Infjs Forums http://forums.infjs.com/ This is a MBTI forum for the INFJ temperament. en Tue, 28 Sep 2010 06:18:29 GMT vBulletin 60 http://forums.infjs.com/images/misc/rss.jpg Infjs Forums http://forums.infjs.com/ What Does It Mean to Have a Gender? http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13123&goto=newpost Tue, 28 Sep 2010 04:35:37 GMT I was discussing this with a friend earlier today when I wondered what INFJ Forum might have to say on the subject. What exactly does gender... I was discussing this with a friend earlier today when I wondered what INFJ Forum might have to say on the subject. What exactly does gender signify? In what manner am I male?

Gender seems to be a label which generalizes people into (usually) a binary system. When more options are tendered, I find that they refer to one's sexuality, which I take to be different from gender.

Society: Divides people into categories. One can determine one's gender through society if one identified with the defined gender roles.

Evolutionary Psychology: Divides people into categories. One can determine one's gender through evolutionary psychology if one identifies with the patterns of behavior associated with a particular gender.

Click the image to open in full size. ]]> Relationships and Sociology WaeV http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13123 Reacting to people dating http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13121&goto=newpost Tue, 28 Sep 2010 03:26:04 GMT Recently, a good friend of mine entered a romance with a female he decided to date. Normally when a friend of mine will date, I am annoyed by the... Recently, a good friend of mine entered a romance with a female he decided to date. Normally when a friend of mine will date, I am annoyed by the people they date. I will not like the people they are dating and try to get them to break up with them, generally due to the fact I view the individual they are dating akin to a douchebag, either they are neo-nazi people or they have hatred for people of color.

But now a male friend of mine begun to date and I actually approve. I think that before-mentioned female may turn out to be a well enough match for him, and I am actually relieved that he decided to date, though my relief I do not know the center of.

I am wondering how other people may react to people they know who are dating. I tend to be weird about actually talking about people dating, and I do not like people to mouth tango in front of me or talk about it�and it may appear that only my good friend could be called an individual I approve of dating, which I find weird that I have reacted that way. ]]> Relationships and Sociology slant http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13121 Workout.. http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13120&goto=newpost Tue, 28 Sep 2010 03:13:22 GMT I know perhaps this is not the best place to ask.. but, what exercises are part of your routine if you do any at all? Do you tend to target... I know perhaps this is not the best place to ask..

but, what exercises are part of your routine if you do any at all?
Do you tend to target specific parts of your body you wish to exercise?

I am recently starting to find out which ways I can targets my legs, since my body is very disproportionated. I have a very thin upper body and my lower body is where most of my fat gets concentrated..anybody know any ways? ]]> Health and Wellness Raccoon Love http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13120 The Tea Oracle http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13118&goto=newpost Tue, 28 Sep 2010 02:23:05 GMT The Tea Oracle http://www.blogthings.com/theteaoracle/ The Tea Oracle
http://www.blogthings.com/theteaoracle/ ]]> Online Tests Anita http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13118 <![CDATA[What's a mature ENTP like?]]> http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13115&goto=newpost Tue, 28 Sep 2010 00:19:47 GMT This is an innocent question out of curosity and it ,in no way, means to undermine a type or prefer one over another, so let's be nice.

For some reason, almost all the ENTPs I have met so far in RL are a lil on the "immature" and "childish" side, regardless of age. ENTPs are wonderful, creative, ingenious, lots of fun and just plain awesome...until you get involved with them, and suddenly that Fe fails.

Although, I have grown tolerant and somewhat accepting (and perhaps developed an awkward liking :P ) to that trademark they have, I am curious if anyone here have had an experience with a "mature" ENTP.

I have read around in other forums that maturing means the ENTP develops their Fe and it acts as a filter of what should and shouldn't be done or said, etc.

I'd looove to hear from the ENTPs we have here as well.

Edit: for clarity purposes, think of "mature" as fully developed.

I am looking for mannerisms, traits, habits, etc. ]]> Psychology and MBTI Odyne http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13115 Unusual expressions of love? http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13111&goto=newpost Mon, 27 Sep 2010 15:49:41 GMT According to this guy (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/), expressions of love fit into one of the following... According to this guy, expressions of love fit into one of the following 5 categories:

Quote:
Words of Affirmation

Actions don�t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, �I love you,� are important�hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, �I love you,� like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there�with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby�makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts

Don�t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous�so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an �Acts of Service� person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: �Let me do that for you.� Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don�t matter.

Physical Touch

This language isn�t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face�they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

I'm curious about people who love but don't express themselves in these ways. Have you experienced or can you think of other ways to show that you love someone? It is really necessary to have a love language?

I think sometimes not expressing love at all, in a unrequited situation for example, is another kind of expression. ]]> Relationships and Sociology kita http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13111 <![CDATA[Pod'Lair]]> http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13109&goto=newpost Mon, 27 Sep 2010 06:40:26 GMT You know that theory Adymus was talking about?

http://www.podlairproductions.com/

Yeah. Check it out. It's cool stuff. If you're an INFj, they can confirm. ]]> Psychology and MBTI Artinella http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13109 Company of Heroes: Online http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13108&goto=newpost Mon, 27 Sep 2010 06:26:46 GMT Anyone into this? It's a free MMO/RTS in open beta right now. I've played the original Company of Heroes games, and this is quite an interesting change from normal CoH and it's quite hard given that some of the existing CoH vets are starting to play this game.

I have a Lv.14 Axis Defensive Commander named Xareos; and a Lv.16 Allied Infantry commander named AceofSwords.

Trying to get together a bunch of like minded players. ]]> Entertainment and Media Zero Angel http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13108 Self defence classes http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13099&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 17:08:40 GMT If you've never been to, or ever experienced a self defence class and would like to, what has stopped you going?

What would you expect of a good class/school?
What would you expect of a good instructor?
What would your expectations be about the training and what things would you like to learn? ]]> Health and Wellness Orion http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13099 What Do We Think Evil And Good Are To Us? http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13095&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 14:12:58 GMT I am curious as to what you think is an evil thing to do and what is a good thing to do. It can just be words does not have to be a long answer. You...
I am curious as to what you think is an evil thing to do and what is a good thing to do. It can just be words does not have to be a long answer. You could just do a list of good and evil and that would be okay.
]]> Philosophy and Religion efromm http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13095 The deal-breaker http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13094&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 13:31:44 GMT What were the deal-breaker situations and qualities in person, when it comes to your romantic relationships? What are those things that you just... What were the deal-breaker situations and qualities in person, when it comes to your romantic relationships? What are those things that you just can't compromise about.

If you want to expand a bit you could also tell about the deal-breaker in other relationships that you've had, friendships and work related one. ]]> Relationships and Sociology Siamese cat http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13094 How is this not incredibly screwed up? http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13093&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 10:15:38 GMT I'm...well, honestly, probably a bit in shock at the moment. I figure that 'Hey, a bunch of INFJ's...there really aren't many people who are better to tell me if I'm being unwise or feeling wronged and being silly.'

The situation is pretty simple. My boyfriend for the last year and I have just ended our relationship. A year ago he moved in with me. He and his wife (a male to female transexual. My boyfriend is a female to male transexual. Honestly, it doesn't play into this much) had been having incredible communications problems. He is an INFJ and his wife is an INTJ. No surprise there.

They'd been married roughly four years and their relationship had slowly degraded to the point of near total non-communication. Salem moved in with me (A move from Florida to Wisconsin) and I advocated heavily for them to stay together and try to work through their differences. His wife stayed there. Literally every person in his life besides myself has at one time or another during the last year told him to end his marriage.

His wife, Christine, is sweet and likable and almost totally logical.

Two weeks ago Salem was considering a divorce. They'd had a visit planned for Christine to come up and visit us for some months and see what life up here was like but she wouldn't give a timeframe for potentially moving up to join Salem and had indicated a total dislike of the weather and environment. Still, despite these plans their relationship continued to degrade.

I still fought tooth and nail for them to keep it as long as they could because I believed Bunny had something important to contribute to Salem's life and if given enough time, I felt sure they could come to some kind of terms that made sense. I'm a polyamorous person and that's pretty much how I operate. I do whatever I can for my mate.

So, Christine comes up to visit.

During this week, I have pneumonia. Pretty nasty. Still, Salem's affection for me dries up entirely. He starts behaving like he can't wait for hugs to end and he won't meet my eyes.

Today he announces that he's going to be living with Christine as soon as she moves up here and wants to do a 'dual household' arrangement...except I would of course have to get another room-mate, re-arrange my finances entirely, take him off my insurance, and re-negotiate our lease. He wants to be able to 'spend time' with me and live with his wife. Yes, the same wife he was about to divorce two weeks ago. Same wife who put him 1100 dollars in debt and who is herself 16k in debt because she spends money like water.

His reason is conversations they had while Christine was here that somehow changed his outlook 180 degrees. Christine, it should be noted, is a world class people pleaser. She likes to be liked a little more than is healthy. They met in a cult. I wish I were kidding.

I'm trying mentally to work through this but pretty much all I can feel right now is anger. I feel deeply betrayed and I'm still kind of unsure how to respond except more anger and I am not an angry person generally. Anger is not a common emotion for me. I'm not even sure if I'm doing it correctly or if this is a situation that warrants it. ]]> Relationships and Sociology Chessie http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13093 Friendship through difference? http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13092&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 07:51:51 GMT I met a friend, and we have started to become quite close. His company can be enjoyable, but he's way of thinking is so different then mines. He is very conservative, a bit homophobic and very intelligent. He can also be very emotionally detached and his sense of humor is very dark. He ended up being what I have types him, an ISTJ.

Our personalities, ideals and ways of thinking are almost exactly opposite of each other yet we have been able to become very good friends despite our differences. Could this be the ''opposites attract'' version of friendship?

So the question is, Do you ever find yourself befriending those who have opposite characteristics of what you posses. If so how close are said friendships and do they usually last long? ]]> Relationships and Sociology Raccoon Love http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13092 Make That Money http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13089&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 05:39:11 GMT So hypothetically let's say I only want to work for a year, and then retire. How could I pull in a ton of cash over a year? ]]> Imagination Exercises notmeganfox http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13089 Are you inspired by a sense of duty? http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13086&goto=newpost Sun, 26 Sep 2010 02:07:03 GMT How much does your sense of duty influence your actions? Have you ever denied yourself something fulfilling because of the potential, negative impact... How much does your sense of duty influence your actions? Have you ever denied yourself something fulfilling because of the potential, negative impact on someone you care about? When looking back, do you regret your decision? Or are you proud of those times when your sense of duty influenced your behavior, even though it was personally damaging? ]]> Philosophy and Religion Norwich http://forums.infjs.com/showthread.php?t=13086