Hamaare Thoughts

Michigan Fall

2019-10-18T16:36:00.000-04:00

.. My obsession for nature goes beyond limits when I see fall .. my fall for fall season cannot be explained in words. It's hard to capture every detail .. every morning when I take Phantom out for a walk, I thank my almighty for this lovely place and nature and above all these eyes given to appreciate color and beauty which is priceless.
The color of every leaf is like bright red, orange, Yello or peach. Nature is well blended in fall colors with a hint of green for those trees who didn't taste the sun and the heat yet.
More then words my pics say all ;-)

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honesty is not always the best policy

2017-12-28T16:01:00.000-05:00

..Honesty does not always help.. people who are honest like me have to bear a lot.. you must be thinking why? there are many a times when I'm totally shattered after an honest opinion.... telling people if they are rude..or lying or show them proven facts or even to the extent that I found them cheating with partners.
I don't know how far we go with this honesty ..but somewhere inside me I feel if I'm not honest to myself I'm cheating myself .. a constant dilemma so whatever the consequences might be , be honest in life and lead a care free life..
I have seen people changing their behaviors , attitudes and lifestyle with money, even with your own relatives .. seeing them grow is good but seeing their attitudes change for no apparent reason is something very obnoxious ... and socially abusive is something hard to understand.. generally I have seen everything gets evvolved left are memories and remnants .. some come out of those worst situations others go deep ..
The price I paid is hard to put on words here .. people think its better to stay away from her "ME"as she will rip my ass if she came to know about the truth or the real fact .. and to me ,its like ..who the hell wants to be in that envoirnment I try to mingle with people ...where you get positive vibes.
.. there might be times when not many people are around you ..but I always think end of the day every one has to show their face to God .. and lying getting into harmful activities is no good.. its ok not to have many friends but few good ones
Honesty ,loyalty ,love , kindness and above all gratitude is something we all have in our personalities some use those as qualities others don't .. at times they try to sabotage others image ...
good bad or ugly..nothing changes if its truth .. sooner or later everything shows up crystal clear.
truth is pure .. nothing can change ...it will always remain and exist ..
people respect those who speak TRUTH .

..health is wealth ....

2017-12-05T17:00:00.000-05:00

..my life with gym and workouts have given me an active life style ..but taken an xtra time is devoted to GYM
Health have always been a top priority ..I have been exercising for years now but not strictly following the gym routine but now ..an hour every day .. Burst training to weights .. toning myself ..
Motivation is a factor .. where do we get the drive to go for those strnenous exercises ?
..one cannot be motivated unless he or she is in the show business .. my case I'm associated with fashion industry but thats not the drive... my thing was blood work or physical exam ..shows your well being and what needs to be improved... in my case where my levels were going on higher side .. I thought not only to get rid of extra five pounds but keep myself away from any pills for future..trust me its very hard to get into form and loose like twenty pounds ..cut down on carbs and no sugar .. wheat is considered culprit to increase weight and form wheat belly ..
I took time to go through health journals and following healthy diet .. which was salad a day one big meal of salad with proteins ..
switching to complex carbs and bye bye to wheat ... no sugar ( never had sugar craving) switch to black coffee or tea .. so then what was a sub to wheat?
I switched to a mix of bajra, jowar, besan and soya .. ate one "Roti"..which is very filling ..
breakfast no bread bagels or waffles .. sub was again pancakes made with gram flour and fresh yogurt ..
and egg white..
dinner I usually eat lot of salad before meal and then indulge to home made lentil or veggie .. or baked chicken
... The whole thing takes time to adjust for body .. but not only that it gives you different prospective ..we as punjabis have food culture at home .. home made .. and one cannot ignore or get away with a result you have to indulge .. so basically you have to make your own choice .. best for weight and health ...
Vacations are another part where you have to see whats available ..a healthy option apart from salads ..well there is baked chicken or fish with salad.. rest all is very high carb food..
its annoying at times ..why am I doing that?? am I suffering from some disease ??No..its to avoid any disease .. .. plus its a healthy choice... for how long?
well .. I do take a slice of bread at times .. if ever I really want not depriving myself
.. the bottom line is .. life does not give you everything a little sacrifice for well being is worth million dollars later spending in clinics or health center.
..Yes people do ask me how did you do it? my tips below
I m healthier ,happier and much lighter..
health is weath end of the day..

TIPS
SWITCH TO COMPLEX CARBS
no wheat or white stuff ...
more of bran ,salad , Indian food has variety of flour
I use mix of jowar , Bajra , besan I m a non-vegetarian so I have cut down on soya.. to make my dough ..

* NO SUGAR FOR LIFE
no sugar in any drinks , substitute with stevia initially and then no sugar at all
cravings?
take a very small bite ..if you have
if you stop taking sugar .. its like you never go back .. body rejects

* EXERCISE
Gym 50 mins four days a week ..
if you skip gym then walk for 50 mins
Burst training ..running on tread mill for a 2 minutes at high speed as per your capacity and take a break for 30 seconds ..keeping an eye on the heart rate
Weight training toning up.
stretches and bench exercises for flexibility
SALADS
*A big portion of salad once a day..intially to loose weight accompanied any baked chicken or fish ..or stir fried veggies
*WATER
lots of water .. keep it on the night stand..
SLEEP
* lots of good sleep at night
BALANCE YOUR MEALS
*if one meal is heavy or includes unwanted stuff .. balance other meal with veggies or salads
or baked dishes ..avoid cream based stuff..
..it takes 7to 8 months to reduce 20 pounds ..
and maintaining its like a lifestyle forever

yet to digest !

2017-02-07T18:31:00.002-05:00

Sometimes I think I get to meet all kinds of people...some are really hard to believe.... they have different opinion when we talk about the modern world ..less work , simplify life ..add meaning to your living..
This American women I met at work shared her personal stuff and I was astonished ..
A Super mom I would say .. mother to 11 kids :)
I'm like really ?? she was like "I love my house n my kids" ..youngest being nine months and oldest 18 yrs ..
I said you are a super mom .. she was like ,No my mom is a super mom we are 22 siblings...
I was like Wow !!what an effort ;-) she was like..my mom is fit, drives back and fourth says,you should be fit and active , look at me I raised 22 kids and still going strong and very

happy to visit each one of you.
& you lazy bones ..jus 11 kids and drained out .. I'm like really? I have two and my hands are full.
she like really just two?
yep ..I'm I not super women ;-)

me :how do you manage your earnings with 11 kids?
she :its not hard God has made way and food for everybody .. Church helps a lot and most of our stuff even groceries are taken care .. older kids take care of younger one 's
me :do you work?
she :part time, my husband is a mechanic .
.. me : you are happy?
She :yes .. these kids are my world :-)

people who have no Kids or people who have many kids are ones stand out among us.
I salute these moms who raise 11 kids in today's world and love to share their stories with me .

no I'm not inspired to have more kids ..
:P

what to eat?

2017-01-19T16:34:00.001-05:00

With so many do's and dont's .. there stands a contradiction .,, what's good for health ..are we left with any options ?? lets filter options..
Totally confused ...
Sugar .. bad for health and increases weight .. one gets prone to diabetes
salt ..excess salt or extra salt leads to Blood pressure ..keep salt low it keeps away water retention.
Oil : don't use lot of oil in cooking .. less oil ..or oil-less cooking (the best)
Butter :no no A BIG NO.,, its not good for health .. leads to cholesterol
Veggies : vegetables if cooked right with little crispness is the best .. raw veggies are the best form of vitamins and nutrients ..saute them.. don't let them loose color. (who eats that raw crap?)
Wheat flour/refined flour : wheat flour has lot of sugar .. so one gets a wheat belly,, so try not eating wheat ..Also said its not required if we have less of physical activity ..
Rice: white rice is bad .. brown rice is fine but in moderation.
Refined flour :absolutely No its bad for health .
Meat /chicken :less or no meat is best .. one gets healthier and has more active life style..Vegans stands for purity .
Milk : well, milk has cholesterol .. drink 0% fat free milk or try Soya a healthier option.
so no milk too
Yogurt :its good but less intake as its pure cholesterol build up.. though a good source of calcium.
Cheese : no cheese, its not good for health ..increases weight ..for people with higher cholesterol should be a big NO
Water is good ? YES its excellent drink (drink water only ..live on water)
tea/coffee: one cup only caffeine not good... for health
These are necessities of life ..food ..GOOD FOOD

Luxuries in food
Ice-cream: no its tasty but lots of sugar cream .. not good try less or a spoon,(why a spoon and crave for more ..dont't eat)
sweets : its like slow poisoning Indian sweets or chocolates ..forget that too

so ..basically this is what the health journals say all the time ..
jus keep up with mobility ,exercise ..gym ,, when it comes to food .. eat raw stuff ..
.. a person will die in both ways .. why not jus eat everything but in moderation...
take a plunge , indulge and live life in a healthy way ..eat ,exercise ,sleep well and never crave for good food again !!

Beautiful Eyes

2017-01-15T13:53:00.000-05:00

People .. blessed by God or good genes .. with beautiful eyes .. not everyone can get that special look and exterior unless God willing..

rest .. I always believe .. its you fate and destiny with hard work thats important not just looks ..cause nothing works when it gets in competitive world of fashion or work or even academic background ..

sometimes best dont get that opportunity where as an average swings ahead ..

.. key is hard work and climbing the right wall :)

after effects

2016-11-17T13:56:00.001-05:00

The after effects of diwali with demonetization of indian ruppee created imbalance among people hue and cry could be heard from far.. where ever Indians exist.. around the globe...
I check my wallet .. last indian visit left me with rs13000 .. tried to exchange at chase bank but seems like its pASs the due date ..
lots of contradictory statements are showing up.. lots of videos shared .. its like hard earned money going to drain .. BUT no its not
my last visit to india in march was quite an eye opener .. where poor is poor has no food and rich has no end.. God made us all humans but wealth is unequally distributed ..
From Delhi airport people look for tips .. staring at you.. every person demands money my question to indian people is .. bribe tips are extra money earned .. not hard earned money..
WHITE .. (money)has no stains .. so why cry.. change is inevitable why not accept and see the results.. its not with you as a single person its with everyone ...
.. lots of inflation I could see in india .. lots of bizarre stuff .. my visit after 8 years left me speechless ....I being an indian love india .. felt very bad people have no value for money .. everything is over priced .. human life has no value .. but money makes a difference ..
little kids on curb side beg for food but BMW owners passing by give a shit .. they can actually crush them under their car..
the scene is horrific ...
Delhi airport flooded with people ..washrooms .. neat n clean ,, (good to see that )women staring for tips .. I told her excuse me and left the door .. why would i pay you for peeing here ..
..
people please accept the change and see the after effects ..
God bless!

Good books..

2016-06-07T19:37:00.000-04:00

..
I am sometimes surprised by lack of maturity or wisdom when I see people deliberately trying to make a fool of themselves..
fool for what? you might be wondering...
In today's world everything is materialistic .. or something I would say status symbol.. people brag for every other thing.. money ,looks or contacts ,,
But did you ever think .. what are we trying to prove?? whose good books we wanna be?
among rich people? among status symbols? ..
spending Five crores on wedding .. for showing how rich we are? or trying to be in the elite upper class society??
customizing every other need for guests as per their status .. for what?? to be in their good books and make money from business contacts??
Somewhere I feel .. you are a lost soul.. lost in this materialistic world.. why be in good books of rich people ..why not be in good books of GOD//

how to be in his good books?
.. Help help and help ..
get blessings from everywhere ,, we need more of those ... not only for this life but for next too..
KARMA will come back.. show up your worth .. try to deal with down trodden .. being anonymous,, millions of kids sleep without food give them food or arrange some help.. there is no water ..people walk for miles to get drops of water.. quench their thrust .. see how blessed you will be..
that happiness on kids face will be worth million smiles... or that old lady blessing you with smile when you help her out from debt or poverty,, is priceless .. it will cure thousands of your wounds.. inside .. calm yoiu down..which cannot be healed with money ..
being in his good books are more important then these .. greedy evil people ..who will eat dance and abuse you when they reach home..

Good books of almighty is right route to humanity .. service to humanity .. service to GOD ..
its easy simple doesn't take lot of money ... but you need BIG HEART .. little bit every day in any kind.. trust me .. you will blessed for life..
try to be simple in deeds nothing calculative .. YET very strong in service to GOD..
my whole idea of writing this article is .. save your money for blessings and not partying ..
we wanna be in his goodbooks..thats where real worth will be seen ..today or next life..

GOD BLESS YOU

being punjabi,,

2016-02-05T15:30:00.000-05:00

.. Sometimes I feel being an indian and then a punjabi is deadly combination , an action to a reaction ..n then finally there is some melodrama ,,,
Kids when they grow up and understand the language its always fun to see how they react to an indian phrase n specially punjabi,,,
last night both my boys are jumping around ..and my little one 8 yrs ,, did a somersault from bed and landed on floor out of the blue,,,totally shaken ..n scared I said immediately.. "dimaag ch nuks hai"? (mental disorder).. older one 13 yrs laughed so loudly .. actually banging the floor in his delight,, like Mom you are a real punjabi instead of being sympathetic that child might get hurt .. .. you are yelling!!I m like ,, what made you do that? sitting quietly n playing .. that was an instant ,, action ,,,!!
after a while I felt .. what made me say that??
I get annoyed by loud music ,running in house .... lots of people .. its not me..
quite n poised and reading books at the most jus some music at times to my ears only..thats more of me .This little kid of mine might be like his dad :P but I looked at my hubby ,, who hardly talks very quite ,, n rarely see him yelling..he is different too .. it must be my little boys age n all that energy .. makes these kids jumping like monkeys..
but I felt what if I had said same phrase in an Indian crowd it would be definitely funny or somebody would be laughing at me.. embarrassing !!.
reactions are instant as actions
but then ,, we learn from kids .. n can analyze our-self better...
.. Keeping it to yourself and handling situation very well needs lot of patience,.. which one learns with age .. so..may be I m not in that age..n will learn gradually.
made me happy n guilt free, yo

Plead

2015-11-18T19:07:00.002-05:00

all we all need to do is PLEAD ..in-front of God

..what happened in pairs is yet to be digested ,, what happened in USA is never forgotten ..what happened in India is still bleeding ..what happened in Syria people are still crying ..
I m really surprised who is breeding all this ??
we cannot say its a religion or community or country..
everyone ..every religion every race has lost their life..
its evil minds n thoughts or I can say need for food or money .. its always said .. "please don't breed if you cant feed"
I mean its getting worse day by day ..every now n then you hear a blast hundreds of people killed
fear sits in everyone's heart .. bad to ugly n then ugly to worse .. n nothing can be done ..
you killed ours we will kill yours .. innocent people are also killed..
many widows , many orphans .. God please .. we need your help .. please .. come n see why demons are more then humans .. we need help !!
Best creation of God is human .. every religion say that.. did he make us like this?
what exactly are they fighting for? religion? which religion is supreme ? money? revenge?
let me jus give you my thought .. its always taught .. best part of humanity is providing a helping hand .. being courteous helping down trodden .... to make your life a blessing.
Messengers of GOd always taught humanity ..every holy book says same .. ideology is same ..
but that hatred .. that killing is different .. its a nexus made .. made by evil , demons who want to rule the world..
people please who can see all this ,, raise your kids very well spend time on them keep a reality check.. strong nations n humans are built on strong foundations..
and also every religion should take up preaching own community their effects n after effects of this evil stuff..to avoid further damage .. show them what holy book says also post stuff on internet which shows where we are wrong in religion in guidance as per our thoughts its an awareness an enlightenment ..to all share bring some light ..
every little step will bring success n stop this bloodshed
GOD bLESS !

.." fresh flowers are like fresh thoughts they bloom bring smile ,happines , and a fresh start to a season."

being naked!

2015-04-08T18:16:00.001-04:00

Every moment of life we learn..
learning never stops ..
but some times real life instances make you wonder ..where is the limit?? some people surpass every limit..
I workout everyday an hour in Gym .. ..The women s lockers are like right in front as you enter there are lockers n then powder room n showers n then washrooms..
many a times I see girls removing their tanks an going to gym in sports bra which is very well covered ..and looks decent ,,,I generally see all ages .. starting from 23 yrs to 78 yrs.. in which maximum percentage consists of senior citizens ..
Friday is busy day at gym no parking n lot is full ..kicks my butt moving from one end to another.
I went inside checked inn its 24/7 and headed straight to locker room as I entered I was numb .. a fully naked women sitting n moisturizing herself .. I was like really? I thought no its not ,, I turned n saw her back again to be sure .. .. I wasn't dizzy .. she was naked .. n ladies inside were jus changing and moving totally ignorant of the fact she is naked.
I had heard many stories in past too people move naked in locker rooms or in showers at pool vicinity too ..cuz its a culture n there is no hesitation .. but being an Indian its not our culture I was little embarrassed .. cuz it never happened n person like me who gets scared even in dreams if I see myself naked ..here a women so confident ly moving around with no clothes.
..last year during our bridal show I went back to get the outfit from one of our models I was amazed to see girls getting half naked ,, in changing room ,, I was oh! but seems like its a culture shock for me .. cuz we have grown up in conservative society .. liberal in thoughts but conservative dressing..
When we see people at this extent then we realize where exactly we are...in which world we are living in and how liberal people are in thoughts,body n mind .. I was not only surprised by her nakedness but also people who were totally ignoring her and moving back n forth ..
Life is full of surprises .. n sometimes we learn .. learn wht??
learn to accept , learn to respect n learn to keep your eyes ahead :) instead of staring ..
.. usually we as Indians stare at each other a lot in western world to make sure its indian or Mexican !

I usually say under my breath if someone stares at me,its ok fine I m an Indian no doubts now.
:)

life moves on...

2015-03-24T19:08:00.000-04:00

.. ..its very strange when people say .".O time flies".. or "hey it looks like it jus happened yesterday"
I would say ,, what if time doesn't move ? what if everything comes to standstill ? do you think we make wonders and complete pending work or do something extra-ordinary..
wht if we had 48 hours instead 24 hours ? what if we had an extra Sunday before Monday an 8th day in a week .. life would come to a full circle?
Its strange when you hear something unusual ,..I being a very optimistic person and full of life hate resentments ..would love as it going would like to spice it up though ;) but why say like that O it happened so fast ,, I couldn't register ..I would say ,, Babes it was a splendid moment and you enjoyed ..so it went fast ..if it was hell you would have said ..Common I need to get out of this hell.
.. Like a honeymoon phase enjoy..
one of my friends got married .. the bride and groom never showed any picture to public .. jus a hazy kiss of both .. or may be holding hands .. one can guess whats going on .. but later if this couple says O it went to fast .. then? I would say guys ..enjoy life its in your hand make it happy and better place to live ..and make others happy too
I went to California for vacation ,,it went smoothly.. I came back n people were like did you like it? did you see the weather ?..even better then India.. so much sunshine,,I m like .. really .. " something back of mind reminded me our CM Badal (punjab) promised Punjab would be like California .. I m like good at least you have raised the bars high..Mr CM ..
getting back to un-usual .. tag lines .. I don't understand people.. like I wish we had more Christmas holidays .. I m like dude.. "you are in US .. thanks to Santa for this gift .. some countries have none "

talking of unusual tag lines .. life move still goes on against odds. Sometimes I feel we obstruct in between God and his plans,, he has made this for a reason.. thou reasons have to be de-coded with time ..like you enjoy DATES ..n at the same time we have BITTER GOURD ,, but we cook bitter gourd it in such a way it becomes a delicacy .. a sumptuous food
handle the situation ,, everything will taste sweet .. life will be beautiful..

"Never complain Good fortune takes a back door

take life as it comes and strive for best."

hamaare thoughts

2015-02-27T18:13:00.000-05:00

..some of my personal thoughts .. which I have penned down with pictures..
every step of life ..you learn, you see different situations and react.. you fall ..you wiggle .. then you kick back life.. with same zest and energy ..
..past few weeks I have been observing lots of these kinds of situations ..and sometimes God surprises me with what it had in store for me..
all well that ends well I guess!
..hope you like my personal thoughts.

AIB Roast

2015-02-12T18:01:00.000-05:00

.. this is something beyond my imagination .. a certain platform given to celebrities and they crack jokes breaking all the limits .. not in weirdest dreams can I imagine Deepika padukone laughing n enjoying porn jokes N not only that even laughing at lewd remarks passed on her ..she is dumb?I doubt ..Alia was the coveted award winner ..
at one place they made a comment that deepika is hooked to Ranvir Singh as she could not get Ranbir ,,for a second there was some embarrassment .. on her face ..
Deepu "when you are in dirt ..some spots will be on your face too "
..Karan johar a well known producer director and respected person actually using abusive language n showing filth is his mind though his tongue and then by his actions ..
I was like really..Karan ?? you parenting was not done right .. some loop holes we can see .. I was toatlly shattered when I saw Karan Johar mother laughing at those jokes enjoying,,,I mean wht wrong here .. some kind of lunatic attack....MORONS
...I was warned by one of friends not to watch this show as its very vulgar ... unexpectedly bad .. a very bad satire ,, only Karan , Arjun and pervert Ranvir can understand ,,,
I still took a chance ..wht language ..phew!
..all of them should be booked for showing filth of their mind and kept in prison so that it sets an examples to others in line ..
India already is in red with number of rape cases N no security for women many other things go unattended ,,,,do we need more stuff ...hard to handle..
then candle light march with white clothes that drama .. !!!
I mean Guys show some decency ,,
and ladies in audience show some respect ..leave the venue in resentment ,,,show guts!

I had recently given my opinion on this at one of the post in times of india ..jus what I felt ..its had huge applause and likes
check the link below.

https://www.facebook.com/TimesofIndia/posts/10153096353402139?comment_id=10153096450162139&notif_t=like

hope people become wiser n there is mutual respect to every gender .. irrespective of color class and creed. Voilence is not-hitting people its also your language ,,, and your identity hides behind that.. it shows up with true colors when you take the filth out ,,
Respect n be respected,,

Happy New Year 2015

2015-01-02T18:14:00.000-05:00

.. happy new yr to all my friends .. God bless you all ..
happiness and prosperity and well being of everyone .. no messing up on blogs and social networking .. keeping self esteem high .. respect and get respect in return ..
love you all

Swaach bharat VS swaach mentality

2014-12-20T15:27:00.000-05:00

:( with so many rapes in India and men prowling at women we need to keep our thoughts clean rather then literally cleaning India .. we need to keep fear of law ,hard laws , capital punishments on Rape cases..
Don't not dare to touch otherwise the consequences can be brutal ..it should be a clear message
I mean whats wrong in india..
??
Delhi seems to be hitting the crime list .. broad daylight women raped .. ludhiana a minor raped and burnt .. where has humanity gone? so much filth in mind ,you can come to know from eve-teasing this was 10 yrs back I m talking But now the scene is different goons are everywhere..
Uber case has again shocked the whole country .. no security for women.. we judge a women by clothes can we judge a rapist from his looks? I mean its horrifying .. devastating.. shame on country ..
couple of yrs back I had written a blog on this how in india things are getting bad as my aunt from New York was bruised by a chain snatcher..she never expected landing in emergency instead of going to her house .. and to this somebody really got offended and said India is the SAFEST place on earth as compared to US ..well I had nothing to debate or say cause I m an India first and US citizen later ..
The number of rape cases reported in US are much more and taken care as compared to India..many cases are not reported in india and some criminals are actually let free on bribe.. thats the saddest part..

Swaach bharat can come later right now the need is fear of law .. swaach mentality and that cannot be done in a day .. we need to raise our kids where there is respect for gender not only females but males too .. this is a long process but FEAR of law and hard laws is one way to keep this at bay ..if found guilty the consequences should prove fatal..
I literally get very disturbed every morning reading news about women getting raped or burnt ..I mean after the brave heart case r..its been two yrs ..what did we do ?? wht strong steps are taken?
poor females are harassed ,teased , stared .. even molested in broad day light .. the rotak story is not old where gurls had to take care of them self in bus and passenger were audience ..no body had guts to help girls.
India seems to be a place where Sex seems to be suppressed .. I mean why guys are so desperate?
there are lot of brothels you can get a favor .. ..why not get your frustration out ..
Born and lived in india for almost twenty year and seen most of india I have myself gone through many embarrassing cases as kid ..where I had seen men flashing and I had to turn my face other cases where someone try to touch in bus I had escaped ..then seen men staring "which is very very common" passing lewd remarks even to the extent torching the bust in crowed places but always escaped ..where can one go to report? wht proof we can give? we have to be safe .. thats what always my mom said at home try to be with people don't wear skimpy clothes try to be at home on time .. and be smart traveller dont sit or get empty bus ..
my experiences taught me so much by the time I reached university and studying in Hostel at punjab university Chandigarh india.. kept myself safe and distance for guys ..

Getting married and coming to USA ..i was always covered ..my mentality was no shorts no skirts..jus tees and jeans or Capri but with time I learnt its safe and we are part of community nobody can dare as laws are very hard ..
I have been shopping on thanks giving till 2 am coming home at 4 am .. me and my sister but its safe
police is around every corner .. security is on high alert for public ..in india I had seen this kind of security given to politicians only .. which is very sad.

I make a trip to water park every year in summer ..wearing my swimming suit and swimming all day .. moving around the pool area .. but feeling safe .. no body staring or passing remarks ..
I see beautiful bodies well toned but no stares .. that's the beauty when we have SWAACH MENTALITY
Hot pool in water park is one place where everyone shares a small plce ..black white or brown skin skimpy clothes .. but no one stares or rapes happen .. check the pic below ..I had spend hours in this place.

.. apart from this at beach ..we see people wearing swim suits and taking sun bath .. if we check the dress in that case there should be more rape cases on beach but its not mentality is clean ..
I would cut short and conclude .. try raising a clean healthy mind whether girls or boys but good Swaach (clean ) mentality .. so future of india is clean and safe .. it will take time but we can do that ..
With Modi as PM of india hope we have clean government and hard laws implemented
its clean un-corrupted people to rule and its a better place to live.

Poinsettias..

2014-11-29T16:39:00.000-05:00

..Ever since I came to US I m in love with this plant .. the leaves itself are like cluster of flowers ..they speak for them self .. such vibrant beautiful colors hard to take your eyes off .. I was in Grocery store other day I felt like ..are they artificial? touching and getting a feel of texture ..the sparkles spread on them makes them even more prettier .. no doubt they stand for Christmas celebrations and invite everyone towards themselves.
Unaware of this plant.... to me its an Exotic one.. but rare ,pleasure to my eyes. Any color you pick its u unique..
My favorite one is RED ../burgundy but pumpkin orange is something I love too.
Purple was one I fell my eyes on and thought look at the richness .. seems like color pallet in front of me ..I touched the leaves again ,, the girl at grocery store looked at me and smiled .. "may I help you"
I said "oh no no I m jus trying to select the color .. thanks "
Am I paranoid ..what the heck am I doin.. looks awful.. quietly picked up the flowers I liked and went to ring them up..
Poinsettias have been always my favorite..
check my fav Poins

Grocery store

flower shop

Happy Thanksgiving

2014-11-26T17:25:00.000-05:00

my backyard.

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Happy thankgiving to all..
God bless everyone with happiness tranquility and perseverance..
thanks to the almighty who gave us everything for day to day to living and brought us to this beautiful world .. lets hope and pray together for well-being of everyone and peace in this world ..

..Snow n slush .. back to winters

2014-11-23T17:40:00.000-05:00

Beautiful fall season and now its White as snow ..heading towards Christmas ..

Mother nature at its best ,, its matter of time

Winters..

2014-11-21T18:21:00.000-05:00

....this yr snow started before thanksgiving .. its not good ..Super duper cold n guess what snow before fall season is finally over ,, God has his own nature plan..But plzz think about Black friday sales .. hows it possible in this chill .. anywys ..where there is will there is away ..:)
my wish list ..
A goose down jacket
.. A very very sexy pair of BOOTS
A beautiful suede leggings in TAN color
..last and not the least ..A red gigantic RUBY ring :)

..I m bundled up every morning ..my day starts at 5 am .. hit the road at 6:30 but before that wear my boots , hat , gloves , scarf , leg warmer , jacket ..then looking at the mirror I feel I m all set to go for war..
Living in Michigan is like living in north pole ..its scary , dark and very very Cold.. my winter blues started this yr soon ..pray to babaji (my lord) this yr should not be like last yr 2013 where we were stuck in our houses life disrupted .. schools closed .. once in a while its ok but repetition make its worse.. its scary!!
..I have given a kick start to winters this yr by supporting it with my pink cap.,.
:)

black and white

2014-11-05T17:52:00.001-05:00

... I never understood the black and white logic..

Recently .. a picture posted by one of the relatives where Guy in white hair n beard and women in jet black..I thought of daughter and father but was very soon corrected by my mom as husband and wife..
I m like really??
where guy going so cool and girl looks HoT!!
well no answers ..personal choice I guess..
Then on other day JUHI chawla posted her pictures with hubby ,,,I thought some UNCLE then re-collected oh its Jai her husband.. But gurl why do you want to be Chick and he should be a monk ..
No match .. I am confused ..
.. We marry we respect why not age together .. gracefully..

I was very young that time may be 15 yrs ..someone came to meet my DAD .. and looked perfect with his dyed hair , smile and beaming confidence and then I saw an old lady at the back slowly walking ..I said "uncle your mom also came?" I went outside to greet the old lady ..
This uncle was so embarrassed I heard him saying several times to dad that he has to stop dyeing or his wife should start coloring there should be no confusion .. I m like why say here it should have been done earlier..
After he went Dad called me and asked ..why are you so blunt ..?? I was like I said wht I felt .. and sorry for behavior in future would ask you its wife or mother ? before making a comment.. ;-)

.. so Guys and Gals if you have greys showing up move with confidence ..and tell your partner the same .. if one doesn't agree other should start dyeing .,, so that you look like a couple and not like father and daughter.

proof

have a Good one keep smiling !!

Michigan fall..paradise on earth..

2014-11-01T16:30:00.001-04:00

..Every morning I praise the creator..I drive down the street the whole street seems to be welcoming me like with open arms .. I like to embrace each and every tree ..see the colors .. check the texture .. is it real?
how come there are two shades of color in one tree .. like half in one color half in another same hues but 3D effect..
My mom was with me .. mesmerized by the beauty .. and was simply amazed as she had never seen in India all her life even at hill stations n best of tourist spots wht picturesque it is .. ... My own house among the trees and in different blend of colors looked very illuminating with first ray of SUNlight ..
Fascinated by the charm I took pictures ..showing couple of them..

my back yard

my Deck at back yard

//we are all over the place //

.. Destined...

2014-10-31T18:30:00.001-04:00

.Destiny plays an .. important role..we meet for a reason ..we greet for a reason and sometimes we become best buddies .. so this acquaintance is actually destined ,, n we come to know later .. I sometimes feel .. where did I see this person n then recollect OH! it resembles the person I know..
.. its decided whom to marry whom to love and where to keep friendship... like a scripted story .. no matter how hard we try but its destined ..
I met a lady in a party .. jus exchanged smiles .. later came to know she is one of the friends relative I knew she landed to my work place ordered some outfits ..chatted with me we became friends ,, and now we talk on regular basis ,, its strange ..how dots are connected...
..I knew a guy through someone (only by name)he sent a proposal to my house
I dint know its him cuz never saw..he knew couple of my friends but dint see me .. jus bits n pieces of information ..we met things worked ..we got married .. and together forever ..
I knew this person from FB (facebook) he was in one of my friends list .. he sent me request I accepted .. we talked he was kind genuine person an artist by profession ..its been 5 good yrs still best buddies ..

.. Now about the bad or negative vibes we get from other person.. its instant it clicks and you want to avoid the person .. you try hard .. still meet but ignore .. .. Destined to meet ..its sounds funny..
so.. in the end choice is yours ..good bad or ugly ..decision made from heart.. I say God you are GREAT.!!

Goerge Clooney and his lovely wife (marriages made in heaven celebrated on earth)

Gender biased..

2014-07-17T15:57:00.000-04:00

..
Its been a while ..I haven't written anything...Busy as always hope all my friends are doin good..
Everyday we hear new stuff ,, new issues showing up.. I kinds feel people are biased .. when it comes to genders.. we are one who make barriers n we are the one who want them apart now
I always felt and strongly feel women MUST n MUST compete in every field .. there have been place where it was a challenge and still women have did unexpectedly. Well ..
BUT hold on to your horses ..I sometimes feel we when talk only women n women somewhere we are biased ,, situations vary and circumstances makes a difference..
We all know when a female is born as a first child .. parent s n in-laws wish "OH Boy" where are you!!..But a pretense is there like .. "we are happy very happy"..
well some genuine people might be there .. no hard feelings please..
But then its said ."its a ritual girls get married n leave parents .. we give them birth but they have to go and stay with husband forever "
..I would like to correct here for those who carry this kinda feeling .. when a boy gets married or even before marriage would say he already belongs to his wife .. after marriage if things don't work with with parents they live separate ..independent ... so a couple stays independently

so parents of boy are alone .. too
now girls parents are alone too
so where is the difference?
I mean unnecessary every time you see its written "betiyaan paraya dhan"
after all these betiyaa are also one of those who make boys fall in same category..

... I being a mom of two boys .. strongly feel .. boys n girls have same right .. why do we expect so much?? I mean respect to parents is a feeling by itself not forced upon .. it should be mutual .. son or daughter .. none is bound by ritual .. its society n our old school thinking makes it worse.

I came to US .. several years back .. stayed with in-laws as things worked pretty well and still its working.. my mom migrated to Canada she lives half an hour away .. I feel I get best of both the world my parents and in-laws both .. I am not parayadhan( someone's property)

We judge our kids by society not by our values.. make them strong ..if relationships work keep yourself n others happy otherwise RESPECT stands first in both ways mutually.
Girls have never been someone else property . they are humans too .. same as boys ..
don't pass jugements PLZzz
we are towards 21 century!

.. its a lovely poem though biased again!

"BETI" KA "ANOKHA"
BAYAAN ..!

Dear Papa....

"Beti" bankar ayi hu ma-baap ke jivan me,

basera hoga kal mera kisi aur ke aangan me,

kyu ye reet "RAB" ne banai hogi,...

"kehte" hai aaj nahi to kal tu "parai" hogi,

"Dekhe" janam "paal-poskar" jisne hame bada kiya,

aur "waqt" aya to unhi hatho ne hame "vida" kia,

"Tut" ke bikhar jati he humari "zindagi" wahi,

par phir bhi us "bandhan" me pyar mile "zaruri" to nahi,

kyu "rishta" humara itna "Ajib" hota hai,

kya bas yahi "betiyo" ka "Nasib" hota he??

"Papa" Says"...
**************
Bahut "chanchal" bahut
"Khushnuma" si hoti hai "BETIYA".

"Nazuk" sa "dil" rakhti hai "Masoom" si hoti hai "BETIYA".

"Baat" baat par roti hai
"Nadan" si hoti hai "BETIYA".

"Rehmat" se "bharpoor"
"Khuda" ki "Nemat" hai "BETIYA".

"Ghar" mehak uthta hai
Jab "muskrati" hai "BETIYA".

"Ajeeb" si "Taklif" hoti hai
Jab "dusre" ghar jati hai "BETIYA".

"Ghar" lagta hai suna suna "Kitna" rula ke "jati" hai "BETIYA"

"Khushi" ki "jhalak"
"Babul" ki "ladli" hoti hai "BETIYA"

Ye "Hum" nahi "kehte"

Yeh toh "RAB " kehta hai. . .Ke Jab main bahut khush hota hu toh "janam" leti hai
"PYARI SI BETIYA"

weather update from US

2014-01-28T18:05:00.000-05:00

..Sitting here at work on my chair and looking out WHT the f***..so cold -45 f..
schools closed ..wind-chill, slush you name it..Its there..
I came to work like driving on banana peel .. seems like I m going to hit somebody. Snow drives me crazy..and worst when its like haunted town ..
last week it was like north pole ..this week wind chill warning ..I would like to ask God
" O God ..what mistake we made as to you have shown these days.??
so much snow and temp dropping to -45 f is insane "

I was always a sunshine person.. infact dad called me my sunshine.. but see where I landed inn.. like a Nancy Drew in an haunted house ..where none seen only snow n snow ..I mean tons of snow..
life gets disrupted and with so much stuff on you need to have good strength

..cap ,gloves , ear muffs , jacket , snow boot .. its like counting on everything before moving out..
Cleaning cars in the morning driving me NUTS n guy on gas station filled washer fluid which doesn't work in cold..hazy windshield..
GAWD ..hope this period is over PERIOD