http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/ Wisdom Inspired By Life en-US Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:54:27 -0500 http://www.typepad.com/ http://www.rssboard.org/rss-specification http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/11/release-your-inner-superstar.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/11/release-your-inner-superstar.html Release your inner superstar. Dig deep inside of your soul and pull out all the passion and ambition you need to reignite your journey in life. Every one of us has something special about us. It's not just one thing but also many things that makes us unique. Find inspiration within yourself to motivate you towards greatness. This world in large enough for everyone who wants to be a superstar to be one. If you don't believe that, just take a moment and think about social media. It's one tool you can use to showcase your special talents and learned skills. But that's all it is, a tool. The talent and passion is authentic and must come from within. Without you locating and identifying that first, the platform to showcase it all doesn't exist to you. What is it that you are passionate about? What allows you to do the most good for the most people while lessening the harm to yourself? Now, remove all fear and imagine your days being filled with these activities. Are you smiling? Good. Use that feeling of gain to motivate you towards that lifestyle. You deserve it. You weren't put on this earth to suffer. No matter what kind of days you've experienced in life, good or bad, you weren't put here to suffer. Life may not be perfect... Human Behaviour Lifestyle Thoughts Inspired By Tea Jamara Wilson Thu, 05 Nov 2015 20:54:27 -0500 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/10/wisdom-wednesday-desire-gain-over-pain.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/10/wisdom-wednesday-desire-gain-over-pain.html Have you ever wanted something so bad that you feared losing it more than going after it? The other day while reading I was reminded of loss aversion. Loss aversion says that our desire to avoid pain or loss is stronger than our desire to go after joy or gain. Don't be one to prove this theory correct. Beat the odds. Desire gain over pain. If something you want is challenging you or difficult to get let success fuel you into accomplishing it. Allowing the fear of not succeeding or losing the battle will weaken your passion. Weakening your passion will lessen your chance of a favorable result. Are you thinking of applying for that new position at work? Go for it. What do you have to lose, not receiving a promotion? Maybe. If that's the outcome then you look at the glass half full. You will still have a job. Do you want to start your own business but afraid of failing at it? That's a valid concern but go for it anyways. The knowledge and experience you will gain in the process will be well worth it. You have to push yourself pass your fears. Your desire to "fight to win" needs to be greater than your fear of losing. Shared over a cup of tea, ...From My Thoughts To Yours, Jamara Human Behaviour ~Wisdom Wednesdays... Jamara Wilson Wed, 28 Oct 2015 14:26:28 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/10/if-it-concerns-you-then-you-can-change-it.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/10/if-it-concerns-you-then-you-can-change-it.html The last few weeks have gone by fast. There have been long days and short weeks. The thing is, I know this is only the beginning of this phase in my life. I've spoken with some of my friends and they feel the same way. Like myself, some of my friends are entrepreneurs and live untraditional lives. "Girl, I don't even want to talk about today. I'd rather not unload on you right now because it won't change a thing." One of my friends said that to me last week. We were discussing the events that led up to how we were feeling by the end of that week. Exhausted. We were at a place where we wanted to complain. Then I said, "No, I totally get it. But if it concerns you, then let's talk about the thing that we can change about it." She laughed and said, "Oh Jamara." I watch a lot of TD Jakes. His messages inspire me. A few weeks ago while listening to one of his messages he said, "If it concerns you then you can change it." Those words in that order stuck with me. If something concerns me enough where I'm voicing my opinion, uttering a complaint, or if it's maintaining my attention then I can change how it effects me. If something matters enough to you,... Human Behaviour Lifestyle Jamara Wilson Sun, 25 Oct 2015 20:13:16 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/09/wisdom-wednesday-have-a-hold-of-your-time.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/09/wisdom-wednesday-have-a-hold-of-your-time.html Over a year ago I started to be a real stickler about what I do with my time and whom I spend my time with. My weeks are filled with a number of professional and personal obligations that I've committed to by choice. Sometimes, I fall short of getting all of the things that I wanted to get done during any given week, even when I've maximized the productivity in my days. I'm an introvert. On top of all things that I've committed to, one thing I never go without is my alone time. Personal time with myself is rejuvenating. "You can't make time; so those who waste the least, achieve the most." - Tim Fargo Your time is valuable and irreplaceable. Have a hold of your time. Use it where it's most effective and will yield the highest return. Professionally, consider prioritizing your tasks and only attending events that will allow for authentic professional development. Avoid spending 2 hours in a meeting that only needed to be 1 hour. In your personal life, try to avoid vain conversations. In a previous post, Speak With a Purpose, I go into more details about this. Instead of losing your time, try investing it. Spend quality time with friends, family, and your companion to build stronger and healthier relationships. Don't allow anyone or too much of any... Leadership ~Wisdom Wednesdays... Jamara Wilson Wed, 02 Sep 2015 19:41:10 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/08/dont-underestimate-a-friendship.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/08/dont-underestimate-a-friendship.html I hadn't seen one of my best friends in months. The other day I traveled to Washington DC to visit and catch up on some much needed face-to-face girls time. As always, we have sincere, transparent, and open communication about life. During one of our conversations we talked about the accountability of friendship. Whose responsibility is it to maintain a friendship? If you are usually the initiator, should you remain the initiator? If you stop being the initiator would there still be a friendship or would it fall by the wayside? Friendship, in its true meaning, is a beautiful and precious thing. Don't take advantage or underestimate the inspiration, motivation, and necessity of friendship. Friendship is a two-way commitment just like any other type of relationship. Reciprocity is required otherwise the friendship isn't mutual. It's quite possible for you to call someone a friend but them not consider you a friend. The responsibility and accountability of a friendship must be shared. Yes, it is work. But it's work that comes natural between people who value each other. There is a level of vulnerability involved in friendships. Putting in the work required to maintain a friendship protects someone from the disappointment or hurt that can come from being vulnerable. It's something that can be done through humility. If your friend is usually the one who initiates... Lifestyle Relationships Jamara Wilson Fri, 28 Aug 2015 17:24:20 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/08/delay-doesnt-always-mean-denial.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/08/delay-doesnt-always-mean-denial.html Sometimes you find yourself right where you need to be. That happened to me the other night. I spent my Friday night listening to much needed food for my spirit. I attended my church's Ladies Night Out service and left with the energy I needed to kick into a higher gear. A lot of things were said that night. Great messages that not only encouraged people but edified them as well. I took in everything. Overall the service reminded me of something I know very well. That is, just because you are delayed something, doesn't mean you have been denied it. Perseverance, faith, and patience are much needed ingredients in this journey of life. Sometimes we mistake delayed responses for being denied something. I've been guilty of it. A matter of fact, I was sadly reminded that my behaviors communicated that not that long ago. I was being impatient. Mistaken delayed responses for denial can happen in different areas of our lives. Waiting for an email after submitting your resume, a phone call after applying for a loan, a text response from your companion, lab results from tests, or even waiting long for a return call from a friend can all take more time than you like. The list goes on. All of these situations can evoke uncertainty or hesitation if you allow it. Don't... Human Behaviour Lifestyle Jamara Wilson Sun, 23 Aug 2015 20:05:30 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/08/you-can-have-it-all.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/08/you-can-have-it-all.html Have you ever had a moment where you measured the current status of your life next to the list of things you wanted out of life? I'm not talking about comparing your life with others, I'm talking about comparing your current life to what it was and what you would like for it to be. Perhaps, that moment came after a success or even a disappointment. After that you asked yourself, "Can I have it all?" Having it all is defined differently by individuals. One person may define "all" as having a spouse, family, and career. Where as someone else definition of "all" is having a lifestyle filled with wealth and fame. Whatever it is you that want out of life I believe you can have it. The challenge is being able to clearly define your definition of "all' and how you want for it to look in your life. How you measure having it all to what it is you want with what it is you actually have is subjective to your desired lifestyle. This clicked with me years ago after I experienced a huge disappointment in my life. You see, I'm a risk taker. I have a high level of faith and because of that I'm willing to do things others may not and in an unconventional way. This allowed me to learn... Human Behaviour Lifestyle Jamara Wilson Tue, 18 Aug 2015 19:15:12 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/07/7-reasons-whyi-love-tea.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/07/7-reasons-whyi-love-tea.html I'm sitting here in front of my Mac with my hands wrapped around a warm cup of tea. I was thinking of what I wanted to write about in this post. Then it hit me, why not write about why I love tea. I'm inspired by tea. My friends know how much I enjoy it. I always start and end my day with a cup of tea. It doesn't matter how early or late, it's routine for me. There are plenty of reasons, big and small, of why I love tea. Here are seven of them. 1. It's Spa in a Cup - Have you ever gotten home from late in the evening and the only thing you wanted to do was sit in a hot tub of water and allow the bubbles to massage your body? That's what a warm cup of tea does for me after a long day filled with work. It gives me the feeling and sensation of being in a spa. It caters to everything in body while relaxing it. 2. Longer Satisfaction - When you drink a cup of coffee the warmth of the beverage seems to not last long. However, the heat from a cup of tea lasts much longer. The satisfaction it gives seems more than temporary. The joy you experience goes beyond a sip and a... 7 Reasons Why... Thoughts Inspired By Tea Jamara Wilson Tue, 28 Jul 2015 00:02:05 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/07/wisdom-wednesdaydont-judge-someone-for-their-choices.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/07/wisdom-wednesdaydont-judge-someone-for-their-choices.html I'm a huge fan of Germany Kent's quotes. They are filled with wisdom and insight. Her quotes subtly encourages you take a moment to self reflect. Sometimes, if you are guilty of the message it brings about conviction. Conviction then usually brings about change. One of my favorite quotes by her is "Don't judge someone for their choices when you don't understand their reasons" - Germany Kent Often times we have an innate ability to judge others by the things they do, say, or even wear. I like to call it human. I think everyone judges at some point in time or another but it's what we do with those thoughts that matter. It's easy to judge when you don't know a person's story. Even when you don't know the story, giving thought to why they've made the choices they did shows maturity and empathy. Take a few moments to understand why those choices were made. Reflect on personal choices you've made. Do you remember the time when someone made their own conclusion about your life but had never met you? We've all had that moment. I'm often judge by my natural state to observe when in new surroundings or unfamiliar people. In the beginning of all new relationships I'm social, but reserved. Some have thought I was too serious or not fun. They've later... Human Behaviour ~Wisdom Wednesdays... Jamara Wilson Wed, 22 Jul 2015 18:55:59 -0400 http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/07/rest-in-what-you-know.html http://www.hismajestyfavorite.com/2015/07/rest-in-what-you-know.html How many times have you dealt with the challenge of making decisions on what you feel? Usually that "feeling" exists because you have doubt about what you "know" you should do. If we allow our emotions to always lead our decision then there will be times when we will make an unfavorable decision. While I believe there are times when you have to trust what you feel because your spirit knows what you may not, making the right decisions based on what you "know" will always be favorable. I challenge you to line the two up. There was a time when I was challenged with this task. I'm a very passionate person and sometimes that passion was misunderstood. I made decisions based on my emotions. Although I knew otherwise, I chose to mostly follow what I felt. When in fact, that wasn't always the right thing to do. Until you grow to a place where you can identify your emotions and then understand where those emotions are coming from, you will not know when to make decisions based on them. Until that happens, use wisdom in resting in what you know. You feel like your friend is ignoring your phone call. You know your friend has a meeting with a very important client today. You feel like your companion is upset with you because they've... Human Behaviour Relationships Jamara Wilson Fri, 17 Jul 2015 12:43:33 -0400