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When Being Chosen Feels Heavy

2026-11-10T17:36:11.536-08:00

Finding God's Strength When the Weight of Your Calling Feels Greater Than You Can Carry

By Lady Carolyn M. Summerset
Heart Of A Woman Ministries

Have You Ever Felt the Weight of Being Chosen?

Beautiful Soul, can we have a heart-to-heart conversation?

We often celebrate the beauty of being chosen by God. We talk about divine purpose, spiritual assignments, answered prayers, and the wonderful things God can accomplish through willing vessels.

But there is another side to walking in purpose that we do not always discuss.

What happens when being chosen feels heavy?

What happens when the assignment becomes difficult, the responsibilities increase, and the road ahead seems longer than you anticipated?

What happens when you are the one everyone depends upon, yet you find yourself wondering who you can lean on?

You are encouraging others while quietly needing encouragement yourself.

You are praying for others while waiting for answers to your own prayers.

You are pouring into everyone around you, only to discover that your own cup is running low.

And somewhere in the stillness of your heart, you whisper:

"Lord, I know You have called me, but sometimes this journey feels like more than I can carry."

If you have ever felt that way, this message is for you.

1. Being Called Does Not Mean You Will Never Feel Overwhelmed

Scripture: Exodus 4:10–12

When God called Moses to lead the Israelites out of Egypt, Moses did not immediately respond with confidence.

He questioned his ability to speak. He questioned his qualifications. He even asked God to send someone else.

Think about that.

Here was a man being entrusted with an extraordinary assignment, yet he felt inadequate for the task.

Sometimes we assume that being chosen means we should always feel strong, confident, and ready.

But Scripture tells a different story.

God has worked through people who struggled with fear, uncertainty, and their own limitations.

The presence of fear does not automatically mean the absence of faith.

And feeling overwhelmed does not mean you have disappointed God.

You can be faithful and still feel tired. You can trust God and still have questions.

What matters is that we continue bringing our concerns before Him rather than allowing our fears to become the final authority over our decisions.

2. Not Every Burden Was Meant for You to Carry

Scripture: Matthew 11:28–30

There is something I want every woman reading this to understand.

Just because you are capable of carrying something does not mean God has assigned it to you.

Sometimes we confuse being needed with being called.

We say yes because we do not want to disappoint anyone. We accept another responsibility because we believe everything will fall apart without us.

Before long, we are exhausted, frustrated, and spiritually depleted.

But Jesus invites the weary to come to Him and find rest.

Notice that He does not invite us to prove our worth through exhaustion.

He invites us into His presence.

Beautiful Soul, you are not required to carry every problem, solve every crisis, or meet every expectation.

There is a difference between serving faithfully and attempting to become everyone's source of strength.

You can be chosen and still need boundaries. You can be called and still need rest.

Even Jesus withdrew from the crowds to pray.

If our Savior made room for solitude and communion with the Father, how much more should we recognize our own need for renewal?

3. The Weight of Purpose Can Reveal Where We Need God's Strength

Scripture: 2 Corinthians 12:9

The Apostle Paul understood what it meant to experience weakness.

In his second letter to the Corinthians, he describes pleading with God concerning a persistent affliction.

God's answer was not the immediate removal of Paul's difficulty.

Instead, Paul received the assurance of divine grace.

This passage teaches us that God's strength is not dependent upon our ability to appear strong.

Sometimes our weakness reminds us how deeply we need Him.

There may be seasons when the very things you once handled easily begin to feel difficult.

You may need additional prayer, wise counsel, practical assistance, or a season of rest.

Do not interpret those needs as spiritual failure.

God's grace is sufficient, but His sufficiency does not mean we should ignore our human limitations.

The Lord created us for relationship and community. Receiving help can be an expression of wisdom rather than weakness.

You were never meant to walk this journey isolated from God or from the people He has placed in your life.

4. Sometimes the Hardest Part Is Not Knowing When Things Will Change

Scripture: Psalm 27:14

Waiting can be one of the most difficult parts of walking in faith.

You know what God has placed in your heart, but the fulfillment seems distant.

You have prayed, prepared, served, sacrificed, and remained committed.

Yet the doors you expected to open remain closed.

And if we are not careful, discouragement begins to whisper:

"Maybe I misunderstood my purpose."

"Maybe I am not qualified."

"Maybe God has forgotten about me."

But waiting does not automatically mean rejection.

There are times when circumstances simply require patience, greater wisdom, or a change in direction.

While we wait, we can continue seeking God without assuming that every delay carries a hidden spiritual meaning.

Remember, God's faithfulness is not measured by how quickly our circumstances change.

We can trust His character even when we do not understand His timing.

And we can remain open to His guidance, including the possibility that His direction may look different from what we originally imagined.

5. Being Chosen Is About Faithfulness, Not Perfection

Scripture: Philippians 1:6

There is a tendency among those who sincerely love God to place enormous expectations upon themselves.

We believe we must always have the right words, make the right decisions, and demonstrate unwavering strength.

But none of us has reached perfection.

God is continually working in us.

We are still growing, still learning, and still being transformed by His grace.

You may stumble.

You may need to apologize.

You may discover that something you thought was God's direction was actually your own preference.

Spiritual maturity involves humility, correction, and a willingness to learn.

You do not have to be a perfect vessel to remain in the Potter's hands.

Let Him continue shaping your heart.

Let Him correct what needs correcting.

Let Him heal what needs healing.

And let Him teach you that your identity in Christ is not dependent upon flawless performance.

From My Heart: You Cannot Pour Forever Without Being Refilled

Beautiful Soul, I want to speak especially to the woman who has become accustomed to being strong for everyone else.

The woman who rarely complains.

The woman who keeps showing up, even when she is tired.

The woman who encourages others while carrying burdens she seldom discusses.

Perhaps you have become so comfortable being the person everyone calls that you have forgotten how to admit when you need someone.

But hear me today.

Your calling is not greater than your need for God's presence.

You need time to pray without an agenda.

You need moments when you are not responsible for everyone else's needs.

You need opportunities to sit quietly before the Lord and allow Him to minister to your heart.

And sometimes, you need to give yourself permission to rest.

Because being chosen does not mean you must remain constantly available.

It means learning to follow God faithfully, even when obedience requires you to slow down.

Do not become so busy doing the work of ministry that you neglect the relationship that sustains your ministry.

Do not become so focused on giving that you forget how to receive.

And please, Beautiful Soul, never confuse exhaustion with holiness.

God is interested in your heart, not merely your productivity.

When the Assignment Feels Heavy, Remember This

There may be times when the journey requires courage you do not feel you possess.

There may be seasons when you must make difficult decisions, release unhealthy expectations, or trust God with outcomes you cannot control.

But none of those experiences means you must carry everything alone.

You can pray.

You can ask for help.

You can seek godly counsel.

You can rest.

And you can trust that God's love for you is not diminished because you acknowledge your limitations.

Your value to God is not measured by how much you accomplish.

Before you ever served, preached, taught, encouraged, wrote, or ministered to anyone, you were already someone He loved.

Never lose sight of that truth.

A Moment of Reflection

Before you move on with your day, spend a few moments considering these questions:

Am I carrying responsibilities that God has not actually asked me to carry?
Have I allowed the expectations of others to overshadow my relationship with God?
Where do I need to invite God's strength into my present circumstances?
What boundaries would help me serve from a place of peace rather than exhaustion?
When was the last time I allowed myself to rest without feeling guilty?

Reflection Thought: I do not have to carry everything to be faithful to God. I only need to follow Him with a willing and surrendered heart.

Let Us Pray

Heavenly Father,

I come before You today acknowledging that sometimes the journey feels heavy.

There are responsibilities I carry, prayers I am waiting to see answered, and moments when I do not know what my next step should be.

But Lord, I thank You that I do not have to walk this journey alone.

Teach me to recognize the difference between what You have called me to carry and what I have placed upon myself.

Give me wisdom to establish healthy boundaries, courage to ask for help, and humility to surrender the things I cannot control.

Where I am weary, renew my strength.

Where I am discouraged, restore my hope.

Where I am confused, guide my steps.

And where I have become so busy serving others that I have neglected my time with You, gently draw me back into Your presence.

Father, remind me that my worth is found in You and not in how much I accomplish.

Teach me to rest in Your grace while remaining faithful to Your calling.

In Jesus' name, Amen.

One Final Thought, Beautiful Soul

Being chosen is a beautiful responsibility, but it was never intended to separate you from the love, peace, and sustaining grace of God.

You are allowed to grow.

You are allowed to learn.

You are allowed to rest.

And you are allowed to acknowledge that you need the Lord every single day.

You may be chosen for an assignment, but you are also loved beyond your assignment.

Never forget the difference.

Keep trusting. Keep growing. Keep walking with God.

And when the journey becomes heavy, remember that the One who calls you also invites you to rest in Him.

From My Heart to Yours,

Lady Carolyn M. Summerset
Heart Of A Woman Ministries

Encourage | Empower | Equip | Inspire

Created with Faith. Shared with Love. Inspired by Purpose.

© 2026 Heart Of A Woman Ministries by Lady Carolyn M. Summerset. All Rights Reserved.
Let's Continue the Conversation

Have you ever experienced a season when your responsibilities seemed greater than your strength?

What helped you find peace, restore your faith, or recognize when it was time to rest?

Share your thoughts in the comments. Your testimony may be exactly what another woman needs to hear today.

And if this message encouraged you, share it with someone who has been carrying more than she was meant to carry.

Remember, Beautiful Soul: Even the strongest woman needs a place to rest.

5 Signs That You Are Chosen

2026-11-05T18:02:47.107-08:00

Recognizing God's Hand on Your Life, Even When You Don't Understand the Journey

By Lady Carolyn M. Summerset | Heart Of A Woman Ministries

Have You Ever Wondered If God Has Chosen You for Something Greater?

Have you ever looked back over your life and wondered why certain things happened the way they did?

Why did you survive what could have destroyed you? Why have some doors closed when you prayed so desperately for them to remain open? Why do you sometimes feel different, misunderstood, or compelled to pursue something that others cannot quite understand?

Perhaps you've whispered to yourself, "Lord, is there something more You want from me?"

Beautiful Soul, that question may be the beginning of a deeper conversation between you and God.

But before we explore the signs of being chosen, we must understand something important.

Being chosen by God does not mean you are better than someone else. It means you have been invited into a relationship with Him and called to live according to His purpose.

First Peter 2:9 reminds believers that they are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, and a people belonging to God.

Notice that Scripture connects being chosen with a responsibility: to proclaim the goodness of the One who called us out of darkness into His marvelous light.

You were not chosen merely to wear a crown. You were called to reflect the character of the King.

Let's explore five signs that may help you recognize God's transforming work in your life.

1. You Feel a Persistent Pull Toward God

Scripture: Psalm 27:8

There may have been seasons when you tried to go in another direction. You became busy with life, responsibilities, relationships, and the countless demands placed upon you.

Yet somewhere deep within, you continued to feel a longing for God's presence.

You wanted to pray more. You wanted to understand His Word. You found yourself asking questions about your purpose, your calling, and the direction of your life.

Sometimes that desire grows quietly. Other times it arrives after a life-changing experience.

The important thing is not whether your experience was dramatic. It is what you do with the invitation to draw closer.

God does not require us to have everything figured out before we seek Him.

A heart that continually turns toward God is a heart being shaped by His presence.

And sometimes, the first evidence of spiritual growth is simply that you no longer feel satisfied living without Him at the center.

2. Your Character Is Being Changed, Not Just Your Circumstances

Scripture: Galatians 5:22–23

We often ask God to change our situations.

"Lord, change my finances."

"Lord, change my relationships."

"Lord, open that door."

But what happens when God begins changing us?

You may discover that things you once tolerated no longer sit comfortably with your spirit. You become more conscious of your words, your attitude, and the way you treat others.

Perhaps you are learning to forgive when you would rather remain angry. Maybe you are becoming more patient, more compassionate, or more willing to admit when you are wrong.

These changes are not always comfortable.

Growth requires honesty, humility, and surrender.

The fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—provides a biblical picture of the character God develops in His people.

Don't become so focused on what God might do through you that you overlook what He is doing within you.

Your gifts may get someone's attention, but your character gives credibility to your witness.

3. Your Difficult Seasons Are Teaching You to Depend on God

Scripture: James 1:2–4

Let me share something from my heart.

Sometimes we mistake hardship for rejection.

We assume that if God loves us, every road should be smooth, every prayer immediately answered, and every relationship preserved.

But walking with God has never guaranteed a life without difficulty.

Consider Joseph, who experienced betrayal and imprisonment before eventually being placed in a position to help preserve lives. Consider David, who was anointed long before he sat upon the throne.

Their journeys remind us that God's purposes do not always unfold according to our preferred timelines.

However, we must be careful not to assume that every painful experience is proof of a special calling. Everyone encounters suffering, and not every hardship is a lesson specifically arranged by God.

What matters is whether we allow our experiences to deepen our faith rather than destroy our compassion.

Sometimes the greatest testimony is not that God removed the storm, but that we learned to trust Him while walking through it.

You may not understand the season you are in, but you can ask God for wisdom, strength, and the grace to continue.

4. You Develop a Burden to Help, Encourage, or Serve Others

Scripture: Ephesians 2:10

One of the beautiful expressions of God's work in our lives is the desire to become a blessing to someone else.

You may find yourself encouraging people who have lost hope, praying for those who are struggling, or sharing wisdom gained through your own experiences.

Perhaps you are drawn to teaching, writing, ministering, caregiving, mentoring, or simply being present for someone who needs a listening ear.

And here's something we must remember:

Not every calling comes with a microphone, a platform, or a title.

Some of the most meaningful ministry takes place around kitchen tables, in hospital rooms, during private conversations, and through quiet acts of generosity.

A woman who faithfully comforts a grieving neighbor may be accomplishing something just as meaningful as someone addressing a large audience.

Being chosen is not measured by visibility.

It is reflected in faithfulness.

Ask yourself: Who might be blessed because I chose to use what God has placed in my hands?

Your assignment does not have to look like anyone else's.

5. You Are Learning to Say Yes to God, Even When You Are Afraid

Scripture: Isaiah 6:8

One of the greatest misunderstandings about being chosen is believing that people who are called by God never experience fear.

Moses questioned his ability to speak. Jeremiah expressed concern about his youth. Gideon questioned his own significance.

Their stories remind us that feeling inadequate does not automatically disqualify a person from serving God.

Perhaps you sense a responsibility to begin something new, make a necessary change, reconcile a relationship, or step forward in faith.

Yet you hesitate.

"What if I fail?"

"What will people think?"

"Am I really qualified?"

Those questions are human.

But faith invites us to consider another question:

"Lord, what would obedience look like in this season of my life?"

Obedience is not the absence of fear. Sometimes it is choosing to trust God's wisdom while taking a careful, prayerful step forward.

And remember, not every strong desire is a divine instruction. We must examine our decisions through Scripture, prayer, wise counsel, and the character of Christ.

Being chosen is not permission to follow every impulse. It is an invitation to surrender our will to God's.

From My Heart: Chosen Does Not Mean Exempt

Beautiful Soul, I want you to understand something today.

Being chosen does not exempt you from disappointment.

It does not mean everyone will understand your journey.

It does not guarantee that every opportunity you pursue will succeed.

And it certainly does not mean you will never make mistakes.

But what a comfort it is to know that God's grace is sufficient for imperfect people who sincerely desire to follow Him.

Some of us have spent so much time asking God to reveal our purpose that we have overlooked the opportunities already before us.

The person who needs encouragement.

The family member who needs forgiveness.

The gift we have neglected.

The ministry of kindness we keep postponing.

Sometimes our next assignment begins with the simple things we already know God desires of us.

You do not have to prove that you are chosen by being extraordinary in the eyes of the world. You can honor God by being faithful in the life He has entrusted to you.

And if you are in a quiet season, don't confuse silence with insignificance.

Roots grow beneath the surface long before we celebrate the fruit.

A Moment of Reflection

Before you leave this message, consider these questions:

Where have I noticed God changing my heart, attitude, or priorities?
What gifts, experiences, or opportunities can I use to encourage someone else?
Is there an area of my life where God is calling me toward greater trust and obedience?
Am I pursuing God's purpose, or am I seeking recognition from others?
What is one faithful step I can take today?

You may discover that the most important question is not simply, "Am I chosen?"

It is, "Lord, how can I live in a way that honors You?"

Let Us Pray

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for loving us, calling us into Your presence, and giving our lives meaning through Your grace.

Teach us to recognize Your voice above the noise of the world. Help us to understand that our worth is not determined by titles, recognition, accomplishments, or the approval of others.

Where we are afraid, give us courage. Where we are uncertain, grant us wisdom. Where we have become distracted, gently redirect our hearts toward You.

Shape our character, strengthen our faith, and teach us to serve with humility and love.

May we never become so focused on being seen that we forget the importance of being faithful.

And when the journey becomes difficult, remind us that Your presence is greater than our circumstances.

In Jesus' name, Amen.

One Final Thought, Beautiful Soul

You may still be discovering your gifts, growing in your faith, or learning how to recognize God's direction.

That's okay.

Your journey does not have to resemble anyone else's.

You are not called to compete with another woman's assignment. You are called to be faithful with your own.

Keep growing. Keep praying. Keep serving. Keep trusting.

And remember:

The beauty of being chosen is not in how brightly we shine for ourselves, but in how faithfully we reflect the light of Christ.

From my heart to yours,

Lady Carolyn M. Summerset
Heart Of A Woman Ministries

Encourage | Empower | Equip | Inspire

Created with Faith. Shared with Love. Inspired by Purpose.

Let's Continue the Conversation

Have you ever experienced a season when you felt God was preparing you for something, even though you could not see the complete picture?

I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Which of these five signs speaks most deeply to your current season?

Share this message with another woman who may need encouragement as she walks through her own journey of faith.

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Daddy's Girl!

2021-06-15T18:10:00.002-07:00

As Father's Day approaches, all things Daddy are at the forefront of our hearts and minds.

For a Daddy's Girl, she does not need a reason to celebrate the first love of her life! He has set the tone for the one who will someday ask for her hand in marriage.

For her, Daddy is her hero, does nothing wrong, and says yes even when mom says no. There are even times she rivals the love of her hero for his chosen companion for life.

She brings joy to her father and always has Dad in a protective mode. For him, she grows up too quickly. Her choices in life are important to him.

Daddy sees the woman that he married in some things that she does. It reminds him of why he chose his wife to marry. He is thankful that his wife is who she is and loves him.

A Daddy's Girl watches the love that Daddy exudes for her mother helping her to understand that this or a resemblance of this is what she wants for her life.

Daddy hesitantly looks at the boyfriends that she brings home. He gets great joy in roasting her suitors. He makes it known that his girl is special and should be handled with care.

It's Daddy's Girl wedding day and Daddy has cried a river full of tears. It is time that he must release her to someone who will cover her. He will be the one to protect her, hold her, and even wipe her tears away.

What Daddy doesn't know is that her heart will always belong to him...

She Woke Up Different!

2021-06-08T10:40:00.003-07:00

There comes a time, season, day, or awakening that a Woman has to chose a "flow." A direction. A place of being. A point of no Return. With this she then has chosen to "commit" to something bigger than herself and now it does not matter who is with her, against her, and simply a side-line stalker.

All that matters now is her commitment to her purpose and the fact that whether she completes her purpose afraid or confidently, her choice will be to "Just Do It!"

In her decision she will find the fulfillment that has long eluded her grasp. The fulfillment of an God-ordained task that only she could fill because it was, is unique to her. Just as unique as every strand of hair on her head, her fingerprint, and the sway in her move.

She now choses Different!

It is with this knowledge, that She looks to the one who reminds her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made! He, the Creator, reminds her that She was important enough to put Adam to sleep so that He could reach into him and fashion her from the rib. The Hebrew word in this text is tsela. Even this word has been translated over 30 times in the Old Testament, it is only translated here as "rib." It uniquely refers to Adam's side! In the Sumerian language, which is one of the oldest languages known to man, the word for rib means "life!"

It is clear that woman was created from the life of the man. Why is this important? It keeps consistent we the biblical doctrine of Creation. For life only comes from life and not from non-life! This sets the order for which all life would enter into this realm. So Woman, today, as never before, it is important to walk confidently in your purpose in the earth! She now choses Different because she choses to not allow her extra pounds, graying hair, self-doubt, insecurities, rejection, being alone to deter her fulfillment for she now understands that the Creator took great thought into how She would show up in the world and She Now Choses Different!

Her superpower is that she gives life! And with this knowledge She Now Chooses Different! She speaks to dead places and they come alive! The works of her hands produce and bear fruit! Her touch produces comfort and deliverance. She changes the world with her ability to see that which was not there before. She is anxious for nothing but give the Creator thanks in "ALL" things and allows the Holy Spirit to lead and guide her into ALL truth!

ALL because She Now Choses Different!

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FLOW!

It is our responsibility to find our flow through life that will enable us to unearth the hidden treasures in us. Father, when creating each of us, has hidden ALL that we need to have and or use in this earth. This requires that we be led by the Holy Spirit to unearth these treasures as we fulfil His purpose in our lives and this will include Divine Connections!

Matthew 25: 14-30 can be a basis on which we build. The Master in this Parable has given out talents to his servants according to their individual abilities. Suggesting that the Master knew each of them well enough to do so.

Do we trust Father well enough to expect, that what He has given us, what He has charged us with, what He has placed in our hands to complete can be done by each of us to accomplish His will in the earth.

We often fall into disbelief that we can accomplish that which He has assigned us to do. That is until we learn to walk in the abilities that He has placed in us. Sometimes we must step out unsure but, at least, step out. Taking our assignments one moment, one look, or one task at a time helps to get us on the way to completing and doing that which He has designed for us.

So, let us trust the God in us to accomplish that He knows that we can do!

01-06-2021-Copyrighted by Lady Summerset

Weight No More!

2015-09-15T08:40:00.001-07:00

I have struggled with trying to get down to a size” good” for the past 10 years. I have made several attempts at losing weight. I would always start off good and then by the third day I was headache-y, tired, and frustrated with trying to win the battle of the bulge.

My friend is a certified nutrition coach and had been approached by a fellow church member about an approach to losing weight. Therefore, she called me and we started brainstorming and looking on the internet and came across Diet.bet.com.

Dietbet’s premise is as follows: someone organizes a diet bet, set’s the amount of the pot ($10 and up), advertises it, people join and for four weeks, the participants are to lose 4% of their body weight in a matter of four weeks.

It is Day 7 and I have lost 3 pounds and I need to lose another four to be included in the winner circle. I see why people attempt the challenge of losing weight to find themselves falling off the wagon (thud!) It is not for the week of mind or spirit. It is a life-changing event that must be handled diligently.

When I first started counting calories, I could not believe how many calories there were in a croissant (280) without any meat or cheese! Breakfast shot out of the park! Reading labels on packaging has become necessary.

ave struggled with trying to get down to a size” good” for the past 10 years. I have made several attempts at losing weight. I would always start off good and then by the third day I was headache-y, tired, and frustrated with trying to win the battle of the bulge.

I also learned that food preparation is key! What and how many calories and how much can I have. Don’t get me wrong, you can adjust your intake. However, intake vs. movement is my new equation. You want the slice of cake (300 calories) is you willing to walk the extra 2 miles to burn up those calories.

It is just the beginning of this journey…

Definition of Forgiveness

2015-08-11T08:30:00.001-07:00

Forgiveness by definition:

Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, lets go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well.

All of us have been hurt and/or offended by someone at one time or other. Even someone as close as a parent. A hurt or offense can be intentional or it could be a simple slight (the offender simply did not think before they spoke or did something).

Each hurt or offense leaves spiritual scars. Moreover, because it is a spiritual act, we do not outwardly see the scar; we continue walking through life as though we are all right, okay. I love God and all is well. However, a spiritual scar is mirrored in the natural just like a cut that has been made and will form a scar as in the process of trying to heal.

Of course, there are levels of offenses and hurts. Some we can easily forgive and move on and some that has cut into our soul and anytime it is touch causes us to relive the offence all over again. Have you found times when someone simply mentions something and for some “unknown” reason you go way overboard with your response. Have you experienced times that you can simply be driving along, or sitting alone and a wave of uncontrollable tears wash over you? No one has said or done anything to you. Sometimes it comes in a form of indiscernible dread or fear. You can’t explain it but you know that it’s real.

I have heard people say “I will forgive, but I won’t forget!” This is like washing a white dress, drying it, pressing it and then throwing it on the ground. It is as if I know I should forgive, no, need to forgive but I am still holding on to the memory of the thing because they hurt me.

For personal reasons and the hope that I can help move some people, I know, from the place of “I will, but I won’t forget, so that we might live a fuller and God-filled, ordained life

Prayer Moves Mountains!

2015-08-06T05:28:00.000-07:00

Last Saturday evening I received one of those dreaded, awful telephone calls. The one that causes the ground beneath you to shudder. I had talked to my sister earlier in the day. We talked about the usual nothingness and casual events of our lives. We laughed and giggled as sisters do. I am always glad to hear from her.

It was late, my husband had gone to bed and I was preparing to do so when my sister called me. Immediately, I knew something was wrong. She went on to tell me that my nephew had been on his motorcycle and had ended up in a terrible, life threatening accident. He had lost control of his motorcycle, while riding with his brother, and ended up veering off the road into someone's yard and not only hit a tree but was thrown off the bike into another tree. Needless to say, the injuries were severe! His brother and wife had just moved into the neighborhood and he called out to his wife, who had been a medic and she worked with him until the ambulance arrived.

I called my brother, in Connecticut, to inform him as to what had happen and he asked me to wait on the telephone until he could reach his wife. He had apprised her of the situation and we went immediately into prayer. While we prayed, my nephew was in surgery with a whole in his liver, damaged spleen, internal bleeding, broken femurs and hand. She prayed that he would be a testimony, we agreed that he would live and not die! We prayed that He would guide the hands of the doctors and that his life would be spared.

We prayed through the uncertainty and doom. We raised faith to the level of knowing that God would not fail us! We decreed and declared that he would be raised up!

Several days later, the doctors are saying that his recovery is remarkable! Don't get me wrong, the young man has a way to go but we, as a family, are praying him through. With all the trauma to his body, there was no swelling or damage to his brain! Even though he is in an induced coma, they are working on waking him up over the ensuing days since the breathing machine is only doing less than 5% assistance with his breathing.

We have always been a praying family, a family that love God! A family full of annointed preachers, teachers, and laypersons but even so, there are moments in our life's journeys that our belief and trust in God is challenged. I thought of Bobbi Kristina a lot while we were waiting for my nephew to show signs of recovery. Thanking God that we know that our righteousness is as filthy rags but His mercy endures forever.

I'm so thankful that my parents introduced me to God and so have we to our children. I can't think of any other gift that is more important than the gift of God's Son to us.

My Grace

2015-07-29T08:01:00.001-07:00

Beloved, Do The Work!

2015-07-01T07:58:00.000-07:00

Do The Work

Exploring Purpose and Vision

I know this that is not a new subject. You can find books, tapes, CDs, DVDs, and workshops advertised all over the virtual world. The problem doesn't seem to be access to information but our ability to apply the changes necessary to fulfill one's purpose and vision.

The Day of Responsibility

How many times have we made "Monday" a Holy Grail day? On "Monday" I'll start my diet!, On "Monday" I'll write a new Hub!, On "Monday" I'll look for a new job! So many "Monday's" have arrived and left and we still have not written that book, finished that project, wrote down our vision, declared our purpose, made reconciliation, asked for forgiveness, and started that diet!
And after a series of "Monday's," I have arrived at the latter part of my journey and close to retirement and find the most urgent need to reinvent myself! There were choices that I made due to certain needs. I needed a job to take care of my son, unemployed husband and myself. So, I took the first, decent-paying job in my field. I needed a car and purchased with the first dealer that accepted my credit. I needed a place to stay and moved into a place that was affordable but now best for my well-being.
Most of us have made choices like these at one time or another in our lives. Choices that did not nurture our well-being but met a need. Those choices allowed me to "settle." Settling caused me to "accept" the extra stress, 30 lbs., unfulfilling job, and put up with what T.D. Jakes calls "turtles!" Those people portraying to be friends and supporters but whose chatter is that of negativity and betrayal.
However, The Day of Responsibility knocks at the door! It shows up with all our excuses, poor judgments, fear, doubt, and paralysis! It demands accountability! "When you know better, do better!"
Iylana Vanzant calls it "Doing the work!" Reaching for Higher Ground demands that we do the work! The Day of Responsibility not only touts our decisions but reveals our ability to make better choices with the knowledge that we have acquired up until the point of taking responsibility of what we have done until the present time!

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Doing The Work

The scripture states: You did run well, who did hinder you? -- Galatians 5:7
Along the journey, we get side-tracked, distracted, and pulled off course! This is where Doing the Work comes into play! It requires that we investigate what took us off course and when did it happen, and enables us, with that knowledge to move forward. What holds us HOSTAGE!
We must do an "inside" work! What do I see mirrored by my friends and the company I keep? What are my relationships like with my immediate family? Why do I fear success? It is oftentimes the need to "heal" the "child" in us. Some left abandoned, rejected, ridiculed, and abused!
For this, there is no quick remedy or "take a pill and see me in the morning!" The wake up call is that "we" have built the walls that keep us confined. Simply existing -- having our breath, activities of our limbs, and somewhat of a right mind! Not living, fulfilling purpose and pursuing vision!
Doing the Work entails the mind, body, and soul! There is an imbalance with most of us! Work is great but I'm 50 pounds overweight! I understand/know my purpose but when it comes to love, I suffer from anorexia. A powerful preach but drawn away by lust!

Responsibility

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Change

How Do You Accept Change?

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Change

Doing the Work will promote "change!" Changes of people, places, and things! Change in our addictions that we don't call additions! Chocolate, video games, shopping, eating, self-sabotage, work, or however, you have chosen to SELF-MEDICATE!
Because of these addictions, our body and mind will be resistant to the "Do the Work!" process. Cravings that you didn't even know that you had will arise! You will remember things from your past that made you afraid of the dark now! Abused children realize why they have built a wall of fat to ward off further violators!
Change will mean that you cannot partake of what has brought The Day of Responsibility to knock at your door!

Surrender

I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me! - Phillipians 3:17
Spiritually armed. We can begin to make changes that are needed to live an authentic life!
I must decrease, so that He can increase! I need to surrender. Admit that I've made some mistakes, wrong choices, and may have even become bitter with my life! It is through admittance that we forgive ourselves and release all that we have to the One who loves us most!
With surrender I empty myself of the responsibility to try to make right every wrong and give myself the permission to be set free to began again!

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Let's Pray

Dear Father, we thank you for your grace and mercy and the knowledge to know that we are nothing without you. It is your desire that we prosper and be in good health. Whatever, my brother or sister needs at this point in their journey, I ask that the Holy Spirit will lead and guide them into that Truth! We thank you for another opportunity to live a life of abudance. In Jesus' Name!

Don't Run From Your Problems

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Welcome 2015!

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Welcome 2015!

This year I've chosen to make declarations instead of resolutions! Walking into 2015 with my eyes wide open!

I embrace the spirit of Expectation.

I promise to make the effort to live the best life during this year!

Forgetting those things that are behind and pressing forward to new challenges, changes, and truths about myself that caused stagnation.

I will pursue God with a passion that restore areas of my spiritual life that had previously been damaged, distracted, or destroyed!

I declare that I will not lie to myself but write the truth and read it, and make a truthful effort to invoke the necessary change.

I choose not to settle for people, places, or things that will not bring value to my life whether good or bad.

I will continue to search out my passions and pursue them!

I promise to keep motivated in all that is good, starting with small steps!

Above all, I choose to love myself and love beyond what I see of others!

Financial Wave

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Tap, Tap, Tap...Public Announcement: To all those that have been holding on...walking through...standing in the midst of financial hardships while holding on...praising God...standing in faith...living in HIS love...there is a wave of Financial Breakthough about to hit your shore! That which was delayed, abuse, and misdirect has found its way back to you! Now lift those hands and be thankful...He had NOT forgotten you...

Desire

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When you DESIRE something strong enough, faith becomes the path of it's manifestation!-LS

Why We Should Avoid Stress!

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"I have learned, in whatever state I am, therewith to be content."-Philippians 4:11

The reason we are "stressed out" is because we want our situation to be other than it is right now!

Paul gives us a resolution to such a predicament, Philippians 4:11! There are things in our lives that will be simply "out of our control" to change, alter, revise, or resolve. How much of our time is spent on "wishing, desiring, and hoping" that things would be different? When in reality, "It Is What It Is!"

This doesn't mean that I lay down and die, or perhaps it does! I die to the notion that everything has to be perfect in order for me to be happy and trusting the Holy Spirit. Whether the car note, electric bill, folk acting up on the job, low-pay, no-pay God is still God!

Creator and Author of the Universe, is still in control! Even if my situation seems to be so "out of control!"

Do I always approach my life circumstances so valiantly? No, and I laugh because I know in my humaness the fight is real! However, I will say that I'm learning to trust Him more. To lean on Him more, to Surrender!

Releasing what we cannot change allows me to embrace with my spiritual hands the Answer that the Almighty has for me. For, the very fact that you have a problem means that He has already worked out your solution. That's so whether you believe it or not! But you will not receive it unless you first believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of him who diligently seek Him!

You see your situation has been allowed so that you might get to know Him the more! For to know Him is to LOVE Him!

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50 Etsy Sale Give Away!

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a Rafflecopter giveaway In celebration of my 50th Sale on Etsy, my Shop Kerah (pronounced Kay-raw) is celebrating by offering a raffle for the beautiful Christmas Glass Pendant below:

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you!

Cloud Tree Glass Pendant

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$14.99

This pendant is 30mm x 40mm. A graphic under glass and covered by a resin glaze. Pendant can be purchased at:

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Peace of God

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Forgiveness

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Best Day Of My Life

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Faith Is The Substance

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Power of Prayer

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Abandonment

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WORD OF THE WEEK

Abandonment: The Act of Giving Something Up

Look to the Word

My God, My God, Why has Thou forsaken me? -- Psalms 22:1

My Story:

I was looking out the window, while on the train yesterday, when we came upon an industrial strip of warehouses and buildings. Since, the train ran in back of the buildings I was able to get a different view than that of the main street.

The property was overgrown, weeded, filled with discarded building parts and torn down fences. I said to myself "what a mess!" Some areas were larger than others. They held much potential for use but laid wasted and "abandoned."

I couldn't help but to think that at one time or another that the owners were handed the keys to their building and surveyed that very area with great pride and accomplishment. Knowing that they were going to put the property to good use and that they would even have enough space to expand, if needed. What happen? Life, death, changes, transitions, bankruptcies, failures, losses, neglect and the list goes on.

Christ uttered these very words thousands of years ago and for some rings true today! Christ was on the last leg of His mission when these words were utter! The fact that Christ spoke those words are important! These words spoken in Psalms 22 were of a prophetic nature. It foretold of His cruxificion. At this point Christ had been rejected by the very people that He came to save. While hanging, insults from the crowd gather were hurled at Him. The woman who gave birth to Him stood by helpless to save her Son.

With all this, He knew that His suffering served "purpose." Some say that He spoke these words for our very benefit. That we would understand that He willingly submitted to the Will of The Father. That we, too, when drawn in our darkest purpose would take courage and fulfill our "purpose."

These words were spoken moments before He EXHALED! Why this Lord? Why me Lord? Why can't I get a break? Why is everything falling apart? Why aren't I further than I am now? The "Why" in our lives have already been answered. Innately, we know but we have not DIED to the task at hand to Exhale?

After the cruxificion, came Victory!

If you are feeling abandoned, just know that He has not forsaken you! A time of refreshing and Exhale is waiting on the other side of the task at hand. Live so that (But let) patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. -- James 1:4

Let's Pray:
Dear Father, In the Precious Name of Jesus we come. Asking for forgiveness that we may find your perfect peace in the midst of our soul. Holy Spirit I ask that you lead and guide us into ALL truth that we may be thoroughly furnish to fight off the offences, rejections, abuses, and wiles of the enemy. Strengthen us to fight the good fight of faith. I pray for the one that cannot put one foot in front of the other, that cannot lift up their head, who faces another bill, that doesn't know where to turn. You are the answer. Engulf them in your love and peace and make a way of escape from the spirit of abandonment in Jesus' Name.

Inner Peace

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INNER PEACE

God is the source of my serenity. I am at peace. At times I may tend to feel discouraged and challenged, yet I can transform such thoughts and feelings and know a peaceful state of mind. Letting go of any need to struggle, I allow the peace of God to fill my senses. I am at peace because God is the source of my serenity.

In the silence, I dwell in the perfect peace of God. For these moments in time there is nothing I must think, say, or do. I can just be, building a consciousness of peace. As I begin moving from this inner experience out into my day, I bring this consciousness of serenity with me. In the midst of busy daily activities, I am serene and at peace. At any time, I have the ability to make the choice to go within to my internal wellspring of peace and maintain my sense of calm and serenity.

From: Today’s Daily Word – Wednesday, May 28, 2008

In Honor of Newton, Connecticut

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Heart of a Woman Ministries

When Being Chosen Feels Heavy

Have You Ever Felt the Weight of Being Chosen?

1. Being Called Does Not Mean You Will Never Feel Overwhelmed

2. Not Every Burden Was Meant for You to Carry

3. The Weight of Purpose Can Reveal Where We Need God's Strength

4. Sometimes the Hardest Part Is Not Knowing When Things Will Change

5. Being Chosen Is About Faithfulness, Not Perfection

From My Heart: You Cannot Pour Forever Without Being Refilled

When the Assignment Feels Heavy, Remember This

A Moment of Reflection

Let Us Pray

One Final Thought, Beautiful Soul

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5 Signs That You Are Chosen

Have You Ever Wondered If God Has Chosen You for Something Greater?

1. You Feel a Persistent Pull Toward God

2. Your Character Is Being Changed, Not Just Your Circumstances

3. Your Difficult Seasons Are Teaching You to Depend on God

4. You Develop a Burden to Help, Encourage, or Serve Others

5. You Are Learning to Say Yes to God, Even When You Are Afraid

From My Heart: Chosen Does Not Mean Exempt

A Moment of Reflection

Let Us Pray

One Final Thought, Beautiful Soul

Let's Continue the Conversation

Daddy's Girl!

She Woke Up Different!

There comes a time, season, day, or awakening that a Woman has to chose a "flow." A direction. A place of being. A point of no Return. With this she then has chosen to "commit" to something bigger than herself and now it does not matter who is with her, against her, and simply a side-line stalker.

All that matters now is her commitment to her purpose and the fact that whether she completes her purpose afraid or confidently, her choice will be to "Just Do It!"

In her decision she will find the fulfillment that has long eluded her grasp. The fulfillment of an God-ordained task that only she could fill because it was, is unique to her. Just as unique as every strand of hair on her head, her fingerprint, and the sway in her move.

She now choses Different!

ALL because She Now Choses Different!

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FLOW!

Weight No More!

Definition of Forgiveness

Prayer Moves Mountains!

My Grace

Beloved, Do The Work!

Do The Work

Exploring Purpose and Vision

The Day of Responsibility

Doing The Work

Responsibility

Change

How Do You Accept Change?

Change

Surrender

Surrender

Let's Pray

Don't Run From Your Problems

Welcome 2015!

Financial Wave

Desire

Why We Should Avoid Stress!

"I have learned, in whatever state I am, therewith to be content."-Philippians 4:11

Church Hats!

50 Etsy Sale Give Away!

Cloud Tree Glass Pendant

Peace of God

Forgiveness

Best Day Of My Life

Faith Is The Substance

Power of Prayer

Abandonment

Inner Peace

In Honor of Newton, Connecticut

Just Awesome...

© 2026 Heart Of A Woman Ministries by Lady Carolyn M. Summerset. All Rights Reserved.
Let's Continue the Conversation