Keeping Your Girlfriend Interested in You

How to Keep Your Girlfriend Attracted to You

2012-07-26T15:08:00.000-07:00

Author: Bagande (Photo credit: Wikipedia) How are you going to keep your girlfriend attracted to you once the initial attraction starts going to pieces?

The truth of the matter is that a balanced life consists of dating and relationships. I know for a fact that a lot of you guys are interested in much more than just how to create attraction. You want to keep it!

And granted, you definitely can't proceed to any level of success until you've got an idea of how to create that all-important sensation known as attraction with your girlfriend... but the flip side of this is that there's really no point in creating it in the first place unless you know what to do with it once you've got it. Makes sense, right?

So once you've got it: How do you make that spark of attraction grow into the heat of passion?

The thing is, the fundamentals for creating attraction in the first place are different from the rules of thumb for maintaining her interest. The stuff you did to get something cooking with a woman must continue once you're actually in a relationship with her. It doesn't matter what the basis of your relationship is, whether you're casually dating each other or involved in an exclusive relationship. Once you've got something going, you've gotta take steps to make sure that things remain as good as they were in the beginning.

If that special lady seems to have lost her love for you, there are tiny little text messages you can use to get her back into your life and renew the romance. Check out this video, it's a good illustration of how a simple text message can bring her desire for you back... Bring Her Back With Text Messages

Now the real question is: How do you keep her desire for you?

First, here is an all-essential preventative measure. For heavens sake, don't pretend to be someone you're not, be sincere. This is where the question of honesty comes into play. As far as advice goes, this one sounds about as revolutionary as being told to eat your fruit and vegetables ... but you know what?

If you don't eat your veggies, you'll most likely experience an untimely death, at the premature end of a short and unhealthy life. Just bear with me for a second ... think of this like an analogy of what a relationship with a woman will be like if you aren't honest with her: short, unhealthy, riddled with disease, and ultimately dead before its time. Not to mention pretty damn uncomfortable to live through.

Here's why, relationships can't live without the attraction factor. Attraction is basically the lifeblood of any romantic relationship. Without it, things are just gonna shrivel up and blow away in the drought of "no sex".

Know what? If you act like the most attractive man in the world, even if you take on the role of the dude who's better than her wildest dreams, it's not sustainable. Sooner or later the "real you" is going to shine through and then what do you think is going to happen? Pffffft .... she's gone.

The kind of men that women stay attracted to aren't afraid to deal openly and honestly with challenges ... like actually saying something when they're annoyed or not happy with the way things are going. Please, no screaming or yelling.

So:

Be honest about how you feel about the relationship.
If she's irritating you, call her out on it.
If she's acting out, let her know about it.
If she's done something that's offended you or that's given you pause or that you wish she wouldn't do again, tell her about it.

If the nail is in the coffin of your relationship, you do have a good possibility to turn it around. Try using the innovative and life-changing text methods outlined in Michael Fiore's text your girlfriend back into your life video.

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Can I Get My Girlfriend To Love Me Again?

2012-04-17T14:49:00.009-07:00

The Girl Friend (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
How devoted are you toward your girlfriend?

If you and your girlfriend have been together for a while you may have found that the excitement isn't what it used to be and you're just not sure she even loves you anymore. At times like this the one thing that keeps going through your mind is... can I get my girlfriend to love me again? This situation is common for those who have been together for a while. Just because your girl isn't as affectionate as she once was doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't still love you.

Maybe she tired of waiting for you to pop the big question or wants more of a commitment from you. Her biological clock is ticking. Does she want to start a family? This is something you should find out.

Then again, people change over time, we all do. The problem is that when it comes to a relationship two people may not change in the same way. For instance, you both like to party every night of the week but lately she just doesn't seem interested, yet you still want to, this is a classic sign of two people maturing at different rates. In a case like this you must choose between her and you sowing your wild oats. Could it be best to just end the relationship and find someone who shares your interests? Not if you want her to love you again! You’re looking to arouse her love for you, right?

Sometimes relationship changes are unsettling but they don't have to be deal breakers. If you and your girl can talk and find some common ground you can not only re-ignite the passion in your relationship you can also find great new ways to spend time together.

Sometimes it's best to start at the beginning, as much as possible. Maybe you've both changed since you and your girlfriend have been together. Take stock of the way you conduct yourself and of the way you treat her. Can you honestly say that it's the same as it was when the two of you first met? Do you still do all the little things (hold the door, tell her you love her, compliment the way she looks, etc.) that you used to do? If not, consider doing those things again. She would still like you to make her feel special.

Would you like to go out and do the things the two of you used to do, or do you just want to lounge on the couch and watch television? She might simply be getting bored with you if you're not going to commit to your relationship.

When the two of you first met did you have a lot of dreams and ambitions? Do you still? If not, you may have lost some of the passion you had for life and that may have been one of the things she found so attractive about you when you first met. It might be good for you and your relationship to find some of that passion and ambition again.

If you're wondering; how can I get my girlfriend to love me again, you can start by evaluating your relationship. Honestly answering these questions can be a great way to start. Once you get a handle on the problem you'll have a much better time of coming up with solutions.

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How Can I Get My Ex-Girlfriend To Come Back To Me?

2010-05-04T16:54:00.000-07:00

Image via WikipediaDo you find yourself asking this question? How can I get my ex-girlfriend to come back to me? Remember, it could be worse as you find yourself in this situation. It doesn't matter what happened between you and your girl, if you're willing to work at it you can get her to come back to you and the two of you can have a better relationship the second time around because you learn from your mistakes.

Consider these two steps:

These steps aren't difficult to do and yes, they do work. There are thousands of people who have used these steps to get their ex-lady friend back. Please understand that you will have to spend some time and effort because this process doesn't produce results overnight. It just won't happen unless you're willing to work for a successful relationship.

If you're looking for a quick fix, sorry, this isn't it. But, if you're looking for as close to a guarantee as you'll ever get in matters of the heart, than keep reading...

Step one is to step off. Give your girl a little space. If you keep texting or calling her than all you're going to do is let her know you will be a back up plan if she doesn't meet anyone else, you really don't want your ex to think of you that way, do you?

Step two is to man up. True, I don't know you or what you're like but we all have our issues and I'm sure you have yours. Those issues probably contributed to the relationship falling apart in the first place. It's time you own up to them and take some time to change them. If you are able to do this you'll be light years ahead of where you were before.

Once you've made much needed changes to the way you act, it's time to call your ex. Don't try to talk her into taking you back, just be friendly and casual and ask her if she'd like to get together just to catch up. Once the two of you are together, show her the changes you've made. Don't talk about it let her see for herself. When an encounter with her goes well, give her a few days before you call her again. See if she'd like to go out. Remember, at this point the two of you are starting all over again, so be willing to take it slow and let her see that the changes you've made are real.

Just because your girlfriend isn't as affectionate as she was in the past doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't love you anymore. All living things need nourishment to thrive, including relationships.

This advice is simple but very effective as long as you are willing to put in some time and effort. In order for it to work you also have to be willing to face some things about the person you are and be willing to make some changes. If you can do these things you will find that you have answered the question, “How can I get my ex-girlfriend to come back to me?” Bring back the love, that's how.

How to Preserve the Love of Your Woman

2010-02-20T20:49:00.004-08:00

Image by Alice♩ via FlickrSo many guys find just the right woman, only to see her go away. Inevitably, they regret it for a long time afterwards. Nobody wants that to happen and that doesn't have to happen to you! Today we’ll talk about one of the toughest but most rewarding steps towards keeping the love of a woman.

It’s hard to admit when you’re wrong, really hard for some guys. If you're one of those guys then listen up. It takes time to implement changes. Have I told you about my neighbor who’s trying to get her husband to stop drinking. Believe me, it took a long time before Tom admitted he had a drinking problem. Finally he admitted he had a problem, that was the most important step in causing him to change.

But wait, there's more. The good word is admitting you’re wrong can be rewarding. I’ll give you an example. One of the things I always prided myself on was that I wasn’t self centered. I considered myself a pretty selfless person who was willing to surrender my needs for the sake of other people. I always thought I was the kind of person who gave more than he received. In short, I considered myself... selfless, not selfish.

Then one day my wife called me out on it. She called me selfish. As a person who had always believed that I was caring and selfless, I took immediate offense to this. "What the hell." I yelled, "you can’t call me selfish!" She was ruining the positive picture of myself. I wasn't about to let that happen!

Yes indeed, she did it. She called me self centered, why? Well, my mate usually comes home from work before I do. When I came home, I headed straight for the fridge because I was thirsty. Before giving her a hug and sounding delighted to see her I'd head for the refrigerator and leave her hanging. On top of that, I would usually go straight for the wood shop after I got my tall glass of sweet tea. Doing this once in a while would have been okay but it became a routine, my woman became angry with me.

Females need love, they want to know that they count. This perfectly selfless man (me), wasn’t tending to my wife’s wants. I was only thinking about myself, about my sweet tea and working in the wood shop. So, she called me out on it.

Of course I didn’t react well to this deliberate disrespect. Trying not to lose control over my actions, I continued my routine. Can you imagine how that affected our relationship? Have you ever got that look from someone? You know, if looks could kill kind of look or you're an idiot sort of look that sometimes comes from your boss.

A few days of that look made me take a good look at myself from her perspective. I realized the error of my way and apologized, which is always a required first step toward making up. Now I give my mate an embrace and a smooch when I arrive home. She'll pour a tall glass of sweet tea for me as we talk about each others day. She has no problem with me disappearing into the shop afterwards. I had attended to her wants. So now she allows me to merrily tend to mine afterwards. It was a big reward for a small change that put our relationship ahead of my own petty desires.

Change like that only happens when you’re true with yourself. If I didn’t admit that I was being selfish to both her and myself, there was no way the relationship was going to improve. The marriage still would have continued but to a lesser degree of bliss.

Accepting the fact of being wrong is also helpful when you look back at past relationships. Why did it end? What could you have done to made your relationship better? Would it have worked out if you had reacted differently in a certain situation? As long as you’re willing to learn from your mistakes, you’ll never fail.

If you'd like to find out more about finding and entering relationships with women, then you'll definitely want to know about How to keep her loving you

PS. Have you heard about the 5 myths that prevent guys from becoming great lovers?

Michael J.

7 Ways To Arouse Your Girlfriend’s Love For You

2010-01-29T06:30:00.004-08:00

Image via WikipediaYou might be disappointed that your relationship doesn’t have the charm and romanticism that it once had. Frightened that this may affect or eventually end your relationship? You want to arouse your girlfriend's love for you but aren't sure how.

You’re not alone. Having the same partner for a long period of time can cause you to take one another for granted. As a result, the relationship may become stale and lose the spark that made it so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas to ignite that charm and bring her love back:

1. Send her a surprise gift at work. Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write "I Love You" inside a heart.

Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner's workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Your girlfriend's name, Suite 20, Collins & Herman LLC, NY.” Mail it to your partner so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.

2. Have fun with water. On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them with you. Pull them out and throw one to your girlfriend and then have a huge water fight.

3. Bring back childhood memories. Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example, if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.

4. Become kids again. If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give her a ride. This might bring back happy memories from childhood.

5. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s night. Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.

6. Show feeling for your partner. Leave a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying: "Thank you for coming into my life."

Follow these steps in progression, if your girlfriend hasn't been aroused yet, this should do it. I've known of some instances where women became aroused at each and every step listed here. By now you both should be ready for the next step.

7. Spice up your lovemaking (if the opportunity presents itself). Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance in your relationship is some frisky foreplay.

Surprise your partner with a little gift after you make love. Give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each others eyes and caressing their bare skin.

Many people underestimate the power these little things have on a relationship. If times are rough in your relationship don’t wait for your girlfriend to do something, you take action. Make the first step towards mending your relationship. It’s all about passion. You need to show your love for her.

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How to Get My Girlfriend to Love Me Again

2009-11-10T04:48:00.006-08:00

5 Reasons as to Why You’re Getting the Cold Shoulder and What You Can Do to Fix the Situation

Of course you probably already know that this is a tough question you've been asking yourself lately, "How to get my girlfriend to love me again?"

There are a few possibilities that you should explore when coming up with an answer to your question. What's more the answers depend on your specific situation and circumstances.

No need to get excited, there are some powerful strategies that any man can apply towards gaining his girlfriend's love back.

First, you need to figure out why your girlfriend has stopped loving you (or why she says that she doesn't love you anymore, even if that may not be true).

What, you ask? Yes, there are some very common possibilities as to why she is not showing her love for you.

Do any of these reasons fit your situation?

1. I've lost my woman's love because I had an affair and she found out.

2. My lady found someone new that she feels is better than me.

3. Can you think of times when you haven't followed through with promises or agreements? Have you promised her that you will change your mental attitude or maybe some other matters that annoy her but haven't done so?

These kinds of annoyances will lead to disappointment and possible loss of hope on her part.

4. Is it possible that from her point of view, you've been neglecting her? Have you given her the love and attention she needs. You must give her the attention she needs if you want to win her back.

Women have a need to feel appreciated for the little things they do. They will usually respond with more love if they feel appreciated.

5. If you've tried to control everything she does, that is a huge mistake. Allow your girlfriend some freedom and space to do what she wants. Otherwise you will drive her away. I'm certain that you don't want that, am I right?

How to Fix the Situation...

Here's the story... Once you've identified the reason or combination of reasons, you can start to go to work on the problem. Many relationships fail because the real problems aren't understood there is too much misconception.

Not only that but one of the best ways to win back the love of your girlfriend is this... There are two people that you need to look at. The first is the person that you were when your girlfriend fell for you. The second is the person that you were when your girlfriend stopped loving you. If you can figure out what changed between these two people, you will have a recipe for reversal that can get you to look attractive once again to your ex-girlfriend.

3 different types of connections

In order to truly have a loving long term relationship you need to be connected in 3 ways... physically, spiritually, and emotionally. This is necessary for the success of any long term relationship. All people want to feel like they are accepted, understood, desired, and loved by their partners.

Communicate!

Communication is a major player in winning back your girlfriend’s love... Men think differently than women do, so even if you think you know how your girlfriend feels about something (because that's the way you feel), most likely you are wrong when you assume that you know how she feels about such and such. So talk to her and find out.

Without communication, it's really hard to resolve any kind of conflict, big or small. The right kind of communication will allow your damaged relationship to start recovering and later to thrive if you give your girlfriend the opportunity to share her dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with you.

Keep moving forward

If your girlfriend agrees to reunite with you, don't go back to what wasn't working. Keep things interesting, do little things to show her how much you love and appreciate her. Do something pleasantly surprising! Need some great date ideas?

Keep your promises. This is another important part of the equation. If you haven't kept your promises in the past, start doing so now. Your past broken promises have no doubt ruined the trust in your relationship but you can start repairing that now.

Finally, give your girlfriend the space and time she needs. Let her know that you are there for her but don't suffocate her.

I’m confident that you will use this information and start heading in the right direction to recover the love of your lady. You can also learn a couple unique but highly successful strategies for solving your concern of "how to get my girlfriend to love me" by visiting Magic of Making Up