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The ONLY 1 METHOD To STAY HAPPY!

2020-05-08T10:00:00.000+05:30

Is there any such a way that will help you become happy instantly? You may say that "think positive". We all know this. But how many of us actually stay happy for 24 hours?

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What type of thoughts mostly come to your mind the most- negative or positive? Your answer is negative, right? And once you get stuck in this negative cycle, then coming out of it becomes next to impossible. So the question is, how can we come out of this negative cycle immediately plus when we come out, it should not be temporary and but sustainable, like if some negative thought comes, it just comes and goes. We all currently are experiencing exactly opposite to this.

So the main point is how to instantly come out of the state of negativity and sustain it then and there? I think that the only way is- contentment, a state of happiness and satisfaction. And you will be satisfied when you will realize that the life that you are living is still a dream for lot of people. This is the only one reason to live a happy life- satisfaction.

There is no other way to be always happy. The only way is contentment. If you are satisfied in the things that you have, I assure you that no one can steal your happiness. Don't get confused by the thought that pleasure is happiness. There's joy in pleasure but there's no happiness in it.

The major difference between happiness and pleasure is, happiness is a state which is never ending. In other words, happiness is a feeling of gratitude in our heart, a feeling of thankfulness. If you follow these in your life, you will start feeling good, your mind will get relaxed immediately.

So, what is the practical way to bring contentment in your life? Let's think this practically.

Do you know what is the main problem of our brain? Even if everything is perfect in your life and unfortunately even a single thing happens opposite of what you want (like if someone insulted you), the a thought comes- 'How this happened?'. Then your mind gets stuck in that thought for many days or months even years. By default, everyone's mind works like this. In contrary, the same 'stucking' does not happen when something good happens with you. It makes you feel for a while and you forget it in a short time. Good things (like if someone praised you) do not keep revolving in your mind through the day.

If you are reading this post then it is quite possible that you have the basic things that are needed for survival. You are right now living the dream life of many people. If you understand this basic thing, you should never regret on your life. There are many people in the world who loose their lives because they don't have these basic things. The basic problem of your mind is- it has never thought in this way.

The default setting of our mind is- 'What if this happens?', 'Why is this happening only with me?', 'What if this doesn't happen?', these are some example of the default settings. Do you find happiness in these questions? So the challenge is to change this default settings of your powerful mind.

The first step of changing the settings comes from the realization, the realization of having the basic needs of life. Crores of people are struggling to achieve these basic needs. This one realization will make you feel extremely amazing, relaxed and clear. One more output of this first step is you will automatically start praying for everybody in this universe effortlessly. In the next stage, your ego will start fading off.

Anything that you do is eventually going to affect this world and the things the world is doing are going to affect you. So why not one should change his/her attitude towards living this beautiful life?

If you bring this changes to your life, I guarantee you that you will become a completely different person within an year.

TOP 10 WAYS to OVERCOME LAZINESS!

2020-05-05T10:00:00.000+05:30

It is quite possible that many of your dreams would have remained incomplete due to laziness. People might be taunting you for being lazy. You might be feeling low on energy and freshness making you sit like a dumb for days, weeks, years or for your entire life. So, here's the solution to overcome laziness!

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EXERCISE- People think that sleeping increases energy. But, that's no correct. There's a correction. Good sleep increases energy. You can sleep good when you are physically tired. To get tired, simply do an hour of physical exercises in the morning and same, an hour of walk in the evening. By doing such physically tiring things will help your body and mind relaxed resulting in a deep and a good sleep. Thus, you'll wake up energized in morning.
ACUPRESSURE- You all might be familiar with what is acupressure. There are many kits of acupressure available in both, offline and online markets. Buy one if you can. It comes in a range of ₹300-₹500. It will consist of a squarish plate with spikes on it. Stand on the plate every morning and see how your energy increases. In the same kit, there would be a small metal ring which you have to roll in and out of your fingers. You may find some more things in the kit. Use them as per the instructions just for 5 minutes daily and notice the change.
WATER- Oxidane, that we commonly know as water also helps in overcome laziness. When you wake up from a good sleep, you still keep dozing and hence feel lazy. So when you get up from bed, immediately splash some water on your face, importantly eyes and see how fresh and energetic you feel.
FRUIT- After you wake up, within a time span of 20 minutes, eat banana or any other fruit you want. When you sleep, the metabolism of your body falls down making you feel lazy. Hence, eating a fruit brings your energy back. Many people take tea/ coffee but a fruit is always 3000 times better than tea/ coffee as the later has high contents of sugar which is capable of boosting your energy just for 5-10 minutes. Eating a fruit, like banana, contain high contents of fiber which is effective in boosting your energy for 2-3 hours.
CLEANLINESS- The environment you have outside decides the environment inside you. If there is no cleanliness around you, how can you expect from you to be energetic. Personal hygiene plays an important role. So you should also live pleasant, neat and tidy. Laziness will have no dare to touch you if you practice cleanliness. So never be lazy as far as cleaning is concerned. If you don't have any work to do, clearing garbage would be a great physical exercise then.
PURPOSE- If there's a reason to do a thing, then there is no place for laziness. So, always have a reason to do something. You will feel confident, determined, stress-free leading to a good sleep and good sleep means say bye-bye to laziness.
GOAL- Goals must always be realistic. That creates energy. A goal must be challenging for you, but not impossible and set a time frame to achieve it. Like, within one week I have to achieve this. This will make your mind clear and focused. You must not live a life without goals because if there are no goals, then from where the energy will come? Even if the energy comes, it will get consumed in thinking unnecessary things unknowingly.
PLANNING- Always plan your day. When you know your tasks that are to be completed, then you feel automatically energized as your vision remains clear. But there are some days when you don't have anything to do. At this time, you just be aware, aware about the things happening around you, aware about what you are thinking, aware about yourself. Don't just sit and pass you day.
AWARENESS- Try to do this simple exercise. Sit at a place without any kind of pressure and feel, hear, see the things that are happening around you. Start by sitting for 5-10 minutes and you will feel like sitting for some more time. The results will be amazing. You will feel very light, empty, fresh, pressure-less on your head. Your mind will get relaxed.
SELF-CONTROL- Do you know what is the first thing that you do when you wake up? You check your phone. Do you know what is the last thing that you do before you sleep? You check your phone. Do you know what you do the whole day? You check your phone. Many times it happens that your are doing some work on your phone and while you are doing it, unknowingly you start surfing for something else. After 1-2 hours, when you realize this, you will notice that your eyes have become heavy, your body has become stiff and you are feeling lazy. Hence having self-control, in this case for mobile, will make you energize.

To summarize, Top 10 Things to Overcome Laziness are:

Exercise
Acupressure
Water
Fruit
Cleanliness
Purpose
Goal
Planning
Awareness
Self-control

CHANAKYA NEETI

2020-05-02T10:00:00.000+05:30

Chanakya has said in his verse that the trees in the forest, which are straight, are cut first than the one which are not straight.

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If we compare it with our life, then the question may come in your mind that what kind of life should we live- an honest, a selfless or a self-minded?

To know the answer to this question, first we have to correct our definition of straightforward. Do you relate straightforwardly to an idiot? Most people make the same mistake. Stupid means anyone comes and does anything to you and you do nothing. So here you are stupid. And straightforward means the one who never harms anyone for his benefit. But if someone continues to harm you for his benefit, then what you will be called here- straightforward or stupid? Obviously, stupid.

So be straightforward and simple in life. Advantage of this - You will never have enmity with anyone. Because if you use someone else for your benefit, then you will become his enemy for your whole lifetime! If you still continue to behave like this, then your enemies will increase. So, for a person who will have so many enemies, will they not even look for a chance to take revenge? Will your life not be scary and dangerous? What is the fun of living such a life? So always be straightforward in life but don't be stupid.

Chanakya, who said that the line stated in the starting, was he not straightforward? Did he harmed others for his own benefit? No, he did not even think that others should be harmed for his own benefit. He first thought about public interest, thought of society and later about himself. If he wished he could have lived in Palace but still lived in a small hut.

With this we come to know that Chanakya was not selfish and not stupid as well. He was extremely intelligent. We should also be intelligent and sensible and at the same time simple and straightforward.

From all these things, we should understand the moral that, you must be powerful in life but never use that power to suppress others so that the world cannot suppress you.

"THE FRAGRANCE OF FLOWERS SPREADS

ONLY IN THE DIRECTION OF THE WIND,

BUT THE GOODNESS OF A PERSON

SPREADS IN ALL DIRECTIONS."

- Chanakya

3 THINGS that YOU SHOULD NEVER DO IN YOUR LIFE!

2020-04-30T10:00:00.000+05:30

Today's topic is very interesting because you always might have heard people saying you do this, you do that, but never heard saying what no to do!

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So today, we are going to discuss what are those 3 things that one should never do in his/her life whether be a male or a female, a student or a grownup, a job person or a businessman, rather a person in any stage of his/her life.

According to me, we should never say no to any situation immediately without thinking on it. It might be possible due to our past experiences that we directly say no to a particular situation. It is quite obvious, but we should also remember that same things do not happen again and again. Your one no can make you regret for your whole life. Imagine a person is willing to give you a huge opportunity, but you had said no immediately just by hearing his initial words and later regretted after knowing the real truth. You might have heard stories like this from your ancestors. So, never be too strong on your yes and no, both. Always take some time to think, to study both the bright and dark sides and then only take your decision intelligent. Taking your own time also doesn't give you freedom to think for years. There are many people waiting in this world for one opportunity and you may loose it with them. By analyzing everything in appropriate time limit, you will never regret on yourself.
You should never keep a doubt on yourself. If you will doubt yourself, like whether I will be able to do it or not, then you will always give excuses remembering that doubt. You will never have confidence in doing that work. A little of doubt is essential many-a-times because taking big decisions requires a study on your capabilities. But, excess of anything is very bad. So, how will you deal with this self-doubting? Firstly, never compare yourself with others. We all are humans. We all have same brains just the information is different. There is no as such a difference in our brain and Einstein's brain, just the information is different. So always feed your brain with right and helpful information. Always have faith in yourself and know yourself, know your capabilities, learn yourself. This will solve the problem of self-doubt.
We should never forget our roots, for example, our parents. Have you ever pondered on what decides the size of a plant? It's its roots. The roots decide how much bigger and larger the plant would grow. The deeper the roots, the bigger the tree. So if you decide to grow higher up in your life, your roots should be deep enough. So, never ever disrespect your parents, never! There's a good exercise you can do to determine an unknown person's behavior- observe how he/she behaves with his/her parents. A person who disrespects his/her parents, what respect do you expect from him/her for you. Some or the other time, you are also going to fall prey. So, always respect your parents. But this doesn't mean that there must be no difference in opinions and thoughts. There should be. But, their solution must be taken out by mutual understanding and thinking. Sometimes they might be correct, you might be wrong and vice-versa. Hence, clarification of thoughts and confusions is very important and giving respect is a different thing. So never forgetting your roots means never forget those people who you know very deeply, who were standing with you in your worst of worst times. They are yours! You hearts are one! Never forget them.

To summarize, 3 things that you should never do in your life are:

Never take decisions immediately.
Never doubt yourself.
Never forget your roots.

WHAT will HAPPEN if YOU PLANK EVERYDAY for 1 MINUTE?

2020-04-28T10:00:00.000+05:30

Body weight exercises are becoming very popular now-a-days as they are simple, practical and can be done at home as well, and help you in getting in shape through your own body weight.

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These exercises are also perfect for those who have a busy life and find it very difficult to spare time for going to the gym.

Planks, for starters, are one type of body weight exercise that would never get old.

Doing a plank everyday, even just for few minutes, helps strengthen your entire body. Most of the fitness experts said themselves that planking is one of the top effective exercises to tone your six-pack. They are even more effective than crunches.

Do you know, what will happen to you if you do planking even for 60 seconds everyday?

It significantly reduces the risk of injury in back and spinal column. With planking, when done correctly, you can strengthen your back muscles with an ease, without needing to put much pressure on your spine. As a result, it helps ease back pain, altogether helping you have a great posture when sitting and walking.
It defines your abs. Planks target every major core muscles, that's why, as you get better and perfect at your planks, you'll also get stronger when it comes to performing other exercises. For instance, if you're regular at your gym, you'll notice a huge strength increase in several drills.
It boosts your overall metabolism. Planks is a good fusion exercise as it engages several muscle at the same time. Building up your muscles directly leads to burning of more calories. Hence, the more muscles you have, the faster your metabolism will be.
It improves your overall balance. Have you ever tried to balance yourself on one leg? Might be yes, but you could have been unable to stand straight or for more than few seconds. The reason of your tripping was your abdominal muscles. They were not string enough to maintain your balance. Planking everyday for 1 minute improves your overall balance. Ultimately, it will enhance your physical performance.
It benefits you mentally. Plank exercises have a certain influence on your nerves. This makes them an amazing method of improving a person's overall mood. For starters, planking stretches out muscle groups that are responsible for stress and tension in our body. When you're standing or sitting all day long, your muscles get tight and tension forms in your shoulders making you slump froward the whole day. Situations like these stressed out the muscles and nerves more further. Through planks, you can calm your brain while helping you treat anxiety and even symptoms of depression.

To summarize, 5 things you will observe if you do planks for 1 minute everyday are:

It has reduced the risk of injury in back and spine to a large extent.
It has helped in physical growth of body muscles.
It has boosted your overall metabolism.
It has improved you body balance.
It has benefited you mentally.

7 WAYS to IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS!

2020-04-26T10:00:00.000+05:30

In this context, we will not talk about tricks, tips, techniques because they are easily available on the internet or in books and those are mostly theoretical. So what we will do is, we will see this practically, with which we all can relate. We will try to find the way to improve communication skills by asking ourselves some realistic questions.

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Is there any person in your life to whom you cannot tolerate even for 5 minutes? I am not talking about the people with whom you, as an individual, might have some problems. I am talking about them, those who are intolerable by everyone. Just think about him/ her just for sometime.

Now, let's just point out some things along with their reasons that we observe in such people:

- They talk very senseless and meaning less, like for example a discussion is happening on a particular topic and they suddenly start talking about something else. So this becomes annoying most of the times. The reason behind this is, he/ she is more eager to talk, he/she is more eager to tell his/her point of view. What will happen due to this is, he/she will keep on talking for minutes or hours but, no one will pay attention to him/her.

- Occasionally it also happens that we are talking very senseful and meaningful, but still the listener is not paying attention to you or is his/her own thoughts. Because of this, you may start feeling awkward or disrespected The best thing to do at this time is to stop talking to him/her for that moment.

- You might have noticed some people always talking about themselves even in a group or sometimes fire hundreds of questions on you at a time. They just keep on asking questions and are not even listening your answers, but still. There are also people who ask genuine questions and are also interested in knowing your views or answers, so this makes sense. This type of questioning is appreciable, nice and interesting at times.

- It happens very often that a group of people is having their discussions and another person comes and interferes in and starts discussing about his/ her past. Remember one thing, no one is interested in your past, unless and until the person is very close to you. So, never ever bring your past in conversation when there is generation gap between you and the other people in the group. By doing this, you will break the effect conversation. If everyone is of the same generation, your talks might be enjoyed as well.

- You might have also experienced that you are not able to put forward your view about a particular thing. Remember always that there are some people who think themselves as extra smart. You might have observed that some conversation is going on very politely among a group and a third person enters and start talking in high pitch as if he is speaking. You may feel that he/ she is very dominant. But no! That's the most rubbish thing. Obviously, if someone is trying to dominate with his/her talks irrespective of gender and age, we never ever love it. Hence, always avoid dominating.

- The word communication has come out of the main word 'commune' meaning 'to share'. So, good communication means to share something good, something appropriate and not to convince others.

- There are two main components of communication- sender and receiver. If the sender is effective and the receiver is not, then also good communication does not take place. The receiver also needs to very attentive and always be a good speaker. When a person is sharing something with you like for example he/she is sharing his/her experience, you can put yourself in his/her place and listen to make the communication more attentive and fruitful. If you will not listen to the speaker and start speaking any thing irrelevant will make your talk very senseless, no one will like to listen you and your communication skills will be judged then and there.

- The amount of things that you speak also matters in communication. So to speak perfect, you will need to listen carefully, feel the information, think on it and then you'll be able to decide whether to speak more or less. If you speak more on a topic where less words are need, then no one will show their interest in listening you and on the other hand, if you speak very less on a topic where more words are expected, the information you were willing to share will not be communicated healthily to the listeners and the outcome will then not be of satisfaction. Hence, always be a silent/good listener so that you can decide how much to speak.

To summarize, 7 ways to Improve Communication Skills are:

Always talk meaningful.
Stop taking if the listener is not interested in your talks.
Ask and answer only genuine questions.
Don't try to dominate yourself over others.
Always share, don't convince.
Be a good listener.
Always speak in appropriate amount.

COMMUNICATION IS ALL ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THE OTHER PERSON,

NOT ABOUT WINNING AN ARGUMENT OR FORCING YOUR OPINIONS ON OTHERS.

How to ACHIEVE MORE in LESS TIME?

2020-04-24T10:00:00.000+05:30

Success is achieved when we track the way of doing something.

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You might be trying to crack an entrance or are doing some business or doing any other things, there are some people who are getting success and some who are not getting anything. If you ask a question, what is the difference between these two? What is the strategy of those who are becoming successful? What are they doing, right? And then, what about the others who are not getting success? What are they doing wrong and how you can avoid it and go on making sure of the right and then ask yourself the question, why won't you succeed now?

Now where will all this start?

By questioning.

But to whom we should ask questions?

To yourself!

How many times it has happened that once in a while, you started questioning yourself in real life? Very rarely. Because you are busy- either busy in mobile or in thinking about the people who are talking about us on our back or busy getting depressed or excited or just simply passing time. Questioning, is nowhere here at all.

There are only a few people in lakhs who ask questions to themselves in actual manner. Even when we ask to ourselves, we ask wrong questions and the asking questions are far away, we start give direct answers to ourselves that directly prove that we do not have time. This was not a question, right?

Questions should be such like for an example- how much time I have right now and how can I be so productive in this time that maximum things are achieved? You should ask this question to yourself. Because the moment you say that "I do not have time", then it also means that good work is time, nothing can happen, so do not do anything. Then the topic gets closed.

So first say that time is not less, it is sufficient. The person who wants to do something will never fall short of time, unlike the other who doesn't want to do anything. So if someone wants to do something in his life and his mind is very clear and focused on his goal, his vision is very clear, then even a month is enough for him and even if the person gets 10 years for what he does not want to do, then those 10 years would still be less for him.

The moment you put a question mark on your beliefs, then your basics become clear. Now your mind is clear! Now the possibilities for you in actual is unlimited! So, start working!

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

AND EVERYTHING WILL FALL INTO IT'S PLACE

WORLD'S BEST MOTIVATION EVER!

2020-04-22T10:00:00.000+05:30

This story is of 1938 of a man named Karoly Takacs and he was the best piston shooter of his country. All the National Championships which were held in that country were won by him. Hence, ever was sure that, in the Olympics of 1940, Karoly is going to win. He trained himself for many years and his only dream, his focus was to make his hand the best shooter hand in the world and he got successful.

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Now, just two years were remaining for the Olympics. In 1938, an Army Training Camp was going on. During this camp, an accident happened. A hand grenade exploded and he unfortunately lost his hand. All his dreams of being the best shooter got destroyed.

He had two options remaining in his life. One, to keep remembering and thinking about his lost hand and sit hidden somewhere. And, the other to be still focused on his dream. So he focused on not what he had lost, on what he had. He had his left hand. A hand with which he was not even able to write with.

Within a month, as soon as his treatment for his lost hand got over, he got back to train his left hand. Just 1 year after he started to train his left hand, in 1939, he came back. National Championships were going on there. Many piston shooters had participated. All of them went to congratulate him, to wish him. They all thought that he was there to uplift their will power. But, he said, "I am here to compete with you. Get ready!". And the competition started. Every participant was competing there with their best hands and he was competing with his 'only hand'.

And guess who won- 'the man with only hand'. Karoly won. But he didn't stopped there. His goal was clear that he has to make his only hand the best shooter not of his Country, but of the whole World. And he focused completely on 1940, when Olympics were going to be held. But 1940s Olympics got cancelled due to World War. Then he put his whole focus on the Olympics of 1944. But, unfortunately, these also got cancelled due to the same reason. Then, again he started to put his focus on the Olympics of 1948.

In 1938, Karoly was 28 years old and now in 1948 he was 38. Competing with the younger players becomes tough at times. But, he competed with his only hand. And who won?- 'The Man with the Only Hand'.

But, Karoly didn't stopped there also. He was there at the next Olympics held in 1952. And again the Gold Medalist was Karoly. In the next Olympics also, he took the Gold Medal.

Now, just try talking to any looser. He will have a list of excuses saying I failed in my life due to so and so reason and so on. And, on contrary, try talking to a winner. He will have the reasons which will always lead for his success.

3 THINGS you MUST DO EVERYDAY!

2020-04-20T10:00:00.000+05:30

If you wish to manufacture a material of extraordinary quality, what is the main thing you will require? The answer is raw material. Similarly, the thought process of our mind should get developed in the way which is very supreme, excellent, extraordinary with the help of which we should be able to tackle any problem. So, for such development, what should be the raw material?

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Have you ever wondered what is the raw material of our brain or mind? Probably not. It is the information that we feed in ourselves, the thing which is always under estimated the most by us.

We all watch many reality shows, news which are not actually helpful or healthy for our mind. By doing such things, we fill our brain with garbage and hope to see a productive life which remains next to impossible.

So, the raw material, the intake, the feeding for our mind should be something nice. Like you should watch or listen something pleasant, something nice. Again a question comes, what information to read? See, there are two types of information- the one which temporarily charges you up while the other which makes you think, which makes your brain muscles work.

People in this world know what are worries, but they don't know what is constructive thinking. Any information or data which continuously keeps going into you mind always creates worries and a negative attitude on your thinking. On the other hand, the data which makes you think is the correct information one must engulf.

The other thing which you should try practicing everyday is finding your satisfaction in others satisfaction. Like, for example, poor people who ask for money, try taking them to restaurant or any other place of eating and tell them to eat as much as they want. See how happy they will become. While eating, they may doubt once or twice that you will ask to stop eating, but remove all their doubts and let them eat. The satisfaction and smile you will see on their face after their food is done would be of million dollars. And this satisfaction should make your day satisfied and successful.

When we fall asleep, our sub-conscious mind still remains at work. The thoughts, or rather the dreams you encounter during your sleep are generally from this sub-conscious mind. Your mood and expressions at the time you get up are also decided by this part of mind. So what you can do such that will make you sleep into a fully positive element so that your morning also becomes cheerful, happy and productive and so as you day.

Just do one simple thing, spare 5-5 minutes of your entire day, one part for morning and the other for before falling asleep. But it is not such a compulsion. You can do this anytime irrespective of place and time. The thing which you have to do is, take a deep breath and say "I am physically active" and while exhaling, say "And mentally relaxed". Think once, what will happen by doing this?

Ponder upon a thing, what is the most essential thing which you will need to achieve success in your life? The basic answer comes is good physical and mental health. So repeat the above steps in your mind now for two minutes and then read further.

You might have experienced that all the stress busted out from your mind and you must be feeling very light, nice, active and mentally fresh to tackle problems of your life.

To summarize, 3 things you must do everyday are:

Read or listen something which is healthy,
Find your satisfaction in others' satisfaction, and
Say "I am physically active and mentally relaxed" to charge yourself both, physically and mentally.