Health Sexual Problems

Question: I was over there in my tracksuit, but we are afraid

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Question: 18 years old. Today, as we shall enter into relationship with my girlfriend. We had our clothes on. Was discharged. Tight track suit and my girlfriend was wet. I had blue jeans. Do you wonder if something happens?

Answer:
My dear readers, she is not pregnant, do not worry

Women are expected temperature

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Women's sexuality is different from the men. To be ready before because they then expect someone to really love. Their husbands when they marry or require attention. If your partner does not take seriously their demands, monotonous harden everything away from her relationships require. Temperature women, love waits, wants to be appreciated.

What is this Cancer ?

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What is it?

Cancer develops when one or more cells in the body begin to divide abnormally. Usually cells only divide to replace those that have died, but sometimes something goes wrong and a single cell multiplies into a lump or tumour. Not all of these lumps are particularly dangerous. Many are benign and will not spread any further.
But some are malignant — this means they have the potential to spread throughout the body damaging tissues and bone, blocking passageways, and destroying nerves. These are the tumours referred to as cancers.

What are the main symptoms?

The symptoms vary from cancer to cancer but these are some of the more general ones:

Unusual growths or lumps
Unexplained weight loss
Loss of appetite
A sore or ulcer that will not heal
Nagging cough or hoarseness
Coughing up blood
A mole that bleeds or changes shape
Unexplained changes in bowel or bladder habits
Unusual discharges
Blood or brown "coffee grounds" in vomit or stools
Recurrent pain in any part of the body

What's the risk?

One in three people will get cancer at some time in their lives, and one in four will die from the disease.
There are over 260,000 new cancer cases each year, of which just over half affect men.
The Government's Office of National Statistics publishes odds for specific cancers. The odds for men for the three most common are:

12-1 Lung cancer (55-1 before age 65) — an average of 24.029 new cases in the UK between 1998 and 2000.
13-1 Prostate cancer (111-1 before age 65) — an average of 25,070 new cases in the UK between 1998 and 2000.
18-1 Colorectal or bowel cancer (71-1 before age 65) — an average of 18,583 new cases in the UK between 1998 and 2000.

Some of these individual odds look pretty long, but in combination they add up. Your risk of developing any cancer at some time is in fact as low as 5-2. Moreover, lifestyle factors such as smoking can make your personal odds on getting cancer even shorter.
Calculate your cancer risk
There are three cancers that affect men only:

Prostate cancer — after lung cancer, the second biggest cancer killer of men (9,470 deaths in 1995). Click here for more information about prostate cancer.
Testicular cancer — although the most common cancer among younger men, it's still pretty rare (around 1,400 new cases a year). Click here for more information about testicular cancer.
Penile cancer — this is very rare.Click here for more information about penile cancer.

What causes it?

Most cancers are probably caused by a combination of a genetic susceptibility and a cancer-causing trigger.
The major causes of cancer are:

Smoking — the biggest single cause by far. It's implicated in a third of all cancer deaths and nine out of ten cases of lung cancer.
Drinking — some cancers, such those of the mouth, throat and liver, are linked to excessive alcohol consumption.
Poor diet — about a quarter of cancers in the UK are related to what we eat. Eating too much fat (particularly animal fat), too little fibre and not enough vitamins can increase the risk of cancer. Vitamins A, C and E are particularly important — these are antioxidants, substances which help neutralise cell-damaging molecules known as free radicals.
Being overweight — one American study found that people who are obese have a 33% greater risk of cancer.
The sun — a natural source of radiation and the major cause of the most common cancer, skin cancer.
Chemicals — pesticides and fungicides are in the dock over some cancers, radon gas and phthalates (found in plastic food containers and cling film as well as in vinyl floor tiles and carpet tiles) over others. Pollutants like benzene and invisible particulates in the air are also carcinogenic, although the exact link between pollution and cancer is unclear.
Family history — about one in three cancer patients have a close relative who has had the disease. Cancers that appear to run most often in families include bowel (25% of cases are hereditary), testicular, prostate, skin and breast cancers.
Age — the risk of cancer increases as you get older. As a rule of thumb, risk doubles for every decade over the age of 25.

How can I prevent it?

There's no sure-fire way to prevent cancer. But there are many ways to reduce your risk of succumbing to it:

Give up smoking.
Drink alcohol sensibly.
Think about diet. It's especially important to eat low-fat foods — no more than 30% of your calories should come from fat and it's particularly important to avoid saturated (animal) fat. Remember, also, to eat high-fibre foods (cereals, fruits and vegetables) and plenty of the antioxidant vitamins A, C and E.
Avoid obesity.
Minimise your exposure to environmental risks, including other people's cigarette smoke, and pollutants such as car exhausts, asbestos and many other industrial agents. It's also important to avoid exposing your skin to the summer sun or, failing that, to sunbathe sensibly — this means covering your skin with sunscreen (minimum factor 15).

Click here for the World Cancer Research Fund's six cancer prevention tips.

Should I see a doctor?

Because of the way cancer develops through cell division, the quicker a cancer is found, the more easily it can be treated. In other words, if you have any concerns, or any of the possible symptoms of cancer, see your GP promptly.
The GP will want to know more about your symptoms and your personal and family medical histories, and will probably order one or more common tests for cancer to obtain a definite diagnosis. You may also be referred to an oncologist, medical-speak for a specialist cancer doctor.
The exploratory period can be very stressful and sometimes even a cancer diagnosis can come almost as a relief.

What are the main treatments?

There are several treatments available to treat cancer. Many patients will experience a combination of them.

Surgery — some 60% of cancer patients have some form of surgery to remove the tumour. Occasionally, as in some cases of skin cancer, simply having the tumour cut out may be sufficient, but generally surgery will be the prelude to some other form of treatment.
Radiotherapy — this has been used in cancer treatment for 75 years and most patients will have it. It exploits the fact that tumour cells are less able to repair themselves when damaged by X-rays than normal cells, with the result that, hopefully, the tumour tissue will be destroyed by the rays. The problem is that normal cells are not entirely immune — indeed, excess radiation is a cause of cancer — and the radiation dose has to be kept as low as possible and well-targeted to minimise the potential side-effects.
Chemotherapy — this involves using cytotoxic (or cell-exterminating) drugs to attack cancer cells. Combinations of drugs are administered in customised cocktails either through injection or via a Hickman line, a tube temporarily attached to the patient's chest.
Hormone therapy — used in hormone-sensitive cancers, including prostate cancer.
Some doctors also recommend complementary therapies alongside conventional treatments.

How can I help myself?

Find out the facts. Ask your doctor, read information sheets and medical reference books, ring helplines, use the Internet (with caution — there's too much inaccurate information on too many web sites).

Consider complementary therapies as well as conventional treatments.
Review your diet. Experts are generally sceptical about diets which claim to cure cancer and you should beware of any that involve an unbalanced diet. However, changing your diet to something more healthy — perhaps by eating less fat, more fruit and more fibre — might make you feel better and could help boost your immune system. Cancer (and its treatment) may also cause nausea and other problems which may affect your diet — including a dry or sore mouth, diarrhoea or constipation. Your doctor can refer you to a nutritionist who can help with these.
Try to take a positive attitude. Respect your condition, plan around it, but don't let it take over. Cancer — even when you're undergoing gruelling treatment — is only ever part of your life, not all of it.
Remember that at times you may well feel angry, confused or depressed. That's not surprising. In fact, it's normal. One of the worst things you can do is to try to be a big brave boy. Thinking about death is difficult but in the long term you might even find that having cancer helps you with this struggle.
Take things one day at a time. Do what you enjoy doing and are able to do. Work if you want to and it's practical. Talk to your employers if you can't. Your clinic should be able to advise you of any welfare benefits or other help available.
Have a little of what you fancy. Have sex. Have a pint. And have a thought for the people who care about you. They may be having trouble coming to terms with what has happened to you and find it difficult to talk about it. Bring the subject up. It will help you too. Click here for more information about how to cope with ill health.
Consider counselling. Counselling, whether after diagnosis, during treatment or many years afterwards, can help patients come to terms with the difficult feelings that having a life-threatening disease can create. Your doctor, or a specialist cancer organisation, should be able to help you find a counsellor. Support groups, where you can meet with other people with cancer, are also widely available.

What's the outlook?

Cancer treatment has developed hugely in recent years but public perception is still surprisingly out of date. Cancer is not the inevitable killer it once was. A third of people diagnosed with cancer are still alive five years later — and with some cancers the survival rates are far higher: in testicular cancer, for example, it's over 90%.
Today, cancer is only an inevitable killer if left untreated. Meanwhile, advances in both prevention and treatment continue to improve these figures. The Government has announced that it hopes to reduce cancer deaths by a further fifth in the ten years to 2010. In the future, as the genes implicated in various types of cancer are discovered, it may become possible in some cases for the disease to be detected even before the symptoms appear.

Who else can help?

World Cancer Research Fund
Web site: www.wcrf-uk.org
Tel: 020 7343 4200
The only major UK registered charity dedicated to the prevention of cancer through healthy diets and associated lifestyles. Click
here
for the WCRF's six steps to avoid cancer and to download its information for men.
CancerBACUP
Web site: www.cancerbacup.org.uk
Freephone helpline: 0808 800 1234 (open Monday to Friday, 9 am—7 pm)
A patient support organisation producing excellent literature. Their help and information line is staffed by cancer nurses. It also offers cancer counselling services.
Bowel Cancer UKWeb site: www.bowelcanceruk.org.uk
Tel: 020 7381 9711
Guide To Internet Resources for CancerWeb site:http://www.cancerindex.org/
This is a comprehensive overview of everything on the net on cancer (and not just children's cancers).
Cancer Research UK
Web site : www.cancerresearchuk.org/
Major research organisation with a very informative website for patients.
Institute of Cancer Research
Web site: www.icr.ac.uk
Tel: 020 7352 8133
Macmillan Cancer Relief
Web site: www.macmillan.org.uk
Tel: 0808 808 2020
Site contains patient information and links to other organisations.
Orchid Cancer Appeal
Web site: www.orchid-cancer.org.uk
Site contains useful information for men with testicular cancer.
Prostate Cancer Charity
Web site: www.prostate-cancer.org.uk
Tel: 0845 300 8383
Prostate Help AssociationWeb site: www.pha.u-net.com
Prostate Research Campaign UK
Web site: www.prostate-research.org.uk
Beating Bowel Cancer

Web site: www.beatingbowelcancer.org
Tel: 020 8892 5256 or Specialist Nurse Advisory Line: 020 8892 1331
The UK charity for bowel cancer patients, providing information, education and support.
Cancer Black CareWeb site: www.cancerblackcare.org.uk
Tel: 020 8961 4151
Cancer Black Care is the UK's leading cancer support agency for people from the black and minority ethnic communities and beyond.

Jim Pollard, editor of malehealth.co.uk. Updated by malehealth for 2005.

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How do I check my balls for lumps?

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It's pretty easy. It's best to examine your testicles after a warm bath or shower.

Support your balls in the palm of one hand. Note the size and weight of your testicles. This will help you to detect any changes in the future.
Find the epididymis, the tube that carries sperm to the penis. This can be felt at the top and back of each testicle. This is one lump that is supposed to be there.
Now examine each testicle in more detail by rolling it between your fingers and thumb. Press firmly but gently to feel for any lumps, swellings or changes in firmness.

Examine yourself every couple of months or when you feel like it. Testicular cancer is very uncommon so don't get obsessed with it. But if you do find anything unusual, don't wait for it to disappear or start throbbing - see your doctor.

Why is one testicle hanging lower than the other?

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Good question. But we're all like that. It's 100% normal.

Can the penis break?

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It can fracture if it bashes into an immovable object when erect. The most common cause is probably the woman's pubic bone. It can be healed through surgery and splints.

Why is my erect penis bent?

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Every penis is bit bent and a slight bend upwards is not just normal but desirable.
You may have a problem if your penis is bent to the left or right so much as to make it difficult or even painful to enter your partner during sex. It could be condition called Peyronie's. This is not an Italian beer. Bent willies are very common and generally do not cause any problem with intercourse. It's a matter of finding what fits, so to speak. If the 'bend' is particularly bad, surgery can improve matters.

What is the penis made of?

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The penis is basically three cylinders of spongy erectile tissue full of blood vessels. The urethra, the body's outlet tube for both sperm and urine (although only one at a time), passes through the middle of the smallest of these - the corpus spongiosum - which is found on the underside of the penis. The corpus spongiosum expands at the tip to form the head of the penis called the glans. The glans is protected by the foreskin.

Sexual health

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Sex is sex. What do you mean by sexual health?

Although there are many ways to have satisfying and fulfilling sex, it remains an unusual experience for far too many of us. Fifty-six per cent of men are dissatisfied with their sex life and 83 per cent believe there's room for improvement in their sexual performance. Since enjoyable sex is so important to our sexual health, as well as our overall well-being, it's vital we find ways of improving our experiences between the sheets (or wherever else we choose to have them). If you can, you'll:

enjoy sex more.
feel better about yourself.
be less at risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and other problems such as erectile dysfunction (impotence) or premature ejaculation.
live longer - maybe. (It's becoming increasingly clear that enjoying a fulfilled and intimate relationship can make an important contribution to good overall health and that a satisfying sex life can be a significant component of any such relationship. Effectively preventing, detecting, and treating diseases of your sexual and reproductive system could also help increase your lifespan.)

Is sex good for your health?

Sex helps keep you fit. Men's heart rates can rise rapidly during sex from an average of 70—80 beats per minute at rest to 100—175 beats per minute during the build-up to orgasm and 110—180 beats during orgasm itself. The heart rates men experience during sex can be similar in intensity to those generated by vigorous aerobic exercise; in fact, an hour of passionate sex could easily burn off 360 calories, equivalent to about two pints of beer.
It helps you look younger. Couples who have sex at least three times a week look more than 10 years younger than couples who have sex twice a week, according to a 10-year study of over 3500 people aged 18—102 in Britain, Europe and the United States. After looking at all the factors that influence how old people look, sexual activity emerged as the most significant factor after physical and mental exercise.
Regular sex could keep you alive for longer. The more orgasms a man has, the longer he is likely to live, at least according to a study of over 900 middle-aged men in Wales. Men with a high frequency of orgasms during sexual intercourse (ie. twice a week or more) are 50 per cent less likely to die from any cause within 10 years than men who have infrequent orgasms (less than one a month). Of course, these statistics could simply mean that healthy men have more sex rather than it being the sex that keeps men healthy but the figures are consistent with other research that strongly suggests that people with intimate relationships are healthier than those who feel lonely and isolated.
It boosts your hormones. Testosterone levels increase during and after sex, especially if there's a long period of foreplay. This not only helps maintain your sex drive but may also increase your fertility. Sex additionally boosts the levels of a little-known hormone known as DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone). This is reputed to have a wide range of benefits, including improving your sense of physical and emotional well-being, increasing energy levels, and reducing the risk of heart problems.

Why am I dissatisfied with my sex life?

Although modern men undoubtedly know far more about sex than their fathers, too many still have some rather strange ideas about it. Their heads are full of images from both mainstream movies and pornography that have convinced them that the key to a great sex life is simply to be constantly ready and eager and to have a massive, rock-hard penis, an encyclopaedic knowledge of every conceivable sexual position, as well as the ability to generate virtually endless amounts of thrusting. It's a process, moreover, that always culminates in penetration and a simultaneous multiple orgasm during which men ejaculate like hose-pipes; condoms aren't necessary because, somehow, women never get pregnant and nobody's at risk of catching an STI. It almost goes without saying that, in this version of good sex, men never have any doubts about their attractiveness, their ability to function sexually, or their sexual identity.
Attempting to model your sex life on what you see at the cinema, on video, or in magazines will almost certainly guarantee you bad sex. For a start, it's a fantasy: if we try to recreate this kind of sex in our own bedrooms we're setting ourselves up for disappointment and failure.
Secondly, the men who populate this make-believe world are there precisely because they aren't very much like most of us: they have muscular bodies, massive penises, know precisely how to satisfy any lover (even if they've only just met them), and can have sex for hours without ejaculating. If we try to measure ourselves against these latter-day Casanovas we'll probably end up with a case of severely dented self-confidence (as well as an extremely sore, over-used penis). And, finally, there's normally very little communication or intimacy between the partners we see on our screens. Their sex is cold and functional, and, although this kind of experience can sometimes feel right, most of us want much more from our sexual relationships.
The traditional male model of sex is also dangerous, both to ourselves and our partners. A lack of interest in, and knowledge of, STIs puts us all at increased risk of diseases like chlamydia, gonorrhoea, and HIV (the virus that causes AIDS). Not sharing responsibility for contraception can expose women to the hazards and distress of an unplanned pregnancy (not to mention, potentially, years of motherhood) and men to the major responsibilities of fatherhood. What's more, if we don't understand how our sexual and reproductive system works, and what can go wrong with it, we're also much less likely to detect the early signs of a wide range of problems that can affect every part of our genitals (both inside and out).

So how can I make my sex life more, er, sexy?

Be more realistic about sex
This may mean jettisoning some of your cherished and long-held beliefs. For example:

Men should always be ready for sex.
FALSE. Some men clearly have higher levels of sexual desire than others, but almost all men have a range of other needs in their lives (work, taking the children to school, sport, enjoying a drink) that are just as important to them as sex, if not more so. Stress, depression, and ill-health can also significantly reduce sex drive. In fact, loss of sexual desire is surprisingly common among men.
It's important to have a large penis.
FALSE. Although many partners may get excited by the idea of a man with a larger penis, most are also perfectly satisfied by one of average length. Ninety per cent of women feel that penis size doesn't affect their orgasms, according to a broad survey conducted for a women's sex magazine.
Men's erections must be rock-hard.
FALSE. Some may be but many aren't. About one in 10 men is consistently unable to achieve an erection hard enough for sex. Many more men will have occasional erection problems (perhaps as a result of stress or too much alcohol), while others will be able to get erections that are good enough for sex but certainly won't feel as if they're strong enough to support the roof of the Parthenon.
Men should produce lots of semen.
FALSE. They might in pornographic fiction, but in reality the average amount of fluid produced during ejaculation is about one teaspoonful (3 ml), although it can range from 1.5—6 ml. There's no obvious connection between how much you produce or how far it shoots out and your masculinity.
Women can orgasm just from intercourse.
FALSE. Just plugging your penis into a woman's vagina and wiggling it around may be enough to make some women orgasm but many will probably just lie there thinking about what they'd rather be watching on television. Even though most men have probably heard that women require clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm, they sometimes act as if they don't really believe it.
The thing is that unless you've got a double-headed penis, it's difficult to have vaginal intercourse and stimulate the clitoris directly at the same time. That matters, because when it comes to a woman's orgasm, the clitoris is what really counts.
The visible part of the clitoris, located at the top of a woman's external genitals, is usually about the size of a small pea. But it's recently been discovered that the entire organ is very much larger. In fact, the visible 'glans' is connected to a hidden 'body' which is about as big as the first joint of the thumb. This body, in turn, has two 'arms,' each up to three-and-a-half inches long. Although the full role of the clitoris isn't yet understood, it's clear that it's at least as sensitive as the penis and just as significant during sex; indeed, both get bigger during sexual arousal. This shouldn't be surprising since both the clitoris and the penis are actually formed from the same tissues during our early days as a foetus.
Just as men's preferences for penile stimulation vary, so do women's preferences for their clitoris. Some find direct touching too sensitive while others like it to be rubbed or licked quite vigorously. No book can tell you how best to turn on a woman; you need to ask her to show or tell you. If she's willing to masturbate while you watch, this will give you very valuable clues.
All orgasms are stupendous.
FALSE. Anyone who's honest will tell you this simply isn't true. Some orgasms are fantastic, others are barely noticeable, and they can vary from day to day almost as much as the weather. Men who are overweight and have sedentary jobs can find their orgasms become less powerful and pleasurable because of poor tone in their pelvic-floor muscles (these are responsible for expelling semen). 'Kegel' exercises are the best remedy: these simply involve regularly squeezing and relaxing the muscles you'd use to stop urinating in mid-stream.

Focus on fun and pleasure, not performing.
For many men, sex is like a climbing a mountain. You start at the base camp where you kiss and cuddle, and after a long slog up the lower slopes and then the steeper faces, you end up at the summit with penetration, ejaculation, and self-congratulation. Although it's certainly possible to have great sex this way, after a while it can easily become boring and predictable.
Learn what you like.
One good way of doing this is to spend more time masturbating. Seriously. By experimenting on your own you can discover much more about how you like to be touched. Once you've found out, tell your partner.
Don't feel obliged to try different sexual positions.
Most sex manuals are packed with examples of hundreds of different ways of having sex. Some of them will feel great, some will feel lousy, and some will be unachievable by anyone who's not an Olympic gymnast. But the main problem with most information about sexual positions is that it reinforces the idea that sex is some kind of performance and that it's good only if you're constantly trying lots of different things. Variety can be important, but you should be guided primarily by what you and your partner find satisfying and exciting.
Try not to rush towards intercourse.
The word 'foreplay' is unfortunate since it strongly suggests that kissing, licking, sucking, and rubbing are somehow only preliminary stages in the run-up to the main event. Unless the goal of sex is pregnancy, there's no obvious or automatic reason why it should always include penetration. There are many other ways of having fun and achieving orgasm. It's often better simply to do what feels right, not what you think you should be doing after five, 10, or 15 minutes. It may be that you both want to spend 20 minutes just kissing or rubbing against each other with all your clothes on. Even if not doing what you've always done feels artificial and a different kind of performance, stick with it. With time, this kind of sex should begin to feel more natural and spontaneous.
Try to relax and focus on the physical sensations of sex.
That way, you're much more likely to enjoy sex and give more pleasure to your partner. Try these suggestions:

Reduce your general levels of stress. It's generally not helpful to use sex as a distraction from whatever's worrying you; it won't tackle the underlying causes of your stress and it probably won't work anyway.
Regularly use simple relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or tensing and relaxing your major muscle groups in turn.
Make sure that the sex you're having isn't adding to your stress levels. It probably isn't a good idea to end up in bed with someone you really don't like or who wants sex without a condom when you want to use one.
Don't use mind-games to try to stop yourself ejaculating too quickly. They reduce your enjoyment of sexâ€”let's face it, thinking about your dream soccer team or quadratic equations might be interesting activities but they aren't exactly erotic (at least, not for most of us) and there are much better ways of tackling premature ejaculation.
Focus on the 'here-and-now' when you're masturbating or having sex. Although there's nothing wrong with sexual fantasy, try having sex without it for a while (and dump any pornography, too). This could help you become more aware of the physical sensations you experience during sex and relax more into them.
Don't hold back from moving around as much as you need to when you're having sex (yes, men are allowed to squirm with pleasure) or moaning and groaning.

Try not to take sex too seriously.
We often approach it as if we were about to race a Grand Prix or attend a religious service. Although sex is a supremely important activity, it can also be absurd and funny. Having a laugh during and after sexâ€”so long as it's not at your or your partner's expenseâ€”can help you feel relaxed as well as much more in touch with what's going on.

OK, so what are the alternatives to intercourse?

Massage.
Start by massaging your partner, tantalizingly leaving the genitals until last. Then let you partner massage you.
Mutual masturbation.
Experiment, too, with a range of specially formulated lubricants. These now come in a bewilderingly large range of flavours and consistencies (including ones that replicate the body's sexual fluids); some even warm up as you use them.
Oral sex
An old favorite, but many men still see it as a starter rather than the main course.
Frotting
Rubbing your bodies against each other.
Using sex toys
Vibrators and dildos can get you both whirring. Try raiding your kitchen, too: cucumbers and bananas needn't be just for eating, and many people find ice cubes can excite their nipples and sexual organs.
All these options can be spiced up by dressing up, having sex in the bath or shower, trying different venues outside the home (e.g. in a car, in the countryside, in a hotel), role-playing, and just about anything else you can think of. You can try pretty much whatever you like providing your partner freely agrees.

Is masturbation good for you or bad for you?

It's certainly had a bad press. Victorian moralists believed masturbation was sinful 'self-abuse,' and doctors warned it could make you go blind or mad. Even in the 1990s, a US Surgeon General was forced out of office for suggesting that young people should learn about masturbation in school. Although few people now believe masturbation is wrong, many of us still feel slightly guilty about solo sex. Perhaps it's a legacy of the prudish past or maybe it's also because masturbation's seen as a sign of failure. After all, real men are supposed to have real sex, not make-believe sex with a bottle of oil and a box of tissues. But next time you feel inadequate about masturbating, remember that one survey of over 7000 men found that those having sex with a partner every day were more likely to masturbate once a week or more than men who rarely or never had sex with a partner.
Masturbation can be fun and relaxing (crucially, there's no pressure to perform) and it's also completely safe (unless you happen to be turned on by cheese graters).

How do I talk to my partner about sex and what I like?

Whether you've just started a sexual relationship or have been in one for 30 years, it's still important to talk about it. You'd probably discuss what colour to paint your living room, what car to buy, or where to go on holiday, so why not talk to your partner about sex, too?
Find ways of communicating better with your partner about every aspect of your relationship. This should also help to improve your sex life.
Express how much you like your partner's body. You don't only have to do this in bed. Putting an arm round your partner's shoulder, squeezing their hand or initiating a kiss are all important. Explain why you find them desirable and sexy, perhaps not just in terms of the obvious features but also the things that appeal specifically to you (e.g. the curve of their lip, that mole on the inner thigh, the way they walk). If your partner does the same to you, make sure you acknowledge it rather than seem to take it for granted.
Develop a physically intimate relationship that extends beyond sex. If a couple are relaxed with, and enjoy, each other's bodies in non-sexual ways, this can have significant sexual benefits. Simply holding hands or cuddling while watching television can create a greater sense of intimacy, as can learning how to provide a simple but relaxing massage.
Talk about what you want in bed. This is best done without criticism or blame, so don't say something like 'I hate the way you never suck my prick.' You're much more likely to get a positive response if you say something like 'Seeing your lips round my cock drives me wild.' If your partner really doesn't feel comfortable about oral sex, you could try suggesting some sort of compromise (e.g. your partner licks the inside of your thighs while masturbating you).
Be aware of what your partner wants, rather than make assumptions. One way is simply to say 'Does that feel good?'; another is to do more of whatever produces pleasurable noises ('mmmm' or 'ahhhhh') and less of whatever produces silence or 'ugh' sounds. Watch out for physical signs, too: if your partner's nipples stiffen or genitals moisten, then you're probably doing okay; however, you should try something different if you feel your hand, head, or penis being pushed away. Ask what your partner wants, tooâ€”and take it seriously. You can't really expect your partner to do what you'd like if you're not prepared to reciprocate (or at least discuss it).
Share your sexual fantasies. You may need to be sensitive about thisâ€”your partner might not appreciate it if all your fantasies are about a previous lover, for instance, or involve herds of wild animalsâ€”but sharing can be both a sign of trust and a clear signal of your sexual desires. But you can't expect your partner automatically to agree to act out all your fantasies (or vice versa). Not everyone likes being covered in strawberries and cream. Again, it's something to discuss and reach an agreement about.
Discuss how often you and your partner want sex. Often, at the start of a relationship, a couple will have sex at almost every opportunity. After a few months, however, sex may steadily become less frequent. This is a normal development but it can be a time when differences emerge in partners' levels of sexual desire. This can cause frustration and resentment in the partner who feels deprived, and guilt and anger in the partner who feels pressured to have sex when not feeling aroused. Many couples in this position find it helpful to agree a mutually acceptable arrangement. It's also important to remember that this needn't exclude non-sexual physical intimacy at other times.
If you find it hard to talk about your sexual needs with a partner, perhaps because you feel embarrassed or ashamed, you could start by trying to have a more abstract conversation about sex. If you see an article in a newspaper or a television programme that deals with sexual issues, you might discuss what you think of it. Over time, as you become more at ease with talking about sex, you may feel ready to take the risk of being more personal.
The better you feel about yourself, the more you're likely to enjoy sex. You'll probably feel less inhibited, more open to new ideas and experiences, and better able to tell your partner what you want during sex.
If it feels impossible to discuss sex at all then it's more than likely that your sex life is not all it could be and that it won't improve much over time. But you don't have to give up. Perhaps the best way of breaking through the barrier is for you and your partner to see a couples counsellor or a sex therapist. Don't worry: you won't end up being forced to have sex on his or her office floor, but you should find it'll become much easier to explore, and sort out, your sexual inhibitions.
However, and whatever, you communicate, one thing is clear: it's vital to be honest. Pretending you're happy with your sex life when you're not can easily begin to cause resentment and even anger; it can end up putting a strain on the entire relationship. Honesty's especially important if you have a sexual problem, such as erectile dysfunction (impotence). However uncomfortable it feels to be honest, it's more than likely that the long-term consequences of dishonesty will feel much, much worse.

What if I don't feel comfortable with my sexuality?

Be honest about your sexuality. While scientists struggle to understand the roots of our sexual identityâ€”it's still not clear whether we're straight, gay, or bisexual because of our genetic make-up, for instance, or as a result of our experiences as we grow upâ€”it's beyond doubt that human males exhibit a very diverse range of sexual preferences.
Most men are attracted to women only, but a significant minority is sexually interested only in other men, while a third group is attracted to both men and women. None of these preferences is better, more moral, or healthier than any other; what's most important is that a man should feel comfortable with his sexual preference.
Many straight men worry that enjoying sexual stimulation of their nipples, anus or prostate gland means that they must somehow be gay, even though they're attracted only to women. The reality is that all menâ€”straight, gay, and bisexualâ€”have many erogenous zones besides their penis. The fact that more gay men than straight men enjoy stimulation of their prostate means only that straight men tend to have a much more limited view of what's acceptable and unacceptable between the sheets. In fact, there are many ways in which a heterosexual man can enjoy prostate stimulation besides having another man's penis inserted into his rectum (a partner's finger or a dildo will do perfectly well).
A more distressing problem affects men who know they're gay but can't admit it to their friends, relatives, or sometimes even to themselves. In some cases, these men may live with women, and perhaps have children too, and appear to the world to be happily heterosexual. Their difficulty in 'coming out' may be linked to feelings of guilt, shame, or a fear of hurting, or being rejected by, others. It could also be related to the fact that, despite the moves towards greater equality for homosexuals in most Western countries in the past 30 years, gay men and lesbians are still widely subjected to discrimination, prejudice, and even violence. For many gay and bisexual men, coming out remains a stressful and dangerous step.
Men who are unsure of their sexual orientation, or who feel hesitant about coming out, can contact a wide variety of organizations for advice and support. Although it's difficult to generalize, it does seem as if most men ultimately benefit from being more open about their sexuality. The stress of living a lie about such a fundamental part of one's life cannot be over-estimated.

What about safe sex and sexually transmitted infections?

Your sex life will be a lot happier and healthier if you take good care of yourselfâ€”and those you have sex with. Click here for an introduction to sexually transmitted infections (STIs) puncturing the common myths and here for more detailed information on the main types of STI.
There are many health problems which can affect the sexual and reproductive organs. At least one man in three will have some sort of prostate-gland disorder during his lifetime, about the same proportion will experience a sexual dysfunction, and one in 20 will be affected by fertility problems (such as a low sperm count).
Each year, one in 100 men is likely to catch an STI such as gonorrhoea, chlamydia, or HIV. Although testicular cancer affects just one in 450 men, its incidence has doubled in the last 20 years and looks set to continue to rise. Yet many men's knowledge of potential problems with their sexual organs is limited. One survey found that just over half of men knew that prostate cancer was a disease that could only affect men; under a third of men knew even one of the major symptoms. The more you know about these problems, the easier it will be for you to prevent them arising in the first place and to detect and treat them if they do.
The symptoms of the main STIs are here. Some symptoms aren't always obvious, can take a long time to show up, or can appear briefly and then disappear. If you're sexually active with more than one person, or you're about to have sex with a new partner, you should seriously consider having a routine STI check-up. If you think you have an STI, you must see a doctor: it's difficult for you to diagnose your condition accurately, and in any event it's impossible for it to be effectively treated without drugs available only on prescription. Click here to learn what happens at an STI clinic and to locate your nearest one.
Whether or not you're sexually active, you should also look out for symptoms of other important sexual health problems. These include:

Lumps, scars, or bending in the penis.
A discharge from the penis.
A tight foreskin.
The inability to achieve an erection.
Painful erections or an erection that won't go down.
Rapid or delayed ejaculation during sex.
Loss of sexual desire.
Problems with urination: pain, increased frequency, a weak urinary stream, or blood in the urine.
Pain during ejaculation.
Blood in the semen.
Testicular pain or lumps or a change in size, shape, or firmness of one or both testicles.
Sores, blisters, ulcers, or growths on the genitals.

Have 'safer sex', unless you're sure both you and your partner are HIV negative (i.e. not infected with the virus). Essentially this is a way of behaving sexually that minimises the risks of transmitting the virus. As discussed, earlier, it's called 'safer' rather than 'safe' sex as it involves greatly reducing the risk rather than eliminating it completely. Safer sex will also reduce your chances of contracting or passing on many other STIs.
Be assertive. Choosing safer sex can be difficult. Even if you want to use a condom, you might feel embarrassed if you're not confident you know how to put one on; alternatively, you might be worried about losing your erection. (Click here for tips on using a condom.) On the other hand, your partner might not want to have sex with a condom. You might then think that if you insist on using one, it implies that you've got an infection or that you don't trust your partner. It can all get very complicated and there's no easy way to talk about this. But if your partner's reluctant to use a condom, the only viable strategy is for you to say you're not prepared to have penetrative sex without one.
Be open. If you have an STI, it's your responsibility to tell your partner(s). They can then decide if they want to have sex with you and, if so, how. If they've already had sex with you, they may need to get themselves checked to see if they've been infected. You might think that it's not up to you to tell partners on the grounds that it's their responsibility to make sure that whatever they do is safe. You could also be worried that nobody will want to have sex with you if they know you have an STI or that they will be angry with you if you tell them they've been exposed to a risk of infection. Perhaps your best guide is to ask yourself if you'd want a partner to tell you of any potential risk to your health and to act accordingly.
Be fully involved in decisions about contraception. A lack of interest in contraception not only annoys women (quite understandably) but can also mean that a couple ends up using a form of contraception that doesn't meet both of their needs when it comes to preventing pregnancy, minimizing the risks of STIs, or, very importantly, simply having fun. Given that about a dozen methods of birth control are now widely available, it should be possible to find at least one that feels right. For more on contraception, click here.

Should I have an HIV test?

If you're worried that you could be HIV positive (i.e. you have been infected with HIV), a blood test will tell you one way or the other. If you discover that you are HIV positive, you can then get medical advice and treatment that could make a big difference to your health. You'll also be able to take steps to protect anyone you have sex with and inform any past sexual partners who might have been at risk. If you find you are HIV negative, however, and you're sure that your partner is too, then you can safely ditch the condoms and start having unprotected sexâ€”unless, of course, you're using them as a form of contraception. (But you must remember that it takes three months for HIV to become detectable in a blood test, so if you've been infected in that period the test could show incorrectly that you're HIV negative.)
One big argument against having a test is that it can be a very frightening experience, whatever the result. (If you do go ahead, you may want to consider getting the support of a close friend as well as making sure you have the test at a clinic that offers counselling before and after the result. Many clinics also offer a same-day results service, which some people find helps reduce the stress of waiting.) You'll need to be confident you can cope if you do get bad news: you might want to wait if you're suffering from other sources of stress at the moment. If you are HIV positive, it could well affect your relationships with your partner and anyone else you choose to tell. Some employers may also be reluctant to offer you a job, you could find it harder to obtain insurance, and a few countries place restrictions on the entry of people known to be HIV positive.
It can be a difficult decision, and there's no right or wrong course of action. Only you can decide, but you might find it helpful to get more information and advice from an organization specializing in HIV issues. Click here to learn what happens at an STI clinic and here to locate your nearest one.

FAQ: common concerns about sexual health

I find foreplay boring
Although it can be great to have fast sex occasionally, if you keep skipping foreplay your partner might well soon start skipping you. There could be four explanations for your feelings about foreplay. The first is that you still believe in the outdated male notion that foreplay is largely an irrelevance and that what really counts is simply sticking your penis in. Secondly, you may never have tried foreplay and therefore could remain unaware of its many pleasures. Thirdly, you may never have learned that you have many erogenous zones besides your penis (e.g. your nipples, testicles, thighs, anus, lips, buttocks, and abdomen). Finally, it's possible that you're scheduling sex as if it's a meeting and not leaving yourself enough time to get into it. Whatever the reason, take a chanceâ€”try foreplay and see what you've been missing.
Condoms ruin sex
Most men find that sex with a condom doesn't feel the same as sex without one; there is, inevitably, some effect on sensation. However, wearing a condom gives you one big advantage: you do know that the sex you're having is much, much safer. You can also try and spice up your condom experience by asking your partner to put it on for youâ€”you can even make this part of sex play (e.g. a shared sexual fantasy) rather than something that can often seem like a medical procedure. Adding lubrication can also help improve sensitivity. Some men claim that because condoms help delay ejaculation they actually lead to a more powerful orgasm. Click here for more on using condoms.
I feel very inhibited around sex
It's common occasionally to feel embarrassed or shy, but if your feelings are stronger and getting in the way of sex then you need to find out why. Some men who had very religious or prudish parents have been brought up to believe that sex is somehow shameful or dirty. Others may have been punished if caught playing with their penis as a child or masturbating when a teenager, leaving them with the belief that sex is wrong. A bad first sexual experience, such as being criticized by a partner for coming too quickly or not being able to get an erection, could also cause problems, as could a history of sexual abuse. The best way to deal with sexual inhibitions is to see a sex therapist or counsellor.
I'm worried I've picked up a dose of the clap but I'm scared about the tests a clinic will want to carry out
You'll probably be offered a range of tests to check for all the major STIs. Gonorrhoea and chlamydia are usually checked by a swab pushed into the tip of the urethra (the tube running through your penis). There's no denying it stingsâ€”and rather more than cheap after-shaveâ€”but it doesn't last more than a few seconds. (And despite what some blokes say, the swab certainly isn't the size of a coat hanger.) But if the idea of this really bothers you, ask if the clinic can use a more recently introduced urine test for these diseases. Other diseases, such as syphilis and HIV, require a blood test. If you're needle-phobic, make sure you tell the doctor or nurse so they can be as gentle and reassuring as possible. However scared you are by the tests, you should remember it's likely that you'll be even more worried by the idea of having an infection that remains undiagnosed and untreated.

Peter Baker

Sexy women while drunk is Preferable

2010-03-31T11:14:00.000-07:00

3.000 According to a study by British women, half of the women prefer sex when drunk.
6% of women in this research also determine if he never had sex sober.
According to research, while an average woman with 8 men and 5 of them probably will be drunk. 2 of them together as man and woman can not even remember the name of the next morning.
Apparently alcohol makes women lack the confidence. 6 women, one of them when you're sober enough to sleep with a man who says he is not confident. 14% of the women who have intercourse without a few glasses of alcohol consumed with partners say they can not sleep.
Femfresh a cosmetics company, named as a result of the research carried out by women have self-confidence issues.

In bed, "Excellent Women"

2010-03-31T11:12:00.000-07:00

In the eyes of men to be a sex goddess, as well as some properties need to be a little aklıllı.
Some women are only good in bed, others are excellent. Dating games men in general prefer to spell.
Start your preparations early
If I added an early passion for seeds, it can live longer. "302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed" (Men in Bed 302 Advanced Methods of seduction), Olivia Saint, author of the book. According to Claire, if you want to spend a passionate night, from morning to night, you should start the preparations.
Press to delete messages that you have a car or go to work before sensual passionate kiss you give, the subconscious will allow him to concentrate on into the night. Reversal of discussions, or you do not let the setbacks of the night and everything you'll ever forget it by focusing on hot minute.
Even the sweet tongue snakes out of the hole
Men are always ready to be exciting and enticing. "Pocket Idiot's Guide to Sex" (Novice for Sex Guide) author of psychiatrists Ava Cadell, the men always seductive to be that they are ready and surprises them, provoking says, and that the "new experiences to discover the offers when you face surprise expressions of excitement to the reflection will be. Sun will offer between usual position to ignite your passion enriched with new scenarios can take place, "he still has value.
Irresistible charm of foreplay
Önsevişmeyi kept as short as possible, and do not increase your excitement. Önsevişme of couples have discovered each other during and in doing so they are more compatible in bed, make a note of your memory. "The Good Girl's Guide to Bad Girl Sex" (Innocent Girl For Sex and Guide) book author Dr. psychiatrist. Barbara Keesling, önsevişmelerin relations, and portrayed as the driving forces that fired the enthusiasm of double claims.
The importance of appetizer
Every woman wants to feel that was desired by men. Many couples caught up in the lust of the wind blowing through the igniter steps. Enjoy a passionate love to temporarily postpone the experts point out up front, but we give up when applying to defer your benefits to determine the boundaries between good there. Otherwise, instead of a passionate love away from you that you can come face to face with a man unrelated. How appetizing snacks take effect before the main meal, you enjoy the sex deferrals include appetizing.
Enjoy reflections
Most of the men to see women that are affected also enjoy. Can also delighted to hear that they are ego-satisfaction. Even if you are past your own selfishness, lust and ego, do not let life satisfaction. You get all the pleasure of trying to reflect your sincerity. You declare that you have your happiness, it's like a ceremony to celebrate the victory of thinking. You can see the pleasure that men will strive for more.

Make your man contacts
Women in bed sometimes passion, sometimes they want to live the romance. You should give him tips about what you want. According to experts, a depraved men to women is easier to navigate. Want to live a romantic night in, night at the beginning of a beautiful compassionate touch or massage with a good idea to have him batting. Creative ideas
To avoid monotony in your bedroom with fire and passion you can try different positions. Prepared by experts in this field can benefit from many books. Known positions at the same time more exciting and fun with your creativity to make your hands. Thus, exploring each other more, you can double your pleasure, you can be indispensable for men.
Sensitive areas
Peaks move to sensitive areas, remember that lust. Great pleasure to make your man if you want even more, turning to some of the sensitive area. When you take the time to enjoy your hair with a hand with your other hand to squeeze the hips or neck, try to take small bites. You will see how to increase the pleasure of living.
Wet bodies
The fantasy of your body fat, add cream, or private. Gliding under the influence and effects of massage will increase your önsevişme also be able to feel each other more.
Characteristic approaches
Every man wild in bed, she likes to hear that no rule. Basically they want to feel good in bed, but it is very important how you express. Do not be a victim of your passions and habits. Behavior in the bed with the right words to respond. "Crazy me" instead say, "Touch me and is very impressed," saying such a good idea to have his share. Of course the opposite for men who like the best speech will be full of lust. Do not forget to feed one's ego and make sure that the right words.
Your entire body with self-
Behavior leads to the usual monotony. Included male sex how to seduce the imagination that you mentioned. Add your body and your imagination with every point in a way to impress her. For example, a touch of your hair tickle your user. So that new discoveries while living, to know your body well.

Stimulative power of risks
The risk of men will find enticing and exciting. Try to seduce him in a public place or open curtains get dirty bidding. Experts, men taking risks and testosterone secretion of adrenaline in the brain that lead to increase so that they are driven to do more.
Maximum skin contact
During sex your body will wake up feeling all that common themes found in your body. As your skin will feel like it will make you more desirable. Try the appropriate position for maximum skin contact.
Visual feast
Men and women as they enjoyed their own skin touches considerably. To touch her own face in her mind and self-confident woman who knows what he will wake up the image. We will watch with admiration and attention. What you concentrate all the attention, as an opportunity to show you how you want to use. Will remember all of them individually and make sure you can guarantee your enjoyment.
Your muscles are the secret weapon
Tighten the pelvic muscles during intercourse regularly. This men crazy with lust is one of the most effective way. Occur more frequently under the influence of friction and pressure will increase the enjoyment doubled.
Scenes considerable
After making love, you're having an orgasm Liven up your eyes. To live so that you can enjoy a longer drive. Then, how much you're enjoying a statement. Do not hesitate to share, you could hear every man enjoys giving you pleasure.

In Pictures: 10 Health Problems That Can Affect Your Sex Life

2010-03-31T11:03:00.000-07:00

Prescription Medications
Many common prescription drugs can have side effects that impact sexual health. For instance, diuretics, which treat heart and blood-pressure conditions, and ACE inhibitors, used for some heart-related problems, can cause erectile dysfunction. Some antidepressants' side effects include a loss of interest in sex as well as ejaculation problems.

Cardiac Health
Impotence may be a sign that a man is experiencing peripheral vascular disease, a disease of blood vessels outside the heart. For those who fear that heart problems can make sex life-threatening, Rockwell says the majority of people don't need to worry. Some, however, may need to be careful about physical activity right after a heart attack or implantation of a pacemaker or cardioverter defibrillator. Talk to your doctor.

Depression
Depression medications may hurt your sex life, but so will depression, if left untreated. Common problems include decreased libido and complaints of a lack of pleasure. Experts say it's best to address your depression and work with your doctor, who might be able to give you a low-dosage prescription or even a second medication to combat sexual side effects.

Alcohol
While some people use alcohol to get in the mood, experts says getting drunk actually tends to decrease sexual pleasure because it lowers your sensations and can even cause performance problems. Drinking too much can also affect your health by leading to risky sexual behavior.

Stress
If you're consumed with balancing a hectic work schedule and home life, sex may be the last thing on your mind. Stress can lower our libidos and make it more difficult for us to give and accept pleasure, says Dr. Pamela Rockwell of the University of Michigan Medical School. If this sounds familiar, start thinking about better ways to manage your stress load. Try taking time for yourself, exercising or talking to a therapist.

Pregnancy
Unless a pregnant woman has been advised by her doctor to avoid it, there's no physical reason an expecting couple can't have sex. Because desire levels may vary, Rockwell says use of lubricants may help. Changing sexual positions might also be necessary as the pregnancy progresses.

Menopause/Andropause
Menopause decreases a woman's estrogen levels, creating vaginal dryness, Rockwell says. Lubricants or topical estrogen creams can help women continue to enjoy sex. As they age, men also produce less testosterone, which can lower their libidos. Gels, shots and patches are also available to treat the problem.

Poor Body Image
According to a recent study, losing five pounds can greatly improve a woman's sexual satisfaction. Likewise, low self-esteem based on a poor body image can have a negative impact. Rockwell says women, in particular, need to work on feeling comfortable in their skin to avoid hindering their sex lives.

Diabetes
Studies have shown that 35% to 75% of men with diabetes will experience some degree of erectile dysfunction. High blood sugar, for instance, can cause blood vessel and nerve damage, affecting sexual response. High cholesterol, which is common in people with diabetes, can also cause fatty deposits in artery walls, reducing blood flow.

Sexual Function

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Follow the link below to find resources relating to sexual health

Erectile Dysfunction

2010-03-31T10:55:00.001-07:00

Description
Erectile dysfunction is when a man continues to be unable to achieve and/or maintain an erection that allows sexual activity with penetration.
Erectile dysfunction is often referred to as 'impotence' although this term is no longer favoured because it is not specific and has derogatory overtones.
Symptoms

The cause of erectile dysfunction may be physical or psychological. For most men, the cause is both physical and psychological. In 75% of cases, there will be a physical cause.
Physical causes of erectile dysfunction include:

diabetes
high cholesterol
heart disease
post prostate cancer
high blood pressure
alcohol or other drug use
some prescribed drugs
disease of the liver and kidney
surgery to the bladder, prostate gland, lower bowel and spine
poor blood flow to the penis resulting from blocked arteries.

Treatment

Occasionally when a specific cause is identified, direct treatment will completely resolve the problem. This might happen where there has been a sudden psychological problem that is short lived and can be overcome.
Sometimes if erectile dysfunction occurs immediately after starting a new drug, then withdrawing that drug may improve the situation. Importantly and particularly in younger men, pelvic injuries may be associated with erectile dysfunction that can be treated with surgery. Testosterone deficiency may be treated and erectile dysfunction improved.
Health Outcome

It is important to distinguish erectile dysfunction from other forms of sexual problems. Some men have little interest in sex (low libido) but can achieve an erection. Other men can achieve an erection but cannot reach an orgasm or ejaculate. Ejaculation may come too early (premature ejaculation) or may sometimes go into the bladder with nothing coming out of the penis (retrograde ejaculation). These different problems will require a different approach to diagnosis and treatment.
Prevention

At the present time, there are no known specific preventative strategies for erectile dysfunction. The early detection of medical problems which may underlie erectile dysfunction is important. By accepting and controlling these health problems, the damage done to tissues of the body, including the penis, may be reduced.
Diabetes which is the most common association with erectile dysfunction may be present for years before a diagnosis is made. During this time considerable damage may be done to tissues of the body including the penis.
Furthermore following diagnosis it is now known that good treatment reduces complications in general and although this hasn't been proven to reduce erectile dysfunction it is likely that this would be the case. Basically this view strengthens the idea that men, particularly as they move into middle age, should have regular health checks.
Help and Assistance

For more information on erectile dysfunction, you can talk to:

your local doctor
your local sexual health clinic
your local family planning clinic.

Other Resources
For more information on erectile dysfunction, you can talk to:

your local doctor
your local sexual health clinic
your local family planning clinic.

Footnotes
Impotence Australia

Vasectomy

2010-03-31T10:52:00.000-07:00

A vasectomy is an operation designed to sterilise a man by cutting the tubes that allow sperm to leave the testicles.

Male Contraceptive Pill

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Description
Male injectable hormonal contraception is not available at the moment; however, studies suggest that the combination of the hormones testosterone and progesterone may provide a safe, effective and reversible male contraceptive.
Trials of different forms of male hormonal contraceptive continue in different countries throughout the world. In Australia researchers have developed a combination treatment to suppress sperm production in a reliable and reversible way. This involves a hormone implant of testosterone being placed under the skin every four months and a top-up injection of progesterone given every three months. The method was tested on 55 men over a period of 12 months and no pregnancies occurred. All participants retained their normal energy and libido (sex drive) levels. More testing and development needs to be done before the method becomes available.

Bladder cancer

2010-03-31T10:49:00.001-07:00

Description
People who get bladder cancer are more likely than other people to have certain risk factors, which include age, use of tobacco, occupation, infections, drug therapy for other cancers, race, being male, family history and personal history.

What is Cancer

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Cancer

Cancer is a diverse range of diseases where abnormal cells (cells are the basic building blocks of the body) grow rapidly and generally spread throughout the body in an uncontrolled manner. These cancerous cells can invade and destroy ...
What is Cervical Cancer?

Cervical cancer involves changes to the cells of the cervix. The cervix is the lower part of the uterus (womb), which protrudes into the vagina. The cervix is sometimes called the neck of the womb.

How to use a Condom

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Description

Condoms are worn during sexual activity as a contraceptive and to prevent infection. They are available for men and women.

Do's

* Check the expiry date. Don’t use condoms that have expired.
* Check for a batch number. This means they meet Australian standards.
* Before use, check the condom has not discoloured or become brittle.
* Find the right size. A condom that’s too small can break and be very uncomfortable. A condom that’s too big can fall off.
* Lubricant reduces the risk of the condom breaking. Use water based lubricant. Do not use oil based products such as baby oil or massage oils as they weaken the latex leading to breakage.
* Store condoms in a cool dark place, even in the fridge if you live or travel in a hot climate. do not store condoms in the car. Condoms should not be kept for any length of time in a wallet, purse or handbag.
* Never re-use condoms.
* Some people find some brands of condoms irritate their skin. Try other brands.
* Try practicing with them by yourself.
* Always have more than one condom available.
* Try flavoured condoms for oral sex.
* Cover your vibrator with a condom if using it on someone else.

Tips

Putting on a condom

As semen or pre-cum may leak out as soon as the penis is hard, put the condom on before the penis goes near your partner’s genitals, mouth or anus.

* Open the packet, being careful not to tear the condom with teeth or fingernails. Squeeze the condom out. Don’t unroll the condom yet.
* Make sure the condom is the right way up. Squeeze the teat on the tip of the condom to remove the air bubble. For an uncircumcised penis, gently pull back the foreskin.
* Hold the condom against the tip of the penis. Unroll it all the way down to the base of the penis. Apply a water-based lubricant.

Removing a condom after use

* Pull out the penis as soon as you ejaculate and before your penis goes soft.
* While withdrawing, hold the condom at the base of the penis. Be careful not to allow the condom or the penis to touch your partner’s genitals, mouth or anus as you slip it off.
* Tie a knot in the top of the condom and put the condom in a rubbish bin. Don’t flush it down the toilet as it is not biodegradable and may cause your toilet to block up. Don’t throw the used condom where children might pick it up.
* Wash your hands after removing a condom.

Helpful Hints

If the condom breaks:

* Withdraw immediately.
* Women should not douche – this can increase the risk of getting a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Wash the outside of the genitals with water, not soap or detergents, and pass urine.
* Men should wash the genitals and urinate.
* If there is a risk of pregnancy, you may like to consider emergency contraception. You will need to talk about this with your local doctor, family planning clinic or sexual health clinic within 72 hours - the sooner the better.
* If there is a high risk of exposure to HIV or Hepatitis B, consider post-exposure prophylaxis. You will need to talk about this with your local doctor, family planning clinic or sexual health clinic.
* If you are worried about the risk of a STI, see your local doctor, family planning clinic or sexual health clinic. Have a check-up.
* Think about why your condom broke and try to prevent this from happening again.. Was there enough lubricant? Was it old? Was there an air bubble? Was it too small?

Practical Advice

If your partner won't use a condom, you could try saying:

* "No condom, no sex"
* "If it's not on, it's not on"
* "I always use condoms"
* "I’ll show you – let me put it on"
* "We can use my condoms if you don’t have any"
* “Don’t worry – I’ll put it on nicely".

Other Resources

Queensland Health Sexual Health website

I masturbate CONTINUOUS

2010-03-30T14:21:00.000-07:00

QUESTION

Hello to a 18 years young and I'm constantly doing masturmasyon dear, even if you are in trouble when I do, and I do so even after I am very disgusted about myself formerly made at certain intervals would, but now things are different and penis my girlfriend meet me the moment it becomes almost hard bi va rmıdır your comments, thank you

ANSWER
Excessive masturbation can be explained in different ways to make a few trends. An impulse control difficulty was installing olabilir.Kişi haz trend and sex drive in it again, how often they experience it is extremely satisfying pleasure. Symptoms of the disease may be obsessed. Learned in reducing anxiety levels rising and has become a pattern of recurrent. Sexual function may be the problem mastırbasyonla pressure. Excessive ejaculation problems and can create masterbasyon hard.

On ways to achieve sexual satisfaction!

2010-03-30T14:19:00.000-07:00

Secrets of a happy sexual life between husband and ...
Sexual dissatisfaction, often caused by relationship problems between spouses. Fulfillment of sexual fantasies which are unknown, stress, marriage problems, such as installing cereme wrong attitude to sexual experience also affects sexual pleasure obtained from

Books, this title pass though a very important dimension of sexual satisfaction. Istanbul University Faculty of Medicine, Department of Psikyatri, Sexuality and Sexual Therapy Unit President Prof. Dr. Arşaluys Favored, sexual dissatisfaction, the couples' sex frequency, sex style, sex start-up or turning back, lay before the debate, sexual shots decreasing and short sex as factors to be effective, he said.

What is sexual satisfaction? Are there standard sizes?

Sexual affection, desire, arousal, intercourse, orgasm after orgasm, and are classified as stages and challenges are assessed within this framework. But we do not see many books on the topics of sexual satisfaction is very important. Sexual satisfaction, being pleased with the individual's sexual contact and is happy. That a sexual relationship and sexual problems, regardless of size is dependent on non-sexual.

Like men, like women, fulfilled our sexual life is the same recipe and it just ejaculation, orgasm, sex is not long or frequent sex. Any kind of sexual pleasure to the good people are coming is good. For example vaginismus problem (inability to merge) of the couples sex life "So far everything is very nice," he will describe. It is true. Most of these couples are love, desire and orgasm, there is no problem. We'll discuss ... However, the individual's experience, for him or his wife gives more information about what is satisfactory. Level of vaginismus often listen again tells the woman: "I've been getting very close to my wife but I do not get pleasure. Now I feel like a couple."

"Fucked can not, not yet" feeling like the disappearance of the couple's back and alleviates the burden of them closer.

Why are caused by sexually insatiable?

A look into why we act with integrity. Multiple reasons to come together to create a sexual problem. Sexuality is important in unconscious processes. Sexual dissatisfaction, but often the general relationship between the spouses reflects the difficulties.

Major sexual tension between his wife are the topics or dissatisfaction?

The frequency of couples making love

Form of sex

To initiate or refuse to make love

Discussions about sexuality before sex

Fulfillment of sexual fantasies which are not known, and to impose

The decrease in sexual images

Their love is too short

Cereme their sexual life, such as marital problems installing ...

Once the orgasm or ejaculation in sexual satisfaction do not understand?

Orgasm, sexual physiology is to complete the loop. Peak is the introduction of delight. Time is short. Comfort, relaxation gives makes it easier to fall asleep. A popular place match feels orgasmic bliss. Relationship or an individual's personality structure, but it may still be unhappy. Although we know that the happy moments of orgasm orgasm without sex there are so fulfilled.

According to the male orgasm, women orgasm more easily. Why?

Ejaculation in men needs further. I just want to give a tip and information. Targeting women orgasm orgasm with intercourse becomes much easier. Vagina, clitoris, which is not a place to trigger an orgasm. This information last 30 - 40 years of women's sexual physiology laboratory results. The main trigger orgasm clitoris, vagina contraction comes into.

How does the female orgasm in men can not?

Men "if only" he strives in vain. This situation creates tension and failure in men. Considered this problem, my advice to couples, orgasm, combined with targets they may forget, they try their old knowledge. Of women in top positions to be active and facilitates the discovery.

Active in terms of sexual satisfaction, while making love to do and there's a difference between being passive?

That difference and diversity to explore couple of sensitive spots focusing at least 20 minutes (10 minutes making love 10 minutes together after making love) each other stroked and kissed them, and desires, erotic feelings expressed recommend. Primarily to provide information from the opposite side with eyes closed, his own emotion now, then it tells you. Sexual intercourse and orgasm are not targeted. Later discovery of the genitals and breasts and mergers. The couple took in a short time to focus on being active and passive gains matters. Prepared to take an individual to give up.

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Structure of the Female Sexual Organ

2010-03-28T15:50:00.000-07:00

Structure of the Female Sexual Organ
Female reproductive organs (genital organs) located on the outside and inside is divided into two to be located. Internal genital organs in women's skeleton legs just above the pelvis and backbone created by the bones of the roof (latin pelvis) were taken under protection within.
Structure and Functioning of Women Organ

Female genital organs as well in the picture is seen as a schematic front view.
Bone Roof

Pregnant women to nature, developing baby in the womb to grow and finally ripe to bring the baby into the world was arranged. To fulfill this task as a woman for the purpose of the roof of the bones of a man's bones vary significantly depending on the roof:
The picture on the left side in the bottom two images to lower a man's bone in the roof top and front view, right at the bottom of the lower two images of the bones in the roof of the women's top and front view can be seen. Look carefully at the bones when a man's roof top view of the heart-shaped opening, the woman's bones can be seen as a round of the roof opening. This difference of the structure of the male pelvis to move more towards a heavy load, the woman's pelvic bone structure of the pelvis during the birth of the baby's head was created by the birth is due to the channel to enter toward.

Yet in a similar way in front view of the male pelvis and the lower angle, narrow angle of the woman's pelvis and lower the baby's birth canal to allow an outsider to easily out is configured as a wide angle.

Located on the woman's bone structure and connects the muscles of the baby through the birth canal to the outside world out as the largest area in the process to ensure that it is possible for the purpose as structured as have been favorable to unwind. Pelvic bones of men to be more convenient for carrying cargo is formatted and connects the muscles do not show too much relaxation. More frequently in women than men on low back pain is the most likely cause.

External Genital Organs

External genital organs of women, body-covering layer of skin is a continuation of the internal female genital organs and the entrance door, the baby is born "from the birth canal" to form the gate. External genital organs collectively are called the vulva.

Against external genital organs, viewed from the image

The overall structure of women's external genital area

Vulva, women's external genital area against the top viewed from the "roof" of the bones of the pelvis with each other or even merge the middle of the area formed by the pubis puff hill, at the bottom side of the anus and large (outer) lips, called by the structure is bounded regions.
The skin and fatty tissue under the pubis hill contains the genitals are covered with hair. The clitoris is located just below the hills pubis. Under a layer of external genital organs of women in childbirth, such as urine and fecal output as the functions carried out voluntary muscles that are important. These muscles are collectively called the pelvic floor muscles.

External (large) lips

Vagina (vagina) with the right input with the left on the outside covering of the skin folds are located. Outside the lips in front of genital pubic hair on top, just above the back of the anus are joined. Is covered with hair and skin and genital them under yağdokusu contain.

Internal (small) lips

In the inner side of outer lip with the right with the left, the upper part of the clitoris from the vaginal entrance, extending to the bottom of curved buildings. Urine and vaginal entrance hole they surround. Inner lips normally invisible legs off when they are larger than outer lips, some women may protrude. They are not covered with hair and do not include subcutaneous yağdokusu.

Vagina entrance

Located inside of the lips and the hymen still ongoing until the part is 1-2 centimeters. After tearing hymen vagina is combined with.

Hymen

Latin de hymen ( "Hymen" is read) called this structure is flexible and relatively thin, although one or more holes in the middle contains. Although every woman has a different structure, usually a mild bleeding during the first relationship is with a torn vagina and thus allow entry combined with the vagina.

Of the female genital organs hymen is said to protect from infection, bleeding in the middle of one hole or holes to flow to assure that this structure prevents the bacteria to pass through the open how this function is controversial.

Clitoris

Clitoris located under the right pubis is a structure, and spire at the top and sides are surrounded by the inner lip. Urine hole at the bottom right of the clitoris, vagina, bladder below the entrance hole is located. Externally visible part of the clitoris in the shape of the button next to the fully embedded inside the vulva extending into the side has two arms and Y-shaped structure in this state is actually the clitoris. Just like man's penis during sexual intercourse clitoris hard Veri features. This structure is very rich in blood vessels in the vital role women will orgasm.

Urine hole (urethra mouth)

Just below the clitoris, inner lips in front of where the combination of urine and the urine out of holes to be evacuated will be described below constitute the last part of the structure called the urethra.

Perineum

Outer lip at the rear of the combine where the perineum between the anus is located in the region. Binding urine and feces covered the region ciltaltında functions that provide control of muscles contains. These muscles relax as much as possible during labor and birth of the baby's head to allow.

When reached the final stage of action on the baby's birth in order to facilitate the final Epizyotomi perineum (born incision) is called. The purpose of this certain when the baby is born and at the bottom of this region to be tearing the perineum muscles is to prevent damage.

The glands on the vulva

External genitalia and sexual intercourse to prevent the establishment to provide the necessary functions, runs the slippery glands are a few pieces. The most important output of urine contained in the hole next to the entrance near Skene glands and vagina with the left with the right Bartholin ( "Bartoli" is read) are glands.

Rectum (anus)

Colon and rectum is the last part of the rolled out ensures that the stored feces.
This structure is sure how close the vagina. Because of this anatomical proximity of the large intestine during defecation is in close contact with the bacteria of the vagina and create risk of infection.

Women need to be careful in cleaning the toilet after a rule is very important:

Clean back to front (anus to the vagina) is not true, front to back should be made. Back to front because cleaning the colon bacteria in the mouth of the vagina, and from there spread to the urethra and frequent infections occurred in these regions may cause.

Girl given toilet training when you do not neglect to teach this rule.

Internal genital organs

;; Internal genital organs penis into accepting the vagina starts with, uterus into the entrance door, which at the same time for sperm a warehouse role of the cervix with the baby's growth and development and that pregnant women not be in the period menstruation is occurring with uterus continues, right here with the left uterus with both Fallopian tube extends to the next like a horn, and each Fallopian tube, at the ends of the eaves is close contact with the ovaries.

Vagina
Vagina, vagina begin and end with the introduction of the cervix, where the tubular structure and is approximately 10 centimeters in length. Glands at the entrance to the vagina during vaginal entrance and vagina slippery relationship provides healing.

Normally the pre-folded upon each other as standing behind the wall of this structure, the structure of labor in the birth canal is located in the soft parts and the baby's head will stretch enough to be allowed to pass. ;;
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Urethra

The continuation of the bladder urine is stored in the tubular structure of this urinary excretion system represents the last step.

Men than in women the urethra is short. This brevity of the vagina and anus and genital system, proximity to, urinary tract infections in women experiencing more frequent causes. In women who are experiencing their first sexual experience again given by the "irritation", frequent urination after relationship, difficult to make urine, the urine may have led to the feeling of being unable to evacuate.

Rahimağzı

For entry into the uterus and sperm Rahimağzı for the baby at birth from the womb is the gate. The continuation of the vagina is located. Glands located in the channel Rahimağzı conceptive days facilitating the passage of semen, pregnancy is not convenient for the transition difficult nowadays produces secretions. Secretions from the uterus into the vagina Rahimağzı also prevents the entry of bacteria. Under normal conditions, in the form of a sharp cone and a few millimeters of clearance, this structure is softened during labor, is viewed (this is not viewed "deletion" is called) and about 10 centimeters by opening the baby's exit permits.

Rahim

Womb (uterus), located on the tip rahimağzı, horn-shaped side in the Fallopian tubes, strong muscle contraction capability is a structure consisting of pear-shaped. The inner layer of the uterine cavity within the uterus (endometrium) takes place. Uterus during pregnancy are not as rigid a structure the size of tangerines and weight is about 60 grams. Uterus during pregnancy in about 3 kilograms to carry a baby grows and strong muscle contractions when labor begins, the relaxation rahimağzının is provided by opening the baby's birth. Rahim's the only known function of the unborn baby's development will allow to create environment, the baby may come from outside to protect from shocks (this function hand in hand with liquid amniyos runs) and in the labor contract for the baby to the outside world to remove the mothers together with the big push needed to create a driving force. The task of a woman entering menopause was completed in the uterus and sizes are increasingly smaller.

Uterine cavity and the inner layer of the uterus (endometrium)

Within the uterine cavity of the uterus with the inner layer is coated case. Fertilized egg cell through the fallopian tube when it reaches here endometriuma most "efficient" and settles into the area found to multiply and begin to develop.

Inner layer of the uterus in each menstrual cycle and pregnancy occurs, the embryo is renewed growth continues in the uterine cavity. Pregnancy to be rebuilt this layer does not perform rahimağzı through the vagina, there is also thrown into the external environment. Along with this as long as the bleeding is called bleeding.