tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-151080462026-04-05T08:09:43.251-04:00Becoming involved with herpes support and social groups are the best thing you can do for yourself if you have genital herpes, oral herpes or even HPV (human papilloma virus). The social stigma which has been attached to people with herpes, can make a person who is newly diagnosed feel like a leper when in fact, they truly shouldn't feel that way.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger102125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15108046.post-33847115861528871592012-08-30T00:55:00.001-04:002012-08-30T00:55:47.258-04:00

Yep, me, the one who has been living with herpes for 25 + years, had sex with someone and didn't tell and believe you me, I KNOW BETTER, but I also know that I am human.  I'm sorry, I'm ashamed and at the moment, was being very selfish.  OK, so I've bashed myself enough.  Now my fingers are crossed.  Hoping that he doesn't call me and say "what is this shit"?  One of our

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but how much does living with herpes change.  I'm here for you and even though I might not post on a regular basis, I do read your comments and try to respond at least on a monthly basis at a minimum.  There are a lot of people who are newly diagnosed and I've been living with herpes since 1987.  Hmmm, let's see, that would be holy crap, 25 years!!  Dang, where has time gone

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I struggled to say it, to accept it. In the end it came out in words as my journey of acceptance began. Herein this safe environment I would care to share it, I have no idea whether it will help anyone, a part of me wishes it does!I have a diseaseI did not ask for itI would never wish it on anyoneI believe I have come to termsI have been accepted for meI must never forget it,I have moved on,

Luannehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02689882830777514620noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15108046.post-46239525001366787752011-09-12T16:10:00.000-04:002011-09-12T16:10:32.502-04:00

A question posed on a support group was: Do you feel like getting herpes was a 'blessing in disguise'? Do you feel as though having herpes has forced you to be more selective and to "slow down' when it comes to moving forward in a relationship? My response to my own question was: "I know it has for me and yes, in a weird twisted sort of way, I'm kind of glad I have herpes because it does

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Here is an interesting story you don't hear happen very much.  Maybe everyone should be misdiagnosed just once to "walk a mile in our shoes".   Just something to think about.  Our writer has learned so much and expressed her feelings so well. Here is her story: ___________________________________________________________________________ Today I got a blood screen back and I'm

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I know how difficult it is to tell someone that you have herpes, but it's really something that needs to be done and can be so freeing for you the one who is dealing with this little piece of baggage once it's off of your chest. Dating is an adventure on it's own w/out all of the extra things we tend to bring into a relationship with us. It's just another thing which we need to be

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So you've been diagnosed with herpes and you're mulling over your past, your future, what herpes means to you, your gifter and all of the why's....  Why me?  I didn't deserve this.  I won't ever get married!!  I won't ever have children.... OK, so first of all, you need to stop with the pity party.  It is what it is and you now need to come to terms with living with this

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You know, one of the most important things that I have said to people over the years, which has been extremely helpful to me as well in regard to having "the talk", is to get used to saying and hearing the word herpes yourself.  In my opinion, that is the first step in taking control of living with the virus and having to verbalize the word to a prospective mate.  It was

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One of my commenters said this: "I have been reading many comments from woman like me. Woman who are fearful, brave and everything in between but what I feel would really be helpful would be if we had some men post on here!!"?? It seems that there are no men who are sharing their stories.  We women want to know, from a mans perspective what would they think of dating a girl with herpes

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I have been in a relationship for the past year, we get along wonderfully, but his general personality is really getting to the point that I don't see us being "a couple" forever.  He seems to think we are great, but the way I see it, we are now just "good friends".  He's totally accepting of me having herpes, but it's me who wants to end the relationship.  It

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I have spoken with and read where many people who live in a small town, struggle with their herpes diagnosis. They feel as though they need to move from their surroundings, that they will never be accepted. I used to feel this way too, early on in my herpes journey, but I've progressed to the point, where I could care a less who knows anymore. My job is secure; my co-workers know and don't

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I'm still alive and kickin' and read everything which other folks write in the comments section and try to respond to each of them. Thank you for taking the time to post your thoughts. This morning, a comment came across my email and I read this post which I hadn't read in a very long time and got reinspired all over again by my own dang words. So a thank you to the commenter for bringing this

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Well, I really didn't, but I received an email from someone recently who was promoting their "new herpes website" and I thought OMG, ANOTHER ONE!!.The author said to me:It looked like you were publishing great content for a little while. Why did you stop? I responded:Thank you for your compliments. I guess the reason I stopped is "how many different topics and angles are there when it comes to

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Many people are rather concerned about transmitting the herpes virus to a family or household member. In regard to showering when you have a sore. What I have always done in the past and even tend to do it this way anyway, is to wash all non-outbreak areas first with typical soap and water, then follow the "proper" way to towel off.  The proper way would be: dry your face first, then

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Now here is a scary thought. Now unfortunately, alot of what was originally written here is a bit of jibberish to me, but the word Alzheimer's and herpes together, yikes!! New research says that herpes could play a role in the development of the most common form of dementia, Alzheimer's disease. The study shows the connection between a gene and herpes simplex 1, or HSV. The form of the ApoE

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The first sign of a herpes virus appearance may be a rash, together with painful and itchy blisters, on the affected area of hour body. This affected area can be the mouth, anus, buittocks, penis, scrotum, vulva, vagina or buttocks. These blisters can then turn into painful ulcers. On the first outbreak, you may also suffer from swollen glands, a fever or headache and a general rundown feeling.

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How ridiculous when I hear people feeling as though they need to be ashamed for having contracted herpes. I do remember at one point in my herpes journey that I did not feel as I do now and it's certainly a path we all have to take. For me, it was 10 years in denial, then 3 years of trying to "tell" someone which was totally emotionally draining, but I needed that. Then I discovered the internet

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Life Lessons That Getting Herpes Forced Me To Learn. Some funny, some not so funny, but all true. I don't even remember where I got this list of lessons from, but I wanted to save it here. Enjoy.1) I am not bullet proof2) My vagina is not bullet proof3) If I need to feel less alone all I need to do is some mental math on how many people in the room probably have herpes.4) Sex without

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I am scared to death of transmitting my genital herpes on to my infant. Is it best to have a C-Section or is it ok to have the baby vaginally during delivery? Is herpes transmitted through blood? Is it ok to donate blood and have herpes? Is herpes genetic, meaning can it be passed on through my DNA?Answer: I found this website and information the best at describing the risks involved with a woman

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I believe that physchologists, therapists, psychotherapists, marriage counselors, priests, chaplains and anyone else dealing with human relationships should be required to know about herpes and how it affects people both physically, mentally and emotionally. In many cases, it can tend to wreak havoc on couples and individuals both emotionally and as far as the trust factor goes. It would also be

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Dr. Johannsen really rubs many of us in the herpes community the wrong way and a friend of mine wrote her an email a few months ago and has given me permission to repost it here.Kerry says: Who knows if they'll forward it to her. I believe I went easy on her because I don't think she realizes how she's not living in reality on the issue of std's. Here's what Kerry said:"Sue, I really enjoy

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Coping with STD's (is the topic name) and from what I've been reading on the message boards, it seems as though our pesky little virus has been getting the most attention in the world of STD's. Please feel free to spread the word so that Dr. Phil will hear all of us and realize how big of an issue this is for anyone living with herpes, be it HSV-1 or HSV2. If we all join together, I believe

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Dang, I guess nothing is sacred with anyone. Katie Holmes is about to be married to Tom Cruise in one of the most talked about weddings of 2006. I can't say how many times that stress is herpes biggest enemy and sure enough, Katie has apparently been suffering an oral outbreak. Poor thing, I wish she'd just join all of us in Herpes Awareness and step up to be a Herpes Hero. Message to Katie:

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Read what others are saying when they reach out to meet others who are also dealing or struggling with their herpes diagnosis. Just realize that you are not alone. Feel free to type your message in the comments section and do it anonymously if it makes you feel more comfortable. I will respond as soon as I can. I'm leaving the typos as is. These are actual quotes and my comments and responses to

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Whenever I hear someone mention hmates.com, it reminds me of a how a Nigerian Scammer found me on that sight. Have any of you ever experienced contact on any of the personal sites from people who claim to be from the US, then all of a sudden, they have to be in Africa for work? They profess their undying love within 2 days of chatting with you online, then have the nerve to ask you to cash a

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