Illustrated Lovemaking Positions

Cleaning Up After Sex - Long Sleeve T-Shirts

2008-06-08T19:32:00.003-04:00

One of the things that everyone has to deal with is how to easily "clean up" after a night of lovemaking. The best thing to use is an old, but clean long-sleeve T-shirt!

Take the body of the shirt and lay it gently between her legs to prevent "wet spots" on the sheets.

She turns on her side and he spoons up behind her.

He takes one of the sleeves and places it over his member to soak up any wetness that is left.

They can curl up together and talk about each other or their favorite lovemaking activities

Here's to more passion in your bedroom and in your life!

Jack

2008-01-06T21:26:00.000-05:00

The Earliest Secret to Successful Lovemaking

After New Years, I was looking through some of my favorite websites and came across an article with information that was completely new to me. That is fairly
unusual as I consider myself an expert in lovemaking positions and lovemaking in general. It is information that may be completely obvious to the women on
this special mailing list, but I assure you that it is nearly unknown to the gentlemen.

Ladies - if it is obvious to you, you need to tell your guy. We had no idea!

Old news - women take longer to warm-up and become sexually excited than men. Men are visual and a glimpse of skin here or there is enough to get us going or at least interested. Women generally take longer and need to have feelings of love and partnership to really get in the mood. There are exceptions, but these trends are generally accepted and hold true.

New News - foreplay starts with the the "Honey Do List"! I am sure that there are different names for it in different countries. In the US, it is called the "Honey Do" list. This is the list of things that the wife or girlfriend wants the husband or boyfriend to do around the house or the apartment. Is also the
list that most of the men postpone till they are forced or the woman begs or yells to force the issue.

Leonard Felder is a psychologist in Los Angeles and wrote about this at some length in his article, "Did You Know the 'Honey Do List' is the Beginning of
Foreplay?". The link is http://www.menstuff.org/columns/felder/12.html .

He had a man and woman in his office that were having trouble. The woman turned to her husband and said, "...didn't you know that the 'honey do' list of
chores is the beginning of foreplay? If you help out with the childcare or cleaning up after a meal or changing a light bulb, I start thinking of you as a
great protector , a loving partner, and a reliable source of strength. That usually starts my sense of intimacy to begin heating up at bit, especially if you
pitch in voluntarily BEFORE I have to beg or get all bitchy and fed up, which invariably shuts down any sexual feelings I might have been starting to build."

Ladies, if this is obvious to you, make sure your man knows it. Do not take advantage of it, but you could turn it into a game. For every hour he spends
cleaning up, he gets an hour of your undivided attention. Do not use it every time, but a few times can help him get the idea.

Guys, if you are trying to get more of her time to try out some of the many lovemaking positions at http://www.illustrated-lovemaking-positions.com and having trouble with begging, pleading or demanding, stop it! The more you try, the worse it gets. I imagine that this is old news for some of you.

Instead, spend some time nurturing her and the relationship. Paint the house, help her wash some dishes. Do some of those un-manly things that you can't brag to the guys about, but she can brag about you!

The only problem -

Make sure that you do not do so many chores that you are too sore or too tired for later activities!

May all your problems be that easy to solve.

Jack

2007-12-21T20:21:00.000-05:00

I do not normally look at the horoscopes. There may be something to them or not. I was looking at the Yahoo page and I clicked on the horoscope link by accident. I was about to click away, but I glanced anyway.

The article was by Mark Lernener at http://www.astrology.com/. He said -

"Anytime Venus and Mars form one of these powerful alignments, romance can receive a jolt. The question is whether that jolt is positive or negative. Much depends on your current outlook on life and if you can handle the daily pressures that are a natural part of working in harmony with a loved one."

Timeless advice, whether it is due to Mars and Venus or not. Life brings may things that can affect your love life.

My wife once broke her collar bone when our daughter was only a month old. She ended up in an upper body cast for 3 months and had to move back to her parents (4 states away) so that they could take care of the baby while she mended.

There was post-partum depression, general depression in that she could not care for our first-born, physical discomfort and loss of sleep (ever tried to sleep with a cast from your waist up?)

I drove to see her and our daughter every other week and was finally able to bring them home about this time of year.

When she got home, the bone had healed, but her arm muscles were nearly useless from being in the cast. She could barely take care of the baby and could barely fix meals.

She could barely lift her arm to brush her teeth and washing her hair was out of the question.

To say that our romance took a jolt would be an understatement, but just as Mark says, the outcome depends on your outlook on life.

Every few days, we would put our daughter to bed and I woud run a bath for the two of us. I made sure the bathroom was warm and brought in candles, 2 glasses of wine and shampoo.

She would sit in front of me, facing away and we would talk about how wonderful our daughter would be as she grew up, we would drink the wine and I would wash her hair, taking our time to enjoy the candlelight, the soapy water and the feeling of washing her hair.

After drying it, we would prop up pillows to find a comfortable lovemaking position and have a great time together. No hanging from the chandeliers, but wonderful, reconnecting love.

Keep in mind that we were living in a small apartment, the money was low from all the medical and travel expenses and our daughter still had a bit of colic and would interupt us from time to time.

It was a time that would either make us or break us. Our outlook was that this was a very tough time, but would make a great story one day that could help other couples see how to get through a tough time.

We still light candles around the tub from time to time and I still enjoy washing her hair (and you can bet she enjoys me doing it)!

The holidays, no matter what holidays you celebrate can be a time of tension as well as celebration. If you and your special someone have a hard time during the season, remember that the outcome will be a reflection of your outlook.

Make sure you schedule some private time together to get away from the inlaws and family to stay connected to each other. Find your favorite lovemaking positions and spend some quiet time together.

If nothing else, get some candles, some wine and shampoo...

Tell everyone your are just trying to save water...

Jack

2007-12-04T22:54:00.000-05:00

For men or women - something fun -

Get naked in bed or on the floor and lick your favorite part of your lover's body. Then tear off the tip and sprinkle a little of the candy powder on your lover's body. Do not be surprised if they can not feel it, but go back and lick the good stuff off of their good parts.

Do not place it inside the vagina, but everywhere else is great. Ladies, great for sprinkling it on his best part and then licking it off - slowly!

A quick and inexpensive foreplay tip that can be lots of fun...

Jack

2007-12-02T21:19:00.000-05:00

I know, this article is not about lovemaking positions or sex positions, but this is the week of the Victoria's Secret TV show and the one time of the year when grown men do what they would never think of doing any other time - they buy lingerie for the special woman in their life.

And they usually mess it up.

Most of the sales of expensive lingerie during the holidays are made by men. Many, if not most, will end up in a drawer and never see the light of day again.

They end up being the wrong size (a deadly sin no matter which way it is wrong), the wrong color or something completely wrong for her.

Picking lingerie can be a minefield. Here is what guys need to know to do it successfully.

Ladies, find a way to get this information to the poor boy.

Way too many guys buy romantic lingerie for their girlfriends/wives with their hearts (or other parts of their bodies) and not their heads. It is one of the great romantic ironies that in this area more than any other gift, he needs information, advanced planning, and some cash in the bank.

He needs information so that when he goes to make a purchase, he has the confidence to do it correctly, like a gentleman. He needs advanced planning so that he knows what to purchase to light up her life. He needs a bit of cash in the bank to spend.

The Danger and The Bliss
All women are concerned about their looks. The further away the garment is from their skin, the less perfect is has to be. A flower for her hair is not a big deal if it is not the perfect color. A hat or jacket can be returned. Getting a bit closer, a blouse needs to go with her clothes and style. Intimate apparel is in direct contact with her beatutiful body and needs to be perfect.

The reason is that any gift from him is a reflection on how he wants her to be. If he presents her with a teddy that is cheap and sleazy, she will believe that he thinks of her that way. Even if he wants her to be a tigress, his gift needs to reflect a sophisticated tigress, not an alley cat.

If he buys the wrong size, may whatever Higher Authority he believes in help him. If he buys a size too small, she may feel fat and his gift will be a strong hint that he wants her to loose weight. He can apologize all he wants, but he will be going down in flames for a long, lonely time.

If he purchases something too large, there are two possible reactions (all bad).

Bad Reaction #1: If the too large item is worn below the waist, she will think that he thinks that her hips, or worse, her derriere is too large.

Bad Reaction #2: If the too large item is worn above the waist, she will believe that she is deficient in that area since he chose something that is obviously larger than she is.

Finally, if he actually wants her to wear it, the color needs to be correct. There are some safe harbors here that we will discuss below.

There are some great ways to pick out the perfect romantic lingerie। When done correctly, he can be one of the very few men on earth who can correctly purchase romantic lingerie for their women.

Do Not Buy The Cheap Stuff
Next to getting the wrong size, the next worse thing he can do is to get something cheap.

I cannot say this enough. If he is wanting to make a good romantic impression, stay away from the cheap stuff. She will know in an instant that it is poorly made and that it will be uncomfortable.

She will think that he believes that she has poor taste if he thinks she will ever wear the item. If he gives her some open cup babydoll with a g-string made out of red elastic, he had better be sure that she will like it and that she will be thrilled with it. If there is any doubt, go with something from an upscale store.

Making the Purchase
If he has her sizes and a good idea of what he wants to get, it is time to make the purchase. Time to go to the intimate apparel department or store and tell the salesperson what he is trying to do. He should tell her that he wants to get something sensuous for his girlfriend or wife, but that he wants it to be comfortable for her to wear and well made. These are magic words, so make sure to use them.

Just the fact that he is asking the correct questions will get him a level of respect reserved only for gentlemen and he will get some great advice.

My preference is to visit a smaller shop just for intimate apparel. He will get better service and the salesperson will become part of his team to make sure the item is perfect. He can even tell his special love that he "consulted with Kim at ABC shop and she specifically said that if it is not perfect, that you should go see her and she will make it so."

This is a whole lot better than, "I got this for you and I hope you like it." He should be confident in this endeavor and should show it.

Finally, include a card. It shows that he cares and it should tie the gift to his feelings for her. This also is a final fail-safe. It makes clear that his feelings and intentions are genuine and if the garment is not perfect, it lets her know that he thinks she is perfect just the way that she is.

After he has given her the perfect lingerie, make sure you both have several of your favorite lovemaking positions picked out to try!

2007-11-04T20:08:00.000-05:00

The Way It Should Be -

You wake up one Saturday morning with the sun casting a golden glow around the curtains. You can feel the heat from each other’s bodies under the covers and you start thinking of the softness of their skin, the scent of their hair and how they squirm so nicely when you run one finger gently down their bare back.

You curl up together and become part of the real world. He is behind her with his hand gently cupping her breasts and tweaking her nipples. He pulls back to gently run a fingertip slowly up and down her back. She squirms in appreciation and the beginnings of sexual excitement. He moves back close, running his hand through her hair and moving up on the pillow.

He draws circles around her nipples without quite touching them. His lips find that certain spot on her neck. She giggles and squirms again. Her hand moves back to his thigh to encourage him, but he has no intent of hurrying.

As he continues to nuzzle her neck, one hand gives her nipples a gentle squeeze every once in a while as the other hand touches the outside of her thigh. He takes his time slowly zigzagging up to her hip. She alternates between sighs and gasps as his now maddening fingers do their work.

Just as she is sure that the fingers will find their way up her hip and on to her secret spot, they continue past it, circling down behind her to start drawing soft circles on her bottom. She gasps again in sweet frustration. The tweaking of her nipples has become more intense and she feels his kisses become more passionate on that wonderful spot where her neck meets her shoulders.

Her bottom squirms more urgently against him and she can feel his hardness against her. So close, but so far away.

His kisses have become tiny nips along the back of her shoulders. She arches her back. The stimulation of her nipples has become rhythmic and his other hand is finally making its way over her hip and down her panty line. Her squirmings are becoming more urgent as his fingertips move just above where she wants them the most. Her world has transformed into one where nothing exists except his lips, her breasts, the feeling of him behind her and that one hand that will not go quite where it is needed.

He slowly moves his hand further down and, with her legs parted, finds a wonderful world of soft wetness. He lets his fingers move around her clitoris to gently open her folds and feel the moisture within them. As her breathing becomes ragged, he moves up to gently caress her firm, throbbing clitoris.

An electric shock goes through her. The kisses, her breasts, his hardness, the tension, and now her clitoris are too much to take. She curls forward and shutters as she has the first earth-shattering climax of the day. Her AHHHH’s…and moans are music to his ears.

He holds her as she slows down a bit, but now she is hungry. She turns to face him and brings his face to hers. She devours his tongue and reaches down to find the source of her desire.

They go on to make love for over the next hour using the bed and the chair in the corner. The kitchen counter is out of the question because the house is too cold, but it does not matter. They have over 30 favorite positions to choose from and most can be done here in the bedroom.

They move from one position to another, excited about the different feelings that each one brings.

It is like a well-written play that they write as they go. After the explosive opening, there is the position where she holds him close and climaxes for the second time as he enters her. She feels the full feeling as he kisses her deeply and she moves against him.

There is the next act where he goes down on her or they move to a spooning position. He is slowing down while she heats back up – for the third time?

Next, she stands on the floor and bends forward to lay down on the bed while he stands and enters from behind. As the mattress pushes up against her pelvis, it pushes her G-spot against him each time he thrusts. The primitive feeling of being pinned to the bed as he gently drags his fingers down her back and pushes into her are nearly too much. The fourth time she feels his testicles caress her clitoris are way too much and she shutters again. Was that the third or fourth time? She has trouble remembering and it matters less and less.

Since he is changing positions, it is easier for him to maintain control. He gets softer and harder as the positions change and he can choose ones that let him keep going.

They move to the chair. He sits while she straddles and mounts him. He is deep inside, which limits his stimulation and she is doing the work this time. She gets to hold onto his broad shoulders and look deep into his eyes as she moves her hips in her favorite figure eight pattern. His hands are on her breasts as she moves him around inside to find her g-spot and tantalize herself.

Every once in a while, she brings herself down hard on him. She feels him fill her completely while her clitoris grinds against the root of his manhood. She will never tell him, but the feeling of his testicles against her bottom is delicious.

His hands leave her nipples to run along her back and cup her bottom. She misses the warmth of his hands on her breasts, but the tingling of her backside is driving her through the roof. She wonders what it would be like if he had four hands…

His hands return to gently squeeze her nipples just as she is moving again to take him fully. As she looks up, he is looking deeply into her eyes and smiling. It is too much and she goes over the edge again. She does not remember how many times and no longer cares – she feels like she is flying.

After her breathing slows a bit, they return to the bed. She is tired, so he has her lay on her side. He moves her top leg forward, straddles the bottom leg and enters to a wonderful sigh from her. He remains nearly motionless as he lets his fingers run over her body. Their bodies rest while their minds continue to experience the wonderful feelings of making love.

She gasps in surprise as he reaches back to massage her foot and draw circles around her ankles and toes. The other hand is exploring her exposed back. He finds that secret sensitive spot between her shoulder blades. The first hand is now making its way up her calf and she knows that he is headed for that sensitive area over her knee while the other draws designs on her bottom cheek.

The sensations are sensual, more than lustful. What keeps her squirming is his hardness inside her. He is not at full staff, but at this point thickness matters more than length and he is at just the right depth to touch her g-spot.

He holds still for a while and just as she is concentrating on those treacherous fingers between her shoulders, he flexes inside her. The unexpected sensation is greater since she was concentrating somewhere else. She cannot quite get her clitoris the attention that it needs, so the sweet torture goes on. Mmmm…

In the final act, he moves her into the missionary position. There is still nothing like the closeness and intimacy of this one. As she rolls to her back, she is anticipating the contact that her poor clitoris has been missing, but he teases by entering her just a bit.

It gets worse/better as he uses his Kegel flexing to move against and stimulate her g-spot. As good as it feels, she knows that he knows that she cannot come without some contact with her neglected clitoris and he is holding out as her tension builds again.

She suddenly remembers her secret weapon. She wraps her legs around his waist, digs her heels into his rear end and pushes him home! YYYEEESSS!

Now he is thrusting hard to build to his own climax. He has regained his full length and is more extended than he has been since they started. He feels her climaxing for the sixth or seventh time today (its hard to remember since some of them ran together) and he comes right after she does.

They hold each other close for a few minutes as they return to reality. She runs her hands up and down his damp back, getting a quick feel of his rear while he nibbles her ear and tells her how much he loves her.

Afterward, he sits up between her legs and starts rubbing her feet. It feels heavenly as her toes have been curled for so long. He tells her how good she looks and she tells him how good he feels.

Stay tuned for information on how all of your lovemaking can be a great as this - or greater!

Here's to more passion in your bedroom amd more passion in your life.

Jack Wilder

2007-10-06T12:30:00.000-04:00

The other day I saw a cool idea for a position that I have not seen anywhere else. I will make up a page for it, but I thought I would share the idea now.

You need a very sturdy, washable, padded bar stool at his hip height, a non-slippery floor and a fairly fit couple. When I tried it, I did it with the bed behind her, so if she fell, she just landed on the soft mattress. New sex positions are cool and can be really exciting, but you should always be careful on the first few tries.

Start out with her sitting on the stool. Kissing and petting are good at this point! Slowly sliding his hands under her robe as she runs her hands up and down his back is a great way to start the evening!

When you are both ready, she skoots (technical term) her bottom to the front edge (toward him) and lifts her legs while leaning back a little. Guys, you can help by placing one hand behind her neck to keep her balanced and use the other hand to help lift one of her legs.

If she can place her legs over his shoulders, so much the better.

He enters as she either places her legs over his shoulders or around his hips, whichever is more comfortable.

Now comes the difficult, but really cool part.

He grabs the bar stool and tips it toward him. She should be pressing slightly into him.

This is the part where the sturdy stool and the non-slip floor come in. Do not attempt if there is a chance the the stool could collapse or slip out from under you.

Her weight is still held up by the stool, but he can easily move her forward or back.

Her arms go around his neck and his hands can go around her lower back or hips.

Girls, you will feel like you are floating and making love at the same time. You can take him really deep with your legs over his shoulders or lessen the depth and get your clitoris into the act by wrapping your legs around his hips (good for urging him on at the critical moment as well)!

Guys, you are control of everything else. You can increase or decrease the speed. Try thrusting and holding for cool effects. If you have one hand free, you can stroke her breasts or slowly run your hand up her thigh for some take-your-breath-away feelings.

He will also like that he is standing - no weight on knees or shoulders.

There is a high likelihood that she may climax in this position. Cool huh!?! Her clitoris is up against him, there is little strain on her (she is flying) and she is curled forward, which often makes it easier for her to come.

If she does climax, she may temporarily loose her strength. Gentlemen, it is up to you to make sure she stays safe. She may lose her grip on her shoulders. So if you see her nearing the top, shift your hands so they support her higher on her back. Tilt the stool a little more so that her weight is against your hips (good idea for earlier in the session as well).

Make sure it does not slip (the stool!) - bad form to let your climaxing partner fall on the floor! Also hard to explain at the emergency room as she is getting her broken arm set!

This is a great position. She feels like she is flying and making weightless love. He just has to balance the stool and move her back and forth against him. You could do the same with a sex swing, but this is quicker to get in and our of and you don't have to explain the heavy duty hook in the ceiling to your friends.

You can get hurt if the stools slips or collapses, so if you have any doubts, do not attempt it. If you do, it is at your own risk.

As always, be passionate and be safe.

Jack

2007-09-09T20:25:00.000-04:00

Just added a forum. Should be a great place for sharing lovemaking ideas.

More to come!

2007-07-05T21:51:00.000-04:00

Back at it again. I have completely revamped the site. All of the knowledge that was in the book is now free on the site. Still adding sex positions from the book. There are so many new positions that I see that I want to add them before I get the basics in. Will continue to add the basics and the advanced ones, then continue to the new, cool ones.

2006-01-09T00:34:00.000-05:00

Happy New Year!

Got to report that our experiments with Nawa-do went very well! I did a Shinju tie and a Sakura tie. Later, I got brave enough to do a body tie as well.

The ropes do not restrict at all and merely enhance that some areas are slightly covered and some not. The feelings of the ropes highten awareness and sexual sensitivity.

Although I am sure that the purists would not approve, but mixing in some decorative ropework with food is amazing. The ropes form diamond shapes. Putting whipped cream or chocolate syrup in the diamonds and slowly licking them off is very sensuous...and tasty! The mixture of cool foods and a warm kiss can make for a great evening.

I will get some good sites for reference and post them here.

Jack

2005-12-31T13:09:00.000-05:00

Last fall I took a survey of folks to see what types of information they were interested in concerning sex positions. A few of the results were surprising and may be of interest to you.

Fully 44% of the respondents who wanted more information about lovemaking positions were women. All of you girls out there - your secret is out! You want more satisifying sex as much as the guys do. That is one of the main reasons the books were written with both partners in mind.

The folks were given a choice of 4 reasons why they wanted more information. The results here were a bit surprising as well. The greatest response was not the positions themselves!

Improved relationship 34%
They want their partner to crave more sex 33%
Learn more positions 20%
Increase endurance 13%

This indicates that the positions by themselves are interesting, but what we really want is improved romantic relationships and that hungry craving.

More results later. Have a happy and save (and sexual) new year!

2005-12-29T13:17:00.000-05:00

As I continue on my quest for new and creative things to try, I have come across Japanese rope work. Although my love is not into restraints, there is the "decorative" side of the art form that deals only in ropework to the torso that is decorative and arrousing.

Nawa-do is the Way of the Rope

Shinju is the Tying of the Pearls (breasts)

Sakura is hte Tying of the Cherry (vaguina, clitoris)

There seems to be a debate over types of rope to use. Although some prefer cotton, the real experts use hemp, which is expensive and hard to find. The next choice is nylon (twisted or braided).

This is an area that must be done carefully as you can injure the body through restricting blood flow or causing nerve damage.

I would welcome any comments from those who have tried it, particularly the erotic decorative styles.