In the Mommy Trenches

10 Reasons Why I Suck at Being a SAHM

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 31 May 2012 20:57:00 +0000

My kids don’t take a bath every night. I know it settles them down and makes a great bedtime routine yada yada yada but by the time supper is over, homework is done, we’re on to pajamas, brushing teeth and reading books. I can’t imagine trying to squish in three baths on top of that. Not to mention the mess left behind. I’m lucky if we do it once a week.

I recycle 95% of their artwork and 99.9% of their schoolwork usually on the same day they bring it home. I ooh and awe over it and then it just sits on my counter. Out of sight out of mind. I used to keep it. Now I have a bin full. My fridge is still covered but I rotate and recycle regularly.

I was sitting on the toilet and realized I needed to vacuum my bedroom because of the black hair that was matting the carpet in the doorway. I had to clean my room first from confiscated toys, outgrown clothes and toilet paper. (In my defence we have two cats)

Those giant bags of toilet paper you buy at Cost-co? They sit on the floor of my room until we use them all up. They have no real home.

I’ve been going through my room for two days to figure out where that smell is coming from. I’m still not sure.

I make my kids lunch first, put on a show and then make my own lunch and open up a book or log onto the computer.

I pretty much would rather read than clean and have to tear myself away just to get the basics done. Same goes for playing cars, barbies or listening to “concerts”.

I buy my husband dark underwear so I don’t have to see his track marks when I do laundry and when my 6 year old had an accident, I just tossed her panties. Enough said.

If I lived in a place that was sunnier, I’d pretty much make my kids eat outside 365 days a year. Right now, I’m restricted to our short summer. It’s not so annoying when you find dried up bread crusts under the porch instead of the couch. Plus we’re helping the wildlife. It’s a win-win.

I yell at my kids. I’m not proud of it and I’m trying to do better but there it is. The one reason why I dread the summer and open windows.

What's on your list?

Zeemaid

Fighting Tough Stains

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 29 May 2012 21:05:00 +0000

If you are anything like me, you loathe laundry. Not only do you hate the lugging it up and down the stairs, the folding, the sorting, the putting it away but you hate stain hunting. Still it's a job that's gotta be done or you'll be surprised by a nasty stain the next time you or your kids go to wear something.

Here are some stain fighting tips:

1. Take care of the stains as soon as possible. Fresh stains are always easier to get out than old ones.

2. NEVER rub a fresh stain with bar soap. It sets the stain.
(I did not know this, did you?)

3. Check before washing. Try and get your kids to let you know when they have something stained.

4. Pre-treat the stain. It really helps if you can whip that shirt off as soon as the stain happens or at least catch it before it goes into the wash machine. Once it gets into the dryer that stain can get baked on and it will be almost impossible to get rid of.

5. Check your water temperature: Hot water can set protein stains like milk, egg or blood. They say cold water is best but I have found warm water to work really well for me.

6. Check the stains before drying. Sometimes it's hard to tell if the stain has come out or not when the clothes are wet but it's good to check. If you can still see the stain don't put it in the dryer. Pre-treat and try again.

7. Launder heavily soiled items separately. It seems like a no brainer but if my kids have been playing out in the mud, I do a separate load for just those clothes. If you don't use enough detergent or water the dirt and soil can redeposit onto cleaner clothing, so why take that risk.

One of the best cleaners that I've found for pre-treating stains is OxiClean. Which is why when I was asked to be part of the Oxi Clean Stain Busting Advisory Panel I said "Hell, yeah!" Actually, I just said yes cause I'm not a dork at all ;)

My WOW moment with OxiClean was when I had accidentally spilled hair dye onto a white shirt. I was too lazy to change and figured the towel would protect it. I was so wrong. Anyways, I thought that was it for the shirt and my husband was going to kill me because it was brand new. I decided to try OxiClean anyways and was thrilled as I watched the dye literally vanish before my eyes. It was so cool.

Since then I use OxiClean on everything and anything and have never once had a damage what I used it on. Because I do forget to pre-treat my kids clothes a lot (who has the time) I like to add an extra scoop of OxiClean to my wash and I find that it really helps get the clothes that extra bit cleaner.

New & Improved: Canada's #1 Trusted Stain Fight is now even better. The maker of OxiClean launched a New & Improved Versatile Stain Remover with a better package and 40% oxygen power per school than the previous formula.

Benefits:

OxiClean Versatile Powder Stain Remover contains a unique combination of stain fighters that break down tough stains including grass stains, grease and dirt
Coloursafe and 100% chlorine free
Tackles over 101 stains on multiple surfaces like carpet, upholstery, grout, kitchen and bath surfaces.
Works outdoors on gutters, unfinished decks and patio furniture.

For more information on fighting stains and other OxiClean products check out their website at www.oxiclean.ca

Zeemaid

*Disclosure, I received a tub of OxiClean in order to participate in this panel. However, the opinions stated in herein as always are my own and reflect my real experience with the product(s) mentioned.*

Written Output Disorder

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 24 May 2012 03:33:00 +0000

Sounds like something a computer might have, doesn't it. Unfortunately, this term applies to my 8 year old daughter. Unfortunate, because it's probably the one thing that's keeping her from really moving forward in her education.

She has come great strides with her reading and while she tires easily and sometimes will still balk at reading full pages of text, she can at least do it at almost her age level.

What do you do though when your child is full of stories and can't write them out. She has tried writing countless books/magazines, taking great trouble to put them together and colour pictures to go along but she almost always gives up because she can't write it out and we don't always have the time or patience to sit down and write it out for her. Of course, this was before we realized that it wasn't normal for her to not be able spell at her age. We kept thinking eventually she will get it.

Writing Sample. I couldn't even tell you what it's supposed to say.

I'm sorry, I may be getting ahead of myself. You might not know what I'm even talking about. To put it simply:

Written Output Disorder - The inability to write legibly and coherently for one's age and is considered to be a learning disability.

It's like something isn't clicking in her brain. She can learn to memorize words and how to spell them enough to make pass most tests but when it comes to jotting down her thoughts and stories, she can't recall any but the easiest words to spell. Even phonetically she can't sound them out. Phonetics doesn't work at all for her. Doesn't make sense to her. It's like she hears the words differently.

What's more from what I have read about this disorder is that if a child hasn't mastered writing by mid grade three, they are unlikely to. Although you should never give up trying, there is a good possibility it will never get any better. That has to be the epitome of discouragement for a parent to read.

Especially when they suggest turning to technology to get around these issues and to help boost her performance in class. That's all fine and dandy for parents with hefty checkbooks. Not so fine for two parents who are struggling to keep their business afloat and three children housed, clothed and fed. I thought of giving up my own precious laptop only the software we need to use is too new and too heavy for my 6 year old relic. What's a mom to do? With no real funding available until we get a firm diagnosis for the autism it's almost heartbreaking to think we are stuck here in this unending circle of need.

Then we don't even know if they will choose to assess her at the Autism Centre. Apparently so many children are being diagnosed with some form of Autism on the chart that they only have the resources to assess those that are young (for early intervention) or have more extreme symptoms. I am sure some of you can understand the frustration as a parent as every symptom of Aspergers simply screams your child only to know that there is no extra financial support in class or counselling etc until that diagnosis comes through.

Still God is good and I have to remember that. Because there was another special needs child in her class this past year, who didn't need quite so much support, she was able to benefit from the presence of an EA. While sometimes it made her feel bad because she felt different getting the extra help, the class was able to continue on around her. Her teacher, who also experienced troubles in her youth with learning difficulties, is incredibly caring and supportive and able to coach her through some of her greatest struggles. I don't think we could have made it through this school year without her.

Being a voracious reader, writer and story teller myself, I can't even imagine what it would be like to not have basic writing or spelling skills. I can't imagine the frustration she must feel as she tries to "draw" each letter instead of just writing them automatically. It's so heartbreaking to know she feels stupid and hates that her brain learns different from others.

In the meantime, I am going to continue to read, read and read some more of ways to help my child in practicing these important skills. There is one blog out there called Written Output Disorder A Parent's Perspective that is worth reading even though she hasn't posted since 2010. In it she shares some of what she's been doing for her child who is also a "spatial learner".

Do you or someone you know have Written Output Disorder? If so, I'd love to hear your story, what you are doing or have done and whether you or someone you know were able to overcome this.

Zeemaid

Mother of the Year Award

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Wed, 16 May 2012 03:35:00 +0000

This year Walmart is launching the Mom of the Year Award to help celebrate and recognize the huge contribution moms make as role models and integral members of the family and community. This award will become an annual program to celebrate all that Mom does and shine a light on what is important to her.
Nominations will be accepted Mother’s Day (May 13) through July 8, 2012 and can be submitted through www.momoftheyear.ca.

Eight finalists will be selected and notified in mid-August and will be treated to an award celebration weekend in September. The Mom of the Year Award recipient will receive $10,000 for personal use and $100,000 to their cause or charity of choice. The remaining seven finalists will each receive $10,000 for personal use and $10,000 to their cause or charity of choice.

Of course, with this announcements comes the question of who would I choose to nominate for Mother of the Year. Obviously, I’d love to nominate my own mother as it’d be wonderful for her to see how much we really do appreciate her but no… I feel that this Award should go to someone who could really benefit from such a prize not just financially but also mentally. Let’s face it mother’s all work hard but some of us need that extra little bit of encouragement to keep us going. After all, we are our own worse critics and tend to worry constantly whether we’re doing anything right at all.

So when I cast my mind among the moms I knew both in real life and in the bloggy world, it came down to just one.

Faemom, mother to three extremely active and imaginative little boys, inventor of the “penis rules”. Recently separated from her husband, she’s had to adjust this past year to being a single parent to three small boys and all that doing it on your own entails. She’s had to go to battle with a bout of skin cancer (on her forehead I might add) and rally around her mom who was diagnosed with breast cancer. Not only does she strive to nurture her three boys through some pretty tough adjustments, she also tries to take a step back and let her boys be boys and learn some lessons on their own. She encourages them in their creativity from wearing blue-and-white-checkered, long-sleeve, button-up shirt and blue-orange-black plaid shorts to speaking their language in all things Star Wars. Who else would have created the Death Star Sandwich or tried to use Jedi Mind Tricks on their kids?

One of the many things that I love about Faemom is that she cares about other moms. She not only sees their frustrations but offers sympathy and understanding and lets them know they are not alone and it will get better. I don’t know about you, but I would have appreciated if a mom had done that for me when my toddler had a meltdown on the school playground. I may not know her in real life but I wish I did. It's unfortunate that Faemom doesn't qualify to be nominated since she lives in the U.S. and isn't eligible for the award but she would be my choice.

Who would you nominate?

Zeemaid

Disclosure: I’m part of the Walmart program by Mom Central. I received compensation as a thank you for my participation. The opinions on this blog are my own. Mom of the Year Award: NO PURCHASE NECESSARY Internet access and valid email account required. Nominations open May 10, 2012 to July 8, 2012 for legal residents of Canada over the age of majority. Entrants cannot nominate themselves. One (1) grand prize available to be won consisting of $10,000 cash, a $100,000 donation by Wal-mart Canada Corp. to charity/cause and a trip to Toronto (ARV $22,000). Seven (7) runner-up prizes available to be won consisting of $10,000 cash, a $10,000 donation to charity/cause and a trip to Toronto (ARV $22,000). Charity/cause subject to verification and final approval by Wal-mart Canada Corp., at its sole discretion. Odds of winning depend on how the judging panel evaluates each entry according to the criteria. For Official Contest Rules and to nominate an entrant, visit [www.momoftheyear.ca].

Mothering is a Tough Job

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 15 May 2012 00:17:00 +0000

Being a mother is incredibly hard. I never knew just how hard a job it was until I had my own three children. These days I find myself constantly filled with a new found appreciation for all that my mother did. I’ve also discovered a new understanding of how she must have felt at times when we all thought she was just going crazy. Oh I can so relate.

So when Faemom wrote a post this past weekend about 15 Things she learned from her mother,(read her post here) it made me pause and think about the things that my own mother has taught me.

1. Surprise treats can be something as simple as a tray of hot cocoa and cookies and are guaranteed to get you named as the “cool mom” by your teens and their friends.

2. Love means letting go even when you want to hold them close. My mom let me go away for an entire year at the age of 16. I learned a lot that year but mostly I learned how great my parents were.

3. It’s okay to play hooky once in a while. Especially when your science teacher is going to make you dissect a frog and let’s face it you have absolutely no desire to go anywhere in that area of expertise and so a day spent shopping at the mall with your mom instead is an unlooked for blessing. (She also let me skip the pig fetus dissection and the “talk” class in high school)

4. That I may start countless projects and never finish them but one day I will finish them one by one although probably not until my kids are grown.

5. Playing outdoors is the best form of entertainment for kids. Give them a bag of nails and some wood and watch them build a fort on their own.

6. It’s okay to get dirty.

7. Homemade birthday cakes taste the best. (they’re cheaper too)

8. A home isn’t a home unless it’s full of children’s photos and knicknacks.

9. To honour one’s parents even though they may not have always done right by you.

10. To be independent and self reliant. Just because I’m a girl doesn’t mean I have to settle for less.

AND of course,

11. Never leave home without clean underwear.

What have you learned from your mother?

Zeemaid

What To Expect When You're Expecting | Pimp My Stroller App EXCLUSIVE

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 03 May 2012 17:00:00 +0000

I think I'd have to search pretty far and wide to find someone who hasn't heard of the book What to Expect When You're Expecting. In fact, I owned not one but two copies because I found an updated version. I read that book back to front and back again. No matter how old the book is the information is still valuable and timeless.

So it's great fun that the movie What to Expect When You're Expecting was conceived from the best-selling "bible of American pregnancy" and is due in theaters everywhere May 18th.

Gearing up for the theatrical Debut, a new social app for What To Expect When You're Expecting is being launched today on Facebook. Yes, exciting news ladies because you will have a chance to play PIMP MY STROLLER. No Kidding. With this new Facebook App, PIMP MY STROLLER fans can “Pimp” their babies’ rides with everything from the latest rims to the hottest subwoofers. They can also outfit the stroller with their baby’s likeness, personalize the license plate and add their creation to the Stroller Hall of Fame on the WHAT TO EXPECT Facebook page.

Best of all, fans can enter the sweepstakes for a chance to win a deluxe stroller prize package from Britax!

http://gopimpmystroller.com/

Oh and be sure to check out the trailer. Until I watched this, I wasn't really sure I wanted to watch the movie (I thought it was going to be heavy) but it looks hilarious!

Please Share this on Twitter and Facebook! Thanks!

Zeemaid

My Baby is Growing Up

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 01 May 2012 18:21:00 +0000

It's hard to believe that my baby turned 5 years old last week. It seems like only yesterday that I was bringing that fat, bruised looking 12 pound little baby boy home. It can still bring tears to my eyes when I re-live that day when everything changed from normal to almost traumatic as I struggled to catch my breath to keep pushing this baby who was obviously stuck and I looked up to see tears pouring down my husband's and mother's face and my near panic when I finally saw his blue little face and utter silence and thought... well you can guess what went through my mind. Thank God, he came through alright. It ended up being more bruising than anything and apart from some shoulder dystosia (sp?) he made it just fine and I have this amazing, strong and handsome little lad.

Tears soon turned to laughter though as I looked at my pudgy little guy in the nursery, 3 x the size of all those other little mites in their incubators, he might have been purple and blue but he was anything but fragile. It still makes me smile to remember the nurses frantically trying to hunt up bigger sleepers for him and how they still ended up looking fit to burst. Too then me and my boy were something of a sensation as everyone wanted to pop in and see this 12 pound baby and the mother who delivered him naturally.

Of course he grew fast, much faster than my other two as he already had such a head start. I came across a box of his baby clothes last week and while some outfits evoked sentimental tears in my eyes the others I confess I had no memory of. It then dawned on me that he hadn't been in them for very long. I had birthed the equivalent to a 3 month old and clothes went by fast.

Probably best of all my babies. He was the most content, the easiest to feed, to sleep, to nap and ever so patient for my attention while I attended to his sisters. Not content to stay still for long he soon was dragging himself about on his forearms earning him the nickname commando baby. Of course, when he started to walk it was a whole other experience. I have many posts about my children's early years but this post pretty much sums up what a day in the life a boy could be like in We are Not So Screwed

Still it's even harder to believe that my baby will be going to kindergarten in September. I am torn between elation at finally having all three in school full-time and sadness over my last baby growing up. I swear every time I see a baby I get those pangs all over again and have to spend ages reminding myself all the reasons why this womb is closed. The traumatic last labour and delivery being one of them.

Despite all that I've got my O now and I am so thankful I am getting to experience the joys of raising a boy. He's so different from the other two and yet he wants so much to be just like his big sisters. When we went away the other weekend, they all were on their bikes racing around the campground. O tired desperately to keep up with 8 year old sister failing to realize that not only were her legs longer but her bike was built to go faster. She was oblivious to his plight and wanted only to continue on her way singing merrily as she enjoyed her sense of freedom of being allowed to roam around the campground.

I tried to console him and pointed out to him that she's older etc. but it didn't stop him from trying to follow her or keep up until one time he wiped out. E, oblivious kept riding, leaving O figuratively in her dust. He screeched her name as he got up and called out for her to wait for him but she didn't hear him. He threw himself down on the ground and oh he howled. My mama heart went out to him and as I walked over to comfort him it struck me how hard it was for him at that point to be 4 years old, the baby of the family and so desperately wanting to be big like E. A little mama sympathy went a long way to comforting him but despite all that I could say or offer he was still clinging to the hope that when he turned 5, he'll be big like E and able to ride faster than her.

So he's turned five now and we haven't yet come to the test of him out riding her. I just hope when they next ride together somehow what I said about her always being four years older but that one day he would catch up to her in height and speed will sink in and help lessen his frustration.

In the meantime, I am going to try and enjoy these last few months I have him to myself because I know come September we will all be entering a new phase in our lives together.

I love you O!

Zeemaid

Putting Dinner on the Table With McCains – a Review

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 26 Apr 2012 03:25:00 +0000

My oldest daughter (E) goes to tutoring three days a week. Her lessons fall just before supper and I have to admit I have been finding it hectic trying to put a decent meal on the table. It gets difficult because E doesn’t like her food to get mixed up which means all the easy options like crock pots or casseroles are out.

So what’s a busy mom to do? Well, McCain Foods (Canada) is introducing McCain® Harvest Splendour™ Medleys, a new side dish combining 100 per cent real potatoes and other wholesome vegetables together, made in only 12 minutes. No peeling, cutting, chopping or boiling required. You gotta love that so of course, I agreed to try it out. I had no problems at all finding all four flavours in the freezer section of my local grocery store (Safeway).

Dinner night #1, we tried the Potato and Broccoli Medley.
“Specially seasoned potatoes, crisp broccoli, red peppers and red onions with seasonings such as roasted garlic, parmesan cheese and sea salt.”

I was glad to note that the seasoning was in a separate pouch and so I could adjust the amount of seasoning to my family’s taste. I was also pleased to see that McCain® Harvest Splendour™ Medleys are trans fat-free, low in fat and have no artificial colours or flavours.

That night I chose to bake the potatoes in the oven and loved that I could just pop it in, stir it once or twice and leave it to bake for 25 minutes. I actually used the full seasoning pouch and found it to be the perfect amount. The potatoes cooked wonderfully, were so soft in the middle and the vegetables were not at all watery. I won’t go so far as to say my picky eater loved it. She didn’t, even with picking out the potatoes separately for her but then I didn’t expect her to. She’s anti-potatoes at the moment. The other two enjoyed it just fine and my husband practically devoured the rest of the pan.

Dinner night #2, we tried the Potato and Carrot Medley.
“Specially selected potatoes, carrots, red peppers and red onions with seasons such as roasted garlic, black pepper, parsley, nutmeg and sea salt.”

This night I opted to cook the potatoes on the stove stop. I did add a little extra oil than the recipe called for but my non-stick pan doesn’t really work that great so I wasn’t taking any chances. The entire meal was cooked in about 10 minutes and turned out just as great as when I made in the oven. The only catch was I dumped the entire seasoning packet on this one and it ended up being a little too spicy. I don’t know what I was thinking. Pepper is one of the ingredients. Duh. So the kids didn’t care for it that much but hubs and I still enjoyed it.

On a busy night, I like being able to just throw something in the oven and not have to fuss with it at all. That time was then spent on cooking the meat, setting the table and all those little things you need to get done. I will definitely buy the Medleys again and want to try their Three Potato Medley and the Yukon Gold Potato and Mushroom Medley. Both sound delicious.

To receive a $1.00 off coupon to try the new McCain® Harvest Splendour™ Medleys visit:www.facebook.com/mccaincanada. Limited quantity of coupons available. While supplies last. For more information on the productvisit: www.harvestsplendour.ca.

How do you get dinner on the table on those busy nights?
Zeemaid

*disclosure I received coupons from McCain so I could try the Medleys out. The opinions herein as always are my own and reflect my true experience with the product*

Walking on Air – A Skechers Review

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 17:05:00 +0000

I think you may have heard me mention once or twice how much I love Skechers shoes. Way back when I was carrying babies (on the inside that is) I started with foot problems and a good friend recommended me to try Skechers because they had helped her feet. So I bought my first pair of Skecher slip on running shoes and to my amazement my feet were practically cured over night.

Obviously like all good things we don’t always stick with it for whatever reason. Perhaps I was lulled by my non sore feet into thinking I could wear any old piece of cardboard that passes for footwear. Fast forward three babies later and I now have flat feet and some weird sort of metatarsal problem which makes running around barefoot (my favourite footwear) impossible. I have learned that not all Skecher shoes provide the same comfort and support that my original runners did so it is important for me to try them out first. After all, no matter what the line shoes are created for different purposes.

I have been wearing my current Skechers for the past two years. They are just now beginning to lose their support and my feet are beginning to hurt again so I was excited when I was given the opportunity to try out Skechers new “GOwalk” line. There are several colours to choose from and I chose Aqua.

This is what Skechers has to say about their shoes.

SKECHERS GOwalk elevates the natural walking experience, allowing you to interact with and respond to practically any surface, while offering the additional benefit of real world protection.

Details:

Innovative placement allows the GOimpulse sensors to move together and independently as they provide sensory feedback to the brain

Dynamic interaction promotes a natural stride for a more efficient and responsive walk

Radically lightweight - No extra material, no extra weight, nothing to slow you down

360 Degree Responsive Flexibility - SKECHERS GOwalk flexes and twists allowing your foot to move naturally

Sockless Walking - Integrated OrthoLite™ anti-microbial sockliner helps inhibit odor and prevent slippage

Roomier Forefoot - Extra space to reduce friction and allow your toes to spread, grip and push off

Resalyte™ Midsole - Proprietary lightweight midsole compound provides just the right impact absorption
Construction:

Nearly weightless synthetic and fabric upper

Nearly seamless flexible upper with slip on front

Stretch center top panel for easy slip on fit

Pull on heel loop design

Soft smooth fabric shoe lining for easy barefoot wear

Weight: Radically lightweight 3.5 oz per shoe based on a women's size 6.5

I have to admit I have no idea what the dealio is with sensors that send sensory feedback to the brain and what that all means. What I do know is that when I first put these shoes on it felt like I had just stepped onto soft pillows. These shoes work. They are so comfortable and truly do feel like barefoot walking. All the support I need is provided without orthotics. In fact, I have dubbed these as my new inside shoes and am planning on buying another pair for outside. The more I wear these in the house the more I wish I had them to wear outside. To top it off they are super cute, not clunky at all and look like those cute shoes your friends without the foot problems wear. These shoes retail at $59.00 and so is pretty affordable at that price.

Check out these fantastic shoes and see more colours at Skechers.com

Have you tried Skechers before and what did you think? Or, how about sharing a tip you use to help your sore feet.

Zeemaid

*disclosure - I received a pair of Skechers shoes in order to conduct my review and was not compensated in any other form. As always my opinions are my own and reflect my true experience with the product*

A Different Kind of Post

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 02:03:00 +0000

This isn’t exactly the kind of post that I had in mind today. I had planned on a wonderful little post sharing photos of our mini family vacation this past weekend. But how can I even possibly attempt a light hearted post when at this very moment….

I hate my children

There I said it. Gasp if you want but truth be told sometimes they can be real little shits. While I hit my head on the table I wonder where on earth did I go wrong. The kind of day where if I had booze I’d be breaking it out. If I had chocolate, I'd be stuffing my face.

Do you ever feel like putting your head down and crying at the dinner table just because your 4 year old son, who used to eat everything in sight, comes up and frowns over the rice and declares “awwww, you know I only like couscous”?

I tell you I pressed my fingers to my eyes and wiped away tears as I tried to cheerfully serve up their supper. Normally I can take their criticism after all it’s not really personal but this has been going on all week if not longer. He doesn’t like this, She doesn’t like that. I’m not an unreasonable mom. I don’t pander to their picky palates but I do try to cook generally what we all like and what they in the past have had no problems eating. They ARE NOT ALLOWED to change the game plan at this stage. I completely changed how we all ate potatoes and served up mashed for the past three years because E would only eat them mashed. That was okay with me. I liked mash and so does everybody else so how fair is it that she suddenly declares she hates mashed potatoes or any other kind except for French Fries. WTH?

Of course it’s not just about the food, it’s the constant bickering, pushing, shoving and annoying one another that also gets on one’s nerves. I try to ignore it as much as possible, refusing to referee their disputes. But when they lock the poor kitty in the Barbie suitcase, tow him downstairs and bump around the house with it until my mom radar zones in and they lie to me we’re heading awfully close to a bedtime countdown.

In fact, the stage 3 meltdown that occurred prior to the timeout is a pretty big clue that someone’s a little tired. Followed by a ten minute crying fit when asked to take the suitcase back upstairs and then a hands down dispute as to who gets read to first and suddenly I’ve got two little kids in bed with the lights out at 6:30 p.m. with no books.

My oldest is currently having special time with dad and so I’m on my own as I listen to the 6 year old scream in her bed. So after I check to make sure they are still in bed, I think I’ll be texting hubby to bring home some chocolate.

Then when they are asleep I’ll go back up and check on them and I’ll feel that flood of love for them pour over me again and I will say a little prayer asking for the strength to keep plugging away day by day and to be a better mom.

What about you… do you have those days where you simply can’t stand your kids?

Zeemaid

A Little Easter Goodness

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 10 Apr 2012 17:50:00 +0000

This year the kid’s spring break is two weeks and smack in the middle of it was Easter. So since the kids didn’t get to do much in the way of Easter projects at school it was up to me to make sure they got to at least decorate some eggs (which we do every year anyway). Of course, I forgot to buy one of those little egg decorating kits and so I had to fall back on good old food coloring, which is probably what those kits are made of anyways so why have I been wasting my money all these years? Of course, the kids were like “where’s the crayon to colour on the egg” and I’m like “we have a ton of crayons pick one” and they were like “it’s not white” and I was like “so, it doesn’t have to be” and then they got down to colouring their eggs with crayons and dipping them into the food colour. Cause hey, we’re just going to eat them so perfect works of art they don’t need to be.

I even rearranged my kitchen table so that the natural light from the window would filter through onto the kids so I could take better (hopefully) photos and I think a lot of them turned out pretty nice. Thanks to some great tips I learned from Courtney at Click it Up a Notch when I participated in the SITS Pinterest challenge in March. While I may never have any interest in learning the more technical aspects of photography, it’s still possible to take better photos with a just a few simple tips.

Of course the children were spoiled for Easter. Not only did the Easter Bunny play a little visit to our house but he also managed to stop by their Faraway Nana and their Aunt and Uncle’s house. Oh my word, I’ve been underestimating Easter as a candy holiday. It out beats Halloween hands down. The candy you get on Halloween is small while Easter candy can be enormous. Take the Kinder Egg for example

That is the size of the egg that comes inside the giant Kinder Egg the kids were so lucky to get. Which brings me to my next point… a slight beef with Kinder Surprise. I know, it’s a surprise you never know what you are going to get and that fact makes it all the more tantalizing. Except some of the prizes inside the eggs are lame. I mean really lame. Not to mention the time when my daughter got nothing. That’s right, zip, nada, zilch. There wasn’t a tiny yellow capsule inside her chocolate egg. Not such a happy day when her siblings both got something cool.

So with an egg that size and for the price, we expected some pretty cool toys. And in two cases Kinder Egg delivered.

Pretty cool right? Then the four year old got this…

At first I thought cool, a deck of cards we can play with as a family. But no, it’s some sort of punch out the shapes and then move the shapes around so you can recreate the pattern on the back of another card. Yup. I can tell you he was thrilled with that one. And so it sits in the bottom of his Easter basket and probably will get recycled by me by the end of the week because I will keep finding it all over the floor.

Still an Easter egg hunt and lots of chocolate made up for it.

How did your Easter go?

Zeemaid

Spring with Hallmark - Giveaway

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Fri, 06 Apr 2012 03:37:00 +0000

GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE WINNER BINA BUG

I was excited when I was asked to be a part of Hallmark’s 2012 Press Pause Panel. Not only because I love everything Hallmark but also because it’s exciting to get the inside scoop on new Hallmark Products.

One of the newest announcements at Hallmark is their Hallmark Rewards Program. By joining the program, members will benefit by saving on Hallmark greeting cards, receiving exclusive offers and sneak peeks of upcoming new products. Visit www.hallmarkrewards.ca to register online or stop by your closest Hallmark Gold Crown Store to learn more.

One of the things that I love about Hallmark is that they can be silly and that as you all know is a big hit with the kids. From their Squawkin’ Egg Droppin’ Hen to their plush Story Buddies like Nugget. Oh yes, the Squawkin’ Egg Droppin’ Hen. A part of me wanted to save this and give it to the kids on Easter but then I realized I just had to share this for the rest of you because it was so darn cute. MSRP $30.95 or $15.95 with purchase of three cards. She squawks and lays her eggs as she sings and dances. ADORABLE!

I thought I'd post a video of the Hen in action and you can tell my oldest is being a bit of a ham because when I brought out the video camera she asked if I was going to You Tube it. LOL Which is funny considering I've only done it once or twice.

Nugget the Dog Story Buddy was just as popular with my children as the Hen. Nugget comes with the storybook Nugget’s First Day of School. As you read along Nugget responds with sound to different phrases. To prevent squabbling the kids took turns cuddling Nugget while I read. Then my oldest daughter was eager to practice her reading so she could make Nugget talk. MSRP $29.95

Of course it can’t always be just about the kids and so I was pleased to pull out a few things from the box that were definitely for the grownups.

Hallmark’s Bloomin Expressions is charming. You simple press the button and the flower blooms in front of your eyes to reveal a special saying in the middle. What a lovely way of letting someone know you think they’re special. There are four designs (eight sayings)to choose from and my only suggestion was that it would have been nice if it played some sort of soft music appropriate to the message inside. MRSP $19.95

The Stationary Tower was particularly delightful to receive because in my house we are forever hunting up paper and a pen. I love the cute design and the sturdiness of the holder. This would be great for mother’s day, teacher appreciation or even a hostess gift. MRSP $12.95

Let’s not forget dad. For Father’s Day, we have these cool Gear Shaped Frames which would look great both on a desk or in a workshop. Right now there is a limited time offer: Buy 1 Card get two Gear Shaped Frames for $12.00 *Buy 2 Cards get three Gear Shaped Frames for $15.00

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Spring Cleaning The Green Way - Giveaway

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 19:24:00 +0000

You know you are a mom of three messy kids when you get excited over being asked to participate in reviewing cleaning products as part of the Green Works® Program through Mom Central Canada. And I do mean excited. Seriously getting the Green Works® cleaning package was like opening a present on Christmas. Okay it couldn’t compete with that sparkly little tennis bracelet I had my eye on but still.. it came close.

The thing is I am sensitive to harsh chemicals especially fumes and had been going through numerous products trying to find one that didn’t require me to hold my breath while cleaning the bathroom. Then one day I bought

Green Works® Bathroom Cleaner

For the first time in years I was able to use a bathroom cleaner that didn’t make me wheeze. So I was already somewhat familiar with the Green Works® line. I don’t know why it didn’t occur to me to explore the rest of their products. All I can say is DU-UH! So you can understand why I would be excited to receive this package.

What I have learned about Green Works®:

· Green Works® products are made with plant- and mineral-based cleaning ingredients. These ingredients are biodegradable and are naturally derived.

· Green Works® products are not tested on animals.

· Green Works® products are acknowledged by the EPA’s Design for the Environment program.

· You can find more information on these products here: http://www.trygreenworks.ca/

The glass cleaner works excellent, has a pleasant scent and is ammonia free. The dishwashing liquid also has a lovely scent and gets just as foamy and bubbly as any regular dish soap, yes I checked, bubbles are important to me as it doesn’t seem like it’s doing the job unless it does. The bonus is it’s made from biodegradable plant products so I don’t have worry about what goes into the water and down the drain.

As a general rule I haven’t been a big fan of cleaning wipes because I figure it’s just more garbage. But my husband loves them for that quick and easy clean/sanitizing of knobs, switches, railings etc and when I read that they are biodegradable and compostable I felt much better about using them. You can just throw the wipes in the green bin when you are done. Plus, I don’t know if this has happened to you but I’ve had those cleaning wipe containers pinch my fingers because the wipe broke off inside and you have to fish it out again somehow… well Green Works® has solved that little problem by making the teeth collapsible so all you have to do is push and it opens up and you can grab the cloth. Nice!

I probably should mention that there are a lot of great deals on right now at the following retailers:

Wal-mart

April- Products available may vary by store.

o Special 2-pack offer (All--Purpose Cleaner and Dish Soap) exclusively at Wal-mart for a great price!

o Exclusive All-Purpose Cleaner refill only at Wal-mart location

o April 14/15 Weekend - In-store educational demos. Learn more about the naturally-derived Green Works products in-store at participating Wal-mart locations.

Sobeys

April - Products available may vary by store.

o Buy 2 Green Works products at Sobeys and receive 200 Sobeys Bonus points

London Drugs

April - Products available may vary by store.

o Green Works will be hosting a twitter contest at London Drugs where customers can tweet their favourite Green Works Product to #WinWithGreenWorks to a chance to win 1 of 5 $500 London Drugs gift cards

OR …..

ONE of YOU my lucky readers can have a chance to try out Green Works® too by entering to win a Green Works® Prize Pack.

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1. Leave a comment sharing what your favourite Green Works® is.

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Open to Canadian Residents ONLY. Contest ends April 14th. Winners must include email in their entry if it’s not on their profile. Winners will be contacted by email and must respond within 3 days or a new winner will be selected. Please note you may enter the giveaway across multiple blogs but can only win once.

Zeemaid

“Disclosure – I am participating in the Green Works program. I received compensation as a thank you for my participation. This is a personal blog. The opinions expressed here represent my own and not those of The Clorox Company of Canada Ltd.”

A Cup of Tea

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 29 Mar 2012 03:20:00 +0000

A tea cup from My Grandmother's Wedding Shower passed on to me.

I have been what I would call a “tea granny” since my teens. Growing up I hated the taste of coffee. I realized later that I just hated my parent’s coffee, still do. (Seriously, I'd say it tastes like dishwater only dishwater probably tastes better.)

So tea was my other warm beverage alternative, you know when you get to that age where hot cocao just wasn’t quite so cool.

Besides there was always something special about the ritual of tea. After all, my mother had a dozen dainty flowered porcelain tea cups in her china cabinet and a pretty porcelain teapot to go with it. Whenever there was a special occasion like a wedding or baby shower my mother would set out those pretty little cups and steep a pot of tea. This despite the fact that 90% of our family drank coffee. I guess it stemmed back to her own family traditions. I would look enviously on while she poured out tea in the precious cups for her guests. I can remember coveting a certain purple rose cup in my mother’s china cabinet and whenever I would get an afternoon to myself with no one at home, I take it out and have my own little elegant tea party. Looking back I realize I was darn lucky I didn’t break anything.

Tea was always our go to comfort drink. I can remember my mother making me a cup of tea when I was in pain from those dreaded menstrual cramps or staying up late sharing confidences and feeling so grown up. I find myself offering my own little girls a cup of sweet tea to console them over a disappointment in their day.

The language of tea is international. When I was sixteen, I spent the year in Holland and enjoyed drinking tea with my host family. Despite the fact that they thought milk in tea was disgusting and Jannie would get annoyed because I’d always steam up her special sugar spoon so it’d clump up and our tea was always in glass mugs. We still shared many a wonderful chat in both English and Dutch while drinking hot tea out of those glass mugs.

In later years, I like to say that my husband and I fell in love over tea. We started out as friends and would spend countless hours just sitting in my apartment drinking tea. In those days we never even would turn on the television. To this day, we still end our day with a cup of tea and find that if we don’t we actually miss that little part of our routine.

These days I drink my tea out of mugs but it has to be just the right mug. It can’t be too small: not enough tea, or too big: too much tea and the mug has to have the right feel on my bottom lip. And while I do like herbal tea, I’d rather have a good old comforting cup of black tea (Tetley is our current favourite) with a splash of milk and two sugars any day.

My china cabinet also boasts over a dozen pretty little cups collected over the years. The most precious being the ones from my grandmother. Before she passed on she presented me with cups that had been used at her wedding reception over 60 years ago. She told me that she knew that I would be the one to take proper care of them. My grandmother was a crusty old thing but now and then she'd pop out with a little something that made you realize that underneath she really was fond of you.

So when it came to my own little girl's 6th birthday, what else could I do but throw a lovely little tea party.

Of course I didn't use the 60 year old cups but still there were enough pretty cups to go around.

Zeemaid

This week I am participating in

and chose the writing prompt "How did your love affair with Coffee begin? (Or Diet Coke or Tea or whatever your beverage of choice might be.) (inspired by Buried With Children)"
If you'd like to join in simply click on the above button to see this week's list of writing prompts and drop by Mama Kat's to link up. Try it, it's a lot of fun!

Don’t Have a Cow Dude!

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 00:12:00 +0000

My son is obsessed with cows. That’s right, you heard me. I said COWS. His current favourite knock knock joke (and oh how we love those) goes something like this:

O: “Knock knock”

Me: “Who’s there?”

O: “Bannahead” (wait for it)

Me: “Bannahead who?”

O: “Bannahead has a cow on it”

….and there it is once again, Cow.

Almost every sentence he utters has to mention the word cow at least once followed by giggles.

Do you like your supper, O?   Yeah, it has a cow in it. (snicker snicker)

Would you like to watch a show, O?   I wanna watch mad movers with a cow on it. (snicker snicker)

Are you buckled? Yeah with a cow. (snicker snicker)

To his sisters: You have a cow on your head. (snicker snicker)

Why did you throw that on the floor? I didn't, the cow did it.

At least he cracks himself up.   It could be worse. I asked another mother at preschool if her son was doing the cow craze. Apparently not . The catch phrase in their house tends to lean towards the poop word. So like I said.. it could be worse.

And then it occurred to me… I better write this down. Who knows how long this phase will last and after all, I am going to need good material on his wedding day. In fact, I might be able to screen out the weak and not so worthy girlfriends by trotting out this old post and asking the prospective bride…

“So…. how do you feel about cows.”

My son will cry in embarrassment… “Moooomm”

and I will reply, elegantly of course,

“Don’t have a cow dude!”

Zeemaid

Question & Answers

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 00:32:00 +0000

I’ve been meaning to take part in one of Mama Kat’s Writing Workshops and while I’ve been scouring the writing prompts weekly, have yet to dive in. This week; however, one of her prompts was so easy that even my 8 year old could breeze through it.

The challenge, should I choose to accept, is

Ask your child where babies come from and share their answers.

Oh boy. This could be a good one. Or so I thought. Their answers were surprisingly boring. I guess that’s what I get for being too practical. Although it did spark quite a few giggles.

So here it goes... Kids, where do babies come from?

O: (age 4) "Tummys. People have eggs in their body and there is babies in the eggs."

J: (age 6) "Mommy’s tummy from an egg. J+J=J" (uh okay, short attention span?)

E (age 8) "A mother’s stomache. God creates a little child in the mother’s tummy and it grows and grows and grows and grows until it gets big and then becomes a full grown child and then it comes out as a baby. Is that right?"

Then I lost my interviewees because dessert ran out. Except for my 8 year old who seemed disappointed that I only wanted to ask one question. So in the spirit of Saint Patrick’s Day coming up I figured I’d ask her a few more questions.

What are Leprechauns?

“Oh it’s related to the cat family and has spots. It’s yellow with black spots and runs real fast and catches its prey with its teeth.”

Okay then maybe I should have started with:

What is Saint Patrick’s Day?

“A day where you dress in green and you celebrate with four leaf clovers and it’s not really a holiday” Somehow I think the Irish would argue with you.

What would you do with a pot of gold?

“Really want to kn0w? The truth? I would save it and save it and save it and then I’d buy a cage and stuff and then a hamster.”

What do you do if you find a four leaf clover?

“I would have lots of good luck and maybe if I have enough good luck I would buy a hamster.” Gee I wonder who has hamsters on the brain.

And there you have it. The answers to life's most pressing questions.

Zeemaid

Storm of the Century

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 18:37:00 +0000

Okay so I exaggerate. It wasn’t the storm of the century but it certainly was the worst storm I have ever seen on our small west coast Island. It was the first time school has ever been cancelled due to extreme weather conditions and we’re not talking snow. In fact the wind was blowing so hard it actually scared my six year old and so we ended up listening to the storm (cause we certainly couldn’t ignore the noise) with the blinds closed for most of the day.

Then bizarrest of all things is that it tried to snow late last evening. Huge enormous snowflakes came floating down from nowhere only to disappear ten minutes later.

Today the sun is shining but the aftermath of destruction is severe. Highways are closed, trees are down and power is out for thousands of people. Luckily not us. We not only managed to keep our power but our satellite signal. Who says satellites are so weather finicky. We’ve never had a problem with ours ever.

We did; however, lose two fence panels. One of them surprisingly was a panel that had been repaired only last year and yet it was the first to go. The good news is that the fence belongs to the neighbours and not us and being retired older people with money they can well fork out the several hundred dollars needed to fix it that we couldn’t.

O inspecting the damage

Now I just have to make sure the kids stay out of the neighbour’s yard.

Zeemaid

Infertility

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 21:20:00 +0000

Take a quick tour around the blogosphere and you will come across an amazing number of women who have either struggled or are struggling with infertility. It’s a painful topic and intensely personal which we often bear in silence. After all, infertility isn’t exactly something our friends and family can help with and really who wants to share those sorts of intimate details with just anyone.

I know I’ve talked about my own personal struggle with infertility before but after having read a couple of more blogs I feel the need to share it again.

Why? Because everyone seems to dismiss what I have to say as “oh that worked for you but won’t for me” or “my doctor would have told me about it”.

When it comes to a wide variety of subjects most of us seem to accept that sometimes natural medical choices are better for us than what we have been offered traditionally by the medical profession. Why isn’t that the case with infertility? Sure we’ll cut down our caffeine intake but try progesterone cream.. that’s just crazy.

To recap my own story, we went two years without being able to conceive. Finally we did fertility tests. I went through the most excruciating test of having ink shot up my tubes to see if they were scarred, I had an arthroscopy to rule out endometriosis (although I had no symptoms of it) and three months of fertility drugs.

I did a ton of research on everything from PCOS to ovulation. I learned more about a woman’s monthly cycle than I ever wanted to. I tracked my Basil Body Temperature religiously every morning and kept charts. What emerged was a pattern of delayed ovulation and a slight.. very slight possibility of a luteal phase defect.

A luteal phase is the time in a woman’s cycle between ovulation and menstruation. In a pregnant woman, during the luteal phase the fertilized egg will travel from the fallopian tube and into the uterus for implantation. The luteal phase is normally 14 days long and on an average it can be anywhere from 10 to 17 days long. If your luteal phase lasts anything under 10 days it is considered a luteal phase defect. But some doctors believe that if the luteal phase falls under 12 days, then it is a problem. If you conceive and you have a luteal phase defect, you will have an early miscarriage.

A luteal phase defect cannot sustain a pregnancy because the uterine lining in these women begins to break down, bringing on the menstrual bleeding and causing an early miscarriage. There could be more than one reason for the luteal phase defect which can be found out after medical analysis. Going by statistics, the number one reason for a luteal phase defect is low progesterone levels. Your doctor can do a progesterone test on you 7 days past ovulation to determine exactly how deficient you are. Once you know that there are several ways of correcting this defect.

Causes of Luteal Phase Defect

The three main causes of luteal phase defect include poor follicle production, premature demise of the corpus luteum, and failure of the uterine lining to respond to normal levels of progesterone. These problems occur at different times during the cycle but can also be found in conjunction with each other.

Correction of Luteal Phase Defect

Fertility charting is an easy way of detecting whether you have luteal phase defect. If you do, don’t worry because luteal phase defect can be easily corrected. Immediately seek the advice of your physician first before starting any treatments to correct it. In most case, luteal phase defect can be corrected through over-the-counter remedies and/or with prescription drugs.

1. Over the counter remedies for luteal phase defect:
The two main over the counter remedies for luteal phase defect are vitamin B6 and progesterone cream. Vitamin B6 is generally regarded as safe and can be taken daily in dosages from 50 mg to 100mg. Taking vitamin B6 every day during the entire month will help to lengthen the luteal phase. Please note that taking mega doses of vitamin B6 can lead to serious medical issues. Be sure to check with your doctor before using vitamin B-6 to increase the length of your luteal phase to make sure it is the best option for you.

A progesterone cream is usually targeted for menopausal women; however this cream is also useful in lengthening the luteal phase. A cream with natural progesterone works best. Use about 1/4 to 1/2 a teaspoon of progesterone cream spread on the inner arm, inner thigh, neck, and chest – alternating places – twice a day from ovulation to menstruation or until the 10th week of pregnancy.

article information from http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/luteal-phase-defect.html

Ten years ago this information wasn’t that easy to find even on the internet and when I brought it to my fertility doctor’s attention he said maybe there was one…. but didn’t really think so. I started reading information from Dr. John Lee, a well known medical expert on treating menopausal women and in fact it was in one of his lectures where he relates sharing an experience he had with an infertile patient of his.

He prescribed progesterone and recommended that the patient use it for the entire month for several months to help bring up her body hormonal levels etc. After that the recommendation was to wait until ovulation has occurred and then use progesterone cream on a daily basis until the end of the the cycle. Once you’ve established you are not pregnant by taking a home pregnancy test then you discontinue using the progesterone cream so you will have a normal period.

Well.. I tell you I provided this information to my family doctor and while he was skeptical he agreed to prescribe for me since it wouldn’t harm me either.

Impatient I couldn’t wait the month of and using one of those Clearplan Fertility monitors I tracked my cycle until I knew I was ovulating and started using the cream as prescribed. Sure enough I ovulated on Day 18 not day 14 like they say and considering you need 10 + days for an egg to fertilize and implant etc. obviously I was ovulating too late in my cycle to get pregnant. The progesterone cream helped my body produce enough progesterone in time to promote the right conditions for implantation. After two plus years of waiting I got pregnant the very first month I was on the cream.

My mom said maybe it was a fluke. I knew better but I wasn’t going to argue with the skeptics. So when I was unable to get pregnant with my second child, I went off to my doctor for a prescription again. His only comment was… “didn’t you get pregnant on this the last time” You bet I did. And sure enough, one month of cream and I was pregnant again.

Since then I have shared what I have learned with fellow friends who are struggling with unexplained infertility. Not one of them will consider the progesterone cream even though it worked for me. Why? I really don’t know.

This isn’t some crazy off the cuff made up therapy. Luteal Phase Defect is a real condition which is under diagnosed by the medical profession. Hormone imbalances itself are difficult to diagnose because at every stage of our cycle we need different levels of estrogen and progesterone. If you get screened early in the month you might have the right levels and so the diagnosticians state your hormones are in line. However, had you had it taken nearer the end of the month it’s just possible those levels might not have been in line.

Not only that every one’s body is different. While my levels were low they were considered to be within the range. Obviously for my body within range wasn’t good enough.

I realize that progesterone cream may not be the answer for everyone but if you have unexplained infertility, I would seriously consider it or at least look into the possibility of a luteal phase defect. Pop that term into google and you will be surprised by plethora of information there is out there.

That’s my story.

Zeemaid

Teacher Strike

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 02:59:00 +0000

In our neck of the woods the teachers are all on strike. Well not really, apparently it’s more of a protest and they’re not teaching at the moment and they aren’t allowed to wear signs around their necks but are allowed to hold them on a stick as they lounge around outside our public schools. They call it a protest, you might call it a strike.

It’s always a hot topic whenever you talk about someone’s wages. It seems these days no one thinks they get paid enough and think they are worth more. Especially when the general public is being inconvenienced by disrupted service and picket lines. We who have non union jobs think union people get paid a ton of money and are resentful because our non-union jobs only pay a fraction of the cost. Not always entirely true but there it is none the less.

While I don’t know whether or not the teachers should get more money or not, I do know that this is an age old issue. Government says they have no more money, teachers say they need more. On the one hand in this economy you can’t squeeze money from a rock on the other hand, I am sure money is being wasted by the Government as we speak on useless projects.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against paying teachers more money or smaller class sizes. What I do object to is the fact that the entire system is falling apart and no one knows how to fix it. That this can go on and on for five months without any resolution. Good teachers or bad teachers, there are too many kids and not enough money to go around.   When I hear reports of how the kids are suffering right now and have been since last September when this whole job action started, I can only be thankful that we put our own kids in private school. A very hard financial sacrifice it has been but I have to say worth it.

Where would E have been this past year? Not only was she significantly behind her peers, she was getting assisted learning and was on some “watch” list for the pysch assessment of which we had no knowledge. Within two days at the private school not only did we have a meeting with the teachers, but had our eyes opened to what sorts of problems E had been having. It’s been a rough school year but it would have been rougher had we not been pointed in direction of getting help.

It makes me angry to think that there are more kids like E out there in the public system that don’t fit into the normal curriculum and aren’t getting the time or help needed.   Where are all these kids in the last year? Suffering and getting further and further behind because of the job action.

I don’t know how to fix the system. It almost seems like we are always our own worst enemies because as long as someone benefits from how things currently stand, there is no motivation to make the effort of change.   After all, unions often end up protecting the lazy and incompetent even though that wasn’t why they were formed in the first place. Flame me if you will, but both my parents have worked for unions throughout the years and I have heard more than one horror story of how difficult it can be to rid yourself of bad employee because of union protection.
Else why is the teacher that was demeaning to my child still employed? Not a teacher in that building can stand to work with her for very long so every year she’s being shifted about the school into different grade levels and job sharing with different teachers.   Why does she get to stay? Because she has a contract. Parents have no real power. We can complain to the principal but then we’re labeled as “difficult” and ignored from then on.

Would that happen in a private school? Not on your life.

Perhaps the Government should be taking a look at the private schools as to why they are so successful. Smaller class sizes might help for a start. In both our daughter’s class there are only 15 children. The first day of school E commented on how quiet her class was and how she could actually eat her lunch in peace. She said it with a big sigh like it was such a relief to her.   Maybe kids wouldn’t be so hyper if there wasn’t always so much chaos going on around them.

Apparently sensory overload is a real and valid thing that affects our children more than we realize.

I’d like to go on strike too but I don’t think anybody would pay any attention except maybe my family when they ran out of clean socks or got hungry.

Little Product Testers

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 01 Mar 2012 00:32:00 +0000

In an attempt to provide us with a calmer and less noisy environment we recently purchased an area rug from Home Depot. The theory being that if we were to use area rugs we’d somehow be able to muffle the noise that three active kids can make on laminate floors. I don’t know if you’ve experienced this yourself but with the whole first level being nothing but laminate, we find that the sounds just bounce of the walls and back again. Not to mention the irritating noise of hot wheels on wood.

Naturally our children wanted to know why we needed the carpet. In the old days, my parents would have merely said “because” and left it at that. In the good ol “new way of parenting” we explain everything. So we told them how we were hoping that it would make things less noisy downstairs and how we hope to help mommy’s headaches etc.

When the new carpet arrived we deemed it best to lay it out after the kids were in bed. I know, I know, what mean parents we are wanting to enjoy the luxury of opening a package without six little hands diving in to help. We only had to shoo them back to bed like three times.

The next morning; however, we were woken by the shouts and laughter of our three children followed by earth shaking crashes as they jumped off the t.v. stand doing “cannon balls” onto the new carpet. They landed so hard it shook our bed upstairs. Breathless, the three of them came running upstairs…

“Mommy, mommy, the carpet doesn’t work…. it’s still noisy.”

Who knew that a new area rug would cause such excitement in the house. My children have continued to test the noise reducing capabilities of the new rug on a daily basis. Although I have managed to instill in them the need to refrain from “cannon balling” off the t.v. stand.

I think we would have been smarter to have purchased ear plugs.

Zeemaid

lacking inspiration

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 28 Feb 2012 20:59:00 +0000

I’ve been finding it very hard to post lately. Partly due to lack of time. I have no idea how people who work full-time can blog when I find it difficult working part-time. Not only am I away from home three days a week but when I am home, then I’m back to playing catch up with dishes, laundry, vacuuming etc. Not to mention getting meals on the table for the family after a hectic day at work.

The other fact of it is that we’re all in a bit of down turn at the moment. We are struggling financially like so many others and that puts a lot of strain on our day to day living. Plus we are still trying to come to terms with E’s diagnosis and were disappointed to learn that she’s recommending more assessments specifically in regards to Autism and Aspergers. If that’s ruled out then she’s leaning to Organic Brain Dysfunction. Sounds lovely,right?

Reality is, we are coming to realize more and more just how difficult E can be and how much harder it is getting for us to cope with some of her behaviour. We can no longer deceive ourselves and think that she’s just a normal child doing normal child things. Most of the time she is… but it’s all the other stuff that’s driving us crazy.

It’s harder for family because they don’t live with her even though they do consider some of her behaviour as odd and they are prone to dismiss some of the psychologist’s more serious claims such as E is suffering from depression most likely. What 8 year old suffers from depression?

So posting has gotten a little difficult these days. I have discovered that I’d rather not be a whiner after all so many others are going through much worse than we are. Yet our focus is rather narrow at the moment and has left little room for inspiration on any other topics.

I would be interested to know how other’s cope with these sorts of diagnosis….

Did you go through a grieving process or were you just so relieved you had a diagnosis?

Zeemaid

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Valentine Bust

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Thu, 16 Feb 2012 21:32:00 +0000

You would think that since I pretty much spent the weekend cutting out dozens of hearts so that my girls can make adorable Valentines for there friends that I'd be more aware of the fact that today is Valentine's Day.

I have to confess that I have absolutely diddly squat for my husband. Zip Nada Zilch Nothing. In fact, if I hadn't reminded Hubs about picking something up for the kiddo's last week, I wouldn't even have had the cheesy little heart shaped boxes filled with kinder egg surprises to give the kids.

It occurred to me at precisely 4:15 pm on February 14th while I was driving two of the kids home after dropping off E at her extra learning classes that I hadn't even thought about getting something for my darling husband. I briefly contemplated stopping somewhere on the way home to grab something only to dismiss the idea as I remembered that one child was sick with a racking cough and was wrapped up in her blankie and the other declined to wear a jacket and was equally snotty trying to get over a cold.

Add to that a trip to the emergency room on the weekend and the business year end to be struggled through where it seems that every opportunity I have to work on the bookkeeping immediately gets derailed by (a) a sick kid and/or (b) a school holiday and there you have it folks romance in a nutshell. Nonexistent.

Our oldest child was knocked down at church on Sunday and managed to hit the floor so hard that she went a little loopy for a while. We actually were concerned enough to take her to emergency and turns out she has a concussion. What a scare. While she seems fine now apart from the enormous bruise along her jawline, it can't help but concern us since this is the child that they are telling us may be brain damaged. It may be silly for us to worry, we're not medical doctors so have no idea if our fears are rational or not. We are supposed to keep her relatively quite for a few days and if I let myself stop to think... I can see myself getting absolutely paranoid that she's going to fall and hit her head again.

I keep thinking we were supposed to go away this weekend. If we had, it never would have happened.

So it's no wonder that I'm all Valentined out this year.

The Look

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:11:00 +0000

We needed to pop into Home Depot tonight to check out area rugs. We had found a really nice one online that was on sale and was hoping that they'd have it in store so we could actually see it in person. Of course, we had to do this errand with three kids in tow. Normally, I'd rather have a root canal than take three rambuctious kids into a store loaded with power tools and sharp pointy objects. But you gotta do what you gotta do.

Naturally the kids are bored and choose to entertain themselves by giggling like crazy, running around and hiding in between all the display racks of the hanging area rugs. So they're being a little loud and a little crazy but they were entertaining themselves and hubs and I were actually able to look at the rugs. The kids weren't climbing on anything, hurting anybody or anything. Then I turned and saw this young couple staring at my kids and that's when I saw the look.

You know the look, the one that says... "Look at these kids, I can't believe their parents" and then the couple turns and share the look with each other and walk away.

I don't know why but it really bothered me. I went and grabbed my kids and decided it was time to leave. As we were walking away I asked hubs if he had seen the look that woman was giving our kids and he said "yeah" and added "they don't have kids".

Obviously, they don't have kids or they wouldn't have been so judgmental about mine. Realizing that didn't help though because you know it would be really nice if we could just go to the store without having to constantly get after our kids for acting up. Then we wouldn't get those looks and we'd be a lot less stressed shopping for what we need. The only store our kids truly love going to is Cost-co... for the samples. Yup. Free Food makes Cost-co just about the best store on the planet for our kids. If we say.. "hey kids, do you want to go to Cost-co?" They start to cheer. "yeah, the sample store" I actually don't eat the samples at Cost-co because I feel bad because we almost never buy what they sample.

In the end kids will be kids. Give them a bit of space and they will run, give them boring surroundings and they will make their own entertainment. Come to think of it, it would have been oodles of fun playing hide and seek inside those hanging rugs. It's too bad that couple couldn't appreciate the good, clean fun my kids were having and it's too bad I let it bother me.

So when's the last time you got the look?

Zeemaid

Minds out of the Gutter

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 05:56:00 +0000

Cause it's dirty.. heh heh

The conversation started innocently enough. Hubs had made chili the night before and ~~we were forcing~~ the kids were eagerly scarfing it up when I threw out the encouraging remark about how the chilis is good for you because you know ... it makes you poop. Cause you know when you want to get down to their level, you gotta mention body functions. Even hubs raised an eyebrow inquiringly. Well duh... cause of all the fibre. Beans = Fibre. So yes, it's healthy for you and makes everything work properly to which my daughter jumps into the conversation with..

"My teacher has a ginormous ball" Uh pardon?
"yeah", pipes up daughter #2, "and it's black" *snicker*

"Really so your teacher has a giant black ball?" Hubs and I make eye contact and snicker some more.

To which my eldest daughter tries to convince us that no, they are not joking, they are telling the truth.

That's nice sweetie, we believe you.

And we prove that both hubs and I have our minds in the gutter... completely.

Zeemaid

You Still Need Your Mom when You're 40

noreply@blogger.com (Zeemaid Zeemaid) — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 17:23:00 +0000

One of the truths that you realize as you get older is that no matter what you always need your mom. At least if you had a good relationship with her and even if you didn't, I think there's still a part of you that longs for your parents love, support and advice. I just hope I remember that bit of comfort when my own children grow up and leave the nest. That while not expressed, there's still that deep need of your parents.

So when we were dealing with the whole bad news from the psychologist, I naturally turned to my mom. Like you'd expect she listened, she sympathized and helped me try to puzzle the whole thing out. While there isn't a whole lot she can do it's nice being able to talk to someone about it. Because it feels like a big burden on my heart right now.

So it shouldn't have surprised but it did when I received a call from her mid week asking what our plans were for the weekend. Turns out she wanted us to come up for the weekend. Now my parents live about an hour's drive away so we generally make the drive once a week. Only this time she offered to put us up at a hotel so we could stay the weekend and have a bit of a break. At first I'm thinking how's that a break. It's us and the kids and a hotel. But then I realized, no housework, no preparing meals etc for the whole weekend. Add to that we'd be on their property which is a veritable playground of exploration for my children with their aunt, uncle, cousins and grandparents all to shoulder some of the burden of entertaining them.

While a stay in a hotel with two kids (the third stayed at Nana's) is not my idea of a good time, the kids were excited to go and explore a different room, watch a movie and snuggle in bed. In fact, I even managed to get a stellar sleep because in trying to get the kids to settle down and sleep, I fell asleep at 9:00 pm. Earliest bed time, I've had in ages.

So I guess moms really do know best even what their 40 year old daughters need. I just hope I can be that insightful with my own kids.

Zeemaid