Heart for Home-making

Little Cheerfulnesses and Ideas to inspire

2013-05-13T13:09:00.000-07:00

Today I have been on the lookout for some cheerful images to share with you. I hope you enjoy them - and maybe one or two might be a source of inspiration for your own creativity. Why not have a go!

You may need your sunglasses to look at these! But sewing together leftover fabrics in this novel way would make a super-sunny frock

Cherry Menlove (her real name) has an amazing blog, with lots of tutorials. Well worth a visit. What a great idea to tie a big bold bow onto a simple cushion

Here is Cherry's romantic 'Daybed Reading Corner' An eiderdown, pillows and string of lights...

The daytime daybed version : )

I love this simple and inexpensive idea. Wouldn't a bowl of pastel painted shells instantly brighten up a bathroom?

Caravans

I SOOOO want a caravan to do a mini-makeover. Some of these ideas don't look too hard to try.

LadyLydia has her own caravan challenge - 'down under'

More caravan makeovers

Who minds if nothing matches

It's those little things that make a Home Sweet Home

If you don't have a caravan... how about making over your apron?

...Or tea towels/hand towels?

These are made by Cath at www.embellishedtowels.com

Aren't these lovely?

Before I finish this post, I would like to ask an unrelated question. I have seen tutorials for making socks out of fleece etc, but I am interested in using fabric for reinforcing the heels of non-woolen socks (inside or outside). This is because the socks only wear thin at the heel area and are perfectly fine everywhere else.Has anyone sewn fabric in this way successfully?

Linking up with...

Careful Ways - Truly Thrifty and Fun

2013-05-02T02:24:00.000-07:00

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Neck-tie Aprons

Careful ways take time to learn. That is why it is so helpful to look to the advice and experience of older wives and home-makers. They may have learned from their own mothers, aunts and grandmothers. Or they may have learned the harder ways, through trial and error and tough consequences. Many of them are most happy to share their wisdom so that others are saved from making those same mistakes

What is so interesting, is that once you begin to think about the subject, you find all sorts of unexpected ideas pop into your head, and most of the careful ways you learn will be satisfying and enjoyable. (For those who don't believe this - just try it and see for yourself)

Going through your wardrobe

Most women are surprised at what they find when they 'go through their own wardrobe', or closet. Before you embark on this challenge, take some paper and be ready to write down an inventory of what you actually have. When you have gone through your clothes and shoes, you will be able to write down 'What you need'. You could to save up, ask for, or look out for those things.

I did this a while ago. Before I had gone through my wardrobe...

1. I was sure that I needed some summer sandals

2. I was about to buy the fabric for some much needed skirts

3. I felt like I may as well throw out my blouses which were all too big since I had lost weight, a couple of years ago.

Firstly, I took everything out and laid it on the bed. Then I quickly vacuumed, and polished the wood. It felt good to be putting things back into a nice clean wardrobe.

Items went back tidily and on the right hangers.

This is what I found...

1. I already HAD two pairs of very nice ladies sandals that I had forgotten about! I also had some ok ones that are quite suitable for wearing around the house.

2. I already HAD quite enough skirts. Some of them were 'hidden' underneath other items on my hangers, and one had fallen to the floor. I was able to make a simple alteration to a skirt I didn't like (and therefore had avoided wearing), and now I like to wear it.

3. I decided to take those 'too big' blouses down to the sewing machine. I keep the machine tucked in beside the sofa. This means it is always ready for use.

I had a go at putting some quick darts into those blouses. It didn't take much time and I was so pleased with the results that it feels like I have three new blouses!

Or you could use
pinch and pin to take in a shirt

I would love to hear your experiences of going through your own wardrobe or closets, or those of your children, ladies.

Quick note - If you are thinking of sorting out your husband's things in this way, it is a respectful idea to first ask him whether he would appreciate it.

Here are some more ideas you might like to try

Swap your magazines with friends and family, or keep them in a drawer to bring out and enjoy next year. Put the ones you are reading into a basket or on the coffee table. Don't worry if the crafting, sewing or knitting patterns look dated, they will come back into fashion before you know it!

Never throw out clothing without removing the buttons, trimmings, elastic and carefully store them in your sewing basket. Then cut out the unworn pieces of fabric. You can store these up and use them for all sorts of items, from patching trousers to making aprons and patchwork quilts.

Did you know that in WWII, women made cot blankets by sewing together the squares from opened-out socks? They also made children's soft toys from unravelled woolen sweaters. They cut worn sheets down the middle and sewed them back together with the worn middles to the outside edges. What other things could you do with a worn sheet?

These pictures are of an apron I have nearly finished made with fabric offcuts. You don't need to use a pattern - they can be so confusing - just play around with the fabric and see what you can do.

Polish your shoes regularly to protect the leather and keep them smart.Place shoes in old shoe-boxes and clearly label each box

Go through your sewing box or basket like you went through your wardrobe - prepare to find all sorts of lovely goodies that you didn't know you had.

Keep your tissue paper, ribbons and gift wrappings. You may use them again to wrap presents, or to make home-made cards etc.

Another thing you can swap and share with friends or family are your seeds for the garden. Remember to check the expiry dates of the seeds as many will be good for two years, sometimes more. Swapping the actually produce could be useful too.

The one thing that is so important in all this is

Organisation

You need to really spend time and focus on looking after what you already have. If you are disorganised, you won't know what you have and you won't use your resources wisely. Like my 'wardrobe' experience, I also found some pretty lace trimmings in my sewing basket, so I don't have to buy more and waste money.

Organising what you have, is not a one-off project. I find it has to be tackled a bit at a time, keeping at it regularly so as not to let things slip

A humble bar of soap

I know that quite a few of you make your own laundry 'gloop', but did you know the amazing efficiency and versatility of a simple bar of soap - the sort you use to wash your face and hands? It is more efficient than all those expensive chemical concoctions that are marketed with claims of 'essential' and 'unbeatable' Don't believe them!

In the supermarkets you can buy a bar of soap for about 13p each (0.20 USD)

~If my chair covers are grubby or marked, I use a damp/wet sponge or cloth of warm water and a rub of soap. It is clean in moments and smells lovely.

~ I keep my toilet brush in soapy water in its caddy. Soap slivers are great for this.A quick swish around the toilet bowl each morning and it's fresh and clean and I find much less limescale build-up. (Some of you may not like this idea, but I learned this from Flylady and it works superbly for me. My loo brush is fresh and clean - and soapy)

~ Keep a spray bottle of soapy water in your bathroom to spray over your basin and bath regularly. Rub dry with a cloth.

~ Washing with plain bar soap seems to be better for my skin than any liquid soaps and body washes I have tried. Look out for something pretty that could be used as a soap dish.

~ A soapy rag cleans walls and skirtings so quickly and gently. Again, you are left with a nice fresh smell, like an instant air freshener

~ Wet soap rubbed on collars and cuffs can bring them up very nicely and can remove stains before washing

~ Of course, hot soapy water is all you need to use for cleaning kitchen counter-tops. I remember a company being forced to remove their advert which claimed that washing with hot soapy water was not enough to kill germs, and that their chemical laden product was safer.

Each one of the careful ways that you practice, will shave a bit from your outgoings. Even tiny things will add up as they become established habits in your household, and you will have the contentment of knowing that you are looking after, and enjoying the nice things that you have

Have a happy day, Home-makers - and please let me know your own ideas and 'careful ways' in the comments. Read some of these excellent ideas here.

LEXIE's comments are so helpful. Thank you Lexie

Good post . I grew up with a depression era Mom so we learned many thrifty ways to live. Mom was a widow with 3 kids and a mortgage so we reused, recycle and did without. I keep my spring and summer wardrobe labeled in containers. Every spring I pull them out and its better then shopping. I have it organized, clean neat and ready to wear, shoes, shorts, tees and tanks. I reorganized the winter wardrobe and coats for next winter clean and neat ready to pull out. My shoes are organized in their boxes and I only keep 6 at a time, no one needs more. I store each unneeded season away clearly marked. My thrift extends to every aspect of home making. I am learning to use a solar oven and will soon do all my baking without electricity or gas. I have a raised bed garden for my own veggies. Sewing is not a friend of mine but I remember stories from my Mom of my Grandma sewing blankets for cots for the war effort along with my Mom reusing all clothing, buttons, blankets and curtains by sewing. My Mom sewed old buttons on our clothes and made her own curtains., Thanks for a interesting post that was a blast from the past. My Mom also fixed her own electrical appliances using cords she kept. She could rebuild her own lamps and small appliances never needing to buy new. All good lessons for today.

Also thank you to Susie. She says I have two slightly unusual uses for my husband's worn out heavy cotton socks. I was just cutting up some yesterday to use for water wicks for my big flower pots outside. I used them last year and my petunias and geraniums did great, even in the drought and 100+ degree temps we had here.

They also make good doggie wash cloths. I just cut them open so they are flat. Their rough-ish texture works well. They can either be washed and bleached clean or thrown away if they get too soiled.

Many thanks also to Lili, who wrote

My husband's and grown son's button-down, woven cotton work shirts are a good example. When the collar is looking raggy, there is still enough decent fabric in the backs, fronts and sleeves for men's boxer shorts. I patch bed sheets, but when they become very worn, they makes very nice (soft) hankies.

A few years ago I went through everything in my closet and I gave away everything that I didn't truly love on myself, or love the fabric (for a future project). I have a tiny closet and can fit everything in. My wardrobe is very simple. I change things up or add color with accessories, like scarves. I only replace loved items when they are too worn to wear, and even then, I can usually squeeze a bit of life from these worn items, for around the house

Careful Ways Freebie for you

2013-04-23T10:53:00.001-07:00

Dear Home-makers,

Using a delightful image from Free Pretty Things For You, I have put together a checklist to help you resist impulse-buying.

If you would like to use it, please save and print it out. Then put it on your fridge, or carry it in your purse/wallet when you go shopping. You could even put a copy on a card beside your computer.

Happy savings, Ladies.

The Mending

2013-04-13T11:42:00.000-07:00

Today's home-makers are having to learn the old-time resourcefulness and careful ways, that were second nature to their grandmothers.

Careful ways with clothes

Clothes were often home-made, and everything was made to last. Can you imagine what one of these ladies would say if they saw us casually tossing clothing or old towels in the bin. They would most certainly need to sit down with a cup of reviving tea before giving us a stern lecture about our wasteful ways! Then they might well demand to see the state of our mending basket...

Hmm... You might answer her demand with 'What's a mending basket?' or perhaps you would say 'I hate mending, so I hide it in the back of my deepest darkest closet!'

Who knows what these are?
They may come in very useful.

Wool socks need darning to make them last

Hems fall down on trousers and have to be taken up again

Shirts and blouses lose buttons which need replacing

Cardigans can wear at the elbows and require nicely sewn matching patches

Skirts need letting out or taking in

Cushion cover zips get stuck and we must put in a new one

It is time to make friends with the mending basket. They can be pretty and nice to look at. I like wicker or sea grass, something natural rather than plastic. It has to be small enough to have beside your comfy chair, yet big enough to hold the items that need mending. Or you could start with a shopping basket like the one in the picture below.

Have a nice tin or small workbox with your basic mending supplies like needles, black and white sewing cotton, wool for darning socks, small scissors, thimble, shirt buttons, patches, elastic, and... one of those funny things in the picture above that I said you might need : )

In the evenings or afternoons, you can pick up a little mending, and stitch away. It is so relaxing and satisfying to know that you are looking after your things. The family will know where the basket is, and its purpose, and there will be a sense of peace and order about the home which you have created. It is better to take your time and not kill yourself trying to empty the basket in one day. Mending will always need to be done.

Here are some useful links you might enjoy

Weak spots on socks - Swiss Darning

Holes in socks - darning

Patching elbows using a sewing machine

Beginner - How to sew on a button

Putting in a Zip. (Actually you can sew it by hand or by machine)

I hope these are of use to you. I am planning more blogs about resourcefulness and will tell you about the many useful things you can make with that worn towel that I mentioned at the beginning of this post

Happy mending, ladies

PS What's in YOUR mending basket?

A Little Cheerfulness for your Day

2013-04-04T06:26:00.000-07:00

Frederick Sands Brunner (1886-1954)

Sit back with your cup of tea and enjoy!

(My favourite is Woman Holding Baby. I'm not sure about the Home Performance one - I can almost hear the caterwauling! which is your favourite?)

Autumn Patterns

title unknown

Planting the Windowbox

Pushing Her Wheelbarrow

The Knitting Lesson

Summer Afternoon

Serenade Time - Home Performance

Woman with Horse and Dogs

Woman Holding Baby

Happy Tea Break, ladies

Simple Routines for Grocery Shopping

2013-03-26T07:09:00.002-07:00

Before you go shopping today...

Here are some simple but effective ideas to help you spend less.

1. STOCK-TAKE

Look in your cupboards, fridge and freezer. See what you have, and what needs using up. Use up older ingredients first. You will often be surprised at what you do have already. Look at your spices and herbs too, and think about a simple way you can use them in your meals this week. For instance, I found a few lasagne sheets and some yeast which I had forgotten about. I made a simple lasagne using beef, tomatoes and vegetables. I didn't make a cheese sauce, but sprinkled grated cheese on the top. Because the oven was on, I popped in some quick fruited scones, so as to be more economic with the electricity. Today, I plan to make a pizza, so using the yeast. It can be quite fun creatively using up what you have.

2. CHECK STAPLES

Running out of Butter, milk, bread, potatoes, tea, etc, means running to the shop/store again. This may mean taking out the car again, and you could end up buying more than you wanted.

3. SHOPPING LIST

Make a proper shopping list and stick to it. It will ensure that you do not impulse buy things you do not need. place a list on the side of the fridge where you note down things that are running low. Refer to this when making your shopping list.

4. KEEP EVERY RECEIPT

As soon as you get home, make a note of what you spent. Write it down in your notebook. At the end of the month, just add the totals together and you know what you have spent during the month.

5. ASK

Before buying anything, take a minute to ask yourself whether you NEED this item, or just WANT it.

6. MEAL PLAN

This doesn't mean plan exotic and complicated meals and new recipes! Just plan those easy, nutritious and simple home-cooked family meals you know and love. Plan to make lunches from leftovers, cook double and freeze half for another day, flexible meals according to which meat or whatever that is on special offer in the supermarket. Check the price per kg or lb to work out the best bargains

7. BAKE

Bake your own bread. If you have a bread-maker you can quickly get it going each morning, or on a timer. If you don't have a bread-maker, make 4 loaves in the oven at once then freeze sliced for convenience. If wholemeal flour is very expensive, you could use some white flour with it - it is still healthier than factory-made bread.

Happy shopping, ladies

Family Ways are not the Ways of the World

2013-03-14T07:11:00.000-07:00

But they shall sit every man under his vine and under his fig tree; and none shall make them afraid: for the mouth of the Lord of hosts hath spoken it. Micah 4:4

Each purposeful step we take back towards our family and our home-making, we move a step away from the world and its ways. It is as though the scales fall from our eyes. We begin to see how deceitful is the essential nature of this world, and how it never delivers on its promises.

There seems to be an awakening of families in our nations, to return to the foundational power and purpose of the family. As we do so, we discover the strength, power, peace and contentment that comes with this shift in focus. It is such a liberating journey.

The world says...

'Compete with your spouse'

That is what many women are unconsciously thinking and acting on every day. We marry spouses because we love them and want to make them happy and do them good, and work together for the benefit and well-being of our family. But the world isn't interested in these concepts. It tries by subtle and not-so-subtle means to undermine them. The world prefers disjointed, discontented couples who strive for status, importance, knowledge and crave material increase. Those couples will spend more, waste more, and work long hours away from their families. It may be a vital thing to honestly consider whether we are in contention with our spouse!

"KNOWLEDGE PUFFETH UP; BUT LOVE BUILDETH UP." 1 CORINTHIANS 8:1-13

How often in the past I have wasted time by seeking knowledge. What if I had spent that precious time building up others in my family with words and acts of love? Our Heavenly Father is not the slightest bit impressed that we can rise above others with our accumulation of knowledge.

But He gives more grace. Therefore He says:

“God resists the proud,But gives grace to the humble" James 4:6

The world says...

Speed up or get left behind

The truth is that hard work does not require to be done at breakneck speed. Working too fast is not peaceful, contenting or efficient. It causes accidents, it makes people stressed and sick and burns them out. When we look to our family-building, we find that God gives us a steadier pace and schedule. His pace allows us to enjoy and be fulfilled by our labours, and to have time to pray and talk to him all through the day.

The world says...

Noise is necessary at all times

When you switch off the noise, you will find a place of contentment. The world has done such a good job on this one that it is almost a shock to find that beautiful place of quietness. The home-maker is there to ensure there are times of quietness during the day and practice the lost art of listening to her family. How valuable that is, and it will pay dividends in time to come.

The world says...

Shop until you drop

When we are convinced that shopping is on a par with breathing - can't live without it - we are lied to by the world.

Home-makers must understand the importance of building families and homes, rather than building their wardrobes, especially in these disturbing times.

I remember with embarrassment the family resources and precious time I have wasted over the years on 'shopping'. I am not talking about food shopping here. Shopping is very often simply retail therapy. It takes us away from our 'home and family building'. It takes us into wonderlands of money-grabbing, noisy, greedy, and beguiling establishments. Everything looks so pretty and desirable. A few months later, our pretty 'stuff' is literally 'stuffed' in a cupboard or drawer and forgotten about.

The best way not to buy things is not to go shopping!

House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord. Proverbs 19:14

Let us be prudent with the family income and resources. Learning to sew is such a helpful asset in this endeavour. We can spend our 'shopping' time, maintaining the clothes and items we already own. Items can be altered or given a new lease of life with simple embellishments. Or we can polish shoes and make them shine - a pleasure to wear. We could purchase a pattern and make several items from that pattern so as to use the resource wisely.

Food shopping is another area in which we can learn the satisfying art of prudence. Choose recipes that are simple and healthy, and make flexible menus. Make a weekly fruit cake or buns or Birthday cakes that are a treat for the family. They will be tons better than the 'world's' unlovingly prepared and over-priced offerings.

However the world dresses up their tempting fare, it will never come near the joy and contentment of home and family. Taking walks in the countryside together, picnics, working on a family project, taking the time to laugh and to listen, looking after our resources, these are treasures we can have and hold.

Let us turn our focus from the world and back towards building the things that really matter.

Prayerful Break

2013-02-21T05:25:00.001-08:00

As much as I love blogging, and will miss you all, my husband and I are taking some necessary time away from all distractions. We need to focus and pray about a serious issue that we require guidance in, concerning some family situation.

This may take a couple of weeks, or many weeks to resolve as we patiently wait to hear God's voice in this matter.

I hope that you will understand and bear with me at this time. I look forward to the time when I can get back to writing Heart for Home-making, and reading all your blogs again.

The Home-maker's News and Weather this week.

2013-02-15T06:46:00.000-08:00

Who wants to buy a newspaper and be made anxious and depressed reading all its gloom and doom, violence, nasty gossip, un-edifying pictures and photographs?

Well, I hope you enjoy this alternative 'newspaper' edition of Heart for Home-makings, hot off the press...

Home-maker's News and Weather

Health News

Arthur Hopkins 'A blow on the cliffs'

Home-makers of today are reviving the custom of a daily 'Constitutional' as an effective means of reducing stress, keeping healthy, appreciating the awesome beauty of God's creation - and gaining lovely rosy cheeks in the process.

A expert in these matters states

Isaiah 55:12 - For ye shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace: the mountains and the hills shall break forth before you into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap [their] hands.

It is also worth readers noting that many older women today are quietly, yet actively teaching the young women the health benefits of regularly being busy with their hands in their own homes and gardens. Families are enjoying coming home to the well-tended house and garden, and the home-maker can take breaks to sit in pleasant surroundings with her cup of tea, and to peruse a wholesome book.

Ernest Albert Chadwick 'a cottage garden, Saintbury'

WORLD NEWS AND THE ECONOMY

The Home-maker's news is happy to report the Good News that although the world is evil...

Galatians 1:4 - Who gave himself for our sins, that he might deliver us from this present evil world, according to the will of God and our Father:

Matthew 24:6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all these things must come to pass, but the end is not yet

There is no cause for alarm because,

John 16:33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.


Victor Gabriel Gilbert 'picking flowers'

SITUATIONS VACANT
Calling all Labourers (and those who are heavy-laden)

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

WEATHER

This morning all areas will be refreshed by some 'Still Dews of Quietness' (see below)

Drop Thy still dews of quietness,
Till all our strivings cease;
Take from our souls the strain and stress,
And let our ordered lives confess
The beauty of Thy peace
John G Whittier

There will also be prolonged and pleasant sunny spells

Psalm 84:11 For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory

Thomas Mackay 'A girl sewing at the door of a cottage' 1906

Practical Home-making

The sink is full of dishes - how fortunate we are
to have those china plates and cups, imported from afar.
The carpets need a vacuum - how wonderful that be -
This labour-saving vacuum is of such a help to me
Who needs to visit price-y gyms? - I have my workouts here
A simple going over gives clean carpets AND good cheer!

The load of dirty laundry calls - give thanks for clothes to wear!
For we may wash and freshen them to show how much we care
The garden needs-a-weeding, oh blessed I am today,
for I'll enjoy the good fresh air to blow the blues away
Another dinner to be cooked - a blessing surely too,
soon fragrant foods will grace our plates, with love from me to you.

So don't be glum, dear wife and Mum
And feel your work's unseen
For home's a godly kingdom
And each one needs its queen!

Fresh and Crisp Laundry

2013-02-07T02:43:00.000-08:00

Charles Courtney Curran 'Summer clouds' 1917

Today I would like to talk about an aspect of household laundry with which we are less familiar nowadays, and yet it can be an enjoyable and satisfying part of our regular domestic tasks.

STARCH

Here is an excerpt from a popular book published in 1893

The Easiest Way in Housekeeping and Cooking
Adapted to domestic use or study in classes
By Helen Campbell

"Starch is the next consideration, and is made in two ways,—either raw or boiled. Boiled starch is made by adding cold water to raw starch in the proportion of one cup of water to three-quarters of a cup of starch, and then pouring on boiling water till it has thickened to a smooth mass, constantly stirring as you pour. A bit of butter is added by many excellent laundresses, the bit not to be larger than a filbert. Any thing starched with boiled starch must be dried and sprinkled before ironing, while with raw starch this is not necessary.
To make raw starch, allow four even tablespoonfuls to a half-pint of cold water. Dip collars, cuffs, and shirt-bosoms, or any thing which must be very stiff, into this starch, being careful to have them dry. When wet, clap them well between the hands, as this distributes the starch evenly among the fibers of the cloth. The same rule must be followed in using boiled starch. Roll the articles in a damp cloth, as this makes them iron more smoothly; and in an hour they will be ready for the iron. In using boiled starch, after the articles have been dried, and then dampened by sprinkling water lightly upon them, either by the hand, or by shaking over them a small whisk-broom which is dipped as needed in water, it is better to let them lie ten or twelve hours.
All clothes require this folding and dampening. Sheets and table-cloths should be held by two persons, shaken and "snapped," and then folded carefully, stretching the edges if necessary.
Colored clothing must be rinsed before starching, and the starch should be thin and cool.
For ironing neatly and well, there will be required, half a dozen flat-irons, steel bottoms preferred; a skirt-board and bosom-board, both covered, first with old blanket or carpet, then with thick strong cotton-cloth, and over this a cover of lighter cloth, sewed on so that it may be removed as often as may be necessary to wash it. If a bag the size of each is made, and they are hung up in this as soon as used, such washing need very seldom be. Having these, many dispense with ironing-sheet and blanket; but it is better to use a table for all large articles, and on this the ironing-sheet can be pinned, or tied by tapes, or strips of cloth, sewed to each corner. A stand on which to set the irons, a paper and coarse cloth to rub them off on, and a bit of yellow wax tied in a cloth, and used to remove any roughness from the iron, are the requirements of the ironing-table.
Once a month, while the irons are still slightly warm, wash them in warm water in which a little lard has been melted. Never let them stand day after day on the stove, and never throw cold water on them, as it makes them very rough.
If the starch clings to the irons, put a little Bristol-brick on a board, and rub them up and down till free. If they are too hot for use, put in a current of air a few moments; and in all cases try them on a piece of paper or cloth before putting them on a garment. If through carelessness or accident an article is scorched, lay it in the hottest sunshine to be found. If the fiber is not burned, this will often take the spot entirely out."

(a filbert is a small hard-shelled nut by the way)

THE MODERN APPROACH

If we encounter starch at all nowadays, it is likely to be the foul smelling, aerosol spray starch that makes the ironing board and the floor like a skating rink, and leaves nasty little bits over the item we are starching! It is not necessary to buy this expensive and inefficient product

But using starch on cotton pillowcases, nightdresses, blouses, shirts and nice handkerchiefs, can transform them in an instant. There is nothing so pleasant to lay your head on at night, than a beautifully starched pillowcase. Shirts and blouses look fresh and of better quality when they are lightly starched, and a Victorian style nightie doesn't look or feel authentic without it.


1896 Underskirt with 1891 Corset Cover (flickr)

Here is a quick recipe for making your own spray starch

All you need are:

CORNFLOUR (US CORNSTARCH)

WATER

OLD, WELL-RINSED SPRAY-TOP BOTTLE

Dissolve about a teaspoonful or two of cornflour/cornstarch into the water and pour into your bottle. Give it a shake just before using. Add more cornflour if you find that you need more 'crisp-ness'

You don't have to own lots of nice cottons and linens. It is a pleasure to look after the ones that you have. This is an embroidered pillow slip which is in regular use

This Victorian Style, Rosebud nightdress is my favourite

Starching and pressing the trim neatly

You can see here, that often, you cannot press things such as nighties and pillowslips flat, because there is 'ease' incorporated into the design. When you are ironing them, pull out the ease. You will find that there will be less creases ironed in.

Only make as much starch as you need for the day. It does not keep very well, and it is best to make a fresh batch as required. Rinse out your bottle when you have finished, so that you do not have any sediment building up inside it.

It is tempting for the home-maker to be too much of a perfectionist when ironing or pressing items. I know this because it was my problem at one time. Please do not make this mistake. Enjoy looking after your pretty linens and keeping shirts and handkerchiefs looking smart and cared for. Perfectionism leads to unnecessary stress and can make you feel like a martyr, who is no fun to be around in the family.

Happy Starching, Ladies

Giveaway - We Have a Winner...

2013-01-31T06:17:00.000-08:00

My random generator has picked out the winner of the six Carol Wilson Note-lets and envelopes, and the two handmade gingham handkerchiefs.

Congratulations to...

Terri
of Artful Affirmations!

Thank you all for taking the time to enter.

Simple and Inexpensive Co-ordination

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19th Century Watercolour. Helen Allingham

Adding co-ordination to a room, for little or no expense, can be very satisfying and pleasing to the eye. It can give instant refreshment, like a new coat of paint, or 'bring the room together' in a coherent way, which makes it somewhere more peaceful and relaxing to spend time in.

When you really survey the sitting/living room, there is often something which stands out like a sore thumb. If you like vintage, cosy, cottage or shabby chic, it can be an especial problem. Of course, it is the Television screen. Whether you use it occasionally for watching films, or the latest episode of Downton Abbey, it may need to be in the room for convenience.

I was recently sent some lovely fabric by a friend, which was just the perfect colour theme for me. I love vintage-y pinks and greens, and florals. I decided to make a matching small table runner and TV screen cover in this fabric. This is a very simple and quick project that can be stitched by machine or by hand.

First, I cut a rectangle of fabric to fit my small table. I hemmed around the edges, stitched on a lace edging, and gave it a good press after sprinkling with starch.

To make the TV screen cover, I used the fabric I wanted on the front. and hemmed around the edges. I then stitched some older, plain fabric to this which won't be seen, as it drapes over the back of the television.

Although it isn't a very clear photo, you can see the pink and green rose garland on the top of my Welsh Dresser.

I hope that those of you who are a little nervous (see posts on creativity Anxiety) might be encouraged to have a go at some simple co-ordinating in your own homes, or inspired to design your own version of TV screen covers. I would love to hear your ideas and experiences of co-ordinating your rooms at home.

Happy co-ordinating, Ladies

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Heart for Home-making Giveaway

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I would be delighted if you would enter my Giveaway.

The prize will be six beautiful, embossed Note-lets and envelopes from 'Carol Wilson Fine Arts'

(When you buy the sets there are 10 cards included but these 6 are from a pack that I have purchased recently for my own use)

Also included are two gingham handkerchiefs made by myself with hand-stitched lace edging. Just to clarify, the handkerchiefs are not large enough for napkins, they are approximately seven and a half inches by seven and a half inches.

You can enter from anywhere in the world and you don't have to have a blog, but if you don't have a blog, please leave an email address so that I can contact you if you win!

It is easy to enter.

1.You must be (or become) a 'Follower' or 'Member' of Heart for Home-making.

2. You must leave a comment on this post. That is all you need to do.

3. It is not necessary, but I would be thrilled if some lovely ladies would post the giveaway image on your blogs. thank you for your kindness : )

The closing date is 30th January 2013

The winner will be selected at random.

NOW CLOSED

England's 'White' and Pleasant Land

2013-01-18T05:34:00.000-08:00

It has been snowing here in England today

Our Collie cross, Honey, scampered about like a puppy, Snow on her nose.

Can you see the deer in the field?

Here I am under a snowy arbour. Unfortunately I had to swap my skirt for jeans!

Snow day

Fluffy flakes of muffled snow,
bring rosy cheeks, and hearts aglow.
A blanket soft that cuddles round,
and spreads its whiteness on the ground.
Pristine, pure, untouched by hand,
But soon our tracks transform the land.
Or rinsing out the white with rain,
It's then we hope for snow again

(feel free to use any of my poetry, but please attribute it to me. Thank you)

Dear Home-makers. Just to let you know that I will be having a Giveaway very soon for followers of Heart for Home-making.

Tea Bunny

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Just a little snippet of fun that I hope you will enjoy

(Not for commercial use)
You are welcome to use this on your site, but please attribute it to me 'Budgeteer' Thank you.

Cheddar Gorge-ous

2013-01-12T08:34:00.000-08:00

Cheddar is a very pretty village in Somerset, England

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GORGE
Noun
A narrow valley between hills or mountains, typically with steep rocky walls and a stream running through it.

As a child, a trip to Cheddar Gorge was a real treat. The road you see between the cliffs winds up and up to the top.

Here is the pretty stone bridge at the bottom of the Gorge

Would you like a glass of cider, or a punnet of fresh English strawberries? The Old Cheddar barn will have some...

Cheddar even has it's own thrift shop : ) Oh I do like that kittie

Watch cheddar cheese being made by hand...

Find out here about the origins of Cheddar cheese

Http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheddar_cheese

...and then you can buy some!

Is it time for an ice-cream?

You could climb up Jacob's Ladder

But I think it will be more pleasant to stroll by the quaint little cottages

Are you adventurous enough to visit Gough's cave?

Now it is definitely time for TEA!

Here...

Or maybe here

But of course you know what we will choose don't you? A nice Cream Tea!

Have a gorge-ous day, ladies

Home-making Inspiration - First Impressions Part two

2013-01-12T04:43:00.002-08:00

"Please feel free to use my scripture freebie if you would like"

In the first part of 'First Impressions', we considered the visual and sensual impact of the outside of our homes. The front gate and the paths, the cleanliness and order, colours and fragrances that first greet the passers-by and the comers-in. I thought you might like to know that after writing the post, I was inspired to go to my front entrance and have a good fresh look at things myself! In our little planters by the front door I noticed that some overwintered Primroses were looking decidedly scraggy, and there had been rather a lot of chomping by the English bane of gardens, the 'slug'. I will not put the word in large text because it is not very nice to think about. I also saw that my 'invisible' electric lamp that comes on automatically at night, had become covered in spider webs. The image of our inspirational picture from part one 'Independence Avenue' came into my mind and got me to work right away. I purchased a few inexpensive new Primrose plants and set to work. I have learned that little things can make a big difference - they look so cheerful and springlike now. The slugs (and snails) are also on the run. This afternoon will see our electric lamp cover looking clean and welcoming after a going over with some hot soapy water.

The experienced Home-maker will know, that there is more to 'First Impressions' than meets the eye, of course.

The picture below... yes, you've guessed it -by Susan Rios, is entitled 'Impressions' which is so apt isn't it? The lovely Lady Lydia sent me this beautiful and rather enigmatic picture in an email recently

As Lydia has suggested, I have the feeling that this lady may be awaiting the return of her husband after work. Do you find yourself hovering around the front door around the time your husband is due back? I do. I can't wait for him to come through the door, so I can give him a hug or a kiss and welcome him home.

What first impression will her husband have when he enters the house? Will he smell the light scent she has just put on, or the feminine dress, and brushed hair ? I wonder how he will feel knowing that she has taken this particular care over herself just for his home-coming? It is sad that when couples are married, they can appear to lose care for their partner, yet take pains to impress people they hardly know.

Do you see the picture she has hanging in her hall? I think it may be an indication that she values the 'old ways' of living, the feminine clothes, the leading of a quiet life, the joy and settled-ness of reading a good book.

I don't feel from this picture that there is music blaring in the background, but perhaps he can hear a gentle bubbling of hot food on the stove, ready to serve. There is a peaceful air about the scene isn't there? It seems that she has created an oasis where the clamour and stress of the world can be left hanging outside the front door and be forgotten, until tomorrow

Sweet pea (susanriosdesigns.com)

I tacked on 'Sweet Pea' for your delectation. Flowers are made to be smelled, touched and picked aren't they? A small child might feel they are walking in a wonderland coming to a garden with such an abundance of blooms. I think that having all sorts of flowers, pots and baskets, and squashing them in a little bit higgledy piggeldy makes a stunning effect. What do you think? Do you like tidy and colour-coordinated, or riot of different colours all over the place?

Home-making Inspiration. First Impressions

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Independence Avenue. (Susanriosdeisgns.com)

I have to admit that I am so enjoying this subject, that I couldn't wait to look for more artwork that might inspire and motivate our home-making in 2013.

Not being able to decide which of two pictures to choose for 'First Impressions', I have opted for both and have made this post into two parts. Here is another gorgeous work by Susan Rios entitled 'Independence Avenue'. (I have had to make this larger so the image is a little blurry - which gives it a dreamy quality I think!) It is clear that anyone would be most enchanted by the first impression they have of this house. Maybe there is a little wooden gate with a latch that we lift, and then we can walk a short distance along old, but clean-swept flagstones to the small shady porch. The home-maker here may have pretended to be a visitor to her own house, checking that her gate is in good working condition and clean- painted, or, if unpainted, the wood varnished and maintained. It is a funny thing that gates and mailboxes and so on, become invisible to those who see them every day - but are very visible to others who pass that way.

I am reminded of that old adage 'A stitch in time, saves nine'. How good it can feel to lovingly polish and maintain these items, when you know what an impression they will make. Maybe then they wouldn't be invisible to the home-maker any more. Every time she looked at them, she would feel happy and contented that they didn't appear neglected. A daily sweep of the path doesn't have to be a chore, but can be a labour of love. A swish over with a besom broom each morning - and it's done.

The visitor to this delightful house could not fail to be cheered by the many pots of flowers and greenery climbing up the house and tumbling around in glorious abundance. Wherever we call home has a place for plants and flowers somewhere. Do not be discouraged if you have planted lots of flowers, but it doesn't look much like the garden here. I didn't realise that gardens take a few years to become fully established. It is a good idea to plant things that will have some colour all year round, climb up walls, fences or trellis, and hang a basket or two from the walls.

As I look at 'Independence Avenue' I wonder why it looks so friendly and inviting. Is it the well-maintained path and general cared-for look of the place? Is it the bombardment of flowers that greet the eyes? (and the fragrances the greet the nose) perhaps the tastefully arranged pots, or that hard edges and corners have been softened by natural greenery. My personal opinion is that the Home-maker has enjoyed, loved, considered and spent time creating this inviting, fragrant first impression for her family, visitors, people passing by, the weary soul and the weary spirit in need of refreshment. She has a heart for home-making.

I could not resist adding this sweet artwork by Stephen Darbishire. 'On Guard' It has a quaint 'English Cottage' appeal. Purposely a little overgrown, yet you feel welcome and want to scamper in with the puppy and join the family for a large pot of tea and slab of cake fresh from the oven!

www.stephen-darbishire.com

The second part of 'First Impressions' will feature another Susan Rios work. I hope to post it in a day or two.

Happy home-making ladies. www.susanriosdesigns.com

Home-making inspiration - M.E.N.

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Kroyer, Peder Severin 1851-1909

You may be surprised to find this painting featuring in our home-making inspiration theme.

In our imaginations, we home-makers often view the cabbage roses and the chintz and the bone china, and the lace, as the only components required to create a lovely and relaxing home. It is true that we can enjoy and delight in these beautiful things. Our families and guests will love the cheerful, welcoming touches when they arrive from the 'not so cheerful and welcoming world' outside.

But I think that it is important to remember that members of the male sex are represented in many homes today!, and that we must take this into consideration when planning our home-making.

The painting above was a portrait of 'The Hirshsprung Family, and painted in 1881 by the Norwegian-Danish Artist. So how can we glean any Home-making inspiration for 2013 from it?

I noticed two important things going on in the picture. The first is that the family were enjoying being together as a family. they were relaxing, content, and there is a sense that each feels secure within the family unit. It doesn't seem like the men are in a hurry to rush away and leave the home to the girls. I wonder if Mrs Hirshsprung had nurtured the ritual of the family getting together each day on the pleasant balcony? Perhaps she provided small refreshments, newspapers and reading material, ready and waiting for them, knowing that they will tarry a while.

The other thing that struck me is that she and her husband are exuding a reassuring atmosphere to the scene. And yet, it is very subtle. Peace and security has been established by their presence. When the home-maker is present in the home, she can exude that peace simply by her presence .

I have often read accounts from children who talk about how they felt knowing that mother was in the house. It was so important to them, that she be there. We may feel that we are present at home, but are we like Mrs Hirshsprung, our focus truly on our home-making and carefully watching over our family? Are we listening to what they are saying, and conversing with them? (not with one eye on the computer)

The mother and daughter sit together at the table, with some kind of needlework. But all the while, Mrs Hirshsprung is quietly keeping a watchful eye on - and looks rather proud of - her young daughter's progress. Just as she had provided refreshments and newspapers beforehand, she had arranged that they have what they need for a happy mother, daughter creativity.

The outside area of their home has some tasteful greenery, giving a little privacy and sense of nature to the scene.

Some home-makers may feel unhappy that they do not have a lot of land or even a garden where they live. But I have come to think that this can be an advantage when creating our little oases for our families. A balcony or small garden is intimate and brings people together. If someone wants to read or sit quietly for a while, you can put a chair and cushion under a weeping willow, or beside a wood-panelled fence, which has honeysuckle or clematis climbing up it. Plants in pots can be moved around to ring the changes. A tent can be erected to make a good den to play in. As well as intimacy, small areas are easier to keep orderly, and a small balcony or yard can be swept clean in a minute, ready for tomorrow.

The canny home-maker will ensure that the men in her household are not forgotten amongst the chintz

I hope that this larger print is more easy on the eyes ladies.

Inspiration for Home-making in 2013

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Have you been introduced to the uplifting and romantic paintings of Susan Rios? I discovered them when I began to visit Lady Lydia's Home Living blog

I find these paintings inspire me in my own home-making plans. They help to form pictures and feelings which can be helpful in creating our own homes and beautiful living goals, for the shiny new year ahead.

Taking one picture at a time can be useful. Let's examine the image above as an example.

Can you picture yourself at a table near the window with a clean, fresh tablecloth? Maybe it means putting your little table nearer to the light and finding some lacy fabric to lay over the top.

Can you imagine how pleasant it would be to sit there and pen a thank-you note to someone, and to know of the pleasure that someone would feel when it landed on their doormat on a gloomy day? Maybe you could place a small box of notelets, pen and postage stamps ready for a quiet few minutes of writing.

How beautiful are the delicate roses, the inviting tea-pot and the comfy cushion. Imagine how sweet the fragrance of the flowers and the refreshing taste of tea served in a china cup. Roses can be very expensive, but maybe a single rose in a small vase, or some cheerful seasonal blooms like spring daffodil's, would brighten the room, and the hearts of your family and visitors. Teapots and china cups and saucers can be found in thrift shops (great fun finding these inexpensive treasures). Perhaps there is some fabric lying around that can update a cushion? It doesn't have to be sewn perfectly. I find it is not always best to worry about things showing the dirt, or being scared to use the nice china.

The lady is of attractive appearance, her hair, her clothes, and the pretty handkerchief or napkin shows the care she has taken over herself. Can you imagine how you would feel if you looked your best for the day at home? Instead of casual jeans or jogging pants and trainers, how would it feel to slip on a feminine dress, protected by an apron on top for morning cleaning? Some low heeled court shoes that are comfortable yet feminine. Cut out and hem some cotton fabric and sew lace around the edges - and you have a pretty handkerchief.

Notice the serene expression she has. Maybe she has planned her day well beforehand, and not tried to cram so much in, that she is a frazzled mess by lunchtime. Perhaps she hasn't been stressed and upset by watching depressing news programmes three times a day, or read the nasty gossip on Facebook. Maybe she has taken a gentle walk in the fresh air or prayed or read the Bible quietly to calm her and cheer her. What things can we do today towards our own serenity at home?

I hope to do another post like this featuring her painting. Please let me know what you think.

Happy Home-making ladies

PS Every time I visit here, I enjoy the little cat on the right, who purrs and swipes as I move my mouse around it. Do any of you enjoy it too?

Pretty Freebie for you

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I have made up this freebie, which I hope you will enjoy.

You should be able to right click with your own little 'mouse' and save to your computer.


original image Flickr Sofi01's photostream (no commercial use)

HAPPY NEW YEAR, ladies

An English Cream Tea

2012-12-29T10:45:00.000-08:00

Will you join me for a traditional English 'Cream Tea' afternoon?

A 'Cream Tea', rather confusingly, is not a cup of tea, taken with cream and sugar. (You will know from this blog that mostly, tea is taken with milk.) The Cream Tea, refers to a special treat we indulge in on sunny days at the seaside. As it is gloomy and wintry today, I thought you might like to take a summery seaside day-trip with me. What a pretty little cabin above!

You never know where you will find a cosy teashop. This one is in Cornwall. They call them 'Cornish cream teas' here.

But there are lots in Devon too - only they are called 'Devonshire Cream teas' : ) Actually you will find tea-shops selling their version of cream teas in seaside towns mainly in the West-country of England, and also in Wales.

A cream tea includes - Home-baked scones with strawberry jam and clotted cream

And a pot of tea for two. Sometimes eaten outside if the weather is hot.

This is a pot of well-known clotted cream. It tastes so good.

This link takes you to information about clotted cream. http://www.cornwall-calling.co.uk/food/clotted.htm

Oh, oh, oh, it's too delicious! Sometimes holiday-makers have pots of clotted cream delivered to their family or friends back home

I have just discovered that there is a company who will ship to America! http://www.britishdelights.com/cream.htm
(I have had another look at this link and the cream is in a jar, and has a long life, so I'm not sure if it will taste the same as fresh clotted cream.)

Now we might take a gentle stroll along the promenade to end our perfect afternoon.

Ladies, if you are thinking of visiting England and experiencing a cream tea, please do a little research on the best teashops. One or two may not come up to expectations, but there are many tea-shops who will give you a lovely tea. try the smaller, independent tea-shops if you are in doubt.

Happy tea-time, ladies

Creativity Anxiety and the Home-maker part 2. - Treasure Within

2012-12-26T04:41:00.000-08:00

"And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;" KJV

"Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you," NIV (1 Thessalonians 4:11)


Beatrix Potter Creations

I am in awe of the imagination and talents of Beatrix Potter. We can step into her sweet, imaginary world, and never want to return to our own.

Who wouldn't like to enjoy a pot of tea with Mrs Tiggy-winkle?

Did we miss out on an invitation to the rabbit's Christmas party?

Even her little mice are better than we are?

Now we have had a cheerful time looking at these lovely pictures, we must come back to our own world - because if we do, we will be able to discover the treasures within ourselves that we didn't believe existed!

This is the problem of creativity anxiety in the home-maker. It is a huge, huge problem because when we spend our time in awe of other's creativity, our standards have become so high that we have 'failed' before we have begun.

When we have collections of unused patterns and tutorials, to recreate the beautiful things that other ladies have made (and have generously shared), we may not reaching within to the creativity that God in His wisdom designed us for. We are all creative beings, just like He is, but we must unlock it to express it. That is scary isn't it?

Home-makers of the past didn't have this problem on the whole. They HAD to get creative. They HAD to be resourceful. They did not possess hundreds of patterns and tutorials and media images and factory-made goods, and myriad choices of 'crafting essentials' that the merchandisers tell us we cannot miss out on.

For those who may be saying 'Yes, but I am the exception to the rule, I do not have an ounce of creativity in my bones', I , respectfully do not agree with you!

Do you know, that fabric will tell you what it wants to be, if you listen quietly? : )

Here are just a few ways to begin to unlock and develop your hidden creativity, for yourself your home and family. Please let me know how you get on.

Do not try to be someone else. Trust that you do have hidden treasure within and try not to compare yourself to others.

Have a pretty basket or tin of basic sewing supplies beside your favourite armchair. Needles, a few pins, a reel each of black and white thread, some small, sharp scissors and a thimble. Don't worry if you don't know how to use a thimble. Just experiment until you find what works best for you. If you have a sewing machine, have it on hand all the time somewhere in the room so you can set it up quickly. It does not matter if you don't own a machine. Hand-sewing, as you practice it, is relaxing, pretty and easy to pick up. In fact, many ladies prefer to hand-sew a lot of the time. You can make dresses, aprons, and so on by hand. It is easy to make a button hole by hand. It just takes longer, so enjoy the process and do not worry about a machine. When people see you like sewing, you will most likely receive offers of machines that they no longer need or use anyway.

Take your time Do not make yourself deadlines. Go back and look at the paintings of the ladies and girls sewing in the first part of this series. Enjoy the process. Do not be too ambitious. Running a happy home, means sewing on buttons, taking up hems that have fallen down, getting a few scraps together and sewing a simple doll. Hemming around a square of fabric to make a handkerchief or cutting old tea towels (dish towels) into squares and hemming round to make cloths to wipe the kitchen sink dry after use.

Ask people for unwanted scraps or pieces of material You don't need piles of fabric. Pick out a little that you like and put the rest aside. Keep that little piece beside you for a while, maybe even a few days. Pick it up and look at it. What does it feel like? Is it the sort of thing that you'd like for a handkerchief or a dish cloth? Would it be nice cut out (2 identical teddy bear shapes, or heart shapes) sewn together and stuffed with polyester filling? If you need to look up basic stitches you can find an old book or Home Living has some excellent advice and ideas for beginner sewing. When you have come up with an idea for your fabric, then begin to make it. If you sew something the wrong way, use your sharp scissors to carefully unpick and redo the stitches. This is part of the learning process and is necessary.

Even a tiny scrap can be folded roughly around a little doll, cut and sewn on each side to completely delight a little girl.

Try and pick up a bit of small sewing every day. In my own experience, I found that I didn't enjoy it at first because I certainly suffered from creativity anxiety. But persevere, and you will find you begin to truly enjoy your sewing.

I have concentrated on sewing, but you may wish to knit, crochet, make cards or paint. You can adapt these ideas for any creativity that you like.

Happy, creative New years to you all, ladies.

Creativity Anxiety and the Home-maker - Part 1.Time

2012-12-21T07:49:00.000-08:00

"And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;" KJV

"Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you," NIV
(1 Thessalonians 4:11)

This verse has been life-changing for me. I keep it with me through the day

Today I would like to pose some questions. They should be simple enough to answer, with at least a reasonable 'guess'timate. And yet, I think that most of us find it difficult to even think about these seemingly innocent questions. Please stay with me here, because I hope that you will be encouraged as we go on.

1. How many sewing patterns do you own? How many of those have you actually made up at least once?
2. How many knitting or crochet patterns are in your cupboards? What proportion of them have you used?
3. How much fabric do you have, how many card-making supplies?
4. Are you thinking about buying more of the above, even though you haven't used what you do have?

Dear Home-makers, my final question is..

What sort of emotions are you feeling as you consider those questions?

Many of us are probably feeling some measure of guilt, stress, anxiety, dissatisfaction, inferiority, or even fear!

We are aware of the desire within us, to make pretty and useful things for our homes and family.To 'work with our hands'. These creative ideas whirl around in our heads like a tangled muddle, but they rarely translate themselves into finished items (or even begun items). We may even buy the new fabrics, yarns and pattern books, fully intending to make them up 'next week' or 'by Christmas'. We feel bad about wasting money on them.

I believe that it doesn't have to be this way. It is possible for the home-maker to turn those negative and unproductive emotions around. From feeling guilty, stressed and fearful - and unfulfilled, to productive, meaningful, relaxing, contenting and peaceful. Her home can soon be full of lovingly crafted pretty touches, and clothes for herself and her family.

One obstacle that gets in the way is - no time! This is the first thing we need to address when dealing with 'creativity anxiety' in the Home-maker

Here are some beautiful images from the past which can give us some insight into their attitudes towards creativity.

The first thing that strikes me about these images, is that none of them seem to be in a hurry. The little girl in the first picture looks as if she is engrossed in the pleasure of the 'making' rather than focusing on 'the end result'

In the second image, the lady sewing seems to be very relaxed and quiet. This is her 'evening' activity. There doesn't appear to be a deadline, rather, regular sewing, mending or small gifts to sew while the little ones are sleeping

In the next, our little girl and friend are content to sit and sew, or watch. And in the last picture, the woman knitting socks for her family is dreaming as she clicks away with her needles.

Today's home-maker does not have the time to approach her sewing and creativity in the same way. It isn't very easy - and it certainly isn't much fun trying to cram your sewing into jam-packed days. But there ARE things we can do which will give us the time we need. Just by making small changes, we can reap big benefits. Here are some ideas to think about

Facebook.Twitter. Internet. TV, Cell/Mobile phone. Books and magazines. Can all be useful, but can also be a way of frittering away huge chunks of our day , nosing into the lives of others, judging their actions or righteousness, unwholesome, unedifying and time-sapping. How many hours a day are we using one or other of these media?

Activities outside the home. Is it vital to your family or yourself to spend much of your time outside of the home?

Perfectionism. Spending hours in the kitchen perfecting new recipes, over-detailed cleaning (worrying about what others may think of your housekeeping). Are you a total perfectionist when it comes to your sewing or crafts? The beauty of home-made is in the imperfection. It doesn't look mass-produced.

Choosing the RIGHT time Sometimes, there is the time to be found in the day, but it is not convenient to sew or craft at that time because of the space required for that activity. The home-maker needs to think about the way her home and family run. It's no good getting out the pins or card-making when it's nearly tea-time for example. It is a good idea to sew in the evenings when children are asleep or everyone has eaten and settled down. As you can see from many old pictures, ladies often sewed by lamp or candle-light. In our house, our electric lights are those energy-saving bulbs that don't give off good light. But, as in the old days, it is still possible to do things without daylight. Save the cross-stitch projects for the daytime however and sew while sitting near a window as you can

My house cross-stitch is a daylight project

The home-maker can adjust her day and her priorities so as to make time for quiet creativity. It takes a little thought and effort. But most of all, I find, it simply takes a decision to make small changes.

This world is a hard task-master. It insists that life is all about performance, results, productivity. But that is not where contentment lies. The joy and contentment comes from taking your time, the feel of the fabric, the rhythm of the stitches, the love that is woven into them. This has been my experience as someone of older years. I wish I had learned it when I was young.

Remember that making the changes we would like in our life, can seem impossible however hard we try, but when we are weak, God is strong. We can take our weaknesses to our Heavenly Father in prayer, and He can transform us through the power of His Holy Spirit

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

(2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

Happy creating, ladies

The Home-maker's Christmas Contentment

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Image edigg.com

Can the home-maker experience a uniquely special Christmas contentment, amid the busy-ness of the season? Will life be passing her by, while others enjoy an exciting, full life over the Christmas holiday?

Maybe there is very little cash around. But the shops are screaming 'This is the season to Buy! Buy! Buy!' Busy wives and mothers are running round and round gathering up the goodies. They buy with their plastic and... all they end up with is a plastic kind of Christmas. They are simply surviving.

The home-maker has made delicious mince pies and some chocolate treats with the help of her children, in her cosy kitchen. Admittedly, these baked goods look kind of funny, but are full of sought-after ingredients such as 'simple love' 'happy memories' 'time to care'. She has never found those ingredients in the stores and she does not have to run round and round, but stays quietly and peacefully in her little home. She has had time to think, plan and pray about her Christmas and does not have to panic buy at the last minute.The home-maker is not simply surviving. She is living an abundant life.

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Maybe there is very little time around. But the TV is shouting that we must cram every perfect preparation into our Christmas experience. It MUST be perfect, and perfect means rush, rush, rush. The wives and mothers rush and drop things and get headaches, and shout at the children because there is so much to do, so little time... These over-stressed, perfection-striving mothers are simply surviving.

The Home-maker is at home to ensure that the TV is not the main influence in her, or her family's life. They do not soak up those stress-producing messages and subtle brain-washing. She may select some wholesome family films or programmes for them to watch together, or they may participate in other activities that she guides them into. But in her household there is always enough time because the world's 'perfection' is not sought. Over the months, she has been quietly sewing or knitting or putting away little 'imperfect' gifts which her family will love. They cost much less than the gifts on TV advertising and yet, this family are living an abundant life

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Maybe there is very little Truth around. All children know that Santa Claus is coming to town, and that's what Christmas is about isn't it? Santa, Santa, Santa and all his glorious presents piled high on the sleigh and he'll come on Christmas Eve and it's overwhelmingly exciting... and the children are overwhelmingly excited (totally stressed) and they cry and get upset tummies and throw up because of it - and they all HAVE TOO MUCH and - they are simply surviving

The home-maker wisely decides whether or not to include Santa in her family Christmas. But she makes sure that they all know that Jesus is the vital character in their Christmas story. The stable is quiet, the night is still and a miracle is happening that will affect every person in the world for ever and ever -. This is the magical Christmas Truth that brings hope and peace and love to mankind whether they've been naughty or nice! The home-maker ensures that The Truth of God's love for the world will be told in her household. She is living an abundant life

Maybe there is very little love around. In towns and cities and in the countryside, people are living loveless lives. There is no time for kindness or to listen to what someone is saying. The world says that we should only care about ourself, we should put ourself first. After all, if we don't who else will? We value the rich, the ruthless, the thoughtless, the clever, the strong. First is first, second is nowhere! And the more and more 'me time' we schedule in to our days,to love ourselves, it just isn't enough to satisfy. They are all simply surviving

The home-maker knows the value of every member of her family, and she tells them so. For their part, they know that she loves them because she chooses to spend time at home and with them. They have the same precious value to her whether they are clever, strong, rich, slow-witted, weak or sensitive. She gently guides and teaches them to love and value others in the same way. As she is the queen of her home, the home-maker can work at a more gentle pace and prioritise her activities. She can take breaks when she pleases, and maybe pick up some knitting, peruse some recipes, take some hot food to an elderly neighbour, write a letter that will delight the recipient. She can spread love all around She is living an abundant life


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The home-maker doesn't have to look far for her Christmas contentment. It is to be found within her own four walls. The members of her family, young and old. The sharing of their lives and the time to listen and to love them. The contentment of creating a comfortable home, be it fine or humble, and all around her the pretty things she has crafted with loving care. The knowledge of the utter joy and contentment of serving others, and the time to share a kind word or gesture.

I wish you all a very merry and contented Christmas, ladies x