How to Destress Yourself

Commitment To Destress

2013-05-13T16:21:00.000-07:00

Making a commitment to destress is all about creating a life skill of emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual strength. When we destress our life, we create success. One big part of success is the habit of making great decisions everyday. One of the best decisions we can make for ourselves is to commit to our life, and to commit to our success.

If you are addicted, angry, anxious, depressed, or dissatisfied, you have stress. If you have stress, it is nearly impossible to see your success.

If you are stressed out because you have stress at work, stress at home, stress in your relationships, stress with your health, stress due to emotional difficulty, stress over money, and/or any other stress, you can make a commitment to destress yourself.

Making a commitment to destress yourself is all about making great decisions. Making great decisions is all about intentional choices. When we make intentional decisions about our life, and our success, we are strong. When we do not make intentional choices, we are making choices by habitual reactions, and this brings life stress by default.

Choosing what we will create for our life is a very powerful habit that can create explosive jumps in personal and professional achievement. We choose what we will create by intentional decision making.

Lets begin the powerful habit of making intentional decisions by deciding to make a commitment to destress. Decide, today, that you will make a commitment to destress, which is basically a decision towards your success.

1. Decide to make a commitment to destress for at least 30 to 90 days.
2. Decide on at least one thing that you will make a commitment towards to destress your life. In other words, choose a weakness and make it strong. If you have addiction commit to overcoming it, if you have anger commit to replacing it with charity, if you have anxiety commit to calmness and relaxation, if you have depression commit to making it hope, or if you have low self-esteem commit to creating self-confidence.
3. Decide on, and say an affirmation that will remind you to commit to your change.
4. Decide to give five minutes in the morning, and five minutes in the evening to your commitment.
5. Decide to breath, and say your affirmation all day, everyday, to remind you of, and hold you in the space of your commitment.
6. Decide to make conscious and beneficial choices towards your success, every minute of every hour, of every day, and make it a habit.

In order to destress ourselves we must learn to manage our stress by taking care of ourselves, creating focus, and getting organized. But, what if we are so stressed out that we feel like we are unable to manage our stress by taking care of ourselves, creating focus, or getting organized? This is normal when we have a lot of stress.

One stress symptom is immobilization, due to feeling overwhelmed and that is why I suggest to make a commitment to destress ourselves. How do we make a commitment to destress? Well, destress means to discover and eliminate our stressful habits and it all begins with our thoughts.

Are you paying attention to your thinking? Do you think you cannot take care of yourself, create focus, or get organized? If we are thinking this way, then we are promoting our own stress. We can take care of ourselves, create focus, and get organized, and in order to begin, we ought to think we can.

Here is how we make a commitment, we start with deciding what we want and write it down. Do we want more money, a better relationship, better health, a better job, or just to be happier? Then we set goals and as many goals as we want. We can think of all the things we want and write them down. Next, we pick our top three goals or our top one goal, if we want. We then work on our goal(s) by making a list of all the things we can do to obtain our goals and prioritize them. Also, we can create an affirmation that we can say all the time, everyday, to remind ourselves what we want.

After we have an affirmation, we can make a list of all the things we can do today in order to obtain our goals and then do it. We can do one thing a day, even if it is to just look at our list of what we want. This will help keep our goals in the front of our mind and we will move forward, I guarantee it. But, we have to make a commitment to do this.

We can commit to do it everyday for 30 days or better yet, do it everyday for at least one year and I guarantee we will make explosive jumps in our personal and professional performance.

When we make this kind of a commitment we create a successful habit.

Summary of making a commitment to destress yourself.

1. Think that you can! Whatever it is YOU CAN!

2. Decide what you want and write it down.

3. Set some goals and write them down.

4. Pick your top one to three goals.

5. Work on your goals by making a list of all the things you need to do to accomplish your goals and prioritize.

6. Create an affirmation, say it all day long, as a reminder to always focus the goal(s).

7. Make a list of all the things that can be done today in order to work towards the goal(s).

8. Do at least one thing a day.

9. Make a commitment to work on your goals for at least 30 days, preferably 1 year.

Often times clients tell me they don't know what they want or where to begin. My suggestion, to you, if you don't know what you want, is to make your goal to discover what you want.

If you don't know where to begin, I suggest you Google it! You can Google anything and get free information.

Now, you may be asking, "how is setting goals going to destress me?" And the answer is, when we are stressed it is usually over something in our life that is not going right. If something in our life is not going right we must fix it.

When we set goals, we can set goals to fix any problem with a solution and make the solution our goal.

When we are working on a solution we feel better about ourselves because we create hope and faith.

Faith is the opposite of worry and worry is what creates our stress. Some Helpful Suggestions

1. Read what you have written, often, two to three times a day is very desirable.

2. Brain storm goals, to do's, and affirmations.

3. Google it!

How To Destress With An Open Mind

2013-05-06T15:13:00.000-07:00

How to destress yourself with an open mind is what I want to talk about today.

Hey, hey! How are you? I hope you are having the time of your life, I really do.

What the heck does having an open mind have to do with destressing you ask? What a great question.

When we have an open mind, we are teachable, and willing to try new things.

If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are stressed. If you are stressed, what you are doing is probably not working, and therefore, having an open mind, being teachable, and being willing to try new things like meditation (quieting the worried stressful mind), affirmations (intentionally being faithful and hopeful), and creating intentional visualizations (thinking about the best instead of playing the worst possible scenario out in your mind over and over), you can, and will, help you make a stress free you.

Have you ever meditated?

Have you ever created and applied affirmations?

Have you ever visualized what you really want out of life?

The reason I ask these questions is because I preach meditation, to quiet the anxious, worried mind, affirmations, to remind ourselves to change for the better, and visualizations to motivate ourselves to do what we always talk about doing.

Are you willing to destress yourself with an open mind?

Are you willing to destress yourself with meditation?

Are you willing to destress yourself by creating and applying affirmations?

Are you willing to destress yourself by visualizing the best possible life you could ever have?

If you said yes to these questions, awesome!

If you said no to these questions then chances are, you are not willing to destress your stressed out self.

You can learn to meditate, create affirmations, and visualize by clicking here.

I have meditated, affirmed, and visualized for years now and it is the most effective goal obtaining enhancers in the world. Trust me on this one!

I have clients who have learned to meditate, affirm, and visualize, and they have made explosive jumps in their personal and professional performance.

Try it, you will like it. If you are really brave, make a commitment to destress yourself by doing meditations, affirmations, and visualizations for at least one year.

I kid you not, this stuff is amazing, you just have to be willing to try something new to change your life from stress to destress.

That's all I got!

Have a great day! Have a great week! I love you Sugah!

Elizabeth

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How To Destress? Commit!

2013-04-24T15:29:00.000-07:00

How to destress by commitment is what I am all about today!

Hey hey, how are you? I hope you are super duper!

A little over a month ago I posted 'How To Destress' and then I posted 'Destress Your Life'

Today I want to talk about how to destress by making a commitment.

When we move from stress to destress we are making weak things strong, and we are moving away from things that give us stress, and we move towards things that will make us feel success.

What the heck is success? Many people think that success is related to money but in reality, success is defined by the person who will live it.

What does success mean to you? Whatever you said to answer that I can bet you a million bucks that whatever it is, it will make you happy. Better yet, you think it will make you happy.

In my mind, success means different things to different people, but it all boils down to happiness. Happiness equals success. I betcha I am right about that. How do I know? I know because everyone who I have ever talked to names the success for them and it is what makes them happy.

Okay, blah, blah, blah, back to how to destress by making a commitment.

Let's make weak things strong, shall we?

Pick one thing that you think that is your weakness, and you want to make it strong.

For example, do you worry? I ask that because worry is the culprit of stress. If you worry, and worry is stress, then worry is a weakness and you can make it strong by moving towards the opposite, which is faith.

My weakness, right now, is physical. There was a time, not so long ago, I would run three miles a day, and ride a bike about thirteen miles a day. What do I do now? Nada! Nada thing! Well, that is not entirely true. Last Monday, I started to walk five miles every morning in my effort to make a commitment to myself so that I may destress.

So, destress with me by picking something weak, and make a commitment to make it strong.

Have you picked the thing that is your weakness that you want to make strong?

Okay...

Let's make a commitment to change for the better.

First, write down your weakness. Mine is physical, I am out of shape.

Second, write down the opposite of the weakness, which is what you will commit to. Mine is, I will be in shape.

Third, write it out as a specific goal of what you will do by what time frame. Mine is, I will cut my walking time in half within thirty days, and I will ride my bike in the evening, for ten miles within 60 days. So, within the first thirty days I will be run/walking 5 miles in half the time, and within sixty days I will do the 5 miles by foot in the morning, and 10 miles by bike in the evening.

That's it!

1. Write your weakness.

2. Write the opposite, which is what you will commit to.

3. Make it a goal that is specific as to what you will do, and by what time frame.

Let's do this! We got this!

Destress with me by making a commitment, and if you wanna, email it to me, and we can hold each other accountable.

Have a great day! Have a great week! I love you Sugah!

Elizabeth

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How To Destress Ebook Promos On Amazon

2013-04-12T14:20:00.000-07:00

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Hey there! How are you? I hope you are doing super duper. Please forgive me for blogging less than usual. The last two real blog posts I wrote were 'How To Destress' and 'Destress Your Life'.

I have no idea what it is, but I think I have writer's block. No lie!

I gotta make a commitment to make this weak thing strong. My weak thing is procrastinating blog posts.

Sure, sure, I have excuses but to me that just means I am excusing and rationalizing my responsibilities away.

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EMS STRESS BOOK

2013-04-08T16:16:00.000-07:00

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Destress Your Life

2013-03-04T09:01:00.000-08:00

You can, without a doubt, destress your life, if you but take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Hello there my friend. The day before yesterday I wrote about How To Destress, and the number one item was to take responsibility for your life.

When we take responsibility for our life, we are designing our life by desire, and not allowing it by default.

If we do not take responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, and actions, then things will happen to us by default.

Many years ago, my life was on autopilot because no one really showed me how to set and obtain goals. When I wanted something I went after it but, I did not aggressively set goals. About twenty years ago, I made the decision to take responsibility for my life, and my future, and constantly set goals, which means to always have at least three to six goals for my life.

Somewhere along the line of me setting and obtaining goals aggressively, and teaching stress relief, I discovered that a big part of accomplishing my desires is having control of my thoughts, feelings, and actions. This is so very important because, if I did not feel well about myself or life, I did not progress, and I became in the constant state of going nowhere.

How are you feeling about your life? How are you feeling about yourself? If you are addicted, angry, anxious, depressed, or hopeless about your future, your life, and you, I would plead with you to take responsibility for you thoughts, feelings, and actions, and learn how to feel better.

If I am not feeling well about life or myself, I look at the mood of my mind. If I am thinking negatively, I am not going to feel, or do, well, but if I am thinking positively, I feel, and do, better. Therefore, I intentionally create positive thoughts, and then positive feelings follow.

Having a passion, and a purpose really helps for a happier self, and a happier life. When I am living my passion and purpose (helping people with their stress), I feel magnificent, and I feel unstoppable. When I feel magnificent, and unstoppable, life is super duper allie ooper.

In order to take responsibility, one must know what they really want out of life. Do you know what you really want out of life? If you do, then write it down. Write down everything your heart desires, and be very very specific.

If you don't know what you want out of life, then seek out some help to find out. You can do this several ways; first, you can Google it. There is free resources to almost any answer on the internet. Nearly most websites will give free information so, Google, 'how do I find my passion, or purpose?' Keep at it by rephrasing the phrase, and reading all the information on the websites that pop up.

The second thing you can do is make a list of all the things you love to do, and search out that list for a possible way to spend time doing things you love. Maybe you can find your passion, and purpose, in that list.

Another thing you can do is ask for help. If you know someone who helps people find their passion, or purpose, get them to help you discover yours.

When you know what your desires are, you can design your life by constantly thinking about ways to obtain your desires. I would say, everyday make a list of six, which means list six things you can do everyday to move towards your desires, and then prioritize that list. At first, you don't even have to do anything on that list, just get in the habit of making that list. Eventually, you will have to make the decision to pursue the list, but by making the list, you begin the habit of designing your life, versus allowing crudola to happen by default.

Now that you have the skills to design your life by desire may I make a couple suggestions about taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Firstly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above, chances are, your self-worth is shot all to heck. What I mean by that is, you do not think that you are even worth doing all this work for, and maybe you think, "Why do any of this, it won't work anyway?"

If you are thinking you are unworthy of a better life, do this...

Get a journal, or a blank notebook, and every night make a list of all the things you did that day. You could write that you got up, took a shower, brushed your teeth, went to work, helped this person or that person, and worked hard all day, etc. What this will do is retrain your brain to see that you do a lot, you accomplish many things, you are important, and you are worthy.

Another thing you can do is breath the mantra, "I am worthy." Breath it everyday, all day long. Inhale, "I am," and exhale, "worthy." And contemplate that mantra through out the day. This will help you think thoughts of your worthiness. This my friend, is taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, which will destress your life.

Secondly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above, it may be possible that you believe it will not work, or that you cannot do it. What this means is you may lack faith in yourself. By creating faith in yourself, you can accomplish a whole lotta lotta.

You, my friend, are the only one who can change your life for the better. You, my friend, are the only one who can make or break your life. There is an older person waiting for you, and that person is you. Will you be fifty and dissatisfied, or fifty and satisfied? Will you be sixty and self loathing, or will you be sixty and healthy? Will you be seventy and in crisis, or will you be seventy and accomplished? What you will do, is up to you!

Believe that you can be, do, or have anything you set your mind to. Breath the mantra, "I can do anything." Everyday, all day long, breath in, "I can," and breath out, "do anything." Take the time to make it a habit to contemplate that mantra, and how you can do anything. This will help you think thoughts of faith in yourself. This, my friend, is taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Thirdly, if you cannot get yourself to do any of the suggested above because you do not feel good due to anger, anxiety, drama, or depression, then seek help. The first, and foremost help one must seek due to emotional disruption is assistance from a Medical Doctor, or Mental Health Professional. Medication is a helper, not a solution, and maybe you need help with medication. In combination with the help of your doctor, if needed, you can create better habitual thoughts, feelings, and actions.

If you have anger, create thoughts of love for yourself, and others. Anger is like hate, and if you have a lot of it, you may hate yourself. When anger is a habit, it is like looking for things that you hate, or things that make you mad. Choose to look for things you love, and if you hate something, say you love it, and it will make you laugh. When we laugh, we can become more playful, and that will easily replace anger.

If you have anxiety, create thoughts of faith, in life, others, and yourself. Anxiety is created by fear and worry. The other day, this lady told me that she was diagnosed with nonspecific anxiety. Seriously!?! If you have any kind of anxiety, it is coming from a habitual way of thinking worry about the future, and you not being okay. Trust me, I have talked thousands of people out of anxiety, and it all boils down to worry, and a deep habit of it. If you learn to meditate, you can discover knowing that you are always safe, right here, and right now.

If you have drama, get help. Some people are addicted to drama, and it takes help to get out of that mess. What I mean my drama is serious disagreements in your relationships, whether at work or at home, and fighting with anyone, often.

Finally, if you have depression, the most powerful thing you can do, in conjunction with seeing a Medical Doctor or Mental Health Professional, is get a journal, and every morning write all of the things you are grateful for. Make this list as long as you can everyday, and try to write at least fifty items. This is amazing. Many of my clients do this, and they are usually cured of depression in a day or week, but if they stop, the depression often returns. If you have severe depression, do this list for a whole year, everyday, because it helps retrain focus towards what is good in life, rather than towards despair.

The last items I would like to discuss in order to take responsibility for you life, so you can destress your life are compliment, encourage, and motivate yourself.

It is very human nature to criticize, discourage, and dissuade. So when we live our lives on autopilot, we tend to hold these negative thoughts by default. Please take the time to intentionally compliment, encourage, and motivate yourself.

There is a voice in my head that always tells me things like, "Way to go Elizabeth!" "You got this!" "This is easy!" "I can do this!" "I want this!" This voice has been developed by me intentionally because I became aware of my own criticism, discouragement, and what I call laziness. I taught myself to be strong mentally, which makes me strong emotionally, and that provides a focused, organized, and productive me.

This voice of complimenting, encouraging, and motivating, is a voice I teach everyone I have the opportunity to, and sometimes they don't even know I am teaching them it.

Just to recap, here is a list for you to do, in order to take responsibility for your life so you can destress your life.

1) Write down what you want out of life, and be very specific.
2) If you don't know what you want, Google it, search it out in your mind, and/or get help finding out what you want.
3) Everyday, make the list of six, and prioritize it.
4) Everyday, do at least on thing on the list of six, and eventually progress to do as many things as possible.
5) Work on what ails you.
6) Think better thoughts by creating, and using a mantra
7) Feel better (because you are thinking better)
8) Act better (because you are thinking better, and feeling better)
9) Create an inner voice that compliments, encourages, and motivates

These items, my friend, are the keys to living life with design, and desire, rather than by default. These are the keys to begin to destress yourself.

Start small by choosing one thing on this list to work on, or start big and do them all. But whatever you do, take responsibility for your life, and just start something, now!

Have a wonderful week Sugah!

Elizabeth

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How To Destress

2013-03-02T09:11:00.000-08:00

How To Destress is my specialization, and this week I want to provide a detailed step by step process on how to do it.

Hello there my friend. How are you this lovely Saturday morning? I am fantastico. About to get ready to help a friend. It's gonna be fun, and I love fun.

I have been blogging for over 6 1/2 years, and it took me about one year to really get traffic and to really start helping people out. Believe it or not, when I started to get busy, I would get upwards of over 50 emails a day, and over the weekend I could get over 150. The reason I tell you that is because I have the greatest opportunity in the universe to help people all over the world with stress.

If you are stressed, the best thing you can do is learn how to destress, and I want to delineate a list of things that must be done, and then through out the week, I will talk about each item in detail. Why am I doing this? Well, I love to help people with stress because stress causes misery, and the other reason is I feel like I have neglected my blog readers lately. I have been so busy, I rarely blog anymore on a regular basis.

So...

Here is the list of things that you can do if you wanna know how to destress.

1. Take responsibility for your life. When we take responsibility for our life, we are truly making things happen for ourselves rather than letting what may come, come by default. The way we take responsibility is by choosing, and being more intentional with, our thoughts, feelings, and actions. If you feel bad the majority of the time you will have stress. If you feel bad the majority of the time, your thoughts are, by default, thinking negatively.

2. Make a commitment to your change. If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are the only one who can change it. We all know that statement is true, but how many of us really do anything about it? If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you might want to do a little more for yourself than what you are doing now, and that takes a commitment. I always tell my clients, and readers, to make at least a 90 day commitment to change their thoughts, feelings, and actions intentionally. Although, this is a life long commitment, we have to start somewhere, and 90 days is a good place. I commit to myself everyday, all day long, for a stress free me.

3. Have an open mind. When we have an open mind, we are teachable, and willing to try new things. If you are unhappy, angry, anxious, or depressed, you are stressed. If you are stressed, what you are doing is probably not working, and therefore, having an open mind, being teachable, and being willing to try new things like meditation (quieting the worried stressful mind), affirmations (intentionally being faithful and hopeful), and creating intentional visualizations (thinking about the best instead of playing the worst possible scenario out in your mind over and over), you can, and will, help you make a stress free you.

4. Create faith. Oh baby, this is important, oh so very important, in learning how to destress. The opposite of faith is fear, i.e. worry. Fear is the trigger of the fight or flight response, which is the stress response. When we have fear, or worry, we trigger this response. If we have fear, or worry, on a regular basis, we trigger this response on a regular basis. Triggering the fight or flight response on a regular basis is unhealthy because it shifts our bodily functions, which ultimately increases the blood pressure, and heart rate, imbalances the hormones, and slows, or shuts down our immune system. This unhealthy response reeks havoc on the body, which basically creates illnesses. The fight or flight response is in our body to save us from a life or death situation, not everyday situations.

5. Have hope. The opposite of hope is hopelessness, which creates depression. Depression is the opposite of happiness. True success is our ability to create happiness, which comes from the self. When happiness comes from within, we can be happy at anytime, and anywhere.

Happiness does not come from food, TV, money, shopping, others, or addictions. Happiness comes from knowing your worth, and your capabilities. Happiness comes from being connected to your soul, and knowing what is important. Happiness comes from the thoughts that you regularly think, so if you think lack, you will feel unhappy.

People are always trying to monetize me, or improve my looks, which is so silly because money, and me being better looking does not make me happy. Most people think that money, and being better looking creates happiness. That kind of happiness is an illusion. Sure money is nice, and looking good makes me feel good but what if I measure my happiness on how many people I help, so that they can be happy? What if I think that I am perfect, and I don't need to improve? Sure improvement is good, but focusing on my qualities, rather than criticizing myself, is better thinking for happiness, and hope. Thoughts like that make me happy, and thoughts like that come from me.

6. Be charitable; in other words, have charity. Charity is the pure love of Christ, which is unconditional love. There are so many stressed out people who hate so easily, and the only thing that does is make themselves feel like shizola, i.e. poop. Hating easily is unconditional hate. The opposite of hate is charity. Charity is love, understanding, and an attitude of service. Hate is just an attitude of looking for a reason to feel bad. Move towards love, and you will feel better, or move towards hate, and feel like a poop.

7. Become connected to God. I have helped thousands of people in crisis, and despair, and the number one remedy is connecting people back to God. I say back to God because when we are in crisis, or despair, we are not connected to God, and that is how we get into the crisis. This is very deep because there is no other greater comfort than what God gives. I know that this is so, and I see it with every person I help.

The very few people who do not believe in God, that I help, are continuously coming back to me for stress, because they do not get the stress relief from connecting to God, and that is just my experience. Also, there are people who say they believe in God, but don't act like it, which is the same as not believing.

I know a person, who happens to be the most stressed out person I know, who professes to believe in God, but has absolutely no faith, hope, or charity. Well, maybe a little sometimes. But if that person really believed in God, that person would, without a doubt, have, or at least try to have, faith, hope, and charity.

People who do believe in God, that I help, get skills for life when they reconnect to God, and they rarely return for ways to destress. Connecting to God is knowing, or remembering rather, the purpose of life, what is important, and no matter what, everything is gonna be just fine. Not just fine, but super duper allie ooper.

Okay, so there is my pithy post about how to destress. Stay tuned for each item in detail, coming soon, on a blog near you. He he he...

Have a great weekend my friend, I love you, I truly do, and I want nothing but happiness, and joy for you.

BIG HUGSSSS....

Elizabeth

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HOW TO MANAGE STRESS

2013-02-25T10:46:00.000-08:00

How to manage stress is a very popular subject these days. If you have work stress you can read, in more detail, on how to manage work stress by clicking here. Today, I would like to provide two small lists on the things you can do to manage stress, because stress is high. How do I know stress is high? I know stress is high because of the traffic to my blog, and websites, and because of the conversations people are having.

When we are experiencing stress, we benefit by evaluating our habits. The habits I am talking about are the basics; eating right, exercising, and getting plenty of sleep.

How to Manage Stress List #1: Basic Stress Management

1. Eat right

2. Exercise daily

3. Get plenty of rest

When we look at the list above, we can evaluate our success for destressing. Eating right, exercising daily, and getting plenty of rest, helps create energy, and it takes energy to manage stress.

Another thing we can do when experiencing stress is evaluate what we are thinking, feeling, and doing.

How to Manage Stress List #2: Advanced Stress Management

1. Practice thinking with calm, certainty, and confidence

2. Practice feeling good about the self by focusing on what is good, not what is bad, in life

3. Practice making a to do list of six (or seven), everyday, prioritizing the list, and producing based on priority

We can look at the list above, and we can evaluate our successful habits. Thinking, feeling, and doing with focus, organization, and productivity will certainly destress anyone. It takes focus, organization, and productivity to feel good when we are stressed out. It takes intentionally thinking right, feeling right, and doing right to manage stress.

Well, I just wanted to provide a few things to think about on how to manage stress to start your week off on the right foot, just in case you are feeling a little bit stressed out. We can get so busy, and a little reminding always helps.

You can also read my book, "Stress Free: How to Destress Via Stress Test and Stress Relief." It provides a way to evaluate your stressful habits and turn them into successful practices so that you can learn how to destress on a regular basis.

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Have a great week my friend...

Have fun!!!

Be playful!!!

Live the life you were meant to live!!!

Love you lots...

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS WORK STRESS

2013-02-21T17:00:00.000-08:00

Work stress is huge these days. Many people are doing the work for more than one, and that adds stress. In addition to the workload stress, there is boss stress. That's funny; boss stress.

One thing I know for sure is the traffic to my blog starts to increase on Thursday night, increases a little more on Friday, decreases just a tad on Saturday, and then is up, up, up on Sunday night, and Monday. This trend tells me that there is work stress, and besides the fact that people come to me about crazy bosses, and crazy workloads.

So, what does one do when they have work stress?

The first thing, I would suggest, is to evaluate what you are thinking.

When it comes to workload, do you say things like, "I am so overwhelmed," or, "I don't know how I am going to handle all of this?" When we have this type of mindset about work, or anything for that matter, we tend to place fear in our thoughts. The fight or flight response in stress is based on fear. We fight or flee when we are in danger, and when we think thoughts of fear, the reaction is very similar to the fight or flight response. This causes a whole lotta stress.

In addition, when we say things like this, it is not the truth. You can handle it! And that is what kind of thoughts we must cultivate to handle our stress.

Look at the evidence my friend, you are amazing, and magnificent, therefore you can handle it. How do I know? Because you are God's child, and He is your Father, and that alone makes you amazing, and magnificent.

When it comes to dealing with an outright unkind, and unlikable boss, it is very stressful.

Do you have an unkind boss? Unkind is just a nice way of saying other unkind words but I bet you have some excellent adjectives if you have a mean boss.

I've had a couple of outright suckey bosses myself, and that stuff is no fun at all.

The thing about icky bosses is, they seem to consume our minds with anger, nervousness, and the unwillingness to like work. I say unwillingness because when we have horrible bosses, we tend to focus on that, and nothing else. But, if we become aware that there is about a thousand things we like about our job, and that the boss is only one thing that we don't like, we tend to remember the good, and we focus on what is great.

If you have an icky boss, may I suggest you help yourself remember what is good, or great, about your job by making a list of all the things you love about it. This will help you focus on the good, and not the one bad.

Now, if you do not enjoy your work, or your boss, and there is not one thing you like about your career, it is time to put the goals in motion to move on. You must do what you can do to make YOU happy. I am certainly not saying just to up and quit your job. What I am saying is, get your bootay in gear and focus on looking for another job slash career.

You can do it, and it will make you feel better because it will raise your hope. You are the most important person to you. You are the only one who will make or break your life. You are an amazing being who can be, do, or have anything if your heart desires it enough. So desire it my friend.

Okay, so, if your job is super duper and if you just want to destress at the end of the week from work stress, may I please suggest meditation, affirmations, and visualizations. I am always preaching this stuff because it works. You can learn how to do any of these practices by clicking here.

Also, a great way to destress from work stress is to recharge spiritually. We go and go and go, and sometimes we do not recharge spiritually, or emotionally, mentally, and/or physically. But we need to recharge, and the best way to recharge spiritually is to get to church on Sunday.

People are very ritualistic when it comes to going to church, I know I am, and I am because I know the great benefits of having a spectacular week, especially because I am recharged with love. It works you know? This church stuff.

Recap...

Evaluate your thoughts of doubt that you can or can't handle things. YOU GOT THIS! YOU CAN HANDLE ANYTHING BECAUSE YOU ARE A BAD ARS!

Focus on the good in life, and at work. Don't forget to write a list of the great things at work, and in life.

Meditate and quiet the racing mind.

Affirm what you want! You are worthy of, and deserve, to be calm, confident, and certain in your safety.

Visualize what you want, and see yourself in it because that gives way to faith and hope for you and your future. Visualization is a motivator, and it is an encourager for you and your future.

Get to church ;)

Oh, and read my new book ;)

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Have a great weekend!

Elizabeth

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FREE STRESS FREE BOOK

2013-02-15T09:24:00.000-08:00

Free Stress Free Book, this Sunday...

Hey there, have you read my book? Well, if you haven't you can get a free copy this Sunday on Amazon slash Kindle, if you click here. If you already got a copy, then you can get the updated version this Sunday, February 17, 2013. The original version had too many mistakes, in my opinion, and so it is going to be available for you, my reader, for free.


CLICK HERE FOR YOUR FREE COPY

Please let me know what you think by writing me a review.

Have a great weekend, and enjoy...

ELIZABETH

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How To Destress Before Valentines Day!

2013-02-07T11:22:00.000-08:00

This post is about how to Destress before Valentines Day by learning how to destress our Relationships.

Hello there my friend! So very glad to see you here on my blog, destressing with me.

When we are in a relationship it is suppose to be because we enjoy one another. Often times life can get in the way and cause stress and strain on a couple and we may loose sight of why we were together in the first place.

Love is two souls binding into one. Mushy, I know but, in my eyes it is true. That is what love is all about and this should mean that kindness, consideration, friendship, and tenderness come easily. If this is how your relationship used to be, and now is not, chances are you may need to destress your relationship.

What does it mean to destress a relationship? Well, when we are stressed we are filled with doubt, fear, tension, strain, and worry. When we destress ourselves we change that stress into success. The success I am talking about is certainty, comfort, confidence, ease, and hope.

Here are six great ways to Destress Your Relationship before Valentines day.

Start each day with gratitude. When you wake up, each day, think of what you are grateful for in the other person. Frequently, people focus on what is wrong rather than what is right, and a good habit is to focus on what is right. What is right with your partner? Write it down in a small love note and give it to each other every morning. This is an excellent way to start the day.
Give what you would like to receive. If you want love and affection then give love and affection. The best way to figure out how to do this is to sit down together and discuss what each one wants, make a list, and give. Concentrate on giving, not on what you are not getting. Giving is the greatest gift of all and if you have not learned that yet, keep giving until you have.
Always compliment and never insult. Sometimes we think it is funny to put someone down in a joking manner but it is not, it is hurtful. When you are playful with one another make it positive, and never negative. Try to compliment one another often, so often it gets sickening and then you can laugh and be playful about it.
Read a relationship book together. Every night, rather than watch TV. Read a relationship book that you both agree on. This does three things, first it helps you spend quality time together, second you will learn great relationship skills together, and third your communication will improve and increase.
Define what a best friend is. Sit down together and brainstorm what a best friend is. Write down what it means to be a best friend. This exercise is awesome because when you create your list you are defining your characteristics in your relationship and like magic you are the ultimate best friends.
Pray together. A couple that prays together stays together.
Finally, read my new book, about how to destress, together. It has a stress test and ways to destress. It will be fun! You can get it by clicking here.

Choose one or all of these exercises and I guarantee that you will destress your relationship. When you are two souls binding together as one you will be willing to do anything to keep your love and happiness alive.

One last thing... Make it a commitment just like you made each other a commitment when you decided to be together. If you are brave enough, make it a commitment for at least 90 days, and just watch how wonderful it is when you destress your relationship by destressing each other.

These are small tasks that will make considerable differences.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY

DON'T FORGET TO HAVE FUN AND BE PLAYFUL!

ELIZABETH

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HAVE YOU READ MY BOOK ON STRESS?

2013-02-06T09:09:00.002-08:00

My Book on Stress is now available on Amazon.

Hello there, how are you this wonderful day in February?

Back in October, I made an offer to my readers for a free copy of my ebook, and I sent it out to the first baker's dozen who had emailed me.

If you have read my book, and you would like to show me some love, my plea is that you please review my book on Amazon. I would really appreciate it if you would do that for me, and thank you in advance.

For those of you who have not read my book you can get it by clicking here. It was just published, and I am providing it at a very low cost for a week or two, so that my readers can get it at a very inexpensive price, the only thing that I ask is that you take the time to give me a review.

Stress Free: How to Destress Via Stress Test & Stress Relief has a fun stress test in the introduction, and the subsequent chapters have explanations and solutions to the stressful habits that you may have. It is really cool because you can go directly to the chapter pertaining to the stress that you have, and you can receive an explanation and solutions right away.

This is perfect for those of you who do not enjoy reading an entire book because it is only necessary to read the chapters involved with your particular stress. It is a fun book, and a quick read, if I may say so myself.

I have not marketed my Stress Book just yet because I want to give my readers first dibs at a low price, and then I will increase the price above what it is at now, which is only $2.99.

So, if you are stressed out, and want some stress relief, and stress reduction, which is what destress yourself is all about, please check out my new book on Stress by clicking here.

I will be glad you did, and thank you for your support, especially those of you who have been hanging out with me on my blog, and through email, throughout the years.

I love ya!

Enjoy the rest of your week my friend...

Elizabeth

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THREE STRESS REDUCTION TECHNIQUES

2013-02-01T11:06:00.000-08:00

Before the weekend starts I want to share with you three stress reduction techniques.

Stress often begins in the mind, meaning our thoughts determine a great level of worldly strain. So here are some stress reduction techniques that begin in the mind, and end with a less stressed life a.k.a. destressing yourself.

Stress reduction technique #1 is releasing worry...

Before you begin your weekend, find a quiet place where you can be uninterrupted for about 5 to 10 minutes.

Sit quietly in an upright position, inhale through your nose, filling your lungs with air like balloons, feel yourself relax, and then exhale out through your mouth, imagining all of the tension you have being released through your mouth with your exhale. Do this three times, slowly. Too much deep breathing can cause hyperventilation.

Next, think of the thing that worries you the most. Notice if you can feel that worry, then inhale, fill your lungs, relax, next just as you exhaled the tension out of your mouth, exhale the worry out of your mouth, and imagine it being carried away by the wind.

This technique is great when you have stress at work, you just want to let it all go, and be able to enjoy your weekend.

Now that you have practiced this, whenever you think about your worry, fill your lungs with air, feel yourself relax, and exhale the worry out of your mouth imagining it being carried away by the wind.

Stress reduction technique #2 is complimenting yourself and others...

Often when we notice things around us we tend to think something is good or bad, kind of like a judgement. Judgments are a very regular part of our thought process because it is a survival mechanism. We judge things to determine if they will help us or hurt us.

As we are judging we tend to criticize or compliment. This is a great indicator of the mood of our mind.

When we compliment we are focusing on what is good, which in turn makes us feel better. Part of destressing is feeling better. When we criticize, we are focusing on what is wrong, which tends to feel not so good. It is my humble opinion, which is based on education, experience, and evidence that focusing on the negative is a BIG part of depression.

What I am proposing, in order to feel better and reduce stress, is to intentionally compliment yourself and others this weekend. And, just notice when you are going to judge something as bad, or criticize, stop yourself, look for the good, and compliment.

A very good phrase to say and make catchy for this behavior is, "That is amazing!" Or, "You are amazing!" Which is usually true.

Stress reduction technique #3 is encouraging yourself and others...

Part of what activates stress is doubt, fear, and worry, which often displays itself by thinking about the worst thing that can happen in situations.

Thinking about the worst outcome is very discouraging. For example, when someone says, "Be careful doing that or this (fill in the blank with something bad) will happen."

People do it all the time. In fact, I know many people who do it, and it is disheartening.

This is part of the reason I am not on Face Book anymore because of all the fear mongers out there. They plant fear and discouragement, which happens to be the opposite of what Jesus teaches.

Have faith, hope, and charity does not mean have fear and discourage others.

What I am proposing, in order to destress yourself, is to intentionally encourage yourself and others this weekend.

Again, just notice when you are going to speak doom and gloom, look for the good, and give praise and encouragement. It will make others around you, and you, feel better and that is what destressing yourself is all about.

As parents, if we display these three techniques of releasing worry, complimenting, and encouraging, we can and will help our kids live to their full potential. This is brilliant because that is what we want for them isn't it? For them to live to their full potential and not have doubt, fear, and worry?

When we have doubt, fear, and worry we give up on life and live idle lives. The opposite of doubt, fear, and worry is confidence, certainty, and faith. When we have confidence, certainty, and faith we can accomplish anything just because we believe we can.

Practice it, live it, and destress...

Remember, practice makes perfect, and if you practice these stress reducing techniques, you will get real good at relaxing, complimenting, and encouraging.

Oh what a wonderful weekend it will be if we intentionally do these things. Oh what a wonderful life it will be if we make these into habits, if you haven't already, because I know many of you have.

Enjoy your weekend my friend...

Elizabeth

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2013-01-31T10:47:00.000-08:00

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WHAT IS STRESS?

2013-01-24T08:49:00.001-08:00

If I asked you, "What is stress?" What would you say?

Hello there my friend. How are you this wonderful wonderful day? I hope with all my heart and soul that you are destressed.

The reason I ask the question above is because there is a great illusion on what stress really is.

When people display illnesses, I think in my head, "OH, they got stress." Sometimes I even say it out loud, and then they reply, "I don't have stress." People speak their stress all the time, and they are oh so unaware.

So, what is stress? Stress is pressure, strain, and tension. Everybody has stress, even me, the destress yourself Queen.

Stress can, and does, show up in our lives in four different ways; emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual.

What I mean is that you and I may be emotionally, mentally, physically, and/or spiritually strained.

When I said that people speak their stress all the time, what I mean is that they speak about their negative emotions, which is emotional stress, they speak about their worries, which is mental stress, and they speak about their demanding hours and hard life, which causes physical stress. All of these stresses cause spiritual stress.

"What in the heck is spiritual stress?" You ask. LOL... Excellent question.

Spiritual stress is strain on the Spirit. We all are spiritual beings, and when there is stress on our Spirit, their is strain in our lives.

There are many definitions as to what Spiritual stress is but, it is my humble opinion, which is based on education, evidence, and experience, that no matter what kind of stress you have it is strain, plain and simple. Whether it is emotional, mental, physical, or spiritual stress, it is pressure.

In order to destress yourself, which is destressing the Spirit, we must work towards a symphony of the four parts (I stole that phrase from Ed Dale). The four parts meaning our emotional, our mental, our physical, and our spiritual lives. In order to do that, we must start with the Spiritual.

"These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." ~John 16:33

This scripture is magnanimous, and oh so very very deep. If we know the purpose of life we can know our purpose. If we know our purpose, we can find joy. If we have joy, i.e., being of good cheer, we destress ourselves, which is destressing our Soul.

When we know the purpose of life, and we know our purpose, we can and will discover our passions. When we live our passions we may be of good cheer, and find joy. Joy comes from within. Feeling real pleasure, and feeling real joy, comes from within; it comes from our Spirit, our Soul.

Feeling good does not come from instant gratification, e.g., eating junk food, smoking cigarettes, taking drugs/pills, drinking alcohol, playing video games all day, wasting our time watching TV, shopping (especially when you do not have the money), and inappropriate sexual behavior, which all causes and enhances all the stresses mentioned. Feeling good comes from knowing your own capabilities as a Spiritual being.

As the scriptures says, in the world ye shall have tribulation, and it is true but, we can find peace in Spiritual things. We can reach for Spiritual things, and find joy within, and we will not need the things of instant gratification that causes us so much strain.

What kinds of things can you reach for that are more Spiritual?

Think about that one, and get back to me. I know you know, we all know what we can do to become more Spiritual and connected to God.

Have a great day my friend.

Elizabeth

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SYMPTOMS OF STRESS

2013-01-17T09:51:00.000-08:00

Hello! How ya doing? I hope you are having an excellent year so far! 2013 is a great year, and it is only going to get better! Just thought I would let you know about that, but I am guessing, you already knew that.

For twenty years I was in the emergency field, and I still kind of consider myself to be because of all the emergency personnel I help with stress. Any who, when you are doing a patient assessment, a sign is what the assessor sees, and a symptom is what the patient describes they are experiencing. When I am doing a stress analysis, a sign is what I see, and a symptom is what a client describes they are experiencing.

The reason I mention that is because I want to talk about symptoms of stress. Firstly, stress is the number one cause of every illness, whether it be emotional or physical illness. If you are a reader of my blog, you have read that statement quite often. Whenever someone is sick, I think in my head, "Oh, they got stress." Whenever someone tells me they are sick, I ask, "Are you stressed?" Most people answer no because they think stress is some sort of catastrophic event when actually stress is any kind of strain. How do I know anyone is stressed? I ask them, "What are you worried about?" Then comes the words of stress.

Back to the symptoms...

The most common symptoms, which can also be signs, that I have seen in my over twenty years of responding to critical stress are...

Behavioral: Decrease in Eating, Decrease in Healthy Hygiene, Decrease in Sleeping, Increase in Alcohol, Increase in Drugs/Medications, Increase in Eating, Increase in Sleeping, Increase in Smoking, and Severe Irrational Outbursts.

Emotional: Apathy, Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Guilt, Helplessness, Hopelessness, Irritability, Moodiness, Nervousness, Overwhelmed, and Sadness.

Mental: Cynicism, Difficulty Concentrating, Difficulty Sleeping (unable to shut off the mind), Doubt, Fear, Negativity, Poor Memory, Racing Mind, and Worry.

Physical: Anxiety Attacks, Backaches, Dizziness, Fatigue, Gastrointestinal Problems, Headache, Heart Palpitations, High Blood Pressure, Increase in Heart Rate, Irregular Heart Beat, Nausea, Neck aches, Panic, and Upset Stomach.

In my experience the most common and The BIG SEVEN...

Addiction, Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Headaches, Inability to Sleep, and Any Kind of Stomach Issues (this can mean, but is not limited to aches, bowel problems, nausea, and/or vomiting).

It is my humble opinion, which is based on education, evidence, and experience, that anyone of these can be reversed if you are willing to do the stress reduction techniques and have enough faith in the laws of God, the brain, and physical health. Disclaimer; God allowing, and I say that because some things are meant to be and are according to God's will. Our hardships are our greatest teachers, and sometimes we need some learnin'.

The majority of clients have removed symptoms by removing the stress via changing their reactions, learning how to manage stress, learning how to deal with stress, and/or changing their environment, e.g., getting another job, ending a relationship, making more money, or moving.

Symptoms of stress can be resolved. Some turn to medication, which is wonderful but sooner or later we must learn how to reduce stress or we become dependent on the medication. I am all for medication for assistance but I am not for dependency on medication for stress.

There are three kinds of attitudinal beliefs, of peoples with stress, about their symptoms; the kind that think everything is outside of their control, the kind that think they have total control over their destiny, and the kind that is somewhere in between. If we believe everything is outside of our control, then we tend to rely heavily on others, and medication, for dealing with stress. If we believe everything is within our control, we tend to seek the truth in ourselves, healing in ourselves, and we rely on ourselves for some destress, which comes from within. If we believe somewhere in the middle, it really depends on our level of self-worth, and believing we are worth, or not worth, a better life therefore, we tend to seek the truth, or not, in helping ourselves.

It is oh so important to destress yourself when you have symptoms of stress. If you have symptoms of stress and you are interested in destressing you can learn

HOW TO DESTRESS: CREATING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE by clicking here

The truth is that most have never been taught how to deal with stress, and if we were taught this is part of what we would learn...

Our mind is the most very powerful thing that we own. The brain can tell our body to automatically breath, beat our heart, think, react, and heal for us all at once. Just think, when a woman gets pregnant, the brain allows the body to function for two, and if she gets cut, or hurt, the body will heal her. Everything that the body does, the commands and functions are centralized in, and are from the brain.

There is major evidence that the brain can, and does, do magnificent things. Thus, if we learn to manage our stress, or destress rather, our brain can heal the symptoms because the stress is causing the symptoms.

I KNOW THAT THIS IS SO!!!

I HAVE SEEN IT HAPPEN THOUSANDS OF TIMES!!!

If you have symptoms of stress, try to learn to destress, and you will most likely see the symtpoms go away. Trust me on this. If you have tried everything to eliminate signs, symptoms, and/or illness, and nothing has worked try learning how to destress, it's worth a try, you are worth a try!

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT HOW TO DESTRESS BY CREATING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Have a great day!!!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS SO YOU CAN SLEEP

2013-01-10T06:30:00.000-08:00

Hey! Hi!! How are you???

I hope that your life is BLISSSSSSSSSSS!!! LOL!

One of the greatest things I get to do, in my life, is help people with their stress. One of the most common things that people struggle with is being able to fall asleep, stay asleep, or get essential hours of sleep. If this sounds like you, or someone you know, I am truly grateful that we can discuss this issue.

There are many reasons why stress keeps us awake at night but the ultimate reason is because we cannot quiet our mind and/or release our worries.

When we have a stressful situation like death, dying, divorce, or devastation over health, money, relationships, family, friends, our home, or things we may possess, we have fear and worry. If we are REALLY stressed out it is because our mind thinks of and obsesses over what will go wrong.

It is very normal to think of the worst thing that will happen or think that we are unable to handle it because of the way that we are raised and the way society programs us. As we grew up our parents and teachers were always telling us what will go wrong if we don't do certain things.

For example, "if you don't get good grades, you will never get into college," or "you will never make good money if you don't go to college." When we were even younger, our parents would say, "don't do that or your going to hurt yourself." Get the picture? There are so many more examples and I am pretty confident that we could think of more situations that would indicate "the worst" scenario.
So, when we worry we are thinking of the worst thing that could happen in certain scenarios, which is a habit that we have created. In order to 'destress yourself' you must turn that habit into a successful practice of eliminating worry and creating confidence.

Back to the sleeping...

If you would like to fall asleep, stay asleep, and get essential hours of sleep you must learn to release your worry and fall asleep with deep relaxation.

There is a list of other things we can do, as well, like see our doctor, exercise vigorously everyday, eliminate caffeine, avoid alcohol, do relaxing yoga stretches before we retire, sleep on a comfortable mattress, keep regular bed time hours, don't sleep in, avoid naps, and create behavior that promotes sleep and eliminates stress.

Another thing that we may do is learn and live our passion. When we live our passion we become very satisfied with life and this decreases our stress. When we live our passion we may create long productive days that make us tired, but happy and satisfied, at the end of the day.

There you have it! Ways to destress yourself so you can sleep.

And if those things don't work, to help you sleep, you can try my new audio, MINDFULNESS MEDITATION FOR SLEEP. This audio is a stress reduction technique that you can use before you retire in the evening. You can listen to me talk you through a relaxation exercise so that you can fall asleep. The idea is to listen every night before you go to sleep so that you may learn this effective mindfulness exercise of deep relaxation.

If you practice this relaxation technique for stress, you can find that relaxation response that will allow you to be, and feel, calm anytime and anywhere.

Click the link to check out my new audio MINDFULNESS MEDITATION FOR SLEEP.

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Hope this helps you to destress. Until next post, have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS FOR THE NEW YEAR!

2013-01-01T00:30:00.000-08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Are you ready for 2013?

I am! I am! I am! That's all I gotta say about that.

This is the year!!! I believe!!!

I just want to say Happy New Year and remember, for the New Year, and your resolutions...

What is important is LOVE!

LOVE GOD!

LOVE JESUS!

LOVE LIFE!

LOVE OTHERS!

LOVE YOURSELF!

LEARN AND LOVE FAITH!

LEARN AND LOVE TO CREATE THOUGHTS TOWARDS LOVE, WHICH WILL CREATE FEELINGS TOWARDS LOVE, WHICH = HAPPINESS & SUCCESS!!!

BE FAITHFUL AND FEARLESS TO YOUR DESIRES, DREAMS, AND LIFE!!!

LOVE YOU BUNCHES!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

HAPPY 2013!!!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS WITH A PHILOSOPHY

2012-12-28T11:00:00.000-08:00

Hey Hey! How's life? You ready for the New Year? Are you ready for 2013???

Have you made your New Year Resolutions so you can destress yourself?

Every single year, all year long, I make New Year Resolutions because I believe that never ending goal setting is the way to move towards a more fulfilling life. Don't you agree?

Can you believe that some people never set goals? Seriously!!! If you are one that does not set goals intentionally, I got news for you, and that is worry about life sets your goals for you. If a person constantly worries but doesn't set goals, they are thinking about the worst things that can happen in that particular worry, and guess what? Yup! They move towards the worst things that they think of. That is how the mind works, it moves towards the very thing a person focuses on. Focusing on worries creates the worst in one's mind, thus moving towards those worries, and wallah! There you have it! The unintentional goals. The worries, and the worst, are the goals.

My words are just my way of encouraging you to set intentional goals to a better life instead of setting unintentional goals towards the worst life. In other words, if you have not yet, get your New Years Resolutions a goin'.

One thing that can really help our goals, and the ability to stay focused is a philosophy about life, your philosophy about life. Do you have one? If you do, that is super duper allie ooper awesome!

If we have a philosophy in life, about life, we can gauge every decision we make according to it, and it keeps us from getting lost in the business of life. Have you ever felt lost? Do you feel lost now? If you do, look towards your philosophy for answers, and if you don't have a philosophy, it is time to create one.

My philosophy is LOVE! That's it! Just kidding, I mean, I am not kidding about it being love, but I am kidding that, that's it. There is more to my philosophy than love, but if I could sum it up in one word, it would be Love!

My philosophy in life, for life, and about life is...

I believe in God, the Eternal Father, His son, Jesus Christ, and that my body is the temple that houses the Holy Spirit. With every fiber of my being, and every cell of my body, I consecrate my life to, and I serve the Lord. The pure love of Christ is charity, and charity is Love for life, others, and myself.

Pretty bold eh? Deep down in my soul I know this philosophy is the foundation of my purpose in life and it is the foundation of my happiness that comes from within me.

No one knows more than me that I am far from perfect, but my philosophy helps me move towards what I think is perfect. Getting better and better at life, to me, is moving towards love, and serving the Lord.

This philosophy allows me to have answers to every question, and solutions to every dilemma I have. It helps me live the life I am suppose to and it helps me live my passion and my purpose. It helps me LIVE LIFE!!!

So, I ask you again, do you have a philosophy? If not, isn't it time you create one? Let us live by our philosophy so that we may live our passions and purpose, and so that we may LIVE LIFE. It sure will help with our New Year Resolutions. Moowahahaha!

Destress with a philosophy my friend!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

I LOVE YOU! I TRULY DO!

Elizabeth Stanfill

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STRESS & NERVOUS EXPECTATIONS

2012-12-18T09:21:00.000-08:00

Hello there! Merry Christmas!

How are you this wonderful month of December? I am doing super duper allie ooper great! Life is great! Wouldn't you agree?

Today, I would like to ramble about stress and nervous expectations. A nervous expectation is what you think you should do, or someone else should do because if you or they don't you will get stressed.

Let me give you an example, or a few...

When I think that someone should return my call, or text, and they don't, I think, "I am really getting angry when he/she doesn't return my text, they should return my call/text."

When I think that someone should be more considerate of my feelings when they talk to me, I think, "They are being rude, my feelings are hurt, and they should be more kind to me."

When I think that my Dad/Mom/Son (fill in the person) should treat me better, call me more, or think of my feelings, I think, "Sheesh, they are being so not nice, they should be nicer and it is really frustrating me."

When we think someone should be a certain way or do specific things and if they don't we experience negative emotions, which causes stress, that is a nervous expectation. We are expecting things and it gets on our nerves if we don't get it. LOL

You might be saying, "You know Elizabeth, they really should do this or that (fill in the behavior), because it is the right thing to do, or it is the kind thing to do, or it is the loving thing to do." And I say, when we have nervous expectations on what people should do, we cause ourselves stress because we worry about it, and worry is the culprit of stress.

What do you do when you have nervous expectations? That is a great question. The way to destress yourself when you have stress from nervous expectations is ask yourself if you are doing what you expect them to do.

For example, referring to the above...

Do I return their call or text? If so, is there ever a time that I do not return calls or texts? Yes! There are plenty of times I don't because I am super busy, or my phone is in my purse, or my room, or my phone battery is dead, and I don't even know it.

Am I being kind to that person who I expect to be kind to me? No, because I am not giving them the benefit of the doubt. I am not finding out if they are having a bad day or if they are mad at me. And...Am I ever rude or unkind? Yes! We all are, and many times we don't even know it.

Do I treat my relatives better, call them more, and think of their feelings? I try but, sometimes I might not, and might not even be aware of it.

Why am I going on about stress and nervous expectations? Because, every where I go these days there are, and everyone I talk to has, some sort of nervous expectation about family, and friends during the holidays.

What if we are more accepting of, what we think are, peoples' imperfections? What if we recognize that there is a whole lotta stress around the holidays? People are stressed, people are sensitive, and that includes you, and me.

What is the real purpose of our lives? Is it to worry about our expectations or is it to have faith, hope, and charity? What do we really want to do? Do we want to move towards love in all our thoughts, feelings, and actions, or do we want to base our expectations on our importance to ourselves, which really is a form of low self worth.

Hear me out now! If we depend on others to make us happy, then we base our worth on what we think people should say to us, or do to us. That is not our worth. Our worth is, we are daughters and sons of the most High and we must have charity for others, and ourselves. We must base our love for ourselves on our worth in the eyes of God, not in the eyes of what we think others should do.

It is not my intention to be unkind or hurt anyone's feelings, it is my intention to help people relieve their stress by seeing the logic in what I say. If you really believe in God, and the plan of salvation, then love like Christ does, and forgive as He does as well, but forgive immediately, not in a month or two. ~wink, wink~

I want to do the right thing! I want to be kinder! I want to be more loving! I can do, and be, all of these things by being more accepting of peoples' imperfections, by being more understanding, and by being more like Christ is.

Just the other day I told my friend, we are all hypocrites you know? Because we are all imperfect, we have done the very thing we accuse others of doing, and we do the very thing we get offended over. Don't we?

Hey! Have a great Christmas by moving towards love in everything you think, say, and do. If you do this, I promise that you will destress yourself.

Love you long time...

Elizabeth

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HOW TO REDUCE STRESS

2012-12-10T09:05:00.000-08:00

Hello there ;0) Merry Christmas

Boy oh boy, stress is super high. How do I know stress is super high? Well, for one thing, people are showing it by there behavior. I am talking family, friends, and strangers. Maybe it's the economy, or maybe it's the combination of economy, holidays, and stressful situations.

Looking at the statistics of my blog, Friday's traffic increased about 450% from the average day, and 300% from the average Friday. The number one post read? HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR HOLIDAYS. The number two post read? BEING CONNECTED TO GOD.

One of the things that stresses us out the most is the habitual thought process of worry. When we worry, we always think of the absolute worst thing that can happen, and then we move towards it as if it were a goal. It's just a habit that many people have. Do you have this habit? I think we all do to some degree, don't you?

If you have the habit of worry, let me give you a suggestion on how to reduce stress by evolving the mind in order to eliminate this habit.

HOW TO REDUCE STRESS? START WRITING ;0)

First, get a blank piece of lined paper, and then begin to write your life as if it were perfect. In other words, if your life was absolutely perfect, what would it look like? Who would you be? Where would you live? What would you do for a living? How would you look? Act? Behave? What would be your hobbies? Who would you spend your days with? Write stuff like that.

Second, make a list of all the things you wrote, prioritize it, and then pick up to six or seven things that you want the most.

Third, create affirmations to remind yourself that is what you want, and that you will make a commitment towards these things to improve your thoughts of yourself, your life, and your future. An example of an affirmation would be, "I am a healthy athlete." This is something you really want to move towards and is said in the present tense.

Fourth, say the affirmation in your head, all the time, and visualize yourself being it. This increases your faith and reduces your stress. You see, when we worry, we focus on the worst, when we do this exercise, that I am proposing, we are doing the exact same thing but only focusing on the best thing that could happen, and evolving the mind to have faith instead of worry.

Fifth, and final, If you REALLY believe in God, not just say that you believe, but REALLY believe, deep down in your soul, then tell yourself this..."I am a child of God, He loves me, and with You, God anything is possible. I can do this with Your help God, I know You love me, You want me to have faith, and I can do this. I KNOW I CAN!"

Client, after client, after client, after client has done something very similar to this, and they ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS improve their life, and move towards their dream. Just yesterday, I spoke to a woman I worked with, less than a year ago, and she is living exactly what she dreamed of, and affirmed.

Try it! You will, without a doubt reduce your stress. I do it all the time, it gives me faith, and I constantly move forward.

If you find that your anxiety or depression is too strong in your mind, and you are unable to concentrate to do this, then please consider meditating to reduce stress. Meditation is the most powerful exercise that we can do to quiet our mind, and evolve our mind from negative to positive.

My friend there is less than three weeks until the New Year, I propose that you do this exercise now, and you will be ready for your New Year's Resolutions. Matter of fact, you will be way ahead of your game. Make a commitment to do this exercise for a minimum of three weeks, and do it now. You will evolve your mind, and be in a great place to start the New Year off with new and improved goals, and ways to do them.

You got this! You can do this!

Have a great week. I sho do love you...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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STRESS AND THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE

2012-12-03T05:30:00.000-08:00

Hello my friend, and Happy Monday.

Holidays are here, and people who have lost loved ones become very sad and lonely. Most recently, I have had two very dear friends loose close family members, and it is painful.

What can you say to someone who has lost a loved one to make them feel better? Not a whole lot. Grief is powerful.

What can you do for someone who has lost a loved one? The only thing I can think of is pray for them, take care of them, and be there when everyone else is gone.

In my many years of helping people, the two things that I have found most helpful for people who have lost loved ones are writing a book of remembrance, and having conversations with the one who is no longer in our midst.

A book of remembrance is helpful in two ways, it helps you write down the good memories you have, which makes you feel good, and you have a keepsake for the future to read and add more memories to.

To start a book of remembrance first obtain a book/photo album, start with loose pictures you have, attach the pictures to the pages of the book, and write the memory. When you run out of pics, or don't have any loose pics, just write memories. Try to write everyday, and as long as you can.

Sometimes this practice makes people more sad then they started out, but the majority of the time, because the memories are so tender and loving, it helps heal the wounds. People who have done this are very grateful they did, especially as the years pass because they have memories they can read that they may have lost with time.

The other remedy to assist with grief, having conversations with the departed, is very powerful as well. It is my humble opinion that the vale is thin with those who have passed on. It is my humble opinion that they are not far, and they can hear you, but you may not be able to hear them.

What do you think about that? Crazy? Maybe...

When my Grandma passed back in 2007, I was in so much pain, I tear up now as I write about it. She was my last living Grandparent, I truly love her a lot, and I was sad. When I was about 15, I lost my Grandpa, who was without a doubt, my favorite person in the world. I cried and couldn't talk for two weeks. Well, the night before my Grandma's funeral, I was sleeping in her house, and she and my Grandpa came to me in a dream. In this dream, they were both happy, healthy, and much younger. It was so real that I knew that this comfort given to me was a blessing from God, and the vale was definitely thin.

So, my friend, if you are lonely, or in pain for your loss, consider destressing your grief by trying these two things, the book of memories, and talking to your loved one. Try it, or not, and if you would consider it, please let me know how it goes.

Have a great week. I sho do love you...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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DESTRESS YOUR FRIDAY ;0)

2012-11-30T08:00:00.000-08:00

Hey hey! My last day! ;0) Day 30 of posting for 30 days of November.

Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes! I did it!

And this video is for you and your Friday. May you destress your Friday as you move into the last month of the Holidays ;0)

Elizabeth

STRESS AND FRIENDS ;0)

2012-11-29T05:00:00.000-08:00

Helloooh! Day 29 ;0) (sayin' it with severe enthusiasm)

Here we go, gettin' into the deep Holiday Month. December is the Deep Holiday Month. So, so, so much to do, eh?

Have you read my post 'How to Destress Your Holidays'?

You might wanna check that out, and let me know what you think.

Okay, so I was thinking about stress and friends. Some friends sho do cause a lot of stress, don't they?

In the past, oh I would say, two years I have four ex-friends, who use to be life long friends. It's okay though because they were super duper dysfunctional. Now, don't get me wrong, I fall into that category as well, so the dysfunctional can call each other dysfunctional. LOL

It has been a struggle loosing people I truly love but, isn't it a struggle to hang onto people who cause you heartache? My struggle has been to love people unconditionally, and I have this discussion with my son, quite often. He believes if a friend does you wrong (sometimes in the slightest way) you just cut them loose.

I agree, and I disagree. I agree that when the relationship gets to a point of causing you heartache more than it causes you joy, you can distance yourself. I disagree in that we must be forgiving, and give unconditional love because we are all imperfect.

What I have learned is, I can love unconditionally from a distance.

So, that is how I handle stress with friends, and family sometimes. I love unconditionally from a distance.

You know, these friends that I have become to love from a distance were just going another way than I was, and that is okay.

What I am trying to say about stress and friends is, if he/she/they are causing you heartache, or any kind of negative emotion, they are adding to your stress, and it is okay to love them from a distance. What I mean by distance is less time with them, and/or eliminating situations with them that are stressful, and/or letting them go.

I let my friends go, it was disheartening, but it is okay. It is okay to be sad about letting friends go, it is totally normal. It is okay to be without people who cause you grief more than joy.

People treat us as good, or as bad, as we allow them to.

Get my meanin' Vern?

Just some thoughts to destress yourself, especially around the holidays.

Have a great day...

Elizabeth Stanfill

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COMPLIMENTS AND CRITICISM

2012-11-28T04:30:00.000-08:00

Hello there... Day 28 ;0)

How are you? I hope you are fantastico!

You know, I have a whole lotta readers of my lil ole blog, and I get emails that are a combination of compliments, criticisms, and answer searching.

I love, love, love, every single email I get because it tells me that people are stressed, they read my blog, and they care enough to communicate with me. I get to communicate with people all over the world.

Compliments or criticism, it doesn't matter to me, I appreciate them both. Although, my favorite is the answer searching because it gives me an opportunity to serve, to help someone who wants more, or something better. Oh ya, I do get those emails from people with stress websites who want me to promote their stuff, but that is a whole nother post ;0)

Compliments are awesome because I get to hear what I am doing right, and what I have done to help others. Criticisms are awesome too because I have an opportunity to find out what may be improved.

Usually when I am criticized it is because of concern, which is cool, but sometimes I am criticized for speaking about God, and that even makes some people angry.

Ya, about that! You know, I have seen some serious shizzz in my life, death, devastation, and seriously questionable things that make you go hmmm... with pain and despair in that hmmm.

I have seen things that made me ask the questions, "God how could this happen?" and "God are you really there?" So when I searched for the answers to those questions I found God, and His love for me. I found faith in His plan, and that if I have faith in the process of life, knowing that He will always take care of me, and that He is, and has always been, there for me, life is truly pretty darn easy.

I have learned to focus on what is good, and not what is bad. It is just as easy to do either one, if we but know it. When I focus on God (good), life is great. So, I do not focus on the bad, because life becomes not so great.

What I am saying here, I suppose is, I love your emails, and I am grateful for you. In addition, I will continue to talk about God because I know with all my heart and soul that, that is the way out of deep despair, and that is the way out of any critical stress you may have.

Have a lovely day lovely...

Big Hugs, and I lovey you!

Elizabeth Stanfill

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