Here We Are. Now What?

The Process of Improving

2012-01-26T15:56:00.007-05:00

Looking to improve something in your life in 2012? Perhaps you are thinking of improving yourself? If you are looking to improve your team or your business, here are seven steps to process improvement.

P = Pick your target. Picture success. What would it look like if you actually reached your improvement goal? Envision it as specifically as you can.

R = Review your starting point. Where do things stand right now? What are your strengths that can help you reach the goal? What obstacles stand in your way? Make a list of each using the Force Field diagram where Driving Forces are listed on the left and Hindering Forces on the right.

O = Open up. Have you ever been on the receiving end of an improvement hatched behind closed doors? Don't repeat that mistake. Who could help you with this improvement project? Why not tell them about your goal and ask for their support?

C = Collaborate. Invite participation. Form teams. Remember that people support what they help create.

E = Execute. After enough study, select the best ideas and put them into action. See what happens. Remember it's OK to start small.

S = Sustain. If things start to get better, reinforce the gains. If you don't, watch out. Things may revert back to the previous state.

S = Start again. Improving your process is never-ending.

What are you waiting for? Pick your target. Start improving.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Thursday January 26, 2012

Afflicting the Comfortable

2012-01-22T08:06:00.004-05:00

As a youngster, I dutifully attended religion classes and learned many things that have stayed with me through life. The Corporal Works of Mercy, for example:
- To feed the hungry.
- To give drink to the thirsty.
- To shelter the homeless.
- To clothe the naked.
- To visit and ransom the captive.
- To visit the sick.
- To bury the dead.

In sum, to comfort the afflicted.

Somewhere later down the line, I learned another one, that turns the summary on its head:

- To afflict the comfortable.

That one was NOT taught in catechism, if my memory serves. However, it's there, for those who have eyes to see. Afflicting the comfortable is the job description of prophets. That's why they are so often thrown in jail, run out of town, and even crucified.

In today's world, who is fulfilling this prophetic role? Journalists have laid claim. The Occupy Wall Street protesters more recently.

Anyone else? To my way of thinking, there are others in life whose job description contains Afflicting the Comfortable:

Parents - What is the ultimate goal of a parent? To see their offspring fly out of the nest, set free to soar to their own destiny. What is the way to this goal? Love and Release. The embrace of love must someday turn into the loving push that may seem like an affliction but is necessary to release the child once they are ready to go.

Coaches - What is the goal of a coach? To raise the level of performance of a player or a team. What is the way to this goal? The best formula I've seen is G*R*O*W (from The Inner Game of Tennis) where the coach helps the other person to set a Goal, examine the starting Reality, identify Obstacles, and develop a Way forward. In the process, the most effective coaches ask questions that challenge and push the player to achieve more.

The legendary football coach Ara Parseghian once said, "A good coach will make his players see what they can be rather than what they are."

Change Agents - What is the goal of a change agent? To help the client to change for the better. In organizations, this is definitely easier said than done. Many organizational change efforts fail because of reluctance to change, even when the client invited the change agent in for that very purpose. What then is the way to the goal? Change agents must be ready to afflict the comfortable. To point to the elephant in the room that no one sees, or dares speak of. To "speak truth to power," to tell the emperor he has no clothes.

Like the prophet of old, the change agent may be tossed out for such truth-telling. The truth hurts. But that's the job. Take it or leave it.

How about you? Is there someone in your life (perhaps yourself) who has gotten too comfortable, and needs to be afflicted?

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday January 22, 2012

Goal Setting Made SIM*PLE

2012-01-21T11:42:00.005-05:00

In the training and consulting that I do, I talk about goals quite a bit. Goals are fundamental to success in life. The latest research on success by Dr. Heidi Halvorson points to the importance of setting very specific goals.

My impression, however, is that most people don't set goals. Perhaps they don't buy it, or they don't get it. Or perhaps they did, at one time, but something got in the way, and their goals faded away.

What's the problem then? The SMART (Specific, Measurable, Aggressive, Realistic, and Time bound) formula has stood the test of time quite well. Is something missing?

For those who have been staying clear of goals, for whatever reason, here is a six-point model that I call Goal Setting made S*I*M*P*L*E:

S = Stop to think about what you want out of life. To make more money? Get a better job? Move to a different state? What do you aspire to? What would make you happier?

I = Important vs Urgent: We get so caught up in the crises of the moment that we hardly spend any time asking ourselves, What is most important to me? Make time each week to find a quiet place where you can reflect upon what is truly important.

M = Make a list of the ideas that could help you move toward your goal. Make another list of the obstacles you are likely to encounter. This will keep your goal setting realistic, and help you identify the resources you'll tap into to make the journey.

P = Put a plan together that identifies the first steps you can start to take now that will get you moving in the desired direction.

L = Let others know what you are striving for and ask for their input and support. They will be happy to help.

E = Execute the plan a step at a time, one day at a time. There will be bad days, even setbacks. You may be tempted to throw in the towel at times. But stay focused on the goal you have selected.

A wise book on this process is "Oh the Places You'll Go" by Dr. Seuss. I highly recommend it.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Saturday January 21, 2012

Your New Year Epiphany

2012-01-08T11:20:00.005-05:00

It's January 8th in the new year of 2012. Have you had an epiphany yet?

The ancient word "epiphany" comes from the Greek meaning "to show forth." Like a light appearing in a dark room. In more recent usage, some have likened epiphany to the "aha moment" when an idea suddenly occurs to us, like a light bulb appearing in our minds.

An epiphany comes when we least expect it. It's a surprise. A gift.

Writing about the feast of the Epiphany in his daily e-newsletter, Fr. Richard Rohr says that it is about seeing with wonder. The Magi who followed a star to find the newborn king were "questing in wonder." What they found was a mother and father and their baby, huddled in a humble manager.

As a new year opens, what star are you following?

An epiphany can be a very small, ordinary thing. On twitter this morning, South African artist Laureen Raftopulos wrote: "Live in the moment by becoming fully aware of the beauty in the smallest of things around you."

That's a good mantra for living epiphany.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday January 8, 2012

To Your Specific Success

2012-01-04T09:17:00.005-05:00

Driving my son Kevin to the train the other morning, I asked him if he had given any thought to his New Year's Resolutions. To my surprise, he said "Yes."

Kevin is a recent college graduate (Rutgers, Class of 2009) who has embarked upon a career in television, working as an editor for a well-known food show, based in New York City.

His goal, he told me, is to make a very specific move within his line of business, a move that would be a good next step in his career path in television.

I was happy to hear that. I offered some words of support to encourage him. And I told him that he is doing one of the things that Dr. Heidi Halvorson says that highly successful people do, namely: set very specific goals.

In her research (published last year in the Harvard Business Review), Halvorson found that successful people do a number of things differently that contribute to their success. And when it comes to goals, she has some very clear pointers to offer:

1. Get very specific - By getting very specific, you will know when you have reached the goal. When goals are too general or vague, their fuzziness contributes to gradual loss of interest. How many times have your New Year's Resolutions just drifted away on you?

2. Use mental contrasting - The technique Halvorson calls "mental contrasting" involves going back and forth in your thoughts between the goal and what stands in your way. By doing this, she says you generate the energizing experience of "the necessity to act — a psychological state that is crucial for achieving any goal."

Halvorson's idea about the right psychological state reminded me of a book I had given to myself back in December as an early Christmas present: Immunity to Change by Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey. In their book, they provide a remarkable insight into the reasons why changes fail so often, changes such as the ones we try to capture in our New Year's Resolutions. In a nutshell, we fail to attain our goals because we harbor a "hidden commitment" to not change and we back away from the anxiety that change arouses deep within our psyches.

So, to all of you reading this who are contemplating your New Year's Resolutions -- especially job hunters, recent graduates, and anyone seeking the golden ring of success in life--consider the importance of setting very specific goals.

By following this advice, you increase the likelihood of actually reaching your goals.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Wednesday January 4, 2012

Happy New Year 2012

2011-12-31T18:52:00.010-05:00

The name of the first month, January, comes from the Roman god Janus who has two faces, one that looks back, and one that looks ahead. A perfect name for the month when we turn the page and start a new year.

Looking back at 2011, one of the highlights for me was the opportunity to contribute to several global articles on Organization Development, including this interview.

As an OD practitioner, I've often said that the place to be is in the midst of change. "Change is where the action is," so to speak.

Over my career span, that is often exactly where I have found myself. Change is a crucible of learning. It can get hot in there. But if you can take it, it will strengthen you.

At last night's New Year's Eve party, a friend showed up who had changed: he had lost 40 pounds. We were all impressed by his achievement. How did he do it? Discipline. He had set a goal for himself. He resolved to achieve it. And he persisted, without slipping back to his old ways.

It got me thinking about conversion and the Greek term metanoia which means "changing one's mind." I think that is part of the formula for making real change.

Looking ahead to 2012, let me quote a tweet I saw today from my friend Don Blohowiak:

~ "Change in New Year: Commit to *learning* & results. Anticipate setbacks. Identify who can help. Enlist their support. Start. Persist!"

Well said, Don. Here's to change. Now is the time to think about the changes you want to pursue this year. As Don says, commit to your goal. Resolve to improve. Go for it!

Happy new year! May the promise of 2012 bring you health, prosperity, and peace.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday January 1, 2012

Fight VUCA Stress in 2012

2011-12-28T10:21:00.012-05:00

At a Christmas party this week, I took an informal poll on the question "At your workplace, what would really help you and your fellow workers most in 2012?" I heard these answers:

- hire more staff
- shorten meetings
- communicate and listen more
- be more appreciative, flexible, and considerate
- provide more training

As I keep my finger on the pulse of my diverse clients here in New Jersey, I notice that stress has been pretty high in the workplace. My prediction for 2012 is that stress will continue to stay at a heightened level.

Why? According to recent news reports on the U.S. economy, hiring will be slow in 2012, and many employers are planning further headcount cuts. Workloads, however, are likely to keep going up. "Doing more with less" will continue.

This is the main driver of workplace stress! When you combine workloads, pressure, and time shortages, with uncertainty and chaos, much of it due to organizational change, watch out: stress will increase. As decades of stress research has taught us, the more stress, the greater the negative effects.

Should managers care? In short, Yes. Stress takes a big toll on employee engagement, on performance, and on health. In today's whitewater working environment, managers need to develop leadership capabilities for resilience in themselves and others.

What can managers do? In military schools, leaders are taught about VUCA, an acronym that stands for Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, and Ambiguity. VUCA environments, like many of today's hyper-stressed workplaces, demand much of those in leadership roles.

With VUCA as a framework, here are four more elements that I believe are key in today's workplaces:

Volatile - The more things change, the more the volatility that people have to deal with. As Holmes and Rahe taught us decades ago, change means stress. The more change, the more stress, the greater the danger. Managers and their teams need to toughen their change readiness capability to withstand such volatility.

Uncertain - In uncertain environments, predictability drops, and surprises rise. In such a climate, planning, organizing, and adaptability take on a critical importance for managers and their teams.

Complex - You know you are dealing with complexity when confusion and chaos become the norm. Many of the problems that teams face in today's organizations are truly complex. This means there are no obvious "low hanging fruit" solutions that they can quickly implement. Instead, managers and their teams need to learn new ways to think critically and creatively to solve the dilemmas they face.

Ambiguous - In the midst of chaos, a team needs the mental ability to maintain their "line of sight" toward their objective. Having a clear and compelling sense of purpose ('Where can I do the most good for the business right now?') helps to laser focus on the most pressing priorities.

If you are a Manager right now, consider the above as a checklist for 2012. What do you resolve to work on to help your team cope with the stress in your organization?

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Thursday December 29, 2011

The True Meaning of Christmas

2011-12-19T18:41:00.004-05:00

As the Catholic son of a Jewish mother, I've always had a mixture of feelings about Christmas. On one hand, it's definitely my favorite time of the year. On the other hand, I am saddened that so many find no joy in its celebration.

Yesterday, I came across a blog post by communications consultant Shel Israel, called "A Jew's View of Christmas," a bittersweet remembrance of growing up as a Jew and watching the Christians around him enjoying Christmas.

This is the comment I left on his blog.

For me, the meaning of Christmas comes down to one word: Gift. In the Gospel story, gift is a central image and idea:

~ The Incarnation is God coming into the world as a gift of love and transformation.

~ The baby is an unexpected gift to Mary and Joseph.

~ And the Magi bring extraordinary gifts to the Holy Family.

So the best way to keep Christmas? Here are five ways:

G - Give the gift of yourself to others

I - Inspire others with peace and joy

F - Find the star in your life that leads you

T - Take the Spirit of Christmas with you wherever you go

S - Say thanks often for all the gifts you have been given

As a kid, I remember a TV commercial that said, “You don’t have to be Jewish to like Levi’s Rye Bread.” I think the same goes for Christmas. You don’t have to be Christian to like Christmas.

As the song lyric says, "It's the most wonderful time of the year!"

My wish to all is Joy to the world. And let me echo Shel Israel's closing wish: "Happy holidays, and may the New Year bring all of us closer to peace on Earth.”

Amen.

Enjoy the season. Give your gifts. Be the blessing.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Tuesday December 20, 2011

Positive Demolition

2011-12-17T14:18:00.005-05:00

"You know how I handle stress?" the workshop participant answered. "I use positive demolition."

The speaker was a participant in a recent stress management class. He was one of a group of very busy technical managers with lots to do in the demanding and fast-paced environment of a global pharmachem company.

Positive Demolition, I echoed. "What's that?"

He said: "Sometimes, what eases my stress the best is the opportunity to destroy something. Like busting down a wall so I can expand a room in my house. When I bust down a wall, I feel great. I take all my frustrations out on that wall."

The other participants were enjoying this. They were each up against a lot of stress at work. Overloaded, overstretched, dumped on.

"I feel a lot better afterwards," he said.

Listening to their discussion, I could tell that the wall was substituting for something (or someone) else that they wished they could pummel into dust.

Here are several ideas for how you can implement the principle of Positive Demolition...and reduce your stress:

Break - Take a break. Step away. Go for a walk. Change your scene.

Relax - Learn to relax. Try the three step approach: 1) Sit in a comfy chair 2) Breathing normally 3) With pleasant thoughts.

Exercise - Some form of physical exercise is highly recommended for building your body's resilience against stress.

Analyze - What triggers your stress? Is it your boss? your customer? Identify your triggers and avoid them if possible.

Keep Busy - Don't sit and stew in your own angry juices. Channel your energy into something positive such as your work, a project, or a relationship.

So go ahead. Try some Positive Demolition. Break things up, knock things down, take things apart. You may be glad you did.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday December 18, 2011

The Teaching of Suffering

2011-12-11T16:49:00.011-05:00

You've heard the old expression "If you want an omelette, you have to break some eggs."

Came across this quote the other day:

~ There is no oil without squeezing the olives; no wine without pressing the grapes; no fragrance without crushing the flower.

I don't know who wrote it or where it's from. But I like it.

As a believer in synchronicity, I'm wondering what the message is for me. My mom had a saying: "It's a sign."

At the moment, here's the message I'm coming up with.

Sometimes, to obtain the sweetest things in life, you have to suffer first. Perhaps a great deal of suffering. Maybe even to death.

Khalil Gibran wrote: "Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls . . . seared with scars."

There are many who are suffering. The 14 million unemployed Americans, and their families, who live each day in ever-increasing desperation. The family of a slain police officer. The grieving widower who lost his wife.

Recently, in working with some of my clients, we have been discussing the topic of coping with adversity in the workplace. An Operations manager, who is a veteran, said that he is teaching his team to "Adapt and Overcome," a principle he learned as a soldier.

At the Marines Blog, the author writes about how "Adapt and Overcome" helps returning soldiers deal with post-traumatic stress as they struggle back into civilian life:

"(My song) 'Lucky One' is the story of a service member dealing with the effects of PTSD and combat stress after losing three close friends in an IED blast. When he returns home, his mind continually relives the moment while those around him say how lucky he was to have survived. In this case, he doesn’t feel like the lucky one as he deals with the effects of combat stress and finds himself on the verge of an irreversible decision. I know service members and friends who struggle with these issues. With “Lucky One” I hope to tell a story that lets service members know, that even though they may feel alone, there are others struggling with the stress and concerns of combat and military life and it’s okay to seek help. It’s sometimes easy to recognize service members with physical scars but much more difficult to see the scars that hide deep inside of those suffering..."

Suffering is the lesson and we are the students. If we pass the test and are successful, it is because we adapted, we overcame the trial.

Helen Keller wrote: "Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it."

Charles Dickens wrote: "Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but - I hope - into a better shape."

Like bread broken and shared. It doesn't nourish until we tear it apart and eat it.

~ There is no oil without squeezing the olives; no wine without pressing the grapes; no fragrance without crushing the flower.

No sweetness without suffering.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Monday December 12, 2011

The "No" Principle

2011-12-08T11:37:00.003-05:00

Bronnie Ware is an Australian songwriter, author, blogger and creative soul. She recently released a book titled The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, wherein she shares the sad thoughts of people she met in palliative care:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Bronnie Ware writes: "When you are on your deathbed, what is (on) your mind? How wonderful to be able to let go and smile . . . Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness."

She is right. Life is a choice.

The Spanish philosopher Jose Ortega y Gasset once wrote, "Living is the constant process of deciding what we are going to do."

And every Yes is accompanied by a No. Like the yin and yang principle in Buddhist thought, whenever you have one, you also have the other.

For many of us, especially those in the corporate world, saying No has become forbidden. Against the corporate culture, so to speak:

- "We are customer focused. We don't say No here."
- "Saying No is too negative. It would upset people."
- "Saying No a lot makes others wonder what you are doing. They may suspect you are a slacker, lazy."
- "If you say No, it looks like you are not a team player."

So what happens when the answer No is banished? In a word, burnout. I worked for a great boss (and a sweet guy) years ago. I'll call him H. Very smart, very experienced, very considerate. But he could not say No. As a result, he and his team became overwhelmed with work, all of it Top Priority. We just didn't have the resources to do it all. We lost our edge, drowned in the work, and ended up with a fiasco on our hands that blemished all of us.

While you don't want to come off like Dr. No, saying No all the time to every request, you have got to say No sometimes. It's vital to your effectiveness, your happiness, and to your success in life.

Here are four approaches to saying No:

- Refuse - Turn the request down by giving a solid reason, such as "I can't do that because we do not have the resources available."

- Refer - Point the requestor to another source of help, for example: "I can't help you with that, but I think Charlie can. Let me call him and ask."

- Reschedule - When you tell the requestor that now is not a good time, suggest a better time and schedule it.

- Recommend - After hearing and understanding the request, suggest an alternate route to a solution, for example: "I can't do that for you. Have you considered bringing in contract help?"

Re-read those five regrets above. Do you sense, in-between-the-lines, the failure to say No? Life is a choice. Every choice is a Yes, and a No. We all need to cultivate the presence of the "No" Principle in our lives, so that when we reach the end, we can look back and smile with contentment on a life well lived.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Thursday December 8, 2011

Real Change

2011-12-03T13:24:00.003-05:00

Many have wondered what the Occupy Wall Street protests are all about. This morning, while listening (and butting into) my son Kevin's podcast recording session, "Stuck Between Stations," the topic turned to the economy and society.

Kevin and his co-host Peter Tumulty, and their guest Patrick Healy, agreed that Occupy Wall Street is a social movement that is saying "Enough is enough."

The protesters don't have specific demands because the issue is not specific. Instead, the issue is the need for fundamental change. Radical change. Real change.

Filmmaker Ian MacKenzie has made a great little video about what Occupy Wall Street means. He believes that there is a shift in consciousness going on right now. I hope he is right.

There are millions mired in misery right now, just inches away from foreclosure, homelessness, and hitting rock bottom.

It is time for real change.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Saturday December 3, 2011

On The Way

2011-11-26T14:08:00.007-05:00

Today, my wife Joan and I saw the new movie "The Way" starring Martin Sheen, directed and written by his son Emilio Estevez. Can a movie be both incredibly gorgeous and spiritual at the same time? Apparently it can. Director Estevez has proved it with this inspiring road movie.

El Camino de Santiago, the Way of St. James, is an ancient route from the Pyrenees in southern France, across northern Spain, through Galicia to the Atlantic Ocean. For over 1000 years, pilgrims have followed The Way, a route that passes through such places as Pamplona, Burgos, and Leon. The Way 'ends' at the tomb of the Apostle St. James the Greater located inside the Cathedral of Santiago de Compostela (Field of Stars).

Martin Sheen plays a Dad whose son dies in the mountains while starting The Way. As Sheen's character decides to make the pilgrimage his son had begun, he meets others along the way. Each is searching for an answer to a dilemma. One wants to quit smoking. One wants to lose weight. One has writer's block. As we learn more about each person, we find that there are much deeper wounds and needs at work.

In Estevez' script, one of the characters says he is not much interested in religion. Another says in reply, "Religion has nothing to do with this. Nothing at all."

That was the 'moment of truth' for me in this wonderful movie. The Way is not religion. It's about waking up and finding out who we are. It's about living our lives mindfully, joyfully, and in the community of others.

St Francis of Assisi once said, "It is no use walking anywhere to preach unless our walking is our preaching."

Perhaps this is the real message of this film about love. It's not transformation. It's transcendence. It's realizing that we mean so much more than we realize.

I love that The Way brings you to The Field of Stars. What a destination.

Talk about poetry in motion.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Saturday November 26, 2011

Thinking As One

2011-11-21T08:53:00.003-05:00

Yesterday, the Villagers TheaterPlayers concluded a three week run of the rock opera "Jesus Christ Superstar." It was a spectacular triumph for all, the cast, crew, orchestra and everyone else involved. A great team effort.

For decades, researchers have studied teams --teams in sports, teams in healthcare, teams in space exploration, teams in entertainment, teams in emergency response, teams in the military-- and have tried to figure out what makes the most effective teams tick.

One of my favorite studies is the work by Larson and LaFasto where they identified eight characteristics of highly effective teams:
1 The team has a clear goal.
2 The team has a results-driven culture.
3 The team has capable team members.
4 The team has unified commitment.
5 The team has a supportive and collaborative climate.
6 The team has high standards of excellence.
7 The team has external support and encouragement.
8 The team has facilitative leadership.

In a recent team building class at a manufacturing company in New Jersey, a participant, one of the team leaders in Operations, made the point that effective teams "Think as one." I believe that Larson and LaFasto might say that is "unified commitment."

So I asked the class, How do you do that? How do you get people to think as one?

They said: A team must be on the same page. Care about one another. Have a common goal. Be fully committed.

That was certainly the case with the "Superstar" team at Villagers Theater.

It reminded me of what the great anthropologist Margaret Mead once said: "Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world."

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Monday November 21, 2011

Thanks and Giving

2011-11-19T10:02:00.002-05:00

One way to appreciate a word that you've seen and used all your life is to view it in a new way.

My pastor Fr. Doug did that for me a couple years ago when he took the word Thanksgiving and broke it into pieces: Thanks and Giving.

When he said that, "the scales fell from my eyes," and I was able to re-appreciate the actions embedded in the idea of thanksgiving, namely:

~ that we should be thankful, and express thanks to those who have done something for us, and

~ that we should give abundantly, like there's no tomorrow: give of our time, our treasure, and most importantly our talents

As the day of Thanks and Giving approaches this week, I'm sending a message of gratitude and appreciation for all the angels (you know who you are!) who have been so supportive this year!

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Saturday November 19, 2011

Toward More Respectful Workplaces

2011-11-13T08:44:00.006-05:00

With sexual harassment allegations, as well as sexual abuse, in the headlines again, managers would do well to revisit and reflect upon their affirmative duty to take steps each and every day to ensure that their workplaces are safe and free from all forms of harassment.

In a recent series of workshops, participants generated ideas on actions managers can take that will help to prevent harassment. Here are a few of those ideas:

- Listen actively and with empathy
- Be aware of what's going on it your environment
- Keep lines of communication open
- Educate everyone about the issue and your policy
- Lead by your example
- Be mindful of your own conduct
- Show respect to others
- Treat others as you would want to be treated
- Be a professional at all times
- Take these issues seriously
- Act promptly
- Express strong disapproval of behavior that crosses the line

Do you want to stop workplace harassment? If you are a manager, you've got to DARE to take the lead.

- Differences

In today's increasingly diverse workplaces, it's becoming harder to figure people out. Our diversity can be a great advantage if we learn to appreciate differences. If not, our differences will be a source of confusion, conflict, and discord. The answer? Get to know others better, especially those who are different from you.

- Act

Detecting harassment in your workplace? Nip it in the bud. Take action on the problem fast, rather than ignoring, or sweeping it under a rug, or telling yourself that someone else will take care of it. Harassment can be stopped dead in its tracks if someone will dare to confront it with clear, direct, and specific communication. It takes courage sometimes to face a harasser. But remember: If no one objects to the behavior, it will continue. And maybe even get worse.

- Respect

Can workplace harassment be prevented? While there is no foolproof way to prevent it from ever occuring, you can build a culture of respect and consideration for others. One where everyone follows the Golden Rule, treating others the way they would want to be treated. Ask yourself, Would I want my daughter (or son) to be treated like that? Spoken to that way?

- Expect

The other strong step you can take to prevent workplace harassment is to have clear expectations that people will behave professionally at all times. Make sure your anti-harassment policy is written, published, communicated to all, and frequently discussed and reinforced.

No one should ever have to suffer the pain and humiliation of workplace harassment. It's up to You. Real leaders look out for their people. What kind of workplace are you creating?

Do the right thing.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday November 13, 2011

How Goes the Fight?

2011-11-11T13:11:00.003-05:00

After attending a funeral service this morning, I walked across the windswept parking lot and briefly spoke to a friend. His greeting was, "How goes the fight?"

He was referring to the challenge of the job market. For job hunters, every day is a fight in a war that seems to have no end.

If you are seeking a job, or know someone who is searching, the big question is: How are you surviving and thriving in today's difficult job market?

Back in 2008 and 2009 when this Great Recession blew in like an arctic storm, freezing millions out of work, the story of Charles Pixley stood out like a beacon. A courageous soul, Pixley did something quite creative. I had to blog about it. Here is that entry, from November of 2009, re-posted:

In getting ready to teach job hunters how to make the most of LinkedIn as a tool in their job search, I came across the article about Charles Pixley. He's the investment banker who, after losing his job in the recession, decided to market himself by wearing a sandwich board and standing at the corner of Broadway and Wall Street until he got an offer.

Pixley said: "Believe in yourself, improve yourself, put yourself out there. Have yourself seen. You resume will go into a pile. It's just another resume, just more words. There's no color. These posters provided my soul. It says everything in one lump page."

Take a close look at his poster. It says in part: "Investment Banker. 30+ years. Enlightened Leadership. Mission Driven."

Wow. What a great elevator pitch in visual form. Tenacious Pixley shows us how to put yourself out there and be more visible to employers and business partners.

Since then, in working with job hunters, I have often retold the Pixley story and conveyed his three points. Even now, as 2011 is drawing to a close, with 14 million still out of work, we need his example, and his three points.

Last year, in 2010, Doug Shaw, a UK-based consultant that I met via The Employee Engagement Network, asked, What are you doing to survive and thrive? He gave three points of his own, and then invited others to weigh in. You can read the entire wise compilation here.

Here are a few nuggets that I want to highlight because I believe they might be helpful to anyone who is struggling to find work.

Craig Althof said: "Re-assess yourself on a regular basis. Set your priorities, act on them. Surviving and thriving will follow."

Bill Lamphear said: "Every day is a gift. Keep learning. Be a friend and mentor."

Hilary Jeanes said: "Reduce your stress. Identify what causes you stress and how to alleviate it. You will be in a better place to cope with whatever life throws your way."

Karen Drury said: "Take comfort in friends."

Ian Sutherland said: "Accept what has happened. Face your fears. Live your dreams."

Shereen Qutob Cabral said: "It take a whole lot of patience and faith."

And finally, Doug Shaw's three points are worth highlighting: "Love your network. Focus on the future. Be positive."

Amen, brother.

Addendum: So we had a very engaging session of the St. Matthias Employment Ministry this Saturday morning. On the question about Surviving and Thriving in today's job market, the group offered much wisdom:
- Be positive
- Assess yourself
- Let go/ Accept and release the past
- Don't let the "shoulds" hold you back
- Don't let negative people get you down
- Follow what you enjoy most
- Laugh/Keep your sense of humor
- Be creative
- Reduce expenses
- Join meet-up groups
- Be social
- Love your network
- Go to professional gatherings
- Volunteer
- Do pro bono work
- Be optimistic
- Love your librarian
- Don't give up
- Take a breather
- Be disciplined
- Distinguish yourself
- Reinvent yourself
- Be open to doing something different, new

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Friday November 11, 2011

Tiramisu for the Soul

2011-11-10T09:08:00.003-05:00

For many, the time in between services at your house of worship is a long soul-less period of working, chores, deadlines, and worries. Wouldn't it be wonderful if, during the week, you had a "pick me up" for your soul?

There is a wonderful dessert that you'll find on the menu of most Italian restaurants, called tiramisu, which loosely translated means "pick me up." Called by some "heaven in the mouth," tiramisu is a delicious way to end a meal.

For me, a faith sharing group meeting is like tiramisu. It's a spiritual "pick me up" that refreshes you during the week.

At my parish, St. Matthias in Somerset, NJ, we encourage the formation of small groups that gather in someone's home, once a week for six weeks. Each week there is a theme, a reading from scripture, and a discussion. The aim of the gathering is to connect the scripture to our lives and share our faith journeys with one another. Small scale, simple to carry out, yet profound in its effects.

Another type of spiritual pick-me-up I recently started is t'ai chi chih, or "joy through movement," based on the style developed by Justin Stone. His approach to this ancient art of movement is slow, soft, and effortless, like a flowing meditation. The intent of this t'ai chi is to circulate and balance the chi, the vital force that flows through the universe . . . and through us.

Why not treat yourself to a spiritual pick-me-up? You deserve it.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Thursday November 10, 2011

Leading With the Heart

2011-11-08T13:06:00.003-05:00

So much of what is written about leadership is "in the head," meaning that the competencies highlighted include planning, organizing, strategizing, decision making, problem solving, analyzing, improving, and the like. All good and useful to be sure.

But really leading effectively involves being "in the heart" too. So here are some additional competencies that the well balanced leader will take the time to ponder and develop.

Helping: In my leadership classes, I always ask the participants to tell stories about leaders they admire. I encourage them to say what makes these leaders so memorable and effective. One answer that comes up time after time is, Leaders that help. Leaders that are there for you. That you can count on. That pitch in and get their hands dirty. Who back you, and go to bat for you.

Engaging: We often say that the best leaders are ones who "lead by their example." But what example are we talking about? What would be included in this? One suggestion I'd offer is Leaders that engage. Just as the word implies, such a leader is "in gear" with his job, his mission, his sense of purpose, and his organization. This leader's palpable engagement will surely influence his followers to get engaged too.

Appreciating: Leading with the heart involves some very basic human emotions, such as appreciating others for who they are and what they bring to the job, to the team, and to the organization. Leaders that appreciate each person create a positive, affirming environment where people feel good about themselves.

Recognizing: In much the same spirit as appreciating, Leaders that recognize make people feel good about themselves and inspire people to give more of themselves.

Teaching: Another characteristic of effective leaders that is often mentioned by the participants in my leadership classes is Leaders that teach. Leaders that take the time to help you grow and become more knowledgeable, more capable, and more valuable.

Leadership involves not only using our heads, but leading with our hearts too.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Tuesday November 8, 2011

Together Everyone Achieves More

2011-11-07T16:48:00.002-05:00

When my sons were young kids, they swam on a local swim team. Every swimmer was given a t-shirt with the slogan "TEAM means Together Everyone Achieves More" printed on the back.

Are you part of a team? Or a team leader? Or a manager responsible for teams in your organization? If so, here is a way to turn this slogan into an operating model for your team.

For each word in the TEAM acronym, I offer some questions that you and your team can use to discover resources to improve your team's performance.

Together - How well is the team working together?

Everyone - Is everyone on the same page? Is everyone pulling in the same direction? Can everyone be counted on?

Achieves - How well is the team achieving its goals? What is working? What could be improved?

More - What more could the team do to work more effectively as one?

The legendary baseball player Babe Ruth said it well: "The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don't play together, the club won't be worth a dime."

He was right. Teamwork doesn't happen automatically. It's something you build. (That's where the term team building comes in.)

What is keeping your team from reaching its full potential?

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Monday November 7, 2011

Be the Blessing

2011-10-30T14:06:00.003-04:00

We are in the middle of a month long renewal of stewardship at my church, St. Matthias in Somerset, NJ. Each weekend, we hear from diverse speakers who talk about the many aspects of being a faithful steward and active disciple.

This weekend, the message touched on Tikkun Olam, which refers to repairing (or restoring) the world. By doing good deeds (mitzvot), deeds that feed the hungry, clothe the naked, put a roof over the homeless, and destroy injustice, we perfect ourselves and we repair the world.

I was reminded of a saying that Canada-based consultant Jan Yuill often mentions on the Organization Development Network discussion board:

~ "Take care of yourself. Take care of each other. Take care of this place."

That sums up the steward's role nicely.

Florida-based consultant Ed Hampton puts it poetically like this:

~ "Please keep your goodness coming! You were blessed to be a blessing. And take your blessings to action of spirit."

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday October 30, 2011

Unemployed? Deja Vu All Over Again

2011-10-20T20:24:00.002-04:00

I’m sure you are reading the latest articles and stats on how bad the jobs crisis is in the US. What saddens me is when someone who has been unemployed finally lands a gig, only to find himself (or herself) bounced out again, back to the unemployment lines.

Just earlier today, I got one of those emails from someone I know here in New Jersey.

In his email, he asked me for my advice on how to keep his LinkedIn profile up-to-date while he resumes his job search. I offered the following advice:

- Number One, make sure that your profile (and your resume) are up-to-date, including the gig you had that ended too soon.

- Make sure that you put in your accomplishments! Even from non-paid work such as a pro bono project or volunteer work.

- Take a good hard look at your headline on Linkedin. That’s the space right under your name. It may be the most precious real estate on your profile! When someone (like a headhunter, a recruiter, or a business owner) looks at your name, what message will they see right beneath it?

- Publish status updates at least once every week, if not more frequently. This promotes your visibility!

- Seek recommendations from people who know your work and want to help you. Let them toot your horn!

Then, beyond LinkedIn, what else are you doing to stay active, visible, and involved with other people? This can take many forms. For instance, teaching, taking on projects, even pro bono ones.

Also don’t eschew volunteering. By giving back to the community in some way, you will feel good about yourself. Plus it’s a new experience where you might acquire a new skill. And it’s networking!

And don’t forget to actively participate in one or more job search support groups. Help others in their job searches. You’ll feel good. And they will want to help you in return.

Published by Terrence Seamon on Thursday October 20, 2011.

Stewardship Is Love In Motion

2011-10-09T16:07:00.003-04:00

Jeanine is a friend from church at St. Matthias in Somerset, New Jersey. Wife, mother, and teacher, she is also a living saint, an inspirational model for all of us. Ten years ago, she suffered a spinal cord injury in a car crash and has been paralyzed from the chest down ever since. Confined to a wheel chair, you might think she would be a bitter recluse. Quite the contrary.

Jeanine is on the go, driving her kids places in her specially equipped van. And she is filled with the Spirit, her heart full of gratitude for all the gifts in her life.

This morning, at all four of the Sunday Masses, she and her husband joined our pastor Father Doug for the homily. The topic? Stewardship Is Love In Motion.

For Jeanine, being a faithful disciple means following the example of the faithful steward in the Good News. In the gospel according to Matthew, we find the "parable of the talents" which tells us what God expects us to do here on earth.

Essentially, each of us is given time, talent and treasure. Some of us have a lot, some a little. What we have doesn't matter. Whether your talent is great or modest, we all are expected to do something with it to help build the kingdom right here and right now in this world.

Scripture tells us that God's ways are not our ways. We think that "bigger is better." What really matters is what we do with whatever gifts we have been given. Week in and week out, what are we doing with our time? What actions are we taking with our talents? Where are we spending our treasure?

To reach the ambo, Jeanine rolled up a temporary ramp. To reach the microphone, her wheelchair slowly pushed her up until she was upright next to her husband.

When they finished, I started clapping. So did everyone else in church at the 7:30 Mass.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Sunday October 9, 2011

New Models Thinking

2011-09-24T13:53:00.004-04:00

Physician, Libertarian and Republican presidential candidate Ron Paul says he would have a “Secretary of Peace” in his cabinet. Now that's what I call 'New Models Thinking.'

We are in a global crisis at this moment in history. More than ever before, we need new thoughts, new ideas, new models.

And this includes models of leadership. We need new models for leaders and leadership development.

In my view, we need more leaders like Dr. Paul. Leaders who:

- Stick to their principles
- Speak truth to power
- Hold to a higher standard
- Call everyone to a better quality of life

Watching the Republican debate the other night, I was struck by the sharp divide between the 'Same Old' candidates and the 'New Models Thinking' candidates. The 'Same Old' ones want to tweak our existing processes. The 'New Models' Thinkers are looking to new ways. They are ready to initiate radical ("at the root") change. They want to innovate and take America out of the crisis.

Recently, media watchers like Jon Stewart and Bill O'Reilly have commented on the media's aversion to Ron Paul. It's really simple. Ron Paul is a radical. As Thomas Kuhn pointed out in his classic work on the nature of scientific revolutions, the next paradigm (and its herald) is resisted, ridiculed, and attacked before it gains acceptance.

Or as Jonathan Swift once wrote:

~ "When a true genius appears in this world, you may know him by this sign, that the dunces are all in confederacy against him."

Imagine a "Secretary of Peace." What other new world-changing leadership roles can you imagine?

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Saturday September 24, 2011

Leaders Honor Their People

2011-09-20T20:10:00.004-04:00

We have all read the quote from ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu about a leader, but have we ever read the entire quote? Here it is.

~ A leader is best when people barely know that he exists, not so good when people obey and acclaim him, worst when they despise him. Fail to honor people, They fail to honor you. But of a good leader, who talks little, when his work is done, his aims fulfilled, they will all say, "We did this ourselves."

Did you notice the sentence that almost never is quoted?

~ Fail to honor people, They fail to honor you.

Whoa! Let that sink in, folks.

So, what can a leader do to honor people?

- Listen to them

- Let them fly

- Lift them up

This may be the killer app of leadership that we have been waiting for.

Posted by Terrence Seamon on Tuesday September 20, 2011