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Improve all over muscle tone and lose weight by doing just one exercise.

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The plank is one of the most popular and effective exercises for the abdominals in the whole world. It doesn’t just make the abs and shoulder girdle work, its workout for all the muscles in the body.
At the offices of BrightSide.me, we all do it now on mats, before settling down to provide you with these articles.

What it’s all about

The essence of the plank is to ‘hang’ above the floor for several minutes once a day, supported only by your hands and toes. No-one would say that it is easy to be in this ‘hanging’ state, even for only a few minutes. In this pose, a huge number of muscles are activated.

The Classic Plank

The plank is a static exercise. There’s no movement in it, so the main thing is to hold your body right.

Lie on the floor stomach down. Bend your elbows at 90 degrees angles and transfer your weight onto your arms. Your body should form a straight line from the top of your head to your heels.
Support yourself only on your forearms and the tips of your toes. Your elbows should be directly under your shoulders.
Hold your body as level as possible, tense your stomach muscles and don’t relax them. Try not to point your thighs towards the floor.

Feet. Put them together. Keeping balance becomes more difficult, which increases the load on the stomach muscles.
Legs. Should be straight and tensed. Otherwise, the load on the abdominals will be reduced. This is what is keeping the spine from bending.
Buttocks. Keep tensed, and don’t relax them until the workout is over. Clenching the buttock muscles increases the activity of the whole muscular system.
Small of the back. This is the most difficult part! If you do the plank right, the lumber region of your spine should be flat. That means you shouldn’t round or bend the small of your back. Imagine that you’re holding it flat against a wall.
Stomach. Stretch it out, and then try to pull it towards your ribs. Throughout the workout keep your stomach in this position, but don’t slow down your breathing.
Elbows. Keep them directly below your shoulders, so as not to create unnecessary strain.

It’s important to breath out when assuming the pose and stay in position until a reasonable level of muscle fatigue is reached. Try to keep it up as long as possible; at first 10 seconds is enough. As a rule, people with differing levels of fitness keep the pose for anything from 10 seconds to 2 minutes. If you’re new to all this don’t try to break any records; start at the minimum.

Side Plank

This exercise for the abs is more effective than a traditional plank as you hold all your bodyweight on two points points of contact rather than four. You will need to make more effort to keep your balance.

While lying on your left side, place your elbow directly below your shoulder. Keep the legs straight. Put your right hand on your right thigh, still keeping those legs straight.
Tense your abdominal muscles and raise your hip from the floor until you form a right-angle, balancing on your forearm and feet. Remain in this position for 30-45 seconds. If you can’t hold it that long, repeat the exercise until you have spent a total of at least 30 seconds in this pose. Change sides and do it again.

Variations

Plank with raised leg. Raise one leg. By doing this you significantly increase the load on the muscular system and reduce support. This means your body will have to make an extra effort to hold the position. By reducing the area of contact with the floor the strain on the stomach muscles is significantly increased.
Plank with raised arm. Raise one arm. This is similar to the first variaton. You’ll have to make an effort not to fall on your side.
Side plank with arm and leg lift. Lie on your side, put your legs together and straighten them. Along with your torso they should make a straight line. Put your left forearm on the floor (with your elbow directly under your shoulder). Raise your right leg and arm. Hold this position for as long as you can.
Plank on an exercise ball. Rest your elbows on the ball or put your feet on it.

Benefits of this exercise

Firm buttocks. This exercise is a workout for your glutes and calf muscles, so you won’t just get them into shape, you’ll get rid of cellulite too.
A strong back. During the exercise the lower back muscles are strengthened, as are the shoulder and neck muscles. This can help to safeguard against osteochondrosis and other bone diseases in the small of the back and neck. Also you’ll get rid of pain above and between the shoulder blades caused by carrying heavy bags or constantly sitting at a computer.
Slim legs. The legs take most of the weight in this exercise. All the leg muscles are active, from the thighs to the calves. Don’t be alarmed if you feel a burning sensation in your muscles; that just means they’re working.
A flat stomach. When your whole body is straining, both your lower and side abs get a workout too.
Toned arms. It’s quite obvious that along with the legs the arms also get an intensive workout. They support the weight of your upper body.

Mistakes

The pelvis falls towards the floor and your body forms a hoop.
The tailbone points at the ceiling and the small of the back forms a bend.

To avoid these mistakes, point the tailbone towards your heels and pull your belly in. The stomach muscles should be strong, just as much as the muscles of the thighs and knees. Push your thighs up. You should feel that your lower abs are taunt and the small of the back is being lengthened. Push the heels gently back.
WARNING!
Don’t allow the thighs to hang down and don’t relax the knees. Try to ‘hover’ above the floor by stretching the spine and tensing the abdominal muscles. Don’t let your whole weight slip forward onto your forearms. Try to hold the legs together, toes side by side, don’t let them slip away from each other. The wider apart they are, the less load there is on the abdominals and the more on the knees.

Differences between the Middle Class and the Wealthy You Need to Know

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When I was in college, my grandfather gave me a book to read, titled The Richest Man in Babylon. And he told me that if I read it and lived by it, I would become rich. (He was a millionaire when it really meant something). I did read the book, but then put it away and really didn’t much about it after that. But, over the past 20 years, I have watched as the middle class continues to contract, the poor class expand, and the very few at the top increase their wealth even more. I fear that my grandchildren will be either rich or poor, but not in the middle, for there will be no middle anymore. They must choose to be wealthy, and so I shall do what I can for them to adopt the attitudes and the behaviors of the rich. Here are 11 differences between the wealthy and the middle class that they must understand. Many of them are in that little book from my grandfather, which I recently dug out, and I will be buying copies for each of them.

The Wealthy Pay Themselves First; The Middle Class Pay Their Bills First

Wealthy people learned early in their lives that whatever money came into their households, at minimum of 10% was paid to themselves – for investment purposes. They may have gone into the stock market; they may invested in mutual and bond funds. But at some point, the truly wealthy took some big risks with that money they had been paying themselves. And when they took the big risks and they failed, they simply picked themselves up, knowing that they could always find ways to bring in more money and pay themselves again – looking toward the next venture.

Middle class people use their income to pay their bills first. Whatever they have left over, they tend to spend and perhaps put a bit in savings. But the savings it for their future, so it will never be put into a risky venture. The savings represents security and stability and part of the old Protestant work ethic.
The Rich Live Below Their Means; the Middle Class Live Above Their Means

Years ago, financial author Thomas Stanley wrote a book, The Millionaire Next Door. The book was based on several years of research to find out how people got wealthy, by interviewing them. What he discovered was this: On their road to wealth, and even afterward, a huge number of wealthy people are still living in modest homes and driving 2-3 year old cars. The flashy cars and the large homes are driven and populated by middle class people living above their means. This speaks to a wholly different mindset on the part of these two groups. The wealthy would rather preserve and expand their wealth through investments, while the middle class has a need to accumulate “things” that somehow increase their status with their friends. So who is driving the new Mercedes? Chances are, it is the young executive still climbing career ladder.
The Middle Class Tend to Befriend and Socialize with Most Anyone; The Wealthy are Picky about Their Associations

A part of the road to wealth is to begin to think and behave as the wealthy do. This thinking and behaving is not learned by “hanging out” with other middle class or lower individuals. Instead of making efforts to move into wealthy “circles” and establish contacts and different thoughts and beliefs, middle class individuals stay where they are “comfortable.” Wealthy people, on the other hand, are rather choosy about their associations, sticking to “hanging out” with those who are even wealthier than they are. They know that the conversations and the contacts will be invaluable and keep them in the right thought patterns.
The Middle Class wants to be Comfortable; the Wealthy Know that Comfort Means Stagnation and they Prefer Dis-comfort

Comfort for the middle class means a steady job with a stable income and some raises and perhaps a promotion or two as they move toward a retirement with pension and social security. The rich take big risks. They start companies that may fail; they get back up and start all over again. They don’t want security and stability; they embrace failure and look for the next opportunity.
The Middle Class Work to Earn a Salary; the Wealthy work to gain new Knowledge

Here’s a huge difference. Middle class individual go to work, perhaps at a large company. They do this to earn a salary that will keep them in their current lifestyle. When they get a raise, they “up” their lifestyles. They often change jobs simply for a larger paycheck. The wealthy focus not on a paycheck but on learning. They want to know the ins and outs of how things work in their business niches, for at some point they will take off on their own and they will have the knowledge to do so.

The Middle Class Underestimate Themselves; the Rich Overestimate Themselves

Thinking small is rather a middle class tendency. They do not think of themselves as “movers and shakers” of this world, but, rather as the “worker bees” who really do not have the talent to become an innovator or wealthy entrepreneur. Their goals are thus small and short-term. The rich, on the other hand, tend to overestimate themselves and set huge goals. Even if they fail, the set new huge goals. Donald Trump has declared bankruptcy 3 times, but that has not stopped him.

Middle Class People are Emotional About their Money; the Wealthy are Logical about Money

Because they live in fear of losing their money, the middle class tend to act out of that fear. So, when they have some investments in the stock market, and there is a significant drop, they tend to get out quickly and just take their losses. When the market is up, they are optimistic and buy too high. The wealthy ride out the waves, knowing logically that, if they remain in the market, it will come back.

The Middle Class wants to be Paid Based upon Time Put In; the Wealthy want to be paid based upon results

Again, this attitude goes back to the idea of comfort and security – that stable paycheck. The wealthy on the other hand take big risks, with results as their goals, and when those results are achieved, they make their money.

The Middle Class lacks Self-Assurance; the Wealthy Exude Self-Assurance

Middle class workers depend upon a company for a job, and are happy to take on the tasks they are assigned, hoping, of course, for the next raise or a promotion. They are dependent upon their superiors because the lack the confidence to be dependent upon themselves. The wealthy think and act with confidence, knowing that they never will have to rely on someone else for their income.

The Middle Class tends to focus on Obstacles; the Wealthy focus on Opportunities

This is almost self-explanatory. Middle class individuals, faced with taking a financial risk that could result in wealth, will find all of the excuses possible why they cannot take that risk. The wealthy see every financial risk as a grand opportunity – the difference is pessimism vs. optimism

The Middle Class focuses on Savings; the Wealthy Focus on Investing/Earning

The middle class tends to have a 401K and perhaps a matching retirement plan; this is saving for their retirement. The wealthy focus on using their money to make even more money. This is a huge difference between these two groups.

100 Ways to Develop Your Mind

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1. Do the Thing You Fear the Most.

If there’s one thing that will change your thoughts quicker than anything else, it’s facing your fears.]

2. Stand up For Yourself

A lot of people have difficulty in standing up for themselves. The first time you do it can be very empowering and your thoughts about yourself will change forever. See Dealing With Confrontation
3. Stop Talking

It’s great to be silent for just a little while. Our thoughts turn inward and we begin to appreciate ourselves just a little more.

4. Strengthen Your Strengths

Sometimes we focus too much on trying to strengthen our weaknesses when we should be concentrating on strengthening our strengths.

5. Take A Walk Around an Art Gallery

You might not appreciate art or participate in it but it’s great to see the thoughts of others on canvas. It can give us a tiny glimpse of what goes on in other people’s minds.

6. Blindfold Yourself for a Day

Walk in the shoes of a blind person for 1 full day, it will forever change the way you think about life.

7. Stand on a Chair for 5 Minutes Per Day

Building self discipline is a great way to take control of your mind and your thoughts. If you just get up and stand on a sturdy chair your mind will be wondering what the hells going on and try and force you to get off the chair. Disciplining your mind is a great way to start changing your life. See Self Discipline.

8. Dance When There’s Nobody There

It’s a strange sensation to dance on your own, although when I have done this I look like a dog having a seizure, nonetheless it’s a great way to let go of your inhibitions.

9. Give Money to Someone Unexpectedly

Whether it be on the internet, or in the street, just give a larger than normal donation to someone. This again is liberating and your thoughts about money will change for a few moments (that’s all it takes to start the process of changing your life.)

10. Strengthen Your Thoughts About Yourself

Reinforce your thoughts about your good points. If you are good at talking to people, tell yourself this often. If you are good at maths, tell yourself often. This has the benefit of reinforcing and strengthening your self image.

11. Take A Risk

Life would be boring without ever having taken a risk in your life. Do something that you didn’t want to do because you thought you wouldn’t be any good at it. This totally smashes the boundaries of your comfort zone and your life could change forever. Read This Post by Robin Easton

12. Talk To A Stranger

Again this is breaking our comfort zones, but just saying hi to stranger in the street or good morning can have an enormous impact on your day and the person you said hi to.

13. Walk Around The House Naked

I can almost feel the shock at this. I don’t mean when you’ve got guests in, I mean when everybody is out. Lock the door and totally liberate yourself and your thinking of what’s right and what’s wrong. I wouldn’t advise doing it all the time, but from time to time, it’s a great feeling.

14. Read A Book By An Author You Most Avoid

reading books by authors we avoid gives us a chance to take control of our minds and lets us see another side to our thinking. We’ve got to ask why we avoid them in the first place, is it something within us that we are avoiding?

15. Write An Article About Yourself

Imagine a newspaper has asked you to write an article of 1000 words or less about yourself and your life and they want to know what motivates you in life, now write the article. This helps put your life into some perspective and gets you thinking about your childhood and growing up.

16. Stop Contact With Your Down People

If you have people in your life who constantly drag you down, or are negative all the time, drop them. Honestly drop them from your life, you are not serving them and they are not serving you and they are dragging your thoughts down. Read This Post by Dan And jennifer

17. Believe In Yourself

A lot of people believe their life has been pre-destined and there’s nothing we can do to change it – absolute rubbish. YOU are the only person who controls the universe, yes I did mean universe. Your universe is different from mine so you control your own universe, think about that and start acting upon it.

18. Meditate Every Day

Another powerful thing that has the power to change your life and your thinking for good. Retreating into your mind for a few minutes every day will do you a power of good. Read How To Meditate

19. Ask For A Discount

When you buy anything from a shop that is over $100, ask for a discount. Tell the salesman you’d like a 10% discount on the item. Most people are so afraid of doing this but it’s a great way to empower yourself and let go of another inhibition, what’s the worst that can happen?

20. Risk Embarrassment

Imagine if you had seen the person of your dreams on a bus, or at the store and you didn’t do anything about it how much would you kick yourself. If this happens to you, do something about it, don’t keep it hidden. Just say to them you thought you would come over and say how attractive they looked and felt you had to tell them. You never know what will happen and how much your life could be changed. Obviously don’t turn into a weirdo and do it with every good looking person on the street.

21. Work Toward, What You Think, Is An Impossible Goal

If you work toward a goal without expectation you don’t care about the outcome as much. When you don’t care about the outcome, you don’t have as much expectation.

22. Practice Gratitude

We all know what we don’t have in our lives because we spend a lot of time wishing we had them, but are we really thankful for what we have? Spend time every single day being thankful for the good things we do have in our lives. read The Post at ZenHabits on Gratitude

23. Do Something Nice And Don’t Tell Anyone About It

We tell others about our acts of kindness to let them know how nice we are and to seek approval. If you keep your act of kindness to yourself without ever telling anyone the feeling of positive energy lasts much longer.

24. Share Your Skills

Everybody has a skill of some kind. When you share it you not only have the power to help others, but you enhance your own skill by owning it.

25. Don’t Talk Just Listen

Enhance your listening skills by not talking when someone is speaking to you. Resist the urge to speak your views when someone is talking to you, just listen to them and ask them more open ended questions at the appropriate times. This has two benefits: a) You can really listen if you are not formulating the stories in your own head when someone is talking b) you will make the other person feel great as you are actively listening to them.

26. Write Your Future Life Story

Start from the age you are just now and start writing your future life story as you’d like it to be. Be as outrageous as you want and just write about your ideal life and how you interact with it. Words on paper are powerful and can help shape your goals.

27. Give Someone A Gift For No Reason

We always assume someone buys us a gift for a reason whether it be a birthday, christmas or special occasion. Buy someone a gift just because you know they would like it.

28. Pass On Your Good Books

If you’ve read a book and it changed your thinking or life in some way, pass it on to someone else who might benefit.;

29. Spend More Time With Your Kids

Your kids will grow up very quickly, spend as much time as you can with them.

30. Forgive Behavior

The way we behave doesn’t necessarily reflect our true thoughts. Remember this when someone acts out of character and behaves in a way you don’t approve of.
31. Allow Yourself To Be A Lazy Git

We are so used to filling our time with useful things to do and being productive we have forgotten the art of laziness. Being lazy is good every ONCE IN A WHILE and it allows our mind to slow down and relax.

32. What Is Your Best Quality Today

Every morning for 10 seconds just state, out loud if you can, what your best quality is. Try and change it every day. This reinforces your strengths and weakens your perceived weaknesses.

33. Write A Comment

If you visit a blog you like, leave a comment and join in the community of people. Or, if there is not much of a community, be part of starting it.

34. Tell Your Friends And Colleagues How Good They Are

If a friend or colleague does something good, tell them how good they are at that particular task. This reinforces someone else strengths or strengthens their weaknesses and makes them feel good about themselves.

35. Make A Video Of Yourself And Post It To Youtube

Why on earth would you do this? Just because you can!

36. List All Your Worries

Make a list of every single worry you have at the moment. You will notice that you don’t have as many worries as you thought. Worrying consumes our thinking and we think our whole life is one big worry. When you get it down on paper it’s extremely surprising that you don’t have as many as you’d thought.

37. Work On Each Worry In Turn

Now that you have all your worries listed. Go through them and start acting on them in turn. If you find worries you cannot act upon it means there is nothing you can do to change the outcome of that worry, so forget it, why waste mind energy on something you cannot control at all? Read This Post for More Info

38. Read About Successful People

If you want to change your thoughts and change your life read about people who have already done it and use them as guides.

39. Tweet Your Moods

If you use twitter why not tweet your moods daily and see if there is some kind of pattern after a few months.

40. Stop Watching Soaps

Soap operas actually have the power to alter your state of mind. People get so caught up in the emotions of the soap that they experience what the actors and actresses are doing.

41. Have A News Break

What would happen if you never read a newspaper for a week? nothing at all, your life wouldn’t change, you wouldn’t run out of things to talk about, you would still be as up on the world as everyone else. Newspapers sell because of their doom and gloom, read it and you are buying into it.

42. Do Something Spontaneous

Jump on a bus without looking at the destination, book a holiday, take time off work, take your partner away, buy your kids a gift; do anything and make sure it’s out of character, (expand that boundary).

43. Write To An Author

Authors are people just like you and I and they love getting feedback about their work. If a book touched you in some way or changed you, take time to write to the author and thank them. Don’t look for a reply, just thank them.

44. Follow your instincts

We don’t trust ourselves nearly enough as we should. Follow your instincts more and pay attention to the signals your body is picking up and see where it takes you. You might find that your conscious brain gets in the way of your body signals a lot of the time. Read This Post for More Info

45. If You Find Some Money Give It To Charity

If you find money in the street don’t pocket it, give it to someone who is homeless or better yet buy them a meal with it. If it’s a suitcase full of money, that’s obviously a different story.

46. Your Thoughts Really Do Have Power

When you realize this, it will change your thinking in so many ways. I can’t tell you that it’s true you have to experience it for yourself.

47. Always Admit It When You Have Made A Mistake

Don’t blame others or hide behind someone else. Hold your hands up and admit you made a mistake, no matter what the consequences are. You will be much more respected this way. However, don’t take the blame for others.

48. Do Something Every Day To Improve Your Mind

Learn a new word, do an anagram puzzle, sudoku your mind, read a book, read a stimulating blog post, anything that will help your mind just a little. Just a little turns into something huge.

49. Change Your Thinking Style

If something is not working out, try and change your thinking style and come at it from another angle. This is true of everything in life.

50. What Do You Really Want To Do In Life

You will find most people cannot answer this question simply because they are plodding along with life. When you know what you really want to do with your life then your life takes another path. read This Post by Dragos Roua

51. Pass On Your Knowledge

Knowledge is for sharing, let others know what you know if it’s appropriate.

52. Ask For What You Want In Life

If you don’t ask you won’t get. Asking for your wants puts it out there. I mean literally ask and metaphorically ask. When you want a big house or a mansion, ask out loud and send it out there. When you want the smaller things in life, ask for them from people who can give you them. Always pay it forward.

53. When Someone Does You A Good Turn Pay It Forward

If you receive a compliment, thank the person and look for an opportunity to give someone else a compliment. If you receive a gift, give a gift to someone else at an opportune time.

54. Always Have A Good Breakfast

We underestimate the power of food to keep our brains healthy and our minds alive with energy. If you don’t eat that much, make sure you have a good breakfast to set you up for the day. Read this post on eating by Vin Miller

55. What Would People Say About You If You Died

This is not a morbid thought, but I often think about what people would say about me at my funeral. The thing is the ones who might say something bad, I can’t really not invite because I’ll be dead. However, the important people are ones I would care about most and I would like to develop my life’s values based on what people would say about me at my funeral; he was a caring man, he was a family man, he always told the truth no matter how hard it might seem, he had integrity etc.

56. Sing Your Heart Out

I love to sing, I hopeless at it, but I love it. We have a radio station over in the UK called gold http://www.mygoldmusic.co.uk/ and it plays music from the 60s, 70s and 80s and I sing at the top of my voice as there is always something on that’s good. My sons are not very pleased about it though :)

57. Love The One You’re With

Always let your partner know how much you love them by telling them and showing them. This way your mind is focused on them for at least part of the day.

58. Pacing Whilst Studying

This has helped me a lot over the years. I paced my way through university. My theory is that the body and mind is being stimulated with the exercise you are doing whilst walking, this makes the blood flow. Blood flow to the brain help you to study and remember.

59. Make New friends

Whether it be online or offline. Keeping yourself busy socially is stimulating for the mind and lets you see the world from others peoples perspective.

60. Make Love Regularly

Releasing the feel good chemicals, endorphins, into your bloodstream is a great way to stimulate the mind. I have to admit to feeling much more creative after making love.

61. Listen To Music

This stimulates the mind and can have tremendous benefits for your thoughts, therefore your life. I love listening to Baroque music whilst driving at night, I love rousing rock driving during the day and dance trance music at the weekend whist driving

62. Listen To A Book Instead Of The Radio

Getting downloadable books from Amazon.com or Audible.com is a great way to spend long journeys and learn something at the same time.

63. Have A Sleep In

I am not a big fan of sleeping longer than I have to, but sometimes it’s great to lie in bed for a few hours longer than normal. It helps the brain recuperate.

64. Turn Off The TV

There’s nothing more brain numbing than having the TV on all day every day. Exercise your mind and read a book, or at least watch something educational. Read this post by Vin Miller

65. Look For Evidence Of Your Beliefs

This will develop your mind and your critical thinking. If you look for evidence of your beliefs such as ‘what is the evidence that sea water is blue or green’, you’ll discover some great information on during your research.

66. Take Micro Naps

Taking a micro nap for 10 minutes a few times a day does wonders for your brain energy. read this post on Micro Naps

67. Travel Often

Travel really does broaden your horizons especially if you really get into the local food and culture.

68. Tidy House Tidy Mind

There really is nothing better than clearing your house or office space to clear your mind. When the house is not tidy there is always a niggling at the back of your mind. When the house, office and workspace is totally clean and tidy it frees your mind to concentrate on work or your family at home. read this post at DumbLittleMan

69. Exercise Your Mind Not Just Your Body

We all know the benefits of exercising the body but exercising the mind by doing crosswords, maths puzzles, playing chess, reading, anagrams, sudoku etc, all help to increase the minds capacity for learning.

70. Read Philosophy

the beauty of philosophy is that there is no right and wrong. However, reading different philosophers views about the world will stimulate your mind. Read this post by Tim Ferris

71. Ditch The Credit Card

We have forgotten how to wait for the things we want in life, if we see something we like we want it now and using a credit card is too easy. Make the object of your desire more precious by saving up for it. This will discipline your mind as well as your money spending habits.

72. Watch A Motivational Video On Youtube First Thing In The Morning

This is a great way to start the day. Just type in motivational into youtube search box, sort by view count and watch a few videos.

73. Keep Up To Date With New Theories

Whatever field you are interested in keep up to date with new theories and discoveries. New theories in psychology are especially interesting albeit quite thin on the ground.

74. Take One Action Toward Your Goals Every Day

Your Self confidence, self esteem, and goals can only be reached by taking action. The more action you take the more your mind will help you to keep going.

75. Never Let Your Mind Go Out Of Fashion

Keep up to date with the latest research on health, beauty and intelligence. Only those whose thoughts keep searching will stay intelligent for life.

76. Confronting Your Stressors

Whatever you are stressed about the most tackle first. The less stress you have the less your mind has to cope with. Tackle the biggest stressors first and work your way down. Read this post by Jonathan Wells

77. Drink Coffee And Tea

Despite evidence to the contrary coffee and tea have been shown to help the brain. Antioxidants and/or caffeine may help fight the onset of Alzheimer’s by 30-60% drinking 30 cups a day is obviously not good but 3-5 cups per day is okay.

78. Carry Yourself With Confidence

People can tell by the way you walk if you are confident or not. Walk with purpose and have a purpose to walk. Read this post by Brandon Lindell

79. Make Up Your Own Mind

When reading or listening to the news, do your own research and make up your own mind. The government and large corporations, whether deliberate or not, is a propaganda machine feeding you information to manipulate your thinking.

80. Take Up Yoga

This is meant to be one of the best ways to relive stress and exercise both mind and body. watch this video to get you started

81. Change Your Hands

Practice doing this with your less dominant hand. If you are right handed start doing things with your left hand and vice versa. If you are ambidextrous, start doing it with your feet :)

82. Eat Plenty Of Fish

There is an abundance on new evidence that eating fish is great for our brains and keeping them healthy.

83. Reduce Your Alcohol Intake

I had to say this, I am an addiction worker. Don’t cut it out just reduce it to the recommended safe level.

84. Quit The Smoking

Yep it can be one of the hardest drugs to give up but it is worth it. I feel so much better for giving up smoking and have a lot more energy than normal and my mind can function a lot better.

85. Practice Deep Breathing

Getting plenty of oxygen to your brain is key for a healthy mind, deep breathing can help with this.

86. Get A Dog/Cat

If you live alone why not go to one of the pet rescue centres and get a dog or a cat. People who have pets are shown to be less lonely, more active, and show fewer signs of stress. read this article by elizabeth Scott

87. Break your Pattern

If you are the one who always goes shopping swap the routine with your partner. Or if you always go to a particular store, change it and go to the same store in another area. Do anything to break the patterns you have in life. This way your mind is kept more active.

88. Try New Food

We have trained our palettes over the years and have gotten used to eating certain foods day in and day out. Try new foods and train your palette to eat better foods.

89. Stimulate Your Brain By Going To A Concert

Whether it be a rock concert or am orchestral concert, getting out and hearing music live and being with people who enjoy the same music stimulates your mind and your emotions.

90. Join An Internet Group

Join an internet discussion group to further your education on topics of interest. Want to start a business? join a group and get ideas for best practice. Want to know more about tropical fish? join a group. This educates your mind, gives you ideas and lets you meet people who are interested in the same topics as you.

91. Volunteer To Help Others

Volunteering is a great way to give back to the community and help others learn the skills you have. Even if you don’t think you have skills you can still help someone out in your community just by talking or doing their shopping for 1 hour per week.

92. Read The Tao Te Ching

Has to be one of the best books, in my opinion, for developing your mind. read this blog byNaoto Matsumoto

93. Practice Patience

Waiting in queues, traffic jams, on a telephone call can be very frustrating sometimes. If you use the time to develop your mind and focus on your goals your frustration will dissipate very quickly. Use free time like this constructively instead of getting angry and putting yourself in a bad mood.

94. Practice Divergent Thinking

This is the practice of looking for multiple solutions to problems or issues that arise in your life, whether they be at home or at work. Don’t judge your solutions just put them down on paper until you can’t think of any other ways. get others involved in this as well. Read this article on divergent thinking

95. Put On A New Hat

Edward De Bono wrote a book called Six Thinking Hats in which he proposed you to put on a different, mental, hat for each area of your life. For example you put on your parent hat when talking to your kids, you can also put on your child hat for playing around with your kids. mentally putting on different hats allows you to better go in and out of different roles in your life.

96. Stop trying To Multitask

Multitasking can’t be done except with unconscious processes such as walking and talking. If you try to consciously multitask like make the kids lunches, have a telephone conversation and try and get the kids ready for school it can’t be done nearly as effectively as doing each task separately. Multitasking stresses out minds and helps to produce bad results. read this article by Dave Crenshaw

97. Write A Short Essay On The Books Your Read

Doing this will keep your mind active and helps your to read in a different way as you are analyzing books instead of just reading. this way you retain more information and in a few years time you don’t embarrass yourself by saying ‘yeah, that was a great book but I can’t remember what it was about.’

98. Allocate Time For Worrying

If you are a recovering worrier and you need some help, allocate a certain time each day to worry about everything. Once you’ve done the time of worry, leave it until the next day.

99. Stop Faffing And Just Do It

Faffing is the art of doing small things to avoid completing a bigger task. I am constantly getting on at my son and saying ‘Stop faffing!’. We spend too much time faffing instead on concentrating on the task at hand. Read this Article at Lifehack.org

100. Read The Dictionary

Learning a new word every 2 -3 days will increase your vocabulary by 120 – 170 words per year.

101. Always Over deliver On Your Promises

If you say your going to do something, don’t just do it and get the job complete, make sure you over deliver on everything you do.

8 Keys To A Highly Successful Life

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Success may mean different things to different people. For one, it might equate to having a fluorishing career. For another, it might be having harmonious relationships with family and friends.

But success is not limited to just one or two areas of life. In fact, there should be a well-rounded balance between eight vital keys to be considered a true success. If just one of them is missing or lacking, your life won’t be as fulfilling as it’s meant to be.

1) Inner Peace

This is the cornerstone of all the other areas. Everything you do should have inner peace as your primary aim.

No amount of wealth, popularity, power or success can make up for something that is bothering you “from the inside.”

Any negative emotion – such as fear, anger, worry, or jealousy – can throw your inner balance off course. So deliberately choose to stay positive – in words, thoughts and actions.

the_attitude_that_guarantees_successFor many people, being spiritual or having faith in God (or a higher power) has done wonders to ease their anxieties and worries, as well as make them feel more in control of their lives.

2) Happy Relationships.

Your happiness (and health) depend greatly on the quality of people in your life and how well you’re able to get along with them.

Be around optimistic people and those who share the same values as yours. They will inspire you to feel good and live your dreams. On the other hand, avoid toxic relationships by staying away from negative people.

To get along with people, do your best to be kind and thoughtful at all times. Before you begin your day, ask yourself, “what can I do to make the people around me happy?” You may list down the names of your family members, friends and other people you’ll meet that day… then write down at least one way you can make each of them feel great. This little extra effort on your part could pay huge dividends in terms of getting their love, trust, loyalty and respect for a long time to come.

3) Excellent Health.

You can never enjoy life to the fullest if your health is in jeopardy. And being healthy is not complicated either. It’s as simple as eating right, exercising, avoiding stress, and getting plenty of sleep and rest.

A not-so-common way to attain great health is to always think and feel good. Whenever a negative image or emotion comes up, immediately say “Erase. Erase. Erase.” Then deliberately think of a past experience that makes you feel good. If you can’t think of any, then just visualize the perfect outcome of your most important goal or desire.

4) Financial Freedom.

Your financial condition can directly affect your health and relationships. Most people lose sleep and inner peace because they’re worried about their debts. People fight over the lack or misuse of money; and relationships suffer greatly even to the point of getting a divorce.

Money, therefore, is as important as good health and relationships. If you’d like to jumpstart your way to financial freedom, I highly recommend you read these articles: 4 Unusual Steps To Attract More Money Into Your Life; 3 Mindblowing Secrets That Can Make You Rich, here, in the archives.

5) Knowledge and Skills

If you’re not constantly getting better, you’re getting worse. There’s no such thing as a one-time improvement. Technology and progress are moving at such a rapid rate, you’ll get behind if you don’t continuously increase your knowledge and skills.

But don’t limit yourself to just your field of interest. In today’s modern society, you need to develop your competence in different areas to increase your economic and social value.

In other words, if you’re working as a dentist, chemist, architect or as another specialized professional right now, you might want to develop one or more “general” skills that will benefit you in an extensive way.

An example is getting better in sales. All companies need to sell their products or services. Developing your selling skills can also flow over to your relationship and social skills… helping you get along with anyone and be more persuasive.

6) Memorable Experiences

Research shows that experiences make us happier than things. And rightfully so.

Although we become happy when we buy new things, this lasts for a very short time. Before we know it, we’re comparing what we have with others’ possessions, and this often leads to “wanting more” and never being satisfied.

Experiences, on the other hand, are not easily comparable. Only you (and the people involved) own a particular experience. They leave a lasting impression that stays with you for life.

Here are some ideas of experiences worth having:

    Climb a mountain
    Watch a concert
    Travel to a different country
    Attend your child’s performance or event
    Go deep sea diving
    Go sky diving
    Fly in a hot air balloon
    Participate in a marathon or triathlon
    Do something extraordinary to someone that they’ll never forget
    Sing, dance or speak in front of an audience
    Learn something new (ex: speak a foreign language, play a musical instrument, etc.)
    Eat something you haven’t eaten before.
    Do something you fear!

If you can, share these experiences with your family, friends and loved ones to make them more memorable.

7) Purpose Or Passion

Studies indicate that more people who retire earlier live shorter lives than those who retired in their later years. Why the irony?

One reason could be because those who retired early have lose a sense of purpose or direction in life. They haven’t planned or decided what they want to do after they retire, so deep with them, it makes no sense to continue living.

But here’s the good news! By having a major purpose in life, knowing exactly what you want, planning and taking steps to achieve your goals, you will not only live a longer life but a much fulfilling one as well.

You must always be striving for some goals. And if you have achieved them, it’s important to make new ones. Life becomes more exciting and meaningful if you’re aiming for a certain target and anticipating its fruition.

8) Contribution to Mankind

In one of Les Brown’s videos, I heard him say that “We should be ashamed to die until we have made some major contribution to humankind.” Well said.

We’re not meant to live only to satisfy our own desires. We should have a more selfless universal aim to contribute for others’ benefit. And it doesn’t need to be a one-time shot for your contribution to be considered as “major.”

Constant random acts of kindness like helping people in need, volunteering for a worthy case, or donating to your favorite charities will add up over time and be considered as significant.

To live your best life ever, focus on the attainment of the 8 keys above. I know you can do it. I’m rooting for you.

25 Habits of Happy and Successful People

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“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon

Here is a list of 25 habits of happy and successful people that I compiled that should give you a glimpse into how to live the life of your dreams.

Happy and Successful people…

They forget who they were and focus on who they want to be. If you don’t let go of your past then you won’t find your future.

They are sure of themselves and stick to their guns. Uncertainty is the key component of failure.

They are willing to admit when they are wrong. If you can’t accept that you’re wrong then there’s no room to learn.

They surround themselves with those who are worthy. Your friends make you who you are.

They allow unwarranted and hateful criticism to roll off their shoulders. You will always have haters — learn to ignore those that are just trolling.

They accept constructive criticism. You aren’t always right; others may have a clearer perspective than yourself.

They focus and act on what they believe is right and don’t act simply to please. If you’re constantly pleasing others then you won’t have time to please yourself.

They see challenges as an opportunity to learn and to grow as individuals. If you’re never challenged then you’re never going to see the world from a different perspective.

They are open-minded. There’s always another way to do it — a way that may very well be better.

They are quick to adapt. If evolution has taught us anything, it’s this: those who adapt the fastest and most efficiently are those who survive.

They do the right thing because it’s the right thing. Having moral standards and following them alleviates the chances of feeling guilt.

They don’t complain. If the situation can’t be changed and you can’t avoid doing what you have to do, then there’s no reason to complain; it only weighs on your nerves.

If they start something, they finish it. If you’re not going to finish what you started, then why bother starting in the first place?

They exercise regularly. You are an animal and animals are made to move and to push their limits.

They read regularly. It’s the quickest way to learn how the world works.

They keep a well-balanced, nutritious diet. What you eat affects your body on a chemical level.

They take risks. Fear is acceptable as long as you overcome it.

They have no problem with saying “no.” Often at times, it’s the things and opportunities that you turn down that allow for success to manifest.

They meditate and learn to control their breathing. Breathing is the link between our conscious and subconscious mind.

They focus on the moment. Life can only be lived in the moment.

They question convention. The way things are done isn’t always the best way to do things.

They care for and want to give back to human kind. We are all related and all connected.

They learn from others, their heroes and mentors. Having guidelines makes life easier.

They learn from the mistakes of others before they make the mistakes themselves. History does not need to repeat itself.

They respect others and expect respect in return. We are all equal and should all be treated kindly and respectfully.

Most importantly, they are happy. And, at the end of the day that’s what life is all about. Time.
Energy. Moments. Live each breath counting those blessings.

Inspirational Quotes

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When you find yourself questioning your lifestyle or your life choices, have a quick read through these and see if the bring some clarity. Remember guys, we only have one life – how are you gonna live yours?

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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” Mark Twain

“Waste your money and you’re only out of money, but waste your time and you’ve lost a part of your life.” Michael Leboeuf

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years” Abraham Lincoln

“Most of us spend our lives as if we had another one in the bank” Ben Irwin

“We’ll never be as young as we are tonight.” Chuck Palahniuk

“Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that the stuff life is made of” Benjamin Franklin

“…so many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day, to have a new and different sun. ” Chris McCandless, ‘Into the Wild’

“Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” Braveheart

“When you were born, you cried and the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a manner that when you die the world cries and you rejoice.” Indian Saying

“Go for it now. The future is promised to no one” Wayne Dyer

“We can spend our lives letting the world tell us who we are. Sane or insane. Saints or sex addicts. Heroes or victims. Letting history tell us how good or bad we are. Letting our past decide our future. Or we can decide for ourselves. And maybe it’s our job to invent something better.” Asfixia

“Men talk of killing time, while time quietly kills them.” Dion Boucicault

“The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them.” Jack London

“Life, if well lived, is long enough.” Ira De Seneca

“Go for broke. Always try and do too much. Dispense with safety nets. Take a deep breath before you begin talking. Aim for the stars. Keep grinning. Be bloody-minded. Argue with the world. And never forget that writing is as close as we get to keeping a hold on the thousand and one things–childhood, certainties, cities, doubts, dreams, instants, phrases, parents, loves–that go on slipping , like sand, through our fingers.” Salman Rushdie

“When it comes time to die, make sure all you got to do is die.” Jim Elliot

“Use your health, even to the point of wearing it out. That is what it is for. Spend all you have before you die; do not outlive yourself.” George Bernard Shaw

“Dream as if you’ll live forever. Live as if you’ll die today.” James Dean

“I think I don’t regret a single ‘excess’ of my responsive youth – I only regret, in my chilled age, certain occasions and possibilities I didn’t embrace.” Henry James

“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” Stephen Vincent Benét

“Why not seize the pleasure at once, how often is happiness destroyed by preparation, foolish preparations.” Jane Austen

“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas A. Edison

“You will never find time for anything. If you want time you must make it.” Charles Buxton

“As you grow older, you’ll find the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do..” Zachary Scott

“A man that is young in years may be old in hours, if he has lost no time.” Francis Bacon

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” Diane Ackerman

“It is better to travel well than to arrive.” The Buddha

“Why be saddled with this thing called life expectancy? Of what relevance to an individual is such a statistic? Am I to concern myself with an allotment of days I never had and was never promised? Must I check off each day of my life as if I am subtracting from this imaginary hoard? No, on the contrary, I will add each day of my life to my treasure of days lived. And with each day, my treasure will grow, not diminish.” Robert Brault

“The more side roads you stop to explore, the less likely that life will pass you by.” Robert Brault

“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” Stephen Vincent Benét

“This is your life and its ending one moment at a time.” Fight Club

“A man of ordinary talent will always be ordinary, whether he travels or not; but a man of superior talent (which I cannot deny myself to be without being impious) will go to pieces if he remains forever in the same place.” Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” John Lennon

“Not all those who wander are lost.” J. R. R. Tolkien

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it..” Charles R. Swindoll

“Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends.” Maya Angelou

“Once in a while it really hits people that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.” Alan Keightley

“I am not the same having seen the moon shine on the other side of the world.” Mary Anne Radmacher Hershey

“One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.” Henry Miller

“Without new experiences, something inside of us sleeps. The sleeper must awaken.” Frank Herbert

“Wandering re-establishes the original harmony which once existed between man and the universe.” Anatole France

“A journey is best measured in friends, rather than miles” Tim Cahill

“Happiness is only real when shared” Alexander Supertramp

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” Helen Keller

“Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living.” Miriam Beard

“We’re fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance” Japanese Proverb

“We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever, the goal is to create something that will.” Chuck Palahniuk

“Our battered suitcases were piled on the sidewalk again; we had longer ways to go. But no matter, the road is life.” Jack Kerouac

“A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” Lao Tzu

“Enjoy yourself. It’s later than you think” Chinese Proverb

“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.” Elbert Hubbard

“As you grow older, you’ll find the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do.” Zachary Scott

“Spend the afternoon. You can’t take it with you.” Annie Dillard

“To change one’s life: Start immediately. Do it flamboyantly. No exceptions.” William James

“Men for the sake of getting a living forget to live.” Margaret Fuller

“Fear not that life shall come to an end, but rather fear that it shall never have a beginning.” John Henry Cardinal Newman

“Contemplation often makes life miserable. We should act more, think less, and stop watching ourselves live.:” Colas de Chamfort

“When your life flashes before your eyes, make sure you’ve got plenty to watch.” Author unknown, from a television commercial

“If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?” Stephen Levine

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” Mark Twain

“I think I don’t regret a single ‘excess’ of my responsive youth – I only regret, in my chilled age, certain occasions and possibilities I didn’t embrace.” Henry James

“Those who follow the crowd are quickly lost in it”.  Anonymous

99 Positive Affirmations for you

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I have been using positive affirmations for most of my adult life and know that the subtle changes they have made to my thinking has changed my life beyond measure.

You might think repeating positive affirmations to yourself seems like new age hoo hah, which is kind of what I thought when I first heard Émile Coué’s famous affirmation:

    Every day in every way I am getting better and better

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How on earth can repeating a positive affirmation like this help you?

It’s all to do with beliefs.

Your beliefs underpin every single thought you make, every action you take, every goal you set, every value you have, every habit your form, ultimately leading you to your destiny in life. One of the ways your beliefs are formed in life is through repetition e.g. if you were constantly told as a child just how kind you are, chances are you’ll believe that you are a kind person.

This can have negative consequences as well such as being told you are no good enough at something, again, chances are you’ll have the belief that you are not good in a particular area of your life. This is how abusers break down their victims, by constantly telling them how they are no goo, nobody wants them, therefore making them reliant on their abuser.

That’s a very brief outline about beliefs, and obviously there’s a lot more to it than that, but you get the picture.

So, we can use this knowledge of beliefs and how repetition can help us form new beliefs by using affirmations.

Cognitive Dissonance

When you first start using affirmations your mind will try and reject them. This is perfectly natural as there’s something called cognitive dissonance happening, which means you are trying to hold two conflicting beliefs at the same time. For example, at the moment, you might believe that you will never have money in your life, and when you start using affirmations like: ‘money flows easily to me in my life’, your mind automatically says ‘Eh! wait a minute, that’s bull. For years you’ve been telling me I’ll never have money, and now you’re saying money flows easily to me…what the hell?’

This cognitive dissonance will fade over time and the more you use affirmations the more your old beliefs will fade away.

So, lets get on to the affirmations.
99 Essential Positive Affirmations

All these positive affirmations are headed under different categories so you can find the ones you might like to use much quicker.

If you like these you can get beautiful audio affirmations embedded with special sound technology to relax you and help you change your beliefs

************You Have Courage************

    I am a courageous person
    I am not afraid to take small risks in life
    I live life to the full
    I always say yes to new experiences
    I like to meet new people
    I have the courage to stand up for myself
    I see change as an opportunity to grow

************You Are A Happy Person************

    I have a positive outlook in life
    My future is very positive
    Every day I am grateful for my life
    My life is improving every single day in every single way
    I always have a positive attitude when I am with others
    I am always happy
    I am grateful for all the good things in my life

************You Love Yourself************

    I love myself deeply
    I love myself for who I am as a person
    I am capable of great things in life
    I appreciate all the good qualities I have
    I enjoy my own company
    I have many talents
    I appreciate all my positive character traits

************You Are Optimistic************

    My internal voice is optimistic at all times
    My internal voice is positive and pushing me towards success
    I love myself deeply
    I believe I can succeed in anything I set my mind to
    I believe in myself deeply
    My internal voice is positive and strong
    I have a naturally positive internal dialogue

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************You Have Strong Beliefs About Money************

    I deserve money in my life
    I believe in myself and the ability to make money
    Money is a good thing and will improve my life
    Being financially independent is possible for me
    I am entitled to be rich
    I am good with money and naturally seek it out
    I am making more money now than ever before

************You Have A Millionaire Mindset************

    I have a burning desire to make money
    I deserve to make a million
    I become more and more determined with every setback
    I always aim for the top
    I have every right to make large amounts of money
    I thrive under pressure
    I am a millionaire

************You Can Say No Easily************

    I can say No when I need to
    I feel confident to turn people down
    I always say no to time wasters
    I have control over every aspect of my life
    I always stand up to people
    I say no to unproductive activities
    I am a very assertive person

************You Are confident************

    I am very self confident
    I am a naturally self confident person
    I am growing more and more confident with each passing day
    I am outgoing and self confident in social situations
    I believe in myself and know I can do anything I put my mind to
    I am confident just being myself
    I effortlessly start conversations with strangers

************You Can Lose Weight************

    I can lose weight easily
    Every day I am getting slimmer
    I only eat healthy food
    I enjoy the weight loss process
    I burn calories quickly
    I will achieve my weight loss target
    I have a very high metabolism

************You Are Productive************

    I am extremely productive
    I get things done within my target time
    I am naturally productive
    I find it easy to work consistently and be productive
    I just naturally get things done and take action when required
    I am a productive, motivated and highly driven person
    I am productive and successful in all area

************You Have Attracted Your Soul Mate************

    You will find my soul mate soon
    My soul mate is looking for me right now
    I will know my soul mate as soon as I meet them
    My soul mate is getting closer
    My perfect partner is just around the corner
    My soul mate and I will naturally find each other
    I am destined to meet my soul mate

************You Attract Success************

    I am attracting success in my life
    I make my own success
    I always follow my plans through to completion
    I deserve massive success
    I am always positive
    I rise to any challenge that comes my way
    I can and will achieve all of my dreams

************You Live The Law of Attraction************

    The law of attraction is working for me every day
    My positive thoughts attracts positive circumstances
    I am attracting strong friendships into my life
    I am attracting financial success into my life
    I have the power to attract whatever I want in life
    I am attracting love into my life
    I am always attracting abundance into mylife

************You Are a Positive Thinker************

    I am a positive person
    People admire my positive outlook
    I can do anything I set my mind to
    I am positive at all times
    I always expect to succeed
    I see opportunities everywhere
    My Past experiences provide learning opportunities
    My future is looking brighter and brighter

Well, that’s 99 Positive Affirmations for you. I really hope you can use them in your own life, helping you to become the person you want to be.

Short horror movies

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Lights Out

2AM- The Smiling Man

Bedfellows

The Passing

Alexia

Grave Torture by Joko Anwar

Pulang Duluan // Horror Short Film by Aulion

How To Keep Your Liver Healthy ?

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The liver is a key organ for detoxifying our bodies. If our livers aren’t healthy or functioning properly, the toxins that should be eliminated could end up staying in our bodies and cause damage. Here are a few tips for supporting your liver heath — and as a result, the health of the rest of your body — through your diet.
Tips for Liver Support:
Lemon Juice:

For liver support, start each day with a cup of warm water with lemon juice (fresh). The citric acid in lemon juice encourages the liver to produce bile, which is one way that the body excretes toxins.
Cruciferous Vegetables:

Cruciferous vegetables induce different liver enzyme pathways to clear toxins from the body. Aim to eat 1-2 cups of these vegetables per day. They include broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, kale, Brussels sprouts, Bok Choy, turnips, watercress, rocket, Lightly cooking them is better than eating them raw.
Foods rich in Sulfur:

Eat at least one portion of onions, garlic and/or eggs per day. These contain sulfur, which helps the liver to clear hormones and toxins.
Apple Cider Vinegar:

Drink a glass of warm water with a teaspoon of organic apple cider vinegar each day.
Avoid Alcohol:

Alcohol can interfere with the liver’s ability to detoxify, so avoid if possible.
Say No To Fructose and Trans Fats:

Two big burdens to the liver are fructose and trans fats. Avoid French fries, donuts, baked goods, biscuits, breads and anything that has “hydrogenated” or “partially hydrogenated” oil as part of the ingredients. Fructose is found in packaged foods and fruit juice.
Drink more Water:

Drink more water. The body needs water to remove waste from the system and it is especially important during a “detox” because toxins need to be mobilized.
Green Tea:

Try to drink 1-2 cups of green tea per day. Green tea contains catechins, a type of antioxidant that supports the liver and assists with detoxification.

12 Little Known Laws of Karma (That Will Change your Life)

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What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it.

This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning.

A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal.
To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about karmic laws.
1. The Great Law

    “As you sow, so shall you reap.” This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect.”
    If what we want is happiness, peace, love, and friendship, then we should BE happy, peaceful, loving and a true friend.
    Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us.

2. The Law of Creation

    Life doesn’t just happen. It requires our participation.
    We are one with the Universe, both inside and out.
    Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state.
    Be yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have in your life.

3. The Law of Humility

    You can’t change something if you refuse to accept it.
    If what we see is an enemy, or someone with a character trait that we find to benegative, then we    ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.

4. The Law of Growth

    “Wherever you go, there you are.”
    For us to grow in Spirit, it is we who must change, and not the people, places or things around us.
    The only given we have in our lives is ourselves, and that is the only factor we have control over.
    When we change who and what we are within our hearts, our lives follow suit and change too.

5. The Law of Responsibility

    Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me.
    We mirror what surrounds us, and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth.
    We must take responsibility for what is in our life.

6. The Law of Connection

    Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected.
    Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on.
    Someone must do the initial work to get a job done.
    Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance, as they were both needed to accomplish the task.
    Past, Present and Future are all connected.

7. The Law of Focus

    You cannot think of two things at the same time.
    Because of this, when our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality
    If you believe something to be true, then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth.
    Here is where we put what we CLAIM that we have learned into actual PRACTICE.

9. The Law of Here and Now

    Looking backward to examine what was or forward to worry about the future prevents us from being totally in the here and now.
    Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, and old dreams prevent us from having new ones.

10. The Law of Change

    History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward

    All rewards require initial toil.
    Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.
    True joy comes from doing what we’re suppose to be doing, and knowing that the reward will come in its own time.

12. The Law of Significance and Inspiration

    You get back from something whatever you have put into it.
    The true value of something is a direct result of the energy and intent that is put into it.
    Every personal contribution is also a contribution to the Whole.
    Lackluster contributions have no impact on the Whole, nor do they work to diminish it.
    Loving contributions bring life to, and inspire, the Whole.

9 Toxic Behaviours That Will Kill Your Soul

2015-08-02T19:37:00.003+07:00

Nobody is perfect, right. As much as we strive to live a pure and simple life, sometimes we slip and let toxicity into our lives. It actually just kinda sneaks in before we have a chance to check it at the door. When we do realize we are behaving poorly, it’s already too late. Not too late to change it, but too late to have prevented it in the first place.

If you are into the Law of Attraction you’ll know that these behaviours stop manifestations in their tracks and can completely block what you want to attract in life.

What is Toxic Bahaviour

What exactly is a toxic behaviour and how can it affect us? I’ve only listed 9 but I’m sure there are hundreds of things we do that suck the life out of us. When we recognize some of these behaviours, it is quite easy to change them. Simply stop doing them. Easier said than done? Not really. When you know what it’s doing to your soul, wouldn’t you want it to stop immediately anyway? I know I would.

Let’s have a quick look at what some of these toxic behaviours are and without judging anyone, I’m sure you can recognize yourself in some of these. I know I’m guilty of one or two. Listed in no particular order, here they are.

Gossiping.

We all do it. Some of us more than others. We talk about the girl next door or the new guy that just started working here. We talk about how the Brown’s just split up and “Did you hear why they separated?” Did you know that when we talk about people it shows an insecurity or jealousy in us? Boom. Where are you lacking in your life that you feel the need to cut down someone else’s life? Have a think about that for a moment.

Lying.

Ok this is just plain terrible. One thing I can honestly say I don’t do. Not even white lies. There’s no point or purpose to this. Who are you lying to and why? It doesn’t even make any sense to do this and I still don’t understand why so many people still lie. You think the truth hurts, check out a lie. Nothing hurts more than that.

Worrying about things that haven’t happened yet.

Let me repeat that if I may. Things that haven’t happened yet. Why would you waste your time and energy worrying about something that hasn’t even happened? I know a lot of us play out a situation in our head and our first instinct is to be play it out with a bad ending. Why do we do that? I’ve done this one myself once or twice. Worry is a natural emotion/feeling. It’s up to you to control it and stop it in its tracks before it spirals out of control. That’s when the stress kicks in and our blood pressure rises. No need for all this now, is there?

Holding a grudge.

There’s an old saying “holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. Think about that for a sec. The poison you are drinking is the grudge. You are swallowing every drop and you are mad and pissed off to a point of no return. Expecting the other person to die? Honestly they could care less what you think. Hell they probably aren’t even thinking about you anyway. So why on earth are you wasting your time and energy grudging on someone? Go pick some flowers and bring them to a nursing home. Really. Spend time doing happy things. Not brewing and stewing over silly things.

Jealousy.

The girls in the magazine are beautiful. Sally has a beautiful body. Jimmy has a nice car. The Whites just bought a brand new house. With every turn, someone somewhere has something better or nicer than we do. Our first reaction is jealousy. There is no need to be jealous really. We all have something special, unique and beautiful inside of us. We also all have something that someone else wishes they had. Just be grateful for who you are and what you have. You are perfect and blessed exactly the way you are. Embrace it.

You’ve already lived the past.

Oh how we love to hang on to what happened 5, 10 or even 25 years ago. We still go on and on about it to whoever will listen. Why shouldn’t we? Who we are today is because of what happened to us yesterday. Well, yes, you’re right. Sort of. Who we are today is the result of the way we chose to handle the past. We didn’t all have silver spoons in our mouths. Some of us were dealt really shitty hands. It is what it is. Be done with it. No one wants to hear it, really. Just tell us something happy and joyful. That’s all we want to hear now.

I love me.

Watch how you talk to yourself. You are listening. Make sure your self-talk is loving, kind, compassionate, gentle, caring and supportive. Talking bad about yourself to yourself is probably the worst thing you can do. Treat yourself in a totally loving and positive manner. When you do this, you will be able to see how awesome you are and how much more awesome you will become.

Woe is me.

Always the victim never the victor. Sad things keep happening to you and you can’t wait to tell the next person you see. The more you talk about it, the more depressed you get and the more terrible things keep happening to you. You think your life is bad? Go hang out in a city where they just had a devastating earthquake or tsunami. Stop whining. We’re getting sick of listening to it and there will come a point where no one will want to be around you. How lonely will that be?

Negative Nancy.

We are really truly sad for you and wish, just once, you could see something in a positive light. Not everything is bad. Honest. Try to find the good in things and when you do you will see that more good things will show up in your life. It’s a universal law. It has to be. You are sucking the life out of us and we don’t want to hang around you anymore.

This list covers many things that we all do almost on a daily basis. Next time you catch yourself doing any of these, stop it. Immediately. Turn it around and tell yourself that your soul is beautiful and deserves only loving, kind and caring thoughts. Once you get into this habit, in no time you will see that these behaviours will become a thing of the past and your soul will illuminate beauty.

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Dear Daughter: Let's Talk About the Way You See Your Body

2015-08-02T19:36:00.004+07:00

Dear Daughter,

There were a few times when a little boy, quite blunt with his comments, would come over to say, “She’s fat.” He’d refer to you, whom I’d be carrying.

Whether or not he meant harm, I couldn’t help but wonder: why is it that appearances would merit a comment from about anyone? Does it change things if I mention that you were just a few months old when those incidents would happen?

Perhaps I am party to the practice as well; I’d revel in your plump baby arms and legs, the folds of your neck and ankles. And I’d tell you how cute I found those.

We dote that way: itemizing the body parts that we favor. And we offend that way: paying attention to appearances more than we should. Our first instincts, sadly, are to verbalize what we see, and often without thinking.

I’ve heard of parents who make it a rule not to call their daughters beautiful, pretty, cute, and the like. I suppose the idea is that there should be more emphasis on other (i.e. non-physical) qualities.

It’s a good concept: we should certainly go beyond the physical when dealing with other people. And when it comes to children, we need to be careful about what we say about them, because of the values they may attach to certain words and praises.

But, my dear, we hardly have the chance to correct how other people talk and think. And this is why I want us to open up a discussion about your body and how you – and you alone – regard it.

You will observe that people like to talk, and it’s not just the people that you know or those that dote on you. People like to talk about anything and comment on just about everything. Someone’s appearance, outfit, body shape, toenails, hair, lipstick – there’s always something to say.

Do you listen?

In a way, it depends on who’s talking. In a way, it depends on the intention behind the comment. But most importantly, it depends on how you view yourself, your body, and your outlook in the world. Your attitude and values will spell a big difference in identifying what is true and valid.

May I share what I think and what I’ve learned so far?

1. Food is nourishment. And food is enjoyable.
Be wary of diets and other rules of eating that elicit feelings of guilt, obligation, and averseness. Food is meant to make you nurtured, energized, and – to an extent – happy. Regard food as an enjoyable way to help build a strong body that will help you attain your daily and long-term goals. (Relish your meals, don’t overindulge. Knowing the difference is key.)

2. Fitness is not thinness
I grew up stick-thin, gorging on sweets, and nixing exercise. Then pregnancy and age hit me and made me pay. Thinness is not an indication of a sound body, nor is it any indication of health. It is a disservice to yourself to think of protruding collarbones and ribs as idealized body goals. Instead, engage in activities that will keep your heart pumping, engage your core muscles, and give you a regular dose of endorphins.

3. You are stronger than you think (or what others think)
It’s sweet if someone wants to carry a heavy item for you, but you should be able to take care of yourself at any time. Don’t let anyone keep you out of a sport or activity that supposed to be “for men only.” Whether it’s ballet or jiu jitsu, moving furniture or lifting a hefty box, your body can handle the pressure.

4. Physical perfection is an illusion
Beauty is subjective. The cultural ideal is dictated by those with the loudest voices and the broadest reach: celebrities and models who are on strict diets, made up by professionals, in well-lit photographed areas, digitally enhanced on magazine covers, and airbrushed to unrealistic flawlessness. These illusions will mess with your head if you take them seriously.

5. Clothes should serve you. Fashion can be fun, but it’s no one’s master – certainly not yours.
Luckily, there is a whole range of shapes and sizes when it comes to clothes because every body is different. What’s hanging on a mannequin or walking down the catwalk is not meant for all. Fashion is about expression, even experimentation, not a life sentence dictating what you’re supposed to look like. Dress according to your body and your taste.

6. A routine for grooming and hygiene is a way of life
Do you need to be scrubbed, polished, coiffed, waxed hairless, and blemish-free? You can try to keep up, but don’t let it stress you out. Having a well-put together appearance should be a result of self-worth—of giving priority to caring for yourself.

7. Body acceptance does not mean doing anything you want with it
Any negligence or abuse will eventually catch up with you, even if, right now, you’re feeling invincible.

8. Know the numbers that matter and why they matter
Yes, you can watch your weight, but give it context. How does it stand to your heart rate, blood pressure, sugar levels, aerobic fitness, strength and endurance levels? A visit to a fitness coach and regular health checkups can tell you more than looking at the scale or dress size.

9. Your body will change as your life changes
Ah, women go through so much physically and every life stage will affect your body composition. Adolescence, adulthood, pregnancy, motherhood, and aging in general will have a say on how your body will change. Yes, there are grandmothers who can do hand stands and pregnant women who can belly dance like nothing else matters, but there comes a point when you have to listen to your body and accept things you may not be happy to. Seek grace at each point.

10. Choose your “mirrors” wisely
When your health is sliding it will manifest in your body. It may be a little pooch, it may be sudden weight gain or loss, it may be a listlessness that surfaces, or falling hair, or insomnia.

It’s too easy to lie to yourself that everything’s ok. It’s too easy to distract yourself and be too busy with everything else. Surround yourself with good people who are honest and kind, who will tell you the truth you need to hear so that you can take care of yourself better.

What I’m trying to say, Daughter, is: You listen to yourself. You do this by actively seeking ownership of your body. This way, you can shut out the noise, have a firm grasp of your responsibilities to it, and be rewarded when you keep it running at its best condition.

Candice Lopez-Quimpo is a writer-editor who enjoys being a hands-on mom. While she constantly looks for stories to tell and collaborations to explore, she often finds herself pondering the curiosities that come with everyday life and the happy mayhem brought about by a growing family. Follow her on Twitter @candicequimpo

This article was first published by Rappler.com, a Manila-based social news network where stories inspire community engagement and digitally fuelled actions for social change.

Inilah yang terjadi Pada Tubuh Anda jika Sering konsumsi Air Hangat

2015-08-02T19:35:00.002+07:00

Air hangat memiliki banyak manfaat yang tidak diketahui oleh banyak orang. Yang diketahui hanyalah manfaat air hangat seperti air biasa, yaitu untuk menghilangkan rasa haus di dalam tubuh. Manfaat minum air hangat tidak hanya itu saja, namun masih banyak lagi manfaat lainnya yang belum diketahui terutama dalam bidang kesehatan.

Manfaat minum air hangat dalam bidang kesehatan sangat banyak sekali. Air hangat yang baik adalah air yang tidak berwarna, berbau dan juga tidak berasa. Air murni dan hangat lebih baik untuk kesehatan dibandingkan dengan air yang sudah dicampurkan dengan gula. Air yang sehat adalah air hangat, murni, jernih dan tentunya sudah melalui proses pemasakan sehingga kuman dan bakteri di dalamnya sudah mati.

Selain air hangat yang murni, air hangat dicampurkan beberapa perasan lemon segar bisa semakin menyehatkan tubuh. Untuk mengatasi kondisi tertentu air hangat bisa dicampurkan menggunakan bahan-bahan lainnya. Manfaat minum air hangat adalah sebagai berikut ini :

1. Meredam Rasa Gatal Di Tenggorokan

Saat anda batuk, tentu anda merasakan bahwa tenggorokan anda sangat gatal dan serak. Hal itu dikarenakan di dalam tenggorokan anda terdapat virus batuk yang menyebabkan rasa gatal. Meminum segelas air hangat bisa meredakan gatal pada tenggorokan anda. Rasa hangat dari air tersebut dapat menetralisir virus batuk yang ada di dalam tenggorokan.

2. Membuat Berat Badan Menurun

Air hangat bisa bermanfaat untuk membuat metabolisme di dalam tubuh menjadi sehat. Untuk kesehatan, mengkonsumsi air hangat bisa membuat berat badan ideal. Sedangkan untuk yang ingin menurunkan berat badan, air hangat dicampurkan dengan beberapa perasan lemon segar bisa menurunkan berat badan bahkan bisa sampai beberapa kilogram. Caranya adalah sebagai berikut ini :

Saat pagi hari, anda bisa memulai aktivitas anda dengan segelas air hangat. Jangan lupa campurkan perasan lemon. Gunakan saringan teh agar biji lemon tidak ikut masuk ke dalam air. Jangan makan dulu selama 15 menit agar air hangat dicampurkan perasan lemon bereaksi. Cara kerja dari air hangat perasan lemon ini adalah perasan air lemon akan memecah jaringan lemak menumpuk di dalam tubuh yang ada di beberapa bagian organ. Terutama di bagian lengan, paha dan juga perut.

3. Melegakan Hidung Dan Tenggorokan

Saat terkena batuk dan pilek, seseorang akan merasakan ketidaknyamanan di dalam hidung dan juga tenggorokannya. Bagi batuk berdahak, tenggorokannya akan dipenuhi dengan dahak. Sehingga dahak tersebut bisa menyumbat tenggorokan. Batuk juga disertai dengan pilek. Saat pilek hidung pun akan tersumbat dengan ingus. Saat seperti itulah, anda membutuhkan air hangat. Air hangat bisa melegakan hidung dan tenggorokan anda dari dahak dan juga ingus. Air hangat berfungsi sebagai antibiotik alami sehingga bisa melegakan hidung dan tenggorokan.

4. Detok Alami

Air hangat bisa bermanfaat untuk proses detox alami bagi tubuh. Detox merupakan cara tepat untuk mengeluarkan racun yang ada di dalam tubuh kita. Racun banyak tersimpan di usus, penyebabnya adalah sebagai berikut ini :

Usus merupakan organ pencernaan yang dilalui oleh makanan yang telah dicerna. Racun atau toksin tubuh banyak dihasilkan dari makanan.

Makanan yang tidak sehat ( berlemak, berminyak, kolesterol tinggi, tinggi pengawet, pewarna dan pemanis buatan ) juga akan dicerna dan dialirkan ke usus.

Makanan yang tidak sehat tidak bisa diserap oleh tubuh, sehingga racunnya bisa menempel ke usus. Detok berguna untuk mengeluarkan racun terutama racun di usus melalui keringat, urin dan juga feses.
Jika tidak dikeluarkan toksin tersebut bisa menyebabkan berbagai macam penyakit. Penyakit terparah akibat dari toksin yang menumpuk di usus adalah kanker usus.

Untuk melakukan satu kali detoksifikasi membutuhkan biaya yang mahal, namun juga harus dibarengi dengan produk-produk penunjang pengeluaran racun. Sekarang ini anda bisa melakukan detok secara gratis dan mudah. Yaitu dengan menggunakan air hangat. Cara melakukan detox menggunakan air hangat adalah sebagai berikut ini :
Minumlah air hangat saat bangun tidur, usahakan agar tubuh anda menjadi berkeringat setelahnya.

Minumlah air hangat sebelum anda tidur, usahakan agar tubuh juga berkeringat. Jika air hangat belum bisa membuat berkeringat, tambahkan sedikit air panas.

Saat tubuh berkeringat, hal itu menandakan jika suhu tubuh anda sedang meningkat.

Saat suhu tubuh meningkat racun akan dikeluarkan melalui keringat, sisanya akan dikeluarkan melalui urin dan feses. Lakukanlah secara teratur agar toksin bisa terbuang semua.

Tidak ada toksin di dalam usus bisa menghindari resiko terkena kanker usus. Terutama kanker usus besar dan kolorektal.
Hasil yang maksimal bisa ditambahkan dengan beberapa perasan lemon dan juga madu.

5. Membantu Pergerakan Usus

Pergerakan usus akan lancar jika anda mengkonsumsi air hangat. Air hangat bisa menghindarkan anda dari rasa haus yang berlebihan atau dehidrasi. Jika anda kekurangan cairan dan dehidrasi, anda bisa terkena sembelit. Orang yang terkena sembelit akan merasakan nyeri saat BAB dan juga menimbulkan rasa sakit. Waktu yang tepat untuk BAB adalah saat pagi hari. Usahakan untuk minum air hangat sehabis anda bangun tidur, hal itu dikarenakan saat pagi hari perut anda dalam kondisi kosong. Air hangat yang anda minum, bisa mencegah dehidrasi dan menguraikan sari makanan yang masih menempel di organ pencernaan. Air hangat juga bisa membuat partikel makanan menjadi lebih lembut. Partikel makanan yang lebih lembut membuat pergerakan usus menjadi lebih lancar

6. Membuat Pencernaan Menjadi Lancar

Air hangat bisa menyebabkan pencernaan menjadi lancar. Sehabis anda mengkonsumsi sesuatu usahakan untuk tidak mengkonsumsi air es namun usahakan untuk mengkonsumsi air hangat. Alasannya adalah :

    Air es bisa menggumpalkan minyak dan juga lemak di dalam tubuh. Minyak dan lemak yang sudah tergumpal bisa menyebabkan tumor bahkan kanker
    Air es tidak bisa menyerap kandungan makanan yang kita makan, akibatnya makanan dengan gizi apapun jika diimbangi dengan air es tidak bisa terserap oleh tubuh.
    Air es mampu menciptakan timbunan lemak di dalam usus. Timbunan lemak di usus bisa menganggu pencernaan.

Jika sehabis memakan makanan anda mengganti segelas air es dengan segelas air hangat, anda bisa terhindar dari semua hal di atas. Alasannya adalah :

    Air hangat mampu membuat makanan terserap sempurna.
    Air hangat mampu melarutkan minyak dan lemak bersama dengan peredaran darah di dalam tubuh manusia bukan malah menggumpalkannya atau menimbunnya.

Sisa makanan yang dicerna oleh tubuh dijadikan dalam partikel-partikel kecil, sehingga memudahkan usus untuk membuangnya melalui feses.

7. Meringankan Nyeri Perut Akibat Menstruasi

Saat menstruasi, rahim sedang mengeluarkan darah kotor yang melekat di dinding rahim. Pelepasan sel darah kotor dari dinding rahim tersebut diduga yang menjadi penyebab timbulnya kram atau nyeri perut. Saat menstruasi, tidak boleh mengkonsumsi air es. Alasannya adalah sebagai berikut ini :

    Darah kotor tidak bisa terlepas dengan sempurna dari dinding rahim.
    Darah kotor yang tidak bisa keluar dari rahim justru terus menempel di dinding rahim.
    Jika darah kotor terus menumpuk tanpa bisa dikeluarkan semua, bisa menyebabkan kista, tumor bahkan kanker.

Untuk menghindari semua itu anda harus mengkonsumsi air hangat. Air hangat bisa memudahkan darah kotor terlepas sempurna tanpa sisa di dinding rahim. Air hangat juga memudahkan kerja rahim untuk melepaskan sel darah kotor tersebut. Semakin mudah rahim untuk melepaskan darah kotor, semakin ringan pula nyeri yang akan dirasakan.

8. Melancarkan Peredaran Darah

Air hangat juga berguna untuk melancarkan peredaran darah di dalam tubuh. Air panas bisa melebarkan pembuluh darah . Jika pembuluh darah melebar, aliran darah ke seluruh tubuh menjadi lancar.

9. Menciptakan Sistem Syaraf Yang Sehat

Syaraf yang sehat bisa diciptakan dengan segelas air hangat. Hal itu dikarenakan mengkonsumsi air hangat bisa melancarkan peredaran darah, peredaran darah yang lancar bisa menunjang aktivitas syaraf menjadi lancar. Aktivitas syaraf dan kinerja syaraf yang tidak terganggu bisa membuat sistem syaraf menjadi sehat.

10. Meredakan Kaki Kram

Bagi anda yang merasakan kram di telapak kaki, ada baiknya anda mengatasinya menggunakan air hangat. Minumlah air hangat yang dicampurkan dengan sedikit madu. Bisa juga anda merendam kaki anda di air hangat yang telah dicampurkan dengan garam selama 15 menit, pijat-pijat telapak kaki anda secara lembut. Kram pun akan segera hilang dari telapak kaki anda. Yang harus diwaspadai dari kram adalah sebagai berikut :

Kram kaki tersebut disertai dengan kram di telapak tangan.
Kram muncul di waktu-waktu tertentu misalnya saja saat malam hari dan juga menjelang pagi hari.
Apabila kram tersebut berulang dan di waktu yang sama ( malam hari dan menjelang pagi hari ), segera periksakan kondisi kesehatan anda. Kram tersebut bisa menjadi indikasi diabetes, asam urat maupun kolesterol.

11. Menenangkan Dan Menghilangkan Stress

Air hangat juga memiliki manfaat untuk psikis seseorang. Jika anda sedang galau dan gundah. Ada baiknya di pagi hari anda menikmati segelas air hangat sambil menghirup udara pagi dalam-dalam. Hal tersebut bisa menenangkan jiwa dan pikiran anda. Efeknya anda akan merasa tenang.

12. Menghilangkan Kantuk

Manfaat minum air hangat juga sangat penting dirasakan pada saat pagi hari, karena masih banyak yang mengantuk. Mengantuk tersebut bisa disebabkan oleh berbagai faktor misalnya saja tidur yang tidak berkualitas, tidur terlalu larut malam dan bangun terlalu pagi. Untuk mengatasi rasa kantuk anda, minumlah air hangat. Usahakan sampai badan anda berkeringat. Dijamin, setelah anda berkeringat karena segelas air hangat. Kantuk anda pun segera hilang.

13. Membangkitkan Semangat

Di pagi hari banyak orang yang merasa malas untuk melakukan aktivitas sehari-hari. Misalnya saja membersihkan halaman rumah, membersihkan lantai rumah dan masih banyak lagi lainnya. Di dukung dengan cuaca pagi hari yang dingin menambah rasa malas tersebut. Untuk membangkitkan semangat di pagi hari sebaiknya anda meneguk segelas air putih hangat terlebih dahulu. Rasa malas anda pun akan hilang digantikan dengan semangat yang ada di dalam diri anda.

14. Menepis Rasa Dingin

Cuaca hujan seperti ini menimbulkan rasa dingin di kulit tubuh. Mengkonsumsi air hangat bisa meningkatkan suhu tubuh. Suhu tubuh yang meningkat bisa bermanfaat untuk menepis dan menghilangkan rasa dingin.

15. Membuat Tidur Berkualitas

Anda sering terbangun dan terjaga di setiap malam?. Hal itu menandakan bahwa anda memiliki pola tidur yang kurang berkualitas. tidur yang tidak berkualitas bisa menyebabkan seseorang terkena berbagai macam penyakit. Misalnya saja diabetes, jantung, hipertensi dan berbagai penyakit kronis lainnya. Untuk membuat tidur anda berkualitas dan lebih nyenyak, anda bisa minum air hangat dicampurkan dengan teh beraroma mint sebelum tidur. Lebih bagus lagi jika anda menggunakan air hangat untuk merendam tubuh anda. Otot dan tubuh anda akan rileks. Setelah tubuh rileks, anda akan tidur nyenyak tanpa terbangun di malam harinya.

16. Menyehatkan

Air hangat bermanfaat untuk menyehatkan organ tubuh. Seperti yang kita ketahui sebelumnya bahwa, air hangat bisa bersifat menenangkan dan menghilangkan stress. Orang yang tingkat stressnya rendah bisa membuat orang sehat dan terhindar dari berbagai penyakit. Penyakit yang sering menimpa orang dengan stress tinggi adalah jantung, stroke, darah tinggi bahkan kanker ganas sekalipun.

17. Menghilangkan Mual

Saat anda hamil muda, anda akan sering merasakan mual saat menggosok gigi. Untuk mengatasi mual tersebut, sebaiknya sebelum menggosok gigi anda meminum air hangat terlebih dahulu. Air hangat yang dicampurkan teh mint bisa meredakan rasa mual ibu hamil. Untuk berkumurnya juga harus menggunakan air hangat.

18. Meredakan Sakit Gigi

Sakit gigi bisa diredakan menggunakan air hangat. Hal itu dikarenakan air hangat juga berfungsi sebagai antibiotik. Nyeri saat sakit gigi pun bisa diredakan menggunakan air hangat. Caranya adalah minum air hangat di saat sakit gigi anda kambuh, setelah itu juga sering berkumur menggunakan air hangat.

19. Menghilangkan Bau Mulut

Efek minum air hangat juga dapat menghilangkan dan meredakan bau mulut yang sangat mengganggu. Air hangat efektif membantu mengurangi sisa plak yang menempel di mulut yang menjadi salah satu penyebab bau mulut mengganggu.

20. Membuang Lemak

Air panas sangat efektif untuk membantu membuang lemak agar dapat segera diproses menjadi BAB atau air seni dan tidak menumpuk di usus. Hasilnya sangat memuaskan, lemak dalam usus akan hancur sebelum mengendap dalam tubuh.

Nah, itulah manfaat minum air hangat yang dapat anda rasakan, kebiasaan ini sangat baik dilakukan terutama setelah konsumsi makanan tinggi lemak.

Quotes from Jack Ma

2015-08-02T19:33:00.003+07:00

Jack Ma pernah berkata, "ketika berjualan ke teman dekat dan keluarga, berapapun yang Anda jual ke mereka, mereka akan selalu berpikir, Anda sedang mencari untung dari uang mereka. Dan semurah apapun Anda jual ke mereka, mereka tetap tidak menghargainya."

Selalu ada saja orang-orang yang tidak peduli dengan biaya, waktu, dan tenaga Anda. Mereka lebih baik memilih ditipu oleh orang lain daripada membiarkan Anda mendapatkan hasil dari mereka, lalu mendukung seseorang yang mereka kenal. Karena di dalam hati mereka, mereka selalu berpikir berapa untung yang dia dapat dari saya? Bukannya berpikir berapa yang telah dia bantu hematkan atau bantu hasilkan untuk saya?

Ini adalah contoh klasik mental orang miskin!!

Bagaimana caranya orang kaya menjadi kaya? Alasan utama adalah karena mereka bersedia mendukung bussines associate mereka, menjaga kepentingan satu sama lain, maka secara alami mereka mendapatkan lebih banyak lagi.

Teman-teman Anda akan secara bergantian mendukung Anda. Maka lingkaran kekayaan ini akan terus bertumbuh dan semakin bertumbuh.

Sederhananya, kamu akan mulai menjadi kaya ketika kamu memahaminya.

Jack Ma berkata, "ketika melakukan penjualan, orang pertama yang akan mempercayai Anda adalah orang asing. Teman Anda akan menutup diri dari Anda. Teman biasa akan menjauh dari Anda. Keluarga akan memandang rendah Anda."

Ketika suatu saat Anda telah sukses, Anda akan membayar semua tagihan ketika makan malam bersama, entertainment, dan disitu Anda akan menyadari semua orang akan hadir, kecuali orang asing.

Apakah Anda sudah paham?

Kita perlu memperlakukan orang asing lebih baik lagi! Dan demikian juga kepada teman yang tahu apa yang Anda lakukan, tetapi tetap mendukung Anda.

Mari memperlakukan orang asing yang membeli dari kita lebih baik lagi mulai hari ini. Karena mereka adalah pelanggan terbaik Anda.

You can't have a better Life If you don't appreciate what you already have

2015-08-02T19:27:00.002+07:00

CAR AIR CONDITIONING : DANGEROUS

2015-08-02T19:18:00.003+07:00

No wonder more folks are dying from cancer than ever before. We wonder where this stuff comes from, but here is an example that explains a lot of the cancer-causing incidents.

Many people are in their cars first thing in the morning and the last thing at night, seven days a week. As I read this, it makes me feel guilty and ill.

Please pass this on to as many people as possible. Guess it's not too late to make some changes.
Please do NOT turn on A/C as soon as you enter the car. Open the windows after you enter your car and turn ON the AC after a couple of minutes.

Here's why:
According to research, the car dashboard, sofa and air freshener emit Benzene, a cancer-causing toxin (carcinogen) .

Take time to observe the smell of heated plastic in your car. In addition to causing cancer, Benzene poisons your bones, causes anaemia and reduces white blood cells.

Prolonged exposure will cause leukaemia, increasing the risk of cancer. It can also cause miscarriage. Acceptable Benzene level indoors is 50 mg per sq ft.

A car parked indoors with windows closed will contain 400-800 mg of benzene. If parked outdoors under the sun at a temperature above 60 degrees F, the Benzene level goes up to 2000-4000 mg, 40 times the acceptable level.

People who get into the car keeping windows closed will inevitably inhale, in quick succession, excessive amounts of the toxin.

Benzene is a toxin that affects your kidney and liver. What's worse, it is extremely difficult for your body to expel this toxic stuff.

So friends, please open the windows and door of your car - give time for the interior air to dispel the deadly stuff - before you enter.

Thought: 'When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it, you have a moral obligation to share it with others.'

The Power of Now

2015-07-24T22:13:00.001+07:00

Kalau ada ang bertanya ke saya apa buku-buku yang mengubah hidup saya. Salah satu buku-nya adalah ini: The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. Susah menjelaskan apa yang sebenarnya diajarkan oleh buku ini, sampai buku ini berasa seperti kitab yang saya baca-baca ulang terus.

Serunya, karena membaca buku ini, semua ajaran agama menjadi masuk akal. Konsep manusia menjadi masuk akal. Hidup ini menjadi lebih masuk akal. Dan terlebih, kenapa gue depresi selama 5 tahun itu masuk akal banget. Kenapa gue drama itu masuk akal banget.

Jujur, buku ini juga bukan untuk semua orang. Karena beberapa teman yang gue rekomendasikan pun juga gak tertarik. Mungkin ada masanya. Mungkin mereka pun belum siap dengan perubahan. Mungkin mereka masih ingin berada dalam kurungnya.

Beberapa teman yang sudah membacanya, well… they shine brighter. Mereka bisa lebih menikmati hidup, dengan otentik. Indah banget.

Males baca keseluruhan bukunya? Coba baca ini dulu. If you’re ready.

You are not your mind. Be aware of your thinking.

“Being must be felt. It can’t be thought.”

Di sini, Eckhart mengatakan bahwa “You are not your mind.” Kamu adalah bukan pikiranmu.

What? Apa artinya? Pernahkah kamu mengamati apa yang kamu pikirkan? Pikiran-pikiran seperti “Aduh, gue bodo banget sih.” “Gue gak tau mesti ngapain.” “Andaikan gue gak seperti ini.” Dll. Walaupun kamu memikirkan hal-hal ini, bukan berarti kamu adalah pikiran-pikiran ini. Tetapi, sering kali, kita mengidentifikasikan kita dengan pikiran-pikiran kita sendiri. Yang terjadi, akhirnya kita terlalu banyak “Thinking” dengan tidak sadar dan tidak bisa “Being.”

Setiap kali kita merasa sedih, itu sebenarnya kita sedang memainkan kaset pikiran ini berkali-kali seperti musik favorit kita. Kita sendiri yang membuat diri kita sedih dengan memikirkan hal-hal yang terjadi di masa lalu ataupun masa sekarang.

‘Being’ itu hanya bisa terjadi di masa saat ini. Dan being itu terjadi ketika kita mengamati dan merasakan apa yang kita lalui di detik ini juga. Di mana kita benar-benar menyatu dengan saat ini.

Jadi, ketika kamu menemukan dirimu sedang mikirin hal-hal gak penting, coba amati. Jangan dihakimi. Lama kelamaan pikiran-pikiran itu akan hilang dengan sendirinya.

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but thought about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral. It is as it is.”

Penyebab ketidakbahagiaan yang utama bukan situasi yang terjadi, tetapi pemikiran kita tentang situasi tersebut. #jleb

Ini sebabnya kita harus selalu sadar dengan apa yang kita pikiran. Situasi itu selalu netral. Situasi itu menjadi baik atau buruk karena pikiran kita, karena judgement kita sendiri. Biarlah situasi menjadi situasi. With no judgement.

“In today’s rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Being.”

Kita sekarang berpikir terlalu banyak, mencari terlalu banyak, menginginkan terlalu banyak dan lupa kebahagiaan dari hanya ‘Being.

Oom Eckhart mengajarkan untuk menanyakan diri kita 3 pertanyaan ini setiap kali kita melakukan sesuatu:

    Apakah saya sedang ada di saat ini?

    Apakah saya sedang fokus di aktivitas yang sedang dilakukan?

    Atau apakah badan saya di sini tetapi pikiran-pikiran saya ada di lala land?

Contohnya, setiap kali kamu naik turun tangga di rumah misalnya, coba perhatikan setiap langkah yang kamu ambil, perhatikan setiap detik yang berlalu, termasuk nafasmu. Be totally present.

There is no past. There is no future. Only the present moment.
Problems are created because we are stuck in the past or future.

“Stress is caused by being “here” but wanting to be “there,” or being in the present but wanting to be in the future.” Jadi, kalau selama ini stress itu bukan karena situasi yang terjadi, tetapi karena kita gak mau ada di ‘sini’.

“The past has no power over the present moment.”
Masa lalu ya masa lalu. Masa sekarang ya masa sekarang. Ketika masa lalu itu terbawa-bawa sampai sekarang itu karena kita kebanyakan memikirkan masa lalu. Ketika kita fokus ke saat ini, masa lalu tidak lagi memiliki kuasa atas saat ini.

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.”
Waktu itu hanya sebuah ilusi, kata oom Eckhart. Masa lalu sudah lewat. Masa depan belum ada. Yang kita miliki memang HANYA saat ini. Sering kali kita malah lebih fokus ke masa lalu ataupun masa depan. Contohnya saja, ketika mandi, jarang sekali kita benar-benar merasakan bagaimana rasa air itu di tubuh kita, suara shower yang turun, kerlap-kerlip air yang jatuh, wanginya sabun dan shampoo. Yang ada kita malah kebanyakan MIKIR secara gak sadar. Mikirin nanti mesti ngapain, apa yang sudah dilakukan, apa yang belum, mikirin si itu yang nyebelin, dll.

Untuk menjadikan SAAT INI menjadi fokus kita, itu memang pelajaran baru.

“As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.”

Begitu kita menghargai saat ini, semua ketidakbahagiaan dan kesulitan mulai hilang perlahan-lahan. Dan hidup mulai mengalir dengan kemudahan dan kebahagiaan. Ketika kita bertindak dari kesadaran di saat ini, apapun yang kita lakukan akan penuh dengan kualitas, kepedulian dan cinta — termasuk hal-hal yang paling kecil.
Seperti mencuci piring. Atau menyetir di tengah kemacetan. Atau mandi. Minum kopi. Ngobrol dengan seseorang.

“The mind unconsciously loves problems because they give you an identity of sorts.”
Jadi, the mind itu suka dengan masalah karena itu memberikan kita identitas? Membuat kita merasa penting? Yang sebenarnya hanya kita ngasih makan ego kita sendiri, gitu? Wow.

“Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence. Most people find it difficult to believe that a state of consciousness totally free of all negativity is possible. And yet this is the liberated state to which all spiritual teachings point. It is the promise of salvation, not in an illusory future but right here and now.”

Semua rasa tidak nyaman, gelisah, beban, stress, khawatir – semua form dari rasa takut – disebabkan oleh kebanyakan memikirkan masa depan dan tidak ada di saat ini. Rasa bersalah, penyesalan, benci, kesedihan, kepahitan dan kesulitan memaafkan adalah sebab dari kebanyakan memikirkan masa lalu. Kebanyakan orang memang susah untuk percaya bahwa kita bisa untuk benar-benar bebas dari semua yang negatif. Ini sebenarnya yang diajarkan oleh semua pembelajaran spiritual.

Be aware of the difference between your “life” and “life situation.”

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.”

Jadi hidup itu akan memberikan kita pengalaman yang sebenarnya kita butuhkan untuk ‘naik kelas’. Dan memang itu pengalaman yang kita butuhkan karena itu adalah pengalaman yang kita alami. Jelas banget. Dan memahami ini membuat kita untuk lebih bisa menerima pengalaman yang datang ke hidup kita dengan lapang dada. Bahwa sebenarnya inilah pengalaman yang gue butuhkan.

“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.”
Apapun yang dibawa oleh masa saat ini, terimalah seperti kamu sendiri yang telah memilihnya. Teringat kata-kata “What you resist, persists.”Apapun yang kita tolak akan terus datang kembali. Jadi, masuk akal banget untuk bisa menerima apapun yang hadir dalam hidup kita seperti kita sendiri yang telah memilihnya.

Wow.

“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”

Tindakan apapun lebih baik daripada tidak melakukan apapun. Terlebih kalau kita telah terjebak di situasi yang tidak menyenangkan untuk waktu yang lama. Toh, kalau kita melakukan kesalahan kita bisa belajar dari situ dan itu tidak menjadi kesalahan kembali. Kalau kita tidak melakukan apa-apa, kita tidak belajar apapun juga.

Dan, sering kali kita bingung mesti melakukan tindakan apa. Ternyata, apapun itu membantu. Dibanding diam saja dan tidak melakukan apa-apa.

Be aware of your Pain-Body.

Apa itu pain-body? Pain body adalah emotional pain yang terus hadir.

Contohnya ketika kita baru putus, kita terus-terus merasakan sakit yang diakibatkan putus ini. Dan biasanya kita terus mengidentifikasikan diri kita dengan rasa sakit ini. Pain-body ini menjadi semakin penting karena memberikan kita ‘a sense of self’. Seperti, “Gue sakit hati." "Gue adalah orang yang mengalami kehilangan."

"Gue merana.” Dll.Nah, masalahnya, ketika beridentifikasi dengan pain-body ini, ego kita pun semakin beridentifikasi dengannya. Dan pain ini menjadi self-image kita. Di sini kita adalah masa lalu, kehilanan dan rasa sakit.

“Just as you cannot fight the darkness, you cannot fight the pain-body. Trying to do so would create inner conflict and thus further pain. Watching is enough. Watching it implies accepting it as part of what *is* at that moment.”
Seperti kita tidak bisa melawan kegelapan, kita tidak bisa melawan pain-body. Karena itu akan menyebabkan konflik internal dan rasa sakit lagi. Cukup kita mengamatinya. Dengan mengamatinya, itu berarti kita telah menerima ‘saat ini’.
“The pain-body, which is the dark shadow cast by the ego, is actually afraid of the light of your consciousness. It is afraid of being found out.”
Dan sebenarnya, pain-body, bayangan dari ego kita ini, sebenarnya takut dengan sinar kesadaran kita. Ia takut ditemukan. Karena begitu ia disinari, ia mulai menghilang.

Take care of the inside.

“You attract and manifest whatever corresponds to your inner state.”

“If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within; secondary reality without.”

“Your outer journey may contain a million steps; your inner journey only has one: the step you are taking right now.”

“If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place.”

Kita mendapatkan apapun dalam hidup ini yang mencerminkan apa yang ada di dalam diri kita. Kalau yang di dalam itu sudah baik, maka yang di luar pun akan membaik dengan sendirinya. Perjalanan kita di dunia luar bisa mencakup jutaan langkah, tetapi perjalanan di dalam diri hanya 1 langkah, yaitu langkah saat ini.

Sering kali kita lebih ingin mengubah dan memperbaiki realita kita, dunia yang kita lihat. Padahal sebenarnya, kalau kita membenarkan apa yang ada di dalam, itu dengan sendirinya mengubah yang di luar. Ini keren banget. Jadi, dunia ini sebenarnya cermin kita. Kalau dunia/realita kita tidak menyenangkan dan penuh dengan hal-hal negatif, mungkin dalam diri kita yang mesti dibereskan terlebih dahulu.

Drop the negativity.

Once you have identified with some form of negativity, you do not want to let it go, and on a deeply unconscious level, you do not want positive change. It would threaten your identity as a depressed, angry or hard-done by person. You will then ignore, deny or sabotage the positive in your life. This is a common phenomenon. It is also insane.”

Ini yang sulit. Begitu kita telah mengidentifikasikan diri kita dengan hal-hal negatif, kita tidak ingin melepaskannya. Secara tidak sadar, kita tidak ingin perubahan positif, karena itu akan menantang identitas kita sebagai seseorang yang depresif, pemarah, dll. Yang kemudian kita sendiri yang mengabaikan, menolak ataupun mensabotase semua hal yang positif yang terjadi di dunia kita. Ini menjadi sesuatu yang sangat biasa. Dan gila.

“The light is too painful for someone who wants to remain in darkness.”
Ini juga sebabnya, positivity menjadi hal yang sangat menyakitkan bagi seseorang yang ingin selalu ada di dalam negativitasnya. Mungkin ini sebabnya kalau kita lagi negatif, kita sebel banget melihat orang-orang yang positif.

“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim.”
Coba kalau kamu bisa menangkap dirimu komplain, baik di pikiran atau melalui kata-kata. Tentang apapun, baik situasi, apa yang orang lain lakukan atau katakan, sekelilingmu, situasi hidupmu ataupun hawa di luar. Ketika kita komplain atau mengeluh, itu sebenarnya kita sedang menolak apa yang terjadi saat ini. Yang akhirnya membawa energi negatif. Ketika kita komplain, kita menjadikan diri kita victim.

“Where there is anger there is always pain underneath.”
Dan setiap kali kita marah, itu hanya mengingatkan bahwa kita masih banyak rasa sakit di dalam.
“Is there a difference between happiness and inner peace? Yes. Happiness depends on conditions being perceived as positive; inner peace does not.”

Apakah ada perbedaan antara ‘happiness’ dan ‘inner peace’? Ya. Happiness tergantung dari kondisi yang dipersepsikan sebagai positif; inner peace tidak tergantung apapun. Jadi, terlepas apa yang terjadi di dunia ini, kita sebenarnya tetap bisa merasakan inner peace.

Pay attention and surrender to the Now.

“Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.”

Ingat. Apapun yang terjadi dalam hidup, terima dulu baru lakukan tindakan. Terima seperti kamu telah memilihnya sendiri. Bekerja samalah dengannya, bukan bertarung dengannya. Jadikan teman dan bukan musuh. Ini yang akan mengubah hidupmu.

“The moment that judgment stops through acceptance of what is, you are free of the mind.”
Begitu kita berhenti menghakimi situasi, kita bebas dari ‘the mind’. Dan masuk ke ‘being.’
“If you are present, there is never any need for you to wait for anything. So next time somebody says, “Sorry to have kept you waiting,” you can reply, “That’s all right, I wasn’t waiting. I was just standing”

Dan ketika kita sedang ada di saat ini, tidak pernah ada momen menunggu. Jadi, lain kali ketika seseorang mengatakan “Maaf ya telah membuat kamu menunggu,” kamu bisa menjawab, “Ga papa kok, gue gak nunggu juga. Gue cuma berdiri saja.”

“Gratitude for the present moment and the fullness of life now is true prosperity.”
Kaya? Apa artinya? Kaya itu adalah memiliki rasa syukur kepada momen saat ini dan hidup di saat ini.

(by kaskus)

Makanan yang mengandung trigliserida tinggi

2015-05-19T09:09:00.005+07:00

Makanan yang mengandung trigliserida

Apakah ada yang mempunyai daftar makanan dan minuman yang mengandung trigliserida tinggi dengan perbandingan dalam satuan volume, atau berat, seperti daftar makanan yang saya dapatkan untuk kolesterol di bawah ini :

Berikut beberapa makanan dan Kandungan Kolesterol yang dimiliki per 10 gr nya:

1 Putih telor ayam   0 Sehat

2 Teripang (haisom)   0 Sehat

3 Ubur-ubur    0 Sehat

4 Susu sapi non fat   0 Sehat

5 Daging ayam pilihan tanpa kulit 50 Sehat

6 Daging bebek pilihan tanpa kulit 50 Sehat

7 Ikan sungai biasa   55 Sehat

8 Daging sapi pilihan tanpa lemak 60 Sehat

9 Daging babi pilihan tanpa lemak 60 Sehat

10 Daging kelinci    65 Sehat

11 Daging kambing tanpa lemak 70 Sehat

12 Ikan ekor kuning   85 Sehat

13 Daging asap (ham)   98 Sekali-sekali

14 Iga sapi    100 Sekali-sekali

15 Iga babi    105 Sekali-sekali

16 Daging sapi    105 Sekali-sekali

17 Burung dara    110 Sekali-sekali

18 Ikan bawal    120 Sekali-sekali

19 Daging sapi berlemak   125 Sekali-sekali

20 Gajih sapi    130 Hati-hati

21 Gajih kambing    130 Hati-hati

22 Daging babi berlemak   130 Hati-hati

23 Keju     140 Hati-hati

24 Sosis daging    150 Hati-hati

25 Kepiting    150 Hati-hati

26 Udang     160 Hati-hati

27 Kerang/Siput    160 Hati-hati

28 Belut     185 Hati-hati

29 Santan kelapa    185 Berbahaya

30 Gajih babi    200 Berbahaya

31 Susu Sapi    250 Berbahaya

32 Susu Sapi Cream    280 Berbahaya

33 Coklat/Cacao    290 Berbahaya

34 Mentega/Margarin   300 Berbahaya

35 Jeroan sapi    380 Berbahaya

36 Jeroan babi    420 Berbahaya

37 Kerang putih/remis/Tiram 450 Berbahaya

38 Telor Ayam    500 Berbahaya

39 Jeroan Kambing    610 Berbahaya

40 Cumi-cumi    1170 Pantang

41 Kuning telor ayam   2000 Pantang

42 Otak Sapi    2300 Pantang

43 Otak babi    3100 Pantang

44 Telor burung puyuh   3640 Pantang

Sumber: General Hospital, Singapore

Happiness Practice, Do you have what it takes ?

2015-01-28T12:32:00.002+07:00

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, anxious or bummed out?

With practice, I had developed the tools and support system to enjoy life, despite the hardship and pain. The world around me hadn’t changed, but I changed the way I looked at the world. I had developed a new perspective and grace.

Here are the five keys that helped me practice joy:

1. Maximize the breath.
When you feel yourself getting wound up, pause and take 3-5 full inhales and exhales through the nose. Consciously breathing is one of the simplest ways to control your mood.

2. Move your body.
Exercising daily can improve your physical and mental health. So get your blood circulating and break a sweat. Whether it’s simple or serious, you gotta move!

3. Do what you love.
It’s important to know what activities make you happy. We all have hobbies that we love, even if we haven't done them since we were kids. Make time for fun. It’s critical.

4. Find people who bring out the best in you.
Ditch the people who drain your energy or encourage your bad habits. Be proactive about connecting with people who bring out the best in you. Or find positive role models and mentors who inspire you.

5. Practice gratitude.
Focus on your blessings. If you acknowledge all the little things you have to be grateful for, you'll inevitably feel better. Start expressing gratitude to others and consider giving back to those who are less fortunate than you. The attitude of gratitude really helps shift your perspective.

Why living BESIDE your Parents is bad for your Wife

2015-01-26T21:23:00.000+07:00

RICHARD:

One afternoon, I heard a story of a lovely mother telling us how she and her husband fell “out of love”.

She said their first 10 years of marriage were good when they were still living abroad together. Trouble started when they moved back to the Philippines to live in a house RIGHT BESIDE her husband’s parent’s home.

From there it was downhill. Having her husband’s family so close invited a shower of frequent criticism over her style of parenting (from the amount of her kid’s allowance, to how she should discipline them).

Now I understand why chinky-eyed Dennis Sy,(the man who married Maricar and I), taught this “LEAVE and CLEAVE seriously during our “engagement seminar”.

Dennis read from the engagement manual, “Therefore a man shall LEAVE his father and mother and shall be joined (CLEAVE) to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

This sentence has 3 parts:

1. LEAVE.
This means there are 2 types of relationships.

The PERMANENT relationship is the HUSBAND-WIFE. The TEMPORARY relationship is the PARENT-CHILD.

Problems occur when these 2 roles are REVERSED and the PARENT-CHILD relationship is treated as the PRIMARY relationship. (In other words, the parent of the husband gets priority over his own wife, or vice versa)

To leave also means EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY, and PHYSICALLY detach. Some may have left the family home physically, but remained emotionally and financially bound to the family, which creates a lot of resentment within the spouse.

2. CLEAVE.
The Hebrew translation means: to PURSUE HARD AFTER SOMEONE/ being GLUED or STUCK TO SOMEONE.

This cleaving implies that there should be NO CLOSER relationship than HUSBAND & WIFE, not with any FRIEND or PARENT.

3. BECOME ONE.
When a husband or wife receives GREATER emotional support from the parents, RATHER THAN THE SPOUSE, ONENESS in a lot of areas of decision-making within the marriage is difficult.

Honestly, I never wanted to leave the family home. It was very comfortable and most things were paid by my parents. But now looking back, I realize LEAVING the family home, ALTHOUGH VERY PAINFUL, changed me in ways I could not have experienced had I stayed. Here are some of rewards of “leave and cleave”:

REWARD 1. STRONGER HUSBAND LEADERSHIP
I learned more RESPONSIBILITY when I ran away from home. No dad or mom to save your butt. When I committed mistakes, there was no one else to blame and I had to OWN UP to the consequences.

Oppositely, if a man always has his parents to bail him out, his leadership of his own family becomes dependent on his parents. The saying is true: “He that PAYS THE RENT, MAKES THE RULES.” It’s sad for a family to be led by the in-laws.

Maricar and I enjoy making our own family guidelines that may not have to be same as our parents’.

REWARD 2. MORE SECURE & PRIORITIZED WIFE
Our mentors remind us, your marriage vow to God is to keep your wife TOP PRIORITY. If you secure her this way, she will be your NO.1 SUPPORTER, no matter how difficult your road.

But if a wife feels her “In-Laws” are the priority of her husband, she then, can turn into your WORST ENEMY.

REWARD 3. DISCOVER YOUR UNIQUE ROAD
If I stayed in our family home/business, I believe I NEVER would have ended up doing WORK THAT I LOVED. I would have ended up very resentful.

Many have not “found” their destiny because they are afraid and STILL COMFORTABLE, hiding under the family’s shadow.

Conversely, many who took that scary step out are reaping something miraculous that was NEVER THOUGHT POSSIBLE in the family home. Nobody thought I’d end up singing. Not even me. But I discovered it when I left the nest.

How about you? Are you willing to leave and cleave to strengthen your family relationship & find your own unique road?:)

*http://relationshipmatters.ph

Kata - Kata Ajaib Dalam Promosi Yang Akan Meningkatkan Penjualan

2014-12-11T15:03:00.004+07:00

Salah satu keahlian penting dalam sosial media marketing adalah copywriting, atau kemampuan memasarkan sebuah jasa atau produk dengan mempergunakan kalimat promosi yang menarik bagi calon pembeli. Saya tidak akan mengulas mengenai seni copywriting dalam artikel kali ini, namun saya akan mengulas mengenai 4 kata yang mampu meningkatkan kualitas sebuah promosi, anda tertarik? silahkan lanjutkan membaca.
Kalimat promosi yang meningkatkan penjualan
Secara psikologis, banyak orang percaya bahwa 4 kata berikut meningkatkan kualitas sebuah promosi

    Anda

Mempergunakan kata anda dalam promosi yang anda buat seolah-olah saat itu anda tengah berbicara secara langsung dengan calon pembeli dipercaya dapat meningkatkan hubungan baik, meningkatkan kemungkinan interaksi antara anda dan penggemar, dan akhirnya meningkatkan efektifitas promosi yang anda buat.

    Baru

Kata satu ini sering dipakai oleh perusahaan-perusahaan besar untuk mempromosikan produknya, salah satu contohnya adalah promosi iPhone5, New design, new technology, new iPhone.

Trend baru, handphone baru, produk baru, desain baru, dan banyak lagi kalimat yang bisa anda gunakan untuk meningkatkan promosi yang anda buat.

    Gratis

Gratis ongkos kirim, dengan kalimat seperti itu pembeli seakan-akan diberitahu bahwa mereka dapat menghemat banyak dengan membeli produk anda walaupun nyatanya tidak, kata gratis merupakan salah satu kata yang paling banyak dipergunakan karena dipercaya paling ampuh meningkatkan penjualan

    Bergaransi

Ini merupakan sebuah jaminan dan tambahan kepercayaan serta keyakinan bagi calon pembeli anda untuk memutuskan membeli. Menurut sebuah penelitian, banyak orang yang sebenarnya memiliki minat untuk membeli namun membatalkan niatnya tersebut karena rasa takut seperti takut produk yang mereka beli cepat rusak, takut produknya jelek dan lain sebagainya, dengan menambahkan kata bergaransi anda akan mampu meningkatkan keyakinan dan kepercayaan costumer terhadap produk yang anda tawarkan.
Kalimat promosi yang menarik

Sederhana namun memiliki daya tarik secara psikologis, 4 kata diatas sebaiknya mulai anda terapkan dalam promosi anda dan rasakan sendiri hasilnya.

How Your State of Mind Affects Your Performance

2014-12-09T17:06:00.003+07:00

Don, a senior vice president for sales at a global manufacturing company, wakes up late, scrambles to get showered and dressed, has an argument with his teenage daughter over breakfast, then gets stuck in traffic on the way to work and realizes he will be late for his first meeting.
Donna, a marketing executive, wakes at 6 for a quick spin on the exercise bike, takes a moment to stretch and relax, then quickly gets herself ready, dresses and feeds her two kids before walking them to the bus, then catches the train to the office.
Which executive will have a more productive day at work?
That depends on whether Don—who’s had the more difficult morning—is able to manage his state of mind. For 20 years, we’ve worked with leaders in more than 30 countries and across diverse industries to help them understand how state of mind (that is, their moment-to-moment experience of life as generated by their thinking and as expressed by their feelings) can affect their leadership, and to help them manage their respective states of mind, rather than being managed by them.
Two years ago our organization launched a long-term global research initiative to provide quantitative data on the topic. We selected 18 states of mind and surveyed leaders around the world on how often they experience each one, the impact of each on their effectiveness and performance, and what they do to manage their states of mind. To date, we have surveyed and interviewed over 740 leaders.
Below is a chart that lists the percentage of leaders who reported experiencing each of the 18 states of mind often or regularly:

Of the 18 states of mind in the chart, it came as no surprise that 94% of respondents reported that Calm, Happy and Energized (CHE) are the three that drive the greatest levels of effectiveness and performance. As Giglio Del Borgo, a country manager at Experian explains: “If you are energized, without being necessarily too excited about things or euphoric, that energy will transmit into the people working around you.”
The chart clearly shows that most leaders seem able to access CHE states on a regular basis. However, Frustrated, Anxious, Tired and Stressed (FATS) states of mind were also relatively common. And we found that certain factors such as age, gender, organizational level, organizational tenure, span of influence, and type/size of organization, are correlated with similar states of mind, with lower states more prevalent in certain categories of people—including the young, the male, those with less tenure, and those operating at lower organizational levels.

Most leaders reported that FATS states often yield benefits in the short term but are detrimental in the long term – especially to relationships. They also report that it is difficult to shift out of these states of mind when they are consistently present in the organizational culture or environment. Davida Fedeli, a former vice-president of human resources for Western Union Europe, told us: “There were times during the change integration process when I was constantly feeling frustrated because I was second-guessing stakeholder expectations. [But] at the end of the day, I was not getting the results I wanted by continuously staying in that state of mind.”

The leaders who responded to our survey also reported that it is much harder to shift from below the line states of mind to above the line states of mind. As Jim Daniell, COO of Oxfam America, noted, “When you’re stressed and frustrated it is much harder to see the state of mind you are in, and unless you have clear strategies to be aware of it when you are in it and then shift it, you more than likely will cause serious harm to yourself and your organization.”
So how do leaders shift from lower states of mind to higher states of mind and improve their effectiveness and performance? And how can they help other people in their organizations who tend to default to lower states of mind do the same? We’ve consolidated the best practices into four categories:

Thoughts and feelings. Acknowledge your emotions to reduce their intensity. Allow your thoughts to be transient. Visualize positive images to generate positive feelings. Refocus your attention on different stimuli. Journal to find clarity. And engage in meaningful conversations to foster understanding and optimism.

Physiology. Use deep breathing to reduce stress. Stretch to loosen muscles, stimulate blood flow and improve cognitive function. And take breaks to clear the mind, relax the prefrontal cortex and increase contentment.

External environment. Adjust lighting and block noise to generate calm. Listen to music to stimulate reflection. Eliminate clutter to reduce anxiety and improve focus. And spend time in nature to shift perspective.

Health and well-being. Eat a well-balanced diet, stick to an exercise regimen and get adequate sleep to maintain your energy and balance.
Everything in the last category is a must-do. From the others, we recommend choosing the handful of practices that work best for you, then employing them together with consistency.
Don did just that. Realizing the state he was in, he took stock of his anxiety, engaged in deep breathing, visualized having a positive conversation with his daughter, and accepted that he would not change the traffic. He then began to explore how he would manage his lateness and his workload. His state of mind shifted and he felt clear for the first time that day.

Sekolah Cuma 5 Jam, Tanpa PR & Ujian Nasional, Kenapa Pelajar di Finlandia Bisa Pintar?

2014-12-09T17:05:00.002+07:00

Semasa sekolah dulu, rasanya mustahil kamu bisa dijuluki murid pintar kalau dapat ranking bontot. Apalagi kalau gak lulus ujian nasional, rasanya dunia selesai di titik itu. Ketatnya persaingan waktu sekolah mungkin memang bertujuan supaya kitaa berlomba-lomba jadi lebih pintar. Tapi tahukah kamu, negara dengan pendidikan terbaik dan murid terpintar di dunia yaitu Finlandia justru melakukan hal yang sebaliknya?
Berbeda dengan kita yang harus menghadapi ujian nasional tiap mau naik jenjang sekolah, seumur-umur pelajar di Finlandia hanya menghadapi 1 ujian nasional ketika mereka berumur 16 tahun. Tidak hanya minim pekerjaan rumah, pelajar di Finlandia juga mendapatkan waktu istirahat hampir 3 kali lebih lama daripada pelajar di negara lain. Namun dengan sistem yang leluasa entah bagaimana mereka justru bisa belajar lebih baik dan jadi lebih pintar. Makanya kali ini Hipwee bakal mengulas habis rahasia Finlandia yang satu ini.

1. Di Finlandia, Anak-Anak Baru Boleh Bersekolah Setelah Berusia 7 Tahun

beri kesempatan mereka untuk belajar dengan caranya sendiri

Orang tua jaman sekarang pasti udah rempong kalau mikir pendidikan anak. Anaknya belum genap 3 tahun aja udah ngantri dapat pre-school bagus gara-gara takut kalau dari awal sekolahnya gak bagus, nantinya susah dapat SD, SMP, atau SMA yang bagus. Di Finlandia tidak ada kekhawatiran seperti itu. Bahkan menurut hukum, anak-anak baru boleh mulai bersekolah ketika berumur 7 tahun.
Awal yang lebih telat jika dibandingkan negara-negara lain itu justru berasal dari pertimbangan mendalam terhadap kesiapan mental anak-anak untuk belajar. Mereka juga meyakini keutamaan bermain dalam belajar, berimajinasi, dan menemukan jawaban sendiri. Anak-anak di usia dini justru didorong untuk lebih banyak bermain dan bersosialisasi dengan teman sebaya. Bahkan penilaian tugas tidak diberikan hingga mereka kelas 4 SD. Hingga jenjang SMA pun, permainan interaktif masih mendominasi metode pembelajaran.
Pelajar di Finlandia sudah terbiasa menemukan sendiri cara pembelajaran yang paling efektif bagi mereka, jadi nantinya mereka tidak harus merasa terpaksa untuk belajar. Maka dari itu meskipun mulai telat, tapi pelajar umur 15 di Finlandia justru berhasil mengungguli pelajar lain dari seluruh dunia dalam tes internasional Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA). Itu membuktikan faedah dan efektivitas sistem pendidikan di Finlandia.

2. Cara Belajar Ala Finlandia: 45 Menit Belajar, 15 Menit Istirahat

Cara belajar ala FInlandia: banyak istirahat!

Tahukah kamu bahwa untuk setiap 45 menit siswa di Finlandia belajar, mereka berhak mendapatkan rehat selama 15 menit? Orang-orang Finlandia meyakini bahwa kemampuan terbaik siswa untuk menyerap ilmu baru yang diajarkan justru akan datang, jika mereka memilliki kesempatan mengistirahatkan otak dan membangun fokus baru. Mereka juga jadi lebih produktif di jam-jam belajar karena mengerti bahwa toh sebentar lagi mereka akan dapat kembali bermain.
Di samping meningkatkan kemampuan fokus di atas, memiliki jam istirahat yang lebih panjang di sekolah juga sebenarnya memiliki manfaat kesehatan. Mereka jadi lebih aktif bergerak dan bermain, tidak hanya duduk di kelas. Bagus juga kan jika tidak membiasakan anak-anak dari kecil untuk terlalu banyak duduk.

3. Semua Sekolah Negeri Di Finlandia Bebas Dari Biaya. Sekolah Swasta pun Diatur Secara Ketat Agar Tetap Terjangkau

Gak mungkin konsen belajar kalau perut kosong. Finlandia adalah negara pertama dengan program makan siang gratis untuk semua siswa

Satu lagi faktor yang membuat orang tua di Finlandia gak usah pusing-pusing milih sekolah yang bagus untuk anaknya, karena semua sekolah di Finland itu sama bagusnya. Dan yang lebih penting lagi, sama gratisnya. Sistem pendidikan di Finlandia dibangun atas dasar kesetaraan. Bukan memberi subsidi pada mereka yang membutuhkan, tapi menyediakan pendidikan gratis dan berkualitas untuk semua.
Reformasi pendidikan yang dimulai pada tahun 1970-an tersebut merancang sistem kepercayaan yang meniadakan evaluasi atau ranking sekolah sehingga antara sekolah gak perlu merasa berkompetisi. Sekolah swasta pun diatur dengan peraturan ketat untuk tidak membebankan biaya tinggi kepada siswa. Saking bagusnya sekolah-sekolah negeri di sana, hanya terdapat segelintir sekolah swasta yang biasanya juga berdiri karena basis agama.
Tidak berhenti dengan biaya pendidikan gratis, pemerintah Finlandia juga menyediakan fasilitas pendukung proses pembelajaran seperti makan siang, biaya kesehatan, dan angkutan sekolah secara cuma-cuma. Memang sih sistem seperti ini mungkin berjalan karena kemapanan perekonomian Finlandia. Tapi jika memahami sentralnya peran pendidikan dalam membentuk masa depan bangsa, seharusnya semua negara juga berinvestasi besar untuk pendidikan. Asal gak akhirnya dikorupsi aja sih.

4. Semua Guru Di Finlandia Dibiayai Pemerintah Untuk Meraih Gelar Master. Gaji Mereka Juga Termasuk Dalam Jajaran Pendapatan Paling Tinggi di Finlandia.

Profesional S2 yang dibayar tinggi

Disamping kesetaraan fasilitas dan sokongan dana yang mengucur dari pemerintah, penopang utama dari kualitas merata yang ditemukan di semua sekolah di Finlandia adalah mutu guru-gurunya yang setinggi langit. Guru adalah salah satu pekerjaan paling bergengsi di Finlandia. Pendapatan guru di Finlandia pun lebih dari dua kali lipat dari guru di Amerika Serikat.Tidak peduli jenjang SD atau SMA, semua guru di Finlandia diwajibkan memegang gelar master yang disubsidi penuh oleh pemerintah dan memiliki tesis yang sudah dipublikasi.
Finlandia memahami bahwa guru adalah orang yang paling berpengaruh dalam meningkatkan mutu pendidikan generasi masa depannya. Maka dari itu, Finlandia berinvestasi besar-besaran untuk meningkatkan mutu tenaga pengajarnya. Tidak saja kualitas, pemerintah Finlandia juga memastikan ada cukup guru untuk pembelajaran intensif yang optimal. Ada 1 guru untuk 12 siswa di Finlandia, rasio yang jauh lebih tinggi daripada negara-negara lain. Jadi guru bisa memberikan perhatian khusus untuk tiap anak, gak cuma berdiri di depan kelas.
Jika Indonesia ingin semaju Finlandia dalam urusan pendidikan, guru-guru kita selayaknya juga harus mendapatkan sokongan sebagus ini. Kalau perhatian kita ke guru kurang, kenapa kita menuntut mereka harus memberikan yang terbaik dalam proses pembelajaran? Tidak adil ‘kan?

5. Guru Dianggap Paling Tahu Bagaimana Cara Mengevaluasi Murid-Muridnya. Karena Itu, Ujian Nasional Tidaklah Perlu.

Guru yang selalu mendampingi tahu yang dibutuhkan siswanya

Kredibilitas dan mutu tenaga pengajar yang tinggi memungkinkan pemerintah menyerahkan tanggung jawab membentuk kurikulum dan evaluasi pembelajaran langsung kepada mereka. Hanya terdapat garis pedoman nasional longgar yang harus diikuti. Ujian nasional pun tidak diperlukan. Pemerintah meyakini bahwa guru adalah orang yang paling mengerti kurikulum dan cara penilaian terbaik yang paling sesuai dengan siswa-siswa mereka.
Diversitas siswa seperti keberagaman tingkatan sosial atau latar belakang kultur biasanya jadi tantangan sendiri dalam menyeleraskan mutu pendidikan. Bisa jadi gara-gara fleksibilitas dalam sistem pendidikan Finlandia itu, semua diversitas justru bisa difasilitasi. Jadi dengan caranya sendiri-sendiri, siswa-siswa yang berbeda ini bisa mengembangkan potensinya secara maksimal.

6. Siswa SD-SMP di Finlandia Cuma Sekolah 4-5 Jam/hari. Buat Siswa SMP dan SMA, Sistem Pendidikan Mereka Sudah Seperti Di Bangku Kuliah

Belajar karena pingin pasti hasilnya lebih efektif

Tidak hanya jam istirahat yang lebih panjang, jam sekolah di Finlandia juga relatif lebih pendek dibandingkan negara-negara lain. Siswa-siswa SD di Finlandia kebanyakan hanya berada di sekolah selama 4-5 jam per hari. Siswa SMP dan SMA pun mengikuti sistem layaknya kuliah. Mereka hanya akan datang pada jadwal pelajaran yang mereka pilih. Mereka tidak datang merasa terpaksa tapi karena pilihan mereka.
Pendeknya jam belajar justru mendorong mereka untuk lebih produktif. Biasanya pada awal semester, guru-guru justru menyuruh mereka untuk menentukan target atau aktivitas pembelajaran sendiri. Jadi ketika masuk kelas, mereka tidak sekedar tahu dan siap tapi juga tidak sabar untuk memulai proyeknya sendiri.

7. Gak Ada Sistem Ranking di Sekolah. Finlandia Percaya Bahwa Semua Murid Itu Seharusnya Ranking 1

Gak ada yang putus sekolah

Upaya pemerintah meningkatkan mutu sekolah dan guru secara seragam di Finlandia pada akhirnya berujung pada harapan bahwa semua siswa di Finlandia dapat jadi pintar. Tanpa terkecuali. Maka dari itu, mereka tidak mempercayai sistem ranking atau kompetisi yang pada akhirnya hanya akan menghasilkan ‘sejumlah siswa pintar’ dan ‘sejumlah siswa bodoh’.
Walaupun ada bantuan khusus untuk siswa yang merasa butuh, tapi mereka tetap ditempatkan dalam kelas dan program yang sama. Tidak ada juga program akselerasi. Pembelajaran di sekolah berlangsung secara kolaboratif. Bahkan anak dari kelas-kelas berbeda pun sering bertemu untuk kelas campuran. Strategi itu terbukti berhasil karena saat ini Finlandia adalah negara dengan kesenjangan pendidikan terkecil di dunia.
- Hardiana Noviantari

Steps to Building Great Business Relationships

2014-12-06T10:11:00.001+07:00

It was the early 1990s, the week between Christmas and New Year’s. I was working as a sales rep for a prominent software company. Making the rounds of my Wall Street clients, I wished them happy holidays and thanked them for their business.

As I was leaving an appointment with the CIO of a very large investment bank, I shook his hand and wished him a Happy New Year. He stopped me and went back to his desk, took out a piece of paper and handed it to me. It was an order signed by the CEO dramatically increasing their purchase of our software and renewing their contract six months early.

I was stunned. I hadn’t been looking to make this sale—really, there was no reason for him to reorder this early. But as his sales rep, this was spectacular news: As at many companies, my employer used “multipliers” at year-end to encourage reps to sell more, so I would make a lot more money making this sale in late December than in June.
I thanked him profusely. And as I walked back to my office, I thought about why he did it. How did he convince his boss they should renew well before they had to? What was his rationale to his boss for buying so much more?

Eventually it dawned on me that after years having a solid relationship with me, he’d taken an emotional stake in my success. He went out of his way and used precious political capital to help me out even when I hadn’t asked him to. If I had asked for this it is quite likely it would not have happened and may even have damaged our relationship.

To me, this is the defining attribute of a great business relationship: when each party has an emotional stake in the other’s success. This reciprocal relationship is common in our personal lives—in most families, we can expect our parents and siblings to have that, as well as some close friends. But for a business associate who was a stranger only two years ago, how did we reach this point?

I reflected on this and other business relationships that were similar. I looked backwards to see what was different about them. In the process, I identified five steps that lead to someone having an emotional stake in my professional success:

First, and somewhat obviously, they must like you. You can’t move very far in any relationship without this basic prerequisite. Being likable or not seems binary, but there are ways to make yourself more likable. You can also go about specifically trying to accomplish getting people to like you more. Go out of your way to be friendly and helpful.

Second, they must respect you professionally. They must look with admiration at how you do your work, how you behave, and how treat others. Specifically, are you competent? Are your professional? Do you follow up? Are you among the best at what you do? Work hard at getting them to respect you.

Third, they need to admire your “whole person”—not just who you are at work. This only happens as your relationship begins to migrate outside the workplace. Maybe you’ll attend a ballgame together, or go to a concert or dinner, often one on one. You’ll spend quality time learning about each other. Over time, as you get to know people better, other aspects of their life become part of the conversation. Are you active in church or charity? Do you volunteer? If you have children, how much time do you spend with them? Are you living a life worthy of others’ respect? Once this step has been accomplished, the other person will be genuinely happy and interested to hear of your success and accomplishments. There will be no resentment or jealously.

Fourth, your lives start to mingle more deeply. As this happens, it becomes natural to invite spouses, significant others, and children to your out of office interactions–things like cookouts, hikes, boating, etc. You’re spending quality time together really getting to know each other—and a friendship is really budding. At this stage, not only are they happy for your success, but they are willing to actively contribute to it. They may provide a job reference, invite you to an important conference, or set up a meeting with a peer of theirs at another company. At your initiative, they burn some political capital, happily, to help you out.
Fifth, you maintain the intensity of the relationship, over time, even after the business relationship is no longer necessary. Consistency and longevity are key. This is where lots of people fall off—once the business benefit disappears, they can’t “find time,” and the relationship fades away. After all the work they put in the relationship, just as it’s about to becomes the most valuable, they turn the dial down or off.
I’d gone through all of these steps with the investment bank CIO, and that’s why he’d sought approval to make a big year-end order well ahead of schedule. It’s also why, even after I left that sales rep job, we kept in close touch. Years later, he attended a family wedding. More than 20 years after that holiday order, I wrote a reference for his son’s business school application.

Good relationships and trust are the lubricants of a successful career and a well-rounded life. But it’s important not to pursue relationships cynically. Just as you need to get people to like you, these relationships are only really worth pursuing with people you genuinely like. There are enough people out there are really likable to not have to fake it. Jim Dougherty

Gross Signs You’ve Reached Peak Comfort Levels In Your Relationship

2014-12-06T10:06:00.002+07:00

When we begin a relationship, we try to be the best version of ourselves. We’re always clean, always shaven and never discuss anything that doesn’t work to enhance the dynamic and cultivate closeness: family, lifelong goals, deepest secrets or what we did during the day.

Nothing creates intimacy, however, like an accidental fart or a severely unshaven vagina.

Nothing makes you realize how much you love your boyfriend or girlfriend than when their gross morning breath somehow isn’t that gross, or when weight gain in particularly unattractive places doesn’t make you cringe.

We’re all human, and we can’t sustain this level of perfection that we all strive to attain in the beginning of our relationships. Eventually, the stuff we worked so hard to keep hidden comes out — literally.

Here’s how you know the love is real.

1. There’s no demanding need to shave.

The beauty of a comfortable relationship is that you only need to shave if you want to. There’s no longer that weird pressure to do so to impress someone.

Sure, lots of us shave for ourselves and not for the pleasure of a man, but long winter months make even the most uptight of ladies lazy.

The last thing any girl wants to do in the winter is spend time in the shower shaving off the scruff keeping her legs and ladybits warm; it just gives the bottom half of her body even more goosebumps on the walk out of the shower.

I mean, is there anything worse than having to emerge from the coziness of a steaming shower when it’s 30 degrees outside? Don’t make it worse by forcing her to remove her natural blanket.

Also, any boyfriend would be a total jerk if he dumped his girlfriend just because she didn’t shave for a month. What if she was just prepping the area for the landing strip she’s crafting for you for your birthday? You’d never know.

2. You fart in front of each other.

Surprise! With a booty comes a bootyhole.

Girls especially like to pretend they don’t fart. They probably spend the first six-to-18 months of a relationship convincing their boyfriends that the only holes they have are their mouths and ladybits.

But one night, you will take her to get Mexican food for your anniversary, you will be having sex and press on her stomach weirdly, or she will be unsuccessful in yet another attempt at trying to hide and blame you for one of the many SBDs she does in front of you — and the inevitable will occur.

Just laugh, OK? There’s no turning back now. You both fart.

3. Poop is discussed in any capacity.

Nobody likes talking about pooping. That kind of talk is reserved for your health-conscious mother when she asks if you’re eating enough fiber, with your doctor at a check-up, and with your closest friends during chats about everyone’s varying levels of constipation.

A new milestone in any relationship is reached when someone mentions his or her bowels, so you know you’ve hit peak comfort level with your boyfriend when you can discuss how much you have to sh*t.

This, along with number 2, is another reminder that girls are human. The guy who wrote that “Everyone Poops” book is a damn genius.

4. Period talk, especially the non-judgmental kind, is acceptable.

Sometimes, it’s necessary.

A girl suffers more than just the obvious bleeding for five days straight when she gets her period. She may become more irritable, impatient, emotional and in need of random foods.

Maybe she doesn’t feel like having sex with you, or maybe her sex drive is out of control. Maybe she looks a little bloated in her crop top. Maybe, mid-hookup, it comes out. In all of these cases, period talk will happen.

A good relationship knows the two key components of acceptable period talk: what kind (if it involves the prospect of period sex or a need for complaining) and when to do it (only if she brings it up — which means never, ever, ask “Jesus, are you on your period?” after a heated conversation).

If conversations about periods occur without your boyfriend wanting to jump off a cliff, consider your relationship golden.

5. You pee with the door open.

If you’re in the middle of a crucial conversation, why end it just because one of you has to pee? Just leave the door open a crack, continue with that thought and let it out. Or, if you’re getting ready to go in the shower together, just sit on the toilet and go.

Before the first time this happens, you’ll probably ask if you could, and your partner will probably give you a nervous, hasty, “Uh, yeah, that’s fine.”

But soon, it won’t matter, and you’ll both get used to the sound.

6. You let him pee in the shower when you shower together.

Girls find the phenomenon of “peeing while standing” incredibly foreign and strange, and they like to keep the idea of showering with you as sexy as possible. Considering these two major thought processes, if she lets you pee in the shower while she’s in it with you, it’s a pretty big deal.

Of course, you’d better turn the f*ck around and make sure she doesn’t actually see anything. Also, for the love of God, make sure it goes in the direction of the drain.

7. Morning breath doesn’t gross you out.
I find it interesting how often people avoid discussing the unsexy parts of a post-hookup sleepover: the smudged makeup that reveals nasty blemishes, the obnoxious snoring, how impossible it is to actually fall asleep and stay asleep, the eye crusties and the morning breath.

Oh, that morning breath.

After a sufficient amount of sleepovers with your significant other, you’ve definitely caught a whiff of their rancid halitosis.

Those luxurious early hours of pre-teeth-brushing morning sex will inevitably begin with traces of putrid breath, especially if your partner is someone who still wears a retainer to sleep.

Soon, however, either you will get used to said morning breath (after all, morning sex involves making out and swapping your morning breath with your partner’s) or you’ll be able to ignore it. Either way, power to you and your relationship.

8. A new hobby involves popping pimples and blackheads.

Girls receive a sick pleasure out of popping pimples and blackheads. They love any kind of beauty routine that promises cleanliness and purity, even if the process is painful.

The ordeal involves washing their face thoroughly, pressing a hot wash cloth onto the face to open pores, and grabbing the nearest silver popping tool. Then, the squeezing begins.

It’s the best.

This kind of event is enjoyable for girls because it is their face, and because all dirt and gunk and whatnot that emerges is from their own bodies.

However, if your girlfriend offers to pop your pimples — that is, willingly come face-to-face with your dirt and gunk — take it as a sign that she finds even the grossest parts of you appealing and worthy of your touch. That’s huge.

9. Sicknesses don’t make kissing off-limits.

He’s oozing boogers. She’s got crusty Pink Eye. You hear the phlegm in his lungs when he coughs. She just puked. But nothing stops you from being with your partner and wanting to take care of him/her — and maybe even get physical.

Sick significant others will likely say things like, “No, I look really gross, stop,” or “There is no way I look cute right now,” to try to prevent you from seeing them (or to guilt you into disagreeing with their self-deprecations and bringing them soup), but you will dispute them.

Even with snot seeping from her nose and dark circles under his eyes, your boyfriend or girlfriend is just as appealing as he or she is in black tie attire.

At least, that’s what you’d better say.

10. Weight gain isn’t a big deal.

In this media-driven, image-obsessed world, we all strive to have the best bodies. Men stuff their faces with protein, women eat carrots, and everyone kills themselves at the gym.

These strategies are effective for the beginning of a relationship, but once you’re deep in one, laziness inevitably sets in.

When you’re in a relationship, you may notice changes in your significant other’s body overtime.

Maybe your arm sits differently on their waist, maybe you notice a pooch forming when you’re naked, or maybe you find you need to buy a bigger sized shirt than last year for this year’s Christmas present.

But weight doesn’t matter. You still remember them exactly how they were when you first met, and you still love them with the extra pounds.
11. Despite all of this, you actually still find your significant other sexy.

This is not a matter of simply tolerating these gross things; it’s a matter of still thinking your partner is incredibly hot regardless of them.

The poops, the weight, the sicknesses, the pimples — nothing can stop your heart from beating and your sexual drive from climbing.

Ten minutes ago, your boyfriend literally Dutch-ovened you with his farts, and now your bra is off and you’re ready to pounce him. How is this possible?

This truly must be what love is.