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Is Silence Really Golden?

2010-09-04T01:06:00.001-04:00

In my quest to develop a meaningful relationship, a bump in the road has come up. S-I-L-E-N-C-E! The modified definition is simply with out sound or a space void of sound of any kind. Since the space we are speaking of is "relationship", the meaning takes the form of "no communication between two parties for an described amount of time due to hurt feelings". Does that sound familiar? I know this territory all to well...

I was once the Queen of the silent treatment. If silence is truly golden then my riches have been stolen and I really need to get it back.(We're still in a recession, you know.) Back to our conversation. I used the silent treatment as a strategic weapon if my boyfriend didn't want to go to the movie I wanted or instead of doing Mexican we did American. Just plain silly nonsense. As I write this I am now on the other end of the silent rope and I see the true power of communication, real communication.

To build anything; relationships, roads, buildings, lives; communication must be present. Clear, concise communication. My sister tells me I sound like Oprah or Dr. Phil. Guess what? I'm cool with that because their point has been just this when you speak it into existence you get it. How often in relationships do we sweep it all under the rug and pretend it's not going to affect us? And it always catches us in the end. How do you work on it? Just say ahh! Have meaningful conversation which is at the core of what you want your relationship to be.

So the question becomes what are you truly committed to? A loving relationship filled with ups and downs? A stable relationship built on putting things off? Or are you satisfied with moving from one relationship to the next telling anyone who would listen that it's not your fault blame the last person? As for me, I am committed to living my life with my soulmate/lifepartner who needs space right now and I'm giving it to him. Just one more day, then we are working this out. Why? At the end of the day, silence is the killer of relationships and communication is its life blood. Speak. Talk. Share. There is no power in letting silence win. Share this with the ones in your life that you love. Talk everyday about what matters most. At the end of the day, all u have are your words to create the world you desire.

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Truth Is Not Always Easy...

2010-09-01T11:18:00.010-04:00

Being honest sometimes blows. Really it does. I know you all know have heard it, people tell you they want you to be honest with them and always tell them the truth. When really all that is wanted is an ear to complain. What if instead of complaining, we actually did something about the situation we are complaining about? What would our lives really look like then? Imagine...

When I think of John Lennon's song Imagine, I get where he was coming from. I have had some years to ponder this so here we go. If there was no hunger or strife, there would be no war, anger or negativity. But if we can't even imagine that, how do we expect to actually get it? All great inventions can out of imagination. You may if that's all there is, why don't we have flying cars or elevators that move sideways or telepathic powers? (yes, I'm going bezzaro but hang in there with me, I'm getting to it.) The answer is so simple it you need to sit down for this one.

Ready? Here it is - HUMANS DON'T TAKE ACTION. Now hold on, I know you may be taken a back a bit but just bear with me. I'll use myself as an example. How many times am I going to complain about not having the abs of steel I want before I actually get down on the floor and do the abs of steel work? Talking and imagining about it is just the beginning. Taking the necessary action steps toward what you want in life makes life worth living. It's what makes the adventure of living grand and full, abundant and audacious, joyful and jubilant. It is the jump out of the plane that makes skydiving fun, not the fall. When your heart is beating in your chest, racing at 3,000,000 beats per second and you can feel the throbbing sensation on the outside of your chest, the sweatiness of your palms, the dryness in your mouth you begin to realize how precious, fragile and delicate life truly is and then you jump. Done!

Most of us will never feel the full sensation of life. We will go about our day as regular, simple people living ordinary regular lives and be okay with what life handed us. We will continue to complain and live life through the veil of complaints, thus experiencing real pleasure, true bliss, is nonexistent. Then there are the rare few, who take the complaint and turn it into a miraculous dream - with action plan of course - hence going on to live a bountiful, robust, aromatic life. WOW!

As I wrap this up, I'm looking at my exercise mat and noting when on my schedule I'll take it out to give my mini keg an abs of steel workout. Until then, I double dog dare you to see the truth about your life now, take it on and go after your dreams. I believe you deserve it. Don't you?

The Effective Yard Sale - Lessons Learned

2010-08-28T16:14:00.006-04:00

The day is not over and I have had some really great discoveries about running an effective yard sale, especially on the streets of New York.

Not all of my tips are in the video but these are some really good ones:

What I didn't include was this:

It doesn't hurt to have a yard sale on the same day as a large event. Remember, "New Yorkers" are constantly on the go so, large events are the perfect way to catch their attention. For example, set your yard sale up during q street fair or community block party. It keeps the mood festive and foot traffic passing all day.

Do you have tips? Share your comments right here. Here's to happy selling!

The Harlem Indoor Out Yard Sale

2010-08-28T14:02:00.004-04:00

As promised, I am on my street selling my wares. Yes, actual wares and electronics and handbags - you get the point! Check out this video made this morning.

When: TODAY, Saturday, August 28, 2010

Where: 107 W 123rd Street, 10027

Time: NOW until 6pm

Sales are going great. Get here before all things are gone. I'll keep sharing on what's going on!

Mind Control ... Really? Yes Really!

2010-08-24T01:43:00.006-04:00

As you can tell I am definitely a late owl. And It always seem that's when radio stations feel safest putting out new music. For the past month or so when my radio is on I have been hearing this song and loving it. Only thing wrong? I have been totally ignoring who the artist is because THEY HAVE NEVER MENTIONED IT!

I pull out my old school detective kit - open a web browser and Google my current radio station play list(Side note to self - write piece on the origin of Google as a verb). What do I see but the current song "Mind Control" and the artist name, Hal Linton. I instantly realize this dude is not Bilal Oliver, who by the way still owes me a second dynamic album.(Note to self - write on Bilal's rise and fall from grace). Back to Linton...

Hal Linton, born in Barbados, comes on with a smooth falsetto, that if not closely listened to can be mistaken for another artist, which is not a bad thing. His voice captures your attention and I am definitely tuned in to this musically trained, west Indian native . "Mind Control", first released in April 2010, has definitely got my mind going. Sexy and soul stirring, this song can put anyone in the right mood. Not yet causing a strong buzz on the charts, it definitely is bringing some heat. Finally, a young artist that has soul with music in it. Hal Linton has some really deep lyrics "I know about the birds and the bees, Chasin cats up the tree, I pay attention to detail baby So pay attention to me" I'm listening and you should too:

"In the next three years, this kid right here, will be the only thing your talking about" - Jerry "Wonda" Duplesis. WOW!

It's all about the Grown Man Swag

2010-08-22T14:00:00.004-04:00

If you missed it, last night I wrote a review of S. Rob's "Just Me and The Music". it wasn't posted in the New York Times Review section because someone there didn't get the memo, but that is another story. Today, I'm back with this just in.

The unofficial YouTube vid of "Remarkable", track 2 of the soon to be released mixtape, was just released this afternoon and you know who snagged it. It is the funkiest 1:32 of music out that has me ready to hit the club even on a Sunday! This joint is in need of a remix. Do I heard 50 Cent, Busta Rhymes, Big Daddy Kane and even (Murder) Mase on the track getting it in? I have no clue because all except, Big Daddy Kane, were my boo's suggestion. I know for sure I hear a Lil' Kim kiss on this because we ladies definitely love our men with their grown on.

I'll leave that up to the creative geniuses at Sour Diezel and Fraternity Music Group to make this one happen. Just check out the vid and leave your comments:

Did I mention he was cute?

S. Rob wants "No Trouble"

2010-08-21T21:01:00.009-04:00

This summer is proving to be a hit make for R & B artist S. Rob. I just got my copy of his newly titled mixed tape, "Just Me and The Music" and I have to say IT IS HOT! LICK SHOTS! I am so loving everything from the self confessed, tatted up "Intro" taking you into "Remarkable" letting listeners know this is not for children, but for the new "20" that know they are not 20. This is new grown folk music. It has definitely been a long time waiting. S. Rob puts in down on "Deep Inside" just for the ladies, showing you he can "Take It There" featuring Styles P. Trey, I love you but it's time to put you to bed and let the grown folk show you how it's done.

Mary Jane lovers put your bongs down for a minute because he definitely did not leave you out. S. Rob understands how annoyed you get when you and Mary can't be left alone, as he describes on "Fuckin' Me Up" taking a minute to remember that he is in love but the nagging must stop. That doesn't stop the party on "U Make Me So High" where we listen to S. Rob and rapper Biz roll up another one. Put your lighters in the air and get your Febreze®.

He brings you to the dance floor with "No Trouble". They don't cause trouble but with this track they're not backing down from it either. The combination of S. Rob and Biz is melodic. The perfect uptown two-step track. I have personally listened to this track over 50 times. I just got this cd yesterday. Now, if your really grown, "Gone Til" brings you back to the 90's in the days New Edition but this is not Ralph Tresvant. It doesn't stop there because you will definitely be "Spinnin' " in the whirlwind of actual signing. Who was the last person to actually sing? S. Rob you do "sang" it out on "Hero". But not since Eric Benet resurgence back into main stream R & B with "I Wanna Be Loved" has man bared his soul like S. Rob's "Afraid of Love". Something men just never want to admit to and I am so glad he finally said what we women already know, MEN are scared of love after being heart broken.

"Just me and the Music" is scheduled for release on Aug 29, 2010 by SourDiezelDVD, www.sourdiezel.com. Be there on time for your download. Want more? Want to learn about show dates? Click here to sign up for his newsletter and then keep up with him on Twitter: @S_Rob127; Facebook: facebook.com/FraternityMusicGroup or drop him a line and tell him what you think: fraternitymusic@gmail.com. FYI, he reads ALL of his emails and comment so watch what you say.

Barbie Would Be Jealous!

2010-08-02T23:23:00.001-04:00

I went to one of my favorite spots to pick up a quick pair of day to day shoes and low and behold, what did I see? This has been the most creative package design I have seen in quite some time for shoes, and I have quite a few. Now for those whk are say "what's the big deal?"; there will be a lesson following this write up. (:

I am no fan of the shoes but I can definitely get the shoes for the box. The hot pink ribbon and black silohutte is so reminiscent of my favorite pink packaged diva, know world wide as Barbie. Either way, I'll let you decide...

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Gone Too Soon

2010-07-20T05:57:00.005-04:00

Some tributes are not always well executed, but this was always one of my favorites. Usher's execution of "Gone Too Soon" displays not only his professionalism but also his true character as a man. What do you think?

I still enjoy it. Has it been a year already? WOW! R.I.P. Michael...here's to finding peace, joy and love in rest that you did not fully enjoy in life.

Exotic Travel from Women Who Know...

2010-07-11T15:35:00.011-04:00

Here's the scoop, since I'm not going to Greece or Croatia this year, I decided I will continue to do my research so I can have a blast next year. Nothing wrong with being prepared. Well, my discovery lead me to this really cool site called PinkPangea.com.

I was amazed by what I found. This cool site has women who travel posting about all of the cool places they visit abroad. Where ever you have been, you can share it with this community of like minded travelling band of adventurers.

Have you been on a trip recently to an exotic location? Join and post your info! Check it out and share what you know. Can't wait to read it!

Royalty Needs Inspiration To Reign...

2010-07-09T16:44:00.004-04:00

Today was a late start for so many reasons and I could have seen it as a horrible after I received a ticket on my car this morning. But it just did not occur to me that today would be a bad day. After I took a look at a photo of myself, I could not stop thinking about Prince's "Pop Life"

This amazing thing happened while I was searching YouTube for the song, I cam across this interview with Prince and Tavis Smiley. I have never seen Prince in an interview. The first two minutes were mesmerizing and inspiring. Listen..

If yo get nothing else from this, take it from Prince - keep plugging away at your craft, it will definitely be your source of abundance. I love #DatDamn Prince.

Camp Lo - Where are you?

2010-07-08T14:46:00.004-04:00

Every now and then I think back on the music that kept the streets humming, left you wanting ride all night and just live the life you thought people actually lived in videos. This hip-hop classic was so mellow and juicy it made the "Harlem Two Step" infamous. All of this just leave me to ask the question: Where in the hell is Camp Lo and who went to jail? lol! Watch on...

If you still don't know how two step now that you've see this video, join my mailing list and I'll send you an invite to my next Harlem Two Step Soirée!

LMAO! Sorry iPhone lovers ):

2010-07-08T13:43:00.002-04:00

When I first saw this I told my inner circle about it. This had me in stitches for a minute!

If you can't laugh at an iPhone user, who can you laugh at?

My Favorite Place

2010-07-07T19:10:00.002-04:00

This literally my favorite place in Harlem. Pollen Nation Events & Flowers is an upscale event floral boutique located in a distinguished nook on East 125th Street. The creative genius behind the brand, Collin Abraham, has a keen eye for color combinations and arrangements which are not only breath takingly striking but are also creations that show you why nature's beauty should be envied.

In Harlem? Drop by: 11 East 125th Street, right off 5th Ave or give them a call (212) 860-2022.

Tell them DatDamnNatasha sent you.

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She Really Does Speak...

2010-07-07T17:00:00.005-04:00

Something new, just for you:

Don't you love it?! Leave your comments and don't forget to add me as one of your blog faves, find me on Twitter and look me up on Facebook.

DatDamn Natasha is everywhere!

S. Rob is Gone Till

2010-06-30T20:45:00.003-04:00

He is definitely at it again. S. Rob (a.k.a. Sean Robinson) is tearing it up with this new one. Doing what he does best; giving you good music while actually singing; "Gone Till" is another hit from this hit maker. After his joint with Styles P, who knew he would comeback hard like this? Take it There featuring Styles P. by S-Rob

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And all of this is just a on a mix tape! Cuz is definitely crazy with lyrics. I love it! I can't wait Till it drops cuz I'm Gone get it!

After you watch here, log on to DJ Enuff's site and leave my boy a comment. You can always catch up with S. Rob on Twitter: @S_Rob127 or on facebook: facebook.com/S.RobFraternity. This boy is radio ready!

I love #DATDAM S. Rob & Fraternity Music.

OMG!!! Lauryn Hill sings Lost One over Drake/Timbaland's Say Something

2010-06-30T20:17:00.001-04:00

Thanks to my friend, S. Rob of Fraternity Music Productions, I found this one. Enjoy because who knows when we'll see her surface again.

Phenomenal! I love #DatDamn Lauryn Hill!

Of EPIC proportion...

2010-06-29T06:05:00.013-04:00

Your hear legendary tails of epic being released in ones life time and of course this generation believed Star Wars was just that. But I must say that with all the talk, the realized hype and creative directing, visionary scripts; I have been bewitched by HARRY POTTER from the very first movie, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone (known to the rest of the world as Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone.) I say movie and not book because although I read all three volumes of Lord Of The Rings before I saw the first movie installment, I refused to read Harry Potter only because, well dare I say it, that is just for kids. How wrong was I.

And now several movies later, totally caught up in all of the "magicry" and the wizardry, I am hooked! I have all the books (still refuse to read them just yet), every movie on DVD and I still watch each installment as it comes on cable. J. K. Rowling has restored my faith in the power of imagination, in addition to my love for black cats. (notice no one in the magic world has a dog. I'm just saying...)

This last leg of the series is in two parts with the first release on November 19, 2010 and the second in July 2011. This is what I call an epic of generational proportion. The Harry Potter legacy is one that not even "Twilight" will replicate. You go J.K.! See you all on November 19!

What's Going On?!

2010-06-24T14:25:00.010-04:00

There have been so many things going on that I have been enjoying life immensely!

This weekend I had the pleasure of being part of a birthday celebration. What make this one so special? My dear friend (above)was finally at peace about turning 40(isn't she beautiful?)! and of course I had to ponder that question; what is the big deal about turning 40?

Well let's take a peek...

We live our lives through the lens of celebrities, but here's what they don't tell you, most people do not become a real success until they turn 40. Who? Halle Berry, Katerine Bates, Judy Dench, Denzel Washington, Laurence Fishbourne, Al Pacino, Robert Dinero, Barrack Obama, Bill and Hillary Clinton and many others.

Why? EXPERIENCE and REFLECTION. At 20 you are too busy being grown to worry about your future. During your 30's you are too busy worrying about not messing things up before you turn 40. In you 40's life looks a whole lot fuller and richer. Life tastes better. Life is sexier and passionate. Everything in your world is just better. I can't wait. I guess that's why some of my people could not get what was happening in Sex and the City 2. Life is richer after 40 and way more care free.

I'm next! I am anxiously awaiting my entrance to the 40-40 Club, not the one owned by Jay-Z(although he is a member that refuse to accept it, like so many other rappers) but the one owned by none other than ME!

Do you want to join me this July 31? Then go to my sign up page and get on the list. It promises to be a blast! Proceeds from my event will go to a charity of my choosing.

See you there!

Getting It Right

2010-06-14T18:05:00.004-04:00

I have been wondering for sometime now how to get down to the business of dating. I think I'm finally getting it: you just have to do it!

Now this is for my ladies; we always have a conversation about a guy in our head before we even meet the guy. I am famous for it and I just got hip to why. For me, if I set him up to be less than what I expect if he disappoints no problem that's what I was looking forward to anyway. If he doesn't he is the greatest guy in the universe until I set him up again. The only problem: in the end I lose. I miss out on an opportunity to gain a really great experience.

But there is no sadness here because tonight I GO ON A DATE!!!!!! Yeah for me! and I am duty bound to you all to share the experience of the leg lift. Not sure about what that is? Here's and example:

Ok it's not the leg lift but it definitely the ending we all wish for.

I love DatDamn Romance!

Getting to IT!

2010-06-02T08:58:00.004-04:00

I have been putting off taking lessons for the longest. What am I waiting for? The next millennium? Not any more. I'm GETTING TO IT! This summer, I am having an all out blast! I am learing how to ride a motorcycle! That's it!

I have longed to really get on and ride like the wind. I hear there is nothing like the feeling of being on the open road with nothing between you and the asphalt but space and opportunity. I'm sure in our battle, the asphalt will win every time. But I am still drawn to the ultimate freedom riding a motorcycle can give.

My absolute favorite bike is the BMW. The initials alone have long been a dream of mine and I may not be ready to purchase this year, the plan is set in motion to make it happen.

So when you see the strawberry-blonde, milk chocolate rider zipping along I-40, I-81, I-76, I-10 (get it); shout out "HEY Dat Damn! Keep it moving!" And I surely will oblige!

The Adriatic Sea looks great...

2010-05-15T20:20:00.010-04:00

All I have been hearing since I stated I was going to Greece has been "Greece is Bankrupt!"; "They are in turmoil!"; "Are you really going alone?" A girl does have to think about her safety as well as the adventure. The good thing I have some truly , worldly, tweeps who instantly were able to offer some alternatives.

Welcome to CROATIA! I had thought of Croatia years ago but never really did any digging. But in this recent week I have been able to find out some interesting facts. Croatia has an offering of cheaper accommodations and cuisine than southern France and Italy. It is now as easy to reach as about anywhere else on Europe's southern coastline. July or August is definitely the best time to visit the city and its outlying beaches if you're a fan of sunbathing, with average temperatures of 26 degrees Celsius (78 degrees Fahrenheit) making it one of the sunniest locations in Europe.

Because I am going with a luxury on a budget, Croatia just may fit the bill. Here's another cool fact: I love #DATDAMN Blue Water!

Are they for real?

2010-05-09T09:47:00.008-04:00

I am curvaceous, bold and beautiful. I love it and I love me in a way I have not loved me before. So, world watch out! The new Diva's are here and we don't mess around. I guess prime time is just not ready...

Well, they need to get it together - FOX & ABC. Television is not for the pixies anymore. Get ready; CURVES ARE BACK! Real Women, Real Sizes!

We love DatDamnCurves!

It's Sexy, Sexy Sexy!

2010-04-21T05:35:00.008-04:00

Yes the sexiest thing one can do is hold a conversation. Very simple, just not as easy.

I was in a conversation with a person so dear to me it isn't funny. I feel that most times he just doesn't get me or even better, hear me. He doesn't see who I am now, just who I have been. I guess it always takes time for those closest to you to get it. I am in to the possibility of having open communication, love and responsibility.

I have a lot of passionate people in my life and it can be draining. The long debates and massaging of egos, my Lord! I am often exhausted.(I love my family and friends dearly, hence the passionate part.) But for the most part it is INVIGORATING. When we are all in the ZONE, it is a blast and everyone is just pure joy. We move mountains together with no effort. Now, I am mover on my own and that is not all that I want. It is just a piece of the puzzle.

With out going into detail; to my love, my joy , my Boobie; we are artists. We are the canvas. It will take time for us to chip away at the excess marble to create the masterpiece hidden with in but once found it will last forever.

All great works do!

We are Dat Damn Love!

What if all of this was made up?

2010-04-20T13:41:00.012-04:00

Do you ever get the feeling that some one is writing the story to your life and you are just the fill in or the stunt double taking all the blows? Do you ever get the good stuff? When is your luck going to change? When will you find that FANTASTIC partner? When? When? WHENNNN?!!!

What if I told you a secret, would you keep it? Or would you share the AMAZING news with someone else? EVERYONE else? Wouldn't be much of a secret, now would it? But that's how we play life, like a diluted watered down statement. We rarely take it on as a juicy treasure that is meant to be cherished.

What if I told you I know how to get the good STUFF?! I mean the juicy sweetness that you can't wait to take a bite of and share with no one! Yep, I know what it is and I really do wan to keep it to myself but I have to share it with you.

Here it is.The secret to having it all and creating a life most people would envy is ... JUST GO DO IT AND STOP WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO GIVE IT TO YOU! You can have anything you want if you plan for it and take action on it by honoring your word of doing what you said you will do by when you will do it. Simple.

It took me 8 trillion years to get it and now it will take me 88 trillion years to live it. Guess what you should do the same.

By the way, did I tell you I was going to GREECE?

Isn't Life beautiful?! I LOVE adventure!!!