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Does Remarriage Constitute Adultery?

Cindy — Tue, 01 Apr 2025 17:11:23 +0000

In previous articles, I have clarified several teachings relating to biblical divorce which are commonly misinterpreted – and therefore incorrectly taught – when exposed to the light of Scripture. Among these teachings is the notion that – regardless of whether you obtain a divorce for just cause – you are prohibited from remarrying and, as … Continue reading Does Remarriage Constitute Adultery? →

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The Four-Word Phrase I No Longer Allow In My Life

Cindy — Mon, 05 Aug 2024 18:08:53 +0000

As I look back at the 20 years I spent in an abusive marriage, one of the things that has bubbled up from those years is a four-word phrase that I consistently heard from some of my believing friends and church leaders and even a pastor or two. I didn’t recognize the toxicity of those … Continue reading The Four-Word Phrase I No Longer Allow In My Life →

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“I Promise It Will Never Happen Again”

Cindy — Wed, 07 Sep 2022 20:30:15 +0000

“It will never happen again…” How many of us as abuse survivors have heard those words? In my experience, it seems to be a pretty high percentage. After all of the torment, the name-calling and crazy-making conversations, maybe you’ve finally decided that you just can’t live that way anymore. So, you pack your bags and … Continue reading “I Promise It Will Never Happen Again” →

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He Really Believes…

Cindy — Fri, 15 Oct 2021 21:02:50 +0000

In my conversations with abuse victims, the above phrase is something I can typically expect to hear. It begins with “He* really believes…” and ends with: …his way is the right way. …I’m the one with the problem. …I don’t understand him. …I should just trust him. …he is justified in treating me the way … Continue reading He Really Believes… →

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Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs?

Cindy — Sat, 08 May 2021 20:53:48 +0000

Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free has an exceptional ministry and offers a wealth of resources designed to help women in abusive relationships. She recently invited me to do a podcast with her to discuss my new book[i] and the issue of Christian marriage counseling in general. In the course of our conversation, we were tossing … Continue reading Love Keeps No Record of Wrongs? →

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