HeR.Thoughts.on.Life.media.Love

Would you change your hair because of a friend?

2011-08-09T12:28:00.000-07:00

A friend of mine is planning on getting engaged soon and shared some of her bridesmaid requirements. One of which is that none of the ladies may wear a hair weave and if they do they must remove it for the wedding.
I took offense to the " requirement" and I feel she is going overboard..Pre-Bridezilla style !

FYI: Her hair is natural but she wears it straight and my is natural and I wear extensions,

Have you experienced this kind of foolishness ? Do you agree with this requirement?

Commitment Phobe?

2011-07-15T21:49:00.000-07:00

When I look at this picture I see a woman happily running away from her groom to be!

The phrase "Commitment Phobe" is most often synonymous with men- that lack the desire to be in a monogamous relationship. I am not saying that all men have a commitment phobia. However, I must admit that I often sympathize with men ~~and women~~ that are not in a rush to get married. SUre, I imagine shopping for that perfect wedding gown and "Saying Yes to the Dress". But when I really, really, ponder over spending forever with Mr. Right.. I panic.

I start finding any reason to breakup with the guy, like him being nice to people turns into him being a pushover. Or he dances weird and how embarrassing it would be to dance with him at our wedding.

No seriously, I think my commitment woes stem from unresolved hurt in a previous relationship. Ever since that relationship I have noticed a trend of being emotionally unavailable in relationships. I have an emotional wall protecting my heart from pain.

I know this all sounds cliche...but what are signs that someone has a wall?
Everyone says to "Let your guard down" but what are the steps??
Have you ever been with someone that was emotionally unavailable?

TRadition Vs LifeStyle

2010-07-13T07:22:00.000-07:00

Good Morning,

Yesterday I had a long conversation with a good friend regarding "religion". She is Muslim and my beliefs are that of a Christian. She stated that her Facebook status was causing some controversy.

Her status read:

Why do people claim religions like they are gangs? Understand that your spirituality is something intimate and personal and does not need to boast. Your convictions should shine through and inspire regardless of what "Set you claim"!

She also stated, many Christians ask her how many times a day she REALLY prays and why doesn't she wear that thing on her head?

Do you boast about your beliefs/religion?? Are you quick to criticize those of a different religion?

Who you reppin?

Her.Thoughts

It's So hard to say goodbye

2010-07-09T07:52:00.000-07:00

Talking to an ex can be cordial or more like a disastrous trip down memory lane! ( sorry, maybe its just me..) Any who, I recently decided to let go of my "exes". I woke up early one morning and decided I would cut ties with both of them. (Yes only two!)

So, I decided to change my phone number, delete email accounts and the whole shebang.

Why go through all of this trouble?? Unfortunately, I have had a difficult time letting them go. Ex# 1, "Cheatingfool", was my college sweetheart, we dated for four years and we have kept in contact four years since our breakup! Ex#2 , "Mr Emo", was crazy, angry, and overly sensitive. (I know..)

We were in a relationship for two years and we have been in contact for a year. What prompted the dismissal of "Cheatingfool" and "Mr.Emo"? "Mr.Emo" proposed this week and I respectively declined. "Cheatingfool" mentioned he was skeptical about being in a relationship with me. Of course, he is a "Cheatingfool" soo you know he should have burst into flames after that statement!

So, what is the key to "letting go"? What has your experience with exes been ? Why is it so hard to say goodbye?

Her.Thoughts