I am no expert on the social and economic situation as I was just a tourist. People talk a considerable amount about the sex worker scene etc. in Thailand, however I was not there for that and I am unwilling to directly pay for sex. We all indirectly pay most of the time, in one way or another. Marriage has been compared to legalized and institutionalized prostitution. I don’t specifically agree with this comment but I do understand how some people come to that conclusion. However most of the time to use generalities the man pays for the drinks, the meals, the gifts, etc. It was no different in Bangkok except it was an amazing amount cheaper. A cocktail in a nice club was about 5 dollars. In a roadside dive you can have a beer for a $1.50.

Dating in Thailand

So what is dating in Thailand like? This does not include pay for service and I saw plenty of men with much younger women then themselves that I would think were probably a business arrangement more then anything else. Actual dating however was incredibly easy, very nice well educated women were happy to talk to us and more then willing to spend time with us and some of them are a considerable amount more liberal then their western counterparts. Possibly the religious difference in society and the lack of original sin, I don’t know I am not the expert I just know I spent alot of time with beautiful women.

Let me explain a little more on where we were, I have a good friend in Bangkok who has been there for a number of years, when we first arrived he asked what we want, instant gratification if we were willing to pay, or meet some nice girls that might be willing to go with us. I always opt for the non prostitutes since I can meet women and have sex whenever I want and do not need to go down that road, if I strike out it’s not the end of the world and tomorrow is a new day.

So he took us to a chamber of commerce meeting of all places. Sounds like a strange place to pick up women doesn’t it? Well let me tell you there was about 25 very attractive women there, if you have a liking for Asian girls. All of them were well dressed and most spoke good English. The best part, they were happy to talk to us and mostly approached us. The scene was different then I am use to as all the men were dressed well and we were in a hotel conference room. All of the women I spoke to that turned out to be single were happy to give me their number and and two of them came out with us that night after the do was over.

The tables are turned

In Bangkok the girls there are looking for successful men and westerners are a prime pick it seems like. If you are reasonably good looking, not talking Brad Pitt here, you will score regularly with some incredibly fit and attractive women, your not even going to have to work hard at it. Just be friendly and the women approach you.

Dating Asian girls that don’t speak English

The language barrier is not even a bad thing since they are willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, if you smile and joke you seem to be in. Take the girl to a nice club and dinner and your odds of getting her back to your room are drastically increased over a similar situation in our home countries. Most women I met actually spoke pretty decent English and they were always willing to try if they didn’t, besides speaking wasn’t really my reason for being there. I am told that when you get farther out of the business districts and tourist areas that there is very little English spoken and things get much more difficult.

Where we were however there was a huge number of attractive available women and I would highly recommend it as a holiday spot or if you can figure out a way, a great place to live and work.

Note here, I saw many men in there later years with very young attractive women with them. Many were married or had been with the women for a long time. The young women were doting and affectionate to them in a way you don’t see in the West. Some of the age gaps you would of had to of been a rock start to manage in the USA.

Dating tips for men – Qualities that attract women

Clean yourself up

No woman wants to be with a guy who smells bad, just like you would run away from a girl that smelled like a fish market. BO is not attractive, forget about the pheromones, and musk and all that crap and go have a shower. Make sure you cloths is washed and pressed if they need it, don’t smell a pair of socks in the hamper and decide they are fine. If they are not freshly washed wait an hour to go out while you sit in the laundry mat. Women do not want to be with a guy that smells like BO and shit. You might think it is fine and a little aftershave will cover it up, it won’t.

Have fun and enjoy yourself

Everyone wants to have fun and be with people who are fun, even if you don’t have a connection with the person you are talking to there is probably something about them that you can enjoy and others will notice. Women do not want to be with a guy that is sitting their brooding and not enjoying himself. A side benefit, if you don’t get to take the girl home that night at least you had a good time anyways.

Popularity is always good

Being popular is like social proof to a woman that you are worth her time. If you are out with a large group of friends and having a good time you will be more attractive to the women. In her mind, if other people like you there must be a good reason. However even if you are not mister popularity you can fake it and talk to lots of people.

Happiness is contagious

Ever seen the woman across the room who is always smiling and laughing? You wanted to be with her didn’t you even if she wasn’t a ten. This goes back to being fun. If you are a genuinely happy person more people will want ot meet and spend time with you. If you are not a normally happy person, fake it, smile at yourself in the mirror, amazingly if you do this enough it will actually improve your mood.

Be dominant and an alpha male

Generally this is the guys job in a relationship, most women prefer to be led and have the man make decisions. Don’t be an arrogant twat but be sure you are ready to make the decisions. If she asks what do you want to eat? Don’t say “oh whatever you would like, or I don’t know” You want Italian, say it. Make decisions and she will respect you more.

Be independent

Be able to take care of yourself and be on your own, nothing will send women running faster then a needy guy that dotes on them and has to have them there for everything. Keep your back straight and pay attention to your posture, look confident and be independent. If you live with you mom who still does your laundry and you are over 20 years old and not in school. Time to get a job and your own place. Act like you don’t need the girl and she will come after you.

Be Calm

Women will pick up on your mind set and emotions faster then other men will, they are really good at it as a matter of fact. So keep yourself calm, mellow and act natural. Remember, the worst she can tell you to do is f*&k off, I am sure that has happened before and you are still alive. If she does respond like that, so what she is a bitch and better you learned now then later, move on. Just stay calm and in control if you act all nervous she will to.

The one question that I was asked was “Why do I do this?” I knew the answer immediately, however I wanted to prolong it for a few minutes to make a larger impact. So I asked the audience, “why are you here?” As usual with a group of people that are somewhat self-conscious with lower self-esteem no one wanted to answer, no one wanted to stand out from the crowd. This is the exact reason they have not been successful with women and social interaction in the first place.

I started to point at different people and force them to answer the question. It started with the answers that you would expect, “I just want to be able to pick up hot women and have a great night.” I had about 10 similar answers before the change up that effected the whole crowd. One man when I pointed at him tentatively stood up to answer, he was nervous, sweating a little, didn’t like being in the spotlight. Finally after clearing his throat he said, “I was divorced 3 years ago and have not had any relationships since, my wife was my high school sweetheart and I have no idea how to meet and talk to women, I don’t want to be a pick up artist. I just want to meet the one woman that I want to be with for the rest of my life. I realize however that I have only ever been with one woman and I don’t know what I want in a life partner.”

So why do I do this? So you can learn to be happy.

Learning how to pick up and having relationships, and sex, with beautiful women has many positive effects at first. Your self-esteem will soar, you will be happy with your achievements for a while, your self-confidence will skyrocket and you will be amazed in the changes in yourself. They say no one can love you until you learn to love yourself, it sounds a bit corny but it is true. Until you respect yourself how can you expect anyone else to respect you? Most men who have not in the past been successful with women will have some level of approach anxiety, this will manifest itself in other areas of their relationships and lives as well. Learning how to speak to, pick up, approach, and feel confident with women will have profound affects in the rest of your life, as well as in the bedroom.

How self-confident will you feel when your friends are envious of your skill with hot women? How will you feel about yourself when you walk into the office party with the hottest woman in the room on your arm? What kind of power will it give you when you see the office manager talking to your date and trying to move in their, but she keeps looking at you, or you don’t care since you have another date with a different but equally attractive woman tomorrow? How will it make you a better man in a relationship that you stay in and work on because you love and care for the woman, not because you think she is the best you can get?

Why did I say above that this would have many positive effects “at first?” It will actually have positive effects for the rest of your life but most men, myself included who I have helped to learn to be successful with women are in amazing monogamous relationships with women they truly love and care for. Most of them are exceedingly happy and the lessons I have helped them with have had astounding positive repercussions in their entire lives. There relationship of course, their carriers, and even their health. The main reasons for this are that to be successful with women you need to first start taking care of and respecting yourself. You have to look at failure as a way of learning something and not a personal affront to you. If she says no when you ask for her number she is not rejecting you, there could be a million reasons for it, she is in a happy relationship, she just broke up with someone and is not ready to start dating, she doesn’t feel good and wants to go home, who knows she is moving to SPain tomorrow for all we know. People generally over analyze a rejection and turn it in on themselves, basically forget it and move on.

If most of the people I help end up in long-term relationships, Why learn to pick up women?

Simple, if you have only ever dated one or two women, how do you know what you want? How do you know vanilla ice cream is you favorite if you have never tasted chocolate? The problem with that in a relationship is that you will always be looking outside of it and wondering if chocolate is better then the tub of vanilla you have. If you know that you have the best and most fulfilling relationship possible for you, would you bother looking outside for something better? How would you know that you have the best unless you have dated and had relationships with a lot of women?

So my advice to people is to meet and have relationships with as many people as you can. Be a player for as long as it takes to know what you really want, maybe you will be in the minority and be estatically happy living this lifestyle for the rest of your life. If that is the case good for you, most men however do out grow it and finally settle down knowing that they could not do any better because they ALREADY HAVE THE BEST.

We are always reading body language constantly and we react to it without consciously realizing it. It effects how we feel and think about a conversation, how we respond and what we say. If there is one thing that can improve your success in social settings more then anything else a good study and understanding of body language is the key. Warning here though, you have to actually pay attention, not only to her body language but also to your own.

One of the absolute experts on how to read body language is Joe Navarro who took things to a whole new level as a trainer for the FBI. If they believe it is important for human interaction, shouldn’t you?

Women are better then men

From the start you need to understand, men and women’s brains are wired differently, they are way better at multitasking and intuition then we are. They are generally better at flirtation and understanding emotions. They however also are generally more animated and less guarded with their body language. They actually don’t understand it as well as men do. You are already and expert at reading and interpreting body language, you just don’t realize it. You give all the same signals as anyone else subconsciously; taking control of them will give you a strong advantage and power over others. How you react will effect how they do. You want a woman to open up to you, you will need to first open up to her. I am not talking about telling her your deepest darkest secrets, we are talking about opening your posture, showing comfort and trust, in the way you stand, how you react, your movements, etc. You already do it anyways; we just need to move it from the subconscious to a conscious level.

This series of articles is meant to help you understand what you are doing and what she is saying without ever speaking a word. This is some of the most powerful information you will ever learn when it comes to human relationships. It will also help you immensely when it comes to getting laid. I will guess that you lost more opportunities to have sex then you realize simply because you didn’t interpret the signals right. Her body was screaming ‘take me’, but you listened to what she said, were confused and didn’t capitalize on the situation.

Mixed Signals

Ever seen a woman that physically seemed really into you or a friend of yours, from across the room you would say she wanted him to take her home immediately, however when getting closer she is being sarcastic, insulting, and making jokes at his expense. Well she is actually into him and if he knew what to do he could turn this around and have her in bed very quickly. She is speaking like this because she is feeling attracted, sexual tension, etc. but does not know how to react to it, it is a defense mechanism for her. Understand her body language and you will know she is actually aroused and probably willing to at least explore the idea of getting between the sheets with you.

I was going to put this all in one article but once I started writing I realized it is a fairly large subject and will take a series of articles to just scratch the surface, there is actually people who study to PhD level and beyond on body language and it is a very interesting topic, however for our purposes I think we should be able to cover enough in a 3 or 4 part article to arm you with the tools to get out there and know when to kiss her, when to hold her hand, and when to take her to bed. Please check back everyday or so for the other articles in the series.

This does not mean you have to spend a pile of money on Italian suits, actually I have been out with other guys who are wearing $5,000 dollar off the shelf suits and I am wearing a $400 tailor made suit, you know who looked better? If you have a few extra dollars find a tailor, get your shirts and a suit or two made. It is an investment in yourself and well worth it. A good tailor can take 20 pounds off you by making cloths that fit you right. Properly tailored shirts will make you look slimmer or bulkier depending on what you need. Basically a good tailor is worth his weight in gold.

Find a Tailor

A great resource for how to dress is GQ magazine, I highly recommend you ge tit, look through it and find people with a similar look and body type to yours and then copy them. If you have a tailor you can show him the photos and chances are they can make you something extremely close, don’t worry about the logo’s, I don’t can and no one else ever has except the people with extremely low self-esteem that think other people care about that and will look at them different for wear the newest ‘Paul Smith’, tip for you, no one else cares so long as you look good, no one is going to look at the label on your shirt. If they do ask you could say worse then ‘I have a tailor that makes most of my cloths for me!’. Best part, you get cloths that fit for less money then most top brand names.

I have all my cloths made in Thailand, a little bit of a risky place to have it done if you don’t know your way around and who to speak to. If you are going to be in Bangkok you can send me a message and I can recommend a tailor that will sort you out right and give you the cloths that you ask for at good prices. You won’t get the cheapest here but as he told me, the places selling $99 suits, if I buy the material you asked for it costs him $75 per yard and he needs at least 3 yards, so if you are paying $99 what are they going to give you. $400 in Bangkok will get you a quality suit that will last you years.

A word on styles. We all have our own style and I will rarely correct people on anything conservative that looks good on them, however the key word here is conservative. Don’t dress like a ghetto pimp, don’t try to ‘create’ your own style. Clean attractive and somewhat conservative is what you will be going for. If your going to a club where everyone is wearing a T-Shirt, wear a button up dress shirt with the sleeves rolled up and a pair of new jeans. Believe me you will stand out from the crowd in a good way instead of people pointing and laughing you will get noticed and receive the type of attention you are seeking.

Be polished and clean

Shoes should be polished or clean, if you are wearing a tie make sure the knot is perfect. Why does that one guy in the office always look better then all the others? He spends about 15 minutes more in the morning getting ready, he makes sure he shave is perfect, his tie is done right. He looks in the mirror to be sure his lapel is pressed, the creases in his trousers are proper. This makes a huge difference.

The cloths make the man

You have heard the saying ‘the cloths make the man’, it is extremely true, you only ever have one shot at a first impression, mess it up and that’s it. Also when you know you are looking the best you possibly can you will feel it and exude self confidence, you will look like someone the women want to get to meet. In their mind if you make the effort and care about how you look they are impressed, remember women spend a considerable amount of time worrying about how they look, dress, and present themselves. The appreciate that you do the same. If you are a dread lock guy, cut them off and wash your hair for crying out loud. You are not going to impress any women except the hippy ones that don’t shave their armpits and even them I have seen more times then not go home with the clean cut, well dressed guy, over the guy that is physically screaming, “I’m a Bob Marley fan and a massive pot head with no future.”

So what it all comes down to, if you want to be successful with women, you first have to look successful, or at least like you have the potential to be.

We had the cars, we both owned our own house, it was a good life. Most people we worked with were married and had children. Where I was happy to be a player Derik wanted nothing more then a full time girlfriend and hopefully a future wife. He was several year older then me and had gotten married, and subsequently divorced at a young age.

One major issue with Derik is he had sever approach anxiety, he couldn’t bring himself to speak with a women he didn’t know, he would instead cover it up by saying ‘I’m relaxing tonight, if the girl is interested she will come to me’. Well if you have read anything on my blog you should understand by now that, that is never going to happen. Ok, I shouldn’t say never, 1 in 5,000 maybe. So if you play thoughts odds and you go out every Saturday and Sunday night from the time you are 15 until 70 it should happen once that the woman will approach you out of the blue, take you home and shag you rotten.

Back to Derik though, his 1 in 5,000 I don’t think had happened yet. We are sitting in the club and a very attractive woman walks into the club and he spots her.

“Look at her!” he says longingly.

“She’s pretty way don’t you go talk to her” I try to prod him on.

“Oh I am relaxing” is the rely I get

A little while later we are still sitting at the same table and I was completely enjoying the band when Derik nudges me.

“Hey there’s Jessica, Bill’s sister.” He points out another lady who was just his type and I knew he had met her previously through a friend of ours. It should have been a shoe in for him, he already had met her, knew her brother, new many of her friends.

“Well go talk to her, I’m good on my own, no need to worry about me.”

“Oh no I’m relaxing, she saw me look at her, if she is interested she will come over here.” Is his reply.

Well this went on a couple more times that night and he was always ‘relaxing.’ The band took a break and I saw a lady near the bar who I had chatted to a couple weeks ago, I excused myself from the table to go chat her up. Things were going well, I invited her back to my place after the bands final set for late drinks. She did of course end up staying the night.

It was time to go and I went over to see Derik to say goodnight and that he had to make his own way home.

“Why do you always get the girl and I am heading home alone?” He asks.

“Derik, haven’t you figured it out? Your too busy relaxing”.

The moral of this story is easy to see. Get your ass off that chair and go approach her, she is not coming to you.

First off; why should you take my advice on how to get a girlfriend?  Well I am not particularly good looking, I don’t make small children cry and run away but I am not going to get any modeling contracts either.  I do not drive a sports car; I am not the captain of the football team.  However I do get to date and sleep with some one the most beautiful women you are likely to meet. Even better quite often they pay for the date. Over the years since using my system and knowledge I have slept with hundreds of beautiful woman.

How do I do this? I can teach you, if you are willing to listen. You are going to find that that is one of the most important things in every aspect of your life, listening.  The old saying goes “We have two ears and one mouth, use them in that proportion”.  No truer lines have ever been said and you will find out just how important that is in your quest to get a girlfriend and have her chase you.

No you will not need to chase, you will of course have to make the first move, however you are going to learn how to make that completely effective with no chance of rejection. One of my favorite sayings is, if you don’t ask the answer will always be no. If you are looking at a beautiful woman on the other side of the room who you would like to sleep with and you do not cross the room, you will not be going home with her tonight. If on the other hand you do cross the room and start to talk to her you MIGHT be going home with her. By crossing the room you have nothing to loose and everything to gain.  By not crossing the room, the answer is definitely NO, by crossing the room the answer might be yes. My job is going to be to show you how to increase the odds of her answer being YES.

Something else we must realize, women like sex, more then men in fact, watch a woman during orgasm and you will see.  Most men are likely to only have one orgasm at a time, I have seen women have ten or more in a single session. Here at How Can I Get a Girlfriend we will help you along the way and show you sure fire ways to get women to chase you and want to sleep with you.  If it is just one particular lady you have your sights on we will help show you how to get her to be with you and only you. We can help you cheat proof your relationship or get you out of the “friends zone”.  If you have not met her yet, we will show you where and how to find attractive women willing to sleep with you or be your lifelong mate, if that is your choice. Why not sign up now for our mini course on finding, attracting, dating and sleeping with the beautiful women you deserve.