Happiness Factory

Help me, help yourself

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 08:56:00 +0000

It is scientifically proven to help others produce emotional wellbeing and improves our physical and mental health. Consider a Buddhist meditation mode, based on compassion and helping others to greatly improve our mood and our mind works.

A study conducted by epidemiologist James House, University of Michigan about 2700 social volunteers, concluded with surprising result that people who perform altruistic activities are healthier and live longer than the rest. Other several scientific studies determine that develop voluntary work reduces stress, chronic pain and insomnia.

With all this information should be very clear that if we have any way to make a work of helping others as volunteers, we have to, because our physical and mental health will be rewarded with great improvements. But if our daily life we are too busy or we want enhance the effects of our voluntary activity, we can practice the following meditation of Buddhist origin that I suggest:

· The exercise begins with a relaxation period as explained in this post. After a few minutes, after which we already feel a slower and tranquility of our rational mind, we move on to see a person who is going through a bad moment, someone close. Then wish him joy, peace, comfort, love and happiness. Imagine a magical way you send a beam of light coming out of our happy body and reaches the other person wrapping it in everything that you want for him. Now both of you are happy and you embrace.

· Now visualize another person, someone you do not know, maybe of the Third World, is going through great hardship, suffering and unhappiness, meditate on it a few minutes. As in the previous case send him a ray of light full of love, peace, relief and happiness and imagine as surrounds and bathes him in its light, filling that person from all those wonderful feelings.

· Finally, now put in your imagination to someone you do not like or with whom you have a problem. That person is also in a difficult time of grief and sadness, despite your differences, you send him the same magical beam of light that filled the same positive feelings written above. Now both embrace and even your problems have dissolved.

This meditation easy and quick to execute not only help us strengthen our sense of visualization, that many people have atrophied, but as we explained at the beginning will give us large doses of emotional wellbeing and practiced on a daily basis can give us greater physical and mental health. People are made to help others, although many have forgotten it, and extend a hand out to others unselfishly makes our bodies thank us, allowing us to be a little happier, giving us better health and greater self-esteem. So help yourself by helping others.

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In the factory: the quote of the day (23-jan)

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 17:20:00 +0000

"The greater the feeling of inferiority experienced by a person more powerful is the urge to conquest and the more violent the emotional agitation"

Alfred Adler

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Control your emotions

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Fri, 18 Jan 2013 17:44:00 +0000

All humans feel emotions, this is normal, sometimes beneficial and others detrimental to the achievement of our goals. Let's talk about the importance of emotional intelligence.

Many people of great intellect have accomplished little or nothing in life, while other people of half intellect have gone much further, what is the reason?

Emotions are a tool for the survival of the species, are psychophysiological reactions that activate different ways to act or respond to different stimuli we receive from our environment or ourselves. So are as natural as life itself and help us to adapt to the environment. But there are strong emotions and sudden (usually negative) that are difficult to control, such as anger, anxiety, fear, sadness, etc.. We know that our rational intelligence puts the path to achieve our goals, but it is emotions that drive us to cross it.

Love is the switch that activates emotional intelligence, it's amazing how easy it's to learn what one loves. So much so that it's believed that 90% of large things made by mankind have been possible thanks to the inspiration created by the emotional intelligence and the remaining 10% to the rational intelligence that logically organizes the product of inspiration.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense and guide the thinking intelligently knowing, to control and change the moods in oneself and the people around us, in order to successfully meet the various tests to which subjects us life .

The items you need to enjoy a great emotional intelligence are:

Self Awareness: Ability to analyze what happens in our mind, how we feel now.

Empathy: Learn to accept and understand people as they are, putting aside differences.

Self-esteem: The value that each gives himself. Explained in this post.

Assertiveness: You might as well say, be understanding, tolerant, successful, logical, ethical, supportive, effective, compelling, intelligent, caring, happy.

Emotional control: To Know controlled or modified the feelings, without repressing them, to know to properly express without generate internal stresses.

Motivation: To do this you need to have a life plan, visualize a goal, we all have one, learn to find it.

Be creative and productive: For this it is essential love. Love gives wings to the intelligence to turn dreams into reality. The winners feel true love for what they do. Do you know loves?

Knowing how to solve: The challenges and problems of life need to know how to solve them intelligently.

Knowing learn: People who enjoy high emotional intelligence are more productive, have greater success and learn more quickly. Having high emotional intelligence means being much longer in alpha state, which is the state of peace, harmony and relaxed concentration that gives us success in the studio or in any other work. Alpha state allows easier access to the subconscious intelligence and intuitive that lead directly to the knowledge of things without the usual rational processes. Love is a great enhancer alpha state.

Now you know better emotional intelligence, we know the importance of controlling emotions, and the elements that can grow it on you, is the time if you want to improve, if you intend to realize your fondest dreams, get in up, because you have control of your life and you are your best ally to be happy. I wish you great success and much love, keep in mind that your success is the triumph of humanity.

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In the factory: the quote of the day (16-jan)

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:58:00 +0000

"You are like the diamond: a jewel, precious and unique. And as such, only a true expert can evaluate you. Why go through life pretending that anyone discover your true value?"

Jorge Bucay

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In the factory: the quote of the day (10-jan)

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Thu, 10 Jan 2013 08:49:00 +0000

"We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We're going to put words on ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day"

Edith Lovejoy Pierce

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Happy 2013!

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 16:41:00 +0000

Another year ends and with this end most of the people we stop and think for a moment at least, to take stock of what happened in the ... after realizing, between sorrow and melancholy, how quickly it has passed, many of us are not fully satisfied with the course of our lives and we see that the actions taken during the last 365 days have not been entirely successful or some of the cases we have done absolutely nothing to take us to the life we want ... that is when the greatest number of people think that that's life, is what I happen to live, certainly next year 2013 brings me better things, to see if it changes my luck ...

Sure! The 2013 can bring you need to live what you want to live, luck does not exist you create your own, the question is whether you really want to change your life, you want to realize your dreams? or would you rather live in the apparent "comfort" of conformity and continue the "more of the same" by the fear of change. Think about, wish, act, feel, believe in you and will power to your actions, put love in everything you do, give them love to people around you and especially yourself and then see how the coming year will can bring everything you've always wanted, It can put in life that really make you happy ... Do not you want to?Do it and enjoy the best 2013 you want to live!

Happiness Factory knows that you will have a happy 2013 full of health and love ... from here I will keep reminding you how to make it even more happy and cheering for you make it with a smile on his face. Thank you very much for being part of my 2013 ...

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In the factory: the phrase of the day (28-dec)

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 17:28:00 +0000

"Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. Cherish peace and generosity and have mercy is to understand the true meaning of Christmas"

Calvin Coolidge

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Christmas is love

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Tue, 25 Dec 2012 11:56:00 +0000

Now we are engaged again at Christmas time, which usually means holidays for children, also for some of us, decorations and Christmas atmosphere, family reunions with intense and succulent bingeing, gifts and surprises from Santa Claus and Magi ... But what is the true meaning of Christmas?

But the truth is that Christmas in "advanced" countries, creators and cultivators of the consumer society, is increasingly distorted, losing its true meaning, hidden behind a cloud of opportunistic consumerism that all he seeks is increasing more and more our spending, or rather, more things to sell us that in most cases we do not need, making us believe that the more you give away and more expensive, more we love our family and friends.

That is why at this time of year when we remember and celebrate the birth of a person who tried to spread this message so pure and disinterested, we should focus on feel the true love feel it within ourselves to ourselves and to beings around us, trying to understand that true love can not be found in the material, can not be bought with money or gifts, but real love is to understand the meaning of life, is our real objective here, is stop confused us with material goods which so much entertain our five senses.

True love is within us, born from our spirituality, so accepting and cultivating it with the help of practices like meditation, self-hypnosis, visualization, helping others, etc, you can experience yourself as the sense of life is something different than what you thought for a long time, and that the message that Jesus Christ and other prophets of various religions tried to get across to other people, is that the real purpose of this life is to learn to feel the love, just accept that is within us, and that true happiness is experienced in the very moment you learn to accept it and spread it. Simply want to experience it, accept it even if your ego material you put barriers of fear, they can jump.

Wishing you wholeheartedly that the holidays are full of true love and every day you're closer to the complete happiness, lives a very Merry Christmas and do it so well for the people around you.

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Self-esteem: Top of beauty

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Mon, 24 Dec 2012 18:10:00 +0000

After speaking, at the last entry, of the unconditional acceptance of our lives and of ourselves, time to talk about self-esteem and some tricks to make it grow.

This post is based on the content of the play "The six pillars of self esteem" by psychologist Nathaniel Branden who has studied this topic in depth.

Self-esteem can be defined as the continuous assessment we make of our own person. Constantly ask ourselves if we like each other, if we are beautiful for ourselves. The truth is that when the answer is affirmative to these questions will not only be a source of beauty for ourselves, but also for others and we'll have the ability to appreciate the beauty of it all, we will enjoy our obligations, our work, our leisure, all this we bring us positivism and enriching energy.

Let us see the six basic conditions to possess high self-esteem, according Branden:

Integrity: We have to be consistent, honest with ourselves and always act with respect to our beliefs and values, do what you think is right.

Responsibility: We must be aware that we and no one but we are responsible for our actions and decisions, all we get, our values and of course, of our happiness. Every day we are able to act according to our principles, to do things with joy, to give and receive love, to be happier. You bring your own helm!

Assertiveness: Being able to express adequately as long our feelings and thoughts, not shut up something that bothers us and say that we want to be respected, to declare our opinions without fear of being judged.

Living consciously: means to be authentic, which is the result of feeling a great love for oneself. Figure out what you really want, what we want to happen in your life and what are our goals, avoiding follow the masses or that we others impose our goals. Listen to yourself and Be what you want to be.

Living with a purpose: it is born the previous point. Instead of being adrift and without direction, if we know what we want only have to work on it, we are disciplined, willpower and faith in ourselves we put on the right track. We must finish the projects we started, achieve goals, this will give us a clear sense vital.

Self-Acceptance: We all make mistakes in our lives, we must admit it and accept it, is inevitable and even positive. We must learn from them and accept that we are not perfect, to err is human.

Ultimately what we draw from all this is that we must be virtuous in everything we do, it causes our actions are more beautiful and as a result feel more harmony, love and inner peace. Follow these six points is easy and is available to anyone, do you want yourself it enough to want to love you even more?

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Wed, 05 Dec 2012 17:42:00 +0000

"Men always forget that human happiness is a disposition of mind, not a condition of the circumstances"

John Locke

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Without conditions

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Sun, 02 Dec 2012 13:46:00 +0000

Our happiness depends largely on the acceptance of which we speak in a past post, we will now develop a little more this topic, as there are two ways to accept: conditionally or unconditionally. Let's see.

According to Gandhi the way to pacify the other begins in learn to self pacified. Besides him, there are many philosophies who argue that our inner peace depends to a great way, of knowing unconditionally accept ourselves and people around us. Find we the problem that affects us the majority.

Most of us are only willing to accept us and love us, if we are able to meet a number of conditions imposed by society or family and accepted by our subconscious, as they have been inculcated from very young and very constant: have a good job and succeed in it, start a family, be a good student, be handsome, tall and thin, good sportsmanship, have many properties, if our house is bigger than the other ...Better!, Succeed in everything that we set, and a long and drawn etc. All this, does no more than put mental conditions that become obstacles that prevent us to accept and love ourselves, already to get it everything, and be infallible is impossible for us mortals and this leads to constant unhappiness. Condition our own self-esteem to achieve the things that "we should" be or have cause undoubtedly a fragile emotional stability. Although we are very good at what we do, to be always on top of the success we will exhaust us, and will eliminate our ability to enjoy life.

In a parallel fashion case our acceptance of others is overshadowed by our tendency to think we are superior, especially when someone offends us: we judge him, despise and from our apparent superiority, we look for ways to punish him. This soon turns against us, because if we accept that others are worthless, unconsciously we assume that we not worth much, because in the end, sooner or later, we will behave so incompetently.

The solution to the problem is self-observe, especially when we have a downturn in mood or self-esteem, and we would ask us ourselves if we have fallen into the trap of valuing from our materials successes and failures. If so, we have to know that this plays against us, but above all understand that we all have objectives, goals or aspirations, but those achievements should not define our core value as a human being and our ability to be respected. Similarly, the greater the respect we have for others, the more we will respect ourselves. To help in this, remember the following principle of the Mahatma: "hates the offense, but do not hate the person who has offended you," thinks the person who aggresses you first he has attacked himself, for in his world, he suffers from low self-esteem, is obfuscated and misled by the continuous spiral of personal judgments that occur daily in our minds and help us so little.

Accept yourself as a human being you are, accept that you have dreams and goals, but they are not part of your being, if the end them can not be achieved you should still feel love for yourself and for life in general. Accepts people who cross your path and be aware that their actions are not part of them because they may be self-deceived by their own mental judgments, just as you were. Feel love them also, you'll see as you will be returned is a combination of love and happiness that is to the liking of any mortal.

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Sun, 25 Nov 2012 12:49:00 +0000

"Not is richer, who has more, but who needs the least"

Augustine of Hippo

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Do you really need it?

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Wed, 21 Nov 2012 09:10:00 +0000

Often people have a value scale somewhat distorted about what we think we need in our lives in order to be fully happy. Let's talk about it.

In the countries of the so-called "first world" where reigns the voracious consumer society of capitalist character, have taught and instilled by the media and from very young, neurotically to need things, and more material things, many of which we use once before corner them into oblivion, in other cases we can not even use them ever, others acquire just a whim, "buy to feel good." In the spiritual and emotional level also tend to need certain situations or events, also imposed by the environment in which we live, not to be happy, but rather to at least be comforted, just as a baby needs his pacifier. Is this healthy?

Our mental health is seriously compromised behind the thin line between "need" and "to prefer". The latter, "to prefer" means you want to choose something for you, whether a material, a situation, a couple, anything we want put in our lives, but if we can not get it or we do not find the appropriate, will not provide any kind of discomfort, our life can continue with confidence and happiness. By contrast "need" is the same finish to explain, except that if we can not get what you want, cause us pain, restlessness, anxiety, sadness and dissatisfaction.

The material mind, who joins us in this life, is very poorly educated and tends to create constant needs that, if not satisfied we'll suffer and be sad. Although we achieve pursue some of them the joy that gives us their achievement is temporary and short, and new needs will to be met and that will worry us again. That is why we must educate our minds, teach "to prefer" rather than "need" to learn to accept the things I can not bring or change in our lives and rebuild our scale of values, giving priority to things much easier to get, that can bring great satisfaction and much happiness to our lives, such as enjoy intensely the small pleasures of life: chatting with friends, visiting new places, a country walk, a good coffee, an interesting book, meditation, be well with the family, feel love for the people in your life ... think about it, there are hundreds of things and situations that already have there and you can enjoy immensely, with every drop of enjoyment can fill a beautiful lake of happiness.

Remember too you can find out what you really want, in this post you have a guide to find out, no doubt, what is that yes you want bring to your life and bring you a great deal of love and happiness.

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In the factory: the phrase of the day (15-nov)

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 07:25:00 +0000

"Man becomes what he thinks of himself. If I keep telling myself I can not do a certain thing, it is very likely to end up turning me into a incapable to do it. By contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, surely I will acquire the ability to do it even if I could not do it in the beginning"

Mahatma Gandhi

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Courage! Yes, it's possible!

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 15:43:00 +0000

From Happiness Factory I defend a completely happy life is possible, to change our lives and what we feel is within reach of everyone. Let's review the tools available to us to change our world.

Love is a feeling so powerful and beneficial than for me is not the result of being happy, but rather an essential element in order to become one. Although one is not happy, you can feel real love for yourself, people in his life or certain elements of the world. Feeling love, and make it grow even more, let help us in creating our happiness: Love, love and ......Love!, and Do you know about love? are the post's than guide you.

Faith, believing in what you do and in yourself is as important as it is the cement in the construction of a house. Keep the Faith will guide you in this aspect.

Willpower is the force that moves the world and will work to build the happy life you really want. Willpower: the tool of creators, with this post you will understand better.

A majority of people do not know what they are in life and what they really want, that disorientation is a cause of pain and unhappiness. Let's see how to find out and put light on this important aspect of our lives: Know what you really want?

Once we know for sure our "life function" and it really would make us happy, we must know how to fulfill those desires for self-perform us and bring us great happiness. In Your wish is my command! (Part One) and its following parts, see the guidelines to bring them to our existence.

There are other elements, apart from what we most want, than can give us a significant portion of happiness and harmony. In entries like: Happiness Exercises: The Now, Happiness Exercises: Feel your inner Happiness Exercises: Breathing, Happiness Exercises: Concentrate your alertness will find a number of practices that will help us increase our mental or physical health and as not , our love.

Having a functional and well-educated mind is essential to our aspirations, for this we must take into account certain aspects of our behavior that we train and improve to see life from another angle. These entries can help you to:

Everything posted here are guidelines, tips and exercises based on reading books like the ones I recommend here and from my personal experience, I will continue posting entries and I would love that we diffuse it to all, in order to reach as many people as possible . My life after a great transformation, continues to change for the better with each passing day, so I can assure you that no matter how hard, black, or sad that you see your life, change it for the better is possible, this is not magic and does not change for overnight, but with full faith in what you do, your will power and love for yourself and for life, the transformation of this you can get, and a better world for all can stop being a utopia to become reality, for sure!

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In the factory: the phrase of the day (31-oct)

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Wed, 31 Oct 2012 16:26:00 +0000

"Perhaps the suffering and love have a capacity of redemption that men have forgotten or at least neglected"

Martin Luther King

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Transforms suffering in peace & love

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 16:04:00 +0000

Suffering and illness, unfortunately, exist in this material life, but as we saw in the last post about the acceptance, there is no obstacle that can destroy our happiness and love that dwell within. Let's look more practically how to transform suffering.

This practice will greatly help in times of diseases that cause great suffering. We must start from the certainty that our being is not only material, in this life is composed of soul and body, but we must admit that our real existence is outside of psychological time created by our material mind, we are eternal as is the energy and the universe itself. This life is only one stage in our lives, know it.

The disease can be a situation that you live, has a past and a future. Include the disease in psychological time of our mind will only prolong it and increase the suffering it causes us, since it to the feel fully identified with it becomes part of our being. We will implement the following, provided with all the faith in your ability to get it:

Focus on this precise moment, in the now, do not label the disease, mentally, do not you. Now the disease is reduced to what it really is, a series of symptoms that you have to accept that. Feel them in your body, accept that they are there, but remember, you are a healthy, is just your body that is damaged. Use the pain or suffering that may cause you to be fully present. Surrender and accept what is, a physical illness, but this is not you. This will transform you and when you transform yourself, the world around you does too. Do you not want to change that?

Do not be you guilty, or feel unsuccessful, not feel sorry, do not even think how bad life has treated you, all those feelings are created by your temporary material mind, so that you cling to it, so that your current situation never will changes. Do not think of the memories of the disease or how it will be in the future, feel what is in your body, focus on the present moment, in pain and you get to transform it into a deep inner peace and serenity that are not common in this material life, it certainly will totally change your life and once the serious illness, completely open the door to the love and happiness.

In the case of terminal illness where death is close, do this practice is a great help, since the purpose of it is to accept the present situation, not being sick in body and soul, only at corporal level, accept death just as we accept the birth, to silence the material mind and discover the absolute certainty that we are immortal at the spiritual level, which will fill us with an extraordinary peace that will prepare us for the journey out of this material life. Remember every day feel love toward you and all around you, this will give you an extra dose of health, physical and spiritual level.

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:38:00 +0000

"Concentrate is to keep the mind fixed on a form or object for a long time. To get rid of the oscillations of the mind and some other obstacles that are in the way, should be practiced concentration on one thing"

Swami Sivananda

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Happiness Exercises: Concentrate your alertness

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Fri, 28 Sep 2012 16:40:00 +0000

Those who ordinarily follow the blog know very well that what is promoted here is enjoy a life full of love and happiness, and it is therefore very important to have a healthy mind and educated. The simple practice of which we speak then help us, for sure.

Our mind is a very powerful tool, but like all great tool if not used properly, can harm us. Since this blog does not just want to help promote happiness and love among all mortals, but also learn to better understand and shape our mind, so necessary to our life here.

The busy lives that many we carry it causes stress and can lead, in many cases, acute attacks of nerves or anxiety. This exercise is described by Dr. Andrew Weil and known by most psychotherapists. It is recommended for its simplicity and its high reliability. We can put into practice in any crisis of anxiety or nerves and is also effective to fall asleep, let's see how is:

It consists of three phases, each of which focuses on a different sensory modality: Breathing, sounds and touch:

1. Focus all your alertness on your breath. You must notice as the air goes in and out of your lungs, as fill they and empty, like walking your throat, your voice box and how you feel in and out through your nose or mouth. Should be performed for four breathing cycles (inspiration and expiration), which will take about 10 seconds.

2. And then for about 10 more seconds put your attention on each and every one of the sounds that reach your ears, however slight in degree. If there is only silence (something difficult) focus on it, trying to "hear" the silence.

3. Finally, and for 10 seconds more pay careful attention to everything that touches your skin, clothes, bracelet or maybe a watch, feel the touch your feet inside your shoes or note as touching the lips closed, there are many things we can feel with touch and we are not normally aware.

The full course of the 3 phases we can take us 30 to 40 seconds, and we repeat it about 3 times, or more if we can not calm down soon. Why does this work? When we focus on one point we reduce the amount of stimuli we receive from the environment and the communication with our unconscious mind is increased, we lower the rate of consciousness, is what is commonly referred to as "being more suggestible" and is the technique which is based on hypnosis. That is why if you do this exercise while we mentally repeat "I am increasingly relaxed and calm" our unconscious mind will believe thus, and will make it possible.

As you could see is a simple technique and rapid to perform, it is worth learning and disseminate for everyone to use at some point of extreme nerves or anxiety. At times in life where you traverse difficult situations that result in great nervousness, can be of great help carry it out every day, even if we not suffer none crisis. Everyone has a right and we are in this life to live and enjoy it with love and happiness, so get up and say yes to change if your life situation is not what makes you happy. Remember to feel love for you and all around you.

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Wed, 26 Sep 2012 14:56:00 +0000

"In a higher world could be otherwise, but here below to live is to change and to be perfect is to have changed often"

John H. Newman

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The change: synonymous with evolution

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:04:00 +0000

Life is constant change, big test for this is that our body is almost completely renewed every ten years. Incredible! but then... Why do we get so afraid of change?

Human beings are animals of habit, from a very young we feel safer in the monotony, because our material mind loves to know what will happen tomorrow, be in control, but our true self sometimes this comes to seem boring. When a significant and unexpected change in life, our first reaction is fear and rejection of him.

The famous popular saying, "is better known evil than an unknown good" is a clear example of the most common way to deal with the changes by most people. Again we have to change the approach with which we view the world, we must see the great changes as the beginning of a new reality full of opportunities for us, we have to move forward and not be paralyzed waiting for the situation back to what it was or by the fear of not knowing what will happen to us. Remember that time just as you conceive people is an illusion created by our mind, the future shouldn't worry too much and cling to the past with classic "with how well I was" not going to be very productive.

In the last post on the acceptance, we talked about the importance of not resisting the situations that arise in life, to accept makes life flow in a way smoother, more friendly, and even we can know our true nature as mortals that we are, as our material mind refuses to understand death, does not want cease to exist, but also tends not to accept our other party that you can not "see" and that does not die with our body. We must accept change when they arrive, and we should be more present in our lives to see them arrive more in advance and to take the measures that we consider appropriate.

So it is clear that the most productive and correct attitude is to accept the change, feel love for your life and your surroundings, be thankful for what you have and what you are, be positive and look with perseverance, faith and strength of will a new living situation we meet again, and I assure you that if we use these tools listed, it is likely that this new situation will be much better than we were living so far.

In this blog I want to emphasize, with particular momentum, is that our mind, in most cases, is out of control and rude, but with practice, simple exercises we discussed and real desire to change, you can educate and convert a great tool to generate the life you really want, of love and happiness. Do you accept the change?

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 10:16:00 +0000

"Love and do what you want. If you shut up, will shut up with love, if you scream, will scream with love, if you correct, will correct with love, if you forgive, will forgive with love. If you have love rooted in you, nothing else but love will be thine increase"

St. Augustine

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Love, love and... Love!

noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 14:12:00 +0000

As you may have been able to discover, the true star of this blog is love. This time I want to reflect, in a more practical way, how to use and why, the more powerful and constructive sentiment there, love, to attract more happiness into our lives.

Perhaps we think that love is a feeling human being itself, many of us can give only the meaning more romantic of the word, but we will see that love is something much bigger and universal than romanticism us made to understand, that is as necessary as life itself. Here we go.

All forms of life is capable of feeling love, as well in his book explains Eduardo Punset "The journey to love." Universal and historically people have understood more the love from their more romantic side, as a feeling that is only able to enjoy the human being and that is closely related to the love affair between people or the feeling of brotherhood among family or friends. In part we are right, but love is still much more than that.

Love is a feeling so important and powerful that not only feel it people, but that it is proving scientifically that all living beings are capable of feeling love for their similar to interact and ensure the permanence of the species over time. Even bacteriological level, bacteria feel the need from their similar want to interact others with to procreate, seeking unity in the same way that people do when seeking a partner with whom to share our lives and have offspring. So then love is universal, is the feeling it creates, gives life, is used by all living things and is a great source of happiness.

But this precious feeling we should not only relate with everything related to reproduction. Brotherly love, you may feel towards family or friends, is so useful, necessary and powerful, that the absence of it in our lives, causes illness and mental disorders in most cases can lead us to suffer various types of neurosis. Love is so important during childhood and in adulthood. The absence of love causes fear, and can raise complex of inferiority, that our mind try to fix creating a fantasy of superiority to that individual. The person believed superior to others becomes neurotic and arrogant, which makes it very difficult relationships with their peers, and at the time that his belief of superiority, is removed by reality, it is very easy to fall into the clutches of anxiety and depression.

Anyway, is shown as defended the Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler, that even neurotic people can greatly improve when they stop seeing life through the lens of superiority-inferiority and open the door to love in your life. Work with others, feeling socially integrated and loved by others, this brotherly love, causes one to feel equal to others, you will be able to break the cycle of neurosis that his mind created for him. Therefore, we have to understand the importance of love is such that without it our mental and physical health is seriously threatened, without it, animal species, including our own, would not have endured over time and especially without love we allow the material mind take full control and create other feelings as harmful and destructive. So here are some tips for better love.

A great way to love others is giving before receiving. When we give something without expecting anything in return, we are dealing with love, equality and respect for others, may be surprised by how generous they can be people after giving us the first step.

Do not be lonely, looking for people with common interests or hobbies, let it come into your life and allow yourself to have friends. Do not let it, for fear of being disappointed.

Look at the world from the perspective of equality. In this capitalist society promotes "You possess this, you're worth it", but as you have seen, what is here have here will stay, so forget what they have or do not have the others, race or age, look at the person and feel him as your similar.

Check out what you do in your life and makes room for love in your everyday life, do not be so materialistic, maybe there are things you do not need ... but feel love we have seen that it is essential.

One of the best ways to have happiness in your life is to have fun, play, brings out the child in you and share these amusements with the people you want, this is a great way to give and receive love, it's easy, right?

We have expanded knowledge of the qualities and the great importance of love in life, so I just hope that you all this has been very helpful and above all do not forget that the first person you should love to be able to love others is yourself.

Thank you very much for reading my words. Contribute to your comment.

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Thu, 06 Sep 2012 11:29:00 +0000

"Those who are going very slowly, follow the right way, can go a long more than those who run by lost road"

Plutarco

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noreply@blogger.com (David M) — Mon, 03 Sep 2012 10:21:00 +0000

Life in the "modern" societies is really crazy, hundreds of tasks imposed on us and we often self-impose, make us go running all the time, what purpose? All this makes us happy? Do we let some time for love?

Living in a big city you might say which is synonymous with stress. The larger the group of people living in a town more things we seem to be forced to do with less time to execute. There are many cases in which our own mind us impose tasks more and more ... the same is so moved to our young assigning to them new activities, while they grow.

All this to make us more competent, more prepared to get high in the social scale materialistic ... But has anyone stopped to think if we are really happy doing this kind of thing? Do we have time to enjoy? Are we aware that our life here is endless and that all material properties that we have, will stay here?

Stop and reflect on all that can us lead to the conclusion that many of the tasks we do throughout our lives, we make them out of obligation. Work is needed to make money to enable us to buy things to live, also, it is imperative study learning materials that allow us to perform work to earn wages. Relationships with other people are also essential as we saw in last post: Friendship: Source of Happiness. These are a small sampling of the many activities that can occupy our daily lives.

The problem itself is not these activities, but also the level to which we carry in technically advanced societies and especially in large population centers. People want everything now, at once, the rest of us require us to act with the same speed when handing something. The materialistic ambition, a feeling terribly destructive, causing this acceleration time (want more done in less time) we prefix the speed to quality, we have created a spiral of stress that seems hard to leave, our material mind roots us more in and it reminds us that there is no escape ... Is it possible to live in a society at a slower pace, more natural?

Of course it's possible! As in everything we discussed in this blog, just change the angle of approach that we live this life, change the collective mind, but for this we must start with ourselves. Here are some tips that can help:

From time to time, at least a couple times a year, stop and think about what you're doing in your life. What you do, it makes you happy, performs you as a person? Read, Know what you really want? help you much at this point.

Choose things you really want to do in your life, everything you do is not really important, in fact, nothing to do in this life is as important as to snatch happiness, remember: Happiness Exercises (I). Choose carefully what you really want to do and you will enjoy more time for yourself. This post can help you with your list: Your wish is my command! (Part Two)

Converts the tasks you do in your life in a fun game for you, do not try to reach the finish as fast as possible, ends do not justify the means, but enjoys the way towards it, and it will come to you. For example, if your goal is to get a partner with whom to fully enjoy the love, not obsess, not rush, calmly meet people, and more people, become an expert in the art of meeting people, enjoy the process, the right person will come.

There are always obstacles along the way that can lead to disappointing or negative emotions. Please allow to pass, accept and persevere, your faith in yourself and your willpower will have you to keep constantly in your way, do not run, negative feelings will pass, as does the storm, when just gives way to a beautiful, sunny blue sky.

Perfectionism is a big mistake, do not always have to collect the perfect circumstances to continue the pursuit of our goal. Being realistic is much more practical and understand that while things now are not the most favorable, we have to keep rowing in the direction you want to go. Thus, when things seem to go in our favor, we will move quickly without having to run.

Quality is synonymous with happiness, is positive, joy and love. Make our activities, live our lives, with quality rather than speed, we will ensure a fuller life, happier and with a greater number of goals achieved successfully. Start with yourself, each of us have to put our two cents, to end the spiral of stress and speed as associated with excessive ambition that pollutes and distorts our lives. Do not forget to feel love for everything around you, you can not imagine how much that feeling can bring to your life.

Thank you very much for reading my words. Contribute to your comment.

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