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I am looking for people who will write with personality, humor and provide interesting personal stories, advice, reporting on events both locally and internationally, photos and most importantly building a relationship and evoking responses from readers. Originality is of the upmost importance, no cutting and pasting other people’s work, it must be your own work.
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First of all, go your own way. This person may be an important part of your life, or one day could be, but like you they have more going on than tapping out the emotional lines of your new relationship. Give them space, and what’s more, give yourself space. The reason they like you in the first place is because you are you…not because you are throw your life and personality away for an emotional bed-warmer. They want to be in a relationship with you, not your security blanket.

That also applies to an old saying, “Men marry a woman believing she’ll never change; and a woman marries a man thinking she can change him.” DO NOT BECOME THIS CLICHE’! Ladies, why become involved with a man that will be the equivalent of a real-estate renovation product? Try to get it right the first time; if you can’t get that big…erm…pool you’ve been dreaming about, either keep shopping or remember that the fireplace is nice and cozy.

And fellas? Just because I said a lady shouldn’t try to change you, that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for compromise. Don’t try to make a woman the bigger man because you have to much pride to change. A relationship is like an oak tree seed, with both genders playing the parts of the soil and seed. The tree will change the soil, the rich earth supporting it even as it moves, allowing room for growth; compromising without changing. Don’t try to overwhelm her with your way, drop the “y” and the why….a relationship is our way.

As a society continuing to devalue the power of our main forms of communication. What strikes me as odd is that people are surprised that the divorce rate continues to sky-rocket when the average person says their wedding vows with about as much fore-thought as they use to picking a condom color. I mean, the vows say -”Till death do us part…” which seems pretty freaking final to me. It’s obscene with the flippant attitude that people now take to marriage.

Granted, I hear the argument, “I don’t need a piece of paper telling me about commitment.”, but since when was marriage just a piece of paper? It is SUPPOSED to be a commitment between two human being, whom after  much deliberation and courting, finally make the biggest decision of their lives and commit to each other forever. And by forever, I don’t mean like the “life-time” warranty you get with you average Wally-world purchase, I’m talking about the kind of commitment that leads to children, arguments, money-problems, errands, etc. - and still ends up with you going to bed happy the other person is there.

It all comes down to people not meaning what they say. Here’s a classic: “You can’t say he like chicken because he’s black, that’s racist!” No it’s not. That’s stereotypical, maybe even prejudiced, but certainly not racist. What’s that? Not a big deal you say? Tell that to Jesse Jackson, who says everything is racist, which is just not true. Oh sure, people will generalize by race, but that is far different than thinking that one race is inferior to another. One breeds Nazis, the other breeds comedy [although Nazi jokes are still often funny].

Let’s do something as a species. Let’s pick up a freaking dictionary and look up a word if we don’t know what it means. When people start using words incorrectly, it dilutes the power of the language and hinders communication. It’s called language ecology, and ignorant use of the language is tantamount to verbal-pollution. If you want to save the world, you need to start with the basics, and communication is just one of those important fundamentals.

We all know to be yourself…talking in that British accent is only going to get you so far, and then you are on your own. What a lot of people don’t realize is that being yourself also means being honest. If for example, she likes pop-music, but you don’t, then don’t try to hide that, let her know. Trust me, you are a lot more interesting to a member of the opposite sex if you have your own opinions and you are comfortable with who you are.

Secondly, the key to a good conversation is not in what you say, but in how well you listen. If you want to be a great “talker”, ask your date or date-potential about them. You are interested in them, right? That must mean there are a million things you would like to know about them and their personality. As luck would have it, conversations are excellent opportunities for asking someone those questions. Don’t worry about talking about yourself or making yourself look interesting - if your date is interested, they’ll ask you the questions that they want you to answer.

Lastly, it doesn’t matter where you go on the date, so long as you ask the person to go in the first place. If you’ve been talking to someone, you know them better than I do, which would be more comfortable for the both of you? More importantly, which setting would be more comfortable for you? After all, you can make someone more comfortable just by being comfortable your self!

The opposite sex, as much as both genders might joke and say, “Oh yeah!” don’t really want to be worshiped, because nobody wants a doormat. Putting someone up on a pedestal isn’t fair to them or to you, so worship is never the way to go.

Ladies and gentleman DO want to feel special, same as guys (it’s like deja vu all over again). No matter the gender, some folks take it to the extremes of worship, until they are smothered by the excessive affection and wind up moving towards the other extreme. Worship definitely comes off as a lack of confidence, and it’s a rare person indeed who finds someone shy more appealing than someone brimming with confidence

So, if you make someone feel special, if you show them they are special to you, then you’ve given that what she wants. This doesn’t mean that you are doing “just enough”, it just means you are maintaining the proper balance of give and take in a relationship. When you take on that idea that he or she is always right and that she can do no wrong; that idea that you can’t say no, that’s when ladies either walk all over you and lose all respect for you.

Showing interest in getting to know the person you are attracted to helps always with communication, which can lead to a friendship that you both could enjoy and share.
Practice talking to everyone; store clerks are a good captive audience. Better yet if you are a store clerk, then the constant stream of customers is your captive audience. Just talk about anything.  They’re buying dog food - what breed do they have? How many? In other words, take an interest in people. The more you practice showing interest in just everyday ordinary people, the easier it is to show interest in people you’re attracted to. You’ll already be in the habit of noticing things you can comment on.
Taking a public speaking class helps too, it is great for getting you used to thinking on your feet.

A simple conversation can lead to exchanging contact information with an individual, which can lead to future communication and a beneficial friendship.

In most cases finding the right person does not always fall into your lap, it takes time and some searching to locate someone with your same interests and likings.

Why not start somewhere that you are familiar with, something that you are passionate about and which you can share a unique interest with someone. Meeting singles with a common interest is fantastic! It is a instant connection that you share together and can easily find activities to do with your passion of horses.