How2woogirls!

Re: She is Engaged to a Guy, How Do I Attract/ Impress/ Woo Her?

2013-02-23T01:38:00.001-08:00

When is the Right Time to ask a Girl out?

Situation: The girl you are interested in has just gotten out of her relationship. You're wondering when the right time to ask her out.

The things that you have to find out:

1. How much serious was the relationship!
Why? Because if it was a serious one, chances are:
- Her ex-boyfriend will make contact again, if not now, in some time. It ALWAYS happens.
- You could end up being a re-bound, which is okay if you are looking for something short-lived and joyful; but if you are looking for a relationship, you don't wanna be in a rebound.
- If she was in love with him, she might try to contact him in some time, and this mostly happens as one of her secrets. You will get to know about way after it has happened.

2. Her reactions.
Don't go by her appearance. She might look really normal or cool right now, but might be breaking inside. Try spending some time with her, and study her reactions. Notice:
- Does she get lost when you're talking about one thing for long. For example, if you telling an anecdote, a historical fact, just something that forms into a story, does she lose interest?
If yes, there could be two reasons, she is faking and is still disturbed. Second, she is not interested.
- The normal rate of her smiling/ keeping a happy face. I hope you can recognize a genuine laugh/ smile when you see one. I am hoping you can.
- Lastly, a depressed or mentally low person never talks much. She wouldn't make much conversation. Notice that.

Now, let's not be too pessimistic. Take some time. Give her some time too.

The thing you can do is:

Step I - Ask her what was the perfect guy she pictured. Whatever she says, don't wander around it. What you're doing here is, by asking this question, you open a psychological canvass, in which you can paint. Try to work this part of the conversation and not let it be spontaneous. You start like this, "You know what I think a perfect guy for a girl would be like..." And then you start describing yourself, but the only difference is:
- With every quality, you give a background.

For example, " (Quality) I think appearances shouldn't matter". (Background) It's like looking into a beautiful lake or living in the mountains. A day would come when it wouldn't look as precious or beautiful as it did the first day, and trust me, if you are staying only for beauty, you'd wanna quit. It's human behavior." (Use terms that reflect intellect. Show her that you are insightful.) Note: Nothing impresses a girl more than an Intellect and a Good talker at the same time.

After you've executed your detailing of the perfect guy for her. You stay quiet, you notice if she is chatty or quiet. If she is chatty, you're still a friend, if she's quiet, ask her out for a Coffee.

She is Engaged to a Guy, How Do I Attract/ Impress/ Woo Her?

2013-02-22T07:13:00.001-08:00

She is Engaged to a Guy, How Do I Attract/ Impress/ Woo Her?

You've mentioned that she is engaged, and she is very reserved, because of the cultural upbringing.
Things you have to notice:
1) She is engaged to a guy who is 8 years older to her.

2) She is not the type who would very likely break off the engagement, even if she wants to.

3) The guy is old. He won't let go of the girl that easily either. He is probably taking care of her very nicely. And she feels safe and secured around him. (This is only conjecturing)

The point is, you're a threat to her future matrimonial prospects. Stop being that. If she did like you, then obviously she lacks the courage to face the truth and call off the whole marriage. It's time to face the truth, my friend. Some people lack the courage to do what they really want to, the reasons for it could be plenty: to avoid a social mess, to avoid a scene, cowardice, confusion, lack of confidence, and also, being stupid.
I presume your're from India, where women from reserved families are very much conscious about society, family, and what people think about themselves. You mentioned she is engaged to a Guy 8 years older to her but nowhere mentioned they are in love, so I am assuming it's an arrange marriage. (Because she liked you)
The chances of breaking her engagement, getting her with you, are very very less, not because there isn't a way, but because of this particular girl.

Anyway, How to break up an engaged girl?

1) Find out what the guy is like, because you will have to outdo him in some way.

2) Hang out with her as much as you possibly can, but don't overdo that. She should enjoy your company as well, and be equally willing to hang out with you too.

3) No guy in this world, likes another straight guy hanging out with her girlfriend/ fiance. At one point, he will start getting jealous from you, and have problems. If you're close, she will defend you which might lead to some fights. If he is a gentleman about it, then you're doomed.

4) Suddenly talk a lot about what she wants to do in her life. This is a long shot, but many a time, women sacrifice their career to marry a guy. You can always ignite the passion for her career again. This is a major engagement-canceler.

5) Tell her bad stories about failed marriages, BUT NEVER CONSCIOUSLY ADVICE HER THAT YOU'RE AGAINST THE MARRIAGE. Make it look like you just heard a story. Play cool.

6) Every guy has a weak spot. We are guys. If you'd try, he will have a weakness, such as alcohol gambling, (you know where I am going.) Once you find out about it, DISCUSS (Only discuss, do not pass any judgements) with her, make her talk about it as much as you can. It leads to two possibilities:
- She would either be over it, by talking about it openly.
- You will find some problems that she is hiding beneath denial.

In both the cases, she is talking about irregularities of her boyfriend/ fiance, it will stick in her head. She will remember them which will come out in some aggressive manner.

7) The thing is, most women are really fond of the idea of marriage and have always pictured their lives going this road. So it is very hard to get a girl out of a marriage, whereas with a guy, it's a matter of an hour.
If she has no career ahead of her, and looks for nothing but a married life and has already found a guy, then the only thing you have is to be the guy.
You'd have to make her fall in love with you.

why couples break up

2012-03-19T14:42:00.001-07:00

If we consider the history of the institution of marriage, all of us would agree that it started at the time of creation itself. Man and woman are different both biologically and in mental makeup. However, the creation would not continue if man and woman do not come together. The physical and emotional needs unite man and woman and marriages take place. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, joint families and lifetime single marriages were quite prevalent. Divorces were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more women took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of women on men declined and even small disagreements were magnified to a large extent that they were considered to be impinging on the individuality. Let us consider the top 15 reasons why couples break up.

Desire to be independent.
Getting attracted to another person.
Infidelity.
Physical incompatibility.
Less attracted to the person in a sexual way.
Lack of proper body maintenance, like becoming too fat.
Conflict in tastes and desires.
Continuous nagging.
Comparing the man or woman to others constantly
Imparting unsolicited advice all the time
Addiction to alcohol or drugs
Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments like HIV
Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies
Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse Impotency or inability to bear children.

The above reasons are all chief causes for a marriage breakup. Sometimes, one reason alone might be enough for separation, while in several cases, a combination of a few of them lead to divorce. In this list, getting attracted to another person and infidelity might appear similar, but there is one important difference between them. In the former, the man or the woman might become more interested in another person and might think of leading a life of marriage with that person as a better option to the current life. In this case, the decision for separation from the present spouse could be taken before a physical contact with the other person. On the other hand, infidelity is actual extra-marital relationship, which is a sure marriage breaker in several cases.

In certain marriages, when the man and woman become united without a physical relationship before the marriage, the physical incompatibility might become apparent when the marriage is consummated, leading to separation. Similarly, the impotency in man or the inability of the woman to bear a child either immediately after the marriage or after several years could result in a divorce. The reduction in physical desire after a few years had also been a cause for the breakup of the marriage. If the health of the man or the woman deteriorates sharply or if they contract incurable diseases like HIV, the marriage might fail. Even the neglect by a spouse of maintaining the physical fitness and becoming too fat or too weak could break a marriage.

Physical and mental abuse is another major reason for divorces. Sadistic tendencies in either spouse that lead to continuous physical or mental torture usually ends in parting of ways. Too much addiction to alcohol or drugs had also led to marriage failures in several cases. Too much nagging by a spouse, and this is usually done more by women than men, had resulted in marriage breakup very often. The other similar reasons are comparing the man or the woman with other persons continuously and hurting the sentiments or creating an inferiority complex could also lead to divorce.

Even imparting unwarranted and unsolicited advice too often is considered as interference in the individuality, leading to disagreements. A joke is there that the psychiatrist charges you for the same advice that the wife gives you free. Too much of anything could spoil even a good relationship. Similarly, conflict in tastes and interests that were ignored during courtship or were considered trivial, assume a bigger shape after marriage and lead to fights. If the man or the woman ignore or show disrespect to the friends and relations of the other, that results in misunderstanding and creates irritation. Slowly, the couple starts drifting apart in such circumstances and finally part ways totally.

Finally, the financial independence achieved by women had brought in a change in their attitude. They feel that their individuality must be respected and should not be interfered with. Their economic dependence on men is much less or non-existent compared to olden days when women stayed at home. Further, the separate careers result in men and women working in different places, thus increasing not only the physical distance but also the mental distance. This invariably leads to separation. All these causes, either singly or in combination, end up in the couple breaking up. However, an understanding approach and a give-and-take policy would avoid divorces, if both men and women take a more tolerant attitude.

Valentine's Day Gifts ,The Best Gifts For Your Valentine

2012-03-04T10:39:00.000-08:00

Valentine's Day Gifts

The Best Gifts For Your Valentine

Aries: (Mar 20 - Apr 19)
Sun glasses, sporting events, disco parties, music CDs, latest & fast computer games & gadgets are the likings of male Arians. Arian females will get attracted to colourful jewellery, especially earrings with Red stones & shiny make-up sets. A bunch of Red Roses with red & pink silk ribbons will attract her towards you. Tickets to music or theatre events will definitely attract Arians. They appreciate cool, trendy fashion accessories or handmade crafts.

Taurus: (Apr 19 - May 20)
Taurean males love chocolates and automobile stuff. They are also crazy about imported stuff. Baskets of exotic fruits, massage oils, big fluffy towels, organic sheets, silk dresses, perfumes, dessert cookbooks are some stuff that will impress a Taurean female.

Gemini: (May 20 - Jun 21)
Gemini males are blessed with excellent communication skills. Gift them the latest Mobile. They would also appreciate a good collection of motivational books, quotes & spiritual stuff to read. Gemini females are also fond of mobile phones & lovely messages - especially quotes from their partner. Soundtracks or "Best of" CDs, magazine subscription, I-pods are good gift options. More than gifts, your Gemini mate will appreciate the time that you spend with him or her. And if you are planning to get married, then there’s no better gift than a diamond ring for this special occasion.

Cancer: (Jun 21 - Jul 22)
Cancerian males believe in luck. Gift them lottery tickets, gift vouchers. They believe in quality; so gift them the best of gadgets. Household stuff like TV, Refrigerators, Microwave & Furnishing items are the first choice for Cancerian females. Think about a cosy night at home or in your favourite restaurant. Write a heartfelt poem and frame it. You can also gift a beautiful heart-shaped silver photo frame with the couple's photograph in it. Cakes, chocolates & Flowers could just be the cherries on the cake.

Leo: (Jul 22 - Aug 23)
Both Leo males & females love to freak out on Valentine’s Day. You can attract a Leo female by gifting her beautiful gold jewellery, chocolates & new clothes of her choice. Watch a romantic comedy on stage or on screen. Surprise them by decorating their room with a lot of balloons. Sometimes Leo males love to be gifted with a pet.

Virgo: (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
Health conscious Virgo males would appreciate a massage, a spa treatment, Gym equipments or a membership in a Gym. A Virgo female would love to be pampered by her partner. You may even plan a trip during this time. Check out a nearby wildlife refuge or a state park. Virgo Females also like rugs made out of natural fibres.

Libra: (Sep 22 - Oct 23)
Libran males are very fond of chocolates & books while Libran females are fond of delicate jewellery made out of Diamonds & Pearls. Enjoy a gourmet meal with your Libran mate. Gifts like wind chimes, a Martini set, elegant flowers like orchids or a leather-bound copy of their favourite book will be good options at this time.

Scorpio: (Oct 23 - Nov 22)
Scorpion males would appreciate perfumes, after-shaves, and colognes. You can make a Scorpion female smile by gifting her a bunch of mixed coloured flowers along with a greeting card. Plan a getaway to an undisclosed location. They also like romantic & mysterious novels.

Sagittarius: (Nov 22 - Dec 21)
Both Sagittarian males & females are fond of scented bath lotions, perfumes & soaps. They love spa treatments. You can plan an outing or go trekking on green mountains. You can attract a Sagittarian female by gifting Pink Candles. They are also fond of travelling on high speed trains and trail-riding on the beach. Do not forget to gift them coffee flavoured chocolates.

Capricorn: (Dec 21 - Jan 20)
Capricorns will appreciate a gift that you make yourself. Gifts like some baked stuff or cooked dishes would impress your Capricorn mate. The Capricorn male likes leather goods while the Capricorn female loves flowers and candles. Gift her a bunch of white and purple flowers and violet candles.

Aquarius: (Jan 20 - Feb 18)
Aquarian males like tech gadgets or a gift-pack of their all time favourite movies or music. They always like to keep the most advanced mobile handsets in their pocket while females are more inclined towards reading good books & magazines. They like traditional jewelleries, too. Metallic/blue gifts are lucky for them. They are very particular about time management. A watch would be an ideal gift.

Pisces: (Feb 18 - Mar 20)
Pisceans are really fond of the sea and a trip to the coast will make them really happy. Common household equipments, gadgets, furnishing items and spa treatments are some of the things that Pisceans like. A romantic poem will also please the Piscean female.

The other guy is more good looking than me, how can I still woo her?

2012-03-03T09:36:00.000-08:00

Now there are several methods of getting a girl you already are friends with, to fall in love with you.

Like you have said, she likes some other guy. The point is, does he like her too? Does he ever know about her love?

If yes, then it's a problem, but not the kind of problem with no solution. Of course there is a solution.
You have also told me that you are good friends with her. Well, that is a good point for you. Things you should do:

- Try to spend as much time with her as you can. Such a thing has many results:
-- You are becoming a routine in her life
-- Try to talk to her as much as you can. Even if you are not with her, try to stay connected through messages. Be funny, witty, everything works.
-- This might transform into a rumor that you both are seeing each other. It often happens that too close a friend is confused by people as something romantic. And in the race of wooing, you want that to happen with you. Let people tag her with you.

- Be her boss.
Girls love being advised by guys/ best friends on their relationships, the kind of guys they should date and stuff like that. If you become a good friend of hers, naturally you acquire a position in her life in which she would openly invite any suggestion or comment you are providing. If you are able to do that, which is very easy:
-- The guys who want to hit on her, would actually start approaching you, and you become her daddy.
-- She is dependent on you completely.
-- This makes the guy she is in love with very confused too.

- Destroy her crush
EVERYONE HAS GOT BAGGAGE. Just remember this phrase. What is baggage? It's the emotional stuff one carries with themselves from their past relationships. It is something you adjust with. All you need to do is find the guy's baggage, and open everything in front of her. Present it in a bad manner, even lie if you can. Make up stories, but remember they should be something she'd believe in and can never find out.

If you can follow these three steps. She's yours for sure.

2012-01-29T01:00:00.000-08:00

In this day and age, we are aware that many of our intimate relationships are struggling and are in jeopardy. Therefore, the age old saying, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure,” is equally relevant today as it was when the saying was originally coined.
According to Stats Canada, approximately 38 % of marriages in Canada end in divorce (over a thirty year period). What preventative measure can young couples apply to their relationships that will ensure their stability and longevity?
There are three common relationship deal breakers – Compromise, Competition and Complaints which all contribute to conflict in relationships. Unto themselves, these interactions all sound relatively positive. Let’s examine them more carefully in the context of intimate relationships.

Compromise is essentially when two people settle for less than what they really want. For example, a couple decides that they would like to go out to a movie. The wife would really like to see a particular movie but learns that her husband has no interest in watching it. He suggests a movie which his wife has no interest in watching. In the name of compromise, they end up attending a third choice which neither really wants to view. Instead of compromising, the couple could use a more effective approach called negotiating which produces a win/win situation. The couple decides to attend the movie which the woman wants to see one week, and the following week, they go to the movie the husband wants to see.
Competition is very much a part of our every day, capitalistic society. We all need to know how to compete in order to function in our society. People on a daily basis are competing for jobs, opportunities, recognition, etc. However, competition within our intimate relationships can potentially wreak havoc between couples since the more competitive we are, the more self-centred we become. Competition emphasizes our goals and enhances our skills often to the detriment of our significant relationships. The opposite of competition is compassion. Compassion is the skill or ability to accurately experience the thoughts and feeling of another plus the desire to do whatever is necessary to help another in their time of distress. Many relationships would greatly benefit if there was simply more compassion between spouses.
Complaints definitely lead to the deterioration of a relationship. The complaints may be true, but one must ask, “Are the complaints kind and necessary?” Listening to problems demoralizes us; where, talking about and applying solutions energizes us.

So what are those ounces of prevention we can apply to our relationships to ensure they remain stable and satisfying?

Learn to negotiate.
Be compassionate and listen to the thoughts and feelings of your loved ones.
Rather than complain, become a problem-solver.

2012-01-29T00:37:00.000-08:00

The steps are continued from How to steal a Girl from a relationship!

Stage I - Friendship

Obviously the bond between the two would be stronger than between you and her. So, her boyfriend can crush you anytime.

Point- stay low profile

It all depends upon the image you keep

If your image is of a smart guy:

- A smart girl may not even mention about your existence to her boyfriend, and discuss with you pivotal stuff about her life and relationship. But in this case, the assumption is that her boyfriend is very dumb and you are very smart/ smarter than him.

- But if she is dumb/ or her boyfriend is very smart; she will talk to him about you, and tell him everything as she is very loyal and discusses everything about the people she meets/ talks to. And in this conversation, if by mistake, you come out too strong, it will create a certain air of discomfort for her boyfriend about you. So that is our first problem.

Always remember: Step I is a gradual process.

Optional: You can keep a guy who is creating problems for her on the focus of her boyfriend. This way you maintain a goodwill in the eyes of her boyfriend, and totally change his focus too. Don't try to be a hero, keep away from all the troubles.

Step II - Be her best friend.

A guy never sees it, but the way to a girl's heart, the shortest way, is by telling/ showing/assuring her that you will never hit on her. And the sole cause you are talking to her is because she is the only person you have ever met in your life with such a pure heart (make her feel special by using the most overrated lines, yes she will buy them).

Now if you'll observe from a distance the hottest chicks are always surrounded by a company of same looking, constantly blabbing, pompous women, giving out the effect that it is impossible to be friends with her. But all of them - kept individually - are the loneliest creatures, and that is the reason why they keep for falling for guys.

step III - Build a story

Why don't you want to hit on her?

Don't just leave it to 'Because I am a good guy'. Saying 'I am in a relationship is safe', and later on you can break it off, and hit on her. But what's the best way to get her sympathy?

A great emotional story; not like you belong to a vampire clan or something, but yeah movie type. What guys generally have to offer is:

- I broke up and it was really tough on me.

- We had been together for ___ months/ years, and she left me.

Now, this is what she sees and hears tens times a day. It won't get you any real sympathy. Unless your story is something like:

- I left home at 15, because I wanted to do something on my own. I came to New York City with nothing in my hand but my violin. The first three years were the hardest, and back home I lost my Brother in Iraq, who was also my best friend. I have been alone since.

- I loved her more than my life, (build the cutest story about how you met), and on my wedding, when she was on her way to the Church/ Venue/ whatever; she met with a Car accident and passed away.

Why do you build a story?

The story gets her strongly and emotionally attached to you that she'd even fight with her boyfriend but would never let you go.

Step IV - Whatever you are doing, You are doing great.

Don't for even a second get that you are a loser from the story above. Even though you are emotionally hungry, you are doing great in life. Why?

Because a woman can never relate emotions with financial standards. Why? I have no clue. Let's say they are bad in mathematics. So don't ever show that you are unsuccessful/ living in someone else's couch, if you are, show her a very diplomatic reason for it.

Step V - Check where you stand
Now you from here you have to understand by this time, some problems would naturally emerge in the mind of her boyfriend. But if you have come this far, you are very close to victory. How to check where she places you:
- Call her in the night or anytime she is talking to her boyfriend on the phone, see if she picks your call over him or not.
- Does she hang out with you more than what is normal?
- Does she share with you everything that is going in the relationship?
If the answer is negative, then improvise. You have to have the level of amusement she is demanding that will help you precede her boyfriend. Note: Do your homework. Don't try coming out all random and spontaneous, even the greatest players do their homework.

Step VI - It is Cool.
In this step, you start challenging the restrictions placed by her boyfriend. You don't openly say anything, for example:
- If she says that her boyfriend is very liberal and lets her do anything she wants.
You say: Do you know what that means? It means either he is not serious for you or he is seeing other girls at the same time, both ways - he is not serious for you. Just imagine male psyche for a second, do you think a guy who loves a girl like insanely, won't impose his possession or set limits?
When you do that, although she may shout to prove that this isn't true, she would get confused.
- If she says that her boyfriend doesn't allow her to do ______ (put anything), you simply give the most biggest expression of surprise and frown.
You say: If he loves you truly, he'd accept you as you are, and if there was anything in you that had to be changed or compromised, then why don't I just call you his robot?
Work both the ways, but put in her mutiny day by day. Don't be extreme because you don't want her to be mentioning your name in between of a fight with her boyfriend.

Step VII - Ask her the question / Confuse her.
Now is the time to ask her the big question -
Do you really love him? Don't just say yes, remember the times you have been in love strongly and how it all ended one day, so clearly differentiate between love and final love, and then say - Do you think this guy is the guy of your life?
Don't be bothered what the answer she gives. It doesn't matter.
Give the answer yourself - "I don't think so. I know more than you know about yourself, and although you might claim this isn't true, it is.
Start picking out the problems she has with him - "what about smoking/ what about not understanding you/ what's with his anger, god knows he might even hit you someday/ what's with him talking to girls is fine, and you talking guys is a crime/ ____ (fill yours). "
Ask her questions like - Tell me something, if you hadn't ever met him but met me instead, would you have fallen for me? And answer this logically. (act as if it's an intellectual question)

Me gonna steal ur girlfriend

2012-01-23T04:58:00.000-08:00

How to woo a committed Girl!

There are a few things you have to understand and do:
- You have occupy a position of a good friend. But that is not easy with his boyfriend constantly knowing about your every step. So to engage her boyfriend, you have to find somebody as bait or a story that would make some other guy a target for him.

Reason: If you do this, his focus won’t be you, but some other guy.
- When you do this, you have to make her forget that you loved her or have feelings for her. Be a diplomat, nothing is even achieved by being righteous except the respect of other people who’d read about you 100 years later (I am going off topic). You have to occupy another space which is of her girlfriend. Yes, you have to be her girlfriend. Now, what is the most common thing in every couple? They fight! What is the most common thing about every man? He will make mistakes and upset her. You have to be there with her every time they fight because he has made a mistake.
- You are not her friend so you can patch them up, but what you have to always do is magnify his flaws- very slowly. You have a discussion, about everything she doesn’t like about him; you have more discussions about any insecurity in her mind.
Reason: By doing this you are not turning her against him, but making all these negative things so big, so that whenever they talk, all she does is notice them.
- When you are this close, her boyfriend will fight about your relationship which will indirectly change the status of both of you. It won’t be you or her, but he who will help both of you to be a couple. He will fight and tell her not to talk to you, but as she is so close to you now, she’d tell him that you are a good friend and he needs to trust her; they will engage into a fight during which all the things that you have spoken to her in detail (his flaws) will spill out of her mouth; yes, she is a woman, she won’t be able to control. And therefore, that would be the end of it- their relationship.

How2woogirls!: Me gonna steal ur girlfriend

2012-01-22T10:52:00.000-08:00

w2woogirls!: Me gonna steal ur girlfriend: How to woo a committed Girl! There are a few things you have to understand and do: - You have occupy a position of a good frien...

2012-01-22T06:17:00.000-08:00

What does she really mean by these words?

"I need my space"

Chapter III

Reason:

To be in a relationship with such a girl is a complicated thing, as they demand a perfect understanding of their problems and a guy they don't want just because he is a perfectly good object to show off. It won’t matter if a guy does very cute stuff or looks like a Greek God or loves her like a mythical hero; she would any-day prefer a normal average looking guy who can just tell her about her problems when she hasn't even revealed them, or could figure out what she is feeling inside or what she's thinking about.
Now, when they haven't met such a guy and are in a relationship; such type of girls demands their space.

The second type, it is pretty obvious that they don't enter into the relationship because of the guys' brains; either (mostly) he is very good-looking or it is out of some non-understandable reason like 'he loved her very much so she couldn't say no', or 'they were very good friends and he forced her into this', and so on.

The thing about majority of girls is that they do take relationships seriously, and hence, compromising becomes a routine and overlooking flaws a habit. She would constantly have problems over his behavior and believe me she will talk about them with her friends, but never with him. She gives herself reasons like he loves me so much. In this case, a girl never uses this statement in front of her boyfriend, but frequently uses it in front of her friends, and most observantly, in front of a selected group of people she considers as smart, and opens herself to.
Note: It's very simple to join that group of people in her eyes. All you have to do is:
- Always listen to her, without giving any expression except of curious understanding, as if you are minutely studying something.
- Push deeper into her thoughts (another way of saying: invading into her privacy just by asking more questions picked out from her own sentences, so that it seems like it's a part of a conversation initiated by her only)
They say "I need my space", whenever their relationship with their boyfriends go anywhere away from being two lovable teddy-bears i.e. whenever:
- He reminds her that he is dumb.
- She meets a smart guy, and the comparison makes her realize that he's dumb.
- She reads in some story or novel about some character that pretty much reminds her of the image of an ideal man.
- He tries to control her life.
In this case, the girl literally becomes self-assured and would never reveal that she has even the slightest of wants or needs to have a man in her life that is capable of telling her what is right or wrong, or correct her decisions, or guide her in any way.

What does she really mean by these words IV

Chapter IV

The third type may be divided into two more subdivisions. The first in this subdivision is the snobbish, arrogant, stubborn, self-obsessed type, generally. This type majorly includes highly pampered girls who have been treated like princesses all their lives. And because of their lavish and materialistic lifestyle, they form conclusions regarding life which are immature, childish, fairy-tale like, and self centered. Why are they overly bold and confident, and authoritative? It is because since childhood, they have mostly received acceptance and hardly been suppressed. And also because of this protection from the harsh truths of life, their fairy tale concepts almost
transform into something they maintain. Things that happen because of this:

- They form a very materialistic lifestyle that is almost impossible to change.
- Money is never a factor for them; in fact, they are mostly driven into buying their lovers expensive gifts.
- They believe in love very strongly, quite akin to the fairy tales’ love depiction.
- They form their own notions and logics regarding matters of love and life; and often shower their wisdom over friends by advising them. They are highly emotional about their friends, and rebellious to their enemies.
When do they demand their space?

- Whenever the boyfriends have a problem with their materialistic lifestyle.
- Whenever the boyfriends have a problem with her friends.
- Whenever they have a problem with their logics/ attitude.

Always remember: If you truly love her, then you don’t want to be wandering over these topics. If she hangs out with her friends late in the nights, it’s her lifestyle and friends. But if you are facing a similar problem, then please refer to the chapter 20^th century speech. That’s a permanent solution.
The second type in this subdivision is called pseudo- intellectuals. There are majority of girls in the pseudo-intellectual category who become cocky because they have read enough books, or watched many good movies, or score really high in their class, and so on. Their basic attitude is that they are unresponsive towards guidance. They have extracted meanings and views from different writers and books; and reading has given them a confidence and superiority over matters which need a thought. These types of girls are also bold, confident and authoritative by nature. Now, why do they demand space?

- Whenever a guy tells them that their thoughts are wrong or borrowed.
- Whenever a guy argues over a thought, mocks them, or tries to change the definition of their much valued and held notions and precepts.

What does she really mean by these words?

2012-01-22T06:03:00.000-08:00

Chapter I.

“My boyfriend is really cute” (in behavioral context)

She is saying her boyfriend is childish, immature and a cartoon type figure.

Why a cartoon type figure?

Of course he provides her with a lot of laughs; he is very much in love with her, and does extremely cute stuff; but his role in her life in not of a man but of a child. So it implies, and even though she will never admit, but whenever she needs a guiding and a righteous piece of advice, her boyfriend is the last person she goes to. That doesn't mean she doesn't tell him of her problem. He is always there for her support, but never can be a problem solver. A girl never opens her true self in front of him because subconsciously she always knows that he won't understand.

Of course, being amazingly cute does entertain a girl, and doing movie-type of stuff always reminds her of your love.

Always remember: This kind of stuff is not worthless, but it is absolutely not needed. A woman is always bound to be influenced by a figure of a perfect classic man (No doubts there). The true way into a woman's heart is through the deepest corners of her mind; so never even bother to entertain her trying to captivate her heart.

For example: You must have noticed around you very often, - guys send flowers to girls everyday, or he is immediately buying her anything she lays her eyes upon; guys trying to be desperately surprising by planning an entire event and showing to others that they have no life; guys suddenly becoming mythical heroes and fighting anyone who challenges their male instincts in front of a girl, when in private they can't kill a mosquito.

Solution: First of all, all such stuff can be directly replaced by an artistic event. For example: If you buy her a phone, - of course it's going to be an expensive one - it will always remind her of the phone, and not you. Meanwhile, if you create something as small as a letter, it can only and only remind her of you, regardless of how bad you have written. Why?

Because behind a creation there is always an effort; stuff like writing a song, or writing a letter, they all show a personal effort; now the second thing that makes these creations supreme is - you picked up art. Art is a universal weapon for every lover if he can implement it. If you can't write a song, try poetry, if you can't do that, try simple stuff like making her a CD full of her favorite love songs.

Second of all, if you can just give her an insight about her life, it equals a thousand bucks spent on some dress or shoes or a bag or a teddy bear from some gallery. Try to be patient; don't try to buy her out because even though you make her happy by doing all of that, you are never going close to her heart. You are just becoming an amusement or a gift shop rather than being a figure she could respect, or might feel to be the closest person in her life.

What does she really mean by these words?

Chapter II

"I need my space."

This statement is generally said in two contexts - one, when she is speaking in relation to her boyfriend; and second, when you are her boyfriend and she is saying it to you. In the first scenario, when she is saying this in relation to her boyfriend, immediately get his: there are high chances of their break up and her boyfriend won't be the one to initiate it. If you are ever talking to a girl, and even mistakenly hear this statement, just know she is looking for a replacement.
If you tell her this, she may not talk to you, and hate you for mentioning such an impossible event (breaking up with her boyfriend). She will, till her last breath, admit that she is in deep love with her boyfriend; so the question you are supposed to ask her is this - Why do you need space? Or what makes you think he doesn't give you your space?

The point is that you just need to press on to the conversation regarding her certain statement so you can exactly figure out what her situation is! Now there are exactly five types of girl situations when they say 'I need my space’:
- Girls who face a lot of problems; for example: domestic violence, extreme guilt due to past experiences, passing away of a loved one, and similar stuff.
- Girls who are smarter than their boyfriends.
- Girls who are overly bold and confident, and authoritative. (I am not saying smart)
- Girls who have psychological issues. For example - the type of girls whose major life decisions are based on mood swings.
- Girls who are pretentious. (And dumb)

In the first type, the girls facing such similar day-to-day problems get a little serious in life, and prefer an amount of seriousness from people who are close to them too. They relate themselves with people with an understanding of their problems (which they hardly share). Now, such type has another two types. One type of this category is the suicidal types, for example: girls, who cut their wrists, try to commit suicide but never make it, hurt themselves because they like experiencing physical pain. The second type of this category goes into books. They are smarter and hence adopt a creative way to let out their inner feelings. They go into music, or write dark poems, or write stories but always focus on the dark side of mankind, and it is easily noticeable. These both types of girls never fall for the beauty of love, as they are, in their own way, seeking answers, and I am not saying that they won't fall into a relationship; of course they would, but the relationships won't last for long

2012-01-20T06:10:00.000-08:00

What does she really mean by these words?

"I need my space"

Chapter III

Reason:

Chapter IV

- Whenever the boyfriends have a problem with their materialistic lifestyle.
- Whenever the boyfriends have a problem with her friends.
- Whenever they have a problem with their logics/ attitude.

The fourth type should not be a problem to understand. Such type of girls have random mood swings; at one point they crave for something or someone like it’s the end of the world, and the next moment, if their mood fumbles, they might treat it like garbage or just an ordinary thing. Their need for space totally depends on their mood swings. They would suddenly miss someone so much, or want to be with their boyfriends and taken care of; but it won’t be a surprise if one of such type of girls is out, and is totally ignoring her boyfriend’s calls or messages. Their main intentions are never to ignore or hurt, they are too much driven by their mood swings.

The last type is the type of girls who are pretentious. These types of girls have major personality issues, and have a strong fixation with a word called cool. Their entire lifestyle/ choices/ dressing sense etc changes with the changing definition of cool for them. These are mostly girls who move from small cities to Capitals, Metropolitans, in which the life they believe is happening and cool. They are generally college girls, and very much influenced by the ideas from Sitcoms, of being friends in a group and hanging out, and similar stuff. When do they demand space? Whenever their boyfriends try to control their lives, and are against the concept of cool (unknowingly) or whenever they find that their boyfriend is not cool.

how to break up with a girl

2012-01-15T09:23:00.000-08:00

Many a time, you soon enough realize that this relationship is a bad idea,some time u think " how to break up with a girl that loves you,how to break up with a girl that loves you,i don't love my girlfriend but she loves me,i dont love her anymore,"or this girl has turned out to be something you least expected, and you decide that you have to break-up immediately. But the breaking- up seems really impossible because you cannot just say it to her face. Here are all the ways in which you can cleverly break up with a girl without creating any scene:

1) I want to tell you a secret. I am Bi-sexual.
The timings of pulling this off doesn't really matter, but the way does. You have to be very serious with her, and not at all reveal at any second that you are lying. You tell her - "all this while I loved you like crazy and I want to be with you, but I had this one secret and I can't keep with myself anymore, and you deserve to know." You tell her that throughout the relationship you were also committed with a guy, and you stay with him on weekends. The point is, you tell her to accept your boyfriend and that you love them both.

2) Distance
If you don't meet a girl on regular basis and talk, things slow down at great degree. Tell her that you have to go to another city, for work/ studying/ make anything up. But this doesn't apply to everyone, because if you are in college/ workplace, and you have told her about it. But for those who haven't, just tell her you are out, and you can't pick her calls, or switch your phone off in the night and sleep. Remember: I am not telling you to actually go somewhere. You stay at your own place, but don't meet or talk.

3) You are going abroad.
The next thing? You just got into a University in South Bronx, west Minnesota (make anything up). You can even say Jungles of Amazon or the Lake of Loch. Don't say that we are breaking up, focus on - "we can still work this out. Long distance isn't that hard if we love each other, plus I'll come once in every year."

4) When you are kissing her, close your eyes, and say your ex-girlfriend's name.
Guaranteed 100 % break- up.

5) You can't forgive yourself, last night at a party you got drunk and made a mistake.
Infidelity always plays a genuine role in breaking up, but why can't you fake it? Tell her that you were at this wild party, you got drunk and had sex/ or kissed if kissing is that a big thing for your girl/ (add anything that will get you your freedom). And now you are telling her this as you can't lie to her

6) It's you, it's not me.
If you want to break-up, why do you have throw it on her face? A person never regrets something if he/she has let it out. So don't break-up with her, let her do it with you. Try to think how glorious she'd feel that she was the one who took the bold step - something that had to be done. The point is: there are no regrets. How do you do that?

- Commit mistakes
After a long relationship, or even short one, a guy well-enough knows the small thing she hates, dislikes, et cetera. All you need to do is do all them, figuratively. For example - If she hates when you don't pick her call, let it ring. Once she'll forgive you, twice, but thrice you'll face her wrath, and by god, anything is possible.
If she is against smoking, or is a vegetarian, you pick the cause. Just pick anything that irritates her beyond limits.
- Oppose her thoughts
Now it is very hard to find out if the girl really has ideologies or thoughts, but what I am talking about here could be anything religious to beliefs. For example- If she is a religious person, be opposed to religion (in just her eyes only), and get good points to have a debate about it. If she is an intellectual then you are in for a treat, because then you can many topics.

- Oppose her interests
Most of the girls like dancing, if you want to break-up, tell her to stop it. You can have very good reasons such as History of dancing involving pleasing the Emperors, and it isn't an equal art to Music, Painting or literature. Again, I am not asking you to believe all of this, but since you have to break up, you'll have to have absurd but good points about the argument that you are leading.

- Oppose her friends
This works every time, tell her that "I don't like this very friend of yours", or find a friend of hers who doesn't like you, then say to your girlfriend that you don't want her to be hanging around him/ her anymore (because he/she started it). Note: Try to find a guy-friend of hers to be in tussle with.
You'll start to have sides then, and she would do stuff from time to time that won't be acceptable, or lie to you because she doesn't want to be rude to her friend too. And there, break up!

7) Start forgetting stuff
It doesn't just start with her birthday, a relationship is like manual in which there are limitless guidelines you have to remember and follow. If you do that, she would think:
- You have lost interest in me
- You aren't serious about the relationship anymore.
and similar stuff
But you can always give a plain face, say -'It's nothing like that', 'I am sorry, baby', and continue being disinterested. .

2011-12-15T00:38:00.000-08:00

Step I - Friendship

Step II - Be her best friend.

Step III - Build a story

Step IV - Whatever you are doing, You are doing great.

Step V - Check where you stand

Step VI - It is Cool.

Step VII - Ask her the question / Confuse her.

Step VIII - Be patient

Now that you have come to this stage, you have to realize that you are not the only one trying to get this chick on your side, there are others too, for example: Her boyfriend. Yes, he is the biggest provider in your case. What are the common things in every couple?
- Arguments.
- Things they don't like about each other.
- Fights.
- Egos clashing.

When you are certain of so many powerful things that are bound to happen, you just stand back and wait for them to happen. What do you do?
Whenever she will have a fight, it is your moment. You never patch them up, you never set them apart, don't do that, breaking off a relationship isn't that simple. What you do is magnify the little things by talking too much about them. You talk to her about why they fought? She wouldn't want to talk about it, but never leave it to that. You have to take it out of her. When she does, she won't stop, and all you have to do is listen. Now the following results could be any - suppression, difference in their ideas, ideologies, lifestyle, friends, behavior, talking style... anything. The basic result is compromise. All you have to say to no matter what her problem is -
"That is called compromising. You are compromising in this relationship and that's it. You can get back with him in a second, just compromise. I thought you were one strong personality", and make the most disgusting face. Don't say anything over that.

Step IX - (optional) - Target her other female friends.
The best thing for you to do would be make them your 'cute little sisters'. Treat them like they are the most adorable things around, all of them. This way, they adore you like anything, and there is no chance you might have a possibility of anyone amongst them falling for you. The biggest patching up agents are mostly a girl's female friends. If you have them on your side, you can manipulate them like puppets. This is the moment when you tell them that you have fallen in love with her. Why now, why not earlier? There is a two big reasons for that, first, you don't ever want to show that your feelings have always been to woo her since the beginning; secondly, with time, you prove to everyday that you are a really good friend but you fell for her in the end, which was eventual and nobody would think of anything.

Step X - Study her.
This is the last and the most important step. In this, you study what her actions were after the fight, and what are the things she lack to break up with her boyfriend. To be honest, if you challenge the girl's ego, she would break up instantaneously without a thought to prove that she is not weak; but just in case if she doesn't, use her friends. And they have broken up, you remain the only contender in her life.

How to get a girl by chatting with her!

2011-11-29T12:03:00.000-08:00

There are already many posts on how to get a girl on Facebook? How to get a girl online? What to message a girl?

If you chat with a girl daily, or occasionally, how do you attract her? Online dating depends on the following things:

1) Your profile.

Suppose you are in a social networking site, the profile is a very important feature. It is actually equivalent to 'the first impression' scenario. Whatever a girl sees in your profile, builds your first impression in her eyes. So how should your profile look like:

- Don't leave it blank because you don't want to put nonsense in it or you don't have anything to put.

75% of guys leave their profiles absolutely blank because they have nothing to put. By doing this you are actually telling a girl how much disinterested a person you could come out to be - you either are very boring or too cocky.

- Don't fill your profile if you are really lame.

A profile less interesting to a girl is a direct turn off. She'd never even bother to talk to you. Maximum number of guys live in the illusion that they are really cool, or what they have written is very hip and hypnotizing. But don't fall into that bubble. Every girl has a standard in her mind, she'd only talk to you if you come above it or on it.

- Don't fill your profile with too much intellectual stuff.

Now this seems really good an idea, but it often scare chicks off. Intellect is a very good thing, but keep it as a card for the future. Your profile should be moderate with and a mixture of intellectual display and wit.

- If you have no ideas, copy someone's profile.

This might sound really cheap, but do anything to earn the first impression. Don't copy it from someone you know, Internet has a very wide variety of users, just copy it from someone who'd never find about it, and even if he does, it's not a big deal - you both just happen to have the same interests.

They are not in a relationship yet but love each other. How do I woo the Girl?

2011-11-23T04:39:00.000-08:00

You have already climbed the first step, which is being her friend. Now because you are a mutual friend, you have the authority to influence both of them. The first thing I hope you are ready to do is cut him off the game, after knowing that he is in love with the girl too, there is only one guy who can win. Also, by knowing that she likes him too, your chance of wooing her lessens a lot. Here are the following things you can do:

1) Be her best friend.
Why? You have to be the one who can fill her ears against the guy she likes. You don't want to rely on any of her friends on this particular act.

2) Get a good friend of yours, and tell him to make the girl his sister.
Girls love having guys not hitting on them and mingle quickly with the ones who give out a vibe of security. What you need in order to win this game is to have power over her; and to do that you need more people around her to be on your side. It's better to have someone put the idea in her mind that you are a great option for a boyfriend.

3) Tempt the guy.
If he is into her too, then it wouldn't be long when he goes and tells her. Get him against this love - thing. Tell him that it's of no use and relationships are super lame and creepy; that he should get the idea of wooing her out of his head and possibly chase some other girl who he is not romantically linked with. Give him options of girls he should woo.

4) Destroy the guy's chances of wooing her.
If he doesn't understand and still wants to woo her, then you'll have to take some steps in order to destroy his image in the eyes of the girl. You can do the following things:
- Dig in his past, and find any of the mistakes he had committed related to a girl, or anything embarrassing. Remember that you have to totally destroy his image.
- If he has an ex-girlfriend, pick their story and twist it a little bit and present it in front of the girl. If his ex-girlfriend hates him, just get her on a call with the girl.
- If the above doesn't work, get rumours about him being gay or how he was found naked in a party or how he got arrested once because of stealing; you improvise.
- If the above doesn't work, get rumours that he wants to woo you (the girl), but is not at all serious; only wants to play around.
- Have a party, get the guy extremely drunk, click some pictures and show the girl that how much he drinks and reflect all the negativity out of it. You can improvise.
- If you have a female friend who can help, tell her to flirt with him; if he gives a response, you use it against him.
- Improvise more methods.

5) After once you have destroyed his chance, you can easily play your game and woo her.

My girlfriend is young and impulsive. How do I control her?

2011-11-23T04:36:00.000-08:00

You have to understand a few things before you take on to some approach on how to solve this problem. As you have mentioned she is young and very impulsive, many a thing done in impulse are not conscious choices of a person; for example, like you have said that she tends to say that she wants to break up and later apologize about it.
The problem is not how to control her, the problem is how you control yourself and how much these impulsive statements of her affect you!
I'll take all your problems and solve them for you, your first problem is she fights too much.
Generally, every guy:
- tries to reason with his girlfriend
- Apologizes
- wastes his precious time in explaining to her what it really meant, and why she shouldn't fight about it, and how much pure the bond is as a couple, and blahblah!
- fights back and both have long-lasting verbal battles.

What you should do is:

If she has a valid point; if you have really committed a mistake which you know of, and were prepared to face this call, then listen to her and kindly apologize.
But if she has misunderstood something, or is wrong at her part:

1) In a fight, ALWAYS LET HER COMPLETE.
Just close your mouth, and listen as closely as you can. Let her complete the entire thing, so you can carefully choose your points, and understand what she actually wants to say separating it from her blahblah (talks which show how disappointed she is/ how much embarrassed she was/ how much angry she is). When you would do that, you'll realize that she took 15 minutes to complete what could have just taken one sentence to be said.

2) Don't ever clash.

Break-ups happen only when two parties clash, but they would never happen, if only she is angry, and you are not. Guys think they cannot reason with girls, but that is absolutely wrong. You just do it in the wrong timing. Don't clash just immediately contradicting her statement because she went out of line, or what she said was not at all true. Control yourself. Let her finish, and keep nodding as if you are attentively listening to whatever she is saying - which also you are.
3) Once she is over, take the points down.
Once she is over complaining or whining. Your sentence should start with: So what you meant to say is, you have the following problems, (and one by one, in points, list down all the problems from her words). When you will do that, she'd be confused. The basic reasons behind this:
- She had never actually formed her points, before she came spilling out of her mouth.
- She never expected this, all she expected was winning and you shamefully apologizing.

4) Once she is confused, gradually put her down.
This would give you enough confidence, time and points to easily put her down in front of you and show how idiotic her whining was. The conclusion would be that out of 100 %, only 20 % of what she complained about was true and plausible. You can show this to her and lecture her on how she should behave the next time she has any problem. Tell her that she needs to first think from your point of view.

Now, this is a great way of showing how you can control things, and gradually such a habit can make you win every fight. You win fights not because you are smart, but because you kept your calm and didn't become all chaotic. Talking about manners and proper way of communication is a sign of dignity and respect.

love is in the air How to attract Her

2011-11-21T02:06:00.001-08:00

What does a younger girl need?
Reading from the post - What do girls want!, we derive that girls below 18, look for the idea of love. They crave for attention, and look for guys with something extraordinary going on with them.
Things you should do and not do:

- Stop treating them like kids. Treat her equally.

If you want to woo her, give her the proper space and respect she demands; and if it isn't your heart, get it in your mind because that is the only way you will climb the first stairs. Now this doesn't mean don't advise her or suggest her stuff. Of course she knows that you are older to her. But the point is, share it from the point of view of your experiences rather than your wisdom you have acquired throughout your time in this world.

- Indirectly show her that it is cool to have relationships with such broad age difference.

You can take the example of Keats (the famous English Poet) and his wife Fanny Brawne. He fell in love with her when he was 22 or 23, and wrote her lover letters when she was just 14 or 15. And later, they even got married, though unfortunately Keats died at the age of 25 (leave that part).

- If she is juvenile, then of course she is gullible.

Use the gifts of your experience as much as you can, and understand one fact - She strongly believes in True love and Pure Love. Show her that, you will have her in your life faster than anything.

- Don't hesitate in showing all your aces.

Women at a certain age, get really choosy, and accomplishments of sorts matter. For example: some women may not find you being a lead guitarist irresistibly charming, but would prefer bar-tending a sport much dexterous in skill. What I mean is, with a younger girl, with an inexperienced girl, any achievement is a victory.
You can even blab about your recent success in the office game; just keep portraying through examples that you are a winner.

-Always have topics.

If she is younger, she is definitely to have other male contenders of her age, who would mind your interruption in their game. So, in a sort, it does become a fight of certain age-groups, and you have to win it. The advantage is, they will always be kids/ punks in front of your eyes. So they won't scare you. All you need to make sure is, you are entertaining enough;. if you score on that, the girl is on your side, and they lose.

the emotions

2011-11-20T23:57:00.000-08:00

Step I - Target her emotions

Guy: Can I tell you something? Honestly?

(when you put the word 'honestly' anywhere in your grumbling, it translates from complaint to confession. So be polite and use 'Honestly')

Girl: Sure/ yeah?

Guy: I feel so ashamed of saying this, I mean I am so sorry. I don't even know how to say this!

(Put the blame on yourself, as if you are damaged so that she feels it as her responsibility to fix you)

Girl: What is it/ Just say it / What has happened?

Guy: It's not about me. it's about you. Lately I have started to feel so angry and jealous of ______ (guy's name). And I know it's stupid and wrong but I am not complaining, I am just pouring my heart out in front of you, because I don't want to keep it inside of me, and I can't live without you.

Girl: (she will try to explain) Listen it's nothing/ we are just friends/ blah blah!

Guy: I know all of this, like I said I am not complaining. I know I am being so narrow- minded by saying all of this. It's so embarrassing, but I am only speaking the truth. I hate myself, I am so uncool. You know, I get so jealous sometimes that I just want to break his head. I can't believe I am so possessive of you, I am so sorry. I am so uncool!

(emphasize on two things excessively: being uncool & jealous/ possessive. And soon you'll notice she will find you being so possessive extremely cute & romantic; and correct you that you are not uncool.)

Girl: No you are not. Shut-up! And I love it that you are possessive of me, you should be!

(Keep going on with the being uncool and 'I hate myself' thing for a little while longer. By this time she'd have totally forgotten her 'self' and would be completely devoted to make you fine)

Step II - She is hell emotional and romantic now. Get your guns out! (nah! not that)

(if you'd notice, the girl has accepted your being possessive/ jealous about her friend, which she would have angrily responded to had you talked to her in a complaining or an angry tone)

Guy: Can I ask you for something, If you don't mind?

Girl: Sure, anything.

Guy: I don't know how to say this, but can you please don't talk to him that much?

(adding that much is very important, as girls are not good at ignoring people, they either are very good friends, or in the effort to be moderate friends, screw it up. If you say Please don't talk to him, It might sound unpleasant to the girl as girls are very bad at ending friendships and don't generally do that. So stick to adding that much for sure)

Baby, I know it's stupid, and I am being totally selfish by saying this, but I have to be. I can't concentrate on my work, which will eventually lead to us being together (show her a future, that will make her emotionally inclined towards you), but if I don't work, my state of mind is gone. And in this confusion I don't ever want to blame you or be angry with you, I hope you understand. I don't ever want us to fight because of some third person (alienate him, and from now on, use us instead of me). Please baby, can you do this, for us? Please?

By the time you have pulled off the 21st century speech, you can have a girl do anything you want. This particular script was for removing a possible guy threat.

My ex-girlfriend is committed and wants me to move on, how do I get her back?

2011-11-20T23:50:00.000-08:00

You have mentioned that your Girlfriend is worried about your emotions, that she doesn't like to see you sad or troubled. And also she has a boyfriend now, whom she likes a lot.
Your solution is easy. The first step is: stop projecting the pain on yourself.
The thing is, you think that you are the only victim. But if you must try to think, the girl is the victim in this too, and also everyone who is related to her romantically. Your victory lies in every fight they have. And how do you do that?

- You tell your ex that the only thing you can't let go of is her friendship.
Believe it or not, a girl cannot hurt you unless it's triggered indirectly by her boyfriend. And as you have mentioned she cares about you. Use that opportunity and don't not lose the position that you have in her life right now. It doesn't matter how close or important it is, maybe it's very little but it is always better than nothing.

- Because she cares about you, her boyfriend would not like you.
If her boyfriend doesn't like you, that will create problems between them. That is why I suggest, don't be demanding. Don't be demanding at all that could become a reason for her to break the friendship with you. If that happens, it is totally your fault and not her boyfriend's decision - that is later.

- Control yourself as much as you can. Be cool.
Give her the idea that you still love her and are not demanding - of course it's nonsense, but that gives you a very long ticket to stay in the game. Take control of your game and think from your head. Always remember: Patience is God.

- Patience
Like I said earlier, please understand this one thing: not everything just happens by a speech or a performance, or any sort of gimmick. Some might, but most need the perfect timings. She's not a toy or an animal that you can play with or turn around in a second, she's a human being and to turn her mind would need influencing her, getting her on your side, in conflict with her boyfriend; and all of that cannot happen overnight, and definitely not by crying or begging.

The girl is very flirty, how do I make her serious for me?

2011-11-20T23:35:00.000-08:00

Since she is flirty, all the benefits that you enjoy being her friend, and something more are useless. You want her to be in a serious relationship with you, but you can't because you don't want to risk the following things:

- Your friendship
If she feels repelled from you are offering, she might start to ignore you as she'd always get new guys.
- Your benefits.
- It's basically whatever you think you have.

All the time you enjoy with her, you don't want to risk it by taking it one step further. But that's a fear that every man has.

How to make a girl who flirts around with guys serious for you?

There are three ways of that happening:
1) Time: With time, as she might realize one day that all of this has lead to nothing, and she should have settled with one guy and blahblahblah. That would be one moment, but you can't wait for that as there is no fixed date when it would happen.
2) Cause: If by any means she finds a cause to be in a relationship, is another way. It comprises of experiences, friendship, what goes in her life. She might get inspired from anything, from something as simple as looking at a friend's life. You can work on this gradually as a friend, through movies, through your talks, show her the true side of life. There is much of literature on True love. Make her read that. Be a good talker, inspire her. Bring a change in someone for good isn't that tough.

3) Restriction:
The third way is what mommy and daddy do: impose restrictions. This method applies if only it's too late.

So, what do you do when you have nothing in your power!
- You take the side of evil planning, and silently contact the people who are still in power to influence her and think good of her.
- Don't reach out to them directly, pick some indirect method to let them know about her recently- acquired habits of Alcohol and stuff. (make stuff up or if you have true stuff, good for you)
- They will take action.
- The stronger the action, the better it is for you.
- When the resulted action had taken place, contact her through any source, which you can because you know this was going to happen.
- She will read your letters/ messages/ whatever because that's the only thing she'll be left with at that moment.
- Out of misplaced anger, She'd want to be with you as you are the only one showering true love upon her.

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She is my best friend, does that mean she is in love with me?

2011-11-20T23:30:00.000-08:00

First of all, if you were good friends with her, you should have wooed her a long time ago.
Read the post:
How to woo a friend by confusing her.

Your mistakes were:
- You are too much protective of your image.
- You want to show yourself as someone you are not.
- You are too scared to take a chance.

This are the reasons why you didn't ask her number but talked to her on Skype day and night; why you are best friend but still never bothered to ask about her past relationship, even when you are curious; or you never tried to woo her yet loving her secretly.

Some conclusions that you and every guy-friend of a girl who wants to woo her should know:

1) The position of a friend is nothing.
I have said this before and now again: stop being proud of being her good friend. A position of a good friend is nothing in terms of wooing. If you want to woo her, then think of yourself as being one step less. But don't think about standing there and enjoying it as it's nearly over, and she would come running to you telling how much she loves you. That almost never happens.

2) Girls love guy-friends.
Women love to have males as good friends. It's a thing with them. But that is it, it doesn't have any corollary or epilogue that states that it also means that she is going to fall in love with you - that is what guys think. If you are her guy-friend, that is the only thing you are to her - nothing less, nothing more. That is why, don't sit there or be happy.

3) Being a good friend is step 3. Take step 4 asap.
You don't want to be treated as a good friend forever, especially when your intentions are to be her boyfriend. She is not going to do anything about it, in-fact she hasn't even thought about that. And that is when a guy comes from no-where and sweeps her away in just three days; and you wonder what went wrong?

What went wrong was:
- She never saw you as anything more than a friend.
Note: If her boyfriend doesn't like you, he can get you out of the game in a second, because always remeber: he is her boyfriend, you are not.
Therefore, a good friend is nothing unless her boyfriend approves. (this is largely based on the girl, and also the influence her boyfriend has on her)

My girlfriend ignores me, but says she loves me. What does that mean?

2011-11-20T10:28:00.000-08:00

What do you do or what will you do if you don't have the strength to break up?
You'll ignore the person yet won't accept that you don't love her/ him anymore. Some people have the tendency not to be the bad guy at all - especially girls. They can't take the guilt, or the fact that they were cheating on some guy or were the one who crushed his life.
The rules are, as I have already mentioned before:

1) Follow your instincts.
Don't think it's nothing. Don't think that anything unusual you feel is cool, if ever you get an idea she is lying about something but because you love her more than anything, you let it go. Don't.
Your instincts are never wrong, and if you feel ignored, that means she is trying really hard to actually make you notice that. Because in all that love, you tend to ignore all the light things.

2) She can't take the guilt
Like I have said, girls don't want to be the bad person. So she can't just come to your face and tell you that she wants to leave you. And of course all the talks, all the pretending is making her sick. Now the reasons why a girl might do this are:
- She is dating someone else.
- She has found someone whom she wants to date.
- She is simply waiting for you to say 'This isn't working anymore' someday.
- She is waiting for you to commit a mistake out of frustration, the day she'll blow the lid.

3) What you should do?
If you want to play, play the game, do what she exactly doesn't expect from you to do
- keep on being the nice boyfriend.
- Talk to her friends, be cool to them.
- Don't plan a meeting, but surprise her with a present and take her to lunch or dinner.
- When you surprisingly meet, don't forget to check her cell-phone - the call register, messages, etc.
- If you find something which is evident enough of she cheating on you, then stand-up like a gentleman, say that you could have told me like an honest human being rather than being a _____ (choose a name), and leave like a gentleman.

If you pull this off, you'll win the break-up straight away. Trust me, there won't be any guilt, or any want to get her back as you'll be so satisfied with your performance. Give it sometime, she'll come crawling back to you.

We broke up, and now she is with another guy. How do I get her back?

2011-11-20T10:23:00.000-08:00

(Solution to a dating problem by bikeralok@gmail.com)

As you have mentioned in the problem that you lied, because of which your break-up happened. Now there are following things you can do, considering that there are things in life sometimes close to the impossible:

- Be her friend, and start all over again.
That is one way, but as far as I know if she is already in relationship with another guy, after getting hurt by a lie from her previous relationship, she'd be pretty much committed to him, and listen to him instead of forgiving you and letting you in her life again. So that depends on chance, because no boyfriend likes her girlfriend's ex-boyfriend to be her friend.

- It depends on how her boyfriend is like
If he really loves her, and she loves him too. Then there is very little scope for you.

- See if by any means, you can break them up.
-- Check for his history.
-- Check for mutual friends who can do something.
-- Check for his ex-girlfriends.
-- Look for mistakes he had committed in the past.
-- Look if there are any lies he had told her.

To be honest, breaking up a couple is not that tough a thing. All you need is the right words. But that is totally dependent on who is at the other side. Because if he is a bigger player than you, then you won't stand a chance.

- If you can't do anything, then just leave it. Don't ruin your last hope.
A girl always calls. It might take time, but with a girl life is like a circle, she is never past things, one day will come when would definitely call you, but you need to maintain a reputation till then.
If you constantly nag or trouble her, you are destroying chances of your future. Don't irritate so much that even the thought of you disgusts her. Maximum guys, after their break-up, do that. It is not taking you anywhere except the girl farther away from you

I used to be friends with her, but then stopped talking. How do I get her?

2011-11-17T13:23:00.000-08:00

(Relationship problem by jimmypelmer@hotmail.com)

So, How can you be friends with her again?

1) Search for her on Social Networking sites.
Adding her there causes no harm, and the soul purpose of social networking sites is to find lost friends. And since you were old little buddies at some time, it totally won't be weird.

2) Make it look like an accident.
Know where she works, or which college she goes to, or any given place that gives an appropriate amount of time to bump into her, and also have a long chat.

3) Don't save her from sharks, or meth addicts.
This isn't the winning the girl's trust thing, so no heroism is required. It should be as simple as you can make it.

4) Work on your script.
Bumping is easy, but the talking should be very effective that it leads you to somewhere. This is the most important part.

Boy - Hey, do you mind if I walk you to ...that direction where you seem to go!
Girl- yeah sure!
Boy: So, what are you doing?
Girl: Blablah, you?
(Now I don't know anything about you, or what your age is, so whatever you say, say something big - the possible big. Something that makes you cooler than guys of your age, something additional than what everyone is doing.)
Or Use the sympathy clause-
Boy: Right now, I am really disturbed because of something. My best friend's brother passed away in a car accident, and I knew him so well. All day I think about how can I make him feel better, to bring just one second of pause to all that grief. I am sorry, I am burdening you with all this stuff.
Or be confidently forward -
Boy: I'll tell you all about it at 5 in the evening. There's a brilliant cafe/ whatever there is (you decide)... and I'll see you there.
Girl: She'll hesitate and make some excuse.
Boy: No, you are coming. Do you know how many people there are in this world? 7 billion. If you don't want to care about people, then don't care about the ones you don't know. And don't worry, it's not some romantic re-union, just want to catch up, gentlemen style!