Ignorant Thoughts from an Educated Man

Helping Her to Help Me

2020-01-24T14:19:00.001-06:00

This past Monday I went to a dealership with my girlfriend to find her a car. We had already done the research and knew what we were looking for. She had done the credit application and listed both our names (me primary). We were able to get her in a used 2018 vehicle based just on my info. She's going to pay everything. It's just in my name because she has a recent repo. Putting her in her own vehicle has already helped. Hopefully it will continue to improve our situation because she plans to get a second job.

She got a taste of my mean side

2020-01-24T14:12:00.001-06:00

So the girlfriend got a taste of my mean side a couple of weeks ago. We had a disagreement about something. I think it was work related. She called herself getting mad and not talking to me. Is that what you REALLY want to do? Ok. Let's play. For the next few days I spoke to her only when absolutely necessary. Forget all the "morning babe. How was your night." It was strictly business. After a few days, we started talking as normal. She got tired of me basically ignoring her presence. So let this be a lesson. When needed, I am quite capable of being an asshole.

New year - Same old ish

2020-01-24T13:50:00.003-06:00

We are officially 3 weeks into 2020. I can honestly say that the new year hasn't really brought me anything new. It's still SSDD.

Christmas 2019

2019-12-31T03:11:00.001-06:00

Lemme post about Christmas 2019 before the new year arrives. Christmas actually went better than I thought it would this year. I worked with the ex-wife to get my 2 youngest daughters what they wanted. The little one wanted an Apple watch. We also got her some jeans. The middle daughter wanted some Vans shoes. I gave my ex-wife money to get the middle girl some jewelry. I got my oldest daughter a projector for her phone. I got the ex-wife a neck massager (something to open in front of the kids) and a vibrator (had to open that one in private. We're divorced but we still have our foolish moments.) I got my girlfriend a Michael Kors purse. My kids got me some office supplies for my desk and my girlfriend got me some sleep pants and tshirts. The oldest daughter purchases a Nintendo Switch for her younger siblings and my girlfriend purchased an additional game for them. Overall, Christmas 2019 was pretty nice.

Should I be Proud or Pissed Off?

2019-12-31T03:01:00.001-06:00

I'm at a crossroads about a situation in my life. My oldest daughter decided you wanted to try to work 2 jobs. Her second job is McDonalds. Now for those of you who are paying attention, you know that I don't deal with McDonalds since my incident. Not only did my daughter get a job at McDonalds, she works at the one where my incident happened. I don't know if I should be proud of her for trying to get her grind on or pissed off because she is working somewhere I don't support.

Divorce - One Year Later

2019-12-31T02:57:00.000-06:00

A couple of days ago marked the one year anniversary of my divorce. I jokingly texted my ex-wife and she replied thanks but I was a day ahead. Minor technicality based on day it was signed vs day it was filed. Anyway, the ex and I have managed to remain peaceful and work together for the sake of our girls. She still gets a hunk of my paycheck every 2 weeks and I assist with other financial obligations related to my girls when necessary. Overall I think the divorce was a good thing. It seems to have allowed both of us to move to a better place in our lives.

Thanksgiving 2019

2019-12-06T01:36:00.000-06:00

In typical Thanksgiving fashion, I volunteered to work the evening shift. I got up last Thursday and lazed around for a little bit. Around 10am, I preheated the oven and started loading our Thanksgiving meal. My daughter, my girlfriend and I decided on a small ham, mac & cheese, cornbread dressing and broccoli rice casserole. We all sat at the table around 12 and enjoyed the meal. We cracked jokes until it was time to clean up. I got ready for work and spent the rest of my day at my retail job. Nothing spectacular, nothing crazy.

New Living Arrangements

2019-11-09T06:03:00.000-06:00

My ex-wife emailed me last month and informed me she wanted our oldest daughter out of the house by month's end. I decided not to put up a fight and simply complied. I told my daughter she would be moving in with me. So for the past week, I have been living in an extended stay hotel with my girlfriend and my daughter. Needless to say, this can't and won't last long. As much as I hated to do it, I agreed to move into a 2-bedroom apartment. Good news is that it will provide more space, Bad news is that none of us own any furniture so we will be starting from scratch. This is going to be an expensive adventure.

Ten Months and One Year

2019-11-09T05:55:00.000-06:00

Last month marked ten months of officially being divorced. It also marked one year since I was asked to move out of the house I once shared with my wife and kids. It's hard to believe so much time has passed. So much has happened.

Stay Out My Business

2019-10-07T06:38:00.000-05:00

There's a saying in the streets - "Snitches get stitches." That's really how I feel right now. Over the past 2 weeks, someone has seen fit to put my business on blast at my fast food job. First of all, someone decided to tell our above store manager that my girlfriend and I are actually dating. Yea, I know that sounds crazy. You have to remember: 1) I don't put my personal business out in the open and 2) my above store manager doesn't/didn't know about my divorce. My store manager came to me and said her boss had been made aware of my relationship. My manager told me to keep things professional and hopefully nothing further would come from the situation. Ok. That's problem number one. Problem number two. Someone decided to again go to my above store manager (amazing how these motherfuckers can't talk to me or at least my store manager) and bring up the fact that my daughter and I worked at the same store. What fucking difference does it make? It's not like we work together often. Based on our schedules, my daughter and I may have worked together 3-4 times total. However, in order to cover his ass, my above store manager said something to my manager. Now there's a chance my daughter may be getting transferred. I really want to put my foot in this snitch's ass.

2020 Goal

2019-10-07T06:23:00.001-05:00

I have a goal in mind for 2020. I've shared my goal with a couple of people and have gotten mixed feedback. I want to take my mom somewhere on a vacation next year. With all my hard work, I'm hoping to have more money to spend on things I want besides bills. That being said, I want to do something nice for mom to let her know how much I appreciate all she has ever done for me. Now that I think about it, I am going to take her on vacation. Even if it means, bills don't get paid. As mom would say, "it ain't gonna put me no closer to the soup line."

Fix It Or Get Another

2019-10-07T06:19:00.002-05:00

My truck is starting to show it's age and I'm torn about what to do. It's a 2011 model so it's not super old but she's no spring chicken either. A variety of things have happened to make me question whether I should keep the truck or get another. Back in August, I was taking my daughter to work and the truck actually overheated. I had to pull over on the side of the road in 5 o'clock traffic and wait for the engine to cool down. I can't run the air conditioner for fear of the vehicle overheating. Something is wrong with the driver's side window and I can't let it down. I need a set of tires. I need to get the brakes done because they are starting to squeak. I need to have the shocks and struts replaced. I've also been told the rear control arms need work. All in all, that seems like a lot of money to invest in an 8 year old car. I've learned in the past that when you start putting more into the car than what it's worth, it's time to move on. Barring any major problems, I should be able to pay it off at tax time next year. At that point in time, I would only have to worry about maintenance and insurance. On the flip side, I could look into getting another vehicle but that would stick me with another car payment for five or more years. I'm still undecided which option to take. I'm still not sure if I should fix it or get another.

If I was an Asshole

2019-10-01T07:05:00.003-05:00

I have officially been divorced for 9 months. Life is going good. I'm working my ass off trying to get myself to a better place. Things between my ex wife and I are good. She gets her child support money each month thanks to the nice people at the Department of Human Services. Additionally, if she needs anything extra, she'll text or call me. This is where the asshole part comes in. Yes, I know in the divorce papers, it says I have to help with expenses related to the kids. I'm cool with that. But if I was an asshole about it, I wouldn't give her money every time she asks, especially when the reason is not directly related to my children.

Fedex almost bought me a truck

2019-10-01T06:31:00.000-05:00

A couple of weeks ago I was almost in a serious car accident. I had made a stop at a gas station at the corner of an intersection. I pulled out of a gas station onto the road. This particular road (highway actually) has 5 lanes, two going north, two going south and a turn lane. I needed to go south so I had to cross the 2 north lanes and the turn lane. As I was crossing the turn lane I was almost hit by a FedEx truck going north in the southbound lane. The only thing I can think of is the driver must have pulled out from the parking lot of an abandoned store on the corner was trying to avoid going through the light. Luckily I saw the vehicle in time and we both slammed our brakes and swerved to avoid collision. No collision. He kept driving and so did I. Thank God I was in the band and have that good peripheral vision at times. Otherwise, FedEx would be taking care of me for the rest of my life.

Dayum she look sexy but....

2019-10-01T06:23:00.001-05:00

I was at a gas station the other day and this gorgeous young lady walked in. Looked like she could be a model or in the entertainment business. First glance, she appeared to be flawless. Then she opened her mouth and asked the cashier for a black. Hold up. Pump da brakes. Immediate turn off. One thing I don't like is a female who smokes. So yea, she looked sexy as hell but the ashtray mouth was a killer for me.

I Lost an Argument with a Box Cutter

2019-10-01T06:18:00.000-05:00

I learned why following safety rules can be so important in life. I was helping out at another retail pharmacy location in August. I was trying to remove a fixture which was attached to a metal shelf with plastic screws. Normally simply tugging on the fixture will pull the screw out. Unfortunately, I encountered one persistent screw which would not budge. Being the smart person that I am, I went to my truck and got my box cutter. While holding the fixture with my left hand, I tried to cut the plastic screw. I cut the screw along with the tip of my left thumb. Took off most of the extended part of the fingernail and about a sixteenth of the actual meat of my thumb. I spent 4 hours in the ER that night and had surgery a few days later to repair my thumb. The amount I cut was not enough to be reattached so the plastic surgeon did a procedure where he cut a V into my thumb, pulled the skin to cover the open wound and stitched it back together. I've been wearing gauze pads and bandages since then as the wound heals. So when people see my covered finger and ask what happened my reply is, I lost an argument with a box cutter.

Has it really been 2 months?

2019-10-01T06:02:00.001-05:00

I can't believe it has been 2 months since my last post. I told myself I was going to do better and post more. A lot has happened in the last 2 months and I'm sure I'm not going to remember everything. Guess I'll post what comes to mind and make it do what it do.

Jealous or Envious?

2019-07-31T06:24:00.001-05:00

I've been thinking a lot recently about whether I'm jealous or envious of my co-workers and the lives they have. Talking to people at my jobs leads to discussions about family game nights, vacations, going to the movies or other fun times. Anyone who really knows me, knows all I do is work. Hell, with 3 jobs, it's all I have time for. I looked up jealousy and envy online to see which one better suited my thoughts and this is what I found.

The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is the emotion of coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else.

Well that makes it pretty easy. I can't be jealous because I don't have anything that anyone wants. Guess I'm envious of my co-workers and their lives from time to time.

First Off Site Task

2019-07-30T07:24:00.001-05:00

Last week, I got the chance for my first off site project. We were upgrading some computers for a local customer. I went out on day one with a teammate to drop the equipment at the locations and determine which computers would be replaced. Day two, I was on my own for the most part. I had to go to a location by myself and handle switching the computers out. I was nervous initially because I didn't want to screw anything up. After a little while, I found my groove and got down to business. All in all, I think everything went well. They surveyed the customer after the upgrade and they were satisfied.

Proper Cell Phone Use

2019-07-30T07:20:00.002-05:00

I know we are in a society now where we feel we have to always be connected. You can't go anywhere without your phone. Home, work and play, phone must follow. That being said, I feel there are some situations that warrant not talking on your phone. I was in the bathroom at work the other day and heard someone in the other stall. A minute later I realized he was actually talking on the phone while he was taking a shit. Really? Your conversation couldn't wait a few minutes? To me, that is totally disgusting. I wonder if the person on the other end knew what he was doing during the conversation.

Fashion Bloopers

2019-07-30T07:16:00.003-05:00

Working in environments where I get to see a lot of people on a daily basis provides ample opportunity to observe what I consider fashion bloopers. Now I could be wrong but some people are not built for certain clothes. I know people will experiment with their wardrobe as they go through changes but damn. Here are a few things I have seen recently that made me shake my head.

1. How da hell are you a female wearing a titty shirt but you have not titties?
2. How are you a "buff" guy in a tank top but you look like you need a sports bra on?
3. How da hell do you sag skinny jeans?
4. Why are you a plus size trying to wear petite clothes barely breathing in the tight shit?

Privileged Generation

2019-07-29T07:32:00.001-05:00

Being in my 40s, I'm at a great place in my life. I'm old enough to be grown but young enough to not be a senior citizen. I can have a conversation with a 20yr and then talk to a 65yr just as easily. Talking to the younger generation is always interesting. The youth of today feel so entitled and privileged. They think they should be given the world without working for it. I was talking to a 20yr coworker the other day and she had a bad interaction with a customer. She came to me and basically said she didn't have to put up with customers' shit for the little bit of money the company was paying her. Keep in mind she is making over $10 per hour. Fusses about not having money to get her hair and nails done. Must be nice. I know people that would put up with a lot more for a lot less.

Unprotected Sex

2019-07-29T07:23:00.001-05:00

I was having a conversation with one of my younger co-workers a couple of weeks ago (yea, I'm hella behind on blogging) and she started to tell me about this guy she was talking to. During the conversation, I realized she had known the guy less than a month before having sex with him. The even more disturbing fact is that she had unprotected sex with him. Now I don't know if she takes birth control but she made the comment that he said his "pull out game is immaculate." Nigga please. Even if this is the case, his pull out game ain't gonna stop a STD. Man, these kids these days is something else!

The Dynamic Duo

2019-07-29T07:18:00.001-05:00

Last Friday marked the 7 month anniversary of my divorce. The good thing about my divorce is that my wife and I agreed to everything with no bickering or fighting. We are still the same type of parents we were when we were married. Friday night, our oldest daughter decided to lie to me about her whereabouts. Her mother presumed she was with me. Fast forward to Saturday 5am. My ex wife called me and we put two and two together. Later on that day, our oldest daughter got to meet the dynamic duo. Nothing was planned but you would have thought my ex and I had scripted a 45 interrogation of our daughter. Every time I stopped, she picked up and ran with the ball. Our oldest didn't know what to do or say. Bottom line, she won't lie to us again.

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime

2019-07-08T01:45:00.001-05:00

People enter your life and they leave. Their purpose in your life can usually be attributed to a reason, a season or a lifetime. We sometimes put people into the wrong category with the line of thinking and have to make adjustments based on their actions. I have/had a friend who I thought feel into the lifetime category. Career moves separated us physically but we keep in touch via calls, emails and texts. It's been a few months since I have heard from this friend. I've tried reaching out but have yet to get a response. I guess my lifetime friend was actually there to just get me through a season or I was there to get her through one.