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Make New Memories While You Can

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Tue, 08 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

It's wonderful to remember the past.

It's even better to create one more memory together.

Meet for coffee.

Take a walk.

Play cards.

Visit a favourite place.

Or simply sit together and solve the world's problems, something old friends have probably been doing for decades anyway.

Invite an old friend to spend time together this month.

Don't wait for "someday." Today's conversations become tomorrow's treasured memories.

Labour Day, Friendship Needs remembering Too

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Mon, 07 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

As you celebrate Labour Day, think about the fact it wa planned, it was just did not happen, it was put into the calendar so we would remember, so people could plan events and celebrations, and we did. Think about your old friendships they need to be maintained.

Cars need tune-ups.

Homes need repairs.

Even dentures occasionally need adjusting.

Friendships need maintenance as well.

A friendship doesn't fade because people stop caring. It usually fades because everyone assumes there will always be another tomorrow.

Sometimes there isn't.

Schedule one regular call each month with an old friend.

Put it on your calendar just like a doctor's appointment. Consistency keeps friendships alive long after busy schedules disappear.

Don't Wait for a Funeral

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sun, 06 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Too often we tell people how much they meant to us after they're gone.

Wouldn't it be nicer if they heard it while they were still around to laugh, smile, or tease us about getting sentimental?

Friendships deserve celebrating before the memorial service.

Tell one old friend exactly why you appreciate them.

Not because it's their birthday.

Not because they're ill.

Just because today seemed like a good day. Kind words are far more meaningful when the person can hear them.

Tell the Story Before It's Forgotten

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sat, 05 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Every old friendship is really a collection of stories.

The fishing trip where nobody caught a fish.

The vacation where everyone got lost.

The birthday party nobody expected to survive.

Those stories become treasures after someone is gone.

If we don't tell them, they disappear.

Write down one favourite memory of a lifelong friend. Better yet, share it with someone else who knew them. Stories keep people alive in our hearts and help future generations understand where they came from.

Grief Doesn't Always Belong to Family

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Fri, 04 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

When someone dies, we often think first of spouses and children. But lifelong friends grieve too.

Old friends hold pieces of our history. They remember the stories no one else knows, the camping disasters, the first jobs, the impossible bosses, the practical jokes, and the dreams that never quite happened.

When one friend dies, a chapter of your own life quietly closes.

It's okay to feel that loss.

And yes, it's okay if you cry...just remember to blame it on chopping onions if someone asks.

Reach out to a mutual friend and simply ask,

"How are you doing after hearing the news?"

Then listen. Sometimes people don't need advice. They just need someone who remembers the same person they do.

The Friends Who Know Your Story

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Thu, 03 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

The older we get, the more precious old friends become. They are the people who remember us before careers, mortgages, grandchildren, sore knees, and reading glasses. They knew us when our hair was thicker, our waistlines were smaller, and we thought sixty sounded ancient.

Recently, a friend shared that someone he had known for many years had passed away. I didn't know the person, but I felt the sadness in his voice. Then he said something that stayed with me:

"You can't replace an old friend with another old friend."

He's right. New friendships are wonderful, but only old friends have walked beside us through decades of victories, mistakes, laughter, heartbreak, and unforgettable memories.

Those shared experiences become part of who we are.

Think of one old friend you haven't spoken to in months, or even years. Pick up the phone or send a message that simply says:

"I was thinking about you today." Friendships don't survive on memories alone. They need small moments of attention. Your call may brighten their day as much as yours.

Special Days in Se;pt

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Wed, 02 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

September is a month of reflection, celebration, and change, as the world transitions from summer to autumn. It’s a time when people come together to honor significant causes, raise awareness, and cherish global traditions. From days that celebrate peace and education to those that highlight social justice and environmental stewardship, September is packed with meaningful events that inspire action and unity. Let’s explore the special days this month has to offer!

Special Days in September

September Events and Holidays List from around the world.

Date	Event	Region
September 1	National Forgiveness Day	Canada
	National Acne Positivity Day	Canada
	World Letter Writing Day	Canada
	National Nutrition Week (1st to 7th September)	India
	Labor Day (First Monday of September)	USA, Canada
	National Knife Day	USA
September 2nd	World Coconut Day	International
	International Day for the Abolition of Slavery	International
September 3rd	Skyscraper Day	International
September 5th	Teachers’ Day	India
	International Day of Charity	Canada International
	International Literacy Day	International
September 8th	International Physical Therapy Day	International
	World First Aid Day	International
September 9th	Grandparents’ Day	USA
	International Day against Dog Fighting	International
September 10th	World Suicide Prevention Day	International
	National Honeybee Day	USA
September 11th	National Forest Martyrs Day	India
	Patriot Day (USA)	USA
September 14th	Hindi Diwas	India
September 15th	National Hispanic Heritage Month (15th September to 15th October)	USA
	Engineer’s Day (India)	India
	International Day of Democracy	International
	International Red Panda Day	International
September 16th	Mexican Independence Day	Mexico
	World Ozone Day	International
September 17th	Constitution Day (USA)	USA
	International Day of Peace	International
September 18^th	Terry Fox Day	Canada
	World Bamboo Day	International
	National Cheeseburger Day	USA
September 21st	World Alzheimer’s Day	International
	International Day of Peace	International
September 22^nd	Autumn Equinox	International
	Day for the Welfare of Cancer Patients	International
	World Rhino Day	International
	World Rose Day	International
September 23^rd	international Day of Sign Language	International
September 24th	World Maritime Day	International
September 25th	World Pharmacists Day	International
	Antyodaya Diwas (India)	India
	National Comic Book Day	Canada/USA
September 26th	World Contraception Day	International
	National Food Bank Day	USA
	Pancake Day	International
September 27th	World Tourism Day	International
September 28th	International Day of Access to Information	International
	International Rabbit Day	International
September 29th	World Coffee Day	International
September 30^th	National Day for Truth and Reconciliation	Canada
	International Translation Day	International

The Ripple Effect Why Reaching One Woman Matters

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Tue, 01 Sep 2026 07:00:00 +0000

When one woman finds connection, she brings others with her. The best outreach is not advertising, it is the network of women already connected.

Women talk. They share. They tell their friends, their neighbours, their sisters, and their daughters. When one woman has a positive experience at a centre, she does not keep it to herself.

The research shows that women with adequate incomes are more likely to be socially connected. But the connection is not just about money, it is about momentum. Connected women stay connected. Isolated women find it harder to break in.

The key is to help one woman cross the threshold. Once she does, she becomes a bridge for others.

Create "ambassador" programs – trained volunteers who visit isolated women and personally invite them.

Support peer networks – women who meet regularly and support each other in trying new activities.

Host "bring a friend" events where existing participants bring someone new.

Celebrate small successes – a new participant who comes back, a woman who tries an activity for the first time.

The goal is not just to get women through the door. It is to build a community where no woman feels alone. A community where isolation is not acceptable. A community where every woman knows she is welcome and valued.

That is a vision that local governments, community agencies, and individual women can all work toward together.

Who is the woman you could reach out to today? A neighbour? A friend? A sister? You might be the connection she has been waiting fo

The Income Barrier Reducing the Cost of Participation

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Mon, 31 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

While income is a barrier, the solution is not just lower fees. It is making participation affordable in ways that preserve dignity and reduce shame.

Two‑thirds of women with inadequate incomes say cost is a barrier. But for many, the barrier is not just the fee, it is the shame of not being able to pay or the fear of being judged.

A $5 activity fee is not expensive. But for a woman on a fixed income who is choosing between a program and groceries, $5 is real. And asking for a subsidy can feel humiliating.

Centres can address this in a few ways:

"Pay what you can" – no questions asked.

"First visit free" cards that remove the financial barrier for the first experience.

"Community passes" distributed through local food banks, medical clinics, and community agencies.

"Sponsor a senior" programs where community members can anonymously cover fees for others.

The goal is not just to reduce cost. It is to reduce the shame and anxiety that come with financial need.

Local governments could:

Offer free trial memberships to all new participants.

Provide transportation vouchers for those who cannot afford transit.

Fund "no‑cost" programs specifically for low‑income seniors.

Partner with local businesses to offer donated passes, meals, or transport.

When a woman can attend without having to ask for help, she is more likely to come. And when she comes, she is more likely to stay.

If you could remove one financial barrier for a senior woman, what would it be? The fee? The transport? The cost of a coffee? Sometimes the smallest thing makes the biggest difference.

The Confidence Boost; Smaller Settings Build Courage

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sun, 30 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Many women are not ready for a large group. They need small, low‑pressure settings where they can build confidence and relationships before stepping into bigger groups.

A community centre can feel overwhelming. The noise. The crowd. The feeling that everyone else knows each other. For a woman who has been isolated, it can be too much.

But a smaller setting, a coffee group of four or five women, a walking group with three neighbours, a craft circle in someone's living room, feels safer. There is no pressure to perform. You can sit quietly if you need to. You can leave if you feel uncomfortable.

And over time, confidence grows. One woman meets another. They talk. They laugh. They decide to try a larger group together. And suddenly, the centre no longer feels intimidating.

Local governments and community centres can support this by:

Hosting satellite groups in churches, libraries, and community halls, places that feel more familiar and less institutional.

Offering "starter groups" that meet for a limited time (e.g., six weeks) and then transition to a centre program.

Training peer facilitators, women who have already built confidence and can help others do the same.

Providing simple, clear information about what to expect when you come to the centre for the first time.

If you are already active, you can help. Invite one woman to join you for coffee before a program. Sit with her during the activity. Introduce her to others. A single friendly face can transform a woman's experience from "I do not belong here" to "I feel welcome."

Have you ever felt too nervous to go to a group activity? What would have made it easier? You might be the person who can make it easier for someone else.

Beyond Bingo – Why Activities Matter

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sat, 29 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Low‑income senior women need activities that matter to them, not just what the centre has always offered. The key is to listen and respond to what they actually want.

The survey found that 60% of women with inadequate incomes want to participate in more social activities. That is not apathy. That is a desire waiting to be met.

But the activities have to be meaningful to them.

Many centres offer bingo, card games, and coffee socials. These are fine for some, but they do not appeal to everyone. Some women want to learn something new. Others want to contribute, to feel useful. Still others want to connect over shared experiences like caregiving, loss, or grief.

Before planning any new program, the first step is to ask: "What do you want?" Not in a survey. In a conversation. In a small group setting where women feel safe to speak honestly.

This could be:

A "listening circle" where women share what they would like to see.

A "try it and tell us" series where a few low‑cost options are offered and feedback is gathered.

A "meet and greet" where women can meet staff and volunteers without any pressure to sign up.

When women feel heard, they feel respected. And when they feel respected, they are more likely to come back.

What Local Agencies Can Do

Offer a "What Would You Like?" series where women can suggest and even help design activities.

Provide transportation, even a small shuttle or volunteer driver can make a huge difference.

Schedule activities at times that work, not just weekday mornings, but evenings and weekends for those who are still working or caring for others.

Partner with other agencies to offer activities that address real needs: health workshops, financial literacy, grief support, and caregiving information.

If you could design a program for women like you, what would it look like? Would you prefer a small group or a big event? A craft activity or a walk in the park? Your answer might be the start of something new.

The Invitation That Feels Like a Welcome

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Fri, 28 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

I just finished reading a report from the National Institute of Aging that said, “Older women in Canada are living longer than men, but many are ageing with greater financial insecurity, loneliness and exposure to ageism, according to a new report released today by the National Institute on Ageing (NIA) in partnership with the International Longevity Centre Canada (ILC Canada).

This is a very concerning report. The feds and the province have a role to play to help, but the issues talked about in the report for seniors women, (isolation, sexism, loneliness and lack of support) I believe need to be tackled at the local level so over the next few posts I will give my thoughts on what we can do at the local level to help.

Low‑income senior women often do not attend centre activities because they feel they do not belong. The first step is not advertising more programs, it is making the invitation feel personal and safe.

The statistics are clear. Two‑thirds of women with inadequate incomes say cost is a barrier to social participation. But the real barrier is not the price. It is the feeling of not belonging.

When you have not been to a community centre in years, when you are not sure anyone will talk to you, when you feel like everyone else will be more confident, more comfortable, more "with it", the cost is just an easy excuse. The real reason is fear.

And that is understandable. Walking into a room full of strangers at any age takes courage. After years of isolation, it takes even more.

The most effective way to reach isolated senior women is not a newsletter, a poster, or a website. It is a personal invitation.

A phone call from a volunteer. A knock on the door from a neighbour. A note left by a community worker who has built trust over time.

When someone says, "I would love to have you join me at the centre on Tuesday. I will meet you at the door," the barrier drops. It is no longer about going to a "program." It is about joining a friend.

Local governments and community agencies can support this by:

Funding outreach workers whose job is not to run programs but to build relationships with isolated seniors.

Training volunteers to make friendly phone calls and home visits.

Creating "buddy systems" where new participants are paired with a welcoming member for their first few visits.

Offering free trial memberships or "first visit is free" cards that can be handed out by trusted community workers.

These are not expensive solutions. They are people‑centred ones.

Who in your life needs a personal invitation? A neighbour? A friend who has become isolated? An older woman you see at the grocery store? You could be the one who opens the door for her.

The Power of the Question

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Thu, 27 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

The quality of your life is shaped by the quality of the questions you ask yourself. Instead of asking "Why is this happening to me?" ask "What can I learn from this?" Instead of asking "What if I fail?" ask "What if I succeed?"

Every day, your mind is asking questions. You may not notice them, but they are there. They shape your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions.

Here are some common ones:

"Why is this happening to me?"

"What if I can't do this?"

"Why doesn't anyone care?"

"What's wrong with me?"

Do you notice the pattern? These questions are designed to make you feel powerless.

You can change the direction of your thoughts simply by changing the questions you ask. Here are a few to try:

"What can I learn from this?"

"What is one small thing I can do to improve this situation?"

"Who has shown me kindness today?"

"What is good about this moment, right now?"

These questions shift your focus from helplessness to possibility. They open doors instead of closing them.

When you notice a negative thought, ask yourself: "What question is this thought trying to answer?" Then ask a better question. For example:

Old question: "Why am I so alone?" New question: "What is one way I could reach out to someone today?"

The old question keeps you stuck. The new question opens a path forward.

Try this exercise. At the start of each day, ask yourself:

"What am I looking forward to today?", "What is one thing I can do to make today meaningful?"

At the end of each day, ask: "What went well today?" "What did I appreciate?"

These questions cost nothing. They take a moment. They can change everything.

If you could ask yourself one question every morning that would change your day, what would it be?

The Power of Gratitude

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Wed, 26 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Gratitude is not just a feeling. It is a practice. And like any practice, it gets stronger the more you use it. When you actively look for things to be grateful for, you change what you notice in the world.

Have you ever noticed that when you buy a new car, you suddenly see that model everywhere? The car was always there. You just were not paying attention to it.

The same thing happens with gratitude. When you start looking for things to be grateful for, you will find more of them. Not because the world has changed, but because your lens has changed.

Gratitude shifts your attention from what is missing to what is present. It is a simple practice, but it has a powerful effect.

When you are in the habit of noticing what is good, you train your brain to scan for the positive. You are not ignoring problems. You are just not letting them dominate your view.

And the research backs this up. People who practice gratitude regularly report higher levels of well-being, better sleep, and stronger relationships. They are less likely to experience depression and anxiety.

But here is the thing. Gratitude is not a magical cure. It is a practice. It takes time, effort, and consistency.

Start small. At the end of each day, think of three things that went well. They do not have to be big. A good cup of coffee. A phone call with a friend. A beautiful sunset. The fact that you woke up this morning.

You can write them down. You can say them out loud. You can simply hold them in your mind for a moment.

Over time, this practice rewires your brain. You start noticing good things without trying. And that changes how you experience your life.

What is one small thing you are grateful for today? Just one. See if you can find it.

The House You Live In

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Tue, 25 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

You cannot always change the house you live in, but you can rearrange the furniture, open the blinds, and choose which rooms you spend your time in. Your mind works the same way.

Imagine your mind is a house. Some rooms are bright and welcoming. Others are dark and dusty. Some rooms you have not entered in years because the door is stuck. Others you visit every day out of habit.

You did not build this house all at once. You built it over a lifetime. Every experience, every memory, every lesson learned added a room. Some were decorated with care. Others were hastily thrown together in a moment of stress.

Now here is the thing. You cannot tear down the house. You cannot start over. But you can rearrange the furniture. You can open the windows. You can decide which rooms you want to spend time in and which ones you want to leave behind.

The mind works the same way. You cannot erase memories. You cannot unlearn habits. But you can choose which thoughts you entertain and which you let go.

When an old worry comes knocking, you do not have to invite it in for tea. You can acknowledge it and let it pass. When a painful memory surfaces, you can visit it briefly and then return to the present moment.

This is not about denial. It is about where you place your attention. And where you place your attention is a choice.

Open the blinds. Let some light into the rooms you have kept dark. What would happen if you allowed yourself to think differently about an old wound?

Declutter. What thoughts are you carrying that you no longer need? What worries are taking up space without serving you?

Visit the good rooms. Spend time in the memories and thoughts that bring you joy. This is not avoidance; it is choosing where you want to live.

What room in your mind do you visit most often? Is it a place you want to be? If not, what would it take to start spending more time in a different one?

The Power of Reframing

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Mon, 24 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

The same event can be seen in many different ways. You have more control over how you interpret what happens than you might think. Learning to reframe your experiences is a skill you can practice every day.

A good friend does not call you back. What does that mean to you?

You could interpret it as: "They are busy. They will call when they can." Or you could interpret it as: "They do not care about me. I must have done something wrong." The event is the same. The story you tell yourself about it is completely different.

And that story determines how you feel, what you do next, and whether you damage a relationship or let it go.

Psychologists call this "reframing." It is the practice of choosing a different lens through which to view the same event. It is not about denying reality. It is about recognizing that reality is often more complex than our first interpretation.

We often get stuck in one story because it is familiar. If you have spent decades telling yourself, "I am not good with money" or "I am too old to learn new things," those stories become comfortable. They feel true, not because they are true, but because you have repeated them so many times.

But if you can catch yourself in the middle of an old story, you can choose a new one.

Instead of "I am not good with money," try: "I am learning to manage my finances better."

Instead of "I am too old to learn new things," try: "I am curious about what I can still learn."

The words are different. The feeling is different. And the outcome is different.

Think of something that has been bothering you lately. Write it down in one sentence. Then write down three alternative ways to interpret the same situation.

For example:

Original interpretation: "My children do not visit me enough."

Alternative 1: "My children are busy, and they show their love in other ways."

Alternative 2: "I could call them and invite them to visit."

Alternative 3: "This is a chance for me to build relationships with others in my community."

You are not pretending the first interpretation is not real. You are just recognizing that it is not the only one.

This week, notice when you are telling yourself a painful story. Ask yourself: "What is another way to look at this?" See if you can find one that serves you better.

The Observer's Lens

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sun, 23 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

You are not your thoughts. You are the observer of your thoughts. When you step back and watch your mind, you gain the power to choose which thoughts to keep and which to let go.

There is a voice in your head that never stops talking. It comments on everything, the weather, the news, the way someone looked at you, the memory of something that happened forty years ago. It judges, worries, plans, and regrets. It does not have an off switch.

But here is something important to understand you are not that voice.

You are the one listening to it.

Think about it. When you notice that your mind is wandering, who is doing the noticing? There is a part of you that is aware of your thoughts. That awareness is different from the thoughts themselves. It is the quiet witness behind them.

This distinction matters because once you realize you are not your thoughts, you stop being a prisoner to them. You can watch a worry arise without being consumed by it. You can notice an old story playing out in your mind and choose not to believe it. You can see a negative thought floating by like a cloud and let it pass without trying to hold on to it.

Try this right now. Take a breath. Notice what is happening in your mind. Is there a thought? A feeling? A memory? Just notice it. Do not try to change it. Do not judge it. Simply observe.

That is the practice. And it is one of the most powerful tools you have for changing your life.

When you observe your thoughts, you create a gap between you and them. In that gap, you find freedom. You stop reacting automatically and start choosing how you want to respond.

Imagine you are sitting alone on a Sunday afternoon. A thought comes: "I am lonely." If you believe that thought, you feel sad. Maybe you reach for food. Maybe you turn on the TV to drown it out.

But if you observe that thought, something different happens. You notice: "Ah, a thought about loneliness is arising." You do not need to believe it. You do not need to act on it. You simply let it be there, like a cloud passing through the sky. And eventually, it passes.

That is the power of observation. It does not mean you will never feel lonely. It means you will not be ruled by the feeling. You will have a choice.

This week, try observing your thoughts without judgment. When you notice a worry or a criticism, simply say to yourself: "I notice I am having that thought." See what happens to the thought when you do not resist it or believe it.

Another scam to watch out for,, its in the mail

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sat, 22 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Here is the latest scam, you get a letter in the mail from law firms about unclaimed life insurance money. The “lawyer” says that one of their clients, with your same last name, died and you’re the heir to a life insurance policy worth millions. (Spoiler alert: you’re not.) The letter then explains that they’d like to split the proceeds between you, some charity organizations, and their law firm. Here’s the first thing to know: this is not a letter from a lawyer; it’s from a scammer. The letter might sound convincing. You might even be tempted to reply, since maybe the worst that happens is you don’t get a share of the money. But there is worse: if you contact them, they’ll try to get your personal and financial information (like your Social Security or bank account numbers), your money, or all of the above. And that life insurance policy or inheritance? It doesn’t exist at all.

Here’s what to do if you get one of these letters:

Don’t respond. Keep your money and information to yourself. Never send money or information to a stranger who promises big rewards. That’s always a scam.

Pass this information on to a friend. You probably throw away these kinds of letters, but you probably know someone who could use a friendly reminder that these are scams.

Report it

More Dad jokes

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Fri, 21 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

Food prices are getting higher and people are rightfully upset, so here are 62 Dad jokes about the food industry to help lighten the day. This post was inspired by a one liner in a newsletter I receive from Kim Komando at Komando.com. Her jpun is the last one.

1. The bakery apprentice wanted to lead the sourdough class, but the chef said no. He just wasn’t bread-y.

2. The butcher asked to work in produce, but the manager refused. He couldn’t cut it.

3. The florist wanted to run the cash register, but the owner declined. She kept giving customers change in bouquets.

4. The fisherman applied at the shoe store, but they sent him home. He only knew how to scale up.

5. The librarian wanted to become a baker, but the interview went poorly. She kept checking out the rolls.

6. The gardener asked to join the orchestra, but the conductor said no. He had too many roots in jazz.

7. The mattress salesman wanted to be a comedian, but nobody hired him. His jokes kept putting people to sleep.

8. The clockmaker tried to become a therapist, but it didn’t work out. He kept saying everyone needed more time.

9. The dentist applied at the candy shop, but the owner passed. He was too drill-serious about sweets.

10. The tailor wanted to manage the zipper factory, but they turned him down. He couldn’t keep it together.

11. he electrician asked to host karaoke night, but the bar said no. He kept shocking the audience.

12. The potato farmer wanted to become a news anchor, but the station declined. He only reported on current starches.

13. The locksmith wanted to teach yoga, but the studio refused. He couldn’t open up.

14. The painter applied to be a lifeguard, but the pool said no. He only knew how to brush up.

15. The chicken farmer wanted to run the egg counter, but the grocer objected. He kept cracking under pressure.

16. The mapmaker wanted to become a motivational speaker, but the agency passed. He couldn’t get to the point.

17. The shoe repairman wanted to lead the hiking club, but they rejected him. He had too many sole interests.

18. The candle maker asked to work security, but the mall said no. He kept letting things slide.

19. The carpenter wanted to become a magician, but the theater declined. His act was too wooden.

20. The cheese monger tried to become a judge, but the court refused. He was too grate with evidence.

21. The janitor wanted to be a DJ, but the club said no. He kept sweeping the floor.

22. The beekeeper asked to manage the deli, but the owner declined. He was always buzzing around the honey ham.

23. The plumber wanted to work in fashion, but the designer said no. His ideas were all pipe dreams.

24. The astronomer applied at the coffee shop, but the manager passed. He only knew how to serve space lattes.

25. The glassblower wanted to become a negotiator, but the firm refused. He was too transparent.

26. The accordion player asked to run the elevator, but the hotel said no. He kept pressing all the buttons.

27. The tailor’s assistant wanted to be a lawyer, but the firm passed. He kept losing the thread.

28. The baker asked to be a banker, but the branch declined. He kept making too much dough.

29. The fishmonger wanted to coach baseball, but the team refused. He kept calling for more catch of the day.

30. The fruit seller applied to be a therapist, but the clinic said no. He kept telling people to peel better.

31. The grocery bagger begged to run the new juicing machine, but the manager turned him down. Baggers can’t be juicers.

Happy Birthday to my daughter

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Thu, 20 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

You are turning 50, and I still find myself amazed by your enthusiasm for life, your curiosity, your joy, and your sense of wonder about the world around you.

You have always been a smart, beautiful, caring woman with incredible energy and a love for life that inspires those around you. From the moment you entered our lives, you brought a special light into our family.

I still remember the day you were born. I have a photograph of you when you were less than an hour old, a tiny baby who had already captured our hearts. Your mom and I had chosen several names we liked, but when we looked at you, one name just seemed to fit. It was meant to be yours.

You grew up so quickly. Your childhood was filled with dance lessons, rehearsals, sports, and countless adventures. Your mom and I loved watching you discover your passions and supporting you along the way. We coached you in softball, you and your soccer team became provincial chanpions. Your mom went with you to piano lessons, and she created the amazing dance and Halloween costumes that brought so much joy to your childhood.

We taught you to ski when you were about five years old, although it didn't take long before you became a better skier than both of us! I still treasure the memories of family ski trips with Marg and her children to Mt. Baker, Whistler, and other wonderful resorts. Those were special times filled with laughter, adventure, and family memories that I will always cherish.

After graduating from high school, you followed your own path. You spent time working in the movie industry, then moved into the ski industry, where you found another place to share your passion and energy. Then you met Adam, and together you began a new chapter. Your adventure to Australia became something much bigger, you built a life there, found a community you loved, and eventually became an Australian citizen.

When your mom and I retired, one of our first major trips was to visit you. We immediately understood why Australia had captured your heart. We loved your community, your friends, and the life you had created. We were fortunate to visit every couple of years until 2020, when your mom's aneurysm changed so many things.

During that difficult time, you were a tower of strength for your family. Your love, support, and courage helped all of us through one of the most challenging periods of our lives. Although your mom is no longer able to travel, you have made sure we continue to share time together by coming home to Canada. That means more than you know.

One of the greatest joys of our lives was when you and Adam gave us our grandson. Your mom and I were over the moon. Watching him grow over the past 15 years has been an incredible privilege. He has become a strong, independent, focused, and remarkable young man. His pursuit of his Olympic dream is possible because of the love, encouragement, and support you and Adam have given him. You should be incredibly proud of the role you have played in shaping the person he has become.

As you celebrate your 50th birthday, I hope you take time to reflect on all you have accomplished and the many lives you have touched. You have built a wonderful life, not because of the places you have lived or the things you have done, but because of the person you are.

Your mom and I are so proud of you. We love you more than words can express, and we hope you always remember that no matter where life takes you, you will forever be our daughter, our joy, and one of the greatest gifts we have ever received.

Happy 50th birthday

Aging Well: The Best Years May Still Be Ahead

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Wed, 19 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

When I began this series, I asked a simple question:

Is aging a good thing or a bad thing?

After exploring brain health, purpose, independence, mobility, and relationships, I find myself returning to the same answer.

Aging is better than the alternative.

That doesn't mean it is always easy.

There will be health challenges. There will be losses. There will be days when our bodies remind us that time has passed.

But there will also be opportunities that younger versions of us, could never have imagined.

The National Geographic Outlook on the Second Half of Life found something fascinating. People who have an optimistic outlook expect to live longer than those who are pessimistic. More importantly, optimistic people are about twice as likely to take positive steps to care for their health.

That makes sense.

When we believe tomorrow is worth preparing for, we're more likely to go for the walk, prepare a healthy meal, keep our medical appointments, stay socially connected, and continue learning.

Optimism isn't pretending that everything is perfect.

It is choosing to believe that life still has something to offer.

The survey also found that as people move through the second half of life, they place increasing importance on taking care of themselves. That means looking after their physical health, staying mentally active, nurturing relationships, and finding purpose in each day.

Those ideas have become the common thread throughout this series.

Healthy aging isn't about avoiding birthdays.

It's about living each one well.

We protect our brains by staying curious and engaged.

We preserve our independence by keeping our bodies moving and planning for the future.

We enrich our lives by investing in relationships that sustain us.

And through it all, we continue searching for purpose.

One of the greatest misconceptions about aging is that life gradually becomes smaller.

In my experience, the opposite can be true.

We become better listeners.

We appreciate ordinary moments more deeply.

We worry less about impressing others and more about making a difference.

We become mentors, volunteers, grandparents, neighbours, and friends whose life experiences can encourage others.

The second half of life isn't simply an extension of the first half.

It is a different season.

Every season has its own beauty.

Spring is full of beginnings.

Summer brings growth.

Autumn offers harvest.

Winter invites reflection and wisdom.

None is better than another. Each has something unique to teach us.

As I enter my eightieth year, I don't spend much time wishing I were younger.

Instead, I find myself grateful.

Grateful for the people I've loved.

Grateful for the lessons learned through success and failure.

Grateful for opportunities to continue serving my community.

Grateful that there are still books to read, places to visit, conversations to enjoy, and new things to learn.

That's what healthy aging looks like to me.

Not pretending we are young.

Not dwelling on what we've lost.

But embracing the years we have with curiosity, gratitude, resilience, and hope.

Perhaps that's the real secret to growing older.

Don't count the years.

Make the years count.

As this series comes to a close, I hope you'll remember that none of us can control how many years we are given. We can, however, influence how we choose to live them.

The second half of life is not a time to withdraw from the world.

It is a time to contribute, to encourage, to keep learning, to deepen relationships, and to discover new purpose.

After all, growing older is inevitable.

Growing wiser, kinder, healthier, and more connected is a choice.

So, let me leave you with one final question: What will you do this week that your future self will thank you for?

Aging Well: The Relationships That Carry Us Forward

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Tue, 18 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

When I began this series, I looked at three of the biggest concerns people have as they grow older: brain health, maintaining independence, and relationships.

It isn't surprising that relationships made the list.

As we age, our priorities often change. Careers become less important. Our children grow up. Retirement gives us more control over how we spend our days. Gradually, we discover that what matters most isn't what we own or what we've accomplished., it's who shares life's journey with us.

The National Geographic Outlook on the Second Half of Life found that relationships become an even greater source of purpose and joy as we grow older. Many people reported working hard during their younger years to build strong relationships because they knew those relationships would become increasingly important later in life.

I think that's a lesson worth remembering.

Strong relationships don't happen by accident. Like a garden, they need attention. They grow through shared experiences, honest conversations, forgiveness, laughter, and simply being there for one another.

One of the survey's most interesting findings involved where people want to live as they age. While many older adults hope to remain in their own homes for as long as possible, their housing choices are often influenced by one important factor: staying close to the people they love.

That makes perfect sense.

Home isn't just a building. It's where neighbours know your name, friends stop by for coffee, grandchildren visit, and familiar routines provide comfort. For many of us, independence is strengthened, not weakened, by having supportive people nearby.

The survey also found that most people expect to live independently well into later life. It isn't until people reach their eighties that many begin to expect they may need more support. Even then, their preference is clear. If help becomes necessary, they hope it comes from people with whom they already have strong, trusting relationships.

That tells us something important.

The friendships and family connections we nurture today become part of our support system tomorrow.

Relationships also protect our health in ways we sometimes overlook. Research has consistently shown that people with strong social connections experience lower levels of loneliness, better mental health, and, in many cases, better physical health as well. Having someone who notices when we're struggling, celebrates our successes, or simply shares a meal with us makes a remarkable difference.

Fortunately, meaningful relationships don't depend on having a large circle of friends.

A few close friends can be enough.

A neighbour who checks in.

A walking partner.

A volunteer group.

A faith community.

A book club.

A weekly phone call with a sibling.

A grandchild who loves hearing your stories.

Each of these relationships adds richness to life.

Like any worthwhile investment, relationships require effort. We need to make the phone call, accept the invitation, join the club, volunteer, or introduce ourselves to someone new. It becomes harder to build connections if we wait until we're lonely.

Perhaps one of the greatest gifts of aging is learning that relationships are not a distraction from life, they are life.

As we grow older, we discover that the moments we treasure most are rarely about possessions or achievements. They are about the people who walked beside us.

So today I have a simple challenge.

Reach out to someone you haven't spoken with for a while. Invite a neighbour for coffee. Join a community group. Volunteer for a cause you care about.

You may be strengthening a friendship that will enrich both of your lives for years to come.

Because in the second half of life, our greatest wealth is often measured not by what we have, but by who we have beside us.

Aging Well: Independence Also Means Learning to Adapt

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Mon, 17 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

When we think about independence, we often imagine doing everything for ourselves.

But as we grow older, I believe independence takes on a deeper meaning.

It isn't about never needing help. It's about continuing to live with dignity, purpose, and choice, even when life changes.

One participant in National Geographic's Outlook on the Second Half of Life described injuring his shoulder.

"It affected my mobility and my mood. You start wondering what those years ahead might look like. Without mobility, you risk not being able to do the things you wanted to do. You either adapt or you can sink into depression."

His comments capture something many older adults experience. An injury, surgery, or chronic condition doesn't just affect the body. It affects confidence, outlook, and sometimes our sense of identity.

I know that feeling personally.

There are times when our bodies remind us that we are no longer twenty-five. Recovery takes longer. We may have to modify activities or ask for help. None of us welcomes those changes.

Yet adapting is not the same as giving up.

Some people stop golfing because they can no longer walk eighteen holes, but discover they can still enjoy nine holes using a cart.

Others replace running with swimming or cycling. Some exchange climbing mountains for exploring local parks. The activity changes, but the purpose remains.

That ability to adapt is one of the greatest strengths of successful aging.

Research also tells us something encouraging. Even though physical limitations increase with age, many older adults report greater life satisfaction than they expected. Why? Because they learn to focus on what they can still do rather than what they have lost.

Maintaining independence also requires planning.

Planning means looking after our finances, keeping our homes safe, staying connected with family and friends, learning new technology, reviewing our transportation options, and making decisions before a crisis forces them upon us.

Planning is not pessimistic.

It is one of the most optimistic things we can do because it gives us more choices later.

Relationships also play an important role in independence.

Many people think accepting help means losing independence. I see it differently. Strong relationships allow us to remain independent longer. Friends who check in, neighbours who lend a hand, family members who provide support when needed, and community organizations all help us continue living fulfilling lives.

Perhaps the greatest mistake we can make is believing we have to do everything alone.

Real independence is knowing when to ask for help while continuing to make our own decisions and live according to our values.

Growing older will always bring change. None of us can stop that.

But we can choose how we respond.

We can stay active, keep learning, maintain friendships, prepare for the future, and remain open to new ways of doing familiar things.

Independence isn't measured by never needing assistance.

It is measured by continuing to live with purpose, resilience, and hope.

As I said in my first article, aging is better than the alternative. The challenge isn't to avoid getting older. The challenge is to keep living fully, even as the years bring new opportunities and new limitations.

So, here's something to think about:

If a health challenge changed one part of your life tomorrow, what strengths, relationships, or interests would help you continue living with purpose?

Aging Well: Independence Is More Than Living Alone

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sun, 16 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

In my first post in this series, I promised to explore the issues that concern older adults most and to look not only at what research tells us but also at practical things we can do to age well.

This time, I'd like to look at the second greatest concern identified in National Geographic's Outlook on the Second Half of Life: maintaining our independence.

For many people, independence means living in their own home. While that's certainly part of it, independence is much broader. It means making our own decisions, remaining mobile, managing our daily lives, contributing to our communities, and continuing to enjoy the activities that bring us purpose and joy.

Good health is the foundation of independence.

One participant in the study reflected on how much life expectancy has changed during his lifetime.

"I remember when people retired at 65 and died a couple of years later. Now I'm 70, and life expectancy is much higher. Before COVID, I was still doing CrossFit and kickboxing. If he can do it, I can do it."

His story highlights something important. Our expectations of aging have changed dramatically. Many people today remain active well into their seventies and eighties. They volunteer, travel, learn new skills, care for grandchildren, and continue making valuable contributions to their communities.

Another participant explained that watching family members develop heart disease and other health conditions motivated her to eat well, stay active, and pay attention to her health.

Her story reminds us that while we cannot change our family history, we can influence many of the factors that affect healthy aging.

Research consistently shows that regular physical activity, nutritious food, quality sleep, stress management, and maintaining social connections all contribute to better physical and cognitive health. None of these guarantees perfect health, but together they improve our chances of remaining independent for longer.

One finding from the National Geographic survey surprised me. Although health conditions become more common with age, many older adults actually rate their own health more positively than younger people do. Perhaps that's because health isn't simply the absence of illness. It is the ability to live a meaningful life despite the challenges we face.

Mobility is another essential ingredient of independence.

Walking across a parking lot, climbing stairs, carrying groceries, getting out of a chair, or reaching into a cupboard are tasks we often take for granted, until they become difficult. I understood that at a cognitive level, but not at an emotional one. After my surgery I was immobile for about 12 weeks, I am, at the time of writing, able to get around with an aide. And the end of the need for support is close. But I now have greater empathy for those who cannot see an end.

The good news is that strength and balance can improve at almost any age. Research shows that older adults benefit from regular walking, resistance exercises, stretching, and balance training. Even modest improvements can reduce the risk of falls and help us remain confident and independent.

The key is not becoming an athlete. It is simply continuing to move.

Every walk around the block, every gardening session, every dance class, every swim, and every exercise class is an investment in your future independence.

Healthy aging isn't about avoiding every illness or injury. It's about giving ourselves the best possible chance to continue living life on our own terms.

Independence isn't something we either have or lose overnight. It is built through hundreds of small choices we make every day.

So let me leave you with this question:

What is one habit you could begin this week that your future self will thank you for?

Aging Well: Brain Health, Purpose, and Independence

noreply@blogger.com (Royce Shook) — Sat, 15 Aug 2026 07:00:00 +0000

In my first post, I asked whether aging is a good thing or a bad thing. The answer, of course, depends on how we approach it. One of the biggest factors influencing our experience of aging is our brain health.

According to National Geographic's Outlook on the Second Half of Life, brain health is the number one concern for people entering the second half of life. Most of us aren't simply worried about forgetting a name or misplacing our keys. We worry because memory loss raises a much larger fear, the possibility of losing our independence.

For many older adults, independence means far more than living alone. It means making our own decisions, staying in our own homes, choosing how we spend our time, and continuing to contribute to the lives of others. The thought of becoming dependent on family or friends is one of the greatest fears many seniors face.

Interestingly, the survey found that brain health isn't just about memory. It is also closely connected to having a sense of purpose.

One participant described watching his father-in-law retire at age 65 after spending most of his life working in a factory.

"He retired at 65 and then he sat in a chair and watched TV. He died two years later. I think he lacked purpose."

The participant went on to explain that he and his wife had chosen a different path. Through their church, they travelled on mission trips to Cambodia, Rwanda, Australia, and China, helping build homes and dig wells. His message was simple: having something meaningful to do gives us a reason to get up every morning.

Purpose doesn't have to involve travelling around the world. It might mean volunteering in your community, mentoring a younger person, caring for grandchildren, joining a choir, learning a new skill, or simply checking in on a neighbour. What matters is having a reason to stay engaged with life.

The survey also uncovered something surprising. Although serious health conditions become more common as we age, people's perception of their own health often improves. That may sound contradictory, but perhaps it reflects a shift in perspective. As we grow older, many of us stop comparing ourselves to our younger selves and instead appreciate what we are still able to do.

Another participant reflected on watching her parents age.

"They lived a good life until their mid-eighties. They were mobile and very independent. That's what I hope for myself."

She also spoke about her father refusing to move in with family because he wanted to maintain his independence. Many older adults share that feeling. Home represents more than a place to live. It represents freedom, dignity, familiarity, and the ability to live life on our own terms, even if that means spending the day in our pajamas.

She also learned another valuable lesson by watching her parents. Health and finances limited some of the opportunities they had hoped to enjoy in retirement. Rather than simply accepting that as inevitable, she decided to prepare differently so those barriers would not stand in her way.

There is an important message in these stories. We cannot control every aspect of aging, but we can influence many of the factors that support healthy brain aging. Staying physically active, challenging our minds, nurturing friendships, managing chronic health conditions, getting enough sleep, and finding meaningful ways to contribute all help keep both our brains and our spirits healthy.

Perhaps the greatest lesson is this: brain health is about much more than preventing memory loss. It is about preserving the things that make life worth living, our independence, our relationships, and our sense of purpose.

Growing older doesn't mean we stop contributing. In many ways, it gives us the opportunity to contribute in new and meaningful ways.

As you look ahead to the years to come, what gives you a reason to get up each morning, and what could you do today to strengthen that sense of purpose?