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Leveraging Your Intimacy & Desire Strengths: A Merging of Three Models

Dave W. — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 00:19:25 +0000

Do you often find yourself wanting more connection and intimacy in your life, but struggling to create it amidst the complexities of modern life? Do you coach or counsel others on creating more intimacy? If so, you may find this article very useful. The quest for deep and meaningful connection is a very common human [...]

IFT (Irrational Facebook Thinking) Can Warp Perceptions of Valued Relationships & Self

Dave W. — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 19:34:48 +0000

I think Facebook and other social networking sites are wonderful and fun tools for connecting people. However, using them is vastly different than connecting with people in person. So much of the privacy is removed, along with a great deal of context. If we’re not careful, this can create many problems and unspoken misunderstandings. We [...]

Exploring Masculinity: Thoughts on “Dear Woman” and Will Ferrell Spoof

Dave W. — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 17:59:41 +0000

Our views on gender impact our ability to maintain sustainability, peace, and meaningful relationships with one another. Whatever our own gender identity, gender expression, biological sex, attraction, or preferred relationship structure (see the Genderbread Person graphic for an excellent illustration of all these), we’re all affected to some degree by our societal programming in this [...]

Enjoying Life’s Storms Through a Child’s Eyes

Dave W. — Fri, 07 Sep 2012 20:17:18 +0000

I was recently driving to visit family a few hours away with our 21-month-old foster daughter. About halfway into our drive, we encountered one of the most intense summer downpours and lightning displays I had witnessed in years. The skies were exceptionally dark, and very heavy rains began to fall. The radio sounded with the [...]

Shaking Up Life with Unfamiliar People & Places, New & Old

Dave W. — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 20:06:09 +0000

An acquaintance from high school recently posted the following quote on Facebook: “I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.” I responded, “You know, I’ve been writing a bit on close relationships lately, but hadn’t stopped to consider the important & frequent role that strangers do play in our lives, especially considering that everyone [...]

Beauty Born of Desert Storms: Nature’s Analogies for Conscious Relating

Dave W. — Tue, 17 Jul 2012 20:47:37 +0000

I was cycling along the quiet desert highways of southern Utah, beginning with Moab and then visiting five other towns, this week 15 years ago. A team of 25 cyclists pedaled to raise funds and awareness for Habitat for Humanity. Utah included one of the toughest segments of our entire cross-continental journey, 208 miles over [...]

Sex in a Sustainable World Part 10: Politics of Sex Education and Sexuality Policy

Dave W. — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 16:19:54 +0000

It’s a great disservice to talk or write about sex half-assedly. You need to talk about the entire ass, and all the other parts that go along with it. Maybe that one will end up on one of those little desk calendars someday… Some of the topics we’re most uncomfortable addressing are those that involve [...]

Sex in a Sustainable World Part 9: Expanding Family and Parenting Possibilities

Dave W. — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:00:01 +0000

It’s often been said that “it takes a village to raise a child.” Some researchers believe that at one time, this was much more common in a very literal sense. Ryan and Jethá talk about the concept of “partible paternity” in sexually open cultures, i.e., those where women may have sex with multiple men and [...]

Sex in a Sustainable World Part 8: Localization, Sex, and Community Interdependence

Dave W. — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 05:45:57 +0000

The Argument for Localized Economies Our modern globalized system has many benefits, including availability of a wonderful array of household products and food choices, along with the cost and quality advantages that often (but not always) come with centralized production. A major issue is that the pendulum has swung too far in the direction of [...]

Sex in a Sustainable World Part 7: Fantasy Girl Giveaway Competition

Dave W. — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 23:15:32 +0000

This week I’m adding a fun change in pace to the discussion of heavy topics, and inviting your participation. I’d like you to help me celebrate the completion of two works that help to promote a more sex-positive culture: the dance single “Fantasy Girl” (your feedback welcome!) and the cookbook Vegan Chocolate Seduction: 23 Oralgasmic Recipes. [...]