My dog, Kipper, even began having some strange symptoms.  His ears got all swollen and puffy, his eyes puffy, and when that went away, he got little bumps on his nose that almost look like blisters.  I believe in using essential oils to help with physical ailments, and one of the oils that Kipper needed is clove oil.  It’s full of antioxidants, and so I applied this to his paws and ears.  This helped alleviate those symptoms, but then his nose erupted with bumps.

So I put this Animal Scents essential oil ointment on it, and it’s improving.  Our animals respond to the energy in our homes and in ourselves, even before we know anything.  Well, a few weeks ago I told you the story of how my brother-in-law, Jim, had been living here for 2.5 months, and we asked him to leave on 2/2/12.  He knew it wasn’t permanent and that we were helping him to get back on his feet.  It was a friendly departure.

He and my husband kept in regular contact while Jim stayed in this little hotel in down town St. Louis.  Well we hadn’t heard from him in 5 days and were concerned.  Steve had actually been calling the landlord for 5 days without any response.  So on Tuesday, Steve finally got a hold of him and asked him to go check on his brother.

You see you can’t just drive to this hotel unannounced (it’s locked up and you have to call ahead first).  Anyhow, they found his brother dead in his hotel room from what we are assuming was a drug overdose.  It was a big shock to all of us.  We had really gotten to know and care about Jim, and so it really affected my entire family.  They suspect he’d died on 2/16, five days earlier.

I’ve been processing my feelings all week long.  Part of me knows that Jim is in a better place, where he’s happy and getting ready to create another life experience.  Then there is the part of me that feels very sad for Steve, my husband, who I saw cry for the first time when he learned of Jim’s death.

Our house is full of emotion right now, and we’re holding a memorial service for Jim this Sunday at our home.  This got me to thinking about how all emotion is energy in motion, and that it’s neither positive or negative.  All emotion can help enliven us if we allow ourselves to truly FEEL it.  Sadness can serve to connect us to others at a heart level.

Stay tuned for a future ezine in which I explore more about emotions and how to really reclaim your power from them.

Tribute to Jim Monko:  I know you’re out there, buddy.  I want you to know that I truly enjoyed our brief time together, the many philosophical debates, the dinners, your help with making salads and vacuuming and hanging out, baking cookies together.  You and I have this in common:  we are both rebels and questioners of what is the Truth.  May God bless you in your next life experience!  We love you and miss you!

Love & Blessings,

Angie

That is why it seems you have this love-hate relationship with food.  Wouldn’t it be nice if you could transform all of your negative emotion about food and how it will impact your body to neutral or positive emotion?  Wouldn’t it be nice if you could accept yourself right where you’re at?

You are an energetic being with a point of attraction or vibration, and everything in the Universe is responding to your vibration, even your computer and inanimate objects.  The idea, then, is that you need to clean up your vibration around food.  This is not always easy when reality is staring you in the face.

What do I mean by clean up your vibration?  You need to start thinking about food in such a way that it brings you feelings of relief.  You don’t have to eat sugar or starchy carbs or anything you don’t want to.  You CAN eat any food, as long as you’re in vibrational alignment with it.

If all of your life food has been the enemy, then you have some aligning to do.  If you look at carbs and sweets and gain 5 pounds, you know what I mean.  Reality is telling you (because it’s been confirmed over and over again in your experience) that you’ll gain weight if you eat certain foods.  I want to be very clear that I’m not suggesting any particular food plan for you to follow.  It really doesn’t matter as far as the principle I’m discussing.

What does matter is that you feel good about the food plan.  You feel that it is serving you and leading you in the direction of your authentic self.  You’ll know if this is the case because you’ll feel happy and energized by your food.

I would like to suggest that you read Paul McKenna’s book, I Can Make You Thin.  In his book, he advises you to follow 4 golden rules:

A.  When you are hungry, eat.

B.  Eat what you want, not what you think you should.

D.  When you think you are full, STOP eating.

C.  Eat consciously and enjoy every mouthful.

Although these rules seem simple and they are, they are not exactly easy to follow.  After all, you’ve been strongly conditioned to believe certain food is bad for you.  And how in the world are you going to be able to tell if you’re full?  Many people have lived with being out of tune with their body for so long that they no longer receive the message they are full.

Perhaps try these four golden rules for a couple of weeks, and then keep trying them.  You won’t most likely “get” them all over night, but if you persist, you’ll reap great rewards.

When you starve yourself, your body freaks out and goes into survival mode because it thinks there is a famine and stores fat in your cells. Consistently overriding your body’s natural call for food slows your metabolism so your body can conserve energy.

It also sets up dysfunctional patterns of thinking in the subconscious in relation to food.  This subtle tension around food sets up a powerful neuro-chemical change in the brain that leads to false hunger signals and patterns of craving and binging.  The less you trust your body, the less trustworthy your body’s messages become.

Of course, I recommend that you use meridian tapping to help you change how you think about food.  And I recommend that you schedule an appointment if you are truly ready to end the love-hate relationship with food.  Click this link:  https://my.timedriver.com/D1X3P

Many Blessings,

Angie Monko 314-422-6520

]]> http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/do-you-have-a-love-hate-relationship-with-food/feed/ 0 http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/does-food-camouflage-your-problems/ http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/does-food-camouflage-your-problems/#comments Fri, 10 Feb 2012 17:47:40 +0000 Angie http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/?p=782 Continue reading →]]> One day at a time.  This is a popular slogan in a recovery program I’ve been in for nearly 10 years.  It simply means you don’t have to figure out a problem all at once for the rest of your life.  Take one day at a time and focus on what you want for that day.

You can apply this to anything.  I have found myself relying on food for comfort, probably in the last couple of years.  I’ve actually always found food comforting.  I see it as a reward at the end of the day or when I feel anxious about something.

Over 10 years ago, before joining this recovery program, I’d binge on food and then restrict it for a few days, feel deprived and binge again, and so the vicious cycle kept repeating.  Each time I did it, I felt guilty and I’d want to punish myself.  So I’d try really hard to eat low calorie food, feel deprived and then eat, hoping the food would solve the problem.

What exactly was the problem?  As long as I camouflaged it with the food, it was hard telling.  I didn’t know.  Then I joined my program and I learned that if I overrate because I felt bad due to some problem, I’d then have two problems, the original problem plus a weight/food problem.  The food never solves anything; in fact, it prevents resolution.

So I went along for a long time, and I learned to cope with my uncomfortable feelings with prayer and meditation and journaling and living a life of integrity.  I kept stepping up my game in life, putting myself out there, out of my comfort zone.

I left my corporate job to pursue coaching, hypnosis and EFT full time a year ago.  And though I love what I do and find it very fulfilling, running a business on your own after being shielded by corporate America for twenty years can be daunting.  One is expected to become the marketing expert, the finance expert, the accounts receivable and payable departments, the sales person, the buyer of products and services that will further the business, and you name it.

I’ve heard that when stress descends upon you, that people will resort to old coping mechanisms, and so I found myself relying on food, my old buddy, for support.  Then I heard someone say, “If you think you’re abstinent from compulsive eating, try following a food plan.”  I really hadn’t been following a strict food plan, and so sometimes I’d eat when I truly wasn’t hungry.

I also started eating recreational sugar again and searching for calmness in the food.  I observed myself doing these things.  All this time, I felt I’d improved my relationship with a Higher Power.  I’d kept going to my program meetings, kept praying, increased my meditation time to one hour daily.  So why did I rely on food for comfort? Habit.

Something made me realize I wanted to change this.  I listened to my negative emotions, which were guiding me to change.  As I continue to move into the unknown, I’ve decided I want to be an example of peace and joy.  I must walk my talk and worrying about finances isn’t congruent with who I’m becoming, thus my negative emotions.

I needed to reconcile my current reality with who I’m being called to be.  So I began to write a daily action plan for my success, just a few items to accomplish for the day that would support my health and wealth, because they are inextricably woven together.  The degree to which I can let go of worry, fear and doubt determines my degree of health and wealth.

Release the fear, release the fat.  So one day at a time, I’ve decided to not eat sugar (God is my dessert).  Is this forever?  No.  I evaluate my intention each day.  My goal is to have a feeling of peace and faith without the appearance of human security.  This means that my peace and joy don’t depend on numbers, the number on the scale or in my bank account.

The irony is that as I release the fear, have faith in a Higher Power, the number on the scale goes down, and the number in my bank account goes up.  For today, I choose to appreciate my current body, and I am grateful for the money I have.  In other words, for today, I’ve decided that I’m enough.  Are you?  One day at a time… you are a magnificent work in progress.

If you’d like to figure out this food stuff, call me (314-422-6520).

Blessings,
Angie Monko

Jim and I loved to share light-hearted debates about life, our philosophies being on opposite ends of the spectrum.  I believe we create our destiny, that God lives within us, that our energetic vibration either attracts wonderful things to us or not-so-great things, that we’re always at choice.

Jim is a devout atheist, believes that emotions are meaningless, laughs at my energetic notions, doesn’t believe in happiness, thinks we are sophisticated animals.  I never tried to convince Jim of my side.  I merely told him to look at results.  Was he happy?  Admittedly, he wasn’t.

I believe under the surface he was in so much pain that he couldn’t conceive of coping with life, let alone thriving.  I tried to lift him up through an example of clarity and happiness.  Things were fine overall.

Then Jim received some money that he’d been waiting on.  And the first night, he went to the casino, and he won around $650.  But, you see, he is a gambling addict, and he stayed at the boat from Tuesday until Friday evening without any sleep, surviving on nicotine, getting sick for lack of sleep.

In the course of a week, he lost over $7,000 and was back to being destitute.  This money had been his opportunity to start a new life, and he’d even enrolled in college.  We were trying to give him a chance to make a new start.

He was clean, neat, charming, articulate.  But then his addictive personality took over, and his negativity began to affect our household.  We needed to draw a boundary, and so we asked him to leave.  It was difficult because I have no idea how he’s going to make it.

I see so much potential in him, but he is his own worst enemy.  Perhaps you know someone like this.  It’s especially hard to not enable someone you love, but it really does them no favors.  I really want to believe that Jim will figure things out and learn a lesson.  The worse the behavior, the harder it is to see beyond it.  By asking him to leave, in essence, we are putting faith in him to get a job and figure this out.

Towards the end of Jim’s visit, I became resentful and judgmental of him.  I didn’t want to feel this way, but I did.  I know no one is perfect, and I have some of the same defects as Jim, even if just a small part.  I can be close-minded, egotistical, self-righteous, fearful, defensive.  I say this in response, “Whatever part of me created the suffering I see in Jim (because I do create my response to it and how I perceive it), I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”

This is called ho’oponopono.  It can heal the defects you see in others, by you taking ownership of the world you’ve created.  The basis of it is that every single person on the planet is connected to one another.  We are all one.  As we heal defects within ourselves, they are healed in everyone.

You cannot withhold love from one person and not withhold it from everyone.  Chew on that for a while.  I’m an expert at helping you come alive and be who you really are, accepting yourself right now.  Call me for a complimentary, 1/2 hour coaching session to see if we’d be a good fit for each other (314-422-6520).

God Bless,
Angie Monko

There are walking trails in the woods, and the monks have regularly scheduled masses, and they make all of their own meals.  One of the things they do to keep the place operating is make fruit cakes and sell them. They offer the place to people for a love offering, and you’re invited to share in their meals as well.  It’s a modest place as far as furnishings, but what I love about it is the peace and tranquility.

You can’t always up and leave your family for a weekend though, can you? So what can you do when you feel out of sorts and being pulled in different directions?  Last night I kept getting up to use the restroom, and around 3am, my husband still hadn’t come to bed.  I’d been awakened by a loud thumping noise and went to investigate.

Well, he and my daughter, Chelsea, her friend, and my brother-in-law, Jim, were all out in the living room watching a movie–at 3am!  My husband had decided that Chelsea could “skip” school Friday since she’d gone to her first ever concert Thursday night and had gotten home late.  It agitated me because I felt like they’d all be sleeping the day away while I worked.  I felt my judgments rise.  I just went back to bed, but I felt annoyed and had a hard time getting back to sleep at first.

So I asked myself, “How can you calm yourself and go to sleep even though you know the alarm is going to go off in an hour?”  (I get up early as you can see). So I started to breathe deeply and say to myself, “I love and appreciate even this little life annoyance.  I love and appreciate this moment.” I fell asleep quickly.  I had effectively self-soothed!

Then later in the morning when I was lying in the hot bikram yoga studio on my mat, about to practice, I mused about how I get so impatient with life’s inconveniences. They are more of an energy robber than death. I asked myself, “Why should life’s circumstances be easy?”  Do I really require them to be easy to feel good?

It seems that I have not accepted life’s petty disturbances as part of life.  Even just as I typed this, my computer did something and deleted a sentence–you know how those little quirks can happen, right?  I began to react and get angry for it “inconveniencing” me.  How dare it waste my precious time?  I laughed at myself, observing my silliness.  The truth is I have the ability to accept life on life’s terms.  I can make life easy, but I need to flow with it, instead of trying to control every nuance.

I cannot do this alone with my ego in charge.  I have to surrender to my Higher Self, my Higher Wisdom.  My ego has no clue how to navigate life.  My ego’s need to control will drain my energy and zap my joy.  It will worry about running out of money even when there is plenty.  It will tell me that I have nothing to offer this world and that I will fail and let myself and my family down.

This is just nonsense.  If you can relate to this negative self-talk, then breathe, become self-aware, and tell your ego to calm its butt down!  YOU are in charge, not your fearful, doubtful, judgmental, critical EGO (Easing God Out) self.

God Bless,
Angie Monko

]]> http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/petty-inconveniences-versus-death-which-do-you-choose/feed/ 0 http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/are-your-teens-driving-you-crazy/ http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/are-your-teens-driving-you-crazy/#comments Fri, 20 Jan 2012 16:25:14 +0000 Angie http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/?p=686 Continue reading →]]> If your teens are driving you crazy, you’re not alone!  Maybe you’re a mom or dad, grandma or grandpa, an aunt or uncle, sibling, cousin.  I know some mothers who worry about their teens even when they’re at home.  Are they watching Internet porn, connecting with pedophiles on Face book who want to meet up with them, basically hooking up with the wrong crowd who can corrupt their sponge-like vulnerable minds?

This doesn’t even touch on what they could be doing when they aren’t home, such as doing illegal drugs, drinking alcohol, having unprotected sex, contracting sexually-transmitted diseases, getting pregnant, getting someone pregnant, hanging out with kids who are even more lost than they are, and the list of worries are interminable.

How do you cope with all of the change that is occurring for the teenager in your life?  I have two teen-aged girls, Maddie & Chelsea, soon to be 16 and 17 years old.  I know they have added pressures of performing well in school, getting high scores on their ACT exam, participating in extracurricular activities,  saying no to sex, saying no to drugs and alcohol, and all the while trying to figure out who they are with raging hormones running amok.

If you’re at all like me, you want more than anything for your teens to become happy, well-adjusted adults.  You want them to find a partner in life when they ARE READY who will treat them with love and respect.  You want them to eat primarily healthy foods and take care of their bodies.  You want them to pick a career they’re passionate about and make a lot of money.  Basically, you want them to have everything in life, especially the things you weren’t able to accomplish yourself.

This all makes a lot of sense, and I commend you for having such wonderful intentions.  The tough part about all of this is that your teens are going to make mistakes.  They are going to trigger feelings in you that go back to when you were a teenager.  Do you realize this is why they drive you crazy?  If you have a teen who seems selfish and immature and dishonest, they remind you of this part of yourself.  This part of you still exists; it hasn’t completely matured, and nor will it until you make peace with it.

So what is the best way for you to find relief and find it fast?  Take care of yourself!  Start tending to your own needs and desires, the ones that haven’t been fulfilled for a long time.  Make yourself happy.  This isn’t selfish, and your teenagers won’t resent you for it.  They want to take direction from adults they respect.  If you aren’t happy and fulfilled and you are angry and resentful and bitter, then why would they want to listen to you?  They love you, make no mistake.  But that doesn’t mean they respect your opinion.

Listen, I know this sounds harsh.  Don’t take it that way.  You truly are doing your best.  I still get into petty arguments with my teenagers, and if I’m tired or feeling slightly under the weather, I’m particularly vulnerable.  What is more, they can sense if my energy is down and may even test me more during these times.  So it pays for me to take REALLY good care of myself, reward myself for my work as a business owner and wife and mother, don’t over-schedule myself, get enough sleep, eat healthy, exercise.

Would you like more information about how you can gain immediate relief and take the sting out of your teen parenting years and intimately connect with your teens?  They are still the same adorable kids you liked when they were eleven and younger.  I have some keys to share with you to bring back those intimate years of parenting.

Mark your calendars for an upcoming teleseminar on February 2 at 7pm Central time, “Are Your Teens Driving You Crazy and How to Find Immediate Relief.”  I’ll be sending out more details in the next few days.

Blessings,
Angie Monko
314-422-6520

]]> http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/are-your-teens-driving-you-crazy/feed/ 0 http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/do-you-choose-to-participate-in-all-this-fear/ http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/do-you-choose-to-participate-in-all-this-fear/#comments Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:53:01 +0000 Angie http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/?p=672 Continue reading →]]> Happy New Year and welcome to 2012!  I am not participating in any fearful predictions of what this year has to bring, nor am I participating in the recession.  If the worst should happen and the entire planet were destroyed (and it won’t be), you would just return to your blissful, eternal state of Wholeness.  You’ll simply return to Who You Really Are as ONE collective body of Loving Energy.  I truly know there is nothing to fear here.

Why not just enjoy your daily moments and open your hearts to receive MORE love and joy (more on that in the main article)?  If when you die, you go back to your original state of Energy and become ONE with All that is, then why the fear?  Well, let’s get very honest.  Your ego self wants you to believe that the world should serve it in every capacity.

Your ego self is very afraid of being annihilated.  As a separate physical body, death, to the ego, means the end of your life and your existence as you know it, a vanishing into nothingness.  I would be scared too!  Your Higher Self knows this is silly and nonsense.  Nothing is ever created or destroyed, as proved by Einstein, and you are 100% made of Energy as everything in the Universe is.  You cannot be destroyed.  Rest in this knowledge and feel it at the very center of your Being.  Remember who you are.

Make a vow that 2012 will be your best year ever, because you are going to come into alignment with Who You Really Are.  Decide that you will live your life from a place of ease and grace.  Let go of the belief that it is natural to struggle.  It isn’t!  Arnold Patent in his book, You Can Have It All, says that beliefs aren’t natural.  They take a LOT of energy to uphold them and defend them.

You know what I mean, don’t you?  Connect with me at a heart level right now.  I believe in YOU, your Essence, Your Wonderful Energy, the Loving Being You ARE.  The rest is just junk.  All of your doubts and fears are the lies your ego self has been telling you.  You are so much more than that!  Isn’t it time to get to know you?

Welcome to 2012, the best year of your life!  If you are a business owner, salesperson, or simply a business person, please check out my upcoming workshop, “Effective Mindset and Marketing Concepts for 2012 and Beyond,” I’m conducting that starts 2/21/12 at the Hilton St. Louis Frontenac. The details are in this newsletter.

Much Love,
Angie

]]> http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/do-you-choose-to-participate-in-all-this-fear/feed/ 0 http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/open-your-heart-to-receive-love/ http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/open-your-heart-to-receive-love/#comments Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:14:15 +0000 Angie http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/?p=667 Continue reading →]]> Do you have a block around your heart?  Does intimacy scare you?  Have you ever been around someone who seems to be able to peer into your mind and soul?  It’s a little unnerving, isn’t it…. Well I’ve been doing some body work sessions with Roger Weinerth, and he had that effect on me.  We just finished on Wednesday with my 12th session.  Roger helps people get in touch with their bodies, become aware of their bodies, and utilize movement to their best advantage.

Roger would watch how I walk, how I held my shoulders, moved my arms, how long my strides were. Then he’d do some hands-on therapy to relax my muscles and my frame.  I honestly don’t understand all he did.  I did notice that I was not practicing my new walk and awareness.  In fact, I’d often forgot about what we’d done, on a physical level, until I showed up the next week.  We did talk about lots of things while he was doing the body work, my feelings, my desires, my concerns, and I would think about that stuff a lot during the time between visits.

So this last time I explained how I’ve been “forgetting” to do the walking.  It is almost as if I didn’t want to be aware.  Remember our subconscious will reveal what we really want, and my actions, as far as using my physical body to come into my full power and awareness, indicated I wasn’t ready for this.

I do bikram yoga, and this helps me get into contact with my physical self, but I believe I’ve had almost a disrespect for my physical experience.  You see, I know we are spiritual beings having a human experience, and our physical bodies are “just” manifestations of our Mind.  But what Roger has taught me is that we can use our physical body to help strengthen our mind and bring us more into our spiritual experience, and that never occurred to me.

I’ve always thought the Mind is creating everything that we experience and that the body is innocent, and so therefore we should be able to control our bodies with our Mind.  And this is the Truth.  However, what if we could use the signals our body is giving us to change our Mind?  What if we could notice, be aware of, how we stand, sit, feel, in order to make better decisions and “claim” the Power within us that has always been there?

What if we could walk with a flow and easiness, letting our arms and legs swing widely, twisting our waist and spine in a way that is freeing?  Is it possible this would help to free our mind?  Roger says so.  I think I will allow myself to experience this and get in a daily habit of walking in freedom.

I had another aha moment with Roger.  By not coming into my full awareness, by not totally opening my heart to others, this served me to feel safe.  It feels vulnerable to open my heart wide open, to peer into my loved one’s eyes and see their true Self. Roger did this to me.  He just sat there (after I’d told him I was afraid of being vulnerable) and stared at me.  He was giving me 100% of himself.  I told him to stop, but he didn’t.  Then I broke down and cried.

He’d finally broken my wall down, on our last session.  I told him that he truly “saw” me and how this was scary.  He scared me.  He guided me to feel from my heart and not my intellect (exactly what I ask my clients to do), and he asked why I felt so vulnerable.  I said because I was being attacked.  He said, by who?  Evil.  Where does it come from?  My thoughts.

So it had been me all along that had caused me to feel vulnerable and attacked. It is not the Truth.  I am safe.  So are you.  Let’s journey together.  Let me help you find this calmness, stillness, peace, love, within yourself.  Open your heart to receive love.  It’s been knocking at your door all along.  Call me. 314-422-6520.

Much Love to YOU,
Angie Monko

]]> http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/open-your-heart-to-receive-love/feed/ 0 http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/what-are-you-meant-to-learn/ http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/what-are-you-meant-to-learn/#comments Sun, 25 Dec 2011 01:02:43 +0000 Angie http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/?p=646 Continue reading →]]> My intention is for you to receive joy, peace and love abundantly in 2012!  Thank you for sharing this journey of life with me. This has certainly been a year of contrast for me!  There have been many blessings and also some challenges.  Let’s start with the blessings.  I went into my coaching/hypnosis/EFT business full-time in February and have fully enjoyed it, along with how it’s helping me to grow and mature.

Chelsea, my daughter, got her driver’s license and a job in April.  The deal was that she get a job if she wanted to buy a car.  So we went in half on a Chrysler Sebring convertible. She has proven to be very independent and responsible and still holds her job at Smoothie King while being in high school.

My family and I vacationed to Branson, MO in the summer with my brother’s family, which was a lot of fun!  We went tubing on Table Rock Lake, swam, shopped and ate out and hang out together.  Then in November we all went to Key West for a week, staying at our friend’s house.  We went to the beach and downtown Key West, each for a couple of days.  We were fortunate to see the Veteran’s Day Parade on 11/11/11 and enjoy great seafood.

On a sad note, I lost my dear step dad in June after a 3-week battle with cancer.  I lost my sponsor in OA, Dick, in October after a heart aneurysm. Both were special male role models to me and their deaths were very quick and unexpected.  I miss them a lot.  In October, my husband, Steve, lost his job after being employed 20 years.  In December, my daughter, Maddie (15), was hospitalized with pneumonia for the first time for her cystic fibrosis for one week.

Even though this year has definitely had its tough spots, I always look for the silver lining.  Maddie got a “tune up” in the hospital, according to her.  She’s never felt better and has a new passion/purpose for her life:  she wants to help other CF kids get healthy.  I’m certain Steve will find something much better than he had.  My step dad and Dick both lived happy, relatively long lives of no regret.  What more can we ask?

My coach gave me a wonderful compliment last week, that lets me know that I’m learning to cope with life at a higher level.  Basically, she said she’s seen me get sidetracked in the past with my business when life happened, but I haven’t done that this year.  I’ve stayed the course.  I encourage you to stay the course too.  When circumstances seem bleak, ask yourself what you are meant to learn from the experience.  What is the positive thing that has come from it or might come from it.

God Bless & Happy Holidays!

]]> http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/what-are-you-meant-to-learn/feed/ 2 http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/are-you-happy-really-happy/ http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/are-you-happy-really-happy/#comments Sun, 25 Dec 2011 01:02:26 +0000 Angie http://harmonyharbor.com/blog/?p=642 Continue reading →]]> Well it’s that time for a year-end assessment.  Do you look over the past year and ask yourself if you’re heading in the direction you want?  It doesn’t have to be anything elaborate.  Just grab a notebook, set the timer for 10 minutes and ask yourself if you are living the kind of life you want to. Maybe you didn’t accomplish all of your goals (if you had any), but that’s not important.  Are you happy, really happy?

If you are, congratulations!  Keep doing what you’re doing and know that your example means more to peace on this planet than anything else could.  Your happiness creates a ripple effect.  It starts in your mind, then permeates to your family, to your friends and local community, then to your state, to your country, to your world.

If you’re not happy, write down three things you’d really like to be, do or have in 2012.  Next ask yourself what feeling you’ll have when these things are accomplished.  Identify a specific feeling for each success.  Did you know that you don’t have to wait until you’ve manifested your goals to claim your happiness?  I think that is exciting!  Of course, it takes focus to do this because you have to look beyond your current results.

Let’s talk about your health and body as an example.  Are you happy with your weight, your food choices, your overall ability to care for your physical body?  Let’s say you want to release 20 pounds.  What feeling is it that you want to achieve by doing this?  See yourself at your goal weight.  Do you feel excited to get dressed in the morning, sexy, alive, vibrant, energetic, confident?

Now I understand that you can’t go from feeling horrible about your body and food choices to feeling the way described above.  It’s too big of a leap from one vibration or feeling to another. So this little phrase helps me a lot when I want to feel a certain way but I’m not yet ready to fully experience the emotions of a new identity, of the new slender person, in this case.

So here is what I suggest.  Put yourself in a place of heightened suggestibility.  You have some options.  You can take a shower (this puts you a light state of hypnosis automatically), do self-hypnosis, use meridian tapping, meditate, or whatever you can think of to relax and focus you at the same time.  Pick what works best for you.

Say to yourself or out loud, “Every day in every way, I am getting healthier and healthier.”  You can substitute any words for the adjective.  For example, “Every day in every way, I am getting thinner and thinner.”  You can say, more and more confident, happier and happier, better and better.

You can say, “Every day in every way, I’m allowing more and more money into my life.” …I’m becoming the person I’ve always wanted to be.  ….I’m becoming the Mom I’ve always envisioned me to be.  I’m becoming the blessed business owner I’ve always dreamed of.  You get the point.

What I love about this exercise is that it is believable to your conscious mind.  Therefore, your conscious mind won’t reject it, and it will allow it to seep into your subconscious mind, where all lasting change occurs.  It just feels good to do!  It raises your vibration, and you are the point of attraction in your life.  So if you want to have a happy life, care about how you feel, change how you feel, and then watch your accomplishments start to manifest.

Are you happy, really happy?  If not, why not decide to move in that direction in 2012.  I’m ready and available to support you on your journey.  You know how to reach me.

Much Love & Blessings,
Angie Monko