to have a good time. As soon as the stakes are mentally lowered, your chances are literally increased. Keep in mind that girls do in fact like personality, so just be yourself, play to your natural strengths and enjoy yourself.

The Conversation (I)

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 21:24:00 +0000

You may have 50 hilarious 'knock knock' jokes to tell, unlimited funny stories, and priceless anecdotes, but if you can't listen, you'll never learn to get farther than talking. Don't let her carry the the whole conversation, but if you can get her talking for more than 3 sentences, it tends to be a good sign that you're on the right track(so don't mess it up). When she talks, listen, and remember what she said, because the more you know about her, the more there is to talk about. I'm gonna leave it at that, because this part is important.

Breaking the Ice

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 21:03:00 +0000

Ever have trouble walking up to a girl you don't know and just start talking to her? You're not the only one. Some people think that if you just start talking, things might pan out for you. Technically this is true depending on a number of things, but mostly just the girl. We all know first impressions are important, but have you ever watched people meet each other and notice HOW important they can be? For example, if the first thing you say to someone is funny, or witty and people react well to it, they are more likely to laugh and something you say in the future. If you simply ask a question as an icebreaker (questions vary depending on situations) then you've gotten her attention for about 5 seconds, and lost it again. Now there is always recovery, but a strong start is the first step to a good finish. Here are a few approaches for when opportunity of a conversation is present(making opportunities for youself comes later).

A Few Approaches:
-First thing you say should be funny, and if not the first thing, the next thing after that
-Find common ground as soon as possible -OR- be controversial and start a good natured arguement, flirting can always take place in an arguement, and being able to pull it off gives credit to your character (either way, you have to know a little about the girl - this is where the recover for the question method can be used with good effect)
-If you have a talent, flair or something that impresses, don't hesitate to use it, but keep in mind that cockyness = bad and confidence = good....it can be a fine line. (as a side note, being cocky in a self-mocking way is a popular method with good results)

Introduction

noreply@blogger.com (Unknown) — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 20:11:00 +0000

First off, I'd like to welcome everyone to this site. I hope that the advice given herein is used with good intention as well as effect. At all times keep in mind that each approach to women is something that has potential to work, and is open to variation and mixing of techniques. However, moderation is also important, as some techniques are not to be mixed, since they will 'cancel each other out'. Also, remember that success and failure are both methods of learning and you should never come out of an encounter feeling that you have not learned something about women, even if it is just about the individual you approached. That being said, I hope you find the following insightful and useful.