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Don't Be Mad At Her!

2010-06-09T08:43:00.000-07:00

When infidelity becomes the topic- who is truly the blame? Do you blame the unfaithful man, or the snake in the grass woman. In some incenses it is both who are responsible for their actions but ultimately it is always-always the man who is at fault. When your in a relationship/ marriage your allegiance is to your partner. Outsiders don't owe you jack. Sure, we would love for people in society to have some form of standards and a distinct reproach from things that are unacceptable. But, some don't. Most people are selfish and have no regards for the individuals they hurt, the children who lie in the balance, the homes that will become dismantled; no sense of responsibility for the breakdown of family structure in America. Even though, if someone did these same acts to them they would be appalled. The man has the ultimate responsibility and that is-- he keeps his head where it belongs (pun intended.) I can most definitely empathize and understand all the temptations that lurk in the deep corners of a man's mind, but, in his mind is where it should stay. Okay fellas let's be honest- 75-80% of you all are not having panties thrown at your feet on a constant basis. So most likely, the woman you cheat on us with- are not one of those "it just happened," type of situations. You guys worked on those cookies-- long and hard. And, after you've achieve this goal of betrayal and deceit, you go home and smile in your families face. This is why it is your fault! You had the ability to stop, you didn't. You could've not rented that hotel room, but you did! You could have remembered your partner, how beautiful she is inside and out, how she nurses you when you are ill, how she cooks for you, how she is your counselor, your financial planner, your religious leader, a mother, a friend, a lawyer, a garden of beauty, she is your house-when there's no place like home, your LOL SMILEY FACE, your shelter from rain, but, you did not think of that did you? Or perhaps you did, but still the act was committed. what ever you did or did not think about- you turned your back on the person who loves you best. It is the woman’s fault to a small degree- notably most because she did not respect herself nor a fellow woman. But, as stated earlier his alliance is with you.

So if you are ever faced with this terrible trial in life, remember this- put the blame on the blamee... he did it- he allowed another woman to break the bond that you two have built-and it is he that should be held responsible.

He/She Cheated on Me: What pains more the Betrayal or the Hurt?

2010-06-08T08:59:00.000-07:00

Often in relationships they end in-- or encounter some form of "Betrayal or Hurts." In dealing with infidelity, lies and deceit we are often stuck trying to figure out what is bothering us most, sometimes its both--the betrayal and the pain. "How could the one person I trusted most, do this to me?" "What did I do wrong?" "Will I ever trust again?" All these and many more questions lurk through the minds of those who are betrayed. The pain and the disappointment of knowing the individual you look at , share a life with, and lay next to for times of comfort and joy could possible break your heart. Well, they do and they can. It happens everyday. It happens in 10 month relationships to 40 year marriages. But, what hurts the most-- Betrayal or Pain?

Betrayal- as defined means " To divulge in a breach of confidence, commit treason against." Treason! That's a deep word--but totally appropriate. When in love we give not only our hearts, but our souls, our very spirits-and they take them as a "given" and abuse all aspects of the relationship. To be betrayed by the person who knows you best, to look into your eyes, and profess to never allow anyone or anything to hurt you and then for them themselves to be that "anyone or anything," is a "gut punch" to say the least. "How could you?" Thats a question commonly asked but never answered. When I say never answered I mean this; the "cheater" will always offered up so excuse be it valid or not--the answer they cough up will never be good enough nor will the person who has been cheated on ever feel as if you've given them a good reason, so it is as if the "cheatee" is still being cheated because the "cheater" never answered the question of "How?" Betrayal is the worst form of heartbreak. It can often cause the "cheatee" to never, ever trust a person ever again. And, in the end the "cheater" has ruined someones life far beyond the initial damage.It's easy to do the wrong thing--its harder to do the right.

Hurt-"To cause mental or emotional suffering to; distress." The hurt is the one part of the experience the person will never get over. You can move on in the relationship via. forgiveness or you can enter into a relationship of new; but, the pain will always exist. You may think you are over the experience-but it will only take one nostalgic moment to bring you back to the pain and hurt experienced at the hands of that person. Hurt is not just emotional but mental. The "cheatee," will often play moments in their heads to try and figure out the "whens, wheres, and hows?" Was it the time I was sick and you rushed off to a so called "emergent meeting?" Perhaps when you told me the car had broke down and I was dressed and ready for our date to the movies. All these thoughts cause "hurts." Why would someone forsake the goodness of another person for moments of self gratification. More times than not, the person your mate cheated on you with has not and will never go the miles or the distance you have gone for this individual-which makes it hurt all the more. I've died in your Heart- So leave in their arms.

In the end...all of it hurts, there's no "especially," in matters of being deceived and played for a fool. Betrayal is one of the many words that describes thousands of emotions. A cheater doesn't care nor do they think about the damage they can--or have caused their partners life---until they are caught! Their apologies, sorries, "please don't leaves" would have never taken face, had it not been for the ultimate snag and that is "getting caught!" Although they know what they are doing is wrong and it could ruin their future in their relationships, it doesn't matter, they want what they want. And, they get what they deserve when the "cheatee" decides to walk off and leave their behinds--behind! Forgiveness is a personal choice- and I must admit it is a risky one. But, I sincerely applaud any person who can forgive and attempt to move forward for it takes a "special" kind of person to do so. There is never a good reason to lie, cheat nor deceive but if you'r ever caught on the losing end these verbs, remember its okay to cry, its okay to hurt, its okay to feel all the emotions of losing someone- because essentially you are burring the person they were and they have been resurrected into the person they are. You must grieve. But, after the rain- comes rainbows. No one deserves to be mislead or mistreated, and as you begin to heal-let go of the anger you feel against them. Instead direct it into love. Love for your life, love of your family, and complete love of yourself. Life has many chapters, some drama, some romance, some funny, some heartache, but they all are apart of the book that makes you, we are not all promised a "happily ever after," but we are for sure promised to have what we deserve, and you deserve better! - Trina B

DATE SWAP: NEW REALITY SHOW; LADIES SWAP CITIES TO FIND LOVE

2009-08-03T04:55:00.000-07:00

FOR ALL MY LADIES; who say that they can't find a romantic relationship that works for them in their city;perhaps you should watch "Holidate." The show will premiere on Soap Net and it features two ladies one from the west coast & the other from the east (Tai Beauchamp.) The moved into each others homes and date each others friends. It was based off the movie"The Holiday." To hear more follow the link below:

http://omg.yahoo.com/videos/swapping-cities-in-search-of-mr-right/8251

***************UPDATE*******************

The young lady photoed above Tai Beauchamp,well... according to the budget fashionista.com; she is the Deputy Editor at Vibe Vixen Magazine here is what they say about Ms. Beauchamp,

"Tai Beauchamp KNOWS fashion and beauty. As the Deputy Editor of Vibe Vixen Magazine, she oversees the editorial direction of the magazine. Prior to VIBE Vixen, Tai served as the Beauty Director of Seventeen Magazine and was a founding Beauty Editor of O, The Oprah Magazine. Tai’s also worked in the fashion and beauty departments of Harper’s Bazaar and Good Housekeeping Magazine.

Umm Uhhh..just when I thought this show catered to the everyday woman. Oh,well ladies!

Sex, Lust,& Video Tape: Trey Songz Cums Hard

2009-08-02T11:52:00.000-07:00

Mr. R&B himself sits down with Honey Magazine and Hushhh TV has the interview in it's entirety. Trey gives honest, jaw dropping descriptions of his sexual lifestyle; including size, sexual preferences, and STD’s. Don’t miss this candid interview with one of the sexiest men in the game.

Q.Ready is about to drop in August right?

A.Well, we pushed it back to September, because since Drake isn't putting "Successful" on his album, I'm going to go back to it and change it up a bit to have it on mine.

Q.What is this I hear about a Trey Songz and Fabolous tour?

A.The Fabolous and Trey Songz tour is just me and Fab talking. We're going to see what happens. We actually developed a good working relationship for the past year and a half. From the “In Ya Phone” record to the “Last Time” record that he just did for his album. So we probably going to do something together for my album. I just sent him something, so I think that will be a good look. And we’ve been hanging out too. I came to his party at the Velvet room and he came to a couple of parties of mine. The ladies would like it.

Q.Let's jump right in it. You are a proud supporter of porn?

A.Yeah. I think porn is cool.

Q.Any recommendations?

A.Any recommendations on porn? Go to 4228, xxx.videos.com and freeporn.com. I don’t visit them frequently, but that's three different sites. How could you go wrong?

Q.You prefer free over paying?

A.Not necessarily. Sometimes I pay for it in the room. Because when I was younger I used to sneak and buy DVDs.

Q.What's your favorite type?I think that porn is a way to broaden your horizons as far as sex is concerned. I remember when I first started watching porn my favorite porn star was Lacey Duvalle, Lindy Foxx, and I like the free will of porn all in itself.

Q.But some things look better than they feel.

A.Yea there are some things that happen in porn that some girls can never do in real life (laughs), you know what I mean, unless they are porn stars. I think that’s the cool part about it. It’s like ‘damn, that’s crazy.

Q.’You found that out the hard way, huh.

A.Nah (laughs).

Q.Do you prefer it when you are alone or when you are with your girl?

A.Either.

Q.Are you apart of the Mile High Club?

A.No, I never participated in any mile high activities.

Q.Hmmm. I wasn't expecting that.

A.Oh, you weren't expecting that?

Q.Do you get some in every city you visit?

A.No, not every city.

Q.What city has the best girls?Well I’ve been doing this for four or five years now so for the most part when I come to a city I already know someone there.

Q.You have someone in every city?

A.Well that doesn’t mean I get some in every city. It means for the most part anywhere I go I know a woman that I have some sort of a friendship with. I wouldn’t necessarily say that I’m fond of groupies for the most part.

Q.What’s your favorite city to visit?

A.It would be New York and Miami. Every time I go to New York, it’s crazy how people are in the street all night. The city never sleeps. Even though New York ain’t really what it used to be as far as musically. It’s still one of the greatest cities in the world to visit even when I’m working, doing an interview, or a meeting, or a TV show, or this radio show, or the studio, there’s always something to do, especially in the summertime. I love New York in the summer. Miami is beautiful — the weather, the women, the beach — it’s carefree out there. It’s like a TV show or something.

Q.What's the difference between the chick you make your girl, and someone who's just a jump?

A.My girl gets love. A jump gets sex.

Q.But how do you decide if you're going to make her your main girl or not?

A.Character traits. Once you kick it with a person long enough you start see what they are around for.And what are your favorite things to use in the bedroom?

Q.My tongue and my penis (laughs).

Q.Allllright. You don’t use toys?

A.No, I have before, but I ain't really into it.

Q.No food or nothing?

A.I mean I ain't really into all that either. I can get into that, but it ain't nothing I’m really into. I save those things for somebody special.

Q.You said that you are not into fetishes, but do you role play?

A.I will and I have with my girlfriend. I think it has to be [with your girlfriend]. You shouldn’t just do that with anybody.

Q.You kiss girls that are not your girlfriend?

A.It depends.

Q.Is there anything you leave for just your girl? Or that you would if you had one?

A.Well if I had a girl she would be the only one getting everything.

Q.Have you cheated before?

A.Yea.

Q.Would you cheat again?

A.Well if I get into a relationship I know the consequences and I know what a relationship calls for. I don’t think I would get into one unless I was ready.

Q.Can you tell when a girl is faking?

A.No.Are girls really that good at faking?I feel like I’m really great at sex.

Q.So girls don’t fake with you.

A.No I’m saying I can’t tell if they do.

Q.With all this sex, you ever take a trip to the clinic?

A.Yes.

Q.You ever got anything before?

A.When I was like 16 or 17, this girl gave me crabs. It was the most uncomfortable shit in the world. I was confused because ain't nobody know I was having sex. So I was like damn what the fuck is going on? I even had to cut all my hair off and I had to eventually tell somebody. And had to go to the doctor.

Q.How long did you have them for then?

A.Just a couple days.

Q.Did you know the girl that gave it to you?

A.Yea I did.

Q.And you told her?

A.Yea I told her. It was wild experience. We were young. And that was kind of crazy and it was the worst so when I told her she tried to deny it. And I just basically stopped talking to her.

Q.That's the only thing you've ever gotten?

A.Yea.

Q.It taught you to practice safe sex.

A.Yea I keep condoms everywhere I go.

Q.You were telling me that your mother gives you condoms.

A.Yea that was back when I first started hitting the road she would pack my bag and she would pack these 12-packs Magnums. And she always tells me to be safe.

Q.And when you run out?

A.I have before but my dudes always keep condoms, too.

Q.You once said that you can’t make love to everybody. That there are all these girls that think because you’re an R&B singer that you can make love to them.

A.It’s just not gonna happen.

Q.Has a girl ever got mad or says she’s disappointed?

A.Sometimes it happens. But you can’t be looking everybody in they eye and slow grinding with candles on in every situation. That’s why I make it clear on certain songs that that’s not gonna always happen, like you hear on some of my mixtapes. It ain't gonna be love making in every scenario. I’m willing to compromise to give a woman her fantasy. But [has a girl ever gotten mad] because I won't make love to her? Nah.

Q.Craziest thing someone has done after having sex with you.

A.Probably cry. Women are weird (laughs).

Q.Thanks. What did you do?

A.I was confused like why are you crying? She had something going on in her life you know. She was like “I can't believe I’m doing this.” I comforted her though. I think the thing that’s important between men in entertainment that do have sex with women that they don’t really know is that they do treat them with respect. I believe in a lot of scenarios — not to speculate and I know what happened like with the Tupac and Mike Tyson case — when you get a woman in a room and you treat her like a piece of trash all she got to do is say you raped her and she can very easily bring you back to earth. So I treat everyone with respect.

Q.Is there ever a girl you've wanted that you couldn't have?

A.Yea that happens every once in awhile. Usually when I can’t have what I want, I don’t take that.

Q.You don't fight for her?

A. Somewhat.

QYou know the rumor that if a girl drinks pineapple juice her shit tastes sweeter?

A.Yeah I heard about that. Well you know the rumor that if a dude drinks pineapple juice (laughs)... I'm gonna tell you a funny story. I was eating skittles. One night, we went to the movies, me and my home girl, and I was eating skittles and she (gave me head) that night, so two days later she was talking to her home girl and she was reading that if her man eats skittles his cum tastes better. And she was tripping because I had ate skittles and she was like it tastes different. And I was like that’s some bullshit.

Q.So it’s not true?

A.I don’t know.

Q.Did you ever find out about pineapple juice?

A.No I never found that out. But I don’t really go too much for the juices. I’m more of a clitoral guy. When I do it I’m not really all the way down there, because most woman are aroused from the clitoris.

Q.How much does your own sex life influence your music?

A. A lot.

Q.Do you play your music while you get it in?

A.Nah, I have before, yeah.

Q.That’s a little cocky.

A.Is it? Think so? I mean so many other people are having sex to my music, why can’t I? I play music. Not all the time. Like I don’t have to have music to have sex. Because sometimes I like silence so I can hear her.

Q.What’s your favorite song to have sex to? Or top five 5 sexiest songs?

A.“Greatest Sex” R. Kelly, “Fuck You Tonight” Biggie. And a lot of these songs depend on who it is, like if I’m making love to somebody and it’s somebody special, I’ll play like some Prince “Insatiable.” And actually I had a playlist — a sexual playlist. Where is it? I put it on my iPod.

Q.Okay you look for that. In order of importance love, sex, money, or fame?

A.It would be love, money, fame, sex.

Q.Morning sex or drunken sex?

A.I say drunken sex. 'Cause with morning sex, the morning may not be right. Some girls aren’t made for mornings (laughs).

Q.You wake up to a lot of ugly women?

A.No, I don’t really have sex in the morning unless it’s really somebody special.

Q.They don’t sleep over.

A.Nah.

Q.You consider yourself an underdog, but BallerStatus just named you the hottest R&B singer in the game.

A.Yea.

Q.Who's your competition in music right now? Do you think you have any?

A.Of course I do. There’s always competition. I feel like I’m a horse with blinders on. I don’t see them. I don’t think they can see me. I think I focus on my lane than anything else. I think that’s why I was named that by BallerStatus. It’s because I go so hard. And a lot of people don’t really understand that. Unless you’re in my world you ain't really understanding it. And what’s going on now is that my world is starting to involve into everybody else’s world — my mixtape records, I'm on my Internet grind. I got four songs on the radio right now. I’ve always been grinding, but over the past year and a half, I’ve gone into overdrive.

Q.I know it’s your intention to get people excited about the album. Are you looking to make more mixtapes?

A.I’ve been making mixtapes since 2004. I will never stop.

Q.So what motivates you to go harder? Where does the hunger come from?

A.I’m a grinder. I'm a beast. I need to eat. I’m forever hungry. I don’t see how people get content.

Q.How does your family fit into all of this?

AMy family knows I’m out here working so they can eat. I got to send my little brother to college. I retired my mother from work early. My grandmother’s getting older. I do this so I can be the breadwinner so I can hold it down if need be. Whenever someone in my family needs something or if a situation in my family goes off course, I can be there for them. So nobody complains about me not being there at home. And I work even when I’m not supposed to be working.

Q.What advice do you give to your brothers about girls?

A.Well my brothers are just starting to get into that age where they getting into that, and they gaining their own identity.

Q.How old are they?

A.One is 14. The other one is 16. And I think they're just getting to the point where they're comfortable talking to me. And it’s kind of cool. I just keep it a hundred with them depending on what they’re coming to me with. I tell my younger brother if he’s going to have sex, he’s got to wear a condom. I tell him how to put it on. I tell him what to watch for. I can’t give it all to him, because he got to learn on his own, and I can’t be tough on him. If you come at them too hard, they're not going to want to tell you nothing.

Q.I want to talk to you about the Michael Vick situation. He got suspended and all that, and I know that you had some comments on it. You think that he served his time? And you don’t think its fair that he’s being suspended for five games?

A.As far as the NFL concerned, I don’t know how their rules work. I know that when he was initially charged and even before he was charged, he had gotten a lot taken from him. So I think if they’re going to reinstate him then they should just reinstate him. And if they say that they got to do that then they got to do that. But I don’t think that it’s necessary. I think he served his debt to society.

Q.Which team do you think he should be picked up by?

A.I would love for the Redskins to get him. If the Buffalo Bills get him it would be crazy and it would take some of the pressure off [Terrell Owens]. And T.O. wouldn’t be the only threat, but they got a good quarterback up there. But we need him on the Redskins though.

Q.Any thoughts on the child support settlement with Nas and Kelis?That's alot of money.

A.That’s a lot of money for child support. That’s clearly not the money she would need to take care of that child.

Q.But wouldn't Nas be spending about that much if they were still together?

A.But that would be on them and the family. They’re not a family. I think she got him. It was cheaper to keep her.

Q.Does that make you worried to get married and divorce and all that?

A.No, I feel like when I find that person, I’ll know. I’m not in a rush to get married anyway. And I think a lot about that. I want family, I want children but that’s why I don’t have kids now. I want to make sure I don’t get put in a situation like that. I saw that happen all too many times.

Q.How many kids do you want to have?

A.I want to have a lot of kids. I love kids.

Q.What’s a lot though? 10?

A.Not no 10 (laughs), probably 4, 5, or 6.

Q.Boys or girls?

A.Just kids. It’s a blessing to myself and the woman I love.

Q.Are you surprised you don’t have any kids?

A.I take a very precaution. I’m very safe.

Q.So no girls are poking holes in your condoms?

A.No girl touches my condoms. My condoms are mine.

Q.You're being called the king of remixes.

A.Yea.

Q.What beats are you trying to get on?

A.Well I’m about to get this setup, this Pro-Tools setup so I can record in my room while I’m on promo. I want that “We Run This Town.” I just got on that “Obsessed” last week. I ain't got it mixed yet. A couple more that I heard that’s crazy.

Q.And are you going to put out the remix with Teyana Taylor to “I Need a Girl?”

A.Yes I am. That’s why I got to get this setup as well because I want to make sure I bring something extra to the record as well. I don’t want it to be just a verse with her. I want to do a little something new. But if it takes me too long, I’ll just put it out there.

Q.Now with Ready, you have these pre-order packages.Yup.Why did you guys decide to do that?

A.Pre-order packages are for my real fans to see whose going to go get it. It’s a lot to offer there. I think with the pre-order packages you see how hard I go for my fans. It was my product manager’s ideas to put some pictures together and put out something genuine my fans can hold on to. I came with the idea of the “Yuuup” t-shirt and the media department came with the idea of the live video chat.

Q.Your fans go hard.

A.Yea so I want to make sure I go hard for them so they have a piece of something special, not what everybody else gets. I know that they’ll appreciate that.

Q.Sales are looking good so far?

A.They’re doing well. We’re basically a month a way from the album. At the pace that they’re going now, we should be at a good position.

Q.That's dope. So when’s your sex tape coming out?

A.Well, I gotta finish editing it (laughs). Nah, I’m not really into all of that.

Q.Have you ever taped yourself?

A.No, but if I did and it came out, it wouldn’t be leaked. I would put that shit out myself.

Intro by, Trina B.

Interview by Courtney Willis for Honey Magazine

Photos courtesy of Ben Watts

Two for the Price of One: Why is Hairdressers Doubling as Relationship Therapist?

2009-07-31T00:06:00.000-07:00

It’s a trend that has been going on since bumper curls, and straightening combs; “my hairdresser, my therapist.” Many times women don’t feel comfortable talking to their close friends and family about their personal relationships. Most likely for good reason, bad advice, or fear of reviling secrets in their relationship double has a vaccination, for talking about wounds that time has healed, (Example: Jody has cheated on you in the past, but you’ve never told a soul. ) You probably never told anyone because of:

A.) The family loves him and you would not want to taint their image of him due to his mistake, (Everyone makes mistakes, Right?)

B.) Everyone hates him and told you he was the worst choice you’ve made, (since drinking light and dark liquors at the same time.)

C.) You too embarrassed to ever admit that you are having the same issues that your single girlfriends, or bad relationship girlfriends are having.

Whatever you’re reasoning is the hair stylist is neutral territory. He/she is the one person whose judgment doesn’t go any further than the shops chair. They have no connection to your personal friends (most time) and your secrets are safe, (*Side Note: this article is not about the trouble making, big mouthed hair dressers we know exist, because in reality they are far and few between.) Women love to sit in the chair and release all their pressures; mental, physically and spiritually. Hairstylists across the world are acting out the roles of paid psychiatrist. They are expected to listen attentively, and ask probing question to cause the individual to and & aid you in rethinking your position. While treating your mane they are helping you plan, and put life into focus. Happily, hairdressers pass their time while listening to you; and while they hear you, they begin to draw from their own life experiences. So in reality the patient becomes the Dr. and vice-versa. Two for the price of one has a literal has well as a metaphoric meaning.

If you are one who can’t wait to sit in the beauticians chair and let go of all your life’s troubles, perhaps you should take into consideration that there are professional you can talk to about life, love and relationships and your weavologist or whatever you refer to her as, may have her own issues, and yours is not one of them.

Cosmetologist, you have two talents, one of course is making beautiful women feel more wonderful, and the other is the gift for being attentive and patient with their troubles. But, keep it in prospective. Listen without lending opinions from personal experience—as not to be the blame of poor outcomes.

When it comes to love and life, you may travel many paths some roads are bumpy and some rather smooth, but it is the decisions that you make along the way that defines the method of travel. Be an ear for everyone, but remember your ears are closer to your own lips. Listen and trust yourself before you seek the advice of others, chances are you know the answer, you are just looking for confirmation. –Trina B.

Bust it Baby: He said, she said; I am going to Do Me.

2009-07-29T19:09:00.000-07:00

It seems that no one is above, close friends and family minding their business, not even rapper Lil’ Wayne and actress Lauren London. With rumors circulating for months on the relevancy of gossip & grape vine talk, that was; the dimpled beauty is pregnant by Mr. “I wish I could fuck every girl in the world,” that could never satisfy the thirst of mass media to “hurray” with gleam when disparity or misfortune falls upon the news desk. It is now running amok all over the internet that, Lauren’s baby may not be fathered by Lil’ Wayne. It is also being said, that current other baby carrier and former singer, Nivea and ex-wife Toya are stirring the irons in the fire. But, statements from Lil’ Wayne are resounding loud and clear, he doesn’t care what they say, “I am the pappy!” No Maury show, no DNA just trust and love, that’s the most beautiful compliment any women can ever have; the unnerving trust and stability that no matter what anyone says, “you know me and I know you.” That’s the security relationships are made of. But, too often this is not the outcome. More likely men listen to negative talk by the closest people to him, and cause discord in an otherwise healthy relationship. When are talk just words and letters?

Ignoring momma’s warnings and homeboys cautions are sometimes the hardest thing for a man to do. Often, in his heart he is 100% dedicated to the situation, but the constant tug-a-war between life time members and life partners causes him to make bad decisions. Woman we must stay strong and consistently remind him, that infidelity is a word left to those who are without honor. If he ask for a DNA test, (in a respectful way Fellas) give it to him. This means more to him then you. Not because he doesn’t trust YOU, but he wants those around him to silence there chatter. If he doesn’t that’s fine too, but—give thought to the fact he could be tortured by these people ill thoughts for years to come and if you step up to quiet the Nay Sayers, you will being doing you entire family a great service.

It is always touchy and hurtful when your promiscuity and fetus are a topic of discussion. Being strong and firm in your truth will prove to be your light. It never hurts to start with an open trusting relationship from the start, but the most important person in this situation is the baby. Keep the child in mind when you are faced with adversity, and be respectful to the innocent.
If you are in this situation and you are one of the ones who feel the female is not caring your love one’s child, my advice to you is; mind your own damn business. Nothing never lives under a blanket the truth will always rear its ugly head. Your job as a friend, family member etc. is to love who and what they love. That’s all. The rest is up to them.-Trina B.

Hushhh Publications. All rights reserved.29-08-09

Content To Take The Lead Role: Can A Relationship Survive The Limelight?

2009-07-28T19:04:00.000-07:00

With the long anticipated break of Reggie Bush and Kim Kardashian, one has to wonder what went wrong. Some say, “the long distant relationship,” some add.” She was too busy for him,” but most speculate it was her love for the glitz and glamour and his despondency to it. Now—the question that swirls in many minds is, Can a relationship survive if the two are not equally yoked?

Over the years I’m sure we have all heard an elder around us or in the community say, “you have to be equally yoked,” but what does that mean; to most of us below 30 years of age, not a got damn thing.

Experience teaches us in time that “equally yoked” clearly means, be made with the same stuff in the inside. It is difficult for someone to agree with or understand a language they don’t speak, the same goes in relationships. If one person is a workaholic, and the other is a home body, it will not be long before the two worlds collide. Very seldom can opposites truly attract if their differences are what makes the core of them. Yes, it hold true that an introvert paired with extrovert could and do have a long lasting relationship, that’s due to the laws of nature—everything most and do balance. The introvert desires to be the extrovert but is normally to afraid, therefore being coupled with the opposite brings them excitement, and an opportunity to break free and experience new things; that they may have never experienced if they had not joined forces. In contrast the extrovert needs to hold back, the introvert is a calmer, they bring silence when everything else around the extrovert is noisy, Fire and Water.

Now let’s look at “core differences.” Some people adapt to certain surroundings such as, rural living over city life, warm climates over cold, I mean the list goes on. These core differences can ruin a relationship. When you ask someone to change their values and morals opposed to changing characteristics, you will always have discord. This is the difference between “opposite attraction,” and being “equally yoked.”

You must balance each other in morals and values to have a healthy happy relationship. If you don’t, the things you found cute in the beginning will quickly turn into the things you hate. Example, he/she drinks from the milk carton, you believe this to be grotesque. How long before you explode, from this “heinous” act, not long is my guess.

Reggie and Kim are no different, if she loves the camera and he doesn’t, for the sake of love he will try to adapt, (thee ole’ paint over your stripes I call it.) But, in the end you cannot change the heart of you, you are who you are; eventually the paint fades and the zebra reemerges. A lion can never mate with a stripped horse, after some self actualization he/she will soon gallop into the sun in search of his very own zebra, realizing there are plenty of them in the jungle of love and life. -Trina B.

MR.MC.FLY: BIG TALK,BIG EGO?

2009-07-26T12:01:00.000-07:00

CATCH HUSHHH TV HOST TRINA B., AND MR.MC.FLY ONE OF THE WINNERS IN THE "RIP THE RUNWAY AUDITION EDITION!" THE FINAL WINNER WILL PERFORM ON STAGE WITH DRAKE, KERI HILSTON, AND PLEASURE P. MORE DETAILS TO COME.

GOOD GIRL, BAD GIRL, MISS. INDEPENDENCE: WHICH ONE ARE YOU?

2009-07-21T21:45:00.000-07:00

Many women can find themselves changing in wants, needs and desires on any given day. Needy, insecure, confident, strong, depending upon mood and life experiences; women can be one if not all on the same day. But, this is not about the chameleon. This is about whom you are MOST of the time. We all are familiar with the reflection in the mirror, but who is the person standing there. Good Girl, Bad Girl, or Miss Independence: Which One Are You?

The Good Girl: Normally she tends to be a little “green,” sheltered or perhaps just inexperienced. She tends to think that “all is fair in love & war,” and dishonesty wears a stamp on its sleeve; Naive, to say the least. The “Good Girl” will normally fall victim to the “Bad Boy.” Due to his charismatic charm and super confident demeanor, he is everything she is not. He makes her feel safe and loved, she trust the words off his lips as if written from God himself. Life is all about her family & friends, but mostly about pleasing her man. You will find the good girl to be a bit of a “plain Jane,” often when they (she and her lover) are together they look a bit mismatched, that’s because they are. Good Girls tend to be push over’s and will tolerate a lot of abuse and unfairness from their mate, until… she becomes---

The Bad Girl: Bad Girl’s were typically once a “Good Girl.” Some tragic event happens in the Good Girls life and causes her to rebel against the person she once was. Bad Girls will most likely never return to her pure heartedness ever again. That part of her is dead. The Bad Girl wants nothing more but to feel alive and revenge the man who hurt her. She will most likely become someone you don’t recognize, such as tighter clothes, new hair style, and a different attitude. She cannot wait the day but to see that “Jody” who hurt her so, and show him that she is “the shit and the toilet.” What she has failed to realize is that, this is not who she truly is. Yes, it felt great to cut loose of her inhibitions, but the possibility of promiscuity and internal loneness that being a “Bad Girl” can bring, is not for her so...she is welcomed into the covenant of being…

Miss. Independence: She has begun to heal from the past hurt and distrust she has experienced at the hands off men. Miss.Indi.is ready to grow internally, and radiates externally with a growth and confidence that could only be achieved through facing the storms of love and relationships and holding tight to the umbrella of hope. No longer does she look towards her male partners to validate her, she looks to them to compliment her swag. Miss. Independence is not looking to every man who enters her life as a possible mate, but for what it is; if the friendship blossoms into a future then that would be fine as well. Always conscious and never forgetting the pain of love all while remembering its beauty is what makes Miss. Independence the most attractive of them all. Her balance of life, love, friends and aspirations, makes her the realist women amongst them all.

As a woman I know I cannot be defined or categorized from day to day, but an outline would be helpful. That is what you have here. Look deep with-in, try to find which “girl” you most identify with and begin to bring self awareness into your life. I promise, relationships with the opposite sex will begin to become much clearer, in time. Good Girl, Bad Girl, and Miss. Independence: Which One Are You?

This is a brief synopsis of the categories from the book titled: The Art of Persuasion: The Seduction Manuel (Authored by Trina B due out December 2009.) This topic is a chapter long. Men are all so categorized and we will touch on them later.-Trina B.

Fear of Flying: WHY ARE SO MANY PEOPLE AFRAID OF LOVE?

2009-07-20T22:10:00.000-07:00

It’s so easy to trust no one but yourself, but it becomes a task to place your trust in some one. We have often learned to deflect emotions and project dislike. For example, you are totally feeling someone opposite yourself, but to friends (when asked your status with this individual) you say, “It aint bout nothing!” But, in reality you are truly “feeling” her /him. Why do we become afraid of the possibilities of relationships?

Often times depending upon which sex is asked this very question, you could get an array of answers ranging from the most intimate, to some rather superficial. I’ve found most women are afraid of getting their “hopes up” about love only to be let down by broken promises and deceit. Although, some men have the same fear, a large group of men will say, “They are not ready yet.”
So where does this lead society? For women, they have turned to multiple partners to fill the void of one meaning full relationship. They have begin to fall victim to casual sex and relationships based on absolutely nothing but gratification. Most of these women cannot get a man to purchase them take out, none the less a real dinner date. Some women have fallen prey to the disillusioned belief that, “they are in control.” You are not. The power of the P.U.S.S.Y is alive and well, they were getting “head” from some chick before you, they should continue to do so while with you. Get your worth, value yourself. Just because you are an independent self sufficient women doesn’t mean you should not be treated as the beauty you are. Don’t allow these “new” male dominated over hyped statement such as “she got her own,” turn you away from being held in the highest regards. How many times have you found the good guy loving the neediest, bummed-out females on the planet? Think about it. Men are men, (real ones anyway) they have to feel needed out and they also have to feel like they have purpose. Keep this in mind, as you swim the dating pool.

Fellas, its okay to have a serious relationship on your terms, don’t allow anyone to force the issue; it will only result in someone getting hurt. But, you should not be afraid of Miss Right, if you spot her across the room. Realize your strength with her and that could propel you into a dynamic future. If you find yourself in a situation where you are not sure; “DOUBLE CHECK HER STORY!” There is no harm in being sure. A large amount of women today, are playing some real games and you guys have no idea of how good they are at them. Watch your step, and proceed with caution.

As human beings we all have fears and in matters of the heart it can scare the toughest man, but, you must trust your instincts and your heart because they eyes can sometimes deceive the mind. The best advice ever given to me was this, “When man/women talks—LISTEN and when they tell you who they are—BELIEVE them.” –Trina B.

YOU WOULD BE MY BOYFRIEND, IF I DIDNT ALREADY HAVE ONE

2009-07-17T00:24:00.000-07:00

With the growing amount of polygamous relationships, there is no wonder why songs such as Pleasure P’s ”Boyfriend #2” and Jasmine Sullivan’s “Switch” can keep toes tapping and ringtones popping. Today’s women are showing, being a dog can be a real bitch. Long are the days of women standing by aimlessly watching as their men cheat and deceive, the 21st century shows you that the Lady is indeed a tramp. Popularity is growing with a vast number of women “dipping out” on their relationships to “jump off,” with others, but why? Taking the time to speak with several women these were the top reasons I was given (men pay attention):

1. “He cheated first!” Some women say that the hurt and disappointment (they have become all too familiar with) has caused distrust in their relationships. They feel that they could never put all their “eggs in one basket,” so if they find their significant other cheating, they will be well prepared the second time—armed with a “Jody” aka “plan B.”

2. “Great Man, Bad Lover!” Although they love their man and he is the greatest person they have ever met, “he” is just not fulfilling their sexual needs. They run to the “guy on the side,” for greater sexual gratification.

3. “Q.T. (quality time), what the hell is that?” This was the most common response. These women are starved for attention and feel underappreciated, due to the lack of time they spend with their partner. Some of them even sneak their “boy toys,” into their homes, under their sheets and find it ever so rewarding that there man doesn’t even know—the white stains on the sheets did not come from using Powdered Tide, when washing clothes.

Cheating, Lying and Sneaking is now a team sport. Women have long exchanged their aprons for suits, but they have also decided “anything he can do, I can get away with,” The victim is now the perpetrator. Watch out, men! There is a brand new trend in town and it cost more than a trip to Neman Marcus. You have lost you ability to be a “bad boy” and keep a “good girl.”

If your sex game is weak and you know it, ask her how to step it up. If you have a smaller penal size, pray to the penis God (monotheism) to get a larger one—over night, or… talk to your Doctor. Learn to use toys that are stimulating and pleasing,
If you don’t she will find a Mandingo that will.

Mr. Rabbit, life is not a fairy tale. Alice will not stay in Wonderland if you have no time to say, “Hello—Goodbye!” There are many pressing concerns that take a man’s day, working, playing, and socializing with Craig and them; these things are hard work, but—take care of home first, before someone else gets your time.

Honesty is best when you enter a relationship, cheating is a difficult task. It takes less energy to tell the truth. If you and your partner truly enjoy having romantic relationships outside of the commitment you two share, perhaps explore becoming “swingers” or have an “open relationship.” Just keep in mind two wrongs don’t make a right, but two truths provide a happy life.

-Written by, Trina B.
Hushhh Publications. All rights reserved (17-7-09)

Do You Yield At The Red Light?: Sex on the Menstral Cycle

2009-07-16T02:34:00.000-07:00

Often time’s women and men all around the world are faced with the age old question, “Is having sex on a woman’s period nasty?”
Some people sexual desires outweigh any rhyme or reason to not go “deep diving into the red sea.” Some men find it arousing as well as full filling due to its benefits:

• Having Sex “Raw” ( no condom) do to the a lessened risk of pregnancy (Ding Dong ***ring bells*** THIS IS NOT A FACT)

• More lubrication

• Warmer Sex
Some women find the experience having sex on their period extremely pleasurable. Most women find that their sexual desire rises during this time of the month and some women even orgasm from the insertion of a tampon. The benefits to some women are:

• Safer Sex (MYTH)

• Better Orgasm

• An increased amount of foreplay

But to some this is a violation to their religion, and some who refrain from it (not for religious purposes) may be quoted as calling it “nasty.” A large amount of men are agoraphobic and the sight of blood on their penis is not considered a “turn on”, rather viewed as a “turn off” and will only result in a soft erection or maybe no erection at all. Some women find that “running the red light,” causes a painful sexual experience because the blood can be tacky and coagulated, not slick and slippery. Sex is best when wet.
There are pros and cons to this topic and like most subjects pertaining to sex; it is of a personal preference. We would like to hear your opinion on this matter, Are you for or against sex while menstruating? Leave your comment here or email us at comments@hushhhtv.com

– Written by, Trina B.

Hushhh Publications, All Rights Reserved (2009-07-16)

Im looking for Ms.Tootsie's

2009-07-14T18:10:00.000-07:00

I see a gentleman dressed in all black with a hat, doo–rag and Gucci frames nestles himself at the bar stool next to mine—he flashes a captivating smile, head nod and an almost silent “hello,” he speaks, I smile back, and say, “hello.” DJ Spontan plays Capone N Noreaga’s 2009 release “Rotate,” at Club Lyrics in Philadelphia, Pa., the party goers are excited and receptive of the melody “Super Thug is back” sang by producer and rap artist Ron Browz & featuring the animated Busta Rhymes (third album titled “Channel 10,” due out later this year). I witness the seemly ordinary man, orders six shots of cognac and finding a moment in his apparent flirting to offer me a drink. His rather small frame heavily draped in diamonds—throws back a shot of Hennessey and distributes shots to his entourage. As he continues to (what sounds like whispering) correspond with me, I ask him to come closer to my ear, for he is inaudible. Immediately he tells me, he has “a low voice”, so excuse him if I cannot hear him very well. As we converse close enough to be mistaken as a “couple,” I introducing myself. After he had mistakenly took me for a model (classic flirt tactic, but we girls love it!), I explained to him my true career, and Hushhh TV. He said, “Tell me what you need me to do, and it’s done, I want to be a part of your show.” I thought to myself, great! As the song continued to play he said “that’s me,” (referring to the rhymes being displayed on the song) I said “oh okay.” I felt really dumb at that moment, He was Capone of CNN. I, without hesitation go into reporter mode. I began by asking him, what is the one thing people might not know about your bedroom habits? He replied, “I have a foot fetish!” I instantly pull in closer to assure myself that I heard him correctly, and said, “A foot fetish?” with an apparently intrigued grin, he said “yup!” Before I could gather my next thought I began to feel his hands rubbing across my sandal cover foot; he began admiring my pink polished toes. He says, “I hope I am not disrespecting you by touching your feet,” I said with a huge laugh, “no as long as you don’t touch anything else,” He agreed. Capone and I spoke in depth referencing, how he likes to” lick toes” and loves a beautiful woman with well groomed feet. I found our discussion informative as well as humorous. Capone is a man who knows what he wants and has no problem using his charm to get it. Later, that evening I got Capone in front of the Hushhh TV camera and that’s where his love for the “little piggy’s” was truly displayed. Stay tuned for part two of the “Capone De-Feet, Is not Always a Loss” interview, believe me it will takes you guys to an all time low. –Trina B.
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Dreams of Fuckin' A Model Chick

2009-07-14T18:06:00.000-07:00

As I sit patiently waiting for my next guest, I see a relatively young, fair-skinned woman; sporting a Rihanna like short Mohawk mane, wearing a silver sequined mid-drifted jacket and boy cut shorts to match. Very confident in her skin, the tattooed stomach woman approaches— we are introduced, my name is “Mona Lisa,” she says. Mona is a petite “Straight Stuntin’ Magazine” model, doubling as an exotic dancer in one of Philadelphia’s most infamous spots, “Club Onyx.”Before our sit down I watched this charismatic entertainer, wow the Fellas with her booty popping and slow winding, the playboy bunny stamp on her lower back only enhances their lust, flashing a sexy captivating smiles at her crowd of admirers, she is pleased by her orgasmic hypnotic abilities.Mona Lisa and I sit down to a brief interview before the cameras of Hushhh TV begin to roll. I asked her, “How comfortable are you speaking on sexuality,” she replied, “Very!” With that bold word in mind, I begin to “go in” on Ms. Mona. I asked her about oral sex and what are her turnoff’s and on, in a man. After giving a definitive description of the type of guy she is looking for, we moved to her future. With multi-media aspirations of her own, Mona Lisa will be headed to Miami in coming months. Upon our completion of off camera dialogue, I closed by asking, “What advice would you give to the females out there who do not have a great technique in giving oral sex” she said,…. Watch Hushhh TV for the reply and more, from the vivacious, sexy, Mona Lisa, Ms. Jackson if your nasty. -Trina B.
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