Home Management Blog

On-Line Earning, Yeah Right!

2007-06-07T11:49:00.001-07:00

One recent study that I've read about in some American papers claims that annual housewife work totals to incredible $130,000. They state that, on average, housewife works for 92 hours a week (kids, household, weekends that are all but weekends). I recognized myself in that article easily, but I frequently think that it isn't enough because I don't get any cash into our home.

So, like many others before me, I got an idea to find some job that would allow me to do my usual routine, to have flexible working hours etc. First thing that came to my mind was to do something on-line. I have all technical stuff needed: cable modem, typing skills, good will and kids approval to use our PC for a few hours a day.

But... it's not that simple. First, I've stumbled over some ads that promise amazing income ($100, $500 and even $1000 a day), with all big capital letters. Only, at the bottom of these ads they ask you to "pay only $49.95" in order to work for them. Needles to say, my goal is to work for money, not to pay to work. If I could spend $50 like that, why would I need a job in the first place?

Next, I went on to read some on-line forums where I found out that most of such offers are frauds, that they pay much less than agreed, or they don't pay at all or they label you as a cheater and claim back your earnings. And you can't trace them at all.

I couldn't believe all this. I spent hours browsing a number of sites, getting annoyed, and all it came down to were just three offers where I've signed up, hoping it would turn out good. Time will tell if my judgement was right. Other offers I've skipped because I don't want my PC to get infected by viruses or spyware and I also think my time is much too valuable to be wasted.

In next post, I'll explain how I did all this. I might be wrong, but everything seems so shady. I don't want to get burned.

Tame Mother-In-Law Recipe

2007-02-12T12:09:00.000-08:00

My dear ladies, on the very day we vow eternal love, fidelity and other stuff to our dear husband, we are not vowing only to him. Like it or not, we get one whole family in the package. With our mother-in-law at the helm. You can't live with her and you can't live without her.

I am proud to be among the lucky ones who found common ground with mother-in-law. There were brief moment of weighing willpower but.. we realized that it's better to collaborate. I can't say it's all nice. There are disagreements but nothing that morning coffee can't mend. Just for the record - we live under one roof.

I know there are many women who wage wars with mother-in-law years after the marriage. Why is that? Because she knows that she's not number one on his list. She feels threatened. Mother is scared that another woman will take care of her offspring and she will fail to hide the habit to control him.

All in all, such situations can be nerve wracking. But, try to put yourself in her shoes. Not all those mother-in-laws are bad and evil. They just can't handle the situation by themselves. They are aware that they jeopardize her son's marriage and they are pretty stressed about it. It's something stronger then them.

Here are few rules to make yours and hers lives easier:

1. Call her "mom": As dumb as it looks like, it will impress her and you'll score your first points with her immediately. I handled mine by calling her with only her name.

2. Call her on the phone: You don't need a reason to call her, it's enough to ask how she is doing. You shouldn't waste hours talking and gossiping. Keep it to the basics (how is she, how kids are fine etc...) It's not hard, imagine you have to see her very day, like myself. And I'm not complaining.

3. Don't criticize your husband in front of your mother-in-law: Be aware that she'll always take his side, no matter if he is right or not. That way you could humiliate him in front of his mother and her parenting skills will be questioned. Criticism is allowed only when you tame your mother-in-law. Even then, think twice what and when you'll say. You must not offend her!

4. I love my cuisine and respect hers: They are sensitive about that. Every woman has her own way of preparing food, so there are differences in this case, too. I was immediately open for her comments about how our meals are different and that some stuff she makes is better than mine. There is a trick also. I told her that I would love to taste her specialty and that I would love to have that recipe. That way everybody is happy and content and I still have my own way. I only use her recipes when she comes to lunch.

5. Grandchildren: As much as her views irritate you, try to maintain friendly relationship. She's still the mother of a man you married. Eventually, you'll have someone to watch for your kids. Who will better spoil them if not granny (candy before lunch and all those wonderful things we all grew up with)

If all else fails and you have a problem with your mother-in-law, don't argue with her but address your husband to take care of it. No woman should disturb your marriage, not even your husbands mother. Before any drastic measures try not to be the cause of the bad relationships. A little patience and it should work out.

Guide To Success On a Date

2007-02-10T11:15:00.000-08:00

Valentine's Day is nearing. This post is for all of those who are still alone and don't want to be. Until now, I've wrote about what not to do on a first date. Change of tune - here are some tips how to succeed. (This is the last time, I promise!)

1. Be cool: It's very important to be relaxed. If you are always thinking about how you need a partner right away, you won't do much, because every object of your attention will feel the tension.

2. Choose a place: Before you go to action, think what king of person you would like to meet and pick appropriate place for it. Don't look for subtle charmer at a whacky party or party girl at the museum.

3. Smile: Smile and only smile is the most important rule. Of course, be natural. That way, you signal you affection and that you are ready to flirt.

4. Make eye contact: Look through your eyelashes is ideal introduction to flirting. Eye contact is a base of every courting.

5. Surprise your partner with something sweet: Date in a pastry shop can be fun. More direct approach is allowed, too. Go to object of your interest with two ice creams in hands. Who can resist that?

6. Be active: Go out as often as you can: in a park, bar or pool. You'll find people ready to flirt in such places.

7. Show interest: During conversation with that important person, occasionally repeat words which that person spoke. That way you show your interest in what that person speaks and that you carefully listen.

8. Use their name: Try to use the name of the person you are flirting with several times during conversation because you express rapport.

9. Dress properly: Cheerful and colorful outfit can help you to win over the person you are attracted to. It doesn't mean you should look like parrot, though.

10. Buy some flowers: This old trick always works: go to nearest flower shop and gladden us with colorful bouquet.

And now, let's nail down what we learned in previous posts...

5 ways NOT to flirt

1. Avoid old jokes: Don't start flirting with old courting jokes. You won't attract anyone with them and probably do more damage to your chances.

2. Don't insist on telephone number: Instead of persistent and unsuccessful efforts to make that interesting person give away cell phone number, better give yours. If that person is interested you won't wait for long for that SMS. Besides, it is good to turn off your phone during flirting because frequent ringing will be a distraction.

3. Don't talk too much: Two way communication is neccessary during the flirt. It means that you are not the only one who should talk but let the other side speak their minds. If you talk all the time we will loose the interest.

4. Avoid "scanning": Eye contact is welcome but not eye scanning. Women are very sensitive to men's heat to toe looks.

5. Go easy: Don't impose yourselves. Avoid "attacks" on a first date.

Enough of me for now and GOOD LUCK!

Ten Reasons Why Men Enjoy Sex MoreThan Women

2007-02-09T12:54:00.000-08:00

My dear fellow women, here is a list of ten reasons why opposite sex enjoys lovemaking more than we do.

Bare in mind that I'm referring to healthy man of appropriate age.

1. They always have an orgasm, and that strengthens their self-consciousness. With us, some other things strengthen self-consciousness and orgasm is at the bottom half of the list.

2. Men pursue clear goals in sexual relationships; as initiatory side in a game of love, they want orgasm; small number of men will stop the act before their satisfaction.

3. They are more daring - most of them fulfills their fantasies and dreams (we are ashamed even of ourselves).

4. They can suppress their feelings and, because of that, they can have an intercourse even when they are not feeling anything towards their partners (they will even promise you a marriage before it, and then...)

5. They benefit on health plan (you know, prostate and stuff...)

6. They almost don't need a foreplay; if both their heads are willing, man can jump right into the action in a matter of seconds (and we need proper alignment of stars and other things)

7. They don't stop half-way through; when their erotic machines steam up nothing will drive off their course.

8. They don't care how they look. Women can be inhibited in bed when confronted to their flaws, and men don't give a dime how they look (they don't mind their nice big bellies while we have thorough preparations before the act. They don't think about that - they have one thing in mind)

9. They almost always want sex - while women can do fine for weeks without sex, men must be active few days a week.

10. They are less demanding - they are easily satisfied.

Now you can understand men better. You could feel a relief after reading this. I believe that we can learn a lot from them. Overall, I also believe that we are not so indifferent towards sex - they are far too active.

First Date Through Women's Eyes

2007-02-08T12:43:00.000-08:00

I already wrote about this subject in posts "10 Things Women Don't Want to Hear On a First Date" and "What Women Ask Themselves on a First Date".

Here are some things you should show off on a first date.

1. Self confidence: You need to show that you are a man with a goal in his life. We look for a man who can provide to our family and take care of our kids. Rich, educated and ambitious fare the best. Even if you are not in these categories you should radiate self confidence anyway.

2. Your buddies: When in group men tend to behave like children. That's a turn-off. They compete with each other, try to say something faster, funnier and ruder than others. Women feel like they are from another planet in such company. No, don't abandon your friends but when on a date stay away from the pack.

3. Manners: To get a full picture about you, we will watch how you contact other people. Did you gave a small tip to the waiter? You're cheap. Did you make fun about fat man in the corner? You are rude. Did you hold the door to older lady? You are cool and she'll like you right away.

4. Money handling: It speaks volumes about you - and not just how you spend it. Wallet full of unordered bills - you are irresponsible. Fat roll of cash outside of wallet - you are showing off your wealth. Elegant leather wallet - you have both cash and style.

5. Call and action: To be more specific - your reaction to our subtle call. We are the ones who make a first move in most of the situations. Movement, smile, firm look... It's your move so watch your step. If you try to take initiative before the call, you are jeopardizing your chances of success.

I hope I've helped a bit with this post. If you have any suggestions please leave a comment to this post. All "naughty" comments are welcome, of course, but some might not get published...

How To Educate Your Kid About Sex

2007-02-02T14:06:00.000-08:00

My older daughter is almost 12. She is growing up and her interests change. One new topic for her is sex.

One time we started talking about sex and I discovered that kids in that age already discuss it but no one really has a clue. They are guessing and making up theories which are mostly wrong.

Adults think that younger generations know a lot about sex - they watch movies, they take sexual education classes in schools, they read magazines. Still a lot of answers can't be found that way and adults should help. This is how it should be:

1. Shyness: Don't impose this subject to your kid. Kid should find a time and place to pop the question. It's important to let them know we're available and open for such conversations. Only if you suspect there's something going on which is improper to their age, you should interfere and help them handle that situation.

2. Contraceptives: If you give enough information to your kids about contraception chances are they will use them when they grow up.

3. Values: Don't give yes/no answers with bare facts. You should explain about tenderness, love, security and loyalty. They need solid foundations for sexual relationships.

4. Privacy: Don't read their diaries, e-mails and don't eavesdrop their phone conversations. That will lead to loss of confidence in you. For kids in that age, it's important to have someone they can talk to. It's better to talk first then to make mistakes.

How To Avoid Arguments With Kids

2007-01-31T13:22:00.000-08:00

Are you familiar with situations when you say one thing and your kid wants the other? I go through this every day. I can say I'm fully qualified master of arguments...

My kids often use "exhaustion of opponent" tactics, and that opponent would be me. They demand something multiple times even if my first answer is negative. Especially my younger daughter. She enters the argument very prepared, with all guns blazing and disregarding all opposing arguments.

I do my best to stick to my first decision. I give answers which contain both my decision and a reason behind that decision thus leaving no space for misunderstanding. As soon as kids recognize hesitation in your voice - you are doomed. Then they attack with all available weapons including tears and blackmail...

To avoid these situations I defined three kinds of bans:
1. negotiable things (first the kid has to do something)
2. non-negotiable things (they know that even tears wouldn't help)
3. mid-negotiable things (on which I don't insist too much, like bedtime and PC usage)

Sometimes I don't have time or will to listen to their "strong" reasoning but nevertheless I'm fascinated with the way they present their arguments. They mastered basic diplomatic principles at such young age. That's the main reason why I emphasize discussions where they can understand my opposition.

One thing I know for sure: they are getting better at this every day. That's why I keep in shape...

How To Refresh Your Sex Life - Dedicated To Women

2007-01-29T11:46:00.000-08:00

Here are some tips for women to freshen up their love life.

1. Treat him like you just met (it will be interesting)
2. Be gentle outside of bedroom (kiss or touch)
3. Make a date with him, even if it's a short walk (romantic)
4. Talk, but listen (they have something to say, too, you know)
5. Be aware of his sexual desires and needs
6. Dress up (you'll feel sexier and more desirable)
7. Think about bed boredom like a temporary state, not permanent
8. Deal with all conflicts you might have with him because even the smallest ones are bad for sex life
9. Laugh together (laughter is the best aphrodisiac)
10. Be daring and imaginative (men love that)
11. Exercise together (that can get "things" going)
12. If you smoke, don't. It's bad for sex. It's bad for everything, for that matter.
13. Watch your body weight (it can hamper both you and him)

These are pretty common sense tips - you don't have to go to the extremes to be satisfied with your love life.

Three Rules For Pupils Parents

2007-01-28T12:12:00.000-08:00

My older daughter is in fifth grade. There weren't many problems with studying but sometimes she needs some stimulation.

1. Learn with the kid: From the first day in school I tried to keep up. Starting with alphabet, math basics to vegetative organs of plants. I try to find out about interesting things that go on in school, we go through her notes and books, discuss lessons... Kids in that age appreciate parents interest in what they do.

2. Learning through games: We browse dictionaries for unknown words. It isn't important if you know the word yourself - it's very interesting for your kid. We play "geography" game, where I suggest a letter from the alphabet and she remembers the names of states, rivers and mountains that start with that letter. We read newspapers together and discuss whatever grabs her attention.

3. Rest: We allocated two hours for serious learning sessions and homework, one hour for recreation (skating, roller skating, bicycle riding...) and the rest of the time is her own. My daughter agreed with that arrangement. She figured out that when she is finished studying she can freely do whatever she wants later.

My way works and the grades in school prove it. You can also try it!

Successful Marriage Tutorial

2007-01-28T11:55:00.000-08:00

There are experts to teach you about marriage. I'll post about some things which matter to me and which are invaluable for my marriage.

1. We talk about everything: That way we get to know each other a little bit more each day; though I believe I know very much about my husband.

2. Respect: Respect is one of deepest human desires. I think that respect isn't something that is assumed. I try hard to show him respect every day by thanking him, commending and acknowledging him.

3. Discussion: We can argue but never alienate. Harsh words and yelling are not the answer. When there is argument - we discuss it.

4. Romance: Listening to the music is a good way to start your emotions. There is always a tune which reminds me about my husband and lovely moments spent with him.

5. Individuality: I'm aware that we are two separate beings and different in many aspects. I don't think it's wise to designate just one person for your own happiness. I try to be pleased with myself, to be responsible for my actions and finally for my happiness. My husband is there to make my life better.

These are my basic principles of successful marriage. You need to find your own solution and I hope these tips help.

How to Recognize Women You Should Stay Away From

2007-01-19T14:04:00.000-08:00

You too can learn how to recognize various types of women in five minutes.

This is my recapitulation of things I've heard about women from men. My suggestion is to mix all types, stir well and get the ideal combination. There is some of each type in all women! I believe that men do not learn even from their own experience. They think that things will come out differently with the same type of women. Well - they won't.

1. Feminist: "Men are guilty for all wrongs in this world. All men should change sex. Women are divine beings and men aren't." This type thinks that women would make a heaven on Earth only if men would allow them. They are easily recognized by stating that "man think with his little head."

(Whenever you disappoint us we turn into this type)

2. Materialist: They are interested in the depth of men's wallets. They think that they should be financially supported just because they are female. Only real interest is to get what she wants. Some of the nicest girls are the greediest.

(This is due to old habits from stone age)

3. Insecure: These women are very nice at the beginning of the relationship. She's so kind and gentle and she pleases her man. But... soon she starts calling ten times a day just to hear his voice. She needs constant reaffirmation. She needs to be pretty, her hair style is very important and her looks, too. She is in constant fear of rejection. She is afraid of competition.

(It tends to be dull)

4. Romantic: Mom's princess doesn't want to live in a world of unpaid bills and dirty bathrooms. She needs constant care and she is not creative in bed. Run away!

(We are raised with the story about the prince charming)

5. Angry: She is not satisfied, always grumpy and gloomy... They are not nice and they mistreat everyone close to her. They take care only about themselves and don't care who they hurt. They are recognizable by sour look on their face and nice outfits.

(All women are in this category when they have PMS)

6. Spoiled: She is a close relative of "Angry", focused only on herself. She should be the center of the universe. Narcissist.

(Men are to blame for the existence of this kind)

7. Marrying kind: All her friends are married and she's desperate. She doesn't care who is her man and what he does - as long as he takes her to the altar.

(Every woman wants this no matter how much she declines it)

8. Giddily: Expert in manipulation of men. She says only what men love to hear until she makes her catch and then... painful sobering is imminent. She turns into "Greedy" type overnight with the sole purpose of domination over her man.

(Women are "weaker" sex and they should use their advantages in other areas)

9. Flirt: Men spot her miles away because she hunts everything in trousers. She's very proud to be men magnet. She is not loyal and just wants men's attention.

(Men love them, too!)

You were warned!

Creating Kid's Working Habits

2007-01-17T13:50:00.000-08:00

Working habits are very important, especially when your kid starts going to school. Because of that, I started preparing my kids at very young age.

1. Helping kids to organize themselves: I made a mistake because I let them organize themselves. I relized that the kid's priorities are "a little bit" different then those of grown-ups. They want to write a diary to call their friends... Studying was the last on their list. When we realized that grades are not as good as they should be we made a different listo of priorities.

2. List of duties: We made clear what are the priorities. Then we have put that on paper and made that paper visible in their room. There were problems at the beginning for them to fulfill all that was written. They tried to trick me but I was persistent. And stronger. Now, everyting is fine.

3. Studying corner: Studying corner is for studying and for putting away things for school. In drawers of my older kid there were a buch of stuff besides school items. Pictures of Brad Pitt, broken toys, empty bags of chips and chocolates. At first I just warned her to clean that up and when that didn't work I changed approach. I deliberately entered her room while she was in. I started cleanding her desk. In the process I "incidentally" stumbled across private diaries, pieces of papers with names of her friends etc. Then she realized that it's much better for her to clean up herself. Then the secrets reamin secrets.

4. Place to put toys away: At first, toys were scattered all acros thir room. And I mean ALL acrros their room. I was a feat to walk through their room at night and not step on any toy and make loud noises. Putting the toys away made it to the list of priorities. They must put away all toys before going to bed. They put their toys in a closet. To keep order in that closet is too much to ask, though.

5. Cleaning day: Once a month, a whole family gathers in our kid's room and clean up. All toys that are broken beyond repair go to garbage can. We also try to classify the toys. It's not important that toys are mixed up by the evening.

6. Keeping schedule: Lunch is at 1 PM, studying from 2 PM to 4 PM etc. Kids learn to manage their time when they have fixed schedule. This schedule also gives them selfconfidence which is very important for kids.

7. Praise: I commend all cooperation attempts coming from my kids, no matter how small they are. It means a lot to them because they are helping their mom. There is hope that someday it will become a habit for them.

All in all, this is my way of raising kids. I'll be glad if this post is of any help to you.

Situations When Women Agree to Sex, Guaranteed

2007-01-13T06:13:00.000-08:00

Are you familiar with "Not now dear, I have a headache..." phrase?

There are many excuses but there are also many situations when women wants sex.

1. After argument: There are times when everybody snaps and says things in anger. There are usually the tears involved. When something like that happens the best way to make up is a little tenderness...

2. Moments of extreme happiness: Getting a job, bigger paycheck, diploma or similar creates positive energy. Celebrate those occasions together and channel this energy to love making.

3. Stress: When we go crazy due to pressure or stress, the best cure is sex. After making love, nothing seems so tough. The same goes with headaches - it's mended with sex, too. It stimulates blood vessels.

4. Moderate jealousy: Situations when other woman is "looking" at your man is a challenge. Then we feel the urge to prove him why he picked us from all others.

5. A bit of alcohol: It doesn't mean drinking by gallons. A lot of booze will do the opposite - we'll probably fall asleep or something. One or two glasses, a bit of fooling around and...

6. Hot scenes: Not many women likes to watch "pr0n", but a hot movie scene with Antonio Banderas from your DVD collection would do the trick.

7. Long distance relationships: It's a known fact that most relationships can grow stronger with a bit of separation. If you are not separated - pretend that you are. Don't see each other for a couple of days and the result will probably be good.

8. After abstinence: Abstinence implies no sex - you can stop at kissing and fondling for a few days. After that, the storm is imminent.

9. A bit of creativity: Women can be creative in many areas. Kitchen is also a creative environment for women so you should keep this in mind. In midst of a struggle with pots and pans, surprise her - and do "9 1/2 Weeks".

In any case - the best way to know the right moment is to feel it for yourself.

What Women Wants

2007-01-12T00:19:00.000-08:00

What kind of a man women dream of...

1. Romantic: holding hands, flower, candy. Gentle, one who can listen to a woman, generous with compliments and that he can show love.

2. Self confident: but not arrogant. Someone not too jealous, someone not searching for certification of his qualities from opposite sex. Some witty but not pushy.

3. Artist: someone who lives for the moment, who didn't forget how to court, who can write a song. Every woman wants to be a muse, to feel special and unique.

4. Boy: not literally. Someone with charisma, wit, a mix of a five years old boy and grown up man, someone who knows that women are curious and doesn't stick to the rules all the time.

5. Gentleman: someone who hasn't forgotten about old ways. Someone who wants to hold your coat, open a door, light a cigarette. Who pays the bills and asks for a dessert. Comes to pick us up and at the end of the date brings us back to the door. Especially if we have an ex "bad guy". Every women wants a gentleman eventually.

In any case, don't feel too extreme while reading this. And don't pretend. We will know, Look inside yourself and you will find some of the listed types.

No Human Rights For Parents

2007-01-07T09:34:00.000-08:00

Here is a list of lost human rights of contemporary parents. List is based on excellent book by Irena Tiodirovic.

1. Right to sleep

Don't let your child to impose sleeping rhythm, you should do that.
Whenever your child goes to sleep you should get some rest, too.
Don't disturb your kid during sleep.

2. Right to regular meals

You should throw leftovers in trash, not in you.
Teach your child to like meals that it doesn't.
When kids go to sleep, have a romantic dinner with your spouse with wine and candles.
Go to fancy restaurant without kids.

3. Right to go to toilet

Wait until kids fall asleep.
Wear a diaper.
Put kids into a bath tub to keep an eye on them.

4. Right to physical integrity

Don't take a nap after lunch (it's not healthy and can hurt).
Become a vegetarian.

5. Right to personal time

Let your kids organize your free time.
Don't even think about time off.

6. Right to remote control

Wear a remote attached to a string around your neck.
Don't watch TV (it's healthier - physically and mentally).
Meet Spiderman and everything will be easier.

7. Right to tell little lies

Say the truth even when you are not comfortable.
Never tell lies in front of those you educate not to lie.

8. Right to ignorance

Pretend you don't understand the question to get some time.
Say: "Ask daddy." It helps, but can jeopardize the marriage.
Sit and learn.
Respond with a question: "And what do YOU think?" There is a small chance the kid will give up.

9. Right to love

Don't knead the kids with your love
If you really must love, do it without explanations

10. Right to sex

Remember sex. Bed won't squeak while remembering and it's good for the spine.
Abstinence! What you need sex for? After all, you already made the kids.
Book a room in a hotel and meet like lovers. Downside of this approach is that hotel room will cost you as much as a few kids sneakers.

11. Right to insouciance

Stop worrying, everything will be all right!
When you are worrying, remember how tiresome was when your parents were worrying over you.
Don't ever think about what you did as a kid, you will start worrying much more.

12. Right to rest and relaxation

You can try! Who dares - wins!

13. ________________________________________

14. ________________________________________

15. ________________________________________

All this sounds familiar, doesn't it? There are a few numbers intentionally left blank so you can fill them out!

Guide to Recently Broken Relationships

2007-01-06T13:26:00.000-08:00

Love comes and sometimes goes away. When breaking up time comes it's very important how you do it. Woman left alone can sometimes be more dangerous than a hair dryer in a bath tub. Be careful how you break up - it's better to have a friend than foe for life.

First rule is to never tell a woman that you break up by SMS or e-mail. I know it can be awkward but do it in person. If you put a line: "You are OK, it's me who has a problem..." the chances are you will part as friends.

On the other hand, some women can't deal with breaking up. Then there are several options.

First option: Woman wants you back

Breaking up went smoothly, she accepted all of your explanations... and then you get to see her more frequently than before. She hangs out with your friends, wears sexy outfits when you meet, sends you funny messages. What to do?

Ask her for a cup of coffee and repeat all explanations. Don't be rough. If she's even a bit normal it should do the trick.

If she's obsessing then start to avoid her and don't speak to her. You could recommend a psychiatrist or call a police.

Second option: "Friends"

You broke up smoothly but she starts calling you several times a day. She wants to know when is the big game on TV, what are the betting odds, she just found low price spare part for your car... Then you realize that she's even closer to you now then before. What about your new girlfriend?

Well, it's your own fault.

One way is to call a really good friend or an ex to your house and start acting like an Neanderthal. Be careful not to turn this "socializing" into a "Rose War". Women are much more dangerous in this battlefield. You will lose.

Third option: She wants to destroy you

You hear that she's gossiping around from your friends. She uses terms like jerk, hairy idiot... She brings up bedroom troubles with you. She could make things up. Failures in bed, secret fears... She might put up your phone number on every tree in the neighborhood. What now?

1. Wait some time
2. Find a girlfriend who doesn't know your ex
3. Try to gossip for yourself (not recommended)

Fourth option: (the worst) "You will be mine!"

You asked her for a cup of coffee, told her bad news (breaking up), she faintly smiled. Everything looks fine. And then... few days after, you start to receive threatening notes, someone scratched your car...

First thing to do is not to try to understand. By no means, don't pretend it's OK. Ask her family and friends for help. That is if they are sane.

Help her and then gently ask her to leave you alone. It probably should work...

If you can't manage it you can always move to other continent. It's better than some looney, you know!

All in all, think twice before you do something that can make your life miserable. Women are a gentler sex, but... why take chances?

Recipe: "Pizza Roll" Konquers the World By Storm

2006-12-30T12:34:00.000-08:00

Pizza Roll is a great meal and it's easy to prepare. This recipe is for six persons. Preparation time is only 45 minutes.

Ingredients:
500g piecrust
300g ham
500g sliced champignons
300g Gauda cheese
200ml sour cream
200g ketchup
2 eggs
oregano, cooking oil

Preparation:
Cut ham in little squares. Use grater to grate Gauda cheese. Slice the champignons. Mix sour cream with two whole eggs.

Put three slices of piecrust one on the top of the other. You should oil all layers of piecrust separately. Place fourth layer of piecrust on the top. Spread ketchup all over fourth layer. Place another oiled layer of piecrust. Put one half of grated Gauda evenly on piecrust. Place another oiled layer of piecrust. Put one half of prepared ham evenly on the last layer. Another oiled layer on top. Place one half of sliced champignons on that layer. Another layer. Spread this layer with prepared mix of sour cream and eggs.

Repeat all mentioned layers one more time.

Spread ketchup with oregano on the very last layer.

Now roll everything in a loaf-like shape.

Place roll into well oiled casserole, spread rest of sour cream and eggs mix on the roll and sprinkle some oregano on top.

Put it into the well heated oven (200 degrees Celsius) and bake for 30 minutes.

Tip: Roll will be much better if you put it into the fridge overnight.

When roll becomes redden get the casserole out of the oven. Cut roll into 2-3 cm wide slices.

Bon apetit!

What Women Ask Themselves on a First Date

2006-12-28T11:52:00.000-08:00

On a first date, women talk for 80% of time and remaining 20% are reserved for men. Contrary to the popular belief, we actually think about things while we are talking. Here's a list of things we think about on a first date.

1. His wardrobe: How much time he prepared for this meeting with me? First impression is very important to women. It's imperative that he is neatly dressed. Especially on a first date. If you are sloppy, we ask ourselves: "Why we spent two hours dressing up?"

2. Is he depressive: We don't need cry babies. We are the masters of crying. We are supposed to do that, not men. A man should be a man's man. Depression is not allowed.

3. Is he staring at my breasts: Occasional glance at my decolletage is fine but don't overdo it. We need to be looked at as women. If you overdo it, we'll blush and feel uncomfortable.

4. Is he funny: Stupid and old jokes are OK only if you can tell them appropriately. Otherwise, you are a looser.

5. Is he looking like my ex: Everything depends on our experiences with ex boyfriends. So pay attention and don't repeat their mistakes.

6. Is he listening to me: We can get really angry if we notice that a man is not paying attention to what we talk about. Ask a question or two, even if you are bored. It matters a lot to us.

7. Is he generous: We dream about knights on white horses, you know. Don't let your date pay for dinner.

8. Does he understand me: We will talk at length about our wishes, ambitions and other things. You should recapitulate what we said while we are breathing.

9. Does he keep promises: You should show that you are worth the effort, especially if you are close to long term relationship. Don't give empty promises you can't carry out. Talk about something else instead.

I know we are hard sometimes, but that is what you need to deal with. You know you can't live without us!

You can also read about 10 Things Women Don't Want to Hear On a First Date.

What are you thinking about on a first date? Please let me know by posting a comment.

10 Things Women Don't Want to Hear On a First Date

2006-12-28T11:04:00.000-08:00

Since I've been through these things a lot, I decided to spare new generations of women by revealing what you should not say on your first date.

1. Detailed description of your latest illness or operation: We are very squeamish when blood, pain and stink is in question. No women likes to listen about those no matter what kind of "Brad Pitt" you are. This rule is void only if we met in a hospital.

2. Tech-talk: When you start tech-talking, the first thing that comes to mind is: "Either he is playing smart or he wants to make me look dumb." Besides, we probably will not have a clue what you are talking about.

3. Previous relationships: Don't talk about those because we will think that you are not over them yet. Even if you are, we will compare ourselves to her. No woman wants that.

4. Sports: Yes, we heard about Ronaldinho and Tom Brady but we don't discuss Soccer Champions League and NFL. Imagine if you needed to hear about detailed cookies recipe.

5. Travel problems: If you are not Indiana Jones don't bring up this subject. If you start talking about lost luggage at the airport, we will tell you all about bus station hygiene level. Boredom never ends.

6. What you did yesterday: Believe me, this is not very interesting unless you are Jim Carrey and you are just in the middle of making your latest movie and you can make funny faces. You need talent for that. Don't even bother to try!

7. Your car: We don't know engines and carburetors and stuff. There are mechanics for that so we don't need to think about it. I'll make an exception for a Ferrari maybe.

8. Pets: Don't overdo this subject. Just say you have one (or more). We could think that you have problems with relationships with humans.

9. People we don't know: Unless you met the Pope, gossiping about people we don't know will not bring you points. We will think that you are grumpy, desperate or violent when you can talk about that to a complete stranger (us).

10. Sex: Even if we bring up this subject don't talk too much. It's a test! You will give impression that you are desperate, childish, pervert and insecure.

It's a long list. I think you should be able to think of something that is not on this blacklist.

Howto: Cheat Your Wife/Girlfriend

2006-12-27T10:25:00.000-08:00

As you probably know by now, I'm a happily married wife. My husband has never cheated me and I don't encourage cheating by any means.

If you decided to cheat on your partner, at least try to do it the right way.

Here's what you should know before hurting your wife or girlfriend:

1. Don't avoid answering a phone: Don't avoid answering a phone when in company of other lady. They both will figure out that something is happening. First one will go nuts because you reject her calls and the other one will just know. Say it's your mom or someone from work and do a routine conversation.

2. Pick different locations: Dating places should be different to ensure no surprises. Find two favorite restaurants, two parks to hold hands in, and pray not to be caught by other lady.

3. Not in firm or neighborhood: The worst thing you can do is to have both ladies from the same environment. Then you are doomed for sure! Don't mingle within pay-list or tenants list.

4. Don't babble too much: Don't speak too much because you are essentially lying to two women. If you are not careful, you will not know what you said to whom. Women like some mystery - that makes you more interesting.

5. Protection: Practice safe sex for everyone's sake. It's the best way to stay out of trouble and ladies will not get uninvited "guests" of any sort.

6. Tree's a crowd: With two women you are the master juggler. With tree you are in trouble. Your schedule if tight even with two. With three - it's close to impossible. Why would you get yourself in trouble?

7. Not on the same day: Women can smell other women easily. They can smell even vague traces of perfume, which isn't their brand. I won't even mention other things. Best way is to have a full day for each lady. If you want to take chances, shower well, change all clothes and get some rest until next meeting.

8. On her outfield: Try to meet the ladies in their places and not in yours. Don't bring them home. There is always a chance of unwanted visit. Even if you want to take chances, carefully remove all traces left by ladies (sheets, clothing, jewelry,...) to avoid tears and apologies.

9. Keep track: Be sure to keep track of important dates, names, phone numbers and little things that ladies like or dislike because you can easily get confused by large amount of information. If you get confused - God help you!

Things you don't know can't hurt you!

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

2006-12-21T12:39:00.000-08:00

Finally, J.K. Rowling revealed the title of the title of the last book about boy wizard Harry Potter.

The title will be "Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows". Spooky isn't it?

My family can't wait for the book to come out next summer. The title is very promising. Who will die!?

The title was revealed on official J.K.Rowling site in a form of a puzzle. It's very entertaining, just like in regular adventure games!

There are several steps you need to follow to reveal the mystery: go to the JKR web site, click non-text version (you need to enable browser popups for that).

Click on the red eraser in the middle of the desk.
Click on the farther door in the mirror to see a Christmas tree.
Click on the top portion of big door in the middle to see a Christmas gloriole.
Click on the upper portion of the mirror to see Christmas decoration on the ceiling.
Click on the spider web to make it disappear.
Click on the fourth chime in the window.
Click the fourth chime again and drag the key to the main door keyhole. The door will open and you'll see a Christmas present.
Click on the present to open it.
Click on "Hangman Game" and complete it by typing letters on the keyboard.

Lot of fun, isn't it?

Kids Quarrels

2006-12-21T11:49:00.000-08:00

Quarrels among kids of same or different age groups are normal and are a part of everyday life. They are even necessary because kids estimate their strength that way. It's a rule of thumb not to get involved because kids will settle it themselves.

On the other hand, it's required that you are nearby prepared to intervene when needed. I write this from my personal experience because I witness everyday "war" between my two daughters. One is 11 and the other one is 4 years old. No matter the age difference, they always find disagreement points. Those points are completely different but the outcome is the same - quarrel and sometimes even fighting.

When fighting occurs I try to have a discussion with one kid at the time. It's a good way to find out what's going on. The kids also appreciate to have their mom just for themselves. It's the easiest way to settle things and to overcome problems.

I let them find the compromise for themselves. I get involved when arguments go on for a longer period of time. It's good to let them manage the situation because there will be times when parents are not around and they need to learn how to deal with those situations.

I try very hard not to be on anyones side. If I would do that, the conflict would only escalate. If a kid feels threatened the attacks become harder.

I always point out the good things in their relationship, the fact that they have each other unlike the single kids who miss a company. Good strategy is to point out qualities of the other kid. Younger one is creative and older one is an expert for "Barbie" and "Bratz".

Only time when my involvement is really necessary is when they start insulting each other. I don't allow that. They are instantly grounded when insults start to fly. I believe that no problem is big enough to be settled that way.

After quarrels are over we try to get to the bottom of things. We search for the cause of conflict. It's that time when both of them are calm and we can speak nicely.

We had an agreement: next time they decide to quarrel there will be no insults, to remember how much they mean to each other. If they can't settle things they should go to different rooms while they calm down.

They need to respect each other. That's what I'm trying to accomplish.

Maybe this is not the best way to overcome the differences but it works in my family. Please give me your advice on handling kids quarrels in the comments section of this post.

10 Ways To Fight Stress

2006-12-21T11:14:00.000-08:00

Stress is like an avalanche. It starts with little things and then pulls with it the bigger ones. When facing big challenges people try to do them right and in time. Little thins are those that finish us off. When we allow them to...

Main problem is the feeling then life is becoming too complicated, with too much obligations, unpaid bills, broken appliances. Not to mention the cars.

You can't cope with that. There is a way, just be persistent.

1. Make a list: I've made a list of upcoming private and business obligations. For example: visit a doctor, get a car fixed, meetings, e-mails... I've unloaded my brain and became concentrated on other things.

2. Group your obligations: I've grouped my obligations by listing all items connected to an obligation. For instance- shopping: I've made separate lists of groceries, beverages and house cleaning stuff. It's easier to find your way around the store that way. You won't forget anything and you'll finish shopping earlier.

3. Priorities: It's easy to say: "Make plans." It's harder to execute. For me, the first priorities are things that make our life easier and more comfortable. Paying bills for utilities, Internet, schooling... Without paying these I'll have a hard time to complete other obligations.

4. Electronic planner: Electronic planners are handy because they don't occupy a lot of space. All information is in one place and I always have a nice overview of things. It was a fun toy at the beginning and later became a habit. Useful habit.

5. Don't waste your strength on small things: I told you that the little things are the ones that start an avalanche. How many times small tings made you crazy. For example, everything is just fine, your guests are almost here but a light bulb in hallway is out of order; or noisy laundry machine; or used up remote control batteries... I have a rule to do at least one thing from the main list (look at item 1.)

6. Don't just fuss over broken things: Out of order things are the source of stress. Instead of getting nervous I try to fix broken things or call the handyman. It's cheaper then headache pills.

7. Distribute responsibilities: I've distributed responsibilities among my family members. That way I don't need to work all day long. Husband and kids can help a lot when needed. I've reduced my stress level, others were useful and we completed our tasks in time. This can be a model for companies, too.

8. Say "No": I've learned to say "No!" It was hard at the beginning, but... it's much easier now. Why should I do something that is not my responsibility? Collecting toys, preparing books for school... it's not my business. Everyone has to know their duties.

9. Don't hold off things for tomorrow: I've tried the famous excuse - I'll do it tomorrow, I don't feel like doing anything now. Then I realized it's not working that way. Chores started to pile up, my consciousness went wild and stress began to mount. I started working under pressure.
Then I changed my approach. I started to implement previous eight tips. In the beginning, I didn't manage to complete everything on the list (because there were too many) but I didn't panic. Step by step, things went to normal.

10. Think positive: I've learned to face difficult challenges and to get valuable experience out of them. It's not a big deal to do just one thing. Big deal is to accommodate all duties.

All in all, you can always go out with friends. It always helps!

Recipe: Charlotte Cake

2006-12-16T13:57:00.000-08:00

Today I'll explain how to make a Charlotte Cake.

Ingredients:
250 grams of margarine
8 tablespoons of sugar
7 larger eggs
250 grams of cooking chocolate
2 vanilla cream
2 packs of lady's fingers
aluminum foil

Preparation:
Put slightly melted margarine and 7 tablespoons of sugar into a mixing bowl. Whisk it well with a mixer.
Melt cooking chocolate with 1 teaspoon of cooking oil and add it to margarine mixture. Whisk again with mixer.
Add one egg at the time and whisk with mixer at highest speed. Eggs should be cold before using.
In a separate bowl, make 1 vanilla cream. There is usually a recipe for that on the vanilla cream packaging. Add it to the mix and slowly stir with a spoon.
Cover the bottom and the sides of deeper pot with aluminum foil.
Melt one tablespoon of sugar with a glass of water (200 grams) in smaller pot.
Quickly dip lady's fingers in sugar water. You must quickly take out lady's fingers to prevent from breaking them. Make a mold out of lady's fingers by arranging them along the sides and the bottom of the pot.
Pour prepared cream and cover the top with what's left of lady's fingers.
Put prepared cake into the freezer for 24 hours.
Decorate with whipped cream before serving.

Bon apetit!

35 Secrets Of Great Cake Makers

2006-12-15T12:06:00.000-08:00

Here is a list of 35 practical tips for you to become awesome cake maker.

1. All ingredients must be fresh and of good quality.
2. Use beam scale to measure ingredients. Don't estimate.
3. Always beat egg whites thoroughly than add yolk.
4. Leave egg whites to cool off for 10 minutes before making whipped cream.
5. When you add flour, walnuts or something similar to beaten egg (whites or yolk), always stir the mixture with a spoon or mixer at low speed.
6. Always smear butter or margarine on cake pans or cooking pots. Dust with flour after that and shake out excessive flour.
7. Baked cake will taste better if you use butter to smear the bottom of the cooking pan.
8. Side-opening molds are the best for baking cakes because they will not stick to the bottom or the sides.
9. If the cake sticks to the bottom of the pan or mold, hold it over the boiling water.
10. If you baked the cake in a mold with detachable sides, when it's done, put the mold on the cake plate top-down and then take off the mold.
11. If your cake is still stuck, don't worry. Use thin sharp knife to cut the cake near the sides of the mold.
12. Always bake the cake crust on moderate temperatures.
13. You should bake the cake in appropriately heated oven. During the baking phase, never open the oven door. If the oven overheated you will cool it down by putting a pot filled with cold water.
14. To check whether the cake crust is done stick a toothpick in the middle. If it stays dry and clean then the cake crust is done.
15. Put a tablespoon of cooking oil along with butter to make chocolate glaze shiny.
16. If you use vanillin sugar then, at the end of filling mixing phase, add it to the mixture to ensure that sugar crystals will melt.
17. If you use vanilla sticks it's best to cut them in small pieces and put them into a cream before you finished cooking it. Remove the pieces of vanilla sticks before the filling phase.
18. Add one tablespoon of flour to steam cooked cream to make it thicken faster.
19. Keep eggs on room temperature for three hours before mixing.
20. If you add fruit in the cake, first mix it with a little flour to keep it away from the bottom.
21. Pour hot water over the almonds and dry them up after a few minutes to peel them. Roast peeled almonds in well heated oven.
22. You need only to peel almond for chopping. To prevent it slip through your fingers dust it with some sugar powder.
23. If you want to use hazelnuts, roast them in the oven just before using, on 150-200 degrees Celsius. Hazelnut is roasted when you can remove the husk by rubbing it with your fingers. Hazelnut should be ground only when it's cold.
24. Cake should be cold before filling and cutting.
25. It's easier if you cut cake crust with sharp thin knife or thread. Mark cutting lines with a knife and use strong thread to cut.
26. You decorate the cake always starting with sides and you should put bottom up because it's completely flat.
27. Spread cream over the sides first. Press ground walnuts with a scoop to the sides. Afterwards, proceed with decorating of the top.
28. You should always decorate the cake right on serving plate which should be completely flat, otherwise the middle part will sunk.
29. It's best to serve the cake on special decorative plates, preferably made of glass. If you don't have such a plate it's ok to use plywood coated with plastic. It's easy to preserve such a plate. You should always put over some decorative pad first.
30. To keep decorative paper pad clean while applying the cake filling, protect it with several table napkins. You can easily remove the napkins when needed.
31. Always mark cake pieces before cutting. Put a knife in a cold water before marking the pieces.
32. Serve the cake on small plates only.
33. Cake is eaten only with small forks. If the cake is hard, serve a small knife also. Only when it's ice cream cake then you should serve spoons.
34. Give small napkins to guests when serving a cake.
35. Server cups with cold water or lemonade to the guests after you give the cake. Don't make lemonade to sweet.

I hope my advice will help you. If you have any other tips please leave them in the comments section.